Good stuff guys. I believe Being honest with ourselves is the toughest.Once you do you can beat anything. At the age of 12 and Being teased by the kids at school that you are adopted was gutting. It leaves you with no history and you loose trust in the parents. Of course I looked angry all of the time I was soaked in pain frustration and sadness. The alcohol no help at all. Just emptied the wallet And me of friends. The irony was that I wasn't actually angry. I was learning how to be happy then contented. Which was a huge battle in itself. I was so lucky that a treasure came along and saw the pain. Next may we will celebrate our 50th anniversary. At about 35 years of age I stopped looking in the rear view mirror. Finally I realized life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body. But we should drift in sideways, totally shattered. Shouting: HOLY SHIT WHAT A RIDE. Just hoping the body holds up from all the past abuse. I believe anger only lasts for about 20 seconds. Then it becomes judgment. I'm very much at ease and prefer peace. Hopefully this helps at least one person. First be honest with yourself.
I think time heals most things in life, if you do something that's not good for you for long periods of time eventually your body or mind will force you to stop it's not till the shit hits the fan that people realy start to listen so try not to tell people what to do about it, this will only cause stress in your own mind all you can do is love them give options
Good one again clay. I don’t know if I had an addiction but I did make a lot of home brew in my early 30s like beer and spirits and we would have lots of parties in the back yard you know the Ozzie bbq. But I never drank and drive . I sir pose it was like a faze you go through when your young. And I was lucky enough to have a family and new when it was the right time to do it and not over do it. So that’s my brief story. Only in moderation now. All the best to you clay and Daymo hope youse are well thanks for sharing buddy Colin 🤠🇦🇺☕️☕️🙏😘
I'm addicted to drink, weed & women i shouldn't. As I've got older I have been able to manage them to some extent. But yes I know I should stop. Grew up with alcoholic & abusive father so knew risks but sometimes you have to learn for yourself alb fae scotland
Pretty shore I was a fully paid up alcoholic. All my worst problems were when I drunk. Next day the anxiety would go off the charts. My road to recovery started with the keto deit. Now no coffee too as I was having 10 cups aday. The deit took away my depression and my anxiety. Lossing 25kg has given me back my life . 😊 you clay
Hi bro..I've definitely had my share of addictions be it drugs , self harm or my eat disorder I once had. For me drugs was easy to stop but as soon as the temptation was back I couldn't resist. I remembered the feeling it gave me and thought it actually helped when I was depressed etc just like self harm I thought helped. None of it helped now that I have a clear mind and can look back. For me it was a feeling of something in my life I could control when in real my life was turning to Sh##. How I got away from it 1 I left the circle of friends I hang out with 2 I moved to a new town where Noone knew me and I didn't know anyone. 3 I kept a self journal in that I released all my negative energy and also could see my triggers that caused me to use or to self harm. The eating disorder was the hardest one to get away from be a addiction or a mental illness it made me very very sick I'm still suffering through effects over 10 years later. I don't think there is just one answer to beat addiction you have to want to quit it without that you easily go back to just one more time. I always used that line just one more time I'll have this last puff then I'll quit. Yeah right. I found If I went back you hit it even harder. But I believe our minds our strongest tool I believe its always possible so never quit trying if your addicted. You got this one day at a time.
Hey friend , many many of us struggle through life . Now matter how clever we think we might be , we are all susceptible to leaning on one thing or another when we feel poorly . You sound like you have wrapped your head around it . But please remember your worst times because they can come back very quickly when times get tough! Good luck , stay tough! Because as we have all heard at one time or another , Tough times don't last forever but tough people do !!!!!!! Best wishes Tony.
My opinion guys is this.. For example a lot of people that love food/cooking either smoke or have a drink, like cooking a bbq/smoker/ fire you either have a set of tongs in one hand or a smoke in the other then or a drink in the other so the trouble is you have to substitute things change it up. Have a tooth pick in ur mouth. If you hate menthol smokes then by a couple bags of mints this way once you've had a few mints then u have a smoke the taste is shit and tastes like crap and you don't want/like the taste. That way you cut back but it's more change. Changing ur ways and ain't easy by any means. Talking to people for example a men's behaviour course is out of this world the life lessons you learn are awesome. BUT YOU AND ONLY YOU CAN MAKE CHANGE. B4 you hit rock bottom and ur scrapping ur face off the pavement to be able to afford bread, milk bloody anything. Change is the best BUT TALKING IS THE CHEAPEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO HELP ANYONE/ANYBODY. YOU HAVE TO HAVE LOYAL PEOPLE AND BROTHERS OR SISTERS FROM OTHER MOTHERS AROUND YOU THAT YOU RESPECT AND WILL BLOODY LISTEN TO AND WHAT THEY SAY. Life is to short.. go to ur happy place to clear your head. That's my advice from past and present 🤙
My 52 yo sister is currently dying in hospital, in Australia. She has been a heavy drinker for years, stuffed her life up, 2 kids in care etc, never her fault, she blamed our mum for most stuff & never really got along with me, as I'm 6 yrs younger, she was probably jealous of my attention when I was born. Anyway her liver has rotted away, she has been living with my elderly mother for 5 yrs now, as my father died in 2017 from bowel cancer at 70. All these things have put so much stress on my mother, yet my sister has never helped much, nor paid for much even on the dole, still blamed my mum & argued with her constantly, but alas she is on her deathbed, soon will be out of her misery, my mum hopefully will have a better end of life now too. I feel hopeless as I'm 4 1\2 hrs drive south. Anyway, needed to tell my story to some, all I can say is quit the heavy alcohol, or other drugs, before it is too late, you only have 1 life, look after yourselves & those around you.
Thought this was was worth passing on . Jude my wife has seriously stated that she thinks Damo,s got what it takes to be a model . Thats got to be good for ones self confidence! Regards Tony
I do inside my head every day now ! But it is me that was truly blessed the day we fell in love! Anyone that can put up with me for 24yrs is a better person than most people I've met. I recognise it every day and consider myself truly blessed ! If only i had Damos looks!!!!! Regards Tony.
Good stuff guys.
I believe Being honest with ourselves is the toughest.Once you do you can beat anything.
At the age of 12 and Being teased by the kids at school that you are adopted was gutting.
It leaves you with no history and you loose trust in the parents.
Of course I looked angry all of the time I was soaked in pain frustration and sadness.
The alcohol no help at all. Just emptied the wallet And me of friends.
The irony was that I wasn't actually angry. I was learning how to be happy then contented.
Which was a huge battle in itself.
I was so lucky that a treasure came along and saw the pain.
Next may we will celebrate our 50th anniversary.
At about 35 years of age
I stopped looking in the rear view mirror.
Finally I realized life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body.
But we should drift in sideways, totally shattered.
Shouting: HOLY SHIT WHAT A RIDE.
Just hoping the body holds up from all the past abuse.
I believe anger only lasts for about 20 seconds. Then it becomes judgment.
I'm very much at ease and prefer peace.
Hopefully this helps at least one person.
First be honest with yourself.
🙏
I think time heals most things in life, if you do something that's not good for you for long periods of time eventually your body or mind will force you to stop it's not till the shit hits the fan that people realy start to listen so try not to tell people what to do about it, this will only cause stress in your own mind all you can do is love them give options
Good one again clay. I don’t know if I had an addiction but I did make a lot of home brew in my early 30s like beer and spirits and we would have lots of parties in the back yard you know the Ozzie bbq. But I never drank and drive . I sir pose it was like a faze you go through when your young. And I was lucky enough to have a family and new when it was the right time to do it and not over do it. So that’s my brief story. Only in moderation now. All the best to you clay and Daymo hope youse are well thanks for sharing buddy Colin 🤠🇦🇺☕️☕️🙏😘
Thanks buddy
Thanks Clay and Damo.
I'm addicted to drink, weed & women i shouldn't. As I've got older I have been able to manage them to some extent. But yes I know I should stop. Grew up with alcoholic & abusive father so knew risks but sometimes you have to learn for yourself alb fae scotland
Well done managing that mate. It's hard.
Pretty shore I was a fully paid up alcoholic. All my worst problems were when I drunk. Next day the anxiety would go off the charts. My road to recovery started with the keto deit. Now no coffee too as I was having 10 cups aday. The deit took away my depression and my anxiety. Lossing 25kg has given me back my life . 😊 you clay
You are an inspiration mate
@@thebrocheckclub1777 and so are you my friend
Hi bro..I've definitely had my share of addictions be it drugs , self harm or my eat disorder I once had.
For me drugs was easy to stop but as soon as the temptation was back I couldn't resist.
I remembered the feeling it gave me and thought it actually helped when I was depressed etc just like self harm I thought helped.
None of it helped now that I have a clear mind and can look back.
For me it was a feeling of something in my life I could control when in real my life was turning to Sh##.
How I got away from it
1 I left the circle of friends I hang out with
2 I moved to a new town where Noone knew me and I didn't know anyone.
3 I kept a self journal in that I released all my negative energy and also could see my triggers that caused me to use or to self harm.
The eating disorder was the hardest one to get away from be a addiction or a mental illness it made me very very sick I'm still suffering through effects over 10 years later.
I don't think there is just one answer to beat addiction you have to want to quit it without that you easily go back to just one more time.
I always used that line just one more time I'll have this last puff then I'll quit.
Yeah right.
I found If I went back you hit it even harder.
But I believe our minds our strongest tool I believe its always possible so never quit trying if your addicted.
You got this one day at a time.
Hey friend , many many of us struggle through life . Now matter how clever we think we might be , we are all susceptible to leaning on one thing or another when we feel poorly . You sound like you have wrapped your head around it . But please remember your worst times because they can come back very quickly when times get tough! Good luck , stay tough! Because as we have all heard at one time or another , Tough times don't last forever but tough people do !!!!!!! Best wishes Tony.
My opinion guys is this..
For example a lot of people that love food/cooking either smoke or have a drink, like cooking a bbq/smoker/ fire you either have a set of tongs in one hand or a smoke in the other then or a drink in the other so the trouble is you have to substitute things change it up. Have a tooth pick in ur mouth. If you hate menthol smokes then by a couple bags of mints this way once you've had a few mints then u have a smoke the taste is shit and tastes like crap and you don't want/like the taste. That way you cut back but it's more change. Changing ur ways and ain't easy by any means.
Talking to people for example a men's behaviour course is out of this world the life lessons you learn are awesome. BUT YOU AND ONLY YOU CAN MAKE CHANGE.
B4 you hit rock bottom and ur scrapping ur face off the pavement to be able to afford bread, milk bloody anything.
Change is the best BUT TALKING IS THE CHEAPEST AND MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO HELP ANYONE/ANYBODY.
YOU HAVE TO HAVE LOYAL PEOPLE AND BROTHERS OR SISTERS FROM OTHER MOTHERS AROUND YOU THAT YOU RESPECT AND WILL BLOODY LISTEN TO AND WHAT THEY SAY.
Life is to short.. go to ur happy place to clear your head. That's my advice from past and present 🤙
G'day clay and Damo, great vid guys
My 52 yo sister is currently dying in hospital, in Australia. She has been a heavy drinker for years, stuffed her life up, 2 kids in care etc, never her fault, she blamed our mum for most stuff & never really got along with me, as I'm 6 yrs younger, she was probably jealous of my attention when I was born. Anyway her liver has rotted away, she has been living with my elderly mother for 5 yrs now, as my father died in 2017 from bowel cancer at 70. All these things have put so much stress on my mother, yet my sister has never helped much, nor paid for much even on the dole, still blamed my mum & argued with her constantly, but alas she is on her deathbed, soon will be out of her misery, my mum hopefully will have a better end of life now too. I feel hopeless as I'm 4 1\2 hrs drive south. Anyway, needed to tell my story to some, all I can say is quit the heavy alcohol, or other drugs, before it is too late, you only have 1 life, look after yourselves & those around you.
That's a tragic story brother. We appreciate you sharing your challenges with family and valid warning. Thanks mate.
Thought this was was worth passing on . Jude my wife has seriously stated that she thinks Damo,s got what it takes to be a model . Thats got to be good for ones self confidence! Regards Tony
See that Daymo! Bless your wife mate.
I do inside my head every day now ! But it is me that was truly blessed the day we fell in love! Anyone that can put up with me for 24yrs is a better person than most people I've met. I recognise it every day and consider myself truly blessed ! If only i had Damos looks!!!!! Regards Tony.
Daymos got it down. That dog was distracting.
Daymo is an old souk Sir Greg. Wise beyond his years