it depends... he just said it makes them feel victorious ... but who really cares. it's about OUR healing and moving on and NEVER EVER allowing that NONSENSE to happen to us again!!!! NEVER!!!!! FOR NO AMOUNT OF TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!!!!
Nahhhhhh it only makes them feel like they won when you are emotionally unstable they kno how to get to you but if you have control they think you picked someone else
My ex broke it off and iv cut all contact. I blocked him on everything. We havent talked in 2 months and a couple days ago i got an email from him try to say he misses me and he should have protected me. Hes the one i needed to be protected from. So i ignored it i refused to send an email back.
Yup, he hates it so much, he's stuck in the loop which looks like that: hoovering -> begging for forgiveness -> hating, assuming I have someone -> apologies and we start again from hoovering. You're on point Lee.
@@empressb444 I have. There are technical things that can't be fixed like permanent email block but I'm ignoring him. I still get voice mail even though the number is blocked. Nothing I can do about it. 🤷♀️
@@whyYUbee take it all to the court and see if you can get a no contact order. Then take it to the police station and show all your proof, see if you can get an officer to talk to him and warn him about harassment charges in the future. See if that helps some
@@empressb444 there are things that are making it too complicated to me but I won't talk about it. Also I think it's too early. But I do have a plan, don't worry.
I told him to his face, IT'S YOU, IT'S YOU, IT'S YOU!!! YOU ARE THE REASON FOR MY LEAVING!! Can't stand the look of him or the sound of his voice. Ugh!!! Feeling absolutely wonderful, lighter, free.❤❤❤ So glad I didn't waste anymore time than I already have, but I learned a lot about what I don't want.
Most narcissists can’t tolerate being ignored; the act of silent treatment strikes the narcissist much harder because of their need to feel validated. As the narcissist understands that you are intentionally ignoring them will deflate their inflated ego. Their self-esteem is connected by how much attention they can get from you or others. A person with high levels of narcissism can get more aggressive when being ignored. When they think you are ignoring them, some won’t be able to control their temper, so they may lash out or change their approach by being aggressive with their calls or text messages demanding to talk or communicate with you. They will never be ready to discuss or be accountable for what they did or said to you. They will just expect you to accept what they want or need while they will be very hypocritical by ignoring their actions. Yes, they will be mad or upset at you for ignoring them, but when or once you call them out on their behavior, they will get mad at you, and in return ignore you. Even if you ignore a narcissist for whatever reason that may be, they will eventually get bored and seek attention from someone else. The narcissist may replace you with someone else who won’t ignore them and give them the attention, and control that they seek. This is why ignoring a narcissist should be more about you, and less about them. This is how they operate, and how they satisfy their narcissistic supply. Solution: Ignoring them is one of the easiest ways to redeem your control, regain your sense of clarity, and restore your power by focusing your attention on yourself. As far as what happens to a narcissist when you ignore them is really irrelevant. May you know the signs. May you not become a victim. And may you be more concern about your healing, recovery, and emotional-mental health. Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.
I did this to a girl I worked with. So she did what any normal person would do: She whined to another co-worker until they got in the company system, and gave her my personal contact information. Then she used this information to stalk and harass me and my family for 2 years - while triangulating and destroying my working relationships/creating a hostile work environment. Factor in that this girl was such an attention seeker, she used her odd appearance to pass herself off as mentally challenged. This allowed her to claim she didn't know what she was doing was wrong. That's ok the cops did. Turns out that CONSTANT calling is called electronic stalking. Once the police took control of my home situation, I showed them my phone records from work. Law enforcement spoke to HR - she was out of here, and it only took me 15 years to do it. The officer told me I should sue after what I had been through - and he said it in front of the HR lady. Meanwhile the Narc has been gone under a year - and has last 3 jobs during that time. I used to be a warm, friendly person - I am now a cold blooded, business only, too bad if your life stinks sort of person. My only regret was that I was ever nice to begin with.
He's at MY church. I had to quit going to MY church to avoid seeing HIM. I went on Saturday and he said "Hi" to me. I don't want him to think I go there for him. Thanks to your video, I just texted him for the first time in over a year to tell him NOT to speak to me if he sees me at church. I told him to ignore me and treat me like he did when we were married, to say N O T H I N G to me.
Wow, similar situation for me.. Had to change gym as he wouldn't quit speaking to me (also after ignoring me). I did speak up and get the gym owners to reinforce my request, which worked- could you do the same at your church perhaps? As you're currently having to break 'no contact' to make your request (which will feed into what he wants) 🤢
@@babytalkatl Well, mine is EXCELLENT in keeping his mask on (in public.) And convincing others I am the goofy one. I think I will start praying that he leaves that church. He's making a mockery of his supposed Christian faith anyway.
Yep!!! Same we work together, last month he had the audacity to get my attention and wave on top of that ask me “ How I was doing “ I was thinking to myself you never ever cared before , always ignored me at work like I was non existent and made no bones in rubbing in my face you are with someone at the same job. It still pisses me off like who does he think he is 😡.
@@wms72 oh I'm sorry you're having to manage this.. I agree having a chat to your priest sounds like a great idea. Also pray about it and ask God, he knows, understands you (also believes you - no one can fool God!) and can see more than we can see. He will let you know whats the best thing to do :)
@@jenniferjohnson2354 hopefully you caught my # before it was took down an yes it was extremely insidious. He did everything in his power to try and destroy me, while taking care of the kids very selfish individual I was able to pull myself out by the grace of the most high hardest thing I ever did in my life was break free (is how you make it)from that psychopath (17 years of mental/emotional abuse
You can Control your actions. And your attitude. In order to break free you have to pass this test. Having control over your emotions and not letting someone play with you like a puppet. It is easier said than done most times. However I have been in a no contact for three months. I have received hovering via email, and text now messages that I have ignored. I just change my number today!!!!! When I said no contact I meant it. Standing on business.!! I refuse to allow someone else to control me any longer via my emotions. Pass the test sis!!
LOVE THIS! “Pass the test!” We spend so much of our heart and energy exhausted keeping up with and adjusting to the narcs effed up games and tests…. It’s time for us to “reparent” ourselves (Vaknin) and pass our own dam test! Meet our OWN standards for ourselves.
@@KayNKateTV- I wish I could have passed the test. I went no contact for 2 yrs. But immediately gave in when they came to my house and asked for a kiss. My dumb ass gave in and now I can't win.
So basically these demons are testing us? Because I didn’t respond when he waved at me. I’m thinking he probably thought I was going to text him after I saw 👀 him ,NOT! I refuse to play that game , and remained calm . I think I passed the test lol and besides he has a women we work with I wonder where she was at while he was creeping around my area. He needs to leave me a lone.
They go to extremes to get your attention. They have to be known. They're childish individuals who deserve to be ignored. Pay them no mind. What ever they try to do to you always backfires on them eventually. 😉
I blocked the narc but then found a blocked messages folder in my phone and all the messages were there. It's best to not look but it takes discipline. Lol. They purposely text things to make you want to respond and defend yourself. They text things to get a reaction out of you so it's best to block and not check that folder. Even a text from them can hurt and continue their abuse. We shouldn't give them that opportunity.
UM-HUH!!!!! that's why once i REALLY BEGAN to heal i stopped looking at his texts. archived. will read on the day i've relocated to another region of the country and am about to change my #. same day i'm going to send him my playlist "HEAL the Narcissist with CPTSD" with hopes that he actually uses it for HIS healing. PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes no matter how I called my x partner he never answered my phone calls or text. I called him and text saying that I was very sick with flu he didn't come to me or call me nothing. Now he called me few times I don't answer 😂
yeah. do it from a distance, remotely, NO CONTACT AT ALL, if you feel compelled to do anything at all. mothers ARE NOT EXEMPT from going no contact!!! PEACE!!!!!
My mother as well I've been one year no contact seen her at a family function on the 4th of July seen her and my son's wedding this past Saturday and that's it and she's trying to do everything under the sun to beat me in to talk to her she's offering to take me to Jamaica but bracelet I repeat she will not apologize to me I simply told her no thank you I'm good thanks anyway they will use all types of things to suck you back in 💯‼️
One thing about it this is my second go-around it's even painful more than the first all I can say is Time heals all wounds I guess I'm talking to myself right now too remember love is patient love is gentle I wish I known about narcissism before I got involved with this monster for 14 years he pressured me for everything if you think that's something it seemed like he would get upset when I am on my monthly because I cannot do what he wants he would be possessive a monster
Lee your videos have been a blessing. I have been ignoring my narcissistic male friend for peace of mind. Your videos have been my strength and eye-opener to the behaviors and attitudes of a narcissist. We live in the same neighborhood and I have seen him on occasion but to me he's dead, he ghosted me and I do not speak to ghosts. Today, he spoke to me when he saw me and said, "Hi," with a smile. I ignored him and I refused to acknowledge him. He attempted to emotionally abuse me when he abandoned the friendship (discarded), ghosted, and showed up at my door twice after two months. LOL. Thank you Lee if it weren't for you I would not have seen him for what he was A NARCISSIST.
"I just want to make sure you're safe". LOL - a drummer from one of my old bands rage-quit the band over email when he was drunk 7 years after the band had actually broken up. Long story short, he kept freaking out on me so I blocked him. Fast forward a couple months, he starts drunkenly emailing my spam folder with this whole, "Hey, just want to make sure you guys are safe. Never know these days..." So I'm just sitting there thinking, "Is this the line he used on ex-girlfriends or something? Because it doesn't quite work with a former bandmate."
I will never take the bait. My husband showed me at his discard how he truly feels about me. Thanks Lee. I did block 🚫 his number & email, im not on social media thankfully. I only see him at court
my ex narc friend was toxic that way when she went around telling ppl that I couldn't handle that she "couldn't" talk to me 24/7. Honestly I couldn't care less how she feels about my choice to remove a narc that was trying to make out of me a toxic person. With how lame and disrespectful she was that final year, she was just making it more easy for me to cut that bond for good and move on with my life. She can go treat someone else like crap and get her negative energy from
Mine once told me, after a whole 7 days of not speaking to me, that the reason was because he'd gotten glass in his eyes at work and couldn't see😂 The shit they say sound crazy
@@Toni-1of1yes they got the darness excuses when did my husband found the other day 48 hours he's on fan only he's receiving and sending money to females when we are married with two children I've been with him 14 years and I've had enough should have been gone it's not that simple we share a 8 and a 4-year-old and I haven't even told them yet they think he's just working late I actually feel like I'm ready to walk away that was the straw that broke me along with lying telling me he's paying certain bills and he's not all those are telltale signs my life has been a living hell I refuse to be broken by the blood of Jesus
My ex pulls this every couple months... Messages me however he can to tell me he's "back in the hospital," and half the time, he blames me for it. I caught on, so I ignore it. Currently 6 months no contact, and proud!
😂 🤦🏾♀️This reminds of me ex nac . He would pull that crap on me. When split ,we spoke here and there he wanted me back , one day he said he was having heart problems ( he was drunk at the time) and going A and E I'm like ok. Well he sent me a picture of him being in hospital, but in a space of under hour he was back home. He said he had to leave as can't stand hospitals 😮 I remember thinking wow that was fast 😮 , I looked at the picture again dated two years ago, I called him out however he did not reply 😂😂
@@medusa1340 I HATE how they do that! My ex is doing it again now, while swing back and forth between hateful messages and "I love you, please come back" messages. He drinks all the time, too. And he's about as stable as a boat on land, even when he's sober. When he's drunk, he's less stable than a busted rocking chair 🤣
Wild !!!!!! Mine sent me a photo with needle in his arm saying he needs treatment and when I asked he refused to tell me why 🙄 I realize now it was probably him donating blood Wild !!!!
Thanks for that. I finally feel proud of myself because after leaving my ex and blocking him, he once managed to get through to me on the phone. And right off the bat he told me he was going to the hospital and he wanted me to pray for him!!! I didn’t even say a word and instead I simply hung up. And I don’t care if that did make him feel powerful because I now know he never was. He simply leveraged my empathic nature and childhood wounds to make me feel weak so he could pretend he was strong. And I now know that that was never the case because otherwise he would never have tried to use my own powers against me. And ultimately, he did me a favour because he made it crystal clear to me that I had a lot of healing to do which I may never have done if he hadn’t been so cruel and heartless. So in the end, good really does triumph over evil 💪🏽
My husband and I tried to go NC with my MIL who has high narcissistic tendencies. This lady flew 3K miles across the country, said nothing to my husband, and drove by our house! We happened to be outside because we just got home and she stopped infront of our driveway and asked to talk. My husband said no then she smirked and said “no? Just thought I’d check” then sped off. When my husband tried to call her when we got into the house to set some more boundaries, he was blocked and his call went straight to voicemail! A few weeks later, She then had the nerve to tell me that I was being “hyper vigilant” in her being there! No lady, you showed up to my house to prove a point. You don’t even know what hyper vigilant means 😂
Thank you for your vulnerability in your videos. It helps me heal to know that my ex-husband narcissist could actually feel emotions, including emotional pain. I don't mean this in a cruel way.
also check out Raw Motivations. he's REALLY vulnerable!!!! (and if i was his wife i'd be embarrassed at just how vulnerable he is telling all of their business, which makes HER look just as bad as him.) PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Once I saw through the narcissist it was like taking the red pill, I couldn’t go back to the delusion that they were nice people. The narcissist I know is always nice to me, but he may tell another friend to stfu. Then he may complement a complete stranger non-stop for 5 minutes over something minor, then flip off a lady driving out of the parking lot for getting in his way.
The best self defense is a lawyer that defends victims of domestic violence. That person is advising on matters that affect the future interests of the victim. They can help their client to benefit early and substantially. The more the victim is occupied in their recovery the sooner valuable coping skills are honed.
Its so true blocked my ex on all social media then I get a text out of the blue from him "I hope uve found happiness away from me" if that was true then he wouldn't be messaging me 🤣
I get ignored when he talks to someone else, or one of his so called friends isn’t mad at him. Let one of them ignore him over something stupid he said or did, guess who he calls! All winter he had one mad at him and he called me every other day, now they have kissed and made up. I didn’t give him a chance to ignore me again and told him how it was and I blocked him. I borrowed his caulking gun, took it back today, he was home, outbuilding was open, so I walked in laid it on his chair, and walked back to the car. He was in the house yelling at me to stay but I kept moving without saying a word.
Thank you soo much Lee. I have ignored my narcissist for over a year. I looked at your channel the other day, thinking how much I learned about NPD. I guess I was putting out too much energy, because he called that afternoon from another number. I did not recognize his voice at first.. He goes in on how he has been calling and I don't answer, wondering what happened to the relationship and kept turning it around to blaming everyone else and not taking accountability (everything he said was lie and had 3 women as back-up supply). He started promising what he was going to do in the future etc. I am the only one he loves, yada yada The little voice in my head was yours Lee. I hung up and blocked the number.
For 2 months his been ignored & his reached out asking me if I'm ok & being a big sook saying "it would be nice to hear from you" 🤣🤣🤣 I didn't respond 😂 then he said take care miss you 😂 a no response is a response in my own mind is like whatever. 🤣 His also sent me an invite to a game we used to play together well I didn't accept. Not giving him that power I'm in control now I'm loving it. Now he knows what it's like to be ignored. It's me time now my happiness & self love is more important.
I've been giving my husband the same energy he is giving me...well this morning he comes in the room and stumbles to say he knows he hasn't been the best but he loves me and he wanted me to know that. I feel it took him everything just to get that sentence out!! And l keep telling myself just be that Grey rock!
i had to pause this video because i couldn't hear over my laughter!!!!!!!!! dude IS A COMEDIAN!!!!!!! the difference between him and Ben Taylor is obvious! Taylor delivers RAW truths!!! no sugarcoating at all!!! this guy edutains with MUCH NEEDED AND APPRECIATED HUMOR. watch his video about what to do when you miss the narcissist. (i think that's the one.) HAD ME ON THE FRICKIN' FLOOR!!!! or just rewatch this video!!!!!
Just had this happen, the girl have been dating who I've noticed some pretty clear Narc behaviors, thought I was ignoring her, mind you I talk to her constantly, but I didn't reply to some texts in a time frame she wanted so then, I have "someone else". I think am done with this, super stressful over a bunch of nothing.
We still live in the same area and sometimes i meet her at the bus. Her new main supply is her colleague who is an enabler. He is really not a bad bad person. I think he is just a weaker person then her. Something she loves. I remember being introduced to him while dating her. Now that he is the main supply. I can see how exhausting it is. His face changed. U can litteraly see the darkness creeping on his face. Anyways. Ive noticed that she always has to talk loud enough for me to hear her. But ignoring it is the most calm and satisfying thing ever. Like. I understand this healing part so well now. As long as i focus and keep building my own life. It doesnt matter what the narc wants or says or do. They are prisoners in their own minds. And their shackles are their depravity and cheating, things like that keeps you chained to materialism. Undigested emotions. Unconfronted traumas to heal. I see it all so well. The healing part on my end sucks and is lonely af. But im getting more and more used to it and actually starting to enjoy things again.
@@TheShaqii good job. You will get there. It is lonely af. I get that believe me. I see my ex weekly at the gym. She acts indifferent and hugs everyone. Acts all kind and sweet. The new vic thinks he hit the lottery. Poor guy. He will be us one day soon. She talks loud and near me hoping I hear her good stuff. lol. She also tells acquaintances knowing they will tell me about her trips with the new Vic. I laugh now knowing she does it bc she hates i cut her off.
@ hang in there. Dont fall victim and feel sad for yourself. Just keep it real with yourself and proceed your own journey brother :) ive come to a point where i dont care/notice her existence anymore. And keep seeing her for what she is. It will also open your eyes more and more. And the greatest thing ive learned so far.. no amount of sex or hugs or sweet talks can feel better then the freedom as an induvidual and the peace it brings. I never realized how much peace and quiet time was needed in my own life untill i had to relearn to know myself again. And keep hitting the gym 🙏
He plays this BLOCKING game! Blocks and unblocks me and his daughter. Why? Wants to see if we’re still tryin to contact him?! Then ignore us and block again! Crazy making!
The covert narcissist I delt with thinks I'm going to chase him down.this country girl don't play games like they do.I stood up to mine and got the taste of how us country weman are.
They can dish it out but can't take it. All that silence for weeks sometimes. Then, when i stopped talking to him. He got worse. He started doing more and more things to provoke a response. All bc, i didn't acknowledge him. The same exact thing he did to me. I realized ignoring him was dangerous. I now give short answers. That seems to satisfy him for now. This man almost lost his mind.
This is so true….Years ago, I was shown hospital bracelets and paperwork. Said had been trying to reach me and he was blocked…Showed up at my house…🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
My son's father once sent me a picture of a car crash trying to guilt me into talking to him. Mind you it was a Google image of the same kinda car that he drove..
Mine would pop up near my job. I just so happened to look out of the window one evening and he was literally looking right at me! Normally he'd go through the drive thru but nooo, he was inside eating and watching me. When he left the restaurant and walked to his car, it was the slowest walk I've ever seen because this man always walks with a sense of urgency just to appear to be busy. He fumbled with his keys for like 5 minutes just to be seen, then he looked back at me and finally got in his car and left. I'm on day 5 of no contact and he finally broke down and text me today. Nope, didn't respond...rerurn to sender 🙅🏽♀️
Yup. He will threaten to unalive himself or that he’s in serious trouble and needs help because he knows that I am a good person and care. Or that he’s “all alone and will die alone”. I just keep ignoring. He’s stalked me for two years for cutting him off to protect myself from his torture and abuse. He tries to flip it around and says he’ll never forgive me for leaving him when he was the one who literally tortured me. It’s really so sad but it isn’t my fault. It isn’t my responsibility to heal him.
Thats called a Grudge driven hoover is when the narc wants to gain access to u in order to punish u for what u done in their mind. He definitely wants to even the score now so change ur number or keep blocking him but never reply or engage
@@HolisticHealing77same here I have two kids except we were everything except his world looking back me and my kids came second to last everything was so pleasing to him everything that made him happy even if it hurted me or his kids
@@Toni-1of1very creepy mines was very demanding to like he had to control everything from the music and having sex with him I felt like a sex slave because he demanded it after he done something bad to me another form of control van he would find a way to blame me
I rejected and ignored him during the love bombing “I like you stage”, due to my trauma and ran away. He started hoovering me through a mutual friend who became a flying monkey. I’m hoping he will forgive and forget and not seek revenge or a hook up but I’m told they don’t let go. We didn’t even get to the first stage of a possible thing. He shows all the signs of being a covert. SMH…
When you ignore them. Their reaction will have everything to do w whats going on in their present life. If they need your help like money / housing etc.. So if their contacting you in need. And you ignore them they are likely to feel rage
Regular people think the same way about being ignored and I'm dating a narcissist it really works both ways I've been ignoring my narcissist and she clearly doesn't care because she already has a new supply that she's been hiding from me for 2 months now or longer I've already found pictures of dudes with specific landmarks in her ceiling we will call it, she plays games and creates mysteries for me to solve as if she wants me to break up with her because she doesn't have the mental capacity of a normal person to do it normally herself.
I did all the above and yes! They popped up on my job! They stocked me it’s pretty creepy pretty scary they don’t know me like that they don’t know what I’m like when I don’t like narcissist bullies I don’t like any of those and so you are so right
My ex love has a diagnosis. 5 months ago he called and asked what I wanted to fight about. I said nothing and told him to have a good morning. I also told him I loved him. Since that day neither one of us ever talked again. I AM SO CONFUSED. We had 4 years of a serious relationship. It was horrific on my end daily but I only tried to see the good in him. He started a serious rumor about me after that and I've been thinking about it 24/7 since. How is he holding out this long?
Narcissist don't care if you love them, don't ever tell him that again bc what he hears is IM WEAK. he's started a rumor about you bc he wants u to call him and ask him what his problem is... that's called a reverse hoover, he views u not reaching out as a betrayal and he's punishing you for it. Which proves he's always been an enemy. Stay no contact no matter what
LOL OMG!!! Lee, my ex-narc does this! When he goes into the hospital, he will post photos of him hooked up to oxygen and wants all his FAKEBOOK friends to comment and tell him that they are "praying" for him. He's also hoping that our mutual friends will reach out to tell me that he's in the hospital so I can call and check on him. Hell! I never called and checked on him when he was in the hospital while we were living under the same roof, so I'm definitely not checking on him now. 😂 And NO ONE even tells me that he's in the hospital because everyone knows he does it for attention and won't even do what the doctors tell him to do. He's the only person I know who goes into the hospital on a Monday, gets out on Friday afternoon and is out in the streets by 5pm Friday and is gone all night long.
Lol i thought it was me when i told my mom that they love attention we have neighbor who falls out with everybody, his foot forever broken and always have ppl catering to him and constantly turning new people or new neighbors against me when he sees im kool with them
@len1045678 I used to tell him that he only posts that he's in the hospital because he wants attention. They would tell him to follow the doctors orders, to stop smoking, and to stop being out in extreme weather conditions that cause him to keep going to the hospital. I would tell people to quit wasting their time telling him what to do because he's not going to do it because all he wants is attention. I grew up with him, and he was the SAME then (attention seeker) and is the same today. A leopard never changes its spots!
It took 10 years for me to figure out if I was gonna live I had to leave he was making me sick and telling me he was the only person who loved me that my family didn't want me I was in such bad health I was ready for the boneyard but since I've been gone my health has improved and I'm not dead I've found myself again and I'm alive I want to thank you for your help
He thought I blocked him, ended up sending crazy texts to me and my roommates 2 weeks later and dropped off a bunch of stuff I "forgot" at his place on my landlords back porch since they live on the first floor... The "stuff" was super old groceries like bread thats been sitting in his freezer for 4+ months. The texts he sent me were super controlling like "you better go get that stuff, dont dawdle" (literally said dont dawdle yall what) meanwhile the ones he sent my roommates were really sweet like "i just wanted to make sure she gets that stuff back could you please tell her..." none of us responded and I waited a long time before going out there in case he was waiting. I thought i'd hear from him again after that but I think that was the final blow his ego needed.
My ex told me, after being separated for 6 years, that we should get back together because he had been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and was told he would die within 10 years and he wanted to get to know his son. I told him no. I never heard from him again. That was 30 years ago. He is still alive and kicking.
I see videos like this, like Nameless Narcissist, Cluster B milkshake, Spirit narc, the bat wolf anf it makes me wonder that these narcs are helping so much people out there. Victms want and NEED to understand what they went through to heal. In my case, finding out that this is a pathology and studying it helped me so much. As a spiritual being i can’t help thinking everything has a purpose in life. I believe in treatment. I believe in healing for us and for them. I don’t think they are monsters. But I stand by the afirmation: NO CONTACT for victms who can afford that. That is what saved me. For narcisists I wish they heal what caused them trauma. I wish a new start. I wish healing. ❤
You have to be careful so you don't end up like me I thought I can heal mold and change my except he only changed me it's going to be hard for me to trust and love anyone after the terrible things I experienced with him healing takes Time and Time heals all wounds I learned that after divorce in my high school love just to end up being hurt even more by a narcissist for 14 years
Hi Lee My name is Stacy and I’m an Aquarius and I was going with this person that’s name is William and he is a Gemini. Well I didn’t know that he was a narcissist but been around him for 15 years and in the last 2 years I have found out that he is a narcissist. He had stolen my car and broke my windshield 2 times and took my tennis shoes and he ran off with some of my money. Then he started hitting on me but got caught hitting on me. From June 2023 til March 2024 there has been a danko order on him but it will be over soon. But I know he’s watching me on Facebook but he’s not saying anything to me. But I do love him and I miss him but what to do because I’m glad that I don’t have to worry about him doing anything to me . But I know he is out there with some one else.
That happened to me for years ago with narc things wasn't so well and I got pregnant with my now about to be 5 year old daughter and and he took that as an opportunity to dog me was having a full-blown affair with a girl at the job that knew about me and everything it got really ugly I took him back and forgave him seems like he was doing good for 2 years back to the same game so now it's over for good I had to make that sacrifice because I was 38 years old no help from family I already had three other kids and I needed help with the baby it was during covid but my baby was born right before covid started and I haven't been able to be as successful as I was before I've been working part time from Covid to now it's going to get easier as my baby will be able to stay at school all day which will give me more time to work and make more money and keep my mind off of him 14 years and two kids I had enough of his games but the kids are stuck in the middle I love them but I had to fake it till I can make it
This is true, ignoring them builds them….i ignore him he starts ignoring the kids, no connection no interaction with them at all, he will just walk by with devilish smirk, he starts doing things more crazier now, like coming home from the club 8am or gone for whole weekend👀🧐
Hey Lee, can you talk about how to interact with a narc for co-parenting purposes. I have to co-parent with my covert narc ex-husband. He'll make agreements with me & reneg on the same agreement. I haven't requested child support yet; but, I will because this is not working. When he was trying to get access to me & our child needed something, I could ask him, and he would provide it. But, now he's hooking up with his ex-wife (same woman he cheated on me with). I think it might be sinking in that I don't want him because now he's being an a**hole & trying to exert control. Anyway, any tips you can give would be helpful. If I had my way, he would not be in our child's life. He is super toxic and doesn't have good judgment when it comes to women; but, our child likes him. Plus, he has rights, so I can't legally stop him from being around our son.
My sociopathic covert narc ex husband has yet to date. (Or at least disclose he is bringing any romantic partner around her)We share 50/50 with our 6 year old. I am curious what Lee says too! Glad you got away.
3:24 mine sent me a $1 on cash app just to lie and tell me he was in the hospital. I took the dollar and never responded. However, 3 years later, I broke and contacted him. Like an idiot!!!
I finally made it!!!! i could not ressist her but i really made up my mind its the best thing i ever done but let me also say she has acces to me from mail but she dont email anymore
My narc tried to turn off my cell phone and took the insurance off my car after he moved out with bo warning whil living with his new woman. He randomly came to my place with her and police to take away the disabled car he bought for my mom
Ohh so true - he was with every girl who said hi to him - I haven’t been near anyone else in + 22 years he was my LAST - but ohh boy he got so much worse when I ignored him - blocked him on EVERYTHING- including emails
Best decision!! She will advise no contact like mine did! Best way to break the trauma bond and gain your strength back and finding your way back to your self. REMEMBER, give yourself grace!! It’s a journey!!
NOOOO I BLOCKED MY PSYCHOPATH NARC FATHER SINCE 2003, keep coming bk around and in 2019 i finally blocked him for good, he’s smearing my name all kinds of lies, telling family members and close friends that i did a seggs change to a man🧐👀 i am not giving him no energy he’s just making it worse, now im telling everyone who wants to know the evil he is, he’s getting old and getting worse, looking like effin smeegle from lord of the rings……thinking he’s still “young and handsome” chasing little girls🧐👀
Depends. Do you care more about yourself or someone who wouldn't give you the same consideration? My mother is a malignant narcissist, so I get it. It's hard to let go of the hope someone will change.
I recently left an abusive and toxic relationship. It's been 3 weeks since I left my ex but this past week, they have been emailing me saying strange things like someone is messing with our relationship and saying if I love them, I'll reach out to them as well as making statements about moving to Texas with their sister. I just blew it off and didn't respond to any of it. The other day I discovered that they hacked my email and changed the password. I made a new email and decided to let that email go. I am still afraid that they might end showing up at my house. I don't know want to do anymore. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
This popped up right on time. Been NC and still getting calls and vm left to my blocked messages. I know if I turn back it’ll just be a million times worse. 🥴 I’m good.
I never thought narcissists would pull the whole I’m vulnerable, I need help type of thing but that’s become her MO. She knows that I have always tried to take care of her so now every time I hear from her she’s got some horrible thing that’s happening to her and I’m heartless if I don’t come to her rescue even though we are no longer together. It’s an ongoing thing to pull at my heart strings and prove I’m a good person because she always tells me I’m not. I heard something recently that made things snap into place: “if the devil exists, he will do his best to make you feel sorry for him.”
"never allow someone to be your priority allowing yourself to be their option." Mark Twain.
I can't save this so I'm replying. Thank you for sharing this. I have to remember to embody this.
❤❤❤A Timeless Classic!
@@macm2373 It sure is. :)
A word
Try harder
They are great at dishing it out but they don’t know how to take it. 🤯
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For real.
So very true. I feel like shouting: "...if you can dish it, you should be able to take it!"
They have intense distain for their own bitter "medicine"
They are such cowards, they'll dish it out and then tuck tail and run
Checkmate. It ain't fun no more when the rabbit got the gun.
Ignoring them makes them feel small and useless.
it depends... he just said it makes them feel victorious ...
but who really cares. it's about OUR healing and moving on and NEVER EVER allowing that NONSENSE to happen to us again!!!! NEVER!!!!! FOR NO AMOUNT OF TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!
That’s because they are small and useless. We where the ones that made them feel important
Nahhhhhh it only makes them feel like they won when you are emotionally unstable they kno how to get to you but if you have control they think you picked someone else
And they usually are.
On top of them already feeling small and useless.
I’m done, so he better get used to the silence!!
Girl, we've been done for years. They still be harassing , threatening, and setting things up for my downfall.
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humph!!!! good for you Ms.Pamela!!!
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Facts
My ex broke it off and iv cut all contact. I blocked him on everything. We havent talked in 2 months and a couple days ago i got an email from him try to say he misses me and he should have protected me. Hes the one i needed to be protected from. So i ignored it i refused to send an email back.
Good he sees you blocking him as a rejection and that triggered him to hoover you. The game of ego
If he was able to send you an e-mail, then he's not completely blocked. Be cautious.
STAY STRONG, MS.PAYNE!!!!!!
remember: THEY NEVER CARED ABOUT US.
refer to my playlist: "RAW TRUTHS for..."
I got a picture of a car crash he was in. He was alive lol.
I'm in my 7th year. 😊 keep it up
Yup, he hates it so much, he's stuck in the loop which looks like that: hoovering -> begging for forgiveness -> hating, assuming I have someone -> apologies and we start again from hoovering. You're on point Lee.
Exactly the same with my nex. Sometimes he goes through all that within hours.
Cut all contact
@@empressb444 I have. There are technical things that can't be fixed like permanent email block but I'm ignoring him. I still get voice mail even though the number is blocked. Nothing I can do about it. 🤷♀️
@@whyYUbee take it all to the court and see if you can get a no contact order. Then take it to the police station and show all your proof, see if you can get an officer to talk to him and warn him about harassment charges in the future. See if that helps some
@@empressb444 there are things that are making it too complicated to me but I won't talk about it. Also I think it's too early. But I do have a plan, don't worry.
All while they have someone else.
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Bruh
Literally begging on my text thread while she has someone else lmao
@@BashayG7175 Probably after she left you for that someone else. They're just nonsense personified. Block and ignore is the only way.
@@Liz-wz8dh that's probably the only thing that makes sense about them.....nonsense personified!
I told him to his face, IT'S YOU, IT'S YOU, IT'S YOU!!! YOU ARE THE REASON FOR MY LEAVING!! Can't stand the look of him or the sound of his voice. Ugh!!! Feeling absolutely wonderful, lighter, free.❤❤❤ So glad I didn't waste anymore time than I already have, but I learned a lot about what I don't want.
Exactly
Exactly I feel the same exact way
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Yes I was so focus on wat I want but I got show wat I don't want 💯.
Most narcissists can’t tolerate being ignored; the act of silent treatment strikes the narcissist much harder because of their need to feel validated. As the narcissist understands that you are intentionally ignoring them will deflate their inflated ego. Their self-esteem is connected by how much attention they can get from you or others.
A person with high levels of narcissism can get more aggressive when being ignored. When they think you are ignoring them, some won’t be able to control their temper, so they may lash out or change their approach by being aggressive with their calls or text messages demanding to talk or communicate with you. They will never be ready to discuss or be accountable for what they did or said to you. They will just expect you to accept what they want or need while they will be very hypocritical by ignoring their actions. Yes, they will be mad or upset at you for ignoring them, but when or once you call them out on their behavior, they will get mad at you, and in return ignore you.
Even if you ignore a narcissist for whatever reason that may be, they will eventually get bored and seek attention from someone else. The narcissist may replace you with someone else who won’t ignore them and give them the attention, and control that they seek. This is why ignoring a narcissist should be more about you, and less about them. This is how they operate, and how they satisfy their narcissistic supply. Solution: Ignoring them is one of the easiest ways to redeem your control, regain your sense of clarity, and restore your power by focusing your attention on yourself. As far as what happens to a narcissist when you ignore them is really irrelevant. May you know the signs. May you not become a victim. And may you be more concern about your healing, recovery, and emotional-mental health.
Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.
I did this to a girl I worked with. So she did what any normal person would do: She whined to another co-worker until they got in the company system, and gave her my personal contact information. Then she used this information to stalk and harass me and my family for 2 years - while triangulating and destroying my working relationships/creating a hostile work environment. Factor in that this girl was such an attention seeker, she used her odd appearance to pass herself off as mentally challenged. This allowed her to claim she didn't know what she was doing was wrong. That's ok the cops did. Turns out that CONSTANT calling is called electronic stalking. Once the police took control of my home situation, I showed them my phone records from work. Law enforcement spoke to HR - she was out of here, and it only took me 15 years to do it. The officer told me I should sue after what I had been through - and he said it in front of the HR lady. Meanwhile the Narc has been gone under a year - and has last 3 jobs during that time. I used to be a warm, friendly person - I am now a cold blooded, business only, too bad if your life stinks sort of person. My only regret was that I was ever nice to begin with.
He's at MY church. I had to quit going to MY church to avoid seeing HIM. I went on Saturday and he said "Hi" to me. I don't want him to think I go there for him. Thanks to your video, I just texted him for the first time in over a year to tell him NOT to speak to me if he sees me at church. I told him to ignore me and treat me like he did when we were married, to say N O T H I N G to me.
Wow, similar situation for me.. Had to change gym as he wouldn't quit speaking to me (also after ignoring me). I did speak up and get the gym owners to reinforce my request, which worked- could you do the same at your church perhaps? As you're currently having to break 'no contact' to make your request (which will feed into what he wants) 🤢
@@tashcow90 Thanks for your advice. Maybe I will speak to the priest about it. I don't think he'll want to get involved, though.
@@babytalkatl Well, mine is EXCELLENT in keeping his mask on (in public.) And convincing others I am the goofy one. I think I will start praying that he leaves that church. He's making a mockery of his supposed Christian faith anyway.
Yep!!! Same we work together, last month he had the audacity to get my attention and wave on top of that ask me “ How I was doing “ I was thinking to myself you never ever cared before , always ignored me at work like I was non existent and made no bones in rubbing in my face you are with someone at the same job. It still pisses me off like who does he think he is 😡.
@@wms72 oh I'm sorry you're having to manage this.. I agree having a chat to your priest sounds like a great idea. Also pray about it and ask God, he knows, understands you (also believes you - no one can fool God!) and can see more than we can see. He will let you know whats the best thing to do :)
Checkmate. It ain't no fun no more when the rabbit got the gun. That strikes a nerve.
It's soooo much worse when you have a child with them
Yes indeed. I have 2 small children with a narc and i'm struggling to keep them from picking up the same traits.pray for me yall
Yes it is I have (5) to the Ex Narc ..it gets real crazy
@@Denzella2154 I have 5 too with my narc ex. Can I ask you how you are making it and does he make it hard on you and try to destroy you like mine?
@@jenniferjohnson2354 hopefully you caught my # before it was took down an yes it was extremely insidious. He did everything in his power to try and destroy me, while taking care of the kids very selfish individual I was able to pull myself out by the grace of the most high hardest thing I ever did in my life was break free (is how you make it)from that psychopath (17 years of mental/emotional abuse
2 kids 12 years 😫😫😫😫😫😫
Trying hard to ignore but he knows exactly what to do to trigger me
You can Control your actions. And your attitude. In order to break free you have to pass this test. Having control over your emotions and not letting someone play with you like a puppet. It is easier said than done most times. However I have been in a no contact for three months. I have received hovering via email, and text now messages that I have ignored. I just change my number today!!!!! When I said no contact I meant it. Standing on business.!! I refuse to allow someone else to control me any longer via my emotions. Pass the test sis!!
LOVE THIS! “Pass the test!” We spend so much of our heart and energy exhausted keeping up with and adjusting to the narcs effed up games and tests…. It’s time for us to “reparent” ourselves (Vaknin) and pass our own dam test! Meet our OWN standards for ourselves.
Stay strong 💝🙏
@@KayNKateTV- I wish I could have passed the test. I went no contact for 2 yrs. But immediately gave in when they came to my house and asked for a kiss. My dumb ass gave in and now I can't win.
So basically these demons are testing us? Because I didn’t respond when he waved at me. I’m thinking he probably thought I was going to text him after I saw 👀 him ,NOT! I refuse to play that game , and remained calm . I think I passed the test lol and besides he has a women we work with I wonder where she was at while he was creeping around my area. He needs to leave me a lone.
They go to extremes to get your attention. They have to be known. They're childish individuals who deserve to be ignored. Pay them no mind. What ever they try to do to you always backfires on them eventually. 😉
My brother in law is a narcissist. He tried yelling, being abusive toward me, I don't care. He is boring. It drove him crazy that I really don't care
I blocked the narc but then found a blocked messages folder in my phone and all the messages were there. It's best to not look but it takes discipline. Lol. They purposely text things to make you want to respond and defend yourself. They text things to get a reaction out of you so it's best to block and not check that folder. Even a text from them can hurt and continue their abuse. We shouldn't give them that opportunity.
What kind of phone you got that has a blocked text folder??? Must be an Android 🤖
@@Travelintherapist😂
UM-HUH!!!!! that's why once i REALLY BEGAN to heal i stopped looking at his texts. archived. will read on the day i've relocated to another region of the country and am about to change my #. same day i'm going to send him my playlist "HEAL the Narcissist with CPTSD" with hopes that he actually uses it for HIS healing.
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@Travelintherapist 😂😂😂😂 I was wondering too
I had this issue too until I got an iPhone. Its soooo much easier not knowing
Thank you for wanting us to win. This video was right on time
You’re welcome
Narcs should be okay with being ignored because they’re the Queen/King of ignoring.
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Yes no matter how I called my x partner he never answered my phone calls or text. I called him and text saying that I was very sick with flu he didn't come to me or call me nothing. Now he called me few times I don't answer 😂
@@princesshall8229 Continue not to answer, it’s a beautiful thing
I start to ignore my narcissistic mother she only reach out to me if she want me to do something for her
yeah. do it from a distance, remotely, NO CONTACT AT ALL, if you feel compelled to do anything at all. mothers ARE NOT EXEMPT from going no contact!!! PEACE!!!!!
My mother is the same way
My mother as well I've been one year no contact seen her at a family function on the 4th of July seen her and my son's wedding this past Saturday and that's it and she's trying to do everything under the sun to beat me in to talk to her she's offering to take me to Jamaica but bracelet I repeat she will not apologize to me I simply told her no thank you I'm good thanks anyway they will use all types of things to suck you back in 💯‼️
I need help to get him out my thoughts and feelings so I can move on with some one else.
One thing about it this is my second go-around it's even painful more than the first all I can say is Time heals all wounds I guess I'm talking to myself right now too remember love is patient love is gentle I wish I known about narcissism before I got involved with this monster for 14 years he pressured me for everything if you think that's something it seemed like he would get upset when I am on my monthly because I cannot do what he wants he would be possessive a monster
Lee your videos have been a blessing. I have been ignoring my narcissistic male friend for peace of mind. Your videos have been my strength and eye-opener to the behaviors and attitudes of a narcissist. We live in the same neighborhood and I have seen him on occasion but to me he's dead, he ghosted me and I do not speak to ghosts. Today, he spoke to me when he saw me and said, "Hi," with a smile. I ignored him and I refused to acknowledge him. He attempted to emotionally abuse me when he abandoned the friendship (discarded), ghosted, and showed up at my door twice after two months. LOL. Thank you Lee if it weren't for you I would not have seen him for what he was A NARCISSIST.
I am right there with you. This is exactly my story....word for word. Lee is a real blessing
Lee you had me laughing the earplugs 😂
"I just want to make sure you're safe". LOL - a drummer from one of my old bands rage-quit the band over email when he was drunk 7 years after the band had actually broken up. Long story short, he kept freaking out on me so I blocked him. Fast forward a couple months, he starts drunkenly emailing my spam folder with this whole, "Hey, just want to make sure you guys are safe. Never know these days..." So I'm just sitting there thinking, "Is this the line he used on ex-girlfriends or something? Because it doesn't quite work with a former bandmate."
Yes, this is a line the ex narc in my life used. Everything was about being "safe", but it was really all about control.
I will never take the bait. My husband showed me at his discard how he truly feels about me. Thanks Lee. I did block 🚫 his number & email, im not on social media thankfully. I only see him at court
@DomesticAbuseSurvivor55 I'm sorry you are going through this
@DomesticAbuseSurvivor55 me too,many Lows but I keep going & looking forward 💙🙏 I wish you wellness ✨️
Now every time someone posts on fb that they're in a hospital I'm going to assume they're a Narcissist. Lol
my ex narc friend was toxic that way when she went around telling ppl that I couldn't handle that she "couldn't" talk to me 24/7. Honestly I couldn't care less how she feels about my choice to remove a narc that was trying to make out of me a toxic person. With how lame and disrespectful she was that final year, she was just making it more easy for me to cut that bond for good and move on with my life. She can go treat someone else like crap and get her negative energy from
You're the MAN .. the hospital faking is exactly what I'm going thru right now. Thank you, you have no idea how much I needed real actionable advice.
you’re welcome 💪🏽
Mine once told me, after a whole 7 days of not speaking to me, that the reason was because he'd gotten glass in his eyes at work and couldn't see😂 The shit they say sound crazy
@@Toni-1of1yes they got the darness excuses when did my husband found the other day 48 hours he's on fan only he's receiving and sending money to females when we are married with two children I've been with him 14 years and I've had enough should have been gone it's not that simple we share a 8 and a 4-year-old and I haven't even told them yet they think he's just working late I actually feel like I'm ready to walk away that was the straw that broke me along with lying telling me he's paying certain bills and he's not all those are telltale signs my life has been a living hell I refuse to be broken by the blood of Jesus
My ex pulls this every couple months... Messages me however he can to tell me he's "back in the hospital," and half the time, he blames me for it. I caught on, so I ignore it. Currently 6 months no contact, and proud!
😂 🤦🏾♀️This reminds of me ex nac .
He would pull that crap on me. When split ,we spoke here and there he wanted me back
, one day he said he was having heart problems ( he was drunk at the time) and going A and E I'm like ok.
Well he sent me a picture of him being in hospital, but in a space of under hour he was back home. He said he had to leave as can't stand hospitals 😮 I remember thinking wow that was fast 😮 , I looked at the picture again dated two years ago, I called him out however he did not reply 😂😂
@@medusa1340 I HATE how they do that! My ex is doing it again now, while swing back and forth between hateful messages and "I love you, please come back" messages. He drinks all the time, too. And he's about as stable as a boat on land, even when he's sober. When he's drunk, he's less stable than a busted rocking chair 🤣
@@southerncatlady 🤦🏾♀️🤣👍🏾
Wild !!!!!! Mine sent me a photo with needle in his arm saying he needs treatment and when I asked he refused to tell me why 🙄
I realize now it was probably him donating blood
Wild !!!!
Woooow
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His been blocked for 6mnths & his not liking it. 😂
😆 stay safe
Thanks for that.
I finally feel proud of myself because after leaving my ex and blocking him, he once managed to get through to me on the phone.
And right off the bat he told me he was going to the hospital and he wanted me to pray for him!!!
I didn’t even say a word and instead I simply hung up.
And I don’t care if that did make him feel powerful because I now know he never was. He simply leveraged my empathic nature and childhood wounds to make me feel weak so he could pretend he was strong.
And I now know that that was never the case because otherwise he would never have tried to use my own powers against me.
And ultimately, he did me a favour because he made it crystal clear to me that I had a lot of healing to do which I may never have done if he hadn’t been so cruel and heartless.
So in the end, good really does triumph over evil 💪🏽
My husband and I tried to go NC with my MIL who has high narcissistic tendencies. This lady flew 3K miles across the country, said nothing to my husband, and drove by our house! We happened to be outside because we just got home and she stopped infront of our driveway and asked to talk. My husband said no then she smirked and said “no? Just thought I’d check” then sped off. When my husband tried to call her when we got into the house to set some more boundaries, he was blocked and his call went straight to voicemail!
A few weeks later, She then had the nerve to tell me that I was being “hyper vigilant” in her being there! No lady, you showed up to my house to prove a point. You don’t even know what hyper vigilant means 😂
Wooooooooow
Thank you for your vulnerability in your videos. It helps me heal to know that my ex-husband narcissist could actually feel emotions, including emotional pain. I don't mean this in a cruel way.
also check out Raw Motivations. he's REALLY vulnerable!!!! (and if i was his wife i'd be embarrassed at just how vulnerable he is telling all of their business, which makes HER look just as bad as him.) PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Once I saw through the narcissist it was like taking the red pill, I couldn’t go back to the delusion that they were nice people. The narcissist I know is always nice to me, but he may tell another friend to stfu. Then he may complement a complete stranger non-stop for 5 minutes over something minor, then flip off a lady driving out of the parking lot for getting in his way.
The best self defense is a lawyer that defends victims of domestic violence. That person is advising on matters that affect the future interests of the victim. They can help their client to benefit early and substantially. The more the victim is occupied in their recovery the sooner valuable coping skills are honed.
Its so true blocked my ex on all social media then I get a text out of the blue from him "I hope uve found happiness away from me" if that was true then he wouldn't be messaging me 🤣
I get ignored when he talks to someone else, or one of his so called friends isn’t mad at him. Let one of them ignore him over something stupid he said or did, guess who he calls! All winter he had one mad at him and he called me every other day, now they have kissed and made up. I didn’t give him a chance to ignore me again and told him how it was and I blocked him. I borrowed his caulking gun, took it back today, he was home, outbuilding was open, so I walked in laid it on his chair, and walked back to the car. He was in the house yelling at me to stay but I kept moving without saying a word.
Thank you soo much Lee. I have ignored my narcissist for over a year. I looked at your channel the other day, thinking how much I learned about NPD. I guess I was putting out too much energy, because he called that afternoon from another number. I did not recognize his voice at first.. He goes in on how he has been calling and I don't answer, wondering what happened to the relationship and kept turning it around to blaming everyone else and not taking accountability (everything he said was lie and had 3 women as back-up supply). He started promising what he was going to do in the future etc. I am the only one he loves, yada yada The little voice in my head was yours Lee. I hung up and blocked the number.
For 2 months his been ignored & his reached out asking me if I'm ok & being a big sook saying "it would be nice to hear from you" 🤣🤣🤣 I didn't respond 😂 then he said take care miss you 😂 a no response is a response in my own mind is like whatever. 🤣 His also sent me an invite to a game we used to play together well I didn't accept. Not giving him that power I'm in control now I'm loving it. Now he knows what it's like to be ignored. It's me time now my happiness & self love is more important.
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The awareness is on point, at the same time. So damn entertaining! I know there’s hope when I can get a laugh out of all of this.
Thank you 🙏🏽
You’re welcome
um-huh!!!
I've been giving my husband the same energy he is giving me...well this morning he comes in the room and stumbles to say he knows he hasn't been the best but he loves me and he wanted me to know that. I feel it took him everything just to get that sentence out!! And l keep telling myself just be that Grey rock!
Yes, stick with it. It's working. That's how I finally got out. Gray rock.
Lee, been a follower since the very begining of your channel, proud of your progress❤Keep Keepin it Straight👍😊
i had to pause this video because i couldn't hear over my laughter!!!!!!!!! dude IS A COMEDIAN!!!!!!! the difference between him and Ben Taylor is obvious! Taylor delivers RAW truths!!! no sugarcoating at all!!! this guy edutains with MUCH NEEDED AND APPRECIATED HUMOR. watch his video about what to do when you miss the narcissist. (i think that's the one.) HAD ME ON THE FRICKIN' FLOOR!!!! or just rewatch this video!!!!!
Just had this happen, the girl have been dating who I've noticed some pretty clear Narc behaviors, thought I was ignoring her, mind you I talk to her constantly, but I didn't reply to some texts in a time frame she wanted so then, I have "someone else". I think am done with this, super stressful over a bunch of nothing.
The "lurking"...Ya, it really is better to block or ignore them because even if you try to scare them off it's just attention they enjoy.
TRUST, he will NOT like the "attention" i give him IF he takes me there!!!! so PLEASE GOD do NOT let him take me there!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!
We still live in the same area and sometimes i meet her at the bus. Her new main supply is her colleague who is an enabler. He is really not a bad bad person. I think he is just a weaker person then her. Something she loves. I remember being introduced to him while dating her. Now that he is the main supply. I can see how exhausting it is. His face changed. U can litteraly see the darkness creeping on his face. Anyways. Ive noticed that she always has to talk loud enough for me to hear her. But ignoring it is the most calm and satisfying thing ever.
Like. I understand this healing part so well now. As long as i focus and keep building my own life. It doesnt matter what the narc wants or says or do. They are prisoners in their own minds. And their shackles are their depravity and cheating, things like that keeps you chained to materialism. Undigested emotions. Unconfronted traumas to heal. I see it all so well. The healing part on my end sucks and is lonely af. But im getting more and more used to it and actually starting to enjoy things again.
@@TheShaqii good job. You will get there. It is lonely af. I get that believe me. I see my ex weekly at the gym. She acts indifferent and hugs everyone. Acts all kind and sweet. The new vic thinks he hit the lottery. Poor guy. He will be us one day soon. She talks loud and near me hoping I hear her good stuff. lol. She also tells acquaintances knowing they will tell me about her trips with the new Vic. I laugh now knowing she does it bc she hates i cut her off.
@ hang in there. Dont fall victim and feel sad for yourself. Just keep it real with yourself and proceed your own journey brother :) ive come to a point where i dont care/notice her existence anymore.
And keep seeing her for what she is. It will also open your eyes more and more. And the greatest thing ive learned so far.. no amount of sex or hugs or sweet talks can feel better then the freedom as an induvidual and the peace it brings.
I never realized how much peace and quiet time was needed in my own life untill i had to relearn to know myself again. And keep hitting the gym 🙏
I cannot wait for my 1 on 1 😂😂😂😅😅😅 if you allow them to Shenan they will Shenanigan!!
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Gonna use that one! 😂
Just like saying if you give them an inch they'll take a mile 😂
LOL yup shenanigans.
@@BashayG7175mine took a whole ocean 🌊‼️
Your cat is hilarious really cheered me up 😂
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He plays this BLOCKING game! Blocks and unblocks me and his daughter. Why? Wants to see if we’re still tryin to contact him?! Then ignore us and block again! Crazy making!
You both need to block him permanently don't give him a chance to do it again
The course was phenomenal!!!!! The 7 stages are a must know everyone. I felt so much awareness. All the confusion left.
1:43 absolutely it always is the first and last thing they think about. That it HAS to be someone else.
I wish you had been around 30 years ago. Your transparency on how a narcissist works would have saved me years of hurt 😞
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The covert narcissist I delt with thinks I'm going to chase him down.this country girl don't play games like they do.I stood up to mine and got the taste of how us country weman are.
NO acknowledgement is the best acknowledgement! Thanks Lee for these messages.
They can dish it out but can't take it.
All that silence for weeks sometimes. Then, when i stopped talking to him. He got worse. He started doing more and more things to provoke a response. All bc, i didn't acknowledge him. The same exact thing he did to me. I realized ignoring him was dangerous. I now give short answers. That seems to satisfy him for now. This man almost lost his mind.
I just started yesterday and he's already trying to make me talk
This is so true….Years ago, I was shown hospital bracelets and paperwork. Said had been trying to reach me and he was blocked…Showed up at my house…🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Oh dang
Yes, acting like I was the worst human being to ever lived...@@MentalHealness
Lol 😆
Careful, they can get doctors to forge 'evidence paperwork'
He would've been standing out that door for hours. Or call the cops to have him removed next time
So on point . Thank you and God bless.
OMG THE ACCURACY 😂 but the fact that it’s true is 💔
My son's father once sent me a picture of a car crash trying to guilt me into talking to him. Mind you it was a Google image of the same kinda car that he drove..
Mine would pop up near my job. I just so happened to look out of the window one evening and he was literally looking right at me! Normally he'd go through the drive thru but nooo, he was inside eating and watching me. When he left the restaurant and walked to his car, it was the slowest walk I've ever seen because this man always walks with a sense of urgency just to appear to be busy. He fumbled with his keys for like 5 minutes just to be seen, then he looked back at me and finally got in his car and left. I'm on day 5 of no contact and he finally broke down and text me today. Nope, didn't respond...rerurn to sender 🙅🏽♀️
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Yup. He will threaten to unalive himself or that he’s in serious trouble and needs help because he knows that I am a good person and care. Or that he’s “all alone and will die alone”. I just keep ignoring. He’s stalked me for two years for cutting him off to protect myself from his torture and abuse. He tries to flip it around and says he’ll never forgive me for leaving him when he was the one who literally tortured me. It’s really so sad but it isn’t my fault. It isn’t my responsibility to heal him.
My ex husband is him! He to this day is a sociopathic covert narc and will pull the false abuse cards or how" he made me and my kids worlds."
Thats called a Grudge driven hoover is when the narc wants to gain access to u in order to punish u for what u done in their mind. He definitely wants to even the score now so change ur number or keep blocking him but never reply or engage
@@HolisticHealing77same here I have two kids except we were everything except his world looking back me and my kids came second to last everything was so pleasing to him everything that made him happy even if it hurted me or his kids
They DO try to force being acknowledged.
It's creepy
@@Toni-1of1very creepy mines was very demanding to like he had to control everything from the music and having sex with him I felt like a sex slave because he demanded it after he done something bad to me another form of control van he would find a way to blame me
Yes definitely
I rejected and ignored him during the love bombing “I like you stage”, due to my trauma and ran away. He started hoovering me through a mutual friend who became a flying monkey. I’m hoping he will forgive and forget and not seek revenge or a hook up but I’m told they don’t let go. We didn’t even get to the first stage of a possible thing. He shows all the signs of being a covert. SMH…
When you ignore them. Their reaction will have everything to do w whats going on in their present life. If they need your help like money / housing etc.. So if their contacting you in need. And you ignore them they are likely to feel rage
I just BLOCKED
Good!!! KEEP IT THAT WAY!!!💕
Stay safe
Regular people think the same way about being ignored and I'm dating a narcissist it really works both ways I've been ignoring my narcissist and she clearly doesn't care because she already has a new supply that she's been hiding from me for 2 months now or longer I've already found pictures of dudes with specific landmarks in her ceiling we will call it, she plays games and creates mysteries for me to solve as if she wants me to break up with her because she doesn't have the mental capacity of a normal person to do it normally herself.
I did all the above and yes! They popped up on my job! They stocked me it’s pretty creepy pretty scary they don’t know me like that they don’t know what I’m like when I don’t like narcissist bullies I don’t like any of those and so you are so right
My ex love has a diagnosis. 5 months ago he called and asked what I wanted to fight about. I said nothing and told him to have a good morning. I also told him I loved him. Since that day neither one of us ever talked again. I AM SO CONFUSED. We had 4 years of a serious relationship. It was horrific on my end daily but I only tried to see the good in him. He started a serious rumor about me after that and I've been thinking about it 24/7 since. How is he holding out this long?
Narcissist don't care if you love them, don't ever tell him that again bc what he hears is IM WEAK. he's started a rumor about you bc he wants u to call him and ask him what his problem is... that's called a reverse hoover, he views u not reaching out as a betrayal and he's punishing you for it. Which proves he's always been an enemy. Stay no contact no matter what
If he’s a true narcissist, he has supply from somewhere else. They can barely live without it.
Lee.you are our number 1 coach to help us through and understand about narcissist
LOL OMG!!! Lee, my ex-narc does this! When he goes into the hospital, he will post photos of him hooked up to oxygen and wants all his FAKEBOOK friends to comment and tell him that they are "praying" for him. He's also hoping that our mutual friends will reach out to tell me that he's in the hospital so I can call and check on him. Hell! I never called and checked on him when he was in the hospital while we were living under the same roof, so I'm definitely not checking on him now. 😂 And NO ONE even tells me that he's in the hospital because everyone knows he does it for attention and won't even do what the doctors tell him to do. He's the only person I know who goes into the hospital on a Monday, gets out on Friday afternoon and is out in the streets by 5pm Friday and is gone all night long.
Lol i thought it was me when i told my mom that they love attention we have neighbor who falls out with everybody, his foot forever broken and always have ppl catering to him and constantly turning new people or new neighbors against me when he sees im kool with them
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@len1045678 I used to tell him that he only posts that he's in the hospital because he wants attention. They would tell him to follow the doctors orders, to stop smoking, and to stop being out in extreme weather conditions that cause him to keep going to the hospital. I would tell people to quit wasting their time telling him what to do because he's not going to do it because all he wants is attention. I grew up with him, and he was the SAME then (attention seeker) and is the same today. A leopard never changes its spots!
@MsFox2u yes cause been able to be care for is where they get their supply from otherwise ppl wouldnt pay them mind
I dealt with the crazy Facebook crap
I was blocking her about 5 Times. Didn't work out. I prefer to ignore. Act like nothing happens. I am already dead inside
It took 10 years for me to figure out if I was gonna live I had to leave he was making me sick and telling me he was the only person who loved me that my family didn't want me I was in such bad health I was ready for the boneyard but since I've been gone my health has improved and I'm not dead I've found myself again and I'm alive I want to thank you for your help
He thought I blocked him, ended up sending crazy texts to me and my roommates 2 weeks later and dropped off a bunch of stuff I "forgot" at his place on my landlords back porch since they live on the first floor... The "stuff" was super old groceries like bread thats been sitting in his freezer for 4+ months. The texts he sent me were super controlling like "you better go get that stuff, dont dawdle" (literally said dont dawdle yall what) meanwhile the ones he sent my roommates were really sweet like "i just wanted to make sure she gets that stuff back could you please tell her..." none of us responded and I waited a long time before going out there in case he was waiting. I thought i'd hear from him again after that but I think that was the final blow his ego needed.
😅😅😅 I am so sorry
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Danke!
you’re welcome
My ex denied my existence so I do the same. Completely act like i don't see him. Why this dummy still coming round here?! I kno it ain't for his child
He sees u as a challenge, your rejection fuels him to do it. He doesn't want u winning
My ex told me, after being separated for 6 years, that we should get back together because he had been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and was told he would die within 10 years and he wanted to get to know his son. I told him no. I never heard from him again. That was 30 years ago. He is still alive and kicking.
I Love what you do Lee. I truly believe your intentions are so genuine. I follow you always. You have helped me sooo much ❤
I see videos like this, like Nameless Narcissist, Cluster B milkshake, Spirit narc, the bat wolf anf it makes me wonder that these narcs are helping so much people out there. Victms want and NEED to understand what they went through to heal. In my case, finding out that this is a pathology and studying it helped me so much. As a spiritual being i can’t help thinking everything has a purpose in life. I believe in treatment. I believe in healing for us and for them. I don’t think they are monsters. But I stand by the afirmation: NO CONTACT for victms who can afford that. That is what saved me. For narcisists I wish they heal what caused them trauma. I wish a new start. I wish healing. ❤
You have to be careful so you don't end up like me I thought I can heal mold and change my except he only changed me it's going to be hard for me to trust and love anyone after the terrible things I experienced with him healing takes Time and Time heals all wounds I learned that after divorce in my high school love just to end up being hurt even more by a narcissist for 14 years
😂😂😂 I Completely stopped listening once your cat got in the window lol 😂
Lee, you are different. You are a good gut. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
My sister left her boyfriend in the hospital, just walked out. I was soo proud of her. He was a POS.
I'm proud of your sister. Hope she stays strong. We all have to put our feet down with these narcs so they stop getting away with it.
Hi Lee
My name is Stacy and I’m an Aquarius and I was going with this person that’s name is William and he is a Gemini.
Well I didn’t know that he was a narcissist but been around him for 15 years and in the last 2 years I have found out that he is a narcissist.
He had stolen my car and broke my windshield 2 times and took my tennis shoes and he ran off with some of my money.
Then he started hitting on me but got caught hitting on me.
From June 2023 til March 2024 there has been a danko order on him but it will be over soon.
But I know he’s watching me on Facebook but he’s not saying anything to me.
But I do love him and I miss him but what to do because I’m glad that I don’t have to worry about him doing anything to me .
But I know he is out there with some one else.
I got so trumatized by him that I don't feel like to talk to him anymore, problem is I am married and I don't know if I am pregnant by him or not.
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That happened to me for years ago with narc things wasn't so well and I got pregnant with my now about to be 5 year old daughter and and he took that as an opportunity to dog me was having a full-blown affair with a girl at the job that knew about me and everything it got really ugly I took him back and forgave him seems like he was doing good for 2 years back to the same game so now it's over for good I had to make that sacrifice because I was 38 years old no help from family I already had three other kids and I needed help with the baby it was during covid but my baby was born right before covid started and I haven't been able to be as successful as I was before I've been working part time from Covid to now it's going to get easier as my baby will be able to stay at school all day which will give me more time to work and make more money and keep my mind off of him 14 years and two kids I had enough of his games but the kids are stuck in the middle I love them but I had to fake it till I can make it
This is true, ignoring them builds them….i ignore him he starts ignoring the kids, no connection no interaction with them at all, he will just walk by with devilish smirk, he starts doing things more crazier now, like coming home from the club 8am or gone for whole weekend👀🧐
Whew take the kids and run !
Hey Lee, can you talk about how to interact with a narc for co-parenting purposes. I have to co-parent with my covert narc ex-husband. He'll make agreements with me & reneg on the same agreement. I haven't requested child support yet; but, I will because this is not working. When he was trying to get access to me & our child needed something, I could ask him, and he would provide it. But, now he's hooking up with his ex-wife (same woman he cheated on me with). I think it might be sinking in that I don't want him because now he's being an a**hole & trying to exert control. Anyway, any tips you can give would be helpful. If I had my way, he would not be in our child's life. He is super toxic and doesn't have good judgment when it comes to women; but, our child likes him. Plus, he has rights, so I can't legally stop him from being around our son.
My sociopathic covert narc ex husband has yet to date. (Or at least disclose he is bringing any romantic partner around her)We share 50/50 with our 6 year old. I am curious what Lee says too! Glad you got away.
Firm parenting plan, specific drop off location, only communicate in parenting app or text only, limit to 1x a week- don’t speak at drop off
U can also limit contact to email. My new favorite phrase “ I will not have unproductive conversations “ then no replies afterwards
Thanks for your honesty!
3:24 mine sent me a $1 on cash app just to lie and tell me he was in the hospital.
I took the dollar and never responded.
However, 3 years later, I broke and contacted him. Like an idiot!!!
I finally made it!!!! i could not ressist her but i really made up my mind its the best thing i ever done but let me also say she has acces to me from mail but she dont email anymore
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@@MentalHealness ❤️💪thanks
My narc tried to turn off my cell phone and took the insurance off my car after he moved out with bo warning whil living with his new woman. He randomly came to my place with her and police to take away the disabled car he bought for my mom
Crazy😂
There is no room for them in my head for him!
Ohh so true - he was with every girl who said hi to him - I haven’t been near anyone else in + 22 years he was my LAST - but ohh boy he got so much worse when I ignored him - blocked him on EVERYTHING- including emails
I'm starting therapy today
Best decision!! She will advise no contact like mine did! Best way to break the trauma bond and gain your strength back and finding your way back to your self. REMEMBER, give yourself grace!! It’s a journey!!
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Good luck to you 🫂❤️💪🏽
I was told to block my narcissistic mother but I found it hard to do so am I been cruel if I block her ?
NOOOO I BLOCKED MY PSYCHOPATH NARC FATHER SINCE 2003, keep coming bk around and in 2019 i finally blocked him for good, he’s smearing my name all kinds of lies, telling family members and close friends that i did a seggs change to a man🧐👀 i am not giving him no energy he’s just making it worse, now im telling everyone who wants to know the evil he is, he’s getting old and getting worse, looking like effin smeegle from lord of the rings……thinking he’s still “young and handsome” chasing little girls🧐👀
Depends. Do you care more about yourself or someone who wouldn't give you the same consideration? My mother is a malignant narcissist, so I get it. It's hard to let go of the hope someone will change.
I work with my narcissistic/toxic ex. Blocked her and I’m ignoring her so far so good lol.🤞🏾
I recently left an abusive and toxic relationship. It's been 3 weeks since I left my ex but this past week, they have been emailing me saying strange things like someone is messing with our relationship and saying if I love them, I'll reach out to them as well as making statements about moving to Texas with their sister. I just blew it off and didn't respond to any of it. The other day I discovered that they hacked my email and changed the password. I made a new email and decided to let that email go. I am still afraid that they might end showing up at my house. I don't know want to do anymore. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
This popped up right on time. Been NC and still getting calls and vm left to my blocked messages. I know if I turn back it’ll just be a million times worse. 🥴 I’m good.
😂😂😂😂 FAKE TUBES IN THE NOSE AND MOUTH🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 WHOOOO CHILE, I AM ABOUT TO FAINT FROM LAUGHING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lee, I love the color black and I love cats. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
I never thought narcissists would pull the whole I’m vulnerable, I need help type of thing but that’s become her MO. She knows that I have always tried to take care of her so now every time I hear from her she’s got some horrible thing that’s happening to her and I’m heartless if I don’t come to her rescue even though we are no longer together. It’s an ongoing thing to pull at my heart strings and prove I’m a good person because she always tells me I’m not. I heard something recently that made things snap into place: “if the devil exists, he will do his best to make you feel sorry for him.”
Love watching your videos I’ve learned and confirmed so much. I love when you do that narcissistic voice it hilarious