I’m going on 27 soon and have been feeling insecure because I’ve been a single virgin my whole life, but you really have a gift for speaking encouragement. I think one day God will put a good Christian man in my life and if He doesn’t, His will be done. But anyways I would definitely like to say thank you! You have a gift for encouragement and I find you to be an inspiration for many woman. 😊
I'm 28 and a virgin! Don't worry about it. I have been to hell and back with my relationships and learned to raise the bar very high and sacrificed a lot to do so, it was lonely and hard but God never left me for one moment and walked with me every step of the way as He does with you! Please don't feel insecure as a virgin. You have something precious. Stay brave!
Enjoy reading your post, its definitely not easy, you are young, I am in my forties and still haven't known anyone, I even can't say the word, I really don't live this well, I have all kind of emotions inside, Regrets that I did not do like all my friends, who knew the Lord but still left him for a while and had relationships and came back to him.
I felt like I was reading my life from what you wrote about yourself. The only difference is I'm 29 but my thoughts are quite similar to yours. It's all about God's will for my life. Whether or not I get married. I have been embracing that concept for a while now. God knows best and if marriage is something that will pull me away from Him and won't edify Him, then He won't give it to me. And I have to be okay with that. He is my King and my Father. I have to trust Him.
Hero of Twilight I am right there with you: 27 and never had a date, let alone a boyfriend. It’s so nice to know we’re not alone in this experience :) And so great to know God has a plan for us regardless.
I’ve definitely been told my standards are too high, but I refuse to let that criticism stop me from pursuing those standards in a future husband! I trust God though that in His perfect timing He’ll bless me with the perfect person for me :). Thanks for the encouraging video!
As hard and scary as it is to be single still at 33, it is a much scarier thought yoking myself to someone who is wrong for me. I would much rather be single than settle. Marriage is an earthly reflection of our relationship with God and is a foreshadow of our Marriage to the King! I would not want to cast a shadow over something that is meant to be a gift, due to my impatients. So instead I pray, and wait, and am trying to prepare myself as best I can to be an amazing wife for the right Godly man someday, and allowing God to do the work in me to be ready for that kind of relationship whenever that comes. But ultimately it starts with having a close knit relationship with Jesus first! Thank you for the continued encouragement and content that is uplifting and speaking truth!
I've heard so many times "you are too picky" and "you're never going to find someone like that." Thank you for being such an encouragement and positive light!
So true Emily, I had bad relationships before I met my husband because I didn't think it was possible to keep any bar at all... (and still my friends would call me "nun" because they wouldnt even think abour having a bar at all xD) and then my husband came by, took my bar and put it high on his own for me, and I was like "wow". He respected me before I respected myself, cra-zy. He taught me so many things :D
*The peace of God is so powerful, He truly helped me in this area! He was my strength! Jake was actually my first boyfriend & we dated with the purpose of marriage in mind! & I never ever thought I’d get married! God has amazing plans for us, whether He calls us to be single (look at Paul’s wonderful example) or to be married, we can trust Him and His timing! Thank you for your encouragement!!!* 💛
Much needed words. Im turning 28 this year and no bf since birth. Im not dating anyone and most of my college friends are already having children. There are days that im grateful im single instead of settling to a relationship that is not good but there are days that im pity partying and thinking if there is a man that is praying for me. 😭 Thanks for this encouragement!😭♥️
Girls never lower your standards. God truly delivers. I recently started dating a devout Catholic & virtuous man who meets the bar !!! Trust in him, surrender and pray to Our Lady for her intercession. God sees the bigger picture for you and your future vocation here on earth. He will give you the greatest of love story you could ever imagine. Thank you so much for this video Emily, God Bless you and your family xx
I'm 25. Just got dumped from an almost 7yr relationship. That relationship is not fulfilling and yes I compromised my goals, my beliefs as a Christian (because he was an unreligious Catholic btw), values, and standards. Thank you for posting this video. It's hard to detach myself from that relationship especially from lovers we turned to strangers/enemies now. I am so hurt. But because of this I learned many things and I am now really setting a bar for the man I am going to love next. I would like someone who loves God and is compassionate and generous and respectful to everyone. For now these are the basic traits I want and I am working on myself too. It is important to be the right person first before looking for others to be perfect. I admire you for being able to stick to your standards it really is hard I wish I had been wise and listened to the bible about what is right and wrong but I just can't bring back the time and I can't take back my mistakes for because of it I am now on a journey of becoming a better Christian.
Thank you, Emily❤️. Also, I just wanted to say that my brother met u at the Seek conference and waited 2 hours in line to get a book signed by you-for me, for my birthday ( he did this completely on his own, in secret) . I'm not saying that's the only thing that makes him an awesome older brother but girls deserve to date someone who treats them like he treats women, with respect and kindness.
Spoiler alert- if someone is telling you that you are not worth the standarts you have- that someone is not a true friend! A friend will be the one to lift you up and encourage you when you are about to give up on finding the right person! Emily, this was a great video 🤗 you deserve a special place in heaven 🌈
This is exactly what I needed to hear today! In the last 24 hours I have had people mock me for my standards, and I thought about settling because I feel so so lonely! I prayed and begged God for some kind of help and encouragement last night, and today I stumbled upon this video, this video was a direct answer to my prayer! Thank you so much for what you are doing here. Thank you for listening to the Holy Spirit to know to what God needs you to share and thank you for being willing to share it! I cannot thank you enough!
I think sometimes people give too much focus on having chemistry with the person. They think oh we get along so i can change them. At least I do that. I have decide that My future husband has to respect animal rights and has to be a Christian who understands that i am waiting until marriage. I have been into too many guys who try make me thing otherwise or aren’t believers of the Lord.
I really needed this. I'm a 23 year old who has been in 2 relationships where I knew I was settling. Since then I've told myself that I will never put myself through such unhappiness. Yet some days it's hard remembering that but this video made me remember how fufilled I am now and how I never want to be in a relationship unhappy again. Thanks Emily!
Emily, Thank you so much for this video. I am almost 26 years old and have never even been on a date. When I have people ask me why I'm single I tell them it's because I have certain non-negotiable standards. One of them being that my boyfriend/husband has to be a man of faith. And I still believe that. But as I've gotten older, it has actually gotten harder. With more and more of my friends and family finding their spouses it does sometimes feel like I'll never find the guy for me. I have also realized though that I am at my happiest when I am following Jesus and allowing Him to pursue me. He holds the bar of my standards and if there is a man for me, he will have to go to Jesus to get it. :) I really appreciate your encouragement in this video and I am definitely saving it to watch any time I feel discouraged. Thank you so so very much. May God bless you abundantly.
Wow. I literally had a conversation with a guy last night because he is interested in me but he isn't a Christian, and it was SO. HARD. My sister sent me this link, not knowing I'd had that conversation and it was just what I needed to hear!! Thank you!!
It's totally worth it to wait for the a man that shares your beliefs. When I met my fiance I knew he was the man I've been waiting for. I hope anyone seeing this that is struggling with this, man or woman, feels encouraged because it will happen. :)
Emily, thanks so much for this video! This is a subject that I'm passionate about. I had a milestone birthday about a year and a 1/2 ago, and several people have felt the need to remind me of my age and that I'm getting old. I had a heated discussion with a cousin last year because she told me I'm not getting any younger and that I'm too picky. I told her that I refuse to settle, and there are many women who have settled in order to have a man and are miserable. Personally, I'd rather be single and be focused on God's purpose for my life than to be in a relationship that is outside of God's will for my life just so that I can say I'm in a relationship. God bless you for being an encouragement!
Its really tough to be single sometimes, but I've also seen people settle. And i know that I would prefer never marrying to that type of relationship. But it is hard, I'm 28, a virgin, and struggling to find good men who also love God. I have met several kind men, but they had no real faith outside of believing that God exists. I so desire a husband and children and I get afraid so many time that I will never have it, and that I am too picky. I also know that I want my kids to have a dad who teaches them how to follow God. I don't know if I really have a point, just struggling lately, but these videos and the comments show that I'm not alone and for that at least, I am grateful.
Besides being with a Christian man, I want to be with a man who is passionate about helping others and makes that a regular part of his life. I want to be with someone who is generous and prays with people when they are struggling (or not struggling). You can find Christian men out there...but do they care about others and do they do things to help others? I feel like people like this are a rarity. And there are some good Christian men (and women) who feel like they are "good enough" because they go to church on Sunday and love their family....but come on! There is more to be done! I feel like THIS standard in particular is set super high...I do get discouraged, but if God can move hearts to care about other people (and He does) then people like this do exist. So thank you for a video like this that encourages people to stay strong and keep their standards. :)
This is SO GOOD!!! And so true. I've had a bar my whole life and have always been told that it was too high. That I needed to lower it because men in our society won't wait and won't be seeking faith. And for a while there, I did settle. I compromised a lot and I was extremely unhappy. Always in conviction and felt like I was fighting my Father. And how dumb that was because God always calls us to better. He called me out of that relationship and now I'm single, but I'm at such a high with Jesus. I'm happy and waiting for the man of God I know He is going to send me because He has promised that to me. And the funny thing is, He has spoken more things to wait on LOL. But a life with Jesus is so worth anything on Earth we must endure. He is so so good. And if it isn't marriage He has for you, your life will be so much better without it. He has beautiful things in store for ALL of us. We just have to fully surrender and trust Him. I just love God so much 😫 truly is the most Glorious King!!!
Thanks for this encouragement Emily! Love your videos. As a 28 year old single Christian woman there are days when it can be discouraging but I know that it is better to be single than married to the wrong person- or as one of my friends once told me it is better to be alone and single than alone and married. Thanks for sharing your heart and biblical encouragement! Keep the videos coming!
I'm 43 and I gave up on finding a life partner, husband or whatever, but what you're saying still holds true: lowering your standards will never land you the right guy, it will just make you available to the sleazy ones, the mentally unhealthy ones, etc. So, even though it seems, at first, that your dating pool is so much bigger, in reality you end up with nothing anyway - except for a lot of unnecessary hurt and wasted time (if you're lucky)
I'm currently dating, well I can say, a man, who is 25 years old. He may not believe in chastity or is close to Faith, but he has shown me how much he cares through situations where I've been weak from faith. He was raised Catholic, but not practicing at all. Since he's been with me, he has learned so much and is inspired to keep growing with me in my virtues. It means a lot when he still encourages me to say grace before meals prayer in a busy public restaurant or preventing us to cross physical boundaries. Basically, Emily always knows the way and it's completely true. Never ever settle and always stick through chastity, even in times when it's hard. Thank you so much Emily and God bless always!! Happy Friday Eve! (:
You are speaking right to my heart. This has been a HUGE struggle of mine lately. I go to a Catholic university and I'm like, "if I can't find a man that meets my expectations here, I never will." I have been tempted to settle and so have many of my friends. We all need to be reminded of the things you are saying here. I especially love how you say, "if I am going to be dating," because honestly, God's love should satisfy our heart fully and the man we are meant for should not be filling that hole that is set there for God.
Amen! This is exactly why I wrote why is my forever taking forever! When women settle we all suffer! Men too because they don’t grow up anymore. But when a woman knows her worth , we are all blessed! Thanks Emily for doing all that you are doing! Praying for you!!!!
I once had a conversation with an atheist friend of mine about how I'll never marry someone who has a different belief to mine because I don't want to have to fight them about every decision; from baptizing our children, to how we raise them, to where we get married. And I also said that I only want to get married in my church. She said to me "what if he gets married in that church for you though? Regardless of his faith", and I explained that he would have to be baptized and truly believe in God to do that. She was like "you're making life so much harder than it needs to be", to which I said "I'm actually making life easier. Marriage is much easier when you share the same core beliefs". She couldn't really grasp what I was saying. According to her "you don't get to choose who you fall in love with".
As a soon to be 28 years old woman I so appreciate you taking the time to make this video...just at the right time! Been living in Miami for past for years and it hasn’t been easy, especially when even people from your own church try to discourage you from having the bar up and knowing what is best for me! So thank you such much! Godbless
It's funny because while this has been heavy on my own mind, you have said exactly what I would tell and have told other women of faith. Even when my mom or a friend who know me, love me, want the best for me tell me this same thing, it doesn't hit the way it hit after watching this video. To hear this encouragement from someone I don't know at the moment I need it most right now as everyone around me is dating, getting married, and having babies feels too perfect to be a coincidence. I'm not alone. Thank you for making this, Emily. And thank you for dedicating your life doing God's work. God bless you. And God bless all of you ladies who find themselves in these same shoes -- keep your standards in a world that has none.
Exactly what I need to hear right now. Sometimes I asked myself the same thing, "is my standard really too high?". Sometimes i think of lowering it down, but i can't. I just can't. Because i know what i want and what i truly deserves. Thank you for sharing this. I'm 23 and never had any relationship. Let's see what will happen in ten years (because i have some personal goals i need to achieve first for myself). And if i found that person, i will come back to this video and share it with you---to thank you for inspiring me and to not be ashamed of saving myself to someone who i deserve and who deserves me. Lots of love.
Oooh. I needed this sooo much. I'm 32 and dating someone who is pushing me into foregoing some of my standards, and this video helps me a lot. It strengthens my belief that I should end this relationship. It's really hard to be alone and lonely. :(
Dunaiii It’s hard to take steps like that, but if that’s what God is leading you to do He will give you the strength to get through the hard times. Following God’s standards is always for our own benefit as well as pursuing obedience xx May God give you wisdom and peace to do what is right.
I hear you! And as a girl also in her 30s, I really do get that it does get lonely being alone. But he is not worth lowering your standards for. No mere mortal has any right to do anything that you are not comfortable with spiritually in the eyes of God. You've got this girl!! God is on your side!!
I 100% feel this. Thanks Emily for actually talking about this. I feel encouraged by your words and from seeing so many woman in the comments who feel the same way I do.
Thank you, Emily! It's one of the hardest and loneliest experiences to have high standards and keep not meeting the right man. Sometimes I wonder if I was born on the right planet...?! I'm 32 and have never been in love, or even found someone I could be happy with. Everyone pities me and tells me to just go out on dates, just get out there... I don't want to unless he's worth it. People tell me to lower my standards and I see women around me settling all the time. You should host a couple events a year for single Christian men and women to just mingle. :) Invite your followers! You don't have to intervene much, just provide the time and place. I'm sure it would be a success! :D
So many are felling us to settle (lower our standards) that the world seems saturated in them. My faith is strict on chastity I thought we were alone. Then you appeared like a light shining out of darkness. I stumbled on your channel by accident.. It wasn't always the way it is today. I'm an old man. Since childhood I've seen the trend to settle worsen. I was surprised to find you on You-tube. Many that come on You-tube advocate lowering the bar.
Thank you for this video Emily! I am 25 and I have dealt with people’s negative opinions on my choice to choose a guy that practices the Catholic faith and that will agree to wait until marriage and it has made me think that if I am setting my standards too high. You have really helped me remove that doubt and fear of standing for what I want in a future spouse.
I am absolutely loving this video. My husband passed away last summer, and I've often thought about what I would like and not like in my next husband, if God should choose to bless me as such. One thing I try to remember is that we are commanded to not marry a nonbeliever. I have friend-zoned many great guys simply because they were not Christian. Another thing that will make dating difficult for me is that I am extremely anti-divorce. I firmly believe that when two people vow to love and honor each other for as long as they both should live, they need to mean it with every fiber of their being and remember that they are not only making those vows to each other but also to God. Divorce was not an option in my first marriage, and I do not want it to be an option in any other marriage I have. In this world, finding someone with that attitude is going to be very difficult indeed. All I can really do to keep myself sane is place it all in God's hands and have faith that when the time is right, he will place in my life and in my heart the man I am supposed to be with, a man that will lead me in the direction that I want to be lead. You talk about wanting to be a matchmaker. I think we need to remember that God is the ultimate matchmaker. In the meantime, I need to just pray that God helps me to enjoy this season of my life and remember that singlehood can be just as much of a gift as marriage.
Oh wow. I definitely needed to hear that. I am always having people tell me how weird it is that I have yet to date. No one really understands why and its good to hear encouragement!
Wow I so needed this. I have not yet many anyone in highschool who meets my standards. And i know its “just highschool”, but its hard when everyone around me is dating. But i refuse to settle with someone who will only halfway respect me, or are halfhearted Christians. Thank you for this!
Oooo I needed this. Another horrible thing people assume is that there is something wrong with me since I am still single. Like they assume maybe I have some horrible issue or block or fear that I need to work out or something is "wrong with me" and that is why I am not with anyone. I like to say, nope, everything is right with me and for me, I am just not right with or for everybody.
Thank you so much for this. I am 18 and sometimes I question whether i am exaggerating with my high standards especially because of the dating culture we have today. But, I really needed those words of encouragement!
This is exactly what I needed to hear! I'm 25 years old, single, and work in a secular setting and hear ALL the time on how I need to lower my standards... Dating for Christian women nowadays is brutal! You're videos always bring me encouragement and reassure me that I'm not alone in this. Thanks Emily!
I really needed to hear this! Being at the end of my freshman year in college and going to college with a boyfriend from high school then breaking up early late first semester lowering my standards is a temptation because finding good guys on campus I feel like is impossible. I wish they weren't few and far between.
Thank you for the re-encouragement, you have no idea how much I needed this. It’s hard, but I refuse to settle, even when my own parents tell me I’m being too picky.
So many times I've had people tell me to lower a standard. And I told them that there is going to be that perfect guy one day. My dad has even said something about lowering my standards. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement!
It’s people like you who reassure me that God is real because I see his goodness in you. This video was such a breath of fresh air because as a 19 year old girl living in todays society- not only is it extremely hard to find a guy who has the same faith and beliefs as you, but I also never met another girl who was struggling with this too, you know with waiting and looking for that in a guy either lol. Like you are so spot on though, all my friends tell me I’m too picky and family members ask why don’t I have a boyfriend, like I’m sorry but I don’t want to date a guy just to date someone. But after this video I can’t believe there are actually so many other girls in the same boat as me, I felt so alone and like no one gets me! When youve never had a boyfriend and all your friends are in 2, 3year relationships you start to fear you’ll Never find that good guy and you should just settle. But I believe girls like us will find that good guy, it’s just a matter of when God feels like it’s the right time. Although it can be very hard sometimes because I really want someone and crave the love and affection I see the people around me have and I don’t want to keep waiting, but I trust God’s plan for me and He knows better than I do. I know it’ll happen when I least expect it, and it will be worth the wait and patience !!
I'm single and going on 30. I've let the bar slip a few times and regretted it every single time. It's never worth it, and it's great to hear that affirmed. Stay strong, stay open, STAY WISE, stay involved in your faith.
I thought this video was going to be the complete opposite of what your saying when I saw the title! I thought you would say the same thing so many people tell me about me being too picky and to just settle ..I’m so glad it was the opposite! Thank you , I needed this! 💕
Amen!! People have told me to throw out the faith thing over and over....well I’ve done it that way and it went very wrong. I’d rather be single than settle for whatever is around anyway. Thank you for making this video and explaining it so well!
Where’s the LOVE button? Saving this to rewatch later. Literally just yesterday someone said to me “you’re so smart idk why someone hasn’t snatched you up” it was meant as a compliment which I do appreciate but it felt like a jab. I not-so-lovingly responded to put my friend in her place, and only received more hurtful replies. It’s often easier to just take the comments and laugh them off and suppress any hurt. Also recently ended talking to a guy who was a lot of things but didn’t measure up to the bar Ive set. It’s easy to doubt that decision and want to change my mind, but I’m continually reminded of the disappointment that would ultimately come with settling. This video was very timely and encouraging. Thank you!
Oh my goodness! I needed this I'm only 16, I dont feep called to date yet while so many people are dating in high school I dont feel called to date or settle for a guy in high school. A friend of mine has recently made fun of me for my descions to wait to save my first kiss, and sex for the guy God calls for my life. And the boundaries and standards I have set people telling me that's crazy your never gonna find someone. God is going to send me the right guy at the right time. I have seen it in my parents and my mentors lives by seeing them wait and not settle. Thank you always encouraging.
Thank you so much Emily for acknowledging this! I had a "friend" say to me once something along the lines of why would you save sex for marriage if you might never get married. People in this culture just don't understand the meaning behind our values or why we might want to uphold them, so thank you for saying why!
This video was an answer to my prayers. I was just having a conversation like this yesterday with my parents. Everyone tells me I’m too picky and I was asking my parents where they thought that line was of being forgiving and showing grace (bc non of us are perfect) and keeping my bar high. I know that god does not want me to settle. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing this 😘
I really needed to hear this. You always help me and many other men and women out with whatever it is we're dealing with in life. Thank you for being a strong woman that guides us through some of the toughest parts of being human. ♡
Thank you for this video. I have had this on repeat all day because these truths are so valuable. When you posted on instagram I shared it with everyone- so so good
Thank you, it can get so tiring when people keep on asking why you never date and all you can say is "I'm not emotionally ready" for them to understand... this one comment from a friend still haunts me, I've only once dated a guy and after about 2 months we ended our contact, which hurt me deeply... and all my friend had to offer was "but you didn't even kiss" that comment kind of broke my heart, i know i'm never going to be that vulnerable with her again. so we didn't kiss, so what? that doesn't mean we didn't talk about things that matter or could become eachother's first person to talk to when something happened...
Of course you are right, and your friend was dismissive, if the relationship was meaningful to you that's all that matters. Emotional vulnerability is just as bonding as physical, often. I'm sorry that you are still hurt from that, but have heart, and trust yourself
I needed to hear this and I can relate to a lot of the comments. So I tap into those testimonies. Thank God I am not in a rush and nobody is pushing me.
i defiantly needed to hear this! im in college and it seems like all of my friends are dating but i'm waiting till the right man comes into my life. its been rally hard feeling alone but this video is just what i needed to hear!
i settled a few times last year. definitely not going back! and like, it's not like i was particularly happy or proud of myself or anything but i'm glad it happened because it really taught me NOT to settle!
Emily!!! Omg thank you for your encouragement and love! I have compromised to much in the past to go back to settling and your words are needed for all women who are being strong in our standards💛😊
Emily you’re just like an older sister to me, always giving me great advice! Keep up the good work and your awesome ministry. I saw you at SEEK and can’t stop watching your videos!
Wow ... I truly needed to hear this right now this very moment. Gods timing is perfect! & you’re right no one will ever tell me I’m brave enough for keeping my standards high and refusing to settle. I am saving myself for marriage and It started out being extremely difficult but God has given me grace to meet me where I am. This encouragement you gave in this video is so rare to hear and I am so thankful and blessed to have come across this video. I will watch it over and over when I feel discouraged. Thank you for reminding me to have hope ♥️
Thank you for sharing! The older you get without finding "the one", the harder it gets to keep your standards high. It's nice to hear this encouragement from you when many people don't get it from people in their daily lives :)
Thankyou for the strong words of encouragement. I am 21 years old and I have never been in a relationship and it can feels like i am the only one going through this. I just need to focus on myself :)
I completely agree with you Emily. My parents are divorced and they had an UGLY marriage. I used to be an atheist and at age 29 I found God. When I accepted Christ, I told myself that I was worth finding a man that will love me and not treat me like my father. I never dated unless I knew they were good catholic man. I even got people telling me that I will never find one. I would tell them I rather be single than be with someone who mistreats me or does not love God the way I do. 6 years later, while praying in the chapel, I meet this woman and we started talking. She asked me why I wasnt married, I told her I fetl the Lord does not want me to be with anyone. She asked me if I asked for one. I told her I didn't feel the need to pray for one. She then asked me to pray for one right there. Ask the Lord to present me one of his sons in His time, not mine. Fast forward 2 weeks later and at age 35 I found him at a church retreat. He is a man of God and what God deserve me to have. It makes me cry cause God does want the best for us and more. We are getting married next year and I cant wait what God has in store for us.
Thank you to everyone who has commented and shared their stories! It gives me so much hope as 22yr that it's not only me who is looking for a great man and deciding to wait for the right one. We just hasn't found him yet. All in good time ❤️
Really loved hearing this. I have settled time and again and lately I’ve finally set the bar higher for myself. It looks pretty lonely so far, but I’m so much happier and better off waiting for a man who will actually treat me well, has good values and integrity, and is open to legally adopting my little daughter as his own (this is a must!) because I won’t have my future family look any other way. Thanks for the encouragement!! 😌🙏🏼
Yes, yes Emily! Thank you, I agree with everthing you said, especially when you mentioned that it is not true that God has someone for everyone. I think that is not stated enough in today’s society!
thank you. I'm older, been married and widowed, and I have gotten quite used to living alone. And some people, especially of other cultures, cannot understand. I am open to a new relationship, but yes, no compromise. No living together before marriage, no sex until then, no staying together in hotels when traveling, etc. I don't know if you lived alone before you married, or if you know any UA-cam channels with those who do, but if you do, that would be very helpful.
Thank you for this! I'm 38 and my highest standard is that he loves Jesus and that is hard to find. People constantly tell me I need to lower my standards and that I'm too picky. It has nothing to do with physical appearance. Everything to do with his faith and character.
I really needed to hear this! My name is Valentina and I'm 19 years old and my goal is to find a fitting husband, don't ask me why so young but that's my desire. A couple of months ago I thought that I good men doesn't exist until I found a guy who makes inspirational videos and he showed me through his videos that there are good men! Thank you sooo muchhh and yeah, they exist so we have to wait, at the end, it would be all worth it
I love how Emily's videos are always so relevant to reality! Whether they are her new videos or videos from a couple of years ago, they're always so relatable and helpful! Thanks so much Emily!!
Wanna set me up with one of those guys?? 😂😂 Thanks for the video. I love hearing what you have to say. It's been a lot of work getting to a place where I am 100% content with being single. I am finally there🙌. ❤️ that single life.
Thank youuu! I have never been in a serious relationship, or even dated anybody, and I’m 26. But all of the men I know (friends and family) have been such an excellent example of the kind of man I want to spend my life with. The Lord has truly spoiled me! If he’s not up to par with the kind of men I’m used to then it’s not worth it!
Thanks Emily for every single word you said, This "high standars" usually sounds like they only could be possible in fiction, but those high standars are really important pieces of what a really lovely relationship means, and a the same time , those are so important if we want to Give Glory to God with our hearts, Body and relationship, sooo Keep trusting pleaseee !! You girls are the kind of women that shows that you can be really loved in a world that gives a cheap type of "love" that only devaluates and hurt lifes.
It’s always such a blessing when the little “New Emily Wilson Video” notification pops up on my screen. Always makes my day better or gives me something good to reflect on. Thank you!
Thanks Emily for making this video and all your videos! This one just hit me to the core after watching it. The words you have said are exactly what I live by. Keeping my standards high and not settling. I had to watch this again today just to give me some more strength for a situation where I need to explain that to a guy who does not understand. So thank you for helping all us women out here. ❤
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I love that line "it's better to be single than to settle"
Beautifully stated! I’m 35 and still waiting.
I’m going on 27 soon and have been feeling insecure because I’ve been a single virgin my whole life, but you really have a gift for speaking encouragement. I think one day God will put a good Christian man in my life and if He doesn’t, His will be done. But anyways I would definitely like to say thank you! You have a gift for encouragement and I find you to be an inspiration for many woman. 😊
Same here girl. Almost 27 single virgin. I'm proud of how far I've come but I know the struggle. I worship a lot so that I don't lose heart. 😊🙌🏾
I'm 28 and a virgin! Don't worry about it. I have been to hell and back with my relationships and learned to raise the bar very high and sacrificed a lot to do so, it was lonely and hard but God never left me for one moment and walked with me every step of the way as He does with you! Please don't feel insecure as a virgin. You have something precious. Stay brave!
Enjoy reading your post, its definitely not easy, you are young, I am in my forties and still haven't known anyone, I even can't say the word, I really don't live this well, I have all kind of emotions inside, Regrets that I did not do like all my friends, who knew the Lord but still left him for a while and had relationships and came back to him.
I felt like I was reading my life from what you wrote about yourself. The only difference is I'm 29 but my thoughts are quite similar to yours. It's all about God's will for my life. Whether or not I get married. I have been embracing that concept for a while now. God knows best and if marriage is something that will pull me away from Him and won't edify Him, then He won't give it to me. And I have to be okay with that. He is my King and my Father. I have to trust Him.
Hero of Twilight I am right there with you: 27 and never had a date, let alone a boyfriend. It’s so nice to know we’re not alone in this experience :) And so great to know God has a plan for us regardless.
I’ve definitely been told my standards are too high, but I refuse to let that criticism stop me from pursuing those standards in a future husband! I trust God though that in His perfect timing He’ll bless me with the perfect person for me :). Thanks for the encouraging video!
Amen!
I hear you. Even close family members think I need to change.
This is universal, as a guy I have the same problem.
As hard and scary as it is to be single still at 33, it is a much scarier thought yoking myself to someone who is wrong for me. I would much rather be single than settle. Marriage is an earthly reflection of our relationship with God and is a foreshadow of our Marriage to the King! I would not want to cast a shadow over something that is meant to be a gift, due to my impatients. So instead I pray, and wait, and am trying to prepare myself as best I can to be an amazing wife for the right Godly man someday, and allowing God to do the work in me to be ready for that kind of relationship whenever that comes. But ultimately it starts with having a close knit relationship with Jesus first!
Thank you for the continued encouragement and content that is uplifting and speaking truth!
I've heard so many times "you are too picky" and "you're never going to find someone like that." Thank you for being such an encouragement and positive light!
So true Emily, I had bad relationships before I met my husband because I didn't think it was possible to keep any bar at all... (and still my friends would call me "nun" because they wouldnt even think abour having a bar at all xD) and then my husband came by, took my bar and put it high on his own for me, and I was like "wow". He respected me before I respected myself, cra-zy. He taught me so many things :D
*The peace of God is so powerful, He truly helped me in this area! He was my strength! Jake was actually my first boyfriend & we dated with the purpose of marriage in mind! & I never ever thought I’d get married! God has amazing plans for us, whether He calls us to be single (look at Paul’s wonderful example) or to be married, we can trust Him and His timing! Thank you for your encouragement!!!* 💛
Thank you for your encouragement too. Keeping the faith!
Much needed words. Im turning 28 this year and no bf since birth. Im not dating anyone and most of my college friends are already having children. There are days that im grateful im single instead of settling to a relationship that is not good but there are days that im pity partying and thinking if there is a man that is praying for me. 😭 Thanks for this encouragement!😭♥️
joan I’m right there with you, sister xx So many babies around me right now haha!!
Amen!!!
Girls never lower your standards. God truly delivers. I recently started dating a devout Catholic & virtuous man who meets the bar !!! Trust in him, surrender and pray to Our Lady for her intercession. God sees the bigger picture for you and your future vocation here on earth. He will give you the greatest of love story you could ever imagine. Thank you so much for this video Emily, God Bless you and your family xx
I'm 25. Just got dumped from an almost 7yr relationship. That relationship is not fulfilling and yes I compromised my goals, my beliefs as a Christian (because he was an unreligious Catholic btw), values, and standards. Thank you for posting this video. It's hard to detach myself from that relationship especially from lovers we turned to strangers/enemies now. I am so hurt. But because of this I learned many things and I am now really setting a bar for the man I am going to love next. I would like someone who loves God and is compassionate and generous and respectful to everyone. For now these are the basic traits I want and I am working on myself too. It is important to be the right person first before looking for others to be perfect. I admire you for being able to stick to your standards it really is hard I wish I had been wise and listened to the bible about what is right and wrong but I just can't bring back the time and I can't take back my mistakes for because of it I am now on a journey of becoming a better Christian.
This goes for men as well. I know good men struggling to find a woman with certain standards
Wow, this basically made me tear up. Thank you for being a wise and gentle voice of encouragement as always.
Awww I needed to hear this!!! It's tough when your own family are the ones ridiculing or talking behind your back cuz you've never had a boyfriend!!!
Thank you, Emily❤️. Also, I just wanted to say that my brother met u at the Seek conference and waited 2 hours in line to get a book signed by you-for me, for my birthday ( he did this completely on his own, in secret) . I'm not saying that's the only thing that makes him an awesome older brother but girls deserve to date someone who treats them like he treats women, with respect and kindness.
Spoiler alert- if someone is telling you that you are not worth the standarts you have- that someone is not a true friend! A friend will be the one to lift you up and encourage you when you are about to give up on finding the right person!
Emily, this was a great video 🤗 you deserve a special place in heaven 🌈
I needed to hear this!🙋♀️ Thank you Emily for your kind words and wisdom!
Have you ever considered starting a podcast? You have such a gift for speaking! I would listen to a podcast from you all day long! 😂❤️❤️
This is exactly what I needed to hear today! In the last 24 hours I have had people mock me for my standards, and I thought about settling because I feel so so lonely! I prayed and begged God for some kind of help and encouragement last night, and today I stumbled upon this video, this video was a direct answer to my prayer! Thank you so much for what you are doing here. Thank you for listening to the Holy Spirit to know to what God needs you to share and thank you for being willing to share it! I cannot thank you enough!
I think sometimes people give too much focus on having chemistry with the person. They think oh we get along so i can change them. At least I do that. I have decide that My future husband has to respect animal rights and has to be a Christian who understands that i am waiting until marriage. I have been into too many guys who try make me thing otherwise or aren’t believers of the Lord.
I really needed this. I'm a 23 year old who has been in 2 relationships where I knew I was settling. Since then I've told myself that I will never put myself through such unhappiness. Yet some days it's hard remembering that but this video made me remember how fufilled I am now and how I never want to be in a relationship unhappy again. Thanks Emily!
Our God is SO GOOD to have shared this message through you today Emily! Thanks for always being a willing vessel for His words of truth and life!
Emily,
Thank you so much for this video. I am almost 26 years old and have never even been on a date. When I have people ask me why I'm single I tell them it's because I have certain non-negotiable standards. One of them being that my boyfriend/husband has to be a man of faith. And I still believe that. But as I've gotten older, it has actually gotten harder. With more and more of my friends and family finding their spouses it does sometimes feel like I'll never find the guy for me. I have also realized though that I am at my happiest when I am following Jesus and allowing Him to pursue me. He holds the bar of my standards and if there is a man for me, he will have to go to Jesus to get it. :) I really appreciate your encouragement in this video and I am definitely saving it to watch any time I feel discouraged. Thank you so so very much. May God bless you abundantly.
Thanks for all your encouragement , you're so precious to me!! ❤
Wow. I literally had a conversation with a guy last night because he is interested in me but he isn't a Christian, and it was SO. HARD. My sister sent me this link, not knowing I'd had that conversation and it was just what I needed to hear!! Thank you!!
It's totally worth it to wait for the a man that shares your beliefs. When I met my fiance I knew he was the man I've been waiting for. I hope anyone seeing this that is struggling with this, man or woman, feels encouraged because it will happen. :)
Needed to hear this! 31 and definitely keeping the bar right where it is 🥰
Emily, thanks so much for this video! This is a subject that I'm passionate about. I had a milestone birthday about a year and a 1/2 ago, and several people have felt the need to remind me of my age and that I'm getting old. I had a heated discussion with a cousin last year because she told me I'm not getting any younger and that I'm too picky. I told her that I refuse to settle, and there are many women who have settled in order to have a man and are miserable. Personally, I'd rather be single and be focused on God's purpose for my life than to be in a relationship that is outside of God's will for my life just so that I can say I'm in a relationship. God bless you for being an encouragement!
Its really tough to be single sometimes, but I've also seen people settle. And i know that I would prefer never marrying to that type of relationship. But it is hard, I'm 28, a virgin, and struggling to find good men who also love God. I have met several kind men, but they had no real faith outside of believing that God exists.
I so desire a husband and children and I get afraid so many time that I will never have it, and that I am too picky. I also know that I want my kids to have a dad who teaches them how to follow God.
I don't know if I really have a point, just struggling lately, but these videos and the comments show that I'm not alone and for that at least, I am grateful.
Besides being with a Christian man, I want to be with a man who is passionate about helping others and makes that a regular part of his life. I want to be with someone who is generous and prays with people when they are struggling (or not struggling). You can find Christian men out there...but do they care about others and do they do things to help others? I feel like people like this are a rarity. And there are some good Christian men (and women) who feel like they are "good enough" because they go to church on Sunday and love their family....but come on! There is more to be done! I feel like THIS standard in particular is set super high...I do get discouraged, but if God can move hearts to care about other people (and He does) then people like this do exist. So thank you for a video like this that encourages people to stay strong and keep their standards. :)
I'm almost 34 but I say AMEN! I'm so glad someone said this! Team #WontSettle!
I'm 22 and I'm waiting on God to send me the Godly man He has for me.
I'm thankful that I have standards.
This is SO GOOD!!! And so true. I've had a bar my whole life and have always been told that it was too high. That I needed to lower it because men in our society won't wait and won't be seeking faith. And for a while there, I did settle. I compromised a lot and I was extremely unhappy. Always in conviction and felt like I was fighting my Father. And how dumb that was because God always calls us to better. He called me out of that relationship and now I'm single, but I'm at such a high with Jesus. I'm happy and waiting for the man of God I know He is going to send me because He has promised that to me. And the funny thing is, He has spoken more things to wait on LOL. But a life with Jesus is so worth anything on Earth we must endure. He is so so good. And if it isn't marriage He has for you, your life will be so much better without it. He has beautiful things in store for ALL of us. We just have to fully surrender and trust Him. I just love God so much 😫 truly is the most Glorious King!!!
Thanks for this encouragement Emily! Love your videos. As a 28 year old single Christian woman there are days when it can be discouraging but I know that it is better to be single than married to the wrong person- or as one of my friends once told me it is better to be alone and single than alone and married. Thanks for sharing your heart and biblical encouragement! Keep the videos coming!
I'm 43 and I gave up on finding a life partner, husband or whatever, but what you're saying still holds true: lowering your standards will never land you the right guy, it will just make you available to the sleazy ones, the mentally unhealthy ones, etc. So, even though it seems, at first, that your dating pool is so much bigger, in reality you end up with nothing anyway - except for a lot of unnecessary hurt and wasted time (if you're lucky)
Not gonna lie: I’m going through a really tough breakup with a guy I love. I really needed to hear this. Thanks for sharing.
I'm currently dating, well I can say, a man, who is 25 years old. He may not believe in chastity or is close to Faith, but he has shown me how much he cares through situations where I've been weak from faith. He was raised Catholic, but not practicing at all. Since he's been with me, he has learned so much and is inspired to keep growing with me in my virtues. It means a lot when he still encourages me to say grace before meals prayer in a busy public restaurant or preventing us to cross physical boundaries. Basically, Emily always knows the way and it's completely true. Never ever settle and always stick through chastity, even in times when it's hard. Thank you so much Emily and God bless always!! Happy Friday Eve! (:
You are speaking right to my heart. This has been a HUGE struggle of mine lately. I go to a Catholic university and I'm like, "if I can't find a man that meets my expectations here, I never will." I have been tempted to settle and so have many of my friends. We all need to be reminded of the things you are saying here. I especially love how you say, "if I am going to be dating," because honestly, God's love should satisfy our heart fully and the man we are meant for should not be filling that hole that is set there for God.
Amen! This is exactly why I wrote why is my forever taking forever! When women settle we all suffer! Men too because they don’t grow up anymore. But when a woman knows her worth , we are all blessed! Thanks Emily for doing all that you are doing! Praying for you!!!!
I once had a conversation with an atheist friend of mine about how I'll never marry someone who has a different belief to mine because I don't want to have to fight them about every decision; from baptizing our children, to how we raise them, to where we get married. And I also said that I only want to get married in my church.
She said to me "what if he gets married in that church for you though? Regardless of his faith", and I explained that he would have to be baptized and truly believe in God to do that.
She was like "you're making life so much harder than it needs to be", to which I said "I'm actually making life easier. Marriage is much easier when you share the same core beliefs". She couldn't really grasp what I was saying. According to her "you don't get to choose who you fall in love with".
As a soon to be 28 years old woman I so appreciate you taking the time to make this video...just at the right time! Been living in Miami for past for years and it hasn’t been easy, especially when even people from your own church try to discourage you from having the bar up and knowing what is best for me! So thank you such much! Godbless
It's funny because while this has been heavy on my own mind, you have said exactly what I would tell and have told other women of faith. Even when my mom or a friend who know me, love me, want the best for me tell me this same thing, it doesn't hit the way it hit after watching this video. To hear this encouragement from someone I don't know at the moment I need it most right now as everyone around me is dating, getting married, and having babies feels too perfect to be a coincidence. I'm not alone. Thank you for making this, Emily. And thank you for dedicating your life doing God's work. God bless you. And God bless all of you ladies who find themselves in these same shoes -- keep your standards in a world that has none.
Exactly what I need to hear right now. Sometimes I asked myself the same thing, "is my standard really too high?". Sometimes i think of lowering it down, but i can't. I just can't. Because i know what i want and what i truly deserves. Thank you for sharing this. I'm 23 and never had any relationship. Let's see what will happen in ten years (because i have some personal goals i need to achieve first for myself). And if i found that person, i will come back to this video and share it with you---to thank you for inspiring me and to not be ashamed of saving myself to someone who i deserve and who deserves me. Lots of love.
Oooh. I needed this sooo much. I'm 32 and dating someone who is pushing me into foregoing some of my standards, and this video helps me a lot. It strengthens my belief that I should end this relationship. It's really hard to be alone and lonely. :(
Dunaiii It’s hard to take steps like that, but if that’s what God is leading you to do He will give you the strength to get through the hard times. Following God’s standards is always for our own benefit as well as pursuing obedience xx May God give you wisdom and peace to do what is right.
I hear you! And as a girl also in her 30s, I really do get that it does get lonely being alone. But he is not worth lowering your standards for. No mere mortal has any right to do anything that you are not comfortable with spiritually in the eyes of God. You've got this girl!! God is on your side!!
I 100% feel this. Thanks Emily for actually talking about this. I feel encouraged by your words and from seeing so many woman in the comments who feel the same way I do.
Thank you, Emily! It's one of the hardest and loneliest experiences to have high standards and keep not meeting the right man. Sometimes I wonder if I was born on the right planet...?! I'm 32 and have never been in love, or even found someone I could be happy with. Everyone pities me and tells me to just go out on dates, just get out there... I don't want to unless he's worth it. People tell me to lower my standards and I see women around me settling all the time. You should host a couple events a year for single Christian men and women to just mingle. :) Invite your followers! You don't have to intervene much, just provide the time and place. I'm sure it would be a success! :D
So many are felling us to settle (lower our standards) that the world seems saturated in them. My faith is strict on chastity I thought we were alone. Then you appeared like a light shining out of darkness. I stumbled on your channel by accident..
It wasn't always the way it is today. I'm an old man. Since childhood I've seen the trend to settle worsen. I was surprised to find you on You-tube. Many that come on You-tube advocate lowering the bar.
Thank you for this video Emily! I am 25 and I have dealt with people’s negative opinions on my choice to choose a guy that practices the Catholic faith and that will agree to wait until marriage and it has made me think that if I am setting my standards too high. You have really helped me remove that doubt and fear of standing for what I want in a future spouse.
I am absolutely loving this video. My husband passed away last summer, and I've often thought about what I would like and not like in my next husband, if God should choose to bless me as such. One thing I try to remember is that we are commanded to not marry a nonbeliever. I have friend-zoned many great guys simply because they were not Christian. Another thing that will make dating difficult for me is that I am extremely anti-divorce. I firmly believe that when two people vow to love and honor each other for as long as they both should live, they need to mean it with every fiber of their being and remember that they are not only making those vows to each other but also to God. Divorce was not an option in my first marriage, and I do not want it to be an option in any other marriage I have. In this world, finding someone with that attitude is going to be very difficult indeed. All I can really do to keep myself sane is place it all in God's hands and have faith that when the time is right, he will place in my life and in my heart the man I am supposed to be with, a man that will lead me in the direction that I want to be lead. You talk about wanting to be a matchmaker. I think we need to remember that God is the ultimate matchmaker. In the meantime, I need to just pray that God helps me to enjoy this season of my life and remember that singlehood can be just as much of a gift as marriage.
Oh wow. I definitely needed to hear that. I am always having people tell me how weird it is that I have yet to date. No one really understands why and its good to hear encouragement!
Wow I so needed this. I have not yet many anyone in highschool who meets my standards. And i know its “just highschool”, but its hard when everyone around me is dating. But i refuse to settle with someone who will only halfway respect me, or are halfhearted Christians. Thank you for this!
Oooo I needed this. Another horrible thing people assume is that there is something wrong with me since I am still single. Like they assume maybe I have some horrible issue or block or fear that I need to work out or something is "wrong with me" and that is why I am not with anyone. I like to say, nope, everything is right with me and for me, I am just not right with or for everybody.
Thank you so much for this. I am 18 and sometimes I question whether i am exaggerating with my high standards especially because of the dating culture we have today. But, I really needed those words of encouragement!
This is exactly what I needed to hear! I'm 25 years old, single, and work in a secular setting and hear ALL the time on how I need to lower my standards... Dating for Christian women nowadays is brutal! You're videos always bring me encouragement and reassure me that I'm not alone in this. Thanks Emily!
I really needed to hear this! Being at the end of my freshman year in college and going to college with a boyfriend from high school then breaking up early late first semester lowering my standards is a temptation because finding good guys on campus I feel like is impossible. I wish they weren't few and far between.
Thank you for the re-encouragement, you have no idea how much I needed this. It’s hard, but I refuse to settle, even when my own parents tell me I’m being too picky.
So many times I've had people tell me to lower a standard. And I told them that there is going to be that perfect guy one day. My dad has even said something about lowering my standards. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement!
It’s people like you who reassure me that God is real because I see his goodness in you. This video was such a breath of fresh air because as a 19 year old girl living in todays society- not only is it extremely hard to find a guy who has the same faith and beliefs as you, but I also never met another girl who was struggling with this too, you know with waiting and looking for that in a guy either lol. Like you are so spot on though, all my friends tell me I’m too picky and family members ask why don’t I have a boyfriend, like I’m sorry but I don’t want to date a guy just to date someone. But after this video I can’t believe there are actually so many other girls in the same boat as me, I felt so alone and like no one gets me! When youve never had a boyfriend and all your friends are in 2, 3year relationships you start to fear you’ll Never find that good guy and you should just settle. But I believe girls like us will find that good guy, it’s just a matter of when God feels like it’s the right time. Although it can be very hard sometimes because I really want someone and crave the love and affection I see the people around me have and I don’t want to keep waiting, but I trust God’s plan for me and He knows better than I do. I know it’ll happen when I least expect it, and it will be worth the wait and patience !!
I'm single and going on 30. I've let the bar slip a few times and regretted it every single time. It's never worth it, and it's great to hear that affirmed. Stay strong, stay open, STAY WISE, stay involved in your faith.
Emily, you are an absolute gem. Since I was a little girl, I've been praying for my future husband. I'm waiting on the Lord.
I thought this video was going to be the complete opposite of what your saying when I saw the title! I thought you would say the same thing so many people tell me about me being too picky and to just settle ..I’m so glad it was the opposite! Thank you , I needed this! 💕
Amen!! People have told me to throw out the faith thing over and over....well I’ve done it that way and it went very wrong. I’d rather be single than settle for whatever is around anyway. Thank you for making this video and explaining it so well!
Where’s the LOVE button? Saving this to rewatch later. Literally just yesterday someone said to me “you’re so smart idk why someone hasn’t snatched you up” it was meant as a compliment which I do appreciate but it felt like a jab. I not-so-lovingly responded to put my friend in her place, and only received more hurtful replies. It’s often easier to just take the comments and laugh them off and suppress any hurt. Also recently ended talking to a guy who was a lot of things but didn’t measure up to the bar Ive set. It’s easy to doubt that decision and want to change my mind, but I’m continually reminded of the disappointment that would ultimately come with settling. This video was very timely and encouraging. Thank you!
Omg. I needed this. I'm almost 30 and I live by this. Thanks Emily
Oh my goodness! I needed this I'm only 16, I dont feep called to date yet while so many people are dating in high school I dont feel called to date or settle for a guy in high school. A friend of mine has recently made fun of me for my descions to wait to save my first kiss, and sex for the guy God calls for my life. And the boundaries and standards I have set people telling me that's crazy your never gonna find someone. God is going to send me the right guy at the right time. I have seen it in my parents and my mentors lives by seeing them wait and not settle. Thank you always encouraging.
Even as a man I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Thank you so much Emily for acknowledging this! I had a "friend" say to me once something along the lines of why would you save sex for marriage if you might never get married. People in this culture just don't understand the meaning behind our values or why we might want to uphold them, so thank you for saying why!
This video was an answer to my prayers. I was just having a conversation like this yesterday with my parents. Everyone tells me I’m too picky and I was asking my parents where they thought that line was of being forgiving and showing grace (bc non of us are perfect) and keeping my bar high. I know that god does not want me to settle. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing this 😘
I really needed to hear this. You always help me and many other men and women out with whatever it is we're dealing with in life. Thank you for being a strong woman that guides us through some of the toughest parts of being human. ♡
Thanks for making this video! It's encouraging hearing from women (over 21 or 22) that will still say this. This made my day, thanks!
Thank you for this video. I have had this on repeat all day because these truths are so valuable. When you posted on instagram I shared it with everyone- so so good
Thank you, it can get so tiring when people keep on asking why you never date and all you can say is "I'm not emotionally ready" for them to understand... this one comment from a friend still haunts me, I've only once dated a guy and after about 2 months we ended our contact, which hurt me deeply... and all my friend had to offer was "but you didn't even kiss" that comment kind of broke my heart, i know i'm never going to be that vulnerable with her again.
so we didn't kiss, so what? that doesn't mean we didn't talk about things that matter or could become eachother's first person to talk to when something happened...
Of course you are right, and your friend was dismissive, if the relationship was meaningful to you that's all that matters. Emotional vulnerability is just as bonding as physical, often. I'm sorry that you are still hurt from that, but have heart, and trust yourself
I needed to hear this and I can relate to a lot of the comments. So I tap into those testimonies. Thank God I am not in a rush and nobody is pushing me.
i defiantly needed to hear this! im in college and it seems like all of my friends are dating but i'm waiting till the right man comes into my life. its been rally hard feeling alone but this video is just what i needed to hear!
Watching this video one year later because it is yet again very relevant to my life. Thank you, Emily!
i settled a few times last year. definitely not going back! and like, it's not like i was particularly happy or proud of myself or anything but i'm glad it happened because it really taught me NOT to settle!
Emily!!! Omg thank you for your encouragement and love! I have compromised to much in the past to go back to settling and your words are needed for all women who are being strong in our standards💛😊
Emily you’re just like an older sister to me, always giving me great advice! Keep up the good work and your awesome ministry. I saw you at SEEK and can’t stop watching your videos!
Wow ... I truly needed to hear this right now this very moment. Gods timing is perfect! & you’re right no one will ever tell me I’m brave enough for keeping my standards high and refusing to settle. I am saving myself for marriage and It started out being extremely difficult but God has given me grace to meet me where I am. This encouragement you gave in this video is so rare to hear and I am so thankful and blessed to have come across this video. I will watch it over and over when I feel discouraged. Thank you for reminding me to have hope ♥️
Thank you for sharing! The older you get without finding "the one", the harder it gets to keep your standards high. It's nice to hear this encouragement from you when many people don't get it from people in their daily lives :)
Thankyou for the strong words of encouragement. I am 21 years old and I have never been in a relationship and it can feels like i am the only one going through this. I just need to focus on myself :)
I completely agree with you Emily. My parents are divorced and they had an UGLY marriage. I used to be an atheist and at age 29 I found God. When I accepted Christ, I told myself that I was worth finding a man that will love me and not treat me like my father. I never dated unless I knew they were good catholic man. I even got people telling me that I will never find one. I would tell them I rather be single than be with someone who mistreats me or does not love God the way I do. 6 years later, while praying in the chapel, I meet this woman and we started talking. She asked me why I wasnt married, I told her I fetl the Lord does not want me to be with anyone. She asked me if I asked for one. I told her I didn't feel the need to pray for one. She then asked me to pray for one right there. Ask the Lord to present me one of his sons in His time, not mine. Fast forward 2 weeks later and at age 35 I found him at a church retreat. He is a man of God and what God deserve me to have. It makes me cry cause God does want the best for us and more. We are getting married next year and I cant wait what God has in store for us.
Thank you to everyone who has commented and shared their stories! It gives me so much hope as 22yr that it's not only me who is looking for a great man and deciding to wait for the right one. We just hasn't found him yet. All in good time ❤️
Really loved hearing this. I have settled time and again and lately I’ve finally set the bar higher for myself. It looks pretty lonely so far, but I’m so much happier and better off waiting for a man who will actually treat me well, has good values and integrity, and is open to legally adopting my little daughter as his own (this is a must!) because I won’t have my future family look any other way. Thanks for the encouragement!! 😌🙏🏼
Yes, yes Emily! Thank you, I agree with everthing you said, especially when you mentioned that it is not true that God has someone for everyone. I think that is not stated enough in today’s society!
thank you. I'm older, been married and widowed, and I have gotten quite used to living alone. And some people, especially of other cultures, cannot understand. I am open to a new relationship, but yes, no compromise. No living together before marriage, no sex until then, no staying together in hotels when traveling, etc. I don't know if you lived alone before you married, or if you know any UA-cam channels with those who do, but if you do, that would be very helpful.
“Deeply desire and deserve in my life “ yes keep that bar high !!
Thank you for this! I'm 38 and my highest standard is that he loves Jesus and that is hard to find. People constantly tell me I need to lower my standards and that I'm too picky. It has nothing to do with physical appearance. Everything to do with his faith and character.
I really needed to hear this! My name is Valentina and I'm 19 years old and my goal is to find a fitting husband, don't ask me why so young but that's my desire. A couple of months ago I thought that I good men doesn't exist until I found a guy who makes inspirational videos and he showed me through his videos that there are good men! Thank you sooo muchhh and yeah, they exist so we have to wait, at the end, it would be all worth it
I so needed to hear this message, it is very very difficult to maintain my standards... as literally no one fits my criteria.
I love how Emily's videos are always so relevant to reality! Whether they are her new videos or videos from a couple of years ago, they're always so relatable and helpful! Thanks so much Emily!!
Wanna set me up with one of those guys?? 😂😂 Thanks for the video. I love hearing what you have to say. It's been a lot of work getting to a place where I am 100% content with being single. I am finally there🙌. ❤️ that single life.
Thank youuu! I have never been in a serious relationship, or even dated anybody, and I’m 26. But all of the men I know (friends and family) have been such an excellent example of the kind of man I want to spend my life with. The Lord has truly spoiled me! If he’s not up to par with the kind of men I’m used to then it’s not worth it!
Thanks Emily for every single word you said, This "high standars" usually sounds like they only could be possible in fiction, but those high standars are really important pieces of what a really lovely relationship means, and a the same time , those are so important if we want to Give Glory to God with our hearts, Body and relationship, sooo Keep trusting pleaseee !! You girls are the kind of women that shows that you can be really loved in a world that gives a cheap type of "love" that only devaluates and hurt lifes.
It’s always such a blessing when the little “New Emily Wilson Video” notification pops up on my screen. Always makes my day better or gives me something good to reflect on. Thank you!
Thanks Emily for making this video and all your videos! This one just hit me to the core after watching it. The words you have said are exactly what I live by. Keeping my standards high and not settling. I had to watch this again today just to give me some more strength for a situation where I need to explain that to a guy who does not understand. So thank you for helping all us women out here. ❤
PREACH EMILY!! So happy you expanded on that instagram post that has encouraged myself and so many of the friends I sent it too
This is exactly what one of my best friends needs to hear right now! I’m so excited to share this video with her! ❤️