How I Stopped Ruminating
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- Опубліковано 17 чер 2024
- What is ruminating, why do we do it and how do we stop? In this video, I want to take some time to answer these questions while also providing some insights on how I began to break the dysempowering habit of ruminating.
Simply put, ruminating is a chronic habit of repeating the same thought subject in your mind, over and over again in cycles, with little fruit and peace. Even though this habit is unhealthy and unfruitful, so many still seem to fall into it.
I ruminated as a way of life--spent many years "spinning," examining, anlayzing, assessing and debating within myself all day long. I was left in chronic loops and assessing questions I did not need to answer.
Until I discovered there was a better way to live.
The truth is, if you ruminate, little breakthrough is going to be experienced unless you realize that the habit is unhealthy and not what God designed you for. But it may help to learn why you worry.
Some feed ruminating as their daily pattern of worry. They have become worry warts and cannot see themselves living without worry. Some become obsessive compulsive, where ruminating actually becomes their compulsion--their way of trying to find peace and make things "just right."
But ruminating is a trap. In this video I want to show you why we ruminate and ten things that helped me break free from its clutches.
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This has been so helpful! When I first clicked on this I didn’t know you were a Christian and when I heard you talk about Jesus I knew I was in the right place and that He brought me here for a reason. Thank you!!
Me too. I am looking for the right answer to my problem and I know Jesus is who to turn to. I kept looking at other videos and had that check in my spirit. Then when I opened this one and heard that precious name- JESUS- I knew this was the one I needed to watch and listen to. ❤️
Oh wow then can I be a triplet with you two bob and lisa? Because Jesus brought me here too. ❤️ I love you brother and sister and I love Jesus. I just want to be sanctified from these damaging thoughts. I feel poison in my body because of this disease and I’m praying for Him to turn it around because by my own will I cannot.
@@genesiscreationz7779 absolutely! It’s so comforting to commune with fellow believers who are struggling with mental health too! I’m so grateful to Mark for his ministry. Oh btw, I’m your sister in Christ 😊. Bob is just a nickname
that’s beautiful!
Amen brother...same here.👍🏻🤝🏻👋🏻😁
It’s so hard, but I know God is going to help me.
How are you now?
I love how Mark implements Jesus in this process.
I think he is the only one who deals with severe anxiety in relation to Christ
I do 😔
Can you help me pls
Yeah so good !
I need to hear this. I am the world's biggest worrier. I am a master at ruminating, and I need to stop it. Lord, please help me to stop this habit.
Here I am listening to this again. I really need a breakthrough from the condemnation I feel with intrusive thoughts that cause me to ruminate on them.
I'm gonna watch this again. Thank you Mark. This is what I do everyday ever since I was 12 now I'm 29. Ruminating is torture.
May God guide you out of it. God bless
Yes it is. Hope you have been able to make some progress.
Started when I was 13 and I’m 24. I found out im a people pleaser. I want people to like me. To love me. But I don’t let them know me. Along the way I lost who I am. I’m trying to stop now. I’m trying to be brave.
Mine started when I was 11.....
Gods word has a power to change you, while our rumination has no power over us. This is so good.
I have struggled with OCD since the age of 5. I am turning 30 in August. I don't want to keep taking this rumination into every year. Thank you for this video.
Same ive been ruminating since that same age. Im now 31.
Im OCD too
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Starve the monster. :)
@aarav_s5 it's hard and difficult.
Just wanted to say something that got put in my heart. And listen closely.
This is a proof of that why God let some of us go through stuff like this so we can strenghten those who go through the same things as many of us do. Mark, The Lord bless you!
Now if you want your ruminating to stop, you have to let go of all controll. Rest in the Lord. Because everytime you ruminate you take matter in own hands and thats not giving it all to the Lord. Ask the Helper wich is the Holy Spirit to help you with this. Again, this will not be easy!! This will be very hard at start but will get easier and easier but you must ask the Holy Spirit to help you else its impossible. Sometimes I notice that my fleshly nature starts ruminating by itself because I have been doing it for so many years and I did it before I even accepted Christ in my life. But once you notice that just pray that the Holy Spirit help you and take all thoughts captive in Christ. Learn to know the Lord personally and watch things change!! Let go off all controll and just trust in the Lord no matter how hard it is because if you take matter in your own hands it will never work and I tried this myself many many many times! I am still in a process of this but since I have been doing all this the Lord has been so good! Spend time with your father! Dont just pray before you sleep etc, spend some time at Day, go in your room pray in silent only between you and him. Give him your heart like David did!! Let go of all controll! All glory to the Most high God Jesus Christ! Amen
This was beautiful and is true! Thank you for sharing as one who’s just starting on this journey!🙏🏼Praise God He is merciful!
That is how I have been living. Always. Always thinking ahead. I am so obsessed about future. Going down countless rabbit holes. Weird thing is I seem to find a comfort in that. I hate it so much. Living in the moment is so foreign to me but I am desperate in wanting to learn.
I totally understand as l have done this almost my entire life but thank God for teachers like Mark helping us out of this pit of rumination.
@@Loved2024 yes. Amen to that!
I thought I was being THE MOST PRODUCTIVE when ruminating. I needed this video 20 years ago. This is sooo good.
3 days ago, my mentor explained to me that I'm ruminating. It took me 3 days to fully become aware of this.
As I stated prayer this morning, and my daily readings, I had the realization that I ruminate constantly. I've done this my whole life. I'm now aware of this. I have such a willingness to let it go. It has crippled me. It has led me to addiction and evil. Nothing good has ever come from my rumination. Today I'm aware that this is likely the ROOT cause of my anxiety, my fear, my worry and depression.
Please God, I pray for the strength to let go. I pray for the courage to be aware and to stop ruminating.
Thank you for your video and words. You helped me today... and that is priceless.
How are you holding up
Mark saying it needs to be starved like an addiction was an eye opener for me. God has slowly taken me out of many addictions but never did I see rumination as a kind of addiction. This video is more helpful than some therapy. I even ended talk therapy when I gave my life to God because of reading the bible, praying and fasting is the only thing that has changed anything in my life......can't thank Mark enough, wow.
My biggest addiction is reassurance seeking and getting so sad I start to overthink if I am making the right decisions. The minute Pastor Mark said God will never use stress and fear to speak to us I knew that I was giving into fake things and that it wasn’t idolatry. I do have a fear to give things up I like doing bc I like doing them, but that isn’t idolatry that’s just my illness manipulating all around to make me feel like my decisions or feelings are based off things I want to do and not genuine feelings in my spirit. I now know I need to live in the uncomfortable with faith I am making decisions that are good and faith in The Lord. No fear no cleanup.
Ruminating feels like driving your car in 1st gear all day long. The pain brought me to my knees. Thanks for your help
I was ruminating while listening to this video. Rewinding the parts again and again where I missed. But finally I got the the beautiful message from Jesus which calmed me alot. Thankyou. 🙏
Thank you so much. Rumination seems tougher than physical compulsions. But very helpful
I feel like in a real way ruminating distracts and separates you from God relationally
Wow thank you! I was praying about this yesterday, because I have been ruminating on the same issues for a long time. Somewhat feel as though I would get somewhere by thinking about it over and over again, but it's brought stress and impulsive and double minded decisions. In the effort to stop, I went on UA-cam to find videos on ruminating. I couldn't find anything Christian. Your video has been right on time and a huge blessing. All your videos that I have watched have been a huge boast of encouragement and help. Thank you.
praying about the content of your obsession can be an OCD compulsion too when you use it to reduce anxiety
Same
@@vidnir5259 absolutely, or compiling research and filling your head with knowledge because you think going down the rabbit hole will is where you’re gonna find the jigsaw piece of certainty that answers every question
@@stars19735:0
So true
I don’t even know where to start. I am a 17 year old girl who was previously a Christian. I left the faith in 2021 and that same year I started experiencing rumination. By the end of 2021, I took matters into my own hands and started to live for myself disregarding rumination. Not till around the same time as 2021, last year (2022) I had experienced the rumination again and currently going through it January 2023. The truth is, I can’t do this on my own. As said in the video, I need to learn how to think again. I struggle with the same thing of needing to think and think hoping to find an answer… “should I ruminate or not?”, “I need to find this answer!” And I don’t even know what that answer is! I can’t do this on my own anymore, I’ve tried the universe, angel numbers, signs, all of that but it’s foolishness. My brain has been trained to CRAVE certainty and digging and digging, leading to nothing but misery. But my mind says “no”, you’ll find it. I need to retrain my mind, my brain. I want to be normal and think normal thoughts. I need someone to guide me with my life whilst having my own individuality. Please pray that I can reconnect with God and be delivered from this. Amen.
Please watch "Hells best kept secret" By Ray Comfort on UA-cam. It is lifechanging
ruminating has become such a habit for me, sometimes i don’t even notice in doing it.
So liberating. Praise God for this teaching
This video describes what my life has been like for the past 10 years. I am so glad I came across your videos. It's changing my life ❤
There was so much in this that was super encouraging oh, and honestly very eye-opening of how I’ve been living for a very long time. Thank you so much Mark. I’m looking forward to this journey of Freedom
I've listened to this so many times. When I catch myself spinning over a relationship or my own mistakes, I listen to this and it's so nice to help put me back into a better mindset and take it all in. Thanks, Mark!! ❤
This teaching was nothing less than amazing, thank you so much Mark for reaching us. I personally thank God for your ministry. Completely life changing.
Amen, thank you for doing these videos. Timing could not be more perfect for me needing to hear this.
thank you so much for these videos. you don’t know how much they have helped me.
This stuff is GOLD! Thank you Mark! Awesome !
I needed this! Thanks. After the military, I've been going to therapy (still am), but this helped me more than he did (does).
Omg!! I so needed to see this video!! I have this disorder and didn’t even realize it. After watching this video I’m started my journey breaking free from it.
This is so well done, as a non-religious person, I was still able to get so much peace from this. Its not preachy or saturated in a 'religion only' lens. thank you
I am so. Thankful and grateful that I found you here on utube !!!! Thank you... I subscribed and will watch your videos.. as they are exactly what I’ve been going through....
So needed, thank you Mark🙏
What a timely message. I just came across this today and the timing is perfect!
So grateful to know about your channel, Mark.🙏🏼💜✝️
Thank you Mark.
I just found your channel yesterday and I have never felt so understood.
I never really knew how much fear and worry controlled the way I think and see the world. I never knew that I might have ocd and not just severe anxiety.
I have struggled a lot since childhood with intrusive thoughts and a rejection mindset, etc.
Now that I am in a committed relationship, my "ocd brain", has really caused damage to our happiness and our success as a couple. I have a tendency of ruminating over past arguments, past mistakes and also a very hard time of letting go. I also tend to complicate things in my mind, making things much bigger than they are and dive deep into arguments without being able to end the conversation. It's like an endless loop.
I get "attacked" with negative /scary/disgusting photos in my mind, that just pops up and makes me hold on to certain things even though it was resolved.
I also always want to fix things, I go into this "fixing mode", where I just need to fix stuff all the time, fix my relationship, fix myself etc. If my boyfriend is in a bad mood, I get fixated on it and feel a need to "solve" it.
It is so exhausting!
Sometimes I feel like I am going crazy because my mind just never stops.
Well, I am so grateful for your channel because you truly gave me a lot of insight!
I didn't even notice some of these things, even though others have been telling me!
So I am so happy that I found your channel and your wonderful advice. 🙏
I would love to hear more about your challenges in your relationship with your wife and how you overcame them!
God bless you Mark! 🙏
@vardagstankar you have just described my brain. Has ruined many relationships. Hope it works out with you and your boyfriend. 🙏🏼
This is really great, you address some amazing points and you've truly tackled everything down Mark. I solute you. I took notes of all the steps, and now the issue is while I'm ruminating on something I play through all the steps you addressed in this video and that's messing my mind up because I end up ruminating about all the steps and feel like I can't absorb them all... I end up ruminating about ruminating. For example I say, "God is with me, god doesn't ruminate neither should I, he is with me", "ruminating is exhausting no need to over-think things, it's lifeless, be in the moment, God said worry about what's infront of you today, tomorrow will worry about tomorrow - there's enough to deal with today", "ruminating is not my friend", "spinning about the future isn't going to change anything, it's going to make you suffer even more and live an unpleasant life", "be still in the mind, find peace in the moment", etc.. I just end up re-saying these things in my head and feel like I'm repeating them and missing some of the points.. and i end up ruminating and replaying them over in my head. it's tough. Any advise? It's good to remind myself that I'm ruminating while i'm ruminating to get our of it and get back 'IN THE MOMENT' and not spin. I am trying to use the techniques to mention to help me snap out but I struggle processing them all (because i feel like they are all amazing points, perhaps this is the reason I try to take them all in at once). How do you deal with this? Do you just tell yourself 1 or 2 things while you ruminate or do you go through all of these steps in your head? ... Would really appreciate some feedback!
Please keep doing what you doing. Thank you so much. God bless you!
Yes, it is so true we can be conditioned to these thoughts. This is such a great understanding of what we are really doing to ourselves. Thank you for your deep understanding and sharing it. God Bless you.
I absolutely love how you present this with love. I was raised in a crazy environment that used scriptures to instill fear.
Wow, I’m the queen of ruminating!! This is so helpful 🥺 thank you so much. I’ve been going through something hard and it has been all encompassing. I have to get out of my current situation, but that doesn’t mean I can’t have joy on the way there. Thank you a million times.
I will watch this again and again. Until I can overcome this. Thank you so much.
You are you are literally helping me SAVE myself FROM myself!!
God Bless you Mark!!
YOUR calling is helping many!!
Dude your videos have been an answer to prayer!! I have been struggling with this for so long. Your comments about how it feels natural to worry are spot on
Wow!!!! You are hitting EVERYTHING I'm doing!!!! THANK YOU FOR YOU TRULY SHARING THIS. I DEFINITELY NEED THIS!!! I WILL BE GOING BACK THRU THIS A FEW TIMES!!! YOUR A BLESSING!!!!
This is so encouraging, life change. Tranforming to renew the mind. Thankyou Jodie English
Been almost a week NOT ruminating most of the time, and this material really helped. I wanna thank you for sharing these things, and your personal struggles as well in your blogs. For years, I felt like if i didn't ruminate i was being lax. But anxiety builds and it gets harder and nothing gets resolved.
Thank you for reminding us about God's love. Love to try and try, and not feel guilty about not having it all together quickly. May the Lord bless your ministry to the scrupulous (clinical and tendency). ❤❤❤
Discovering your book and channel has been an absolute gift from the Lord. A few months ago I had what I now know was an OCD spiral, where I pretty quickly lost nearly all ability to function. I didn't know it was OCD, or that this was something I'd been struggling with for years without knowing it (although it was much more moderate than its become). I'm realizing that ruminating is and has been my #1 compulsion for a very long time.
It has been hard to find God in the midst of it all, and even harder to find helpful resources that look at things from a Christian perspective. I haven't finished your book yet, but I have found it to be incredibly encouraging and uplifting when I really needed it most. Thank you for doing what you do, and putting this work out there. You have inspired me in my faith, and this journey with OCD. Many thanks from Canada.
I liked this. It was simple, practical, and biblical.
Your videos are such a blessing. I recently ordered a Kindle book from you too. People need help with their mind and to have found a Christian who has videos on this subject is indeed a treasure!✝️🦋😊
Thank you so much for this lesson.
God bless you
Thank you for this! Got to the root of anxiety, depression, turned , renounced ruminating, Praise God!
This is a really helpful lesson, thank you Mark.
Haha now I’m binge ruminating on your videos lol. Before finding them last week I had no idea others experienced this like I have. So thankful for them and a Christ centered perspective on it.
Same!!!!!!!
This is very good. Thank you. Continue to do well.
OMG! This was so good.
I have been worrying now for 45 yrs, how can you be so positive?
That's amazing that you say that, cause I have struggled with negativity for a lot of my life. If you feel positivity coming through, that is so encouraging to know. It's been a journey....
I so needed this. all the videos and books, and therapy. This has been incredible Thank you Mark.
This is going to take a lot of practice for me, because when I try to practice mindfulness and being present... I start to body check. Then I start to "notice" I feel like I'm not connected to my body. I don't know why or how to stop because it seems to happen immediately. This drives me to do things like play games or scroll on social media because if I have my mind on something else I don't notice how I feel in my body. I am going keep trying to redirect these thoughts and create new neural pathways. I wish this was easier though.
@Megan... you described me 💯. I don't know how to NOT ruminate. Half of my childhood was spent in solitary confinement in my bedroom so I could think about (ruminate) over what a bad girl I was.
Same!!
i think it okay to notice how your feeling, but maybe just sit in that feeling instead of trying to push it away by distracting your self with social media , etc.
Biblical meditation can be beneficial for helping you get in the present moment.
This is a great video! Mark you are an excellent presenter, thanks :)
Take this time to be more connected to Him. Read the word and ask God to rewire your brain and thoughts! I recommend reading “Winning the War in your Mind”
This was amazing, thank you so much for your teachings!
When we work soo hard whole day it gives us soo much relax listening to this
Thank u brother.love u man.your channel always blessed me.thanks for the prayers also.God bless you man
Thank you so much. I have been an addict to everything I have to do. Appointments, etc. I am starting time management. Thank you 😊so much for your encouragement and prayers.
This is amazing! Thank you so much!
Thank you Mark for the way you get this profound help across to us. It’s absolutely priceless! God led me to you recently and I can’t tell you how much your knowledge and your approach combined is helping me! Thank you for incorporating our Lords teachings so tactfully. God bless you and your family 🙏
Thank you Mark! This is a great video. It's totally me and I know God is guiding me out of this. I need to "let go & let God"! I will watch this again until I learn to let go!
Praise God! Thank you for the video Mark !
Excellently explained friend! Thank u
Thank you for this. I needed to hear this. ❤
Thank you so much. I just found you and you have really helped me. Praise God!
Thank you Brother Mark for your insights, I have been going through some real trials over the past year or so. I just ordered your book I will not fear! As I have listened to your video's I have been comforted by the wisdom you have been given. I am 65 years old and have some health problems CHF and have really struggled with insomnia which is fueled by fear and have had some anxiety issues a few times in my life. I was baptized when I was 32 and really pressed in to the faith for a while and then I messed up and got involved to drugs and lost my family and everything I had. I recently returned to the Lord and don't know if I can be forgiven because of a few verses in the bible. I know this, since I came back to the Lord it has been very hard because of my trials. Sorry to go on like this, you seem to really want to help people which is a good thing. God bless you brother!
T Man. I am going through a very similar situation. What is CHF?
I hope you can get help and get to a place of feeling forgiven and have more Peace. It’s one of the worst states to be in when you feel like you lost your peace with God. the health issue on top of that is terrible. I pray God show His Mercy which is infinite. I myself am not giving up on His Mercy and call out to Him
T Man, Congestive Heart Failure. If you are able to get an anointing and confess your Sins, and Trust in Jesus. He wishes that none ne
lost. I am praying for the
Lord to surround you with Peace and
Love and Mercy. Amen
@@jacqueschauvin1398 Thank you for your kind and caring comments Sir. CHF is Conjestive Heart Failure, but God has been merciful to me and gives me strenght to go on, I thank him for that. I pray you find the peace of mind you need and the Lord dwell with you brother.
Thanks I've been going this over a recent break up
Thank you for this incredible message I truly pray that God will lead me through learning how to live the way He wants me to live. I cannot continue in ruminating any longer. God bless, and thank you for this message.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. So perfect for my situation!
wow! You just mentioned my savior at around 4 minutes... You have my subscription...!
First time here.This clip was an answer to a prayer. Very specific answer to desperate thoughts in a shaking and almost ruined mind. Glory to God! And thank you.
Wow! So helpful! Thank you Mark! I feel this is exactly what i’m learning right now, and it’s so good to rest in knowing that God is gracious to me, I don’t have to get everything right. God allows me to learn in the doing. I a lot of pressure is taking off my shoulders.
Mark, you are truly amazing in you insights. Thank you so much ❤
Thank you again Mark. Appreciate this.
Just WOW. THANk YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TRUTH and RESCUING and such help !! GOD BLESS YOU!!!
Thankyou for yr helpful lecture on ruminating God bless n best regards from Samoa.
Thank you. I choose today to give my broken record to God. Just for today. Tomorrow will worry about itself. Thank you 😊
Mark be blessed. Ruminating is no joke, one needs help
Wow this is wonderful i worry so much the mind of what ifs ...being still and casting my cares on the Lord
Thank you so much Mark you are a blessing
Great talk
Great video , thank you .
It's tough with CPTSD and Narrccisstic Abuse at the same time .
I'm trying to stop but it's so hard.
I just found out that I'm in this mess .
I feel like there's nobody out there that gets it , I'm already labeled...
Thank you so much, It really helped me so much
Thanks for this
Thank you so very much.
Thank you Mark🙏🏼❤️
It’s going to be hard I can already feel it but I want to be back where I was before all of this, who I was before ocd, perfectionism, just the calm little girl I was… One moment i feel excited to change but the next I feel down because i need to find this answer. I will take the tips in this video and start my journey of healing with God today.
Saturday, January 7th, 2023
How are you now?
I pray that all is well❤
My rumination led to several panic attacks and I’m extremely compulsive 😢
I’ve had black outs in my head trying to remember my thoughts.
I'm too far gone. I'm completely devastated. I lost it all... including my family members and my career job, home, and possessions. I collapsed. I suffer from rumination of my mistakes. Panic attacks, and constant hospital visits.
I have been diagnosed with ptsd, ... constant stress with insomnia and severe anxiety. Also severe depression. Im suffering in ways I cannot put in words. I'm I'm contact with 988. ... I just Cannot handle all this
After watching this video, I immediately replayed it. SO GOOD. I could probably listen to this daily as a remindee for a *good* while. Thanks so much for this gem. 🙏💗
WOW this is sooooo good. I had to humble myself and admit, “this is me.” However, I am so happy that I can call it out for what it is. Have language for it. And now I can take the steps needed to be FREE. 🙌🏾👏🏾
So helpful! Thank you
Mark your words are gold.
28:06 I needed to hear that.
Suffering from HOCD..I am here because of it..A lot of the other channels are not helping
Thank you Lord for teaching US not to worry!! Praise God.
I’m focusing on John who states there is no fear in love🙏🏼❤️