Thank you for the video. I hear from fellow men all the time and I agree that what we want are traditional values. What Asian culture (and some others) but not western at all is a traditional relationship where a man contribution is valued. Where the marriage is valued and the woman is not just planning the divorce during the dating phase. Everything we men do is to grow greater so we pour over into the women who stand behind us to help to make us great. A woman’s role used to be celebrated now in western culture women on their end are in competition with us men. Why when everything we men do is for women. So in short it’s not Asian per-say but traditional values that we seek and the Asian culture has it in abundance and every man of every race sees this. Thank you again for the video.
I'm in the red pill community and I've never heard of men wanting Chinese women for the food they eat or back massages or obedience. Traditional values are I've never thought about it myself. But you have to admit, they are great extras qualities to have in a wife.
I was married to a Chinese woman. She was beautiful, had high hygiene standards took good care of out things and money. Was a confidant, a wife and a friend. Very important she was a generous lover. May she rest in peace.
I've been with my Chinese wife for 38 years, she handles the money for the simple reason is she is so much better at finances. She is fiercely loyal and family oriented and a great mother to our daughters, one thing for sure is there is never a dull moment in the house. All three of them are magnificent ladies and wouldn't trade them for the world! We met by chance, I wasn't looking to marry a Chinese woman, it's what fate had brought us. What we wanted from life lined up, both of us wanted a family and got busy trying, but health problems ended that path for our children, and we adopted our daughters. Is she perfect? No, I love her as she is. I would do it all over again! Maybe a little earlier before health became an issue, I would've loved to have had children with this lady!
My Wife does not like to spend money. for 7 years she made most of the money but now I am the one making the money as she is retired but she works like a slave in her garden raising vegetables to sell and to eat. She is my crown.
I have had a Chinese wife - from Beijing - for 42 years. Forget the idea of a submissive wife. No chance. But I would not change her for all the tea in China. Marrying her was the best thing I've ever done.
@@johnchiu7581 There are things which are left best unspoken. But chinese women are very possessive, protective and vindictive if you ever step on their tails. You may not be asked to do housework, but you are 100% expected to bring home the bacon.
My brother married a Chinese wife and stayed in marriage for forty years. They met at the Computer Learning Center and fell in love. They have three grown children and two grandchildren. His wife made more money than her husband (my brother), and they got along well. They are happily together and live in Northern Virginia.
I'm an American man who married a Chinese woman 29 years ago and is still married to her. I agree with much of what you said. You are right that Chinese women think they should control the money, and I didn't agree with that and it caused some friction, but not enough to wreck the marriage. The main reasons I was interested in marrying a Chinese woman were completely valid -- totally heterosexual with no interest in sexual experimentation, totally loyal, no male-bashing at all, maintaining good health (and a good figure) through a healthy diet, and a strong belief in education.
Yes. my Thai wife of 29 years who is part Chinese comes from a family who value education. The non Chinese parts of the family, not so much. The educated side have done much better. Some of them, older generation, can't read.
My Thai Chinese wife of 27 years is like a Swiss army knife she seems to be everything. Smart and highly educated with Medical Degrees from Thailand to America. A fantastic mother who would give her life for me or our son if need be. Always helping other less fortunate than herself. Sometiimes bluntly honest but always a true partner that I have seen cry when she knew I was angry or unhappy. I count my blessings thinking when she came into my life.
I have a Jamaican wife - and some people come to me and say things like "so you like black women' to which I reply 'I like a black woman'. I don't think it is helpful to think 'I want a Chinese wife', unless you have a particular Chinese woman in mind.
Weird. I never told my sons to date girls of certain race. I insisted love comes first; race is unimportant. (I am Chinese American.) But first one said he liked Asian women; sure enough, his girlfriends were Asian Americans. Second one said he like white or Hispanic women and claimed that Asian girls were ugly. I collected and showed him a bunch of pictures of gorgeous Asian girls. He was not convinced. Where did those thoughts come from? Whatever. Not going to interfere. One life to live; live and let live.
Some of us know what we are getting ourselves into. I lived in Beijing for a few years and fell in love with the country and people. I married a friend. We have 5 children, 14 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren.
When i meet my wife in the UK i did not see her as Chinese i saw her as the person i wanted to date and be with. Now being married for nearly 7 years she is still the best thing that has ever happened to me. but i must also say being part of her family is great as they are all great people. Will be going on holiday without her to China early next year and my Chinese family have told me they are taking me to see their ancestors home and home city which i consider that i am truly accepted as part of the family
I enjoyed the video. I married a nice 54 y.o. Chinese woman 10 years ago and brought her to America. In the early years, she was ocasionally a 母老虎 (Mǔ lǎohǔ) but only when I deserved it. She is incredibly thrifty and allows me to manage all the money. She is an incredible cook and seamstress. I have traveled to China with her every year and have been to many cities and National Parks. Her family and friends are wonderful to me. I have no regrets. If fate ever took her away from me, I would certainly marry another Chinese lady. Keep in mind this saying - Happy Wife, Happy Life!
My wife, 36, is from Beijing. Her dad taught her how to take responsibility for her own actions. Her mom taught her how to be feminine and delicate, and how to appreciate beauty. We've worked hard for 10 years to build a strong marriage. Her ability to compromise, reflect on her own mistakes, and change from them has been critical to the process. So has her ability to endure to maintain the marriage and the family. Many young women in China didn't gave parents who gave them proper instruction on how to be proper adults. They only taught them to study hard in hopes of finding a good job. They assumed that values and moral instruction would fall into place on their own. On this, these parents made a huge mistake.
@@GobbyLisa99 There was work in this. She brought into the relationship her expectation to be taken care of. I am 8 years older than her and make enough money to support the both of us (no children). When we got married, I told her I would give her 8 years to decide what she wanted to do work-wise. I also didn't split bank accts and payments with her. She spent her money as she saw fit. I just told her that whether we live in a house or a cardboard box depends on her spending, but either way we're doing it together. She's been good about managing the budget so that I don't have to. Then after 6 years, she got bored and started a home business that brings in an additional income. I never had to worry about her overspending. She has always been very serious about making the marriage work.
I have been married to a chinese woman for 17 years now. It took some time to fully understand chinese culture and unique upbringing differences as compared to a Canadian woman, but we just love each other and I am the happiest man to have her. Thankyou for your video and explanations. It was fun to hear all this.
I've dated Chinese women for over 4 years and other ethnicity. I can verifiably say, ALL women are dragons and typhoons. 3:27 🤦♂ Every relationship is great at the beginning stage. A year into the relationship, they ALL want to control you. For example, telling you how to walk 5:03. Woman! I walk the damn same way before I met you. Now, you tell me how to walk?! 🤷♂ As the old saying goes, you can't live without them, and you can't live with them.
I just celebrated my 14th anniversary with my wife who grew up in China. I wasn’t looking for a Chinese or even an Asian partner, but her online dating profile intrigued me (she has a PhD and I am an MD) and she seemed very nice. I went into the relationship eyes wide open with the full intent of learning all I could about her culture. This paid off as my relationship with her family is close despite the language barrier (although I am slowly learning Mandarin). When we go to China to visit family, her parents and sister and my brother in law treat me like I was a blood relative. The dragon/typhoon part is also true…before I learned what her red lines were and inadvertently crossed them, I discovered that my beautiful sweet wife has a surprisingly strong and extremely accurate throwing arm.
Ive been with the same Chinese woman for 8 years now... She has a ferocious temper , but she is also very tender and loving . She does little things for me that no other woman would think to do....always is thinking about me and trying to take care of me... She is awesome , ( just don't make her angry )....
I have avoided Chinese women for years. I don't find Chinese people to be warm and fuzzy. Truthfully, I don't think that Chinese women have the capacity to love. They view relationships as transactional. For them it is what have you done for me lately or what will you do for me.
I think it’s an opposites attract kind of mentality for a lot of men. I used to work with a couple of Japanese men and we would hang out after work. They both told me their ideal girl was a blonde haired white girl. There may also be this idea that easy Asian women are more submissive than western women. However I am married to a Japanese woman and let me tell you, she is in no way submissive! I’m sure while people’s personalities can vary in a country. There will also be stereotypical differences between China, Korea, Vietnam, Japan etc.
Korean and Japanese women take makeup very seriously, many of them don't even remove it before going to bed, Asian men all want white women, but they all have low self-esteem
My Chinese wife is not obedient or gentle. But I love her to the moon and back, and she's an amazing mom. And she's looking amazing and young, considering she's in her late 40s.
@@GobbyLisa99 You look great for being in your late 40s. Next, how about create a video or slide show of you when you were in your 20s? I like to remind young people that the people that they call out as old, all used to be young before. Since you are from the UK, one perfect example is Jane Goodall. People nowadays know her as a very old woman, but she used to be very pretty when she was in her 20s.
Thank you for the informative video. Looks like you had fun making it. As for looking down when walking, it is done to avoid uneven places in the sidewalk that can send you falling pretty quickly. So the reason is very much a practical one. Take good care.
I'm not even married, but the one I ended up with is horrible. She lied about not being able to have children. She is horrible at cleaning her own home and has physically hit our daughter. I am a clean freak, and it drives me nuts that she is sloppy and unorganized. She has no empathy and definitely doesn't take any responsibility for her own actions. She's literally accidentally bopped our daughter's head on the edge of the doorjam to then turn around and blame me for it. Like, are you stupid? Do you need me to help you walk? Her own older daughter has written me a letter talking about how she doesn't like her mother. She constantly gets into arguments with her mother and even admitted to me that she use to be mean to her brother when she was younger. I have to treat her like a child who can't handle certain responsibilities and also as a person who seems insistent on staying ignorant of certain scientific facts. She runs out of the room when I use a microwave. She didn't know that the sun is a star. For some reason, she doesn't like using household cleaners for cleaning. I see other couples where they are happy and their wife is genuinely happy. So I know it's not all Chinese women.
I think having a Chinese wife is a good thing because my Chinese Jamaican lady IS gentler and more traditional and feminine and intelligent than most American women, with a lovely gentle voice that is music to my ears. You even agreed that "we are very gentle" when the men are good, and I am good.😄
I met a Chinese woman at work who was going to college also. Found out that she was estranged from her husband who was living 2 states away. At length, I imagine because I was kind and helpful at work, she wanted me to marry her. I was married with children at the time, though it was on the rocks. I finally told her that no man is going to have an affair with a married Christian Chinese woman. She needed to go back to her husband when she graduated, and either patch things up with him or separate. Never heard or saw her again after I left the company. Certainly there are exceptions everywhere. But in working with Chinese professionally, I found one could never turn your back for a moment. They're always scheming to heir own advantage. Growing up around Mexican immigrants (stepmother too) I found the same general behavior.
@@GobbyLisa99 I refused going down that path. In hind sight, I really think all she wanted was permanent US citizenship. Not the first time I had been propositioned by females.
@@carljung9230 - admiring and cherishing your wife is not simping. Especially if she reciprocates. Despite what you may have let yourself become brainwashed into believing...real women still exist beyond the 304's that simps throw money at. True love may be rare...but it's not a myth.
This video should go viral cause its 100% true. My roommate married a Chinese women and its been terrible living in the same house with all her requirement. Trust me, they are not gentle or submissive. The last part of the video - Cultural habits - are crazy. Example, she likes cold weather but doesnt want the AC On in 120 degree weather cause it hurts her skin. SMH.
Eight years ago I went for a massage and met the woman of my dreams. I have loved her every day since then. I like everything she does. She is the only woman in my 82 years that I like and love 100%. Maybe I just got lucky.
My ex is from China. She was fine in the beginning. Things changed after she got her green card. She always did whatever she wanted without any consideration of what I said or wanted or even talking to me about it. I got kicked out of the bedroom and had to sleep in a spare room because I snored. It seemed like I could do nothing right in her eyes. The home cooking stopped. She usually didn't come home until after midnight. On occasion, not at all. Then she stopped driving her Honda and started showing up in a Lexus. I know I didn't pay for that, couldn't afford it. She eventually demanded a divorce. I wasn't sure whether to be upset and sad or grateful. In the end, I was grateful because the peace that followed was bliss. I guess it's easy to fool a lonely man. I haven't even tried to find another woman since. Not worth the risk. I kind of feel sorry for whoever she hooked up with though. He doesn't know what he got himself into.
I dated a divorced Chinese woman with 2 kids from 2 different men - I was with her for about 2 years - I can honestly say there is NOT one thing I can say nice about her - She was just looking for a man with money and she treated me like CRAP - She said that at my age ( 55 ) I should have at lease $ 5 Million Dollars in the bank - She has been in American for 5 years now - Still has never worked a day in American - Her future idea of working is selling Iphone cases on Amazon - It was a good learning lesson.
Your story reminds me of mine. So my response is not to say "you get what you pay for". But I'll say to myself, "you get what you pay for." Eyes wide open. The chance of marrying for a green card is very high when a much younger woman marrying a much older man, who is a citizen of another country that the woman wants to be.
Yep...they are all about the money. Even in China, they look for a rich guy...most of them end up sheng nu...left over women...because no sane guy wants to hang himself with that kind of nightmare. lol
My 2nd ex-wife (both were Chinese, one in the mainland and the 2nd born in Australia) refused to make love after pressuring me to register the marriage. We had a child (conceived before we registered) whom she got custody over. She suddenly resently the fact that I'm hardly Elon Musk and wanted a divorce. Probably wanted a payout. I refused and she eventually dropped the demand when she found a rich Frenchman and filed for divorce. I pay child support.
I married a lady from Macau 24 years ago, i wasn't looking for any certain ethnicity, we just clicked. The sock and underwear thing is true, my wife would always get mad at me because i just throw all the clothes together. I said, well then you wash your clothes as you like, i will not do it anymore! She does have some strange cultural etiquette, but it does no harm And i have met plenty of Mainland Chinese wives here in the US that are tyrants. I got lucky with my wife! I guess!
Thank you so much for this video. I am an older American dating a younger Chinese woman. We are getting married at the first of the year. I learned a lot from this video. (she chose me, btw) This was very well done and explains some differences in our culture. Thank you again!
Here's my take on the difference between men & women: 1. A man will get married, build/buy a house so he can have sex in the house every night/day for the rest of his life. 2. A woman will get married, have sex once her husband and after that she can keep the house for the rest of her life. Who told me this fact you may wonder? A woman of course!
In America, Hollywood created this false meek, gentle, and honorable persona of Asia. Nothing could be further from the truth. The same types of attitudes exist everywhere around the globe. Good, bad, generous, selfish, you name it. Every country, race, and ethnicity have the same types of people everywhere. I've lived in all regions of the globe and have experienced similar personalities no matter where I resided.
Basically Chinese women are like everywhere else, you just find yourself a skinnier and pale problem. But still a woman I'm not sure about a wife. Wife is another level of women hard to find.
HI Gobby, Your video was very humorous. Growing up in Chicago, with Chinese martial art teachers and professors along with friends taught me much about Chinese culture. Having lived in Taiwan for 3 months and visited China 5 times made me love Chinese culture. Even tried to marry by going to Hong Kong to meet a Chinese woman that I found online resulted in being completely scammed. Now I am retired and living in the Philippines, Russ
I dont think its a Chinese woman's issue, I think its a balance of power issue, which comes from the law, the government messing with the individual balance in each individual relationship by giving most of the power to one side, the woman's side. I find my Chinese girlfriend to be very nice, we both respect each other, and arguments are dealt with completely differently than in Western society. My girlfriend calms down any situation, and we talk quietly, it is refreshing, and a relief. Its funny you mention about cold water, she always hates me drinking cold drinks 😂😂
If your Chinese wife speaks quietly, cooks well and is very intelligent, you are doing well. If she is smart, of course she prefers owning a house, to being homeless. Your wife should never need to ask for money. If she can not be trusted you chose badly.
I married a Chinese wife 7 years ago. She is beautiful and kind, but she is a wolf who was raised by a pack of wolves! She is loud and dominating, but fiercely loyal and a good housekeeper. The sex evaporated quickly...😳
The things you say about the handing of the salary over to the wife in China can also be said about many marriages with Japanese woman. At least that has been my experience. At least with some of the Americans in my area, I think part of the reason they married Chinese people is that they genuinely like Chinese culture and speaking Mandarin. Thanks for sharing your personal examples as well.
A Chinese Lady who I worked for once said to me that she noticed that, while men seemed to have a good grasp of policy, we can't organise as well as women, particularly when it comes to contingency and remaining calm in the face of difficulty. I said, "So you're saying that men are hysterical." She just smiled knowingly.
My British ex had a chinese wife before me. It was HELL for her to be with him. Eventually, I ran to other side of the country to get away from him & she did too when she left him. Are there videos warning about the dangers of being with an Englishman???😂
The Chinese women look so good 👍 at a older age. I don't agree with the Left Over woman. I would be happy to have a Left Over woman. To me it is not about the age it's how someone treats you. Most women in America don't respect 😮men! That's why we have these gender wars😮😢.
There is a perception that Asian cultures continue to practice a set of family values which women in Western Europe and the United States have abandoned. Values such as gratitude, compassion, respect, modesty, being considerate, and for many being obedient are important. Men are leaving women in the West because modern women have no respect for men and they feel entitled to the perks of traditional male traits while ignoring their own traditional roles.
The feminists now say men shouldn't sit with legs wide open. Should sit properly: At the edge of the seat, knees together, hands clasped together, elbows touching your sides. Otherwise, you favor "rape culture".
Many people think all "Eastern" or "Asian" women are similar. i.e. easier to get along with than Western Women. But I know that is not necessarily true, of course.
@@GobbyLisa99i.e means “that is (to say)” it’s used to rephrase something that was said earlier on in a sentence. It’s meaning is originally Latin (id est)
Chinese women from China are very different from Chinese women from the West or from Taiwan/HK/Singapore/Malaysia/Thailand/ Indonesia, etc. They're all very different from each other.
Lovely video. I just subscribed! I lived and taught English in China for 2 years and I have lived in Thailand for many years, as well as Mexico for 1 year. I've been fortunate enough to travel all over Asia and Latin America and I can honestly say if I were looking for a wife, I'd go to China to find her with Mexico being a close second. I'm enjoying your videos @GobbyLisa99. Keep doing what you are doing 😊
Chinese women are more deferential to foreign men, because they have a deep inferiority complex about being non-white. You know that. They treat Chinese men as doormats.
I am married 7+ years to a wonderful girl from shanghai. We have two lovely kids. Was very happy until I saw this video and realized that I never received a massage but frequently give one 😅
I know many Chinese women, I teach them English. They are some of the most empathic and intelligent people I know. They have also introduced me to 撒娇. Please do a video on this topic. I will be visiting Shanghai and Beijing in September. It will be interesting to see the women there compared to the women in London
I don't get the idea of a man letting his wife handle the finances just on the virtue that she's a woman. Makes zero sense to me. For me, as a well to do man in his 30's it's simple: I just ask to compare with my partner how she's doing in terms of savings and managing expenses. Im very fiscally responsible and knowledgeable, have loads saved, and don't spend money on dumb things like coffee each day, so that issue gets settled pretty quickly.
Hmmm....hands over his wages to his wife....she has the final say....GENERALLY, she TRIES to not be too harsh to him in public (🤣..❤!) ......also - dragons...underwear...cold water...periods... ...you are correct...it wasn't very helpful in understanding if a Chinese woman would make a good wife....😂!! But...I know your husband is very happy. He has you...❤ 😁...👍
I was on a Japanese tour bus in NYC and we had lunch in Chinatown. The waiters just had to ask me why? So, they said, American house, Chinese food and Japanese wife. Wow! Chinese heaven!
Everyone calls my Wife Lisa but her name is Xia. Her uncle is Retired General Chung Fu Li. My wife is over 70, works in the garden every day till she is covered in sweat.cook me breakfast every morning.Cooks lunch. She can run 5 miles. She weighs 130.
I saw a lot of men online who wanted to find a Chinese wife, and I thought it was interesting, so I made this video.
Great video and insight. Blessings 🙏🏼
Thank you for the video. I hear from fellow men all the time and I agree that what we want are traditional values. What Asian culture (and some others) but not western at all is a traditional relationship where a man contribution is valued. Where the marriage is valued and the woman is not just planning the divorce during the dating phase. Everything we men do is to grow greater so we pour over into the women who stand behind us to help to make us great. A woman’s role used to be celebrated now in western culture women on their end are in competition with us men. Why when everything we men do is for women. So in short it’s not Asian per-say but traditional values that we seek and the Asian culture has it in abundance and every man of every race sees this. Thank you again for the video.
@@A-Thomas Thank you.
I'm in the red pill community and I've never heard of men wanting Chinese women for the food they eat or back massages or obedience. Traditional values are I've never thought about it myself.
But you have to admit, they are great extras qualities to have in a wife.
@@catsrgoodpeople2 Food or massage just jokes. Because I don’t know why many western like Chinese women.
I was married to a Chinese woman. She was beautiful, had high hygiene standards took good care of out things and money. Was a confidant, a wife and a friend. Very important she was a generous lover. May she rest in peace.
@@Jeff-sm8of very sorry for your belated beloved wife.
Some seem rather materialistic and vindictive.
Amen !!!
No way rude greedy aggressive money 💵 hungry probably the worst woman in Asia 😊
You mean ALL.
That applies to women everywhere.
Especially western women
I've been with my Chinese wife for 38 years, she handles the money for the simple reason is she is so much better at finances. She is fiercely loyal and family oriented and a great mother to our daughters, one thing for sure is there is never a dull moment in the house. All three of them are magnificent ladies and wouldn't trade them for the world! We met by chance, I wasn't looking to marry a Chinese woman, it's what fate had brought us. What we wanted from life lined up, both of us wanted a family and got busy trying, but health problems ended that path for our children, and we adopted our daughters. Is she perfect? No, I love her as she is. I would do it all over again! Maybe a little earlier before health became an issue, I would've loved to have had children with this lady!
Obviously she passively aggressively controls your life and you accepted this happily.
My Wife does not like to spend money. for 7 years she made most of the money but now I am the one making the money as she is retired but she works like a slave in her garden raising vegetables to sell and to eat. She is my crown.
@@dancrawford174 must of been because overwork...
40 years ago. Comparing China 40 years ago and now, the country changes drastically. So the women.
I have had a Chinese wife - from Beijing - for 42 years. Forget the idea of a submissive wife. No chance. But I would not change her for all the tea in China. Marrying her was the best thing I've ever done.
You're like the guy who won at the Roulette Wheel.
@@johnchiu7581 There are things which are left best unspoken. But chinese women are very possessive, protective and vindictive if you ever step on their tails. You may not be asked to do housework, but you are 100% expected to bring home the bacon.
No one asked for someone submissive, just a woman who isn't abusive.
Simp
Had a shanghai gf once and it was fighting all day every day and night 😂😂
My brother married a Chinese wife and stayed in marriage for forty years. They met at the Computer Learning Center and fell in love. They have three grown children and two grandchildren. His wife made more money than her husband (my brother), and they got along well. They are happily together and live in Northern Virginia.
I'm an American man who married a Chinese woman 29 years ago and is still married to her. I agree with much of what you said. You are right that Chinese women think they should control the money, and I didn't agree with that and it caused some friction, but not enough to wreck the marriage. The main reasons I was interested in marrying a Chinese woman were completely valid -- totally heterosexual with no interest in sexual experimentation, totally loyal, no male-bashing at all, maintaining good health (and a good figure) through a healthy diet, and a strong belief in education.
CONGRATS !!!
Yes. my Thai wife of 29 years who is part Chinese comes from a family who value education. The non Chinese parts of the family, not so much. The educated side have done much better. Some of them, older generation, can't read.
My Thai Chinese wife of 27 years is like a Swiss army knife she seems to be everything. Smart and highly educated with Medical Degrees from Thailand to America. A fantastic mother who would give her life for me or our son if need be. Always helping other less fortunate than herself. Sometiimes bluntly honest but always a true partner that I have seen cry when she knew I was angry or unhappy. I count my blessings thinking when she came into my life.
sounds like a chore
I have a Jamaican wife - and some people come to me and say things like "so you like black women' to which I reply 'I like a black woman'. I don't think it is helpful to think 'I want a Chinese wife', unless you have a particular Chinese woman in mind.
Weird. I never told my sons to date girls of certain race. I insisted love comes first; race is unimportant. (I am Chinese American.) But first one said he liked Asian women; sure enough, his girlfriends were Asian Americans. Second one said he like white or Hispanic women and claimed that Asian girls were ugly. I collected and showed him a bunch of pictures of gorgeous Asian girls. He was not convinced. Where did those thoughts come from? Whatever. Not going to interfere. One life to live; live and let live.
I'd agree with that. What matters is the person you're dealing with.
Some of us know what we are getting ourselves into. I lived in Beijing for a few years and fell in love with the country and people. I married a friend. We have 5 children, 14 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren.
When i meet my wife in the UK i did not see her as Chinese i saw her as the person i wanted to date and be with. Now being married for nearly 7 years she is still the best thing that has ever happened to me. but i must also say being part of her family is great as they are all great people. Will be going on holiday without her to China early next year and my Chinese family have told me they are taking me to see their ancestors home and home city which i consider that i am truly accepted as part of the family
But why without her. ?
@@itnala to see if i can get by in China without her as i do not speak Chinese
Not about race or colour but about her character which thinks marriage and loyalty that matters.
I've never handed over my paycheck to a woman. Never will.
@@clintdavis7434 good idea.
That's always been a no no for me.
GOOD !!!! M-G-T-O-W !!!
Then you cannot have a Chinese or Japanese wife.
@marvelcomiks8078 Lived in the orient for 3 1/2 years. Those women did what I told them and never complained.
I had a lot of fun listening to this haha. Thank you and god bless you and your family. Your English is very good
I enjoyed the video. I married a nice 54 y.o. Chinese woman 10 years ago and brought her to America. In the early years, she was ocasionally a 母老虎 (Mǔ lǎohǔ) but only when I deserved it. She is incredibly thrifty and allows me to manage all the money. She is an incredible cook and seamstress. I have traveled to China with her every year and have been to many cities and National Parks. Her family and friends are wonderful to me. I have no regrets. If fate ever took her away from me, I would certainly marry another Chinese lady. Keep in mind this saying - Happy Wife, Happy Life!
All women treat unknown men better than their husband
Great video!
I'm fascinated with Chinese culture in general and great advice
I have had a Chinese wife for almost 26 years. She is awesome.
Been married to a Cantonese speaking Chinese wife for more than fifty years, she's a bloody woman first, no regrets.
My wife of 42 years is from Beijing. Yes she has Chinese characteristics, but her female ones are far and away more prominent.
My Wife is also Cantonese from Guangxi.
My wife, 36, is from Beijing. Her dad taught her how to take responsibility for her own actions. Her mom taught her how to be feminine and delicate, and how to appreciate beauty. We've worked hard for 10 years to build a strong marriage. Her ability to compromise, reflect on her own mistakes, and change from them has been critical to the process. So has her ability to endure to maintain the marriage and the family.
Many young women in China didn't gave parents who gave them proper instruction on how to be proper adults. They only taught them to study hard in hopes of finding a good job. They assumed that values and moral instruction would fall into place on their own. On this, these parents made a huge mistake.
What’s lovely couple. Aslo I’ve married with my husband for 15 years and 20 years together. We also have a very strong relationship.
Second paragraph describes my wife 100%
@@GobbyLisa99 There was work in this. She brought into the relationship her expectation to be taken care of. I am 8 years older than her and make enough money to support the both of us (no children). When we got married, I told her I would give her 8 years to decide what she wanted to do work-wise. I also didn't split bank accts and payments with her. She spent her money as she saw fit. I just told her that whether we live in a house or a cardboard box depends on her spending, but either way we're doing it together. She's been good about managing the budget so that I don't have to. Then after 6 years, she got bored and started a home business that brings in an additional income. I never had to worry about her overspending. She has always been very serious about making the marriage work.
@@kuangedYour wife is good 👍. My husband also 8 years older than me 😊
Oh my God,so cute!Lovely insights and your English pronunciation is quite good.All the best to you and your husband!
Thank you
I have been married to a chinese woman for 17 years now. It took some time to fully understand chinese culture and unique upbringing differences as compared to a Canadian woman, but we just love each other and I am the happiest man to have her.
Thankyou for your video and explanations. It was fun to hear all this.
My wife is Chinese and she is loyal and loving. She does not have any of the weird financial obsessions mentioned here.
I've dated Chinese women for over 4 years and other ethnicity. I can verifiably say, ALL women are dragons and typhoons. 3:27 🤦♂ Every relationship is great at the beginning stage. A year into the relationship, they ALL want to control you. For example, telling you how to walk 5:03. Woman! I walk the damn same way before I met you. Now, you tell me how to walk?! 🤷♂
As the old saying goes, you can't live without them, and you can't live with them.
No, we CAN live without them.
Obsessed with money.
I just celebrated my 14th anniversary with my wife who grew up in China. I wasn’t looking for a Chinese or even an Asian partner, but her online dating profile intrigued me (she has a PhD and I am an MD) and she seemed very nice. I went into the relationship eyes wide open with the full intent of learning all I could about her culture. This paid off as my relationship with her family is close despite the language barrier (although I am slowly learning Mandarin). When we go to China to visit family, her parents and sister and my brother in law treat me like I was a blood relative. The dragon/typhoon part is also true…before I learned what her red lines were and inadvertently crossed them, I discovered that my beautiful sweet wife has a surprisingly strong and extremely accurate throwing arm.
You are lucky. Many men deceived online. I also know Chinese women who want to marry in the west, and they were also cheated out of a lot of money.
Ive been with the same Chinese woman for 8 years now... She has a ferocious temper , but she is also very tender and loving . She does little things for me that no other woman would think to do....always is thinking about me and trying to take care of me... She is awesome , ( just don't make her angry )....
haha ( just don't make her angry )....
I have avoided Chinese women for years. I don't find Chinese people to be warm and fuzzy. Truthfully, I don't think that Chinese women have the capacity to love. They view relationships as transactional. For them it is what have you done for me lately or what will you do for me.
Some Chinese women like that .
@@GobbyLisa99 BTW, I am not a race hater or hate Chinese. This is just from my personal observations.
@@EnglandRose :)
I know.
@@GobbyLisa99 no! more....70%
Equal respect goes a long way its rare in America
Men definitely have no respect here. Well .. most of us anyway.
América is a continent not a country
@@pantherman8719girls are even worse,
@@noerodriguez9047 no shit sherlock....colloquially, when ppl say america they mean the us
I think it’s an opposites attract kind of mentality for a lot of men. I used to work with a couple of Japanese men and we would hang out after work. They both told me their ideal girl was a blonde haired white girl.
There may also be this idea that easy Asian women are more submissive than western women. However I am married to a Japanese woman and let me tell you, she is in no way submissive!
I’m sure while people’s personalities can vary in a country. There will also be stereotypical differences between China, Korea, Vietnam, Japan etc.
Korean and Japanese women take makeup very seriously, many of them don't even remove it before going to bed, Asian men all want white women, but they all have low self-esteem
My Chinese wife is not obedient or gentle. But I love her to the moon and back, and she's an amazing mom. And she's looking amazing and young, considering she's in her late 40s.
What a lovely couple. I'm also in late 40s.
And as Mack Rice said: "It's cheaper to keep her".
@@GobbyLisa99 and you look very attractive too !
@@GobbyLisa99 You look great for being in your late 40s. Next, how about create a video or slide show of you when you were in your 20s? I like to remind young people that the people that they call out as old, all used to be young before. Since you are from the UK, one perfect example is Jane Goodall. People nowadays know her as a very old woman, but she used to be very pretty when she was in her 20s.
Thank you for the informative video. Looks like you had fun making it. As for looking down when walking, it is done to avoid uneven places in the sidewalk that can send you falling pretty quickly. So the reason is very much a practical one. Take good care.
That's it I'm buying an inflatable doll.
Save up! Japan's making robots with lab-grown human skin! 🤣
I'm not even married, but the one I ended up with is horrible. She lied about not being able to have children. She is horrible at cleaning her own home and has physically hit our daughter. I am a clean freak, and it drives me nuts that she is sloppy and unorganized. She has no empathy and definitely doesn't take any responsibility for her own actions. She's literally accidentally bopped our daughter's head on the edge of the doorjam to then turn around and blame me for it. Like, are you stupid? Do you need me to help you walk? Her own older daughter has written me a letter talking about how she doesn't like her mother. She constantly gets into arguments with her mother and even admitted to me that she use to be mean to her brother when she was younger. I have to treat her like a child who can't handle certain responsibilities and also as a person who seems insistent on staying ignorant of certain scientific facts. She runs out of the room when I use a microwave. She didn't know that the sun is a star. For some reason, she doesn't like using household cleaners for cleaning. I see other couples where they are happy and their wife is genuinely happy. So I know it's not all Chinese women.
I’m so sorry. I give you a hug .
I think having a Chinese wife is a good thing because my Chinese Jamaican lady IS gentler and more traditional and feminine and intelligent than most American women, with a lovely gentle voice that is music to my ears. You even agreed that "we are very gentle" when the men are good, and I am good.😄
I met a Chinese woman at work who was going to college also. Found out that she was estranged from her husband who was living 2 states away. At length, I imagine because I was kind and helpful at work, she wanted me to marry her. I was married with children at the time, though it was on the rocks. I finally told her that no man is going to have an affair with a married Christian Chinese woman. She needed to go back to her husband when she graduated, and either patch things up with him or separate. Never heard or saw her again after I left the company.
Certainly there are exceptions everywhere. But in working with Chinese professionally, I found one could never turn your back for a moment. They're always scheming to heir own advantage. Growing up around Mexican immigrants (stepmother too) I found the same general behavior.
There is only reason why a married woman wants to marry other man , because they are having an affair
@@GobbyLisa99 I refused going down that path. In hind sight, I really think all she wanted was permanent US citizenship. Not the first time I had been propositioned by females.
I have been married to a Chinese woman since 2012. My wife is a daddies girl. raised to work hard in the garden and all business. She is my hero.
simps are like this
@@carljung9230 - admiring and cherishing your wife is not simping. Especially if she reciprocates. Despite what you may have let yourself become brainwashed into believing...real women still exist beyond the 304's that simps throw money at. True love may be rare...but it's not a myth.
This video should go viral cause its 100% true. My roommate married a Chinese women and its been terrible living in the same house with all her requirement. Trust me, they are not gentle or submissive. The last part of the video - Cultural habits - are crazy. Example, she likes cold weather but doesnt want the AC On in 120 degree weather cause it hurts her skin. SMH.
Eight years ago I went for a massage and met the woman of my dreams. I have loved her every day since then. I like everything she does. She is the only woman in my 82 years that I like and love 100%. Maybe I just got lucky.
My ex is from China. She was fine in the beginning. Things changed after she got her green card. She always did whatever she wanted without any consideration of what I said or wanted or even talking to me about it. I got kicked out of the bedroom and had to sleep in a spare room because I snored. It seemed like I could do nothing right in her eyes. The home cooking stopped. She usually didn't come home until after midnight. On occasion, not at all. Then she stopped driving her Honda and started showing up in a Lexus. I know I didn't pay for that, couldn't afford it. She eventually demanded a divorce. I wasn't sure whether to be upset and sad or grateful. In the end, I was grateful because the peace that followed was bliss. I guess it's easy to fool a lonely man. I haven't even tried to find another woman since. Not worth the risk. I kind of feel sorry for whoever she hooked up with though. He doesn't know what he got himself into.
I'm sorry you met this kind of person. Some Chinese women are very purposeful.
@@GobbyLisa99 Thank you, but purposeful is not the word I would use.
@@Waltkatlack of heart
Chinese people are wonderful, their women a dream!!!!
I dated a divorced Chinese woman with 2 kids from 2 different men - I was with her for about 2 years - I can honestly say there is NOT one thing I can say nice about her - She was just looking for a man with money and she treated me like CRAP - She said that at my age ( 55 ) I should have at lease $ 5 Million Dollars in the bank - She has been in American for 5 years now - Still has never worked a day in American - Her future idea of working is selling Iphone cases on Amazon - It was a good learning lesson.
The red warning flags were posted all over that one.
Married for a green card is never for love. Just look at the mirror and ask: What does she see in me?
Your story reminds me of mine. So my response is not to say "you get what you pay for". But I'll say to myself, "you get what you pay for." Eyes wide open. The chance of marrying for a green card is very high when a much younger woman marrying a much older man, who is a citizen of another country that the woman wants to be.
Yep...they are all about the money. Even in China, they look for a rich guy...most of them end up sheng nu...left over women...because no sane guy wants to hang himself with that kind of nightmare. lol
My 2nd ex-wife (both were Chinese, one in the mainland and the 2nd born in Australia) refused to make love after pressuring me to register the marriage. We had a child (conceived before we registered) whom she got custody over. She suddenly resently the fact that I'm hardly Elon Musk and wanted a divorce. Probably wanted a payout. I refused and she eventually dropped the demand when she found a rich Frenchman and filed for divorce. I pay child support.
I married a lady from Macau 24 years ago, i wasn't looking for any certain ethnicity, we just clicked. The sock and underwear thing is true, my wife would always get mad at me because i just throw all the clothes together. I said, well then you wash your clothes as you like, i will not do it anymore! She does have some strange cultural etiquette, but it does no harm
And i have met plenty of Mainland Chinese wives here in the US that are tyrants. I got lucky with my wife! I guess!
I would like a Chinese wife, but in these times it’s hard because they have such high requirements from a man it makes me feel hopeless 😞
Their only word they know is Money.
Exactly.
my wife's name is actually "Ka ching ka ching"......which must be "Cash Register" in Mandarin??
Thank you so much for this video. I am an older American dating a younger Chinese woman. We are getting married at the first of the year. I learned a lot from this video. (she chose me, btw) This was very well done and explains some differences in our culture. Thank you again!
Nothing free about having a wife. Don't fall for it and get married.
Here's my take on the difference between men & women:
1. A man will get married, build/buy a house so he can have sex in the house every night/day for the rest of his life.
2. A woman will get married, have sex once her husband and after that she can keep the house for the rest of her life.
Who told me this fact you may wonder? A woman of course!
She could have come from a rich family or has a higher paying job, brings home the bacon.
GOOD !!!! M-G-T-O-W !!! AMEN !!!
Yeah, it's called legalized prostitution.
Why do people want free sex? It always cost money or time.
In America, Hollywood created this false meek, gentle, and honorable persona of Asia. Nothing could be further from the truth. The same types of attitudes exist everywhere around the globe. Good, bad, generous, selfish, you name it. Every country, race, and ethnicity have the same types of people everywhere. I've lived in all regions of the globe and have experienced similar personalities no matter where I resided.
Loving your insights! Would you possibly be able to discuss the similarities & differences between Chinese & British Culture?
I will .Thanks.
Basically Chinese women are like everywhere else, you just find yourself a skinnier and pale problem. But still a woman I'm not sure about a wife. Wife is another level of women hard to find.
HI Gobby, Your video was very humorous. Growing up in Chicago, with Chinese martial art teachers and professors along with friends taught me much about Chinese culture. Having lived in Taiwan for 3 months and visited China 5 times made me love Chinese culture. Even tried to marry by going to Hong Kong to meet a Chinese woman that I found online resulted in being completely scammed. Now I am retired and living in the Philippines, Russ
I dont think its a Chinese woman's issue, I think its a balance of power issue, which comes from the law, the government messing with the individual balance in each individual relationship by giving most of the power to one side, the woman's side.
I find my Chinese girlfriend to be very nice, we both respect each other, and arguments are dealt with completely differently than in Western society. My girlfriend calms down any situation, and we talk quietly, it is refreshing, and a relief. Its funny you mention about cold water, she always hates me drinking cold drinks 😂😂
Nice video Lisa and nice info I appreciate it 💪🏾😎
I found a $50 bill while looking down the other day :).
If your Chinese wife speaks quietly, cooks well and is very intelligent, you are doing well. If she is smart, of course she prefers owning a house, to being homeless. Your wife should never need to ask for money. If she can not be trusted you chose badly.
Most Chinese wifes don't cook or f, but demand a lot of money.
I married a Chinese wife 7 years ago. She is beautiful and kind, but she is a wolf who was raised by a pack of wolves! She is loud and dominating, but fiercely loyal and a good housekeeper. The sex evaporated quickly...😳
The things you say about the handing of the salary over to the wife in China can also be said about many marriages with Japanese woman. At least that has been my experience. At least with some of the Americans in my area, I think part of the reason they married Chinese people is that they genuinely like Chinese culture and speaking Mandarin.
Thanks for sharing your personal examples as well.
A Chinese Lady who I worked for once said to me that she noticed that, while men seemed to have a good grasp of policy, we can't organise as well as women, particularly when it comes to contingency and remaining calm in the face of difficulty. I said, "So you're saying that men are hysterical."
She just smiled knowingly.
No money no honey.
No thanks...had a very bad experience....the whole family wants to be involved and controling. 19 years of misery.
My British ex had a chinese wife before me. It was HELL for her to be with him. Eventually, I ran to other side of the country to get away from him & she did too when she left him. Are there videos warning about the dangers of being with an Englishman???😂
The Chinese women look so good 👍 at a older age. I don't agree with the Left Over woman. I would be happy to have a Left Over woman. To me it is not about the age it's how someone treats you. Most women in America don't respect 😮men! That's why we have these gender wars😮😢.
bro what.... a left over woman is a red flag
@@lycan2494 depends how you define "left over"
@@lycan2494 depends how you define
@@lycan2494 depends how you define
@@lycan2494 depends how you define "left over"
There is a perception that Asian cultures continue to practice a set of family values which women in Western Europe and the United States have abandoned. Values such as gratitude, compassion, respect, modesty, being considerate, and for many being obedient are important. Men are leaving women in the West because modern women have no respect for men and they feel entitled to the perks of traditional male traits while ignoring their own traditional roles.
The feminists now say men shouldn't sit with legs wide open. Should sit properly: At the edge of the seat, knees together, hands clasped together, elbows touching your sides. Otherwise, you favor "rape culture".
If only I had watched this video 13 years ago😅. I love my Chinese wife but it’s definitely not been easy that’s for sure.
Many people think all "Eastern" or "Asian" women are similar. i.e. easier to get along with than Western Women. But I know that is not necessarily true, of course.
Sorry. What is i.e. means?
@@GobbyLisa99i.e means “that is (to say)” it’s used to rephrase something that was said earlier on in a sentence. It’s meaning is originally Latin (id est)
@@Cupofjoebro Thanks for your explanation.
She’s lovely!
That was strangely informative. , already new about separating certain clothing items…….yes mum thanks
Chinese women from China are very different from Chinese women from the West or from Taiwan/HK/Singapore/Malaysia/Thailand/ Indonesia, etc. They're all very different from each other.
it's the free massage for sure
I mean real massage, because we all know acupressure.
I don't want ANY wife!
Lovely video. I just subscribed! I lived and taught English in China for 2 years and I have lived in Thailand for many years, as well as Mexico for 1 year. I've been fortunate enough to travel all over Asia and Latin America and I can honestly say if I were looking for a wife, I'd go to China to find her with Mexico being a close second. I'm enjoying your videos @GobbyLisa99. Keep doing what you are doing 😊
Thank you.
Wow Thanks for the warning...lol
I have a Chinese wife.😂😂😂 We have been married for 17 years. 👍👍👍
Stay strong brother.
Chinese women are more deferential to foreign men, because they have a deep inferiority complex about being non-white. You know that. They treat Chinese men as doormats.
If todays Chinese women were not materialistic and $ hungry, men would be more interested in them.
Love doesn't seem to be important.
I already knew about the things she talked about. But to see an Asian woman openly talk about her secret "dirty laundry" is so funny and entertaining.
Your comments already turned me about marriage a chinese lady. I would rather live alone.
Chinese women are no good!
Great lecture. Thank you for your thoughts.
im feeling so low lol but this video made me laugh.
She's so cute.😀
No wife is better.
Haha
Very interesting. 🙂 Thank you for sharing this.
I'm English. Without watching having a Chinese wife is an extremely bad idea ...... The mother in law think they rule. This is ridiculous!!!! .......
I've considered marrying a Chinese woman in the past, but then I had a Singaporean-Chinese mom, so I know all of this that your saying is true.
I am married 7+ years to a wonderful girl from shanghai. We have two lovely kids. Was very happy until I saw this video and realized that I never received a massage but frequently give one 😅
Haha .
I’m a Western man married to a Chinese for 15 years. We are very happy. What you say is true.
If you watched video, you can find Truth in my video means good.
😂😂 very interesting information while entertaining 🙂
True and correct….
I know many Chinese women, I teach them English. They are some of the most empathic and intelligent people I know. They have also introduced me to 撒娇. Please do a video on this topic.
I will be visiting Shanghai and Beijing in September. It will be interesting to see the women there compared to the women in London
Haha, 撒娇is a good topic.
Good and respectful dedicated and hardworking❤
Very good advice!
I don't get the idea of a man letting his wife handle the finances just on the virtue that she's a woman. Makes zero sense to me. For me, as a well to do man in his 30's it's simple: I just ask to compare with my partner how she's doing in terms of savings and managing expenses. Im very fiscally responsible and knowledgeable, have loads saved, and don't spend money on dumb things like coffee each day, so that issue gets settled pretty quickly.
Very interesting. It would be a joy to have a beautiful Chinese wife like you! 🙏
Yes, I do want Chinese food every day, but I still wouldn't expect my wife to cook for me every day as I'm not horrible or lazy.
Hmmm....hands over his wages to his wife....she has the final say....GENERALLY, she TRIES to not be too harsh to him in public (🤣..❤!) ......also - dragons...underwear...cold water...periods...
...you are correct...it wasn't very helpful in understanding if a Chinese woman would make a good wife....😂!!
But...I know your husband is very happy. He has you...❤
😁...👍
Why is having a wife a good idea at all. I don't want one.
My husband also was like you before. Haha😊
27 years. Best thing I did . Taiwanese .
I loved your witt very down to earth.
I was on a Japanese tour bus in NYC and we had lunch in Chinatown. The waiters just had to ask me why? So, they said, American house, Chinese food and Japanese wife. Wow! Chinese heaven!
Everyone calls my Wife Lisa but her name is Xia. Her uncle is Retired General Chung Fu Li.
My wife is over 70, works in the garden every day till she is covered in sweat.cook me breakfast every morning.Cooks lunch. She can run 5 miles. She weighs 130.
Very, very rue and correct.