What type of person can defeat a narcissist?

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  • @dumpmail-xz2qp
    @dumpmail-xz2qp 5 місяців тому +293

    The type who knows the narcissistic game and wont fall for their bs. Awareness and education is the key

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +14

      🙏🏾

    • @thennungitv6240
      @thennungitv6240 4 місяці тому +7

      I wish I had this knowledge 5 years back.... I wouldn't ve wasted my precious years on my Ex. But it's never too late, I thank GOD I finally reached Here!
      Been in my learning era since 16th June 2024. I got this in Jesus' Name, AMEN 🙏🏼

    • @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh
      @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh 4 місяці тому +5

      @@dumpmail-xz2qp EXACTLY!!!!
      Me personally,I won't take it.
      Your person is not more important than MY PERSON PERIOD.
      I won't love anyone more than I love myself PERIOD.

    • @Yo-yo-dt5ze
      @Yo-yo-dt5ze 4 місяці тому

      I didn’t know what the signs of a narc was until it was too late 5 yrs in then I realized he loved bomb me to get what he wanted and he had more than one supply when I wouldn’t answer his text or calls once I called him out on his bs which he didn’t like and tried to start and argument with me he ghosted me I didn’t reach out for closure I did a no contact and deleted all of my social media it’s been 3 months and I haven’t heard from him since this was the best decision it was hard to let go but I don’t have time for the mind games I took my power and peace back and he’s no longer in control of me his next victims are gonna find out how he really is a liar and manipulator and don’t care about no one but themselves they never did love you they don’t even love themselves

    • @happy9110
      @happy9110 3 місяці тому

      @@thennungitv6240your so lucky to have found out about it early ,
      Ur in a good place
      Live the “now “
      Good luck

  • @deniserandall4397
    @deniserandall4397 5 місяців тому +229

    One who doesn't care. Indifference is golden.

  • @Toshii240
    @Toshii240 5 місяців тому +336

    A person with the Holy Spirit can defeat a narcissist!!!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +26

      ‼️

    • @lucygoose6237
      @lucygoose6237 5 місяців тому +14

      YES!!!

    • @ReginaStine857
      @ReginaStine857 5 місяців тому +43

      Yes! That’s how I did it! Thank you Jesus!!

    • @goingupyonder
      @goingupyonder 5 місяців тому +21

      @@MentalHealness Proverbs 20:22 Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the LORD; and he shall save thee.

    • @Ruthforme
      @Ruthforme 5 місяців тому +14

      @@ReginaStine857Hallelujah!! I had to go to court, he showed up with three attorneys. Oh, but thank God I only needed one, the best one.❤

  • @faithfulone06
    @faithfulone06 5 місяців тому +135

    Absolutely. When you educate yourself on narcissism and set those boundaries it is a real game changer. They know you are too strong for them and they start avoiding you.

  • @domeatown
    @domeatown 5 місяців тому +164

    Trick question. Love does not involve winning or defeat. The only person who can "win" is someone who doesn't care about winning.

    • @mysweetlife388
      @mysweetlife388 5 місяців тому +14

      Actually the mindset should be to win - by no contact! That's how I am winning - out of sight!

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 5 місяців тому +7

      @@mysweetlife388 that's a win for yourself, I suppose. Not so much a win over a bad guy, but a win for your peace. So, I guess you could frame it that way! All that really matters is getting back to reality instead of the bubble, and whatever it takes is what should be done lol

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 5 місяців тому +4

      @@mysweetlife388 my main issue is that narcs introduce this competition element to everything, and normal people do not. And finally getting outside of their long, long arms means giving up the competitive mindset. Reality is not like this.
      But a win for oneself is absolutely a win

    • @beverleysilcock9135
      @beverleysilcock9135 5 місяців тому +5

      The only way to win is not to play the game

    • @Raj-cl7he
      @Raj-cl7he 5 місяців тому +5

      Great comment indifference is what beats them when you stop caring what people think it becomes a super power you dont care to win or lose you just care to live .i will say these people have given me a thick skin these days i dont even fight with peoples perceptions of me . At the end of the day when you think about it it never really matters . All the noise eventually fades in the back round .

  • @liljerseygirl249
    @liljerseygirl249 5 місяців тому +158

    My advice, don't try to defeat him. Just be honest and get out. The last time he raged at me and hung up the phone on me, was the last time. I blocked him on social media and my phone. Have not spoken to him in 2 years. He has found ways to get through anyway, but I never responded.
    I fell free and I feel more assertive and confident.

    • @PantaRhei-wz5zn
      @PantaRhei-wz5zn 5 місяців тому

      Trying to defeat them, while allowing them to remain in your life
      = You have opened a tap in your energy reservoir where the Energy will will continue to seep out, necessary to defend your boundaries.
      IF too much Energy leakeage over time, with not enough Engergy replenishing coming in, will simply means you get Drained.
      You are winning, while you are dying out from the inside. A perfect Pyrrhic Victory... Are you really winning then ???

    • @mrsmiley707
      @mrsmiley707 5 місяців тому +4

      glad to hear it!

    • @gidgethrobowski3860
      @gidgethrobowski3860 5 місяців тому +11

      Exactly, leaving them alone and getting on with your life is the only way to defeat them. Therefore there aren't any special tricks, etc.

    • @back2nature608
      @back2nature608 5 місяців тому

      You are talking about him now! Instead of leaving yourself and him out of your comment. He just defeated you!

    • @Mrs.smitty
      @Mrs.smitty 5 місяців тому +4

      If you are setting a goal just make sure you don’t tell them.🤫

  • @nnglnd
    @nnglnd 5 місяців тому +66

    Once you find out, there is no going back .

  • @KhadijahsMamma
    @KhadijahsMamma 4 місяці тому +47

    Anyone who understands that narcissism is a weakness and not a strength can defeat them. Them being narcissists doesn’t mean they have the power to do anything they want.

    • @mariposa7709
      @mariposa7709 Місяць тому +1

      The best comment I heard in a while.

  • @dw51
    @dw51 5 місяців тому +65

    A balanced person who loves themselves enough to put barriers and boundaries. A person who can do without and still feel complete. To not show any effects of their negative treatment.

  • @sharonb519
    @sharonb519 5 місяців тому +106

    NEVER let your guard down and never get them wet or feed them after midnight. 😂

    • @mimisha3253
      @mimisha3253 5 місяців тому +21

      😂straight up gremlins

    • @sharonb519
      @sharonb519 5 місяців тому +6

      @@mimisha3253 Yes maam! 😂

    • @bellalove1805
      @bellalove1805 5 місяців тому +3

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @TarotAF11114
      @TarotAF11114 4 місяці тому +3

      Lol

    • @Yo-yo-dt5ze
      @Yo-yo-dt5ze 4 місяці тому +6

      I did that and it was the worse 😂😂😂😂 but I’m out of that toxic 5 yr relationship with a narc

  • @AnastasiaLimanto-io2kw
    @AnastasiaLimanto-io2kw 5 місяців тому +60

    I guess I can be proud of myself 😁 because I set my boundaries (don’t cheat, don’t lie), I walked away / divorced my then narcissist husband as soon as he crossed my boundaries (he cheated, lied & much more), I exposed him to his whole family, his mistress & his friends, then I blocked him for good. I’m patting myself on the back right now 🤣

    • @willettepowell6860
      @willettepowell6860 5 місяців тому +4

      You are brave I don’t cheat or lie but trust me he does all the time I don’t know how to start to leave if I do he makes threats to take our children or my home car everything I helped us accomplish I just stopped working full time to attend nursing school I did work 16 hours a day 6 days a week to help accomplish our goals our son is 2 and he always threatens to take our children I’m depressed if we divorce I never want another man in life I would rather be alone I’m not gay no offense to anybody I don’t want a girl either 😂❤😂🎉

    • @paulettelamontagne6992
      @paulettelamontagne6992 5 місяців тому

      ​@@willettepowell6860Allstate for Mother's Day how can you take your kids? Unless you're drunk or a druggie not being ugly but that's a fact it would be better to lose a home and a car then have your son or daughter raised in this kind of environment. I've never understood these relationships I'm here trying to find out about my grandson's father. And there are good men out there I had a great one till he passed. But I encourage anybody in a relationship with one of these people who get the hell out. My daughter was abused. And now she's addicted to drugs thanks to him he took custody of my grandson from me. I took custody when he was a year old because she refused to be a parent. He went to prison when she was 4 months pregnant for a violent home invasion then he slickly flew her back from Vegas pretended they were going to be a couple one custody for himself after a year and a half custody battle and 30,000 the State of Florida has no grandparents rights. He won't allow me to see my grandson because after 7 months my grandson had welts bruises and cuts on his rear end from the man he'd known a whole 2 years and parenting time for the first year was just twice a week as my custody went from one day a week parenting time to 5:00 to full custody. Upon seeing the injuries I asked my grandson he said his daddy makes him drop his pants and swings a belt and his legs were cut because he missed his rear end called the cops I didn't know about DCF emergency numbers the cop didn't put the pictures in the folder for DCF they stayed on the evidence this the police department DCF didn't talk to him for 2 weeks and it was in front of his convict father that has F the police tattooed on his back . He hasn't let me see my grandson in 4 years and still says my grandson was coached drove me to the point of insanity and then made me look insane my grandson said to me my daddy tricked me he doesn't love me and I don't even like him please don't make me go back call the judge on TV my nana I haven't seen him in 4 years. And this is pain that does not leave and then I cannot pack up and leave

    • @photina262
      @photina262 Місяць тому

      @@willettepowell6860keep on w school don’t give up honey and then save your money and get free w your babies

  • @thetruth9652
    @thetruth9652 5 місяців тому +37

    Knowing what you are dealing with is the way to beat a narcissist. Once you know the stove is hot, you won’t touch it anymore! If you’re in your right mind!

  • @carletteallen3169
    @carletteallen3169 5 місяців тому +370

    Only an independent person can beat a narcissist

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +15

      🥴

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 5 місяців тому +101

      Many ppl are independent. They still get abused. Lack of boundaries, need no tolerance for nonsense, refusing to ignore red flags and not having fear about being alone. Those are the real weapons we need.

    • @Hazelnut3988
      @Hazelnut3988 5 місяців тому +8

      String will empath that stick to their boundaries at all times give them a taste of their own medicine and watch them squirm but have an evaluation plan in place before hand just in case someone they really fear like the public or police

    • @Believeinyouuk
      @Believeinyouuk 5 місяців тому +4

      That is so true and such a good answer 👏🏻

    • @Duff-p6k
      @Duff-p6k 5 місяців тому +3

      So true!

  • @chinadoll534
    @chinadoll534 4 місяці тому +31

    “No, no, no” “can’t be afraid to hit that “no” button” that’s funny as hell. My ex does not like hearing the word “NO”. Every woman gave him what he wanted, except me, but I’m the one he wants. Go figure. Most men will respect and want the women who will stand up to their crazy asses.

  • @MsFox2u
    @MsFox2u 5 місяців тому +58

    My pastor asked me how I managed to deal with my ex-narc (his cousin) after he had finally moved out. I told him Jesus was the only way I was able to defeat him. I had to pray all day, everyday to keep my sanity in order to deal with him. Plus, I'm a very strong-willed person and once I check-out the relationship, I'm done, stick a fork in me. There was/is nothing he could do/say that would make me change my mind about staying with him or ever want to go back to him. He can be the last man on earth, and there are no more batteries being manufactured, I will not go back to him. 💯

    • @iBlindAssassin
      @iBlindAssassin 5 місяців тому +2

      👏👏👏

    • @MsFox2u
      @MsFox2u 5 місяців тому +3

      @momosan11 No, my ex-narc's entire family wants nothing to do with him. They are just basically tolerating him, but loving him with a long handled spoon. The pastor barely talks to him anymore because he was telling lies and half truths on him. I have screenshots of a conversation between the two where my pastor told him that if my ex-narc were to die that day, he wouldn't do his funeral nor attend. My pastor and I never even talk about my ex-narc. He basically told me that that my ex-narc is the least of his worries. I'm still friends with his entire family. His nieces and nephews still call me auntie. He and I grew up across the street from one another. So, his entire family has known me all my life. I knew he had anger issues when we got together. He just lied and told me he wasn't like that anymore. I told him time would tell and it did. He had 2 brothers pass away before him while he and I were still together and I told one of his nephews that I thought he (ex-narc) would have died before those 2. The nephew told me the entire family thought the same thing because he plays Russian roulette with his health and has been doing this for years! His entire family knows how he treated me and witnessed his treatment of me. His younger brother told him while we were still together that he couldn't come back over his house because of the way he treated/talked to me. His younger brother used to be my softball coach and he's like a bug brother to me. His daughter told me that he was a narcissist after he visited her and he showed his true colors around her. I hadn't even mentioned to her that I determined he was a narcissist. I let her find out on her own. But, she did witness him talking to me crazy when she came to visit twice while we were still together. She basically told him that she saw why her mom didn't marry him because her mom basically said the same thing about him. So, I know his family won't turn on me. They have basically turned on him.

    • @DeanTobias-mi1gn
      @DeanTobias-mi1gn 5 місяців тому +2

      ​@@MsFox2u That's a blessing. I don't like either side of my NARC family. Just no. I wish I had support from them.

    • @MsFox2u
      @MsFox2u 5 місяців тому +1

      @DeanTobias-mi1gn Yes, it is. But, I knew and grew up with my ex-narc's family long before he and I hooked. So, that's why they still love me because they know the kind of family I was raised by and knew he didn't/couldn't/wouldn't appreciate it. Oh, trust and believe when I say people have told him that he messed up and to just leave me alone.

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 5 місяців тому

      I needed to hear that. I have been going to bible study and God has just been rebuilding my strength. It has been 3 months we have been dating. I have giving him clothes, shoes, money, food, and allow him to feel comfortable in my home. We don't live in same household. Also he is so selfish and don't want to help anyone. He lies and never owns up to it. He feels that he can have friends but when he saw 1 church man come to my house and he said I was trying to make him jealous. This is so stressful and draining because I am nice to him. He has me feeling so tired. Then he tries to say he can have whatever woman he wants but then says sorry right after. And when he says sorry, he will turn around and try to justify it. Or if I ask him to talk to me and communicate he never wants to do that and he'll get angry. I was just so exhausted that I had just layed down all day yesterday and prayed. Well God never fails and after praying and going to church I got my strength back. So I have ignored his texts for 24 hours. He sent me a text that said he knows I may not want to deal with him but he appreciates my advice. Can they change I just really need to know

  • @pameliahooks2741
    @pameliahooks2741 5 місяців тому +53

    A strong person with strong boundaries can defeat a narcissist and doesn't let their guards down at all with a toxic or narcissist person 💪 😊 gotta stay tough for people like that

  • @KelliBar
    @KelliBar 5 місяців тому +24

    My ex narc hoovered me after I ended the relationship. The last time, I asked him one question after reminding him what an honest person he was 😊
    "If you were me, would you date you?". He answered NO. I've had no issues with him since.

  • @ernestinedumas7955
    @ernestinedumas7955 5 місяців тому +34

    I met a narcissist, and he could not use me. Do not fall for the looks.

  • @czito
    @czito 5 місяців тому +64

    Someone who has strong faith in God that dwells inside of them and follows that above all. The I AM.

    • @Abracadabra1111
      @Abracadabra1111 5 місяців тому +3

      💯 ❤

    • @arris.7207
      @arris.7207 5 місяців тому +7

      @dcanes5720 Satan was the first narcissist. I'm not sure if you've ever read the Bible, but once you do, you can start spotting the behavior/spirit from a mile away. Only the Spirit of God can contest the spirit of the enemy.

  • @maryyy_1055
    @maryyy_1055 5 місяців тому +38

    That's so true, I had boundaries and when he crossed them over and over again the more fear I had of leaving but instead chosen to give him chance after chance and that is what I regret the most.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +15

      protect your peace

    • @carletteallen3169
      @carletteallen3169 5 місяців тому +6

      If you do not need the coward... they will find someone else to use.

    • @chimerejackson2118
      @chimerejackson2118 5 місяців тому +4

      I feel this 💯. It took me over 2 decades to realize what was happening and when I did and stood on MY BUSINESS!!! In other words my boundaries, I was able to stand up to him.

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 5 місяців тому +2

      @@chimerejackson2118 Did you stay with him or did he change. This is my first time an I am so hurt and exhausted by his ungrateful selfish, ignorant personality.

    • @chimerejackson2118
      @chimerejackson2118 5 місяців тому

      @@lakishadm6587 I put him out 5 weeks ago and am in the process of getting a divorce.

  • @TheCurlyBeauty
    @TheCurlyBeauty 5 місяців тому +28

    Winning is preserving your peace. Limited to no contact has been the absolute best thing in dealing with these clowns.

  • @anetapostek9833
    @anetapostek9833 5 місяців тому +32

    I have been called psychopath because I didn’t react the way he used to make other people to react. I seriously think I was too logical and then I just walked away . I kinda still cannot believe anybody can lie that much 😂 I’m glad it didn’t take long for me to resolve that dating thing 😅 yet I’m still shocked I’ve never met creature like that before in my life 😅

    • @juliapu3828
      @juliapu3828 5 місяців тому +4

      Can't agree more. Once I learnt the truth I got speechless...I didn't actually know that person despite him being so close to me. The lies are insane!!!

    • @NicholeMeletioNikki
      @NicholeMeletioNikki 4 місяці тому +2

      If you got called a psychopath then he likely is one. My ex is. Legit anything they say like that is exactly who THEY are. I told my ex to rage all of those words in the mirror. Calmly told him it would be “much more effective.” Ha!
      They can’t even get creative with the nasty crap they rage at you. They are describing themselves. My experience anyway. 🤷🏻‍♀️ My ex has greater issues though- NPD and a psychopath/Sociopath and antisocial personality disorder. Super whacko.

    • @anka6356
      @anka6356 19 днів тому

      I'd take it as a compliment

  • @JustinJacobson-yz4zr
    @JustinJacobson-yz4zr 5 місяців тому +32

    Hit the nail on the head. Be good or be gone. If they know you can walk away, before they can find a new supply, that will keep them in pocket. But also when you expose the narcissist that is like kryptonite to them. Nothing weakens them more than public humiliation & shame. They will claim it’s a smear campaign, yet the truth is truth.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +3

      ‼️‼️

    • @nishar7381
      @nishar7381 5 місяців тому +7

      Exactly! I wouldn't let him hide when he would be abusive, was worried about the neighbors and I didn't care, they can see him for who he is. You want to act like this macho-persona, everyone else is and their a calm, logical and caring person that has no clue why your acting crazy. Lol he was intentionally pressing buttons to get a reaction and only got more violent when I kept my cool and sang Christian songs. Narcissism is a deep unclean spirit. But nothing is too big for God.

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 5 місяців тому

      @@nishar7381 Can they be long-term partners...meaning do they ever change?

    • @nishar7381
      @nishar7381 5 місяців тому

      Mind to elaborate?​@@lakishadm6587

  • @mariannebauman3410
    @mariannebauman3410 5 місяців тому +42

    Someone who can block them n move on n not look back!

  • @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh
    @RoselandeBazelais-hn5rh 4 місяці тому +13

    First thing is LOVE YOURSELF MORE than you LOVE THEM.
    Don't put up witj their BS.
    And just LEAVE THEM,cause i don't have to SUBMIT AND ARGUE with no one.I LOVE MYSELF TOO MUCH.

    • @hibiscus1974
      @hibiscus1974 3 місяці тому

      agree with you.. i have malignant parents, then married a covert, i and my daughter are super suffering, i tell my daughter to love herself more than anyone and strong boundaries, nobody told me about these before i learned about narcissism

  • @jenniferburton7044
    @jenniferburton7044 5 місяців тому +11

    If you don’t give them ANY reaction…… and walk away…. You have defeated the Narc. 🙏

  • @1love847
    @1love847 5 місяців тому +13

    They are so exhausting. Just hearing you talk about what i need to do to defeat them is so draining and exhausting. And i just dont have to do any of that anymore. PEACE. ✌

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 5 місяців тому +3

      Yes I have been in bed tired and exhausted and I have been dating one for 3 months. Everything is about him

    • @1love847
      @1love847 3 місяці тому

      @@lakishadm6587 I am making room for higher vibrational and genuinely generous men in my life! My new mantra

    • @kenindula7319
      @kenindula7319 22 години тому

      So well put

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 5 місяців тому +17

    Confident ones who are very smart ❤❤❤❤

  • @AwakenedPriestess144
    @AwakenedPriestess144 5 місяців тому +38

    A person like me. I defeated a whole narc nest.

  • @SphereMedia-yb2od
    @SphereMedia-yb2od 11 днів тому +1

    being no contatct with a narcissist for 9months, ran a terrible smear campaign in my community, i didn't defend myself , just silence and no contact inspite of the insults and abuse , set your strong boundaries and don't waiver, control your emotions

  • @ZOELIFE23-365
    @ZOELIFE23-365 5 місяців тому +8

    I LOVE THAT " CROSS YOUR LEGS AND START FLOATING" 🎈🎈🎈#IT-
    THAT PART

  • @Durhamcricket543
    @Durhamcricket543 5 місяців тому +37

    I kicked out my narcissist husband 10 months ago. I just can’t get past the anger. 😡

    • @misseducated2929
      @misseducated2929 5 місяців тому +1

    • @misseducated2929
      @misseducated2929 5 місяців тому +1

      same for years. look up loving kindness practice. it’s for you not for him.

    • @domeatown
      @domeatown 5 місяців тому +6

      You will. It'll just be longer than you want. It's okay. It's part of the process

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +7

      Takes time

    • @chimerejackson2118
      @chimerejackson2118 5 місяців тому +9

      Stay encouraged and stick to your guns. I just put my narc husband out after 22 years of marriage and I am feeling better day by day. And don't give him that energy. THEY WANT THAT because it will trigger you to show it and gives them control over you. It will get better. Stay strong and prayed up.

  • @GregoryBruce-h4w
    @GregoryBruce-h4w 5 місяців тому +15

    Narcissists hate people Who expose their lies with proof. I exposed my ex-boyfriend with pictures of you know what. He dealing with 2 women with very low self esteem. These women know about me and they don't care. Me dealing with his narcissistic personality is draining. I cut his family off, his enablers. His sister told the 2 females if I would take him back he would dump them both. It's not going to happen. He makes me evil. I have peace in my life. Thank you!

    • @candacelewis8274
      @candacelewis8274 5 місяців тому

      They definitely bring out the evil side and I’m not letting anybody control my emotions period ! That’s too much power

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 5 місяців тому

      Yeah I have felt that I have been feeling like his angry self and that is not even me

  • @lucemaillet630
    @lucemaillet630 5 місяців тому +48

    They may fear a sicker narcissist, if there is such a thing

    • @kiwi1361
      @kiwi1361 5 місяців тому +11

      A Psychopath.
      The father of my ex (a covert narcissist) was a psychopath and he was terrified of him.
      He thought I was an integrated psychopath and was scared of me, searching for psychopathic tendencies but I'm just a schizoid woman.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +4

      😥

    • @WordOfTruthMinistries
      @WordOfTruthMinistries 5 місяців тому +1

      Why was this funnneee...a sicker narcissist...😂😂😂 they've met their match... I'm so tickled😂😂😂😂😇

  • @mercykamonjo3634
    @mercykamonjo3634 Місяць тому +1

    OMG!!! This is the most important piece of information I have ever come across!! Thank you ❤❤

  • @springfauna1465
    @springfauna1465 5 місяців тому +5

    LMAO!!!! 🤣🤣🤣 Lee!!!! That was hilarious!!! .."No! No!" 😂👍 Kidding aside though, the best lessons I learned from the narcs was self-love, self-worth, self-respect, and solid boundaries!!! It was painful, but I got it!!

  • @lindalu7563
    @lindalu7563 5 місяців тому +55

    I saw the first flag on first date, but didn't know what I know now!!! My gut said never again, but then I thought I was being too critical. Go figure 8 plus years later.....

    • @sandraleehurst7350
      @sandraleehurst7350 5 місяців тому +6

      31 yrs later here. Ugh 😩 going through a divorce and healing

    • @whatnowprods
      @whatnowprods 5 місяців тому +5

      Saaaaame thing. Except I never let him get away with shit. So he discarded me in a horribly cruel way a year later

    • @Narc_Hunter
      @Narc_Hunter 5 місяців тому +2

      Instead of marrying one for 30 years, I went through 30 people like that, so I know exactly what it is like.

    • @NatzTalk
      @NatzTalk 5 місяців тому +5

      Ik this feeling but I knew he was verbally abusing me and other stuff he did was weird but I just chalked it up to childhood and ex gf trauma. The more I was around him the bigger dickhead he became. Once he betrayed me and then said nothing I said to him would hurt his feelings, I realized then he was just a toxic person that created a lot of his own drama/chaos and I ghosted his ass.

    • @trasay
      @trasay 5 місяців тому +1

      I'm at the 8 year mark too!!

  • @DaretoDream814
    @DaretoDream814 5 місяців тому +9

    You are so correct! As much as I think I love my narc, I am as educated and spiritually enlightened. He told me earlier in our relationship that I was to militant. That meant that I am to protected spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally. After nearly six years I think he's finally given up but something tells me that he figures we are on a break. What he doesn't probably realize is that once I am done with trying to hold a relationship with a person, I AM DONE. I love this about myself and I appreciate my divine protection, provision and guidance. Truly do. It's not that easy, but it is. Love & Light to you and your community.

    • @trasay
      @trasay 5 місяців тому +3

      So are you done?

    • @DaretoDream814
      @DaretoDream814 5 місяців тому +4

      @@trasay I love your question. I Am Done. The issue, until further notice is, are they done? What's up fool....

    • @amazoniablue7572
      @amazoniablue7572 5 місяців тому +2

      @@DaretoDream814 agree!
      Thats the issue and question.
      I am currently wondering the same. Is he done?

  • @Edward_Strong1982
    @Edward_Strong1982 5 місяців тому +7

    Definitely a self aware empath can defeat narcissist. From the start i know I shouldn’t have dated him. I was very aware of what was happening. It was honestly self esteem and loneliness. The first year I kept quiet and tried to play peace maker. Once I started setting boundaries and speaking my mind he went into a tailspin. The more confidence I gained, The more I pushed back. He eventually found a new supply, a “friend”, so he started discarding me. I ended the relationship AND went no contact after a few months. He texted me from a new number and cursed me out and I blocked him again. I know I became his worse nightmare because he thought I was never going anywhere 🤷🏾‍♂️🤣

  • @rashidarowe7882
    @rashidarowe7882 5 місяців тому +19

    I left that narcissist and he has tried to come back several times, he seems to think I have BPD and yet won't leave me alone, but he did me dìrty, I went from hurt to angry as hell because he did not have to do me like that.

    • @shaykay2389
      @shaykay2389 5 місяців тому +1

      Same here..give it time and in the meantime focus on you..sending hugs

    • @rashidarowe7882
      @rashidarowe7882 5 місяців тому +2

      @@shaykay2389 Thank you 🤗

    • @lakishadm6587
      @lakishadm6587 5 місяців тому

      @@shaykay2389 Sorry to hear that. I pray it gets better. I have a question...if you give it time does it mean that can possibly figure out what they have done wrong or do you just move on completely.

    • @ohhimark742
      @ohhimark742 5 місяців тому +3

      Sometimes they accuse ppl of BPD to make themselves look like the victim when your behavior is a completely normal reaction to everything they've been putting you through

    • @ninja_2114
      @ninja_2114 4 місяці тому

      @@ohhimark742 exactly my experience! he accused my of being instable and having bpd while i was just having a normal reaction to him overstepping my boundaries and making me feeling guilty to have boundaries in the first place

  • @DenaKaye13
    @DenaKaye13 4 місяці тому +8

    OMG 😂 I need a boundary box! Kinda like the Staples “Easy Button” 🤣😂🤣Love this! 💖

  • @mysweetlife388
    @mysweetlife388 5 місяців тому +8

    Cracking me up - build an empath! My voice box is programmed to no contact.

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 Місяць тому +1

    My narcissistic player wanted to know what I was listening to because I would lecture him on his bad behaviors. Thank you Lee 🙏☺

  • @MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA
    @MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA 5 місяців тому +1

    Lee, I appreciate what you have chosen to do with your life. I realize that it didn’t “just happen” and that it was a lot of hard work and reprogramming on your part.

  • @MizzzLuna
    @MizzzLuna 2 місяці тому +2

    My ✂️ off game is too real. Make ppl stand on how they treat you💯

  • @Cherish258
    @Cherish258 5 місяців тому +10

    A person with a strong cut off game

  • @sparklingloveandlight
    @sparklingloveandlight 5 місяців тому +11

    Watching replay, Lee. Control your reaction, exactly. Boundaries too. ❤ #AwakenedEmpath lmao 🤣 Hiiiii!

  • @tewheke4186
    @tewheke4186 5 місяців тому +3

    Lee you crack me up, this was very funny. Yeh this is on point, a narcissist will always test your boundaries. I also feel like a narcissist is the catalyst for the growth of the empath. You can become a sigma empath. My ex the narcissist was the catalyst for my incomprehensible growth, that threw me in to my divine mission. Yeh he made me dig fkn deep man, I'm independent, I don't give a shit anymore, I don't allow people to overstep my boundaries! Thwy make you more intelligent, which is quite fkd up. An Educated Empath, Exactly. Weve got this, take your power back beautiful people👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾💯💫💜

  • @therollingstone9701
    @therollingstone9701 5 місяців тому +1

    You're doing a great job in your videos, Lee. Your channel is very useful to a lot of people.
    You can be proud of yourself for all the work you did on yourself during those years in therapy n the time spent self-reflecting.
    i wish you all the best,
    Ben.

  • @sk8taway
    @sk8taway 5 місяців тому +9

    9:21 “you cannot be afraid to walk away” 🎯 me: new supply
    10:24 “not being afraid to expose them” her: the old supply

  • @vanessapehl7581
    @vanessapehl7581 5 місяців тому +6

    Thanks Lee the TRUTHS will set you free God Bless

  • @honorrasch-gush4817
    @honorrasch-gush4817 4 місяці тому +2

    I lived that for a year. I will live this going forward and never allow my boundaries to waiver. He literally told the neighbor that i overreact. I had no idea until i became educated on narcissistic partners that my reaction was giving him power. He would give me that i have the power grin while i was overreacting. I finally empowered myself to leave! And exposed every detail making sure he knew that he was exposed. I took my power back!

  • @susansimon4255
    @susansimon4255 5 місяців тому +4

    Very true! I survived because of my self control

  • @rickylumo8666
    @rickylumo8666 3 місяці тому +4

    It helps to understand that the narcissist is a shame dumper. They are allergic and oblivious to their own shame and will look for someone who can tolerate having it dumped onto them.

  • @LisaHoward-fq8jw
    @LisaHoward-fq8jw 5 місяців тому +2

    One of our last conversations, told him don’t talk to me anymore. Then, all I’m trying to do now is figure out the logistics of us going our separate ways. He started to say what he wanted and needed to do, and I interrupted. I said I don’t care what you’re doing, you don’t matter anymore and neither does what you want. Now , leave me alone. He was pissed and I couldn’t have cared less. 🎉❤ Loved it and haven’t thought twice about his “NEEDS”

  • @sindymendez1359
    @sindymendez1359 3 місяці тому +1

    Boundaries, and truly staying firmly planted to not going back , having a strong sense of self worth, also seeing and accepting the person for who they truly are , never being allowed to be deceived by illusion the narcissist’s illusion.

  • @WitchNamedShay
    @WitchNamedShay 5 місяців тому +1

    I have an avoidant attachment style. It has fortunately saved me from narc abuse. I’m too “cold “ for most and they get exhausted when I give them nothing to “feed” from. I also have a loner personality and don’t do anything that “attaches” me to another human being . Thanks for the video Lee!

  • @BriannaRochelleCreative
    @BriannaRochelleCreative 5 місяців тому +6

    I have a doctorate degree in narcissism 😂 I had a parent, uncle, several friends and partners who were narcassistic.

  • @mssarah38
    @mssarah38 5 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for sharing Lee....

  • @stupensardi2783
    @stupensardi2783 5 місяців тому +1

    You have a great giggle. Makes me smile. Thank you for being so honest.😊

  • @AD-cx2mw
    @AD-cx2mw Місяць тому

    ❤ Thank you brother for all your videos. I'm sure many of us sincerely appreciate it. I know I do and I learned so much it's believable. I also want to thank you for making me genuinely laugh when you make a joke and laugh your laugh is contagious so I thank you for you being so pure honest and sharing ❤

  • @s-wes4107
    @s-wes4107 5 місяців тому +7

    Yep! Was planning to move across the country, but cut it off after the red flags got crazy.

  • @tdubblz
    @tdubblz 5 місяців тому +1

    I love your channel because you teach us as lot. At the same time…. Are we your healthy supply? Your narcissism shines in every episode, but because you help us with so much, I give passes every time. 😆 But seriously, at least you use it to help others while you help yourself. The narcissists in my life only take and never give… until they are losing supply and love bombs to get it all back. Bitter sweet compliment but honest review

  • @deynwill123
    @deynwill123 Місяць тому +1

    Sometime it's one sentence that's a game changer - the point is you can walk away from people who DONOT VIBE WITH YOU

  • @Lailat854
    @Lailat854 5 місяців тому +2

    You defeat them when u genuinely detach psychologically and emotionally (and financially). I there now - still married but no contact at all! No reaction, and ready to go whenever I want.
    I live as I want, I travel, work, take care of and support my adult kids, have life long friends.
    As for him, I made him the stranger he once was before i started a relationship with him.
    I didn’t know of narcissism - understood he was a covert narcissist after 30 years of marriage. Two years of therapy and I am totally free.
    I don’t care about defeating him. i wish no good or bad - I am focused on me and my loved ones

  • @istj66360
    @istj66360 3 місяці тому

    Lee, this my favorite video you've made. I watch this one over and over. You talk about the little guy with the no button and setting boundries. The last narcissist I dealt with came into my home and demanded something from me. It didn't matter how many times I told this person no. They didn't change my no into a yes. They turned my "No" into a "Get the fuck out!!" You wanna talk about making your boundries unshakable, he didn't wanna leave willingly and I had to use physical force to get him out and things got violent. My roommate was wanting to call the cops. I didn't lose that fight though. He did and I sent him flying out my front door and told him to never come back again. This leads me to a question for you. What makes a narcissist wanna fuck with someone that's had more than 20 years of combat training and 4 years of education in dark psychology? I could've sent this person to the hospital on a stretcher or the morgue in a body bag and I didn't like it when they tried to turn my no into a yes. Each time they tried, it pissed me off even more. So why would a narcissist wanna fuck with someone that they know can hurt them severely? That's my question.

  • @semirainayatullah
    @semirainayatullah 5 місяців тому +7

    The main problem that im facing is trauma bond.... I would be grateful if you could please upload a video defining all the activities, routine or exercises whatever is required to beeak the trauma bond or this sort of depression.... Thank you

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +2

      i have some vids on it

    • @semirainayatullah
      @semirainayatullah 5 місяців тому +1

      @@MentalHealness can you please paste here the links of those videos; it will be a great help ! Thank you

    • @happy9110
      @happy9110 3 місяці тому

      I read literature about codependency and it helps me cope with the trauma patterns
      With time it gets better

  • @THEIDLESHOW
    @THEIDLESHOW 5 місяців тому +11

    This is great advice and I love the channel. However all the ways to defeat the narcissist are exhausting to me. I rather leave them as soon as I identify them as narcissistic. I’m just done.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  5 місяців тому +1

      I understand

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 5 місяців тому +4

      Yes. Dumping them in the beginning even after the first date or early period. Ppl say we'll I love them and we have kids together. No! You dump em EARLY ON.

  • @justaperson8385
    @justaperson8385 4 місяці тому +4

    So i have ADHD and as someone with ADHD I hate when people don’t take accountability for their own actions.
    As we have always been held responsible for ours
    I also have no patients for disrespect
    If I can control what I say when I get mad and not say things that I know will hurt you than what are we doing here

    • @happy9110
      @happy9110 3 місяці тому

      Has nothing to do with adhd

  • @harmonyvanscott3634
    @harmonyvanscott3634 5 місяців тому +1

    U are FAF! 😂😂 “No, I dnt want to, I dnt feel comfortable” 💥 Preach! U so on pt like ALWAYS! ❤

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 Місяць тому +1

    LOL, Lee teach us to build a empath bear, that says, " No, can't touch this!". I love your humor and thank you Lee 🙏☺

    • @anka6356
      @anka6356 19 днів тому

      Lee is still a narc, he knows what keeps those moneys flowing

    • @lolxd9396
      @lolxd9396 19 днів тому

      @@anka6356 I beg to differ. I can agree to disagree. Thank you

  • @MsAmazonAmazing
    @MsAmazonAmazing 5 місяців тому +3

    I defeated my ex narcissist BF by cutting all ties and changing my number…Truly, got to stand on business.

  • @tealblue4987
    @tealblue4987 5 місяців тому +1

    Omg I didn't see this one before. Beautiful !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . . .!!

  • @Robloxplayer242
    @Robloxplayer242 29 днів тому

    This information helps me because I am going through the same thing and I am educating myself so that I know how to protect myself

  • @lenaco4900
    @lenaco4900 28 днів тому

    And I did! Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @caeliamoonshadow
    @caeliamoonshadow 5 місяців тому +12

    The kind that will support them through all their bs. Hear me out. Once they realize your level of patience and empathy...they collapse in shame because they cant handle the reality that they truly are the problem #win

    • @PassionateFlower
      @PassionateFlower 5 місяців тому +3

      No they will still rage at you for being a people pleaser and accuse you of trying to make them look bad and being a manipulative controller who's only goal is to trap them and play mind games.
      They see kindness and love as a manipulation tactic or a threat or desperate. They don't respect people that are kind and patient with them. They think they are suckers and laugh at them to their face and behind their backs.

  • @debraburrell7020
    @debraburrell7020 3 місяці тому

    Thanks so much, Lee!

  • @debraburrell7020
    @debraburrell7020 3 місяці тому

    You are so right, Lee.

  • @KorysArtCafe
    @KorysArtCafe 5 місяців тому

    You crack me up!
    You have helped me so much to understand a riddle I just couldn’t solve.
    Thank you.

  • @beanallene
    @beanallene 2 місяці тому +1

    I really need to get better boundaries. I'm working on it.

  • @debraburrell7020
    @debraburrell7020 3 місяці тому

    Keep growing Lee ❤

  • @madeleinetepa4455
    @madeleinetepa4455 5 місяців тому +1

    In the end of the day you can make mistake but love you and put you first alone self love savety

  • @GreeneChakra
    @GreeneChakra 5 місяців тому +1

    I Love this Video! I’m hitting the “No” Button, but with the Deep Voice Lee! 😂😂😂

  • @loriewallace8922
    @loriewallace8922 5 місяців тому

    Yes, it got to the point where I knew what he would do 2-3 steps ahead. I got out and educated myself. Now my son is divorcing his very toxic wife. Everything I learned has been so helpful for him.

  • @Seeingisntbelieving
    @Seeingisntbelieving 5 місяців тому +3

    I defeated my ex narcissistic boyfriend. He is so desperate, he went on an internet dating show for new supply😂😂😂. He’s a wealthy man and reasonably attractive and he couldn’t replace me with his existing supply. I’m sure he did it so that I’d see him and be triggered. I was not! Painting my nails 💅 😂😂😂😂.

  • @tracibrautigan6960
    @tracibrautigan6960 5 місяців тому +3

    I'm doing it right now. Looking at him as pitiful and incapable. Respond with no emotion, very surface level...

  • @AugenaufbeimAktienkauf
    @AugenaufbeimAktienkauf 4 місяці тому +1

    love your videos

  • @ikeepwinning1629
    @ikeepwinning1629 5 місяців тому +3

    I love your channel.

  • @LauraGuerra-y9j
    @LauraGuerra-y9j 5 місяців тому +1

    I really wasn't afraid to my own way. I would rather go my own way. Then have someone else by my side like a faker or a hater!. So I'd rather adjust my mind an setup my own healthy boundaries and I was on my own way, simple as that. I just want serenity and accept to know the difference between right and wrong that's all 🧘🏻‍♀️✌🏻⚡.

  • @kenindula7319
    @kenindula7319 23 години тому

    The one who can detect them from a distance even without getting close to them for any intimate relationship

  • @marybowers6090
    @marybowers6090 5 місяців тому +5

    Borderlines will mop up the floor with a narcissist , hands down.

  • @rosierb852
    @rosierb852 5 місяців тому +4

    We are like Neo stopping them Narcissistic bullets before they lit us up😂😂😂

  • @joannturi3968
    @joannturi3968 4 місяці тому +1

    Throw on the 80s jam It's just an Illusion....and dance the night away....

  • @Lora-f6n
    @Lora-f6n 17 годин тому +1

    The discernment the Holy Spirit and eyes who can see through his mask

  • @AshleySmith-g2n
    @AshleySmith-g2n 5 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for all this education and especially this video!It is so helpfull for me to understand with who i deal with and what i need to do!

  • @balthssil
    @balthssil 5 місяців тому

    Yes!! We Do Enjoy your videos and you humor 💯

  • @sonyagray4261
    @sonyagray4261 5 місяців тому

    If I am unsubscribed again for some reason, thank you for what you do. 💜💓

  • @GreeneChakra
    @GreeneChakra 3 місяці тому +1

    I Love ❤️ your Commercial Interruptions 😂 and your Narcissistic Laugh 🤣 I friggin LOVE IT MUAHAHAHA! MUAHHAHAA! 😂🤣

  • @melodycrigler4033
    @melodycrigler4033 5 місяців тому +1

    Man I love watching these videos! You are hilarious 😂

  • @melliehobson8299
    @melliehobson8299 Місяць тому

    My baby sister and Mom are getting that attention from me. I care more than they do. I've spoken up, i've said no. But i still care more.