13.16 Your advice is very sound. I was married and had three boys. After 32 years, my wife passed away from cancer. Just as Covid hit After being lockdown on my farm in Western New South Wales Australia for five months I was able to travel to a large regional town. I met the most amazing Chinese lady. She saw a sad and broken man so we spoke through a translator all evening. For the next four months she messaged me. She called me. She checked that I wasn’t drinking too much alcohol and she checked that I was getting sleep. She told me to call or text her any time day or night when I was feeling bad. We were married within six months of meeting each other. She is the most wonderful beautiful lady who takes care of me so well. She cares and nature my grandchildren and my children. After seven years in Australia recently, I’ve been able to take her back to China where we spent three months meeting her family. I’ve never felt so welcome anywhere in all my life even though communication was a huge issue. When you find a beautiful person that does not matter what country or what race they are. I may be the luckiest man alive to have loved not once but twice in a lifetime.
Thank you for this interesting story. I was already wondering whether a relationship could ever work if the partners can initially only communicate via translation apps. I am pleased that it worked out for you. I wish you all the best for the future!
I met my wife by chance 15 years ago on a Chinese dating app before going to Singapore for work. Visited her in GuangXi, fell in love, got married and eventually brought her to California in 2010. Everything was hard for her to get used to here at first, but she finally adapted to life here. She still goes back to visit her elderly parents now and then. She was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Run away. The Bride Price is the reason why these women can not get married. Extortion. When they get to America YOU as a MAN will be SLAVED out. Time to try the Philippines where they marry for LOVE and work with you and not against you.
I met a Chinese Lady here in the U.S. that was never married and was in her 40s. She had been here in the U.S. for several years and had a good business. When I was introduced to her, the second thing she asked was if I wanted to get married. I must admit it scared me away. I found out later that she met another local guy and they were married within a couple months. I have wondered if I made a big mistake or not. Here I am years later still alone and now 70 years old. I wish I had been braver
@@thetreekeeper143 She wouldn't have gotten much. A used car, a run down house and me living social security check to social security check. No gold here. She had a business and money, not me
@@dancampbell141 Is an advanced degree needed to compliment them that their English skills are improving? I realize the comment may have been sarcastic and not a compliment, but I'm not fully convinced it was. If OP doesn't like Lisa's English, why does he continue to listen to her?
I think many westerners are starting to change and realize that’s not worthy. Besides, the funny and sad thing is, those very same Chinese women wouldn’t even give you the time of the day when they were single and young, unless certain conditions are met, like money and/or a good passport.
Thanks for sharing your video. I married a Chinese lady ( now 21 years ago) and still together. We do find the marriage very difficult at times because of the vast cultural differences. I sometimes feel I’m married to her family & friends as she listens to them more than me! But we are still together, working at the relationship and she has embraced the western culture much more and doesn’t listen to her family so much these days.
My Chinese wife was the best thing that ever happened to me but I wasn’t good enough to keep her. I didn’t understand how she showed love and didn’t appreciate her enough. I’d give a leg for another chance with her. She’s the finest person that I have ever known. I love you Rong Ying!🎈
I'd imagine it's because, in China divorced women are considered leftover women. Chinese society has a very entrenched view on that. But foreigners tend to be more open minded.
There are also lots of leftover men. Lots of them. Most of them come from poor rural families. They will remain childless unless they seek foreign wives. But marrying a foreign lady is a big hurdle because (1) language/cultural barrier, (2) the foreigner is on a marriage visa so she can't work, (3) the foreigner can't access healthcare benefits for Chinese nationals only. Generally, a person with a calm and easy-going personality will have a much better relationship with someone than a person who yells and shouts and beats people up. On Chinese social media, you can find a couple of Russian/Eastern European ladies who are wedded to Chinese men with mixed-race babies. Sometimes the mix would be Chinese-Southeast Asian. Sometimes Chinese-African.
A divorced women and a leftover women are completely different things, don't confuse them, a leftover women is someone who hasn't married before 28, it may be because she didn't meet the beauty standards or because she was too career focused, but whatever the reason now she is 28 and never married she's overlooked because there must be something wrong with her, if there wasn't she'd already be married. It's not all that different from the "old spinster" mentality we used to have in the west decades ago, jut more strict with a very fixed age limit. But it's a very different stigma from a divorced women stigma.
@@daveamies5031 I don’t know about that. Some of the Chinese women who are just leftover and not divorced are absolutely horrific, expecting massive dowries, cars and houses.
Western men just want the person. We all age, so age is not a factor. Personality, honesty, integrity and if the person truly cares for you is the main factors.
Speak for yourself. Age is definitely a factor. A youthful appearance in women is a sign of virility. Living things, including humans, are programmed to perpetuate their species. Thus individuals that are best equipped to perpetuate the species appear most attractive. A woman's virility declines rather quickly, while a man's decline is longer & more gradual. So all other things being equal, a woman is ALWAYS going to be more attractive at 20 than at 50. The ability to provide and support offspring (make money for us humans) gets better with experience. So a man's attractiveness actually *increases* until about age 50, after which slow decline occurs. Guys, we don't have to be ashamed of science. Don't be ashamed that you find women in their 20's the most attractive no matter your age. Don't be apologetic about it. It's science. You feel shame because you might offend women your own age or because women who don't understand the science shame you. Don't let them. "Personality, honesty, integrity and if the person truly cares for you is the main factors." Depends on what "factors" you're talking about. If you're talking about factors of relationship satisfaction, then yes, this is true. If you're talking about attraction, then it's false. So to say "Western men just want the person..." and "age is not a factor." Well, that's just not very accurate at all.
@@Rickywwx Haha. I can agree with both comments. I don't want a 19 years old like Leonardo De Carpio, just someone who is somewhat younger and still looks young. I have seen woman who looks older than me even when i am the older one. LOL.
lets be honest, in a society obsessed with saving face, being divorced is pretty much the ultimate social marker of loss of face, it was entirely voluntary. all that baggage is removed if she targets western men.
Honest? You don't know this woman. You do sound like a misogynist. Or perhaps it's non white women you dislike. Which would make you a racist. There, that's honest.
She has got it all wrong. In the west, most men don't like marrying divorced women either especially if she has kids. So, this is jumping from the frying pan into the fire case..lol 😂😅❤😅
@@edhuber3557 Well, i hope you're right. However, western men should pray she does not bring over with her the usual entitled aloofness that is commonly associated with divorced chinese women especially those in their 30s in China. They believe no matter their age, they are the prize and all men should always acknowledge that. That will be one big headache for sure..lol 😅
I know of two Canadian men who married older divorced Chinese women from Mainland China. Both sponsored the women and their kids to come over. After getting their Canadian citizenship, both Chinese women filed for divorce. Both Canadian men got financially crushed - they lost their homes that they had paid for before ever meeting the women. I, OTOH, married a Filipina. We're still together after 20 years, and still going strong.
@edwardwatson8937 Edward, congrats to you. You're a lucky man. I'm married to a Filipina as well, but other than you I'm only her servant and self running ATM-machine. Don't know how long I will go on helping her to get residency permission. I was not careful enough and now must learn the hard way.
i meet my Chinese wife here in the UK, and not through a website. we dated for about 10 years before we got married. i meet her youngest brother and eldest daughter in England well before we even thought about getting married. She went back to China just before her mother died and we had talked about getting married before she went back. We got married in Macau and we spent a great week with her family for our honeymoon. both her daughters and what is now my Chinese family are great and really excepted me in to the family. Thank you to wechat so we can stay in touch. The only thing her daughters and family have ever ask from me is that i make my wife happy. Can not wait till we both retire so i can take her home to be near her family and daughters till our dying days
@@ratinatrap7815 Zhuhai is a lovely place and near to my 2 step daughters, 1 in Macau the other in Hong Kong and only a short train ride to the rest of the family. This is one of the reasons we want to move there or near to it
I would have to disagree with some points here but not in a big way. Many men in the West are waking up to not wanting to just be providers and many have been abused by the legal system. I think the feminist movement and the divorce laws have much to be responsible for the present day entitled attitudes that have made marriage a very difficult area for many men. We see today how many young men are just not getting involved in dating at all, the percentage numbers are very high. I don't think it is an Eastern or Western issue, I see it being a women's issue of attitude, entitlement and primarily the law. Millions and millions of men have been brutally treated in regard to child access and being left penniless, homeless and childless. Women have reaped these rewards, and I do not blame women, men would do the same, but the problem of single and divorced women in the East and West is a product of this imbalance due to government over involvement in all our personal lives.
In Denmark it’s quite common in families to have “his, hers and our” children. Some even live all together in shared big houses. Obviously if there’s 4-5 children in total it demands a rather large house, but it is manageble 😅
Most western men aren't going to head east to married to divorced women. They come to the east to find women with less baggage, younger, with fewer bad habits. This is why you see so many (often age gapped) relationships in Thailand and Philippines, where the locals are more friendly to westerners, and English speakers are more common (especially in the Philippines), and there is an established culture and history with Americans in particular. Censorship, etc. with the CCP is also a problem that many westerners aren't going to want to try to overcome. I'm happy for those that found love, but the barriers are too high compared to other Asian countries.
Great Video. THe key is near the end of your video, you said "I am so lucky", this show you truely love and respect your husband. Welcome to the Western world.
Hi Lisa. It's always good to get to know somebody before you enter into a serious relationship. I have Friends but nothing romantic and to be honest I'm pretty happy. You are a good ambassador for Chinese people. In your last video you mentioned some of our English words sound similar and I have found another diverse. divorce. It never occured to me before. I don't see 30 or 40 being old. To be honest I think people should marry for Love which is it's true love deepens over time. Have a great week until your next video. And I hope your Husband gets well soon
I'm a Chinese man. If I wasn't married I would be happy to marry a divorced chinese woman with kids. I think the biggest hurdle is the chinese parents they still carry the old ways of thinking and I don't see that changing. Because they worry about what other people would say and that plays on their mind.
@@dunkodownunder That sounds like my (white) parents when I married a Thai lady, I didn't mention she was divorced. Part Chinese, great grandfather from Hunan.
I'm actually in this kinda situation.. met a extremely beautiful Chinese millionaire.. she living in Seattle.. I'm probably a half millionaire.. I'm a country working blue collar non-white real down to earth country man.. 6 ft 230 lb.. she is refined beautiful city girl at 40.. I'm 55.. need thoughts for you... I think I'm missing my worry and questions.. scam is my concern.. she is extremely beautiful.thats my concern
HI Lisa.. I have seen Chinese ladies on Charm. Date, Asian date, and Dream singles.. I am sure there are others, but this has been my experience.. I am looking for wife, but not too hard at this time.. thank you for your insight as being American, I have never been to China, so all of your information is appreciated!
My wife is Chinese and we both live in Norway now, with our 16 year old kid. We married when she was 29 and I was 40 years old back in 2003, and I flew to her home town to marry her in a public office. Back then a foreigner was rare in Nanning, and thus we were invited to have a tea seremony with the local governor and got a lot of benefits from that connection. Since then we have been regularly back in China to visit friends and family, and travelled all over that diverse and beautiful country.
: ) THANKS MUCH for sharing! I find your perspective interesting, as I have had a Chinese wife, divorced and have tried blended family as well, some of which did not work out well, and some did. I also remember our culture having arranged marriages. ALL the BEST and Cheers : )
Marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts life can offer a journey of love, partnership, and shared dreams. If this gift are preconditioned with economics and other other variables, then NO GIFT WILL COME and life will stop to cycle. Good luck.
It varies. Similar with Thai's. Some good, some not so good. I was lucky. I've been married for 29 years. If you get introduced by aquaintances as I was, I met her cousin some years earlier so was introduced when she came out, I think it improves your chances of finding a good, sincere partner. That said, some of the guys looking for them are no prizes either.
Hi Lisa Thank you for another excellent video. It's really interesting getting your insights into Chinese and western cultures. Looking forward to next next video and words of wisdom!
Dear Lady, thank you for your nice video. Think that Chinese people are very kind, well educated and very friendly. Each man must be very happy to find a nice, kind chinese wife like you are. Kindest regards from Germany, Jean
Your English is very good. I wish my Mandarin were as good as your English. For the guys, whether it's a scam or not depends on the individual. Often, where and how a man searches for a partner can lead to scams. It's rare, but I found my wife on a major Western dating site, a real one, not a hookup site. She was connected on a VPN. It's harder to be scammed as a foreigner seeking a wife in China. Chinese women wanting serious relationships look for husbands, not boyfriends. They rarely date long-term without knowing you intend to marry them. Engagements are short, and the U.S. immigration process filters out a lot of people on both sides, so don't lie to her about your wealth because she is going to know anyway If you seek casual relationships like in the Philippines or Thailand, don't bother with China. Finding such women there likely leads to financial or physical harm. Stick to what you know. However, if you're seeking a wife, that's different, and there are many lovely women in China. A fact that I have never been able to understand given the number of single Chinese men. Translation since that is a lot of English: 你的英语很棒。我希望我的普通话能和你英语一样好。 对于男生来说，这是否是个骗局取决于个人。通常情况下，男人在哪里以及如何寻找伴侣可能会导致受骗。这种情况很少见，但我在一个主要的西方约会网站上找到了我的妻子，一个真正的约会网站，而不是一个勾搭网站。当时她连接了VPN。 作为一个想在中国找妻子的外国人，被骗的可能性更小。想要认真关系的中国女人寻找的是丈夫，而不是男朋友。她们很少会在不知道你打算娶她们的情况下长期约会。订婚时间很短，而且美国的移民程序会过滤掉双方很多人，所以不要对她撒谎你的财富状况，因为她反正会知道的。 如果你像在菲律宾或泰国那样寻求随意的关系，就不要费心去中国了。在那里找到这样的女人可能会导致经济或身体上的伤害。坚持你所知道的。 然而，如果你想找的是妻子，那就另当别论了，中国有很多可爱的女人。鉴于中国单身男性众多，我至今仍无法理解这一事实。
She is PERCEIVED as too old. Using your stated parameter, a 50 year old Chinese man is too old to marry. The world in general is unforgiving and favors the greedy.
Hi from Canada! Many good points. Western men also like Asian women because they are more feminine traditional, meaning dress like women and also not too heavy. That is much more attractive. It also very nice to experience new food instead of the usual western meals. You have cute accent, keep trying your video is very good !
I’m not sure about that. My wife is Chinese and I am English. I met her when she was 43, and I was 46. However, neither of us had any children from a previous relationship and neither of us were divorced. I would reject a Chinese woman with kids just as much as a similar western woman.
I would also add, she is also very beautiful and fit, not something you could normally expect from a western woman of similar age. She is in point of fact a very special person, which is the only reason why our relationship flourished in the first place.
Hi, your comments are so true. I learned a lot from your posts. I've been scammed by ladies a few times from online posts. I'm American and my dream is to marry an Asian lady for love. I'm 57 years old and know it will not be easy. Many Chinese and Asian ladies I meet online automatically assume I'm wealthy because I'm well educated and respectful. When I tell them I'm not wealthy, they lose interest. I've lived my life alone and I'm probably going to die alone. The world is truly evil.
I have a wonderful Chinese wife from Guangdong. We're married 20 years and are very happy indeed !!!. She is a terrific person . Her family love me; and I'm very lucky all around !!!
I know its hard. They call them leftover women. My daughter is 35, she has not married. She is half chinese. Her mother is Hong Kong lady. I live in New Zealand. Your husband is lucky to have a lovely wife who has good sense of humour, and still look cute.
@@G0NZ-b9y right, but there again it's iffy. Like why would she want to come to America and be related to the America's culture, yet more likely she could end up being a spy give off information/ acknowledge to her own people by a certain time not alone could steal her man's money?. Not saying "she will" but it makes you wonder. Sides her country hates America inerways, or else her country wouldn't want to buy up America, and let their people come in the illegal way, and lots of people will do anything to get money. Stands why the old saying goes "it takes time to find love, cuz anyone can show their nice friendly side, until they gotten the green card than their true colors comes out".
Yeah, I am aware of such a sentiment because my mother talks about it. Fortunately for my own mother, she has been with her first and only marriage to my father. They are both Chinese. She is also the boss of the house. Sometimes, I wonder if the household just works better when the women has more power no matter what or the better end of the bargain. When the man of the house has greater power, people tend to view it negatively, and this may negatively affect the relationship and so the couple breaks up. But when the woman of the house has greater power, people tend to view it more amusingly, and this may positively affect the relationship and so the couple stays together. I once online-tutored a little girl on the Internet. She was a new arrival from China, and she had come with her single mother. Her biological dad was likely dead or divorced, but whatever the case might be, her new stepdad was a white guy from one of the mountain states in America. My mother was shopping at a store and spotted a Chinese lady there, and they had a chat. The lady was a part-time worker there, but she and her American husband used to be researchers in China. Not sure how they met, but I think the American researcher might have gone to China, did research, met that woman and brought her with him to America. She did marry once in China but the marriage was childless. With the American man, she had 1 mixed-race son.
@@TheSnowdogsShorts When I see a new words , I always want to learn about it. Thank you correct it . Because Dry interesting is my first time seeing it.😊
I dated a 32 year old chinese girl for a couple of months here in the UK but in the end she decided to get back together with her abusive ex-boyfriend who is chinese 🥲
Most of the time ppl want to be with someone of the same culture. It’s only natural, due to that they have a basic connection und understanding of values and traditions. There are exceptions ofc, but the majority do think like that.
@@NineDiamont I don't think that was the reason. Many women like men who can make them feel strong emotions, that is why many women are attracted to abusive men.
I have a friend who works as an English teacher in China. You'd be surprised how often he hears - Never marry a traditional Chinese man. But like everywhere, there are many good men too. It's more about how their culture controls how they should be in China, choice is not high on the agenda. They are taught to suppress feelings, they are discipline driven.
Lisa, I'm married to a Beijinger for 10 years now. We met on Chinese Love Links and dated for almost 3 years before we married. Went to China at least 6 times and travelled all over with her. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. She takes good care of me. I have never had better tasting food. She was diagnosed with Leukemia last year. She went through a Stem Cell Transplant at Stanford University Hospital over a year ago. She is doing quite well. We celebrated our 10th anniversary this month. The way to keep a smile on a Chinese girl's face? Give her Oysters and Beer....snicker.
I’m so sorry about your wife. I’m happy she is better now. My husband also has cancer since last year and doing treatment. I know how hard it is for both of you. I hope you are both always happy and healthy.
With the economy down fall in the West. Financially is becoming difficult to bring someone from overseas, and never mind the whole family. If you don't have a good salary and a fair amount of savings, it is practically impossible to bring a spouse or a family over because you need to pass all conditions from the immigration. Most Western prefer Filipinas because of the English language, less traditional demands and all you need is a fat wallet.
@@GobbyLisa99is there a different term for divorced woman? I mean isn’t that a term for woman in China who are past the ideal age for marriage and are still single? And since a divorcee is single the definition would still count for them or not?
Your English is very good. I’m 51. A bit fat. Losing hair. Please find me a beautiful nice Chinese lady aged 40 to 55 to marry me. I have lived and worked in China before. I was in Xiamen and Dalian.
What was the biggest cultural shock ?when you arrived in the UK the first time? 😅im from the usa most foreigners are shocked by the extra large portion sizes when they visit some restaurants.
I'm glad you and others have found happiness. Everybody needs a chance to fall in love again. Love has conquered age, cultural differences and impossible odds. Love conquers all. 💯💫❤
@@GobbyLisa99 It's a 50/50 proposition. Not only can the woman be dishonest about how she feels but the man can be a bad person. He could be a woman beater or abuse her verbally. Guys are less trustworthy than women. That is the truth. Peace.
You're a lovely woman and I hope your husband regains his health soon! I agree with your belief that there are many bad people in the world today. The challange is finding the good people and making them your friends. Good Luck!
lived in Hangzhou for 5 years, Met my Chinese wife and got married in China. We will celebrate 20 years this month! We have had a happy marriage so far, and have 1 daughter born of us. So our American/China marriage has worked well. Language is no problem, and we have very similar personalities and values.
Most chinese women from China or Taiwan came to USA to find find husbands for their money, pension or retirements income. Money is important to live well; however, money shouldn't be based as the main goal. Companionship with respect to each other are more important. Respect must be defeloped, respect is Two Ways traffics and is the foundation of good relationships and love.
The reality is very few people in any culture want to spend their life and resources supporting and raising somebody else's children; this is a natural phenomenon. Not arguing against marrying divorcees, but partners who both have grown-up children aren't going to feel any force against natural, instinctive feelings regarding children. 👍
I agree, but it is not just the cuckold's concern of raising and 'resourcing' other's children. There is also awareness of the difficulties of adolescence, heightened by sass or disrespect of 'your not my real father', and the possibility of the prior man (or his family) complicating matters.
0:20 That is pretty universal. You will find a bit more leeway in Europe or the Americas but there they have so so many protections for women it is very risky to do so. Quebec & France have provisions where you owe child support for a child not yours if you functioned for a father figure for just _6 months_ and that bar is very low. Rest of Europe has very similar statutes in the books withthe longest term being 4 years. If a man is already paying you still owe, either the amount of what you would be paying minus what is already being paid or if that is €0, than a set %. I refuse single mothers for this very reason. Another big one is if the women is either pregnant or you reasonably must have been able to know or suspect, and you keep seriously seeing her, that is equal to adoption full stop. If she can produce a ring tyhat the court belieces came from you, that is it, no need for marriage, you adopted, pay up.
Not just in China. I think this is also true outside of China. I remember many years ago I got invited to a friend's house for dinner. There were 6 couples there. All chinese wives with western husbands. It surprised me a bit so I asked my friend about it and 5 of those couple were in their second marriage, the first one being with a chinese husband. That was some 15 years ago however. Today what I realized in the west is that theres a big trend for asian girls to date white guys. Not sure where that comes from (I suspect the rise of K-Pop and K-Drama has something to do with this).
Chinese women love our angular faces and bigger eyes - It's extremely attractive to them - Also Western men on average are taller and bigger than Chinese men - So now that the world is connected by Internet - Chinese women are looking to have half breed babies - at least this is what my Chinese GF explained to me
After a decade of living in Zhongguo, I knew a lot of women who were "left behind". Wonderful people, all of them. I had Chinese gf, who i adored, so all i know is that those female friends were and are bloody nice folks!
Hi Lisa, I'm curious...is your background Tibetan ? Your face looks like Tibetan. You're beautiful no less. I'm a divorced Chinese Canadian living in Toronto. I'd love to meet single Chinese and other Asian women from 40 to 60 yrs young. Doesn't matter to me if they have children. I have no problem about bloodlines etc. My children are all married.
I married a leftover Chinese women. Complained all the time , couldn't do anything. Didn't want to do anything..then got a green card filed fake DV charges and split.
That sounds like you didn't vet her at all - Especially if she was in China when the relationship started - You have so much leverage to Vet these women when they are not State side
Lisa, your husband is a lucky man. Sometime ago, I was talking to a lovely 36 year-old only child Chinese woman who was a self-described "left-over woman". I was very serious about her until I had strokes. Her father owns a clothing company and promised me a "dowry" of $700,000 US. The family were Baptist Christians and were a bit afraid of the Government in China. As you say, there are good people and bad people and then there are WONDERFUL loving kind families. Her family thought I was the kindest, most loving man on Earth. I quickly fell in love with her extended family too, and her year-old niece had me wrapped around her finger. The sweet lady couldn't believe how much attention and love I showed "only a girl child".
I’m glad I found your channel. I really enjoyed listening to you. I learned a lot and your English is terrific. I would really like to find a Chinese wife or girlfriend, but all these dating sites feel like they are scams. Do you have any recommendations?
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Your advice is very sound.
I was married and had three boys. After 32 years, my wife passed away from cancer. Just as Covid hit
After being lockdown on my farm in Western New South Wales Australia for five months I was able to travel to a large regional town.
I met the most amazing Chinese lady. She saw a sad and broken man so we spoke through a translator all evening. For the next four months she messaged me. She called me. She checked that I wasn’t drinking too much alcohol and she checked that I was getting sleep. She told me to call or text her any time day or night when I was feeling bad.
We were married within six months of meeting each other. She is the most wonderful beautiful lady who takes care of me so well. She cares and nature my grandchildren and my children.
After seven years in Australia recently, I’ve been able to take her back to China where we spent three months meeting her family. I’ve never felt so welcome anywhere in all my life even though communication was a huge issue.
When you find a beautiful person that does not matter what country or what race they are.
I may be the luckiest man alive to have loved not once but twice in a lifetime.
Thank you for this interesting story. I was already wondering whether a relationship could ever work if the partners can initially only communicate via translation apps. I am pleased that it worked out for you.
I wish you all the best for the future!
What did your solicitor say? The solicitor you definitely already had if you have a farm.
I met my wife by chance 15 years ago on a Chinese dating app before going to Singapore for work. Visited her in GuangXi, fell in love, got married and eventually brought her to California in 2010. Everything was hard for her to get used to here at first, but she finally adapted to life here. She still goes back to visit her elderly parents now and then. She was the best thing that ever happened to me.
is or was?
Chinese woman are so pretty and slim thats why men like them so much
Simple, they cannot trick Asian dude, and easy to trick naive white dude who will believe her false age.
Never be her second choice or her last option.
Run away. The Bride Price is the reason why these women can not get married. Extortion. When they get to America YOU as a MAN will be SLAVED out. Time to try the Philippines where they marry for LOVE and work with you and not against you.
never be a lame quitter repeating lines from butthurt losers on UA-cam.
I met a Chinese Lady here in the U.S. that was never married and was in her 40s. She had been here in the U.S. for several years and had a good business. When I was introduced to her, the second thing she asked was if I wanted to get married. I must admit it scared me away. I found out later that she met another local guy and they were married within a couple months. I have wondered if I made a big mistake or not. Here I am years later still alone and now 70 years old. I wish I had been braver
No! You basically saved yourself a lifetime of hardships. They are all gold-diggers in the end.
100% not true
@@thetreekeeper143 She wouldn't have gotten much. A used car, a run down house and me living social security check to social security check. No gold here. She had a business and money, not me
@@tka1528 I regret not trying
At 40 she can't get pregnant
Keep practicing Lisa, your English is getting better with every upload.
So you have an advanced degree in language, especially grammar?
@@dancampbell141 Is an advanced degree needed to compliment them that their English skills are improving?
I realize the comment may have been sarcastic and not a compliment, but I'm not fully convinced it was. If OP doesn't like Lisa's English, why does he continue to listen to her?
I think many westerners are starting to change and realize that’s not worthy. Besides, the funny and sad thing is, those very same Chinese women wouldn’t even give you the time of the day when they were single and young, unless certain conditions are met, like money and/or a good passport.
Umm from some other vloggers, they're telling a very different story about Chinese women than you are.
Women don't owe you anything.
Thanks for sharing your video. I married a Chinese lady ( now 21 years ago) and still together. We do find the marriage very difficult at times because of the vast cultural differences. I sometimes feel I’m married to her family & friends as she listens to them more than me! But we are still together, working at the relationship and she has embraced the western culture much more and doesn’t listen to her family so much these days.
Thanks for sharing!
My Chinese wife was the best thing that ever happened to me but I wasn’t good enough to keep her. I didn’t understand how she showed love and didn’t appreciate her enough. I’d give a leg for another chance with her. She’s the finest person that I have ever known. I love you Rong Ying!🎈
I'd imagine it's because, in China divorced women are considered leftover women. Chinese society has a very entrenched view on that. But foreigners tend to be more open minded.
For us foreigner it's easy target.
@@thomaslandcaster9638 Life is short. If you can make it work, then power to you.
There are also lots of leftover men. Lots of them. Most of them come from poor rural families. They will remain childless unless they seek foreign wives. But marrying a foreign lady is a big hurdle because (1) language/cultural barrier, (2) the foreigner is on a marriage visa so she can't work, (3) the foreigner can't access healthcare benefits for Chinese nationals only. Generally, a person with a calm and easy-going personality will have a much better relationship with someone than a person who yells and shouts and beats people up.
On Chinese social media, you can find a couple of Russian/Eastern European ladies who are wedded to Chinese men with mixed-race babies. Sometimes the mix would be Chinese-Southeast Asian. Sometimes Chinese-African.
A divorced women and a leftover women are completely different things, don't confuse them, a leftover women is someone who hasn't married before 28, it may be because she didn't meet the beauty standards or because she was too career focused, but whatever the reason now she is 28 and never married she's overlooked because there must be something wrong with her, if there wasn't she'd already be married. It's not all that different from the "old spinster" mentality we used to have in the west decades ago, jut more strict with a very fixed age limit. But it's a very different stigma from a divorced women stigma.
@@daveamies5031 I don’t know about that. Some of the Chinese women who are just leftover and not divorced are absolutely horrific, expecting massive dowries, cars and houses.
Western men just want the person. We all age, so age is not a factor. Personality, honesty, integrity and if the person truly cares for you is the main factors.
And they just want the booty!!! And they want to do ALL of the freaky stuff to these Asian women they want to them without consequences too.
Speak for yourself. Age is definitely a factor. A youthful appearance in women is a sign of virility. Living things, including humans, are programmed to perpetuate their species. Thus individuals that are best equipped to perpetuate the species appear most attractive. A woman's virility declines rather quickly, while a man's decline is longer & more gradual. So all other things being equal, a woman is ALWAYS going to be more attractive at 20 than at 50. The ability to provide and support offspring (make money for us humans) gets better with experience. So a man's attractiveness actually *increases* until about age 50, after which slow decline occurs.
Guys, we don't have to be ashamed of science. Don't be ashamed that you find women in their 20's the most attractive no matter your age. Don't be apologetic about it. It's science. You feel shame because you might offend women your own age or because women who don't understand the science shame you. Don't let them.
"Personality, honesty, integrity and if the person truly cares for you is the main factors." Depends on what "factors" you're talking about. If you're talking about factors of relationship satisfaction, then yes, this is true. If you're talking about attraction, then it's false. So to say "Western men just want the person..." and "age is not a factor." Well, that's just not very accurate at all.
yes
@@Rickywwx Haha. I can agree with both comments. I don't want a 19 years old like Leonardo De Carpio, just someone who is somewhat younger and still looks young. I have seen woman who looks older than me even when i am the older one. LOL.
Good video with very sound advise. May you and your husband & family members have a belated Merry Christmas and a Happy/Healthy New Year.....
I think your husband is a very lucky man to find you with such a compassionate heart never lose this very special thankyou !
lets be honest, in a society obsessed with saving face, being divorced is pretty much the ultimate social marker of loss of face, it was entirely voluntary. all that baggage is removed if she targets western men.
Yes and western men who couldn’t find a western girl is happy to marry the divorced women and provide a green card in return.
Honest? You don't know this woman. You do sound like a misogynist. Or perhaps it's non white women you dislike. Which would make you a racist. There, that's honest.
She has got it all wrong. In the west, most men don't like marrying divorced women either especially if she has kids. So, this is jumping from the frying pan into the fire case..lol 😂😅❤😅
@@4evertrue830 I agree, but the degree of "don't like" may be different. In China, it may be a show-stopper; less so in the West.
@@edhuber3557 Well, i hope you're right. However, western men should pray she does not bring over with her the usual entitled aloofness that is commonly associated with divorced chinese women especially those in their 30s in China. They believe no matter their age, they are the prize and all men should always acknowledge that. That will be one big headache for sure..lol 😅
It's great to hear your thoughts about life, Lisa.
I know that you and your husband married for love, and nothing is better than that 💐
Thank you so much!
I really like how you’re trying your best to speak English 👏
..and not use an artificial voice👏
Thank you .
@@GobbyLisa99 You did fantastic. It's nice to be bilingual. I understood everything. Very professional presentation.
I know of two Canadian men who married older divorced Chinese women from Mainland China. Both sponsored the women and their kids to come over. After getting their Canadian citizenship, both Chinese women filed for divorce. Both Canadian men got financially crushed - they lost their homes that they had paid for before ever meeting the women.
I, OTOH, married a Filipina. We're still together after 20 years, and still going strong.
Yup
@edwardwatson8937
Edward, congrats to you. You're a lucky man.
I'm married to a Filipina as well, but other than you I'm only her servant and self running ATM-machine. Don't know how long I will go on helping her to get residency permission. I was not careful enough and now must learn the hard way.
i meet my Chinese wife here in the UK, and not through a website. we dated for about 10 years before we got married. i meet her youngest brother and eldest daughter in England well before we even thought about getting married. She went back to China just before her mother died and we had talked about getting married before she went back. We got married in Macau and we spent a great week with her family for our honeymoon. both her daughters and what is now my Chinese family are great and really excepted me in to the family. Thank you to wechat so we can stay in touch. The only thing her daughters and family have ever ask from me is that i make my wife happy. Can not wait till we both retire so i can take her home to be near her family and daughters till our dying days
Goooood luck. I would still advice you legally protect yourself.
I met my Chinese wife in Zhuhai just across the border from Macau.
@@ratinatrap7815 Zhuhai is a lovely place and near to my 2 step daughters, 1 in Macau the other in Hong Kong and only a short train ride to the rest of the family. This is one of the reasons we want to move there or near to it
@@trevornorman7563 Can't go far wrong, Zhuhai always feels like my second home when I visit
I would have to disagree with some points here but not in a big way. Many men in the West are waking up to not wanting to just be providers and many have been abused by the legal system. I think the feminist movement and the divorce laws have much to be responsible for the present day entitled attitudes that have made marriage a very difficult area for many men. We see today how many young men are just not getting involved in dating at all, the percentage numbers are very high.
I don't think it is an Eastern or Western issue, I see it being a women's issue of attitude, entitlement and primarily the law. Millions and millions of men have been brutally treated in regard to child access and being left penniless, homeless and childless. Women have reaped these rewards, and I do not blame women, men would do the same, but the problem of single and divorced women in the East and West is a product of this imbalance due to government over involvement in all our personal lives.
Good points . Don't think this is an accident. Powers to be want less people not more.
Nice words and yes, there are good and bad everywhere. Thanks for your post, as I found it very interesting.
In Denmark it’s quite common in families to have “his, hers and our” children. Some even live all together in shared big houses. Obviously if there’s 4-5 children in total it demands a rather large house, but it is manageble 😅
Most western men aren't going to head east to married to divorced women. They come to the east to find women with less baggage, younger, with fewer bad habits. This is why you see so many (often age gapped) relationships in Thailand and Philippines, where the locals are more friendly to westerners, and English speakers are more common (especially in the Philippines), and there is an established culture and history with Americans in particular. Censorship, etc. with the CCP is also a problem that many westerners aren't going to want to try to overcome. I'm happy for those that found love, but the barriers are too high compared to other Asian countries.
Great Video. THe key is near the end of your video, you said "I am so lucky", this show you truely love and respect your husband. Welcome to the Western world.
Thank you.
I have lived and worked in China. Ningbo, Chengdu and Fosan.
You are doing extremely well with your English.
My Mandarin is very poor in comparison.
Wonderful..! No nonsense, but just cutting to the chase.. Great video.
Hi Lisa. It's always good to get to know somebody before you enter into a serious relationship. I have Friends but nothing romantic and to be honest I'm pretty happy. You are a good ambassador for Chinese people. In your last video you mentioned some of our English words sound similar and I have found another diverse. divorce. It never occured to me before. I don't see 30 or 40 being old. To be honest I think people should marry for Love which is it's true love deepens over time. Have a great week until your next video. And I hope your Husband gets well soon
Thank you so much 😊
@@GobbyLisa99 your welcome Lisa
Love or not at all. Love that will last, not infatuation.
I'm a Chinese man. If I wasn't married I would be happy to marry a divorced chinese woman with kids. I think the biggest hurdle is the chinese parents they still carry the old ways of thinking and I don't see that changing. Because they worry about what other people would say and that plays on their mind.
@@dunkodownunder That sounds like my (white) parents when I married a Thai lady, I didn't mention she was divorced. Part Chinese, great grandfather from Hunan.
I'm actually in this kinda situation.. met a extremely beautiful Chinese millionaire.. she living in Seattle.. I'm probably a half millionaire.. I'm a country working blue collar non-white real down to earth country man.. 6 ft 230 lb.. she is refined beautiful city girl at 40.. I'm 55.. need thoughts for you... I think I'm missing my worry and questions.. scam is my concern.. she is extremely beautiful.thats my concern
I like your videos. I admire how you are getting better all the time at speaking English. It can be a very difficult language to learn.
Thank you 😊
HI Lisa.. I have seen Chinese ladies on Charm. Date, Asian date, and Dream singles.. I am sure there are others, but this has been my experience.. I am looking for wife, but not too hard at this time.. thank you for your insight as being American, I have never been to China, so all of your information is appreciated!
My wife is Chinese and we both live in Norway now, with our 16 year old kid. We married when she was 29 and I was 40 years old back in 2003, and I flew to her home town to marry her in a public office. Back then a foreigner was rare in Nanning, and thus we were invited to have a tea seremony with the local governor and got a lot of benefits from that connection. Since then we have been regularly back in China to visit friends and family, and travelled all over that diverse and beautiful country.
: ) THANKS MUCH for sharing! I find your perspective interesting, as I have had a Chinese wife, divorced and have tried blended family as well, some of which did not work out well, and some did. I also remember our culture having arranged marriages. ALL the BEST and Cheers : )
Great honest advice again. . ❤
Marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts life can offer a journey of love, partnership, and shared dreams. If this gift are preconditioned with economics and other other variables, then NO GIFT WILL COME and life will stop to cycle. Good luck.
Great video. Glad to find your channel. You have a lucky husband!
So it's just for convenience again...not affection.
It varies. Similar with Thai's. Some good, some not so good. I was lucky. I've been married for 29 years. If you get introduced by aquaintances as I was, I met her cousin some years earlier so was introduced when she came out, I think it improves your chances of finding a good, sincere partner. That said, some of the guys looking for them are no prizes either.
Hi Lisa Thank you for another excellent video. It's really interesting getting your insights into Chinese and western cultures. Looking forward to next next video and words of wisdom!
Thank you.
You make a lot of very good points.
Thank you.
Dear Lady, thank you for your nice video. Think that Chinese people are very kind, well educated and very friendly. Each man must be very happy to find a nice, kind chinese wife like you are. Kindest regards from Germany, Jean
Your English is very good. I wish my Mandarin were as good as your English.
For the guys, whether it's a scam or not depends on the individual. Often, where and how a man searches for a partner can lead to scams. It's rare, but I found my wife on a major Western dating site, a real one, not a hookup site. She was connected on a VPN.
It's harder to be scammed as a foreigner seeking a wife in China. Chinese women wanting serious relationships look for husbands, not boyfriends. They rarely date long-term without knowing you intend to marry them. Engagements are short, and the U.S. immigration process filters out a lot of people on both sides, so don't lie to her about your wealth because she is going to know anyway
If you seek casual relationships like in the Philippines or Thailand, don't bother with China. Finding such women there likely leads to financial or physical harm. Stick to what you know.
However, if you're seeking a wife, that's different, and there are many lovely women in China. A fact that I have never been able to understand given the number of single Chinese men.
Translation since that is a lot of English:
你的英语很棒。我希望我的普通话能和你英语一样好。
对于男生来说，这是否是个骗局取决于个人。通常情况下，男人在哪里以及如何寻找伴侣可能会导致受骗。这种情况很少见，但我在一个主要的西方约会网站上找到了我的妻子，一个真正的约会网站，而不是一个勾搭网站。当时她连接了VPN。
作为一个想在中国找妻子的外国人，被骗的可能性更小。想要认真关系的中国女人寻找的是丈夫，而不是男朋友。她们很少会在不知道你打算娶她们的情况下长期约会。订婚时间很短，而且美国的移民程序会过滤掉双方很多人，所以不要对她撒谎你的财富状况，因为她反正会知道的。
如果你像在菲律宾或泰国那样寻求随意的关系，就不要费心去中国了。在那里找到这样的女人可能会导致经济或身体上的伤害。坚持你所知道的。
然而，如果你想找的是妻子，那就另当别论了，中国有很多可爱的女人。鉴于中国单身男性众多，我至今仍无法理解这一事实。
Chinese men will not choose her, as she is too old.
And Divorced Double Whammy.
They ""prefer"" to marry non chinese...
She is PERCEIVED as too old. Using your stated parameter, a 50 year old Chinese man is too old to marry. The world in general is unforgiving and favors the greedy.
I mean old is not really old . In China , 30 is old.😢
@@GobbyLisa99 A Chinese 30 year old woman looks 10 years younger than the western woman and is not double size like many western women.
Hi from Canada! Many good points. Western men also like Asian women because they are more feminine traditional, meaning dress like women and also not too heavy. That is much more attractive. It also very nice to experience new food instead of the usual western meals. You have cute accent, keep trying your video is very good !
I’m not sure about that. My wife is Chinese and I am English. I met her when she was 43, and I was 46. However, neither of us had any children from a previous relationship and neither of us were divorced. I would reject a Chinese woman with kids just as much as a similar western woman.
I would also add, she is also very beautiful and fit, not something you could normally expect from a western woman of similar age. She is in point of fact a very special person, which is the only reason why our relationship flourished in the first place.
My sympathies go out to you. You must have endured a lot.
@@thetreekeeper143 what are you talking about? I haven’t “endured” anything 🫤
Yeah - I think most would
10 years of marital bliss for us - (67yo now divorced 2x's prior as was she) I have found a true loving partner to take me to the finish line
You are a wise person, what you said made a lot of sense. 😊
Thank you
Hi, your comments are so true. I learned a lot from your posts. I've been scammed by ladies a few times from online posts. I'm American and my dream is to marry an Asian lady for love. I'm 57 years old and know it will not be easy. Many Chinese and Asian ladies I meet online automatically assume I'm wealthy because I'm well educated and respectful. When I tell them I'm not wealthy, they lose interest. I've lived my life alone and I'm probably going to die alone. The world is truly evil.
I have a wonderful Chinese wife from Guangdong. We're married 20 years and are very happy indeed !!!. She is a terrific person . Her family love me; and I'm very lucky all around !!!
You are a sensible woman. Good luck to your family.
It's very entertaining to listen to you speak. I enjoy it. Keep going!
What an adorable lady.
I know its hard. They call them leftover women. My daughter is 35, she has not married. She is half chinese. Her mother is Hong Kong lady. I live in New Zealand. Your husband is lucky to have a lovely wife who has good sense of humour, and still look cute.
Your daughter is still young. There’s a whole world 🌎 out there with still good men. Canada and America!
If she isn't a single mom, then she has a real chance to start a new life with Americans.
@@G0NZ-b9y right, but there again it's iffy. Like why would she want to come to America and be related to the America's culture, yet more likely she could end up being a spy give off information/ acknowledge to her own people by a certain time not alone could steal her man's money?. Not saying "she will" but it makes you wonder. Sides her country hates America inerways, or else her country wouldn't want to buy up America, and let their people come in the illegal way, and lots of people will do anything to get money. Stands why the old saying goes "it takes time to find love, cuz anyone can show their nice friendly side, until they gotten the green card than their true colors comes out".
Gabby you are Fresh air. Thank you.
Thank you for your advice. This video is very informative to me i will be careful
Glad it was helpful!
@@GobbyLisa99 yes it's helpful because I am planning to travel china
Your husband is a lucky man I like your style 👍
😊 thank you
Your welcome Lisa hopefully I can find me a Chinese woman one day
Thank you ❤
Yeah, I am aware of such a sentiment because my mother talks about it.
Fortunately for my own mother, she has been with her first and only marriage to my father. They are both Chinese.
She is also the boss of the house.
Sometimes, I wonder if the household just works better when the women has more power no matter what or the better end of the bargain.
When the man of the house has greater power, people tend to view it negatively, and this may negatively affect the relationship and so the couple breaks up.
But when the woman of the house has greater power, people tend to view it more amusingly, and this may positively affect the relationship and so the couple stays together.
I once online-tutored a little girl on the Internet. She was a new arrival from China, and she had come with her single mother. Her biological dad was likely dead or divorced, but whatever the case might be, her new stepdad was a white guy from one of the mountain states in America.
My mother was shopping at a store and spotted a Chinese lady there, and they had a chat. The lady was a part-time worker there, but she and her American husband used to be researchers in China. Not sure how they met, but I think the American researcher might have gone to China, did research, met that woman and brought her with him to America. She did marry once in China but the marriage was childless. With the American man, she had 1 mixed-race son.
I would think that despite all the material considerations that the depth of love they have for each other would be the most important factor.
I admire you for learning English. You are doing well.
but should I be careful?
My wife was divorced when we get married. So was I. I was in Kunming, China when we got married. Best decision of my life. 👍👍👍
@@Laowai-xu8vt kunming is beautiful place with beautiful people.
WMAF married with 2 teenage Hapa Son. Living Happily in the US
Very interesting, I learnt a lot from you here.
Thank you. What is dry interesting means?
@@GobbyLisa99 it was a typo, I have corrected it. :)
I found what you said to be very interesting, as I did not know anything about divorce in China.
@@TheSnowdogsShorts When I see a new words , I always want to learn about it. Thank you correct it . Because Dry interesting is my first time seeing it.😊
@@GobbyLisa99 Mine too. Autocorrect caught me out. 🤣
All good points.
Good to know~ Thanks for sharing~
I dated a 32 year old chinese girl for a couple of months here in the UK but in the end she decided to get back together with her abusive ex-boyfriend who is chinese 🥲
Most of the time ppl want to be with someone of the same culture. It’s only natural, due to that they have a basic connection und understanding of values and traditions.
There are exceptions ofc, but the majority do think like that.
@@NineDiamont I don't think that was the reason. Many women like men who can make them feel strong emotions, that is why many women are attracted to abusive men.
I frankly would never date a woman who had former abusive relationships, has trauma, like women who were raped as kids etc.
You sound like a nice person. I wish you well.
cute English accent :) good video
Thank you! 😃
@@GobbyLisa99 you're welcome hope your husband is doing well 😊👍
Thank you sister, for this information
I have a friend who works as an English teacher in China. You'd be surprised how often he hears - Never marry a traditional Chinese man. But like everywhere, there are many good men too. It's more about how their culture controls how they should be in China, choice is not high on the agenda. They are taught to suppress feelings, they are discipline driven.
Ms.Lisa. your English is very good 👍.
Lisa, I'm married to a Beijinger for 10 years now. We met on Chinese Love Links and dated for almost 3 years before we married. Went to China at least 6 times and travelled all over with her. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. She takes good care of me. I have never had better tasting food. She was diagnosed with Leukemia last year. She went through a Stem Cell Transplant at Stanford University Hospital over a year ago. She is doing quite well. We celebrated our 10th anniversary this month. The way to keep a smile on a Chinese girl's face? Give her Oysters and Beer....snicker.
I’m glad to hear that she’s doing better now.
I’m so sorry about your wife. I’m happy she is better now. My husband also has cancer since last year and doing treatment. I know how hard it is for both of you. I hope you are both always happy and healthy.
I totally believe the Oyster thing. My wife loves them.
thank you for sharing your story. I like oysters and beer too 👍
@@GobbyLisa99 I'm sorry to hear that. I pray your husband gets better soon❤
Lisa, you are a sweet lady with a good heart ❤️ love and blessings.
Thank you 😊
With the economy down fall in the West. Financially is becoming difficult to bring someone from overseas, and never mind the whole family. If you don't have a good salary and a fair amount of savings, it is practically impossible to bring a spouse or a family over because you need to pass all conditions from the immigration. Most Western prefer Filipinas because of the English language, less traditional demands and all you need is a fat wallet.
Glad you're happy to have met and be with your husband!
Thanks. I met my husband when I was in my twenties
“Left over women” is English translation btw
Left over women means single women and not young . It’s different with divorced women.
@@GobbyLisa99 ahh yes ur right.
@@GobbyLisa99is there a different term for divorced woman? I mean isn’t that a term for woman in China who are past the ideal age for marriage and are still single? And since a divorcee is single the definition would still count for them or not?
With tensions between China and USA at an all time high isn't now too high risk to travel to China to meet a Chinese lady? Thoughts?
Your English is very good.
I’m 51. A bit fat. Losing hair. Please find me a beautiful nice Chinese lady aged 40 to 55 to marry me. I have lived and worked in China before. I was in Xiamen and Dalian.
What was the biggest cultural shock ?when you arrived in the UK the first time? 😅im from the usa most foreigners are shocked by the extra large portion sizes when they visit some restaurants.
I will think about it 😊Thank you.
Im 66 years old i still work 40 hr week and i have a leather shop were i sew and make things
I'm glad you and others have found happiness. Everybody needs a chance to fall in love again. Love has conquered age, cultural differences and impossible odds. Love conquers all. 💯💫❤
Well said!
Gabby, I hope your videos will help some of the Western men and Chinese women looking to connect. here's not enough tolerance in the world.
Thank you. I just want to remind men not to trust Chinese women too much, because there are good and bad Chinese women, and there are also scammers.
@@GobbyLisa99 It's a 50/50 proposition. Not only can the woman be dishonest about how she feels but the man can be a bad person. He could be a woman beater or abuse her verbally. Guys are less trustworthy than women. That is the truth. Peace.
You're a lovely woman and I hope your husband regains his health soon!
I agree with your belief that there are many bad people in the world today. The challange is finding the good people and making them your friends. Good Luck!
Thank you.
lived in Hangzhou for 5 years, Met my Chinese wife and got married in China. We will celebrate 20 years this month! We have had a happy marriage so far, and have 1 daughter born of us. So our American/China marriage has worked well. Language is no problem, and we have very similar personalities and values.
Congratulations, my husband and I also have been together for 20 years in April
लीसा अपने विचार साझा करने के लिए धन्यवाद।
Thank you.
you went to Uk to look after the father in law. You are a good woman :)
Would love to chat to you and your husband, there are some things I need to find out about China
Thank you for creating this video. Good information. I had no idea that China is cutoff from UA-cam and has it’s own internet.
China has a firewall.
@@GobbyLisa99 A Great Firewall, if you will.
Most chinese women from China or Taiwan came to USA to find find husbands for their money, pension or retirements income. Money is important to live well; however, money shouldn't be based as the main goal. Companionship with respect to each other are more important. Respect must be defeloped, respect is Two Ways traffics and is the foundation of good relationships and love.
Money money money this is the world where relationships are standing 😂
The reality is very few people in any culture want to spend their life and resources supporting and raising somebody else's children; this is a natural phenomenon. Not arguing against marrying divorcees, but partners who both have grown-up children aren't going to feel any force against natural, instinctive feelings regarding children. 👍
I agree, but it is not just the cuckold's concern of raising and 'resourcing' other's children. There is also awareness of the difficulties of adolescence, heightened by sass or disrespect of 'your not my real father', and the possibility of the prior man (or his family) complicating matters.
0:20 That is pretty universal. You will find a bit more leeway in Europe or the Americas but there they have so so many protections for women it is very risky to do so.
Quebec & France have provisions where you owe child support for a child not yours if you functioned for a father figure for just _6 months_ and that bar is very low. Rest of Europe has very similar statutes in the books withthe longest term being 4 years. If a man is already paying you still owe, either the amount of what you would be paying minus what is already being paid or if that is €0, than a set %.
I refuse single mothers for this very reason.
Another big one is if the women is either pregnant or you reasonably must have been able to know or suspect, and you keep seriously seeing her, that is equal to adoption full stop. If she can produce a ring tyhat the court belieces came from you, that is it, no need for marriage, you adopted, pay up.
Good info
Not just in China. I think this is also true outside of China. I remember many years ago I got invited to a friend's house for dinner. There were 6 couples there. All chinese wives with western husbands. It surprised me a bit so I asked my friend about it and 5 of those couple were in their second marriage, the first one being with a chinese husband. That was some 15 years ago however. Today what I realized in the west is that theres a big trend for asian girls to date white guys. Not sure where that comes from (I suspect the rise of K-Pop and K-Drama has something to do with this).
Chinese women love our angular faces and bigger eyes - It's extremely attractive to them - Also Western men on average are taller and bigger than Chinese men - So now that the world is connected by Internet - Chinese women are looking to have half breed babies - at least this is what my Chinese GF explained to me
After a decade of living in Zhongguo, I knew a lot of women who were "left behind". Wonderful people, all of them.
I had Chinese gf, who i adored, so all i know is that those female friends were and are bloody nice folks!
Hi Lisa, I'm curious...is your background Tibetan ? Your face looks like Tibetan. You're beautiful no less. I'm a divorced Chinese Canadian living in Toronto. I'd love to meet single Chinese and other Asian women from 40 to 60 yrs young. Doesn't matter to me if they have children. I have no problem about bloodlines etc. My children are all married.
Chinese people also think that I am from Xinjiang or Tibet or other countries. In reality, I am also quite dark.
According to the explanation what I can understand is that you are also very lucky madam
Because not everyone can find true love, so I say I am lucky, and my husband is really a good husband.
@@GobbyLisa99 it means your husband also very lucky 😀
I married a leftover Chinese women. Complained all the time , couldn't do anything. Didn't want to do anything..then got a green card filed fake DV charges and split.
I agree, I foolhardily married one of them - a total disaster. The greatest mistake of my life, by a long margin.
That sounds like you didn't vet her at all - Especially if she was in China when the relationship started - You have so much leverage to Vet these women when they are not State side
I'm divorced with no kids. My GFs grandkids are the kids that I never had. I ❤ them like they are mine.
Thanks you for sharing :-)
Thank you.
Lisa, your husband is a lucky man. Sometime ago, I was talking to a lovely 36 year-old only child Chinese woman who was a self-described "left-over woman". I was very serious about her until I had strokes. Her father owns a clothing company and promised me a "dowry" of $700,000 US. The family were Baptist Christians and were a bit afraid of the Government in China. As you say, there are good people and bad people and then there are WONDERFUL loving kind families. Her family thought I was the kindest, most loving man on Earth. I quickly fell in love with her extended family too, and her year-old niece had me wrapped around her finger. The sweet lady couldn't believe how much attention and love I showed "only a girl child".
Is her father asked you give dowry about $700,000 US?
Reverse. I met this situation myself...
I’m glad I found your channel. I really enjoyed listening to you. I learned a lot and your English is terrific. I would really like to find a Chinese wife or girlfriend, but all these dating sites feel like they are scams. Do you have any recommendations?
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