Family Struggles to Understand Death of Bulimic Teen
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- Опубліковано 6 тра 2009
- Nineteen-year-old Sarah Siskin died from bulimia in 2003 after fighting to control her eating disorder for seven years. Her parents, Alan and Barbara Siskin, and sister, Leah, reflect on Sarah's life six years after her death. Video by Megan Rossman / The Washington Post
RIP. Instead of saying she lost after seven years, could we say, she also strongly survived for seven years.
I heard u really are Joy.the secret is out the bag
binge eating and then exercising there after is actually considered a form of bulimia nervosa.
no one said it wasnt
ED's are hell, I hate it. I hate waking up wondering if today will be the day I don't b/p... or the day I die. I hate feeling like I am drowning everyday
i hope you're doing okay now
I feel the same
Same 💔😞
Please seek recovery, I am 30 and struggled with bulimia for many goddamn years and life on the other side is SO WORTH IT
I knew because sick recognized sick. I was in the same place as her but every class we had together, I was too ashamed and also envious. Unfortunately it took a beautiful soul to see that I wasn't alone and that I needed to seek treatment for my issues. Sarah you were beautiful in every sense of the word. Rest in paradise, beautiful. PS I loved tech ed because I had someone to talk about the original 90210 with and how cute our teacher was. You are remembered everyday and many recovered because of you.💜
Watching the intro video of her as a toddler walking the beach….it really effected me because I saw my daughter. All the hopes and dreams you have as a parent, everything you imagine they’ll accomplish. It’s proof that life doesn’t always go the way you think it will. The parents are so strong, I can’t imagine losing my child
I've been struggling with my eating disorder for 10 years now and one thing that I can say is you're never in control. The only way to truly gain control is to have a healthy mind which leads to a healthy body. I've been in and out of treatment and the only thing that really has been helping me is listening to my body and hunger cues and respecting that if I'm using behaviors, it's probably because I need to work on bettering my mental health. I hope that if you're reading this and you have an eating disorder, don't give up fighting because you're never "too sick" or "not sick enough" to get help. And if you're like me and you've gotten help before but you're still struggling, that's okay too because you're healing so be patient with yourself. Recovery doesn't happen overnight just like developing an eating disorder doesn't happen overnight. There's a lot to unpack. Also, getting older has opened my eyes that there is so much more to life. When you stop giving the eating disorder the power to control you, your brain has more time to actually enjoy other things in life. Ultimately, I hope that if you're reading this you understand that someone in this world needs you to keep fighting. You are loved and if you don't hear it today: I love you and I know you can do it ❤
You are a beautiful soul.
I've had a long struggle over 15 years, and it's primarily been bulimia, but sometimes verging on developing the BP subtype of AN. Any period of time in which I've embraced some semblance of recovery, it always astounds me how much free time I have again... But yes, what you say here is absolutely right. At first, the ED seems like a choice, a thing you choose to delve into. But ultimately, it begins to take more than it gives and you start feeling the compulsion to go along with the ED ways. Even though they make you cold, tired, hurt, upset, angry, you STILL press on.... because it is a sickness. This is a mental illness. Recovery is a brave thing to consider, but we are all worth it. This year, it's my goal to respect myself enough to leave my eating disorder behind me at some point. It's taking my energy, and I need it to get back into work and my studies. I hope we all can strive to have a little more respect for ourselves. And please, reach out for help if you need to. There are always people out there willing to help and support you
Thank you this comment is beautiful 🩷
Anyone else having a corona relapse, cause same :(
Amy that’s how I ended up on this video, it’s been just the worst
@@HayleighPaige It's just horrible because the urge is overtaking my life like it used to two years ago and I am not sure what to do
I feel that 100%, I can’t remember the last time it’s been this bad and I’ve never been in a situation where I could just be home all day, so I never learned how to deal with this....
That’s how I ended up here :,)
Big time!
I reconsidered throwing up watching this. What this family lost. I don't want to do that to my family.
Sonia yes honey, don’t do it, you’re better than that
me too.
Actually, I DID throw-up. Seeing her emaciated body was just too much.
As a survivor of Bulimia, I just want to tell you all that recovery IS possible. I won’t say it is perfect because there are days where the thoughts come back to my head, but you are loved and you can beat this. I struggled from the time I was 17-28. Stay strong there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. ❤️
That is amazing, Yahaira, you can be so proud!
@@PiaRxxxx I had to confess to my husband. And now we are fighting it together. I’m going to a rehab for ED.
Donno what to expect, but hope there’s gonna be help I need and I can finally live my beautiful life without this daily torture.
@@victoriaskornyakova210 It's so courageous to go to rehab, and also great that you have your husband on your side. I wish you all the best really!
You self absorbed, privileged douches should be dropshipped into Afghanistan or sub Saharan Africa to make you brats appreciate what you have.
You make me vomit.
Same for me... take care !
this made me tear up. ive been struggling with bulimia for over 3 years.i wish i could stop
it's been 10 years. How are you doing now?
its been 12 years, how are you?
It's 12 years now how are you doing
It's 12 yrs are u ok now
it’s been 13 years.
I also am a bulimic, but luckily I have now sought help after the disease struck me again. I am glad bulimia hasn't affected me before my twenties, this way I will be able to cope. Still haven't told my parents though because I don't want them to go through this. I can't imagine how it must feel to be in loss of control and fear for your kid's life. I wish everyone who suffers from an ED strength in regaining control of their life.
how are you now?
This made me cry.
I don't want to die...
Hi,how are you rn?
Hello ❤ are you better?
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing as I know if a family who is struggling with this disease ever watches this video it could save the life of their loved one. ❤
im struggling with recovery at the moment and have been ill almost 10 years. i hope to god i never leave my family in this way, i refuse to let it beat me.
thank you for sharing this x
are you doing any better now? ❤️
This is so heartbreaking. So many lives were lost because of eating disorders. And before the family knows it, it's too late. Information is so important. We can save lives just by identifying the signs and asking help for that person involved.
Bless you for sharing your story. This will help others.
Thank you for the video.
You cannot get a bulimic to stop. No matter what. Families get the help you need.
I came apon this... I am and have been fighting this for 10 years now. ... thank you for helping see things in a new light. God bless :)
May her soul rest in peace..much love and healing to her loved ones. Stay strong ❤🥺
I am so sorry about your little girl. your baby was everything to you and i understand that. i too have lost someone to an eating disorder. I am so sorry.
Hugs. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter and family member, Sarah. What a beautiful and lovely person. Your pain is obvious and palpable. Bless you for sharing her story and helping to show the anguish that the illness may cause while hoping to inspire others to get help. For anyone looking for resources about eating disorders: Something Fishy has a site.
I am truthfully so sorry for your loss.
I too am a year veteran of anorexia and bulimia... praying to not become a fatality. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thanks for sharing your daughters story.
i know this was ages ago but im so sorry for your loss :(
it's terrifying for me to watch this, it can always happen to me at anytime as im not receiving help
This is so sad its hard to stop throwing up once you realize you lose weight everyday by doing so. It's so hard
Currently so tough for me to stop. I think I’ve found a way. Slowly eating every 5 hours of vegetables plain chicken and boiled eggs. Once I don’t feel full and I feel the good I’ve eaten is very clean and nutritious.. it’s not so bad.. pray for me
@@leahtate1922goodluck!!!! You can do it! Stay strong.
im so sorry for ur loss. bless her
My heart goes out to her and her family and friends ❤
I sense the love she received from her family. Existed love makes her destiny ever more painfully sad. If even love and deeds of love can't help us what is left? Memories, pain, weakness, sorrow. It's so obvious Sarah had joy of life inside her. But what is the thing that too often defeats that joy?
I can't imagine the amount of tears and rage her family must have gone thru. Just one undefined huge pain.
The girl in this profile picture was my best friend and fiance I love her so much but due to her eight-year battle with bulimia she passed away two weeks ago I don't know what to do with my life and I feel so alone please to anyone reading this with bulimia think about how it can affect other people's lives. I love her and miss her so much
"what she thought she was in control of, really took control of her ultimately"... well said.
So sorry, for her, for her family.
What a shame what happened to poor Sarah. 🥺😥 May she rest easy with the angels, and may her family one day find peace. ♥️ I've struggled for much of my life with an ED..It is Hell for sure. 🥺♥️
I could never tell my parents. They would be so ashamed of me, and my mom already thinks that bulimics are disgusting and should be punished, so I could never tell them. Although they aren't understanding, they're my world, so to have them see me in another light would just kill me. I'd rather put up with bulimia than have them look down on me like that.
HEY,I HOPE YOU ARE ALIVE AND BETTER.
JESUS LOVES YOU ❤.BE OKAY
It's been 11 years, are you still bulimic?
It’s been 13 years how are you now
Not much of
A
Mother bulemia
Anorexia are seriously dangerous they just take over someone you please go
See doctor and get help oh
And take your mother with you her duty
2love her child 🎉🎉
Got it too, ED's. It's a nightmare one doesn't want to wake up from.
Hope she and her family founded the peace they deserved and were looking for.
And please, don't give up, rehabilitation is possible! Life has ups and downs, there's always going to be bad months, but I've experienced whe I was healthy (Not much time ago) that it is worth to fight for your. Just don't give up!
@ForeverWakingUpDead I don't know the kind of relationship that you have with your parents, but I think it is important that you tell someone you trust who would be willing to help you. There is a lot of help out there for you, but you are the only one who can be brave enough to accept it.
She was a lovely girl; what a horrible loss for her family..
omg .. im in tears
R.I.P🙏🏽❤️
My dad doesn't cry. I made him cry because he worried about me. People need to be aware.. bless your family
may i ask, if you don't mind, how exactly did she die. your video is a little vague on that. i pray for you and your family, and i am so, so very sorry for your loss. may god bless you xxx
dat just goes to show you that bulimics come in different sizes and you can't detect bulimis by someone's weight.
So sad. I am sorry
17 may 2022 im sorry im so late discovered this only ending 2021 but thanks for posting anyway very very very interesting
@WoordWerks
It's not that it's a food they 'like,' it's an obsessive-compulsive thing. Food becomes a drug and a method of self-injury... physically, but also mentally, because every time a bulimic binges, that whole period of time is spent in a mess of shame and self-flagellation. If you're fucked up enough to get to that point, it almost feels cathartic to inflict those emotions on yourself.
@ClythiaMystica - Reading this breaks my heart. It doesnt have to. My now ex-girlfriend suffers from bulimia. I have read many books and I try to understand as much as I can. Everyone has choices and you don't have to be enslaved by this disease. Please seek help. Don't let this disease win. I know it is hard to start and continue the process of recovery but you can be free.
I'm sorry for your loss.. I have been struggling with bulimia for 8 years and I was wondering if you guys knew the exact cause of why the bulimia killed her? This really scared me.
My guess would be electrolyte imbalance is what killed her.
Stay strong🙏🏽❤️
The fact that she passed on my birthday :(
oh...this girl was my age :(
It's so sad:(
@ClythiaMystica of course it is,dont be affraid of asking help.it is a sickness,u r not able to control at the moment,counselling really helps n positive thinking n also avoiding that food what triggers your binging.I wanted to live a normal life with healthy weight n without ED so started exercising regularly,not excessively,learnt to enjoy eating n life again.since i am healthy I even lost weight in a healthy way.so there is no such thing as hopeless, u can do it too u can b happy too!
I'm bulimic 17 years. May the spirits be with her
As a bulimia survivor, please don’t do this to yourself. It’s extremely harmful and it will become a obsession to a habit.
The things that can happen are:
•Teeth decay.
•Loose hairs.
•Torn up esophagus.
•Loss of gag-reflex.
•No control over throwing up.
You are perfect. Your body doesn’t define who you are. We only have one life, and in this one life, we should savor our joy and happiness to the very end. You are beautiful. Thank you for reading this.
How do u deal with ur teeth? I am so depressed it’s too expensive to be treated
help me please i can't stop
i'm bulimic and one time i was using a toothbrush and actually swallowed it, whole.
i was taken to the ER and got it removed from deep in my stomach a day later (they couldn't do it the night i went) from endoscopy.
it was the most embarrassing thing ever, and i could have easily died
but
i'm still doing it...
@biophilic this happened to me but with a plastic spoon I still continued
@@mariahhadley9146 I hope you've found recovery
Thanks for sharing. I had no clue...
Ugh. this makes me scared. No one knows so know one asks, so i don't tell... so everything is fine, in my mind, and i'm "normal"? I'm don't want to die.
I know that now, I didn't back then.
we talk a lot of about anorexia but nobody talks much about bulimia...
i'd rather pretend that i dont have this e.d. because all of these comments sound so cliche, but i do, and i've been dealing with mine for 4+ years. this isn't my first time seeing this video either unfortunately. late night habit, i guess. i hope those of you that aren't seriously ill open your eyes and realize that having an eating disorder isn't the answer before you're forced to seek help.
i am a bulimic. i am scared after i started bleeding from my nose.
Are you alright now?
I need help
are you okey ?
are you okey ?
don’t care
@@pisseater clearly you cared enough to reply
How can I get in contact with the family? I have something very important to tell them
I also suffer, what is so important
My teeth showing symptoms and I need help. It’s too expensive
So sad.
So sad if you know you know❤
what do you mean? YOur weight's the same. or ur lighter now that you're fighting this monster?
People struggle more these people and they make there life so hard how sad for them
Are you bulimic too?
Maybe I’m making an appointment with a therapist to find out but I’m very certain
It’s crazy how people hate the body acceptance movement and models are the most unhealthy people on the planet, we need to change as a society, I have been struggling with anorexia or years and I don’t know how to get out of the mind set when society isn’t changing
i think i am in an eating disorder but i am not letting a day pass like this if i noticed i didnt eat exept 500 calories i eat more bec i dont want to go to hospital i am not yet done with this i need to lose more weight bec. i am really fat. dont think i am skinny and just saying that . i am really fat and everyone know i have lost alot of weight but still not thin you know. my height is 160cm 5 feet 2 and i weight 53 so that way too much and i am 14years old which is one of my friends same hight and age and she weight 43 and she is pretty normal . my goal is 45
I know it's been two years but please get help, I'm meaning this nicely
heyy
how are you doing rn?
L
@@pisseater don't make fun of them. I survived bulimia myself, it's terrible
@@yoitsalana665 girl i literally vomit 5 times a day. i just think mfs like that are absolute cornballs, and just want people to feel bad for them
R.I.P
I’m replying just to reply to nine year old comment
*ten year veteran, pardon.
@ClythiaMystica it wont, i had bulimia for 9 years and now I am recovered and healthy, couldnt let Mia win! If i could do it, you can do it too:)
It's the mindset that's an issue. It's a voice in your head (intrusive thoughts) and it's like a constant battle in your mind of your voice against this other voice when actually that other voice is your own. Even when people recover from this disorder your mindset hasn't full recovered and the way you think about yourself changes and you are never the same afterwards at all. Wish you could turn back time and change the outcome.
I am bulimic and i know someday this disease will kill me. scarey.
5 years later... I want to see how you are. 💜
11 years later... You're still a Bulimic?
she was a beautiful girl with a gorgeous body that she didn't need to harm at all. rest in peace gorgeous soul💗
Middle school sucks.
@sophiatastic101 Sounds more like a binge eating/over exercising form of eating disorder.
My family member died of that
i am so sorry for your loss, may they rest in eternal paradise💗
How can you judge someone in a situation like this? Your harsh words are the very cause of this problem. It is not something that you just sit down one day and decide to do. It is because of the harsh judging of western culture that this disorder exists. Next time you think of judging, hold your tounge.
you aren't! Rogers Memorial Hospital and Mccallum Place in saint louis are 2 places that accept males
@redsoxfan426 I probably ought read further B4 replying but 0 sleep and 5 AM. Although it may feel awkward to have a disorder most commonly associated with females, it is not a female disorder. Something IS wrong with you, very wrong, and it could kill you, but I presume you mean that your "sexual preference" might come into question. Even were you a homosexual male, this needn't mean an ED. EDs cross all boundaries--race, gender, socioeconomic, age, etc. Rogers Memorial Hospital.
Society is so hard on woman and their weight. We are hard on ourselves.
@crazymonstergirl actually only ice cream and whip cream taste good coming up. Everything else...not really.
Liar. I was 20 lbs heavier before. i'm 5'7 and weigh 110 lbs. I used to weight 130 lbs.
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@ClythiaMystica Bulimics DO NOT confess that there's something wrong with them. It's done IN A SECRET MANNER. Just like anorexics don't go prancing around CLAIMING to EVERYONE that they have anorexia.
That’s my birthday ....
@wtfitstaryn and another thing: I seriously doubt you have been thru even half of what I have experienced in my life. I do not know you or ur personal situations and vice versa. yes i was a teen and i grew up, truly matured and experienced life and realized that i wasn't as much of a badass know it all as I was convinced I was as a teen. One day you'll see it. So look, I'm not gonna get into bitch fit here. Sorry for watever. We both are fighting the same battle here so lets focus on that.
@NeVeR2BeBLeSSd
That was kind of uncalled for. Reign in those talons.
Ummm I don't recall it tasting good coming up at all...And once you're stuck in the cycle, you start to realize that bulimia actually makes you gain weight, considering that even vomiting (yes vomiting until you can't possibly bring anything else back up) still doesn't get rid of all the calories, and you'll end up digesting anywhere from 30-50% or even more.
It really depends on how you do it. I got up pretty much everything and I was the thinnest I'd been in years after my relapse.
Nuh-uh that isn't always the case
This is an incorrect fact thrown around. When you purge effectively it’s almost 90% or more.
ice cream tastes good coming up
depends on how often u vomit. most bulimics only vomit after binges, but if u vomit after every time you eat, you will lose weight or at least maintain your weight
As someone with emetophobia, I can’t understand how someone could enjoy vomiting so much and how that act can become an addiction.
it's not enjoyable at all. it's an addiction and an illness. people with bulimia don't throw up because they like it so much, the problem goes much deeper to sense of control, self perception and anxiety.
Could this be me🙁
im bulimic to
Stay strong🙏🏽❤️
its not much of an eating disorder if you've got control now is it
im bulimic
Stay strong🙏🏽❤️
Ive been bullied by anorexic chicks. Its so so so toxic.
I vomit for 2 years what to do . Can i survive?
Are you doing it on purpose?
❤️
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Wasn't that the cutesy baby.