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  • @laurahell
    @laurahell 7 місяців тому +87

    I think one of their biggest nightmare is realizing you don't need them

    • @Sarah_2905
      @Sarah_2905 6 місяців тому +6

      Yes, and that your Life IS much better without them

  • @yahmitahisreal280
    @yahmitahisreal280 7 місяців тому +208

    His biggest nightmare is waking up, and realizing that the gig is up and everybody knows their tendencies

  • @Magdalene777
    @Magdalene777 7 місяців тому +194

    When a former victim glows up and goes on to have a better life.

  • @majorsolutionsllc
    @majorsolutionsllc 7 місяців тому +180

    I think a Narc’s worst nightmare is exposure of their true self for all the world to see, which can damage their carefully curated reputation.🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @d.ophelia.darling
    @d.ophelia.darling 7 місяців тому +130

    Being alone is their worst nightmare.

    • @vickeyrose8231
      @vickeyrose8231 7 місяців тому +3

      🎯 🎯 🎯

    • @santatra6663
      @santatra6663 6 місяців тому +2

      true

    • @almostagoodman
      @almostagoodman 6 місяців тому +5

      Right? Who will they gaslight and feel superior over? And worse, they have to only deal with themselves.

    • @aries4901
      @aries4901 3 місяці тому

      They don't care about being alone.

  • @eringobragh7
    @eringobragh7 7 місяців тому +130

    When you’ve figured the narcissist out, stayed quiet, left in the middle of the night,
    or during the day, blocked them, deleted your social media, changed your cell/mobile number, address and gone completely No Contact and escaped.
    Never to be seen or heard from again!!
    That in my opinion is a narcissist’s worse nightmare.
    Living well and living free!! 🕊

    • @the-oldest-3-year-old
      @the-oldest-3-year-old 7 місяців тому +7

      YAAASSS!!!

    • @tanyaprendeville9425
      @tanyaprendeville9425 7 місяців тому +9

      That's what I did!

    • @eringobragh7
      @eringobragh7 7 місяців тому

      @@tanyaprendeville9425
      Me too!

    • @the-oldest-3-year-old
      @the-oldest-3-year-old 7 місяців тому +4

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💪🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @McStealy
      @McStealy 7 місяців тому +8

      Exactly this.. But daytime.. That first night free was the most restful night I'd had in 4 years.

  • @kuibeiguahua
    @kuibeiguahua 7 місяців тому +58

    Biggest nightmare is being found out as a fraud

  • @nicharr7796
    @nicharr7796 7 місяців тому +62

    Losing their minds because they can no longer control you. Stay strong survivors. Real love comes😊

  • @idid138
    @idid138 7 місяців тому +77

    Being all alone & having no one to call. No supply.

  • @cathythompson9440
    @cathythompson9440 7 місяців тому +65

    Being exposed for who they really are

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  7 місяців тому +6

      💯

    • @vivianperdue4329
      @vivianperdue4329 4 місяці тому

      Absolutely 💯 when I used to tell him I see you, he'll flip all the way out 😮

  • @Survivor99
    @Survivor99 7 місяців тому +66

    They will lie, deny and smear the other person.

  • @robpz448
    @robpz448 7 місяців тому +43

    Narcissist worst nightmare - Being abandoned/ no contact - Doesn't matter who " discarded " who. Just heard your answer being exposure. No contact exposes them as the crazy ones considering they painted you as the crazy ex but their plan fails when you block them permanently and never contact them again which they don't think you are strong enough to do that.

  • @lindafrabizio2910
    @lindafrabizio2910 7 місяців тому +34

    Their worse nightmare is being found out they constantly LIE. !!!

  • @productioninquiry8937
    @productioninquiry8937 7 місяців тому +36

    Being fully exposed.

  • @jewelclark2512
    @jewelclark2512 7 місяців тому +37

    Their biggest nightmare is being strong and not needing anything from them

  • @cynthiaareh3715
    @cynthiaareh3715 7 місяців тому +28

    Now I understand why he hates me. I exposed him for who he is and now his facade of an image is ruined forever. I can live with that though 😅

  • @kate56966
    @kate56966 7 місяців тому +15

    Enforcing boundaries. That’s a narcs worst nightmare. The word no as well.

  • @ShellzC63
    @ShellzC63 7 місяців тому +45

    Everyone knowing what he’s done behind their backs and for how long. No place to hide and no one to blame.

    • @InkdNXS
      @InkdNXS 7 місяців тому +1

      Bingo

  • @bed_betch_frangelica9880
    @bed_betch_frangelica9880 7 місяців тому +70

    Their biggest nightmare is facing their childhood trauma

    • @Blessed591
      @Blessed591 7 місяців тому +5

      Which trauma is this ?? I don't understand. Many of us were traumatized in childhood but we turned out to be empaths . . . I just don't get it . . .

    • @bed_betch_frangelica9880
      @bed_betch_frangelica9880 7 місяців тому +3

      @@Blessed591 everyone’s trauma impacts them differently some of us learn to deal with it and some people hold onto it to protect their feelings so they never have to feel that way again.

    • @irisward4925
      @irisward4925 6 місяців тому +4

      Yes!! My now ex, just wont open up, just wont go talk to someone, instead he takes pills (is an addict) and just goes from bad to worse

    • @bed_betch_frangelica9880
      @bed_betch_frangelica9880 6 місяців тому

      @@irisward4925 I’m glad he’s your ex. Choosing peace over chaos is the best thing that ever happened to me 🫶🏽

    • @Blessed591
      @Blessed591 5 місяців тому +2

      Which childhood trauma ? I also experienced a lot of childhood trauma but turned out an empath . . . I think it's about choices . . .

  • @xtina0121
    @xtina0121 7 місяців тому +25

    From recent experience, it is having the mask pulled off, exposing the real person underneath.
    His attempts to isolate me , smear me etc, have failed. Playing the victim has also failed. He is losing his mind right now.

  • @J.M.R.0913
    @J.M.R.0913 5 місяців тому +6

    Narcissists' true nightmares, yes plural. Having to live with themselves every minute. Having their bs mirrored back to them. Failing at destroying anyone.

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 7 місяців тому +21

    Scary and sad to know that their are people that want you sitting at home all day doing nothing and serving them.

  • @seameology
    @seameology 3 місяці тому +4

    Something just dawned on me. We have family get together and several of my sister's husband's never come. I'm thinking, perhaps they know they've been talked about and therefore exposed. They don't want to face our large family.

  • @claudiafuentes14
    @claudiafuentes14 4 місяці тому +13

    Narcissist worst nightmare is that his dingaling doesn’t work.

    • @Tlj4722
      @Tlj4722 Місяць тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂RIGHT

  • @LovelyAlbatross-rc1di
    @LovelyAlbatross-rc1di 7 місяців тому +33

    God can read their hearts. He knows their motives.

  • @jan_harumi
    @jan_harumi 7 місяців тому +22

    Facing the void within and being left with themselves

  • @yahmitahisreal280
    @yahmitahisreal280 7 місяців тому +24

    They don’t want to be exposed to the fact that they have a malignancy, which is worse than cancer to me because it’s like down to the soul of them like they’re black hearted if they have a heart and that’s kind of sad and they have no idea

  • @flightydancer
    @flightydancer 7 місяців тому +16

    Channels like this is narcissists' nightmare because we are here talking about them.

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 7 місяців тому +20

    The word: NO.

  • @patriciadooley3058
    @patriciadooley3058 7 місяців тому +40

    They are the worst nightmare

  • @aneishasingletary4553
    @aneishasingletary4553 7 місяців тому +13

    Educated empath as in figuring out their game and what their about, knowing and understanding their manipulation and no longer putting up with them.😮

  • @dianagarrison3138
    @dianagarrison3138 3 місяці тому +4

    It occurs to me that because there are so many narcissists, none of them are very special at all. LOL

  • @happycamper6214
    @happycamper6214 5 місяців тому +5

    When you walk away and treat them with indifference

  • @leesdroidaccountharbin9665
    @leesdroidaccountharbin9665 7 місяців тому +19

    A narcissist's worst nightmare is being the hunted instead of the hunter.

  • @nightowl5226
    @nightowl5226 7 місяців тому +8

    Being called out on their bullshit and being vulnerable

  • @theUniverseISnotBrokenSurviv0R
    @theUniverseISnotBrokenSurviv0R 7 місяців тому +10

    Biggest nightmare:( possibly) not being able to control the narrative and control you..plus abandonment issues..?

  • @AleXandrAO-rq8ki
    @AleXandrAO-rq8ki 7 місяців тому +4

    10:21 "meeting their equal." Thank you for the clarity on this specific point.

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 7 місяців тому +14

    They are they own worst nightmare

  • @danitaoliver264
    @danitaoliver264 7 місяців тому +11

    ❤ No Contact!!!❤

  • @craz4mom
    @craz4mom 3 місяці тому +2

    Yeah when they drink and rage then call the state police on you not once but twice claiming domestic violence- then have you served with a PFA while you are immobolized in a wheelchair - for damn sure that's going to be a public nightmare !!!!!

  • @sarahcarney279
    @sarahcarney279 7 місяців тому +11

    Being exposed and left " alone"

  • @shaunogg9966
    @shaunogg9966 7 місяців тому +6

    Accountability and apologising for it.

  • @ms.eagelesslyblessed4342
    @ms.eagelesslyblessed4342 7 місяців тому +4

    ME‼️... A #SELFAWARE #SELFLOVING #SELFMOTIVATED, STRONG, #GODLOVING EMPATH.

  • @SuzanneLegendre
    @SuzanneLegendre 7 місяців тому +53

    Their worst nightmare? Being ignored

  • @ma-lovee
    @ma-lovee 7 місяців тому +15

    Losing supply!

  • @GoWithDaFlowMo
    @GoWithDaFlowMo Місяць тому +2

    Their biggest nightmare is losing control..... 😅

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 7 місяців тому +7

    These people are unbelievable

  • @marniepowell948
    @marniepowell948 7 місяців тому +10

    I think Their worst nightmare is when all of his secrets are exposed and he is finally seen as the man without the mask. Yuk Yuk Yuk

  • @mimap275
    @mimap275 7 місяців тому +3

    Yup my mum , , its almost like shes a celebrity outdoors , but so horrible to her closest family .

  • @SFCretiredArmt
    @SFCretiredArmt 7 місяців тому +5

    Exposed of actions to others and being alone….
    I told my ex I had seen a lawyer and went over the proposed draft for divorce/custody of daughter. Fake tears came to her eyes and she asked two questions….
    1) Would she have to change her last name?
    2) Would she get served papers at work?
    I wanted to sarcastically say “You wasn’t worrying about those consequences when I didn’t know you was fooling around behind my back again?” I had to keep my peace for myself

  • @annicures
    @annicures 6 місяців тому +2

    The mold reference is a GEM 💎

  • @TheTinyNest
    @TheTinyNest 4 місяці тому +1

    Makes perfect sense! I am a educated empath. My narc ex asked me last week am I a narcissist and my response was hell yeah you’re narcissist. He is a classic narc toxic as hell and leaving destruction in other lives and his own.

  • @joelaustin5408
    @joelaustin5408 7 місяців тому +6

    Exposure is Closure... or at least as close to it as you'll get with a narcissist.

  • @victoriamclennan4577
    @victoriamclennan4577 2 місяці тому

    Lee. Wow! I cannot thank you enough for your videos. I left someone with NPD but didn't know that was what it was at the time. Fortunately l had a gut feeling about it and exposed them. Since then, two people, including a professional have confirmed it was NPD. Watching your videos has confirmed all their behavior and helped me understand it and helped me heal much quicker l feel bad for people who don't have someone who confirms what they were and what you experienced. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. 🙂

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  2 місяці тому

      You’re welcome. Stay strong and protect your peace

  • @deec1601
    @deec1601 7 місяців тому +11

    Lee Your video's are such a guiding light! I got friendly with a married guy, he neglected to tell me about his wife. He has some weird ass fetishes and so I told him we would never be an item, and he ghosted me. I found out he was married after he vanished, and I texted him I was putting his/our conversations on social media after he admitted to cheating from day one on his wife, having women in his marital bed, hooking up with women across the country - I was horrified! He even straight up came out and told me he thought he was a demon lol I screenshot the whole lot lol He's on vacation with his wife at the moment, but instead of relaxing, he is worrying about what I am going to post on social media 😀😀😀I'm not going to actually do it but the power is in the threat!

    • @foxiefair123
      @foxiefair123 7 місяців тому +1

      Just be careful of this guy.

    • @deec1601
      @deec1601 7 місяців тому

      @@foxiefair123 He's probably sat on a sunbed pretending to be having a good time, and behind the mask plotting my demise lol Some of the things he said before he realised I was going to screen shot the convo are nothing short of disgusting .. he won't have the balls, he's screwed himself! As Lee would say 'Gotcha Gotcha Gotcha' 🤣

  • @sonjawakelin6512
    @sonjawakelin6512 7 місяців тому +14

    Rejection 😊

  • @charlottemckenzie5259
    @charlottemckenzie5259 7 місяців тому +3

    Hey, it's so nice to see how exposure for you has been so freeing and healing, and your helping all of us out here on the Internet and beyond. I love to think of everything being exposed under the bright light of the sun. Ain't no where to hide. Peace 🕊️🌄

  • @teronberkeley5319
    @teronberkeley5319 7 місяців тому +3

    They discard you right when they know you are on to them and could possibly expose them. That fear causes them to drop you when they think you have collected enough evidence about them to cripple them. I've been there with my ex narc. Once I started figuring 💩 out that could've been mental going on with them things went from bad to worse in how they treated me. #EducatedEmpath 🙋‍♂️

  • @Fabtruluv7915
    @Fabtruluv7915 7 місяців тому +8

    The narc says, “I wish you really knew me”, 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 7 місяців тому +1

    True! "Their biggest nightmare is exposure." 100% agree.
    The reason I haven't signed a settlement is there's no pressure, threat of accountability, or warning of exposure for the abuse and damages the narc. has inflicted on me and mine.

  • @lindafrabizio2910
    @lindafrabizio2910 7 місяців тому +7

    Another nightmare is being being found out what an True AH they really are

  • @glassdragon-64
    @glassdragon-64 7 місяців тому +5

    Being made accountable for who they are and what they do. ...?

  • @wandadunlap3550
    @wandadunlap3550 4 місяці тому

    Lee, ur spot on! That line "I just want u to be happy even if it's not with me"! I have heard many times from a long-time ex bf. I got educated on thus personality disorder and discarded him for the 1st and last time. He didn"t see it coming! He wants to stay friends after I asked him not to ever contact me again! Naw, I am GOOD. Thanks for everything u taught how not to be and who u really are. He knows that I am done but, he is chasing to get a reaction. Nothing but golden silence from me. He is blocked on social media and doesn't have access to my life like in the past. He thought he always would. He was WRONG. Like I said to him many times he will never "get it". He keeps proving this is the SAD truth. I have accepted that and I am GRATEFUL that I have finally realized my worth and cherishing my joy and peace is most important. I had to let him go bcuz he never would. I once asked the question why. Of course, there was no direct response. I decided to no longer subject myself to his gaslighting, discards, ambiguity, non-acountability, secret ways, and unempathetic I made clear was treatment I no longer would tolerate. The love-bombing won't do it this time. I let him know I am done and he never treated well. He will eventually give up or I will block him from texting. He doesn't have the courage or confidence to call and lives far. I just want to see what he'll say next. He thinks time and persistence will bring me back into his web of deception but, that track record was my past. I am looking forward to better and greater future without him.🙏🙌👏🏼ÿ

  • @Ifyouonlyknew22673
    @Ifyouonlyknew22673 7 місяців тому +4

    That’s crazy, narcissist know what they do they are Evil Lee!! They are so strategic !!! It’s Crazy and Now that’s all I do is sit in the house because I can smell a narcissist close by, I don’t have any friends yet, cut all my co dependent friends and family off I ve learned so much about my self , no one can tell me anything now I’m relearning life ❤

  • @vonniemonique7412
    @vonniemonique7412 7 місяців тому +8

    Their worse nightmare is someone with the ability to see them beyond the mask

  • @TamekaBuckley-h8e
    @TamekaBuckley-h8e 7 місяців тому +2

    Exactly Right, He wanted to fight me before I exposed him publicly. He started it, and I was literally trying to end him lying to the community about me.

  • @SzilviK
    @SzilviK 7 місяців тому +7

    Being alone. I don't think exposed is a problem because they just move on to a new supply , a new location . Starting over each time the mask slips

  • @Ifyouonlyknew22673
    @Ifyouonlyknew22673 7 місяців тому +5

    Wait don’t say it …. Abandonment ! Let’s see if I was right , dang what time do you go live or is it Out the blue! Lee you are my favorite self aware narcissist I’m so proud of you for going to therpahy and helping us empaths out😂 youve answered so many of my questions ! It’s like you read my mind lol😂 but foreal your funny and you give facts you don’t make me feel bad I was truly dealing with someone who has an issue I pray for him and hope the best for him ❤

  • @pameliahooks2741
    @pameliahooks2741 7 місяців тому +14

    They are absolutely afraid of losing a very good supply and doesn't want the supply to be with anyone else 😉 🙄 because ain't no body gonna supply them just like the other supply did 😉

  • @tysonjohnson710
    @tysonjohnson710 7 місяців тому +1

    I love this guy!!! I hope he never reverts back or stops doing this helpful information..

  • @martinez7303
    @martinez7303 2 місяці тому

    The fact that the scenarios are so true, it’s hilarious remembering times I was in those same scenarios. It’s just so funny.

  • @lolxd9396
    @lolxd9396 3 місяці тому

    OMG, That's what my narcissistic player told me to be careful about other guys. Even after this fool tells me to find another man, since I was sad that he was going on a long vacation. Thank you Lee 🙏😎

  • @sk8taway
    @sk8taway 7 місяців тому +11

    I’ll say Abandonment is their worst nightmare

    • @sk8taway
      @sk8taway 7 місяців тому +2

      Oh yeah being exposed was my first thought actually

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  7 місяців тому +2

      Def one of

  • @marymcceney1
    @marymcceney1 26 днів тому

    Lee you crack me up. Thanks for your honesty. Very helpful. much luv

  • @lemonawrencher-strong6920
    @lemonawrencher-strong6920 7 місяців тому +8

    Bring ignored

  • @jackiecolbert3915
    @jackiecolbert3915 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Lee I needed this message today.

  • @LealisLis
    @LealisLis 5 місяців тому

    You are the only one who can make this subject light and funny. Thank you, Lee

  • @sandraleehurst7350
    @sandraleehurst7350 7 місяців тому +7

    Boundaries

  • @happycamper6214
    @happycamper6214 5 місяців тому +1

    Feeling that others think they are ordinary

  • @sandramassey5025
    @sandramassey5025 4 місяці тому

    I just found you on one of your other videos, and wow! I've studied narcissism from a therapist/psychology viewpoint but never from the sufferers. Thank you so much for your honesty! Very informative.

  • @janetterocha3609
    @janetterocha3609 7 місяців тому +2

    Being discovered. Figured out.

  • @tammyhenderson1592
    @tammyhenderson1592 7 місяців тому +5

    Being found out to be not perfect

  • @almostagoodman
    @almostagoodman 6 місяців тому

    Lee - you have been so helpful in my healing process from my narc ex-boyfriend and mom. Thank you so much!

  • @Marlene-qm7qc
    @Marlene-qm7qc 7 місяців тому +4

    I know now what my narcissist ex is and who he is. And now I have some peace.

  • @tiffanypotts5186
    @tiffanypotts5186 3 місяці тому

    His words exactly you deserve better, watch you will be so much happier. You need someone who reciprocates. I am not at that place.

  • @murielvanderwesthuizen8553
    @murielvanderwesthuizen8553 5 місяців тому +1

    I tend to think that when someone calls themselves an empath, they by proxy have some narcissistic tendencies, not excluding myself as i also fell into the " emapth " trap/hype.

  • @iwonasosnierz1421
    @iwonasosnierz1421 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for the lecture. I know many situations NPD or other toxic people expose themselves among people like in court lying and showing childish minds or not being able to behave like the grown ups. Anyhow your insight into N mind is very profound. Thank you.😊

  • @melodywhite1536
    @melodywhite1536 7 місяців тому +5

    My biggest fear is passing away without a purpose 🤷‍♀️

  • @GonzoA211
    @GonzoA211 5 місяців тому +1

    I would agree with the notion of their worst fears being #1 Exposure. #2 Being alone

  • @Sarah_2905
    @Sarah_2905 6 місяців тому

    Thank you for your openness and education, Lee.

  • @robbiewooden5067
    @robbiewooden5067 26 днів тому

    So true. Thanks for sharing.

  • @vivianeprudentiabuelens9142
    @vivianeprudentiabuelens9142 7 місяців тому +3

    Let’s EXPOSE THEM ‼️😀 2:38

  • @drdvacuums9635
    @drdvacuums9635 6 місяців тому

    In Gods timing HE reveals ALL . 💯🔥 #PRAISETHELORD

  • @TITOPICS777
    @TITOPICS777 27 днів тому

    Their biggest fear is people finding out who they really are. They make you look like this horrible person to everyone around them while they walk around looking like a Saint.

  • @SenSakura-dj6bq
    @SenSakura-dj6bq 7 місяців тому +1

    They can also be very disconnected from their reputation and not care at all. Another posible nightmare is encouraging an even worse narcissist or psychopath. Being played at your own game, not being able to control the other narc, beinge used and abandoned.

  • @breannafoderingham6514
    @breannafoderingham6514 3 місяці тому

    I think their worst nightmare is having to be alone with themselves. I'm excited to see your answer 😊

  • @linneasimchah1621
    @linneasimchah1621 2 місяці тому

    I liked the end of the video. A narc feels uneasy when another human who is better/faster/stronger/richer/younger/Etc comes on the scene.
    In the animal kingdom, what's a shark's worst nightmare? A much larger shark.
    Somehow sharks can sense when a much larger shark is coming into the same area, and the smaller sharks flee. I watched a TV show that filmed a feeding frenzy with a lot of medium-sized sharks, and then all of a sudden they all left the area despite the free food. Why? A BIG shark was moving closer to the vicinity.

  • @KathyBarton-qx1hc
    @KathyBarton-qx1hc 3 місяці тому

    I walked away lock stock & barrel no contact at all gone gone gone. I was very high value also.

  • @papaarmo5028
    @papaarmo5028 7 місяців тому +4

    My soon to be ex-wife is living being exposed to the whole city, her family, and the world. She thinks im going to let her have 50/50 with my son. This woman is abusive on so many levels and i will not allow her to do to my son what she did to me

  • @happycamper6214
    @happycamper6214 5 місяців тому +1

    Being flattered then discarded