I spent 2 years Dating in Mexico and this is what happened…
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2024
- Everything I learned after dating in Mexico for 2 years including culture shocks, machismo culture, who pays for dates, chivalry, cheating, obsession with exes, and more..
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During the past 2 years in Mexico, I've dated guys all over the country: Mexico City, Guadalajara, Queretaro, Veracruz, Durango. Plus, guys from other Latin American countries like Argentina, Colombia, and Venezuela.
As an American girl who had previously only dated guys from the US, dating in Mexico has been a major culture shock in many ways and I've learned a lot. These are some of the topics I'll be covering:
- Demographics of the guys I dated in Mexico
- How I got to the dates
- Who paid for the dates
- How many times I was catfished
- Biggest culture shocks
- Being "exotic" as an American in Mexico
- Money issues while dating in Mexico
- The language barrier and how that affected my dating life
- The effort guys put into dating in Mexico
- Do men act like gentlemen in Mexico?
- Obsession with exes
- Toxic men and cheating culture
- How I was treated as a "Western woman"
- Does my not wanting to have children affect my dating life?
- The exclusivity talk and commitment in relationships
- Differences on dating apps in the US vs. Mexico
- Machismo culture
- My conclusions about dating in Mexico
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TIMESTAMPS:
How Many Guys I've Dated & Age Range 0:00-1:29
Where They Were From 1:29-2:25
Zodiac Signs 2:25-3:20
Number of Times I Was Catfished 3:20-3:51
Who Paid for the First Date? 3:51-4:23
What Type of Dates 4:23-4:59
Drinking Alcohol 4:59-5:30
How I Got There 5:30-6:17
Important Disclaimer 6:17-6:58
Observations & Differences 6:58-7:06
The Biggest Culture Shock 7:06-8:54
Being "Exotic" 8:54-9:44
Am I a "Walking Checkbook?" 9:44-10:25
Cultural Struggles 10:25-11:06
Communication Issues 11:06-11:59
Effort I've Seen in Dating 11:59-14:09
Men Looking for that "One Thing" 14:09-14:57
Obsession with Exes 14:57-16:04
Being a "Western Woman" 16:04-16:50
Having Children 16:50-17:30
Toxic Men 17:30-18:43
Cheating Culture 18:43-19:05
The Exclusivity Talk & Situationships 19:05-20:27
Weirdness Surrounding Money 20:27-21:22
Differences on Dating Apps 21:22-22:35
Is Chivalry Dead in Mexico? 22:35-24:05
Machismo Culture 24:05-26:38
Sexism & Patriarchy 26:38-27:39
Do I Prefer Dating in Mexico? Will I Continue? 27:39-28:58
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Hi, I'm Maddie, former partner of Tangerine Travels, a travel vlog with over 350 videos that I helped build for 4 years to over 250k subscribers. I'm originally from Arizona and have been living in Mexico since 2018. These days, I'm traveling around Mexico, doing the "solo female travel" thing.
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@MaddieGold I'll go out with you because my sign is cancer so you can check that box ;)
Hello, Maddie! I just want to mention that I wish I had your knowledge; when I was younger. I love your videos because they are informative and engaging. Lots of luck to you! By the way my daughter is your same age. 💕🙏💕!
I live in Ireland all my life and I have the same problems here. Its great to see you being honest about your experiences, a lot of women would be afraid to admit everything you've experienced but the truth is its the same in every country in the world. I think thats why so many couples who meet their first love tend to stay together as its better the devil you know.
Your best video since Jordan, imo.
You're so attached to finding a person....much suffering
I love how thorough you were. This is almost like a peer-reviewed video essay about women dating in Mexico. As a Mexican-American man who is dating in Mexico, this has opened my eyes a bit, and will definitely change how I will present or behave myself in my dates.
I wonder how she feels about 62 year olds? 🤢😜🤣
Please tell the others!!! :)
Can we take a minute to appreciate the pie charts 😁 Great video!
Agreed!!!! LOL. Only our MaddieGold.
First I half laughed/ half scoffed then appreciated, then learned !
it's the difference between a 9 out of 10 and a 10 out of 10 video.
@@retniretep9477 i’m not sure what nine out of 10 versus 10 of 10 means but I’m going to assume that it’s positive and give you a thumbs up! Lol
Miranda, I have to agree about the pie charts! They were amazing!
On a sidenote… Was I the only one that found myself craving pie after watching Maddie’s video? I went to Costco this morning and picked up one of their giant pumpkin pies. All because Maddie had to use pie charts in her Video! Lol
Dating in the US sucks too. Lol. We can’t win. And I swear I’m never getting on an app ever again. If I don’t meet someone in the “wild” then it’s not happening. We all need to go back speaking to people again and not swiping for the next option. I hate the instant replacement and throw away society we have become. Sigh… 😩
Agreeeed
Exactly. Damn, pie charts and graphs to DATE? Yeah, I'm O.L.D. 🤣🤣🤣
Well said. Trying to find 'the love of your life's on a dating app just doesn't seem to make sense to me. I'm sure there are a few who find someone, but keep in mind anyone on a dating site is talking to several other people they want to date. Imagine meeting someone in real life and asking if they're single and their response was "Yes I'm single and currently pursuing 8 other people I'm interested in dating. So would you like to go out now?" Obviously most people would run away, quickly. As they should. But for some reason they are willing to accept it from people on dating sites. I just don't get it. Seems like that's just a recipe for disappointment. I'm just grateful nothing bad has happened to this girl. What she's doing with all the crazy stuff going on in the world today sure seems awfully risky. I certainly hope she finds what she's looking for. I just think there's better ways of doing it than via internet searching.
@@valve6642 I wouldn't have made these if I didn't make a video about it lol. I thought it added to the presentation of my experiences
I agree with you 100%. I just like to be myself and even then, it often does not matter because the person you are on a date with, usually is not always open and being themselves. I just give up, and instead, I do activities I enjoy, and if I meet someone that way that is fine.
Agreed! Stay away from people who have lingering business with their exes.
Agree.
Fantastic broadcast Maddie, I am sure it will be very helpful to many people. Mexico won't be the same without you kiddo!
Maddie what a quality video you made here. Your openness and candor are refreshing while at the same time emphasizing that this is your unique perspective and opinion based on your dating adventures. I also commend you for waiting after the fact to give everyone the scoop on what was going on behind the scenes. That shows an intelligent restraint on your part.
I absolutely LOVE that you have charts! Interesting and informative, very good job Maddie!!
In my opinion, I think that focusing in your health and priorities comes first. Sometimes dating can be very stressful.
I was exhausted just listening to Maddie’s experiences 😮💨
Me too!@@ajh.4131
dating sucks
I immediately remove people who are toxic from my life! Dating or otherwise.
If you are stressful for me you won't be coming around anymore as soon as I notice a pattern in one or two visits/hanging out.
You really broke it down!! Loved this video.
Please put your safety first and even if they offer to pick you up never get in the car with a stranger
Yes! Getting in a car with a stranger is the most dangerous thing you can do as a woman.
I was surprised she did that. Maybe by the third date I’d consider it if I knew a lot about the person and my instincts registered he was ok.
That’s why I am concerned about the online dating app stuff.
Thank you for sharing Maddie! ♥️
I'm a Mexican, and I approve this message.
HAHAHA, so do I.
Puras verdades😂 👍
@@benglez Acuerdate lo que dijo Juan Gabriel, "Te pareces tanto a mi, que no puedes engañarme."
Saludos.
Eres mujer o hombre?
@@sylviaswiderski5133 Gènero masculino, a tus ordenes.
Wow Maddie this was so interesting!!! I love your attention to detail! (I’m an analytics nerd so I love the graphs lol) So excited to see what happens next for you 😊 xoxo
Another delightful video. Thanks Maddie.
Thanks for this honest and interesting video. And thank you for explaining what certain words etc meant in a thoughtful not condescending way. I didn’t know about a lot of these terms and dating apps since I have been married for so long. You have such a down to earth and calming vibe.
Maddie, thanks for putting together such a well thought out video.
As an older single woman than you are I want to say that I am kind of enjoying the differences between Canadian and Mexican men. We shall see how it it goes but I’m a pretty smart cookie like you. And a libra 😀 I have to say that I am going to miss knowing that you’re here in Mexico. I draw strength from knowing you are here and navigating these tricky pathways. I wish you so much love and continued success! You are a wonderful human and I only wish the very best for you! I will continue to watch your life unfold ❤
You're so awesome Maddie and thanks for always posting!! Keep up the great work!
Thanks for watching!
Holy cow, I had no idea that you dealt with all of that. It's nice that you explained your experiences so that other women will be aware of what to look out for. Great video!
Dealt with WHAT?
JAJAJA ON POINT!! Great video, yo soy de Querétaro y puedo confirmar todo esto, Maddie, keep it up!
I loved your approach to this topic, Maddie!
Entertaining and respectful.
May your move back to Arizona be smooth and effortless, like your videos. 🧡
Much respect and appreciation for your candor and honesty. Hang on! Patience is when you feel you obsoletely cannot be patient any more and then you are. ❤
Wow, Maddie really emphasizes the importance of being prepared! Right from the moment I saw the graphics, I knew this was going to be a serious endeavor. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the dating scene. It's interesting how we occasionally overlook the fact that UA-camrs have lives beyond social media. Great job!
This is amazing 👏🏽👏🏽 sooo organized I love all the pie charts! 😂
Wishing you all the best for your future!❤️ Keep using your intuition!
You have always been my favorite UA-camr, due to your unvarnished truth and excellent (helpful) topics. Thank you Maddie...and best wishes to you!
Great job describing dating. I must say I like your show with you alone. You have come alive in new ways!
Yea and her ex channel is all about being a passport bro now😅
I'm an older women and have been watching your videos for awhile. You are so smart in what you are looking for. I wish I had been that way when I was younger. I so hope you find what you are looking for.
Thank you for all of the detail! Really well done.
Guys still being attached to their ex… that’s been my experience with the men I’ve dated too. I think the problem is that a lot of men can’t be alone so they try to find another partner right away before they have healed from their previous relationships.
Excellent observation! I'm inclined to agree
@soul2soul399 This!!! 100%!
Nah, nah... women do this too. Monkey branching!
@@TheSuperRol true… this isn’t only something men do.
They also treat dates like therapy sessions, rather than going to actual therapy.
MADDIE. as a behavioral scientist, this video makes me SOOOOO happy. As a relational therapist, even MORE happy! John also loves you and is a research scientist. I know he’s going to eat this data up. This is top tier UA-cam content from a data perspective. Keep it up, lady! When we women are focused on our own missions, watch out!
Also… you can tell someone is out for your money in the first date… YIKES. So weird. Your standards are high and they absolutely should be. There are so many man children. Sooooo many. Even ones who think they aren’t. But you can find someone. 👊
Sorry April (and John if that’s your real name) I don’t think so… I totally disagree and I’m going to sit here and pout and if necessary throw a temper tantrum. If that doesn’t work, then I will try belittling you. And of course if necessary, I will pull out all the stops and gaslight you if you don’t change your mind and agree with me that my daughter Maddie is absolutely amazing!
Do it! Say it now! She’s amazing isn’t she! Lol
I agree with you. I am not a big Maddie fan, but this presentation was really quite something.
I'm a 77 year-old, extremely happily married guy, & we've lived in Latin America 15 years.
This was a just a refreshing and complete review of her dating experiences.
I see a sociological term paper here or dissertation.
Agree. I totally geeked out on the charts, graphs, and data as a data scientist.
@@stormtrooper346 Concur. My expert analysis says she is absolutely amazing.
Love how you approach your dating scenario when it comes to being a youtuber. You leave it behind the scenes, not forcing it or trying to show off *cough likesomeotherpeople cough*, and when your audience shows interest, you create these gems! ❤ Hope your happy and healthy Maddie!
Don't cough too much, you might end up like the person you are inspiring to be like. Atleast the other person is in a real relationship and handling their real business. Atleast the other person did not have to pimp him/themself out on hook up apps!!!
@@dodgechargerrt1873 oh cut the crap and gossip, you act as if you knew them personally and could judge them perfectly
@dodgechargerrt1873 that is one sad dig bud👏keep trying
@dodgechargerrt1873 your disgusting side is showing. Stop.
Eve, I love your cough! You cough as often as you want. Lol. Great observation.
What is troll dodge charger doing on this channel anyway? Go back under your bridge dodge charger!
Très bien ! And your graphics were nifty too! You sure put a lot of effort into this! Great job 🙂
Hey Maddie! Great video. Love the stats used to explain your experiences. I’m watching from Texas. Can’t wait for the next chapter in US. Glad you know your worth and continuing to find the prince amongst 🐸
Dating across cultures is extremely difficult. The cultural gulf between Mexico and the USA is surprisingly deep….
True Story!! :)
Mexican men DON'T impress me. Been in a relationship with one person in the two years that I've lived in Yucatan and he isn't Mexican.
My impression of/experience with going on dates with Mexican men- at least Yucatecos- is that they want to be treated like a lady, too sensitive, lie a lot, tight with money, etc. Uggh!
This was such a great video, and so well done
Excellent! Very well done. I think you have hit your stride. Keep on trucking!
Interesting video Maddie! 😊 Thank you for sharing! It is probably going to be one of your most watched videos. Love how you did the pies and graphics 😆.
That was good, I like the length, the way you described your experiences, your honesty and care! I’m sorry I missed the live stream, hopefully I can find it
Here’s a link to the live video:
ua-cam.com/users/liveywsBDyf9Ovg?si=MauPYA2Qw5ersqCz
This was an interesting and informative video. It was organized well. Also, the video picture, background and lighting was excellent. Great job!
Thanks Maddie for another great video. You are a wonderful and show a lot of maturity in your thinking and expression yourself. Wishing you all the best. :)
Very well done, Maddie!
Thanks for sharing Maddie. You really put some efforts into this. It's very informative and telling of the dating scene. ❤👍
Good video Maddie. I always enjoy your videos.
I just really love and appreciate your articulate, down to earth videos.
Excellent video Maddie! Very intelligent, Very well thought out and very factual. It’s hard to believe what you’ve been through. I’ve only had a few dates in Mexico and quickly got discouraged because they didn’t turn out well. You should write a book about it.😊
Maddie, I really think you been outdoing yourself on these latest videos. Your videos have been a part of my life since 2018, even cooler is that I was in Saltillo in 2018 at the same event as you.
Brilliant video! Thx for sharing all these insightful details
I think this video is very informative for a lot of people! You rock Maddie, you are so articulate and smart. It's also useful information for anyone dating in their own culture, these are all issues that can come up in one way or another. Dating is hard work!
This is a fun breakdown of the dates. I loved the charts and graphs. You really made this interesting to watch. Your a great role model for women, that you can make your own choices.
Thanks for sharing Maddie. Im looking forward to the live!
This was great. Top notch content. 10/10
Wow!! Darling video, Maddie! I really appreciate your concise way of speaking without clutter talk such as "I mean" Haha and so much more. Best wishes for you in your "merican" life ahead. I will again say that you are looking radiant and rested!!!
Great video. Loved the graphics and the subject. Dating is challenging and its nice to hear someone talk about it from another culture.
Excellent video, so clear, interesting and honest. Thank you and wishing you very best!
Well Maddie I congratulate you on everything you’ve done on your time living in Mexico. Can imagine dating in Mexico was big challenge. Thank you on all continent you put out.
Wow, this is so thorough! Thanks for the detailed breakdown, Maddie. Also, I really appreciate you giving good advice on staying safe while navigating the dating scene.
I'll really miss you releasing new life in Mexico vlogs, but I'm sure you'll find plenty of new opportunities for content here in the U.S. I've always liked Arizona, so I'll happily watch if you show us around more of the Grand Canyon State. Also, we're always happy to see people come and have fun in Vegas! (Especially if you go off-Strip, there's plenty to do that doesn't involve drinking and gambling.)
Did you catch my last video on a day in my life in Mexico? ua-cam.com/video/xtDxkhOi1js/v-deo.htmlsi=3rwT5wyH5BzoWk2G
Great Video Maddie! One of the most entertaining and informative I’ve seen from ya! 😂😂😂😂
Love you Girl!
Maddie - excellent and thorough video. I think you stayed objective and explained everything so well! I’m also really looking forward to your posts once you get back in the US!!👍❤️👍
Notes Taken! Great Video Maddie. Hope all is well. Take care.
Thanks amigo! Hope you’re having an awesome eclipse birthday! 🌙🥳
Thanks for the great TED talk Maddie! I didnt watch this vid right away as I assumed it would be 'not for me' But as usual you charmed me into watching the whole dang thing. Good luck and all. Oh, BTW-you look GREAT!
Really enjoyed this one, Maddie! 😃
Thank you for the Super Thanks! 💛 Glad to hear you enjoyed the video!
Glad you took my advice and made this vid. The 17 pull out of the air was telling ❤
Maddie, you are giving a wealth of valuable advice to a lot of young women. Thank you.
and older men..
@@andiman45o😊
@@andiman45nope, she is a woman talking about dating in a foreign county. Nobody gives a crap about men dating stories. Besides men and women live dating experiences differently, so is not the same.
So in other words, dating is crazy everywhere 🤣 Thanks for this helpful video!
Seems like it lol...just different flavors of crazy depending on the country
This is the type of data I lovvveee 🤣🤣 great video!
Thanks girl!
I have waited for this video for so long🎉
Made pie charts and everything 😂😂😂 You're awesome!
couldn't resist lol
@@MaddieGold Gets her pie chart genes from her dad!
Great video Maddie! I'm American living abroad in Europe now. I've dated in France, Spain and the USA. It's all the same, exactly as you describe it. I finally got off of the apps. It's too easy to meet unpleasant men who seem to have no sense of humanity or respect. I prefer meeting guys in real life, in the wild lol. It's much much better. Not as many dates but the dynamic is completely different. I swear I think all men see all women on dating apps as being 'loose'. I know that's not true for 100% but it's true for most.
Btw, I have enjoyed my own company a lot more and no longer look for my 'media naranja'. I didn't realize how much I have to offer myself. Like you, I don't want kids and very happy with that choice. The single life is unfairly portrayed as lonely. Not true. It's bliss if you've been stuck in a bad relationship. I'm not ready to give up my bliss too easily now. Have fun, don't get into cars with guys you don't know, love yourself more than anyone else and be proud of all you are. You're Golden!
Beautiful. In total agreement
Sounds like you would be a good partner for a older man with traditional values . Most younger men want to have kids . Find a guy who already has grown kids and is young at heart to keep up with you. Good luck.
Ye sure, and girls are always kind and generous lol, 99% of girls in Dating apps are looking just for someone to pay for their dinner, or IG followers, or recently just OF subs lol, it's very hard to find a woman who's genuinely interested in dating and getting to know someone, just facts 👌
Anywhere dating with the friend of a friend or person you meet at a hobbies or school is best.
I loved how stats are presented 🤩: that order and semantics representing "simple" dating dynamics, along with the charts... just nice 👌😌
Very interesting, I also found some of your points very funny. On a side note, I love those green bottles with the green plants against the white wall. That is very attractive, yet so simple. ❤
Girl!!!! 😭 I have been with my mexican boyfriend for over 2 years and I have never felt so understood!!!! Thank you for making this video ❤ So excited for you and your new adventure!
Aww this makes me so happy 🥹 It's nice to know we're not alone in these things!
Maybe Maddie is helping you take a decisive step back from your relationship. Her information is empowering to women everywhere.
@@dorisparker811 I definitely agree that the information is empowering to women! And maybe I was a bit dramatic with the crying face.. lol My relationship is actually very happy and healthy.. it's just that I have my own perspective of things being a foreigner and Maddie really put them into words perfectly! Thank you for your kind and supportive words, though!! Abrazos from Oaxaca.
Update: broke up with my partner of 2.5 years 😞 Maddie, can you get ahold of Heidi (formerly of country collectors) and us 3 can all meet up for a single ladies new years celebration?? 😂 she knows how to contact me lol lol
Hugs from Oaxaca ❤🎉
I thouhly enjoyed this. You did a great job!
I really enjoyed this video….one of your best. Thank you for sharing your honest experience.
Wow, this is so viral, Maddie! A fascinating topic! Yes, everyone's experiences are different. I found that nothing was typical or common behavior there. It went from pure hate, to non-stop proposals, daily. Everything ranged from one extreme to another. Nothing in between. Nothing normal, or evenly balanced. Weird. A fabulous discussion!
I appreciate the effort that went into this video, data always is interesting.
Thank you for sharing your experiences!
Incredible video all around. Splendid editing. SOme of the best I have seen. It must be so challenging with the cultural differences and the language. I really got a taste of it.
This is probably the best video I've ever seen from you. ❤
Wow, thank you!
Yea Maddie! Just what I needed after work.
Enjoy!
Whoa! New fan here, loved the vid! 💯
Maddie, thanks for this thoughtful, useful sharing of your experiences. By the way, you're looking lovely and wow....I just noticed what beautiful hands you have!
Wow, a whole spreadsheet on your dates. I’m impressed!!
Such a refreshing honest take on a realistic dating experience through a cultural difference lens. I really enjoyed it!
Interesting subject. Reflective. Good work.
Great video! As always
That was interesting Maddie, thanks for sharing
Como siempre un buen video.
You are both brave and smart. The only thing missing from this video was a tier list! So funny. Cheers.
I love how you transitioned from the other channel you had to this one and you have created an audience. Dating is not easy, Thank you for the video. It definitely brings important points. Good job! ..on another hand. I reach out to you once you are in AZ. Saludos!
Very interesting listening to you’re dating experiences.
ZOMG not only did you spill the tea, you spilled the data! 💮❤🤓
I really enjoyed this video. It's deep culture. I'm glad that I'm not currently in the dating scene. It has changed so much!
Me ha encantado tu vídeo, Maddie. El hecho de que hayas hablado sobre el tema en una manera muy lógica hace que sea aún más creíble. Great job Maddie; loved your video. The fact that you spoke in a logical factual way made it even more informative.
Que sigas creando vídeos cojonudos! Keep on making awesome videos! ("Cojonudo" = freaking awesome in Spain Spanish)
Thank you for your HONESTY!
-San Francisco fan girl
You hit the nail on the head with this, great video, super well done! And yeah, in Mexican culture it's not uncommon for exes to stay in contact and be friendly with each other or even each other's families post-dating. This can definitely seem weird to people from other cultures where it's more customary to cut all ties off after a breakup 😅 like, my aunt by marriage divorced my uncle, and when she started dating an American man, he was like... why are your ex in laws always around?? He thought it was so weird. He eventually realized that it didnt point to any lingering romance between her and my uncle, we just are always going to be family, and now he's also considered part of the familia ☺️
This is a good point. I’m not sure I’ll ever be okay with lingering exes, but I appreciate hearing different perspectives.
Hi, Maddie. I really enjoy when you speak Spanish. You have come a long way to get where you are. Good job Maddie!
Thank you! 😊 I’ve worked really hard on my Spanish
Great video! Keep up the good work!
Maddie your hair grows fast.
I really like it. Looking beautiful!
Thank you! 😊