Ladies if a woman flirts with your man be really innocent and naive in front of him. And be super sweet to the lady. Make her feel guilty. Be like the most pure sweet innocent thing to her.
See , to this day I’m the sweet nasty ... I don’t know if that’s bad but this waitress was flirting with my man in front of me not knowing I was paying , I tipped her 5 cents and left her a note saying , don’t try so hard love ❤️
@@nicolekeith4251 girl, she was only trying to work for her tips. Maybe if you weren't with a dusty you would've felt less insecure about her "stealing" your "man". No excuses to be on shera's videos in 2020 and gloating over paying a man's way & being stingy to the waitress. Smh.
Katsianne Official love , no one was being stingy ti the waitress . The girl was rude to me whilst I was giving her the benefit of doubt , she only talked to my dude and ignored me when I asked her to get me a simple drink, she cut me off and more . Nobody is “gloating “ over paying a mans way but female waitress mostly go for the man since most men pay . I said what I said and don’t try to at me not knowing the full backstory . Have a beautiful night hun
@@joemtari by the results in the society we can see who starts all this and were stupidly faithful and loyal .She educates women. Observe women in your circle, if they had better relationships, had higher standards they could do better for themselves and their famillies
@@jasmineetienne1767 well so could the men. It seems like she’s telling you how to get stuff and that’s cool and all, I’ve certainly got some things during relationships. The important thing is that we learn how to work together and respect each other and ourselves and men are raising the bar their own way or not even bothering if they’re not in a relationship. Men just want to be treated well too and a lot of them are looking for solid partners because raising a family and stuff is serious work.
@@joemtari Yes raising a family is a serious work that women naturally believe in. A lot of good faithful women ended in some stressful situation: discovering that the man is a serial cheater with several baby mamas, or lazy ambitionless video game player. To raise this family as a single mother , she will take 2 or 3 jobs working to death, aging prematurely ect... drugs dealers, prostitutes, thieves they originally had a dusty father. They don't want to end the poverty, abusive cycle. Shera's motivation is not just materialistic as you can think , it's about the well being of the future generation.
@@joemtari can't find the video where she explains what motivates her to create her channel. But maybe you will be interested on having a male perspective I suggest you interview with Sherasen by mindful attraction 2.0. A man who invest financially in a woman will stay a little bit longer even if he is a player . Men value their money. I's better for a woman to procreate with a provider than a dusty
Unfortunately, she is sooooo accurate about men not giving a damn about your accolades. They just want you to look good. They don’t go and tell their friends that they met a really smart business lady that has a bomb portfolio ☠️ it’s dumb but when you accept it you will move through life differently.
I’d say that but she has to be cool in more than her accolades. I know when one of my buddies is dating a doctor or model I got gold digger repellent though rn you’d brush me off
@@KurosakiLuvar01 Most men of quality (that means more than just having material things) care about having a partner and potential mother of his children who isn't an ignorant, uneducated idiot.
I feel like I'm entering a whole new world . as a woman, I have more power than I thought I had. I wish I could've discovered you in my early twenties. You would have helped me to be more confident. but I guess everything has it's on timing. I'm glad I discovered you now ❤
Honestly! I can watch a 5 hour video by you and never be bored! You're so smart, so witty, funny, so entertaining and I'm learning sooooo much each video! I truly admire you! You made me rebrand myself and level up! Thank you so much! 😘😘😘
BlkSwn Good point and technically that's true but what happens when the other race men can't relate to and lack empathy towards a difficult or hurtful experience we have as black people and we just want to cry on our partner's shoulder about it? I guess obviously dump the guy but at the same time other races don't have experiences like black people, our experience as a people is very unique just to us. I'd love your insights about this and some ways to deal with it.
Leah Veal You will probably find some who ignore your experiences and some who will shut it down when they see someone get out of order. On a date with a White guy I was asked if I experienced a lot of racist behavior. I say date until you find an empathetic person. I have dated and I am related to Black people who brush off every racist encounter as something else. Very annoying.
@@leahveal9501 black men lack empathy for the black female experience as well. No one truly understands the black woman like another intelligent socially aware black woman. At this point, men are not here to be a shoulder to cry on. That is what our family, girlfriends or therapist are for.... The man whether(black, white, other) is here to protect and provide. If we're crying on any mans shoulder, let it be strategic and result in more money, gifts, travel, and *man*ipulation. It's time to learn from becky and use our black girl tears.
I watched an docomentry where Donald Trump was a speaker @ an conference on how to achieve wealth. Some woman got up and talked about all her Degrees. She wanted to know how to move up, Donald simply told her to FIND A WEALTHY GUY! This was from the 90's😉 Shera knows what she's talking about yawl!
Nisha Mack Me personally...I would never depend on someone else for a come up....I understand my own hard work and ethics shall create the opportunity to prevail... but women have a hypergamy nature... it makes it that much harder to be independent
I'll be 30 next month and I'm so upset especially with the main three women in my family didn't teach me .... And I have been learning now.... and I'm sooooooooo wowed at how much I didn't and don't know
As far as my personal wardrobe, I have been wearing pantyhose with my dresses & skirts & it really adds a touch of class to the look. I’ve been getting approached by more men because of it I think.
Ditch the pantyhose and replace with thigh-highs or garter stockings. They look and feel more feminine and they are much more sanitary. Hosiery is a nice classic touch, gives you a more polished “finished” look. If you can afford the splurge silk stockings feel so fine.
Doll Bun : So good of you to remind us. Polyester is pretty darn cruel, too, especially to sensitive skin types or in extreme weather. Alternatively, leg makeup is an option (smooths the legs, but DOESN’T replace hosiery).
I can't do pantyhose...nor !o I think they are feminine. But thigh high stockings, oh my goodness they are so sexy... With some lace panties. My boyfriend would go crazy.😜😂
Just recently a woman caught an attitude with a drive thru worker, she ordered a ice coffee from McDonald's. They had her pull up to wait for it. Eventually she got the drink and started sipping on it. When she got to the bottom she slurped up a whole lot of slimy mucus. Then she had to go get a covid test after and it came back positive... The McDonald's workers took turns spitting in her drink and all got fired.
Ladies I'm 26, I stopped shopping at forever 21, h&m, and fashion nova. Also, I stepping up my game with dating and bought a perfume that's floral. Also, you can shop in nice stores. I go to the clearance racks.
Thank you for these tips ladies! I’m 26 and I am in the middle of transitioning. 👌🏿 It’s a bit tough in the winter where I am in Canada. The snow, slush, sleet, ice etc. However, I do try to wear colours in the winter (I wear a plum purples and dark reds/browns etc) and then I’ll do my eyeshadow (emerald golds,greens,brown,plums,pinks etc). Lol, despite being born here - I hate winter.
💗"Save ur money. Why spend mine when i can spend yours. Get life insurance, real estate, what does your savings look like? Then spend his money. Invest yours!" Damn Ive been working too hard!
I love you! I need you in my life yes yes Yes!!! I'm recently getting my feminine back and transitioning from single mommy working 24/7 to in a relationship and having him tell me I can stay home. I'm getting my femininity back. And I notice him loving all the stuff you talk about, lol. Thanks girly!! ❤💯
You are so right. My late husband would never take advice from me. He would say the advice I gave him came from one of his men friends and that he never even remembered me saying anything
Sandra P same here. That was frustrating to me. I would buy him a shirt and he wouldn’t like it then his mom or sisters could come weeks or months later with the same shirt and he act like it was the best thing. I said you have one just like it I bought. He act like he couldn’t remember. So annoying!!! Same thing with advice
Everytime. He would dismiss my advice, then ask his same obvious questions to his friends, who would give him the same obvious advice, and THEN he would listen. Men's biggest mistake in relationships is not submitting to the woman's wisdom, that THEY chose. Women give advice for their own good=your benefit.
@@jennydelaflor2087men don't take women advice because women are replaceable to them especially if they are with rhe woman for her looks. Family they take more seriously.
Ladies, we deserve all the lovely things life has to offer and it starts with the inside first. Do better and make room for all the beautiful manifestations to come 🦋✨
Honestly the best thing I have learned is to not rush like don’t let anyone rush u in any way just move slow and if someone is walking super fast or rushing past you then just stop let them past... and that means everywhere Practice, even at home
I need to figure out how to re program myself in my early 20's I was a super girly girl everything she described here, but sadly I spent 8 yrs with a dusty and as a result I'm now super protective and overbearing I'm used to working hard and running myself into the ground is just the norm now I don't do anything for myself anymore it's all about taking care of my kids I don't get my hair nails done I haven't bought makeup in forever just terrible. I did decide when I finally got rid of my dusty at the beginning of the year that this was going to be a new year new me type of year I will no longer entertain dusty lil boys and am dating from here on out to be taken care of...I just have to figure out how to undo 8 yrs of damage and reprogram myself😫
When you said "why you're wearing makeup? I like you natural." I was like "I've seen that, been there and they are dusties." 😑😑😒😒😒 Sheara you are spitting the truth!!!!!
@@phi-losiphy2038 The issue isn't the notion, it's the underlying meaning. In reality, they just want you to dress down and be less noticeable to other men so you feel less wanted and stuck.
You can also learn to love the healthy stuff. It took me a long time to switch from white bread to whole grains but you can make the switch with mind power.
I’m pretty heavy and I had this realization. I wasn’t getting the kind of commitment or attention I like and now I’m not going over 1500 cal till I cut this weight
Man about 2 yrs ago this was the first videos i watched of shera and after I found her, that night I watched a bunch of her videos. The next day i started following her advice and some random guy gave me 20$ as I walked by. That was the beginning of my level up journey ❤! Love her
It's been hard for me to find a man who makes close to my salary or more. I'm tired of men that come to me looking for help. I'm training myself to be more feminine, what you're saying makes so much sense... I'm going to stop telling men what I do for work and buy me some heels.
Shera is stating FACTS. Big facts. I love revealing clothes and my aunt always call me out. My aunt is a doctor and so is her daughter. This one time she wanted to set me up on a date with a psychologist and just because I wear certain clothes she said she can’t do that because he like sexy classy. I felt bad but I learnt that it’s true.
Thank you Shera! I always do my best to carry myself as a lady at all times. Always been a girly girl. Can't stand all the loud ratchet behavior that is so common now. They need to start putting little girls into etiquette classes like back in the day. Need to work on smile though. I pout a lot. Love your videos!
I used to think that high etiquette was "corny" and "frivolous", but maturing made me realize it's actually feminine and classy. It's truly disappointing that we cheer on unladylike behavior instead of discouraging it nowadays.
I am so happy I found your videos! Have helped me immensely. I am more feminine, less "mother-like" to my partner, and enjoy being in his company way more.
I agree with everything except for the curly hair part. I noticed that men would rather have a woman with kinky hair have her natural hair styled neatly than for them to have a weave on. Men prefer straight hair on women, but not when it is fake. They will just tolerate it. I get more attention from men when i wear my natural hair than when I wear weave. The key to wearing natural hair is to always have it long and to do neat styles like updo's, twist outs and streached hair.
KD I’ve noticed the same and I’m married. At one time it was different and men seemed to prefer straight hair but now I see more men of means (especially white men in nyc who have money) are the ones who tend to go after the darker skinned women with thick natural hair, nice bodies and a well put together outfit. Times have changed, a lot. Lol! I get the attention from them a lot too now that I wear my natural curls most of the time and I’m not dark skinned. It’s like you said, a lot of it has to do with the way the hair is styled and cared for.
@Bella Maria tbh I'm just gonna stay single forever because I always sport giant afro on my head. Not no curly afro either but a real afro.everybody likes it tho.but I don't think a guy would date me. It's fine tho.i have better things to worry about
My initial thought was "This sounds exhausting" 😩🤣. But I had to check myself, because she's right. I hadn't realized how masculine I've become. I'm definitely working on that going forward.
You can't have an elevated look with tattoos PERIOD. I have yet to see anyone look classy, elegant, or feminine with visible tattoos. This list is spot on. I started wearing dresses and skirts almost exclusively. I definitely notice a difference in how I am treated. Also smelling good and remaining light, positive, and bubbly. Last week I accidentally spilled something on the floor. One of my super quiet and antisocial male coworkers RUSHED to clean it up for me. This is probably one of my favorite videos. I am working on cursing less, my volume, and debating/coming across argumentative (I grew up in a very loud and opinionated family lol).
You all are missing the point. Tattoos will never be classy, elegant, or feminine, especially females who are tatted up (vs having one that isn't visible). Low class, stripper, hood/ratchet, etc. is how most people look these days so saying people complement it or gold dig looking like that means nothing. Just because a man has money does not mean he is high-caliber or high class. Those kinds of men with money don't like tatted up females. Chicks with their tits and butt hanging out get tons of money, likes, and complements, as well...
@cosmic cat 1111 Yes, look trashy and masculine if you want but then why are you here? Obviously doing whatever one wants hasn't been working for a lot of women. If it did channels like SheRas wouldn't exist or be popular.
I don't have any tattoos if I ever decide to get one it will only be visible at my deliberate choosing. I will invest in more skirts/dresses for summer. I have been acting more masculine towards my bf and he's pulling back. It's mostly because I'm letting him know he's not going to treat me any kind of way, I know my worth but I guess I could be a little softer about it so I'll work on it.
Tatoos can actually look very feminine depending on what it is of/the size/where you put it. Im actually thinking of getting three small birds flying from my left ear to the middle of the back of my neck lols
Omggg sis I went to a wine lounge today looking bomb asf but my nails and feet weren’t done and I noticed at the last minute I was like omggg I’m a disgrace to the level up nation 😩 but I still pulled the co-owner though 😏 dinner on sunday I gotta make sum happen 🙌🏾
Congratulations girl you are beautiful. As long as your nails weren't chipped and the nail polish wasn't chipped you were fine I'm sure. Just keep your nails filed and don't have dirt under your nails.
What? I doubt you pulled anything leaving the house with jacked up nails, that says your cat 🐈⬛ probably isn’t well kept either. I would throw back anything that accepts less of my best....because something is wrong with him.
Shera7 is right about giving what others like not what you think looks good. This principle can extend beyond man hunting. I've seen people winning competitions not because they were better at what they do, as those that came second or third were clearly the better competitors. They won because they'll look better at future promos, publicity shoots, ambassodors for the organisations involved, and look more approachable to advertise their country, company, charity etc. Why? they're going to be the face of those that voted for them. Look is everything.
39:02 Don’t be loud, soften voice, wear dresses, feminine colors, smell good, have some makeup on, nails done, skin soft (no ashy dry skin), play with hair a little, smile, no frowns, etc
Actually plenty of men like a woman that can eat. They don't like them being too picky or too girly about it and some don't like wasting food, from an environmental or tasting point of view, not financially. Just eat slowly and with class, talk during the dinner and don't just grab as much food in as little time as possible. Class is the essence, not these stupid rules. Enjoy yourselves and keep it classy and finish your plate (slowly) to avoid the question if you didn't like it from dinner partner and host.
@@Nina-cd6uw that. I eat as much as I can without being uncomfortably full, offer him the rest and if he wants it he takes it and if not, he tells me to get it wrapped up. That way I'm not wasting his money, but don't look greedy.
Also I noticed the use of conversate which is a ratchet word, if around people who are educated or want to appear to be well versed in something, I would say converse as that's the proper term.
Honestly, I do a lot of the things naturally that you have discussed, but your videos are so informative and they literally call me out on so many different things. I’ve always tried to be the independent woman my mother never taught me how to really be a lady so I’ve pretty much just learned on my own, or most of it just comes naturally to me, but now at the age of 40 I am totally shifting my way of thinking you are 100% correct on everything you were saying, I do work and I enjoy being independent because I don’t like having things thrown in my face but if I was dealing with the right man, nothing would be thrown in my face. You have definitely made a difference in just a few days I’ve just listening to you.😊
😩🤣🤣 you’re hilarious. I definitely agree with a lot of the view points in this video! People always tell me I’m bougie, but women should always act like ladies period...I just have to work on my RBF and not going from 0-100 when people piss me off.
Nothing but the whole truth at the 29:24 minute mark. Go where you're celebrated. It makes people more appreciative of your beauty. It has certainly stopped some Black men from their mantra "if we don't want you, no one will". No one should be waiting around to add to the statistics stating "no man wants what others do not want". Besides, my friends with darker hues definitely get more attention from other races and get married faster too.
I rather don’t drink any alcohol on a date I like and love sparkling water and I usually do not play with my hair at the table but when WE are alone somewhere then yes
I just can't get over how amazingly gorgeous you look in this video!! I think this is your BEST LOOK all around. You are seductive, sexy, beautiful, just sizzling all around. A definite vote for a night out at a 5 star restaurant, you definitely glow in lighter, feminine colors (that's why I always wear pastels)..your husband probably couldn't keep his hands off you haha
I love this look! Very soft, pretty, and not overpowering. I just love it! Oh, and the green eye shadow is really nice the way you did. It's modest, you get a hint of the color without it being so "in yo face" so to speak. Lovely!
@@kcmshelia you should nicer because it’s just like that for some kids. Especially in places like Brooklyn! Girls are taught to be masculine and the men feminine
Lauryn Hill and Joss Stone are great examples of chocolately, deep, soulful voices that are feminine or CAN sound feminine. I wouldn’t be surprised if they speak to men in a higher octave, just like Shera suggested/mentioned. (They may even do this subconsciously. Of course, I only know their singing voices but to my deep voice women, you are not manly! Deep voices can be very calming and seductive to hear❤)
Lol "Omg I love your eyebrows! I saw that same look on Ru-Pauls Drag Race!", "Omg I love your earings, I saw those at the dollar tree. I almost got them but im allergic to fake jewelry". 💀💀💀
But you was at Dollar tree! She was making an example but that one didn’t work....didn’t make sense to almost buy something or be high value shopping in Dollar Tree
@@SanctifiedLady Girl lol ppl with a lot of money shop at stores like that all the time. That's one of the reasons they are high value, besides whatever their sources of income are. The difference is, only low value ppl would buy fake jewelry from the Dollar store. First of all, it's made from toxic material, can damage your skin, turn it colors, and turn the color of your skin dermatitis and all kinds of things.. Real jewelry is an investment, something you can lirerally resale if need be. Why do you think some people buy $2000 Chanel and Fendi bags, and real necklaces and rings that cost hundreds and thousands of dollars? Because these things have real value and other people will buy it off of you, in a heart beat if they have the money. But groceries, toiletries, and miscellaneous stuff, stuff that has no value, people with money shop for everyday items at the dollar store all the time. It's a smart move.
Youre like a big sis to me. I'm chocolate (clearly) and always wondered why I mostly attract light skin black, white, Asian or Hispanic. So much so that ppl would think I don't go for dark skin black guys. I never had a problem with it but just never really understood it. Thanks
Ladies if a woman flirts with your man be really innocent and naive in front of him. And be super sweet to the lady. Make her feel guilty. Be like the most pure sweet innocent thing to her.
Yes girl 🤣
See , to this day I’m the sweet nasty ... I don’t know if that’s bad but this waitress was flirting with my man in front of me not knowing I was paying , I tipped her 5 cents and left her a note saying , don’t try so hard love ❤️
@@nicolekeith4251 girl, she was only trying to work for her tips. Maybe if you weren't with a dusty you would've felt less insecure about her "stealing" your "man". No excuses to be on shera's videos in 2020 and gloating over paying a man's way & being stingy to the waitress. Smh.
Katsianne Official love , no one was being stingy ti the waitress . The girl was rude to me whilst I was giving her the benefit of doubt , she only talked to my dude and ignored me when I asked her to get me a simple drink, she cut me off and more . Nobody is “gloating “ over paying a mans way but female waitress mostly go for the man since most men pay . I said what I said and don’t try to at me not knowing the full backstory . Have a beautiful night hun
@Melania MoneyPenny - This technique really works???
🤔🤨😐😏😮
Shera is raising the bar...the higher our standards, the better men will treat us all.
I think this sort of lying and manipulation she’s encouraging actually causes some men to behave in a similar way to get what they want too
@@joemtari by the results in the society we can see who starts all this and were stupidly faithful and loyal .She educates women. Observe women in your circle, if they had better relationships, had higher standards they could do better for themselves and their famillies
@@jasmineetienne1767 well so could the men. It seems like she’s telling you how to get stuff and that’s cool and all, I’ve certainly got some things during relationships. The important thing is that we learn how to work together and respect each other and ourselves and men are raising the bar their own way or not even bothering if they’re not in a relationship. Men just want to be treated well too and a lot of them are looking for solid partners because raising a family and stuff is serious work.
@@joemtari Yes raising a family is a serious work that women naturally believe in. A lot of good faithful women ended in some stressful situation: discovering that the man is a serial cheater with several baby mamas, or lazy ambitionless video game player. To raise this family as a single mother , she will take 2 or 3 jobs working to death, aging prematurely ect... drugs dealers, prostitutes, thieves they originally had a dusty father. They don't want to end the poverty, abusive cycle. Shera's motivation is not just materialistic as you can think , it's about the well being of the future generation.
@@joemtari can't find the video where she explains what motivates her to create her channel. But maybe you will be interested on having a male perspective I suggest you interview with Sherasen by mindful attraction 2.0. A man who invest financially in a woman will stay a little bit longer even if he is a player . Men value their money. I's better for a woman to procreate with a provider than a dusty
I agree with your advise "go where you are celebrated".
I’m gonna live by this!!
Unfortunately, she is sooooo accurate about men not giving a damn about your accolades. They just want you to look good. They don’t go and tell their friends that they met a really smart business lady that has a bomb portfolio ☠️ it’s dumb but when you accept it you will move through life differently.
I’d say that but she has to be cool in more than her accolades. I know when one of my buddies is dating a doctor or model I got gold digger repellent though rn you’d brush me off
They care about them, but not as much as they care about a woman being feminine, sweet, classy and presentable looking.
@@firstnamelastname4427 but they don’t tho. I know men who have married women who don’t know shite. They were just pretty. 🤷🏾♀️
@@KurosakiLuvar01 Most men of quality (that means more than just having material things) care about having a partner and potential mother of his children who isn't an ignorant, uneducated idiot.
So differently
Being pretty and feminine is fun.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge dear
It is, I love it.
So true
To a point.
how to be a Queen/lady
Sure if you think of it as acting in a stage play.
Class is in session! I like how SheRa gets straight to the point at the beginning of every video, not a bunch of intro BS.
Yesssssssss. Some ppl's vids i have to click straight out because they start it off with so much nonsense.
Snickers yes, yes... some talk for 15 minutes before getting to their point of video.
Yes. I like that as well
Same
BlaqueViolet yes agreed!!
"If you're not a flower, then why would they come to pick you?"
SheRaSeven1
Pure gold
I would say we don't need to be picked ;-)
I feel like I'm entering a whole new world . as a woman, I have more power than I thought I had. I wish I could've discovered you in my early twenties. You would have helped me to be more confident. but I guess everything has it's on timing. I'm glad I discovered you now ❤
me too!!😊
Sadly 😢, me too, but we can do this 😂
Same 🙂
Same but I believe in the timing too. It's god's wish
Notes for myself
Don’t be loud
Don’t be drunk
Speak soft
Don’t wear pants all the time
Keep nails done
Play with hair
Dang she is telling me everything my grandma tried to teach me starting at age 5 but I didn’t believe her.
Same
Same
Why not?
Yesss Ladies! The " I'm being sexually harassed at work" lines totally works! He will suggest you stop working lol. Worked for me ☺️
What if he says find another job 😭😭😂
@@nein782 yeah, I feel like you have to be prepared for that as well as making sure your husband can fully provide before you quit your job.
Mine was that I have delicate health and I’m delicate 🥰🥰🥰😂😂😂
@@ab6551 This is what I'm telling my next husband 😂 bc I rlly do suffer from anxiety and I'm trying to do better but its hard.
Swear I just used this two years later thanks love ❤🎉
Hey queen my husband put me on you. You helped save my marriage. He LOVES you. And so do I. Keep doing what you doing!!
extremely curious for an update, I can't imagine my SO giving me this video to watch!
@@ochezeijeuruamuzie9158 ikr? 😬
how are things in your marriage?
How's your marriage girl?
wow awesome!
Baking soda and coconut oil to clean. Shea Butter and Lavender oil as a moisturizer! Natural ingredients every night & day !
Ms. Jane -Cynty J Thank you
Thank I'll have to try this
@Les conseils De Marcy your body
@Lady Million coconut oil mixed with baking soda and tea tree oil is also amazing as deodorant!! Better than any store bought one I've had.
Lavender oil and tree tea oil can cause breast development in children so speak to their doctor first
Honestly! I can watch a 5 hour video by you and never be bored! You're so smart, so witty, funny, so entertaining and I'm learning sooooo much each video! I truly admire you! You made me rebrand myself and level up! Thank you so much! 😘😘😘
Literally, I was going to comment too, but each and every word, you took right out of my mouth.😃✨✨
Facts. She’s all I’ve been watching since I found her 2 days ago.
Yes we do need to STOP turning down other races trying to stay DOWN for the brother.
BlkSwn Good point and technically that's true but what happens when the other race men can't relate to and lack empathy towards a difficult or hurtful experience we have as black people and we just want to cry on our partner's shoulder about it? I guess obviously dump the guy but at the same time other races don't have experiences like black people, our experience as a people is very unique just to us. I'd love your insights about this and some ways to deal with it.
Leah Veal You will probably find some who ignore your experiences and some who will shut it down when they see someone get out of order. On a date with a White guy I was asked if I experienced a lot of racist behavior.
I say date until you find an empathetic person. I have dated and I am related to Black people who brush off every racist encounter as something else. Very annoying.
BlkSwn I turn other races down because I’m not into it , it’s not about being down for the “brother” lmao wtf
ASSETS OVER LIABILITIES You are so pretty. These guys would definitely be into you and give you the treatment you deserve 👏🏾
@@leahveal9501 black men lack empathy for the black female experience as well. No one truly understands the black woman like another intelligent socially aware black woman. At this point, men are not here to be a shoulder to cry on. That is what our family, girlfriends or therapist are for.... The man whether(black, white, other) is here to protect and provide. If we're crying on any mans shoulder, let it be strategic and result in more money, gifts, travel, and *man*ipulation. It's time to learn from becky and use our black girl tears.
I watched an docomentry where Donald Trump was a speaker @ an conference on how to achieve wealth. Some woman got up and talked about all her Degrees. She wanted to know how to move up, Donald simply told her to FIND A WEALTHY GUY! This was from the 90's😉 Shera knows what she's talking about yawl!
Nisha Mack
Me personally...I would never depend on someone else for a come up....I understand my own hard work and ethics shall create the opportunity to prevail... but women have a hypergamy nature... it makes it that much harder to be independent
Makaveli The Don Good for you. That sounds Great.
The Documentary is on Netflix now about Trump for whoever wants to watch it. 😉
Nisha Mack what’s the name
"DIRTY money" episode 6 .
Now I need etiquette classes. 🤦🏾♀️
DanielleA I took a trip down memory lane to Charm School in 5th grade.
I'll be 30 next month and I'm so upset especially with the main three women in my family didn't teach me .... And I have been learning now.... and I'm sooooooooo wowed at how much I didn't and don't know
@@Thislibralovesmoney same girl, I’m 31 lol
As far as my personal wardrobe, I have been wearing pantyhose with my dresses & skirts & it really adds a touch of class to the look. I’ve been getting approached by more men because of it I think.
Pantyhose I have a hard time with them.
Ditch the pantyhose and replace with thigh-highs or garter stockings. They look and feel more feminine and they are much more sanitary. Hosiery is a nice classic touch, gives you a more polished “finished” look. If you can afford the splurge silk stockings feel so fine.
A Masion silk is not feminine is cruel and not cute
Doll Bun : So good of you to remind us. Polyester is pretty darn cruel, too, especially to sensitive skin types or in extreme weather. Alternatively, leg makeup is an option (smooths the legs, but DOESN’T replace hosiery).
I can't do pantyhose...nor !o I think they are feminine. But thigh high stockings, oh my goodness they are so sexy... With some lace panties. My boyfriend would go crazy.😜😂
No, never be mean to the wait staff they will spit in your food.
Yeah I didn't agree with that either.
It's true... I've heard it from someone who worked in a restaurant.
Just recently a woman caught an attitude with a drive thru worker, she ordered a ice coffee from McDonald's. They had her pull up to wait for it. Eventually she got the drink and started sipping on it. When she got to the bottom she slurped up a whole lot of slimy mucus. Then she had to go get a covid test after and it came back positive... The McDonald's workers took turns spitting in her drink and all got fired.
@@Lynn-ip9shwtf
It also shows you rarely go out to eat and you have no class or manners.
Ladies I'm 26, I stopped shopping at forever 21, h&m, and fashion nova. Also, I stepping up my game with dating and bought a perfume that's floral. Also, you can shop in nice stores. I go to the clearance racks.
pretty little thing, they have nice cute clothes
@TD shein has nice clothes that are affordable
TD Nordstrom rack.. Macy's.. loft.. tobi.. Windsor.. Venus..
Thank you for these tips ladies!
I’m 26 and I am in the middle of transitioning. 👌🏿
It’s a bit tough in the winter where I am in Canada. The snow, slush, sleet, ice etc. However, I do try to wear colours in the winter (I wear a plum purples and dark reds/browns etc) and then I’ll do my eyeshadow (emerald golds,greens,brown,plums,pinks etc). Lol, despite being born here - I hate winter.
It’s not where you shop, is what you choose and how you wear it
Great great video! Married 17 yrs and your advice is on point! Hubby pays all the bills!
💗"Save ur money. Why spend mine when i can spend yours. Get life insurance, real estate, what does your savings look like? Then spend his money. Invest yours!" Damn Ive been working too hard!
“Live life like it’s special.” ❤️❤️
Helen R Absolutely
Because it really is
I gotta fake it then. Lol
The thing about capricorn women is we cant be with someone we dont respect. If u don't protect and provide ur worthless to me
kilhatrilha Girl. Jan. 6th and MOS DEF HE IS DEAD TO ME IF HE CANT DO AT LEAST THOSE TWO! I like how you think sweetie.. Lol. 😚
You know it! 😏💅🏽
kilhatrilha Yes!!!
kilhatrilha 🙌🏽🙏🏾
SO true! I'm very good at disappearing and losing phone numbers.
Most of this all comes very natural to me , thank God.
I love you! I need you in my life yes yes Yes!!! I'm recently getting my feminine back and transitioning from single mommy working 24/7 to in a relationship and having him tell me I can stay home. I'm getting my femininity back. And I notice him loving all the stuff you talk about, lol. Thanks girly!! ❤💯
Who u got a free house
Where colors that draws eyes to you. Orange, Pink, Yellow, Lavender.
You are so right. My late husband would never take advice from me. He would say the advice I gave him came from one of his men friends and that he never even remembered me saying anything
Sandra P same here. That was frustrating to me. I would buy him a shirt and he wouldn’t like it then his mom or sisters could come weeks or months later with the same shirt and he act like it was the best thing. I said you have one just like it I bought. He act like he couldn’t remember. So annoying!!! Same thing with advice
Everytime. He would dismiss my advice, then ask his same obvious questions to his friends, who would give him the same obvious advice, and THEN he would listen.
Men's biggest mistake in relationships is not submitting to the woman's wisdom, that THEY chose. Women give advice for their own good=your benefit.
@@jennydelaflor2087men don't take women advice because women are replaceable to them especially if they are with rhe woman for her looks. Family they take more seriously.
Ladies, we deserve all the lovely things life has to offer and it starts with the inside first. Do better and make room for all the beautiful manifestations to come 🦋✨
Honestly the best thing I have learned is to not rush like don’t let anyone rush u in any way just move slow and if someone is walking super fast or rushing past you then just stop let them past... and that means everywhere
Practice, even at home
I need to figure out how to re program myself in my early 20's I was a super girly girl everything she described here, but sadly I spent 8 yrs with a dusty and as a result I'm now super protective and overbearing I'm used to working hard and running myself into the ground is just the norm now I don't do anything for myself anymore it's all about taking care of my kids I don't get my hair nails done I haven't bought makeup in forever just terrible. I did decide when I finally got rid of my dusty at the beginning of the year that this was going to be a new year new me type of year I will no longer entertain dusty lil boys and am dating from here on out to be taken care of...I just have to figure out how to undo 8 yrs of damage and reprogram myself😫
You got this girl! 💜
Me too girl. 7 years with a dusty and working myself to the bone. I became the guy in the relationship.
Me too! 10 years & two children 😥
Update?
You'll do it a little a day, take your own time, whenever You can.
6K views in 5 hrs. You're doing it, SheRa!
“Super de duper ghetto” lmfaooo love shera
When you said "why you're wearing makeup? I like you natural." I was like "I've seen that, been there and they are dusties." 😑😑😒😒😒 Sheara you are spitting the truth!!!!!
Same.
There's nothing wrong with being natural! You don't need makeup to be pretty, it's a choice and a real man will see your beauty regardless!
@@phi-losiphy2038 The issue isn't the notion, it's the underlying meaning. In reality, they just want you to dress down and be less noticeable to other men so you feel less wanted and stuck.
@@amoraa. exactly
Im binge watching your vids...this is really good information.
I treat it like class in session
Jennifer so do my daughter
Life changing information!
Black women need to stop being so hard headed. Temporarily sacrificing the type of food you prefer for the life you want & deserve is no big deal.
You spoke a word right there!
You can also learn to love the healthy stuff. It took me a long time to switch from white bread to whole grains but you can make the switch with mind power.
So only black women out here grubbin? Hispanic women too. They turn into a beef gordita. 😩😂
I’m pretty heavy and I had this realization. I wasn’t getting the kind of commitment or attention I like and now I’m not going over 1500 cal till I cut this weight
lol exactly..there's always a 24-hour burger joint on the way home from the date if you're still hungry lol
Man about 2 yrs ago this was the first videos i watched of shera and after I found her, that night I watched a bunch of her videos. The next day i started following her advice and some random guy gave me 20$ as I walked by. That was the beginning of my level up journey ❤! Love her
It's been hard for me to find a man who makes close to my salary or more. I'm tired of men that come to me looking for help. I'm training myself to be more feminine, what you're saying makes so much sense... I'm going to stop telling men what I do for work and buy me some heels.
you don't go to the right places... go to the places where more men of your financial bracket AND more go.
And don’t tell them where you work and please get the heels
Shera is stating FACTS. Big facts. I love revealing clothes and my aunt always call me out. My aunt is a doctor and so is her daughter. This one time she wanted to set me up on a date with a psychologist and just because I wear certain clothes she said she can’t do that because he like sexy classy. I felt bad but I learnt that it’s true.
Interesting.
You must look like eye candy they only date baddies!!! 🎉
@@MySoberSchizophrenicLife 🤨🤨😂
Thank you Shera! I always do my best to carry myself as a lady at all times. Always been a girly girl. Can't stand all the loud ratchet behavior that is so common now. They need to start putting little girls into etiquette classes like back in the day. Need to work on smile though. I pout a lot. Love your videos!
I used to think that high etiquette was "corny" and "frivolous", but maturing made me realize it's actually feminine and classy. It's truly disappointing that we cheer on unladylike behavior instead of discouraging it nowadays.
I am so happy I found your videos! Have helped me immensely. I am more feminine, less "mother-like" to my partner, and enjoy being in his company way more.
HI Ashera. Feminine energy allure men for sure. Fabulous message. Love yah. Have a Beautiful " Friday. Imiri
I agree with everything except for the curly hair part. I noticed that men would rather have a woman with kinky hair have her natural hair styled neatly than for them to have a weave on. Men prefer straight hair on women, but not when it is fake. They will just tolerate it. I get more attention from men when i wear my natural hair than when I wear weave. The key to wearing natural hair is to always have it long and to do neat styles like updo's, twist outs and streached hair.
KD I’ve noticed the same and I’m married. At one time it was different and men seemed to prefer straight hair but now I see more men of means (especially white men in nyc who have money) are the ones who tend to go after the darker skinned women with thick natural hair, nice bodies and a well put together outfit. Times have changed, a lot. Lol! I get the attention from them a lot too now that I wear my natural curls most of the time and I’m not dark skinned. It’s like you said, a lot of it has to do with the way the hair is styled and cared for.
I agree about the hair. I have long braids the white men love them.
I attract the cute white boys when I sport my afro.
I’m sure your afros are long tho right? At the end of the day men like long hair.
@Bella Maria tbh I'm just gonna stay single forever because I always sport giant afro on my head. Not no curly afro either but a real afro.everybody likes it tho.but I don't think a guy would date me. It's fine tho.i have better things to worry about
Your “ghetto girl” voice is so funny! “Y’all got thousand island, y’all got French, y’all got ranch!?” 😂😂😂
My initial thought was "This sounds exhausting" 😩🤣. But I had to check myself, because she's right. I hadn't realized how masculine I've become. I'm definitely working on that going forward.
Ugh! I know about the nail polish thing. I have to paint my nails everyday. It's hard being a woman😛
Trolls are everywhere like acne
jcitychic. Right.
Sentient MAPP Get some gel polish it lasts longer
queenie_the_virgo. Thanks I'll try that:)
I love painting them and all...it's just that two hour dry time.
You can't have an elevated look with tattoos PERIOD. I have yet to see anyone look classy, elegant, or feminine with visible tattoos.
This list is spot on. I started wearing dresses and skirts almost exclusively. I definitely notice a difference in how I am treated. Also smelling good and remaining light, positive, and bubbly. Last week I accidentally spilled something on the floor. One of my super quiet and antisocial male coworkers RUSHED to clean it up for me. This is probably one of my favorite videos. I am working on cursing less, my volume, and debating/coming across argumentative (I grew up in a very loud and opinionated family lol).
Shadow Gang Tarots same getting tattoos at 18 . And i dont care .. Its my children names amd a red rose .
You all are missing the point. Tattoos will never be classy, elegant, or feminine, especially females who are tatted up (vs having one that isn't visible). Low class, stripper, hood/ratchet, etc. is how most people look these days so saying people complement it or gold dig looking like that means nothing. Just because a man has money does not mean he is high-caliber or high class. Those kinds of men with money don't like tatted up females. Chicks with their tits and butt hanging out get tons of money, likes, and complements, as well...
@cosmic cat 1111 Yes, look trashy and masculine if you want but then why are you here? Obviously doing whatever one wants hasn't been working for a lot of women. If it did channels like SheRas wouldn't exist or be popular.
I don't have any tattoos if I ever decide to get one it will only be visible at my deliberate choosing. I will invest in more skirts/dresses for summer. I have been acting more masculine towards my bf and he's pulling back. It's mostly because I'm letting him know he's not going to treat me any kind of way, I know my worth but I guess I could be a little softer about it so I'll work on it.
Tatoos can actually look very feminine depending on what it is of/the size/where you put it. Im actually thinking of getting three small birds flying from my left ear to the middle of the back of my neck lols
I'm glad I found your channel being a single mother I kind of lost my feminine side alittle I'm trying to navigate back to my feminity thank you!
Omggg sis I went to a wine lounge today looking bomb asf but my nails and feet weren’t done and I noticed at the last minute I was like omggg I’m a disgrace to the level up nation 😩 but I still pulled the co-owner though 😏 dinner on sunday I gotta make sum happen 🙌🏾
Congratulations girl you are beautiful. As long as your nails weren't chipped and the nail polish wasn't chipped you were fine I'm sure. Just keep your nails filed and don't have dirt under your nails.
Valencia Whittington yea I’m gonna make sure I get my nails done tomorrow
Update please
What? I doubt you pulled anything leaving the house with jacked up nails, that says your cat 🐈⬛ probably isn’t well kept either. I would throw back anything that accepts less of my best....because something is wrong with him.
@@SanctifiedLady you're miserable LOLLL
The demo of turning the magazine pages ratchetly, and your acting out what not to do!😂😂😂
2023 and still coming back for this video, it is informative and funny at the same time. Thank you for your wisdom 💗.
I’m crying laughing at the nice nasty compliments!!! So true! The women in my family do it all the time😂 love this video 💕
"You're so pretty. Who's your dentist?!"
I just died. 😂😂 I love ittt so much!
Be a flower, not an aloe vera plant! This has the be your funniest video...I will be re-watching all 3 hours of this video.
Shera7 is right about giving what others like not what you think looks good. This principle can extend beyond man hunting. I've seen people winning competitions not because they were better at what they do, as those that came second or third were clearly the better competitors. They won because they'll look better at future promos, publicity shoots, ambassodors for the organisations involved, and look more approachable to advertise their country, company, charity etc. Why? they're going to be the face of those that voted for them. Look is everything.
39:02 Don’t be loud, soften voice, wear dresses, feminine colors, smell good, have some makeup on, nails done, skin soft (no ashy dry skin), play with hair a little, smile, no frowns, etc
Your advice is always on point and makes me rethink my life 🤦🏼♀️
I find men cheap when they don't at least ask me if I want dessert
Thats a fact!
Yup
Most men probably forgot dessert existed when they were 14
That or they’re extremely dumb 😂
I agree, leave the food on the table. You look grubby when you eat too much on a date.
Lula Belle 🤔
Actually plenty of men like a woman that can eat.
They don't like them being too picky or too girly about it and some don't like wasting food, from an environmental or tasting point of view, not financially.
Just eat slowly and with class, talk during the dinner and don't just grab as much food in as little time as possible.
Class is the essence, not these stupid rules.
Enjoy yourselves and keep it classy and finish your plate (slowly) to avoid the question if you didn't like it from dinner partner and host.
I never eat an entire meal. Food makes you bloated. I can eat at home and comfortable.
😫 ok
@@Nina-cd6uw that. I eat as much as I can without being uncomfortably full, offer him the rest and if he wants it he takes it and if not, he tells me to get it wrapped up. That way I'm not wasting his money, but don't look greedy.
Really Shera is doing what our mothers should have did, given us the game!
"You know how to change a tire,get outta here" I died!😂😂😂😂
I love that hair it's so voluminous you look like a Hollywood actress! Another great video I'll send this to all my single girlfriends !
I feel 50/50 women are masculine
True
100%
omg one year later, kanye complains about kim dressing to provocatively when she's his wife... shera called it
I’m going to make a prediction Kanye will complain about everything he thinks about
Now there divorceddd
@@baerares2743 lol i
You have helped me so much, sis! Thank you. My improved aura has warded off the dusties, hopefully for good!
''I asked for extra Ranch."- lol...stop it
Sol Raat KaBa 🤣🤣🤣
I know and I was cracking up when she said a laser light show. 😂😂😂😂
“You can’t stank “😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Girl I was drinking my wine and almost spit 😆
Seriously, sometimes I smell women and Im like “Someone is NOT fresh!”
@@livefromtheground7274 Lol
Shera keeping it real!!!
Also I noticed the use of conversate which is a ratchet word, if around people who are educated or want to appear to be well versed in something, I would say converse as that's the proper term.
I agree, conversate is NOT a word, its CONVERSE. Please never say conversate.
@@SkylerRoy82 lol I know, that's what I meant by ratchet word cause it doesn't exist. :P
Honestly, I do a lot of the things naturally that you have discussed, but your videos are so informative and they literally call me out on so many different things. I’ve always tried to be the independent woman my mother never taught me how to really be a lady so I’ve pretty much just learned on my own, or most of it just comes naturally to me, but now at the age of 40 I am totally shifting my way of thinking you are 100% correct on everything you were saying, I do work and I enjoy being independent because I don’t like having things thrown in my face but if I was dealing with the right man, nothing would be thrown in my face. You have definitely made a difference in just a few days I’ve just listening to you.😊
I was in Middle School wearing heels I love them and people thought I was too fast
Saaame and all through high school
Me too.
@49jubilee baby wedges and kitten heels are perfect for middle school girls to wear
@@velvetstorm4563 hell no! Our young girls are already oversexualized.
Hi Shera, maybe your next video could be about how to put together outfits and accessories for different occasions.
She gives me Sanaa Lathan... Love your advice lady. Having more of the masculine energy, this is much needed. I have a lot of faking to do. LOL
Everything you’ve said in this video is great advice. Being ladylike at all times is necessary and attractive to great quality men.
😩🤣🤣 you’re hilarious. I definitely agree with a lot of the view points in this video! People always tell me I’m bougie, but women should always act like ladies period...I just have to work on my RBF and not going from 0-100 when people piss me off.
Going to college to get a man worked in the 50s. Times have changed.
Nothing but the whole truth at the 29:24 minute mark. Go where you're celebrated. It makes people more appreciative of your beauty. It has certainly stopped some Black men from their mantra "if we don't want you, no one will".
No one should be waiting around to add to the statistics stating "no man wants what others do not want". Besides, my friends with darker hues definitely get more attention from other races and get married faster too.
I'm 7mins in and this is the funniest ish I've heard. She's giving good advice with humor.
I use to live in Hawaii. The women their wear a flower in their hair.
Very feminine.
it is
In India. They used to.
Girl, I needed to hear this. I have quite a few un-feminine habits that Im trying to drop.
I'm 3 minutes in..MY GIRL!
😄😅😄You Silly you're a low key comedian..lol
I DO listen to her when I feel like being light hearted but to get advice to give women and to use myself!
Girllllll.....you are funny! Patrick Starr! LOL!!! nicenasty!
I rather don’t drink any alcohol on a date I like and love sparkling water and I usually do not play with my hair at the table but when WE are alone somewhere then yes
Just found your channel. I can tell from experience that everything she's saying is spot on!!!!
I love heels 💜
I just can't get over how amazingly gorgeous you look in this video!! I think this is your BEST LOOK all around. You are seductive, sexy, beautiful, just sizzling all around. A definite vote for a night out at a 5 star restaurant, you definitely glow in lighter, feminine colors (that's why I always wear pastels)..your husband probably couldn't keep his hands off you haha
Lena Tutowa she is on point gorgeous n got it together
I love this look! Very soft, pretty, and not overpowering. I just love it! Oh, and the green eye shadow is really nice the way you did. It's modest, you get a hint of the color without it being so "in yo face" so to speak. Lovely!
Shera, I swear, you're so patient with a lot of STUPID questions that women ask on your channel. Kudos to you babe
No question is a "stupid' question. We all come from different backgrounds, some people really don't know and need help.
I'm sorry but somebody asked how do you wear a dress😕 like you put it on like you would a shirt and pants WTH 😂😂
@@krisbec5904 I know right smh lol. Some people's kids. Like ' should I wear eyeliner'??? Wtf
@@kcmshelia you should nicer because it’s just like that for some kids. Especially in places like Brooklyn! Girls are taught to be masculine and the men feminine
I'm learning, growing, and smiling from all your videos!
I noticed man loves the Girly thing way more then we do 😆 some guy told me omg ur hat is amazingly beautiful 😍
Non stop nuggets of truth and knowledge!!
Dresses are QUEEN! Wear them as often as possible.
Lauryn Hill and Joss Stone are great examples of chocolately, deep, soulful voices that are feminine or CAN sound feminine. I wouldn’t be surprised if they speak to men in a higher octave, just like Shera suggested/mentioned. (They may even do this subconsciously. Of course, I only know their singing voices but to my deep voice women, you are not manly! Deep voices can be very calming and seductive to hear❤)
I’m literally cracking up. I have SO much work to do. 😭 super not feminine thank you for this
Yess I dress nice every day..... Even if I'm running errands and I get compliments daily!!
I looooove your personality. You make me laugh every time I watch you. That imitation of turning the magazine pages aggressively was hilarious 🤣😂🤣
I have had men compliment me on my short hair. They said it was cute, it looks good or it's sexy.
But did they invest though? Compliments are not a measure of success in this game.
@@lofiafterdark9882 Facts.
Im obsessed with how animated she is. Its really unique.
Lol "Omg I love your eyebrows! I saw that same look on Ru-Pauls Drag Race!", "Omg I love your earings, I saw those at the dollar tree. I almost got them but im allergic to fake jewelry". 💀💀💀
But you was at Dollar tree! She was making an example but that one didn’t work....didn’t make sense to almost buy something or be high value shopping in Dollar Tree
@@SanctifiedLady Girl lol ppl with a lot of money shop at stores like that all the time. That's one of the reasons they are high value, besides whatever their sources of income are. The difference is, only low value ppl would buy fake jewelry from the Dollar store. First of all, it's made from toxic material, can damage your skin, turn it colors, and turn the color of your skin dermatitis and all kinds of things.. Real jewelry is an investment, something you can lirerally resale if need be. Why do you think some people buy $2000 Chanel and Fendi bags, and real necklaces and rings that cost hundreds and thousands of dollars? Because these things have real value and other people will buy it off of you, in a heart beat if they have the money. But groceries, toiletries, and miscellaneous stuff, stuff that has no value, people with money shop for everyday items at the dollar store all the time. It's a smart move.
@@tayashley3539 exactly you see rich ppl on tiktok making DIY videos with stuff from $1 store
I’m so dead 😂😂😭💀 “not on a cruise, but on a yacht”
Youre like a big sis to me. I'm chocolate (clearly) and always wondered why I mostly attract light skin black, white, Asian or Hispanic. So much so that ppl would think I don't go for dark skin black guys. I never had a problem with it but just never really understood it. Thanks