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Sarah Elize same so that kids didn't say "oh there she goes againn" Or just pick on me I would cry in the bathroom and look at the mirror till my eyes weren't red anymore
My family: “Stop being so sensitive, toughen up.” “Stop crying, it’s not even a big deal.” “Stop overreacting to everything.” “It’s fine, you’re just being crazy.” “Hurry up. If you’re this slow at everything you might as well become a homeless person.” Also my family: “Why are you still crying?” “What do you mean, you don’t want to go with us?” “Why don’t you like us?”
but then the moment you realize their comment says more about them (they are ugly for saying such a thing!) than about you (likely not ugly, at least your heart is capable of feeling; some people have hard unfeeling hearts and let us have a moment of silence for how pitiful their lives must be...)
@i n it's because you can feel so deeply that it's a blessing. In a way, I guess you have the ability to really look into the beauty of things that many people would overlook. At least that how I think :p but yeah I'm not even sure if I'm an HSP myself, this just sounds a lot like me, but yeah, being in touch with your emotions and stuff could suck at times, but it really can be wonderful in the sense that I'm able to feel a lot? I'm not quite sure how to explain it but uh, it's just very peaceful I guess...when your not overthinking something you did years ago LOL
@@toast8062 it's very true! It is a blessing because it is like seeing beauty in a simple leaf and that is happiness because you find beauty and positivity in everything. You love life.
She nailed it for me. I'm now 90 years old and have been able to integrate all these traits over the years into a solid entity. It's been a rocky road over the years, but understanding myself and the whys has been a blessing. Peace everyone.
The funny thing is I actually teared up XD whats wrong with me 😂 lucky I didn't cry cuz my mom is here. She hates it when I cry especially cuz i cry too much over little things.
worst things is that you can't let go of embarrassing memory, whenever any embarrassing memory from past pops up into your head you start cringing and beating yourself over past.
I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY!!! I feel like I’m always in the position of helping others with their problems or feelings but I rarely get the same treatment back. Or also when you tell them how you’re feeling they don’t really know how to help it, but you can easily understand what they are going through and help them. Sorry for the long reply
I am highly sensitive. I have great friends that I grew up with and still are friends. What I realised is I can't take jokes. I don't know how to differentiate between jokes and mockery so I tend to take offense when they are just foolishly joking around. I know how it feels like to me so I don't do the same to other people. I don't want to go out often because it's tiring to feel hurt all the time.
Same here. Some people can be way too insensitive. Last week old man at the fabric shop grabbed my hand and put scissor close to it when I was just helping him for him to cut the fabric as he directed. Then he laughed so hard that he wouldn’t cut my finger. That was not funny at all to me.
One of my best friends is like "oh best friends make jokes" or whatever, like even if I'm hurt. Someone let me know if this is or isnt okay. I already confronted her about it, but she's continuing to do it.
@@p4rtyhat_silliez its perfectly fine :) having boundaries is necessary in socializing. what isn't okay is that your friend is being super inconsiderate, yes friends joke around but friends should also respect each other & their wishes. like the above video i don't they can quite understand what it's like to be highly sensitive so they probably don't think its a big deal. but if they really are your friend they should consider taking this more seriously.
Hate to break it to you, but being HSP can actually trigger those things very easily. I am still depressed sometimes and I really was suicidal, but knowing how to deal with yourself helps making you feel better.
It's so weird that when someone actually asks that we tear up a bit, and then when we actually say what's wrong, we feel like we're just bothering them. Atleast in an introvert's perspective.
We can sense the atmosphere the moment we walk into a room, or if there is the slightest change in mood, even if only between two other people, we feel the tension and become unbearably uncomfortable where others would not even notice. It is also harder to receive love - in my case it’s always “what’s the catch?” or hold back because the more reliant we feel about someone, the more severe the anxiety of how we will cope when it inevitably end. Also, or certainly in my case, HSPs annotate and will not ask for help.
Yes it happens , it feels like we care abt the other person so muchh that we want to be there for them , but smtms we become overcaring bcoz we observe a slightest chng in them and other hand it even hurts bcoz some people can't feel the same way you do and they will never understand . Smtms we even expect someone to feel and understand us and be there for us just like we are there for everyone just because we feel so deeply
Asking for help has always been a huge challenge, even something as basic as asking someone to help me move a heavy piece of furniture. Since early childhood (am now 76 😱) I learned to be self-reliant and not let on that I needed anything. Thanks for this. I discovered years ago when Elaine Aron first came out with HSP information that I was an HSP, but it helps to be reminded. It's easy to fall back into the feeling that something's wrong with you, especially when someone close to you flat out tells you so. 🙏🏼🤗❤️
how tf is this so spot on? I both 'sense' people really well, but don't understand them in any way... very confusing.. but I can't believe everyone just lies all day.. ?
Omg me I’m like “ act like nothing happened, act like nothing happened, they just asked you to stop talking, it’s ok, they’ll forget it, calm down calm down ARRRGRGRGRR”
don’t see a list yet so- 1. you can’t function without sleep 2. you can’t stand loud noises 3. you often feel emotionally exhausted 4. you scrutinize social interactions (noticing small social ques) 5. you’re easily triggered by violence 6. you have a hard time moving on 7. you’re uncomfortable with change 8. you don’t react well to criticism & conflict 9. you don’t do well under pressure 10. your boundaries are easily crossed 11. you’re your own worst critic 12. you require alone time 13. you’re often misunderstood
14. You are hungry several hours after eating. 15. You often wish you had more money. 16. You require a jacket or sweater in colder weather. 17. You think "mean people" suck. LMAO. This is the dumbest video ever. This crap could apply to anyone.
@@get8bit I couldn't make it halfway through this video before I started to look for comments that call out this videos bullshit, yours the first I've seen.
Me to! Then I feel bad for crying so much so I try to hold it in then it gets worse and then I feel even worse for them sitting there while I cry I CRY EVEN MORE!
Same here. But that's mostly because I feel dumb for crying and someone being so kind to me while I'm feeling like I don't deserve it, breaks down all the dams.
Broooo I feel bad, so I’ll cry, and then I’ll feel bad for crying, and then someone will notice, so I’ll cry more because it’s embarrassing for me, and then they’ll try to comfort me, which makes me awkward and so I cry more because I feel bad because I know they won’t be able to comfort me, and then they start trying to comfort me by touching me (hugging, rubbing arms, other stuffs, etc etc.) aNd I HATE being touched when I’m emotional, so I get irritated and angry at them so I cry more, but hey it’s not their fault they’re just trying their best, they’re trying to help you you ungrateful mcnugget! So I cry more because I feel bad because I just swatted them or maybe even scratched them/hit them because being touched while emotional makes me uncomfortable and irritable, so I might have hurt them because of my past trauma, which wasn’t even related to them, but anyways I feel bad for maybe hurting them while they’re trying to make me feel better, and then i just think back to the trauma and then I get uncomfortable and angry and shameful and embarrassed, and viola, I cry some more. I really hate being an HSP lmao
my psychologist said this is a wonderful trait to have, but it also led me to have social anxiety disorder. it has it's great qualities, but it's definitely not all roses and flowers, and can lead to a lot of emotional stress.
Hi. If you have trauma it can potentially lead to depression if not dealt with it. With too much stress and all kinds of other factors it can get you în a tough spot. Take care of yourselves în all ways possible without forgeting about your souls. Wishing you all the best.
Most annoying is that I can't stand up for myself, whenever I face a conflict I get stuck, blocked and I can't even think of a single argument for explaining my point of view or just simply defend myself, and I am happy if I don't burst out in tears. And then when I am completely alone thousands of ideas and possible replies come and attack my brain....hello, where were you a few minutes ago??????
That's exactly how I react too. I get all blocked, can't move and can't even look the person who's yelling in the eye.. even if I know that I didn't do anything wrong. Then I either cry or have a panic attack.. or both 😓 And in the middle of the night I can't sleep because my brain then thinks of all the answers/reactions I should have had 🤦
@@janag600 I wanted to ask if you do anything to learn to take a stand, but than I realized that I don't either 🤣🤣 whenever I try to do anything it all starts again
@@isle_of_avalon7856 oh they sure as hell are believe me and what if ghey werent to its their problem theyre hypersensitive i wonder if there is some gore-ish treatment like yk beyond scared straight but they had to like butcher and catch animals
I feel bad being an HSP, I feel that I'm a burden to other people. I can't explain myself when I'm being misunderstood. It's hard to be like this because I feel that I'm not as tough as them..
The worst thing is when you're doing just fine and something happens and someone tells you "oh no is she going to start crying again" and then just because they said that you start crying.
1. You can’t function without sleep 2. You can’t stand loud noises 3. You often feel emotionally exhausted 4. You scrutinize social interactions 5. Easily triggered by violence 6. You have a hard time moving on 7. You’re uncomfortable with change 8. You don’t react well to criticism in conflict 9. You don’t do well under pressure 10. Your boundaries are easily crossed 11. You are your own worst critic 12. You require alone time 13. You are often misunderstood
All true. Discovering HSP was a huge relief for me. For so many years I believed I was wrong for being so different. Now I am grateful for my gifts, even sometimes it's still hard. Once we understand, we can move forward! Thank you for this video! 🙏❤
Yeah I don't know anymore, doing what do I spend more time lately. Being glad that I'm sensitive and that I can understand what others go through easily, or wishing I wasn't so sensitive, because it's really hard as I often feel down for hours or days after hearing a hint of criticism
I think the most hated things that a HSP heard is "stop being so sensitive!" "why are you so sensitive??" Edit : really??? Omg hsucjsbd- *hold sobs* thanks guys ;-;
Yeeeeesssss. Then when I have people telling me to "just stop, you gotta stop crying so much". Uhh sorry but that's pretty much telling me to stop being who I am. Yes, I would not like to cry at the drop of a pencil but i am who I am. Change all I want but I cant stop how I feel.
SUMMARY 1. You cant function without sleep 2. You cant stand loud noises 3. You often feel emontional exhausted 4. You scrutinize social interactions 5. Youre easly triggered by violence 6. You have a hard time moving on 7. Youre uncomfortable with change 8. You dont react well to critisicm and conflict 9. You dont do well under pressure 10. Youre boundries are easly crossed 11. You are your worst critic 12. You require alone time 13. You are often misunderstood
Many HSPs are on the Autism Spectrum. I always thought I was just sensitive but now at the age of 26 I am realising that I'm an autistic female and I learned to mask my behaviour extremely well. Remember, autistic females have different and more subtle behaviours so UA-cam or google symptoms in females specifically if you are a women :) hope this helps someone out there!
I will surely do that! Thanks for the tip! One can never learn to much about those subjects! If I'm not concerned, at least I'll know better and will be able to remember useful information if needed one day!
That's interresting! Can you explain a bit more what you found out they have in common? I cannot see the parallels and similarities clearly yet but I think you're onto something -
@@SergioBlackDolphinWe need equalized representation. Autistic men need to be shown & cared about just as much. Saying this as an autistic female feminist.
@@_froskkk_58 That's why I have stopped caring about the opinions of other people some time ago. In this mode you are putting additional pressure onto yourself, which you should avoid by all means. The best thing is staying true to your heart instead of warping yourself into some form that isn't you (and which you most likely don't like, either). Once you stop doing that, you are going to notice that you are feeling much more balanced, which in turn should be enough to reduce your need to cry. Nonetheless there's nothing wrong with crying since it is a natural way to express your feelings. Besides, who is the stronger person? The one who is suppressing his feelings, because he has to prove everyone that he is strong or the one who has no problems expressing them and doesn't give a damn about how others are perceiving him?
I’m actually crying right now; so many of my questions that I was afraid to ask are being answered. I was diagnosed as neurodivergent last month and was told I’m a HSP. This gives me so much peace.
@@thecpartygoingon your mum will be so grateful to have you close by, cherish your time with her but also work on building your self esteem. NPD fathers are the worst. Your awareness sounds good though. As an empath you are also more likely to attract/be attracted to partners with NPD so tread carefully! It's not easy being an HSP and ten times more difficult when around narcissists 💕
I only call people “too sensitive” when they do rude stuff to me and I just smile to them, but when I do the same stuff to them they freak out and start hitting me. It hurts inside but I have to deal with it. I know not all sensitive people are like “them” but we insensitive people don’t call you that just for fun. Tho there are people who call you sensitive when they themselves are sensitive, I hope you understand and I wasn’t rude..
“you cry like literally all the time” “you are such a crybaby omg” “just get over it you’re fine. you cry literally all the time.” “jeez how many times do you cry in a day?” alright first of all, CHILLL😭😭😭😭
When I was a child, I was always told "stop crying", "ugh, she's gonna cry again", "there's no reason for you to be crying right now", til I became numb and I couldn't cry anymore in front of anyone ... Now that I'm an adult, I'm slowly but surely reconnecting with my crybaby side, and letting it come back to the surface :)
Fortunately I hold my tears back pretty well in public so I can avoid stares, questions and awkward attention in general. But then people think I am alright when I am not really.
I think one of the best parts about this video is that it has revealed a community in all these comments, one that many of us more than likely never knew existed! It seems there are many of us in the same boat, a refreshing feeling that brings!
Things HSPs can relate to: -overwhelming stimulation (lights, music. Etc) -thinking inanimate things have feelings -overthinking others words/emotions -being uncomfortable around major emotions (anger, sadness, etc) -great at reading body language -love being alone at times -others dictate your feelings (how others feel is how you feel) -easily falling for tv characters -feeling like no one can help how you feel -you hate change -you’re neutral in fights -stress is 100x worse for you than others -you cry for everything and anything -you might be more artistic -movies move you more than others -you have a hard time saying no -people enjoy being around you -people say you’re a great friend -people come for you for advice even if you have no experience in what they need help for
yess. i get so stressed when i put my music on in the car but and my parents start to talk loudly to overcome the music. in the end i just turn off the music hahah
Ok but thinking inanimate things have feelings.... my mom used to joke and say that my stuffed animals were upset and I would always be like NO IM SORRY
Then they aren’t very good friends if they’re going to be like that if they’re going to discourage you from expressing who you are, what your flaws do to you and what they are and talking about both your strengths and weaknesses.
Hello, here I am, an HSP. I have learnt to love and accept myself, warts and all. I am so fortunate to have entered my 7th decade, reasonably intact!!! I love using humour to lighten up my day and to watch others smile and chuckle. Thank You for this information, it leads to further insights.
@@mooya3887 that's the story of my life trying to fix others "s problems mostly trying to make everyone happy while inside I'm dying and overwhelmed,most of my days I'm indoors alone that's where I can be myself and have peace of my mind I laugh because it's very hard to be me seriously I sometimes wonder why God created me this way😭😭
@@juliasephaka8033 ohh. i was just wondering why you were laughing, because i thought you might have been making fun of this. i have a reputation of being an innocent, quiet, nice girl. i am slowly changing and breaking that barrier. i can speak up for myself and others now, and im so much more direct. be yourself. if people dont like that, who cares. you'll be happier that way in the long-run. also, im not religious, but i don't think God created you to be this way. imo, it's more like He made you this way so you could grow?
That video popped up in my recommendations and It's a weird feeling to finally be able to put a word on a bunch of feelings I had for so long. I'm not sure being HSP is such a good thing in our society, it felt so bad for so long, always feeling misunderstood and tired because of the strength it takes to confront the world. But I'm still trying even if it feels like I'm alone.
5:42 this honestly triggered memories from years ago related to some of the item they drew and now I just feel embarressed xD worst critic who, I don't know her xD
I was taught by a therapist, to picture yourself holding a mirror that is facing away from you, and then to picture someone else emotions bouncing off the mirror before it can touch you and going back to them. It takes practice, and it takes patience with yourself, but it really does help me. Hopefully it can help you and everyone else that has HSP.
This really hit the spot! I am extremely sensitive and although good at hiding it, I have been working on myself for awhile. but it's really nice to know many others feel the same as I do :) thank you for this video!
So am I not the only one that thinks about mistakes and all the embarrassing things you’ve done years ago in the middle of the night for no reason and start crying? And you have to calm yourself down like “why are you still being so embarrassed about it. It literally happened five years ago. It’s okay. Nobody’s remember it.”
That’s so me 😓 I do it all the time, then am fine in the morning, but I still get so upset at myself for ever doing that thing, but usually it was when I accidentally hurt someone (emotionally), or did something I shouldn’t of, or didn’t do something I should’ve, and I feel so bad about it, and I always tell myself that “everyone is human and messes up”, but that never makes it better, and I can never let it go, and usually end up crying myself to sleep just thinking of how I’m not good enough, or how awful I was. But at least, in the morning I usually forget about it. Sorry I wrote all that, I hope that makes sense😅
My stupid mind can't help but imagine a 1000 emotional stories and cry for no reason ..even in my dreams I keep wishing a happy ending ..wth for??? Sorry to annoy you
1. You can't function without sleep 2. You can't stand loud noises 3. You often feel emotionally exhausted 4. You scrutinize social interactions 5. You're easily triggered by violence 6. You have a hard time moving on 7. You're uncomfortable with change 8. You don't react well with criticism and conflict 9. You don't do well under pressure 10. Your boundaries are easily crossed 11. You're your own worst critic 12. You require alone time 13. You're often misunderstood
A question to you all.... Do you people ever feel like you want to save or change the whole world around you, you want to have more social interactions with people about feelings and thoughts and you are very passionate about the beauty of the world but somehow you drown in your own thoughts and can't step out of your brain? Like, actually doing passionate things to make people smile or the world better but you're overthinking so much that you're exhausted? You never really feel that people REALLY understand you, as you think you're alone with this HUGE galaxy of thoughts in your head? Like, really feeling alone because you have noone in realife who is like you but is finding comfort in yt comments, where I don't see the people behind them? Did you ever feel like this text could be wrote by you and you have a strong boundary with a stranger that could be anywhere? ... This was not supposed to be this long but at least you might guessed by now that I am an extremely sensitive overthinker. :) you are not alone with this. I love you ppl. Edit: hey I'm so happy to see you guys feeling the same as me, this proves to me that these thoughts are not wandering in my head alone:) there are more of our kind.
You have to reign in your mind. Having a sensitive and fast mind means you can drown in your own thoughts and emotions, sit still and contemplate things for 20 minutes a day and try to control your mind. You will be a puppet to your thoughts and feelings if you don't slow your thoughts down and challenge your emotions, you can do the things you want but only if you act according to how you know you should and according to plans you make. Don't allow whims and fallacies to control your actions.
These kind-of thoughts have a lot to do with why I have depression. Wanting to change the world but feeling like you can't really change anything. Wanting to do and be better but feeling trapped by your own mind.
I never realized that this really could be it! I struggle with ALL of these things but i just figured something was wrong with me. I feel so relieved but overwhelmed at the same time to know it wasn’t just me not doing anything right. Thank you so much for making this video, just learning about what’s really going on with myself helps so so so much.
Yes. I don't like crying because when I was growing up crying was a big no no. My dad told me one day that I'm not a womanly because real women don't cry and are strong emotionally.
I've had genuine instances of that where it was totally involuntary, but I've also had instances of being very insensitive. I clicked on this out of curiosity and I see a complete overlap with my INFJ personality type & ADHD/RDS symptoms, but I just don't feel comfortable claiming to be HSP bc there is a lot about my personality type & disorders that get in the way of being consistently empathic (lack of theory of mind, low EQ). Definitely a part of me that I want to cultivate & be more in touch with tho!
@@ForeverRii That surely tells you enough about their mindset. Unfortunately it's exactly this kind of person that is perceived as successful all too often.
Cause they think they’re doing the best they can do for you but it hurts more than helps. Does anyone say to you “I don’t know why you’re crying. I’m just looking out for you. I know what best for you so stop crying.”? Cause that is what everyone says to me 😔
I was thinking the same, then decided, nah. I multi-task well, think I'm good at problem solving, but I don't cry or feel much to see fake pain, what I'm saying is say people are gonna focus on the hits,woke they ignore the misses
I have this thing with noises. If the tv is on, my husband is listening to music and then gets on the phone talking loud, I have to turn one of the noises off and go to my quiet spot. It takes me 10-20 minutes to regain my composure and come back out of the room and maybe continue the tv or whatever. I get scattered and frazzled easily. I tell my husband “ Nope! I can’t to three. Turn that off or I’ll turn mine off.” I can’t really do concerts anymore, too much stimuli. I don’t understand the need to all crowd together and have loudness from every direction. I also have a preconceived notion of how things should turn out and they usually don’t go that way and I’m constantly let down. Oh and I noticed that as more and more people get around me, the more I can’t focus and get nervous. I love one on one friendships, groups are to scattered for me. I do admire people who do associate in groups. Recently, if I see violence on tv, I turn the channel, it’s just too much. Society has gone wild. The news isn’t in everyday in our house, I have to take a break from it often. I want to laugh, and find it hard to find truly funny comedy anymore.
Really important to work on that, otherwise you won't reach your full potential as an hsp'r but ofc ur aware of that. Try an energy healer, you will be amazed.
@Emperor Hirohito you probably are hsp. Hsp'rs feel someone elses energy when someone looks at them. So you will know someone looks at you without even looking at them. If it gives you anxiety, you can best work on your posture (so you will stand stronger/better in your own energy). Try to find what the cause is of the anxiety, so why are you anxious, judgement? What kind of judgement, and why again. Write it down or talk about it (only then your conscious mind will understand it).
my classmate arguing with me : me : DONT CRY DONT CRY me when i got home : practice my arguments that i've already lost edit (November 14, 2020) : i never knew this will got so much likes but we are all valid. we can be like this and its okay. ^^
I deffinetly relate to the majority of these things and the message at the end saying ”your very pressence makes the world a better place” really just hit diffrent for me especially as someone trying my best to make it better where i can. To all brothers and sisters who are HSP Keep up the good fight, You are not alone we understand eatchother. Much love from Sweden 🇸🇪
I thought I was the only crazy one lol I get so deep in my thoughts that I can’t sleep and my emotions and senses are still overstimulated... now I’m sleep deprived aka a little high and in the sky
Ace Six damn, i feel weirdly comforted that most people in the comment section is in the same position as me- aka insomniac, over-thinker and deeply self criticising 😌
simin-ssi I overthink everything that happened that day lol and my senses keep me always aware of what’s around me and my emotions make me feel the beauty of life so deeply and that means criticisms made about me hit twice as hard. I want to move and be on my own and my parents guilt trip me to make me feel bad for them for putting my mental health first 🙃 every time I put myself first, others get hurt. Then when I put others first, I get hurt. Literally my life is nothing but survival at this point. I might be a young soul but my heart is so old... *sigh* double edged sword it is
Well, insomnia is a disorder I believe so... you might not relate to everything they said. It’s like when they said in another video that a HSP lives life as its fullest but um... being a HSP and having mental illness cancels that out 🤷♀️
Just lost a friendship bc I stood up for myself telling her I am not ok with mean, dismissive, rude comments. I was told that Im sensitive. The world is so cold that wanting kindness from a friend is me being sensitive. I realize I deserve better!
I find when someone says something hurtful to me, I’m literally shocked and don’t say anything back. Then when I am alone I go over and over it and get upset and angry. Once or twice I have expressed my true thoughts then they get upset and ignore me. I would never comment on someone’s weight or appearance for example , yet people feel the need to comment on mine. 😞
@@leanneneville2431 I get that way too. I over think everything. Often I dont process my feelings fast enough as well and then the moment has past. Ill talk about it later and Im accused of not moving on. Ive got those weight comments as well even from my mom. They had made me so insecure for so long. Im finding out that I am just not meant to have many friends. Too many are not able to be kind enough and I refuse to be a punching bag. You are not alone!
@@_shreya_9795 I would suggest to stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries. If they do not do well with that then maybe reevaluate the friendship. Im sorry you have to deal with that!
I relate to a lot of these as an autistic person, and my neurodivergent friends share and talk about issues like these. Most of them tie in with sensory overloads/sensory issues in general, as well as the general issues caused by autism and other neurodivergencies. Some of the ones that I experience personally, like needing excess alone time, are caused by masking too much and needing to wind down after sensory overloads, meltdowns, or just being with too many people for too long.
A lot of people tried telling me I was just a HSP my whole life. I'm not. I know that lol. I've always known that. Since I was born, the talk about possible autism didn't really stop, it was constantly hinted at and redirected with my other comorbidities... my psych finally said its time to get evaluated, they've exhausted their resources.. I'm sure hearing HSP to someone either not or on the neurodivergent spectrum (but not ASD) can be helpful but this drives me up the wall sometimes because this actually downplays the intensity, frequency and life long hindrances of my own "behaviors" mainly avoidance, and the issues I struggle with daily. My providers trying to label me as HSP didn't help anything but exasperated my issues.
Yes, all the time. it is so annoying, but it is what it is when they cant relate...there are so many other things that people cant understand like sexuality when they dont have the same one themselves.
Honestly, and it’s annoying bc I do have self- confidence I’m just not open and loud about it. So people think I’m not and confuse it for me being sensitive and think that it’s connected to not being self confident. It’s annoying ngl
HSP people also tend to follow the carpenter's rule of "measure twice, cut once" which others see as a lack of confidence. I also think many people will tell another person they lack self-confidence as a way of gaslighting them so they can manipulate them
yes. eg, because I take a bit more of time than others measuring literally every bits of everything, I make decisions slower and there- I would always be the loser. but that's okay.
I always burst into tears while arguing and every point I try to make becomes illogical. This makes me feel more sensible and regretful during post-argument because I never wanted to cry and now I am criticized as a drama queen.
Not being able to relax more, instead of being wound up and afraid of the outcome. Less afraid, 73, and I'm getting there, better late than never. If I had 1 wish, it would be that no one had fear in their lives. Its crippling. Hugs and a Merry Christmas to all. Sherie Rodrigues from Australia
I use tik tok and see tons of quotes and when I do and they relate to me I just start crying since I have hid my emotions for so long I just let them all out
@@genesis9836 i cry alot. i shut out all affirmations and quotes though, i used to be addicted to them, so i feel its better to just feel things out or think things. and go according to a goal set. im scared of quotes
i’m reading these comments with tears just pouring out of my eyes i hope you’re all coping with life okay. i feel rly happy that there are people i can relate to, but i’m sad that we are so often misunderstood or mistaken for being “weak.” i love you all
Hi there, I feel the same. It's so nice to feel that what I feel is something that so many other people can relate to!! I thought about it for a long time and decided to open an Instagram page where people can share freely their own stories about mental health and create a supportive community. I would love if you would like to share any story you might have by sending me a message at @lifestories0250. I created it so that people like us could share how they really feel rather than just what people want to see or see on the outside. I really hope it's going to help a lot of people!
I felt these deep in my soul, with the exception of two: I love horror movies and eating at new places. So nice to feel seen after 40 years of hearing “don’t be so sensitive”.
When they say, “I’m surprised that you didn’t cry”, or “are you gonna cry now?” Makes it worse, we were fine before but when you say that the dam finally bursts
Not to mention those moments of breathlessness when we feel we may have hurt somebody, those moments when we feel bad or happy for strangers and really mean it within ourselves, those battels we fight within our minds to choose the least offensive words when we try to criticize something or to express an objection, those moments when people take advantage of our empathy and forgiveness believing we are fools where we do know the reasons behind their actions expecting their moves and even how do they think and we just let them believe so 'cause we care, those moments when we get a headache after entering a complex building; seeing a hazy painting or crude features, those moments when we grasp the greatest beauty in tiniest of things in a millisecond appreciating smile in a fast unnoticeable flickering sending tons of messages in hearing sighs of a relived person that just felt with our chest and heartbeats, those moments when stuck with word obsessions and differentiation between each word meaning and indication; each context and each symbol, and those moments when language can't carry half of what we mean and nobody ever understands us better than ourselves.
Wow, the first description was spot on for me. "The breathlessness when we feel we may have hurt somebody". It takes me 3-4 hours of straight crying to get over that. Of things I know at the back of my mind is not even a big deal. But it was not the situation itself or what happened, it was a matter of principle usually referring back to themes of respect or myself being misunderstood. To me, its the same core issue every time. I really thought I was going crazy, I was considering to look up what I was feeling recently because it's gotten real bad during this time of quarantine, living in an Asian household. It hurts a lot to hold it in. But once I reflect on myself and get over it, which takes about a day or two, I'm finally able to move on. Here I was thinking, I'm so slow at getting over things and overanalyzing literally nothing most of the time.
It’s so upsetting that we were taught by most that being a hsp is a problem so they treat you with ‘tough love’, thinking that would cure us, when in reality, you cannot cure a personality trait. I think that is the reason why I struggle with my identity because my emotions were invalidated too much to the point that I have a much harder time processing how I feel and confronting others.
Bro same like I feel like at one point when I was kid that I was aware of how highly sensitive I was but since my mom and dad was to focused on arguing and only cared about us just being financially okay, when came to emotional they rejected or they didn’t make it a safe place for me and my siblings to be vulnerable. So it made it hard to deal with myself.
1 you can not function without sleep 2 you can not stand loud noises 3 you often feel emotionally exhausted 4 you over analyse social interactions 5 you are easily triggered by violence 6 you have a hard time moving on 7 you are uncomfortable with change 8 you do not react well to criticism and conflict 9 you dont do well under pressure 10 your boundaries are easily crossed 11 you are your own worst critic 12 you require alone time 13 you are often missunderstood
This is a kind of behavior that makes a hsp person uncomfortable. It would make him feeling sorry for the author's job and dedication for this video. And yes, that "him" it's me
@@lombas82 well i do too a little but i also feel grateful for the introverts, mentally drained people, and those that has short attention span.. I was hard for me to listen to the whole video, my toddler was all over the place but i really wanted to know since i've been diagnosed hypersensitive and i'm still trying to get a grasp at it because my emotions are very introverted so the very few friends i have dont understand why i am so cold yet so broken, and i sometimes seem hot and cold ... and i dont know how to make then understand than i may not EXPRESS my feelings very much but I DO feel them, and I do feel them more deeply than normal people.. i was just raised with the mentality that emotions can make you irrational leading to bad choices... so i suppress them... partly... or for the moment.. but sometimes i cant.. or they come back later... and its okay... And i have the right to feel. I have to allow myself to feel..
So yeah basically feel a little "muhh" for the author.. but im also grateful in bebalf of those that feel overwhelmed by videos. Anyway, to read the comment the person had to click on the video, so at least the author gets the view for it :)
@@lombas82 I just think of it as a way to take notes. We watch something. It’s very important. And we want to go over it again and so we can remember it quickly. Please don’t take offense to it. It is a wonderful video and you should be very proud!
"hsps are the most sensitive, soft-hearted person you can ever meet." yeah but this world is harsh, so harsh that hsps couldn't help but feel being left out no matter how many times people try to help them : ( hsps don't deserve this cruel world...
@@Miscinhe awh it's ok we dont know each other but im here to tell you i love you too and if youre feeling sad rn i hope you can cheer up and feel better soon ❤🥰
@@davinderc We know they suffer as much or worse, thats literally part of being a sensitive person. I know how bad people around me or everywhere have it in their life and so i overly make efforts to help them completely ignoring my own problems because i want them to be happy. The original comment above is saying the exact same thing: We are like a parent, we hide our own sufferings to try and soothe others and make them smile basically like they are our children.
I'm aware all of us have our own struggles, never said HSPs are the only ones suffering My point is HSPs tend to prioritize happines of other over their own, much like a parent do. And just in case, i won't agree if anyone say everyone is like that, at least from my experiences. There are many self oriented people. Like not everyone will fake smile just to make those around them at ease
Well am used to hear stuffs like " oh she's acting again" "she's going to cry again" "why do you cry so much on small matters?" and many more harsh things......the thing that hurts the most is when i try to help anyone and want to comfort them it ends me being a bad person....and many times it happened that without my any fault i am the one who is misunderstood :)
....or no one taught you how to adapt to changing situations. Im a very sensitive person myself. One day, my boss(Who is a very nice and fair person) asked me if I was being misunderstood or not striving to adapt. That’s some tough love advice but it was honest.
Well, I'm highly sensitive, but I don't express my feelings, I keep for myself, and that generates anxiety, and many other problems ( my immunity gets low, and I start to have skin problems). Sometimes I wish that I didn't keep things for myself... Sorry for mistakes, English isn't my native language...
@@lovedogs199 Please dont torture urself like that....i don't want to be like that way but it hurts so bad that i cant even control myself 😔...take care of urself and you know no one cares so be the way u are ❤️
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard “you’re too sensitive” or “just get over it”, I’d be the richest person alive. It’s both beautiful and painful to be highly sensitive, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Being "too sensitive" is actually a blessing. It means that you have extra sensory gifts that the majority of others miss. People might mean "you're too sensitive" as an insult, but it's really a compliment.
I always tell people" And you aren't sensitive enough " when they tell me that. Shuts them up fast. If you have a narcissist that has an answer to that , tell them " narcissists always say that "
Doubtless someone else has one of these, but I figure since I couldn’t find one myself, I’d provide it for those of you who like me were looking for a list. 1. You can’t function without sleep 0:50 2. You can’t stand loud noises 1:16 3. You often feel emotionally exhausted 1:51 4. You scrutinize social interaction 2:14 5. You’re easily triggered by violence 2:43 6. You have a hard time moving on 3:11 7. You’re uncomfortable with change 3:43 8. You don’t react well to criticism 4:06 9. You don’t do well under pressure 4:35 10. Your boundaries are easily crossed 5:01 11. You are your own worst critic 5:39 12. You require alone time 6:02 13. You’re often misunderstood 6:31
I rember when my parents broke up and the things that led it still heart for month and months and my so called "best friend " at the time says " why is she still crying didn't her parents split up ages ago...?
I had a basketball jersey I forgot to bring back, so I had to wait next school year. But I was basically crying most of summer because of guilt. And it just so happens my mom knows almost all of the teachers at my school, so that so helped! Lmao what am I saying
My therapist told me it's a wonderful trait to have and I'm just wondering for whom? Being highly sensitive in a burning world is just a self destruct button. People consider you as ignorant when you tell them that you can't handle watching /hearing the news so you limit the intake extremly. It's only a bliss for others but rarely for the highly sensitive person him- or herself.
I wonder about it too. When I'm feeling down, when someone tells me one bad thing about myself, when someone tells me I could have done something differently, when someone wants something from me and I try explaining them I don't want to, but end up saying yes and then being mad at myself. Being sorrowful that no one understands me. Wishing I wasn't so sensitive. Worrying about everything little thing that happened. Putting the blame on me while justifying others. They don't have a problem pointing things out when I do something wrong. But when I, after being silent for a longer time, finally say that what they do is not okay, they're so surprised. They suddenly feel attacked and find me unreasonable. Yeah how often I wish I was different. Or maybe for others to understand my point of view. Why is it that I can understand them and justify their actions while they just can't or find me unreasonable. It would be just so much easier if no one was sensitive. I mean why would I care about those little things? Why don't others care? Why can't I not care? Does it make the world a better place? Does it? What does it give me that I notice the smallest changes in people's moods? Right but it's about me, not the world. Honestly at the moment I don't see how is it good for either; me or the world
I'm not sure about being highly sensitive, I think my nervous system was tripped by trauma as a baby, I was sick. I don't see it as a blessing cos even if you see or sense problems what can you do really? Road to hell paved with good intentions. 😢
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What's one thing that you regret not doing more often in life? Comment below. Also special thanks to ChubbyNida: @instagram.com/chubbynida/ for animating this.
Committing myself to losing weight, feel like a bunch of shit for it today..
I regret not letting a dude down easy when he asked me out. Poor dude ☹
Publishing my book when I had the chance
Losing weight
Surprisingly I like Gore and Violence
Also like change......especially when it comes to food, guess it come with my passion to cook
the most annoying thing ever is crying when you're mad/frustrated :(
it doesn't even mean you're sensitive because you can't control it
Exactly like why can't my eyes stop crying for a second
I ALWAYS have to cry like I can’t hold it in
Yup yup yup yup yup OML THESE ARE MY PEOPLE!!! AHHH
Sarah Elize same so that kids didn't say "oh there she goes againn" Or just pick on me I would cry in the bathroom and look at the mirror till my eyes weren't red anymore
I cry when I'm angry cuz I don't wanna hurt that person because I get angry easily too
Sad: cry
Angry: cry
Frustrated: cry
Stressed: cry
Argument: cry
And the list goes on...
@@hollyneedham4243 It's nice to know that just my simple comment helped someone to feel better 💜 don't be ashamed of you feel. Have good day :)
happy: cry
the story of my life
Omg same, while I'm actually a rough person
Mood
Anyone else get stressed when someone is angry around them (not even at them, just in their presence)?
Hell yeah. Or when someone is happy, suddenly you feel happy too
Totally!!
+1
That's immediately putting me on Red Alert.
I don't even have to see the situation evolve - it's this eerie feeling that lets my neck hair rise.
YES
My family:
“Stop being so sensitive, toughen up.”
“Stop crying, it’s not even a big deal.”
“Stop overreacting to everything.”
“It’s fine, you’re just being crazy.”
“Hurry up. If you’re this slow at everything you might as well become a homeless person.”
Also my family:
“Why are you still crying?”
“What do you mean, you don’t want to go with us?”
“Why don’t you like us?”
This was me too. Then life decided to teach me the lessons they were. I'm still sensitive, but I know how to take pain as well.
I can live through some things but there has to be a limit. You can only take too much.
I can't relate more..
Literally 😂
Heard these lines. HSP hear them.
I hate it when you finally stop crying and someone asks if you're ok and you just start crying again
Soo true, Like i stopped crying and all the tears come again
Ikr sometimes they should just leave my alone I feel better that way but later I will cry again because I thought it was embarrassing😧
Same
that's literally me on my school in the past, that happened to me A LOOOOOONG time ago!
One time I was so upset that my friend hadn't even opened her mouth yet I could just see it in her eyes and that was enough
*Somebody calls me ugly*
My brain: Don’t cry, don’t cry don’t cry
My eyes: IT’S RAINING TEARS HALLELUJAH
Someone said "f*ck u" To me
Me: 😔💧😢
Same--
but then the moment you realize their comment says more about them (they are ugly for saying such a thing!) than about you (likely not ugly, at least your heart is capable of feeling; some people have hard unfeeling hearts and let us have a moment of silence for how pitiful their lives must be...)
Me: *uno reverse card*
@@easytoslip That doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt though...
It’s both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply
@i n it's because you can feel so deeply that it's a blessing. In a way, I guess you have the ability to really look into the beauty of things that many people would overlook. At least that how I think :p but yeah I'm not even sure if I'm an HSP myself, this just sounds a lot like me, but yeah, being in touch with your emotions and stuff could suck at times, but it really can be wonderful in the sense that I'm able to feel a lot? I'm not quite sure how to explain it but uh, it's just very peaceful I guess...when your not overthinking something you did years ago LOL
@@toast8062 hsp are so soft lol. I have an extreme lack of empathy and sympathy so I'm not even close and I'm proud of hit.
@@magnetisemplayz3839 yeah we're pretty soft lol. That's kinda where the problematic part of it comes in. When you can't let go of anything smh ✋😔
It’s a blessing because you are more compassionate and empathetic while a curse because sometimes you’ve had too much of it that it may become toxic
@@toast8062 it's very true! It is a blessing because it is like seeing beauty in a simple leaf and that is happiness because you find beauty and positivity in everything. You love life.
She nailed it for me. I'm now 90 years old and have been able to integrate all these traits over the years into a solid entity. It's been a rocky road over the years, but understanding myself and the whys has been a blessing. Peace everyone.
🙏
Y has been the driving force of my life .
“Your very presence makes this world a better place”
cries
opps, i posted just before reading your comment xD but hey^^
*no longer cries but smiles :-)*
I nearly cried because of your comment. Jesus, what an exhausting World 😂😂
The funny thing is I actually teared up XD whats wrong with me 😂 lucky I didn't cry cuz my mom is here. She hates it when I cry especially cuz i cry too much over little things.
Ikr. I can’t take the slightest of a compliment.
terrifictofu36 OH MY FKN GOD Y E S
worst things is that you can't let go of embarrassing memory, whenever any embarrassing memory from past pops up into your head you start cringing and beating yourself over past.
so true.
Yeeeeeesssss
Yessss
I mean, if hsp's experience these am i an hsp because i can't stop thinking about something embarrassing that happened so long ago?
@@adyhottie bro same. I thought I was the only one😭
The most worst feeling is when you understand other's feelings but no one yours
I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY!!! I feel like I’m always in the position of helping others with their problems or feelings but I rarely get the same treatment back. Or also when you tell them how you’re feeling they don’t really know how to help it, but you can easily understand what they are going through and help them.
Sorry for the long reply
@@eddielaiche5129 right
I can feel you
Yes... So true, it's sad, sometimes
This comment made me cry because it's so true
I am highly sensitive. I have great friends that I grew up with and still are friends. What I realised is I can't take jokes. I don't know how to differentiate between jokes and mockery so I tend to take offense when they are just foolishly joking around. I know how it feels like to me so I don't do the same to other people. I don't want to go out often because it's tiring to feel hurt all the time.
this is me!! even if it's "jokes" to them, i get hurt lol
Same here.
Some people can be way too insensitive.
Last week old man at the fabric shop grabbed my hand and put scissor close to it when I was just helping him for him to cut the fabric as he directed. Then he laughed so hard that he wouldn’t cut my finger.
That was not funny at all to me.
One of my best friends is like "oh best friends make jokes" or whatever, like even if I'm hurt. Someone let me know if this is or isnt okay. I already confronted her about it, but she's continuing to do it.
@@p4rtyhat_silliez its perfectly fine :) having boundaries is necessary in socializing. what isn't okay is that your friend is being super inconsiderate, yes friends joke around but friends should also respect each other & their wishes. like the above video i don't they can quite understand what it's like to be highly sensitive so they probably don't think its a big deal. but if they really are your friend they should consider taking this more seriously.
@@kadurahtutorials I'm very sensitive and I think that would give me a heart attack
I’m not depressed, I’m not suicidal, I finally realised, I’m just highly sensitive. Thanks for this video.
same!!!!!!!!!!
OMG, everyone has ‘depression’ or is ‘highly sensitive’ but no one has a proper diagnosis. We just trying to be cool and different at any cost
Hugo de Andrés some people could not but a lot of people do have a professional diagnosis, whether it be from a doctor or therapist.
Same! I never knew this was a thing but I knew something was up and I realize I definitely have hsp
Hate to break it to you, but being HSP can actually trigger those things very easily. I am still depressed sometimes and I really was suicidal, but knowing how to deal with yourself helps making you feel better.
The worst part of having HSP is the second-hand embarrassment. Even movies containing embarrassment kills me.
Exactly. I cringe so hard when it happens
yesss
I can't stand it too. Like also reading books that has a cringe content
I hate comedy movies for this exact reason
Am i the only one who experiences a tingly feeling in my gut when thing like these happens? And its very annoying
it’s all over when someone asks if you’re okay-
I burst into tears immediately. I tell myself to hold it in but I can’t😭😭😭
Me: * almost cries *
Anyone: Are you okay?
Also me: aw _heeeeeeell_ nah
or do you need help? I make a joke, "Yes, I need a lot of help." But I'm not kidding. 🤍
once my math teacher asked me if i was okay and before i could even answer i got a panic attack and had to leave class
It's so weird that when someone actually asks that we tear up a bit, and then when we actually say what's wrong, we feel like we're just bothering them. Atleast in an introvert's perspective.
We can sense the atmosphere the moment we walk into a room, or if there is the slightest change in mood, even if only between two other people, we feel the tension and become unbearably uncomfortable where others would not even notice. It is also harder to receive love - in my case it’s always “what’s the catch?” or hold back because the more reliant we feel about someone, the more severe the anxiety of how we will cope when it inevitably end. Also, or certainly in my case, HSPs annotate and will not ask for help.
Yes it happens , it feels like we care abt the other person so muchh that we want to be there for them , but smtms we become overcaring bcoz we observe a slightest chng in them and other hand it even hurts bcoz some people can't feel the same way you do and they will never understand .
Smtms we even expect someone to feel and understand us and be there for us just like we are there for everyone just because we feel so deeply
Asking for help has always been a huge challenge, even something as basic as asking someone to help me move a heavy piece of furniture. Since early childhood (am now 76 😱) I learned to be self-reliant and not let on that I needed anything.
Thanks for this.
I discovered years ago when Elaine Aron first came out with HSP information that I was an HSP, but it helps to be reminded. It's easy to fall back into the feeling that something's wrong with you, especially when someone close to you flat out tells you so. 🙏🏼🤗❤️
how tf is this so spot on? I both 'sense' people really well, but don't understand them in any way... very confusing.. but I can't believe everyone just lies all day.. ?
Yeah
Oh, absolutely. I relate to all your points 👍
my teacher: raises their voice a tiny bit at me
me: DONT CRY DONT CRY DONT CRY DONT CRY
monkeybarzzz frrrr
Been there before :(
Haha poor u smolbean 😂yeah ive experienced that bfr eventhough i tried to look unoffended then the teacher was like "oh nonono dont cry-" pft
i can relate fjebrjdjrj
Omg me I’m like “ act like nothing happened, act like nothing happened, they just asked you to stop talking, it’s ok, they’ll forget it, calm down calm down ARRRGRGRGRR”
don’t see a list yet so-
1. you can’t function without sleep
2. you can’t stand loud noises
3. you often feel emotionally exhausted
4. you scrutinize social interactions (noticing small social ques)
5. you’re easily triggered by violence
6. you have a hard time moving on
7. you’re uncomfortable with change
8. you don’t react well to criticism & conflict
9. you don’t do well under pressure
10. your boundaries are easily crossed
11. you’re your own worst critic
12. you require alone time
13. you’re often misunderstood
14. You are hungry several hours after eating.
15. You often wish you had more money.
16. You require a jacket or sweater in colder weather.
17. You think "mean people" suck.
LMAO. This is the dumbest video ever. This crap could apply to anyone.
Okay this is just me at this point
@@get8bit I couldn't make it halfway through this video before I started to look for comments that call out this videos bullshit, yours the first I've seen.
@@get8bit gotta agree with u.
@@get8bit well at least be courteous about it instead of calling someones animation dumb and calling the information crap :/
if someone comforts me while i’m already crying mAKES ME CRY EVEN MORE
Me to! Then I feel bad for crying so much so I try to hold it in then it gets worse and then I feel even worse for them sitting there while I cry I CRY EVEN MORE!
Same here. But that's mostly because I feel dumb for crying and someone being so kind to me while I'm feeling like I don't deserve it, breaks down all the dams.
Broooo I feel bad, so I’ll cry, and then I’ll feel bad for crying, and then someone will notice, so I’ll cry more because it’s embarrassing for me, and then they’ll try to comfort me, which makes me awkward and so I cry more because I feel bad because I know they won’t be able to comfort me, and then they start trying to comfort me by touching me (hugging, rubbing arms, other stuffs, etc etc.) aNd I HATE being touched when I’m emotional, so I get irritated and angry at them so I cry more, but hey it’s not their fault they’re just trying their best, they’re trying to help you you ungrateful mcnugget! So I cry more because I feel bad because I just swatted them or maybe even scratched them/hit them because being touched while emotional makes me uncomfortable and irritable, so I might have hurt them because of my past trauma, which wasn’t even related to them, but anyways I feel bad for maybe hurting them while they’re trying to make me feel better, and then i just think back to the trauma and then I get uncomfortable and angry and shameful and embarrassed, and viola, I cry some more. I really hate being an HSP lmao
Then they say "Stop crying" as if it would do much
same
my psychologist said this is a wonderful trait to have, but it also led me to have social anxiety disorder. it has it's great qualities, but it's definitely not all roses and flowers, and can lead to a lot of emotional stress.
Hi. If you have trauma it can potentially lead to depression if not dealt with it. With too much stress and all kinds of other factors it can get you în a tough spot. Take care of yourselves în all ways possible without forgeting about your souls. Wishing you all the best.
It’s a complete curse if you ask me. I’d rather have the emotional range of a teaspoon, I reckon my life would be much easier.
Whenever I’m sad and trying to hold back tears. Then someone try’s to comfort me BAM! Full on waterfall down my face
YuP my eyes be like
“Turn on the Niagara Falls!-“
me too
Same
my god are u my soulmate?
happens to me too, and other people crying either I will start crying or have a hard time not crying
I hate the fact that I overread people’s body language..like just sensing their tone gives me many impressions and I start to make conclusions
"I start to make conclusion" and the problem is many times conclusion is right (either bad or good )
Yeah, it does sucks
mee
me too :(
The worst part is always being right about the impressions. Makes it hard to tell yourself it's not true
It's possible that my eyes start building tears in seconds just by listening a melodious music of guitar or piano
Acoustic guitars, get to me too. Even if the melody isn't sad or anything.
Me
omg i thought i was the only one
I used to cry at certain songs for no reason and it scared me how they triggered such an emotional response
omg my sister plays the violin and whenever we go to her concerts all of the orchestra lives sound make my eyes well up
Here, in this comment section, idk why but i feel safe. I feel like i can relate to almost everyone here. Ive found my people
I wish I could also find my people in real life , I feel so misunderstood and alone..
@@nayrabcl me too!!
@@nayrabcl me too but I guess it’ll be hard to find our people in real life because we all try to hide it 🙁
@@katien.6356we sit alone & observe
Most annoying is that I can't stand up for myself, whenever I face a conflict I get stuck, blocked and I can't even think of a single argument for explaining my point of view or just simply defend myself, and I am happy if I don't burst out in tears. And then when I am completely alone thousands of ideas and possible replies come and attack my brain....hello, where were you a few minutes ago??????
That's exactly how I react too. I get all blocked, can't move and can't even look the person who's yelling in the eye.. even if I know that I didn't do anything wrong. Then I either cry or have a panic attack.. or both 😓 And in the middle of the night I can't sleep because my brain then thinks of all the answers/reactions I should have had 🤦
@@janag600 I wanted to ask if you do anything to learn to take a stand, but than I realized that I don't either 🤣🤣 whenever I try to do anything it all starts again
TOTALLY relatable.
I am the same way
I don't like how much this relates to me😩
And when you get told “Oh, you’re going to cry again”; it’s the actual worst.
FACTS
That’s relatable to any person. I am certainly not a HSP and can relate to that whenever I have cried and I have been told that
Hugo de Andrés we take different meaning to it because we do it all the time without being able to control it
“you’re overeating just stop pls” - me
“you’re the one who started crying!”- person
and being called a cry baby because someone yelling makes me panic and cry....*sad cat noises*
My best friend is an HSP. She makes everyone around her happy. She is sunshine of mine and my friends lives.
But at the same time those people are nervous and shy, depressed and hurt
you're a really good friend for mentioning her :]
Hmmm all oversensitive people i know sre bitches
@@miljenko4209 they may not being meaning to be.
@@isle_of_avalon7856 oh they sure as hell are believe me and what if ghey werent to its their problem theyre hypersensitive i wonder if there is some gore-ish treatment like yk beyond scared straight but they had to like butcher and catch animals
I feel bad being an HSP, I feel that I'm a burden to other people. I can't explain myself when I'm being misunderstood. It's hard to be like this because I feel that I'm not as tough as them..
Our best option : be quiet
omg samee
@@Nothinghere728 Exactly ...that would be best option .
I relate to this so much
@@Nothinghere728 exactly
The worst thing is when you're doing just fine and something happens and someone tells you "oh no is she going to start crying again" and then just because they said that you start crying.
Yes. that's right.
I HATE IT WHEN THIS HAPPENS IT JUST GIVES THEM MORE THINGS TO BULLY YOU ABOUT AND IT’S JUST JDHFJHSJWHFISJS
never related to something more
i relate to this too, i hope people can stop being so mean. stay strong
@@cora.makes.art.1960 same:(
1. You can’t function without sleep
2. You can’t stand loud noises
3. You often feel emotionally exhausted
4. You scrutinize social interactions
5. Easily triggered by violence
6. You have a hard time moving on
7. You’re uncomfortable with change
8. You don’t react well to criticism in conflict
9. You don’t do well under pressure
10. Your boundaries are easily crossed
11. You are your own worst critic
12. You require alone time
13. You are often misunderstood
me thinking everyone was like this o_o
also I appriecate how soft and low her voice is it's really nice and soothing
I agree to 12 of the 13 facts in this in my case.
That is a better description than most people just saying "crying". I think if you cry all the time that's something else.
Wow, it is the most accurate things I ever related to
Hahahahaha me
“Are you thinking of a mistake u made, it’s okay”
Me: starts tearing up
No no nooooo!!! Don’t tear up! 🥺🥺🥺
yes
me
nicole morales
literally happened to me yesterday
I thought its jst me ...bt thnk god u r here
All true. Discovering HSP was a huge relief for me. For so many years I believed I was wrong for being so different. Now I am grateful for my gifts, even sometimes it's still hard. Once we understand, we can move forward! Thank you for this video! 🙏❤
Same here, huge relief. I’m spending time reading the comments to confirm that I’m not alone.
saaame check my comment ❤
Yeah I don't know anymore, doing what do I spend more time lately. Being glad that I'm sensitive and that I can understand what others go through easily, or wishing I wasn't so sensitive, because it's really hard as I often feel down for hours or days after hearing a hint of criticism
“Your very presence makes this world a better place” being told this means so much to me
How tho😂
I knew it was coming because your comment was already shown, but same all the same. I almost teared up at work, jeez.
Just give a hug to the person who told you and say thanks.
Same
sign that i'm a HSP your comment made me cry... how lucky you are to have that person in your life!!!!
When you are a highly sensitive person, an introvert, and have social anxiety. Boom! Game over
Sounds like me :)
@Theuniverse Isaniceplace It's very nice to meet you too
Yep that's me☹️
And Cherophobia for the cherry on top
Hey twin
I think the most hated things that a HSP heard is "stop being so sensitive!" "why are you so sensitive??"
Edit : really??? Omg hsucjsbd- *hold sobs* thanks guys ;-;
Basically saying why are you still living
In kindergarten I was crying because I misheard directions and had to redo a worksheet and the teachers were like WHY IS IT WET?
yeah when someone says that it makes me even more sensitive
True
I hear this so many times that I start telling this to myself when I feel bad..
When she said “empathetic” in the first 30 seconds of the video I thought she said “pathetic” and my heart sank 🥺 THAT IS HOW SENSITIVE I AM 🙊
🫠
+1
Same here :')
I feel like she called me fat.
@@Kaiya637 fat
that was a joke
"you're so dramatic! Why do you always cry?!"
So yeah i defo relate to these
Exactly
Yes, I have people telling me that all the time as well. I can understand for u.
Yeeeeesssss. Then when I have people telling me to "just stop, you gotta stop crying so much". Uhh sorry but that's pretty much telling me to stop being who I am. Yes, I would not like to cry at the drop of a pencil but i am who I am. Change all I want but I cant stop how I feel.
I don't know this video said there are lot less ppl have this personality. I thought I'm just an introvert.
Yeshhh
SUMMARY
1. You cant function without sleep
2. You cant stand loud noises
3. You often feel emontional exhausted
4. You scrutinize social interactions
5. Youre easly triggered by violence
6. You have a hard time moving on
7. Youre uncomfortable with change
8. You dont react well to critisicm and conflict
9. You dont do well under pressure
10. Youre boundries are easly crossed
11. You are your worst critic
12. You require alone time
13. You are often misunderstood
Thanks! :-)
I'm ALL OF THEM
Shweta P Me too. 😫
Yeah that’s me.
Shweta P me too.. Well ups
Something I want to point out: this is a matter of personality not an illness!!
I do wish it was an illness so i could have something to blame it on.
@@liviahibberson9760 mood
@@bellacurry6450 BIG mood.
It feels like an illness
My brother always says that I don't have personality... I'd never understand what does he meant...
Many HSPs are on the Autism Spectrum. I always thought I was just sensitive but now at the age of 26 I am realising that I'm an autistic female and I learned to mask my behaviour extremely well. Remember, autistic females have different and more subtle behaviours so UA-cam or google symptoms in females specifically if you are a women :) hope this helps someone out there!
I will surely do that! Thanks for the tip! One can never learn to much about those subjects! If I'm not concerned, at least I'll know better and will be able to remember useful information if needed one day!
That's interresting! Can you explain a bit more what you found out they have in common? I cannot see the parallels and similarities clearly yet but I think you're onto something -
Same here. As a man. Even less represented.
@@SergioBlackDolphinWe need equalized representation. Autistic men need to be shown & cared about just as much. Saying this as an autistic female feminist.
I am starting to doubt my ASD diagnosis though. I think I am just a just HSP.
When you're the ONLY highly sensitive person in your family and nobody gets you. Its a lonely life.
🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️
Relatable
Isn't wrong
Yes
And if they're toxic it's worst
If you raise your voice- even a little bit I. Will. Cry.
Sameee, i hate crying in public because i feel so weak when i do, and i feel like people expect me to be strong.
@@_froskkk_58 same I feel so embarassed, the worst thing is that when I start crying I can't stop
@@_froskkk_58 That's why I have stopped caring about the opinions of other people some time ago. In this mode you are putting additional pressure onto yourself, which you should avoid by all means.
The best thing is staying true to your heart instead of warping yourself into some form that isn't you (and which you most likely don't like, either).
Once you stop doing that, you are going to notice that you are feeling much more balanced, which in turn should be enough to reduce your need to cry.
Nonetheless there's nothing wrong with crying since it is a natural way to express your feelings.
Besides, who is the stronger person? The one who is suppressing his feelings, because he has to prove everyone that he is strong or the one who has no problems expressing them and doesn't give a damn about how others are perceiving him?
@@sierra5798 And when someone asks you if you're okay, it only becomes worse😂
I've become very good at not crying-even if I really want to.
I'm pretty sure it's bad but whatever
As an hsp, I've spent my whole life feeling like I don't belong. It's lonely.
:( hugs
A life long by stander/opserver without ability to participe in groups, parties or small talk.
Sometimes I feel like I’m an alien
Not from this world
i ghost wrote this
Want to not belong together?
I’m actually crying right now; so many of my questions that I was afraid to ask are being answered. I was diagnosed as neurodivergent last month and was told I’m a HSP. This gives me so much peace.
@@whatslyssyt's not even a diagnosis... HOW TF DID THAT PERSON GET DIAGNO-
It’s not a diagnosis. It’s a personality trait.
they said they were diagnosed as neurodivergent. that can include autism, ADHD, and things such as OCD. @@Jaxen_kypolice5
Then imagine being an HSP and growing up with a father with anger issues - a lot of this is still affecting me in my adult life..
ME TOO!!! Living w parents who don’t get along as well. Narcissistic father and mother with post-stroke depression. Stay strong, praying for us💛
@@thecpartygoingon your mum will be so grateful to have you close by, cherish your time with her but also work on building your self esteem. NPD fathers are the worst. Your awareness sounds good though. As an empath you are also more likely to attract/be attracted to partners with NPD so tread carefully! It's not easy being an HSP and ten times more difficult when around narcissists 💕
You are not alone 💕
*Same pinch*
Literally same issue !
Me: * Everyone calls me an overly sensative person* relatable....
Yep very having hsp makes everyone just call you sensitive and too dramatic about everything
I only call people “too sensitive” when they do rude stuff to me and I just smile to them, but when I do the same stuff to them they freak out and start hitting me. It hurts inside but I have to deal with it. I know not all sensitive people are like “them” but we insensitive people don’t call you that just for fun. Tho there are people who call you sensitive when they themselves are sensitive, I hope you understand and I wasn’t rude..
Same... I'm a hsp
i cry when someone calls me sensitive
Rosie animations Yeah..That’s what I hate about my classmates..
“you cry like literally all the time”
“you are such a crybaby omg”
“just get over it you’re fine. you cry literally all the time.”
“jeez how many times do you cry in a day?”
alright first of all, CHILLL😭😭😭😭
Same ,spent my whole life being called a crybaby but you know it's good,it's cool 👌🏾😭
When I was a child, I was always told "stop crying", "ugh, she's gonna cry again", "there's no reason for you to be crying right now", til I became numb and I couldn't cry anymore in front of anyone ... Now that I'm an adult, I'm slowly but surely reconnecting with my crybaby side, and letting it come back to the surface :)
Fortunately I hold my tears back pretty well in public so I can avoid stares, questions and awkward attention in general. But then people think I am alright when I am not really.
I got BULLIED in elementary school for being crybaby
*hears that phrases*
*cries even one hour more for Heart that and feel there something wrong with me*
I think one of the best parts about this video is that it has revealed a community in all these comments, one that many of us more than likely never knew existed! It seems there are many of us in the same boat, a refreshing feeling that brings!
Things HSPs can relate to:
-overwhelming stimulation (lights, music. Etc)
-thinking inanimate things have feelings
-overthinking others words/emotions
-being uncomfortable around major emotions (anger, sadness, etc)
-great at reading body language
-love being alone at times
-others dictate your feelings (how others feel is how you feel)
-easily falling for tv characters
-feeling like no one can help how you feel
-you hate change
-you’re neutral in fights
-stress is 100x worse for you than others
-you cry for everything and anything
-you might be more artistic
-movies move you more than others
-you have a hard time saying no
-people enjoy being around you
-people say you’re a great friend
-people come for you for advice even if you have no experience in what they need help for
yess. i get so stressed when i put my music on in the car but and my parents start to talk loudly to overcome the music. in the end i just turn off the music hahah
You'll never Know my name OMG how do I relate to practically all of this 😂
Ok but thinking inanimate things have feelings.... my mom used to joke and say that my stuffed animals were upset and I would always be like NO IM SORRY
the inanimate objects have feelings thing though
_are you reading my mind_
true..
*"It's both a blessing and a curse to feel everything very deeply."*
Edit: OMG!! 1.3K likes!!! Thanks everybody!!
I agree army 💜
Mhm 💜
ARMYYYYY!!! Guys!!! We're literally EVERYWHERE!!!!!
Same omg ARMY
Same, let’s go army!
This is why i'm so mad at friends who goes "why so serious?" when i'm trying to express myself..
hi im awkward omg I feel this
Or they start laughing
I hate it
Then they aren’t very good friends if they’re going to be like that if they’re going to discourage you from expressing who you are, what your flaws do to you and what they are and talking about both your strengths and weaknesses.
EXACTLYYY!
Hello, here I am, an HSP. I have learnt to love and accept myself, warts and all. I am so fortunate to have entered my 7th decade, reasonably intact!!! I love using humour to lighten up my day and to watch others smile and chuckle. Thank You for this information, it leads to further insights.
My girlfriend is highly sensitive. Taking notes so I can take even better care of her ❤️
That's sweet
So sweet omg 😢💕
Awww
You learning this will definitely help you, hsp are misunderstood a lot.
you are wonderful.
I think that's me. I try to help people, worry about everyone, then secretly wish I could run off to a deserted island to escape.
i feel exactly that way as well.
😂😂😂😂
@@juliasephaka8033 ??
@@mooya3887 that's the story of my life trying to fix others "s problems mostly trying to make everyone happy while inside I'm dying and overwhelmed,most of my days I'm indoors alone that's where I can be myself and have peace of my mind I laugh because it's very hard to be me seriously I sometimes wonder why God created me this way😭😭
@@juliasephaka8033 ohh. i was just wondering why you were laughing, because i thought you might have been making fun of this. i have a reputation of being an innocent, quiet, nice girl. i am slowly changing and breaking that barrier. i can speak up for myself and others now, and im so much more direct. be yourself. if people dont like that, who cares. you'll be happier that way in the long-run. also, im not religious, but i don't think God created you to be this way. imo, it's more like He made you this way so you could grow?
ive found my people, and everything makes more sense lol
same ✊
CORRECT😩
same here !
Same. It only took me going through some rough friendships/relationships
This is so true!
That video popped up in my recommendations and It's a weird feeling to finally be able to put a word on a bunch of feelings I had for so long. I'm not sure being HSP is such a good thing in our society, it felt so bad for so long, always feeling misunderstood and tired because of the strength it takes to confront the world. But I'm still trying even if it feels like I'm alone.
"You are your worst critic"
Me, remembering all the stupid stuff I did years ago: Yeah, you think? XD
5:42 this honestly triggered memories from years ago related to some of the item they drew and now I just feel embarressed xD worst critic who, I don't know her xD
"I think you are giving me too much credit. If I was better at criticizing my actions, I wouldn't have messed up all those things."
Years ago? Try decades!
This sshit hurts
As long as we truly learn from our mistakes, we begin to grow. 🙏🏾
What sucks is when you avoid people because you don’t want to feel everyone’s emotions because it affects you.
I was taught by a therapist, to picture yourself holding a mirror that is facing away from you, and then to picture someone else emotions bouncing off the mirror before it can touch you and going back to them. It takes practice, and it takes patience with yourself, but it really does help me. Hopefully it can help you and everyone else that has HSP.
@@tia67ca thanks for sharing this with me! Hopefully it will help.
There are crystals for that. I carry amethyst or tourmaline for just that reason.
Yes! I need to limit my time around other people because I pick up too much.
Yes totally
Nobody:
My emotions:
Happy: *tears*
Sad: *tears*
Guilty: *tears*
Angry: *tears*
Yeah, even when I don't feel like crying it sTILL HAPPENS
Same !
Or if I feel not sad not happy not angry but I just cry for no reason oof-
yeah ❤️
I know it! Every emotion equals tears for us HSP's!
This really hit the spot! I am extremely sensitive and although good at hiding it, I have been working on myself for awhile. but it's really nice to know many others feel the same as I do :) thank you for this video!
So am I not the only one that thinks about mistakes and all the embarrassing things you’ve done years ago in the middle of the night for no reason and start crying? And you have to calm yourself down like “why are you still being so embarrassed about it. It literally happened five years ago. It’s okay. Nobody’s remember it.”
No your not the only one
That’s so me 😓 I do it all the time, then am fine in the morning, but I still get so upset at myself for ever doing that thing, but usually it was when I accidentally hurt someone (emotionally), or did something I shouldn’t of, or didn’t do something I should’ve, and I feel so bad about it, and I always tell myself that “everyone is human and messes up”, but that never makes it better, and I can never let it go, and usually end up crying myself to sleep just thinking of how I’m not good enough, or how awful I was. But at least, in the morning I usually forget about it. Sorry I wrote all that, I hope that makes sense😅
Same happens to me :(
My stupid mind can't help but imagine a 1000 emotional stories and cry for no reason ..even in my dreams I keep wishing a happy ending ..wth for???
Sorry to annoy you
I even cry in dramas a lot
1. You can't function without sleep
2. You can't stand loud noises
3. You often feel emotionally exhausted
4. You scrutinize social interactions
5. You're easily triggered by violence
6. You have a hard time moving on
7. You're uncomfortable with change
8. You don't react well with criticism and conflict
9. You don't do well under pressure
10. Your boundaries are easily crossed
11. You're your own worst critic
12. You require alone time
13. You're often misunderstood
A question to you all....
Do you people ever feel like you want to save or change the whole world around you, you want to have more social interactions with people about feelings and thoughts and you are very passionate about the beauty of the world but somehow you drown in your own thoughts and can't step out of your brain? Like, actually doing passionate things to make people smile or the world better but you're overthinking so much that you're exhausted? You never really feel that people REALLY understand you, as you think you're alone with this HUGE galaxy of thoughts in your head? Like, really feeling alone because you have noone in realife who is like you but is finding comfort in yt comments, where I don't see the people behind them?
Did you ever feel like this text could be wrote by you and you have a strong boundary with a stranger that could be anywhere?
... This was not supposed to be this long but at least you might guessed by now that I am an extremely sensitive overthinker. :) you are not alone with this. I love you ppl.
Edit: hey I'm so happy to see you guys feeling the same as me, this proves to me that these thoughts are not wandering in my head alone:) there are more of our kind.
oh my god. It's so accurate it becomes creepy :') I'm happy there are other ppl like me in this world ❤️
This is so me glad that someone can actually relate to how I feel
You have to reign in your mind. Having a sensitive and fast mind means you can drown in your own thoughts and emotions, sit still and contemplate things for 20 minutes a day and try to control your mind. You will be a puppet to your thoughts and feelings if you don't slow your thoughts down and challenge your emotions, you can do the things you want but only if you act according to how you know you should and according to plans you make. Don't allow whims and fallacies to control your actions.
These kind-of thoughts have a lot to do with why I have depression. Wanting to change the world but feeling like you can't really change anything. Wanting to do and be better but feeling trapped by your own mind.
I have never related to something this much in my life... Wow
I never realized that this really could be it! I struggle with ALL of these things but i just figured something was wrong with me. I feel so relieved but overwhelmed at the same time to know it wasn’t just me not doing anything right. Thank you so much for making this video, just learning about what’s really going on with myself helps so so so much.
does anyone else literally just start crying when someone else cries, like u just take their emotion in and just start crying with them
yesss the empathy is real lmao, applies to all emotions and so secondhand embarrassment is through the roof
ella hates ela yes, so embarrassing! I don’t even have to know the person very well.
I cant watch a movie drama without crying...
Yes. I don't like crying because when I was growing up crying was a big no no. My dad told me one day that I'm not a womanly because real women don't cry and are strong emotionally.
I've had genuine instances of that where it was totally involuntary, but I've also had instances of being very insensitive. I clicked on this out of curiosity and I see a complete overlap with my INFJ personality type & ADHD/RDS symptoms, but I just don't feel comfortable claiming to be HSP bc there is a lot about my personality type & disorders that get in the way of being consistently empathic (lack of theory of mind, low EQ). Definitely a part of me that I want to cultivate & be more in touch with tho!
And you’re constantly being told to “learn to stop being sensitive” and “learn to toughen up” every time you cry
Retort to that: "Then learn to stop being callous!"
I was told that by all my exes even without crying. “Better be the hunter than the prey” smh
@@ForeverRii That surely tells you enough about their mindset. Unfortunately it's exactly this kind of person that is perceived as successful all too often.
YESSSSSSS and learn to take a joke
Cause they think they’re doing the best they can do for you but it hurts more than helps. Does anyone say to you “I don’t know why you’re crying. I’m just looking out for you. I know what best for you so stop crying.”? Cause that is what everyone says to me 😔
'A very small amount of people have HSP'
Everyone who sees this video: 'Me'
I was thinking the same, then decided, nah. I multi-task well, think I'm good at problem solving, but I don't cry or feel much to see fake pain, what I'm saying is say people are gonna focus on the hits,woke they ignore the misses
Haha true but a lot of people who think they are HSPs have searched up the video or had it recommended to them...
No negativity here please. Bye.
@@gems8582 That's a good point this was reccomend to me and another person I know 🤷🏼♀️ so I hadn't thought about that
@@YunJaeGDLuv who is being nagative? I think someone might have HSP
I have this thing with noises. If the tv is on, my husband is listening to music and then gets on the phone talking loud, I have to turn one of the noises off and go to my quiet spot. It takes me 10-20 minutes to regain my composure and come back out of the room and maybe continue the tv or whatever. I get scattered and frazzled easily. I tell my husband “ Nope! I can’t to three. Turn that off or I’ll turn mine off.” I can’t really do concerts anymore, too much stimuli. I don’t understand the need to all crowd together and have loudness from every direction. I also have a preconceived notion of how things should turn out and they usually don’t go that way and I’m constantly let down. Oh and I noticed that as more and more people get around me, the more I can’t focus and get nervous. I love one on one friendships, groups are to scattered for me. I do admire people who do associate in groups. Recently, if I see violence on tv, I turn the channel, it’s just too much. Society has gone wild. The news isn’t in everyday in our house, I have to take a break from it often. I want to laugh, and find it hard to find truly funny comedy anymore.
The fact that I can't sleep at night knowing someone was mad at me or just irritated about my presence
Me too! I have a hard time with thinking someone was mad at me that I over analyze the whole situation. Really working hard to break this!
I feel this
I also feel the same😭
This the one .
You can't make everyone happy. You have to be happy too, so don't be so hard on yourself. You are important.
Having social anxiety and being HSP at the same time ISN'T A JOKE, MAN
Relatable
Exactly feel you.
Really important to work on that, otherwise you won't reach your full potential as an hsp'r but ofc ur aware of that. Try an energy healer, you will be amazed.
I feel you!! Omg. I'm hoping to overcome this anxiety
@Emperor Hirohito you probably are hsp. Hsp'rs feel someone elses energy when someone looks at them. So you will know someone looks at you without even looking at them.
If it gives you anxiety, you can best work on your posture (so you will stand stronger/better in your own energy). Try to find what the cause is of the anxiety, so why are you anxious, judgement? What kind of judgement, and why again. Write it down or talk about it (only then your conscious mind will understand it).
my classmate arguing with me :
me : DONT CRY DONT CRY
me when i got home : practice my arguments that i've already lost
edit (November 14, 2020) : i never knew this will got so much likes but we are all valid. we can be like this and its okay. ^^
Soooooooo true
OMG this is so true!
Me 😄
Is your pfp from Kakegorui? Idk how to write it lmao
@@hatsunemikuenjoyer6900 yesss. it's jabami yumeko from kakegurui hahaha
I deffinetly relate to the majority of these things and the message at the end saying ”your very pressence makes the world a better place” really just hit diffrent for me especially as someone trying my best to make it better where i can.
To all brothers and sisters who are HSP
Keep up the good fight, You are not alone we understand eatchother.
Much love from Sweden 🇸🇪
1:11 “HSP needs more sleep than most” me: *laughs in insomnia*
I thought I was the only crazy one lol I get so deep in my thoughts that I can’t sleep and my emotions and senses are still overstimulated... now I’m sleep deprived aka a little high and in the sky
Ace Six damn, i feel weirdly comforted that most people in the comment section is in the same position as me- aka insomniac, over-thinker and deeply self criticising 😌
simin-ssi I overthink everything that happened that day lol and my senses keep me always aware of what’s around me and my emotions make me feel the beauty of life so deeply and that means criticisms made about me hit twice as hard. I want to move and be on my own and my parents guilt trip me to make me feel bad for them for putting my mental health first 🙃 every time I put myself first, others get hurt. Then when I put others first, I get hurt. Literally my life is nothing but survival at this point. I might be a young soul but my heart is so old... *sigh* double edged sword it is
Well, insomnia is a disorder I believe so... you might not relate to everything they said. It’s like when they said in another video that a HSP lives life as its fullest but um... being a HSP and having mental illness cancels that out 🤷♀️
That must be why I need at least 10hrs instead of 6-8 :)
I’m scrolling through the comments....ALL OF THEM ARE RELATABLE 😔
Me too
None are for me, it seems the entire comment section has are hsp (I’m not) I thought it was rare?
Sushi_Catfish i don’t think it’s rare (:
Even your comment is relatable
Vanshu Singh lmao
Just lost a friendship bc I stood up for myself telling her I am not ok with mean, dismissive, rude comments. I was told that Im sensitive. The world is so cold that wanting kindness from a friend is me being sensitive. I realize I deserve better!
I find when someone says something hurtful to me, I’m literally shocked and don’t say anything back. Then when I am alone I go over and over it and get upset and angry. Once or twice I have expressed my true thoughts then they get upset and ignore me. I would never comment on someone’s weight or appearance for example , yet people feel the need to comment on mine. 😞
@@leanneneville2431 I get that way too. I over think everything. Often I dont process my feelings fast enough as well and then the moment has past. Ill talk about it later and Im accused of not moving on. Ive got those weight comments as well even from my mom. They had made me so insecure for so long. Im finding out that I am just not meant to have many friends. Too many are not able to be kind enough and I refuse to be a punching bag. You are not alone!
ME!!! FOR DECADES.. RUINED MY LIFE
Even my friend was so mean to me but I just don't know what to say
@@_shreya_9795 I would suggest to stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries. If they do not do well with that then maybe reevaluate the friendship. Im sorry you have to deal with that!
I relate to a lot of these as an autistic person, and my neurodivergent friends share and talk about issues like these. Most of them tie in with sensory overloads/sensory issues in general, as well as the general issues caused by autism and other neurodivergencies. Some of the ones that I experience personally, like needing excess alone time, are caused by masking too much and needing to wind down after sensory overloads, meltdowns, or just being with too many people for too long.
A lot of people tried telling me I was just a HSP my whole life. I'm not. I know that lol. I've always known that. Since I was born, the talk about possible autism didn't really stop, it was constantly hinted at and redirected with my other comorbidities... my psych finally said its time to get evaluated, they've exhausted their resources.. I'm sure hearing HSP to someone either not or on the neurodivergent spectrum (but not ASD) can be helpful but this drives me up the wall sometimes because this actually downplays the intensity, frequency and life long hindrances of my own "behaviors" mainly avoidance, and the issues I struggle with daily. My providers trying to label me as HSP didn't help anything but exasperated my issues.
if you need the alone time, it's not excess. It's necessary for YOUR health and well being.
I notice people confuse it with a lack of self confidence
Yes, all the time. it is so annoying, but it is what it is when they cant relate...there are so many other things that people cant understand like sexuality when they dont have the same one themselves.
Ikr! 😭
Honestly, and it’s annoying bc I do have self- confidence I’m just not open and loud about it. So people think I’m not and confuse it for me being sensitive and think that it’s connected to not being self confident. It’s annoying ngl
HSP people also tend to follow the carpenter's rule of "measure twice, cut once" which others see as a lack of confidence. I also think many people will tell another person they lack self-confidence as a way of gaslighting them so they can manipulate them
yes. eg, because I take a bit more of time than others measuring literally every bits of everything, I make decisions slower and there- I would always be the loser. but that's okay.
I always burst into tears while arguing and every point I try to make becomes illogical. This makes me feel more sensible and regretful during post-argument because I never wanted to cry and now I am criticized as a drama queen.
Exactly,this is what happens to me every time.
Yes same here. People think I’m being dramatic when I can’t do arguments. Every argument, I have a nervous breakdown.
When your about to cry but hold it in and somebody notices your about to cry and say don’t cry or something I just start crying
Yes, or when they ask "What's wrong?" "Are you sure you're okay?" Tears just start rolling
Melody Acosta yea I just get overwhelmed and cry
so true omg
or the worst one is when you want to cry and someone asks if your ok, and then the tears start..
Oh my goodness... so relatable 😭
Not being able to relax more, instead of being wound up and afraid of the outcome. Less afraid, 73, and I'm getting there, better late than never. If I had 1 wish, it would be that no one had fear in their lives. Its crippling. Hugs and a Merry Christmas to all. Sherie Rodrigues from Australia
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Your not weak you’ve been strong for way to long “is what I relating to me 😔🤚
I have a lot of quotations saved in my phone whenever I go through such thing I start reading them. Mostly they are motivational.
I use tik tok and see tons of quotes and when I do and they relate to me I just start crying since I have hid my emotions for so long I just let them all out
Holy shut this is too real and relatable
@@genesis9836 i cry alot. i shut out all affirmations and quotes though, i used to be addicted to them, so i feel its better to just feel things out or think things. and go according to a goal set. im scared of quotes
I actually went through some really bad things when I was little. I needed that.
i’m reading these comments with tears just pouring out of my eyes
i hope you’re all coping with life okay. i feel rly happy that there are people i can relate to, but i’m sad that we are so often misunderstood or mistaken for being “weak.” i love you all
Ahh i feel you~~~~~
@Mitche Rose Maming Bugtay Me too.. Don't be sad though! We're not alone
Hi there, I feel the same. It's so nice to feel that what I feel is something that so many other people can relate to!! I thought about it for a long time and decided to open an Instagram page where people can share freely their own stories about mental health and create a supportive community. I would love if you would like to share any story you might have by sending me a message at @lifestories0250. I created it so that people like us could share how they really feel rather than just what people want to see or see on the outside. I really hope it's going to help a lot of people!
Love you too💕💕
WOW FINALLY FOUND PEOPLE I RELATE TO IN THE COMMENTS WHAT IS THIS
SAMEEE
OMG HI!!
😏😏😏
YES!
Omg same
I felt these deep in my soul, with the exception of two: I love horror movies and eating at new places. So nice to feel seen after 40 years of hearing “don’t be so sensitive”.
Same hehe
@@themagicfarawaytree21same lol
When they say, “I’m surprised that you didn’t cry”, or “are you gonna cry now?” Makes it worse, we were fine before but when you say that the dam finally bursts
I know right? Very little people get it except for fellow hsps....);
Love you! 😁💛
"are you gonna cry now" is the worst!
When they say "don't be sensitive, be strong" makes me cry more.
Those sound like things an abusive individual would say.
I hate it when they say that because I feel like that invalidates our emotions
Not to mention those moments of breathlessness when we feel we may have hurt somebody, those moments when we feel bad or happy for strangers and really mean it within ourselves, those battels we fight within our minds to choose the least offensive words when we try to criticize something or to express an objection, those moments when people take advantage of our empathy and forgiveness believing we are fools where we do know the reasons behind their actions expecting their moves and even how do they think and we just let them believe so 'cause we care, those moments when we get a headache after entering a complex building; seeing a hazy painting or crude features, those moments when we grasp the greatest beauty in tiniest of things in a millisecond appreciating smile in a fast unnoticeable flickering sending tons of messages in hearing sighs of a relived person that just felt with our chest and heartbeats, those moments when stuck with word obsessions and differentiation between each word meaning and indication; each context and each symbol, and those moments when language can't carry half of what we mean and nobody ever understands us better than ourselves.
This is true,I love ya so much :D
Wow, the first description was spot on for me. "The breathlessness when we feel we may have hurt somebody". It takes me 3-4 hours of straight crying to get over that. Of things I know at the back of my mind is not even a big deal. But it was not the situation itself or what happened, it was a matter of principle usually referring back to themes of respect or myself being misunderstood. To me, its the same core issue every time. I really thought I was going crazy, I was considering to look up what I was feeling recently because it's gotten real bad during this time of quarantine, living in an Asian household. It hurts a lot to hold it in. But once I reflect on myself and get over it, which takes about a day or two, I'm finally able to move on. Here I was thinking, I'm so slow at getting over things and overanalyzing literally nothing most of the time.
Be ma friennddd
True ╰(⸝⸝⸝´꒳`⸝⸝⸝)╯
I cant say anything else but, it's just so true..
It’s so upsetting that we were taught by most that being a hsp is a problem so they treat you with ‘tough love’, thinking that would cure us, when in reality, you cannot cure a personality trait. I think that is the reason why I struggle with my identity because my emotions were invalidated too much to the point that I have a much harder time processing how I feel and confronting others.
Exactly!!!
I agree! I feel the same way.
I feel as if I need to tell everyone I meet, " Do not listen with the intent to reply, but with the intent to understand!"
Bro same like I feel like at one point when I was kid that I was aware of how highly sensitive I was but since my mom and dad was to focused on arguing and only cared about us just being financially okay, when came to emotional they rejected or they didn’t make it a safe place for me and my siblings to be vulnerable. So it made it hard to deal with myself.
Exactly
This is most definitely me. Combine this with mental illness (which I have) and life can be a struggle.
1 you can not function without sleep
2 you can not stand loud noises
3 you often feel emotionally exhausted
4 you over analyse social interactions
5 you are easily triggered by violence
6 you have a hard time moving on
7 you are uncomfortable with change
8 you do not react well to criticism and conflict
9 you dont do well under pressure
10 your boundaries are easily crossed
11 you are your own worst critic
12 you require alone time
13 you are often missunderstood
Ty
This is a kind of behavior that makes a hsp person uncomfortable. It would make him feeling sorry for the author's job and dedication for this video. And yes, that "him" it's me
@@lombas82 well i do too a little but i also feel grateful for the introverts, mentally drained people, and those that has short attention span..
I was hard for me to listen to the whole video, my toddler was all over the place but i really wanted to know since i've been diagnosed hypersensitive and i'm still trying to get a grasp at it because my emotions are very introverted so the very few friends i have dont understand why i am so cold yet so broken, and i sometimes seem hot and cold ...
and i dont know how to make then understand than i may not EXPRESS my feelings very much but I DO feel them, and I do feel them more deeply than normal people..
i was just raised with the mentality that emotions can make you irrational leading to bad choices... so i suppress them... partly... or for the moment.. but sometimes i cant.. or they come back later...
and its okay...
And i have the right to feel. I have to allow myself to feel..
So yeah basically feel a little "muhh" for the author.. but im also grateful in bebalf of those that feel overwhelmed by videos.
Anyway, to read the comment the person had to click on the video, so at least the author gets the view for it :)
@@lombas82 I just think of it as a way to take notes. We watch something. It’s very important. And we want to go over it again and so we can remember it quickly. Please don’t take offense to it. It is a wonderful video and you should be very proud!
"hsps are the most sensitive, soft-hearted person you can ever meet." yeah but this world is harsh, so harsh that hsps couldn't help but feel being left out no matter how many times people try to help them : ( hsps don't deserve this cruel world...
This. :/
Thx, this helped me and I’m crying FUCKING HELL WHY DO WE ALWAYS HAVE TO CRYYYY
Honestly
Everytime I read this I feel like I love you but it's absurd so ignore this ok
@@Miscinhe awh it's ok we dont know each other but im here to tell you i love you too and if youre feeling sad rn i hope you can cheer up and feel better soon ❤🥰
Being an HSP is like being a parent for everyone
"No one need to understand my suffering, but that's okay as long as you smile" kinda thing
It sounds very self-centered. How do you know others don't suffer as much or worse than you?
@@davinderc We know they suffer as much or worse, thats literally part of being a sensitive person.
I know how bad people around me or everywhere have it in their life and so i overly make efforts to help them completely ignoring my own problems because i want them to be happy.
The original comment above is saying the exact same thing:
We are like a parent, we hide our own sufferings to try and soothe others and make them smile basically like they are our children.
I'm aware all of us have our own struggles, never said HSPs are the only ones suffering
My point is HSPs tend to prioritize happines of other over their own, much like a parent do.
And just in case, i won't agree if anyone say everyone is like that, at least from my experiences. There are many self oriented people.
Like not everyone will fake smile just to make those around them at ease
i feel attacked😂😂 jk im fine with being this way
Davinder Chandhok i think it’s more of an effort to bear w ur own issues and trying not to bother others who r going through tough times :)
I'm constantly reading the atmosphere for changes, no matter how subtle. Then I go and analyse and magnify any changes I perceived. It's exhausting.
Well am used to hear stuffs like " oh she's acting again" "she's going to cry again" "why do you cry so much on small matters?" and many more harsh things......the thing that hurts the most is when i try to help anyone and want to comfort them it ends me being a bad person....and many times it happened that without my any fault i am the one who is misunderstood :)
....or no one taught you how to adapt to changing situations. Im a very sensitive person myself. One day, my boss(Who is a very nice and fair person) asked me if I was being misunderstood or not striving to adapt. That’s some tough love advice but it was honest.
Ik what u mean :) i can relate
Well, I'm highly sensitive, but I don't express my feelings, I keep for myself, and that generates anxiety, and many other problems ( my immunity gets low, and I start to have skin problems). Sometimes I wish that I didn't keep things for myself...
Sorry for mistakes, English isn't my native language...
@@lovedogs199 Please dont torture urself like that....i don't want to be like that way but it hurts so bad that i cant even control myself 😔...take care of urself and you know no one cares so be the way u are ❤️
@@aadritaroyxib5564 ❤️
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard “you’re too sensitive” or “just get over it”, I’d be the richest person alive. It’s both beautiful and painful to be highly sensitive, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
It's both a blessing and a curse. Have you read any of Elaine N. Aron's books on HSP?
Being "too sensitive" is actually a blessing. It means that you have extra sensory gifts that the majority of others miss. People might mean "you're too sensitive" as an insult, but it's really a compliment.
Me too but that means we are healers or clairvoyant too . I was always told I was too quiet .can't win .
I always tell people" And you aren't sensitive enough " when they tell me that. Shuts them up fast. If you have a narcissist that has an answer to that , tell them " narcissists always say that "
Totally agree
Doubtless someone else has one of these, but I figure since I couldn’t find one myself, I’d provide it for those of you who like me were looking for a list.
1. You can’t function without sleep 0:50
2. You can’t stand loud noises 1:16
3. You often feel emotionally exhausted 1:51
4. You scrutinize social interaction 2:14
5. You’re easily triggered by violence 2:43
6. You have a hard time moving on 3:11
7. You’re uncomfortable with change 3:43
8. You don’t react well to criticism 4:06
9. You don’t do well under pressure 4:35
10. Your boundaries are easily crossed 5:01
11. You are your own worst critic 5:39
12. You require alone time 6:02
13. You’re often misunderstood 6:31
Thank you!!! I was looking for this haha
Thank you! Wow. I check every single box 🥺
Laura W happy to provide you with this.
Wait, what??? Happy to give. I agree, I can relate to most of these to some degree or another, mostly 4,6,8, and 11.
Thank you!
Me: *cries into my small mistake*
Everyone: *you're overacting stop crying*
Me: *cries even more*
Same
100th like..
Well, *SAME!!* 😖😭😭
I CAN RELAAAAAAATE
That's why I always hide it..
Saaaaame
“Emotional pain tends to linger with you” oof that one hit. It sure does.
I rember when my parents broke up and the things that led it still heart for month and months and my so called "best friend " at the time says " why is she still crying didn't her parents split up ages ago...?
right when i read this that started playing on the screen
I had a basketball jersey I forgot to bring back, so I had to wait next school year. But I was basically crying most of summer because of guilt. And it just so happens my mom knows almost all of the teachers at my school, so that so helped! Lmao what am I saying
My therapist told me it's a wonderful trait to have and I'm just wondering for whom?
Being highly sensitive in a burning world is just a self destruct button.
People consider you as ignorant when you tell them that you can't handle watching /hearing the news so you limit the intake extremly.
It's only a bliss for others but rarely for the highly sensitive person him- or herself.
I wonder about it too. When I'm feeling down, when someone tells me one bad thing about myself, when someone tells me I could have done something differently, when someone wants something from me and I try explaining them I don't want to, but end up saying yes and then being mad at myself. Being sorrowful that no one understands me. Wishing I wasn't so sensitive. Worrying about everything little thing that happened. Putting the blame on me while justifying others.
They don't have a problem pointing things out when I do something wrong. But when I, after being silent for a longer time, finally say that what they do is not okay, they're so surprised. They suddenly feel attacked and find me unreasonable.
Yeah how often I wish I was different. Or maybe for others to understand my point of view. Why is it that I can understand them and justify their actions while they just can't or find me unreasonable. It would be just so much easier if no one was sensitive. I mean why would I care about those little things? Why don't others care? Why can't I not care?
Does it make the world a better place? Does it? What does it give me that I notice the smallest changes in people's moods? Right but it's about me, not the world. Honestly at the moment I don't see how is it good for either; me or the world
@@veni5126THANK YOU
I'm not sure about being highly sensitive, I think my nervous system was tripped by trauma as a baby, I was sick. I don't see it as a blessing cos even if you see or sense problems what can you do really? Road to hell paved with good intentions. 😢
Personally I wouldn’t wish it on anyone
“Your presence makes the world a better place”
My sensitive dumbass: _DONT CRY DONT CRY DONT CRY DONT CRY DONT CRY DONT CRYYYYY_
r a y I can hear this 😂
Wait til someone tells you this up front, in-person.
Peter Parker: Ahh, little snowflake Jr gonna cry?
funny cuz I actually cried
lol me, i feel you. i mean, i truly feel you dude.