Work can be a bad example because you are being paid. Are you salaried or on the clock? Think of a church, a club, a neighbor, or a non-paid event as an example. How often that person asks or needs the help? Two strategies for people who can't say no: On dates YOU want for yourself write "NO", you can also write FAMILY on them then you can say, "let me check my calendar and get back with you:"; then you have a chance to mull over the request and decide - or say = "No, I have something already down for that date." And it is true, you haven't lied. Assertiveness training class/course taught me that in my early 20s, I am now in my 60s. You are right, every YES is a no to something else - but could also be a YES to a new opportunity experience or a NO to one.
totally agree. Im my example I was viewing it as if it was a task that was not on the clock, and you are not getting paid for. It is a tricky skill, but it sounds like you have it down!
Thank you so much, I’m someone who always struggles to say no to things and it did always feel like I was saying no to something else when I say yes to someone/something but even when I did say yes to other people or opportunities, I always still got an experience whether it was saying yes to hanging out with a friend & making our friendship stronger or saying no to going to a fun fair with my friends & studying at home, there was always a positive outcome to things (which is what sort of makes it hard to balance)
saying no to your boss is not a good idea, even if you are people-pleasing. being a people-pleaser has more to do with unwanted confrontation, like saying yes to someone asking you for a favor you really don't want to do ("can you give me a ride/money?" etc.) because you don't want the person to dislike you.
Work can be a bad example because you are being paid. Are you salaried or on the clock? Think of a church, a club, a neighbor, or a non-paid event as an example. How often that person asks or needs the help?
Two strategies for people who can't say no: On dates YOU want for yourself write "NO", you can also write FAMILY on them then you can say, "let me check my calendar and get back with you:"; then you have a chance to mull over the request and decide - or say = "No, I have something already down for that date." And it is true, you haven't lied. Assertiveness training class/course taught me that in my early 20s, I am now in my 60s. You are right, every YES is a no to something else - but could also be a YES to a new opportunity experience or a NO to one.
totally agree. Im my example I was viewing it as if it was a task that was not on the clock, and you are not getting paid for. It is a tricky skill, but it sounds like you have it down!
Thank you so much, I’m someone who always struggles to say no to things and it did always feel like I was saying no to something else when I say yes to someone/something but even when I did say yes to other people or opportunities, I always still got an experience whether it was saying yes to hanging out with a friend & making our friendship stronger or saying no to going to a fun fair with my friends & studying at home, there was always a positive outcome to things (which is what sort of makes it hard to balance)
young think too easy ..think deeper when it is about working and get paid
Well at work you need to say yes or when the police or a teacher comes around or a librarian as well!
Never ever resist Police presidents and rule makers!
Yep. You got it. Damn, I did it again...
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Nancy Reagan taught us to just say NO.
You are so beautifull❤
saying no to your boss is not a good idea, even if you are people-pleasing. being a people-pleaser has more to do with unwanted confrontation, like saying yes to someone asking you for a favor you really don't want to do ("can you give me a ride/money?" etc.) because you don't want the person to dislike you.
Your first point is totally off!!!!! Typical of your generation!!!! A mature person makes sacrifices, it's not always about JUST YOU!!!!!!
I think there is a time and place for sacrifice. I believe that every yes is a no to something else, and you need to pick and choose your battles.
A mature person makes an intelligent, considered choice on which sacrifices to make, because you can't make them all.