What advice would you give a solo traveler? Share your little-known tips to help others! P.S. follow me on IG for more updates between videos (I share lots of stories) @tangerinemaddie
This looks realllllly good! I am watching videos about Bali right now, too, and am shocked to see big, burly men talking about being attacked, and robbed. Any woman or man traveling alone should never walk anywhere with an iPhone or expensive device in hand nor should they travel on a scooter with stuff dangling.
Don't ever walk with a phone in your hand, pay attention to your surroundings. Only take out your phone unless absolutely necessary and wait until you are on a location where you can use it comfortably (e.g. in a restaurant, inside a car or when you arrive at your destination, etc.). Also, avoid looking like a tourist as much as possible.
Great educational video. The information is very helpful to anybody travelling. Sounds like you have your bases covered and listen to your instincts. Stay safe!
@@miguel-h Good points, you make. Thank you for this advice. Miguel, do you live in Mexico? Also, it is hard to avoid looking like a tourist, but I see your point about that because in Mexico, locals tend to think that tourists are rich, and that they have a wad of cash on them. Actually, Americans are stereotyped as being moneyed in a lot of places: Bali, India, Vietnam, etc.
I am a 65 year old male, solo traveler. I wear a wedding ring when I travel. I have been approached several times in different countries and have been asked, "where is your wife"? My response, "my wife and daughter are shopping". Then I will look at my watch and say "Oh, I need to go".
Being a 6 foot 3 inch 240 pound male,I’m amazed at how much thought you have put into this,I never worry about safety and I hate that you have to…Better safe than sorry so keep on keeping on Maddie
Yes please treat the women in your life with sympathy. We have a lot to deal with. We can’t even live our daily lives peacefully without constantly worryabout our safety.
All the safety tips that Maddie gave are things that most women think about all the time, not just when traveling solo. And if they don't think about them, they should!
Same, being 6’1” (dude) I don’t think much about safety. It feels good to be almost twice as tall as most people in many countries. Good on you for taking precautions
My dad once gave me some pretty paranoid advice: always carry a gold ring or chain when traveling alone in a foreign country. He got his wallet robbed in Rio during his 20s, leaving him stranded with no way to get back to his hotel. Luckily, he was able to sell his chain at a downtown jewelry store and use the money to get back safely. I've never had to use that advice myself, but it's definitely an interesting tip lol Great video, I really appreciate all your advice. Nothing beats learning from other people's experiences
I would also say for people who live in the US. If you live in an apartment building for Uber, Door Dash etc. never include your apartment number. Always have them leave your food or meet them in front of the building. It doesn’t let them know your exact location. Also, as someone who travels a lot alone for work, always add a second name on the reservation. Partner, friend, etc. Hotel workers can be shady as well.
I don’t see the delivery person, they leave it outside my apt door and immediately leave. I wait a few minutes to open the door. During covid they started contactless delivery. Also They leave their car running outside so they are in a hurry to get back to it. But you could always change your name in food delivery apps to a man’s name.
Thanks Maddie for this excellent summary of tips. I'm a 55 yr old solo female traveler and a few things i do: bring a ring of bells (its a door Christmas decoration) which i hang around the door handle of my room so should someone turn the handle i will be alerted; i look people in the eye; always scan places to identify any concerns and exits should i need it; i also stay in frequent touch w family and friends; i prefer public transit to cabs or ride share services; i rest when i need it and space out my excursions so i dont exhaust myself. Travel is my one big pleasure and i try to ensure it remains a joy 😊 oh, and i dont go out at night - all excursions are during the day.
As a retired cop I can say each and every tip in this video is valuable and good. Everyone should take it by heart. I travel a lot in Mexico but they are valid everywhere.
Your safety tips are applicable to anyone, anytime, anywhere! I would have a talk with your friend about her attire, though! Lol How does she avoid pitfalls, dressed like that?! (Just observation)🙏🧡
Thanks for sharing! I have a close friend who is 6'2" (not a boyfriend). He calls me paranoid for doing just a fraction of what is recommended here. I was always terrified to leave his apt. when I visited, so he would walk me to a taxi, but again, tell me I was paranoid. Then his building put up warning signs in the elevators because so many women were being attacked on his block, including tenants. Also, a woman was thrown off her bike in the park downstairs from his apt. She fought back and her attacker ended up in the hospital. (she had martial arts training, a beginner, but she was pretty big). I'd always refused to go to that park because it just didn't feel safe, and my friend would again tell me I was overly paranoid, since he jogged there regularly. But after all of the attacks, my friend finally stopped calling me paranoid. This post makes me think about up leveling a bit.
Hi Maddie, great video! I am a 55-year old solo woman traveller who has been fortunate to travel over 40 countries covering all 7 continents over the past 25 years. I use many of your tips and appreciated learning a few extras (thank you!). I also carry a personal alarm on my keychain and also an Atomic Bear pen that works as a pen but also a very effective glass breaker in case of emergency. It's strong enough to easily break a car window.
When I took taxis in Mexico City, I’d follow my map app to make sure I was being taken to the right area. Kept my head on a swivel too. It’s empowering to know your environment! Thanks for all these good “awareness” tips! And I also tell fibs when I feel I need to be cautious.
Telling "fibs" to possibly predatory people is simply smart. It's the last line of defence that can persuade those with ill intention to move on.. It's a crazy world out there.
Some pretty wise ideas here. Taking a photo of what you are wearing on a given day is really a good tip. People who are trying to come up with the answer "What was she wearing the last time you saw her?" often struggle coming up with a good description. As men we need to be reminded that being female and single might be terrifying at times.
And thiis is a strange one- but coming across a bit strange- can scare people off-- I don't know if this would work- I was alone and being followed by men in a car, who were shouting things out- I turned around and started snarling and barking and making a scary face and chased their car- they peeled off and raced away - maybe too weird, but it worked
I did something similar to a coworker who harassed me on the regular. It worked really really well, he suddenly stopped working shifts I was working...
I honestly can’t think of another safety point to bring up, that’s how well you’ve covered things. I personally think lying to a stranger is never wrong, even if you don’t necessarily feel in danger. If they’re truly just making small talk and mean you no harm, they’d understand anyway why you did. I once had a taxi driver in my home town of Ft. Lauderdale suddenly turn the conversation to being about my body. I discreetly took out the cash amount that was on the meter and threw it in the front sit and got out at the next stop light. For that reason, I always have cash on me. Both at home and traveling.
Also, when you are waiting for an elevator and this scetchy person wants to enter with you, don't hesitate to not enter and wait for the next elevator or walk away; same when a scetchy person gets in - get out, even if that's not your floor.
I think your tips are great. I remember being told by a male friend from Mexico that if a woman says she has a husband, that is NOT a deterrent against getting hit on or approached. However, if she says she has a boyfriend, that IS a deterrent. He said that this comes from the belief that a husband doesn't care anymore because he "owns" her (and is probably cheating on her, anyway), but a boyfriend will go ballistic. Patriarchal society at its finest, eh? So, any married women out there, just call your hubby your boyfriend. Something to think about.
Wow, that's fascinating! I hadn't heard that before. Makes sense though and jeez, kinda sad too that cheating is such a prevalent and accepted part of the culture. I hate that.
That makes so much sense! The same thing happened in Italy. I wore a fake wedding ring and I would hold it up and point to it and they would hold up theirs and do the same and laugh! But boyfriends… No bueno!
Thank you! Great tips! I never thought to take my photo with my clothing each day. My additional tips: 1. Travel with a rubber door stop. It's small, cheap, and helps protect against those who have keys to the Airbnb/hotel room and who know how to unlatch the safety latches. 2. Use a travel purse that's slash proof. I use one whenever I'm in places like Paris or other heavy pickpocketing areas.
I have to comment on the rubber door stopper. I have one with me for the first time after often seeing it recommended. I've been traveling for 4 months now on this trip (through Turkey and Eastern Europe), and I have been surprised by how many hotel doors here don't have bolt locks or chains, etc. My door stopper has been useless on almost all of them - the door is too high or two low or the stopper slides on the floor. I had housekeeping ignore my "do not disturb" sign and push aside my door stopper while I was in the shower at one hotel. I had a metal lock mechanism, which I never ended up taking on a trip because it was so heavy, but I may have to use that instead.
Very good show today. I can only think of two other things you might talk about, pick pockets and maybe roaming dogs. In all the many years I have been in Mexico only twice has someone in a public place touched me and both times it was a pick pocket attempt. The first one, a woman bumped into my shoulder and her husband berated her, and the second one a man walking behind me passed me and put his hand on my shoulder saying desculpe. Neither of them succeeded but not because I was paying attention but because of how I had my money secured and their attempts were unsuccessful. As to dogs and other animals, in my experience stop walking and staying calm has worked.
I LOVE the trick of asking people questions about themselves.. takes all the pressure off of me & I also know they are enjoying themselves too & are flattered I’m asking.. meanwhile I don’t have to reveal anything about myself!! My advice would just be to not be out alone after dark & to never ever get drunk alone when you are out 💗🙏🏻💗
Great advice. I’m older and traveling solo. Been in central Mexico for two weeks now. I’ll be here for four months. I won’t go out after dark and will only walk on main streets in town. My language skills are pitiful so I depend on using my hands to explain things. It works so far!
Another tip I thought of, once you get a car or if you borrow somebody’s car and you’re the driver… As soon as you get in lock all the doors! One day I was in the grocery store parking lot getting ready to get out of the car and someone just open my car door and it was someone panhandling. Freaked me out! I was keep your car doors locked. And safe travels to you our sweet Maddie!
I often bring my own food container for any leftovers, mostly for environmental reasons, but safety is also a good reason to do it. I also hate to wait for a server to bring a container if I'm experiencing bad service.
great tips! thanks Maddie! ^_^ so happy to see you embracing solo traveling as a woman. I remember it's something you were nervous about a while back and it's great to see you grow and become more confident about it! :) keep up the great work!
You’re a wise and brave woman Maddie. Always be on guard and always trust your inner vibes. They will never lie to you. May you always stay safe no matter where you are.
I always have my keys ready. If I'm leaving the Uber I have the house / hotel keys, if leaving a store to go to my car my keys are in my hand before I leave the building. And, I hold my biggest key (usually the car key) inconspicuously like a weapon. I am ready to take an eyeball. When in traffic in weird circumstances / feeling unsafe I keep good distance from other cars so I can slip through and get away from a car jacking or any stranger approaching on foot. As for money, I keep some in a cross-body bag, some in a pocket, some hidden in the car, some hidden in the room. I don't want to be robbed and everything gone.
These were probably the best tips I've gotten for a solo female traveler because I've dealt with or been in alot of the scenarios you mentioned and didn't think to do most of your tips especially the bit about lying when necessary. I hate lying and got tongue tied in my responses to an Uber driver asking personal questions. Your permission to lie for safety reasons will help me to lie confidently sin guilt for next time so I thank you for that again and all your tips.
Glad you found the tips valuable! As for the lying for safety thing...try role-playing with yourself or a friend to get comfortable coming up with a storyline. For me, eventually it became "muscle memory." I don't reinvent the wheel each time, I just say the same story to fit the situation...dog, boyfriend, friends are around the corner, I'm the first one to arrive, etc.
Hey Maddie, so glad you finally made this video. I am in PV right now for 4 months traveling solo and was looking very much forward to your tips. Interestingly I have actually been doing a lot of them; so I'm pretty proud of myself. But there are some that I'm definitely going to start using and I just started wearing pants today so I'm glad that you mentioned that as well. Be safe and keep making excellent videos. Muchas gracias chica!
Many people in Mexico (including old ladies) always ask me "where are you staying? are you staying alone? are you with family/friends?" I find it creepy but at the same time I understand that it's curiosity, as I'd probably ask a foreigner the same questions. I still lie to them though and say I live with friends and lie about the area where I stay just to be sure 😂 cuz i aint tryna give away my location.
Great video Maddie, I highly recommend the book "The gift of fear" by Gavin de Becker, I gave my adult daughters these books and they're a lot more aware of their surroundings. Keep up the great work! 🌝
@@MaddieGold @Ralph Lozano Yes! The Gift of Fear is excellent and so interesting to read! Great video, Maddie. So good you are aware; I don't think you're paranoid, but an experienced, wise, mature woman!
Luckily I’m a 6’3, 200 lb male so people are less likely to mess with me. However, I never let anyone know I’m traveling alone so I make up a story about traveling with my buddies or I tell them I’m a cop. When I lived in Africa it was taboo for a bartender to give you an opened bottle. I’ve since had the same policy for ordering drinks anywhere.
Maddie, this episode was incredible and I believe essential for women travelers! Anyone really, got to be smart and safe out there. Thank you for being honest and direct with step by step tips. Without fear of being judged or apologetic for being assertive. We all must listen to gut feelings!
Another excellent video!!! The only thing I have to add is that I carry a retractable travel umbrella with me most of the time. It's good for rain, sun, keeping overly friendly stay dogs at bay &, most importantly, can be used as a baton in any situation. It's crazy that we have to go to such lengths to protect ourselves. Last year, when I started to date a Mexican in Mexico City. I sent some of my friends pictures of him & explained that I just wanted them to be able to identify him, in case anything happened. As it turned out, he had a wicked temper &, after only spending a short amount of time in his company, the feeling that I was not safe in that relationship overpowered his gorgeous smile. Dang! He was SO handsome! Lol! Stay safe & unapologic for taking steps to secure your security.
I told my daughter to get her a T-shirt that says 2 year state karate champion to wear when she travels . I’m definitely sharing this video. I have 6 daughters who could use this advice someday.
Your tips are great not only for traveling but for within the states as a woman alone it sucks that we have to devout so much energy to having to be safe..your tips are very helpful..
I had an incident where I was in the drive thru lane of a fast food place in the US. I was looking out my side window talking to the clerk and paying for my food. Someone very quickly opened my passenger door and hopped into my front passenger seat. Scared the crap outta me! Thank GOD it ended up being an old friend from High school that saw me and just wanted to say hello. That made a BIG impression on me about always locking my car doors! I encourage all women to listen to their gut feelings. Sometimes we are so afraid of offending someone or being thought of or called racist that we ignore a big red flag warning. Don't worry about what people might think about you. They might think you are crazy or racist if they don't know you. But you and your friends will know whether that is true or not. Be observant even with friends, whether they are brand new friends or friends you have had for several months. Sometimes even people you think are good trustworthy people can end up stealing from you. My cousin had a car breakdown years before we had cell phones. A man was walking by and offered to help, and he was able to get her car running again. She was thankful, and the man seemed very polite, clean cut, and nice. He asked if she would mind giving him a ride somewhere to return the favor and she agreed. When she arrived at the place he wanted dropped off; he pulled out a knife and robbed her. Luckily he only took her purse and left her alone. We can still go out alone and enjoy ourselves while keeping to our personal comfort level with safety in mind. If people want to judge us; that is their decision. We cannot control the thoughts of others. We as women need to try to be strong and stop worrying about what other people think about us. There is WAY too much judging. It seems like the online environment has given a free pass to some people to say horrible things about other people, things they would never say to their face. Often these are people that they really do not know on a personal level. People need to work harder to get to know each other well, and maybe they will find there are legitimate reasons for their actions. So often we think we know what someone else is thinking and we are totally wrong. Sorry, I think the holiday season is making me very sentimental this year. Anyways, I love your blog, I love that you have continued to blog on your own now, and happy you are still sharing your adventures with us. You are an inspiration to many women (Girl Power!),. Well done! : )
One time I was sleeping in my car being drunk after a nightclub in a bad part of Los Angeles. Some Mexican dude that was hanging on a street corner (drug dealer, most likely, it was a hood), my car doors unlocked, got into my car and I woke up to attempted carjacking. Beat him up, threw him out, locked up the door, went back to sleep. No drinking and driving here. But that's what happens when one goes to a bad area, one should avoid them and stick to the safe areas.
OMG, how terrifying! I'm glad nothing bad actually happened to you. But why on earth were you driving around with any of your car doors unlocked? That's just plain asking for exactly this sort of trouble. I lock mine the moment I get in the car, often before I even put the key in the ignition, sometimes before I even get the door closed.
Maddie, you have the correct approach to solo traveling. You are not being too cautious...everyone should follow these tips when traveling alone. But then, I would expect the most common sense from you. That's why I follow you on your channel!
Great advice Maddie ,,, 1) Learn to box (stay on your feet so you can move, ground fighting and kicking is great but moving is key in a bad place at the wrong time)2) practice sprinting (moving away from danger at top speed is better than almost anything in a spur of the moment bad situation 3) Be confident and try to relax (fear is sensed , s-bags feed on it, knowing how to break someones face with a punch helps with this,, I know it sounds ruff but it is what it is,,OH, AND YOU'R AWESOME,
Sprinting is FANTASTIC advice. So many people shun cardio and only strength train. I feel the need to be able to run fast if I need to pretty important.
You are incredibly prepared and I love it! I live in Ecuador and I always tell everyone to be careful with having your phone or anything valuable exposed because it puts you at risk of getting robbed. Your advice of taking different paths was marvelous because I’ve always heard that there are people who literally learn your routine to try to find a time to rob you (or worse) but I sometimes get negative feedback from people telling me that I’m exaggerating. I guess a good tip that wasn’t mentioned but maybe should be obvious based on what I know (I’ve gotten robbed too) and the feedback I’ve received is to not be overconfident. You can have the most amazing rose-colored experience ever and never have anything bad happen to you, but if you can be prepared just in case and lessen the chance of something bad happening, then you definitely should, you won’t regret it. Excellent video! 👏🏼
I'm really glad that you address this. I tried asking similar questions to your ex, and he and the mexicana TOTALLY ignored my questions. They just want to talk about food and buying shit for their apartment. So superficial. You're looking great these days. And I'm so happy your back home for the holidays. 2023 will be good to you!
I can't stand watching them. He does give some good information, so I do still do so sometimes, but I have never liked him, to be honest. I've never thought he was good enough for Maddie, never mind how dorky he looks. And her? OMG, dating a patient?? Such horrendous professional ethics! I was appalled. That can't be kosher even there.
Fantastic video! Used many of these strategies for being safe two weeks ago when traveling from mid USA to west coast to take Coast Starlight from LA to Seattle. One new thing I practiced was to just walk away. Difficult at first, but essential sometimes. Will watch again because all your tips were good. And despite being a couple (few) decades older than you, as a solo female traveler, still run into a lot of the same issues.
And listening to your gut is so important. Just recently I was walking up our residential street as it was getting dark and noticed a car following me. I have lived here for years and never felt nervous out on walks by myself. This car made me nervous. They had already gone past me once already. I listened to my gut and walked up a neighbour's driveway like I was just arriving home. I stayed near their door ready to ask for help until that car left. I will never know for sure if I was " just being paranoid" but seeing as it came out of the blue especially, I think better safe than sorry.
0:31 you could also carry key chain made with metal alloy that has tools on it built in in shape snowflake from Amazon for like $8. Also u csn order hair accessories barrettes that has cutting tool /screw driver built in, metal enamel coated beautiful hair decorative chop sticks. A leather necklace that has a beautiful look shape but easily accessible small knife you could hold hide in palm of your hand. All available from Amazon. Even ink pens can be used to Jab on their face or eyes.
Great advice Maddie, I think if I was in a situation that didn't feel comfortable.. I would " wave" to my boyfriend/husband, letting them know I was not alone. Keep safe and continue on!! Merriest of Christmas wishes to you!! See you in 2023!!
Maddie the best tips ever. I have listened several people but your advices are the best ; taking picture of your driver and their license plate, and be in contact with your buddies every morning etc. THANK YOU SO MUCH😊
My tips: 1. I always make sure to sit RIGHT BESIDE the driver in any uber or cab. This way, even if they have child locks, those usually do not extend to the front doors, and I can always do something to the driver if they decide to do anything unsavoury. (But I am a man-sized woman, very big and stronger than an average tiny 5'4" female). 2. As far as residential safety goes, I was told by a local friend to always, always lock all windows and doors for the night and to additionally reinforce them by an inside bar, because there are crews of professional thieves who scale the walls of buildings where expats are known to live at nighttime from the rooftops, get in noiselessly, spray the sleeping people in the face with a powerful somnoleptic compound to ensure no one wakes up, clean out the place and leave before anyone is the wiser. And this happens even in buildings that have security posted at doors downstairs. 3. Was going to recommend the strap or the metal ring at the back of the phone as well; in addition to better security, those make it SO much easier to hold the phone while preventing a lot of damage from accidental drops, I can't even imagine using my phone without these little contraptions.
They'll scale the walls in either direction. In Chile, at least in Santiago, this is so common they call these people "aranas", or "spiders" in Spanish (the n is the nye, with the tilde over the n, but I don't know how to make that with this laptop) - and everyone with a balcony installs steel wire like chicken wire around the edges to keep them out. I hadn't heard about the narcoleptic sprays before, but it doesn't surprise me.
They recommended against that practice in my cop-run, self-defense course for women. They said that when you punch or jab with keys in between your fingers, you are much more likely to jam the keys back into your own fingers and cut yourself up, rather than hurt the other person. They really stressed being situationally aware and not letting anyone get that close as a first line of defense, but if someone does, they told us that the number one most effective thing to do is to have a break-away-type personal alarm on your key chain or carry your personal alarm in hand. The one the cops recommended was the Vantamo. Super loud, has a strobe light that can temporarily blind an attacker, double speakers, rechargeable, one charge lasts about a year.
thanks for the tips! when i was solo in mexico i was sitting at a park by myself and someone came up to me and starting chatting (he was being friendly) and hes like oh who are you waiting for? and i said "my boyfriend.. hes on his way here any minute" and then after that he left pretty quick haha i will lie my butt off too if need be. i never tell anyone im alone when im in mexico. i always say im going to meet my friends.
Maddie, THANK YOU! I’m glad to know you actively take these daily precautions. I’m always checking my young adult daughter’s location as she lives in another city! I’m taking some of your tips that I never thought about!
I try to remember to take my own container for leftovers when I'm going out to eat. I've often thought about how difficult it would be to video in Mexico while walking because a bobble head really is required. Lie it up whenever necessary, I totally agree! I have a list of five taxi drivers in my city in Mexico that I've come to know quite well. Whenever possible I pre-arrange rides with them, I won't use Uber here. It's been awesome in other cities I've been to in Mexico, but not where I live. The only tip I would add that you kind of alluded to is that I personally try to be back home before dark when I'm solo. As often as I can when I have to be out at night, I have one of the drivers on my taxistas list pre-arranged to pick me up where I am to take me home. Excellent tips, all of them - Anne
Hi Maddie: this was a great video. Through my travels I stay safe by following few personal rules. I make a reservation with a great centralized hotel for my arrival night. I email the hotel a few times and remind them to send me a taxi or driver they trust. Right before my arrival, I remind the hotel via email of my arrival time and ask for the name of the driver. Once I get to my hotel, I ask them to help me find other safe accomodations, bypassing extra cost that most companies charge the landlords. Nice hotels know everyone. Finally, I never go out at night until I know the city well.
Great video! Gracias! I live in Nayarit north of Sayulita. I'm moving to San Miguel de Allende in a few months and it's me, 2 dogs and 2 cats. I use some of your tips already but it's good to hear them again.
These are great practical tips! As far as dressing modestly, as well as avoiding standing out and setting yourself up to be scammed, you will also be showing more respect to the local culture. I traveled in for months in Asia in the 70s, and was shocked by the way the US and European "hippies" and also the European package tour middle class tourists dressed. I myself daily wore a knee length wrap skirt, knee high thin socks, and lace up walking shoes, with elbow length cotton blouses. It protected me from the heat and sun, and I was treated much better by locals. I was amused once in Hyderabad when I was asked if I had grown up in India with British missionary parents. But I know it made my traveling experience both safer and more cordial. It's terrible we as women have to worry about this, but we have to live in the world we are in, and there is nothing to be gained by acting clueless. PS I am now a parttime Mexican ex-pat, and I would have done exactly the same as you with that taxi driver, but also in my mind given him the benefit of the doubt that he might have actually been concerned for you rather than targeting you. Maybe it's just because I am an older woman now, and one of the things I really like about Mexico is their respect for older women, but I have had many taxi drivers there who my intuition tells me are well-intentioned give me little lectures on safety which included telling me I need to have my male relatives waiting for me at home. So I just say they are and go woth the flow.
While traveling alone I’ve learned it’s better simply not to engage at all with strange men whether in taxis, restaurants, walking around etc…and any type of question about them in inferred as interest on my part. Best to keep the conversation to what’s necessary to get from a to b. Thanks for all your helpful suggestions - many I’d not considered before
Another thing to add as far as how you dress. Do not wear a lot of fancy or flashy jewelry, watches, rings, etc. for every day wear. Of course if your going out to a special event, wedding, etc. that is expected. Draw the least amount of attention to yourself as you can.
Maddie, I’m so happy that (I think) you’re with your family for the holidays. You’ve grown so much through your travels. I just finished the White Lotus, and your fears remind me of the show! I truly hope you’re doing well.
Two of the best things they told us in the cop-run self-defense for women course that I took was to always carry a personal break-away alarm somewhere on your bag, hooked to your key chain or just in your hand. The one they recommended was the Vantamo. Super loud, has a strobe light that can temporarily blind an attacker, double speakers, affordable, rechargeable, one charge lasts about a year. They also recommended (for outdoor runners/walkers/hikers) a gel pepper spray glove or strap. It securely hooks onto your hand so it is always at the ready, leaving your hands free. The one they recommended was the Sabre runner pepper gel. While it is legal in every state in the USA, it gets trickier when traveling to other countries, so do your research before bringing it. But I always carry my Vantamo everywhere without issue.
Maddie, another tip. There are taxi drivers you can trust and book in advance for early flights or late arrivals. Usually it's a driver other people have known for a long time. I know one like this in Michoacán. Ask your friends and neighbors.
I have so much respect for this woman based on everything she’s been through. She’s done so much! Come to Playa in November Maddie! This shall be my first ever international trip, and all your videos I hope will give me tips and great advice.
I'm so glad that you made this video! All of the things that you mentioned are common sense, but not everyone would think about them all. There are so many solo travelers now, and whether in their home countries or abroad, your tips are invaluable! Thank you for sharing this information, Aspen is adorable, and have a Merry Christmas with your family!
Great video, Maddie, and a whole lot of really excellent suggestions! You have actually taught this old lady and *very* longtime savvy traveler (and streetwise retired paramedic) a couple of new tricks I will absolutely be implementing myself. I especially like the ideas of taking many of the photos you've mentioned, as well as sharing your location often with trusted friends and family members. You didn't mention anything about dealing with hotels and apartment hotels, though - and that topic has its own layer of recommendations, some of which will apply to most Airbnbs, too. For starters, always, always, always keep *all* locks on the door on whenever you're in the room. I've gotten rather lax and haven't had one in quite a while, so I need a new one, but it's also wise to have a device you can use yourself to add a further layer of lock security, especially in rooms where there aren't enough locks to start with, or they're weak. There are a variety of different types, but aim for one with a built-in alarm. Always check all the windows and doors to be sure they are locked - and that the locks *work*, before accepting the room. I once rented an apartment in Santiago, Chile that was very nice - but there was no functional lock on the bedroom window, and it was accessible from a roof area, so I split, even though it was rather a trial to find another place. Never open the door to anyone if you haven't called for anything like room service or other food delivery or service. And don't leave valuables in your room unless they're in a safe. Also, Aspen is completely adorable!
THANKS FOR THIS GREAT VIDEO Maddie…I am glad you are now dressing more conservatively, as in the past I think you could have easily been a target. It shows how much you have matured. Keep up the great work and continue to stay safe…
Very good tips. I travel solo a lot recently. My husband decided he wanted to be a home body, so as a senior I am traveling by myself. I was going to Vegas, but that has gotten too dangerous. I know travel via cruise ships. I do some travel in the ports, mostly with groups and when I do travel in a city I stay in hotel vs AirBnb's for short term just to be more safe. The more people around the better. I am staying only a week or so for hotels. When I travel with my husband we do stay in airbnb;s. I just like the extra layer of safety.
I’m 68 and went to a Vegas by myself for the first time this year. It’s not bad. I stayed at the Venetian which is attached to pretty much everything. Be sure to see cirque du Soleil if you go! So amazing! The Beatles Love show was great but I hear they’re all fantastic!
@Jeri Hough I am 68 also. I was going every other month. The homeless problem is out of control. I had one steal my breakfast at McDonald's. I no longer felt safe. I always stayed at the Flamingo. Cruises are only a bit more expensive and just so much safer. Probably with casino losses maybe less expensive..lol I follow some Vegas vloggers who have been attacked. The cities have to get police back on the streets and arrest people and not arrest and put back on the street. I just go where I feel safe
One tip for Hotel stay... when I check in I always say I am expecting my spouse or brother to join me shortly... ( Sometimes creeps work in the Hotel business) Do not give ANYONE a free pass!
@@hivolco151 That might help with the people around you, but the people at the front desk will know better - because your reservation will only be for one person, not two, and obviously they will be able to see that. And in some places, the room rate depends on how many people are *actually* booked for the room.
Great advice MaddieGold. One can never be too careful.You're very brave but clearly an intrepid and very confident traveller. Wishing you many years of happy and safe globetrotting.
So happy to know you have a dog now, Maddie! Thank you for being an example of staying true to yourself. You're looking happier and happier all the time. YAY! Best wishes to you always. Keep rockin' it. :)
Excellent tips. I'm a male of just average to small size and yet I rarely feel wary or in danger. It really makes me mad that women of necessity even need to worry about these things yet I know they do regardless of where they live. I encourage the women in my family and life to at a minimum carry pepper spray and know how to use it. Stay safe, we're all rooting for you and your channel. Feliz navidad!
Excellent Video Maddie - very wise no matter what the country and more so Mexico ..... My first trip to Mexico city a women with long blond hair I wore it up under a baseball cap for the whole time, rugged clothings and looked like a hobo but felt less noticeable...In recent trips I am a tad more comfortable but have 100% caution, and I use the same tips and tricks in all countries I travel too - but you had a few real good ones over and above the standard....I dont think anyone can be to safe and especially at night even in NZ were I currently live if I got out at night I take a long umbrella with a very long metal tip - people often ask me are we expecting rain, I just laugh it off by saying one never knows..LOL
I have noticed twice that on airbnb tour experiences, one in Oaxaca, one in Queretaro, with them knowing I do pretty well in Spanish, they seem to hit on me at the end, and then I hear their phone at some point kind of turn on "by mistake" with some audio maybe from some tiktok or whatever and I hear something like "porque no puedes hacer en una pareja?" - and I feel like they are trying to hint that they are interested and I should feel bad maybe for them that they are a nice guy wanting to be in a relationship?? the second time I heard the same thing, it was like deja vu, trying to remember why this actual scenario was so familiar. So I don't know if it is a thing, a ploy - but it immediately put me at alert both times and wished I hadn't divulged so much of my travels during our tour. The guys seemed nice enough (and oddly about half my age - I don't look 60) but it was odd and I just skedaddled after the end of the tour trying to mix in the centro crowds. Just weird for it to happen twice... Maybe I should make up a ridiculous story of why I am alone like you do and who I am....
Good video. For women and even men. People are kidnapped for a variety of reasons, but also if they think you have money, or access to money (ransom). Sometimes I think that if you are going to make videos in places that could be making one a target, post it after you have left the area and moved on to a different locale, city/town, country, etc. Posting a video near your normal range of "hanging out" may not be the best thing(s) to do. Take care of yourself and good video for others to learn some tips from. (I don't recommend saying "I bought a home here." Or "here's where we are staying now.")
Thanks! And yep, that's my strategy when it comes to creating/posting videos while traveling. Whenever possible, I'm always going to upload it after I've left. Of course, that's not possible in the city I'm currently living but in that case, as you said, no vlogs about my typical hangouts.
You have no idea how many times things happen to women. You have to be careful. I have been careful and stuff has happened to me especially in my college years.
I think this is such a sad video. Unfortunately it’s necessary. A lot of the tips you gave I would use even just around my home. I think they were all well thought out. Keep safe my dear.💕💕💕
Thank you so much Maddie - this is Gold for me right now, because I am in Mexico City alone for the first time. I did notice that you've been dressing differently. ❤ Ubers have been a life saver, but I've e never checked the license plate - just the person's name / my name and car type. I'll start now with this. I just downloaded Google Find your phone on your advice for my Samsung but I'll look further to see if there's a Samsung app for this. Thank you Maddie! Love Jennie
This year I've done so much solo travel. I turned 60. I went to a trip to Europe, end of August to the end of September. I had a blast. I speak Spanish so I began in Madrid. It was hot and crowded, but I came away with a nice experience. I stayed in a air b and b. It had a balcony, but it was only 1 flight up and really people don't go to sleep till 3 am. These same people don't function till 10 or 1. One old, traditional coffee shop was open on the plaza del sol. All morning people and tourist were there. I really wanted to make me remember my experience so on a lazy Sunday, I took the metro to the Prado and just strolled, my hand was always on my purse. I never looked lost. I was armed with my LANGUAGE. If a saw parents with kids, couples, young women or seniors I usually smiled and said good morning. This made me feel welcome to the neighborhood.
thank you for the tips, all is well in fantasizing solo traveling but putting effort into safety is the best way to having fun, seeing new places and having adventures.
What advice would you give a solo traveler? Share your little-known tips to help others!
P.S. follow me on IG for more updates between videos (I share lots of stories) @tangerinemaddie
This looks realllllly good!
I am watching videos about Bali right now, too, and am shocked to see big, burly men talking about being attacked, and robbed.
Any woman or man traveling alone should never walk anywhere with an iPhone or expensive device in hand nor should they travel on a scooter with stuff dangling.
Don't ever walk with a phone in your hand, pay attention to your surroundings. Only take out your phone unless absolutely necessary and wait until you are on a location where you can use it comfortably (e.g. in a restaurant, inside a car or when you arrive at your destination, etc.). Also, avoid looking like a tourist as much as possible.
Great educational video. The information is very helpful to anybody travelling. Sounds like you have your bases covered and listen to your instincts. Stay safe!
@@miguel-h Good points, you make. Thank you for this advice.
Miguel, do you live in Mexico?
Also, it is hard to avoid looking like a tourist, but I see your point about that because in Mexico, locals tend to think that tourists are rich, and that they have a wad of cash on them. Actually, Americans are stereotyped as being moneyed in a lot of places: Bali, India, Vietnam, etc.
Take Jiu Jitsu! Great self defense, especially for women.
I am a 65 year old male, solo traveler. I wear a wedding ring when I travel. I have been approached several times in different countries and have been asked, "where is your wife"? My response, "my wife and daughter are shopping". Then I will look at my watch and say "Oh, I need to go".
very clever! I’ll be using that.
Thank you so much for this tip
I love this, thank you for the suggestion! ❤
Being a 6 foot 3 inch 240 pound male,I’m amazed at how much thought you have put into this,I never worry about safety and I hate that you have to…Better safe than sorry so keep on keeping on Maddie
I (female) am taller than most men in the city/place I am (not everywhere like this, thankfully), not even very tall, but here of course - huge
you are a mountain to people then, no worries needed indeed :), only a problem in the local busses maybe :)
Yes please treat the women in your life with sympathy. We have a lot to deal with. We can’t even live our daily lives peacefully without constantly worryabout our safety.
All the safety tips that Maddie gave are things that most women think about all the time, not just when traveling solo. And if they don't think about them, they should!
Same, being 6’1” (dude) I don’t think much about safety. It feels good to be almost twice as tall as most people in many countries. Good on you for taking precautions
Super important for women to give themself permission to be rude if needed. Safety first.
My dad once gave me some pretty paranoid advice: always carry a gold ring or chain when traveling alone in a foreign country. He got his wallet robbed in Rio during his 20s, leaving him stranded with no way to get back to his hotel. Luckily, he was able to sell his chain at a downtown jewelry store and use the money to get back safely. I've never had to use that advice myself, but it's definitely an interesting tip lol
Great video, I really appreciate all your advice. Nothing beats learning from other people's experiences
I would also say for people who live in the US. If you live in an apartment building for Uber, Door Dash etc. never include your apartment number. Always have them leave your food or meet them in front of the building. It doesn’t let them know your exact location. Also, as someone who travels a lot alone for work, always add a second name on the reservation. Partner, friend, etc. Hotel workers can be shady as well.
Good tip. Thank you.
I don’t see the delivery person, they leave it outside my apt door and immediately leave. I wait a few minutes to open the door. During covid they started contactless delivery. Also They leave their car running outside so they are in a hurry to get back to it. But you could always change your name in food delivery apps to a man’s name.
Excellent on the reservation tip, who knew! Thanks
I always change my name on a delivery service too, incase.
Thanks Maddie for this excellent summary of tips. I'm a 55 yr old solo female traveler and a few things i do: bring a ring of bells (its a door Christmas decoration) which i hang around the door handle of my room so should someone turn the handle i will be alerted; i look people in the eye; always scan places to identify any concerns and exits should i need it; i also stay in frequent touch w family and friends; i prefer public transit to cabs or ride share services; i rest when i need it and space out my excursions so i dont exhaust myself. Travel is my one big pleasure and i try to ensure it remains a joy 😊 oh, and i dont go out at night - all excursions are during the day.
As a retired cop I can say each and every tip in this video is valuable and good. Everyone should take it by heart. I travel a lot in Mexico but they are valid everywhere.
Appreciate your opinion 🙂 all the best in the New Year 🙏
@@2GringosOnTheGulf Thank you, same to you!
Your safety tips are applicable to anyone, anytime, anywhere!
I would have a talk with your friend about her attire, though! Lol
How does she avoid pitfalls, dressed like that?! (Just observation)🙏🧡
Thanks for sharing! I have a close friend who is 6'2" (not a boyfriend). He calls me paranoid for doing just a fraction of what is recommended here. I was always terrified to leave his apt. when I visited, so he would walk me to a taxi, but again, tell me I was paranoid. Then his building put up warning signs in the elevators because so many women were being attacked on his block, including tenants. Also, a woman was thrown off her bike in the park downstairs from his apt. She fought back and her attacker ended up in the hospital. (she had martial arts training, a beginner, but she was pretty big). I'd always refused to go to that park because it just didn't feel safe, and my friend would again tell me I was overly paranoid, since he jogged there regularly. But after all of the attacks, my friend finally stopped calling me paranoid. This post makes me think about up leveling a bit.
Hi Maddie, great video! I am a 55-year old solo woman traveller who has been fortunate to travel over 40 countries covering all 7 continents over the past 25 years. I use many of your tips and appreciated learning a few extras (thank you!). I also carry a personal alarm on my keychain and also an Atomic Bear pen that works as a pen but also a very effective glass breaker in case of emergency. It's strong enough to easily break a car window.
Wow! Looking into that atomic bear thing as we speak. Thanks so much for that idea!❤
When I took taxis in Mexico City, I’d follow my map app to make sure I was being taken to the right area. Kept my head on a swivel too. It’s empowering to know your environment! Thanks for all these good “awareness” tips! And I also tell fibs when I feel I need to be cautious.
Telling "fibs" to possibly predatory people is simply smart. It's the last line of defence that can persuade those with ill intention to move on.. It's a crazy world out there.
and do live videos work to!!🙋🏼♀️🙏🏻
Some pretty wise ideas here. Taking a photo of what you are wearing on a given day is really a good tip. People who are trying to come up with the answer "What was she wearing the last time you saw her?" often struggle coming up with a good description. As men we need to be reminded that being female and single might be terrifying at times.
Agree! Would never think of that one.
Indeed
When traveling solo, avoid getting wasted or even tipsy 🥴 as you will definitely become a target!
It’s best to stay indoors after dark unless you’re with people who you can trust.
And thiis is a strange one- but coming across a bit strange- can scare people off-- I don't know if this would work- I was alone and being followed by men in a car, who were shouting things out- I turned around and started snarling and barking and making a scary face and chased their car- they peeled off and raced away - maybe too weird, but it worked
I did something similar to a coworker who harassed me on the regular. It worked really really well, he suddenly stopped working shifts I was working...
It’s not at all weird! The nut jobs who feel it’s ok to follow women are the weirdos! Do what you have to do. 😊
😆good one🐕
I honestly can’t think of another safety point to bring up, that’s how well you’ve covered things.
I personally think lying to a stranger is never wrong, even if you don’t necessarily feel in danger.
If they’re truly just making small talk and mean you no harm, they’d understand anyway why you did.
I once had a taxi driver in my home town of Ft. Lauderdale suddenly turn the conversation to being about my body. I discreetly took out the cash amount that was on the meter and threw it in the front sit and got out at the next stop light.
For that reason, I always have cash on me.
Both at home and traveling.
She did an excellent job. Women's physical self defense class saved my life. Remember, a knee or fist to the groin works like a miracle.
Sorry that happened. Taxis still exist?
@@user-ti3vp9mt3z or eyes, or nose, or toes!
@@JohnnieV I’m kinda old. This was in 2001. Lol.
@@user-ti3vp9mt3z Slamming your hand upwards into their nose or fingers into the eyes can, too.
Also, when you are waiting for an elevator and this scetchy person wants to enter with you, don't hesitate to not enter and wait for the next elevator or walk away; same when a scetchy person gets in - get out, even if that's not your floor.
Covid gives us a good excuse if you feel you need one. "Sorry, I still social distance."
A lot of those tips are things we should all be doing all the time, no matter where we are, travelling or at home.
I think your tips are great.
I remember being told by a male friend from Mexico that if a woman says she has a husband, that is NOT a deterrent against getting hit on or approached. However, if she says she has a boyfriend, that IS a deterrent. He said that this comes from the belief that a husband doesn't care anymore because he "owns" her (and is probably cheating on her, anyway), but a boyfriend will go ballistic. Patriarchal society at its finest, eh? So, any married women out there, just call your hubby your boyfriend. Something to think about.
Wow, that's fascinating! I hadn't heard that before. Makes sense though and jeez, kinda sad too that cheating is such a prevalent and accepted part of the culture. I hate that.
That makes so much sense! The same thing happened in Italy. I wore a fake wedding ring and I would hold it up and point to it and they would hold up theirs and do the same and laugh! But boyfriends… No bueno!
Wow! That’s sad.. honestly.
I am mexican. this is the most stupid thing Ive ever heard....
Useful tip. And I can certainly attest to the cheating husband. 😤
These are good suggestions for anyone who lives alone and moves around solo. They apply wherever a person lives and what ever age range.
Thank you! Great tips! I never thought to take my photo with my clothing each day.
My additional tips:
1. Travel with a rubber door stop. It's small, cheap, and helps protect against those who have keys to the Airbnb/hotel room and who know how to unlatch the safety latches.
2. Use a travel purse that's slash proof. I use one whenever I'm in places like Paris or other heavy pickpocketing areas.
I have to comment on the rubber door stopper. I have one with me for the first time after often seeing it recommended. I've been traveling for 4 months now on this trip (through Turkey and Eastern Europe), and I have been surprised by how many hotel doors here don't have bolt locks or chains, etc. My door stopper has been useless on almost all of them - the door is too high or two low or the stopper slides on the floor. I had housekeeping ignore my "do not disturb" sign and push aside my door stopper while I was in the shower at one hotel. I had a metal lock mechanism, which I never ended up taking on a trip because it was so heavy, but I may have to use that instead.
Very good show today. I can only think of two other things you might talk about, pick pockets and maybe roaming dogs. In all the many years I have been in Mexico only twice has someone in a public place touched me and both times it was a pick pocket attempt. The first one, a woman bumped into my shoulder and her husband berated her, and the second one a man walking behind me passed me and put his hand on my shoulder saying desculpe. Neither of them succeeded but not because I was paying attention but because of how I had my money secured and their attempts were unsuccessful. As to dogs and other animals, in my experience stop walking and staying calm has worked.
I LOVE the trick of asking people questions about themselves.. takes all the pressure off of me & I also know they are enjoying themselves too & are flattered I’m asking.. meanwhile I don’t have to reveal anything about myself!! My advice would just be to not be out alone after dark & to never ever get drunk alone when you are out 💗🙏🏻💗
Great advice. I’m older and traveling solo. Been in central Mexico for two weeks now. I’ll be here for four months. I won’t go out after dark and will only walk on main streets in town. My language skills are pitiful so I depend on using my hands to explain things. It works so far!
Another tip I thought of, once you get a car or if you borrow somebody’s car and you’re the driver… As soon as you get in lock all the doors! One day I was in the grocery store parking lot getting ready to get out of the car and someone just open my car door and it was someone panhandling. Freaked me out! I was keep your car doors locked. And safe travels to you our sweet Maddie!
I lock my door as soon as I get in the car. Don't ever wait for the automatic door locks that only lock when you pull out of your parking spot.
@@lindaowens65 I often lock my doors even as I'm closing mine getting in, not even waiting until I'm fully in.
This is opposite of me 😅😅 I have a fear of being in accident and no one can help me cause I’m locked in
I think for a single female in Mexico, it's best to get mobile numbers from known and trusted taxi drivers and use only those drivers.
Same here in the US, there been high profile cases of women murdered by taxi drivers or men posing as taxi drivers.
I often bring my own food container for any leftovers, mostly for environmental reasons, but safety is also a good reason to do it. I also hate to wait for a server to bring a container if I'm experiencing bad service.
Great idea!
I ask them to bring me the take out container. I figure it's better for me to handle my food.
I bring my own food container, only because I hate styrofoam
great tips! thanks Maddie! ^_^ so happy to see you embracing solo traveling as a woman. I remember it's something you were nervous about a while back and it's great to see you grow and become more confident about it! :) keep up the great work!
You’re a wise and brave woman Maddie. Always be on guard and always trust your inner vibes. They will never lie to you. May you always stay safe no matter where you are.
I always have my keys ready. If I'm leaving the Uber I have the house / hotel keys, if leaving a store to go to my car my keys are in my hand before I leave the building. And, I hold my biggest key (usually the car key) inconspicuously like a weapon. I am ready to take an eyeball. When in traffic in weird circumstances / feeling unsafe I keep good distance from other cars so I can slip through and get away from a car jacking or any stranger approaching on foot. As for money, I keep some in a cross-body bag, some in a pocket, some hidden in the car, some hidden in the room. I don't want to be robbed and everything gone.
These were probably the best tips I've gotten for a solo female traveler because I've dealt with or been in alot of the scenarios you mentioned and didn't think to do most of your tips especially the bit about lying when necessary. I hate lying and got tongue tied in my responses to an Uber driver asking personal questions. Your permission to lie for safety reasons will help me to lie confidently sin guilt for next time so I thank you for that again and all your tips.
Glad you found the tips valuable! As for the lying for safety thing...try role-playing with yourself or a friend to get comfortable coming up with a storyline. For me, eventually it became "muscle memory." I don't reinvent the wheel each time, I just say the same story to fit the situation...dog, boyfriend, friends are around the corner, I'm the first one to arrive, etc.
@@MaddieGold I will definitely work on a scripted story. Thank you!
Hey Maddie, so glad you finally made this video. I am in PV right now for 4 months traveling solo and was looking very much forward to your tips. Interestingly I have actually been doing a lot of them; so I'm pretty proud of myself. But there are some that I'm definitely going to start using and I just started wearing pants today so I'm glad that you mentioned that as well. Be safe and keep making excellent videos. Muchas gracias chica!
Many people in Mexico (including old ladies) always ask me "where are you staying? are you staying alone? are you with family/friends?" I find it creepy but at the same time I understand that it's curiosity, as I'd probably ask a foreigner the same questions. I still lie to them though and say I live with friends and lie about the area where I stay just to be sure 😂 cuz i aint tryna give away my location.
Exaaaaactly!! You just never know where the scales tip from friendly to 👿
People here in the US ask me the same, I tell them I live "west" or South", etc.
You are not being paranoid you are being very cautious! Enjoyed your video!!
Great video Maddie, I highly recommend the book "The gift of fear" by Gavin de Becker, I gave my adult daughters these books and they're a lot more aware of their surroundings. Keep up the great work! 🌝
Thanks for the suggestion!
@@MaddieGold @Ralph Lozano Yes! The Gift of Fear is excellent and so interesting to read! Great video, Maddie. So good you are aware; I don't think you're paranoid, but an experienced, wise, mature woman!
Luckily I’m a 6’3, 200 lb male so people are less likely to mess with me. However, I never let anyone know I’m traveling alone so I make up a story about traveling with my buddies or I tell them I’m a cop. When I lived in Africa it was taboo for a bartender to give you an opened bottle. I’ve since had the same policy for ordering drinks anywhere.
Excellent advice
I USED TO worry about you ; after this I don't.
You really have got your shite together Maddie!
Maddie, this episode was incredible and I believe essential for women travelers! Anyone really, got to be smart and safe out there. Thank you for being honest and direct with step by step tips. Without fear of being judged or apologetic for being assertive. We all must listen to gut feelings!
Another excellent video!!!
The only thing I have to add is that I carry a retractable travel umbrella with me most of the time. It's good for rain, sun, keeping overly friendly stay dogs at bay &, most importantly, can be used as a baton in any situation.
It's crazy that we have to go to such lengths to protect ourselves.
Last year, when I started to date a Mexican in Mexico City. I sent some of my friends pictures of him & explained that I just wanted them to be able to identify him, in case anything happened. As it turned out, he had a wicked temper &, after only spending a short amount of time in his company, the feeling that I was not safe in that relationship overpowered his gorgeous smile.
Dang! He was SO handsome! Lol!
Stay safe & unapologic for taking steps to secure your security.
I told my daughter to get her a T-shirt that says 2 year state karate champion to wear when she travels . I’m definitely sharing this video. I have 6 daughters who could use this advice someday.
That’s a good idea!!
this only works if people understand the language the shirt is in. What is more valuable is having them take basic self-defense classes
You put a lot of thought into this and as a single woman traveler, I want to compliment you on thinking of all these details! Great job!
Thank you! 😊
Your tips are great not only for traveling but for within the states as a woman alone it sucks that we have to devout so much energy to having to be safe..your tips are very helpful..
I had an incident where I was in the drive thru lane of a fast food place in the US. I was looking out my side window talking to the clerk and paying for my food. Someone very quickly opened my passenger door and hopped into my front passenger seat. Scared the crap outta me! Thank GOD it ended up being an old friend from High school that saw me and just wanted to say hello. That made a BIG impression on me about always locking my car doors!
I encourage all women to listen to their gut feelings. Sometimes we are so afraid of offending someone or being thought of or called racist that we ignore a big red flag warning. Don't worry about what people might think about you. They might think you are crazy or racist if they don't know you. But you and your friends will know whether that is true or not.
Be observant even with friends, whether they are brand new friends or friends you have had for several months. Sometimes even people you think are good trustworthy people can end up stealing from you. My cousin had a car breakdown years before we had cell phones. A man was walking by and offered to help, and he was able to get her car running again. She was thankful, and the man seemed very polite, clean cut, and nice. He asked if she would mind giving him a ride somewhere to return the favor and she agreed. When she arrived at the place he wanted dropped off; he pulled out a knife and robbed her. Luckily he only took her purse and left her alone.
We can still go out alone and enjoy ourselves while keeping to our personal comfort level with safety in mind. If people want to judge us; that is their decision. We cannot control the thoughts of others. We as women need to try to be strong and stop worrying about what other people think about us. There is WAY too much judging. It seems like the online environment has given a free pass to some people to say horrible things about other people, things they would never say to their face. Often these are people that they really do not know on a personal level. People need to work harder to get to know each other well, and maybe they will find there are legitimate reasons for their actions. So often we think we know what someone else is thinking and we are totally wrong. Sorry, I think the holiday season is making me very sentimental this year. Anyways, I love your blog, I love that you have continued to blog on your own now, and happy you are still sharing your adventures with us. You are an inspiration to many women (Girl Power!),. Well done! : )
One time I was sleeping in my car being drunk after a nightclub in a bad part of Los Angeles. Some Mexican dude that was hanging on a street corner (drug dealer, most likely, it was a hood), my car doors unlocked, got into my car and I woke up to attempted carjacking. Beat him up, threw him out, locked up the door, went back to sleep. No drinking and driving here. But that's what happens when one goes to a bad area, one should avoid them and stick to the safe areas.
OMG, how terrifying! I'm glad nothing bad actually happened to you.
But why on earth were you driving around with any of your car doors unlocked? That's just plain asking for exactly this sort of trouble. I lock mine the moment I get in the car, often before I even put the key in the ignition, sometimes before I even get the door closed.
Great tips Maddie.👍Too many people just look at their phones and lack situation awareness. Thanks for the video. ❤
Yesssss just got off work and clicked soooooo fast! What a way to end my day! Happy holidays, Maddie! Love this!
aww this makes me so happy...happy Saturday night!! Hope you enjoy 🍿🍻
Maddie, you have the correct approach to solo traveling. You are not being too cautious...everyone should follow these tips when traveling alone.
But then, I would expect the most common sense from you. That's why I follow you on your channel!
Thanks Robert! :)
Hi Maddie... This video is GOLD! No pun intended. I'm going to share it. There were so many tips that I never considered. Great job.
Great advice Maddie ,,, 1) Learn to box (stay on your feet so you can move, ground fighting and kicking is great but moving is key in a bad place at the wrong time)2) practice sprinting (moving away from danger at top speed is better than almost anything in a spur of the moment bad situation 3) Be confident and try to relax (fear is sensed , s-bags feed on it, knowing how to break someones face with a punch helps with this,, I know it sounds ruff but it is what it is,,OH, AND YOU'R AWESOME,
Jiu Jitsu is great self defense!
@@luvablesweetnsassy Yes it is🤼♀
Sprinting is FANTASTIC advice. So many people shun cardio and only strength train.
I feel the need to be able to run fast if I need to pretty important.
You are incredibly prepared and I love it!
I live in Ecuador and I always tell everyone to be careful with having your phone or anything valuable exposed because it puts you at risk of getting robbed. Your advice of taking different paths was marvelous because I’ve always heard that there are people who literally learn your routine to try to find a time to rob you (or worse) but I sometimes get negative feedback from people telling me that I’m exaggerating. I guess a good tip that wasn’t mentioned but maybe should be obvious based on what I know (I’ve gotten robbed too) and the feedback I’ve received is to not be overconfident. You can have the most amazing rose-colored experience ever and never have anything bad happen to you, but if you can be prepared just in case and lessen the chance of something bad happening, then you definitely should, you won’t regret it.
Excellent video! 👏🏼
You are the best, Maddie! Keep up the great work!!!
Thanks Alex! Happy holidays :)
I'm really glad that you address this. I tried asking similar questions to your ex, and he and the mexicana TOTALLY ignored my questions. They just want to talk about food and buying shit for their apartment. So superficial. You're looking great these days. And I'm so happy your back home for the holidays. 2023 will be good to you!
I can't stand watching them. He does give some good information, so I do still do so sometimes, but I have never liked him, to be honest. I've never thought he was good enough for Maddie, never mind how dorky he looks.
And her? OMG, dating a patient?? Such horrendous professional ethics! I was appalled. That can't be kosher even there.
Fantastic video! Used many of these strategies for being safe two weeks ago when traveling from mid USA to west coast to take Coast Starlight from LA to Seattle. One new thing I practiced was to just walk away. Difficult at first, but essential sometimes. Will watch again because all your tips were good. And despite being a couple (few) decades older than you, as a solo female traveler, still run into a lot of the same issues.
And listening to your gut is so important. Just recently I was walking up our residential street as it was getting dark and noticed a car following me. I have lived here for years and never felt nervous out on walks by myself. This car made me nervous. They had already gone past me once already. I listened to my gut and walked up a neighbour's driveway like I was just arriving home. I stayed near their door ready to ask for help until that car left. I will never know for sure if I was " just being paranoid" but seeing as it came out of the blue especially, I think better safe than sorry.
0:31 you could also carry key chain made with metal alloy that has tools on it built in in shape snowflake from Amazon for like $8. Also u csn order hair accessories barrettes that has cutting tool /screw driver built in, metal enamel coated beautiful hair decorative chop sticks. A leather necklace that has a beautiful look shape but easily accessible small knife you could hold hide in palm of your hand. All available from Amazon. Even ink pens can be used to Jab on their face or eyes.
Great advice Maddie, I think if I was in a situation that didn't feel comfortable.. I would " wave" to my boyfriend/husband, letting them know I was not alone. Keep safe and continue on!! Merriest of Christmas wishes to you!! See you in 2023!!
Thanks Sjana! Merry Christmas to you too!
Maddie, you are kicking butt in this channel! I love seeing you move mountains woman!
That’s so sweet thank you Brenda!! 🙌
Maddie the best tips ever. I have listened several people but your advices are the best ; taking picture of your driver and their license plate, and be in contact with your buddies every morning etc. THANK YOU SO MUCH😊
My tips: 1. I always make sure to sit RIGHT BESIDE the driver in any uber or cab. This way, even if they have child locks, those usually do not extend to the front doors, and I can always do something to the driver if they decide to do anything unsavoury. (But I am a man-sized woman, very big and stronger than an average tiny 5'4" female). 2. As far as residential safety goes, I was told by a local friend to always, always lock all windows and doors for the night and to additionally reinforce them by an inside bar, because there are crews of professional thieves who scale the walls of buildings where expats are known to live at nighttime from the rooftops, get in noiselessly, spray the sleeping people in the face with a powerful somnoleptic compound to ensure no one wakes up, clean out the place and leave before anyone is the wiser. And this happens even in buildings that have security posted at doors downstairs. 3. Was going to recommend the strap or the metal ring at the back of the phone as well; in addition to better security, those make it SO much easier to hold the phone while preventing a lot of damage from accidental drops, I can't even imagine using my phone without these little contraptions.
They'll scale the walls in either direction. In Chile, at least in Santiago, this is so common they call these people "aranas", or "spiders" in Spanish (the n is the nye, with the tilde over the n, but I don't know how to make that with this laptop) - and everyone with a balcony installs steel wire like chicken wire around the edges to keep them out. I hadn't heard about the narcoleptic sprays before, but it doesn't surprise me.
Spread and hold your keys individually between your fingers. Punching with those can be really effective
They recommended against that practice in my cop-run, self-defense course for women. They said that when you punch or jab with keys in between your fingers, you are much more likely to jam the keys back into your own fingers and cut yourself up, rather than hurt the other person. They really stressed being situationally aware and not letting anyone get that close as a first line of defense, but if someone does, they told us that the number one most effective thing to do is to have a break-away-type personal alarm on your key chain or carry your personal alarm in hand. The one the cops recommended was the Vantamo. Super loud, has a strobe light that can temporarily blind an attacker, double speakers, rechargeable, one charge lasts about a year.
I have done solo travel as a woman many times, I always take precautions, nothing bad has happened on those trips, thankfully. Great tips!
thanks for the tips! when i was solo in mexico i was sitting at a park by myself and someone came up to me and starting chatting (he was being friendly) and hes like oh who are you waiting for? and i said "my boyfriend.. hes on his way here any minute" and then after that he left pretty quick haha i will lie my butt off too if need be. i never tell anyone im alone when im in mexico. i always say im going to meet my friends.
Maddie Gold no. 1!! 🤠🎉 Hello from Vancouver 🇨🇦
Hi Ronald. I'm in Victoria. The snow is gone. Yay!
That keeping your head on a swivel thing...Abso-freakin-lutely! Thanks for all the tips Maddie🥰
Maddie, THANK YOU! I’m glad to know you actively take these daily precautions. I’m always checking my young adult daughter’s location as she lives in another city! I’m taking some of your tips that I never thought about!
I try to remember to take my own container for leftovers when I'm going out to eat. I've often thought about how difficult it would be to video in Mexico while walking because a bobble head really is required. Lie it up whenever necessary, I totally agree! I have a list of five taxi drivers in my city in Mexico that I've come to know quite well. Whenever possible I pre-arrange rides with them, I won't use Uber here. It's been awesome in other cities I've been to in Mexico, but not where I live. The only tip I would add that you kind of alluded to is that I personally try to be back home before dark when I'm solo. As often as I can when I have to be out at night, I have one of the drivers on my taxistas list pre-arranged to pick me up where I am to take me home. Excellent tips, all of them - Anne
Hi Maddie: this was a great video. Through my travels I stay safe by following few personal rules.
I make a reservation with a great centralized hotel for my arrival night. I email the hotel a few times and remind them to send me a taxi or driver they trust. Right before my arrival, I remind the hotel via email of my arrival time and ask for the name of the driver. Once I get to my hotel, I ask them to help me find other safe accomodations, bypassing extra cost that most companies charge the landlords. Nice hotels know everyone. Finally, I never go out at night until I know the city well.
Wow, that’s some excellent advice! I’m glad you’re so smart about taking precautions. Every young female needs to see this!
Great video! Gracias! I live in Nayarit north of Sayulita. I'm moving to San Miguel de Allende in a few months and it's me, 2 dogs and 2 cats. I use some of your tips already but it's good to hear them again.
These are great practical tips! As far as dressing modestly, as well as avoiding standing out and setting yourself up to be scammed, you will also be showing more respect to the local culture. I traveled in for months in Asia in the 70s, and was shocked by the way the US and European "hippies" and also the European package tour middle class tourists dressed. I myself daily wore a knee length wrap skirt, knee high thin socks, and lace up walking shoes, with elbow length cotton blouses. It protected me from the heat and sun, and I was treated much better by locals. I was amused once in Hyderabad when I was asked if I had grown up in India with British missionary parents. But I know it made my traveling experience both safer and more cordial. It's terrible we as women have to worry about this, but we have to live in the world we are in, and there is nothing to be gained by acting clueless. PS I am now a parttime Mexican ex-pat, and I would have done exactly the same as you with that taxi driver, but also in my mind given him the benefit of the doubt that he might have actually been concerned for you rather than targeting you. Maybe it's just because I am an older woman now, and one of the things I really like about Mexico is their respect for older women, but I have had many taxi drivers there who my intuition tells me are well-intentioned give me little lectures on safety which included telling me I need to have my male relatives waiting for me at home. So I just say they are and go woth the flow.
Thanks MG ❤ You gave some really great tips that I had not thought of myself as a solo female in Mexico.
Super useful video for all environments. I don't think any of your suggestions are over the top. Thank you, Maddie!!
While traveling alone I’ve learned it’s better simply not to engage at all with strange men whether in taxis, restaurants, walking around etc…and any type of question about them in inferred as interest on my part. Best to keep the conversation to what’s necessary to get from a to b. Thanks for all your helpful suggestions - many I’d not considered before
Good point !
Another thing to add as far as how you dress. Do not wear a lot of fancy or flashy jewelry, watches, rings, etc. for every day wear. Of course if your going out to a special event, wedding, etc. that is expected. Draw the least amount of attention to yourself as you can.
Maddie, I’m so happy that (I think) you’re with your family for the holidays. You’ve grown so much through your travels. I just finished the White Lotus, and your fears remind me of the show! I truly hope you’re doing well.
Two of the best things they told us in the cop-run self-defense for women course that I took was to always carry a personal break-away alarm somewhere on your bag, hooked to your key chain or just in your hand. The one they recommended was the Vantamo. Super loud, has a strobe light that can temporarily blind an attacker, double speakers, affordable, rechargeable, one charge lasts about a year. They also recommended (for outdoor runners/walkers/hikers) a gel pepper spray glove or strap. It securely hooks onto your hand so it is always at the ready, leaving your hands free. The one they recommended was the Sabre runner pepper gel. While it is legal in every state in the USA, it gets trickier when traveling to other countries, so do your research before bringing it. But I always carry my Vantamo everywhere without issue.
Maddie, another tip. There are taxi drivers you can trust and book in advance for early flights or late arrivals. Usually it's a driver other people have known for a long time. I know one like this in Michoacán. Ask your friends and neighbors.
I have so much respect for this woman based on everything she’s been through. She’s done so much! Come to Playa in November Maddie! This shall be my first ever international trip, and all your videos I hope will give me tips and great advice.
I'm so glad that you made this video! All of the things that you mentioned are common sense, but not everyone would think about them all. There are so many solo travelers now, and whether in their home countries or abroad, your tips are invaluable! Thank you for sharing this information, Aspen is adorable, and have a Merry Christmas with your family!
Yes, Maddie! So proud of your vigilance! Alway be aware and share your location with others! 🏵🏵🏵
Great video, Maddie, and a whole lot of really excellent suggestions! You have actually taught this old lady and *very* longtime savvy traveler (and streetwise retired paramedic) a couple of new tricks I will absolutely be implementing myself. I especially like the ideas of taking many of the photos you've mentioned, as well as sharing your location often with trusted friends and family members.
You didn't mention anything about dealing with hotels and apartment hotels, though - and that topic has its own layer of recommendations, some of which will apply to most Airbnbs, too.
For starters, always, always, always keep *all* locks on the door on whenever you're in the room. I've gotten rather lax and haven't had one in quite a while, so I need a new one, but it's also wise to have a device you can use yourself to add a further layer of lock security, especially in rooms where there aren't enough locks to start with, or they're weak. There are a variety of different types, but aim for one with a built-in alarm.
Always check all the windows and doors to be sure they are locked - and that the locks *work*, before accepting the room. I once rented an apartment in Santiago, Chile that was very nice - but there was no functional lock on the bedroom window, and it was accessible from a roof area, so I split, even though it was rather a trial to find another place.
Never open the door to anyone if you haven't called for anything like room service or other food delivery or service.
And don't leave valuables in your room unless they're in a safe.
Also, Aspen is completely adorable!
Wear your backpack in the front, so you can protect if someone tries to steal something from you.
THANKS FOR THIS GREAT VIDEO Maddie…I am glad you are now dressing more conservatively, as in the past I think you could have easily been a target. It shows how much you have matured. Keep up the great work and continue to stay safe…
Very good tips. I travel solo a lot recently. My husband decided he wanted to be a home body, so as a senior I am traveling by myself. I was going to Vegas, but that has gotten too dangerous. I know travel via cruise ships. I do some travel in the ports, mostly with groups and when I do travel in a city I stay in hotel vs AirBnb's for short term just to be more safe. The more people around the better. I am staying only a week or so for hotels. When I travel with my husband we do stay in airbnb;s. I just like the extra layer of safety.
I’m 68 and went to a Vegas by myself for the first time this year. It’s not bad. I stayed at the Venetian which is attached to pretty much everything. Be sure to see cirque du Soleil if you go! So amazing! The Beatles Love show was great but I hear they’re all fantastic!
@Jeri Hough I am 68 also. I was going every other month. The homeless problem is out of control. I had one steal my breakfast at McDonald's. I no longer felt safe. I always stayed at the Flamingo. Cruises are only a bit more expensive and just so much safer. Probably with casino losses maybe less expensive..lol I follow some Vegas vloggers who have been attacked. The cities have to get police back on the streets and arrest people and not arrest and put back on the street. I just go where I feel safe
One tip for Hotel stay... when I check in I always say I am expecting my spouse or brother to join me shortly... ( Sometimes creeps work in the Hotel business) Do not give ANYONE a free pass!
@@hivolco151 That might help with the people around you, but the people at the front desk will know better - because your reservation will only be for one person, not two, and obviously they will be able to see that. And in some places, the room rate depends on how many people are *actually* booked for the room.
Great video Maddie! I hope you get a nice vehicle for yourself soon!
These are great tips Maddie, well done!
You have helped me so much while making my decision to make mexico my home. Love your enthusiasm and directness.
I’m not a female but I am a skinny young dude so I often have to approach situations in a similar manner
Good for you! I think it's smart for anyone to approach travel with these things in mind.
Great advice MaddieGold. One can never be too careful.You're very brave but clearly an intrepid and very confident traveller. Wishing you many years of happy and safe globetrotting.
So happy to know you have a dog now, Maddie! Thank you for being an example of staying true to yourself. You're looking happier and happier all the time. YAY! Best wishes to you always. Keep rockin' it. :)
Just FYI that’s my mom’s dog. I’m still hoping to get my own pup very soon! Thank you for the kind comment 💛
Excellent tips. I'm a male of just average to small size and yet I rarely feel wary or in danger. It really makes me mad that women of necessity even need to worry about these things yet I know they do regardless of where they live. I encourage the women in my family and life to at a minimum carry pepper spray and know how to use it. Stay safe, we're all rooting for you and your channel. Feliz navidad!
Excellent Video Maddie - very wise no matter what the country and more so Mexico ..... My first trip to Mexico city a women with long blond hair I wore it up under a baseball cap for the whole time, rugged clothings and looked like a hobo but felt less noticeable...In recent trips I am a tad more comfortable but have 100% caution, and I use the same tips and tricks in all countries I travel too - but you had a few real good ones over and above the standard....I dont think anyone can be to safe and especially at night even in NZ were I currently live if I got out at night I take a long umbrella with a very long metal tip - people often ask me are we expecting rain, I just laugh it off by saying one never knows..LOL
Always walk on the opposite side of the sidewalks. No one can jump from behind and take you in their car by surprise
I have noticed twice that on airbnb tour experiences, one in Oaxaca, one in Queretaro, with them knowing I do pretty well in Spanish, they seem to hit on me at the end, and then I hear their phone at some point kind of turn on "by mistake" with some audio maybe from some tiktok or whatever and I hear something like "porque no puedes hacer en una pareja?" - and I feel like they are trying to hint that they are interested and I should feel bad maybe for them that they are a nice guy wanting to be in a relationship?? the second time I heard the same thing, it was like deja vu, trying to remember why this actual scenario was so familiar. So I don't know if it is a thing, a ploy - but it immediately put me at alert both times and wished I hadn't divulged so much of my travels during our tour. The guys seemed nice enough (and oddly about half my age - I don't look 60) but it was odd and I just skedaddled after the end of the tour trying to mix in the centro crowds. Just weird for it to happen twice... Maybe I should make up a ridiculous story of why I am alone like you do and who I am....
Make up the story.
If anyone's phone said what you said it said I would be out of there in a flash.
Good video. For women and even men. People are kidnapped for a variety of reasons, but also if they think you have money, or access to money (ransom). Sometimes I think that if you are going to make videos in places that could be making one a target, post it after you have left the area and moved on to a different locale, city/town, country, etc. Posting a video near your normal range of "hanging out" may not be the best thing(s) to do. Take care of yourself and good video for others to learn some tips from. (I don't recommend saying "I bought a home here." Or "here's where we are staying now.")
Thanks! And yep, that's my strategy when it comes to creating/posting videos while traveling. Whenever possible, I'm always going to upload it after I've left. Of course, that's not possible in the city I'm currently living but in that case, as you said, no vlogs about my typical hangouts.
Good video it sure makes you feel a little more comfortable being alone 😊 it sure is bad that young ladies needs to worry about things like that
You have no idea how many times things happen to women. You have to be careful. I have been careful and stuff has happened to me especially in my college years.
Sucks as women we have to be extra careful ! Reminds of the song from no doubt “ just a girl “ continue to stay safe out there !❤
I think this is such a sad video. Unfortunately it’s necessary. A lot of the tips you gave I would use even just around my home. I think they were all well thought out. Keep safe my dear.💕💕💕
What great imformation, keep safe, try not t go out alone specially at night. Merry Christmas 😉🎄🎄❤️
Thank you so much Maddie - this is Gold for me right now, because I am in Mexico City alone for the first time.
I did notice that you've been dressing differently. ❤
Ubers have been a life saver, but I've e never checked the license plate - just the person's name / my name and car type. I'll start now with this. I just downloaded Google Find your phone on your advice for my Samsung but I'll look further
to see if there's a Samsung app for this.
Thank you Maddie!
Love Jennie
Maddie you look so good! You look self-assured, as if you have done some healing and growing. Brave girl.
GREAT video and advice, Maddie!!! You have become more wise the longer that u have lived. 👏👏👏
This year I've done so much solo travel. I turned 60. I went to a trip to Europe, end of August to the end of September. I had a blast. I speak Spanish so I began in Madrid. It was hot and crowded, but I came away with a nice experience. I stayed in a air b and b. It had a balcony, but it was only 1 flight up and really people don't go to sleep till 3 am. These same people don't function till 10 or 1. One old, traditional coffee shop was open on the plaza del sol. All morning people and tourist were there. I really wanted to make me remember my experience so on a lazy Sunday, I took the metro to the Prado and just strolled, my hand was always on my purse. I never looked lost. I was armed with my LANGUAGE. If a saw parents with kids, couples, young women or seniors I usually smiled and said good morning. This made me feel welcome to the neighborhood.
thank you for the tips, all is well in fantasizing solo traveling but putting effort into safety is the best way to having fun, seeing new places and having adventures.