Men Have a Hard Time Opening Up Emotionally, Until You Do This!
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Men Have a Hard Time Opening Up Emotionally, Until You Do This!... In this dating advice video, I will help you understand men better and explain how to get a man to open up emotionally. Whether you are dating or in a relationship, there will come a time you will need to know how to get a man to open up to you, and it can be on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed of these dating tips, and watch the entire video.
I wouldn't advice you to be with a man who isn't opening up emotionally. In this dating help, I will assist you in understanding how to get a man to open up emotionally. I want to help you understand men better and know how to get a man to open up to you.
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I never have this problem when I communicate with anyone. I focused on improving my communication skills. I never throw anything back in any one’s face. I wish the men who make general statements about all women would stop.
Lol YOU just generalized about men!
@@ssgundes1 Thank you, I made the correction.
Yupp
🔑 communicate without judging. 🔑 Have the person's 'yes' b4 offering or suggesting a better way do something.
🔑 don't enter the conversation to be right or prove someone wrong
Thank you
Well put
My husband was a narcissist. These men Never open up. They don’t know who they are & are only happy in a sadistic way
Only NARCS Men Complaint & BLAME Abt Women Can't Take Their Vulnerability When They Open Up To Them!! Bt, This's Far Away From The Reality..
They Nvr Admit Their Own Incapability Of Being Healthy In Emotional(They Don't Know Which's Under Limits/What Shouldn't Crossed For The Other One's Too🤷♀️ & What Could Be Overbearing To Take For Them!) Ground That They Can Share With His Woman As A Team(Not The Opponent Party!!) In Relationship..
They don't open up because the inside is empty, but sometimes a surface person is all you need, depends on your relationship expectations and why you have to get to know someone mad know yourself before ever getting married.
I have been very open with him about my feelings despite being hurt in the past for doing this. But I like this guy so much I am always honest with him. He however expresses himself non verbally which is great but I need to hear him say something to me. I want him to feel safe with me. Being very patient with him, don't want to scare him away.
I've worked a lot on my own communication and being vulnerable with people, even when I truly don't feel like doing it. I admit, I used to have a bad habit of throwing things back in people's faces, which I realize was learning from example, because my parents used to do it to each other and to me and my sister, and we'd do it to each other. Even though the urge can be there, I fight it.
I've run into a good amount of men who don't know how to communicate or don't want to, who can't open up and be vulnerable or don't want to, and a lot of times, it seems to come from other experiences with women who also didn't know how to communicate or open up or, as you say, threw things back in their faces. I admit, I am slow to open up because I've been burned in the past, but I still do it. Of course, if my repeated attempts to open up are met with someone not opening up, I assume they just can't or they read me as someone they can't trust for whatever reason, so I move along with it because we aren't going to get anywhere if one or both of us aren't willing to open up.
Men, for the most part, are the ones who never want to be single WITHOUT sex, so they need to learn how to be single and learn to mature and open up, especially if they want someone to be real with them.😇💯❤️
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I say this all the time! Vulnerability in communication is the best and fastest way to know the intentions of the other person.
I agree!!! 💯 If he acts strange, emotionally caught up, still dealing with an ex, divorce etc. boi bye! Protect your heart.
Honestly, every man I have encountered has opened up so much too me emotionally, that I think I have some sort of emotional magnetism for men lbvs… I mean really open up about their
Life, family, feelings, childhood etc.! I really need to be a therapist!!
Same here
You may be an #INFJ
@@Womenswell022 what does that stand for?
@@Iman-ve3il same but I actually am a therapist lol but even before I got my degree, ppl would just open up to me, especially men.
@@Womenswell022 Same as Iman for me & I am just learning lately (last 2-3 months that I'm an INFJ.
If I have to DO something in order for a man to be able to open up to me, this is mind games and wasting my time. Hard pass. Dating is a waste of time today.
Us Slavic women know a shitty man a MILE away.
@@liztowers2058 Yes, you're absolutely right. We have a keen sense about them right away or at least within several minutes of meeting one.
@@irinaivanovic9792 u got it!!!
I agree. He makes great points and is well spoken but it also gives “here’s how to fix broken, toxic men who need therapy”. He gives a few points on a reversed situation in the end but honestly would these men give women the same grace if we played these games?
@@DosesOfZia Exactly! 9 times out of 10, if a man was presented with this situation he would just leave and you'd never hear from him again. SMH. Boys and men are not taught to "fix" situations. They're just taught to LEAVE. So we should do the same!
Men also can't use their past to justify toxic behavior. Opening up is one thing but doing the work to heal your trauma is a whole other thing.
👏 👏 👏 yasss queen! 💛
Any time a video is made about what men want/state their concerns,women try to make it about men's bad behavior
I believe some people ( not only Women) do this to support their point of view. Or because they believe it is appropriate at the time that they bring it up again. Not necessarily to be malicious. But I have been on the receiving end of this and it can feel upsetting or annoying. But this is not only a Woman’s issue by any means.
One of the things that hurt me the most in my past relationship is that I would open up to my ex and when we disagree he will refer back to what I opened up to him...I would have destroyed him with what he was vulnerable to me but I chose robe strong and mature about things
#this has affected me a lot Its hard for me to open up but I am learning
Same here! This was the biggest reason why ultimately I didn’t feel protected / safe / secure with him. I went out of my own to prove and show I will NEVER use someone’s vulnerabilities against them, not even in turmoil. However, he would throw back in my face my WORST faults / flaws and mean every single word, seething with hatred. I would remain tight lipped, not doing the same or what people call “getting equal” because it would NEVER make me feel good or “equal” to destroy someone with their own vulnerabilities they trusted me with. I decided to take the high road and realized he would never be someone I could be open with again. He later went on telling me in jokingly way “you always have your little secrets” and I truly did, which broke my heart that I realized I didn’t trust him at all. I didn’t trust his words nor his behavior. I stayed in that relationship though, despite there being no trust from my side (no vulnerability basically) and no respect on his side towards me. Failed from the start.
I’m so glad to see you’re a person with integrity and maturity.
This very same thing happened for me. I would be vulnerable and share everything and he would be very nasty in throwing it back at me. I ended up not sharing anymore.
@@kellyduncan310That’s me right now
@@animoni7 God has healed me and every soul tie is broken,I am willing to love again and be what God has called me to be❣️
One person cares more, other person plays or just wants something. It just goes together maybe for a potential lesson to learn 😄
The last part of this segment was so beautiful 🥰. Communication is Abt sharing you all's life together. We're not alone in this, we're a team 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
My exhusband, would "throw things back at me" for any kind of communication that proposed of improvement between us, or anything emotional from me. The end of the marriage was depressing and the person I used to share everything with,, I could not even say to him my emotions. He never expressed his emotions or thoughts well, even though I was always understanding and caring. Please, all of you,, communicate with your partner how to talk with each other in a healthy way.
what does it mean to throw things back at someone?
@@hayatmaleeha He explained it in the video. To use one's admissions or words against them in the future. Rather than learning, growing and trying to communicate healthy,, the person will always use the past conversation as a negative speech towards you. Repeat the same argument, never grow. It is very damaging to the mental health, over time the person trying to share their thoughts and emotions is learning the other person is not having empathy towards them. In most cases.
I agreed what you're saying and both of us was open and transparent but, the other had someone on the side unknown to you; and you were open, and accepted his flaws. Ended the relationship to 'sort himself out ', but with someone else.
Cheating bastard then.
This is not working on yourself by being with someone else. If you don't take the time by yourself, you can never have true love, but that is if you want it.
WHEN WE THROW IT BACK IN YOUR FACE, IT’S BECAUSE WHAT HE DID IS STILL RESONATING. AND ITS TO HOLD HIM ACCOUNTABLE & RESPONSIBLE. Once he makes amends for it, then we’re good.
Modern women justifying their shitty behavior
I stay quiet and listen… I don’t open up to my feelings with him - boundaries have been set… Awake mindful and aware!!!
Had plenty of men do that to me too. Works both ways~
Interesting discussion/ topic
Men do open up, mostly with other men who they trust and who will be less judgmental.
And unless I’m discerning this all wrong, and please I am not making you wrong, it sounds almost like a “contradiction”.
Men are raised or instilled to be “masculine” and “stoic”. To express oneself as a man, to show and/ or reveal vulnerability is discouraged especially with a woman. There has perhaps been times where a man has done so and for compelling reasons but despite this the woman instead of being caring and understanding has instead been judgemental and loses respect for the man.
And you would say in response to this all to common scenario , she was NOT the right woman to be with.
Men are different yet they are emotional beings and find it challenging to express themselves and/ or communicate where they at.
Plus as the late Dr Myles Munroe put it, while women crave love, men crave and need respect, and if by showing vulnerability or expressing themselves to (wrong) woman threatens that, they would rather bottled up.
Don't date nor get married. Buy a dog. They are very loyal and show their owners a great deal of respect.
Men saying ‘as a woman you should’ and women saying ‘as a man you should’ is so problematic, it makes me giggle every time & then I stop listening. 😅
Can we get examples of what throwing things back is? I think some people use this in the wrong context.
I’m about to throw these ads back in your face! 😂
They interrupt good stuff all the time! 😤
great video and yes, I need to work on not being so vulnerable to give in, when I'm just getting used for the moment. thank you 🙏🏼 for understanding..
Stephan, you have such wisdom. I so appreciate your approach and style. You are amazing
I was told that I threw things back in his face but even just referring back to a conversation we had or asking a question is throwing something in his face. According go to him
He says everything is being thrown in his face.
I’ve never judged him for the things he’s gone through and opened up about. I never looked down on him. I genuinely felt for him but he didn’t believe me
I met someone and he asks me very personal questions and when I ask the same questions back he won’t talk or he says he is going to bed. He asked me about my divorce and about why I have to have a man share so U can feel trusted. She asked me the last person I slept with I was honest. When Ivasked him he said nope not telling you. This is so one sided and he keeps telling me I’d be better in his bed. I am not going to go to no many’s bed who won’t open up to me about himself. It feels unfair. I told him be vulnerable with me. Match me and you can’t build a foundation it chant be on uneven ground. I am about to walk away if he can’t answer the questions he is asking me.
Run, that guy’s a narcissist
You should talk about the texting world we are in.and how it can be difficult to fall in love thru text communication
To a degree depending on the subject matter I'm sensitive in bringing things up only to prove a point and not as an attack, it's holding the other person accountable.😕
One of your best videos yet. Thank you for putting to words what I’ve been needing to hear.
I think it’s tough because men can exist for decades in relationships (friendships, families, work) without ever opening up and not experience many negative consequences because it’s fairly accepted by society. So when someone comes along that is open and encourages openness it’s very difficult for them to see the value in that. If you’ve never done it, how do you know it will improve things, especially when it requires a lot of change and struggle to do?
I dislike the fact that I can see where I still have room for improvement but that is ego and I want to rise above my old ways.
We are a team, we are together 🥰🙏❤️🔥🌹🦁☀️🍯🕊️
I think we as women throw things back up in their face because it was never addressed. We argued, yes. Resolved it, no. I've been in arguments before where we argued about leaving the seat up, for example, why he did, why I didn't look first, but a solution never came. Such as, babe, im sorry, ill be more mindful in the future. End of the argument and we can move on from that issue. I try to listen and then we come up with a solution.
I use to do that, and I found this is a way to lose the trust of the man you love. And I hope he does because it's what our separation has been about and it's to become a better person.
Alot of times women tell a man through indirect means that he cannot trust her with his emotions. Most men usually tested or observed within first couple months on if they could tell their gf things
Why are men with women they cannot trust and cannot tell things to?
Thank you so much for this video Stephen. I broke up with my boyfriend spontaneously after letting things build up inside. These are unresolved issues from past relationships and I projected my past issues on him. I just couldn’t believe he could love me so much. It was self-sabotage. Although I’m in therapy, and I’ve started to address these issues, this is the 3rd I’ve done this in the last 6 months. I feel horrible. How can I hurt someone I love so much? I apologized and we are talking in a couple of days. I know I’ve shown myself to be unsafe. I regret what I’ve said, I continue to confess and ask God to forgive me and help me change my ways, as I continue therapy. Do you have any advice how to approach this apology/conversation? Do you think I have any chance of getting him back?
You can only get what is meant for you. I hope that you move forward in building your relationship in a healthy way. But be happy that you’re putting in effort to change for the better if things don’t go the way you hope with your ex.
Just curious Amy, how are you? Pray that you have healed and forgiven yourself also. Making an effort to help someone heal from a past relationship is honorable in itself. Give them time to forgive and if it's meant to be God will let you know. Don't stop growing and moving forward.🙏🙏😇 If for some reason he is not willing to speak with you as Stephen says writing a letter may be a good way to clear the air and allow yourself to release the past.
Hope you figured this out. Sounds like it could be attachment or trauma and I know from experience. Thais Gibson is really good on this
I cannot lie to my husband without him calling me out on it....
Yes Lord hallelujah, healing is awesome 👌✌️🙏 ThankYou 🍯
This has been all vise versa.. he throws every little thing back in my face! I beg him to speak up because I talk all the time. He even said I talk too much 🤣 and no one wants to hear my opinion 24/7! I'm me...I just don't think we mesh anymore! 😕
Thank you so much. This is one of the best videos so far
In my experience men throw things back in my face. Or use my past bad experiences against me. So not only women reproach. This has changed me, I am no longer trusting or open.
This is so very good video I'm actually going n dealing with thus right now with guy that I'm dating I'm being very patient n understanding with him I'm giving him his time n space he appreciates that but it's so hard n tough i really like this guy i wish he would feel more comfortable to open up to me so it's a very tough. Hard n complicated situation i will see what happens just hoping for the best taking it with calmness, kind , patience , understanding
Accurate. 💯 everything you've advised my man now does. It takes two 💕
Yes yes !! This is really helpful.. 🙏🏾😘
If they don't wanna open up Stephen, let them shut up forever 😆😆
Ong 💯
Great Message!!❤️
Thanks Steph for always sharing the hitter truth.
Soooooo,,, wat if he keep throwing it back at you?😤
“Throw it back in their face”. I don’t understand. What does this mean? Using his emotions against him? Calling him out for bad behavior? Depends on what perspective you’re coming from doesn’t it? Demanding that he own up to his shady behavior isn’t betrayal it’s accountability, right? I never spread my private issues in public, don’t believe in that.
Men don’t have a problem communicating their emotions or what’s bothering them to me!
I don’t even ask them they just talk to me 😅
I would beg to differ about women using information men share against due to the fact that’s a HUMAN thing. There are plenty of fellas that have used pertinent information against a woman who has shared it with them in confidence
ABSOLUTELY IT WORKS BOTH WAYS 😊💙❤🙏
“bUt, this is about you today” 😁👍🏾☺️
PREACH!!!
I’ve never had a problem with a man opening up to me. They not healing is the problem
What if he opens up and said he cheated? How are you going to reconcile that? I would love to hear
It's had to make a man open up becoz he pulls back i just let him do what he want instead of stressing my life on someone who don't open up . When a man truly loves you he will be able to communicate with you very well
Exactly! Imagine begging an adult to do something? Nah.
He literally doesn’t listen to me
Is ‘throw it back in your face’ misconstrued accountability? I’m genuinely asking because I know the saying is subjectively defined by one’s perception which could be based purely on the sensitivities of the person grappling with effective communication.
Could someone (preferably a man) please give me an example?
What does throw it back to their face? Like embarrass?
Amen 🙏! Communication is 🔑. You should, be able 🙏 too 👄 about anything with your 👨, he should be your best friend.
Enjoyed The Commentary
The problem is meeee! I don’t want to Rock the love boat but I need to bc I’m a feeling person
This one is a good one!! Help me not to bring these things up later!!
Matt I couldn’t agree with you more. Also the man tho he gets what he PUSHED at her for by PRESSURING & WEASELING the woman, at the SAME time he (the weasel) will Now disrespect her inside his head.
I’m sorry Matt but, women are emotional but, MEN ARE THE REAL CRAZY GAME PLAYERS.
Yes so true I like to listen to u your so on it
Amazing video. Do you offer one to one advice?
But it seem ok for men to throw things back in your face and sometimes its the man that created it in the first place.i have lessons to learn to but I won't let a man tell me off,especially if he's doing it to...
What does “throwing back in his face” mean? I wish there was an example in the video to help me understand better.
For instance he tells you something very, deep about himself and then a few months later you say, you are no good remember what you told me then and then, using his confesssion against him
💯 all truth
I just realized I screwed up.
Don’t generalize all women don’t “ throw it back” in their faces. BTW, men “ throw it back” in our faces too.
THATS A FACT DONT CHAT TO ME THROUGH A POST SMH 🤦♀️
💯 agree ❤️
Sadly in my experience it’s the man doing that. Down to looking for information while dating to alter use it agains the woman.
1 minute in and i hear a bunch of fluff that doesn't tackle the real issue.
Yeah men or women should throw anything somebody's trying to talk about in their face. If they're trying to understand they should simply repeat what they're saying and say what they think they're trying to say, like for example the guy says I don't like the way to leave the toothpaste glitter off the woman to say so you're saying you don't like the fact that I'd leave off the cap and the toothpaste? Is it because it can get Jeremy and come out on the counter and you have you feel you have to clean it? And that annoys you? I understand I will try to do my best to put the lid on I apologize
Why on earth would anyone feel comfortable being vulnerable when personal and private information have ended up on UA-cam?! 🤔
Men do this also.Then say you talk too much.
Look at that hair honey!!! Getting lengthy
PeopleLink communicate. Women should be able to be heard by their man, and men should be able to be heard without retribution by their women otherwise how else will they learn to understand each other