I really appreciate hearing from another bisexual man. I've experienced a lot of the same feelings, and I'm still trying to figure myself out too. It's good to know I'm not alone.
theRightizright you ruined my day, thanks. If people are happy them just let them live however they want and be whoever they want to be, and stop criticizing
theRightizright i am christian and i do believe in god and actually pray a lot, but i don’t believe that homosexuality is a sin, cause it’s not a thing that people can choose, it can’t be changed ! And of course people addicted to drugs... need help and that wasn’t what i was talking about, but homosexuality is not a drug and can’t just be flushed away, that’s what most of you don’t understand, no one just woke up one day and decided to be gay or bi or trans...for the fun of it, it’s who they are and were meant to be , so i hope you get to accept them someday, it’s not that they need it tho as long as they accept themselves.
@theRightizright Although I agree with some of what you're saying as I'm a firm believer in Christ who--according to the Bible--knows homosexuality is sinful, I will tell you that this is not the place to start such a heated debate and continue with it as you've demonstrated in the past week. Even if your original reply was out of good intentions, which I don't believe it was, it didn't work because you're irritating people with your judging comments. Only the Lord is to judge since we are all broken people. Therefore, I find it in your best interest to stop wasting your time posting these comments since they're doing nothing but angering people.
@theRightizright First of all, we are not friends, so don't call me "friend." Second, I propose that you not use UA-cam as a platform for implementing Ezekiel 3:18. What I'm not going to do is participate in throwing Bible verses at each other to prove our points. Instead, I encourage you to focus on spreading the word of God in the most respectful and civil way possible. What you did was to the contrary because it angered a lot of people. They don't know you personally, so how much of an influence do you think you made on them? If you want to simply call strangers out on their sins via the Internet and believe you are doing right by God, then no one's stopping you. By all means, have fun posting similar comments on all UA-cam videos depicting people who sin. However, if you wish to make an actual, positive and civil influence, I suggest you start praying for those who need God in their lives and that they eventually turn to Him for guidance. If you're doing that, great, but don't use the Internet as a way to warn people of their sins.
Being bisexual is tricky. You receive input from both man and women and you really need to work through that. I only found out that I was bisexual at my 20's. Even being born in the 90's, I never thought that I had options. Everyone around me was straight so... I had to be straight. Problem is that I'm not straight
How do you find all these grounded, mature people able to talk about their experiences so calmly and openly. Blows my mind. I'm 33 and still get emotional when talking about my coming out experience.
@@alioramus1637 Hardline ones. There are not so hardline ones. You only get one life. These are the facts. I know of one Muslim that has rejected completely of his faith. This all happened in Syria where quite a few of his family members died and he went- fuck it. It's all crap. The others wouldn't accept him, so he left that country and now live 1/2 a world away. He's happy. You could leave. Conditional 'love' is not love in the slightest.
@@alioramus1637 And I have to say- once, there was no Islam, no Mohammad. It's not that long ago either. Why now (1300 or so years ago) ? None of it makes sense. There wasn't any religion of this, nor any other once and the only way back- to diminish the madness of religion and faith, is to LEAVE them! That may mean a new country
Very articulate man, great video. To express ourselves safely and comfortably is so important. Something I too, as a bi man, am finding is an ongoing learning process. Big up all bi men
That "sigh" is golden (at the 6th minute). It's as if he finally arrived at a place where he is safe. Acceptance of self, in the arms of another man, the warm embrace of a woman, or all the above. The deep sigh and gently blinking of his eyes speaks volumes - it's a golden sigh!
At the age of 36, I finally found out what my sexuality was through this video. Bisexuality and Pansexuality has never been "enough" to define me. Sexual fluidity makes 100% sense.
You can call this stereotypical, but it is his life. I am not polyamourous, but understand the desire to be with both sexes very well. I talked about this with bi friends who feel the same, but find it hard to be honest about it, because its so stereotypical.
"I realized that it wasn't so much about me wanting to be with both sexes at the same time. It was more about me of being more comfortable with myself and being able to express that with whomever I was with." This is so beautiful, meaningful, insightful, and deep, all simultaneously! ❤❤❤ for all bi guys around the globe, may all our struggles lead us to inner peace 🙏🙏🙏
I watched this because my son is "fluid" in his sexuality. I appreciate this man's positive outlook. My worry is that my son will never know what it''s like to be a in loving, fulfilling, long term relationship. He's big, strong, handsome, a gift, gifted, and a delight to be around. But stubborn and sometimes hard to reason with. All I can do is love him and hope for the best.
The relationship between me and my mother changed when I stopped seeing her as a mom but more as a human. This change got amplified when she stopped seeing me as a son and more as a human. 🌹
( Warning to Gay men ). Bisexual men will break your heart every time. It won't last and they never know what they want. Find a nice 100 % gay man to fall in love with if you want it to last. 🏳️🌈 ♥️
@Sebastian Alan If you dream of having sex with hot guys, you are not straight. Being bisexual can be very frustrating because you want to be with both sexes. Never being comfortable with the one you're with. Sometimes it takes a long time to figure out we are really gay but can't except it.
@Sebastian Alan You sound young and unsure of yourself which is normal in the awkward 20s. I too prefer manly acting gay men also and we do exist. You just need to be more comfortable with how God made you. Trust me there is no owners manual that comes from above for being born Gay. Life is too short to deny you who you really are. Don't hide from your family and close friends who you are inside. My God it's 2021 and normal for individuals to be attracted to our same sex. Just be glad you didn't grow up 30, 40, or 50 years ago. Remember to look in the mirror everyday and say, I love you Sebastian. ✔ 🤔
I understand your feelings and such. What I have a problem with is a man not letting his wife or significant other know he is bisexual. I married a man that was bisexual and he never told me about this before we got married. Needless to say it did not work out because of his lies. Please make sure you are always honest so no one gets hurt. Good luck to ya!
What your ex did was wrong. He should have let you know before, but maybe he was not ready to because it was not clear even to himself, or was not something he had yet accepted about himself? I hope he was able to apologise for that at least.
Being not-straight in a heteronormative society can be traumatic, and some people are not ready to address it even for decades. Lies are a painful way to self-preserve. It's sad but it's the truth. Did you deserve to be lied to? No. You were disrespected, plain and simple. What I'm trying to say, such things happen and they're sad from all angles. Take care.
It's not fair for the man or woman he's with. He said he's always wanting to be with the other sex and can't decide what he is. As a gay man I don't want to fall in love with a confused bisexual man. Forget it if you want a long-term relationship with one. They will break a woman's or another man's heart.
@@rubencohen2936 You're right in that this guy in particular still needs to figure out that when you decide for sure if they want to be with someone that they will remain loyal to that partner. But please understand what you are expressing here is a stigma that gets unfairly put on most bisexuals that don't always deserve it.
@@sentinel8758 Well, he wasn't really stigmatizing bisexuals as a group, he was talking about this man who is a confused bisexual man as he himself admitted. The commenter was merely pointing out something obvious and of course mentioning the risk of falling in love with someone like him.
What's weird to me as a gay man is hearing the term "choice". I hate this term. I hate it when people say anything regarding "choosing" when it comes to sexual attraction. Because it's just not true. If someone is attracted to both sexes, they're bisexual. If they're attracted to the opposite sex only, they're straight. If they're attracted to the same sex only, they're gay. That's the way I view it. You can "have sex" with anybody -- that doesn't necessarily mean anything really. Sexual orientation is who you are attracted to. And that is definitely not something that someone "chooses". Nor is it a "lifestyle".
i think he expresses himself beautifully . As a msn who’s been married have children & grandchildren and ‘ gay’ i would express it more not so much fluid on itself but chemistry . I think when you add that into the mix there’s more clarity . For example you may feel mostly attracted to men but if you encounter a man you do t have chemistry it may appear you’re more fluid , which could be the case , and it could be the attraction is conditional
Yessss! In this world where there is so much contention, hardship, and strife, the ability to love (letting gender occupy a less important role) illustrates an open, amazing, and depthful heart. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you!
When i was teen i was always attracted to women but as i got into my 20's and started being attracted to boys more than girls. Im very curious to experiment with men so i know what i am. I can't say im gay,bisexual or fluid but im not straight for sure. I could feel different in 10 yrs time.
Michael David lol I think we kinda have the same situation, I’ve always been attractive to girl and I’m still, but lately I start feeling that i want to finger my anus* from that day I’m confused and I feel like I’m attractive to guys now
Being bi is a wonderful thing to discover about one’s self. Gays have told me I wasn’t gay. Straights have told me I should lower the tone of my voice, to be more successful. I’ve been married twice, to women, for about 40 years. Now I live with a man. A loving, wonderful man. For myself, I realized I didn’t want to be in a threesome, men or women, so obviously I could only be with either a man or a woman, at one time. Neither is “the answer”. The answer is in me. Because, no matter who you’re with, it’s really about how you are with yourself. Neither He nor She will fulfill you. You have to be happy with your self. I know now who I am, and I have a sense of personal pride I never had, before I figured out I am neither one nor the other. I have an open horizon, and it’s very freeing. All the best in your own, personal quest.
I'm also a bi guy, and I've felt a similar way. I've also thought about a polyamorous relationship with a guy and a girl once or twice. Even though I'm out I still struggle with my sexuality. It's good to hear someone else who understands.
Hi! Hope you've been doing well since you last posted this message a year ago. I'm bi too (but female) and although I think I'm always gonna be monogamous despite my fluidity, I'm really glad that polyamory and ethical non-monogamy in general is becoming more accepted. I guess its because it might (though I get not always!) be an elegant "solution" for certain bi+ people. I think even moreso for those of us who feel the fluidity part of our bisexuality pretty hard, those who're closer to that 50:50 "attraction model" or feel equally as desiring of both romantic and sexual relationships with either sex, or your "bi-cycle" shifts often or it shifts hard. I was also gonna mention to you, though I'm sure you've probably researched it more by now - but if you are considering going poly, don't feel pressure to form a perfect poly triad with a man and a woman straight off the bat and not consider anything else. I mean if it works, it works and that sounds heavenly, I'd be super jealous of you trust me - but more often than not they can be too complicated for most people, and affections between all 3 partners can be mismatched. You could try open relationships where both partners are free to explore outside the relationship, or polyamorous set-ups where one or more people in the relationship date different people separately. Anyways shall stop talking now. Whatever you're going, as long as it's done with love, honesty, communication and a respect of boundaries then its gonna be good I think. Wishing you the best!
I've been with both women and men but it didn't take long for me to figure out that I'm gay. I feel empathy for people who can't decide or feel that they need to. I think the answer is when they find that special someone made just for them, male or female.
Same here ...I dated girls all thru High School and when I went to College, I experimented with guys.... I consider myself Gay, even though I still get attracted to women but the difference is that I do not go out looking for women when single. Like if a woman was to approach me and we clicked and it was just a sexual thing, I would definitely see myself getting intimate with a woman (NSA) whether with a guy is different to me, I can either have a one night stand with the guy or I could see myself falling for him as well. So in this I feel and consider myself gay,,, I know what I like and want to wake up to every morning (Man).
The problem od this guy and a lot of "bi" people is that they can't see difference between romantic feelings and sexual orientation. Gay people are technicaly able to make love with opposite sex and have orgasm, but they are still gay, not bi.
@@hyakintos sexuality is whatever u want it to be whether it is romantic or sexual. some ppl experience sexual feelings after a connection w someone before straight up being completely into them on the get go. do not invalidate bi ppl because ur unable to understand or relate to it
@@chetanmoghe5011 Don't date bi people. They can never decide what they want. This is coming from experience. I'd never date another bi guy again, especially one that doesn't know what they want to start with...
Wow, Ben. Pretty amazing. You have followed your bliss and you will be the ultimate winner because of it. Your conversation reveals you to be a guy with introspection and the ability to analyze things deeply. Thanks for the video and best wishes.
Hey Ben, welcome to authentic life. I don't think we ever achieve total understanding of WHO we are. You are alive, learning, and growing to discover that authentic infinite person called "Ben". Thanks, bro, for your sharing.......love.......Ray
Dr. Kinsey had it right in the world of the 1950s. Sexuality is a continuum. It isn't just one thing. Often, it can be situational. His scale listed seven numbers from straight (100%) to gay (100%). It's our job to find out who we are and what our true sexuality really is.
You stated your feelings very well, I understand very much what you have experienced. Thank you for your honesty and sharing a complex subject that many people do not understand.
i came out almost the same way he did😂 was in the middle of class freshman year, had been thinking about it for some months, texted in the family groupchat “hey, sometimes i like guys and sometimes i like girls! see ya after school” and that was it lmao
So glad to know that it is a struggle for other people (I wouldnt wish struggle on anyone but I feel so alone with this). I've been dealing with this forever and just started dating guys at 28. I didn't want to believe I was bisexual or sexuality is fluid for the longest time. I would hook up with this guy back home like once or twice a year, always downloading and deleting gay dating apps trying to meet someone but I'd always back out. Then I moved out of my hometown last year at 27. Then I started dating guys cause nobody I knew from home would be near me. Turning 29 this month and I've been with a man the past 7 months. I really like him but he knows my struggle and is helping me. Most gays I met though think bisexuals are just confused. Maybe I am, I don't know. But I'm glad this dude talked about coming out to his parents, I'm trying to figure out how to do this myself. Great video. I really needed this.
I am exactly experiencing your situation, I am just 2 years younger than you. Wish I could know you in real life and I say this respectfully. Its difficult and people dont know it yet.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. I can really identify with being a certain way for the people I love. I’ve not yet found my voice or the courage to come out to my mom or my kids. I love them dearly and I know that they would accept me, but it is still terrifying. I am very comfortable in my skin but I want that authentic life that I have yet to live. It’s a true comfort to hear that I am not alone.
I know exactly what you mean, Ben. I would enjoy sex with a woman, then after that, I would need a man. The same thing would happen with a man, and I'd want to "bounce" back to a woman. It was hard to understand. Thank you for the clarification ... this helps.
I speak to sexuality in my UA-cam here and I agree with Ben for guys to remain open, allow the experience and to just keep being as honest as you can with at least one or more people who you may know. I can tell you many more people accept big guys or girls. Many keep it secret or only share when they know it's okay to share.
My partner Mark and I are both bisexual and we always say what is best about being bisexual this way. There are things only a woman can and things only a man can do, so why deny the pleasures from any of them. It took me a little while though coming to the realization that there was a third option of being bisexual.
Thanks for being honest and courageously open. Being a bisexual is a gift because you be able to enjoy the loving relationships with a man and with a woman at the same time. I think being a 100% gay and straight is very limiting and restrictive to only one gender, which does not provide variation at all. If you eat the same food every day, one becomes tired and bored 🥱. Having variation in life is more fun and joyous. I wish I was a bisexual like you! Lucky you!
Thank you for sharing your story. My sexuality is not fluid as far as I know, only gay. My problem is my upbringing in religion. Others with similar upbringings seem to have “gotten over it,“ but not I. I don’t know what the deal is I don’t know how to find out. I thought of this because you spoke very simply and openly about exploring your sexuality. You simply tried what you wanted to try.
Religion has made it difficult for men to be open and honest about their sexuality. You were created Magnificent! That is ty Truth. We will never have a universal theology. But we. must have a universal experience!
Very good points, you can’t live your life for others who really don’t have anything to do with your sexuality. All you do is rob yourself of intimacy and ultimately yourself! Everyone dies but not everyone lives. Don’t die a million deaths! I’m gay but lived my life for others like he did, now there’s very little left and I wonder if it’s worth it.
Given that we inherit sexual characteristics from both our parents it isn’t remote that are bisexual in nature. It is just a matter of gradient percentages on either side.
I love this. I'm a gay man and my co worker who I've been hetting close with over the past few months just recently mentioned that he might be bisexual. In that moment, at work, i decided not to make it a big deal and just let it pass but did mention that sexuality can be fluid and we moved on. But i can say, it felt so AMAZING and SPECIAL to be the one he felt comfortable saying this too. Now i have a better understanding of what to say to him if he brings it up again and can hopefully be there to help him along the process and maybe some of the hate he may receive.
That's why he decided to try the polyamorous relationship, remember? And also, in and open relationship there's no cheating as long you tell about it to your partner(s).
Well, he cheated on someone when he was in Highschool, alot people cheats each other when they were in Highschool, bc Highschool kids are Young and stupid yk
I do not (so far) identify as "bisexual"' but very much appreciate what this young man is saying. Sexuality, for me, has turned out to be far more complex and far richer and more exciting than I ever would have thought even ten years ago. I had no idea I could feel about women as strongly as I do now. Sometimes I see women as so beautiful, I almost can't believe that such beauty could even exist. But I'm sure glad it does!
I'm absolutely want to thank you listening to you experience. I went through this phase when I was around 19. Then, I realized that i was in fact gay. I didn't ever tell my family. But, how my family found out I was gay, my mom came over to my house and she just walked in, which was ok. But, she came into my room and she say me in a compromising position. She turned around and went into the frontroom. When I walked out and she said that she wanted to talk to me. I said back to her what is there to talk about? I then told her now you know.
I m 69, married to my 1st wife for 20 years, monogamous, virgin, only woman I knew and now have been with my male partner for 26 years, I call myself Gay, cause thats what we did in 1995...your comments are interesting and thought-provoking. Thank you
I wish I could relate better to what he's going through. For me, I always knew I was gay, period. Never had any issues accepting it or dealing with it, just always knew what I liked.
I think to some extent that has to do with representation. There are a multitude of gay men in media (movies, tv, video games, comics, etc), but I struggle to think of a single bisexual man in media. Growing up when I first started experiencing same sex attractions I was confused and thought I was gay, but I still felt attraction to girls. It took me years to realize that men could be bisexual. All the bisexuals I had seen were women, and as a child I felt scared and very uncertain. I connect very deeply with the story Ben presents in this video, as I am 22 and I can't tell my best friend I'm bisexual knowing that he's gay and will accept me fully. It doesn't help when other members of the LGBT community invalidate my identity. It's hard out here for a bisexual man. Sorry for the long comment, but I have a lot of feelings on this issue. Lol.
@@s07561277 To me, personally, bisexuality is in the mind of those who still don't know who they are or what they want...and it's no wonder most "bisexuals" are from younger generations...especially millennial generation...they've been subjected to more disfunctionality and uncertainty than previous generations...that's also why you're seeing more sexually fluid people nowadays...
Marcus S How can you say bisexuals don’t know who they are? That’s just you not understanding their sexuality. I’m not confused or anything. I am who I am.
@@s07561277 A person that is unable to decide if he's going to be with a girl or with a guy or anything in between (LOL) is simply a bit disfunctional...that's why the narrative of "sexual fluidity" is being pushed forward as it is more 'confortable'...he's even having a hard time (dificulty in swallowing?) in dealing with it...sorry...but I'm out...LOL
@@SmartRobot-wc2fb Too bad you're "out", cause you could really use a dictionary to look up what the terms you're using mean. "Bisexual" doesn't mean you don't know who you wanna be with, it just means you have the capacity to be with someone regardless of their gender. HUGE difference.
@@firecatcher91 Bi people should stick to being with bi people. Especially since they don't know what they want. You only get hurt in the end. Trans people should be in a group of their own. Gay and lesbian probably should be on their own too as none of us have anything in common.
@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax What do you mean we dont know what we want?? How can you generalise whole god damn group just because a random number of us who are completely individual people, dont know how to deal with their sexuality?? That's almost saying like "Bi's shouldn't date gay people at all, because all they do is spread HIV.." A little harsh example but the point is there. The most stereotypical example of bi people get to hear is that we all cheat, or are closeted gays or just gays who are pretending, and that's the most insulting and stupid horseshit any of us can hear.
Once you get to the point of not needing relationships anymore, then all these problems go away. It’s my opinion that people just don’t want to get over their addiction to being in a relationship with someone, something that is antithetical to being free.
Ryan Black. I'd like to apologize. I'm not a guy. Someone used my phone 3 weeks ago and acted like an imbecile. I didn't know about it till I got a notification of your reply. Again I'm sorry for his abruptness.
New Avatar, I get that. Some people are just more private. That's cool. And some of us feel obligated to share our stories, for any number of reasons. I have a youtube channel on which I actively encourage others to live their truth and be honest as possible (as long as they're safe.) So, a couple of months ago when I realized that I'm bi, I thought it would be hypocritical to not announce it to my viewers. In summary, we're all valid. Happy New Year! 💗💜💙
Does someone as a bisexual deny 'half' their sexuality when they commit to a gay or straight relationship? Can you really go from one relationship to another repeatedly and find contentment and yourself? It seems a decision will need to be made one way or another. I'd imagine sexual fluidity for 100% of the population would really cause quite a few problems.
My hopes are that bisexual men can have life-long relationships that permit them to be who they are & stop being condemned by a world that does not have a sympathetic ear for what they are trying to say. No one should end up being hurt & rejected. Love your wife with all your heart & soul. Be a father. Wives, listen, love him. Don't amputate his bisexual nature. Embrace it. This won't be the easiest thing to do, but once you grant him this love, you will know that your life can be lived with him & you can incorporate this larger-than-life, two spirit man, into your marriage & not end up in sadness or sorrow, but keep your love in place.
So much Me Me Me in there! Just don’t think about committing. That involves another persons feelings unless that other person is also only centered in themselves. Rather just have the sex.
Sexual oppression as described has the potential to be so destructive regardless of an individual's sexual orientation. Even heteronormative individuals live in constant fear of being accused of failing the heterosexual litmus test. The sad part is that sexual oppression is one of the dominant features of religious fundamentalism which saturates the American South, Utah and rural areas in the bluest of states. I sincerely wish Ben all the best on his journey. 😁
Exceptional man. Handsome, intelligent and highly articulate. Fascinating piece on him and his life. Very insightful. Thank you. I have always believed sexuality was for a lot of people on a spectrum. And once you realise and can accept it’s the person you fall in love with, not their sex, so much changes about who you are, and the freedom to love whom you want follows. And there’s no one to come out to, except your self. That acceptance brings with it, reassurance and self confidence. And it lets go of the guilt, that you have something to hide. Which you don’t.
Happy Slayer just be happy with the way you are and don't change your sexually to try and please other ppl. It's your life live it your best way! I used to feel like you too. I think of it more of a spectrum than a fluidity. 😁 Cheers!
I hope that more bisexual people come forward. We should keep working to create a world where everyone can feel free to express the truth about themselves. Sexual orientation is anything but black and white.
I am a bi man married to a woman. everyone assumes I am straight. I just recently started very casually outing myself to my colleagues. It's been very liberating.
I am 67 and have been fluid with my sexuality my entire adult life....attractive is attractive....as you get older your become totally aware that more of the people hitting on you are married men...therefore, I am not the only "FLUID" person out here....and one's person guess that 50% of men are having sex with other men on a regular basis is a very good estimate....if not higher!
"Sexual Fluidity" is just another stupid label. At the end, he just found out he's attracted to people's personalities rather than strictly sexual features as it should be in any mature relationship.
If a guy likes women, he’s probably well advised not to tell her he’s had a relationship with a man. Women aren’t very fond of this idea as I understand it. If they end up in a committed relationship and this past relationship with a man then becomes ancient history, then she’s probably more willing to compartmentalize it.
Remarkably well presented. Very interesting and complex subject and very real. Thank you for beautifully opening up this tangled web of feelings and stating them so clearly. You are a beautiful soul.
Well, he cheated on someone when he was in Highschool, alot people cheats each other when they were in Highschool, bc Highschool kids are Young and stupid yk
Men or Women. We all have our dark side of bisexuality attraction in our psychological behavior. It is entirely normal in our human nature to connect with both sex attractions, male and female. However, we alone hold the key to success or failure, and we take responsibility to make the right decision to live with the right partner and move forward in life with or without regret.
Why is it that majority of gay men & lesbians don't accept bisexual men? They say bisexuals in reality are gay but they are just confused, coward or too ashamed to admit that they are gay. I've been in a relationship with both genders but I only fell in love with a woman so far. I've been in a relationship with bisexual men...total of 4 men, not at once but one at a time. I'd like to think that I'm faithful and decent. I loved them but I have never fell in love with them the way I fell in love with a woman. I used to get so confused and agonized with my attraction to both genders until I gave up and surrendered to the reality that I'm bisexual. I wish there's a cure to bisexuality to be straight or gay. The only advantage I could think of being bi is the fact that I enjoy making love with women and men. I'm not discriminatory & I have the best of both worlds but the society is not very tolerant with people like me and my faith makes it impossible for me to be carefree about my bisexuality. My sexuality & life aren't so easy. 😢
I find it confusing when my straight friends would say they like hanging out with me and very comfortable with around me. Idk if I should wait or ask them. Only problem is they all have gf's
As a gay person these are the type of guys I would avoid.... I have a whole history of pain and hurt from dating bi guys that I am definitely not gonna get into. My advise is that bisexual men should only date other bisexual men and gay guys should only date other gay guys....
I agree. These guys are dangerous to a gay guy that could be looking for more. They can lead you on in the worst way possible, speaking totally off first hand experience. Say this guy meet a single gay guy, that could be very vulnerable, as most are to this type of guy. I'm whole-heartedly agreeing with Iylla on this one.
Then those people are pretty messed in the first place. It's like me saying "I have a history gay's cheating me so my advice staying away from gays because all they can do is cheat."...if you wanna put the blame for someone's sexuality rather than blaming the people alone who's cheated, then that's just wrong. That's kinda excuse to blame whole basket of fruits being shitty when there's only a few of them being rot and others are fine and good. Sorry to hear your experience is being bad, but those people are just bad alone and I'm sure their sexuality has nothing to do with cheating, it's everyone's concious decision to cheat, nothing to do with sexuality, period!
@@firecatcher91 Nope...bisexuals should stick with their own. Gay people should stick with their own. I have no idea why trans people are a part of the community when their sexuality and orientation is completely different. I also have been with bi guys and never again. Can't decide what they want and by then the hurt has already hit. If there are so many bi people , it's about time they started to stand up and be counted instead of letting gay and lesbians do it all the time. Right from the beginning they should have stood up like the gay men and lesbians did 50 60 70 years earlier. But they want to be safe and hide behind their "straight" attractions while letting gays and lesbians feel the full brunt of hate. Bi sexual people need to start and stay being with their own for the sake and sanity of all involved.
Bi is ok, hetero is ok, gay is ok, but….those curtains…..not ok.
I really appreciate hearing from another bisexual man. I've experienced a lot of the same feelings, and I'm still trying to figure myself out too. It's good to know I'm not alone.
theRightizright you ruined my day, thanks. If people are happy them just let them live however they want and be whoever they want to be, and stop criticizing
theRightizright i am christian and i do believe in god and actually pray a lot, but i don’t believe that homosexuality is a sin, cause it’s not a thing that people can choose, it can’t be changed ! And of course people addicted to drugs... need help and that wasn’t what i was talking about, but homosexuality is not a drug and can’t just be flushed away, that’s what most of you don’t understand, no one just woke up one day and decided to be gay or bi or trans...for the fun of it, it’s who they are and were meant to be , so i hope you get to accept them someday, it’s not that they need it tho as long as they accept themselves.
@theRightizright Although I agree with some of what you're saying as I'm a firm believer in Christ who--according to the Bible--knows homosexuality is sinful, I will tell you that this is not the place to start such a heated debate and continue with it as you've demonstrated in the past week. Even if your original reply was out of good intentions, which I don't believe it was, it didn't work because you're irritating people with your judging comments. Only the Lord is to judge since we are all broken people. Therefore, I find it in your best interest to stop wasting your time posting these comments since they're doing nothing but angering people.
@theRightizright First of all, we are not friends, so don't call me "friend." Second, I propose that you not use UA-cam as a platform for implementing Ezekiel 3:18. What I'm not going to do is participate in throwing Bible verses at each other to prove our points. Instead, I encourage you to focus on spreading the word of God in the most respectful and civil way possible. What you did was to the contrary because it angered a lot of people. They don't know you personally, so how much of an influence do you think you made on them? If you want to simply call strangers out on their sins via the Internet and believe you are doing right by God, then no one's stopping you. By all means, have fun posting similar comments on all UA-cam videos depicting people who sin. However, if you wish to make an actual, positive and civil influence, I suggest you start praying for those who need God in their lives and that they eventually turn to Him for guidance. If you're doing that, great, but don't use the Internet as a way to warn people of their sins.
theRightizright you should marry Shirley Phelps Roper. She had premarital sex too
This is a really beautiful video that shows the struggles of a bisexual man. Really helped me as a 14 year old bi guy who’s only had girlfriends ❤️
I’ve seen you in other videos lol
Bro I’m 18 and I never had a lover LOL *dying inside*
Me too but I'm more lean to one gender than the other.
Being bisexual is tricky. You receive input from both man and women and you really need to work through that. I only found out that I was bisexual at my 20's. Even being born in the 90's, I never thought that I had options. Everyone around me was straight so... I had to be straight. Problem is that I'm not straight
I figured it out shortly before my 49th birthday. And I have plenty of rainbow people in my life. 🤷
Happy New Year! 🎉💗💜💙
Hi greetings from Colombia Im curious about your post where are you from?
How do you find all these grounded, mature people able to talk about their experiences so calmly and openly. Blows my mind. I'm 33 and still get emotional when talking about my coming out experience.
I know right :)
@@alioramus1637 never say never.
Religion poisons everything- Christopher Hitchens.
@@Mcfreddo it will never happen. Coming out is something somalis don't do. We are muslims.
@@alioramus1637 Hardline ones. There are not so hardline ones.
You only get one life. These are the facts.
I know of one Muslim that has rejected completely of his faith. This all happened in Syria where quite a few of his family members died and he went- fuck it. It's all crap. The others wouldn't accept him, so he left that country and now live 1/2 a world away. He's happy.
You could leave. Conditional 'love' is not love in the slightest.
@@alioramus1637 And I have to say- once, there was no Islam, no Mohammad. It's not that long ago either. Why now (1300 or so years ago) ? None of it makes sense.
There wasn't any religion of this, nor any other once and the only way back- to diminish the madness of religion and faith, is to LEAVE them!
That may mean a new country
Very articulate man, great video. To express ourselves safely and comfortably is so important. Something I too, as a bi man, am finding is an ongoing learning process. Big up all bi men
Wow!!! He articulated that soooo well!!! When he gets those answers, he's gonna make someone hella happy!!!💝
Handsome
That "sigh" is golden (at the 6th minute). It's as if he finally arrived at a place where he is safe. Acceptance of self, in the arms of another man, the warm embrace of a woman, or all the above. The deep sigh and gently blinking of his eyes speaks volumes - it's a golden sigh!
At the age of 36, I finally found out what my sexuality was through this video. Bisexuality and Pansexuality has never been "enough" to define me. Sexual fluidity makes 100% sense.
Nothing can define you,because you are infinite.
@@lolaispure4296WOWWWWWW................!!!!!!!
Spot on, man!!!
You can call this stereotypical, but it is his life. I am not polyamourous, but understand the desire to be with both sexes very well. I talked about this with bi friends who feel the same, but find it hard to be honest about it, because its so stereotypical.
whether one is straight, bi, gay or trans, it shouldn't matter be true to who or what you are!
"I realized that it wasn't so much about me wanting to be with both sexes at the same time. It was more about me of being more comfortable with myself and being able to express that with whomever I was with."
This is so beautiful, meaningful, insightful, and deep, all simultaneously! ❤❤❤ for all bi guys around the globe, may all our struggles lead us to inner peace 🙏🙏🙏
I watched this because my son is "fluid" in his sexuality. I appreciate this man's positive outlook. My worry is that my son will never know what it''s like to be a in loving, fulfilling, long term relationship. He's big, strong, handsome, a gift, gifted, and a delight to be around. But stubborn and sometimes hard to reason with. All I can do is love him and hope for the best.
He is lucky to have a parent like you.
The relationship between me and my mother changed when I stopped seeing her as a mom but more as a human. This change got amplified when she stopped seeing me as a son and more as a human. 🌹
Can we talk about gorgeous this man is 😍
FRRRRRRR damn 😏😏😏
Found his Instagram @benwrightgibson
You’re welcome ;)
( Warning to Gay men ). Bisexual men will break your heart every time. It won't last and they never know what they want. Find a nice 100 % gay man to fall in love with if you want it to last. 🏳️🌈 ♥️
@Sebastian Alan If you dream of having sex with hot guys, you are not straight. Being bisexual can be very frustrating because you want to be with both sexes. Never being comfortable with the one you're with. Sometimes it takes a long time to figure out we are really gay but can't except it.
@Sebastian Alan You sound young and unsure of yourself which is normal in the awkward 20s. I too prefer manly acting gay men also and we do exist. You just need to be more comfortable with how God made you. Trust me there is no owners manual that comes from above for being born Gay. Life is too short to deny you who you really are. Don't hide from your family and close friends who you are inside. My God it's 2021 and normal for individuals to be attracted to our same sex. Just be glad you didn't grow up 30, 40, or 50 years ago. Remember to look in the mirror everyday and say, I love you Sebastian. ✔ 🤔
I understand your feelings and such. What I have a problem with is a man not letting his wife or significant other know he is bisexual. I married a man that was bisexual and he never told me about this before we got married. Needless to say it did not work out because of his lies. Please make sure you are always honest so no one gets hurt. Good luck to ya!
What your ex did was wrong. He should have let you know before, but maybe he was not ready to because it was not clear even to himself, or was not something he had yet accepted about himself? I hope he was able to apologise for that at least.
Being not-straight in a heteronormative society can be traumatic, and some people are not ready to address it even for decades. Lies are a painful way to self-preserve. It's sad but it's the truth.
Did you deserve to be lied to? No. You were disrespected, plain and simple.
What I'm trying to say, such things happen and they're sad from all angles.
Take care.
Spot on! I think though that finding the "one'" is about commitment to the person and not the sex. I pray you find that human being. xxx
Lucky that women and men get to experience this man!!! ❤️
I would love to with you
It's not fair for the man or woman he's with. He said he's always wanting to be with the other sex and can't decide what he is. As a gay man I don't want to fall in love with a confused bisexual man. Forget it if you want a long-term relationship with one. They will break a woman's or another man's heart.
@@rubencohen2936 You're right in that this guy in particular still needs to figure out that when you decide for sure if they want to be with someone that they will remain loyal to that partner. But please understand what you are expressing here is a stigma that gets unfairly put on most bisexuals that don't always deserve it.
@@sentinel8758 Well, he wasn't really stigmatizing bisexuals as a group, he was talking about this man who is a confused bisexual man as he himself admitted. The commenter was merely pointing out something obvious and of course mentioning the risk of falling in love with someone like him.
Bisexuals are just a big turn off for us gay guys let girls have them
What's weird to me as a gay man is hearing the term "choice". I hate this term. I hate it when people say anything regarding "choosing" when it comes to sexual attraction. Because it's just not true. If someone is attracted to both sexes, they're bisexual. If they're attracted to the opposite sex only, they're straight. If they're attracted to the same sex only, they're gay. That's the way I view it. You can "have sex" with anybody -- that doesn't necessarily mean anything really. Sexual orientation is who you are attracted to. And that is definitely not something that someone "chooses". Nor is it a "lifestyle".
i think he expresses himself beautifully . As a msn who’s been married have children & grandchildren and ‘ gay’ i would express it more not so much fluid on itself but chemistry . I think when you add that into the mix there’s more clarity . For example you may feel mostly attracted to men but if you encounter a man you do t have chemistry it may appear you’re more fluid , which could be the case , and it could be the attraction is conditional
Yessss! In this world where there is so much contention, hardship, and strife, the ability to love (letting gender occupy a less important role) illustrates an open, amazing, and depthful heart. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you!
When i was teen i was always attracted to women but as i got into my 20's and started being attracted to boys more than girls. Im very curious to experiment with men so i know what i am. I can't say im gay,bisexual or fluid but im not straight for sure. I could feel different in 10 yrs time.
Michael David lol I think we kinda have the same situation, I’ve always been attractive to girl and I’m still, but lately I start feeling that i want to finger my anus* from that day I’m confused and I feel like I’m attractive to guys now
Same here... I feel like I am just not straight.
@@joewu294 I class myself as gay now.
@@jaggass Do you still have attraction to women? And how does it compare now to how it was then?
@@ThatBunniBoi Yes but i think lots of porn played a huge part and screwed my mind up.
Being bi is a wonderful thing to discover about one’s self. Gays have told me I wasn’t gay. Straights have told me I should lower the tone of my voice, to be more successful. I’ve been married twice, to women, for about 40 years. Now I live with a man. A loving, wonderful man. For myself, I realized I didn’t want to be in a threesome, men or women, so obviously I could only be with either a man or a woman, at one time. Neither is “the answer”. The answer is in me. Because, no matter who you’re with, it’s really about how you are with yourself. Neither He nor She will fulfill you. You have to be happy with your self. I know now who I am, and I have a sense of personal pride I never had, before I figured out I am neither one nor the other. I have an open horizon, and it’s very freeing. All the best in your own, personal quest.
I'm also a bi guy, and I've felt a similar way. I've also thought about a polyamorous relationship with a guy and a girl once or twice. Even though I'm out I still struggle with my sexuality. It's good to hear someone else who understands.
Hey hey
Hi! Hope you've been doing well since you last posted this message a year ago.
I'm bi too (but female) and although I think I'm always gonna be monogamous despite my fluidity, I'm really glad that polyamory and ethical non-monogamy in general is becoming more accepted.
I guess its because it might (though I get not always!) be an elegant "solution" for certain bi+ people. I think even moreso for those of us who feel the fluidity part of our bisexuality pretty hard, those who're closer to that 50:50 "attraction model" or feel equally as desiring of both romantic and sexual relationships with either sex, or your "bi-cycle" shifts often or it shifts hard.
I was also gonna mention to you, though I'm sure you've probably researched it more by now - but if you are considering going poly, don't feel pressure to form a perfect poly triad with a man and a woman straight off the bat and not consider anything else.
I mean if it works, it works and that sounds heavenly, I'd be super jealous of you trust me - but more often than not they can be too complicated for most people, and affections between all 3 partners can be mismatched.
You could try open relationships where both partners are free to explore outside the relationship, or polyamorous set-ups where one or more people in the relationship date different people separately. Anyways shall stop talking now. Whatever you're going, as long as it's done with love, honesty, communication and a respect of boundaries then its gonna be good I think.
Wishing you the best!
I've been with both women and men but it didn't take long for me to figure out that I'm gay. I feel empathy for people who can't decide or feel that they need to. I think the answer is when they find that special someone made just for them, male or female.
Same here ...I dated girls all thru High School and when I went to College, I experimented with guys.... I consider myself Gay, even though I still get attracted to women but the difference is that I do not go out looking for women when single. Like if a woman was to approach me and we clicked and it was just a sexual thing, I would definitely see myself getting intimate with a woman (NSA) whether with a guy is different to me, I can either have a one night stand with the guy or I could see myself falling for him as well. So in this I feel and consider myself gay,,, I know what I like and want to wake up to every morning (Man).
The problem od this guy and a lot of "bi" people is that they can't see difference between romantic feelings and sexual orientation. Gay people are technicaly able to make love with opposite sex and have orgasm, but they are still gay, not bi.
@@hyakintos sexuality is whatever u want it to be whether it is romantic or sexual. some ppl experience sexual feelings after a connection w someone before straight up being completely into them on the get go. do not invalidate bi ppl because ur unable to understand or relate to it
@@chetanmoghe5011 Don't date bi people. They can never decide what they want. This is coming from experience. I'd never date another bi guy again, especially one that doesn't know what they want to start with...
Wow, Ben. Pretty amazing. You have followed your bliss and you will be the ultimate winner because of it. Your conversation reveals you to be a guy with introspection and the ability to analyze things deeply. Thanks for the video and best wishes.
I related to this story so much. So well spoken. What a great guy!
Hey Ben, welcome to authentic life. I don't think we ever achieve total understanding of WHO we are. You are alive, learning, and growing to discover that authentic infinite person called "Ben". Thanks, bro, for your sharing.......love.......Ray
Dr. Kinsey had it right in the world of the 1950s. Sexuality is a continuum. It isn't just one thing. Often, it can be situational. His scale listed seven numbers from straight (100%) to gay (100%). It's our job to find out who we are and what our true sexuality really is.
Thank you so much for making this video. Every single word is me. Absolutely love this and will share to my network.
I love his voice..... puts me to sleep... lol
You stated your feelings very well, I understand very much what you have experienced. Thank you for your honesty and sharing a complex subject that many people do not understand.
i came out almost the same way he did😂 was in the middle of class freshman year, had been thinking about it for some months, texted in the family groupchat “hey, sometimes i like guys and sometimes i like girls! see ya after school” and that was it lmao
So glad to know that it is a struggle for other people (I wouldnt wish struggle on anyone but I feel so alone with this). I've been dealing with this forever and just started dating guys at 28. I didn't want to believe I was bisexual or sexuality is fluid for the longest time. I would hook up with this guy back home like once or twice a year, always downloading and deleting gay dating apps trying to meet someone but I'd always back out. Then I moved out of my hometown last year at 27. Then I started dating guys cause nobody I knew from home would be near me. Turning 29 this month and I've been with a man the past 7 months. I really like him but he knows my struggle and is helping me. Most gays I met though think bisexuals are just confused. Maybe I am, I don't know. But I'm glad this dude talked about coming out to his parents, I'm trying to figure out how to do this myself. Great video. I really needed this.
I am exactly experiencing your situation, I am just 2 years younger than you. Wish I could know you in real life and I say this respectfully. Its difficult and people dont know it yet.
The huge advantage this guy has is that he's handsome, young and physically fit, thus it is a buyer's market for him when it comes to love and/or sex.
Very nicely spoken. This is the most common problem bi men face. Thank you gorgeous man.
Well said, congratulations.... be yourself, be happy, do what feels good in your heart !
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. I can really identify with being a certain way for the people I love. I’ve not yet found my voice or the courage to come out to my mom or my kids. I love them dearly and I know that they would accept me, but it is still terrifying. I am very comfortable in my skin but I want that authentic life that I have yet to live. It’s a true comfort to hear that I am not alone.
I'm in my early 20s. Still going through roller coaster ride. Thanks it helps. Honestly I searched for it.
I know exactly what you mean, Ben. I would enjoy sex with a woman, then after that, I would need a man. The same thing would happen with a man, and I'd want to "bounce" back to a woman. It was hard to understand. Thank you for the clarification ... this helps.
I speak to sexuality in my UA-cam here and I agree with Ben for guys to remain open, allow the experience and to just keep being as honest as you can with at least one or more people who you may know.
I can tell you many more people accept big guys or girls. Many keep it secret or only share when they know it's okay to share.
My partner Mark and I are both bisexual and we always say what is best about being bisexual this way. There are things only a woman can and things only a man can do, so why deny the pleasures from any of them. It took me a little while though coming to the realization that there was a third option of being bisexual.
Thanks for being honest and courageously open. Being a bisexual is a gift because you be able to enjoy the loving relationships with a man and with a woman at the same time. I think being a 100% gay and straight is very limiting and restrictive to only one gender, which does not provide variation at all. If you eat the same food every day, one becomes tired and bored 🥱. Having variation in life is more fun and joyous. I wish I was a bisexual like you! Lucky you!
Thank you for sharing your story. My sexuality is not fluid as far as I know, only gay. My problem is my upbringing in religion. Others with similar upbringings seem to have “gotten over it,“ but not I. I don’t know what the deal is I don’t know how to find out. I thought of this because you spoke very simply and openly about exploring your sexuality. You simply tried what you wanted to try.
Religion has made it difficult for men to be open and honest about their sexuality. You were created Magnificent! That is ty Truth. We will never have a universal theology. But we. must have a universal experience!
Very good points, you can’t live your life for others who really don’t have anything to do with your sexuality. All you do is rob yourself of intimacy and ultimately yourself! Everyone dies but not everyone lives. Don’t die a million deaths! I’m gay but lived my life for others like he did, now there’s very little left and I wonder if it’s worth it.
wow, what sensitivity and ability to express this guy has!
I feel that most men are bisexual. I have had alot of people tell me that there's no such thing of being bi and that I needed to explore more.
Given that we inherit sexual characteristics from both our parents it isn’t remote that are bisexual in nature. It is just a matter of gradient percentages on either side.
What an articulate guy! Great taste in curtains, too!
Yeah. Lol!
Gorgeous curtains
So observant. You can tell his gay side picked those curtains 🤣😂🤣😄🤣
I love this. I'm a gay man and my co worker who I've been hetting close with over the past few months just recently mentioned that he might be bisexual. In that moment, at work, i decided not to make it a big deal and just let it pass but did mention that sexuality can be fluid and we moved on. But i can say, it felt so AMAZING and SPECIAL to be the one he felt comfortable saying this too. Now i have a better understanding of what to say to him if he brings it up again and can hopefully be there to help him along the process and maybe some of the hate he may receive.
I don’t care about people’s sexuality.
Cheating is wrong!
his situation sounds confusing-he's can't decide between being polyamourous or bi.
Allot of bisexual men have struggles that they could end up cheating to explore there attraction to men
That's why he decided to try the polyamorous relationship, remember?
And also, in and open relationship there's no cheating as long you tell about it to your partner(s).
Well, he cheated on someone when he was in Highschool, alot people cheats each other when they were in Highschool, bc Highschool kids are Young and stupid yk
I do not (so far) identify as "bisexual"' but very much appreciate what this young man is saying. Sexuality, for me, has turned out to be far more complex and far richer and more exciting than I ever would have thought even ten years ago. I had no idea I could feel about women as strongly as I do now. Sometimes I see women as so beautiful, I almost can't believe that such beauty could even exist. But I'm sure glad it does!
Tks for sharing your life with us dude... listen you help me a lot ! Tks againg and kisses from Brazil
THANKS FOR SHARING !!! Wishing you love, peace, and joy!!
Don't be embarrassed about what you want and who you are. No one have any right to judge you 😊 🤗👏👏👏🙏
im Bi too....
I stil figuring out Shall i come out or not.
I love bin together with each other
I'm absolutely want to thank you listening to you experience. I went through this phase when I was around 19. Then, I realized that i was in fact gay. I didn't ever tell my family. But, how my family found out I was gay, my mom came over to my house and she just walked in, which was ok. But, she came into my room and she say me in a compromising position. She turned around and went into the frontroom. When I walked out and she said that she wanted to talk to me. I said back to her what is there to talk about? I then told her now you know.
I m 69, married to my 1st wife for 20 years, monogamous, virgin, only woman I knew and now have been with my male partner for 26 years, I call myself Gay, cause thats what we did in 1995...your comments are interesting and thought-provoking. Thank you
Who you ever marry whether with a girl or a guy. It is your own choice on who you love
I wish I could relate better to what he's going through. For me, I always knew I was gay, period. Never had any issues accepting it or dealing with it, just always knew what I liked.
I think to some extent that has to do with representation. There are a multitude of gay men in media (movies, tv, video games, comics, etc), but I struggle to think of a single bisexual man in media. Growing up when I first started experiencing same sex attractions I was confused and thought I was gay, but I still felt attraction to girls. It took me years to realize that men could be bisexual. All the bisexuals I had seen were women, and as a child I felt scared and very uncertain. I connect very deeply with the story Ben presents in this video, as I am 22 and I can't tell my best friend I'm bisexual knowing that he's gay and will accept me fully. It doesn't help when other members of the LGBT community invalidate my identity. It's hard out here for a bisexual man. Sorry for the long comment, but I have a lot of feelings on this issue. Lol.
@@s07561277 To me, personally, bisexuality is in the mind of those who still don't know who they are or what they want...and it's no wonder most "bisexuals" are from younger generations...especially millennial generation...they've been subjected to more disfunctionality and uncertainty than previous generations...that's also why you're seeing more sexually fluid people nowadays...
Marcus S How can you say bisexuals don’t know who they are? That’s just you not understanding their sexuality. I’m not confused or anything. I am who I am.
@@s07561277 A person that is unable to decide if he's going to be with a girl or with a guy or anything in between (LOL) is simply a bit disfunctional...that's why the narrative of "sexual fluidity" is being pushed forward as it is more 'confortable'...he's even having a hard time (dificulty in swallowing?) in dealing with it...sorry...but I'm out...LOL
@@SmartRobot-wc2fb Too bad you're "out", cause you could really use a dictionary to look up what the terms you're using mean. "Bisexual" doesn't mean you don't know who you wanna be with, it just means you have the capacity to be with someone regardless of their gender. HUGE difference.
Such a mess. I'm so glad I'm just gay.
Someone is biphobic.
That’s kinda the wrong approach to this
That's a bit toxic approach...how about being supportive, like any decent member of our lovely rainbow community should be.
@@firecatcher91 Bi people should stick to being with bi people. Especially since they don't know what they want. You only get hurt in the end. Trans people should be in a group of their own. Gay and lesbian probably should be on their own too as none of us have anything in common.
@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax What do you mean we dont know what we want?? How can you generalise whole god damn group just because a random number of us who are completely individual people, dont know how to deal with their sexuality?? That's almost saying like "Bi's shouldn't date gay people at all, because all they do is spread HIV.." A little harsh example but the point is there. The most stereotypical example of bi people get to hear is that we all cheat, or are closeted gays or just gays who are pretending, and that's the most insulting and stupid horseshit any of us can hear.
He's more gay than bisexual. The tight T-shirt says it all.
Is this guy a hypnotist? I'm getting drowsy.
ASMR
Once you get to the point of not needing relationships anymore, then all these problems go away. It’s my opinion that people just don’t want to get over their addiction to being in a relationship with someone, something that is antithetical to being free.
I own my bisexuality.I just don't feel the need to share this with everyone.
Emily Burgess that's what Grindr, Scruff or any other gay social apps are for lol
Ryan Black. I'd like to apologize. I'm not a guy. Someone used my phone 3 weeks ago and acted like an imbecile. I didn't know about it till I got a notification of your reply. Again I'm sorry for his abruptness.
New Avatar, I get that. Some people are just more private. That's cool. And some of us feel obligated to share our stories, for any number of reasons. I have a youtube channel on which I actively encourage others to live their truth and be honest as possible (as long as they're safe.) So, a couple of months ago when I realized that I'm bi, I thought it would be hypocritical to not announce it to my viewers.
In summary, we're all valid.
Happy New Year! 💗💜💙
A good friend once said "Sexuality, is who you say you are, now, and life is made up of many "nows" ...... thank you and enjoy and savor .............
Great point.
Needs a lot of courage to be honest with your self and others... but when you do is a big relief !!
This is a good guy hear, lucky whoever gets involve with him, now I’m going to eat my Papa Johns Pizza. Happy New Years everyone.
Does someone as a bisexual deny 'half' their sexuality when they commit to a gay or straight relationship? Can you really go from one relationship to another repeatedly and find contentment and yourself? It seems a decision will need to be made one way or another. I'd imagine sexual fluidity for 100% of the population would really cause quite a few problems.
Amazing video. I relate to you (aside from the poly aspect). Very encouraging! 😊
To be honest we dont need any Terminologies or tags to put on us, people should accept others the way they are without any judgmental thoughts!
My hopes are that bisexual men can have life-long relationships that permit them to be who they are & stop being condemned by a world that does not have a sympathetic ear for what they are trying to say. No one should end up being hurt & rejected. Love your wife with all your heart & soul. Be a father. Wives, listen, love him. Don't amputate his bisexual nature. Embrace it. This won't be the easiest thing to do, but once you grant him this love, you will know that your life can be lived with him & you can incorporate this larger-than-life, two spirit man, into your marriage & not end up in sadness or sorrow, but keep your love in place.
What do you mean by "amputate his bisexual nature"? Really curious. Is it like stop desiring men...permitting her husband to sleep with men??? Curious
So much Me Me Me in there! Just don’t think about committing. That involves another persons feelings unless that other person is also only centered in themselves. Rather just have the sex.
I’m not sure if you’re strong to come out and tell people you’re bisexual or you just find a way to find relief to live somewhat stress free.
Sexual oppression as described has the potential to be so destructive regardless of an individual's sexual orientation. Even heteronormative individuals live in constant fear of being accused of failing the heterosexual litmus test. The sad part is that sexual oppression is one of the dominant features of religious fundamentalism which saturates the American South, Utah and rural areas in the bluest of states. I sincerely wish Ben all the best on his journey. 😁
Exceptional man. Handsome, intelligent and highly articulate.
Fascinating piece on him and his life. Very insightful. Thank you.
I have always believed sexuality was for a lot of people on a spectrum. And once you realise and can accept it’s the person you fall in love with, not their sex, so much changes about who you are, and the freedom to love whom you want follows. And there’s no one to come out to, except your self. That acceptance brings with it, reassurance and self confidence. And it lets go of the guilt, that you have something to hide. Which you don’t.
Well said! 👏
I’ve never dated a bisexual guy before. I wonder what it would be like dating one…
Oh thank god! Maybe with all this fluidity one day I can be straight.
Happy Slayer just be happy with the way you are and don't change your sexually to try and please other ppl. It's your life live it your best way! I used to feel like you too. I think of it more of a spectrum than a fluidity. 😁 Cheers!
Or u can be bi and marry a bi girl and have an open relationship
I hope that more bisexual people come forward. We should keep working to create a world where everyone can feel free to express the truth about themselves. Sexual orientation is anything but black and white.
I am a bi man married to a woman. everyone assumes I am straight. I just recently started very casually outing myself to my colleagues. It's been very liberating.
"Embraces sexual fluidity?" ... sounds very messy with lots of tissue wipes ....
I am 67 and have been fluid with my sexuality my entire adult life....attractive is attractive....as you get older your become totally aware that more of the people hitting on you are married men...therefore, I am not the only "FLUID" person out here....and one's person guess that 50% of men are having sex with other men on a regular basis is a very good estimate....if not higher!
Beautiful. Take your time. What feels right ❤
It is all about being comfortable in your skin. I am glad you figure it out, I hope you are happy now.
Hey don't think too much about your sexual preferences .Just love and be Merciful and also your friends and your partner.
Hot, sexy man! I wish him much happiness with whoever he finds. I'm gay and I accept that. I would be honored to meet him for a date.
Great talk and very easy to listen to.
I love this video. Watching it a second time. Ben Gibson's experience has been similar to mine and I'm sure many other men and women.
I like you. You are honest person I ever known. Follow your heart.
Great video. Very true and inspiring video as it made feel good listening to your story that i not alone being bi and loving both sexes. Thank you😄😄
"Sexual Fluidity" is just another stupid label. At the end, he just found out he's attracted to people's personalities rather than strictly sexual features as it should be in any mature relationship.
This is unexpected. This is great.
If a guy likes women, he’s probably well advised not to tell her he’s had a relationship with a man. Women aren’t very fond of this idea as I understand it.
If they end up in a committed relationship and this past relationship with a man then becomes ancient history, then she’s probably more willing to compartmentalize it.
Unless your partner is also bi-sexual you face to problem of being told “I’m not enough for you”.
Remarkably well presented. Very interesting and complex subject and very real. Thank you for beautifully opening up this tangled web of feelings and stating them so clearly. You are a beautiful soul.
I can tell, he's more into guys than girls.
yeah his gesture explained that
Hello??? Who really cares about what you are in terms of sexuality except for someone who truly loves you? JUST BE WHAT YOU ARE.
Cheating is no excuse, you have to communicate your feelings with your partner about shit like this!
Burgerbitch. : cheating in more ways than one . Cheating on
You he is first .
Well, he cheated on someone when he was in Highschool, alot people cheats each other when they were in Highschool, bc Highschool kids are Young and stupid yk
Men or Women. We all have our dark side of bisexuality attraction in our psychological behavior. It is entirely normal in our human nature to connect with both sex attractions, male and female. However, we alone hold the key to success or failure, and we take responsibility to make the right decision to live with the right partner and move forward in life with or without regret.
Thanks for this. You’ve permitted yourself to be happy. Okay
Why is it that majority of gay men & lesbians don't accept bisexual men? They say bisexuals in reality are gay but they are just confused, coward or too ashamed to admit that they are gay. I've been in a relationship with both genders but I only fell in love with a woman so far. I've been in a relationship with bisexual men...total of 4 men, not at once but one at a time. I'd like to think that I'm faithful and decent. I loved them but I have never fell in love with them the way I fell in love with a woman.
I used to get so confused and agonized with my attraction to both genders until I gave up and surrendered to the reality that I'm bisexual. I wish there's a cure to bisexuality to be straight or gay. The only advantage I could think of being bi is the fact that I enjoy making love with women and men. I'm not discriminatory & I have the best of both worlds but the society is not very tolerant with people like me and my faith makes it impossible for me to be carefree about my bisexuality. My sexuality & life aren't so easy. 😢
I find it confusing when my straight friends would say they like hanging out with me and very comfortable with around me. Idk if I should wait or ask them. Only problem is they all have gf's
As a gay person these are the type of guys I would avoid.... I have a whole history of pain and hurt from dating bi guys that I am definitely not gonna get into. My advise is that bisexual men should only date other bisexual men and gay guys should only date other gay guys....
Selfish
I agree. These guys are dangerous to a gay guy that could be looking for more. They can lead you on in the worst way possible, speaking totally off first hand experience. Say this guy meet a single gay guy, that could be very vulnerable, as most are to this type of guy. I'm whole-heartedly agreeing with Iylla on this one.
That doesn't have to do with them being bi though. It has to do with them not knowing themselves. Speaking as someone who's bi.
Then those people are pretty messed in the first place. It's like me saying "I have a history gay's cheating me so my advice staying away from gays because all they can do is cheat."...if you wanna put the blame for someone's sexuality rather than blaming the people alone who's cheated, then that's just wrong. That's kinda excuse to blame whole basket of fruits being shitty when there's only a few of them being rot and others are fine and good. Sorry to hear your experience is being bad, but those people are just bad alone and I'm sure their sexuality has nothing to do with cheating, it's everyone's concious decision to cheat, nothing to do with sexuality, period!
@@firecatcher91 Nope...bisexuals should stick with their own. Gay people should stick with their own. I have no idea why trans people are a part of the community when their sexuality and orientation is completely different. I also have been with bi guys and never again. Can't decide what they want and by then the hurt has already hit. If there are so many bi people , it's about time they started to stand up and be counted instead of letting gay and lesbians do it all the time. Right from the beginning they should have stood up like the gay men and lesbians did 50 60 70 years earlier. But they want to be safe and hide behind their "straight" attractions while letting gays and lesbians feel the full brunt of hate. Bi sexual people need to start and stay being with their own for the sake and sanity of all involved.
very cute guy