The Secret Trigger Behind Your Depression and Anxiety

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  • This Is The Root Of Your Depression and Anxiety
    Discover the secret trigger behind your depression and anxiety with this insightful video. Explore the connection between trauma, post traumatic stress disorder, and your mental health.
    💬 Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned psychiatrist and best-selling author, explores deeply into the root causes of anxiety and depression in this thought-provoking and revealing video. Dr. Maté's decades of experience in mental health and addiction reveal the underlying issues that sometimes go unrecognized in today's society.
    Discover how our mental health is shaped by our early experiences, trauma, and the environment, and how acknowledging these variables can lead to profound healing. Dr. Maté shares insights and helpful advice to help you or a loved one recover and find inner peace.
    📩 In this video, you will learn:
    🌟 The importance of early life experiences in mental health.
    🌟 How trauma can damage your emotional and psychological well-being.
    🌟 Effective techniques for dealing with and recovering from depression and anxiety.
    🙏 Watch this video today and gain a better understanding of the true causes of anxiety and depression, as well as how to find a path to recovery and hope.
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    💖 Who is Dr Gabor Mate?
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 323

  • @ROORabuser
    @ROORabuser 10 місяців тому +152

    Amazing. Thanks truly a lot for your channel and your videos. I watch every night. I'm italian guy 34years old struggling hard with heroin Addiction. Lot of trauma and emotional isolaton inside me, since I was a little beautiful boy. Monday morning I have an appointment to go into rehab. Very close to where I live here in Italy so thats good I guess. I'm ready to change my life but I'm very aware I need help, I just cant do it on my own. I'm all by myself. But I'm confident. Hope they let me in into rehab as soon as they can. Thanks again for your videos, I'm also reading The Myth of Normal just started it but already so good❤

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому +23

      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story and for your lovely thoughts. Your courage and determination are truly inspirational. Making the decision to enter rehab is a huge and brave step, and you are not alone on this path of recovery. Remember that asking for help is a sign of strength, and there are many people rooting for you, including those in your immediate neighborhood and your online community. Stay strong, maintain your confidence, and keep pushing forward. You're on the road to great transformation, and we're all cheering for you. ❤️ Sending lots of love and virtual hugs to you, bless you 💫💕🙏✨🌈💖

    • @ROORabuser
      @ROORabuser 10 місяців тому +9

      @@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you very much! That Means a Lot🧡

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому +4

      @@ROORabuser thank you very much too.

    • @malinivpsp6315
      @malinivpsp6315 10 місяців тому +2

    • @nataliacle4502
      @nataliacle4502 10 місяців тому +11

      Wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart, my thoughts will be with you on Monday.
      Stay strong, stay brave, stay focused on a better life which you deserve!
      Best regards full of love and support from Germany for you beautiful soul

  • @NicoleCtirad
    @NicoleCtirad Місяць тому +73

    I could remember several years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

    • @Cate-sn2km
      @Cate-sn2km Місяць тому +2

      Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

    • @Malikrooney-hq5jj
      @Malikrooney-hq5jj Місяць тому

      Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

    • @smith23652
      @smith23652 Місяць тому +7

      YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @RodriguezGorge
      @RodriguezGorge Місяць тому

      100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma

    • @LucasRobert-ns3nj
      @LucasRobert-ns3nj Місяць тому

      How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

  • @edgardovillacorte7012
    @edgardovillacorte7012 6 місяців тому +15

    The desire to fit in, to be accepted and liked at the expense of one's true identity is a setup for depression and anxiety.

  • @gainsbourg66
    @gainsbourg66 6 місяців тому +38

    I have been a full-time therapist for 27 years. Anxiety and depression are two different things - which is why they have different names. Depression is almost always caused by loss, failure, shattered dreams, disillusion or a combination. Acute anxiety is normal, Chronic anxiety is caused by unremitting stress, or more likely, obsessive, repeated thoughts such as worrying or rationalising. If you think anxious thoughts too often, they begin to occur automatically and an anxiety state can begin. The cure is to find a way of ignoring those thoughts and learn to cope better with problems, fear and stress.
    The cure for depression is acceptance, gratitude, nature, physical exertion and loving, non directive, support. Sympathy is worth much more than just empathy. Writing out your thoughts and/or story can also help with depression, loss and heartbreak. Acceptance is key. Any creative activity, if possible, like art, poetry or music will help - sometimes a new type is the only one that may appeal.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 6 місяців тому

      You may be giving ppl false hope. There is NO cure for depression. Like cancer, it can be in remission. And yes, I’m a big fan of acceptance.

    • @danyrk
      @danyrk 6 місяців тому +3

      ​@@robynhope219Of course, there's a cure for depression; I got over a major one. First, you need to identify the root and the trigger of the illness, and then develop a personalized approach to address those underlying issues. Self-knowledge is crucial.

    • @jackthompson6296
      @jackthompson6296 6 місяців тому +2

      It seems you mean well, but that’s just not right. The things you list only sometimes work for people with mild or moderate symptoms. Giving someone the skills to cope with a lifelong disability is not a cure. And if your leg were badly broken, and I handed you a cane and told you that the cure is acceptance, you would sue me on the way to the orthopedist. Be better.

    • @annitagalvan9049
      @annitagalvan9049 6 місяців тому

      @gainsbourg66, Did you manage to cure your depression by yourself or get medicine?
      Myself, I couldn't cope with it alone and decided to get the help of a psychiatrist and it's 9 years now, Im getting medicine. I don't know how easy it is to cure depression alone.
      I wish whoever is suffering from depression, to get help and find themselves in a better situation.
      Happy holidays to everyone.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 6 місяців тому

      Yeah, all those things you mention help, but it is not a cure. I feel much better since I started an SSRI five yrs ago, but don't consider myself cured.

  • @josephbelisle5792
    @josephbelisle5792 6 місяців тому +50

    Anxiety is taught to us. As small children, when traumatized, abused and neglected, we dont understand why it is happening to us. We cant find a pattern or reason for our pain. We are made to hurt when are good as well as bad. When you cant detect where and when the next hurt is coming from you end on alert all of the time. You lesrn to remain constantly wary for the next bad thing.
    The other affect of not understanding why it is happening to us is depression. We are taught that we are the bad ones. Not our abusers. We learn to never be happy because something always happens that ruins it and gives us pain.
    Depeession and anxiety are not genetic. They are almost universally taught by life and our caregivers.
    Show me an anxious person, a depressed person, a drug addict and I'll show you someone who was traumatized, neglected and abused as a small child.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому +5

      Thank you for sharing such an insightful and profound reflection. Your words resonated deeply, emphasizing the long-term impact of trauma on our lives. True, the roots of anxiety and depression frequently trace back to our early experiences, which shape our perception of the world. Your insights into how we learn these emotions rather than being born with them brought light on the importance of understanding and compassion. Breaking the cycle of pain necessitates identifying the source and figuring out how to heal. Your willingness to discuss these difficult topics is very valuable. Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and your bravery in sharing helps many people gain a better understanding. I wish you courage and healing.💕💖🙏

    • @whisperingoaks4841
      @whisperingoaks4841 6 місяців тому +2

      Totally agree

    • @DaBriars
      @DaBriars 6 місяців тому +3

      100% Correct and I am proof of your insight

    • @Tinyteacher1111
      @Tinyteacher1111 6 місяців тому

      Another cause is brain damage from things like meningoencephalitis, which can, and did to my son, damaging his CNS, caused fearfulness and impulsivity, damage to the frontal lobe or side lobes, and extremely important: mold and Lyme infections which are neuropsychiatric disorders manifesting in feeling unsafe, paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, anxiety, irritability in its worst form: Lyme rage!
      I’m sure Mr Gabe would agree!

    • @nat3786
      @nat3786 6 місяців тому +2

      Yeah, so much for "caregivers" who are supposed to care and nurture us but end up giving us anxiety and depression instead. Society as a whole acts like a parent can never do any wrong, and just like that the trauma goes on for generation after generation.

  • @Splatdo
    @Splatdo 5 місяців тому +6

    I love that ladies reaction when she poses the open mindedness question and gets the response. She took it perfectly, took it away for analysis and said she would work on herself.....that's class. Well done that lady for a wonderful self analysing response.

    • @andrewmair7371
      @andrewmair7371 5 місяців тому +2

      Yes… except what is she doing counseling others when she’s not fully equipped❓🤷🏻

    • @Splatdo
      @Splatdo 5 місяців тому +1

      @@andrewmair7371 Its the self analysis and learning that impresses me in anyone and she took that so well. ;-) None of us are perfect but we can strive to be near it.

  • @samidica
    @samidica 8 місяців тому +11

    Why do I shed a tear every time I watch his videos. It hits hard.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  8 місяців тому +3

      I completely get your feelings. His videos have a special way of reaching out to our hearts. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.🙏❤️

  • @pambeni5635
    @pambeni5635 8 місяців тому +12

    I happened upon your videos I suppose by accident. I have been struggling a lot of my life and I think my problem is that I am not smart enough to understand just exactly the ideas and answers that you give to people. I’m in my 70’s and feel in a way I could just get along with a very simple life with a dog. I never had a dog until I was in my 50’s and I realized how much I had been missing all my life. She was the sweetest and gave me such unconditional love and support. I never truly felt that before. What a feeling!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  8 місяців тому +2

      Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and feelings with us. I want you to know that you are not alone in how you are feeling. Life may be a lot complicated, and it's easy to become confused by the wide range of information and ideas available. Knowing about your special attachment with your dog in your 50s is very wonderful. One of the most wonderful and fulfilling aspects of life is the unconditional love and support our furry pets bring. It's a great way to find contentment to treasure those moments of connection and simplicity.Age is just a number, and the wisdom you've gained over the years is priceless in and of itself. If you ever have questions or want to explore new ideas, keep in mind that there is no such thing as "not smart enough." Learning is a lifetime adventure, and there is no need to know everything. We all follow our own paths, and what counts most is that we find happiness and peacefulness in the things that actually resonate with us.
      Your comment touched our hearts, and we appreciate you taking the time to share your story. Continue to enjoy the simple pleasures, and know that your experiences and insights are valuable to us all. Wishing you continued happiness with your pet and in every aspect of your life.💫💕🙏✨

  • @kiramatt6152
    @kiramatt6152 9 місяців тому +67

    Psilocybin mushrooms healed me . I can't explain it but my experience has been spiritual and eye opening . I also started micro dosing . It really helped me get rid of depression and anxiety

    • @rhysreid9302
      @rhysreid9302 9 місяців тому +7

      I've been looking to get my hands on shrooms for my anxiety and stress levels . Any one knows where I can source ?

    • @janithglichrist2994
      @janithglichrist2994 9 місяців тому +6

      ​@@rhysreid9302Yes dr.jeffshroom

    • @juttaclemons5002
      @juttaclemons5002 9 місяців тому +6

      ​@@janithglichrist2994dr.jeffshroom is the best . He's been my go to for anything psychedelics and shrooms . He's very good

    • @MarkRoland-ou3qh
      @MarkRoland-ou3qh 9 місяців тому +5

      ​@@janithglichrist2994Is he on insta?

    • @heatherldutrow1204
      @heatherldutrow1204 9 місяців тому +4

      ​@@MarkRoland-ou3qhYes he's dr. jeffshroom

  • @eirigh_suas
    @eirigh_suas 10 місяців тому +13

    My god, every video is a gift, an opportunity for self examination, healing, betteent, I feel so blessed

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому +1

      Thank you very much. Stay blessed and continue on your path of self-discovery and healing! 🙏🌟

  • @daviddugan6046
    @daviddugan6046 9 місяців тому +14

    The world needs love and tolerance and it starts with ourselves . I love Dr Matte and Dr Peterson ..

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому +1

      thank you for sharing your thoughts,💖 💖

    • @jean6460
      @jean6460 9 місяців тому

      Who is Dr Petersen?

    • @daviddugan6046
      @daviddugan6046 9 місяців тому

      Lol

    • @tslilbearshoppe9870
      @tslilbearshoppe9870 6 місяців тому +1

      I think we are tolerating too much. Too much bad behavior from our youth, too many bad decisions from our govt and too much lazy behavior from ourselves.

  • @suzannebigras7071
    @suzannebigras7071 6 місяців тому +18

    An observation from someone who is evolving from childhood developmental disarray. My first gut reaction when listening and watching Dr. Mate was, Comfort and trust. His laid back posture and soft , calm speech is also a huge nerve relaxer but the overall demeanour is one of understanding and compassion. It literally radiates from him. I FEEL his genuine desire to educate and enlighten. Experience is the biggest Asset for Understanding and this soul has.
    Very Grateful for the progress in understanding Brain Health and It’s affect and effects.
    Namaste

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  5 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for sharing your observation and personal experience! It's truly amazing how Dr. Mate's demeanor can have such a positive impact on people. I'm glad you feel his genuine desire to educate and enlighten. It's always inspiring to see progress in understanding brain health and its effects. Namaste!

  • @stephaniefortney22
    @stephaniefortney22 10 місяців тому +28

    The Awareness and Wisdom in Dr. Gabor’s Work and abilities to articulate and convey is Profound…hitting on every level through compassion we feel safe, we find our truth we find connection….so much freedom, it’s Beautiful

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому +2

      Thank you so much for your kind and genuine words! I'm very happy to hear that Dr. Gabor's work resonated with you. His ability to make connections by means of compassion is very nice, as is the way he expresses and reflects his point of view. Your comments truly express the heart of his lessons. Continue to be inspired and embrace the freedom that his insight brings! 💫💕🙏✨🌈💖

    • @thothtrismegistus929
      @thothtrismegistus929 6 місяців тому

      @@yourinnerchildmattersI think these videos would be way better if you only include video of him talking.

  • @SuperMrBlaze
    @SuperMrBlaze 10 місяців тому +17

    "Depression is the inability to construct a future." Rollo May
    I haven't found a more precise definition so far and I'm 50, meaning I've been searching for definitions for a long time.

    • @lc3763
      @lc3763 9 місяців тому

      Very well said.

  • @StressRUs
    @StressRUs Рік тому +18

    "Anxiety" is the word we use to describe how we FELL when our stress response is triggered and our "toxic culture" causes massive over stimulation of our stress response, this depletes our brain's supplies of the "feel-good" brain chemicals dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, etc., and we experience "depression", which is why physicians are prescribing ever more anti-depressants, as they restore (temporarily) these same chemicals. Questions? Stress R Us

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому +2

      thank you

    • @colmrooney414
      @colmrooney414 10 місяців тому +1

      Very true Im often stressed with noise in where i live. I may have found resiliance but its not natural living like this. I think i need to accept support because my caveman mind thinks i should be able to go and live in a cave...thats maybe one option

    • @StressRUs
      @StressRUs 10 місяців тому

      Lots of good research on noise stress and its impact (negative) on health. I live in Marietta, OH, and, sadly, the main river road runs right through the center of town, which explains why so many folks seem to be yelling at one another, even when in a quiet room. So many have damaged hearing. Just Google "noise and heart disease" to scare the crap out of you and support your move to a quieter place. I did this and love my little QUIET apt. across from Mound Cemetery. Never rowdy at night or day, but I have to use ear plugs whenever I walk because of the loud vehicles and the clatter of the brick streets. Good Luck!@@colmrooney414

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 8 місяців тому

      I take an SSRI the last five yrs...asked for the prescription...and am doing well. Antidepressants are a life saver for some. It also offers neuro protection which I'm grateful for bc I'm a senior.

    • @miyaiun4723
      @miyaiun4723 7 місяців тому

      ​@@colmrooney414Hi. Maybe not a cave, but maybe some place away from all that noise. Its great leaving a stressful place. If you are phisically able to live by your own or even with your fammily or friends în some countryside place..do it. Forgive what you have to forgive. Do breath work, listen to calm music, watch old comedies and establish a relationship with God. I know, I know...we dont believe I Him anymore ..but He is real. And He does love us. We had to be put here to realise what we are missing. With time we just became meaner because we lost our connection with Him . We invented other gods that did no good to us and we became worse for they were not showing us the real way. But He loves us and you can seek Him right now and do what He wants us to do. You will fall, but you can come back up. No matter what happens, dont forget He is there with you. Focus on that and know our Lord Jesus is the way. I am telling you this from experience. I searched alot only to find out that He îs what He says He is. I searched through many cultures and many ways and I know I telling you the truth. Wishing you all the best. And one more thing, we dont have that much time, so call Him now if you havent. What is în front of us all its no joke and He is the way to life, He has always been the only way.

  • @maryannribble3254
    @maryannribble3254 Рік тому +11

    Wonderful! Yes , indeed ! Focusing on what is happening inside of us … is the key to freedom❤

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  Рік тому

      Thank you very much for your kind words! I absolutely agree. The secret to freedom is to focus on our inner selves and what is going on inside. When we shift our attention inward, we can feel incredible power and progress. Your point of view is truly inspiring. Wishing you continuous freedom and self-discovery on your journey! ❤️

  • @petemc5070
    @petemc5070 6 місяців тому +3

    His response to the question at 03:58 is the best bit. Brilliant understanding of the issue that we all overlook.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

  • @alejandrasarmiento3317
    @alejandrasarmiento3317 4 місяці тому +1

    Wow that part about the therapist getting frustrated really hit home… I left my therapist because of that, it was all about behaviors, and she got frustrated at the end… I blamed myself, but now I see where she was coming from… And it had nothing to do with me

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 місяці тому

      Thank you for opening up and sharing your story. It takes courage to recognize and reflect on our experiences with therapy. I'm glad you're able to see things from a different point of view now. bless you

  • @barbc7211
    @barbc7211 9 місяців тому +4

    Every time I listen to you I come away with something that helps me ❤thank you Dr Gabor

  • @dv5019
    @dv5019 6 місяців тому +2

    Being healed and conscious yourself is the starting point for helping others to grow. Even then people are at different stages of being capable of opening themselves for change, depending in your capacities but also timing, the depth of the trauma, the interaction, the power of environment, the necessity for change etc. Dont get fooled by only focusing in your own level of growth 😊

  • @explo.i.s-beatricefournier
    @explo.i.s-beatricefournier 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much Jennifer! Gabor Maté ans Larry Heller in the same video. It's so amazing to me !!!
    I recently achieve the Larry's NARM training and what they say both about child developpement and how important is the work on ourself as therapist seems to me so important to ear and to be aware of!!! And the way that Gabor lead Kitty to understand that is so respectful and coherent with his whole talk.
    I'm so gratful to you to select this part of this conference and let it attainable on UA-cam.
    Thanks a lot!!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your nice thoughts and support! It's wonderful to hear how powerful this video has been for you, especially with Gabor Maté and Larry Heller's insights. It's interesting how their thoughts on child development and therapist self-work resonate with you. We're happy that you found Gabor's approach to guiding Kitty's comprehension to be both respectful and consistent with his overall message. Your appreciation means a lot to us, and we're happy to have made this part of the talk available on UA-cam. Stay tuned for more meaningful content! Have a wonderful day ahead, bless you 💫💕🙏✨

  • @laurelcurley3242
    @laurelcurley3242 8 місяців тому +6

    Always, always, always helps me, your words, your unique understandings and articulations. So thankful for you and what you do. Thank you for helping us not only be human but also for helping us to add the 'kind'; for ourselves and so also for others. Much gratitude.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  8 місяців тому

      You are so welcome, thank you very much for watching. 💕🙏✨💖

  • @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er
    @giuseppeLizzi-rj3er 5 місяців тому +1

    Happiness goes down as you get older you feel disappointed by so many issues

  • @supdog5923
    @supdog5923 7 місяців тому +5

    I'm going to try and be my true self in every aspect of my life no matter how scary it gets, the scarier part is wearing a mask all your life and not knowing who you trully are...

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  7 місяців тому

      I admire your bravery and commitment to be your true self in the face of difficulties. The path to self-discovery is never easy, but it is very rewarding. You've already taken an important step by acknowledging the value of being authentic to yourself. Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and there is a whole community here to support you. Keep shining as your authentic self, and you will inspire others to do the same✨💖🙏

    • @richardscathouse
      @richardscathouse 6 місяців тому

      That's the society we live in. As I learned decades ago. It's a mask or total ostracization. I know I'll never find friendship or love but at least I won't be totally alone. 😢

  • @jean6460
    @jean6460 9 місяців тому +1

    I keep watching this. It’s so powerful and deep!! Thank you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼♥️♥️

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому

      Thank you very much for your thoughtful words! I'm delighted to hear that you find this video, interesting and inspiring. 🙏🏼❤️ It means a lot to me that it resonated with you. Please let me know if you have any further thoughts or if anything in particular has impacted you. Your point of view is greatly appreciated! ✨💖

  • @andrewyancy8639
    @andrewyancy8639 6 місяців тому +2

    I have to disagree with the claim that the term "depression" refers to "pushing down" emotions, as in repressing them. "Depression" refers to persistent low mood. There's an argument to be made that repression of painful feelings and memories can contribute to depression, but that's a different issue.

  • @lifetime9582
    @lifetime9582 8 місяців тому +1

    You are excellent,thank you.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  8 місяців тому

      thank you so much for watching and for your kind words, bless you ❤

  • @ElevatedVibration11
    @ElevatedVibration11 Рік тому +2

    Great explanation and high quality video production. Blessings 🙏

  • @JeffEmmersonSocialWork
    @JeffEmmersonSocialWork 4 місяці тому +1

    *As I finish my second book (upcoming memoir) here in Canada (heavily related to trauma and society/the self) and pursue a career in social work, Dr. Maté looms large once again, as he did in my first book: 'Beyond ADHD: Overcoming The Label and Thriving' (2017, Rowman & Littlefield). Society is collectively sick in a myriad of ways. Rest assured: We have our work cut out for us.*

  • @irenebotwright5573
    @irenebotwright5573 10 місяців тому +1

    Such insight...amazing

  • @thebabadook7366
    @thebabadook7366 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for not putting wall to wall music on this one. It's so much better like this. The music is too much, it's anxiety making... X

  • @upendasana7857
    @upendasana7857 10 місяців тому

    ..having said that,its always easier to see when someone else is doing it then when we are doing it ourselves

  • @JesusSaves77799
    @JesusSaves77799 6 місяців тому +2

    This was absolutely wonderful. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate and all who participated in this video and all who are continuing his work. God bless you all! 🙏💖

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому +1

      Thank you very much for your kind words and for taking the time to watch the video! ❤️💖

    • @JesusSaves77799
      @JesusSaves77799 6 місяців тому

      @@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for sharing it! 💖🙏

  • @joseaverboch2579
    @joseaverboch2579 9 місяців тому +1

    Omg pure wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @blackdog1392
    @blackdog1392 4 місяці тому

    When I left home to go to Uni my housemates were puzzled that I had never learned to play games like Monopoly or Drafts or Cards etc. This was when I began to see the extreme neglect I'd suffered as a child. As the youngest of 4 children nobody had ever read me a bed time story, played games with me, taught me to tie my shoe laces or brush my teeth ! I'd always felt like a ghost in my own life - unseen, unheard except when scolded, criticised or ridiculed for any assertion of my own needs. Many of us suffer life long because of the neglect and or abuse we were subjected to as children. You can alleviate the symptoms, learn to function better but the lack of love at this crucial stage in development never fully resolves.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your story with us. It takes a lot of courage to open up about the neglect and abuse we may have faced as children. Remember, it's never too late to seek healing and find a supportive community that will love and value you for who you are. bless you and take care 💖🙏

  • @willisnjim
    @willisnjim 4 місяці тому +1

    So thought provoking. Thank u

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 місяці тому

      Thank you for taking the time to watch and for your kind words. I appreciate your support!

  • @997JM
    @997JM 6 місяців тому +3

    Not even sure I need or could benefit from therapy but if I could, I'd like it to be with someone like Nikki. Her openness and sense of humor would be of great benefit to anyone needing therapy. I'm mining my mind trying to see if I have any addictions that I need help with. All the best to you Nikki! You have a great future in front of you.

    • @jeremylindemann5117
      @jeremylindemann5117 6 місяців тому +1

      I dunno, it's a big concern that, as a trained counsellor, she failed to identify how she was affecting the counselling process with her own emotional reaction. She could be doing harm to some of the closed minded people who are likely the ones most in need of help.

    • @997JM
      @997JM 6 місяців тому +1

      @@jeremylindemann5117 It might have been an issue for her in the past but what I took from her response is that she 'got it' and wanted to make a change. Her openness was apparent and abundant.

    • @2strong2cool
      @2strong2cool 6 місяців тому +1

      Agreed. Also the way he questions her is very leading. She's likely nervous asking the question in the first place, and he basically out of the blue humiliates her. She handles it very well all things considered

  • @marylamb6063
    @marylamb6063 6 місяців тому +3

    I had severe depression but went to a Chinese doctor. She traced it to five foods I was eating and the depression left. I went to a Colombian doctor and told him I couldn't eat five foods. He said I needed antibiotics to kill bad gut bacteria. I refused, as antibiotics can kill good bacteria too and effect mood. Years later, I took a bucket load of antibiotics for a nasty sinus infection. The Colombian was right. I can now eat whatever I want and have been depression-free for years. No psychological or metaphysical mumbo-jumbo needed.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! 💖

    • @danieltene2048
      @danieltene2048 6 місяців тому

      What foods you refered to?

  • @proudchristian77
    @proudchristian77 8 місяців тому +1

    It's because people's beat up on little kids & their mom's & they make them watch , how do we think they going to feel ?if u tramizie them to young is how you get it ! 💝

  • @madanarathimadangopal5890
    @madanarathimadangopal5890 9 місяців тому

    Another breathtakimg insight. ❤

  • @luciamixon4156
    @luciamixon4156 4 місяці тому +1

    Parents fighting in the background says it all. 😢

  • @topalaluiza9647
    @topalaluiza9647 9 місяців тому

    Thank you so much 🎩🙏🤗

  • @elalek4197
    @elalek4197 3 місяці тому

    Thank you

  • @ianpye8938
    @ianpye8938 4 місяці тому +1

    I was brought up in a Catholic household at a time when the Church was obsessed with sin! The outcome of this and my inability to balance minor transgressions of the mind with what the Church described as ultra serious. The net result was a constant state of anxiety and a feeling of utter worthlessness. Still affects me to this day. The Church has a lot to answer for. Hence my long since not being a practising Catholic.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

  • @yolakin8210
    @yolakin8210 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Gabor💫

  • @terriellzey3457
    @terriellzey3457 9 місяців тому +1

    Its not only about the client. It is also about our own internal. I agree.

  • @cameliaturda6472
    @cameliaturda6472 10 місяців тому

    Love You 💜

  • @jishamola.j6383
    @jishamola.j6383 6 місяців тому

    Dear Pray for you. You will be all right

  • @nicolemathis6155
    @nicolemathis6155 6 місяців тому +1

    This is golden!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

  • @yulingo5577
    @yulingo5577 9 місяців тому

    This is sooooo goood!

  • @Susie_Q77
    @Susie_Q77 6 місяців тому +1

    Wonderful Thankyou Namaste 🙏

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  5 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

  • @healthylife4eva
    @healthylife4eva 5 місяців тому +1

    Link for full lecture please?

  • @supreetsidhu4535
    @supreetsidhu4535 6 місяців тому +1

    This was wholesome

  • @yuukihoffner8433
    @yuukihoffner8433 6 місяців тому

    Extraordinary, thank you! To be able to understand or even 'enter' the inner world of the other is most important. So how do we do that with a loved one who is schizophrenic?

  • @pawankumarbatra5331
    @pawankumarbatra5331 9 місяців тому +2

    I am well over fifty plus and I myself have had a extremely bad childhood days am married for the last twenty eight plus years and have had a rough extreme dicy relationships issues with my wife and my kids because of my violence nature my angriness stress anxiety and depression my personal experience and advise to all of the people those who r like me or have issues something like these is to first accept that we have all these things inside us, then work on these. Most of the people actually don't accept only that they are having these issues and that's where the maximum problem lies within,

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому +2

      Thank you for taking the time to share your deeply personal journey and wisdom. Your openness is admirable. Recognizing our inner challenges and working for improvement takes huge courage. Your message of self-acceptance and development is invaluable. 💪💙

    • @richardscathouse
      @richardscathouse 6 місяців тому

      First you need to learn to live with yourself. Yes I also have a very violent nature. I've learned to set it aside out of view. But denying it only hurts you, IME 😂

  • @davidanderson566
    @davidanderson566 9 місяців тому +1

    How is it that questions come so loudly and wisdom comes in whispers?
    One criticism I have of UA-cam is they don't normalize their volume. That makes it difficult for us to have problems hearing, especially listening early in the morning when the rest of the family is asleep.
    I can't tell you how many times I've gotten in trouble for what I listen to because it woke someone up. When really I'm just asking for it to wake me up.

    • @otakudinosaur8568
      @otakudinosaur8568 7 місяців тому

      While it is true that YT doesn't normalize the volume across all contents, the video's volume discrepancy can actually be controlled by the video producer before the upload. I've noticed it but it didn't cross my mind to make it known. Thanks for writing this.
      @yourinnerchildmatters: Kindly take note for future videos. Love your channel. Thank you.
      🙏

  • @lauranell2978
    @lauranell2978 Рік тому +7

    Our roots come from the very same place and space , and it’s traced back from our DNA , my kundalini awakening showed me that

  • @dv5019
    @dv5019 6 місяців тому +1

    Depression is the outcome of someone who has left his soul purpose 🙏

  • @lauranell2978
    @lauranell2978 Рік тому +3

    I experienced the volume and magnitude of the soul in NDE, and I am a woman of various cultural dna backgrounds. Indigenous to me means our soul roots as people, because I see this going into shoots of politics and I truly don’t believe that is what you intended

  • @richardscathouse
    @richardscathouse 6 місяців тому

    Thiscis first time ive been exposed to the idea that in repressing anger you depress all emotion at the same time. Valuble information i could have used fifty years ago 😢

    • @geriburrito
      @geriburrito 6 місяців тому

      Better late than never my friend.

  • @jaanarajahalme7045
    @jaanarajahalme7045 9 місяців тому

    Woah!!! 🔥

  • @isheetampancholi4197
    @isheetampancholi4197 9 місяців тому

    Bohot badhiya, Dhanyavaad :) Mera Neem ka ped mera Best friend hai !❤

  • @adrianavilar7070
    @adrianavilar7070 6 місяців тому +1

    Gracias gracias gracias gracias 🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  5 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏

  • @shammikalra6174
    @shammikalra6174 5 місяців тому +1

    Always God's Grace! Amen!

  • @ancientsoul809
    @ancientsoul809 9 місяців тому +1

    Is there a full episode of this?

  • @Justfun-xx6xe
    @Justfun-xx6xe 3 місяці тому +1

    I can't find anything I'm good at, I work as nurse but I don't like it, not because I don't like taking care of people, is just it fucks my feelings being in that environment. I am an empath but personally I think sometimes it is better not to be.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  3 місяці тому

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It takes courage to acknowledge when a situation is not serving your well-being. I hope you find a path that brings you fulfillment and peace.

  • @guisellalosa7557
    @guisellalosa7557 5 місяців тому +1

    I’ve never was alone as a kid. My parents were always with me, al least one of them, or my aunts. Then why I have anxiety and depresión and pánico attacks for the last 11 years?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  5 місяців тому

      Hi there! I'm really sorry to hear that you've been going through such a tough time. It's not uncommon for people to experience anxiety and depression, even when they had support growing up. Sometimes, these feelings can be caused by various factors, and it's important to reach out for help. You're not alone in this, and there are people who care about you. Consider talking to a friend, family member, or a mental health professional. They can offer support and guidance to help you through this challenging journey. Take care❤️💖🙏

  • @anandateertha7865
    @anandateertha7865 8 місяців тому +1

    He is genius..

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 9 місяців тому

    I would love to know Gabor’s opinion on psychopaths..:they seem not to get depressed or anxious. Does he link it to trauma?

  • @clarysagequartz9535
    @clarysagequartz9535 6 місяців тому

    Love the jui jitsu moment

  • @lauranell2978
    @lauranell2978 Рік тому +4

    50 generations , we all are related!

  • @natalienufer9262
    @natalienufer9262 5 місяців тому

    The conversation with Nikki had me loling because it’s so freaking accurate

  • @edithnogueira7899
    @edithnogueira7899 10 місяців тому +1

    What amazes me is that I grew up in a large family with very limited resources,where everyone was in survival mode, looking for alternatives to improve life, and none of us had time to suffer depression. Just wondering...

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому +6

      It's interesting how your upbringing formed your resilience and focus on practical solutions. The modern world presents new problems, and mental health is an important factor. It's important to recognize that everyone's experiences differs and while some may not have had the time to feel depression, others encounter different difficulties. Let us continue help one another on our individual journeys.🌟

    • @ROORabuser
      @ROORabuser 10 місяців тому

      ​@@yourinnerchildmatters❤

    • @colmrooney414
      @colmrooney414 10 місяців тому

      Depression brings us into parasympathetic mode whereas anxiety brings us into sympathetic. If you live already in the present you may have nalanced nervous system thats healthy. A healthy amount of stress is called allostatic load it can make us stronger and resiliant. Perhaps you found ways to rest and digest that effectively bypass depression by listening to your needs? Perhaps you stay in fight or flight and support each other as a family?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      @@colmrooney414 thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Bless you

  • @mammybelle7302
    @mammybelle7302 6 місяців тому

    What does it mean by "play?"

  • @julianrauch8642
    @julianrauch8642 4 місяці тому +1

    2 siblings within a year & a half apart, with the same parents, environment, upbringing, etc . How do you explain one having chronic depression, one doesn’t?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  4 місяці тому

      It's interesting how different individuals can have such unique experiences and challenges, even within the same family. Mental health is complex and can be influenced by various factors beyond just genetics and upbringing. It's important to remember that everyone's journey is different, and we should offer support and understanding to those dealing with mental health issues.

  • @nickim270
    @nickim270 17 днів тому +1

    Holy sh*t I feel like I got years worth of therapy in under 10 minutes.

  • @RebeccaFreear
    @RebeccaFreear 7 місяців тому +2

    Good content, no need for the clips of actors, in fact they distract and irritate me.

  • @mummyd1990
    @mummyd1990 10 місяців тому

    Anxiety is all in the mind,simple as that.

  • @niceflakey_crust
    @niceflakey_crust 9 місяців тому

  • @thomasmullee3049
    @thomasmullee3049 10 місяців тому +1

    Which book should I read, when I'm dealing with depression, anxiety and lack of emotions, low self-esteem ?
    Which book of Gabor is best for this ?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому +1

      I recommend reading his book:
      📚When the Body Says No: amzn.to/3VGyDLD
      This book addresses the mind-body connection, looking at how our emotional experiences might affect our physical health.
      📚In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: amzn.to/3fXD1qn,
      can help readers gain a better understanding of emotional distress and its relationship to various types of addiction.
      📚The Myth of Normal: amzn.to/3UHiUeQ
      Take care and bless you💫💕🙏

    • @jean6460
      @jean6460 9 місяців тому

      @@yourinnerchildmattersthank you!

  • @upendasana7857
    @upendasana7857 10 місяців тому +2

    wow that question about open mindedness then turned on its head and realising that it was the judgement of the questioner that was the issue not the person for whom she judged to be "closed minded".
    We do this all the time our judgements based often on how we wish to see ourselves or define ourselves but make us see "ther other"as the problem and not our own unacknowledged feelings.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  10 місяців тому

      Absolutely, our impressions frequently tell more about ourselves than the individuals we are criticizing. Self-reflection is necessary for fostering open-mindedness and understanding. Thank you for sharing this valuable viewpoint! 🌟

  • @cindyrobertson3780
    @cindyrobertson3780 10 місяців тому

    Dr. Gabor would be able to help me like that guy in horse whisperer?

  • @hormazhansotia5982
    @hormazhansotia5982 Рік тому +1

    WOW WOW WOW

  • @mosesmanaka8109
    @mosesmanaka8109 6 місяців тому +2

    Behind every depressed person is a Narcissist parent who has no connection or love or concern or affection towards the child except only towards themselves all the time. No one is born depressed, it is solely an unhappy uncared for parent or parents.
    Thus you need to do a Forest Gump on your parents, both of them, because they are both sick, and find a community or Church where you are accepted and loved unconditionally.
    Study it carefully.

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

  • @andrewa3103
    @andrewa3103 5 місяців тому

    The origins are so many that they cannot be expressed scientifically. Philosophically explaining thus one must be a true metaphysician. However, humans are number one for anxiety and depression.
    Metaphysician philosophy

  • @isabellaguddat7582
    @isabellaguddat7582 9 місяців тому +1

    How can someone reverse the affects if they Ferberized a baby who may get anxiety from time to time as a 20 year old later in life? Also , if otherwise a loving , caring , secure attachment to the parent could later anxieties be unrelated to the early “ let them sooth themselves sometimes “ approach?

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  9 місяців тому

      I understand your concern, and it's important to remember that anxiety in adulthood can be influenced by a variety of things, including early parenting approaches. It's also important to note that a loving and caring bond to parents can play an important part in shaping a person's emotional well-being. Many factors contribute to anxiety, making it difficult to reverse the effects of Ferberizing or any specific parenting technique in adulthood. Seeking help from a mental health professional can be very helpful if someone is experiencing anxiety. They can help in exploring the underlying reasons of anxiety and developing appropriate coping methods, regardless of previous experiences.
      It is never too late to improve one's personal well-being and emotional health, and getting professional help is a great step toward a better and healthier life.🙏✨💖🥰

    • @richardscathouse
      @richardscathouse 6 місяців тому

      Unlike most men, immediately denied brest feeding sent directly to sexual mutilation (Circumcision) its only surprising the world isn't full of mad dog killers 😢

    • @richardscathouse
      @richardscathouse 6 місяців тому

      All my life.ive been denied love and any kind of secure attachment to parental units. 😮

  • @healershearttarot3056
    @healershearttarot3056 6 місяців тому

    Warning!!! Do not watch at the gym 😭😭😭 I’m bawling like a baby

  • @Watchingtheuniverse
    @Watchingtheuniverse Рік тому +1

    🦋🌸🌿

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 6 місяців тому

    What he wont tell you is that when the heart, brain, and gut axis is disrupted, many physical and mental ills can arise: ADHD, OCD, depression, anxiety, Parkinson's, and memory loss. Gabor wont tell you that bc not taught in med school. For more info, pls read Three Brains..by Karen Jensen, ND.

  • @scottthomas5819
    @scottthomas5819 10 місяців тому

    ☕☕☕

  • @dekapwt5618
    @dekapwt5618 9 місяців тому

    😔😔😔

  • @guyb7005
    @guyb7005 6 місяців тому

    good lecture, no need for all the carton vignettes

  • @paulwebb2010
    @paulwebb2010 6 місяців тому +1

    We also need to talk about phone addiction and how that is having a impact on society

  • @montanagal6958
    @montanagal6958 6 місяців тому +1

    Origin-when your gov't tries to kill you and no one tries to stop them.

  • @phnx4life
    @phnx4life 5 місяців тому +1

    Origins? Governments. ..

  • @lauranell2978
    @lauranell2978 Рік тому +4

    When we identify with indigenous peoples we separate ourselves from one another and it tends to become political and racial and not a spiritual transformation

  • @angloaust1575
    @angloaust1575 6 місяців тому +1

    Circumstances can create depression
    Fortunately the Holy Spirit provides comfort when human
    Love fails!

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for taking the time to watch our video and for sharing your insights with us! 💖🙏

  • @rozzgrey801
    @rozzgrey801 8 місяців тому +1

    So the answer is don't have a bad childhood.

    • @richardscathouse
      @richardscathouse 6 місяців тому

      😉🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅👌😓

  • @eagledice2008
    @eagledice2008 6 місяців тому +1

    Im all for healing our trauma but this business of blaming our parents for all our brokenness needs to stop we have gone too far those folks only wanted the best for us we need to take responsibility for the drugs we're taking the booze we are abusing and the laziness we have that's why we're broke I am healing now when I accepted that I and I alone are to blame for my brokenness and blaming other people and expecting a sorry is gonna make me a bitter person life is way too short I want to live my best life now not tomorrow but today

    • @yourinnerchildmatters
      @yourinnerchildmatters  6 місяців тому

      I appreciate your perspective on taking responsibility for our own actions and not dwelling on blame. It's empowering to realize that we have the power to shape our own lives. Let's focus on healing, growth, and living our best lives. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻🌹💕🤗

  • @jamesof7seven
    @jamesof7seven 6 місяців тому

    As if it's impossible to find a depressed person who wasn't abused as a child, or a nondepressed person who had a sh*tty childhood. Schizophrenics don't catch this kind of justice. What about people who come back from a war with a head injury and the mental illnesses that come with it? Do they need to convince their inner child their brain isn't damaged? Have you ever been drunk? Did you express your anger to be sober?