Megan, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@michaelbathurst7871 If thoughts affect physical health then visit a psychologist. Heal yourself. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 1 or 2 minutes and observe your breath. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
my issue is i make things that arent actually that negative or serious, extremely negative and this happens multiple times a day. then ruminating kicks and all hell breaks loose. this video helped tho
I am the same way. When I get negative, I go into the darkness and my mind just doesn't allow me to exit or I can't find a it an exit. My mind can snap out of it. The tips help but in that moment, it's tough.
@@madisonla1803 same. I try to maintain a neutral perspective and use logic but that doesn’t change the way the thought makes me feel then I think that I’m doing the techniques wrong and I’ll never get better. It’s a vicious cycle.
@@madisonla1803 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
One of my cures for rumination is to take the problem, write it down, and brainstorm at least 10 ways to improve the problem, then select the one that is the most effective and/or easiest to put into practice, and work on the solution.
I’ll be going about my day like normal and randomly I’ll remember something someone did to me or an argument I got in and I’ll feel the same emotions of anger and frustration all over again like the argument had just happened and it messes up my entire day... it’s frustrating especially when I’m trying to get work done 🙄
So very recognizable unfortunately... It’s like your brain just has to bring bad stuff in front of you again for no reason to make you deal with it again in some way at least. Exhausting.
Steph Clark, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@razorsharp9850 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@Av987 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@MrJtdaugherty Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I literally just had this problem this morning. My sister disrespected me a few days ago and I have been ruminating over it for days. I couldn't focus on anything else. Luckily I had my mom to talk it out with today and I can finally let it go. But, like you said, I have to remember that I can't change her mind, and need to just focus on me. I love this channel, thank you!
Ruminating has been a massive issue for me for decades. It has severely affected my ability to fall asleep for many many years. There used to be situations from years ago that would come back again and again. Over time I found a couple of strategies that really helped. me get more control over it. One of the earliest things I tried against persistent long term ruminations, was to play the situation out in my head in full colour and detail, then try to imagine it in black and white, then I pretend that the image gets smaller and smaller to about cricket ball size and I shoot it off into the sun. Then I would repeatedly send it off into the sun over and over. You really don't need a vivid imagination to do it. I think just the act of trying to imagine it can be enough. You need to repeat the process a few times but after a while the issue just fades away. Something that I do now, for any new situations/confrontations, is to replay it in my head as soon as possible. While it is playing in my head I widen my attention/minds eye as it plays out. With my eyes open I try and take in the whole view at the same time, as much as I can see from the extreme left of my field of view to the extreme right. I try to notice everything in that wide field of view simultaneously as I remember the situation. I have found that it really helps to stop any potential ruminating of the issue from taking root. I guess I am too busy trying to take in this wide field of view that my mind kind of puts things into perspective and stops me blowing something up out of proportion? I don't know why it works, I am not a doctor, but I do know that these tips do help me a lot.
I'm a 28 years old italian doctor who's been diagnosed this year. I'm still not certain if I only have a mild ADHD or if I have it at all. I sure have been living with many difficulties, but I nonetheless managed to get my medical degree and I'm OVERALL functional in life. I've been following you for some time now. Great channel, thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights. Knowing that there's a whole community of ADHD people out there helps a lot! Keep up with the great work :P
I don't like the "You might have had trouble in school and had problems with grades to have ADHD". I hate it actually. you can have ADHD and still managed to have good grades and succeed at college. My doctor said that he managed all through everything because he is a super faster reader, so in a minute, he reads 3x while someone else read just once and that compensated the lack of attention
@@truthseeker803 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@kamikkaze5164 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
It's a torture. My first relations (as I thought back then) ended in break-up over 20 years ago, yet sometimes it feels like I still haven't gotten over it. I know I can't be with that girl, but memories do resurface sometimes, not even memories about being together or parting our ways, more like feeling of despair.
Omg! I have struggled and I mean STRUGGLED with this all my life until I went and got meds. This for me was one of the worst symptoms of adhd. PAINFUL!!!!!! I have found peace now. My advice to anybody and I mean anyone struggling with this, go to you Family Physician or a Mental Health Professional. Get the proper medication and get enrolled into a CBT ( Cognitive Behaviour Training ) class and apply yourself! You will get what you put into it. Its nice to be able to self sooth and to have my mind quieted down. I have some peace in my life, finally.
Darren, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed.. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Stuart, my brother, your video is soo relevant for Situation I am in right now, A Psychiatrist I was seeing tricked me into paying 1800rs in the name of a B S personality test, which was my 3 months budget, and I'm unemployed and being treated on borrowed money from friends. The thought of how she tricked me into doing it using my trust into her is messing in my head since yesterday. Thanks my brother Watching your videos make me feel there is someone out there in other corner of the world who understands me.
Great advice, I didn't know there's a word for this negative thinking. Hyperfocusing can be a curse if you hyperfocus on bad thoughts. What usually helps me is working. Just switching hyperfocus to something useful and use it as fuel. Great stuff :)
For getting my brain distracted really quickly I watch stand-up comedy on UA-cam. Distraction plus cortisol-releasing laughter. Simplest thing that really helps. Thanks.
“Try to think of something more positive”. My brain will be “but that’s not possible”. But my ego might be open to coming up with a more adaptive better thought
I’ve had a few traumatic experiences over the past 8 years. I thought i allowed myself the time needed to deal but I think ive turned Dealing with my situation into ruminating over my situation. It’s literally me replaying someone’s death in my head over and over and over. And the worst thing is sudden triggers like ppl fighting loud noises bursts of fire. Ive literally drove myself into the ground because of these intrusive thoughts. Or how the psychiatrist say it....rat on a wheel. Ive found that it’s getting harder and harder to deal with it.
Yoo? You most def not alone, I’ve had the same experiences before. It’s good to talk to people you can relate to about it. Whats yo Facebook name? I’ll send u a request & you could join the support group with me
I've had the same problem, and if you ruminate it will get worse and worse. It almost becomes like you're embarrassed to tell all of these crazy thoughts you're having to others. It also seems to happen, the negative thoughts, these thoughts can happen at the end of a very good happy day, or end of a "happy moment" and this thought can make you think you're whole day or that happy moment was negative since thats the last thought you had at that specific moment.
God I wish there was a switch. I need it so much right now. I’ve tried everything on this list and I always find myself back in the same spot thinking about the same thing. The same trauma. The distractions seem temporary but the thoughts seem lifelong. I’m exhausted now. I’m done. I don’t know how much longer I can do this.
I’m 34 and I just realized that I have add. Thought loops, anxiety, focus issues, but also something I can’t describe well. I’d be interested in hearing if anyone feels the same- it’s almost like a very intense claustrophobia feeling but in regards to the place I am. I’ve been moving around my entire adult life. I’ll fell fine for a few weeks then I’ll get the claustrophobia anxiety feeling and only feel alright when I’m in transition again. I can’t describe it too well but it’s honestly a worse feeling than any depression or sadness I’ve ever had. Because the feeling is so frantic and pressing like it’s an emergency that I have to leave. My worst fear is being a wanderer for life but I struggle so badly with this. Any insights would be greatly appreciated
I was traveling by plane for Christmas once, and a couple of days before my flight, this idea of how crazy it would be for my plane to crash on Christmas popped into my head and completely derailed me! I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I was imagining hypothetical plane crash scenarios and staying up all night being terrified. It got so bad I started to write a will (not a bad idea in general, but really?! Hahaha) and even contemplated cancelling my flight. What really helped me was bringing up my concerns to someone else. Speaking my thoughts out loud grounded me and helped me see how far fetched my ruminating really was. I definitely recommend it! If you have no one to talk to, online groups are really helpful too!
I just said no to a job because I am already working and I feel bad because it was a job for a friend. Keep thinking I should say yes and squeeze it in, but know I really don't want to and that iverdoing ut will make me sick. I haven't had a day off in weeks.
I think Over and over if I put my kids in the right school. It’s been three days with the same thoughts. I don’t know what to do. Makes me feel like I’m going crazy
Thank you for uploading this. My 5 year old son is often responding, “but what if I don’t/can’t?” to things. I always tell him to think positive & respond to him, “but what if you DO?”
Great as usual Stuart! Point 4 is very powerful. When the negative thought starts I say aloud 'I am not thinking about that!', as also Mel Robbins suggests. It works, we need to make that a habit.
Elissa, Only if thought rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thanks! This is one of the most helpful videos I've seen. For years I railed against what I perceive to be the source of the world's ills (lack of empathy, animal cruelty, climate destruction, theism, inequality, etc), furiously trying to convince people to give up gods and intolerance in favour of empathy and altruism, especially in regards to animal rights and our ecosystems, but to no avail. Other peoples' minds are generally very closed, or in comparison to my own at least, and folks simply don't want to evolve. At. All. I've given up trying to 'educate' people (I don't mean to sound arrogant) as previous efforts drove me into a deep, suicidal depression for years, and instead I'm focusing on myself for once. Good luck to you all. You can only change yourself and hope to be an inspiration for others.
I feel you! The best way to change people's mindset is by inspiring them through being a good example and it's a lot easier to be that good example if you aren't dragged with negative thoughts day in and day out anyways ^-^ Easier said than done; i'm mostly just trying to convince myself to get back on the horse here, as the current chaos of the world has been too depressing for me recently! 😅
Man, that is right good stuff. I very much relate to your "number 6". I tend to visualize every thought/feeling as a bubble that grabs my attention and that I can analyze the daylights out of it. Dissect that thing to pieces, relate it to other bubbles I've dealt with before: total paralysis by analysis, fully in the moment, for a brief instant before that bubble "pops" (i.e. I've fully dissected it and can move on). When the opportunity strikes, I'll journal anything noteworthy. It is often like I am racing from ruminating/feeling (and possibly reacting), to quickly getting at the recognizing of what "it" is and then doing something positive and useful about/with it. I find that with time and practice, it becomes easier and quicker to get past (i.e. not get stuck in) the ruminating/feeling (and maybe even avoiding any reaction). I've found that when there are too many things competing for my attention, I have to put a pause on whatever I'm doing to process a rumination/feeling before some self-protection-flight-or-flight reaction to over-stimulation kicks in. It takes a little bit of time and space to focus on that bubble, to figure out what is going on internally, and then let oneself find a little peace and comfort in the knowledge that the subconscious mind will eventually unleash some "ah-ha" bubble, something for conscious processing as it gingerly floats by.
This has got to be the best channel I have found on UA-cam, your audiobook recommendations, words of wisdom, and life experience is massively helping me understand how to manage my adhd. I cannot thank you enough.
James, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I was feeling very sad just before, but realising that I was doing it and focused on the problem and the positives about it really helped me calm down and the pain in my chest was gone. Some days it feels like a curse, but I know it can be conquered with enough willpower and strength. For anyone feeling like they’re in an endless cycle, please know that if you continue like this into adulthood, you will find it impossible to change.
Thank you for making these! Even if you say something that seems obvious, sometimes it gives me a good foothold to mention in my sessions with my therapist which means a world of difference for me!
Hi, I’m glad you said this point, because I relate to it too! There are some issues I struggle with that seem so common-sense to solve, but hearing it from someone else as an issue specific to us gives me the confirmation to bring it up to my therapist.
You are BRILLIANT. As a healthcare provider I not only agree eith your techniques but find your videos substantially EFFECTIVE AND HELPFUL. Thank - you .
Ruminating is awful. It's Saturday. I've tidied my house, ate a good breakfast, brushed my teeth, took my shower, made my bed. Got in about a half an hour's worth of exercise. And now I feel like I'm supposed to be productive for the rest of the day. I feel sleepy and I don't feel like doing anything.. But I actually feel terrified at the thought of giving in and reveling in a nap or some other self-soothing but non-productive activity. I have this problem a lot. I beat myself up for not being productive enough. Anyone else feel this way? Is it okay to feel this way? Is it okay just to spend the day looking at UA-cam videos or reading a book or taking a nap? Am I a bad person?
The comment itself made me laugh in embarrassment and "self-recognition", but the big lebowski clip just after made me crack up hysterically! 😂 Thanks again for putting up these great videos 😊👌 Definitely have to use this one as a positive distraction for those days of just sobbing 🙏🌟
I'm 48 and I always had issues with ruminating over my mistakes. I could never shake it off. The only advice had to work with is just stop. Two weeks ago, I had a close friend point out that I have symptoms of both ADHD and Autism. It was a quite a shock, a punch in the gut, but I started to realize why I acted in such ways. Finally finding the reason why, my ruminating stop. I stopped beating the crap out of myself. My perspective of myself changed. I respected myself more. I now see myself more valuable.
For the past 37 years I had no idea what I've been struggli about thisng with this is exactly a little to it and thank you for the steps for helping me try to control how I respond with my mind
Is ruminating part of emotional dysfunction? I take pride in my work. I boiled up inside when i was criticized/corrected. A lifelong trait i hate but am beginning to understand more as i learn more about my adhd. Now i had to keep working but i saw my self quitting right there and with low impulse control and everything else, i was on a tight rope. Things couldve went sour quick. I cant afford to quit. I focused on my smptoms, i prayed, i kept my mouth shut and within a half hour we were laughing about something. Im not a church/preach guy though im a christian. God helps me all the time. He's leading me out of my chaotic adhd life and i really believe he led me to these videos. So thank you and God Bless.
Really clear video, especially when your ruminating about things and your adhd brain already has a million thought, it just needs simple grounding steps.
Very timely content!! I’ve been ruminating off and on about something ultimately pointless (and not unexpected) for the past six days. I’ve been doing exercise every second day which is definitely helping though.
Spot on! We don't have control over others. We have control only our reactions or responses to the event. For some people it's easy to stop ruminating thoughts. For me it's harder. I was verbally shamed by a group of women today because my dog got in a fight (this is not his normal behavior). I think it is because he was surrounded by a pack of 12-15 dogs and got nervous and he just left the vet so he was still carrying some anxiety. Yesterday he was at the same park and behaved playfully as usual. I think it is the public shaming that sent me into a spin
I've got a severe rumination problem - most recently I had a run-in with authority and I made the situation a thousand times worse by doubling down and lashing out at this person when they were trying to do their job. I know what I did was wrong as I made a severely bad impression of myself and I'm not trying to make myself the victim here, but I just don't want this bad encounter with an individual to take over my thoughts
Thank you for this video. I have so many problems with this. People are always upsetting me. I just found out that I have ADHD. I hate not being able to connect with others because I think that they are upset with me or just don't like as a person. I am always so kind to everyone and don't understand why they would be so hateful.
Sophie, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
A few days ago, I had the idea that I have adhd presented to me. I haven't been formally diagnosed yet (I have a meeting set up, yay!) but, I feel as though a weight has been lifted. It explains SO much of my life and I have done nothing but reserch since. Your videos have been a big help for me, thank you.
Cant lie my man these are some really good tips. Nice knowing there is other people who can watch and manage their mind. Not easy or a breeze but a possibility to feeling true happiness.
Never been diagnosed but I know that I’ve had this from day one . As a kid (and I’m 57 now ) I was super hyper active I almost feel like those years were the best times of my life other then school. Now I have a hard time leaving the house. Crazy
I went to an EPT (emotional polarity technique) practitioner and in one session she pretty much reduced my anger issues by 90%. That single EPT session did more for me than 10 years of seeing psychologists and psychiatrists. I have now idea how she did it but it worked.
@@cerealis_5432 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
At the worst point, I would just have to suffer through hours of anger or sadness. It really was horrible. I was undiagnosed and had to spend all my time like this alone.
I got worse over the years since I was diagnosed late, early adulthood. My anger and low mood was out of control, I was an unpleasant human and I blamed the world for my situations. Whether disorders like this are real or not, my ‘diagnosis’ helped me understand why I have felt like ‘the odd one out’ for all my life. More importantly, that I needed to change. My biggest mission was to become a better person. That meant managing to overcome, what I believe in, low frequency vibrations- anxiety, low mood, anger, etc. It’s been a wholesome journey and a large progress has been made. I listen to all sorts of interesting talks and I have gained an interesting outlook on life. I take my medication, meditate and need frequent exercise to help further manage. For my next step I would like to start cutting down on the usage of my medication. The routine I have is great, but I worry about becoming dependent and the long term effects of the medication.
Hmm,I find my self doing this too much .It does make me feel "normal " again, when I realized that iam not alone .Sometimes it's just best to self discipline yourself ( well it's what I do )by mentaly telling your self that everything is alright and that I have just overreacted .Kinda like a prep talk, but it works for me .I know this is probably a popular tactic, but just keep this in mind next time you find yourself in this vicious cycle.Or just try it .
This is my major problem with the education system, this os all based on a requirement of someone 'recognizing' their own problems, but there are many of us who have never had a negative thought that we can ever see ourselves as inappropriate. Anytime I've ever been angry or gone off and thought about it again later, it is still felt like the absolute appropriate reaction. such as when I went off on the lady for leaving her dog in the car in the heat and it was obviously sick and other people got involved as well because they were angry about the situation also. If it wasn't for the other two strangers I would have been just looked at as a ranting fool. If I had decided to just go calm down then the dog would have died but it was my ranting they got the other two people involved. Now yes this is the situation with a dog's life involved and there were other people that were clearly in agreement with what I was doing and saying however that doesn't seem any more appropriate than any other time that I've ever gone off about anything. When would it ever be appropriate to self-soothe or to calm down other than when the situation no longer exists? how is this method helpful who is this method helpful to and when and how could this method ever be used in a beneficial way because anyone that's acting out of line can't tell they're acting out of line and if they can tell they're acting out of line then they will not act out of line.
The genocide going on in Palestine has been causing this to happen to me a LOT. It’s extremely difficult to get all those images of dead/maimed children and destroyed homes out of my head. This is the most angry I have ever been in my life, but I’d feel guilty if I ignored it.
Hey i wasn't able to get through to your website to book an appointment appointment so I could pick your brain a bit on a reoccurring struggle that has me stuck in a loop n dragging down others around me
Eh oh honestly I’ve had ADHD my whole life and never felt right. Literally 22 and am just starting medication because I wanted to be deemed “normal”. Tonight is the night I’ve finally realized who I am and what to do about it. Just my part i dont know anyone else with ADHD but you all feel like my family reading some of the comments. I hope someone reads mine and feels loved and like they belong because you matter and your not crazy even if you feel as if you are.
I have cut out all the negative and destructive things in my life over a year ago... gambling, smoking, illegal drugs, poor sleep, isolation, no exercise, bad eating habits. And now I am doing everything that should make me feel happy. But I feel depressed as shit, and my life seems to be falling apart worse than ever. I have many professional help outlets. But I thought it can't hurt to ask others with ADHD if they have been here before. Is there a solution. Or am I permanently doomed
Well done for making as much progress as you have 👍 I’m sorry to hear you are not yet reaping positive benefits from your positive changes. It can take time to effectively replace all the negative coping strategies with better, healthier ones. I think one of the hard things is that negative coping strategies generally give you a “quick fix”, so you instantly feel better, despite the fact that overall they are damaging. Bear in mind that positive cooing strategies may not be as immediately powerful, but can have a significant impact over the long term. Being able to think and act based on long term is something many people with ADHD struggle with, so keep experimenting and learning about what works for you. I really like the channel “How To ADHD” - fantastic accessible advice for people with ADHD. Also Dr Tracey Marks here on UA-cam does very high quality mental health and self improvement videos. Good luck 😊💚👍
@@brindmusicnerd thanks for the supportive and encouraging message, today is already feeling better than last week. I love Jess at how-to ADHD. But I'll check out the other channel, because I've never heard of that one. Knowledge is power! 🤗❤️
HALI, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Hey there, been watching your videos and I am absolutely terrified that I might have ADHD. I will ask my university to test me but I feel doomed if it turns out to be true.
I've got a new exciting career and has a numerous series of test being qualified, having an ADHD I always jump to negative conclusions I always think of the worst case scenario and alotnof what if - even if I haven't started the training yet! This is also hinders my previous career due to scared of failing and too much overthinking. :( anyone does the same? Any tips? Thanks
@@ADHDMastery More research needs to be done but from what I am noticing on reddit and youtube, it seems the first three letters seem to be really common for us. I am INFJ
Who has stayed up all night long replaying the same scenario/thought over and over and over. Even when you do fall asleep, you dream it too
Megan, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
So true, it’s aweful
@@michaelbathurst7871 If thoughts affect physical health then visit a psychologist. Heal yourself. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 1 or 2 minutes and observe your breath. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep also gives quick relief. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I find that anything that I ever worry about for hours or days actually never happens . ever .
This has been affecting me a lot
my issue is i make things that arent actually that negative or serious, extremely negative and this happens multiple times a day. then ruminating kicks and all hell breaks loose. this video helped tho
I do the same, it certainly takes work
I am the same way. When I get negative, I go into the darkness and my mind just doesn't allow me to exit or I can't find a it an exit. My mind can snap out of it. The tips help but in that moment, it's tough.
@@madisonla1803 same. I try to maintain a neutral perspective and use logic but that doesn’t change the way the thought makes me feel then I think that I’m doing the techniques wrong and I’ll never get better. It’s a vicious cycle.
@@madisonla1803 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Catastrophizing. So debilitating.
One of my cures for rumination is to take the problem, write it down, and brainstorm at least 10 ways to improve the problem, then select the one that is the most effective and/or easiest to put into practice, and work on the solution.
engineer detected
I’ll be going about my day like normal and randomly I’ll remember something someone did to me or an argument I got in and I’ll feel the same emotions of anger and frustration all over again like the argument had just happened and it messes up my entire day... it’s frustrating especially when I’m trying to get work done 🙄
So very recognizable unfortunately... It’s like your brain just has to bring bad stuff in front of you again for no reason to make you deal with it again in some way at least. Exhausting.
Steph Clark, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@razorsharp9850 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Steph hi
A good life quote to live by is:
“ Ignore the negative things in life you can’t change, but change the negative things you can’t ignore.”
What if the negative thing in your life is one that cannot be changed nor ignored. ☹️
@@Av987 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
yeah no shit
Good timing, ive been ruminating over my ex girlfriend for the past month
Davidpk_Fam You don't need to have ADHD to be ruminating over ex. It is a normal feeling for everybody! Good luck
It's not easy. It's a daily battle. But you got this!! You CAN do it!
@@MrJtdaugherty Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I literally just had this problem this morning. My sister disrespected me a few days ago and I have been ruminating over it for days. I couldn't focus on anything else. Luckily I had my mom to talk it out with today and I can finally let it go. But, like you said, I have to remember that I can't change her mind, and need to just focus on me. I love this channel, thank you!
Ruminating has been a massive issue for me for decades. It has severely affected my ability to fall asleep for many many years. There used to be situations from years ago that would come back again and again. Over time I found a couple of strategies that really helped. me get more control over it.
One of the earliest things I tried against persistent long term ruminations, was to play the situation out in my head in full colour and detail, then try to imagine it in black and white, then I pretend that the image gets smaller and smaller to about cricket ball size and I shoot it off into the sun. Then I would repeatedly send it off into the sun over and over. You really don't need a vivid imagination to do it. I think just the act of trying to imagine it can be enough. You need to repeat the process a few times but after a while the issue just fades away.
Something that I do now, for any new situations/confrontations, is to replay it in my head as soon as possible. While it is playing in my head I widen my attention/minds eye as it plays out. With my eyes open I try and take in the whole view at the same time, as much as I can see from the extreme left of my field of view to the extreme right. I try to notice everything in that wide field of view simultaneously as I remember the situation. I have found that it really helps to stop any potential ruminating of the issue from taking root. I guess I am too busy trying to take in this wide field of view that my mind kind of puts things into perspective and stops me blowing something up out of proportion?
I don't know why it works, I am not a doctor, but I do know that these tips do help me a lot.
I struggle with negative thoughts and aggressiveness.
For me exercises and guitar has helped so much. Your videos have helped me so much
I'm a 28 years old italian doctor who's been diagnosed this year. I'm still not certain if I only have a mild ADHD or if I have it at all. I sure have been living with many difficulties, but I nonetheless managed to get my medical degree and I'm OVERALL functional in life.
I've been following you for some time now. Great channel, thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights. Knowing that there's a whole community of ADHD people out there helps a lot! Keep up with the great work :P
Thanks. Well done btw!
I don't like the "You might have had trouble in school and had problems with grades to have ADHD". I hate it actually. you can have ADHD and still managed to have good grades and succeed at college. My doctor said that he managed all through everything because he is a super faster reader, so in a minute, he reads 3x while someone else read just once and that compensated the lack of attention
I am a physician too but not diagnosed but i go on guilt trips and ruminate. So do you take any meds? and how was it?
@@truthseeker803 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind. -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@kamikkaze5164 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a physician is needed. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life without sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
It's a torture. My first relations (as I thought back then) ended in break-up over 20 years ago, yet sometimes it feels like I still haven't gotten over it. I know I can't be with that girl, but memories do resurface sometimes, not even memories about being together or parting our ways, more like feeling of despair.
I try to distract myself so hard, but those thoughts seem to penetrate through to whatever I'm doing. Especially if something is an uncertainty
Omg! I have struggled and I mean STRUGGLED with this all my life until I went and got meds. This for me was one of the worst symptoms of adhd. PAINFUL!!!!!! I have found peace now. My advice to anybody and I mean anyone struggling with this, go to you Family Physician or a Mental Health Professional. Get the proper medication and get enrolled into a CBT ( Cognitive Behaviour Training ) class and apply yourself! You will get what you put into it. Its nice to be able to self sooth and to have my mind quieted down. I have some peace in my life, finally.
Darren, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed.. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 You’re bang on! Bringing myself into the present thru meditation and observing all my senses is calming.
Stuart, my brother, your video is soo relevant for Situation I am in right now,
A Psychiatrist I was seeing tricked me into paying 1800rs in the name of a B S personality test, which was my 3 months budget, and I'm unemployed and being treated on borrowed money from friends. The thought of how she tricked me into doing it using my trust into her is messing in my head since yesterday.
Thanks my brother
Watching your videos make me feel there is someone out there in other corner of the world who understands me.
Great advice, I didn't know there's a word for this negative thinking. Hyperfocusing can be a curse if you hyperfocus on bad thoughts. What usually helps me is working. Just switching hyperfocus to something useful and use it as fuel. Great stuff :)
For getting my brain distracted really quickly I watch stand-up comedy on UA-cam. Distraction plus cortisol-releasing laughter. Simplest thing that really helps. Thanks.
“Try to think of something more positive”. My brain will be “but that’s not possible”. But my ego might be open to coming up with a more adaptive better thought
Damn i feel this i still get mad over shit that happened in middle school and shit
I’ve had a few traumatic experiences over the past 8 years. I thought i allowed myself the time needed to deal but I think ive turned Dealing with my situation into ruminating over my situation. It’s literally me replaying someone’s death in my head over and over and over. And the worst thing is sudden triggers like ppl fighting loud noises bursts of fire. Ive literally drove myself into the ground because of these intrusive thoughts. Or how the psychiatrist say it....rat on a wheel. Ive found that it’s getting harder and harder to deal with it.
Yoo? You most def not alone, I’ve had the same experiences before. It’s good to talk to people you can relate to about it. Whats yo Facebook name? I’ll send u a request & you could join the support group with me
EMDR bro
I've had the same problem, and if you ruminate it will get worse and worse. It almost becomes like you're embarrassed to tell all of these crazy thoughts you're having to others. It also seems to happen, the negative thoughts, these thoughts can happen at the end of a very good happy day, or end of a "happy moment" and this thought can make you think you're whole day or that happy moment was negative since thats the last thought you had at that specific moment.
To me it feels like i have "Carnage" inside me. So here I am.
I just had a meltdown over coffee, and i then wondered why i got upset over small things. Then I found negative ruminations as an answer.
God I wish there was a switch. I need it so much right now. I’ve tried everything on this list and I always find myself back in the same spot thinking about the same thing. The same trauma. The distractions seem temporary but the thoughts seem lifelong. I’m exhausted now. I’m done. I don’t know how much longer I can do this.
I’m 34 and I just realized that I have add. Thought loops, anxiety, focus issues, but also something I can’t describe well. I’d be interested in hearing if anyone feels the same- it’s almost like a very intense claustrophobia feeling but in regards to the place I am. I’ve been moving around my entire adult life. I’ll fell fine for a few weeks then I’ll get the claustrophobia anxiety feeling and only feel alright when I’m in transition again. I can’t describe it too well but it’s honestly a worse feeling than any depression or sadness I’ve ever had. Because the feeling is so frantic and pressing like it’s an emergency that I have to leave. My worst fear is being a wanderer for life but I struggle so badly with this. Any insights would be greatly appreciated
I was traveling by plane for Christmas once, and a couple of days before my flight, this idea of how crazy it would be for my plane to crash on Christmas popped into my head and completely derailed me! I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I was imagining hypothetical plane crash scenarios and staying up all night being terrified. It got so bad I started to write a will (not a bad idea in general, but really?! Hahaha) and even contemplated cancelling my flight. What really helped me was bringing up my concerns to someone else. Speaking my thoughts out loud grounded me and helped me see how far fetched my ruminating really was. I definitely recommend it! If you have no one to talk to, online groups are really helpful too!
I feel guilty in things like taking days off if I don’t feel well. I feel like I let my workers down
I just said no to a job because I am already working and I feel bad because it was a job for a friend. Keep thinking I should say yes and squeeze it in, but know I really don't want to and that iverdoing ut will make me sick. I haven't had a day off in weeks.
Loop, loop, loop.
I think Over and over if I put my kids in the right school. It’s been three days with the same thoughts. I don’t know what to do. Makes me feel like I’m going crazy
Thank you for uploading this. My 5 year old son is often responding, “but what if I don’t/can’t?” to things. I always tell him to think positive & respond to him, “but what if you DO?”
Great as usual Stuart!
Point 4 is very powerful. When the negative thought starts I say aloud 'I am not thinking about that!', as also Mel Robbins suggests. It works, we need to make that a habit.
Thank you so much for this!! I struggle with ruminating.
#4 is awesome! Changing the channel is a really good way to think of it!
Elissa, Only if thought rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Thank you so much! 🙏
Thanks! This is one of the most helpful videos I've seen.
For years I railed against what I perceive to be the source of the world's ills (lack of empathy, animal cruelty, climate destruction, theism, inequality, etc), furiously trying to convince people to give up gods and intolerance in favour of empathy and altruism, especially in regards to animal rights and our ecosystems, but to no avail.
Other peoples' minds are generally very closed, or in comparison to my own at least, and folks simply don't want to evolve. At. All.
I've given up trying to 'educate' people (I don't mean to sound arrogant) as previous efforts drove me into a deep, suicidal depression for years, and instead I'm focusing on myself for once.
Good luck to you all. You can only change yourself and hope to be an inspiration for others.
I feel you!
The best way to change people's mindset is by inspiring them through being a good example and it's a lot easier to be that good example if you aren't dragged with negative thoughts day in and day out anyways ^-^
Easier said than done; i'm mostly just trying to convince myself to get back on the horse here, as the current chaos of the world has been too depressing for me recently! 😅
Man, that is right good stuff.
I very much relate to your "number 6".
I tend to visualize every thought/feeling as a bubble that grabs my attention and that I can analyze the daylights out of it. Dissect that thing to pieces, relate it to other bubbles I've dealt with before: total paralysis by analysis, fully in the moment, for a brief instant before that bubble "pops" (i.e. I've fully dissected it and can move on). When the opportunity strikes, I'll journal anything noteworthy.
It is often like I am racing from ruminating/feeling (and possibly reacting), to quickly getting at the recognizing of what "it" is and then doing something positive and useful about/with it. I find that with time and practice, it becomes easier and quicker to get past (i.e. not get stuck in) the ruminating/feeling (and maybe even avoiding any reaction).
I've found that when there are too many things competing for my attention, I have to put a pause on whatever I'm doing to process a rumination/feeling before some self-protection-flight-or-flight reaction to over-stimulation kicks in. It takes a little bit of time and space to focus on that bubble, to figure out what is going on internally, and then let oneself find a little peace and comfort in the knowledge that the subconscious mind will eventually unleash some "ah-ha" bubble, something for conscious processing as it gingerly floats by.
This has got to be the best channel I have found on UA-cam, your audiobook recommendations, words of wisdom, and life experience is massively helping me understand how to manage my adhd. I cannot thank you enough.
James, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I was feeling very sad just before, but realising that I was doing it and focused on the problem and the positives about it really helped me calm down and the pain in my chest was gone. Some days it feels like a curse, but I know it can be conquered with enough willpower and strength. For anyone feeling like they’re in an endless cycle, please know that if you continue like this into adulthood, you will find it impossible to change.
How come you always seem to know what I need to hear? I have had a week of intense rumination, and this certainly helps. Thank you!
Thank you for making these! Even if you say something that seems obvious, sometimes it gives me a good foothold to mention in my sessions with my therapist which means a world of difference for me!
Hi, I’m glad you said this point, because I relate to it too! There are some issues I struggle with that seem so common-sense to solve, but hearing it from someone else as an issue specific to us gives me the confirmation to bring it up to my therapist.
You are BRILLIANT. As a healthcare provider I not only agree eith your techniques but find your videos substantially EFFECTIVE AND HELPFUL. Thank - you .
Ruminating is awful. It's Saturday. I've tidied my house, ate a good breakfast, brushed my teeth, took my shower, made my bed. Got in about a half an hour's worth of exercise. And now I feel like I'm supposed to be productive for the rest of the day. I feel sleepy and I don't feel like doing anything.. But I actually feel terrified at the thought of giving in and reveling in a nap or some other self-soothing but non-productive activity. I have this problem a lot. I beat myself up for not being productive enough. Anyone else feel this way? Is it okay to feel this way? Is it okay just to spend the day looking at UA-cam videos or reading a book or taking a nap? Am I a bad person?
The comment itself made me laugh in embarrassment and "self-recognition", but the big lebowski clip just after made me crack up hysterically! 😂
Thanks again for putting up these great videos 😊👌
Definitely have to use this one as a positive distraction for those days of just sobbing 🙏🌟
I'm 48 and I always had issues with ruminating over my mistakes. I could never shake it off. The only advice had to work with is just stop. Two weeks ago, I had a close friend point out that I have symptoms of both ADHD and Autism. It was a quite a shock, a punch in the gut, but I started to realize why I acted in such ways. Finally finding the reason why, my ruminating stop. I stopped beating the crap out of myself. My perspective of myself changed. I respected myself more. I now see myself more valuable.
For the past 37 years I had no idea what I've been struggli about thisng with this is exactly a little to it and thank you for the steps for helping me try to control how I respond with my mind
thank you, you have no idea how much this video is helping me right now.
I'm going threw this more an more each day ...thanks for this brotha it's becoming harder an harder each day so this helps me a lot ✌️❤️
You are saving my life thank you
Is ruminating part of emotional dysfunction? I take pride in my work. I boiled up inside when i was criticized/corrected. A lifelong trait i hate but am beginning to understand more as i learn more about my adhd. Now i had to keep working but i saw my self quitting right there and with low impulse control and everything else, i was on a tight rope. Things couldve went sour quick. I cant afford to quit. I focused on my smptoms, i prayed, i kept my mouth shut and within a half hour we were laughing about something. Im not a church/preach guy though im a christian. God helps me all the time. He's leading me out of my chaotic adhd life and i really believe he led me to these videos. So thank you and God Bless.
Really clear video, especially when your ruminating about things and your adhd brain already has a million thought, it just needs simple grounding steps.
Very timely content!! I’ve been ruminating off and on about something ultimately pointless (and not unexpected) for the past six days. I’ve been doing exercise every second day which is definitely helping though.
Well said.
Spot on! We don't have control over others. We have control only our reactions or responses to the event. For some people it's easy to stop ruminating thoughts. For me it's harder. I was verbally shamed by a group of women today because my dog got in a fight (this is not his normal behavior). I think it is because he was surrounded by a pack of 12-15 dogs and got nervous and he just left the vet so he was still carrying some anxiety. Yesterday he was at the same park and behaved playfully as usual. I think it is the public shaming that sent me into a spin
Good tips! This is the thing I struggle with a lot..
I've got a severe rumination problem - most recently I had a run-in with authority and I made the situation a thousand times worse by doubling down and lashing out at this person when they were trying to do their job. I know what I did was wrong as I made a severely bad impression of myself and I'm not trying to make myself the victim here, but I just don't want this bad encounter with an individual to take over my thoughts
Thank you for this video. I have so many problems with this. People are always upsetting me. I just found out that I have ADHD. I hate not being able to connect with others because I think that they are upset with me or just don't like as a person. I am always so kind to everyone and don't understand why they would be so hateful.
Does ADHD medication help with rumination and racing thoughts?
I feel so fortunate to have found your channel.
The dude will abide after watching this video! 😂 🙌 thank you
Sophie, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
A few days ago, I had the idea that I have adhd presented to me. I haven't been formally diagnosed yet (I have a meeting set up, yay!) but, I feel as though a weight has been lifted. It explains SO much of my life and I have done nothing but reserch since. Your videos have been a big help for me, thank you.
Cant lie my man these are some really good tips. Nice knowing there is other people who can watch and manage their mind. Not easy or a breeze but a possibility to feeling true happiness.
Never been diagnosed but I know that I’ve had this from day one . As a kid (and I’m 57 now ) I was super hyper active I almost feel like those years were the best times of my life other then school. Now I have a hard time leaving the house. Crazy
I have become the same exact way.
This video is something to think about... constantly
Thanks for the that my friend 🇬🇧😎🙏
I went to an EPT (emotional polarity technique) practitioner and in one session she pretty much reduced my anger issues by 90%.
That single EPT session did more for me than 10 years of seeing psychologists and psychiatrists.
I have now idea how she did it but it worked.
What’s the emotional polarity technique? I’ve ever heard of that before and I’m always trying to find new ways to combat my negative thinking
@@cerealis_5432 Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I try to tell people and they always tell me I'm too negative all the time.
Thank you for the video! I'll distract myself with something positive and creative.
Makes sence , I will go through the day applying it.
I genuinely love ur videosssss So helpful?? what a king 👑
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At the worst point, I would just have to suffer through hours of anger or sadness. It really was horrible. I was undiagnosed and had to spend all my time like this alone.
I try to vent to my family and partner but they say they don't won't to know or care 😢.
I love 💘 all ur videos and they r all so helpful and I have a really bad problem with negative thinking. Thank-you this has helped
I got worse over the years since I was diagnosed late, early adulthood. My anger and low mood was out of control, I was an unpleasant human and I blamed the world for my situations.
Whether disorders like this are real or not, my ‘diagnosis’ helped me understand why I have felt like ‘the odd one out’ for all my life. More importantly, that I needed to change. My biggest mission was to become a better person. That meant managing to overcome, what I believe in, low frequency vibrations- anxiety, low mood, anger, etc.
It’s been a wholesome journey and a large progress has been made. I listen to all sorts of interesting talks and I have gained an interesting outlook on life. I take my medication, meditate and need frequent exercise to help further manage.
For my next step I would like to start cutting down on the usage of my medication. The routine I have is great, but I worry about becoming dependent and the long term effects of the medication.
Over thinking i have learned is a big stressor
Thanks for the tips, I’ll try them out for sure. 😊
Very well explained, thank you for these videos ))
rumination is something I definitely do. I am horrible with vocabulary and words so it's nice to identify things 3:
I read "how to stop urinating over your negative thoughts [ADHD]" and was like .... eyy at last, a symptom I don't recognise!
What if you can’t distract?
Amazing advice! Thank you!
Beautiful, beautiful video
Hmm,I find my self doing this too much .It does make me feel "normal " again, when I realized that iam not alone .Sometimes it's just best to self discipline yourself ( well it's what I do )by mentaly telling your self that everything is alright and that I have just overreacted .Kinda like a prep talk, but it works for me .I know this is probably a popular tactic, but just keep this in mind next time you find yourself in this vicious cycle.Or just try it .
Thanks 💐🇬🇧🙏 my son is 23 and he is ruminating and ruining his present anc future...
This got no dislikes. Good job sir. Keep it up👍
UA-cam has recently abolished the dislike count display on all videos, so I probably did have a few 😂
@@ADHDMastery really... interesting 🤔
Idk if this also happens to others but my ruminating is literally anything i can remember like some song or something someone said idk how to fix this
This is my major problem with the education system, this os all based on a requirement of someone 'recognizing' their own problems, but there are many of us who have never had a negative thought that we can ever see ourselves as inappropriate.
Anytime I've ever been angry or gone off and thought about it again later, it is still felt like the absolute appropriate reaction. such as when I went off on the lady for leaving her dog in the car in the heat and it was obviously sick and other people got involved as well because they were angry about the situation also.
If it wasn't for the other two strangers I would have been just looked at as a ranting fool.
If I had decided to just go calm down then the dog would have died but it was my ranting they got the other two people involved.
Now yes this is the situation with a dog's life involved and there were other people that were clearly in agreement with what I was doing and saying however that doesn't seem any more appropriate than any other time that I've ever gone off about anything.
When would it ever be appropriate to self-soothe or to calm down other than when the situation no longer exists?
how is this method helpful who is this method helpful to and when and how could this method ever be used in a beneficial way because anyone that's acting out of line can't tell they're acting out of line and if they can tell they're acting out of line then they will not act out of line.
Thank you
Do medication help for ruminating negative thoughts for you?
The genocide going on in Palestine has been causing this to happen to me a LOT. It’s extremely difficult to get all those images of dead/maimed children and destroyed homes out of my head. This is the most angry I have ever been in my life, but I’d feel guilty if I ignored it.
I have BPD and I ruminate on how bad of a person I am
I struggle with this a lot. Wife is very critical. Making it worse.
Great video! 👏👏👏👏👏
This is so helpful thanks
Hey i wasn't able to get through to your website to book an appointment appointment so I could pick your brain a bit on a reoccurring struggle that has me stuck in a loop n dragging down others around me
Eh oh honestly I’ve had ADHD my whole life and never felt right. Literally 22 and am just starting medication because I wanted to be deemed “normal”. Tonight is the night I’ve finally realized who I am and what to do about it. Just my part i dont know anyone else with ADHD but you all feel like my family reading some of the comments. I hope someone reads mine and feels loved and like they belong because you matter and your not crazy even if you feel as if you are.
Ruminating: to think deeply about something.
I had to l👀k it up 🤷♂️ 😆
I have cut out all the negative and destructive things in my life over a year ago... gambling, smoking, illegal drugs, poor sleep, isolation, no exercise, bad eating habits.
And now I am doing everything that should make me feel happy. But I feel depressed as shit, and my life seems to be falling apart worse than ever.
I have many professional help outlets. But I thought it can't hurt to ask others with ADHD if they have been here before.
Is there a solution.
Or am I permanently doomed
Well done for making as much progress as you have 👍 I’m sorry to hear you are not yet reaping positive benefits from your positive changes.
It can take time to effectively replace all the negative coping strategies with better, healthier ones. I think one of the hard things is that negative coping strategies generally give you a “quick fix”, so you instantly feel better, despite the fact that overall they are damaging. Bear in mind that positive cooing strategies may not be as immediately powerful, but can have a significant impact over the long term.
Being able to think and act based on long term is something many people with ADHD struggle with, so keep experimenting and learning about what works for you. I really like the channel “How To ADHD” - fantastic accessible advice for people with ADHD.
Also Dr Tracey Marks here on UA-cam does very high quality mental health and self improvement videos.
Good luck 😊💚👍
@@brindmusicnerd thanks for the supportive and encouraging message, today is already feeling better than last week.
I love Jess at how-to ADHD.
But I'll check out the other channel, because I've never heard of that one.
Knowledge is power! 🤗❤️
@@HareKrishnaPerth you’re very welcome ☺️
HALI, Only if though rumination affects your health consulting a psychologist is needed. Reprograming the mind is needed. . Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath for around 10-15 minutes. Be as still as possible. Many thoughts will come which is ok--slowly negative thoughts will reduce and your mind will relax. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Best part is mood swings also reduce. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. For more relaxation enter the following on google search and listen before sleep repeating the affirmations in your mind for 10 minutes. . -“52Hz affirmations for health and healing you tube”. You will get relief quickly. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Buddhism help me a bit on this. . .
You are holding to suffering!
The suffering is not holding you!
Hey there, been watching your videos and I am absolutely terrified that I might have ADHD. I will ask my university to test me but I feel doomed if it turns out to be true.
How did your test go?
It’s worse when your dealing with romantic feelings.
I'm ruminating over someone for decades.
I've got a new exciting career and has a numerous series of test being qualified, having an ADHD I always jump to negative conclusions I always think of the worst case scenario and alotnof what if - even if I haven't started the training yet!
This is also hinders my previous career due to scared of failing and too much overthinking. :( anyone does the same? Any tips? Thanks
Have you ever experimented with low carb diets to treat ADHD? I find carnivore diet and sometimes a treat works wonders
I have, but it doesn't make any difference for me. I find carb *quality* to make a difference though.
@@ADHDMastery yes I find that when i eat crap foods my thinking is like through a smoke screen!
Question, have you ever taken the MBTI personality test? I was wondering if people with ADHD tend to have certain group of personality types
I'm not sure if there is any link. I believe I'm an INFP.
@@ADHDMastery More research needs to be done but from what I am noticing on reddit and youtube, it seems the first three letters seem to be really common for us. I am INFJ