Did you know you have an imposter commenting on posts from your subscriber base? They have the same image and profile name as you do but they clearly aren’t you.
@@sscales70 yeah it’s the same account name and picture you can only tell because when you click the account they only have 1 subscriber. But they were giving fake generic prophesies.
Yes....when a man is interested and wants to commit....he will almost get on your nerves with time n attention...calls n text 😂😂....he will want to take you OFF the market 💯
I finally can claim and approve this message I almost missed out due to my healing He makes me soft feel safe my input matters my feelings My breakup was 7/26/22 I 🙏🏾 I cried I dated but he was persistent for months He not my type but neither was the EX I AM HAPPY
We broke it off yesterday. Had a fantastic, wonderful weekend together, I brought it up for the third time (after almost a year of talking and meeting 2 other times in person, we were LDR 4 hours ish) and he said along the lines of "lets keep moving forward, see where it goes" kind of thing. And I couldnt do it anymore. We broke it off back in August, and he came back because he missed me(same reasons, he was unsure/uneasy) and this was the third time he hesitated and I had to finally say no. I miss him terribly, but youre right. My husband would want to date me. This man had too many health issues/self esteem issues to commit.
Yes. I never understood why she kept asking me that but now I understand. She sensed my hesitancy no matter how good I tried to pretend it wasn't there. I am trying to become the true man.
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not! 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
He is definitely willing to say he is your man. I know a lot a adults think titles are high school, but a man who wants to be with you is willing to be a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. There is no confusion in my experience.
A man who wants to commit will if he is ready or not because if you’re not ready, you make yourself ready otherwise he’s allowing for another man to have a chance with you
This is right on time. I’ve been “dating” (and I use thy term very loosely) a man since February and it’s been nothing but confusion, chaos, hurt feelings, etc. I’m always asking, “what are we” and telling him how to treat me. I finally decided to walk away because I realized that he wasn’t serious about me, he just wanted to keep me for himself without any commitment. Over these wish washy men and can’t wait to find the one who’s willing to commit.
@@rachellecohen4188 stay strong. It’s hard. I went back and he treated me even worse. The day we broke up, and old flame reached out to me and has treated me like a princess ever since. YOU deserve the best and it’s out there!! I promise ❤️
I was in same situation. Thank God for Stephens vid and prayer and me doing the shadow work. I refuse to bring that toxic energy into 2023. Good luck ❤
I was looking into at another dating coach ‘s video and it looks like in America only 20 % of heterosexual men are interested in long term commitment and /or marriage .The rest are basically wishy-washy types .😮
I’ve been listening to you for a while Stephan while I was in an old toxic relationship, then single, and eventually met my other half who I am with now. He was serious from the get go and did every single thing you mentioned here. He gave us a title after the second date and said he wanted to only focus on us. And let’s get to know each other and grow etc. and that’s just what we did. There was no question if I was his girlfriend or not. He had no problem throwing a title on anything and I was mind blown because it was so rare to come across it! I was like is he for real? Lol but I trusted and was so happy I did! There really are men out there even in their 30’s that want to just live a peaceful life with a great partner. I’ve been blessed to the fullest and boy am I glad I got out of my own way while I was single and even when I was dating again in the sense that I really pushed myself to work on my flaws and change any bad habits I might’ve had. Hell it isn’t easy, but that along with POSITIVITY, is very attractive to a man looking to find a partner to build with. Loved this video Stephan! It was straight to the point and solid facts!
Hi , you make a valid point , "am I glad I got out of my own way"...wise words...I have know doubt , my boyfriend gave us a title and 16mths later it keeps growing...!!....✌️🌟...
If a man makes you feel confused, he is wasting your time and eroding your self esteem! It's VERY simple: always judge a person by their ACTIONS, and you will never EVER be fooled by their words... 1. Know your value!!! (Do NOT doubt yourself.) 2. Take yourself and your worth seriously. You need to BE A QUEEN to be treated like one. 3. Don’t give easy access. Access to your energy should be expensive. 4. Do NOT only EXPRESS your boundaries. YOU MUST show them. 5. Always be ready to walk away. 6. Show that you are focused on actions not on words. 7. Have a healthy degree of skepticism. 8. You must be willing to say NO and you must be willing to lose the man, if needed. 9. Never EVER chase a man! A truly worthy woman, does not EVER chase a man. Giving the same energy that you're getting is key and if you don't like that energy then move on! NOW! It can be hard but that's when you need to choose yourself over the damn illusion/fantasy. A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. Simple. Simple. Non-dramatic and uncomplicated. I don’t, under any circumstance: play these childish-abusive-controlling mind games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen, I AM. (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!) Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. Also, We create each moment. This moment contains, through my focus, both positive and negative... I can put my attention on what I lack, what I don't have, what traumas I do have etc... And, I can put my attention on the calm moment that I am in, NOW, the food I just ate, and the fact that my body is satisfied, the shelter I do have... (You get my idea!) Both are here... And now. For the sake of fairness, I will allow myself to cry my pains, in the moment if/when they come/arise, AND also acknowledge the beauty I still have in my life NOW. Pain? Yes. Suffering? Indeed. And, also: wonderous magical divine beauty. Blessings to you!
My guy was nervous about committing too soon because he had a previous marriage that was really chaotic and toxic. But he did ask to be exclusive, he did cut off all other women, he did delete his dating app within about a month. And then he made it official. He was just trying to make sure that he could trust his own judgment but he did make it known that he was serious about me before he committed. I did let him know that I was OK with us dating and deciding what we’re doing but I have a deadline on how long I’ll let something be in limbo. Basically if we are still just seeing each other and there’s no label after about six months, I will leave no matter how good it is. He made things official in about two but he pretty much considers us in a relationship from the day we met.
@@EciMajic Wow. That is so awesome! But, it may be best to keep that under wraps as guys will be guys when it comes to these things. I always remember that episode of friends where Monica makes that wedding reservation like a year in advance and Chandler happens to hear the message on the answering machine when the lady calls! 😂 but, I am really happy for you and your guy :-)
Usually when you meet someone that person is a frequency match with your own... So if you're in the energy of uncertainty doubt and confusion for example... that person that you meet is going to mirror the same traits because you're a frequency match so it helps to make sure that you are the person you desire as your counterpart aside from all the other obvious aspects...
I totally agree. There are MANY men that want committed relationships/marriage… ive had a couple express this to me but im on the fence… been married twice already.. 😩
This is really good!🔥 I’ll know if he’s the right one! There will be a spiritual connection!🌟THANK YOU LORD IN ADVANCE!🙌🏽 Thank you, Stephan for being the light in the darkness! You’re very much appreciated, respected, and loved more than you know! GOD BLESS YOUR HEART!🙏🏽❤️
I just started back dating....and when I sta it's scary cause I wonder how we're going to end but at the same time I'm not worried about because at the end of the day I love me and I great being along if God has that plan for me
Pray’n & Manifesting…Had to get my life together & at 47 I’m ready….5:45 was so me: I’ve missed out on some possible relationships b/c of it…Now making better & wiser decisions thank God…Breaking generational curses & teachings…
I'm not there on dating yet. But I have noticed the different approach I get now. More mature, wanting to know me, and since of humor. I didn't at first cause of negative things I saw but now I'm believing someone is out there for me. Just being patient and humble 💯🙏. I continue to listen and take in every video I watch keeps me grounded. Thank you
Awww. Well thank you you are very busy man and I see that. But I thank you for your guidance I've come a long way and I pray that you keep doing what you do and be blessed with that woman God has for you cuz you are a blessing to everyone ❤️
Thank you for solidifying his behavior. I thought it was real for him. He constantly text me, call me. And wants to talk to me everyday, says its important to him. What a letdown that was.
I totally agree people's believe Social Media put too much inferences on Negative thought's. Materialism plays a factor as well .They often look certain couple's assume they having going on. Want to be them. Peoples never tell all ❤
I love you Stephan for spreading the knowledge. Awareness is the 🗝️ to a healthy relationship. Men are learning Amen. Women are learning Amen. We are growing because of your work. Thank you God for Stephan's teachings.
He told me 2 days ago, that he’s content with me and happy with what we have going on. We both agreed to if we get into a relationship, then it happens. It’s an agreement between the both of us on what we want. No rush. I have to get to know you, ppl put on mask everyday just to get what they want from a woman
Casual/fwb/friend zoned is not an option for me any more....a title is what I want and I don't want to wait for him to figure it out. He could be holding me up from the one that does and is ready and okay with a title.....Is this topic on the level where I can initiate asking him "can we make us officially romantically in a relationship? "
Your advice has saved me from a situation that was bad fie me. A man who didn't communicate. I prayed to God for a sign if he was right for me....the next day he texted me and cancelled in me ,,no explanation othe that I'll call you tomorrow. I was done, went to a picnic and net thw most wonderful man in sooooo many ways. I believe he was truly heaven sent
When you say, "You deserve..." let's please keep in mind that there are quite a few bad women these days, who don't deserve a good man. Such women need to focus on improving themselves morally, emotionally, spiritually, & intellectually so they can be worthy of a good man. A great book is "Being A Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love" by Dr Toni Grant.
This guy is just so good. If I ever want a dating coach, I am definitely going to seek him out! Not sure if it was in this video or another one, but too funny when he was like a lot of women have been contaminated by this advice to find a man who loves them more than they love him. So true, and I always thought that was the weirdest advice!
Hey, thank you for this! How about when dating someone for five months and you have "the talk" and he's like, we're going to have you move in together within a year now and then get married... And I'm like, whoa, I just want a boyfriend. And a good one at that. LoL. I just think he was emotionally clueless when it came to dating. That's what I get for dating a divorcee who was pulled through the ringer by his ex. I still scratch my head at this, though. He acted so interested for a commitment phobe. I finally let him go. Bye Felicia!
Were exclusive. Been 3 months and I'm okay with no labels. We're getting to know each other. Taking it slow but our commitment is to each other and see where it goes .
Just ran across this video ❤. So thankful for having a secure and loving man. Relationships are never perfect, however communication and compromise makes awesome sense without having to take from your own individuality. No title can make you happy 🎉
Not jaded but I’ve been love-bombed before. It’s difficult to discern at times who’s showing genuine interest and thus keeps pursuing me (calling/text) vs who’s love-bombing you for his narcissistic desires only
I have been in a narcissistic relationship and now seeing someone who is genuinely pouring in his energy. Love bombing is one sided they control the contact and texts they are only allowed to initiate contact don't dare disturb them. The relationship will flow at their pace not yours. Someone who is genuine will match your energy not control it
I think it’s about your individual situation… we don’t specifically have a title but we are absolutely committed and planning our future all the signs are there the words aren’t there… for example how do you looking going from marriage to a “boyfriend” we committed and loyal and not dating others and that’s that … Great segment
EXACTLY!!!! We are not you ladies...if we're genuinely interested in you...you won't run us off or turn us off if you show us interest or whatever. We will only run off if we see something negative in you that we don't like. Simple as that.
So Jay I have a question for you. What do you think is going on with a man who is in a committed relationship with a woman long distance-started out seeing her once a month, buying groceries or food for her when he’s there, paid a few of her bills, gave her money for recreation with one of her friends, paid to get her lawn cut, took her to several family events, bought her a $300 bracelet for Christmas BUT did not spend Valentines with her because he said he’d texted n called and he didn’t hear from her. Also took her on a 3 day vacation with him and his family in May, came and spent Fourth of July with her and her family even surprised her with a new bbq grill and gave her $200. Her birthday and his birthday rolls around in August he did not call or text her nor give her a gift for her birthday. She had to text him he talks to her for almost an hour repeating the same song as after Valentines that he’d called and texted and she didn’t respond. To make a king story short there have been some phone issues between them possibly due to the 1 1/2 distance between them and he doesn’t work a typical 9-5 job he gets paid under table for doing odd jobs he has told her before that he didn’t like being around when he can’t do for those he lives and that he didn’t feel good enough and that he can’t be broke around her. All the while he’s talked of marriage with her asking her to set a date for them. She hasn’t seen him since the Fourth of July and got tired and frustrated and felt it was more to the birthday no show and the fact he keeps talking marriage but is not showing up to see her in two months. I know this is rather long but from a male POV what do you think? Oh yea she broke it off with him a week ago due to all this.
@@Michellemybell739 WOW!!! Sorry to be sooo late in my reply. I didn't see this message until now. It was a lot...but my guess was that he probably likes her...but may be entertaining other women...or another woman at the time. That's my guess. But idk. Lmk tye update on their relationship now...if they are still nor together or what. Thanks! Ttyl
? Jay. I see you chiming in here do wanted to get your thoughts on this...Boyfriend is 2hrs away and I felt the need to ask him what are we..he said Im his girlfriend but I hardly see him now and he seems to be stingy. I have never brrn a matrrialistic person but I asked him to cash app me just to see if he cared to do it but instead I got sent a song. Smh Lol..am I wrong for thinking he isn't that into me? Btw been together 2yrs all together after 2 break up
What about a long distance relationship? We can't see each other very often but will meet from a far distance but it's hard to say what will happen because the distance makes it difficult to be committed to know the future because it would require a move across the world on his part but he talks like he really would like it to work and gives me a lot of attention, is going to visit me as often as he can, and says he loves me. But due to the distance and not actually being together in person he doesn't say officially that I'm his girlfriend. Also he's in college so he has to finish before he can make any longterm plans but hints at the future. Or is it still the same thing as mentioned in the video, regardless of the distance?? Please answer I would appreciate it!!
I'm in one now AFTER I SWORE I WOULD NEVER AGAIN 😅😅.I will say that even though it's long distance, everything is still the same. I was informed of his intent the first conversation. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife and anything we do or discuss will be for that purpose. He asks sooooo many questions about me and I love every bit of it. He told me it's VERY important to meet his pastors. I was like great because you have to meet mine too. When I say meet I mean online. We decided to keep us private for now which means we only told our pastors our parents and a few close ppl. They have agreed to pray and cover us. Then as time gets closer we will announce our engagement.
This is really good but I've never had anyone I like ever show interest in even being friends. The ones I meet are already unavailable or committed. Or maybe I'm not meeting enough people?? I'm giving up 😭😭
I'm so sorry about this. I actually was in a situation where for years I got into a pattern of only attracting unavailable guys. I know it's not the same as men not showing interest towards you at all or just wanting to friend you.. But when I addressed certain things within myself, it made all the difference. I talk about some of it on my channel.
That was happening to me. I was told I was in the wrong kind of pond. That's where knowing you and knowing what God has purposes for you to do comes in. Knowing your purpose will help you to understand the kind of ppl to be around.
I don't know a single woman who is a fan of serial dating. They (we) all want a committed relationship, and don't want to play the game of how other men are interested in us in order to keep our man focused on us. It's more like "you and me, exclusively."
If someone wants you know ! you don't Need a sign . For its made clear but it must have balance both must be reading from the same page . I feel if you are first happy with in then I believe it naturally follows in retrospect you don't Need to try nor convince if they want to be around you .
Yes men don't need to tell other people what they're doing, especially other men. Because they're raised to look masculine they have to look masculine regardless of how sensitive they are or they'll be afraid that others will look at them as less masculine or manly
Im not saying there are not good people out there. I just dont have the desire to deal with liars and dishonesty its to much to deal with so i just stay single
My Fiance and I are in our sixty and seventy he want us to get marry,but he doesn't like to be asked even a single question. He gets upset, and makes Silly jokes About me.I have spoken to him On several occasions about it.However he seen not to understand what I'm saying to him he thinks everything is a joke. Stephen what do you think I should do to stop this kinda of behavior.
What about the guy who used to do casual hookups and stopped when he met you? How do I trust him? He hooked up one day before meeting me in real life. Help!
Gurl find another guy that is not into casual hookups. A dog will always be a dog. Don’t put yourself in a position where you can’t trust him, it’s not worth it and you will constantly be worried and on edge.
If a man really cares about a woman, then his actions will show it. Example: If it were reversed and I was a man who was interested in a woman and I knew that she doesn't prefer to meet me online, whether it be a dating app or a channel such as yours, I would be willing to find another method to contact her. Obviously in this case we would already have met and seen each other, so we would know where each one lives and enough about our lives. If need be and I cared about and really loved her, I would be patient and wait for her to move to my town and state when she would be able to do so. That is if I were a man. Even though I am not I would respect his wishes on not wanting to communicate online and would be patient enough for him to come to me if need be. If we truly are meant to be together, then it will happen somehow someway, not because of someone else trying to make it happen
What should be the steps once he tells me to keep on knowing each other to create a better bound and not to have a failure of relationship in a future because he’s not ready to have a relationship?
I was with a man for 8 yrs whom I love deeply & still do to this day though he broke my heart to pieces a couple of weeks ago when he left me < he says we are separated > But … still tells me though how much he loves me, still hold my hand when we meet & still kisses me .. when I asked him .. what we are ? are we friends or more than that ? .. his answered is .. we are not friends, you are my ~ said my name ~ im sooo confused … I feel he leaves me wanting to know what I am in his life. I hate this feeling … Stephen .. please help me !
Can a long distance relationship work if I’ve known him for 7 yrs and yes I’ve meet him he moved for a job when he was married and still trying to get his masters degree and he was a military guy and moved for a job with great benefits and pay .. is it possible if so please give advice as to how I should proceed with care and respect
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Did you know you have an imposter commenting on posts from your subscriber base? They have the same image and profile name as you do but they clearly aren’t you.
@@AB-bc9tf Totally agree!! It’s actually annoying…, I’ve reported too.
@@AB-bc9tf 😮
It just happened to me with two different numbers.
@@sscales70 yeah it’s the same account name and picture you can only tell because when you click the account they only have 1 subscriber. But they were giving fake generic prophesies.
Yes....when a man is interested and wants to commit....he will almost get on your nerves with time n attention...calls n text 😂😂....he will want to take you OFF the market 💯
Sometimes.. smart men know to take their time while still moving forward.. your milage might vary
Sounds like my type of guy lol
@AliSand
Time; take everything slow
@AliSand follow your gut, when u remove emotion, u see him logically, wait for a few months (6-12 months)
I finally can claim and approve this message
I almost missed out due to my healing
He makes me soft feel safe my input matters my feelings
My breakup was 7/26/22 I 🙏🏾 I cried I dated but he was persistent for months
He not my type but neither was the EX
I AM HAPPY
We broke it off yesterday. Had a fantastic, wonderful weekend together, I brought it up for the third time (after almost a year of talking and meeting 2 other times in person, we were LDR 4 hours ish) and he said along the lines of "lets keep moving forward, see where it goes" kind of thing. And I couldnt do it anymore. We broke it off back in August, and he came back because he missed me(same reasons, he was unsure/uneasy) and this was the third time he hesitated and I had to finally say no. I miss him terribly, but youre right. My husband would want to date me. This man had too many health issues/self esteem issues to commit.
I think when a man wants to commit to you his actions will show it!!
Absolutely
A true man would not allow you to be in a position to have to ask him, 'What are we?' Therefore showing you that he recognizes your worth and value.❤️
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Yes. I never understood why she kept asking me that but now I understand. She sensed my hesitancy no matter how good I tried to pretend it wasn't there. I am trying to become the true man.
You know right!!!😅😅...
What are we??😂😂
Exactly right!❤
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If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not!
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
I just pray a great man comes in my life who wants something real.
I know I'm a loyal, honest and trustworthy woman. I want the same characteristics in a man.
Amen
Me toooo!!
Me too
Exactly.
*If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.*
What if they come back only to have to let them go again....broken...hurt men are the worst.....
if they come back to you, it means no one else wanted them!!1🤣
@@julz7753 🤣
@@julz7753that’s not true you know how many people there are in this world? Please.
He is definitely willing to say he is your man. I know a lot a adults think titles are high school, but a man who wants to be with you is willing to be a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. There is no confusion in my experience.
A man who wants to commit will if he is ready or not because if you’re not ready, you make yourself ready otherwise he’s allowing for another man to have a chance with you
I met a guy finally who seems very serious ! It’s a little scary but it feels right .
VERY SCARY! I hope you get good & healthy vibes!! Trust the process & be comfortable with whatever the outcome is! You got this!!
Right! A too good to be true type of feeling.
This is right on time. I’ve been “dating” (and I use thy term very loosely) a man since February and it’s been nothing but confusion, chaos, hurt feelings, etc. I’m always asking, “what are we” and telling him how to treat me. I finally decided to walk away because I realized that he wasn’t serious about me, he just wanted to keep me for himself without any commitment. Over these wish washy men and can’t wait to find the one who’s willing to commit.
Good for you. Gives me inspiration
@@rachellecohen4188 stay strong. It’s hard. I went back and he treated me even worse. The day we broke up, and old flame reached out to me and has treated me like a princess ever since. YOU deserve the best and it’s out there!! I promise ❤️
I was in same situation. Thank God for Stephens vid and prayer and me doing the shadow work. I refuse to bring that toxic energy into 2023. Good luck ❤
I was looking into at another dating coach ‘s video and it looks like in America only 20 % of heterosexual men are interested in long term commitment and /or marriage .The rest are basically wishy-washy types .😮
@@moonfish8229 that’s very unsettling!
I’ve been listening to you for a while Stephan while I was in an old toxic relationship, then single, and eventually met my other half who I am with now. He was serious from the get go and did every single thing you mentioned here. He gave us a title after the second date and said he wanted to only focus on us. And let’s get to know each other and grow etc. and that’s just what we did. There was no question if I was his girlfriend or not. He had no problem throwing a title on anything and I was mind blown because it was so rare to come across it! I was like is he for real? Lol but I trusted and was so happy I did! There really are men out there even in their 30’s that want to just live a peaceful life with a great partner. I’ve been blessed to the fullest and boy am I glad I got out of my own way while I was single and even when I was dating again in the sense that I really pushed myself to work on my flaws and change any bad habits I might’ve had. Hell it isn’t easy, but that along with POSITIVITY, is very attractive to a man looking to find a partner to build with.
Loved this video Stephan! It was straight to the point and solid facts!
So beautiful ❤ hoping to find this one day
Congrats!!!
Love that for you 😻
Hi , you make a valid point , "am I glad I got out of my own way"...wise words...I have know doubt , my boyfriend gave us a title and 16mths later it keeps growing...!!....✌️🌟...
If a man makes you feel confused,
he is wasting your time
and eroding your self esteem!
It's VERY simple:
always judge a person by their ACTIONS,
and you will never EVER be fooled by their words...
1. Know your value!!! (Do NOT doubt yourself.)
2. Take yourself and your worth seriously. You need to BE A QUEEN to be treated like one.
3. Don’t give easy access. Access to your energy should be expensive.
4. Do NOT only EXPRESS your boundaries. YOU MUST show them.
5. Always be ready to walk away.
6. Show that you are focused on actions not on words.
7. Have a healthy degree of skepticism.
8. You must be willing to say NO and you must be willing to lose the man, if needed.
9. Never EVER chase a man! A truly worthy woman, does not EVER chase a man.
Giving the same energy that you're getting
is key
and if you don't like that energy
then move on! NOW!
It can be hard
but that's when you need to choose yourself
over the damn illusion/fantasy.
A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
So...
If he ignores me
I will step back
and he will lose me.
Simple. Simple.
Non-dramatic
and uncomplicated.
I don’t,
under any circumstance:
play these childish-abusive-controlling
mind games.
I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
(Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
who knows my worth.
Period.
Also,
We create each moment.
This moment contains,
through my focus,
both positive and negative...
I can put my attention on what I lack,
what I don't have,
what traumas I do have etc...
And,
I can put my attention on the calm moment that I am in, NOW,
the food I just ate, and the fact that my body is satisfied, the shelter I do have...
(You get my idea!)
Both are here...
And now.
For the sake of fairness,
I will allow myself to cry my pains, in the moment
if/when they come/arise,
AND
also acknowledge the beauty I still have in my life NOW.
Pain? Yes.
Suffering? Indeed.
And,
also:
wonderous magical divine beauty.
Blessings to you!
My guy was nervous about committing too soon because he had a previous marriage that was really chaotic and toxic. But he did ask to be exclusive, he did cut off all other women, he did delete his dating app within about a month. And then he made it official. He was just trying to make sure that he could trust his own judgment but he did make it known that he was serious about me before he committed.
I did let him know that I was OK with us dating and deciding what we’re doing but I have a deadline on how long I’ll let something be in limbo. Basically if we are still just seeing each other and there’s no label after about six months, I will leave no matter how good it is. He made things official in about two but he pretty much considers us in a relationship from the day we met.
🙌🏾💯♥️
Same story here :)
So sweet. Sounds like a standup guy who is honest with himself and other people. 👍
@@claritywellnesscoaching768 he really is. I’m pretty confident this relationship is going to lead to marriage
@@EciMajic Wow. That is so awesome! But, it may be best to keep that under wraps as guys will be guys when it comes to these things. I always remember that episode of friends where Monica makes that wedding reservation like a year in advance and Chandler happens to hear the message on the answering machine when the lady calls! 😂 but, I am really happy for you and your guy :-)
Usually when you meet someone that person is a frequency match with your own... So if you're in the energy of uncertainty doubt and confusion for example... that person that you meet is going to mirror the same traits because you're a frequency match so it helps to make sure that you are the person you desire as your counterpart aside from all the other obvious aspects...
I love that you understand this 🏆
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That makes sense
Someone asked a guy the question “what are we?!” He’s response was “we are the world,we are the children” 😂😂 the Michael Jackson song
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I haven’t found one in 57 years now, all the men I run across want hook ups and friends with benefits. I’m a relationship type of women.
You’re a Good example that good men do still exist!🙌
Can you PLEASE do a video on what an appropriate timeline is to go from dating to a relationship?
I totally agree. There are MANY men that want committed relationships/marriage… ive had a couple express this to me but im on the fence… been married twice already.. 😩
Yes I agree, I’ve met plenty of men who are commitment ready and vocalize iy
Sounds like you need help choosing men, should stay single til you understand yourself and what you need.
You deserve a King, not a Scrub.
Lol 😂 🎶" a scrub is a guy that cant get no love from me...hanging out the passenger side of his best friend ride....trying to holla at me" 🎶
Absolutely... ONLY if she holds the stature of a Queen though 😏... she might be a scrub feeling entitled to a King 😆 Lol
@@beefaye6861 a scrub is a guy who thinks he's fly and also known as a busta 😂💯
@@sunkissed335 lol 😂😂😂😂😭😭
This is really good!🔥
I’ll know if he’s the right one! There will be a spiritual connection!🌟THANK YOU LORD IN ADVANCE!🙌🏽
Thank you, Stephan for being the light in the darkness! You’re very much appreciated, respected, and loved more than you know!
GOD BLESS YOUR HEART!🙏🏽❤️
I gave up on men a long time ago. I’m very happy. Being single I get to date myself. Lol
I just started back dating....and when I sta it's scary cause I wonder how we're going to end but at the same time I'm not worried about because at the end of the day I love me and I great being along if God has that plan for me
@@sadiefrazier9314 Hallelujah
@AliSand 😂😂It’s better
Why are you here? Just curious
@@livefromtheground7274 Hey I put lol. It’s a joke.
Pray’n & Manifesting…Had to get my life together & at 47 I’m ready….5:45 was so me: I’ve missed out on some possible relationships b/c of it…Now making better & wiser decisions thank God…Breaking generational curses & teachings…
I am a single woman from the Caribbean. I am prayerful for an amazing man who is intentional for a committed relationship
I’m Caribbean as well and God will answer your prayers!
I'm not there on dating yet. But I have noticed the different approach I get now. More mature, wanting to know me, and since of humor. I didn't at first cause of negative things I saw but now I'm believing someone is out there for me. Just being patient and humble 💯🙏. I continue to listen and take in every video I watch keeps me grounded. Thank you
Awww. Well thank you you are very busy man and I see that. But I thank you for your guidance I've come a long way and I pray that you keep doing what you do and be blessed with that woman God has for you cuz you are a blessing to everyone ❤️
Thank you for solidifying his behavior. I thought it was real for him. He constantly text me, call me. And wants to talk to me everyday, says its important to him. What a letdown that was.
My man told me very soon “one day I’m gonna be your boyfriend” he was so excited to have that title!
I totally agree people's believe Social Media put too much inferences on Negative thought's. Materialism plays a factor as well .They often look certain couple's assume they having going on. Want to be them. Peoples never tell all ❤
I love you Stephan for spreading the knowledge. Awareness is the 🗝️ to a healthy relationship. Men are learning Amen. Women are learning Amen. We are growing because of your work. Thank you God for Stephan's teachings.
Stephan, this color is so beautiful. Looks fresh.
He told me 2 days ago, that he’s content with me and happy with what we have going on. We both agreed to if we get into a relationship, then it happens. It’s an agreement between the both of us on what we want. No rush. I have to get to know you, ppl put on mask everyday just to get what they want from a woman
Where are these men? After two toxic relationships, I don't know anymore if it exists 🙏🤔😐
Casual/fwb/friend zoned is not an option for me any more....a title is what I want and I don't want to wait for him to figure it out. He could be holding me up from the one that does and is ready and okay with a title.....Is this topic on the level where I can initiate asking him "can we make us officially romantically in a relationship? "
It's not so much about whether they say they commit, but whether they keep their commitment. Most don't.
Clarity and Peace.... Thanks for this information 🙏🏽
A girlfriend of mine just asked her boyfriend that? I kept quiet 🤐 because I know he was not serious 🧐 because she had to ask🤓
Your advice has saved me from a situation that was bad fie me. A man who didn't communicate. I prayed to God for a sign if he was right for me....the next day he texted me and cancelled in me ,,no explanation othe that I'll call you tomorrow. I was done, went to a picnic and net thw most wonderful man in sooooo many ways. I believe he was truly heaven sent
Yesssss so don’t walk on eggshells listen ask questions blessings to you MOG!🙏❤️
Don’t reply. He’s a fake
Back in the day we didn't have bo question or discuss titles. It just happened.
When you say, "You deserve..." let's please keep in mind that there are quite a few bad women these days, who don't deserve a good man. Such women need to focus on improving themselves morally, emotionally, spiritually, & intellectually so they can be worthy of a good man. A great book is "Being A Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love" by Dr Toni Grant.
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No, there is not quite a few bad women. There are very few any bad women.
@@godsgirl7201 NOT TRUE.
AMEN 👍 I Totally Agree With You On That Advice. 💯🙏❤️🌞🌈🌹
Nuances are so lacking in this influencer culture
This guy is just so good. If I ever want a dating coach, I am definitely going to seek him out! Not sure if it was in this video or another one, but too funny when he was like a lot of women have been contaminated by this advice to find a man who loves them more than they love him. So true, and I always thought that was the weirdest advice!
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Hey, thank you for this! How about when dating someone for five months and you have "the talk" and he's like, we're going to have you move in together within a year now and then get married... And I'm like, whoa, I just want a boyfriend. And a good one at that. LoL. I just think he was emotionally clueless when it came to dating. That's what I get for dating a divorcee who was pulled through the ringer by his ex. I still scratch my head at this, though. He acted so interested for a commitment phobe. I finally let him go. Bye Felicia!
Where are they? Stephan you should do a mingle & meet where th the men when want us!
Were exclusive. Been 3 months and I'm okay with no labels. We're getting to know each other. Taking it slow but our commitment is to each other and see where it goes .
Just ran across this video ❤. So thankful for having a secure and loving man. Relationships are never perfect, however communication and compromise makes awesome sense without having to take from your own individuality. No title can make you happy 🎉
Listen up. ABSOLUTELY FACTS. I will say it loudly & be extremely joyful to do so. Real talk.
Please make a video regarding long distance relationship 🥺❤️
Gosh I would be so interested. Because am in one right now
0:13 Steve, you are a blessing for the womanhood of this world.
Not jaded but I’ve been love-bombed before.
It’s difficult to discern at times who’s showing genuine interest and thus keeps pursuing me (calling/text) vs who’s love-bombing you for his narcissistic desires only
Agree. How do you tell the difference?
I have been in a narcissistic relationship and now seeing someone who is genuinely pouring in his energy.
Love bombing is one sided they control the contact and texts they are only allowed to initiate contact don't dare disturb them. The relationship will flow at their pace not yours.
Someone who is genuine will match your energy not control it
I think it’s about your individual situation… we don’t specifically have a title but we are absolutely committed and planning our future all the signs are there the words aren’t there… for example how do you looking going from marriage to a “boyfriend” we committed and loyal and not dating others and that’s that … Great segment
Edit: you can have a title and no commitment Pay attention to actions and clarity
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I've watched almost every one of your videos. Excellent.
Being vague or "why do we have to have this conversation again" 😏
Thanks for the reassurance IM ST MY END WITH SACRAMENTO MEN BUT AFTER WATCHING THIS IK THERES A MAN OUT HERE IN AMERICA WHO IS WORTH MY TIME❤
EXACTLY!!!! We are not you ladies...if we're genuinely interested in you...you won't run us off or turn us off if you show us interest or whatever.
We will only run off if we see something negative in you that we don't like. Simple as that.
Thank you so much
So Jay I have a question for you. What do you think is going on with a man who is in a committed relationship with a woman long distance-started out seeing her once a month, buying groceries or food for her when he’s there, paid a few of her bills, gave her money for recreation with one of her friends, paid to get her lawn cut, took her to several family events, bought her a $300 bracelet for Christmas BUT did not spend Valentines with her because he said he’d texted n called and he didn’t hear from her. Also took her on a 3 day vacation with him and his family in May, came and spent Fourth of July with her and her family even surprised her with a new bbq grill and gave her $200. Her birthday and his birthday rolls around in August he did not call or text her nor give her a gift for her birthday. She had to text him he talks to her for almost an hour repeating the same song as after Valentines that he’d called and texted and she didn’t respond. To make a king story short there have been some phone issues between them possibly due to the 1 1/2 distance between them and he doesn’t work a typical 9-5 job he gets paid under table for doing odd jobs he has told her before that he didn’t like being around when he can’t do for those he lives and that he didn’t feel good enough and that he can’t be broke around her. All the while he’s talked of marriage with her asking her to set a date for them. She hasn’t seen him since the Fourth of July and got tired and frustrated and felt it was more to the birthday no show and the fact he keeps talking marriage but is not showing up to see her in two months. I know this is rather long but from a male POV what do you think? Oh yea she broke it off with him a week ago due to all this.
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@@Michellemybell739 WOW!!! Sorry to be sooo late in my reply. I didn't see this message until now.
It was a lot...but my guess was that he probably likes her...but may be entertaining other women...or another woman at the time. That's my guess. But idk.
Lmk tye update on their relationship now...if they are still nor together or what. Thanks! Ttyl
@@mariposaswallowtail4410 I was gonna respond to you...but I now realize that you're just trolling. SMH
I haven't seen much impact in most of the women I meet yet bro. But we will see.
? Jay. I see you chiming in here do wanted to get your thoughts on this...Boyfriend is 2hrs away and I felt the need to ask him what are we..he said Im his girlfriend but I hardly see him now and he seems to be stingy. I have never brrn a matrrialistic person but I asked him to cash app me just to see if he cared to do it but instead I got sent a song. Smh
Lol..am I wrong for thinking he isn't that into me? Btw been together 2yrs all together after 2 break up
What is the acceptable amount of time a woman should expect a guy to put a title on the relationship?
What about a long distance relationship? We can't see each other very often but will meet from a far distance but it's hard to say what will happen because the distance makes it difficult to be committed to know the future because it would require a move across the world on his part but he talks like he really would like it to work and gives me a lot of attention, is going to visit me as often as he can, and says he loves me. But due to the distance and not actually being together in person he doesn't say officially that I'm his girlfriend. Also he's in college so he has to finish before he can make any longterm plans but hints at the future. Or is it still the same thing as mentioned in the video, regardless of the distance?? Please answer I would appreciate it!!
I'm in one now AFTER I SWORE I WOULD NEVER AGAIN 😅😅.I will say that even though it's long distance, everything is still the same. I was informed of his intent the first conversation. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife and anything we do or discuss will be for that purpose. He asks sooooo many questions about me and I love every bit of it. He told me it's VERY important to meet his pastors. I was like great because you have to meet mine too. When I say meet I mean online. We decided to keep us private for now which means we only told our pastors our parents and a few close ppl. They have agreed to pray and cover us. Then as time gets closer we will announce our engagement.
Thanks for your clarity ✨
This is really good but I've never had anyone I like ever show interest in even being friends. The ones I meet are already unavailable or committed. Or maybe I'm not meeting enough people?? I'm giving up 😭😭
I'm so sorry about this. I actually was in a situation where for years I got into a pattern of only attracting unavailable guys. I know it's not the same as men not showing interest towards you at all or just wanting to friend you.. But when I addressed certain things within myself, it made all the difference. I talk about some of it on my channel.
That was happening to me. I was told I was in the wrong kind of pond. That's where knowing you and knowing what God has purposes for you to do comes in. Knowing your purpose will help you to understand the kind of ppl to be around.
I’m not afraid to ask those questions..❤
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Thank you for a good and a short video, but with enough information!👍🏽
I understand but everyone can't always be calm some things require noise because people be playing....AND I'M NOT THE ONE! ijs ❤️
I don't know a single woman who is a fan of serial dating. They (we) all want a committed relationship, and don't want to play the game of how other men are interested in us in order to keep our man focused on us. It's more like "you and me, exclusively."
Oh, I know a woman that has a harem of men.
It's tight but it's right 👑 📖 🙏🏾
If someone wants you know ! you don't Need a sign . For its made clear but it must have balance both must be reading from the same page . I feel if you are first happy with in then I believe it naturally follows in retrospect you don't Need to try nor convince if they want to be around you .
Love your presentations. So true.
Thank you for your Insight, Stephan 💯👍🏽👏🏽
Yes men don't need to tell other people what they're doing, especially other men. Because they're raised to look masculine they have to look masculine regardless of how sensitive they are or they'll be afraid that others will look at them as less masculine or manly
Im not saying there are not good people out there. I just dont have the desire to deal with liars and dishonesty its to much to deal with so i just stay single
You should play love connection 💃🏽🤎🕺🏾 you are very intelligent and inspirational and informational 👑🙏🏾💪🏾✍🏾
My Fiance and I are in our sixty and seventy he want us to get marry,but he doesn't like to be asked even a single question. He gets upset, and makes Silly jokes About me.I have spoken to him On several occasions about it.However he seen not to understand what I'm saying to him he thinks everything is a joke. Stephen what do you think I should do to stop this kinda of behavior.
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What about the guy who used to do casual hookups and stopped when he met you? How do I trust him? He hooked up one day before meeting me in real life. Help!
Gurl find another guy that is not into casual hookups. A dog will always be a dog. Don’t put yourself in a position where you can’t trust him, it’s not worth it and you will constantly be worried and on edge.
Well 7yrs is too long
Stephan thank you for being a beautiful human being
Thanks for this valuable information!
What is boyfriend/girlfriend behaviour exactly?
Thank you Stephon. I really needed to hear this.
If a man really cares about a woman, then his actions will show it. Example: If it were reversed and I was a man who was interested in a woman and I knew that she doesn't prefer to meet me online, whether it be a dating app or a channel such as yours, I would be willing to find another method to contact her. Obviously in this case we would already have met and seen each other, so we would know where each one lives and enough about our lives. If need be and I cared about and really loved her, I would be patient and wait for her to move to my town and state when she would be able to do so. That is if I were a man. Even though I am not I would respect his wishes on not wanting to communicate online and would be patient enough for him to come to me if need be. If we truly are meant to be together, then it will happen somehow someway, not because of someone else trying to make it happen
Wow this is pretty good, thankYou🍯🗨🙏
He says he wants it but his actions don't match his words
Dont you see.... 😄I fell for that
What should be the steps once he tells me to keep on knowing each other to create a better bound and not to have a failure of relationship in a future because he’s not ready to have a relationship?
Thank you Stephan for bringing me hope!!!
This is a lot of learning. Great👌
Absolutely rite thank you 🙏🙏😊
Another great video 🌟
Thank you!
I was with a man for 8 yrs whom I love deeply & still do to this day though he broke my heart to pieces a couple of weeks ago when he left me < he says we are separated >
But … still tells me though how much he loves me, still hold my hand when we meet & still kisses me ..
when I asked him .. what we are ? are we friends or more than that ? ..
his answered is ..
we are not friends, you are my ~ said my name ~
im sooo confused … I feel he leaves me wanting to know what I am in his life.
I hate this feeling …
Stephen .. please help me !
If he loves you, he wouldn't be hurting you the way he is. Close that door and find someone who appreciates you.
Great video & great advice!👍
Great Word!!!
Can a long distance relationship work if I’ve known him for 7 yrs and yes I’ve meet him he moved for a job when he was married and still trying to get his masters degree and he was a military guy and moved for a job with great benefits and pay .. is it possible if so please give advice as to how I should proceed with care and respect
@06:29 Thank you Stephan. Have your videos on "play all" this week. So, if you see me around in your comments, I'm listening. Again, thank you.
Eye opener! Great tips!
Thank you for this❤
Why would a man make a commitment at the start then back off after two months and get silent?
Thank 😊 you Stephen ❤️.
💯🎯 once again Sir.👑🔥🔥🔥