Thank you so much for this. Pulling my 4th grader out of public school next week to start the homeschool adventure and have literally had all of these thoughts within the last 24-48 hrs. I guess bc now it’s becoming “real”. Glad to know I’m not the only one. Last week my 4th grader (on his own) told me about how even some of the young kindergarten kids (“not just 5th graders, mom”) curse, flip each other off and talk about “sex/gay stuff” and the teachers don’t have any real power to stop them. It was very sad to hear because it bothered him too. And we really like the school he’s at! My heart breaks for all the kids - definitely different times than we had growing up.
I secretly second guessed myself a lot in the beginning, especially because my husband was quite unsupportive. Our school-aged kids ended up going back to public school for a couple of months last year and it was a terrible experience. We pulled them out before Thanksgiving. My husband is very supportive now and we are on the same page. We do not plan to ever send them back public school... if they ever left home it would be some kind of private/charter school.
In the beginning I second guessed my decision a lot. But now when I think of public school it honestly sounds stressful and harder then how our lives are now.
Every time I have to drive by the long line of cars in the school’s car pool pick up line (we see it on our way to my son’s occupational therapy), I think, “homeschooling is much easier than that even on the hard days” lol. I wouldn’t want to tackle that car pool pick up line EVER! 😂
I appreciate the honest discussion! I can’t see my kids ever going back to school, but like you said, anything is possible and I’m open to where the Lord leads our family. I will say I have never felt more sure of a decision for our family than I do about moving to home education! I love it through and through! And I’m grateful for mommas like you sharing their journey and wisdom you have learned along the way🫶🏻
Uptake in School shootings in the US is the number 1 reason I homeschool, followed by bullying, peer pressure, and classroom distractions. I do have tough days in which I almost want to throw in the towel, and its usually when a child hates the task at hand (could be reading or writing or math) then proceeds to have a meltdown or flat out refuses to do it. This makes me feel angry, helpless, and hopeless. Thankfully its not something that occurs everyday, but when it does I question my decision to homeschool. Then I think of all the harm Im protecting my girls from, how much I love them, and how my selfless act of homeschooling them is completely out of love and how giving up and putting them in public school would be detrimental for SO many reasons. We also love our co-op, its big (100 students) and its a lifesaver. I hope God gives me the fortitude and ability to keep homeschooling all the way through highschool.
@@Olivia_OliveTree Awww I understand. Where I live there is an abundance of co-ops, but I know a few moms who do their own ones with a few families, like a nature gathering or history field trips once a month. By doing their own, they avoid the responsibilities that many co-ops place on the moms, and allow more flexibility. There are positives and negatives to both. It's wonderful you are homeschooling 4 kids ❤️ God bless you
I’m struggling with this now. My 6th grader has become very lazy with her schoolwork and my mental health is in the toilet on top of the regular stress. Not ever having time during the day to take care of myself and spending all of my time standing over my kids, facilitating every activity, cleaning up every activity, never having time to go to the gym, go to appointments myself, clean, etc is taking a serious toll on me. I also wonder if my 12 year old needs to be held accountable a little by someone other than just mom. But then I struggle with the guilt of possibly sending her back to public school. My youngest will be in kindergarten next year so there’s that decision too.
It’s definitely not always sunshine and rainbows in the homeschool path! Sending you strength and patience in making the best decision for your family!
Loved this video so much! I wanted to add something crucial! I just recently had a few college courses where I had to observe an elementary classroom (I homeschool and have for 3 years and plan to indefinitely) but that teacher even struggled with some thoughts you mentioned here! She voiced her concern to me that with the current curriculum she was worried about testing her kids reading skills again because she just didn’t think they were learning enough or even what they really should be to be where they should be at this point academically. So all this to say that these thoughts are normal (as you stated) and public school teachers are having the same struggle and concerns!
Thank you for sharing. I felt the same as you and I had some sleepless night because of those thoughts. Most of my mom friends they believe public school is much more fun and beneficial for the kids so I struggle with my vision is right? or not. Even I know there’s no right answer…Am I doing good things for my kid? So many thoughts come and go but I talked to other homeschooling parents and I noticed public school parents don’t know real homeschooling is. We can done school work in 2 hours or less and kids can go to park, rock climbing on real rocks, homeschooling sports programs,pool and play with other friends, and they can have much more free time for themselves. I didn’t like kids are so tired to come back home from school like workers. I don’t like kids “learn” they have to follow someone and do something by order all the time. That’s why I choose. Maybe I will back to public school for my kids but not now. Now homeschooling is best choice for us.
I had my 7th, 9th, and 10th graders do a trial day at a local public charter school. It was such a negative experience that my always homeschooled nearly 16 yo said “there’s no F-ing way I’m going to that school, and you can’t make me.” 😂
This is our 4th year and my children have never been to daycare or to public school. At least once a week I contemplate putting them in public school but it is almost always because of the pressure. Knowing that I alone am in charge of their education is overwhelming. My biggest fears are that I am not the smartest person and finances. I am afraid they will not get certain experiences because I can not afford it. We are not a family that can take vacations and do all these extra stuff. We also live in an apartment. It is hard seeing most homeschool mamas living in the country with lots of property to explore and do things. I do not EVER want to send my kids to public school but I definetly daydream about what it would be like. The grass isn’t always greener thats for sure!! It is hard to be content and fully happy with how I homeschool because I always fear I am doing something wrong. This is where faith in the Lord gets me through.
Youre doing a great job providing and protecting your children. You are where you should be in this season. May the Lord Bless your home and your home schooling journey💗 Dont worry about the esthetics, the children remember being with mommy, and how supportive you are--- they will not have regrets about not collecting chicken eggs each morning
I feel the same way but believe me it's still better than public school. I think we need to stop being so hard on ourselves we are always going to secondguess ourselves and feel guilty. But the Lord will provide and protect ❤
I appreciate this video! I dont think I ever anticipated to feel the turmoil I currently feel regarding homeschool. I have three children and we are four years in on the journey, never public schooled. Long story short, one of my children has an incredible need for social interaction and is what you would describe as extroverted. I wouldnt consider myself introverted per say, but my social needs are probably 1/6 of my child's. After four years of co ops, sports teams, field trips, hiking/nature groups, playground groups and having to become friendly with all of their friend's parents... I am so burnt out, and this sudden realization has left me a bit whiplashed. I was just trying to rise to the occaison of being in charge of it all, I didnt realize how completely unsustainable our mode of operation was becoming. Currently re imagining what school will look like for us since PS is not an option for our family in this state. Ive laid it at the Lord's feet and I have faith God will guide me with his peace, first and foremost. But i think these conversations are so important to have! With your spouse, children, friends! Sometimes acknowledging things don't feel right is the exact thing you need to open the door to what does ❤ Take care and God bless the decision making process for you and your family 🙏
So hard for you to be friendly with other people for the sake of your children. Wow. Really. Def not Christian behavior. I feel sorry for your extrovert.
@@katemiller7874 It seems you may not understand where I'm coming from, and that's ok. I love serving my children and my family, just praying to find a sustainable balance. Pray for me and my struggles, and I'll pray for empathy for you and that you may never find yourself in my shoes. Merry Christmas and God bless.
@@katemiller7874Your comment was incredibly rude and cold, Kate. Please watch how you throw around the word christian, accusing others, when you also seem to be struggling with hate and bitterness in your own heart.
Fear of missing out will make us crazy. We have a responsibility to do our research on what is available in our area for homeschoolers. My kids are good at sports, and I thought I was preventing them from the opportunity because they aren't in public school but my oldest have been and knows she doesn't want to go back. I remember the tears, frustration, and anger with public school. Co-op has made a real difference in implementing "school" activities, so we are good. Before co-op local homeschool groups met daily.
The first year in kindergarten, they threw woke stuff at my child and made him cry. That’s when I knew I was out. Covid restrictions and that really made me realize I knew I wanted to homeschool.
My husband has been thinking about this, mostly outer influences from his work and family. Its our 4th year and I know my kids don't want too, but it does get frustrating hearing from outside our family.
In NC, you can play sports with the public schools as long as you take 1 class in the school. BUT, a bunch of homeschool Moms in my area and dads got together and we put together homeschool sports teams!! They are awesome.
Good video, so I was at my brother's house and his daughter was saying oh Mr so and so when he's on recess duty doesn't do anything if anyone gets in a fight during recess. He doesn't care😮and then my brother just laughed about it. I was just a little taken back on that and thought I'm glad my kids aren't in public school. I know I can't protect my kids from all evil but I want to teach them what a healthy relationship is and when it's not. I doubt my choice to homeschool every day, especially since it's my first year. But when I encounter conversations like this then I feel better in my choice.
You know I’m listening and thinking as the adult I am just like you said public school experience well put it’s just that whether negative or positive it’s an experience… a time in my life that has passed… each of us will have experiences so I just try to enjoy them there is no right or wrong experience it’s just an experience… tomorrow we will live to talk about yesterday and so on… I have homeschooled my kids and I love love love it… we get to talk about yesterday tomorrow at least it’s not the end… 😉
In Washington homeschool kids are eligible to try out for and participate in sports in the district where they live. This may be the case in your area. Also check into recreational leagues for whatever sport your kiddo is interested in. In the current environment I think elementary age students would benefit from having a parent on campus. 50 years ago my mom felt that the only way to make sure my school experience was optimal was for her to be there. She was never in my class, but she volunteered in the other classrooms or with the school nurse. You definitely have to be involved. For parents who have the time and education to home school it's a great option, but it's also good for kids to get out and meet the rest of the community. And a lot of parents don't have that option. It's hard on public schools and parents who have no other option to lose a lot of kids to home school. Ultimately, it would be great if communities could be more invested in their schools. Not just school board members, but volunteering on campuses, PTA and showing up to school board meetings to really look at the curriculum and be well informed. In the end all the kids in the community are the community's responsibility. It's great that you took the time to really think through the pros and cons of your situation.
I have a child that is thriving in homeschool but when it comes to my daughter a pre teen she is refusing to do work at home her mind set is this is a holiday not school
Gosh this video is so refreshing. Every single thought you said has gone thru my mind. It’s our first year, 2 months in and I’m struggling to find balance. I work from home and there are days I’m so busy we just can’t do school, my 3rd grade daughter requires so much hand on attention from me that’s is so hard to do it all. I’m powering thru and I know we are just going to need to find our flow but the amount t of guilt I have that I’m not doing enough is always on the forefront. Socially, there aren’t enough programs out there and between my work schedule it’s hard to commit since it really all falls on me to navigate jt all. I definitely go back and forth with how I feel. All we want is to give our children the best.
I will say the first year is the hardest or at least it was for me. I think coming out of public school and that being ll my husband and I ever knew with ourselves and 6 of our seven children. COVID confirmed what we were already feeling and opened our eyes to how it could be at home and gave us the confidence to go for it, but I struggled with self doubt big time that first year. I would read the standards and be so overwhelmed and doubt would set it. Researching and choosing curriculum was a bear in itself. But then, I allowed myself to let go and remember why we chose homeschool and one of those reason was so we could do school our way. I think once you give yourself grace it allows you the freedom to tailor your child education to them. Hang in there momma you’ve got this. You know them better than anyone.
Yes same feelings here as a mom, but one thing to keep in mind, you can homeschool any time and any where, sometimes we do our history on Saturdays mornings (1 to 2 hours) , that’s the beauty and freedom to homeschooling
I let my children go back to school this year. It was the worst decision. Its only November and other than being shot at school everything i was afraid of has happened to my 13 year old son. Im unenrolling him Monday and pressing charges. I feel so guilty for what happened. Homeschooling is the only way to go in our area.
Shot at??!! I sent my kids back as well, and things were OK for the first year, but when my son got into 6th grade it got way worse (bullying and horribly behaved kids that he was always complaining about) He's much happier now that I've pulled him out!
Last year our family moved to the best school district in our area and everyone asked if we would send our kids to public schools now. I considered it for a bit, especially since at the time I was severely sick with baby #3 and couldn't do much at all. Then I watched a few schoolboard meetings (they post them on YT) and I just felt sick to my stomach seeing everything going on and the things that were discussed were honestly shocking to me. We pulled our oldest out almost 4 years ago when she was in PreK because in the short 4-5 months she was there, multiple things happened that I didn't approve of how they were handled, or rather not handled. I don't see public schools in our lives anywhere in the near future. We considered private school but honestly the issues are creeping up there as well. Our biggest issue is definitely socialization. We've tried a few different things but everywhere il take them, no interacting is actually happening, they just get whatever activity done that they go for and that's it. (Art Club, Science Club, Music Class, Girl Scouts, Church) I'm sure it doesn't help that my oldest is extremely shy, but she wants friends so badly. I'm just at a loss of how to help with this. 😔 You made lots of very good points. This is a great video for people who are doubting or even just curious about life with public schools. I myself have been imagining all the things I could get done if my girls were in school all day 😂 but then we have random amazing moments through the day and I can't imagine not seeing them all day every day.
Yes, private schools are no better for sure! Mostly because they have money hungry owners who do not care one bit about the students. Only lining their pockets. All three of our kids went to a public school. One now homeschools, one I am about to pull out to homeschool, and the other thrives on the battles proving liberal teachers wrong because he knows true history very well. I am a tutor for private schools. Both public and private are terrible.
I have 3 kids. My oldest is getting ready to turn 17 and when she was in kindergarten she did K12 online which is a public school online then came her 1st grade year and she wanted to do public school in person, I pulled her out of school in August and now she is getting her GED because in my state you can not graduate from homeschool. My middle child went to public school until age 12 then she was homeschooled for a whole school year then she decided to go live with her dad and step mother and they put her back into public school again (she's now 14). My youngest is going on 2 and my husband and I have decided to homeschool him so we are going to homeschool him from the beginning of his education and in hopes to keep homeschooling him until he is in 12th grade and able to take the GED test (unless things change and I hope they do in my state homeschoolers can not graduate from homeschool they have to get their GED or go to the state captiol and take a test to graduate) so that's we are planning on for the future of my husband and my sons education and a little history of all 3 of my kids education
What are your plans when your children are homeschooled and they're studying high school level chemistry 1&2, organic & inorganic chemistry,algebra, biology ,physics,geometry and calculus and they and including you don't understand some of the subjects? How will they experience the full extend of Chemistry and/or Biology if your children are not exposed to a lab? Would you consider putting your children in a public school (high school level) when they become older and the science and math classes are more extensive and difficult? By the way, I have nothing against homeschooling or public school because I understand each have their pro's and con's.
There are options for homeschool science classes with lab exposures as well as homeschool kids can take college level courses while in homeschool for dual credit. Homeschoolers have plenty of resources available to assist in teaching subjects the parents may not be “experts in” most teachers only have a bachelor’s degree and aren’t experts in the subjects they teach. They use curriculum and resources just like homeschool parents do.
@@gatheredandgroundedhomeschool Just to clarify, when you stated that "most teachers only have a bachelors degree and aren't experts in the subjects they teach." Are you referring to public or home school teachers? It has been 30 years since I graduated high school and all my teachers had their a bachelors or masters in the subjects they taught. It was mandated by the school district. How can the teachers teach in a subject they don't have a degree in? Yikes!! I don't understand how a teacher can teach chemistry without a degree in chemistry🤔 I don't have any children so, I have never had firsthand experience with public or homeschooling. Thank you for your time and responding to my questions.🤗
As a public school teacher I can assure you this is not the case. It’s rare that we have a teacher with a content area degree. Education degrees are very general and teachers are not assured to be strong in the content they teach. Sad but absolutely true!
There are many contributing factors. We do have a severe teacher shortage and these are a few reasons why. Quality canidates can make more money working in other fields, the school systems incentive the worse behavior in children, lack of standards over time lead to a cycle of poor instruction and bad working conditions and the weakest people are pulled in to fill empty positions. Just because students are in school doesn’t mean they are learning or have teachers who adhere to high standards. Lack of care in some cases, lack of knowledge in most.
I just make ours in an editing software Canva.....some curriculums have them at the end of the book. Unless your state required something specific you can make up whatever you want.
@gatheredandgroundedhomeschool oh ok. Just moved to Florida. Want to put him public school. Was homeschooling in California and registered him as homeschool. There, you have to register as a school. The school in Florida wants a certificate, not from a book.
I have 4 kids 2 homeschooled n 2 didn’t but this year we moved states so my oldest wanted to go back to public high school n she loves it!!! I’m now jus homeschooling my 10yr old girl however the public schools here suck bad especially w bullying!! My boys were going to the #1 school in our old state (I miss it so much) my 12yr old boy hates his new school n so do I n he wants to homeschool w his younger sister but my hub does not believe in homeschool n he does not believe in spending money on homeschool when they can go to public free!! It has led to so many fights n bc of my illness and no income i hav not much say so in the matter!!! What do I do in this situation I had outside help getting some of my daughters curriculum so my hub couldn’t fight me on her homeschool costing him but my 6th grader I can’t get help to get his curriculum!! Ugh life can be so hard at times especially when ur kids are involved and u want to do right by them but at what cost u know!!!
Can you use the good and the beautiful curriculum for language arts and math. Their pdfs are free online. For science and history you can check out books at the library. Sending you hugs.
Public schools are worse than ever!! Now is NOT the time. Why are you letting your kids decide this? Don’t let them decide this. Not a good idea at all. Public school teacher for 27 years here and left last year because it is traumatic every single day. Trying to make it easy on yourself. Man, please don’t do this. You are doing it for ALL the wrong reasons.
Thank you so much for this. Pulling my 4th grader out of public school next week to start the homeschool adventure and have literally had all of these thoughts within the last 24-48 hrs. I guess bc now it’s becoming “real”. Glad to know I’m not the only one. Last week my 4th grader (on his own) told me about how even some of the young kindergarten kids (“not just 5th graders, mom”) curse, flip each other off and talk about “sex/gay stuff” and the teachers don’t have any real power to stop them. It was very sad to hear because it bothered him too. And we really like the school he’s at! My heart breaks for all the kids - definitely different times than we had growing up.
You got this! 😊🙏🏼💜
I secretly second guessed myself a lot in the beginning, especially because my husband was quite unsupportive. Our school-aged kids ended up going back to public school for a couple of months last year and it was a terrible experience. We pulled them out before Thanksgiving. My husband is very supportive now and we are on the same page. We do not plan to ever send them back public school... if they ever left home it would be some kind of private/charter school.
May I ask the grades and reasons why you ended up pulling them after putting them back in?
It sounds like what happens when we second guess our decisions. I will never send my kids to public school no matter what.
In the beginning I second guessed my decision a lot. But now when I think of public school it honestly sounds stressful and harder then how our lives are now.
Every time I have to drive by the long line of cars in the school’s car pool pick up line (we see it on our way to my son’s occupational therapy), I think, “homeschooling is much easier than that even on the hard days” lol. I wouldn’t want to tackle that car pool pick up line EVER! 😂
@@sarahmogus9464 yes! I totally agree
And bulling
I appreciate the honest discussion! I can’t see my kids ever going back to school, but like you said, anything is possible and I’m open to where the Lord leads our family. I will say I have never felt more sure of a decision for our family than I do about moving to home education! I love it through and through! And I’m grateful for mommas like you sharing their journey and wisdom you have learned along the way🫶🏻
Uptake in School shootings in the US is the number 1 reason I homeschool, followed by bullying, peer pressure, and classroom distractions. I do have tough days in which I almost want to throw in the towel, and its usually when a child hates the task at hand (could be reading or writing or math) then proceeds to have a meltdown or flat out refuses to do it. This makes me feel angry, helpless, and hopeless. Thankfully its not something that occurs everyday, but when it does I question my decision to homeschool. Then I think of all the harm Im protecting my girls from, how much I love them, and how my selfless act of homeschooling them is completely out of love and how giving up and putting them in public school would be detrimental for SO many reasons. We also love our co-op, its big (100 students) and its a lifesaver. I hope God gives me the fortitude and ability to keep homeschooling all the way through highschool.
Amen! I can relate as a mom who homeschools four kids but we do not attend a co-op. We are in NY. It's just us, so it can be hard.
@@Olivia_OliveTree Awww I understand. Where I live there is an abundance of co-ops, but I know a few moms who do their own ones with a few families, like a nature gathering or history field trips once a month. By doing their own, they avoid the responsibilities that many co-ops place on the moms, and allow more flexibility. There are positives and negatives to both. It's wonderful you are homeschooling 4 kids ❤️ God bless you
@@GardenMinistry. Thank you for your feedback. I'll pray about this. God bless you too 🙏🏽❤️
I’m struggling with this now. My 6th grader has become very lazy with her schoolwork and my mental health is in the toilet on top of the regular stress. Not ever having time during the day to take care of myself and spending all of my time standing over my kids, facilitating every activity, cleaning up every activity, never having time to go to the gym, go to appointments myself, clean, etc is taking a serious toll on me. I also wonder if my 12 year old needs to be held accountable a little by someone other than just mom. But then I struggle with the guilt of possibly sending her back to public school. My youngest will be in kindergarten next year so there’s that decision too.
It’s definitely not always sunshine and rainbows in the homeschool path! Sending you strength and patience in making the best decision for your family!
If you live in a decent area with a decent school system this shouldn’t be a problem. We live in a good neighborhood so this was never a question
Loved this video so much! I wanted to add something crucial! I just recently had a few college courses where I had to observe an elementary classroom (I homeschool and have for 3 years and plan to indefinitely) but that teacher even struggled with some thoughts you mentioned here! She voiced her concern to me that with the current curriculum she was worried about testing her kids reading skills again because she just didn’t think they were learning enough or even what they really should be to be where they should be at this point academically. So all this to say that these thoughts are normal (as you stated) and public school teachers are having the same struggle and concerns!
Thanks for sharing ❤️
Thank you for sharing. I felt the same as you and I had some sleepless night because of those thoughts. Most of my mom friends they believe public school is much more fun and beneficial for the kids so I struggle with my vision is right? or not. Even I know there’s no right answer…Am I doing good things for my kid? So many thoughts come and go but I talked to other homeschooling parents and I noticed public school parents don’t know real homeschooling is. We can done school work in 2 hours or less and kids can go to park, rock climbing on real rocks, homeschooling sports programs,pool and play with other friends, and they can have much more free time for themselves. I didn’t like kids are so tired to come back home from school like workers. I don’t like kids “learn” they have to follow someone and do something by order all the time. That’s why I choose. Maybe I will back to public school for my kids but not now. Now homeschooling is best choice for us.
Not having the social groups available definitely play a big part. Great Conversation.
I had my 7th, 9th, and 10th graders do a trial day at a local public charter school. It was such a negative experience that my always homeschooled nearly 16 yo said “there’s no F-ing way I’m going to that school, and you can’t make me.” 😂
Right. I don’t blame them they usually put the charter schools in rough neighborhoods.
Bravo for speaking the truth boldly about public schools!!
I don’t care how hard homeschooling gets but it’s always the better alternative to public school. No contest.
This is our 4th year and my children have never been to daycare or to public school. At least once a week I contemplate putting them in public school but it is almost always because of the pressure. Knowing that I alone am in charge of their education is overwhelming. My biggest fears are that I am not the smartest person and finances. I am afraid they will not get certain experiences because I can not afford it. We are not a family that can take vacations and do all these extra stuff. We also live in an apartment. It is hard seeing most homeschool mamas living in the country with lots of property to explore and do things. I do not EVER want to send my kids to public school but I definetly daydream about what it would be like. The grass isn’t always greener thats for sure!! It is hard to be content and fully happy with how I homeschool because I always fear I am doing something wrong. This is where faith in the Lord gets me through.
Youre doing a great job providing and protecting your children. You are where you should be in this season. May the Lord Bless your home and your home schooling journey💗 Dont worry about the esthetics, the children remember being with mommy, and how supportive you are--- they will not have regrets about not collecting chicken eggs each morning
@@howtobeamerican this really touched my heart. Thank you for the kind words!!!!
I feel the same way but believe me it's still better than public school. I think we need to stop being so hard on ourselves we are always going to secondguess ourselves and feel guilty. But the Lord will provide and protect ❤
I havent watched it thru yet. No, you can do it! Don’t give up!
I appreciate this video! I dont think I ever anticipated to feel the turmoil I currently feel regarding homeschool. I have three children and we are four years in on the journey, never public schooled.
Long story short, one of my children has an incredible need for social interaction and is what you would describe as extroverted. I wouldnt consider myself introverted per say, but my social needs are probably 1/6 of my child's. After four years of co ops, sports teams, field trips, hiking/nature groups, playground groups and having to become friendly with all of their friend's parents... I am so burnt out, and this sudden realization has left me a bit whiplashed. I was just trying to rise to the occaison of being in charge of it all, I didnt realize how completely unsustainable our mode of operation was becoming.
Currently re imagining what school will look like for us since PS is not an option for our family in this state.
Ive laid it at the Lord's feet and I have faith God will guide me with his peace, first and foremost. But i think these conversations are so important to have! With your spouse, children, friends!
Sometimes acknowledging things don't feel right is the exact thing you need to open the door to what does ❤
Take care and God bless the decision making process for you and your family 🙏
So hard for you to be friendly with other people for the sake of your children. Wow. Really. Def not Christian behavior. I feel sorry for your extrovert.
@@katemiller7874 It seems you may not understand where I'm coming from, and that's ok. I love serving my children and my family, just praying to find a sustainable balance. Pray for me and my struggles, and I'll pray for empathy for you and that you may never find yourself in my shoes. Merry Christmas and God bless.
@@katemiller7874Your comment was incredibly rude and cold, Kate. Please watch how you throw around the word christian, accusing others, when you also seem to be struggling with hate and bitterness in your own heart.
❤ totally understand! Keep seeking the Lord and laying your burdens at his feet!
@@hl3170 thank you so much for your words of encouragement ❤️ God has certainly been faithful! May He bless you and yours this Christmas season!
Fear of missing out will make us crazy. We have a responsibility to do our research on what is available in our area for homeschoolers. My kids are good at sports, and I thought I was preventing them from the opportunity because they aren't in public school but my oldest have been and knows she doesn't want to go back. I remember the tears, frustration, and anger with public school. Co-op has made a real difference in implementing "school" activities, so we are good. Before co-op local homeschool groups met daily.
The first year in kindergarten, they threw woke stuff at my child and made him cry. That’s when I knew I was out. Covid restrictions and that really made me realize I knew I wanted to homeschool.
My husband has been thinking about this, mostly outer influences from his work and family. Its our 4th year and I know my kids don't want too, but it does get frustrating hearing from outside our family.
In NC, you can play sports with the public schools as long as you take 1 class in the school. BUT, a bunch of homeschool Moms in my area and dads got together and we put together homeschool sports teams!! They are awesome.
Good video, so I was at my brother's house and his daughter was saying oh Mr so and so when he's on recess duty doesn't do anything if anyone gets in a fight during recess. He doesn't care😮and then my brother just laughed about it. I was just a little taken back on that and thought I'm glad my kids aren't in public school. I know I can't protect my kids from all evil but I want to teach them what a healthy relationship is and when it's not. I doubt my choice to homeschool every day, especially since it's my first year. But when I encounter conversations like this then I feel better in my choice.
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You know I’m listening and thinking as the adult I am just like you said public school experience well put it’s just that whether negative or positive it’s an experience… a time in my life that has passed… each of us will have experiences so I just try to enjoy them there is no right or wrong experience it’s just an experience… tomorrow we will live to talk about yesterday and so on… I have homeschooled my kids and I love love love it… we get to talk about yesterday tomorrow at least it’s not the end… 😉
My daughter is joining a club volleyball team this year. It's definitely a time and financial commitment, but it may be a possibility for you.
Yes! The only ones I can find I have to wait til she is a certain age and that’s our plan ❤️
In Washington homeschool kids are eligible to try out for and participate in sports in the district where they live. This may be the case in your area. Also check into recreational leagues for whatever sport your kiddo is interested in.
In the current environment I think elementary age students would benefit from having a parent on campus. 50 years ago my mom felt that the only way to make sure my school experience was optimal was for her to be there. She was never in my class, but she volunteered in the other classrooms or with the school nurse. You definitely have to be involved. For parents who have the time and education to home school it's a great option, but it's also good for kids to get out and meet the rest of the community.
And a lot of parents don't have that option. It's hard on public schools and parents who have no other option to lose a lot of kids to home school. Ultimately, it would be great if communities could be more invested in their schools. Not just school board members, but volunteering on campuses, PTA and showing up to school board meetings to really look at the curriculum and be well informed. In the end all the kids in the community are the community's responsibility.
It's great that you took the time to really think through the pros and cons of your situation.
I have a child that is thriving in homeschool but when it comes to my daughter a pre teen she is refusing to do work at home her mind set is this is a holiday not school
Gosh this video is so refreshing. Every single thought you said has gone thru my mind. It’s our first year, 2 months in and I’m struggling to find balance. I work from home and there are days I’m so busy we just can’t do school, my 3rd grade daughter requires so much hand on attention from me that’s is so hard to do it all. I’m powering thru and I know we are just going to need to find our flow but the amount t of guilt I have that I’m not doing enough is always on the forefront. Socially, there aren’t enough programs out there and between my work schedule it’s hard to commit since it really all falls on me to navigate jt all. I definitely go back and forth with how I feel. All we want is to give our children the best.
I will say the first year is the hardest or at least it was for me. I think coming out of public school and that being ll my husband and I ever knew with ourselves and 6 of our seven children. COVID confirmed what we were already feeling and opened our eyes to how it could be at home and gave us the confidence to go for it, but I struggled with self doubt big time that first year. I would read the standards and be so overwhelmed and doubt would set it. Researching and choosing curriculum was a bear in itself. But then, I allowed myself to let go and remember why we chose homeschool and one of those reason was so we could do school our way. I think once you give yourself grace it allows you the freedom to tailor your child education to them. Hang in there momma you’ve got this. You know them better than anyone.
Yes same feelings here as a mom, but one thing to keep in mind, you can homeschool any time and any where, sometimes we do our history on Saturdays mornings (1 to 2 hours) , that’s the beauty and freedom to homeschooling
Are you trying to work and homeschool? You can’t do that she needs an education. Are you serious
This was one of your best videos! Great job!! ❤
I let my children go back to school this year. It was the worst decision. Its only November and other than being shot at school everything i was afraid of has happened to my 13 year old son. Im unenrolling him Monday and pressing charges. I feel so guilty for what happened. Homeschooling is the only way to go in our area.
Shot at??!! I sent my kids back as well, and things were OK for the first year, but when my son got into 6th grade it got way worse (bullying and horribly behaved kids that he was always complaining about) He's much happier now that I've pulled him out!
Where do you live? Of course you don’t send them in big cities. Move somewhere safe and you will not have to worry
@@katemiller7874why are you here on this chat if you don't believe in home learning?
Last year our family moved to the best school district in our area and everyone asked if we would send our kids to public schools now. I considered it for a bit, especially since at the time I was severely sick with baby #3 and couldn't do much at all. Then I watched a few schoolboard meetings (they post them on YT) and I just felt sick to my stomach seeing everything going on and the things that were discussed were honestly shocking to me.
We pulled our oldest out almost 4 years ago when she was in PreK because in the short 4-5 months she was there, multiple things happened that I didn't approve of how they were handled, or rather not handled. I don't see public schools in our lives anywhere in the near future. We considered private school but honestly the issues are creeping up there as well. Our biggest issue is definitely socialization. We've tried a few different things but everywhere il take them, no interacting is actually happening, they just get whatever activity done that they go for and that's it. (Art Club, Science Club, Music Class, Girl Scouts, Church) I'm sure it doesn't help that my oldest is extremely shy, but she wants friends so badly. I'm just at a loss of how to help with this. 😔
You made lots of very good points. This is a great video for people who are doubting or even just curious about life with public schools. I myself have been imagining all the things I could get done if my girls were in school all day 😂 but then we have random amazing moments through the day and I can't imagine not seeing them all day every day.
Finding friends for my daughter is a tough thing for me too. I don't have an easy answer, but I want you to know you aren't alone!
Yes, private schools are no better for sure! Mostly because they have money hungry owners who do not care one bit about the students. Only lining their pockets. All three of our kids went to a public school. One now homeschools, one I am about to pull out to homeschool, and the other thrives on the battles proving liberal teachers wrong because he knows true history very well. I am a tutor for private schools. Both public and private are terrible.
I have 3 kids. My oldest is getting ready to turn 17 and when she was in kindergarten she did K12 online which is a public school online then came her 1st grade year and she wanted to do public school in person, I pulled her out of school in August and now she is getting her GED because in my state you can not graduate from homeschool. My middle child went to public school until age 12 then she was homeschooled for a whole school year then she decided to go live with her dad and step mother and they put her back into public school again (she's now 14). My youngest is going on 2 and my husband and I have decided to homeschool him so we are going to homeschool him from the beginning of his education and in hopes to keep homeschooling him until he is in 12th grade and able to take the GED test (unless things change and I hope they do in my state homeschoolers can not graduate from homeschool they have to get their GED or go to the state captiol and take a test to graduate) so that's we are planning on for the future of my husband and my sons education and a little history of all 3 of my kids education
What are your plans when your children are homeschooled and they're studying high school level chemistry 1&2, organic & inorganic chemistry,algebra, biology ,physics,geometry and calculus and they and including you don't understand some of the subjects? How will they experience the full extend of Chemistry and/or Biology if your children are not exposed to a lab? Would you consider putting your children in a public school (high school level) when they become older and the science and math classes are more extensive and difficult? By the way, I have nothing against homeschooling or public school because I understand each have their pro's and con's.
There are options for homeschool science classes with lab exposures as well as homeschool kids can take college level courses while in homeschool for dual credit.
Homeschoolers have plenty of resources available to assist in teaching subjects the parents may not be “experts in” most teachers only have a bachelor’s degree and aren’t experts in the subjects they teach. They use curriculum and resources just like homeschool parents do.
@@gatheredandgroundedhomeschool Just to clarify, when you stated that "most teachers only have a bachelors degree and aren't experts in the subjects they teach." Are you referring to public or home school teachers? It has been 30 years since I graduated high school and all my teachers had their a bachelors or masters in the subjects they taught. It was mandated by the school district. How can the teachers teach in a subject they don't have a degree in? Yikes!! I don't understand how a teacher can teach chemistry without a degree in chemistry🤔 I don't have any children so, I have never had firsthand experience with public or homeschooling. Thank you for your time and responding to my questions.🤗
As a public school teacher I can assure you this is not the case. It’s rare that we have a teacher with a content area degree. Education degrees are very general and teachers are not assured to be strong in the content they teach. Sad but absolutely true!
@@lanaduvall3698 Please forgive me if this is a silly question, but why are the public schools allowing this?
There are many contributing factors. We do have a severe teacher shortage and these are a few reasons why. Quality canidates can make more money working in other fields, the school systems incentive the worse behavior in children, lack of standards over time lead to a cycle of poor instruction and bad working conditions and the weakest people are pulled in to fill empty positions. Just because students are in school doesn’t mean they are learning or have teachers who adhere to high standards. Lack of care in some cases, lack of knowledge in most.
How do I get a certificate for my son that he completed his first grade from homeschool??
I just make ours in an editing software Canva.....some curriculums have them at the end of the book. Unless your state required something specific you can make up whatever you want.
@gatheredandgroundedhomeschool oh ok. Just moved to Florida. Want to put him public school. Was homeschooling in California and registered him as homeschool. There, you have to register as a school. The school in Florida wants a certificate, not from a book.
In the state of Wisconsin, homeschooled kids can play sports on the public school team. I don't know about your state.
Same for Colorado.
Georgia too
Same in SC
Same in SD
Same in ohio
I have 4 kids 2 homeschooled n 2 didn’t but this year we moved states so my oldest wanted to go back to public high school n she loves it!!! I’m now jus homeschooling my 10yr old girl however the public schools here suck bad especially w bullying!! My boys were going to the #1 school in our old state (I miss it so much) my 12yr old boy hates his new school n so do I n he wants to homeschool w his younger sister but my hub does not believe in homeschool n he does not believe in spending money on homeschool when they can go to public free!! It has led to so many fights n bc of my illness and no income i hav not much say so in the matter!!! What do I do in this situation I had outside help getting some of my daughters curriculum so my hub couldn’t fight me on her homeschool costing him but my 6th grader I can’t get help to get his curriculum!! Ugh life can be so hard at times especially when ur kids are involved and u want to do right by them but at what cost u know!!!
Can you use the good and the beautiful curriculum for language arts and math. Their pdfs are free online. For science and history you can check out books at the library. Sending you hugs.
so wish there were free (or at least very cheap) Christian schools!
In my area there are scholarship options that will pay for the private school costs. You may have the same option in your area.
Google "Man removed from school board meeting".
Lol you mentioned “woke stuff” and I immediately subscribed!
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Public schools are worse than ever!! Now is NOT the time. Why are you letting your kids decide this? Don’t let them decide this. Not a good idea at all. Public school teacher for 27 years here and left last year because it is traumatic every single day. Trying to make it easy on yourself. Man, please don’t do this. You are doing it for ALL the wrong reasons.
You didn’t obviously watch the video.
Kids need independence..not be home all the time
Not sure if this is meant to be negative, but to clarify homeschooling does not mean your kids are locked in the house all day 😆
I agree but if these folks live in a bad neighborhood my kids would be in a private school.
@katemiller7874 you are entitled to your opinion. Homeschooling works for many families. Schools are not what they used to be 30 years ago.