What’s the difference between social anxiety and being shy?
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Shyness itself can lead to social anxiety. Shyness is a normal personal trait, just like extroversion. However, in our society, people who are shy are often seen as inferior and judged negatively for their personality, and it’s this negative thought process that leads many shy people to then develop social anxiety. Because they believe that there’s something wrong with them for being shy, when their isn’t.
Yes but this doesn't define everybody, I used to be incredibly extroverted when I was a child and only in young teenage years did I develop pretty awful social anxiety because of problems at home and school.
One thing a couple of therapists have told me about social anxiety is to realize that people are looking and judging you far less than you think they are.
I don't believe that , especially in college
I’ve noticed that whenever I leave a social situation or have someone else leave that I get hit with a wave of seemingly irrational frustration like I did something wrong or I don’t even know why. If anyone has any knowledge or knows of any sources to check out I would greatly appreciate:)
You could try Kristin Neff's guides on self-compassion! Also, there's a guy on UA-cam called Michael Sealey that puts out lots of interesting guided meditations and hypnosis sessions for social anxiety. Buddhism is another source of wisdom that comes with a huge skillset, like the meditations on cultivating compassion, friendliness, empathetic joy and equanimity.
" I get hit with a wave of seemingly irrational frustration like I did something wrong or I don’t even know why."
That is trauma - complex PTSD which is not the same as PTSD.
CBT is misdiagnosing us because CBT and DSM are not recognizing trauma as real concept.
This way crooked corporations and mentally ill people like Trump are running medical industry and they are making money on our neurosis through misdiagnosis and pharma mafia. They will simply claim that we are lazy or not trying hard enough - while in reality narcissistic abuse is going on - which ironically is the true cause of social anxiety.
Instead of CBT there is Humanistic psychology which really helps with social anixety.
Trauma is stuck inside our body - and this trauma is creating constant toxic shame and self invalidation. CBT joins into hysteria and making us believe we are sick for having fears. We are not. Our fears are trauma being stuck inside our body - it is like having virus or parasite - it is external element and it is not our fault to be infected.
CBT claims that our fears are part of our persona, and that we must prove our manhood and courage by facing our fears - and this way CBT is creating mental illness and narcissism inside us - so that we see world as battle and engaging into useless King of the hill competition, Dog in manger mentality.
CBT is part of narcissistic abuse and is contributing to more social anxiety.
Bingo. Every time I leave a social situation I immediately perform a critique of myself to figure out how many feet I have to remove from my mouth when I get home.
@@Randor10 You're being raised in a home that's going to make you hyper vigilant. You'll notice what everyone else is thinking or feeling. You're going to be super sensitive to changes in people's moods or facial expressions, and you'll startle easily. - Where I am getting this from? - Well your father has a bad temper and he erupts out of nowhere. Sometimes when you're just playing or relaxing in your room, he just starts screaming at you. We (mother and father) fight a lot and don't really ask about how it's impacting you. Or we don't talk to you about the fights at all or why they happen. So your nervous system is developing on high alert and your amygdala, the part of your brain that senses threats and danger is overactive. Difficulty of relaxing or just playing. And when you're older you'll have the same difficulty in social situations. Often labeled as social anxiety disorder, this can actually be a symptom of C-PTSD. You'll feel awkward and worried you're saying or doing something wrong. Basically your internal threat system is off because you're being raised in an unsafe environment.
Dr. Nicole LePera, TWITTER
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There are so many “positive” messages that are aimed to inspire and help survivors. But when you really listen to these messages, they often guilt or blame survivors for either how they responded to the abuse, or for how they are healing now.
Make sure the messages you share with survivors are honoring and respecting them, their courage, and their choices.
Compensation = finding ways around things that are naturally difficult. Example: Forcing yourself to make eye contact with someone
Masking = hiding parts of your autism. Example = Not talking about something you are really interested in
Assimilation = trying to fit in with everyone else so people don't notice you are different. Example: Talking to a stranger in a shop even if you don't want to
(TherapyWorks- What it Means to be Neurodiversity Affirming)
Neurodiversity describes the idea that people experience and interact with the world around them in many different ways; there is no one "right" way of thinking, learning, and behaving, and differences are not viewed as deficits.
What is neurodiversity? - Harvard Health
Dr James Davies (PhD), TWITTER:
DSM defined 'mental disorder' as a 'dysfunction in the person' - as if suffering stems from a faulty self. This of course is pure ideology, with no objective evidence to support it - an ideology erasing any notion that our suffering may have meaning or something vital to teach.
Defend Survivors, TWITTER:
Survivors don’t need anyone else telling them what the ‘should do’ or ‘have to do’ to heal. The last thing they need is someone else trying to control them again. Survivors need to know they are in control and that they are the experts in their experience and healing.
Q: Determinist notion “Man is machine” "Man is computer", “Man is product of its instincts"?
Frankl: Man is something like a rat in experiments, psychological experiments.
YT Viktor Frankl: Self-Actualization is not the goal
Neurotypical (NT) personality:
- strong social and communication skills
- navigates socially complex situations with ease
- makes friends and establishes romantic one with ease
- ability to participate in loud, crowded, or visually overwhelming settings with ease
@@ranc1977 THIS, thank you👏. I don’t know how you worked it out with what little I could express in a UA-cam comment section, but I appreciate it none the less:)
I never completely avoided social situations, but I always did this thing where I talked extremely fast in social situations I was uncomfortable in. Or I would speak so softly no one could hear me. I've learned that those things are considered partial avoidance, and are signs of social anxiety. It took me until adulthood to find that out, but I'm glad we know so much about that stuff now.
Thank you for telling me. I do the same thing
" I've learned that those things are considered partial avoidance"
What I learned is functional anxiety.
Where we learn just the perfect way how to talk - yet anxiety is still inside us.
This is due to complex trauma (which is not the same as PTSD).
Trauma is causing our anxiety.
CBT is keeping trauma as secret because CBT is making money on our neurosis by misdiagnosing social anxiety deliberately as personality flaw.
ICD-11 by WHO recognized Complex PTSD and trauma as real issue.
"Since most non-HSPs do not seem to enjoy thinking about solutions, they assume we must be unhappy doing all that pondering.
Preferring toughness, the culture sees our trait as something difficult to live with, something to be cured."
The Highly Sensitive Person,
Elaine N. Aron
so same😢
This. I love meeting new people & imparting first impressions! I'm not particularly shy, but I absolutely crumble when I have to sustain an image. I'm not sure how to put it, but... i guess iykyk. I typically do well at first, but maybe I miss social cues due to my limiting avoidance & end up getting mistreated in the long run
Medication for social anxiety sounds so weird...
Yea it doesn’t work, meds just made me more anxious. You need to expose yourself to people like a meetup group or volunteering and engage with others to get out of your comfort zone.
@@mushroommellow Makes sense. I don't believe it all comes down to brain chemicals or whatever purely materialistic approach to life... Maybe learning not to judge oneself and then others could be important as well.
@@mushroommellow It actually worked to a certain extent for me. I was taking the med for a different reason and didn't know it would help for social anxiety, but it did help. I am no longer on that medication due to the side effects and have reverted to some extent but not completely since the med allowed me to actually be in social situations.
If it's a huge anxiety (like you can't leave your home even) then the meds make you less anxious no matter what the anxiety is about so they work for social anxiety too.
It really depends! I take escitalopram, which is yes, an anti-depressant. But it also really helps for my anxiety. I noticed that after taking them, I started getting less anxious about things that I usually think of various excuses just to get out from.
I’m a former extrovert. I love to be with people but when my 2nd best friend told me to “shut up you’re annoying” that may have been the beginning of my social anxiety. Online I’m not afraid of offending People, in person I’m a nervous wreck who can’t get near people. Whenever I try to get near people I feel bad in my stomach and intense fear, and a little bit of tears. I was diagnosed with social anxiety. I can only talk comfortably online or with a few people.
I hope you're doing well❤ I have a similar problem but I've always been afraid of talking to people. At one point, I couldn't even talk online anymore and left the game every time someone said hi and then felt bad about it
Neurotypical (NT) personality:
- strong social and communication skills
- navigates socially complex situations with ease
- makes friends and establishes romantic one with ease
- ability to participate in loud, crowded, or visually overwhelming settings with ease
Symptoms of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
(when criticism hurts)
- Being easily embarrassed
- Heightened fear of failure
- Unrealistically high expectations for self
- Assuming people don't like you
- Avoiding social settings
- Perfectionistic tendencies
How do we treat all these?
@@handa6656 "How do we treat all these?"
The very question is problem itself.
There is nothing to treat.
If we are not serial killers - there is nothing abnormal that needs fixing.
IF we have no hidden agenda to harm other people - we are not broken to be fixed.
RSD and being neurodivergent is how our brain works.
This means - in toxic ambient, with abuse, with ACoA and ACE - our brain will be in survival mode and hypervigilance, producing the aforementioned symptoms like "inability to participate in loud, crowded, or visually overwhelming settings with ease" and "Assuming people don't like you".
We need to accept our brain - that it is doing the best it can with resources it is fed with. Then when our brain is in toxic ambient - it will produce defense mechanisms in order to keep our well being and to regulate our emotions.
If we decide to observe our brain as sickness because it is neurotic and warns us about toxic people - we will self abuse ourselves and this will create neurotic persona - which is neurotic about being neurotic.
Similar to Star Trek original series with annoying alarm system - without it the crew would not know that there are dangerous aliens attacking us until it is too late. The annoying alarms are not the problem - the aliens are the true problem.
Similar to Disney's Inside Out from 2015 - everybody hated the neurotic girl emotion - because she would kill fun. Everybody would like to feel happy all the time, without worries - however in real life there are toxic people, predators and manipulators who harm other people because they are evil and mentally ill. We really cannot expect that evil people will vanish when we lobotomize our natural painful reactions to hurt and pain which such evil people cause us when they attack us.
First step is to realize - that we trust our brain and be proud of it and trust its capacity to keep us safe and tell us where to go in life.
When we don't trust our own brain - we will be trapped in self blame and we will develop codependency and trauma responses - where we will depend on other people to tell us what to do in life.
With abuse AcoA ACE experiences we were raised to distrust our emotions and to put all our energy into being perfect and without mistakes, without errors, and to please and fix angry people around us.
That is called Operand Conditioning - and this is what our alarm system tries to tell us - that we have been told lies which we internalized as reality and commands which we must repeat: to blame ourselves, to shut up, to self censor, to feel ashamed for being errored and mistaken, for making mistakes.
When we start to trust our brain and all our emotions - we will integrate Jung Shadow, all parts of ourselves which we are embarrassed and annoyed by - and we will become authentic and honest to ourselves. We will start to block toxic people instead of fawning to them as we learned in AcoA.
Characteristics of Adult Children of Alcoholics
- struggles with maintaining interpersonal relationships
- struggles with codependency
- impulsive or dangerous behaviors
- anxiety and hypervigilance
- fear of abandonment
- conflict avoidance/fear of conflict
- constantly seeking approval
- struggles with authority figures
- poor communication
- struggles with emotional regulation
- poor self-esteem and self-image, or constantly feeling "different"
@@ranc1977 ahh thank u so much will try👍
@@ranc1977 give your insta bro
The second one is so me
I so embarassed in my past life that cause me social anxiety 😭
I have dealt with this most of my life. Both of them, really
Fr, having both of them are sucks 😔
That is because the resources we get in media and books are mediocre and false, like this video author.
I have always been a shy guy. I got bullied at school which led me to believe that people would judge me and that all people are just the same and i believed that everyone will judge me. This has led to me having social anxiety and worrying about any types of social situations because i fear getting judged, and i know ill be very embarrassed and awkward. Still to this day i get judged by even adults about my appearance (mainly my hairstyle) and the volume of my voice. The volume of my voice is affected when i am in social situations with anybody other than my mum and dad. I am now a lonely and depressed 18 year old man wanting friends but i think its impossible to get any friends now. I have kept social anxiety to myself my whole life and nobody knows i have it. Its too late.
My guess is that people with social anxiety are too intelligent for their own good, you’re overthinking in the worst way possible. I used to suffer from social anxiety, I would just consider myself pretty awkward but feeling fear of social situations is a no. You must understand no one is judging you as badly and you will learn as time goes on and you start doing the things you’re avoiding, you’re really normal, you will understand no one really pays attention to you after all. God bless to anyone suffering with social anxiety it’s really difficult but try to use it as a super power, and you can overcome it
Love being around people...but i really dont like being the center of attention or having to be one on one for a long time
Idk which one it is for me, but when a teacher or someone who is asking me a question with other ppl looking at me, I just get rlly nervous and I don’t say anything. I only do when I am familiar with the ppl.
Same with me I kinda cleanse up it’s weird and I hate it
@@Faye103 yes fr, and like especially when a teacher asks me a question and then I know the answer but idk why it’s not coming out my throat and I just shrug my shoulders sometimes
I was so sheltered growing up and moved schools so often that I never really knew how to make friends or be social with people. I’m an adult now and I still struggle with groups. I’m usually the quietest but I really do try my best. I feel like people don’t care about me bc they don’t hear what I have to say or show interest in me. After big gathering I always feel 💩 Bc I didn’t interact in the way that I wanted to but I guess I need to change the way I talk to myself bc I really did try my best despite everything. I wish I didn’t have this anxiety it has stopped me from so many things. I have never had a best friend or real genuine friends who cared about me and messaged me
It’s confusing I hate it, last year I was making different friends every day then summer came and I was still outgoing, I wasn’t even shy at that time, but this year is the hardest year in my life and I can’t escape without wanting my friends back
What is the best way to get a preteen/teenager through their social anxiety?
Humanistic therapies.
"Anxiety is essential to the human condition. The confrontation with anxiety can relieve us from boredom, sharpen the sensitivity and assure the presence of tension that is necessary to preserve human existence."
Rollo May
Ugh I’m so sick of having social anxiety like bffr
Extremely exhausting
I'm not sure which is applicable to me. If I know the 'rules' I can get through whatever it is I need to communicate. Otherwise, I freeze or avoid the situation completely if possible.🤷
"I'm not sure which is applicable to me. If I know the 'rules' I can get through whatever it is I need to communicate. Otherwise, I freeze or avoid the situation completely if possible."
It is applicable,
1) we can never be prepared for anything in life. Idea to be prepared for danger leads to OCD issues, same family group as social anxiety.
2) freeze is trauma response, it is part of Complex trauma - the same as social anxiety. While growing up we learned that we are unworthy and damaged - as CBT tries to hypnotize us to believe. And that we simply need to find some magical way how to be perfect and good - which leads to narcissism and mental illness. CBT is making huge damage to our psyche, the same damage the same abuse that caused social anxiety in the first place: being exposed to narcissistic abuse.
You are doomed to make choices.
This is life's greatest paradox.
Wayne Dyer
Good or bad, everything we do it our best choice at that moment.
William Glasser
Individuals are assumed to be rational decision-makers. For some reason the presence of other choices in a set of options seems to matter to people- it makes a difference. People are influenced by irrelevant alternatives.
Maurice Allais (1911-2010)
DK The Economics Book
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."
Carl Rogers
Paradox of Proliferation:
The more progress there is, the more problems can happen.
Observer's Paradox: The outcome of an even or experiment is influenced by the presence of the observer.
The self-absorption paradox describes the contradictory association whereby higher levels of self-awareness are simultaneously associated with higher levels of psychological distress and with psychological well-being.
Baby girl don't have a shyness problem trust me. She's one move away from making you fall in love ❤😍
Exposure and Response Prevention or ERP is great for treating SAD, too :)
"I kept forcing myself into social situations that I wasn’t adequately prepared for and it went horribly wrong every single time. Which
ended up reinforcing more social anxiety in me. "
YT sakalahoch6735
I have social anxiety and it’s horrible it ruins everything for me I want to play with my friends but then I’m afraid that if one thing goes wrong then immediately it’s all my fault
“Im akshually a shy girl”
"Why pretend we don't play part in our problem?"
That's a great question and this is stumbling block for many socially anxious people.
Let's put all cards on the table.
Let's start with the definition what is the problem and how come that we are the problem in social anxiety.
First of all - why are we the problem?
What exactly did we do to cause our social anxiety?
This is the open question - that we really need to examine from all possible angles.
My take is:
if we are not serial k-ill- ers - we are not abnormal. We are not the problem.
If we do not have secret anti-social agenda to cause harm and hurt other people - we are not the problem.
So - make examination - what exactly did we do to deserve this level of intense social anxiety?
Why are we being punished?
And what we will see is that we were blamed and ashamed into feeling guilty by toxic people - who are using shame, toxic shaming - as a tool to control others and to make them shut up and to question themselves.
There was a Mel Robbins video from 1 year ago - that was called -You are not crazy, you are dealing with narcissistic abuse.
This enormous out of context social anxiety,panic and fear that we feel and experience - there is absolutely nothing that we did that we cause the problem to feel this way. No way. Nothing. And we cannot accept this - due to gaslighting, this is how narcissistic abuse works. We end up distrusting our Self, our sense who we are, our common sense about what is good and what is right, and we even label our reactive abuse as the proof that we are the problem. This is how narcissistic abuse functions - it leaves us doubting ourselves and really believing that we are the problem - when if we had time to investigate everything .- we would discover that we did nothing worse or bad that is equal to social anxiety.
After all - if we were really psychopaths and narcissists - we would blame other people automatically. We would not feel social anxiety, we would not stay inside social anxiety. We would quickly turn this toxic shame onto random people around us and then blame them immediately - without any investigation.
Manipulators are pathological liars and they are extremely excellent manipulators and they know which buttons to push inside us - so that we feel toxic shame and toxic guilt about any normal and regular mistake that we do. And then turn our moral and ethical standards against ourselves.
No, we didn't do anything to deserve it, but we still have a problem nobody will solve for us. Try investing the energy you spend on self pity on the internet into your recovery instead.
@@Andy-dd6gz Recovery means realistic view of life- and this imbue facts and objective facts.
Idea that we push down parts of reality which appear as self pity is denial, dissociation and suppression - all dysfunctional coping mechanisms which leads to mental illness: delusion and narcissism, inability to learn from reality.
All emotions are valid. All experiences teach us a lesson - and then we improve.
When we go along with CBT idea to block for example "self pity" just because retrospection appears as self pity to someone with low IQ - we will never learn about self love and self validation - which is percussor of healing trauma.
I need these social anxiety meds cuz my teachers seemed to think I'm too shy so they still expect me to just grab confidence from my pocket, maybe taking the meds will help me meet their expectations, where can I get them?
Before when im shy i do drugs and alcohol.. It helps temporarily 😅
I think the reason I got social anxiety is cause I used to be super social and outgoing and I got made fun of and even lossy a friend and I get masse fun of and called slow in sports they think I can't hear them but I can and I feel like my voice is ugly and I feel like I'll say the wrong thing
interesting thank you
I just left a social work event, but waited in a portal potty until my Uber arrived because I felt more at ease in a small space rather than stand with coworkers… don’t get me wrong I like my coworkers but I felt like I didn’t fit in. Not quite sure if it is anxiety or not but I feel like a child.
I am shy and have social anxiety.
When CBT puts labels on us, we start to build false personality around it. This ends as mental illness. CBT ought to be banned.
how can i overcome social anxiety?
I can't talk with people cuz i'm fear
Social anxiety is not the same as social anxiety disorder.
If we are bullied, if we are in mobbing situation, any kind of abuse in social situation - we will feel social anxiety. This fear and panic is not sickness, it is not pathology. It is normal reaction to abnormal people: abusers, psychopaths.
Social anxiety disorder is paranoid delusional disorder which relates to feeling social inhibitions all the time, even with safe people.
This difference is not mentioned in any official medical resources and this is causing a lot of misdiagnosis and self-pathologizing.
Social anxiety which most are misdiagnosed stem from:
1) trauma, which is not the same as PTSD. Complex PTSD is being exposed to relentless criticism when we were growing up, invalidation similar to CBT treatment of anyone feeling inhibitions.
2) covert narcissists pretend to have social anxiety in order to gain narcissistic supply: shy, inhibited, introverted, kind, nice, good people who shut up most of the time and do not engage in conflict which makes them perfect target of narcissistic abuse.
While social anxiety disorder may as well be originated in brain and body dysfunction -
social anxiety is trauma, there is no sickness, there is nothing to cure. The only problem are toxic people and toxic ambient around someone who feels social anxiety.
More on this in the following text which I copy-paste every Monday when I scan for social anxiety videos on you tube:
CBT lumps various social inhibitions into issue with hallucination:
(1) Shyness - it is feeling social threat feelings at some social event, but social fear wear off quickly and shy person is not bothered by it again
(2) Social anxiety - it is feeling of social threat before the event, during event and after event. Fears do not wear off and you keep ruminating about it. This is due to trauma, condition called CPTSD and it is not hallucination neither delusion nor illusion.
(3) Social anxiety disorder - it is feeling of social threat at safe events, when you know that person around you will not harm you. For example in safe, empty room, and you are with Oprah or Mandela or Mother Theresa or Gandhi - the safest person you can ever imagine - but you still feel threat that they might harm you. This condition is part of Paranoid Delusional Disorder, and only 1% of population has it.
(4) Narcissistic disorder - it is feeling of social threat triggered when someone warns and alarms you for being intrusive. Due to confirmation bias you are not realizing that you are rude and arrogant and intrusive - so you conclude that you feel social anxiety due to unknown reason from random people.
(5) Autistic disorder - you live in your world and you are not aware that you appear threatening to people, for example you do not say Hi to them or smile back to them. So you feel social anxiety because you feel tense and awkward in social situations and you have no idea why.
(6) Performance anxiety - when you feel social fears when performing in public and it has nothing to do with social anxiety at all, it only overlaps panic symptoms - where primary concern is embarrassment, not violent attack from others.
(7) Borderline - half baked narcissists, often aggressive and fear of being abandoned as primary concern which mimics social anxiety symptoms.
CBT lumps all these as hallucination in order to make it easier to handle complex matter. However oversimplifications leads to distortions.
Ironically CBT is using cognitive distortion concept such as over-generalization paradoxically to explain social anxiety as cognitive distortion.
CBT does not distinguish between narcissism/boderliners with primary concern to be liked from others on one side, cannot distinguish it from the real social anxiety which is - fear of punishment, attack and fear of aggression from others. Narcissists thus became spokesmen for socially anxious, explaining the symptoms where the abuser becomes the advocate for their targets that they abuse, as if the wolf is given watchdog job to watch over sheep.
There is Jane Elliott's Blue Eyes, Brown Eyes experiment, exercise - that showed that social settings can influence the targets.
There is Narcissistic abuse: Long-Term Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Damage.
There is Stanford prison experiment where it is shown that targets of abuse in toxic ambient where they cannot escape from will develop extreme social anxiety.
There is Skinner's box and Little Albert experiment which shows that people can be conditioned and initiated into social anxiety.
Wait so those times where I overthought going to the mall with my friend because I’m socially awkward and she’s going to crap talk me I’m going to be embarrassed and mentally drained in the end (that is what I thought) was all symptoms of social anxiety? (I’m not diagnosed, so I’m not saying I have it)
Now the problem is that i don't know how to tell my parents about my social anxiety because of my social anxiety. I know this has nothing to do with the video but i just wish my parents understood
Magnificent information, Doc.
CBT ought to be banned.
CBT is misdiagnosing us by using limited psych vocabulary to describe complex issues. This way CBT is making over-generalization which CBT itself claims to be cognitive distortion.
CBT bans information about trauma and CPTSD (which is not the same as PTSD)
while WHO's ICD.11 recognizes trauma and Complex trauma as real concept.
"Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships.
Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs."
WILLIAM GLASSER
I have 😢
Neither of which have worked for me.
When you have both
I feel like many people cannot differentiate the two regardless.
Most people are dumb.
Why is it so hard to find CBT therapists?
Writing scripts pays, sadly.
CBT is therapy of ableism and NT approach of pathologizing anything which moves and make money in the process.
CBT is like Trump having brain to infiltrate in medical industry.
CBT is like Ludovico Technique from Clockwork Orange - CBT was meant as short term therapy for criminally insane and those who came after suicide attempt at the clinic - to calm them down with quick brainwashing and lies.
CBT was not meant as therapy for everyone else nor as long term.
Virtually all self help books about social anxiety are based on CBT. CBT is ableist therapy filled with errors.
Does this count as social anxiety (story)
I was in class and we had to pair up with the class next to us who where a grade higher then our class and I started freaking out I kept telling my friend next to me I didn’t want to and I started to fight/shake my leg and felt sick but we got into pairs of four so I had someone I knew and felt a little better.
Help idk if that’s social anxiety or just shyness I also have other social problems like that..
Yup
Yes I have panic attack I am afraid that I am going say something wrong or stupid.
My crush decided to sit next to ME 2 days ago😳and I literally haven’t said anything😶
Shyness is social anxiety there is no diffrence.
Shyness will pass with exposure. Soc Anx is based on trauma and so it won't - that is the difference.
Also, "shy" sounds like something you say about a 5-year-old. "Social anxiety" sounds much more dignified.
When I was a kid I thought I was shy because that's what all teachers told my parents and told me that I was shy, at school I would never talk unless they asked me sth... when I reached 16 years old and started working... I was not talking too much at the beggining around people but slowly I realised I wasn't shy.... I simply felt uncomfortable and had nothing to say... because when I was ok with the people around I talked a lot, maybe too much but I liked analyzing things and situations and of course I was not going to do that unless I felt super comfortable with someone... at school and as I did not talk much or at all sometimes then most kids never invited me to their birthdays or to play at their houses or wanted to play with me in the breaks at school and of course that made me feel sad and I grew up like that so I developed a lot of fear and sadness because I thought nobody liked me... but I also did not have any grownup to explain me this situations. That it was ok not wanting to talk, that there were other paths to connect with other children... that is was ok not to talk at school if I did not felt like that and that did not meant that other people or kids could not like me.... well up to here.... I am writing too much and I was wondering what for if maybe nobody is gonna take the time to read it... it does not end up there but... ahhaha too long to explain and I can't make it short hahah way too many details... hey this is something also many people do not like so many details so many avoid talking to me cause they know I will do this ... but well this is me...
Aren't shy people just Introverts? Highly sensitive person is also shy. What about those who steal your energy? I'm a introvert and do not like Crowds I'm s wall flower at gatherings. Dr Arron did a lot of research on the Highly sensitive person.
I think having a social bubble growing up is normal but then it usually disappears.
Until you end up in narcissistic abuse or mobbing.
Tbh i have social anxiety
What about being shy? How can we treat that😅. How can we be less shy?
This is the same to ask how to be less left-handed because most people are right-handed.
The question itself is self-rejecting and invalidating and filled with self hatred.
How much I wish that treatment for mental illness wasn’t “let’s throw everything at the wall and see what sticks” solutions like medication and/or therapy. I wish there was something with a higher percentage of success. Oh there is (ECT, TMS, Ketamine), and those didn’t work either.
Neurodiversity describes the idea that people experience and interact with the world around them in many different ways; there is no one "right" way of thinking, learning, and behaving, and differences are not viewed as deficits.Nov 23, 2021
What is neurodiversity? - Harvard Health
2.2k like. Yep thanks.
But we live in the real world! How is this even possible
The pictures seem inappropriate or too narrow , exaggerated, to fit.The shy one looks too handicpped to be just shy. Or would it be called over-determined?
So can’t a shy or introverted person try to avoid social interactions? I mean they may not want to be there? 🤷🏻♀️
How exactly you intend to avoid society? We do not live in a cave.
Society is virtually all around us and we are forced to be a part of society.
Social interactions is not only a party
im both technically
just a shy person!
NO TAG ON THE BABY GIRL WTF??
I DO NOT THINK ANY ASIANS HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY
what
I guess that means I need medication.
Pharma mafia agrees with your assertation.
My son have social anxiety & autism
Symptoms of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
(when criticism hurts)
- Being easily embarrassed
- Heightened fear of failure
- Unrealistically high expectations for self
- Assuming people don't like you
- Avoiding social settings
- Perfectionistic tendencies
same thing ones just more severe. sounds like high school.
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