How to Sound Feminine || Feminine Voice + Speech || A Feminine Impression Femininity Series

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  • Опубліковано 23 лис 2019
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    Hi loves, welcome to another video from my series “A Feminine Impression” where I give tips and advice on how to incorporate femininity into your life. In today’s video I discuss what a feminine voice sounds like and how to speak like a feminine lady.
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  • @drmichelledaf
    @drmichelledaf  9 місяців тому +7

    How to be an Elegant Woman on a Budget:
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  • @ijeBeauty
    @ijeBeauty 3 роки тому +349

    "Everyone does not need to know everything that's going on with you" soooooo true

  • @prettynatural1973
    @prettynatural1973 4 роки тому +456

    Speech is important. My mom used to say I saw a lot of beautiful women but when they open that mouth hood rich

    • @naimaabdullahi2154
      @naimaabdullahi2154 3 роки тому +21

      😂😂😂😂 Mama knows better..🤣

    • @immahana6854
      @immahana6854 3 роки тому +6

      Hooooh!! i dont know if all the men i have dated commented anything about my speech!

    • @VioletRaya
      @VioletRaya 3 роки тому +3

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473
      @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 3 роки тому +10

      @Pretty Natural it’s like the gold plated rotten banana post! Glitty on the outside but hood rich in the inside! 🤦🏽‍♀️😩🤣 Entire IG especially the thousand likes women LOL Super pretty mouth needs soap and bleach 🤷🏾‍♀️😞🙏🏿

    • @bringpeacetoall5505
      @bringpeacetoall5505 3 роки тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣💀💀

  • @TheMusingsofMeira
    @TheMusingsofMeira 4 роки тому +1162

    I naturally have a “baby voice” & have always hated it. But since starting my feminine journey I’ve used it as a tool & realized it’s very useful because of the allure. Men love it. Thank you for this. 😉💖

  • @fynlilmama
    @fynlilmama 4 роки тому +1525

    This was needed. The tone of my voice isn't very feminine. Plus I was very tomboy-ish growing up and transitioned into an absolute plain Jane. I just turned 25 and decided to go on an "Esther" season (biblical) to reform myself and reveal a new feminine side of me. Thanks for the video.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +86

      That's wonderful that you decided to do that sis! I hope these videos continue to be helpful.

    • @monique1515
      @monique1515 4 роки тому +43

      God bless you on your new journey

    • @MumbaCee
      @MumbaCee 4 роки тому +40

      Sis I would love to hear more about this Esther season and the other things you're doing on your journey ❤ I'd appreciate the help.

    • @chrysterfung5983
      @chrysterfung5983 4 роки тому +1

      Wishing you all the best

    • @sashapollard92
      @sashapollard92 4 роки тому +15

      Omg same! I am turning 26 in July. I am having the exact same "resurrection." I love it sis! congrats!

  • @phugh3878
    @phugh3878 4 роки тому +640

    I am 22 year old woman
    Feminine women:
    -don't curse
    -don't talk fast
    -don't talk loud
    -don't have a rough tone

    • @phugh3878
      @phugh3878 3 роки тому +22

      Nichelle Anderson but thats how i am naturally. I am feminine and these are the qualities of that.

    • @uwu-ps3qb
      @uwu-ps3qb 3 роки тому +54

      Lmaooo I curse, talk fast and loud rip

    • @jeinnyg3973
      @jeinnyg3973 3 роки тому

      Nichelle Anderson fax

    • @jillianpacker2819
      @jillianpacker2819 3 роки тому +15

      I don’t get this why does my voice and way I talk change how feminine I am

    • @Lynn-ip9sh
      @Lynn-ip9sh 3 роки тому +14

      @@jillianpacker2819 The way you carry your voice can give you feminine aura, if that's what you're aiming for. You don't have too want a feminine essence though. Its all up too you darling.❤️

  • @theloveandlipstick
    @theloveandlipstick 4 роки тому +498

    Your top is pretty too

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +23

      Thank you sweetheart!

    • @DianaMillan
      @DianaMillan 4 роки тому +19

      @@drmichelledaf I know I'm a month late, but I just came across your channel today and I LOVE it! Would you mind telling me where you got your top?

    • @makedafindlay9398
      @makedafindlay9398 4 роки тому +1

      @@drmichelledaf where did you get the top from x.

    • @fowsiiyaa
      @fowsiiyaa 4 роки тому +2

      Jhadae Check the description box

    • @fowsiiyaa
      @fowsiiyaa 4 роки тому +1

      Makeda Findlay check the description box

  • @nugget6565
    @nugget6565 2 роки тому +144

    Summary (Voice & Speech):
    - You have control over your voice. If you begin to pay attention, people's voices change depending on who they speak with (i.e. baby, customer service, etc.). You can train your voice to sound a certain way. If you want something, you can change your tone. Practice speaking in a tone that's easy for you.
    - Feminine voices are soft and light (common for feminine voices). The tone of voice that you use is important!
    - When you are out in public, there is no need to raise your voice. Oftentimes, it attracts negative attention.
    - How you speak puts you in certain categories in life, it signifies which class you belong into.
    - Be mindful about what you say out loud.
    - Speak up so people can hear you, not because you're raising your voice.
    - The rate at which you speak is also important! People have a problem with those who speak really fast vs. someone who speak slowly. Speak at medium pace (ideal)
    - The way that they speak, feminine women are expressive. They are engaging when they speak (i.e. use your eyes, body, and smile! to draw people in)
    - Goal: have a voice that is soothing, calm, and paced
    - Behaviours within speech: Talking too much, it is really stressful when you're speaking to someone who speaks too much. Don't keep people captive in your conversations especially when they are on their way somewhere. Everyone doesn't need to know everything about you - do no overshare!
    - Do more listening than talking. Have a little bit of mystery to you - by mindful about how much you talk and who you are talking to
    - Ensure that when you are talking to someone that you are making eye contact (depending on the culture)
    - Do not interrupt while people are talking
    - Give people you're undivided attention, do not be on the phone/internet while they are speaking to you
    - Profanity: Delete from your vocabulary. Use adjectives and refrain from sounding aggressive. If you disagree with someone, still do not resort to profanity
    - Surround yourself with people that are like you! do not try to fit in by resorting to profanity.
    - Have standards for yourself. If you are well dressed and takes care of yourself, others will adapt their tone to you.
    - Build up your vocabulary by reading books

  • @Christianeeee
    @Christianeeee 3 роки тому +54

    Since I was a teenager, people always told me "I talk white/ I act white."
    I was always insecure about it because as a African American young lady, I thought I had to be more loud, sound more rough, use a lower grade vocabulary, and use profanity. JUST to be what I thought I should be to fit in.
    As woman now, I'm so glad I never gave in and succumbed to what people expected me to be because I'm proud to say the way I present myself is not associated with my race. It is associated with my divine femininity.
    I have never been turned down from a job and I do not find myself in conflicting situations with people.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +7

      That is beautiful. I can relate. Thank you for sharing love 🤍

  • @Evajjane
    @Evajjane 4 роки тому +327

    My masculine energy stems from my childhood, my voice was originally soft and I almost couldn’t speak up so people often spoke over me. So I became really stern. Also, I started working at 13 so I had to protect myself so I learned aggression. I learned that feminine behavior is too submissive.
    I read!!!!!

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +74

      It is wonderful that you have come to awareness of this issue and you want to make a change. That is all that matters now and you can work towards a healthy balance. It is actually not submissive if you learn how to use your power. My goal is to teach you to do that. Much love to you

    • @babyangelic
      @babyangelic 3 роки тому +59

      Me too...I started acting masculine because of being in "survival mode", but I always felt wrong, as if I was playing a role. Now my life is more stable and I feel the urge to go back to my feminine self. It's a journey of practice, but I'll be worth. I truly want to be the self I always wanted to be.

    • @prettykush7924
      @prettykush7924 3 роки тому +2

      Sameee omg this is literally me

    • @rachealO12
      @rachealO12 3 роки тому +16

      This is soo me.. I grew up in an environment where you have to struggle for everything,,and a soft voice is seen as not smart., And you get overriden. I really want to be better. I'm 24 now and I'm having issues with my partner., Bcos they feel bad everytime I raise my voice much too often and I can barely talk calmly. I hope this channel help me get better..

    • @w3n33dam1racl3
      @w3n33dam1racl3 3 роки тому +2

      I can relate. I'm try to be intentional about softening my tone especially when I'm angry or frustrated.

  • @sajdahsabree9691
    @sajdahsabree9691 4 роки тому +852

    I love this post. Finally a woman who wants to be a woman and not an imitation of a man.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +93

      Thank you, I hope more women will take from it as well.

    • @soniabrown7151
      @soniabrown7151 4 роки тому +31

      Sajdah Sabree I wanna be a black woman I don’t care what people think about my voice are shape of body

    • @blueprince5873
      @blueprince5873 4 роки тому +26

      @@soniabrown7151 keep it to yourself,no one cares

    • @sanaa8367
      @sanaa8367 4 роки тому +48

      Sonia Brown
      How black women differ from any other races of women?

    • @nuguland_
      @nuguland_ 4 роки тому +4

      Sanaa i think because some people often say that black women have man features/look manly?

  • @keishanance5960
    @keishanance5960 4 роки тому +654

    The best way to be feminine is to be confident and secure with in yourself.

    • @juliaseazar
      @juliaseazar 4 роки тому +53

      Thank you and be yourself!!! Having a uterus/or just identifying as a women should be enough to be considered feminine. A woman as the right to shout and have a deep voice, a woman as the right to do whatever the hell she wants

    • @Spokentruths725
      @Spokentruths725 4 роки тому +28

      Deez Nuts exactly and i dont have to “dress” a certain way either. I understand some of the things these channels say but others i dont and never had an issue attracting men.

    • @nubianprincess8609
      @nubianprincess8609 4 роки тому +37

      CJSpeaks well this video isn’t for you this video is for women seeking to be Feminine just a basic outline of course you can do whatever you want and dress how ever you want

    • @cm5394
      @cm5394 3 роки тому +12

      @@juliaseazar you’re completely wrong. Women can be a woman and have very masculine qualities. No one is forcing you so of course you can do what you want but don’t say you can do what you want and call it something it’s not

    • @agathachris9722
      @agathachris9722 3 роки тому +9

      Women can do for what ever they want. Based on your opinions. This channel is for women who believe that there are feminine traits that align better with women.

  • @Honestly_Sisi
    @Honestly_Sisi 4 роки тому +157

    Girl! Reading is so IMPORTANT. A lot of women (and men) don’t have vocabulary to express their thoughts thoroughly. That can have a huge impact on ability to communicate effectively and then impact who you have access to.

  • @kemikunle9360
    @kemikunle9360 4 роки тому +422

    I interrupt people so terribly smh, trying to work on it for years

    • @MsChantae
      @MsChantae 3 роки тому +20

      sometimes we focus so much on what we have to say that we end up trying to remember that instead of actually listening. I say politely butt in...but also try to pay attention more :)

    • @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473
      @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 3 роки тому +18

      @Kemi Kunle I use to be like that too because my mother does it horribly! She is a born again Christian as well as me and unfortunately we think our opinions are facts! It took me 2 years being INTENTIONAL to get delivered from that flaw! Now I listen with a smile #Growth bless you on your journey to being a better listener it’s so important to sharing people you care and value their conversations Bless you 🙏🏿❤️

    • @prettykush7924
      @prettykush7924 3 роки тому +7

      Same but its because I have anxiety and adhd

    • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
      @sunshinesunflowerz1647 3 роки тому +5

      Relatable 😔😥 but actively working on it 🙂.

    • @AWholeVibe96
      @AWholeVibe96 2 роки тому +2

      It's a terrible habit but it's fixable. Do some research on effective and active listening they are really helpful

  • @Itsme_1648
    @Itsme_1648 4 роки тому +208

    “They may think you’re on some type of substance” 😂 💯

  • @unholy_child7967
    @unholy_child7967 3 роки тому +551

    Who else here from 2020 trying to change themselves to be more feminine cuz ur a tomboy

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +28

      Thank you for being here babe

    • @bvnny1379
      @bvnny1379 3 роки тому +36

      I'm not a tomboy, I'm actually very girly, I just wanna sound more mature 😔

    • @kaykayssl267
      @kaykayssl267 3 роки тому +13

      Miss Doe exactly I live with too much guys and I use too many slang words

    • @oikawaishot5604
      @oikawaishot5604 3 роки тому +3

      I'm using this too get better at voice acting ☺️

    • @tokozilengwenya8760
      @tokozilengwenya8760 3 роки тому +9

      Watching this video made me so sad because literally everything she talked about I do wrong. I am happy that now I can begin to work on myself

  • @aajefferson1545
    @aajefferson1545 4 роки тому +906

    Can you do a video on how to carry on a conversation with new people/ friends ? I have a hard time conversing. I’m always quiet.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +130

      Yes, I can incorporate it into the video.

    • @Rishonable
      @Rishonable 4 роки тому +48

      That's my issue. I'm mortified by the dead silence as a result of not knowing how to converse effectively.

    • @llanneg.v.c545
      @llanneg.v.c545 4 роки тому +78

      I recommend the books “The Art of Small talk” and “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” Then practice practice practice. I practiced how to confidently walk in a room and smile, how to greet people, and introduce myself. Now it comes easily and effortlessly. Best!

    • @angelstarfire
      @angelstarfire 4 роки тому +4

      @@llanneg.v.c545 I read the summaries for each, pretty insightful read! Any advice for improving my social skills when I can't go out to socialise? I was thinking of using Discord to practice

    • @BiBi302001
      @BiBi302001 4 роки тому +7

      @@llanneg.v.c545 Thank you so much for those book recommendations!

  • @zionskilled4127
    @zionskilled4127 3 роки тому +130

    I just recently turned 16. I can honestly say my Mom never taught me the value of women or to be feminine . Thank you so much for these videos, they have and are helping me a lot. I love your channel and I love you.❤️

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +7

      Aww well I love you too and I am happy you are here. I hope you take all that you can from my content.

  • @trynabee5085
    @trynabee5085 4 роки тому +1010

    Michelle❤. I am loving these feminine video series. You're like the big sister I've never had who teaches me these valuable things almost no one talks about (at least not to me). I feel like I'm getting richer with the knowlegde you choose to share with us. I get excited when a new video pops up. Keep them coming, my dear wonderful sis👏👐. Greetings from Holland.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +60

      Aww sis, that's so touching thank you. I'm so happy that you are excited and can benefit from these videos. So much more on the way. Much love to you!

    • @nkatekomnise8919
      @nkatekomnise8919 4 роки тому +5

      How to creat a sweet voice as a girl

    • @pjbottoms839
      @pjbottoms839 4 роки тому +4

      God bless

    • @Sulanboujetbeauty
      @Sulanboujetbeauty 3 роки тому +6

      No one taught me these things. I intend to teach my daughter, bonus daughter and nieces. Thank you Dr. Michelle. We can be Beauties and Bosses and this is how.

    • @angiecuee
      @angiecuee 3 роки тому

      Same

  • @aajefferson1545
    @aajefferson1545 4 роки тому +125

    Your voice sounds amazing. Very pleasant. My voice sounds stress and frustrated.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +11

      Thank you love! Well you can certainly choose to alter your voice if you please.

    • @edenbright6282
      @edenbright6282 3 роки тому +2

      @@drmichelledaf Can you provide information on voice training? I am told that I have a baby voice and I'd like to have a more mature sounding voice.

  • @MissG909
    @MissG909 3 роки тому +68

    My husband told me from the beginning of our relationship that my voice was one of the first things that attracted him to me. He says he loved it because its sweet and sexy and that he still finds it very arousing. Just found your channel,love the content and couldn't agree with you more. You're beautiful btw! 💕

  • @caniciabiscoe
    @caniciabiscoe 4 роки тому +187

    This is so on time. I'm really embracing my divine feminine energy ✨✨Thank you fellow Virgo

  • @disnooga6926
    @disnooga6926 4 роки тому +145

    I totally agree with you on the cursing part and have often thought about it. Cussing really doesn’t lack of argumentation skills.
    Also I’d like to see a video on keeping your home clean and organized as a woman.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +14

      Will do sis! Thanks for watching love

  • @Zelicious11
    @Zelicious11 4 роки тому +261

    I’ve always thought my voice was deep however men have told me it’s real sexy & it isn’t deep! I guess things I was told by people in my younger years are still in my head. You’re gorgeous love!🖤

    • @Kat3369
      @Kat3369 4 роки тому +26

      Girl....me too. I hated my voice growing up, but men absolutely love it.

    • @ashleyrenee3906
      @ashleyrenee3906 4 роки тому +8

      Same! Men find it sultry!

    • @meekmeeek
      @meekmeeek 4 роки тому +4

      My voice is kinda deep to

    • @brittneyr.5114
      @brittneyr.5114 4 роки тому +4

      Same!

    • @chr4cles
      @chr4cles 4 роки тому +9

      I thought I kinda had a deep voice myself, but people have told me that I have a girly voice.

  • @DesiredMelanchony
    @DesiredMelanchony 3 роки тому +7

    I’m dead ass watching videos on UA-cam about femininity and this ad comes out of nowhere talking about some “stop chasing men” 💀

  • @TBELLA26_
    @TBELLA26_ 4 роки тому +260

    Very informative video sis. I always been told how proper I talk and growing up it made me feel insecure but over time I learned to embrace it! I had that "oh you talk white" "oreo" "why you talk so proper" conversations..smh.. In the work world or just with my personality in general, I was able to get good jobs and people always came to me for advice because they trust me and I carry myself in a good way. I just need to work on getting that feminine touch back now loll.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +23

      Thank you honey!! When I was very young I had similar experiences but I love that things have turned around so much that now they are asking you! By the end of this series I have faith that you will have the touch! Much love to you!

    • @TBELLA26_
      @TBELLA26_ 4 роки тому +2

      @@drmichelledaf You're welcome!❤❤

    • @tayloralliease7603
      @tayloralliease7603 4 роки тому +22

      I experienced the same thing . I even started to think that me being "proper" ( articulate ) was a bad thing and it eventually resulted in me trying to fit in with other kids . Now as a young adult I still find myself blurting out profanity and behaving insecure but I am working on it . That's why I clicked on this video 💅🏾😊

    • @TBELLA26_
      @TBELLA26_ 4 роки тому +3

      @@tayloralliease7603 It's a process but you will be able to do it!! 😊

    • @tayloralliease7603
      @tayloralliease7603 4 роки тому +2

      @@TBELLA26_ Thank you love 💓

  • @AFFTFOMSICHTS
    @AFFTFOMSICHTS 4 роки тому +27

    I work at a hospital as an operator and you’re so right, ive been told many times how “sexy” my customer service voice is.

  • @ktg8840
    @ktg8840 4 роки тому +62

    , ive been practicing being more feminine in my speech, so this video is greatly appreciated. also been working towards eliminating curse words, it really is low class and unattractive

  • @bettymontero2889
    @bettymontero2889 2 роки тому +52

    Hardest lesson as an adult - not everyone needs to know everything because not everyone has your best interest at heart…
    Thank you for the reminder ♥️

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  2 роки тому

      It is hard! It shouldn't have to be that way. You are welcome love

  • @jasmineestafia
    @jasmineestafia 3 роки тому +31

    I’ve fallen in love with you myself as a straight woman lol 😆 your femininity is definitely top tier

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +5

      Aww thank you, it's a spiritual connection. I love you too

  • @JamiliaRBanks
    @JamiliaRBanks 4 роки тому +52

    I needed this! I tend to raise my voice a lot, especially when I'm upset. Thanks Love 😊

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +1

      Happy to help babe. Thanks for watching!

  • @gracefulhumble7248
    @gracefulhumble7248 4 роки тому +126

    Love this, Yes I hate being interrupted it happens to me quite a lot I think because I come across as sweet people just seem to do it to me often, I know people just want to talk but listening is so important. Oh and I am so guilty of using words that make no sense when I get nervous lol

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +7

      Thank you love, yes it's a terrible feeling and I'm sorry it happens to you.

    • @LMI101
      @LMI101 4 роки тому +1

      @Luna Pink yes! If I get interrupted I keep speaking. Lately though with those who interrupt me I don't speak unless spoken to.

  • @teresai1877
    @teresai1877 4 роки тому +73

    Thank you soooo much about the "too much talking" thing. I have literally "talked too much" for my entire life. I totally think about the lunchroom at work especially. I have one co-worker who used to listen to all my stories, but now whenever I sit down at the lunch table, he disappears. I was wondering ... Anyway, lesson learned. :-)

  • @tanishaholmes5733
    @tanishaholmes5733 3 роки тому +19

    I needed this video. I’ve been dealing with social anxiety and I no longer want it to control my life. I’ve been on my feminine journey for 2 months now and I’ve been able to notice lately that when I speak fast my breathing gets out of control and I feel the anxiety creeping in. Thank you for this video. I’ve always had a sweet soft spoken voice but because of these ratchet trends I thought I needed to be loud. I’m just trying to step back into me. Thank you for this video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
    I’m working on my reading also 😊

  • @hebaolimat8305
    @hebaolimat8305 4 роки тому +41

    I really need to keep my own business to myself, I share too much and it always backfires on me.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +8

      Start now by making a decision to stop sharing babe.

    • @hebaolimat8305
      @hebaolimat8305 4 роки тому +1

      Dr. Michelle I will for sure! Thank you

    • @oliviawutam
      @oliviawutam 3 роки тому +1

      Heba, I also share too much, I have too few contacts, that's when it happens, I will share less.

  • @aliyaahzalia2719
    @aliyaahzalia2719 4 роки тому +34

    Just learning the importance of using your feminine voice... Your voice is so relaxing.. I feel so relaxed whenever I watch your videos... Am learning to use my feminine voice Coz I can be so loud 😢and honestly it's so unnecessary

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +1

      Awww thank you so much. Yes love. I'm happy you are learning and walking down this path. Look forward and continue to make the changes. Much love to you!

  • @LisaaaAnnn
    @LisaaaAnnn 3 роки тому +22

    Guys tell me I have a “sexy/ relaxing” voice. When employers would call me they would ask I had just woke up😂 so now I have to purposely raise my tone and try to sound higher pitch

  • @jo9882
    @jo9882 4 роки тому +132

    U look GORGeous girl
    Love your top

  • @cr.6752
    @cr.6752 4 роки тому +39

    I worked in customer service and I used a soft sensual voice. I had customers of all races trying to get with me. They would call back and ask for me. One man wanted to fly me to Florida. LOL. I thought it was so funny because they didn't even know how I looked. I had to change my facebook name because they were searching for my name.

  • @khaliagraham4669
    @khaliagraham4669 4 роки тому +77

    I really need to fix my speech and work on my anger 😪

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +3

      You can do it girl!

    • @kayelle9708
      @kayelle9708 4 роки тому

      Khalia Graham same

    • @elizabethGJC
      @elizabethGJC 4 роки тому +1

      It’s a process, practice practice practice... I’m happy I didn’t give up because Im being transformed for the better and a lot of great opportunities have been opening up and in the process I have also been helping/ encouraging other

    • @rachealO12
      @rachealO12 3 роки тому

      @Liz Yessenia,, what approachbhelped you get better please?

  • @nokuthuladhlamini664
    @nokuthuladhlamini664 3 роки тому +8

    "You can mimic people you see on UA-cam".....and here I was already mimicking you before you even mentioned, from binge watching all your videos because I absolutely love your videos, how you speak and general aura.

  • @elodiei.5087
    @elodiei.5087 4 роки тому +13

    I love it! I used to work in catering and we were taught how important it was to smile and watch our posture. Now that I work in customer service, I've really learned to master my way of speaking. About 55% of communication is non-verbal, which gets lost in my job because I'm on the phone and people can't see me. They train us to ask the right question, listen carefully and watch our language. I've noticed that people react very differently when I bring them bad news. They tend to be more understanding of the situation and it saved me when a customer filed a complaint against me, because I didn't allow my emotions to come through.
    This has helped me so much in my personal life as well.

  • @DominiqueFrancon
    @DominiqueFrancon 4 роки тому +39

    Your voice is beautifully modulated. This is very good advice. I enjoyed the entire video and especially appreciated the part when you encouraged women to improve their vocabulary. This is excellent advice. We are judged by the words we use. A beautiful, pleasant voice that is backed up with a refined mind is a powerful combination. You are lovely, my dear. Thank you.

  • @saanthiiii
    @saanthiiii 4 роки тому +55

    i realized my nervousness made my tone defensive and demeaning as well as masculine. it makes it difficult to communicate how i feel

  • @mkliyan
    @mkliyan 3 роки тому +12

    Sharing just the right amount of private things! This is something I need to work on more! I'm careful on sharing my personal goals/private matters, but I tend to overshare when I am nervous.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +1

      It's good that you know where you need to begin. That is what's important. Now when you are nervous you know to stay as silent as possible so you don't slip

  • @makennah524
    @makennah524 3 роки тому +4

    me being a thirteen year old female, sounding like a 40 year old man from atlanta. i can’t even change it smh

  • @krrythmpsn
    @krrythmpsn 4 роки тому +69

    Some great helpful tips! Would love to see a video of you talking about femininity with your beautiful natural hair. Black women are beautiful and do not need to look more European in order to be more feminine.

    • @Tanniab09
      @Tanniab09 4 роки тому +10

      Kerry Thompson I agree. I like the information she is putting out for women who need it, however a lot of the times weave wearing is encouraged, whether one does or doesn’t there needs to be more options.

    • @Malita419
      @Malita419 4 роки тому +13

      So true i am a 4c woman and I would love to see natural 4c like me teaching my femininity, frizz and all.

  • @blu6207
    @blu6207 2 роки тому +4

    I needed this because I a lot of people say I sound like a 13 year old boy when I’m 16 and I always wished I had that 16 year old mature voice 🧍🏻‍♀️

    • @nerium..
      @nerium.. Рік тому

      sameee... im turning 17 and its just embarassing

  • @disneyprincesstaylor8520
    @disneyprincesstaylor8520 2 роки тому +5

    I cannot tell you how much this video and your podcast has helped me become more feminine. Many family members and my boyfriend have noticed and have enjoyed it much more than how I use to be.

  • @lolahenry8658
    @lolahenry8658 4 роки тому +17

    Thank You Michelle for being bold enough to address this top!!

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +2

      You are so welcome sis. Thanks for watching!!

  • @callher_toya
    @callher_toya 4 роки тому +10

    Michelle, your channel is putting my whole entire life together! I absolutely feel blessed to have come across your channel‼️

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +2

      Aww that warms my heart so much! I'm so happy to hear that. Thank you for sharing that. Godspeed on your journey!

  • @tamikapadgett8989
    @tamikapadgett8989 4 роки тому +43

    I am obsessed with this series. Thank you!

  • @scarletrayne5126
    @scarletrayne5126 3 роки тому +2

    You’ve helped me heal and put away so many of my masculine energies I didn’t even know I had I am so grateful for you❤️

  • @spunkycat6144
    @spunkycat6144 3 роки тому +4

    This should be mandatory for every woman to watch, heck, men could use this.

  • @kimmyhotstuff
    @kimmyhotstuff 4 роки тому +29

    Love this video I really hate to be interrupted while speaking it gets on my nerves thanks for sharing

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you babe, yes it's unappreciated. We have to all be mindful. Thanks for watching sis!

  • @55phe
    @55phe 3 роки тому +7

    I grew up in a very country household, so in my middle school years, I actively made sure I spoke proper English.
    Also, I was a very loud person till I realized when you are more soft-spoken people tend to respond to you better.
    I know for me, listening to your videos I do a lot of what you are teaching!
    There is so much truth in these.
    Love it! 🧡

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +1

      I am so happy to hear that. Yes, small tweaks here and there make a big difference. Much love to you!

  • @MissFeminine
    @MissFeminine 4 роки тому +24

    This is an EXCELLENT video! Loved the tip about tone of voice and watching what you share ... Hopefully a lot of us can put thin in to practice.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much love! Yes, I hope so!

  • @YessiWaters
    @YessiWaters 3 роки тому +208

    Your videos are absolutely incredible and you give amazing advice

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +13

      Thank you so much honey. I appreciate your kind words and for watching!

    • @shaylahealinglight
      @shaylahealinglight 3 роки тому

      This is not good advice. People should just be free to just be who they are naturally.

    • @harpo627
      @harpo627 2 роки тому

      @@shaylahealinglight yes people are free to be who they are, but some of us want to grow and improve ourselves. We are free to do that, too.

    • @shaylahealinglight
      @shaylahealinglight 2 роки тому

      @@harpo627 Growing and improving yourself means to embraced your authentic self. You don't need to watch a video to tell you how to talk or how to act. All you have to do is go within. Also realize that we all have masculine and feminine energy and that are energy doesn't always match our gender and that is okay.. Alot of times we are trying to be someone we are not just because someone put that expectation on us. I know from experience. I used to try so hard to be someone I wasn't or someone the world expected me to be. And I ended up suffering in the end. Connect with yourself. Mediate, spend some time alone, and fill yourself up with self love 💘. And you will find that you don't have to try so hard, you can just be. And when you live from authenticity, you will find love, freedom, peace, and joy.

    • @nawal8155
      @nawal8155 2 роки тому +1

      @@shaylahealinglight beautifully written

  • @saranox7319
    @saranox7319 4 роки тому +4

    I grew up without a mother and living with a father who does a lot of these points you mentioned to avoid, I feel very seperated from my femininity and need to get back into it.
    Thank you. 💚

  • @saffronhill8037
    @saffronhill8037 3 роки тому +2

    I just started watching your videos not too long ago and I am so happy that I found your channel. What I love most is you ALWAYS deliver more info than I expect to receive, I can't wait to suggest this channel to someone looking for guidance.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому

      Thank you so much!! That was so touching, I am glad that you enjoy my videos and get more from it than you expect. So much love to you!

  • @diamondunicorn2421
    @diamondunicorn2421 4 роки тому +3

    I work in a male dominated industry and have done so for the past 20 years. This video hopefully should help me become more feminine in voice! Thanks for the video.👏🏽

  • @BrittanyKellyTV
    @BrittanyKellyTV 4 роки тому +4

    I totally agree with everything that was said. So, I subscribed 😊. I have always been more feminine and when I was growing up many people criticized me. It is nice to see other women who look like me embracing their true feminine nature.

  • @pink221
    @pink221 3 роки тому +11

    I'm so glad I stumbled across this video. I found this because I have quite a strong authoritative voice but sometimes it's taken the wrong way. I remember once being told that my voice doesn't match my face! I definitely agree with what you said about profanity in conversation and I have noticed that curse words are becoming common place in professional settings - which has always made me uncomfortable! The part about oversharing is also true, as not everyone has our best interests at heart. 💓

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +3

      I am so glad that God brought you to this video. It can be a tough balance between soft and strong and sometimes it's unconscious. It's great to know that you are mindful. Much love to you and thank you for watching

  • @Alicia_W413
    @Alicia_W413 4 роки тому +5

    Woah. Love this, I'm going to check out the other videos of this series ♥️♥️ you look beautiful btw

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much darling, yes check them out!

  • @ThePriam3
    @ThePriam3 4 роки тому +22

    Love your tips, your look and energy and positivity.

  • @KimM1116
    @KimM1116 3 роки тому +4

    I really truly appreciate your videos. Please keep on making them. Living in a house with all males I struggle with my feminine side🤦🏽‍♀️. I try and try but somehow resort to being too aggressive. I prayed and God sent you, to learn and to “mimic”. Thank you so much!

  • @sandirichard5461
    @sandirichard5461 4 роки тому +4

    I study you Dr. Michelle! You're my favorite feminine teacher on UA-cam. My trouble is consistency. I love you! Big kisses😘😘😉

  • @Sulanboujetbeauty
    @Sulanboujetbeauty 3 роки тому

    I am literally binge watching these videos. Literally that CSR analogy is me, been a Telephone csr over 9 years but I got sick a year ago and ever since it been husky and harsh ish unless I meet people, smile and talking to customers. My fiance say i sound rough now, so I def needed this. Thank you!

  • @secret-garden
    @secret-garden 4 роки тому +2

    Wonderful video! Excellent tip and your delivery is outstanding. New subbie!

  • @esgee2464
    @esgee2464 3 роки тому +5

    I love Jill Scotts voice and how she carries herself. Very feminine and gorgeous.

  • @smellydonut5088
    @smellydonut5088 3 роки тому +5

    You’re the older sister I never had!✨❤️ tysm luv

  • @fitwithbrittany2706
    @fitwithbrittany2706 3 роки тому

    I am speaking much softer since watching your channel 🙃 it’s amazing how both men and women respond and are helpful and kind

  • @thefragrancedfarmhouse8635
    @thefragrancedfarmhouse8635 3 роки тому +7

    I definitely agree that it’s important to surround yourself with like minded people. I’ve not had any success locating such people. I think that’s why so many of us classic feminine, traditional housewife types who are constantly attempting to improve their elegance and class are often talking about feeling like they don’t fit into society.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому +3

      Ahh yes, this is so true my love! It's not easy to find but when you do it's so much fun!

  • @venusrose1382
    @venusrose1382 2 роки тому +4

    This video is absolutely amazing! I have an awfully bad habit of talking too much, too fast and oversharing 🙄 I am well spoken as a result of reading, but I really need to unlearn my bad habits inorder to really maximize my femininity. I love how pleasant and soothing Kim Kardashians voice is 😍 I need to allocate time to listen to a few of her interviews in an attempt to emulate her way of speaking.

  • @MatchaMama3
    @MatchaMama3 4 роки тому +26

    Any advice for maintaining feminine tones when interacting with masculine female family members?

  • @BlackPearlMona369
    @BlackPearlMona369 2 роки тому +1

    Golden tips from our sister in femminity...i lost huge part of my femminity due to studying engineering then working with sometimes only men... I saw your first video time ago and since then I am recalling my feminine side to comeback... It went very successful so far.. I gained more respect and appreciation. Men listen to and appreciate the féminine girl waaaaaay more than the masculine one, this is the reality....

  • @Cristina.Antoniuc
    @Cristina.Antoniuc 2 роки тому

    I just have no words to describe how much I admire this girl...❤❤❤

  • @GodskidUr1
    @GodskidUr1 4 роки тому +17

    I've been working on my voice I was raised in the hood mostly so I sound streetish. But I'm working on my accent to sound less that way 🙏

  • @annelee8397
    @annelee8397 3 роки тому +4

    This is amazing advice for anyone who wants to become more feminine. You are like the big sister I never had. So kind and beautiful! Thank you so much for the tips

  • @HelloDecember525
    @HelloDecember525 4 роки тому

    Love your content especially on femininity!!!!! 💯 % ❤️❤️❤️ I don’t really see anyone on UA-cam share on this topic (or share it well) bless you, so many of us ladies need a good example on this! ❤️ I am grateful. ❤️ Much love and blessings from OC, California! 🌅🌅

  • @hameley12
    @hameley12 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you, dear Michelle! I am absolutely enjoying your videos. I have been working for some time on being more feminine and practising my speaking voice. It is so hard sometimes trying to practice and then put it into practice at work, especially when there is so much noise in the background and you are trying to speak in a medium, med-register and being mindful that there are people working there and just a few steps away are the customers. Oh my! At some point when I began working there one of my colleagues started cursing and she expected me to say something back. I did not know what to say since I felt all eyes on me. I stayed neutral and later told the manager what happened. Thankfully he corrected her. It's important to know when to hold back and when to speak up. Never over chat or over-share personal stuff with colleagues or people you barely know. The rest of your advice I will keep in mind next time I go out.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  2 роки тому +1

      You are most welcome. I am happy to know you're implementing it in your life and it is paying off.

  • @SunniSide1
    @SunniSide1 3 роки тому +4

    Just started my femininity journey. I love your page ❤️

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  3 роки тому

      That's wonderful love! I'm happy to hear that. Thank you for your support!

  • @cartermade8634
    @cartermade8634 4 роки тому +6

    I naturally have a very calm and relaxing voice people tell me that all of the time

  • @AcademicLifeDrCrystal
    @AcademicLifeDrCrystal 3 роки тому +2

    This was such a great topic. I tend to speak too loud and to interrupt which I will promptly begin working on. I also appreciated the tip you gave about reading to improve your vocabulary. As an educator, I think reading also helps young people develop a sense of sentence structure. Poor grammar is another way that we signal we were raised without certain exposure. Appreciate your content so much!

  • @CarmensCornerOfWisdom
    @CarmensCornerOfWisdom 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much Dr. Michelle!!!!
    I have learned and applied so much of what you've taught us on your channel. Bless you always

  • @ShanyShannon
    @ShanyShannon 4 роки тому +16

    I had an ominous feeling just now when you spoke on sharing information with people. I did quite a big, "NO!" At my current workplace disclosing information to a front desk girl what I went through at my old workplace. Unfortunate but what's done IS done. A mistake on my part that I hope does not take a nosedive for me. ☹😣

  • @aloneagain6495
    @aloneagain6495 3 роки тому +12

    You’re such a helping hand to many girls who haven’t had feminine role models in their life. Glad at 16 I found your channel

  • @leaelijah8504
    @leaelijah8504 4 роки тому

    This is the first video I've ever watched from your channel and I already love you ❤

  • @melisshalindsey4032
    @melisshalindsey4032 4 роки тому +2

    So glad I subscribed to your channel. Very good and useful information that’s well ll presented also. This is like going to school to learn the basics in reading, writing, and arithmetic of which we can build on. Anticipating the next video.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому

      Thank you so much love! I'm elated that you found it useful! Video coming soon!!

  • @FatimaFarmer
    @FatimaFarmer 4 роки тому +11

    love this! Also, I'd love to see a makeup tutorial on this look, you look stunning.

  • @JustAmyKay
    @JustAmyKay 4 роки тому +6

    I need to work on all of these. Thank you for the work you're doing.

  • @vishakhaparijatham2116
    @vishakhaparijatham2116 4 роки тому +2

    You look so elegant in this outfit . Thnx for the videos. Keep them coming

  • @yoginitransit
    @yoginitransit 4 роки тому

    This is great, I really love your message. This actually inspired me for an idea for my own channel so I wanted to say thank you! I'll let you know when it's up

  • @Hachiko_459
    @Hachiko_459 4 роки тому +4

    I’m so lucky that I found your channel 💖 Thank you very much

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому

      Aww you are most welcome love. I am happy you found it too!

  • @JoanAntoinetteAdija
    @JoanAntoinetteAdija 4 роки тому +23

    Your top is so pretty!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @xprettynpinkx911
    @xprettynpinkx911 3 роки тому

    This woman is seriously gold. Sharing this knowledge 🙌 thank you!! Beautiful not only on the outside but on the inside 😍

  • @harpo627
    @harpo627 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m new to your channel, and I’ve been “catching up” on a variety of your videos and Instagram posts, I love them!
    One way of learning more about speech (in a fun way!) is watching the movie “My Fair Lady”. It made me think like never before about the importance and power of speech, not to mention Audrey Hepburn is such a lovely example of a very feminine woman with a beautiful voice and articulate speech.

  • @mayacincosa6975
    @mayacincosa6975 4 роки тому +11

    Your eye makeup looks great, hun! Hope you'll be doing vlogmas this year.

    • @drmichelledaf
      @drmichelledaf  4 роки тому

      Thank you sweetie, I can't promise but I'll be sure to pop in on that channel.

  • @indiashante1560
    @indiashante1560 3 роки тому +9

    I can't hear out of my left ear so I'm naturally louder than I'd like to be. I honestly can't stand it so I really have to really concentrate on speaking softer.

  • @Vesayah
    @Vesayah 4 роки тому

    You are the only one that I've watched that reffers to when you want to be more feminine but you have a job where it is required to dress in Jean's and work boots, but now I know I can use my voice. Thank you.