Is My Relationship Toxic? I Can't Stop Comparing. What If I've Never Been in Love? (ROCD Q&A)
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- Hello loves!
We received so many important questions from the ROCD Course Level 1 (rocdcourse.com) Community this week that we wanted to share publicly with you.
Of course, many parts of the LIVE are cut out to keep our members anonymous and feeling safe, but we have added parts that we knew would help you.
We go over questions like:
How to work on the thoughts that feel so real? (1:59)
What if I’ve never been in love with my partner? (6:00)
Comparing past relationships with my current partner: (6:45)
Working with toxic and red flag issues (7:08)
Is my love genuine? (11:36)
Compulsions and Reassurance with forums, group pages etc. (14:16)
Working with conflict (15:28)
Why does the brain go into comparison? (17:02)
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rocd really is interesting. intrusive thought that bothers me the most is "what if i am with him only because i feel bad" and sometimes it really gets hard. the thoughts can feel so real even tho in my heart i know its nonsense. i decided to use rocd as an opportunity to get even close to my partner who is already so supportive and i love him with all my heart. i hope more people who are struggling with rocd see this video!
Kiyomi, you sincerely saved my life. Ten months ago I had a huge meltdown, I had so many intrusive thoughts, break up urges and felt miserable. My partner was so confused and stayed by my side despite the pain he felt.
I didn't know what to do, so I googled my symptoms, I knew it was something deeper. I found the term rocd and then I found you and Awaken into love. I started to understand what was going on and went to see a therapist who confirmed I was suffering from rocd. I am still with my partner, and I am so happy and grateful for this relationship. Thank you. I still have hard times but now I have the tools to work through them. Thank you, sincerely
Tell me, is this relationship OCD? When I think about a girl, I immediately get anxiety. When I communicate with her, the feeling is that I am uncomfortable and anxious and that it interferes and frightens! When I say different pleasant words, I think good about her, when I say that I love inside, as if I don’t want to, as if it’s not true and it’s scary! I am pondering this feeling, my thoughts, looking for everything on the Internet. And suddenly I do not like thoughts, and suddenly the feelings have died out. I get hung up on some little things, shortcomings. And when there is a thought that you are in the wrong relationship, that they are not healthy, that you need to leave, then immediately panic. I really do not want to part and love her very much. I don't understand what it is.
@@levostapchuk9422 I can't give you a diagnosis but it does seem a lot like what I felt when I was at my worse. You should try to educate yourself on rocd and see a therapist if you can ❤️ You are not alone
@@idreamtadreamlastnight do you have instagram?
@@idreamtadreamlastnight Good day! You may ask, most likely I had Relationship OCD, but I constantly doubt it. But now my thoughts have practically disappeared and my anxiety has subsided, but doubts and feelings that I have stopped loving, that I have cooled down to the girl and that feelings have not gone away. Is this normal with relationship OCD? I'm thinking it over, trying to prove that there are feelings, but it's like I'm lying. I'm trying to find info
@@levostapchuk9422 Thoughts lead to feelings/ emotions which leads to you overreacting.
Question is where do thoughts come from?
I've just seen one of your videos and you totally changed my mind and calmed me down. Thank you so much ♡
Such a great video.
Fancy seeing u!
Thank you. Really thank you.
This is powerful 😵
Thank you for your helpful video :)
I’m concerned that I don’t have that many intrusive thoughts as much. Right now I’m dealing with not feeling anything at all for him and it feels so real that I’m believing it…..
I’ve had moments like that too. For months I just sort of felt dead inside and slept as far away from him in the bed. I tried on my wedding dress and cried because I felt nothing. But it seemed to go away once I took some time for myself and acknowledged those feelings by journaling and now I’m back to where I was before…in a happy relationships and excited to get married. It’s going to be okay. I definitely suggest journaling your thoughts and feelings out if you don’t already ❤️
@@LesleySASMR thanks for this. I'm so anxious when I think about marriage and engagement. But I want to marry. There are just other aspects that give the anxiety, causing either anxious feelings or that kind of numbness (which makes me anxious)
Thank you
Thank U dear
Hi,
You Said something about getting in compulsions when I read through the Posts. So My questions is whenever I get a feeling of intrusive thoughts and I go right away to yt to watch your videos, am I feedingmy rocd? Thanks for your tons of explanations❤️
I've been on a 3 month waiting list for a therapist in the UK, this anxiety I've been experiencing regarding my relationship has been crippling, panic attacks, emotional breakdowns, guilt, Shame, feeling disconnected / out of love etc, all common ROCD symptoms from videos I've watched etc, but my therapist doesn't think I have OCD, just a form of relationship anxiety, yet I experience so much of what your videos describe & other Videos. I guess I'm freaking out because if I don't have ROCD & it's just anxiety does that mean my feelings & thoughts are real? Or do anxiety & ROCD share the same experience RE feelings/ thoughts & sensations?
I’ve been with my beautiful partner for almost a year now, he lives in Tasmania I live in nsw and I lived there for several months and we gained this strong amazing relationship, and I had to go back home and go back with my parents and the ROCD started and until I found your channel I never really new why I thought like this in the past and it’s because I don’t want to be like my parents. My mum manipulates me and especially my dad make him feel bad for things he enjoys, she’s visibly hurt dad and he’s so uncomfortable around her but he can’t leave her because she has a disability and no money he works 9 hours and is tired and can be rude and sometimes not very interested in her interests but who can blame them, they fight so much and are so toxic for eachother but they’ll never leave eachother cause they “Love” eachother. I’ve been so worried my happy relationship will be like that like what if we won’t be happy what I’m not bf old enough he’s not N old enough when really I’m so so so so scared of losing him and us being like my parents. Being stuck in a 6 month lockdown and away form my partner for now 7 months is hard but we keep trying and being so supportive of eachother. I just want to be with him and learn to not listen to my thoughts and anxiety but learn and become stronger with myself and my partner.
Tell me, is this relationship OCD? When I think about a girl, I immediately get anxiety. When I communicate with her, the feeling is that I am uncomfortable and anxious and that it interferes and frightens! When I say different pleasant words, I think good about her, when I say that I love inside, as if I don’t want to, as if it’s not true and it’s scary! I am pondering this feeling, my thoughts, looking for everything on the Internet. And suddenly I do not like thoughts, and suddenly the feelings have died out. I get hung up on some little things, shortcomings. And when there is a thought that you are in the wrong relationship, that they are not healthy, that you need to leave, then immediately panic. I really do not want to part and love her very much. I don't understand what it is.
okay, so my question is about what to do about a marriage that is possibly a trauma bond. Is it possible to develop a healthy relationship with rocd?
Thank for you this video, I saved it to watch for later cause I am just in a very difficult and dark season of life and me knowing me I bet this could for lack of better word trigger myself. But I love you all and in and through Christ can get us through ✝️🙏🏻💪🏻❤️
Could you talk about ROCD and the ick? Please
Tell me, is this relationship OCD? When I think about a girl, I immediately get anxiety. When I communicate with her, the feeling is that I am uncomfortable and anxious and that it interferes and frightens! When I say different pleasant words, I think good about her, when I say that I love inside, as if I don’t want to, as if it’s not true and it’s scary! I am pondering this feeling, my thoughts, looking for everything on the Internet. And suddenly I do not like thoughts, and suddenly the feelings have died out. I get hung up on some little things, shortcomings. And when there is a thought that you are in the wrong relationship, that they are not healthy, that you need to leave, then immediately panic. I really do not want to part and love her very much. I don't understand what it is.
You cannot be in Love.
You can only know Love.
What does that mean? If you don’t mind me asking
You have to ne carefull to with Who your talking to about this. One Time I Said to my sister That im sure I have ROCD she said that It was all in my head.
yes and their words get it worse
@@kellyalrion5838 yes
Oh my god, what a horrible trigger :(
@@chamomilemaree7445 yes thats why I dont Talk to my family about this :(
It is quite isolating isn't it because you have to pick who you talk to carefully
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