7 Hidden Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder
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- Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a type of personality disorder that affects about 1-3% of the population. People with BPD struggle with self-image, and their behavior and view of others can change quickly as they battle waves of sadness, anger, or anxiety. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, BPD may be linked to traumatic events, brain chemistry, and family history, but these factors aren’t always present in people with the disorder.
Hidden, or quiet, BPD occurs when symptoms of BPD are present, but internalized (Healthline, 2020). Because symptoms of hidden BPD are not displayed outwardly, it can be difficult for someone without BPD to understand that a friend, partner, or family member’s actions are due to borderline personality disorder and not a toxic personality or a different mental disorder like anxiety.
Disclaimer: Do not use this video as a self-diagnosis. But If you see yourself with these symptoms, it's best to consult a professional.
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Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Minh Nguyen
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Berenson, K.R., Gregory, W.E., Glaser, E., Romirowsky, A., Rafaeli, E., Yang, X. & Downey, G. (2016). Impulsivity, rejection sensitivity, and reactions to stressors in borderline personality disorder. Cognitive Therapy & Research 40, 510-521. DOI:10.1007/s10608-015-9752-y.
Healthline (2020, May 28). All about quiet BPD (borderline personality disorder). Retrieved 9 July from www.healthline.com/health/qui....
International Society for the Study of Dissociation and Trauma (n.d.). Dissociation FAQs. Retrieved 9 July www.isst-d.org/resources/diss....
Mayo Clinic (n.d.). Borderline personality disorder. Retrieved 9 July from www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-c....
National Institute of Mental Health (2017, Dec.). Borderline personality disorder. Retrieved 9 July from www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topic....
Vansteelandt, K., Houben, M., Claes, L., Berens, A., Sleuwaegen, E., & Kuppens, P. (2020). Self-criticism and dependency predict affective variability in borderline personality disorder: An ecological momentary assessment study. Personality Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment, 11(4), 270-279. DOI: 10.1037/per0000374.
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If you suffer from BPD, do you identify with these? Can you help promote this video to spread more awareness on BPD if you feel we did a good job describing it.
Yes will do! Also love your vids! It's entertaining and helpful :)
Hi
@@piedondon8726 Thank you! :)
@@sachznaa Hello!
@@Psych2go didn't know that you would notice me but ok-
Getting help is unfortunately more difficult than everyone seems to think it is.
Edit: I was not just specifically referring to getting help for BPD. It's hard to get help for EVERY mental illness.
I know right, I tried getting therapy once and I just couldn’t go. It was too much for me.
Yup. The system goes well this sounds like it would be hard to treat and require a specialist... DENIED! They might as well have told me to go off myself since apparently we’re just worthless garbage since we didn’t tell anyone that we were being sexually abused from forever, until they got caught grooming the next victim when we were starting to get close to puberty. Then couldn’t go trough with going to the police. Have you ever been brainwashed to the point where you don’t even know if reality is real or not? Where it’s all too much and you aren’t you anymore, you’re fragmented now? Then you’d understand. I want to die, unfortunately the other don’t agree and still think there’s still hope. Tick tock tick tock, counting time until the inevitable death.
Getting therapy is practically useless at times for me and only scratches the surface because I consciously and unconsciously deny myself of my problems or minimize them to the point that I’m not really doing anything different than talking to someone I trust about a few basic problems I’ve faced throughout the week or smth.
•KemiEmi• The problem is trusting someone enough that you feel safe enough to talk about these things but then your brain is like “hey remember all those reasons why you have trust issues? Because I do and here’s the list!”
So how are you doing? Did anything happen?
Oh... well, there’s nothing special going on really... 😓 😬 I’m fine 🙂 just a few minor things really 🤔
Why's that?
I’m afraid that my parents would just tell me that I’m being irrational. So I can never tell them about my mental problems.
same here
I feel you
yeah mine too
Well hope you get better! Remember we're on your side!
I feel that
I lost my younger brother, my only sibling to undiagnosed BPD this year. After losing him, it became like a mission of my life to find out what went wrong and that’s when I came across something called BPD. When I learnt about the symptoms, I was devastated. Devastated because my brother exhibited all the said symptoms and yet we could not figure out what was happening to him.
Knowledge and awareness about different brain disorders should be made mandatory in schools so we do not lose our loved ones
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family are able to find some comfort in your memories with him.
It would also help people understand us so we don’t have to burrow further and further away from people and isolate ourselves.
God be with you .
Sorry to hear that.
Do not blame yourself,he chose that ,but agree we should learn and know how to support our kids and our self some families are just hell or an ignorants I have depression non of my family's understanding me they think Im lying
My mom has BPD and it was one of the reasons my parents fought and split pretty early.
I got over that at some point but I'm starting to think I might've inherited it but I'm scared to get diagnosed honestly
I wanted to get diagnosed for depression and anxiety before to get help but I learned how to deal with it better so I didn't go but I'm realizing some things now and I'm pretty sure it's more than that
@Nightfall Hey man! As someone who also has a BPD parent I can say that I also have and had bpd symptoms, just know that a lot of these are learned and CAN be reversed! It takes therapy but it can happen! :D good luck bruv!
Side note: If you're diagnosed with BPD remember, it is not your Moms fault nor your's or anybody else's it's a health condition just like cancer etc. Unconditional Love and Understanding is the best and only way to deal with things.
Also, instead of thinking of the Problem how about thinking of the Solutions! It is what one does with "challenging" news that really matters, whether there are bad days, good days always out-weigh bad one's, hands down!!
Stay strong & look after thy self, self-sooth and treat others the way you'd like to be treated. 🥰
Hey! My mom also has BPD. I got diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety disorder and have some BPD traits too.
Don't be scared to be diagnosed. At least you already have the awareness! Which is the most important part in order to heal. Also, don't be scared of meds, I know they sound extreme but in my case, they have helped a lot and I feel so much better. I don't feel the internal void anymore.
Anyway, hope you find peace and healing in your own terms 🤍.
Its highly likely its childhood trauma from having a parent with bpd. Go seek help anyway. It's very common to have the same symptoms described in this video from being raised by a parent with bpd so don't be scared.
Yeah it's happend to me too, but my father had BPD, schizophrenia, and was a sociopath.
"get diagnosed by a mental health professional."
my family's financial status says no.
self diagnosis is perfectly ok as long as you do a bunch of research!
@@melissa.5020 cool but that ends with self diagnosis. still can't afford therapy and can't actually get the help that is needed :(
living in a country with good healthcare, this seems so wild, like;;; why the fuck should ppl go bankrupt because of their health?
therapy is literally as good as free for me
@@alexcantdrawhands9671 oh my friend. oh.
Mmm this is a big mood
when a yt channel cares more about your mental well-being than your own family does
There's something incredibly wrong about that and needs to be fixed.
@@krecza Most of the families in the world also doesn't care about their kid's mental health, therefore since its the MOST of them, it is considered normal.
@@krecza my parents don't give 2 shits about my mental health... i've tried opening up to them about my anxiety last year (which i'm still struggling with). to summarize in a sentence, because if i explained everything we'd be here for days, my parents asked me why i was getting bad grades, and i said i have a lot of anxiety and i can't focus, and they said to get rid of it and i shouldn't have it, and they were still trying to figure out my problem with school when i handed my problem over to them. at this point i have more than anxiety, i just can't get professional help. so once i move out (i'm 16 right now) i'll get medical help asap.
(:
❤
I really appreciated the ending part about how BPD affects everyone differently and not everyone has the same symptoms, all symptoms, or experience them in the same way/same amount of time/intensity as others. That's been one of the hardest things for me to come to terms with since my diagnosis. I keep comparing myself to others with BPD and I think to myself "Oh... I'm not 1:1 with this description/experience...I don't have this, my doctor is a quack and I'm just sensitive and need to get a grip."
So hearing that really made me feel validated. Thank you.
i think an amazing part of BPD is it’s correlation with sensitivity. it sucks that we as highly sensitive people self criticize the most while taking on the pain of the world, but an amazing part of it is having the resilience to still move forward.
us doubting the validity of our condition goes to show how invalidated we’ve been, but we are resilient ❤️
Honestly, I’m not one to self diagnose. But watching this makes a lot of sense to why I’m acting the way I am. Been struggling with major depression and anxiety for years. But lately I have been very angry with my family members even if it wasn’t even something to be angry about! Making Christmas cookies with my sister and I didn’t follow the directions the proper way. She told me I didn’t do it right and this sense of anger took over me. It was almost like I wasn’t in control of what I was saying. I was just… angry. Ended up destroying my room and punched holes in the wall. Felt a great sense of guilt afterwards. And felt that my family would be better off without me. I felt like 5 different emotions within a span of 10 minutes. I don’t want to be like this. I don’t know why I am like this. It hurts my loved ones. They just think I’m straight up mean. I know it’s something much deeper inside me. I just need help but can’t talk to anyone about it, because I hate opening up like that.
I hate seing people saying "i know" or "i hunderstand what u sufer" but here this time its me who say it because ye i'm also kinda like that
Can't be emotionaly stable and an danger to myself
But i can't do anything to me because if i bleed i start going crazy (hemophobic) do that's keep me from doing it
But ye all of that to say that i relate to what you say
Even more when its with depresion.. hunfortunatly
I get it, but we all need to talk it out. Trust me
@@nana8135 definitely. I was recently discharged from the hospital. I can say getting help changes a lot.
I just know smth wrong with me
But i dont think its smth like this
Im sure i can overcome it
Or atleast i hope.
> I felt like 5 different emotions within a span of 10 minutes
Literally same. Whenever I get stressed or something, it goes from feeling frustrated/irritable -> feeling sad -> feeling guilty/angry at myself -> feeling sad again all in such a short timespan. Though it's kind of surprising since I've never really considered myself the kind of person to get angry much, but I realized that's because I usually direct most of my anger and hatred towards myself. And that's prolly also why half the time I end up being toxic to other people without even realizing it because I tend to do things like withdraw and ghost when I'm upset, but I underestimate how that affects other people because I figure that no one will care yet I also want people to care.
Sorry for the rant, I just feel like ranting lol
It’s so sad when you can’t even talk about your problems to your parents bc their answer is always just don’t worry or just don’t be sad
exactly! When I try to politely explain it to them and ask for help they always say JUST DONT BE SAD
Like oh yes I totally chose to be sad.
yehhh
@@kateissues my mom says “you have teen depression I have depression”
I got so mad
Is like teens can’t have depression that’s why I hide my opinions and feelings to myself
@@seeya3705 exactly then parents are like why do you hide things from me
me after watching this video: wtf i might have bpd.
my brain: nah its not that deep bro. ur being dramatic get over it.
Same
@@saniajunaid8016 same
Same..
Same
Daria?
I have been researching bpd for the last year, because strongly suspect I have it, I experience all the symptoms, and I am suffering, and keeping it all in is killing me. I am now reaching out for help, and I am hoping to enter a diagnosis process with a licensed mental health professional, to find out what the hell is wrong with me, and how I can have a better quality of life in the future.
I was diagnosed with BPD. Years of therapy helped me notice when I'm over stimulated, or when I'm about to go into a depressive mood; which helps me prepare myself and my partner.
“plz reach out to a professional” yeah sure first i have to convince my narcissistic parents they aren’t perfect and i’m not just looking for attention 🤪🥳
bruh im in the same situation. and my mom (the only one of my parents i live with) has the audacity to say that im mentally perfect and fine while shes the mentally broken one.
as soon as im 18 im gonna move out and instantly try at least to get mental help.
@@cataxy5697 same...but I only suffer with depression and anxiety...and the more I stay home the worse my mind gets
@@cataxy5697 same situation except my parents are in a on and off relationship and whenever I bring it up they’ll say that I’m happy and I’m not sad and I’m just looking for attention when it stresses me out so bad I pull out my hair I don’t even get sleep
Seek them out on your own, I'm in canada so it might be different but theres a variety of ways to seek out mental health. School wellness centers could be a good bet or a wellness center in general. A hospital could set you up as well. Which is what happened to me. I was severely depressed and suicidal and i got assigned to a therapist that assigned me to another one that treated me with cognitive behaviour therapy and it really helped. If you want to discuss further and need some direction to getting mental help leave a comment and I'll try to get back to you.
I cant talk to people because I'm afraid they'll think I'm looking for attention....or else I share to much
I randomly found this channel and started watching it everyday
me too
Get ready to be awakened *-*
Same here, and started recommending it 2 close friends as well ❤️🙏🏽
This is about to be me
lol same
I finally found a therapist who specializes in BPD. I’ve never been so relieved and felt more heard in my life.
I saw this video like a month ago, ever since then ive told my therapist. We are currently in the process of a diagnosis, and ever since I've brought it up I feel like I can finally understand myself more. So thank you for this video
can i just ask ?were you diagnosed with BPD ?
happy for you!!
@@notdeadbuthappy5614 yes in the end i was!
How did you bring it up to your therapist? I don’t wanna sound like I’m self-diagnosing for attention or something but I feel like I can relate so much to the symptoms of bpd.
@@prostark8445, same here. I feel like this is exactly what I have. I've been diagnosed with PTSD but I feel like this is the most accurate description of my behavior, thoughts, and feelings.
Me : hey I’ve been worried about a lot of things and I-
Mom : just don’t worry
welp I GueSs it GoNe now ThaNKs MoM
Awww I’m sorry your parents cut you offf like that :(
Sync_Mxlly nah it’s fine
“I keep getting thoughts that people judge me no matter what I do, I’ve been so anxious. I hate it-“
Mom: Its your own fault, you chose to feel that way. 🧍♀️
gosh you have it same here
1- Mood swings
2- Low self-esteem
3- Internalised anger
4- Fear of rejection
5- Unstable relationships
6- Impulsive decisions
7- Disassociation
Unfortunately I have EUPD and bipolar. Confused!! I just don’t know who I am the more I try to understand myself the more confused I get. I don’t know which bits or the bipolar and which or the EUPD. There used to be a tv series years ago called Soap, at the beginning they would give you the story so far and the narrator would say.......Confused?.....you soon will be.
@The Angry Introverted Scotsman okay so there are these inventions called commas and full stops
@The Angry Introverted Scotsman idk abt you but I couldn't read your first message even though I tried. I could not decipher that shit
@The Angry Introverted Scotsman ....I'm in College Preperatory English, I just wasnt trained to read jumbles of atrocious run on sentences. I have astigmatism, my eyes shake rapidly when I try to focus on garbage paragraphs like yours.
@The Angry Introverted Scotsman ok so commas aka *,* are put to separate one part from another. For example: _I like apples, carrots, youtube, and drawing._
Each sentence ends with a period aka *.*
For example: _I can cook meat balls._
And how you are to write it in a list thing: _A. I like apples. B. I like to read. C. I can cook_
And one last thing I'm going to tell you is parentheses aka *"("* and *")"*
These can be used in a sentence as: _I like to eat apples (with peanut butter or caramel), I like to watch youtube (mainly minecraft and among us), and I like to cook meat balls (sometimes with rice or spaghetti depends on my mood)._
Hope this helps!
I’ve been dealing with clInically diagnosed BPD/Bipolar disorder for about a decade now. It took a long time with many different medicines, psychiatrists and therapists, hospitalizations, and growth opportunities to get where I am now. The best advice I can give is to be honest with yourself and others, acknowledge and express your emotions, find useful coping strategies and use them, don’t be afraid to ask for and receive help (you are not a burden), and schedule time for yourself. Also, realize that any medicine or care you get won’t “fix” your disorder or make it go away, only help lessen the symptoms, so it is not an end-all be-all. Keep fighting the good fight peeps
Same
thanks for the advice
Y'all can think whatever you want of me but I find her voice so sweet and relaxing that sometimes I watch her videos to sleep 😭😭😭😭
“Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot, and you’ll survive whatever is coming.”
― Robert Tew
Great quote!
Yeah IM PROUD THAT I SURVIVED A THOUSAND NEEDLES GETTING JAMMED INTO MY BODY AND ALMOST DYING OF A SEVERE ASTHMA AND CHOKING ON MY OWN BLOOD
Northern lights - Geez dude
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One thing we won't survive and that's death.
A video about BPD that doesn’t call us demons or abusive? Impossible
Seriously though. So many times I click on videos on BPD and I swear 99.5% of the comments are from people saying "my ex was abusive and they had BPD." And I'm just like, "oh...sorry" as if I personally had anything to do with their situation.
I just watched a video about the four types of bpd. Unfortunately the psycho bunny boilers gave us all a bad name.
People say that about us? They can go jump in a fire 🔥
it's really validating. when i was diagnosed i burst out crying because "i dont want to be a bad person"
I may not have BPD but i feel bad for you guys who constantly get called horrible or abusive for something that you have that isn’t your fault. I hope that you guys can feel better.
For 7 years I thought I just had uncontrollable anxiety. So many doctors and so many medications to try and get a handle on it. However, after a few visits with a psychiatrist I was diagnosed with BPD. I had never even considered this. At first I was angry and rejected the diagnosis. However, over time I was able to accept the issues I have and am working with mental health therapists.
This video hits all the symptoms right on the nose.
Thank you for making this video
i really relate to this. im getting a psychological evaluation soon and im really nervous but idk why… im pretty sure its bpd but idk yet. how do you cope with having bpd? im literally barely a teenager and im really worried.
@@leeisoffline trust the therapy. It will take time but the payoff is worth it. Being a teenager isn't necessarily a bad thing! You will probably pick things up in therapy faster!
You can do it
I was diagnosed with BPD a very long time ago, but drawing and writing keeps me calm. Thank you for spreading awareness on BPD. you are amazing : )
Okay, this says that you didn't have BPD in the first place.
Me having BPD: **exists**
Parents: You're a teen. Wait until it's over...
I show every sign of having bpd and have been researching on it for a while, when I talked to my mom about the disorder she just yelled at me, told me I’m just a teen and that it’s a faze 😀🤚
that’s exactly what my psychiatrist said, i have every single sign and she says, i’m still a teen so therefore i don’t have it, and that if i did have it, i wouldn’t be able to tell i had it, like what??? like i get my psychiatrist is a professional but what the hell?
@@jackieapplegate940 omg what?? I’ll never understand people who say things like that, untreated bpd is terrible and can get worse the longer it stays that way. I’m sorry that happened :/
Ahh damn bro fvck same, like they'll say things "when your older" like okay bish who knows if i did tommorow when i can do it when I get older
BPD doesn't get diagnosed until you're 18 so your psychiatrist isn't wrong
I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to alcohol. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with BPD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Dude! People like you give me so much hope. I am about 2 years clean now and I feel like mushrooms are turning my life around. I was feeling so lost and nothing has been working for my severe depression up until a couple years ago. but not since I started with the mushrooms for just some few days back then. Kudos to you for being clean that long! So happy to see people like me doing well in the future regardless of what society makes it seem sometimes. For me shrooms are remedy not a vice.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
This summer I was diagnosed with BPD after a major depressive episode. It was scary and almost bewildering to receive that diagnosis after being diagnosed with major depression for 7 years. Having this new diagnosis though makes a lot more sense and lead to my psychiatric team and I to find ways to help myself. So far, we are doing DBT therapy and we may delve into addressing trauma. It's nice to see a better portrayal of BPD compared to what I heard and learned prior to my diagnosis. I'm studying biology and psychology and I had a professor completely shit on people with BPD.
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Was it caused by using fake profiles to talk cos u can’t talk as u by any chance lol
Me: "I guess I have BPD"
People: "So, go seek professional help."
Me: "I don't have any money for that."
People : "Go get a job."
Me: "No one wants to hire me because I have a disorder."
People: "So, go seek professional help."
relatable.
World sucks dosent it
How do they know you have a disorder if you haven't been professionally diagnosed?
Which is why I will never go seek help for BPD, I am positive I have it, but if it got out that I did I would never be able to work in either of my professions.
I don't have money just becouse i'm teen. All what i can do is just sell berries. But people don't pay a lot
I always blame myself, I cut off people, I am being rude, I feel like someone is controlling my brain. I don't wanna be rude. But I am
When I said I cut off people, I meant that I make them dislike me, and leave me.
You and me both 👊🏾
Me everytime. I feel like someone is controlling me and when I tried to stop it, it just makes it worse.
Same... And when they still like me I can't believe it. So I try harder to push them away 👍
EXACLTY SAME
me to
I’ve always felt there’s something wrong with me, lots of diagnoses didn’t fit much but this one is so relatable. I resonate so much with this, the self hate and self destructiveness is so true, sometimes I get so mad or sad I lash out and it can come out of no where, I often keep anger inside and then lash out after awhile, I’ve always been so terrified of rejection and social anxiety that it’s prevented me from leaving my home, I often change my feelings about a person changing between positive perceptions and negative, I am not super impulsive because I am very structured but I often dissociate. I don’t know if it’s really that because I am still slightly conscious but I feel like I am watching myself. I hope I can get a diagnosis but I would have to talk to my mom regarding mental health and that’s impossible for me.
I was diagnosed with BPD. Never even had heard if it. Was angered when I asked what pill to take to fix that and they said its a behavioral problem no pill can fix. I do not like being told I have a behavioral problem especially when I am not aggressive, abusive or acting out. I thought I was misdiagnosed even though the childhood trauma was spot on for it.
But then I learned of two types “Classic BPD” and the less common “Quiet BPD” in the video I think you refer to it as Hidden. I am quiet bpd. Im not a danger to you, only myself. And I know right from wrong and avoid doing those things. Me being Asexual helps as I don’t have the romantic issues more people with my disorder have as I prefer to be single.
I just friggin love how all the little characters have cute tiny plants on their heads :D
I think it is creepy.
@@sunnythehedgehog5026 LMAO
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Yaaaaah fortnite someone said you never miss a shot prove it
Plantheads!!!
My sister has BPD, and I’m here to help understand her disorder :)
Thankyou, from her, me and every other borderline who feels misunderstood by society xx❤️
I'm very proud of you even if I don't know you.
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Then you really are the best sibling ever.
Ily
looking at the good effects of psilocybin mushrooms on depression I had a test, the effects of just one dose of psilocybin mushroom gave me an
amazing healing..
Let's be adults about this. These are no longer 'shrooms. These are no longer party drugs for young people," "Psilocybin mushrooms are nonaddictive, life-changing substance..
You can get out of habits easier after a mushroom trip and get a different routine going, I couldnt even finish a cigarette afterwards because it almost made me throw up with how horrible it tasted.
Hello! It appears I have interests, I want to get some.. where do you get from?
dr.rinehartshrooms
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Once I saw the part of disassociation I felt like maybe some realization hit. I tend to put myself in 3rd person a lot and see myself do things automatically sometimes, almost like I'm on autopilot. I doubt I have BPD but it's something I'll note for future reference.
May or may not have BPD
The list:
1. Self Hatred/Self Harm
2. Difficulty Regulating Emotions
3. Internalized Anger
4. Fear of Rejection
5. Unstable Relationships
6. Impulsive Decisions
7. Dissociation
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I have some of them
@@reshmaadhikari131 fucking quick with the links !
I have all but 5
i have all 7 :(
“She is a beautiful piece of broken pottery, put back together by her own hands. And a critical world judges her cracks while missing the beauty of how she made herself whole again.”
--J.M. Storm
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@@kittykatrat1474 I love this one.
grand theft auto series They are trying to make people feel better asshole
@@carnage2967 im curious how them responding would help anything. What exactly are they supposed to say to you? Aside from what's already been said.
Ahhhhh, Pinterest....
I personally have been diagnosed w bpd and man all of these hit home your work is so important never stop please
I recently got told by my Psychiatrist that she thinks I may have Bipolar disorder or BPD, and she asked me to research more about it to help me be able to know what I should look out for. I just finished researching about Bipolar disorder and I thought it was pretty close, but then I started researching about BPD and it hits right on the mark. So thank you for making these videos to help inform others, it helps so much! ❤
To any teenager knowing they have some kind of mental issue but can’t talk about it because of the fear of being treated as an “edgy teen who fakes mental illness”
Please please please get help. I’ve struggled with my mental health since middle school, now I am 23 in college and it gets worse by the day. I regret not getting help earlier because I used to think it’d get better as I grew up, it’s just not the case. There are services online and especially if you are under health insurance, you can get help for free. Please get help so that you can enjoy your later years and develop healthy relationships. Please.
okay, i'm a pre-teen girl who shows symptoms of bpd, bipolar, depression, separation anxiety and normal anxiety. i know i at least have depression (50% sure about bipolar, my symptoms of it are the ones in depression + moods swings and easily irratatible) and separation anxiety, but i'm to scared to self diagnose. i'll talk to my doctor when i see her in december.
Good person to comment this for others.
no but how. how if no one believes u and u cant tell anyone.
my parents wouldn’t believe me, they don’t believe in mental health even though they know i struggle with self harm. i’ve been suspecting that i have bpd for a year now and i’m too scared to tell them, they think i’m crazy and i just want them to view me as a normal teenager. i don’t think my friends have noticed signs, if so they haven’t said anything to me about it. i want to get help but i can’t. i suspect i have bpd bc i did reasearch and i have almost all the symptoms. i also think i have ADHD, anxiety and depression.
Good advice! 💯💯💯 I spent most of my formative years wondering why I didn't think, feel or react how my peers did when in the same situations. My parents just didn't really care tbh, they viewed me as an "awkward, ungrateful and uncooperative little b***tard." (loving parental quote there!)
Eventually I got sick of having to always put on a front and feign being ok, I completely estranged myself from the whole lot of them, parents, siblings - everyone! Finally, I'm in therapy with a list of diagnoses as long as my arm, I'm 50 now so truthfully it really is too little too late for me. I created so much misery and destruction trying to not be "a f****ng nutcase" (another loving parental quote) and hid so much, that some ships really did sail long ago. I can never get those years back. Don't get me wrong, other people were not the reason for my mental health, nor were they to blame, but I really wish parents would take the mental wellbeing of their kids as seriously as physical wellbeing. MH is no joking matter, but I now realise my parents were more concerned with how THEY'D be viewed & judged as parents than they were with my awkwardness/ungratefulness blah blah blah!
If as a young person you feel you're not being taken seriously, seek basic counselling through school or college initially. Then go from there. Sometimes parents do NOT actually know best, but regardless, please please PLEASE do not ignore MH symptoms. You have a whole long life ahead of you and today is the 1st day of the rest of that life. Statistically 1 in 3 people will suffer from MH issues at some point in their life, that's a shed load of people!
Good luck and best wishes to everyone in this kind of predicament, seek help. You matter and you deserve to be happy.
(Sorry for the essay btw!)
I have diagnosed bpd and I think relationships are the hardest for me. Like, one day, I'll adore my partner. I would do anything for them and I never want to lose them. But then the next day, I hate them, even if they haven't done anything.
Before I was diagnosed, I would act on my hatred and just break up with the person. But now, I just know to wait it out until the feeling passes. It might sound easy, but its not. Hating someone for no reason and at the same time being aware that you hate someone for no reason makes me sick.
Anyways, Idk if anyone will see this, but if you do, I hope you have a great day ❤
i feel u cuz i experienced the same things as u . 😞
Learning to wait out the sudden mood/perception changes and actually "feel them out" is helpful for ANY mental/behavioral/mood disorder! Not just BPD so you're definitely not alone! 28 year old ADHD-er here.
this made me cry
does the hatred or disgust feealings pass?
Not in a romantic relationship, but I had a very intense crush on a friend for a little bit, like couldn't stop thinking and talking about them, and then a switch flipped and I loathed them. I don't really talk to them anymore either. My family was confused about how fast I went from obsessing over this person to not caring about them, actively disliking them and even avoiding them. Very confusing and disturbing to feel. I'm not diagnosed btw.
I was diagnosed with BPD around 4 years ago, your videos help me understand a bit about what I've been diagnosed with over the years👌🏼
I’ve been diagnosed with this and six other mental disorders and no one ever told me why. I think I understand it better now. Thank you.
This is awful, I don't even have friends anymore, I hardly talk to my parents and I start crying or getting angry about everything. I blame others but more on me. I don't feel like I can be happy in the future, I don't even see a future
You’ve got a friend in meee
there are a lot weirdest people in this f*cking world everybody in this f*cking world is weird at some points they can’t change them but i have beleive in my self that i could make myself good so don’t feel that you are alone👉✌️✌️
It's okay your gonna be okay. And even if your not it's fine. It's completely okay to not be okay. Even I think I might have thoses symptoms but I'm too scared to get help. If you can please do. And like you got a future. Everything will work out. And please dont worry, like I'm just a teen myself and I hope and pray your life gets easier. Sending lots of love dear stranger💗💗
I'm sad, alone and so tired of everything. i don't even know what i want, what my desired life even is. i dont have any plans or thoughts about me in the future and i dont know how to make things better
I can relate to you so well. Like I almost cried because of relatability.
I love how the professional has a whole tree on his head 😂😂😂😂
tree of knowledge
@@jungkookjeon-hj3bl Yus.
@@jungkookjeon-hj3bl yess
I didnt even notice! Lol. Maybe that means being rooted... im constantly in search of my roots😭
@@jungkookjeon-hj3bl Hello Army !! 💜
I was shown your channel by a friend a few days ago and just got on adhd medication which has helped a lot. I love your content and it has been helpful understanding myself so I can work on things. My mom and I got in to a really big fight today and I am hoping the videos about bipolar and BPD can help me understand her a bit better. I notice resentment and frustration building and I don't want to make anything worse for either of us and our mental health.
Much love and respect for those suffering with this ….praying you receive the help you deserve ❤️
BPD is so hard to deal with
I can't bear to live with myself most of the times, I feel like I'm in a mental prison that I'll never be able to escape, I'm my worst enemy
I know how you feel 😏
Right there with you.
Yes it's a prison
Definitely with BPD. People misunderstand our intentions and it cages us from expressing our love right.
yep i feel you
At this point youtube is trying to tell me something.
;-;
ikr
same here but I have two things
Do you need help?
Right lol
FR it’s offensive
Finally you made a good video about BPD. Wasn’t very happy about the precious ones that felt stigmatized but this was pretty accurate as someone with Quiet/discouraged BPD it’s very frustrating when peeps try to put us in a box. Thank you for making a fair video.
I have BPD, I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates.
One of my favorite things about this channel is the cute animation styles and the calming voice. Very soothing.
A quote I like:
Talk to yourself like somebody you love 💕
_but the thing is... I'm a circus-_
Thank you~
Pie Dondon a circus full of love
@@Psych2go I'm glad you notice your fans :)
@@spinning_jenny3280 _a circus full of jokes_
I am afraid of going to a "professional" because every time I have tried they diagnose me with different things and can never seem to agree on what I actually have which makes me feel unhelpable..
I understand your frustration. You Are Helpable! Explain to whom you may see next how you feel. Explain it causes more harm to your well being to be diagnosed with anything right now. Its most important to sort your thoughts and feelings to feel balanced day to day. It's Okay to tell them you dont want to feel unhelpable and the diagnosing isn't helping! Stay Strong, You Got This!
@@user-oq9ks3hc3h wtf?
Hi :) I have created a page on Instagram to gather people's stories about their mental health in the hope it would help people feel more understood and not alone in feeling a certain way. I have literally just created it so I was wondering if you'd like to share your story anonymously. The name of the account is lifestories0250. You can send me a message there if you'd like to be part of it. Anyone else is welcome as well. Hope everything goes well with you and you have a good day!😊
um I have this and i am deperesed you see what I tried to say
Unfortunately BPD is very understudied and many professionals aren’t trained well in order to treat it. Tragic
I mean, I know and have known I had it, but I watched this to understand better... And it definitely helped answer a few questions, especially as to why I catch and loose feelings SO quickly, like going from being completely obsessed with someone for a few weeks to losing those feelings or hating that person all together... which is a something I've been wondering about for so long, I had no idea it was tied to my bpd,
I have BPD my whole life but never known what it was so thank you for making me learn about what im going through.
i feel like i have bpd. im scared to talk to anyone about it. i don’t want to seem like i want attention but i’ve been thinking about it a lot and i think it might be the problem. im scared im going to ruin relationships if i don’t get help though:(
I have been there too. I was scared but then i couldn't control myself anymore and I talked with my parents. I cried a lot . They understood me . We went to a psychiatrist. And he gave me medicines. Don't be scared. Talk to your parents or go to a doctor. You're strong. Believe me. Because I'm someone like you. Don't wait until it get worse. You deserve to be happy. I love you ♡♡ . I can understand how you feel right now. You can do this. ( sorry for my bad English)
Hey, Emma, I think, and I'm not alone in this, that it is actually a characteristic of most human beings to need the attention (pretty often AND regularly) of the people we care about. Attention is not just something that kids ask for, either by "misbehavior" or rebellion - it is needed by people of ALL ages. The thing is, the way many people AND MOST Americans are raised is to believe that asking for what you need is somehow BAD. (It may be a "left-over" from our Puritanical roots, which originally came from our forebears in the New England region of the country and also around New York.)
What I'm getting at here is that it ISN'T wrong or bad to need and/or to ask for attention. You can make this go more easily if you think in advance what your areas of worry or concern are AND what sort of attention is most likely to help you with them. Some people are a lot more willing to help a worried or concerned person when they have SOME IDEA (from you) of WHAT they will be asked to do to help.
Now, all of this shouldn't be discouraging. It is really only to say that the ease with which you can ASK for help and the LIKELIHOOD that you'll find family members or friends (you know: whoever you ask) who are willing (i.e., not afraid) to talk with you to help you ARE BOTH INCREASED if you can spend some quiet time thinking about what exactly is bothering you and what you might need to open up to another person about your feelings.
Don't despair, please, because in almost every case you WILL be able to find someone to talk with, either friend or family or a person in the counseling profession
One last thing, Emma: You mentioned that you were scared you might ruin relationships because of your possible BPD. If you tell the people who are in these relationships with you that you are having some personal worries (tell as little or as much as you think is wise, but DO share something) and ask them remember this and "cut you a little slack," because you value your relationship with them and want to protect it from any misunderstandings. This should help, too, at this difficult time.
Good luck to you, Emma, and good wishes from me to you. I have a feeling from your comment that you will be able to BEGIN to find what you need. It IS, after all, a continuous process for ALL OF US.
keep safe and healthy, emma! kris k.
@@vishmifernando6816: I just wanted to say, Vishmi, that I really admire you. Your response to Emma was so loving and understanding, and you shared some of your experience with her, showing that relationships CAN remain positive and she CAN move forward toward feeling better
Brava to you, Vishmi!
p.s.: your English sounded very good, and well studied, to me.
kris k.
I think so too myself, i'm terrified of telling my parents about it cause I knoe they'll take away things I cherish so much. I cry myself every night not knowing why, I want to reach out and get help but I can't..
I felt the same way
*trying not to self-diagnose*
After watching the whole vid : _oh no why are all of these feels relatable_
Talk to somebody who can tell if u have it
@@claudiar972 Not everyone can speak to a therapist to diagnose them,,if your underage and parents don’t believe in mental illness,don’t have insurance and can’t afford it,etc.
Yeaah me too.
I never connected so much to other types of mental illnesses like to BPD, i know to speak with a Professional Doc makes it more safe, but its difficulty to open the fu*kin mouth...🙁
And like i'm introverted as hell
@@hbkoth819 same im pretty sure i have this and im very introverted
these symptoms r rly common things 4 ppl even without bpd pls dont self diagnose
Getting help/going to therapy is not that easy as it looks, it's really tough to deal w/ it! And when the therapist herself makes u feel bad about what you're dealing with 🙁 . i'm going to therapy but i hate to talk to the therapist , i'm scared now , feels like i'm the worst person on earth! So i'm gonna lie about being better , and then deal w/ things by myself later whenust this whole therapy thing ends , i just wanted to confess this somewhere that i'm tired of dealing w/ my ment@l illness , hope y'all dont mind .
Having a watch through your vids on BPD are helping me get more informed on my illness, after a psychiatrist has finally referred me for treatment a decade after the first diagnosis then ignoring it in favour of medicating me for my type 2 bipolar
26 yrs old , diagnosed with bpd this year , I always thought that these were normal feelings for everyone , I even was so sure that everone wanted to commit suicide once in a while
Little did I know
Hope you are okay
Im 18 and got diagnosed with 16... can relate what u wrote. Realised being suicidal isnt normal when i was 13 and thought few years im just depressed.
oh shit that isn't normal? i've been feeling that since i was 8
@@lynnxx1744 that's horrifying
no same i thought it was a normal thing
What’s tough about BPD to the outside world is these are symptoms everybody feels at some point or another. But the depth, the intensity, how much it controls your ability to function and have healthy relationships, is not something you could understand unless you have it. And this disconnect makes it so hard to be understood/to understand
Well said👌
Its also very often misdiagnosed or dismissed...
It's hard for the sufferer not understanding why they feel this way, and it's hard for the people who love the sufferer who don't understand why their loved one is on a hair trigger. The going to work image was really poignant to me. A cousin of mine can't work because of her social anxiety, but feels threatened when I am unavailable due to work. It's hard all around.
perfectly articulated!!
oh my god this. it makes me feel more crazy when i get this kind of response.
Welp, this is officially the first video where I relate to all the points.
Quick question: can BPD look like autism? I’ve suspected I’m on the spectrum for some time, but it’s been slow going getting me to a therapist because of my budget.
yes yes and yes
Yes it can. There's also apparently been some studies that point to a link between undiagnosed autism and BPD but there's not a ton of research about it so at the moment it's just a theory, though looking into it is absolutely still valuable if you have the time.
additionally, you could be on the spectrum and have bpd or...some other combo or not. I'm happy your trying to get therapy. I would also talk to my Dr as they can get you an official diagnoses, if you want. Good luck
Yes, it’s also common for undiagnosed autism to also develop into bpd
BPD can be mistaken for ADHD or CPTSD
I got diagnosed with bpd and sides of bipolar a week ago
This video makes me blame myself less for all of these hidden feelings and it makes me understand sertain situations more that accurt to me
Thankyou so much❤❤
The worst part is when you 'wake up' from the explosive anger, see what you did impulsively and think "i really wish not to be like this" it's very hurtful.
Edit: Love the comments, it's so good to feel like I'm not alone and that my struggles can be treated if i approach them correctly. Love you all, you're not alone 🖤
This happens a lot with my parents and I don’t want to be mean to them
exactly
@@Julia-yk6lj word 👊
@Rimsha Mohammed ...being aware and knowing the problem - watching videos to improve- brings you one step ahead on solving this. Am sure they don't hate you and the best c'd be to address your concern in a calm moment, so for you to find a solution together. Calming exercises are excellent. Try to find some breathing or calming meditation, it will do wonders. Wishing you VERY well.
Yup, most of my arguments are with my mum, now she thinks I hate her
i just want somebody to talk to but my emotions change so much i don’t think a therapist would think there’s anything wrong with me.
if you feel like there’s something wrong, please go talk to a therapist! it’s your emotions, and you understand yourself better than anyone else! if you do think you have a disorder, then you probably do. the only way to find out for sure, though, is to talk to a professional! good luck, you can do this! if you ever need to talk to someone, ill be right here!! keep going!
Just because your emotions do not swing, does not mean something is "wrong" . Emotions are not 'right' or 'wrong' they just are. If you are struggling with relationships with others or feel 'disconnected' from your emotions, that is just as much of a reason to chat with someone as if you have emotions that roller-coaster. It helps just to talk it out with a neutral person who can help you gain perspective.
I feel the exact same way
This actually happened to me :( I have awful mood swings and coincidentally when I went into (most) of our sessions I was happy and wanted to talk about how amazing I felt in the moment! She never ASKED about things, so I never told her. My advice is: if you get a therapist tell them about your mood swings! Tell them anything they should know about!
I never told anyone bout my probs for 1 Year
Haha its gotten very bad now
Im gonna do that gain
A very good friend of mine has a BPD disorder. At first, I didn't know why he reacted so intensely to some stressors a lot of people can handle more or less easily. Then, some of our common friends told me about his mental problem. So, I can manage more easily, now, his overreactions. And your insightful video helps me a lot to identify the main signs of this personality disorder. Thank you so much. 👍👍👍👍👍
I love this channel. Could you do a video about skills for mental illnesses? Like the 6 habits to reduce stress and anxiety!
1:20 Self hatred/self harm
1:50 Difficulty regulating emotions
2:30 Internalized anger
3:02 Fear of rejection
3:27 Unstable relationships
4:00 Impulsive decisions
4:30 Disassociation
Watch full video for full info🙂
Nice nice nice
I can relate to a LOT of these except disassociation...
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@@reshmaadhikari131 Delete this.
Thanks for putting this together! :)
"The purpose of this video is to create awareness, and should in no case be used to self-diagnose"
People: Nah
Right!?
sometimes people don’t have the means to seek professional help so unfortunately self-diagnosing is their only option. As long as they do extensive research
@@amira-eg4qb yes at times self diagnosing is justified but its better to not take meds till your clinically diagnosed and i know thats not easy to do but its better than taking meds for an illness you might end up not having especially with illnesses that are easily misdiagnosed due to the similarities between the symptoms of the illness and other illnesses
@@ghost-zw8rj if people don’t have the means to get professionally diagnosed how would they manage to get medication...?
@@DexDex000 sometimes people buy medication after self diagnosing and take them despite not being professionally instructed to take them
I have BPD plus MDD and anxiety.. this is a very accurate video.. thank you
This has been very helpful. I know someone exactly like this with at least 5 out of 7 symptoms. I'll have to share this with her therapist.
Me: mum I’m depressed I need help (meanwhile actually having bpd)
Mum: you’re possessed let’s pray
she might be right
@@notgonnalie1846 haha😐
@@notgonnalie1846 got the whole gang laughing 😐
@@notgonnalie1846 damn bro I ordered a laugh on amazon. the order got thrown in a lake during delivery😐
Did you get your depression diagonesd
1:21 1. Self Hatred/Self Harm
1:50 2. Difficulty Regulating Emotions
2:31 3. Internalized Anger
3:01 4. Fear of Rejection
3:27 5. Unstable Relationship
3:58 6. Impulsive Decisions
4:30 7. Disassociation
tysm :)
@Hopespeak4ever as calmly as you can, insist on getting an expert‘s opinion. You can tell her that if you (like she thinks) don‘t have these symptoms, she has nothing to worry about, and seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist will only confirm that and put your concerns at rest. Don‘t let too much time pass before seeking help. A similar thing happened to me with depression, and it hurt me tremendously. I grew up, left home, and sought help; I‘m doing better now. However, there was damage done that is very hard to correct and best avoided.
@Hopespeak4ever me too but Im getting a hint or an idea that Im maybe a narcissist.
@phillip abney I'm so sorry, I feel the same way, sometimes even to eradicate myself. However, I know I've learnt empathy, people are good too and sometimes just situations need ignorance. So we are all together in this. Let's learn more about ourselves, forgive ourselves and improve ourselves. I'm fighting BPD and depression right now. I'm with you busy. You're good, you matter and you're valuable. Even if you don't love yourself, everyone needs you, cause how you showed your struggle will help others to work on it in their own ways.
@@itsfroztiitoo I don't really like myself so probably not one of them.
I was diagnosed with BPD when I was a preteen and diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder when I was 30. After years of therapy, I'm able to regulate my emotions. I'm currently pursuing a degree to become a mental health and substance use counselor. My main goal is to become a social worker. I'm on medication and still attend therapy sessions, I've come a long way. it's possible to grow and recover from individual experiences.
Thank you, thank you so much for spreading awareness about this disorder.
P2G: "Don't use this video to self diagnose"
Me who's just watching to understand my friend with BPD better: 👍
Sounds like you're a great friend.
Oh my Gosh, I am so grateful for people like you!! I have BPD, I would love to have people try to understand what it is all about instead of saying the standard stuff like 'You're just so sensitive' or 'Why is everything over the top with you?'
I almost started to cry while watching this. I check 6/7 (I didn't have a girlfriend yet)
I'm using this to say I think I have it and not self diagnose for sure cause I dont have money to seek help from a professional, I'm a minor and I have family trauma and obv dont want my family to take me cause I hate them :(. But you really sound like a good friend. Your friend is lucky that they have you. I wish I had a friend like you.
@@tararosabelle7368 Hey, I hope you're well and will get the opportunity to get diagnosed some day! but pls keep in mind that BPD is a personality disorder and most psychiatrists won't diagnose minors with it. It's said the personality isn't fully developed until the age of 18-20.
I struggled with the symptoms since I can remember (even in my early childhood), mum went to 15+ psychiatrists with me since I was 6 (now 22), even had to stay at hospitals 4 times, before finally being diagnosed at the age of 18 in my final therapy. It can be a long way and most of the things to help you have to figure out yourself, because BPD is different from person to person. So I wish you that you don't have it, it's a pain in the ass most of the time...
I got diagnosed officially with BPD 2 years ago now, and honestly.... it didn’t feel like a life sentence. It felt like THANK GOD THINGS FINALLY MAKE SENSE IN MY LIFE AND IM NOT IN THE UNKNOWN ANYMORE!!!
Exactly! I finally got diagnosed last year. 15 years ago I already knew I had it, but no one believed me and I couldn’t find a good and helpful psychologist. I really wanted a professional to diagnose me, so I’d have it on paper. Last year I finally found a wonderful psychologist and I got the diagnosis. It was such a relief even though I always knew I had it. Therapy has been really helpful!
I hope you’re doing well ❤️
@@lilo5437 how’d you know you had it like what were your symptoms ? What were you going through ?
@@aunyaebledsoe9535 rewatch the video.
I've got my diagnosis with 56. Before I was told to be depressed. The right diagnisimade me dance. Suddenly everything in my history felt in place.
@@lilo5437 in those 15 years did you ever have to be hospitalized?
I've already reached out to professionals for help and have already been diagnosed I'm just using this video for more information thank you so much
The intense mood swings are so real for me..I could go from being blinded by absolute rage or feeling like I'm spinning and sick with anxiety so quick. I cry when I'm angry, I people please all the time, and I'm terrified I'm not the person I think I am. I live in such a toxic household that no one understands, but I'm so glad videos like these help me understand myself.
Do you wonder if your toxic household created your BPD?
@A Matt I really do think so honestly. I've never seen a family be as dysfunctional as mine for sure. It was difficult growing up and still is, but now I'm working on myself more than ever
One of my best friends has BPD and it used to be a very hard and challenging friendship throughout our youth becaus she wasn´t diagnosed with it. Her actions and reactions to me were often so irrational to me, it sometimes felt like being slapped right in the face for no reason at all. Nevertheless, we never let go of each other and when she finaly got diagnosed i almost cried because i finaly got an explanation for all those things that happened this whole time. She also apologised to me for the hurtful things, she did back then. We´re still friends until today, talk about her disorder very openly and are there for each other in difficult times.
Good for you, you trusted your heart
proud of you both
I wish I had a friend like you lol
Do you think your friend would have benefitted by being diagnosed earlier in life? Thanks for the comment
@@Testing-123 Definitely! I guess most People with any kind of mental illness or personality disorder would agree to that. Even with physical illnesses: once you know, whats "wrong" with you, you can start working on it. In the case of my friend, you can tell your friends and family what the reason for your behaviour was in all these years and relationships may start to heal. Naming a problem is the first step to start communicating about it properly.
“Today's tears water tomorrow's gardens.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
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😭😭 This is my new fav quote thanku♥️
Oh hello, i want to ask you something, is there a something that make you always make quotes like this? Just asking
"today's tears will be tomorrow's swimming pool"
-my soul
@@treznopresto4878 Sorry I couldn't get you. Could you elaborate?
I have emerging bpd, and sent to DBT. since I’m under 18. BPD runs hard in my family, and the disorder is judged so much, I’m so glad it’s coming to light now.
I don't know if I am a teenager with too much freetime or actually suffering of BPD but yes. Thanks for the video. I love all of you, take care.
I either have this or some *really* bad anger swings, like, sometimes I have to lock myself in a room and sit there curled up and shaking from anger so I don't break anything or accidentally hurt myself.
Edit: thank you for the kind replies, I really appreciate all of you ❤️❤️
Music helps with my anger
yep its me tho i nearly cut myself bc im so angry with my lil bro and idk why i just lock myself in my room and crying for hours
Yeah...I already did hurt myself, it just made me angrier. I wanna go to the highest mountain and scream as loud as possible 👌
That actually sounds more like intermittent explosive behavior. My son suffers from it. It's hard to watch him.
Me: *has been curling up and shutting down to stop myself from hurting myself or breaking things my entire life*
I don’t wanna self-diagnose, but this sounds so much like my own experience.
I see. Thanks for sharing! How many of these signs did you resonate with?
Psych2Go Internalized symptoms that occasionally escape or produce a deep depressive state. Suicidal thoughts. Feeling like I’m a bad person despite striving to be the best I can be. Can’t hate others. Hate and blame myself instead. Deathly afraid of rejection as a teenager. People I considered friends all eventually leaving me because I crawl into my own hole. Binge eating. Awful dissociation. Rarely in tune with my body. Makes me wonder if I’ve developed BPD to cope with my childhood.
Psych2go I resonated with all 7 sings do you think I should find a specialist?
Psych2Go ?
@@wesleymartin1373 yes, you should
As someone who has bpd this is all correct im glad i have people who understand it and i have a therapist who can help me with my problem
May i ask when i look at the sign i ha ve mostly all except number 4,5,7 what does it mean if i have the one i have then?
@@khaulahfauzolazim7534 it can be difficult to find out, because some symptoms can be related to others, but go with your intuition like i did. I noticed something was up and talked to my therapist about it and she confirmed it ive had bpd since i was 16.
I got diagnosed a few weeks ago and honestly I relate to all of these... I'm really trying to learn about this disorder so I can start t understand myself so thank you for posting this
As someone with ADHD can I just say I find your little animations extremely helpful for my concentration. Your voice is SO relaxing but if I was just hearing it alone I would either fall asleep or switch off because my brain gets so easily distracted. But your animations are so cute and friendly it makes me want to see the next one, but also helps me visualise what you're saying, as I'm a visual learner. It seems quite a lot of these symptoms cross over into ADHD as well.... but that last one is definitely something I go through but didn't realise the term for it. Looks like I need another trip to the doctor to further try to understand what's going on with me... Thanks so much for these videos, they are so well done!
How did you find out you had ADHD? Did you display signs that you researched before going to the doctor? Or did you just go to the doctor about your mental health? I’m really struggling because I don’t know what’s wrong with me and I’ve questioned if it was ADHD or BPD but I’ve yet to go to a doctor (of course I will but I need to know what signs I have first so that I can explain what’s going on). Do you think you could tell me what kind of signs you have so that I can establish if I identify with them? I completely understand if not, but thank you anyway :)
@@Elizabeth-vr8cb before I was diagnosed with BPD, I had to do an ADHD test. They ask you more specific questions about your work and concentration and things like that. BPD is actually rarer than people think. It only affects 1% of the population and if you’re under the age of 18 you’re unlikely to be diagnosed with BPD as your personality hasn’t set in yet. It’s a lifelong disorder but you can manage symptoms better. Unfortunately, I can’t afford therapy and medication is hard to get because (an actual doctors quote here) “you’re only a woman, it’s just your hormones”
@@milliejay1451 wow I had no idea it was that rare. I definitely wasn’t self diagnosing but I’ve gone through a lot of trauma and have had an ED since I was about 9 so I’m struggling a lot while in recovery etc anyway. I definitely think I need to look to seeing a doctor about depression/anxiety/other trauma related mental health problems, though I am worried about it because last time they just belittled me for being so young and in turn, made it worse, so I definitely understand your troubles with ignorant doctors.
How should I go about seeing a mental health professional? And will they eventually decide where my mental health is for themselves or will I have to try and explain what I think may be my problem? (Obviously I’m not a mental health professional so I don’t actually have any idea 😂)
@@Elizabeth-vr8cb Hello! I can recommend a channel called *How To ADHD* , there are SO many videos on there but there is definitely one in particular which outlines some of the tell tale signs of ADHD. Basically my husband was actually the one who noticed my behaviour and thought that was what I could have, then when I sent to a specialist it turned out I was a pretty textbook case. For me, my ADHD is hyperactive and inattentive combined. I'm incredibly easily distracted, hyperfocus only on things that interest me to the point where hours and hours can go by and I don't realise, but can't focus on something that doesn't give me any sort of dopamine... e.g mundane tasks, reading long paragraphs of texts (though funnily enough I can write them, but that's probably because my hyperactive brain is trying to spew out as much information as possible and doesn't QUITE know when to stop🤣🤣), watching something that isn't the most interesting. I struggle to process what's being said to me quickly, or what I've read. I often have to go over things again and again and even then it sometimes still doesn't sink in because my brain has already darted off onto something else. I am very easily overwhelmed by tasks, take on too much, have an acute inability to regulate my emotions... going from 0 to 100 real fast. I have a humongous issue with rejection of any kind, and have lost many friends because of these and more symptoms. It's been a constant struggle all my life, yet was only diagnosed 2 years ago. Another great channel is *ADHD Management*. Check both of those out. Even though I've laid out SOME of my symptoms, please don't compare yourself to me. See if you relate, yes, but get yourself checked by a professional. I really hope you find the help you need... it was a breath of fresh air getting diagnosed xxx
@@AyeshaShaSha I relate to these signs so much! It’s relief to know that I’m at least experiencing things that other people have to deal with as well 😅 thanks for recommending that channel, I’ll definitely check it out. I really want to get a diagnosis (even if it’s not ADHD) but I’m very nervous to even go to/be around doctors because of past experiences. The sooner the better though ig.
Did it take you long to get a diagnosis? And is there any kind of treatment or medication or anything? ( I know that I may not even have it but if I do, I’d like to know what to expect at the doctors) ty!! :D
I have been diagnosed with BPD. BPD is so complex to talk about when you are not speaking to a person that also has it. More often the feelings are so overwhelming that you cant even describe what you are feeling, it can be a mix of so many different kinds of feelings. Anxiety mixed with anger and disgust just for an example, for me that has been how i’ve behaved in deep relationships with girlfriends, uncontrollable feelings that are so foggy and not logic at all, something gets triggered, a thought comes up, a fake scenario is made and last the fake scenario becomes a reality, not in the mind but in your feelings, fake shit can feel so real its absolutely fcked up. I guess its kind of a self-defense mech? Go through feelings before they happen or ever will happen? Although in the end of the day to make things easier you have to be in absolute self-control over your feelings, and also have done therapy to become aware of every aspect of behavior you have. You are not born with BPD, call it a personality disorder but to be honest its more of a in-learned behavior, I never asked for this but here I am, taking responsibility for my own healing even though I didnt cause it, thanks.
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i'm just gonna point out that your voice is so soothing and relaxing. You sound like an angel.
i got diagnosed with bpd just a week ago and you explained everything better than my own psychologist TT tysm
As a child I was always told I'm being irrational, overemotional, belittled, etc. It got to the point where I wasn't sure how much of what I was feeling is real
It still messes with me a lot
I'm very thankful to have a partner who loves me despite my issues. He is always considerate and helps me get through my episodes. I feel so lucky to have someone so understanding and kind
My wife is the same, I'm glad your partner loves you enough to help you through those episodes, they are difficult for all involved. Have a wonderful day
This makes me happy good luck to you both x
Cherish them
I’m glad that you do now, but you ok from that though?
@SmokeyJungleFrog Oh…I’m sorry to hear that, but you ok…?
Diagnosed with BPD. It's really hard to get help, you need to find someone who specializes in BPD or they just don't know how to handle you
Because Bpd is a personality disorder not a mental illness so not treated by a lot of mental health professionals. Look for a DBT group in your area, this type of group therapy is very helpful. Look for Clinical Social workers who often work with personality disorders. Psychiatrists won't see you. Some psychologists will if they choose to work with PD
I understand the hell that is finding a mental health professional you can access, but if you have the means I highly recommend finding an LCSW near you. Clinical social workers are consistently the best counselors I’ve ever worked with when it comes to their knowledge of the disorder and the way they treat you like a real human being. There’s a level of empathy when working with LCSWs I don’t get from your run of the mill therapist.
Thank you for this video! I just had low self esteem and was in need of some reassurance but they suggested to check out if I have BPD. Don't fall to such comments. Seek professional guidance and never label or suggest someone about something you are not sure about ☺️ 🎈
I told my councelor and therapist about your channel and now she suggests for people to check it out. I have spent years and years learning and managing my issues, learning new ways to implement tricks and tools I was taught. I find that bpd is also very hard for people to spot but many also struggle to handle themselves when faced with situations they have no influence over and it involves them. I also account for this. Please any one that struggles with questions do not dismiss the option of counselling! it took me over 8 different kinds of councilors and therapists before I found my current one that I have been with for over 20 years now. always go into sessions be it individual or group with an open mind on things. Remember to think how could I take this and help myself or how it could be something to help another. Learning how to manage your mind and figure out how to manage yourself threw interaction settings will take time, and patience, and honestly quite a bit of self reminders like Maybe it is the situation and not just what interaction happened. Sure people may look at you like your nuts when you tell them how things make you feel. Yet then you have just taken the first step to creating a working understanding between those interacting. Stay strong, Know you are loved, and always believe in yourself ALWAYS. You have a choice, thus a chance to change things when you reach out for help, better understanding, and it is not cheating, but merely a use of resources!^^
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me in the corner thinking that this was all normal: 😰
stop self diagnosing please, and get help if you need it :)
@@Phoenix-cg3hq wdym "self-diagnosing" i didn't self diagnose anything and I do get help, please consider others before speaking or claiming absurd things.
@@Phoenix-cg3hq they didnt say anything like "I have bpd" they just said they thought all or some of these symptoms were normal things that happened to everybody
@@Phoenix-cg3hq how are they self diagnosing?😂
@@hanaremn4193 they’re not. Phoenix is dumb
I suffer from gad, (generalized anxiety disorder), severe to moderate depression, bipolar disorder, bpd and ptsd (diagnosed by a professional) I’m working my way up to a more physically and mentally healthy life. If I can do it you can too, we got this. Just a reminder for today is that I’m proud of you, grab a snack or meal, make sure to drink water and take care of yourself. You’re loved and you are enough, don’t let those thoughts convince you other wise. You got this.
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I hope you heal soon. And tysm
I'm grateful I found this comment T-T
Whoa, we’re diagnoses twins! For real, I have the exact same: GAD, Depression, Bipolar Disorder, BPD, and PTSD... all of which were diagnosed by a professional. And I declare, like your lovely self, that if I can do it you can too xoxox
I have no idea what to do. I have never felt so called out and related to a video ever. Everything you said are exactly the problems im facing right now...
I have BPD and something that i feel i needed to hear when i was just diagnosed with it or when i was undiagnosed is:
You can love and be loved without this disorder getting in the way, you can be a loving and good person, people can love you the way you are.
BDP is one of those disorders with so much prejudice. It is hard, going through it and getting to a controlled point. There will be always better and worst days, but therapy helps, a good therapist helps.
I know it's not as easy to get good quality therapy, but keep trying, don't give up and push through those intrusive thoughts about yourself. You deserve it, you can do it and you have a place in this world. Look for help of any kind. Life can be worth living and fighting for.