I was adoped to a family 23 years ago. My adoptive mother just gave me the box of letters and trinkets that were sent to me from my biological mother, and the letter i read just now told me to listen to this song. I can't tell you what this feels like.
No. The bond between a mother and her child is a beautiful and special thing. It's meant to be powerful and beautiful. The fact that even though you have never met your son, you are able to love him just as powerfully as any mother. It's okay to miss him. It means you're human. Your son not only has his adoptive parents who love and care for him, but he also has a birth mother that loves him just as fiercely. Your son is blessed with such a phenomenal amount of love. Take your joy from that.
This is a bitter sweet song, because I may not understand how hard of a decision this has to be for someone in this situation, because I have 12 children of my own, could not imagine having to give anyone up. My daughter became pregnant at 16, it was hard for her, however her boyfriend married her, and had 4 more children. Again I may never understand what young people have to face, I just pray to Heavenly Father to watch over our youth, and for parents to be understanding as Heavenly Father is toward us.
I was adopted and what a great decision my mother did for me! I hand it to her for listing to the spirit and sending me to the best family in the world! I love the lord and give the credit to him to have it happen! Adoption is a great plan and a way to show more love!
Blessed are the mothers who give their baby's the life that they know their child deserves. As much as it hurts, knowing you can't do it yourself. Happened to me and my brother when we were 12. Their hearts are the biggest and most loving. Putting their child's needs before their own. I will always have that hole in my heart. But I'm thankful for my Savior. And I have to learn to forgive my mother. But also thank her for giving me and my brother the life we have now.
I'm a birthmother of 2 children. A girl and a boy I just gave birth to 4months ago. They both went to the same loving couple! I'm so blessed that God placed them in my life. I pray both of my children will understand my decision one day and I pray they don't hate me for it.
I just placed my son 3 months ago. but my best friend adopted him. but it was one of the hardest decisions. I love my little one so much. I had to put his needs first before mine .
Thank you for this song. I am a birth mom of a beautiful 7 year old little boy. In the last month due to mine and my son's circumstances, I decided it was in the best interest of my son and his foster family to let him be adopted. This choice tears me apart because I wanted so badly to give him the love and care he needs and deserves, but I can't. I do know that this is what needs to happens though and that makes it easier to bear.
I love this song as a birth mom of a 6yr old son who will be 7 this year who I placed in an open adoption 6 years ago on his birthday. Thanks you so much for the song
A s a mother who gave up her son for adoption I feel like a failure everyday. It is so hard not to cry when I hear this song. He is loved and missed everyday, I wonder did I do the right trying for Stephen Lewis Smith
My sister felt like a different kind of failure up until 13 years ago, because her and her husband wanted a child of their own to love and raise, and couldn't have that happen naturally. It was only because of the kindness and generosity of a woman like you that their dreams were realized and their beautiful Maddie became part of their family. There are far worse decisions you could have made, and probably few better ones under the circumstances. Thank you so much!
I place twins just a little less than three months ago. The decision was right, and I always felt like my part was to find the home they were trying to get to but couldn't get to without some help. But It still hurts so much. And this song just... it really gets me.
I've always believed that it must be the hardest thing for a mother to do, and takes the greatest of love and understanding to give your child to someone who could give the child better care. May you be comforted to know that someone has been immensely blessed because of your unselfish act. And I hope that you one day meet your child again whether it be in this life or heaven
Thank you so much for this song. This is just amazing. I am going through making an adoption plan for my baby. I am 29 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend of 4 years and I have come into this situation, and have taken on the responsibility of this baby as much as we can at 20 and 23 years old. We have chosen a family that we absolutely adore, who will be able to take care of this child in all of the ways we would like to, but cannot. This song is amazing, and I think every birth mother should listen.
My parents seem rude to me please help me with this I don’t know how to handle this I’m homeless now and this song for some reason gives me comfort but I need friends I have epilepsy and nowhere to live
Alicia: you "placed" your child, you didn't give him up - and I hope you will understand, know and feel that placing your little one is the most loving selfless beautiful gift you could ever give in your life. Mother's all over the world who are unable to have their own children are praying fervently for wonderful women like you. There is a special place in heaven for women like you who make these loving choices...xo
Liz Draper does your song proud. By the way, your own rendition also does you proud. I've always loved this song ever since I happened onto it years ago on the net.
I am not saying this to hurt anyone who has given their baby up. I am a 50 year old adoptee who has struggled with feelings of being less, problems with relationships, depression and sadness. These are all kept inside so people around might think I am ok. Ask any adoptee we do not care about material things. We want our family that we came from. I began my search in June of this year. My search of myself. An adoptee never truely feels like they belong. Not in our adopted family and not in our natural family. Since I started searching and talking to many other adoptees these themes and feelings are repeated over and over. No one wants to hear us and it's sad because we are the ones that really know. Yes at one time I said all those things. I was lucky I was chosen. I am grateful. They are my real parents, but never really ever connecting. Until one day I saw my mom's face. My face. I could not believe it. Adoption is the last resort for mother's who cannot physically or mentally take care of their children. Not because you think they will have a better life because a lot of times they don't.
Hi Karen, As a birthmom I would really encourage you to enjoy the life your birth mother sacrificed to give you. She did it out of love that's for sure. You may not want to open that can of worms.
Okay, I'm sorry you're in pain and i'm sorry you've never come to terms with it. But I'm also an adoptee, and I'm perfectly happy. Feel free to talk about your experience, but it's arrogant and asinine to assume you can just speak for every adopted child, especially to birth mothers. Adoption does not harm a child. How you choose to deal with being adopted is what can make it a bad thing. And as someone who's also placed, it is absolutely about giving them a better life. You have no idea what quality of life you would have had if your birth mom had kept you, nobody places a kid on a whim, and you literally have no way of actually knowing if it would have been any better. My birth dad is currently in jail for child pornography, what a great time i'd have had growing up with him. And no, not a majority of adopted kids don't get a better life. But as with everything from products to experiences, only the people who have something to complain about feel the need to shout about it. Work on getting over your own issues in an actually healthy way rather than preaching doom.
Karen, I am a birthmom, just so you know, i suspect that your birthmom meant for you to have a great life. Now have a daughter who I struggle to connect with, she is my own flesh and blood and I have struggled her whole life to connect with her. it has come painfully slowly and I have to watch myself to treat her the same as the other two. We've had a few tragedies that have brought us together but it has always been a struggle . Sent via the Samsung GALAXY S®4, an AT&T 4G LTE smartphone -------- Original message --------
I was adopted and what a great decision my mother did for me! I hand it to her for listing to the spirit and sending me to the best family in the world! I love the lord and give the credit to him to have it happen! Adoption is a great plan and a way to show more love!
I was adoped to a family 23 years ago. My adoptive mother just gave me the box of letters and trinkets that were sent to me from my biological mother, and the letter i read just now told me to listen to this song. I can't tell you what this feels like.
No. The bond between a mother and her child is a beautiful and special thing. It's meant to be powerful and beautiful. The fact that even though you have never met your son, you are able to love him just as powerfully as any mother. It's okay to miss him. It means you're human. Your son not only has his adoptive parents who love and care for him, but he also has a birth mother that loves him just as fiercely. Your son is blessed with such a phenomenal amount of love. Take your joy from that.
This is a bitter sweet song, because I may not understand how hard of a decision this has to be for someone in this situation, because I have 12 children of my own, could not imagine having to give anyone up. My daughter became pregnant at 16, it was hard for her, however her boyfriend married her, and had 4 more children. Again I may never understand what young people have to face, I just pray to Heavenly Father to watch over our youth, and for parents to be understanding as Heavenly Father is toward us.
I was adopted and what a great decision my mother did for me! I hand it to her for listing to the spirit and sending me to the best family in the world! I love the lord and give the credit to him to have it happen! Adoption is a great plan and a way to show more love!
Blessed are the mothers who give their baby's the life that they know their child deserves. As much as it hurts, knowing you can't do it yourself.
Happened to me and my brother when we were 12.
Their hearts are the biggest and most loving. Putting their child's needs before their own.
I will always have that hole in my heart. But I'm thankful for my Savior. And I have to learn to forgive my mother. But also thank her for giving me and my brother the life we have now.
I'm a birthmother of 2 children. A girl and a boy I just gave birth to 4months ago. They both went to the same loving couple! I'm so blessed that God placed them in my life. I pray both of my children will understand my decision one day and I pray they don't hate me for it.
I saw Michael in the late 90s in Seattle. The event was not without a dry eye. Incredibly moving.
I was adopted, 20 years ago, and I have never regretted the choice my mother made
I just placed my son 3 months ago. but my best friend adopted him.
but it was one of the hardest decisions.
I love my little one so much. I had to put his needs first before mine .
Thank you for this song. I am a birth mom of a beautiful 7 year old little boy. In the last month due to mine and my son's circumstances, I decided it was in the best interest of my son and his foster family to let him be adopted. This choice tears me apart because I wanted so badly to give him the love and care he needs and deserves, but I can't. I do know that this is what needs to happens though and that makes it easier to bear.
Wow... this song is so beautiful...
Oh dear, I'm crying yet again because of one of your songs Michael 😖
I love this song as a birth mom of a 6yr old son who will be 7 this year who I placed in an open adoption 6 years ago on his birthday. Thanks you so much for the song
A s a mother who gave up her son for adoption I feel like a failure everyday. It is so hard not to cry when I hear this song. He is loved and missed everyday, I wonder did I do the right trying for Stephen Lewis Smith
My sister felt like a different kind of failure up until 13 years ago, because her and her husband wanted a child of their own to love and raise, and couldn't have that happen naturally. It was only because of the kindness and generosity of a woman like you that their dreams were realized and their beautiful Maddie became part of their family. There are far worse decisions you could have made, and probably few better ones under the circumstances. Thank you so much!
:'( I completely know the feeling. This was definitely an overwhelming song.
I place twins just a little less than three months ago. The decision was right, and I always felt like my part was to find the home they were trying to get to but couldn't get to without some help. But It still hurts so much. And this song just... it really gets me.
I've always believed that it must be the hardest thing for a mother to do, and takes the greatest of love and understanding to give your child to someone who could give the child better care. May you be comforted to know that someone has been immensely blessed because of your unselfish act. And I hope that you one day meet your child again whether it be in this life or heaven
Thank you so much for this song. This is just amazing. I am going through making an adoption plan for my baby. I am 29 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend of 4 years and I have come into this situation, and have taken on the responsibility of this baby as much as we can at 20 and 23 years old. We have chosen a family that we absolutely adore, who will be able to take care of this child in all of the ways we would like to, but cannot. This song is amazing, and I think every birth mother should listen.
Es una de mis canciones favoritas de Michel McClean
He is my favorite
I love is song
My parents seem rude to me please help me with this I don’t know how to handle this I’m homeless now and this song for some reason gives me comfort but I need friends I have epilepsy and nowhere to live
Alicia: you "placed" your child, you didn't give him up - and I hope you will understand, know and feel that placing your little one is the most loving selfless beautiful gift you could ever give in your life. Mother's all over the world who are unable to have their own children are praying fervently for wonderful women like you. There is a special place in heaven for women like you who make these loving choices...xo
Mary Nothum thank you! i hate hearing giving up. It's placed. I placed my cute birth son.
Liz Draper does your song proud. By the way, your own rendition also does you proud. I've always loved this song ever since I happened onto it years ago on the net.
I am not saying this to hurt anyone who has given their baby up. I am a 50 year old adoptee who has struggled with feelings of being less, problems with relationships, depression and sadness. These are all kept inside so people around might think I am ok. Ask any adoptee we do not care about material things. We want our family that we came from. I began my search in June of this year. My search of myself. An adoptee never truely feels like they belong. Not in our adopted family and not in our natural family. Since I started searching and talking to many other adoptees these themes and feelings are repeated over and over. No one wants to hear us and it's sad because we are the ones that really know. Yes at one time I said all those things. I was lucky I was chosen. I am grateful. They are my real parents, but never really ever connecting. Until one day I saw my mom's face. My face. I could not believe it. Adoption is the last resort for mother's who cannot physically or mentally take care of their children. Not because you think they will have a better life because a lot of times they don't.
Hi Karen, As a birthmom I would really encourage you to enjoy the life your birth mother sacrificed to give you. She did it out of love that's for sure. You may not want to open that can of worms.
Okay, I'm sorry you're in pain and i'm sorry you've never come to terms with it. But I'm also an adoptee, and I'm perfectly happy. Feel free to talk about your experience, but it's arrogant and asinine to assume you can just speak for every adopted child, especially to birth mothers. Adoption does not harm a child. How you choose to deal with being adopted is what can make it a bad thing. And as someone who's also placed, it is absolutely about giving them a better life. You have no idea what quality of life you would have had if your birth mom had kept you, nobody places a kid on a whim, and you literally have no way of actually knowing if it would have been any better. My birth dad is currently in jail for child pornography, what a great time i'd have had growing up with him. And no, not a majority of adopted kids don't get a better life. But as with everything from products to experiences, only the people who have something to complain about feel the need to shout about it. Work on getting over your own issues in an actually healthy way rather than preaching doom.
Karen, I am a birthmom, just so you know, i suspect that your birthmom meant for you to have a great life. Now have a daughter who I struggle to connect with, she is my own flesh and blood and I have struggled her whole life to connect with her. it has come painfully slowly and I have to watch myself to treat her the same as the other two. We've had a few tragedies that have brought us together but it has always been a struggle .
Sent via the Samsung GALAXY S®4, an AT&T 4G LTE smartphone
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I gave my baby up for adoption in 2004. it hurts
The little girl is now 2 they are not twins.. Sorry I just realized how that sounded.
Sorry my kid hit the button a few times!
Certainly not. You are not a failure.
I was adopted and what a great decision my mother did for me! I hand it to her for listing to the spirit and sending me to the best family in the world! I love the lord and give the credit to him to have it happen! Adoption is a great plan and a way to show more love!