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Psych2Go Hey thank you I'm a omnivirt (I think I got no clue) But there's this girl that never talks at my school ( I think she's a introvert) And I love her ( I've said hi and told her jokes ... She smiled at me 😊) Theses things are helpful to Lear about people like her .... Thank you
Thanks Edek! @She Wolf35, we do have a video on that actually haha. Can you look it up? @the hat club, you mean ambivert? I'm glad these videos can help you gain better understanding of people :)
I do deep thinking but the fact is that its not effective. One thing is analysing deeply and other is it actually being useful but in mine case it's many times not
When someone is yelling at me or I feel that someone is disappointed in me, I get this like sinking feeling everything feels right. Then I start to cry and no matter how hard I try I can’t stop the tears. And I always feel embarrassed when I do that especially when I’m in school.
Honestly I decided hiding it is better for everyone I guess, I want people to stay happy, I want to save those I can in any way possible. Being sad doesn't make them any happier.
IconicQueen'04 you described it perfectly! For the longest time I couldn’t figure out how to describe that feeling. It happens to me a lot. I honestly hate it. It’s made me cry for the stupidest things. Like at work, I asked so many questions (I don’t like doing things wrong so I need to know exactly what I’m doing) and the person training me was annoyed with all my questions (I pick up on emotions well and it was extremely obvious) and then I couldn’t stop crying and being emotional for hours. It wasn’t a good day at work to say the least
Same. My dad... just the way he would say my name when I was growing up (even if I wasn't getting in trouble), I'd start crying before I even went to him to find out what he wanted and I just assumed I was in trouble. Pissed him off so much. Smh. My mind is my own worst enemy
i literally hate being so sensitive. My friends are jokingly rude, and i get so upset even when i know they are joking. I’ll stay, be sad, and cry for days, even though it was a joke. I start assuming they hate me if they even act a bit annoyed, and i assume they’d want me gone if they need a bit of space. I hate it all, I wanna be able to feel fine
Don't hate being yourself pls. My friends are toxicly rude too, they only care about themselves, and talk about themselves, but I learned If you actually hate having to talk to people like that, just let them talk and randomly walk away, if they will come again for you, they're surely fake friends, because they wanna have you listening to them 24/7...
You should love yourself and feel what you feel...Don't be hard on yourself because the others don't understand or do jokes about u....The friends who will understand u would love u believe me...And lastly I purple u....Take care and I am sure there would be someone who will completely understand u and comfort u
Also a HSP cares alot about others' opinions. Negative comments affect them easily and they often like to be portrayed as a happy person to the world hiding their true feelings.
Yes and no, Mahheen. It also depends on your self esteem and learning not take everything personal. Also, there can be codependant issues to look into...
As someone that’s been told “stop being so sensitive” all their life and grown to hide their emotions because of it, this video has made me feel so validated as it’s all I’ve wanted to hear my whole life.
Yep ' u are so sensitive!' I wish that expression was used as a compliment and dint have a negative connotation.Imagine being told ' u are so intelligent' ,' u are so pretty' and in same vein ' u are so sensitive'.That would be so awesome
I grew up hearing that from my dad too (and partners since then). For example, someone makes a negative comment about something and I think it's about me. But ya hearing someone yell "you're so sensitive!" when you're already feeling bad about something.. I learned to just not say anything
Is it just me or is it when someone comforts me when i'm crying, It makes me cry more...? Oh my god- I'm sorry but I made this comment a year ago and y'all are still replying-- wow.
it kinda sucks because i can't handle harsh jokes and sass without getting offended deep down, but it also made me good at choosing my words and keeping secrets.
Hey im a 63 year old male. Its like a door I never knew was there that happened to open up while dealing with a narcissist. I finally have an understanding, I wish I had way way earlier.
It’s so embarrassing when a teacher yells at me and I cry. I wish I wasn’t so sensitive Edit: Thanks for the likes it’s nice knowing I’m not the only one
My dad would get so mad at me for being sensitive, saying I always take things to heart. I spent my late teens and most of my 20s putting up an angry, hard shell around myself to protect myself from pain, which just pushed everyone away and I ended up in an abusive relationship. After a few years of therapy, I learned my self worth, how to deal with my sensitivity, assertiveness, and how to let my guard down. Therapy really helped me, and I hope of anyone reads this and resonates, will consider seeking therapy too.
Odds are it seems like that cuz ur mind was more focused on introspecting about yours sensitiveness than it normally does. I know this cuz I feel the exact same way :)
Reading so many comments from my fellow HSP’s as an HSP who is learning the value of how we’re made and seeing so many of you suffering and saying it isn’t fair I just want to give you all a big, warm hug and say: I love you. You’re perfect just the way you are. Please hold on because the world needs us! This hard, cruel world needs some depth and meaning and love and care. Your sensitivity can often feel like a weakness but it can also be your strength. I’m rooting for you and sending peace and love your way ❤️
Sensitive people should be treasured. They love deeply and think deeply about life. They are loyal, honest, and true. The simple things sometimes mean the most to them. They don’t need to change or harden. Their purity makes them who they are.
@S̸h̸e̸r̸ 15 You saying you're being ungrateful reminds me of my own situation. I've been slowly figuring out the toxic behaviour of both my mother and grandmother. I am really attached to my mother, so admitting to myself and others that she did things that weren't right and that hurt me a lot was such a difficult process. In this family as well, when you voice your pain and anger that was caused by something they did, you are suddenly ungrateful. The word gets thrown around a lot. And I only recently realised that that isn't how it should be. That I should be able to voice when they hurt me without getting a list of all the things they did for me thrown in my face to make me swallow my emotions and stop confronting them. In this family, it feels like no love is unconditional. And at times I'm still so angry at them. Even though my thoughts haven't gone to such extremes, I do feel like I understand where you're coming from. I hope you'll be able to break away from the toxic situation. I'm working on that myself as well.
@@isyvd I hope you make it out of that environment friend. My family especially my brother are real energy suckers and it used to bother me so much that it seemed like he didn't care for my mental health at all. But I learned to forgive him and forgive myself for letting him take the joy out of me. I realized that I was giving him that power not knowing that I had a choice. It took years and I am still working on it every day but now I am kinda thankful for him pushing me to be a strong willed human being. Even though I could of learned some other way. Sorry for long response but I wanted to show you that there is hope and I hope you find it wherever
I didn't even know this was a normal thing, I didn't know it was something other people felt until I watched this video. Thank you for this! These are all so perfectly explained and they helped me understand me more and why I have those traits I do. I'm looking forward to discussing this more with my therapist! I really love this channel.
When someone gets angry at me or screams at me, i just stay calm but inside im feeling super stressed and its super hard to hold up the tears :(( Especially at school or at home and public spaces, im sure im not the only one
My dad has anger problems so at a very young age I got accustomed to the book of curse words and insults, so I don't even cry anymore. I just kind of shut down for 30 ish minutes. UA-cam always helps lol.
Same today I cooked chicken my parents said it was dry .When my stepmom said it she kinda yelled and I cried I try my best not. . Today she call me lazy accused me of spraying her plants with weed killer called me evil and disrespectful and passive aggressive.Im being a changed person but at this point it’s not worth trying . Tommorw she will complain that she’s sees a mark on the bathroom wall . Don’t try to please other people is too overwhelming
Lxmyy, Same. Back in preschool I sometimes started feeling worse than the one I accidently teased too much. I mean, how tf? Hated that, and it still happens sometimes now. Why just why is my head like that?
This is exactly me! Few people understand the struggle of being an introvert, overly emotional and highly sensitive. Not good at jokes, always take things seriously and feel so helpless can't make decisions easily.
1. You feel deeply and tend to be more emotionally reactive 2. You prefer to exercise alone 3. It takes you longer to make decisions 4. You pay attention to subtlety and small details in general 5. You are highly conscientious and have extremely good manners 6. You are prone to having anxiety or depression especially if you’ve had bad past experiences 7. Violent or horror movies are not your cup of tea 8. You work well in team environments
Keila Sanchez you don’t have to have all qualities lol. Also eating with your fingers isn’t necessarily bad manners, part of my family is Filipino and it’s part of our culture to eat with our hands. I like it!
I’ve always been told, “god, you’re so sensitive!” And now I’ve built up such a high wall, that I’m not “sensitive” anymore. I’ll hold it all in until I’m alone then silently break down in a corner so no one thinks I’m weak. The only times I’ve cried in front of someone in the past nine years was when I had an awful earache and when I broke my wrist. I’m sensitive in the way that every minor thing hurts like hell but I will never let you see me cry.
Same here. It got to a point where tears wouldn't even come out no matter how hard I tried and how sad I felt. I've been trying to be more open and honest with myself and others, and honestly it's such a weight off your shoulders, even if you just do it with one person, let yourself feel and be, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I hope we all can be open and more honest so that we don't feel bad on our own anymore. Best wishes to you, you'll find your way any time soon :)
@@pogatitos2629 I'm really sorry about that, but even though I don't know your situation, if they left you for being open with them, maybe they weren't prepared, maybe they were scared, or maybe they just were not good friends after all, I can't tell. But what I can tell you is that you need people who support you, people who actually listen and care, they may not be easy to find, but there are a bunch out there, and maybe you already know someone. I know sometimes it's easier to give up and let the stream carry you, but if you're not feeling ok, if something's bothering you, then I guess it's better to try, start with the smallest of things and go from there, look for help, try to understand your feelings, and don't judge yourself, being at war with yourself is always a battle that can't be "won". I started commenting and answering people on the internet because I've been there too, and even though I don't know if you'll take anything from what I'm writing, I just want to let you know that things can get better, that you can change whatever that is making you feel bad, that someone cares about you but most importantly you should care and take care of yourself first. Some people will come and go, others will stay, life is full of things and experiencies from which you will learn a lot, to learn to love and appreciate yourself is a long process that will help you grow a lot and see things differently too, just take one step at a time, if you need help ask for it, if you feel down then feel down and then get up again, you've probably defeated so many bad moments already. Sorry for the long text, I hope you do well, stay strong my friend I send you a big hug.
when I was younger, my mom would constantly have to tell my siblings to leave me alone because “you know she’s sensitive”. Those would be her exact words. I never thought anything of it, just knew I was sensitive to literally everything and I was an overly emotional child. In high school I would always tell my friends, all the time, that I felt like I would feel emotions deeper than everybody else. When people would be sad, I’d be crying. When people were happy, I was ecstatic. When people are scared, I’m having a panic attack. But again, I never did research, I just thought I was weird and felt stuff way deeper than I should’ve. I’m 24 now, and this is the first time I’ve heard anyone actually address these traits and I’m so glad I came across this video!!
Idk why I cry after someone tells me “you’re kind of being mean” or “stop doing that” or “you’re weird” i just cry and i’m crying rn thats why im watching this
Same, I remember some years back when I was at a Comic Con at the video game area. I was playing on a Nintendo 64 and wanted to play another game so I went to go change the cartridge. I thought it was simple enough because we have one at home, but one of the people in charge came up to me and told me not to change the cartridges myself. He didn't seem mad and he didn't yell at me or anything, but after he talked to me I found myself trying to hold back tears :(
I... didn't realise other people were like this too. It's so validating and such a relief and comfort to know others are out there.. yet so isolating because i don't know any of them.
I'd rather feel alone physically and know in my heart and soul that out of the billions of people on this planet there is no way that I am the one and only single person experiencing xyz than know that out of the billions of people I am truly all alone. No one is ever truly alone. No matter how lonely you may feel.
Alicia Gooch me too, I’m so sensitive that it comes out of me in anger and rage, if someone disrespects me or criticises me I am so reactive it’s unbelievable and I think I was born this way and not just because I had a traumatic childhood or maybe it was and my brain has just not developed properly yet.
Me: *cries* Someone: why are you crying? Dont cry! Me: *cries even more* Tbh i hate it when people surround me and ask questions while i cry. Like, that only makes me feel MUCH worse and makes me cry even more! Edit: its nice to know how much people can relate to me. Have a nice day~ :) theres nothing wrong in being sensitive, remember that.
same last few months i cried after my speech and all of a sudden half of the class started to come near me and told me not to cry and it’ll be alright but i kept crying more ;;
Heartsy Kpopper yeah, it makes you feel more vulnerable and like you’re weakness is on full display to others. I had to give a speech in class, but after seeing the person before me blow it out of the water, I just started immediately crying. I try to find coping mechanisms, and the ones that seem to be the most helpful to me are writing or drawing something near me.
@Heartsy Kpopper omg I feel the same.. like for example when I am tearing up or crying, they ask me, "Are you okay?," then I start sobbing even more even if I try to say, "I'm fine" but I cant stop sobbing to answer back.
I can identify with so many comments in this thread but let me tell you that as a Person with HSP it's really important to find a good environment and workplace in your life. I'm a RN who just started med school and I can tell you I am so excited that I am going to be a doctor because due to my HSP I feel like I can read into my patients' minds so well and can identify their needs without them even telling me what it is. HSP is not particularly a disadvantage even though I tend to have problems with it when i am in an argument for example and my mind just shuts down due to the overwhelming emotional response it created. Find your bubble, work on yourself to be better and go for your goals. HSP is a gift as well as it is a burden!
Wyatt Thomas69 it costs you exactly $0 to not degrade people for just living their lives 🤷🏼♀️ many people feel deeply about these things in their lives because it has affected them on a large scale. Poetry is a really good way to get those emotions out, and having people see your poetry and relate to it is even better.
My mom: *talks to me about grades like she’s mad* Me: *almost cries* My mom: Why are you crying Another time after she talked to me about grades Me: *sobbing but I think quietly* Her from another room: Stop crying!!!!
I’ve actually never heard of HSP before and I aligned with every single sign in the video. It was kind of surreal to be described as a person-type I’ve never been taught about but it’s comforting to know a good portion of fellow introverts share the same characteristics!
Today I've already had 2 breakdowns and at this point in my life I'm not surprised the thing is I don't know why I have those breakdowns. Like 20 minutes ago I was literally talking to my dad about doing some house remodeling, then I went to my room and started crying out of nowhere. Like wtf
For me it depends on who saw it. If it's family I will shove it off (like just recently I stepped on a nail and it went through my foot). But, at school if I get hit in the face with a ball, (not as bad) I get really embarrassed and people seeing my face be really red makes me tear up. Embarrassment always gets me and now I can't even talk to outgoing teachers or my face gets red. This is (probably) because I feel like they are going to point out something about me or make me a big deal.
not me crying realising this was something normal and people like me does exist.. literally every point correlates with me and i feel so comforted.. thanks for this video
When I forget to lock the door, they just walk in and leave really fast, laugh about it, and tell every other person in the room and let everyone know they saw me crying. So that's fun🤠
My ex made me feel really bad for crying when he would raise his voice, and i would try and suppress my emotions. It ended up hurting me a lot and losing a sense of myself when he left for someone else. I was never aware of the term HSP until now. It makes so much sense. In super empathic to the point where i feel everyones emotions and i can't help but cry. So thank you so much for making this 💗
It's even worse for me because stupid 4 to 9 year old me cried about absolutely everything and now in middle school everyone seems to know that and I just don't try making friends any more because someone will tell them about how much I cried and when they do know they don't want to be around me worrying I will cry.
7 out of 8 signs I experience. Horror movies I’m fine with (monsters, the paranormal & ghosts, etc). But movies dealing with S. Assault, domestic abuse stuff like that, I stay far away from those. They actually make me mad, sad and helpless. After having a stroke I noticed that how I processed things was completely different than before it. Even now, almost 4 years later, and it hasn’t really changed but learning more about it has helped deal with it.
I feel like when someone corrects me, even in the most gentle way, I feel like I bothered them doing it wrong the first time and feel bad anyway. Anyone else?
Yeah omg same! Every time someone corrects me on something I’m doing wrong, I feel offended even in the most gentle way because it makes me think they think that I’m an idiot or something and sometimes I want to cry after that happens :(
I have just made a 1st i think self realization. Ive know this to be true before, but this was the 1st time that i acctualy realized it withing myself. My feelings get easily hurt, thats why i am mean and evil towards others. I do it to them, so they feel bad(possibly), and it makes me feel better, but it also a self sabotage kinda. Because i just said something mean in my snap group, and these friends know this truth about me, and i knew it too kinda, but i have never truly realized it. So when i was mean to someone in the snap group, others saw it, and they instantly gave him love. And that hurt me. And they knew it would hurt me. So if someone, who is an emotional GRANDDAD, could explain what this is, it would be great. I have a hugeeeeee ego aswell. And when i say huge, im talking psychopatic lvl. Im not a psychopath, but my ego is on that lvl. Someone pls talk to me.
Oh yes and ive also isolated myself from others, my family also, before corona, because of this stuff i think. I just cant handle myself, when im with anyone. Too much stuff happens to me. Sometimes im cool, but thats rly rare, and short also.
Also. Something about life, or maybe just me. That hurt i felt, when they gave him love, i feel that sooo much more, than what i feel, when im given love. Or maybe i dont deserve love, and noone is giving me it, cause im grown now, and im irresponsible, and still kinda childish, and lazy. The only love i was given kinda, in the past years i think, was when my grandma was cuddling me. Im 22 and i like when my grandma cuddles me. Fuck it. And that feels like nothing, compared to what the hurt feels like. Its so sad honeslty, ive burst into tears writing this part. Im fine now. Welp maybe noone sees this and im writing this to myself yeeeho. Life's simple init m8? Im so confident when im typing on the internet, fb, etc. In real life im such a pussy. Avarage penis also. Life's amazing init girls? Yes it is my g, if u are a pro at sex. 🙃
The politeness thing is SO TRUE though, especially putting things back fir employees, I'm always so aware that any mess I leave someone else has to clean up, I just want to make their job easier!
Me, too!!! I am always looking for the right place to put something back on the shelf at a store. The thought that someone else would have to clean up my mess gives me so much guilt.
During a family therapy session when I was in recovery for my eating disorder, my sister yelled "stop being so sensitive!" (she's said those words my entire life) and my therapist at the time jumped right in to defend me as I cried saying how I'm just a very sensitive person and I honestly hate it. I hate how 1 mean thing some stranger said can ruin my whole day. I hate that people take advantage of me because I can't say no. I hate the anxiety I feel on a daily basis. The news makes me depressed. I wasn't meant for this world full of corruption and greed.
Man I have that last thought especially so often, that it feels like I wasn't meant for this world. I dunno though, I don't think I would trade it because then I'd just be one of the people who makes this stupid world so awful.
The only world that you can control is the one you create. Be it virtually or socially. You chose you friends and partner. You chose what Neighborhood you want to live in. I learned to let the world be the world and focus on the people close to me. The people who care for me. The people who is here to understand and help me.
when I was younger it was even worse than it is now. A random person passed me while calling me a name. I cried. My day was ruined. I wasn't even sure if it was towards me... and I didn't know what I did wrong... but I was so sad and hurt.
Despite the fact I was often bullied being a HSP and my narcissistic partner took a great advantage of it I'm still a HSP. Thank you for making me understand there's nothing wrong with that.
1. You feel deeply and tend to be more emotionally reactive 2. You prefer to exercise alone 3. It takes you longer to make decisions 4. You Pay attention to small details 5. You are highly conscientious and extremely respectful 6. You are prone to have anxiety or depression especially because of past events 7. Violent/ horror movies are not your cup of tea 8. You work well in team environments
Doubenz f - I can’t watch thrillers like “Jaws” because the anticipation is too much for me, or when a girl trips over a branch in the woods running away from a serial killer with a chainsaw 😂 I just can’t do it at my age lmao
sometimes i cant watch a movie because some random character is through a embarrassing moment and i feel that. It also happens in real life with an actual person.
Omg yess I can't stand watching it!! I'd be like Why'd you do such a thing and why should I be ashamed for you 😂 I'm so angry and so ashamed at the same time and if I'm really curious about the end I just watch the final episode 👍
That’s me. I don’t like to listen others embarrassing stories as if it’s mine. And am a person who slaps own face after remembering a silly mistake I’ve done long time ago.
Holy shit... I never knew other people were like this.. I literally skip forward on shows or movies to avoid embarrassing or high anxiety moments for characters
1.you feel deeply and more emotionally active 2.you prefer to exercise alone 3.it takes you longer to make decisions 4.you pay attention to small details 5.you are highly conscientious 6.you are prone to anxiety or depression 7.violent / horror movies are your cup of tea 8.you work well in team environments
SPOT ON. I can't believe what you said about the restaurant menu...OVERWHELMING. Thank you. I would add two more. 9. You occasionally get over stimulated and PISSED OFF. 10. You feel great joy and enthusiasm over small things.
But like, I'm the kind of person who would just really want some comforting words and a hug but most people I know are pretty reserved and don't like being touched. What do I do in scenarios like that?
Sign number 9: You cry any time you get criticized, even when it was meant to be constructive.... it’s me all the time. EDIT: Thanks for all the likes.. never had anywhere near this many! It’s nice to know i’m not the only one with this problem
Watching these HSP videos make me emotional. It’s like I finally SEEN, heard and acknowledged! I’ve always felt like I was crazy with how emotional I get at times, and how I just feel moods intensely. When I feel joy, it pulsates throughout my body; making me jump or squirm, like the happiness is trying to get out and infect others. On the other hand, when I’m sad, I’m so accepting of death. But then again, I might just be depressed. 😐 lol Great job with the videos, and thank you for making them!
My best friend: doesn't respond to one of my texts Me: it's okay I'll ignore her too Also me: starts crying because she doesn't like me any more Edit: i was talking about a specific friend and we fought because she talked to me badly... My other friends got my back and gave me so much courage... Althought i was really sad i know now that i have some real friends... Also thanks for all your kind words!!!
It seems almost everyone here is young--under 40 ish. I am much older and I want to say "IT'S OK to be highly sensitive." I am absolutely an HSP. The world may be harsh to you, but seek out those who understand. You have a lot to offer. Do what you need to feel stronger and more secure. And if you know HSP's give them love and acceptance. That's really what we all need above anything else.
I wish us HSP'S could get the care we deserve but alas nobody cares; and they call us too sensitive that's one of the most low things a person that isn't an HSP can say
Does anyone else tend to over-analyze movies to the point people find it annoying to watch a movie with you because you can’t stop pointing at small details such as the color of the clothes representing a change of power or the expression of the character in the back looking uncomfortable?
I always tear up when I'm criticized or if I'm trying to have a serious conversation with someone... I never knew why... I guess I'm an HSP, and its somehow comforting
I quickly walked away from a Disney movie because I felt tears coming up lmao. I emphasized too much but didn't wanna get emotional in front of my family lol. I'm a guy that makes it even worse 😂.
Manon Rochard same here. All these years of never knowing why I couldn’t control my crying and thinking I was just weird, it’s relieving. I now know why I do what I do. It still sucks though
I hate when people say I take everything personally or I'm very emotional. That's the reason I've stopped showing my trueself I act bold and extroverted in front others. And then I cry for hours for the smallest reason.
I hate when people tell me not be sensitive like bro if it was in my control why would i make myself suffer so terribly??? I wish people could understand
@@jimineepabonojams567 I myself also try to keep it in. But it depends on the situation. Sometimes, I can't help it and sometimes I hold it in till it builds up and let it all out at some point.
On Christmas I saw my fam after over a year of not being in touched . And one of my older cousins who I used to be afraid of as a child gave me the Talk of if I ever need him he’ll be there for me no matter what , and I started getting so emotional , and he kept telling me not to cry 🤣 it was a mess hehe (mind you I was never close to him like that ) so it really touched my heart 🤧
@@nomames9890 same, i cried SO MUCH when my uncle died, like really sobbing to tears, and i wasnt even that close to him, i didnt even speak to him or anything, but it just came. Im that sensitive.
What hurts the most is when you are in an argument and you can't control your tears because you become so emotionally affected and you know it isn't tear- worthy but people call you names like " crocodile tears" , " trying to gain sympathy", " drama queen"
My HSP lead me to severe anxiety and depression, and its extremely hard to cope due to the fact that I'm even more sensitive with all this anxiety going on. HSPs are good and empathic people, but they get so many disadvantages in life. Its so unfair, like really. I even suffer from thinking about the worlds pain and unjustices. Absolutely soul-crushing.
My sensitivity led me to social anxiety. My parents are already done with my introverted nature. I feel like m just a misfit in such a harsh world. I hate myself fir being HSP. It’s more like a curse for me
I was once waiting in line as a kid and then a woman came out of nowhere and started yelling at me for taking her place or something and I stayed silent cause I didn't know how to react and then someone said that I probably didn't speak English and to avoid looking like an idiot I went with it and started talking Spanish
ah, a typical Karen haha. There's too many of them, bossing around like they own every place. seriously though, I know what you mean :) I've had an encouter like that before as well and did freeze as well
I think for any person with high sensitivity, it is important to teach assertiveness and boundaries. I feel like many sensitive people get overwhelmed too fast and emotional regulation is IMPORTANT. I find that many sensitive people are surrounded by mildly narcissistic people who have a general lack of regard for others. It’s okay to be sensitive. It is okay to care!
Really it’s about learning discipline and practicing resilience. I consider myself a hsp but I don’t feel like I get easily overwhelmed by emotions because I was fortunate enough to grow up in a secure environment where adults didn’t put down being too sensitive. It’s okay to be sensitive. But getting triggered easily by negative situations isn’t fun so it’s important to learn mental techniques that help you de-escalate your over reactive emotions.
"I find that many sensitive people are surrounded by mildly narcissistic people who have a general lack of regard for others." - - - -Wow, yes, this, because we live in societies of Earthlings. I'm about to turn 65 and I'm still amazed by how brusque, rude, needy, hurtful, self-serving, and inconsiderate a lot of people are as a matter of course--just as their general stance toward the outer world. Sometimes it makes me feel bad just OBSERVING it out in public, among strangers. Especially when people mistreat their children. I remember certain incidents going back 50 years. I have to cope with it by saying, well, probably their children are the same as they are, and it will be like water off a duck's back and won't hurt the kid. Maybe not, but I have to hope. I can't go around like Superman helping strangers in need. 😂
@ Melissa Herrera, imagine growing up with a father who actually punished you for not being aggressive enough, assertive enough, and dominant enough. At my own birthday party when I was 10, I had a friend who was extremely competitive and really wanted to win all the games. So in a footrace I let him win even though I was a faster runner than everyone else. After the party was over, my father screamed at me and made me sit in my room for three hours. *On my birthday.* One example out of thousands....
Yes! After 24 years on this planet, I am finally learning this in therapy. I always had (and still have) trouble setting boundaries because I feel guilty or cheap for not helping someone else. But I am slowly learning that I need to take care of myself first before taking care of others.
1. You fell deeply and tend to be more emotionally reactive. 2. You prefer to exercise alone. 3. It takes you longer to make decisions. 4. You pay attentions to subtlety and small details in general. 5. You are highly conscientious and have extremely good manners. 6. You are prone to having anxiety or depression, especially if you've had many bad past experiences. 7. Violent/horror movies are not your cup of tea. 8. You work well in team environments.
Hazell well a lot of these apply to me but not all. I love exercising with friends. I’m polite but don’t always have the best manners. I like action movies but not horror movies. What does this say about me?
I have to question number 8 because while being sensitive helps in the ways mentioned it definitely has social drawbacks that make group settings more difficult. I fit all the traits to a "t," but while I can easily see how I have often been a valued asset of various teams, I have also always stood on the fringes, by choice. Team environments function much like wolf packs and social cues play a very large part of that dynamic. Although sensitive people are good at picking up on such cues they are quite often not proficient or are unwilling to make such social displays. I think a lot of that comes down to risk assessment and emotional valuations in which we decide that it simply isn't worth it to play the role society expects/respects. I moved a lot as a kid and found myself in every conceivable social group at one time or another, often floating around cycling through them. I was never comfortable being popular even when it came naturally over and over. When I met my wife she would always accuse me (I say accuse because I still see it as a negative) of being one of the popular alpha kids. It was always hard for me to understand why she would place that label on me from the inside looking out. Clearly she placed some value on it that I did not. Looking back honestly I see what she saw, the potential and the ways that I flaunted that potential. It just was never my choice. I will always remember being with a group of kids who were making fun of another kid for talking to himself. I didn't have any respect for them and thought about how I talked to myself a lot (and yet they admired me) and couldn't see anything wrong with it (still can't). I can't tell you how many times kids tried to make me their leader nor how uncomfortable that made me feel (follow your own star). Like going to a non-school dance when I was 11 with my friends where one or two got asked to dance by one or two girls whereas I had twelve girls including the most popular girl around ask me to dance. I said no to all of them but got a glimpse of myself that I had not yet seen. One I'm still not comfortable with. Being sensitive means that you see more variables and that makes choices harder to make and harder for others to understand when you do. That does very good things for a group but does not necessarily endear you with a group that struggles to understand those many variables seen and unseen.
Discovering I have the INFJ personality as well as being an HSP has made a significant turning point in life… I love and accept unapologetically who I am because I thought I was odd, crazy and worse; depressed. Hardly do people understand me and why I feel deeply the way I do; trying to explain to them only makes it worse. Finding a partner who can relate with me on a deep level has been so challenging that I often wonder; perhaps I am better off being alone. But I pray and hope I meet someone who understands and accepts me
This is why I go shopping alone. I know I take a long time with simple decisions such as 'will I purchase this item?' and I can spend up to or even over an hour in a single shop. I also end up getting an anxious and panicky when I realise how much time I am taking. So I don't want to burden a friend with all of this. On the plus side, I enjoy my own company so those 6 hour solo shopping days are usually pretty fun (besides the mini panic attacks 😂)
Lydia omg yes me too. Then when I go by myself I literally can spend several hours getting 3 items and then start to be insecure that someone/surveillance is noticing me taking forever in one isle or going back and forth to the same isles to change my mind and decide more.
I’ve never thought of myself as sensitive because of the negative connotation with the word, just emotional, intuitive, and compassionate. Thank you for helping to reclaim this word for good and helping me understand myself a bit better!
lanaisalonelyfren right? :/. But if I sense a crazy upcoming scene, I cover my eyes. I think I actually started doing this more tho after all the crazy videos online...
I've always felt so alone in this i have felt like I was crazy. That it was me. Thank-you so much for these videos. I never thought there was a name for this.
I conpletely get you.I cant stand when people argue.I break down on the inside and begin to freak out and start overthinking things even if it doesnt relate to me
Imagine being HSP and calling urself weeb trash, like bruh, thats some conviction damn. Ur basically putting a huge ass target on your back. I dont even have the balls to show my true colors like that, and I'm pretty fucking jaded lol I commend u brother.
I once cried for getting an official warning from my teacher, and she moved me to "yellow," which is acting badly(I forgot to turn in my work). It was my first ever. It was embarrassing to cry in class in front of everyone. My teacher was so kind. She rescinded the warning, put me on her knee...and hugged me and comforted me, and the whole class followed her lead and comforted me. I still remember how much that meant to me, i can remember every detail like a photograph in my mind. I was six years old.
Aww, that's so sweet! I remember at my school we had a point system, we could earn points at the end of the day, and redeem it for a little prize (toy) at the end of the week. When we misbehaved, for example just talking when we shouldn't(I'm a quiet person but apparently I chatted a lot days), we lost points.. It always made me almost cry... Lol
Then there's me that cried every single day in kindergarten and my teacher would just yell at me which would cause me to start sobbing I still hate that teacher till this day
I got a warning at school because a really annoying person stop my stuff and didn't give it back so I pulled her chair and she intentionally fell of and hit her head I was laughing until I got the warning. I was pulling the chair slowly
Yes! Manners aren't everything, it's the intent behind them (ethics and such)! Besides, no one is polite all the time. Even us HSPs can have bad days and get irritated lol
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Psych2Go
Hey thank you I'm a omnivirt (I think I got no clue)
But there's this girl that never talks at my school
( I think she's a introvert)
And I love her
( I've said hi and told her jokes ... She smiled at me 😊)
Theses things are helpful to Lear about people like her
....
Thank you
Psych2Go I share those videos with my roommates, besides, thanks for making this content!
Thanks Edek! @She Wolf35, we do have a video on that actually haha. Can you look it up? @the hat club, you mean ambivert? I'm glad these videos can help you gain better understanding of people :)
Psych2Go I really appreciate your videos. :)
I do deep thinking but the fact is that its not effective. One thing is analysing deeply and other is it actually being useful but in mine case it's many times not
When someone is yelling at me or I feel that someone is disappointed in me, I get this like sinking feeling everything feels right. Then I start to cry and no matter how hard I try I can’t stop the tears. And I always feel embarrassed when I do that especially when I’m in school.
i try so hard not to cry but then my face gets so hot and i can’t hold it in
I feel super sad. I hide it around people and honestly then cry.
I'm like that too :(
Honestly I decided hiding it is better for everyone I guess, I want people to stay happy, I want to save those I can in any way possible. Being sad doesn't make them any happier.
IconicQueen'04 you described it perfectly! For the longest time I couldn’t figure out how to describe that feeling. It happens to me a lot. I honestly hate it. It’s made me cry for the stupidest things. Like at work, I asked so many questions (I don’t like doing things wrong so I need to know exactly what I’m doing) and the person training me was annoyed with all my questions (I pick up on emotions well and it was extremely obvious) and then I couldn’t stop crying and being emotional for hours. It wasn’t a good day at work to say the least
I FINALLY UNDERSTAND WHY I CRY AFTER EVERY INTERACTION WITH MY PARENTS AND THEY ARE NOT ABUSIVE
wow literally same
Same
Same. My dad... just the way he would say my name when I was growing up (even if I wasn't getting in trouble), I'd start crying before I even went to him to find out what he wanted and I just assumed I was in trouble. Pissed him off so much. Smh. My mind is my own worst enemy
@@destree6348 When my parents do so much as give me too much attention which isn't even much, even if they wanna help me, I have to hold in tears.
@Nanner I understand exactly what you're saying. So much can be so overwhelming
I feel like my whole soul is crushed when someone raises their voice at me :(
I know that exact feeling mainly by my mother and father it feels like a sledgehammer hitting you in the chest
Hahaha thats me
Me too just ,so relatable
I can relate to that... Idk how many times I've cried in class when my teacher yelled at me. It's embarrassing.
I almost cried when my friend raised his voice at me...... I cried after since I can't take it anymore..:(
i literally hate being so sensitive. My friends are jokingly rude, and i get so upset even when i know they are joking. I’ll stay, be sad, and cry for days, even though it was a joke. I start assuming they hate me if they even act a bit annoyed, and i assume they’d want me gone if they need a bit of space. I hate it all, I wanna be able to feel fine
Don't hate being yourself pls. My friends are toxicly rude too, they only care about themselves, and talk about themselves, but I learned
If you actually hate having to talk to people like that, just let them talk and randomly walk away, if they will come again for you, they're surely fake friends, because they wanna have you listening to them 24/7...
You should love yourself and feel what you feel...Don't be hard on yourself because the others don't understand or do jokes about u....The friends who will understand u would love u believe me...And lastly I purple u....Take care and I am sure there would be someone who will completely understand u and comfort u
And there's nothing wrong with being sensitive...You r who u r and that what makes u unique and classy
Wow that's me
same :/
Also a HSP cares alot about others' opinions. Negative comments affect them easily and they often like to be portrayed as a happy person to the world hiding their true feelings.
OMG so truuue
Maheen Aqeel Yes!! I feel this so much
Yes and no, Mahheen. It also depends on your self esteem and learning not take everything personal. Also, there can be codependant issues to look into...
Oop i’ve been called out haha
true
Finally with people I can totally relate to.. The whole comment section
Yea
Yeahh
Yeah, same here.
The 18k people
hobi_ sflower yess
I can’t like every comment, but same.
Hahahah litterly feel the same!
Meee
Same
SAME
Same
As someone that’s been told “stop being so sensitive” all their life and grown to hide their emotions because of it, this video has made me feel so validated as it’s all I’ve wanted to hear my whole life.
Yea :(
Yep
' u are so sensitive!' I wish that expression was used as a compliment and dint have a negative connotation.Imagine being told ' u are so intelligent' ,' u are so pretty' and in same vein ' u are so sensitive'.That would be so awesome
I grew up hearing that from my dad too (and partners since then). For example, someone makes a negative comment about something and I think it's about me. But ya hearing someone yell "you're so sensitive!" when you're already feeling bad about something.. I learned to just not say anything
Does anyone else feel guilty when they complain about their problems knowing there’s someone that has it worse?
I do! I hate sharing my problems with others
@@aasthasaxena2330 Same! I feel my problems aren't important enough so I care for my friends problems instead
yezzir
All the time; but that's the thing, even though there's always a deeper pit of hell, it doesn't invalidate the level you're on.
Yes I really do
Is it just me or is it when someone comforts me when i'm crying, It makes me cry more...?
Oh my god- I'm sorry but I made this comment a year ago and y'all are still replying-- wow.
@@rain22738 same! It’s like you feel guilty or bad and you think that they are comforting you out of pity or you think your a waste of their time
same!! i thought i was the only one. i hate letting them see me cry
Same! Like I immediately start thinking that I don't deserve that person, and the thought of them caring about me makes me cry for some reasin
@@ayurmy4667 Same...
Yess!!
it kinda sucks because i can't handle harsh jokes and sass without getting offended deep down, but it also made me good at choosing my words and keeping secrets.
Good job.
There are lots of people who use profanity and I get offended real easily.
@Carl Johnson If everyone had low sensitivity, then there wouldn't be someone that I could talk to that is more like me :c
😥 it gets me in trouble all the time...
Yeah dude, same here.
Anyone else just now seeing this in 2022? Man I wish kid me saw this, I relate to every level. Amazing video.
yes
Oh hi lan
Honestly, same.
2023 🙋🏽♀️
Hey im a 63 year old male. Its like a door I never knew was there that happened to open up while dealing with a narcissist. I finally have an understanding, I wish I had way way earlier.
It’s so embarrassing when a teacher yells at me and I cry. I wish I wasn’t so sensitive
Edit: Thanks for the likes it’s nice knowing I’m not the only one
Same D:
It’s stressful because literally none of my friends understand my condition and always pull mean jokes on me...:(
Sketching Skies •0•* ikr and they make me feel bad
when a teacher talks to me I cry
fuckkk same:(
I saw this poster at my school,
*"Don't apologize for being emotional, it shows you have a big heart and you aren't afraid to show it"*
That literally made my day 😣
@@applebottomjeans3284 I'm glad
Inspiring, you must have a good school
@@symbolcest Yes, it's really nice place. I saw the poster at a LGBTQ+ club they had on
I really want someone to say this to me, glad i saw this ♥️♥️♥️
someone: stop being so sensitive.
me: oh wow! i should’ve tried that sooner!
Rhat :P HAHAAHH
So true they think we're sensitive because we want to
ive never related to something more i-
DJ Banana RIGHT
True😓
My dad would get so mad at me for being sensitive, saying I always take things to heart. I spent my late teens and most of my 20s putting up an angry, hard shell around myself to protect myself from pain, which just pushed everyone away and I ended up in an abusive relationship. After a few years of therapy, I learned my self worth, how to deal with my sensitivity, assertiveness, and how to let my guard down. Therapy really helped me, and I hope of anyone reads this and resonates, will consider seeking therapy too.
Hey can u help me
Why did you just explain my whole life in like 7 minutes?
and 8 seconds
Odds are it seems like that cuz ur mind was more focused on introspecting about yours sensitiveness than it normally does. I know this cuz I feel the exact same way :)
Same exceot for the horror movie part, even tho it scares the poop out of me i still love it!
@Hydra Jamm 😂😂lol
Same 😂😂
"You prefer to exercise alone"
I prefer to not exercise.
Naomi oh my god, me
I prefer to not even think about exercise
YAS ME
Naomi same :")
hahahahaha same. 😂
I can’t believe everyone doesn’t feel like this lol
*Laughs in nervous*
LITERALLY
!!
And I am glad for them 😂
I feel exactly the same way. sometimes I feel other people are so careless.
Reading so many comments from my fellow HSP’s as an HSP who is learning the value of how we’re made and seeing so many of you suffering and saying it isn’t fair I just want to give you all a big, warm hug and say: I love you. You’re perfect just the way you are. Please hold on because the world needs us! This hard, cruel world needs some depth and meaning and love and care. Your sensitivity can often feel like a weakness but it can also be your strength. I’m rooting for you and sending peace and love your way ❤️
Thank you for this ❤️❤️
Oh my goodness, this means more than you will ever know, thank you!
Sensitive people should be treasured. They love deeply and think deeply about life. They are loyal, honest, and true. The simple things sometimes mean the most to them. They don’t need to change or harden. Their purity makes them who they are.
I wish everyone felt that way.
It is hard when no one takes the time to be gentle and kind.
I love this.
As a not really sensitive person, I actually really appreciate sensitive people and love them. Ily guys 🥰
@@Me-us2rf True.
@@glittermoog4823 😊
parent: **arguing with me**
me: **yells in defense**
also me: **voice cracks for no reason and starts crying**
This is probably the thing that aggravates me most. I want to be angry and intimidating, but instead I just break down and cry
Fallen Angel Same.
@@asha_vere thisssssssssssssssssss
Damn the voice cracks ways get me :((
exactlyy
I started crying at the "you need parents who nurture your sensitivity" because that's exactly what I don't have
Isy VD same 😞
Isy VD, soooooooo true
@S̸h̸e̸r̸ 15 You saying you're being ungrateful reminds me of my own situation. I've been slowly figuring out the toxic behaviour of both my mother and grandmother. I am really attached to my mother, so admitting to myself and others that she did things that weren't right and that hurt me a lot was such a difficult process. In this family as well, when you voice your pain and anger that was caused by something they did, you are suddenly ungrateful. The word gets thrown around a lot. And I only recently realised that that isn't how it should be. That I should be able to voice when they hurt me without getting a list of all the things they did for me thrown in my face to make me swallow my emotions and stop confronting them. In this family, it feels like no love is unconditional. And at times I'm still so angry at them. Even though my thoughts haven't gone to such extremes, I do feel like I understand where you're coming from. I hope you'll be able to break away from the toxic situation. I'm working on that myself as well.
@@isyvd I hope you make it out of that environment friend. My family especially my brother are real energy suckers and it used to bother me so much that it seemed like he didn't care for my mental health at all. But I learned to forgive him and forgive myself for letting him take the joy out of me. I realized that I was giving him that power not knowing that I had a choice. It took years and I am still working on it every day but now I am kinda thankful for him pushing me to be a strong willed human being. Even though I could of learned some other way. Sorry for long response but I wanted to show you that there is hope and I hope you find it wherever
Same but my father is a narcissist and my mother is someone who don't know anything. Everything she ask my father and lead to anger.
I didn't even know this was a normal thing, I didn't know it was something other people felt until I watched this video. Thank you for this! These are all so perfectly explained and they helped me understand me more and why I have those traits I do. I'm looking forward to discussing this more with my therapist! I really love this channel.
When someone gets angry at me or screams at me, i just stay calm but inside im feeling super stressed and its super hard to hold up the tears :((
Especially at school or at home and public spaces, im sure im not the only one
@Muchinoi it happens to me all the time.
You're not alone, for me is the same
My dad has anger problems so at a very young age I got accustomed to the book of curse words and insults, so I don't even cry anymore. I just kind of shut down for 30 ish minutes. UA-cam always helps lol.
@@imw4497 aw are you doing ok now? If you're not feel free to talk to someone, we're always here for u :) ❤
@Muchinoi aw, is everything alright now? If not, please talk so someone, we care about you ❤
When someone is annoyed by me,i feel so stupid,i start crying and i feel embarrassed,even if i try the hardest that i can,i couldn't stop tearing up.
Same today I cooked chicken my parents said it was dry .When my stepmom said it she kinda yelled and I cried I try my best not. . Today she call me lazy accused me of spraying her plants with weed killer called me evil and disrespectful and passive aggressive.Im being a changed person but at this point it’s not worth trying . Tommorw she will complain that she’s sees a mark on the bathroom wall . Don’t try to please other people is too overwhelming
@@codghost9301 What kind of step mom calls their step child evil for making dry chicken?
PandaBeanieHere! Idk is your Home life ok.
Same.
Lxmyy, Same. Back in preschool I sometimes started feeling worse than the one I accidently teased too much. I mean, how tf? Hated that, and it still happens sometimes now. Why just why is my head like that?
honestly i usually don't even want to cry but my eyes just betray me and then everyone thinks i'm weird and a crybaby because i cried over a joke
Same i can't make myself not cry
I can relate :
I used to research how to get rid of my tear gland, I don’t want to appear weak but I just can’t help with it
I can relate😥
Same. I'll cry even when I feel calm or neutral about something. People always act weird and ask what wrong, when in reality I'm just chilling.
This is exactly me! Few people understand the struggle of being an introvert, overly emotional and highly sensitive. Not good at jokes, always take things seriously and feel so helpless can't make decisions easily.
does anyone hide and cry and just wait till their eyes aren’t puffy anymore so that your problems don’t trouble anybody 😔✌️
triplechoi me👋 I bury it all
Wow, that is so stupid. Hahaha, no, no one does that.
me...if its still puffy i'll say its because i sleep late and my mom will get angry saying im losing sleep cuz i keep scrolling on my phone
All the time
@@jimmyj4044 Hm I wonder if you are serious or I got R/Whoosh'd
1. You feel deeply and tend to be more emotionally reactive
2. You prefer to exercise alone
3. It takes you longer to make decisions
4. You pay attention to subtlety and small details in general
5. You are highly conscientious and have extremely good manners
6. You are prone to having anxiety or depression especially if you’ve had bad past experiences
7. Violent or horror movies are not your cup of tea
8. You work well in team environments
Ellie Matthew nope ig im not this cause i do not have good manners i used to eat with my fingers😭
Keila Sanchez you don’t have to have all qualities lol. Also eating with your fingers isn’t necessarily bad manners, part of my family is Filipino and it’s part of our culture to eat with our hands. I like it!
I don’t work well in teams at all because I’m scared I won’t know what to do or I’m wrong
I was literally looking for this, thanks
Ellie Matthew i like horror and violent movies tho
I’ve always been told, “god, you’re so sensitive!” And now I’ve built up such a high wall, that I’m not “sensitive” anymore. I’ll hold it all in until I’m alone then silently break down in a corner so no one thinks I’m weak. The only times I’ve cried in front of someone in the past nine years was when I had an awful earache and when I broke my wrist. I’m sensitive in the way that every minor thing hurts like hell but I will never let you see me cry.
Same here. It got to a point where tears wouldn't even come out no matter how hard I tried and how sad I felt. I've been trying to be more open and honest with myself and others, and honestly it's such a weight off your shoulders, even if you just do it with one person, let yourself feel and be, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I hope we all can be open and more honest so that we don't feel bad on our own anymore. Best wishes to you, you'll find your way any time soon :)
yazmin s. I’ve tried opening up and my friends all left me because of it. I’m staying as far in my shell as possible
@@pogatitos2629 I'm really sorry about that, but even though I don't know your situation, if they left you for being open with them, maybe they weren't prepared, maybe they were scared, or maybe they just were not good friends after all, I can't tell. But what I can tell you is that you need people who support you, people who actually listen and care, they may not be easy to find, but there are a bunch out there, and maybe you already know someone. I know sometimes it's easier to give up and let the stream carry you, but if you're not feeling ok, if something's bothering you, then I guess it's better to try, start with the smallest of things and go from there, look for help, try to understand your feelings, and don't judge yourself, being at war with yourself is always a battle that can't be "won". I started commenting and answering people on the internet because I've been there too, and even though I don't know if you'll take anything from what I'm writing, I just want to let you know that things can get better, that you can change whatever that is making you feel bad, that someone cares about you but most importantly you should care and take care of yourself first. Some people will come and go, others will stay, life is full of things and experiencies from which you will learn a lot, to learn to love and appreciate yourself is a long process that will help you grow a lot and see things differently too, just take one step at a time, if you need help ask for it, if you feel down then feel down and then get up again, you've probably defeated so many bad moments already. Sorry for the long text, I hope you do well, stay strong my friend I send you a big hug.
Same
except for now!!!!
when I was younger, my mom would constantly have to tell my siblings to leave me alone because “you know she’s sensitive”. Those would be her exact words. I never thought anything of it, just knew I was sensitive to literally everything and I was an overly emotional child.
In high school I would always tell my friends, all the time, that I felt like I would feel emotions deeper than everybody else. When people would be sad, I’d be crying. When people were happy, I was ecstatic. When people are scared, I’m having a panic attack. But again, I never did research, I just thought I was weird and felt stuff way deeper than I should’ve.
I’m 24 now, and this is the first time I’ve heard anyone actually address these traits and I’m so glad I came across this video!!
Idk why I cry after someone tells me “you’re kind of being mean” or “stop doing that” or “you’re weird” i just cry and i’m crying rn thats why im watching this
GabrielA ty
Have some Love here, friend♥️
Gabi Mattos Oficial thanks
Same, I remember some years back when I was at a Comic Con at the video game area. I was playing on a Nintendo 64 and wanted to play another game so I went to go change the cartridge. I thought it was simple enough because we have one at home, but one of the people in charge came up to me and told me not to change the cartridges myself. He didn't seem mad and he didn't yell at me or anything, but after he talked to me I found myself trying to hold back tears :(
Sweetoil i feel u bruddah
I... didn't realise other people were like this too.
It's so validating and such a relief and comfort to know others are out there.. yet so isolating because i don't know any of them.
I'd rather feel alone physically and know in my heart and soul that out of the billions of people on this planet there is no way that I am the one and only single person experiencing xyz than know that out of the billions of people I am truly all alone. No one is ever truly alone. No matter how lonely you may feel.
Alicia Gooch because we don’t speak up lol
I’m not an introvert but sensitive, I just cried listening to a sad song
Alicia Gooch me too, I’m so sensitive that it comes out of me in anger and rage, if someone disrespects me or criticises me I am so reactive it’s unbelievable and I think I was born this way and not just because I had a traumatic childhood or maybe it was and my brain has just not developed properly yet.
Alicia Gooch PREACH
Me: *cries*
Someone: why are you crying? Dont cry!
Me: *cries even more*
Tbh i hate it when people surround me and ask questions while i cry. Like, that only makes me feel MUCH worse and makes me cry even more!
Edit: its nice to know how much people can relate to me. Have a nice day~ :) theres nothing wrong in being sensitive, remember that.
same last few months i cried after my speech and all of a sudden half of the class started to come near me and told me not to cry and it’ll be alright but i kept crying more ;;
Heartsy Kpopper yeah, it makes you feel more vulnerable and like you’re weakness is on full display to others. I had to give a speech in class, but after seeing the person before me blow it out of the water, I just started immediately crying. I try to find coping mechanisms, and the ones that seem to be the most helpful to me are writing or drawing something near me.
This is what I want NOT to happen and the reason why I try to hide the fact that I'm crying every time I'm with someone else.
@Heartsy Kpopper omg I feel the same.. like for example when I am tearing up or crying, they ask me, "Are you okay?," then I start sobbing even more even if I try to say, "I'm fine" but I cant stop sobbing to answer back.
SAME I so don't want people to come up to me and ask me why I am crying. I mean that is why I avoid crying in public
I can identify with so many comments in this thread but let me tell you that as a Person with HSP it's really important to find a good environment and workplace in your life.
I'm a RN who just started med school and I can tell you I am so excited that I am going to be a doctor because due to my HSP I feel like I can read into my patients' minds so well and can identify their needs without them even telling me what it is. HSP is not particularly a disadvantage even though I tend to have problems with it when i am in an argument for example and my mind just shuts down due to the overwhelming emotional response it created.
Find your bubble, work on yourself to be better and go for your goals. HSP is a gift as well as it is a burden!
Me trying to hold my emotions and tears
My friend : hey-
Me: ༼;´༎ຶ ༎ຶ༽
LMAO
LMAO sometimes when I'm fine and I'm able to hold my tears my friends then try comfort me, but it just makes me cry even more.
Holy shit that ASCII(?)
Nah i have a poker face ..... sad thing tho
😂
I tear up at the slightest things ....things move me deeply ....i sometimes imagine things out of blue which make me worrisome about future....
Bts Trash same
Bts Trash yes also me
I deal with this exact thing on a daily basis
Why are you talking in poetry? Its annoying
Wyatt Thomas69 it costs you exactly $0 to not degrade people for just living their lives 🤷🏼♀️ many people feel deeply about these things in their lives because it has affected them on a large scale. Poetry is a really good way to get those emotions out, and having people see your poetry and relate to it is even better.
I think everyone in here relates but when we get mad we automatically start crying instead of actually acting mad😂
Exactely
I'm getting mad and crying at the same time
yess it happens to me all the time ._.
I got so sick of crying all the time that I got angry...now im always angry and have outbursts even I think are kind messed up.
*sigh*
So me
My mom: *talks to me about grades like she’s mad*
Me: *almost cries*
My mom: Why are you crying
Another time after she talked to me about grades
Me: *sobbing but I think quietly*
Her from another room: Stop crying!!!!
I didn’t know that HSP was a thing.. I thought I was just really sensitive, didn’t know that it was an actual category. Well here I am now
It is nice to know there is more people like you. Makes you feel valid. At least, thats how it works for me
Honestly same. I had no idea but it feels so nice knowing that some of these things are real
sameee
Me too.I must be the poster child for HSP,lol.I'm like 7 out of 8 of the things that are mentioned here.Geesh!
omggg sameee
I’ve actually never heard of HSP before and I aligned with every single sign in the video. It was kind of surreal to be described as a person-type I’ve never been taught about but it’s comforting to know a good portion of fellow introverts share the same characteristics!
You should definitly read the book of Elaine N. Aron! I actually made me weep a few tears of joy, knowing who i was.
I'm actually looking into ordering it! :D
After watching this video I bought it, I need to read this to know myself better
Ikr, I was like: girl, how do you know me so well!?
Paola Robledo I Agree with some of this but hearing HSP makes Me Feel Like Nahh I'm Not Sensitivity 😎🙊
I start crying for literally no reason sometimes.
Another day I get a serious cut from a bike and I don't cry at all. Epic
Same.
Couldn't relate more!!!
Same!
Today I've already had 2 breakdowns and at this point in my life I'm not surprised the thing is I don't know why I have those breakdowns. Like 20 minutes ago I was literally talking to my dad about doing some house remodeling, then I went to my room and started crying out of nowhere. Like wtf
For me it depends on who saw it. If it's family I will shove it off (like just recently I stepped on a nail and it went through my foot). But, at school if I get hit in the face with a ball, (not as bad) I get really embarrassed and people seeing my face be really red makes me tear up. Embarrassment always gets me and now I can't even talk to outgoing teachers or my face gets red. This is (probably) because I feel like they are going to point out something about me or make me a big deal.
not me crying realising this was something normal and people like me does exist.. literally every point correlates with me and i feel so comforted.. thanks for this video
Sometimes when I’m crying by myself and I’m almost calm someone comes in and asks if I’m ok then I start sobbing again
thats so true
I can't relate cause no one ever talks to me or asks me if im fine :\
When I forget to lock the door, they just walk in and leave really fast, laugh about it, and tell every other person in the room and let everyone know they saw me crying. So that's fun🤠
You just put my life into words
Same.
*parents raises their voice at me*
*starts crying like a baby*
Literally my mom yelled at me for the first time in a while.... I cried.. in front of everyone, I didn’t even wait till I was alone
this hits close to home
sucks when you're a 20 year old man
@@rad1264 I'm 22, buddy. You're not alone.
I’ve just turned 18 and I still can’t handle my religion...
I cry when someone’s insults me or trash talks me I just start to break down
Runt I’m a whole different person now
Same, but I’ll usually insult them back and hide it until I’m alone and nobody will know
same
Same here 😭
Same
My ex made me feel really bad for crying when he would raise his voice, and i would try and suppress my emotions. It ended up hurting me a lot and losing a sense of myself when he left for someone else. I was never aware of the term HSP until now. It makes so much sense. In super empathic to the point where i feel everyones emotions and i can't help but cry. So thank you so much for making this 💗
My whole life is just “sorry” to everyone 24/7.
I can relate to this so much
BlueFoxx haha yeah same
I say thank you often
omg same
Rafay Aftab I say thank you to Siri
Am i the only one who gets angry easily but also Happy easily
Same.
Same with my brother
Girl noo i am exactly like that to😂
Me too but I tried to control my anger before I regret what I have done
Mee
Me: slightly crying
Person: are you crying?
Me: *starts sobbing*
mood :(
Omg, yes!! It happens to me every single time!!!!!!
It's even worse for me because stupid 4 to 9 year old me cried about absolutely everything and now in middle school everyone seems to know that and I just don't try making friends any more because someone will tell them about how much I cried and when they do know they don't want to be around me worrying I will cry.
Me: not crying
Someone: don't cry
Me: starts crying even tho I'm not sad
BTS CHIMMY YYYYYYAAAAASS! I'm sorry I had to. 😂 also this happens to me aswell
7 out of 8 signs I experience. Horror movies I’m fine with (monsters, the paranormal & ghosts, etc). But movies dealing with S. Assault, domestic abuse stuff like that, I stay far away from those. They actually make me mad, sad and helpless. After having a stroke I noticed that how I processed things was completely different than before it. Even now, almost 4 years later, and it hasn’t really changed but learning more about it has helped deal with it.
I feel like when someone corrects me, even in the most gentle way, I feel like I bothered them doing it wrong the first time and feel bad anyway. Anyone else?
Yeah omg same! Every time someone corrects me on something I’m doing wrong, I feel offended even in the most gentle way because it makes me think they think that I’m an idiot or something and sometimes I want to cry after that happens :(
I just got corrected by my teacher in online school.Now I'm crying. I'm never going to say anything in that subject again.
I have just made a 1st i think self realization. Ive know this to be true before, but this was the 1st time that i acctualy realized it withing myself. My feelings get easily hurt, thats why i am mean and evil towards others. I do it to them, so they feel bad(possibly), and it makes me feel better, but it also a self sabotage kinda. Because i just said something mean in my snap group, and these friends know this truth about me, and i knew it too kinda, but i have never truly realized it. So when i was mean to someone in the snap group, others saw it, and they instantly gave him love. And that hurt me. And they knew it would hurt me. So if someone, who is an emotional GRANDDAD, could explain what this is, it would be great. I have a hugeeeeee ego aswell. And when i say huge, im talking psychopatic lvl. Im not a psychopath, but my ego is on that lvl. Someone pls talk to me.
Oh yes and ive also isolated myself from others, my family also, before corona, because of this stuff i think. I just cant handle myself, when im with anyone. Too much stuff happens to me. Sometimes im cool, but thats rly rare, and short also.
Also. Something about life, or maybe just me. That hurt i felt, when they gave him love, i feel that sooo much more, than what i feel, when im given love. Or maybe i dont deserve love, and noone is giving me it, cause im grown now, and im irresponsible, and still kinda childish, and lazy. The only love i was given kinda, in the past years i think, was when my grandma was cuddling me. Im 22 and i like when my grandma cuddles me. Fuck it. And that feels like nothing, compared to what the hurt feels like. Its so sad honeslty, ive burst into tears writing this part. Im fine now. Welp maybe noone sees this and im writing this to myself yeeeho. Life's simple init m8? Im so confident when im typing on the internet, fb, etc. In real life im such a pussy. Avarage penis also. Life's amazing init girls? Yes it is my g, if u are a pro at sex. 🙃
The politeness thing is SO TRUE though, especially putting things back fir employees, I'm always so aware that any mess I leave someone else has to clean up, I just want to make their job easier!
Me too.. I always find myself doing any thing that could make things easier for others. 😂
Heeeey I thought I was the only one! Hello my siblings!! 🍻
Y'all are wonderful ❤
Me, too!!! I am always looking for the right place to put something back on the shelf at a store. The thought that someone else would have to clean up my mess gives me so much guilt.
Idk I just try to randomly make the our table less dirtier whenever we eat at a restaurant IDK IM JUST LIKE THAT
During a family therapy session when I was in recovery for my eating disorder, my sister yelled "stop being so sensitive!" (she's said those words my entire life) and my therapist at the time jumped right in to defend me as I cried saying how I'm just a very sensitive person and I honestly hate it. I hate how 1 mean thing some stranger said can ruin my whole day. I hate that people take advantage of me because I can't say no. I hate the anxiety I feel on a daily basis. The news makes me depressed. I wasn't meant for this world full of corruption and greed.
Same...
Man I have that last thought especially so often, that it feels like I wasn't meant for this world. I dunno though, I don't think I would trade it because then I'd just be one of the people who makes this stupid world so awful.
The only world that you can control is the one you create. Be it virtually or socially. You chose you friends and partner. You chose what Neighborhood you want to live in. I learned to let the world be the world and focus on the people close to me. The people who care for me. The people who is here to understand and help me.
when I was younger it was even worse than it is now. A random person passed me while calling me a name. I cried. My day was ruined.
I wasn't even sure if it was towards me... and I didn't know what I did wrong... but I was so sad and hurt.
I relate so much to what you said in the second half of the paragraph
Despite the fact I was often bullied being a HSP and my narcissistic partner took a great advantage of it I'm still a HSP. Thank you for making me understand there's nothing wrong with that.
1. You feel deeply and tend to be more emotionally reactive
2. You prefer to exercise alone
3. It takes you longer to make decisions
4. You Pay attention to small details
5. You are highly conscientious and extremely respectful
6. You are prone to have anxiety or depression especially because of past events
7. Violent/ horror movies are not your cup of tea
8. You work well in team environments
Hajer Merza this is the best comment in this comment section.. thank you😉
I can watch horror movies just fine. However I can't stand violence nor watch others get hurt because I will literally feel the pain as well
Doubenz f - I can’t watch thrillers like “Jaws” because the anticipation is too much for me, or when a girl trips over a branch in the woods running away from a serial killer with a chainsaw 😂 I just can’t do it at my age lmao
when i’m prone to depression and anxiety😍 it’s literally in my genetics more than half my family has one or both (ive gotten tested for both)
I’m literally all of those things.
Does anyone else end up crying when they're in an argument?
Yup or immediately afterward.
Bronie Law I start to cry during debates in class😩😩😩
Yuppp :'(
I get so frustrated and angry but I can't shout at them or hit them so I just cry afterward.
SOFT
Okay stop telling everyone about me.
Right. I feel exposed 🙈
Bruh..... 😂
same
Mood they straight up exposed me
As an INFJ and HSD, it's a pride to watch this educational video 😇
the worst part of being an hsp with really good manners is rarely, if ever, having people reciprocate good manners towards you
FACTS 👏
YES!!
IT DRIVES ME NUTS!!!!
Yes!!!, this is the most retable comments thus far out of them all. It's so fucking annoying
Yep. Even worse is when it's met with blatant hostility because people see you as "passive" or "submissive" and want to take advantage of that.
sometimes i cant watch a movie because some random character is through a embarrassing moment and i feel that.
It also happens in real life with an actual person.
Omg yess I can't stand watching it!! I'd be like Why'd you do such a thing and why should I be ashamed for you 😂 I'm so angry and so ashamed at the same time and if I'm really curious about the end I just watch the final episode 👍
Yes!me too!I really hate it when other people laugh at the character who poops their pants or smth..
Yes! I have no problem skipping whole scenes in books and movies if I think a super embarrassing moment is about to happen
That’s me. I don’t like to listen others embarrassing stories as if it’s mine. And am a person who slaps own face after remembering a silly mistake I’ve done long time ago.
Holy shit... I never knew other people were like this.. I literally skip forward on shows or movies to avoid embarrassing or high anxiety moments for characters
1.you feel deeply and more emotionally active
2.you prefer to exercise alone
3.it takes you longer to make decisions
4.you pay attention to small details
5.you are highly conscientious
6.you are prone to anxiety or depression
7.violent / horror movies are your cup of tea
8.you work well in team environments
Thankss 😄❤️
Nice!
I could say, I have it all except no. 2 because I rarely exercise like once in a blue moon
every enfp trait ever haha
@@Justme-yx9yg same 😅
SPOT ON. I can't believe what you said about the restaurant menu...OVERWHELMING. Thank you. I would add two more. 9. You occasionally get over stimulated and PISSED OFF. 10. You feel great joy and enthusiasm over small things.
I'm empathetic but I'm TERRIBLE at trying to comfort someone because I dont know how.
i used to be very conscious about that too, but then i just went by the rule to comfort them how you would want to be comforted
Then you're not really empathetic are you?
L S Are you talking about me?
But like, I'm the kind of person who would just really want some comforting words and a hug but most people I know are pretty reserved and don't like being touched. What do I do in scenarios like that?
PloxD no I'm talking about quiche
Sign number 9: You cry any time you get criticized, even when it was meant to be constructive.... it’s me all the time.
EDIT: Thanks for all the likes.. never had anywhere near this many! It’s nice to know i’m not the only one with this problem
YEP!
I cry when teachers talk to me, I had a panic attack when one shouted at me
Me too! I can’t stand it! Omfg 🥺
Me too
I’m quite very sensitive and introverted but the thing is I’m a guy so when I cry I will mostly be told to man up.
I searched 'why do i cry so easily' and this came up
Most of the points really speaks to me...
wanna be friends?
That what I was going to search but I remembered this channel in the back in my head
I searched "Why do I randomly cry" 💀💀💀
i searched the same thing
I searched 'why do I cry over little things"
Watching these HSP videos make me emotional. It’s like I finally SEEN, heard and acknowledged! I’ve always felt like I was crazy with how emotional I get at times, and how I just feel moods intensely. When I feel joy, it pulsates throughout my body; making me jump or squirm, like the happiness is trying to get out and infect others. On the other hand, when I’m sad, I’m so accepting of death. But then again, I might just be depressed. 😐 lol Great job with the videos, and thank you for making them!
My best friend: doesn't respond to one of my texts
Me: it's okay I'll ignore her too
Also me: starts crying because she doesn't like me any more
Edit: i was talking about a specific friend and we fought because she talked to me badly... My other friends got my back and gave me so much courage... Althought i was really sad i know now that i have some real friends... Also thanks for all your kind words!!!
Literally me TT~TT happens all the time, you're not alone
Same!!!
My best friend was talking trash about me behind my back.... We haven't talked since a month and she doesn't even know that i know what she did
@@shalinighai9798 omg I am so sorry ..T-T i hope you have better friends now
ME
It seems almost everyone here is young--under 40 ish. I am much older and I want to say "IT'S OK to be highly sensitive." I am absolutely an HSP. The world may be harsh to you, but seek out those who understand. You have a lot to offer. Do what you need to feel stronger and more secure.
And if you know HSP's give them love and acceptance. That's really what we all need above anything else.
Thank you for you comment.
I wish us HSP'S could get the care we deserve but alas nobody cares; and they call us too sensitive that's one of the most low things a person that isn't an HSP can say
Ok but why am I crying
Thank you👏👏👏👏
@Kirbo Boi Do you think this channel should have a discord sever in order to bring awareness to the mentality ill?
Does anyone else tend to over-analyze movies to the point people find it annoying to watch a movie with you because you can’t stop pointing at small details such as the color of the clothes representing a change of power or the expression of the character in the back looking uncomfortable?
tjegnrrggbthks me
YES
omg yes I comment on everything and then I feel guilty cause I'm annoying everyone lmao
i tend to do that silently in my head aksjaks
lol yes I pay so much attention to symbolism and to the different settings
I just wish I knew this sooner in life, always felt “weaker” than others due to highly emotional reactions, now I know it has a name. Amanzing vid ❤️
When i had to decide a career i cried for three days
I feel you, my dad offered me couple days ago a path in my career, im still thinking about it...
Holy shit me too these days are like 2 days ago
When I had to decided where I wanted to go to college, I also cried for three days
OHMYKAT!! Mines a little different I had to pick from going to a graduation or a birthday party I was so panicked
That sounds more like indecision and inability to take responsibility more than HSP
* holds in feeling *
Friend: Hey are you okay?
* starts sobbing *
I can relate
I know that feeling bud
That’s kinda normal if you were already holding in your feelings. You can show this video to anyone and 90% will say ‘omg that’s soooo me’
omg every time
OMG so relatable lol
me: *opens video*
also me: *starts crying without no reason*
nezumin hey there, are you okay ?....I’ve got you okay...
i did the same thing when it started to talk about parents
Hahaha
Not laughing at you, just thought it was funny. Sorry uwu
I always start crying for no reason ;-;
Everyday I always wonder why I'm very sensitive about a lot of things. This channel has been a big source for me this weekend.
I always tear up when I'm criticized or if I'm trying to have a serious conversation with someone... I never knew why... I guess I'm an HSP, and its somehow comforting
SAME. My entire family probably thinks I’m crazy because I just start crying mid conversation
yeah like i automatically cry whenever someone tries to criticize me and i hate it because i cant stop for some reason
I quickly walked away from a Disney movie because I felt tears coming up lmao. I emphasized too much but didn't wanna get emotional in front of my family lol. I'm a guy that makes it even worse 😂.
Manon Rochard same here. All these years of never knowing why I couldn’t control my crying and thinking I was just weird, it’s relieving. I now know why I do what I do. It still sucks though
Omg I feel broken
I hate when people say I take everything personally or I'm very emotional. That's the reason I've stopped showing my trueself I act bold and extroverted in front others. And then I cry for hours for the smallest reason.
I hate when people tell me not be sensitive like bro if it was in my control why would i make myself suffer so terribly???
I wish people could understand
@@lonetabii9735 I relate
wow. this comment just summed up half my life..
omg thats exactly me..
thats the same case with me. if I don't act rude, extroverted, sarcastic and bold people will walk all over me
I'm a sensitive person who hides my feelings so much I now have crippling depression
saaame I find it so hard to share my emotions especially when talking face-to-face so i can’t ever get help for my depression and anxiety :(
I relate to this so much that it hurts 😫
fake depression??
@@powder5576 Well no?
Caroline Elenora did you just assume you have depression from looking at signs on youtube?
I never thought I would found a video that is literally what I am :D
Boy, I love psychology and philosophy
THE DRAWINGS ARE SO SATISFYING
Swagger Joyce 💜💜💜
Exept anime
I kow it is so smooth and clean
I know what you mean, I find the drawings satisfying too..
YAS !💓
do you guys cry easily? because i do
I do
@@ifeomaagbasi9644 a lot of people hold it inside their chest but i donno why i can't.i just have to let it out
@@jimineepabonojams567 I myself also try to keep it in. But it depends on the situation. Sometimes, I can't help it and sometimes I hold it in till it builds up and let it all out at some point.
@@ifeomaagbasi9644 yeah sometimes it just blows up out of nowhere.
@@jimineepabonojams567 yup
Does anyone else cry after people show them affection, care or when they are concerned about you?
Yes
On Christmas I saw my fam after over a year of not being in touched . And one of my older cousins who I used to be afraid of as a child gave me the Talk of if I ever need him he’ll be there for me no matter what , and I started getting so emotional , and he kept telling me not to cry 🤣 it was a mess hehe (mind you I was never close to him like that ) so it really touched my heart 🤧
@@nomames9890 same, i cried SO MUCH when my uncle died, like really sobbing to tears, and i wasnt even that close to him, i didnt even speak to him or anything, but it just came. Im that sensitive.
Yesss and then i feel and ask myself am i reallybweak??
Oh yeah, I do.
What hurts the most is when you are in an argument and you can't control your tears because you become so emotionally affected and you know it isn't tear- worthy but people call you names like " crocodile tears" , " trying to gain sympathy", " drama queen"
My HSP lead me to severe anxiety and depression, and its extremely hard to cope due to the fact that I'm even more sensitive with all this anxiety going on. HSPs are good and empathic people, but they get so many disadvantages in life. Its so unfair, like really. I even suffer from thinking about the worlds pain and unjustices. Absolutely soul-crushing.
YES OMG!! demoralizing
It's like I just want a day when I just can't feel anything...
Bro Same.
My sensitivity led me to social anxiety. My parents are already done with my introverted nature. I feel like m just a misfit in such a harsh world. I hate myself fir being HSP. It’s more like a curse for me
I can't agree more, even this lead me to anxiety sever anxiety,😩
I was once waiting in line as a kid and then a woman came out of nowhere and started yelling at me for taking her place or something and I stayed silent cause I didn't know how to react and then someone said that I probably didn't speak English and to avoid looking like an idiot I went with it and started talking Spanish
It's a funny story though 😂
this is kinda funny but that woman was so rude especially to a child damn
I could do with a bit a latin😂😂😂
ah, a typical Karen haha. There's too many of them, bossing around like they own every place.
seriously though, I know what you mean :) I've had an encouter like that before as well and did freeze as well
b-but you were a child... that lady is so mean.. but lol that is kinda funny- I'm sorry-
We should have an Hsp party. Millions will show up,
We might have the party, but we might all sit or stand at our own corners. We're not that bad are we?
Sounds good. On an open field with multiple campfires under the full moon.
I’d go
No we should have a quiet party lol
Looooooll
I have NEVER seen a video that explained all of what I'm feeling right now sooooo well!
*insert 3rd grade me trying not to cry when the teacher told me to stop talking*
I’m in 6th grade (almost in 7th) and this is me 😭
Sameeeee it traumatized me
@@kristy_krab_pizza me too
Same ! Even with my friends...😔
*insert 8th grade me trying not to cry when the teacher told me that I did something wrong*
Now I'm in 9th grade ._.
I think for any person with high sensitivity, it is important to teach assertiveness and boundaries. I feel like many sensitive people get overwhelmed too fast and emotional regulation is IMPORTANT. I find that many sensitive people are surrounded by mildly narcissistic people who have a general lack of regard for others. It’s okay to be sensitive. It is okay to care!
Really it’s about learning discipline and practicing resilience. I consider myself a hsp but I don’t feel like I get easily overwhelmed by emotions because I was fortunate enough to grow up in a secure environment where adults didn’t put down being too sensitive. It’s okay to be sensitive. But getting triggered easily by negative situations isn’t fun so it’s important to learn mental techniques that help you de-escalate your over reactive emotions.
@@melissaherrera940 I totally agree with you, otherwise your on an emotional roller-coaster and it's just too exhausting to function properly.
"I find that many sensitive people are surrounded by mildly narcissistic people who have a general lack of regard for others." - - - -Wow, yes, this, because we live in societies of Earthlings. I'm about to turn 65 and I'm still amazed by how brusque, rude, needy, hurtful, self-serving, and inconsiderate a lot of people are as a matter of course--just as their general stance toward the outer world. Sometimes it makes me feel bad just OBSERVING it out in public, among strangers. Especially when people mistreat their children. I remember certain incidents going back 50 years. I have to cope with it by saying, well, probably their children are the same as they are, and it will be like water off a duck's back and won't hurt the kid. Maybe not, but I have to hope. I can't go around like Superman helping strangers in need. 😂
@ Melissa Herrera, imagine growing up with a father who actually punished you for not being aggressive enough, assertive enough, and dominant enough. At my own birthday party when I was 10, I had a friend who was extremely competitive and really wanted to win all the games. So in a footrace I let him win even though I was a faster runner than everyone else. After the party was over, my father screamed at me and made me sit in my room for three hours. *On my birthday.* One example out of thousands....
Yes! After 24 years on this planet, I am finally learning this in therapy. I always had (and still have) trouble setting boundaries because I feel guilty or cheap for not helping someone else. But I am slowly learning that I need to take care of myself first before taking care of others.
1. You fell deeply and tend to be more emotionally reactive.
2. You prefer to exercise alone.
3. It takes you longer to make decisions.
4. You pay attentions to subtlety and small details in general.
5. You are highly conscientious and have extremely good manners.
6. You are prone to having anxiety or depression, especially if you've had many bad past experiences.
7. Violent/horror movies are not your cup of tea.
8. You work well in team environments.
Hazell tryna kiss or no
Hazell well a lot of these apply to me but not all. I love exercising with friends. I’m polite but don’t always have the best manners. I like action movies but not horror movies. What does this say about me?
Jenny Liebowitz lol me too
omo kathryn bernardo on your profile
I have to question number 8 because while being sensitive helps in the ways mentioned it definitely has social drawbacks that make group settings more difficult.
I fit all the traits to a "t," but while I can easily see how I have often been a valued asset of various teams, I have also always stood on the fringes, by choice. Team environments function much like wolf packs and social cues play a very large part of that dynamic. Although sensitive people are good at picking up on such cues they are quite often not proficient or are unwilling to make such social displays. I think a lot of that comes down to risk assessment and emotional valuations in which we decide that it simply isn't worth it to play the role society expects/respects.
I moved a lot as a kid and found myself in every conceivable social group at one time or another, often floating around cycling through them. I was never comfortable being popular even when it came naturally over and over. When I met my wife she would always accuse me (I say accuse because I still see it as a negative) of being one of the popular alpha kids. It was always hard for me to understand why she would place that label on me from the inside looking out. Clearly she placed some value on it that I did not. Looking back honestly I see what she saw, the potential and the ways that I flaunted that potential. It just was never my choice.
I will always remember being with a group of kids who were making fun of another kid for talking to himself. I didn't have any respect for them and thought about how I talked to myself a lot (and yet they admired me) and couldn't see anything wrong with it (still can't). I can't tell you how many times kids tried to make me their leader nor how uncomfortable that made me feel (follow your own star). Like going to a non-school dance when I was 11 with my friends where one or two got asked to dance by one or two girls whereas I had twelve girls including the most popular girl around ask me to dance. I said no to all of them but got a glimpse of myself that I had not yet seen. One I'm still not comfortable with.
Being sensitive means that you see more variables and that makes choices harder to make and harder for others to understand when you do. That does very good things for a group but does not necessarily endear you with a group that struggles to understand those many variables seen and unseen.
Discovering I have the INFJ personality as well as being an HSP has made a significant turning point in life… I love and accept unapologetically who I am because I thought I was odd, crazy and worse; depressed. Hardly do people understand me and why I feel deeply the way I do; trying to explain to them only makes it worse. Finding a partner who can relate with me on a deep level has been so challenging that I often wonder; perhaps I am better off being alone. But I pray and hope I meet someone who understands and accepts me
This is why I go shopping alone. I know I take a long time with simple decisions such as 'will I purchase this item?' and I can spend up to or even over an hour in a single shop. I also end up getting an anxious and panicky when I realise how much time I am taking. So I don't want to burden a friend with all of this.
On the plus side, I enjoy my own company so those 6 hour solo shopping days are usually pretty fun (besides the mini panic attacks 😂)
Lydia omg yes me too. Then when I go by myself I literally can spend several hours getting 3 items and then start to be insecure that someone/surveillance is noticing me taking forever in one isle or going back and forth to the same isles to change my mind and decide more.
Omg me too!!
Me too! I found this shirt I liked the other day but it was in various colors. Ultimately, I spent 5 minutes deciding which color I wanted.😑
Lydia seriously you need to get a thick skin because every adults need one
Miranda Couche Totally me😂 I came back 3 times to the same store in the same day because I can't decide if I should be the T-shirt or not
I’ve never thought of myself as sensitive because of the negative connotation with the word, just emotional, intuitive, and compassionate. Thank you for helping to reclaim this word for good and helping me understand myself a bit better!
Same here! We r raised to think that being emotional is a weekness to overcome.☹️
Yes! I hate being called sensitive exactly for that reason. I don't wanna feel or look weak
I feel called out lol
except I like violent/scary movies
lanaisalonelyfren right? :/. But if I sense a crazy upcoming scene, I cover my eyes. I think I actually started doing this more tho after all the crazy videos online...
Love scary/horror movies
I'm exactly the same. 7 out of 8 points describe me perfectly apart from the 7th - I love horror/thriller movies :)
Me too
SAME
I've always felt so alone in this i have felt like I was crazy. That it was me. Thank-you so much for these videos. I never thought there was a name for this.
I feel like my soul is crushed when someone raises their voice at me...
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@@buckunderwood8651 you're making me cry for no reason... (JK)
I conpletely get you.I cant stand when people argue.I break down on the inside and begin to freak out and start overthinking things even if it doesnt relate to me
This is so true! I’ll cry when my dance teacher corrects me in so thing I was doing almost perfectly and they don’t notice when I do it perfectly
Imagine being HSP and calling urself weeb trash, like bruh, thats some conviction damn. Ur basically putting a huge ass target on your back.
I dont even have the balls to show my true colors like that, and I'm pretty fucking jaded lol
I commend u brother.
I once cried for getting an official warning from my teacher, and she moved me to "yellow," which is acting badly(I forgot to turn in my work). It was my first ever. It was embarrassing to cry in class in front of everyone. My teacher was so kind. She rescinded the warning, put me on her knee...and hugged me and comforted me, and the whole class followed her lead and comforted me. I still remember how much that meant to me, i can remember every detail like a photograph in my mind. I was six years old.
Aww, that's so sweet! I remember at my school we had a point system, we could earn points at the end of the day, and redeem it for a little prize (toy) at the end of the week. When we misbehaved, for example just talking when we shouldn't(I'm a quiet person but apparently I chatted a lot days), we lost points.. It always made me almost cry... Lol
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Then there's me that cried every single day in kindergarten and my teacher would just yell at me which would cause me to start sobbing I still hate that teacher till this day
I got a warning at school because a really annoying person stop my stuff and didn't give it back so I pulled her chair and she intentionally fell of and hit her head I was laughing until I got the warning. I was pulling the chair slowly
same thing happened to me, but my teacher told me that i was being too irrational, and put me on an even worse color. i was in 1st grade
I'd replace "good manners" with having a strong conscience, good ethics, or being thoughtful of others.
Yessss thats right
Yes! Manners aren't everything, it's the intent behind them (ethics and such)! Besides, no one is polite all the time. Even us HSPs can have bad days and get irritated lol