I’m glad I searched “INTJ adhd”. You are one of the only ones who has posted anything on this. I have both as well and female. I feel like some INTJ traits read sort of interchangeably with ADHD. I have the type of ADHD called overfocus. It makes it so hard to move from one thing to the next and a flood of thoughts interrupting it all
Yes, some INTJ tendencies can mimic ADHD symptoms for sure. I (and perhaps you as well) am probably more of a space cadet than other INTJs without it. That INTJ and ADHD hyper focus though...1/2 superpower 1/2 the reason I struggle to keep up with the dishes. Thanks for commenting! Let me know if there is something specific you'd like me to discuss about being an INTJ with ADHD.
I’m sorry that people won’t take time to understand you for who you are. You’re enough and if other people don’t appreciate you, that’s on them! I enjoy youre videos! I’m an INFP but wanted to learn about INTJ females and honestly you’re an interesting person! You seem kind, honest and very intelligent! I’m happy you’re back and hope people in the future will give you the appreciation you deserve 💖
Thank you for the support and your kind words. My goal is to turn UA-cam into my job, trying out Pateron and really building a community. I'm glad that I seem to resonate so well with none INTJs. We have a lot to learn from each other.
Relate to this! --> "Perceiving a lot of attention as bad." I agree, I "don't want to be observed" especially on a personal level. I've realized that I often assume other people are highly critical of me, even if they are not, or don't care about me. People close to me have told me, "just stop caring what other people think." However, there's an important distinction here: I don't necessarily "personally care" what people think about me, but, I am still "perceiving that they are critical of me" and naturally this is unpleasant.
Agreed. My INFP friend used to tell me to stop caring what others think, and it was a struggle to get him to understand that I don't. As you know, it's frustrating or even upsetting when someone sees you in a way that you don't see yourself. Then we go into analyzing mode to find where the disconnect happened so it can be avoided or FIXED. We, INTJs, are fix it people. I can go into a deep dark hole picking things apart simply to learn from it and...even twist it into my favor depending on the situation. In regards to my personal life, it was really distressing to me as a child when adults were telling me who I was, but it sounded nothing like me. Thanks for the comment!
Someone complimented me on losing weight today and my first thought was “why are they looking at me like that?” It’s so exhausting how much attention people pay to things like that
I am an INTJ female with adhd as well. Your video has given me comfort and strength. I am glad to know there are others who understand the struggles because no one around me does. They just call me lazy and ungrateful. Most of my friends have recently decided to start hating the things they used to love about me including my best friend of 13 years who has decided to ostracize me along with our college friends of 3 years. And I'm also living with the same people who have been pretending like I don't exist for the past 5 months, all because they didn't like some jokes I made for which I even apologized. I'm depressed and I can't get out of bed most days but no one gets it. They think I'm making excuses and tell me to "just get up"
I can't express how much I hate every single bit of the workplace ethic that supports only E* types and level of effort it takes to keep functioning using logic to defend one's reputation and distance from others. Single thing that keeps me running is understanding that I want to make financial autonomy and dedicate rest of time to things I deem important: books, feeding birds, taking long walks or whatever untreated ADHD demon decides. Thank you for making this video, your content has been a great source of inspiration. I hope that you can find power in being yourself fully, quitting your job some day and becoming a full-time manager of your own time. It's a question about the strategy and I heard that INTJs have some type of genius for it after all.
I'm really struggling with 'muting myself' most of my life. I'm trying to break free and show myself more. Thanks for your videoand showing that other INTJs have the same problems.
Oh, I believe this is a universal struggle. There are some who seem to just naturally fit into society, but I've always wondered how genuine that is. From what I've personally observed, those who care more about the opinions of others are merely better at sculpting themselves to situations. That's not a natural instinct to an INTJ and it really put me into a state of depression just simply trying. Lesson learned, however. Break free and show what and how much of yourself as you want. I'm on the same journey, so who knows where we'll be by this time next year if we just keep going :)
I'm an Intj who has fetal alcohol effects and adhd. It's frustrating and sometimes i feel less than because i feel i should more efficient but sometimes I'm not.
Hello! INTJ male with ADHD. This is the only video I've seen of yours (at the time of writing this). I can immediately tell why people come to your videos. I felt seen right away. So much of this resonated with me. I'm 41, I was diagnosed at 39. I don't like attention either. I just put my mask on and fly under the radar. When I do go above & beyond and get praised. I just brush it off and just say "sure", "No problem", "of course, it's my job.". As people with adhd and past traumas. We have a people pleaser mentality. The INTJ part of us means we can usually find a way. It gives us that hit of dopamine to make someone else happy. When we fail, it hits harder. Especially when we don't get constructive feedback. The worst thing someone could do to us is not communicate at all. We only try to survive, because it's all the energy we have left after helping others thrive. On a side note. You mentioned the thing about shoes. I kind of hate saying it, because they sponser so many channels and podcasts. Vesi shoes are actually really good. I can even wear them without socks. Because fck socks and that stupid seam. They have a bit of stretch so no pinching. I ordered my normal size. They were a bit tight at first but now fit snug in a great way.
It's really important to know you aren't going crazy in this crazy world of ours. When I listen to you speak, I hear you ask questions that I ask myself. I identify with your struggle seeking the answers to similar issues I have. Even though we aren't interacting directly, I get more benefit watching you rant for a few minutes than I do from hours with my therapist. Having said that, I just spent about 15 minutes thinking in my head about what to write next and playing out different scenario's of how a conversation would go if I could spend an hour talking with you. That's how rants get started I suppose lol. As an INTJ I find we are able to jump from tangent thought to tangent thought very easily. You start talking about A then B then C etc and end up on Q. I know I will get along with someone if they can follow along without getting lost or someone is just willing to get lost with me.
Thank you for taking the time to write something so heartfelt. Funnily enough, I was chatting with a friend about starting Patreon. I want to be able to have a real chat with all of you, so let me know if you have any ideas! I'm pretty disconnected from the internet lol
Why I'm here watching your videos: 1) Being married to an INTJ female who had a very rough childhood where she was not much liked, I see the same spirit of resilience in you - that Ni-Te "Yes, I WAS right to believe in myself all along" that preserves your identity and lets you flourish in adulthood. And it was wonderful to see that in someone else to help understand my wife more. So I've seen a parallel struggle. (And I'm sorry your current boss is like that.) 2) IIRC from another video, we are in adjacent areas of public service; I give legal advice to a government office similar to yours. I like that connection. And now 3) I'm autistic and navigating all sorts of things that come with it. (I thought I was doing very well with that, but a breakdown last week means I'm getting off the mat right now, with a lot of possible life changes.) So that's what I see in you.
Thank you. I'm honestly surprised by the support I see in this video, and that says a lot about where my head has been. Unfortunate, but I am feeling excited to connect with all of you. I think it's time I stop isolating myself when I used to long to not be isolated. A bit of a self fulfilling prophecy, I suppose. Also, there was talk between me and a therapist about autism. I never explored beyond that.
7 years of successfully working for a company only to be given a bad review 2 weeks ago because new coworkers had no idea what was going on and instead of finding out or getting to know me, they decided to tell stories and blame me for a bunch of stuff. Now I have been told I have 90 days to basically become "nicer." I want to send this video to my boss🤦♀. INTJ, ADHD female with a degenerative physical condition. Tired of the nonsense. Thank you for sharing.
I had searched for adhd and intj in the search box to find this video as first, I couldn't believe some one would actually make a video that would be so accurate. I have a lot of trouble putting up with social standards. And like you I've only kept Instagram that I rarely go on. I had a similar problem at my workplace but people where so shit that I refused to put up with them and quit after few months. It's not easy when people keep making enemity with me for their jealousy, insecurity and selfish reasons.
I am also an INTJ and also have ADHD - but I get to work from home. I couldn't believe how amazing it was to get out of an office environment, thanks to covid. I Can't Believe It's Not Butter has a plant-based butter, which is pretty good. My boss is chill - she pretty much leaves me alone. Don't sell yourself short - INTJ ladies are the coolest.
I’m INFJ with ADHD and is also the rarest personality. I have all the same health issues. Yep we are different so people are unaccepting. I am SO TIRED of people! I have a wall that no one can get through and people can’t handle that. Well it’s there because of them…duh! I don’t give off a friendly open feeling to people so what I get in return of minding my own business is the worst of the worst side of people. They don’t listen or believe in me. They say the rudest things to my face and I’m never rude to them. I’m just minding my own business. Why can’t they just leave me alone! They don’t no me nor do I want them to. I’ve had a rejected unloving childhood and therefore I don’t trust anyone. And well, no one has lead me to believe I should. I believe in myself and my abilities and whither they do or not I don’t care. People NEVER understand me and I do believe our personality type has a lot to do with it but come on people….I mean really, if u don’t get me them stay the hell away! I’m sick of trying to convince people I’m right and that my opinion matters and that I matter. They will NEVER hear me! They will NEVER see ME! FINE, but I won’t EVER accept their conceded nasty rudeness! I’m done! I don’t ever let anyone get by with it anymore! I’m not rude and nasty back only because I don’t want to stoop to their level but I do tell it how it is with stern conviction. I literally say it in away that makes them feel bad for their behavior toward me. ONLY Then will they leave me alone. They absolutely despise me for pointing out their stupidity and they literally hate me for it, well to bad u got what u deserve! Never let people get by with rudeness n stupidity. They will learn they can’t mess with you. Keep being you! There is nothing wrong with us it’s more a thing people don’t understand us….. they NEVER will! They don’t no ANYTHING about us! I just do my thing. I can care less what others think. Sorry I’m SUPER ANGRY and FED UP…..WITH PEOPLE! IM NOT HERE FOR THEM! I no I give off bad energy but that’s NO EXCUSE for peoples behavior towards me! NO EXCUSE!!!
I've come to realize that our faces and how we naturally move can seem odd or rude to others. It really does make for confusing reactions, especially if in a customer service type job. These days I revel in how I unnerve people by not becoming fired up or at times even giving a reaction. If someone comes looking for a fight and we don't give it, they tend to not know how to cope lol Thank for your comment and the support. Try to be level headed if not to further enrage the people acting like they own the world.
I’m really glad your channel is doing so well! So proud of you, man. To answer your question at the end, I’ve been your friend for most of our lifetime. I gotta support any way I can. Plus it’s nice to hear your rants, I don’t hear from you much anymore personally. Edit: not that you’re to blame for the lack of contact. I blame myself and losing track of life, moreso.
We'll be friends for life even if we one day stop talking completely. But I made you suffer by showing you what they've done to YuYu Haskusho on Netflix not too long ago. You're good :) You got that married life and kids (counting dog and cat). We're busy people!
I stumbled upon your channel while looking through some stuff on INTJ. This is your 2nd video I watched till the end this week. When I turned on your videos, all the words that you said somehow is a reflection of what I feel inside. Even if it's negativity, it sort of click with me. I am somewhat just like in your position in my workplace presently. Having a boss that won't listen to my explanation and experiencing stress + anxiety after never-ending bad things happening all at the same time and that just triggers all the bad memories of people associating me being different as something weird and considering me as an outcast just because I operated on a different spectrum. And I think that the idea of making a Patreon channel is a wonderful idea. I'm actually intrigued of seeing and talking to another INTJ, feels like listening to another me talking, and makes me wonder "do I really look like that when I'm angry?". That INTJ icy cold fire energy. No wonder people are afraid of me 🙃 And welcome back to UA-cam, Niki, I love the ending.
I actually debated posting this video while editing because I wasn't sure if I was too fired up, but like I said - I'm not muting myself anymore. I do have a Pateron I briefly made. I think I currently have it at $3 monthly. I need to learn more about how they work, but I definitely would love to do some lives and hangout with everyone who's interested.
14:25 "...why do you turn my videos on and listen to me?" Hello Niki, I've watched a couple of your vids and if I had to guess why I watch your channel, it is because it is 'relatable' and I get this sensation of 'YESSSSSSSSS, EXACTLY!' that I rarely experience with another person (which is partly why I love MBTI so much, the other part is as a tool). The place I worked before my most recent job I was told to smile more and stop wearing black by telling me 'Wear a different color'. In my opinion, I think you're benevolent, fair and approachable. Don't worry too much about people that criticize and judge unfairly (especially if it's based-on gossip and a person declining LITERALLY the information from the subject(you) itself) because from my experience those are folks that cannot accept someone being different from them in a way that they don't like (which is a pretty complex thing, especially how you mentioned how their liking of you 'changes' when it is in their interest(and often the average interests are dysfunctional to their well-being) versus not lol)
I so feel your pain when it comes to work. In my experience over the years, very very few managers should be managers. Most of the management at my job are useless. I have learned to never bring up issues to them because they don't want to hear it. They just want their paycheck and don't want to actually earn it, that's the sad reality. It's frustrating when I try to give them a solution to a problem but they don't care. They also like to ignore me or treat me like I don't have a brain.
I believe most of us are in the same boat, but some externalize their unhappiness more than others. I used to be in management, and I dealt with a lot from higher ups. I see bad attitudes spread and ruin work environments all the time.
ENTJ managers can by great at marketing and business strategy, but sadly often are unable to hire the right assistants and fail to see leadership qualities in others
@@nikiyikes5674 Both INTJ and INTP women are extremely rare, and I suspect that it is for that reason that we are not good fits for many of our supervisor’s. I do like that as an INTP female, people often don’t know how to either react around me, and neither have any idea of how to use my skill set, let alone recognize any of my talents
@NikiYikes, I was going to strongly recommend you try an elimination diet then when I head the plant butter I guess you might be Vegetarian? Well if you can eat meat for a bit, then just eat meat and then see if your migraines go away. If they do, great and slowly add foods back in SLOWLY and see when your migraines return. I am also ADHD+INTJ (plus a little Dyslexic) probably and I don't think I've ever had a migraine, headaches on occasion.
You said “I don’t know why people click or watch.” I’m sure I’m an outlier as I clicked by mistake, but then your style of communication was engaging and familiar. I meant to look up INFJ & ADHD for a friend. I was listening for a little bit before realizing you said T not F. But by then I was drawn in. I’m a 64 year old ENFP-T (former stand-up comic, now “surviving” in the corporate world). Also at 64 finally diagnosed ADHD so from that perspective I totally get that communication style- because it drives a lot of people crazy to deal with mine.
So sorry you have been going through all of this. I think not enough attention is given to how debilitating chronic migraines are, and I agree that it is impressive that you rise above that and many other challenges. I don’t know why people have to be so critical. I was drawn to your channel because I seem to have more than my fair share of INTJs that are close to me, and I am interested in why they gravitate to me and we get along so well when they don’t enjoy spending time with most people. Most INTJ related content here exaggerates certain characteristics to perpetuate stereotypes, for entertainment value I guess, but your videos are the best insights I have seen, and you express things very well. I appreciate learning more about INTJs also so I can be better equipped to provide for the needs of the INTJs I know. Each person is different, an individual, but there are still some common threads as a result of being an INTJ, and many INTJs seem to be misunderstood and have to deal with a lot of strife from people. You have helped me to understand better how to try and be supportive for INTJs.
Hi Nick! You must have a way with INTJs because I'm always delighted to see your comments. And THANK YOU! I grow irritated anytime people are placed into boxes as if we're all the same when we aren't. I'm actually quite "soft" and "emotional" compared to what INTJs are stated to be, and it drives me bonkers - honestly. I'm straight up like a 5 year old anytime I'm in the presence of candy. So what? Still an INTJ in the end. Also, when someone asks me how to best be supportive I only ever ask for 2 things. 1) Act normal And 2) Make me a cup of tea
❤U. My friend had Chronic Migrains. Found out he had a little hole in his heart that was letti g tiny air bubbles through his lungs. Got a "simple?" heart patch and never had a migrain again. I can imagine how many other promblems that hole caused and that the repairing fixed also. Please check this ASAP. 😘
Thank you for sharing. My doctors haven't noticed anything unusual (but ADHD is known to cause headaches among other things). I'll keep that in mind and will mention it during my next doctors appointment.
I'm an INTJ (some friends think I'm an INFJ in a near-permanent Ni-Ti Loop, which is possible, however I'm often typed as INTJ) 6w5 that struggles with this too. Especially after the collapse of my career following covid. I'm in the process of a diagnosis with ADHD. I have High-Functioning Autism too.
Hi, if you don’t mind me asking, what variant of ADHD do you have? I have ADHD-PI and I am having trouble figuring out if I’m an INFP or INTj, even after studying the functions. Do you also love reading like me but have trouble doing it?
I wanna be diagnosed since I STRONGLY suspect I have ADHD too. I totally relate lol (intj, migraines, the fight to survive the day to day.) At some of my worst points a phrase I always found myself repeating in my head is "I tried SO hard." It physically hurt how much I tried to fulfill the basic quota of the day that came so easily to others. It's hard explaining why I'd get panic attacks at work (during lunch break lol) due to the constant overstimulation. Coworkers thought I was unfriendly cuz I'd just shut down (or the opposite, I was insanely friendly.) the mask was always on either extreme. Your new boss not bothering at all to know you goes against everything I've come to value. I love learning from informed authority, it's great! But an absentminded ego who doesn't give a crap enrages me more than average. I like your channel since I relate to the bizarre state of standing out when you're trying SO HARD to be NORMAL. I create art and unmask. Your UA-cam can provide that and it's refreshing. It makes sense in my brain. Your trains of thought are engaging and interesting. Female ADHD is so good at observing what others miss. Im on a job hunt now and I really hope your channel will flourish since it's a needed outlet for the injustice of having such a lame ass boss. This is also a rant, but I wanted to explain why I liked your content both by how I relate and by your honesty and humor. Anyone who told u you're stupid is straight up wrong, you're literally processing so much it would make yr average Joe's head overheat and roll right off lol!
I'm really hoping I can turn this channel into a full time job, and it's comments like yours that make me feel like It's within reach if I work hard enough. This isn't advice because nothing is worse than advice you didn't ask for, but in regards to ADHD - A diagnosis would be needed for medication, but perhaps look into methods and tricks you can do now to help with focusing and organization. I don't know about you, but I am a natrually chaotic person, and it takes effort to stay on task and remember important things. Medication won't fix everything...unfortunately . I'm sure you already have things you do to help with those things, though. Thank you for your support and good luck with the job search! They're agonizing.
@@nikiyikes5674 I'm sure you'll be able to turn this into a full-time job, you've already started and hopefully stubbornness will see you through to finishing it lol 😂 That's how some of my bigger projects have actually been finished since the pressure of an audience really unlocks something productive in me. Anyways, thanks for your ADHD advice! Makes me less anxious to get diagnosed and start doing something about it now. I'll add to that, I really hope you make videos about ADHD and practical advice! Not just feel good stuff, but the trial and error of routines and rituals that have or haven't worked.
@@emberflash1641 That's a great idea! I'm still learning myself, but it seems that seeing my struggles helps others more than portaying an image of having everything figured out.
SAME HERE! I get everything you are saying. I am a middle school teacher and have somehow become a public speaker. It is painful. I'm getting a computer science degree so I can work alone at home and not have to deal with this in my daily life.
INTP here. It is actually extremely difficult to either dislike, or like certain individuals unless I meet them in real life. Many people don’t show their real selves over the Internet. Anyways … I can relate to what you’re saying, albeit I’m not an INTJ, because I have always been misunderstood. I have been frequently been accused of being rude, arrogant, and an odd ball. I also have ADHD, but hasn’t been diagnosed till I was already an adult, as so little was known back in the 1970’s and 80’s.
I have some opinons about Myer Briggs that may be surpising. You don't need to be INTJ to be like or very similar to an INTJ. ANY personailty type can be misunderstood, organized, chaotic, so forth. We're more complex than 4 letters. I plan on doing a video about this topic at some point :)
As an Intj male with adhd too I really feel your struggles I realate with alot of what you mention It's a personal hell of its own sometimes but I've learned too accept I just am who I am. I subbed to Btw!
Am glad to have searched this, i feel in some ways very similar, i have Diagnosticed medical adhd and i take madication am not very hyperactive but sometimes i do and i have bad attention, but in other way my personality is Intj i dont know how precise is it would like to ask you how you organize yourself or if tou hace troubles, as an metafore having adhd is left you dont organize well and have troubles but intj is "right" because you want to organize yourself and have all "controlled" but that conflict is very desesperate for me sometimes k just cant organize my self but my inner me wants to abd is very stresrull, i dont want to be pretendous, i just saw or want to comment about something i find out in the video, i dont want rk be rude or say it is bad, it isnt but i think it cab cause limitations about thinking or thinking the others persinality se infp intj, estp, etc. I mean i think the reality is more complex and avoiding catogarizing people by their "myer briggs test" can lead you to think you cant change situations, thanks for the video its very recmfortable seeing am not the unique one.❤
Extraverted Sensation is the Inferior function of the INTJ, which commonly manifests as performance anxiety and fear of giving others a bad experience.
What's odd is that I don't have social anxiety. I genuinely care very little for how others percieve me in general. Yet, I HATE being the center of attention. Everytime I've had to go on stage to give speeches or perform, I just felt nothing but dread. Not fear of failure or being disliked. Just dread. I try to be better at handling the external world, but truthfully, it's a struggle. It's so loud. Thank you for commenting.
Great coffee MUG! coffee is healthy & with adhd it'll make us drowzy. at least it does me :) but if i have not had plenty of water ... it'll alter my sense of reality. which is kinda fun !
I don't remember what I was drinking here, but I'm more of a tea person. Coffee 100% pushes me straight into drowsiness and nausea (but it could have been all the sugar I put in it which is a migraine trigger for me...) Thanks for commenting!
Also also, I have a second channel when I hit 3K subs, so we could also discuss some yt crap, if you want to. Im sorry I just feel alone in this experience of yt x INT x female x ADHD x on the spectrum, and finding someone like you gave me so much hope
The comment sections sounds like an AA meeting. Hi My name is Z? and I'm an ADHD. Here is a take away not many people are aware of, the majority of people with true ADHD are also high IQ. That is how your work through your ADHD in many ways. Life lesson people who don't have ADHD can't know what it's like to have it, no matter how many ways you try to explain it. They can't experience it to understand it. Just like if you give someone your ADHD drugs they get high and bounce off the walls and we get calm and collective. Also people are intimidated by you try to work around that not with it it's an INTJ thing.
Funny that you mention the ADHD medication. It does make me calm and collected, and I always side-eye people when they mention the medicine making them hyper.
About you wondering why people watch your videos, here's my reason: I subscribed to your channel last year, just because I wanted to have access to an INTJ's perspective on whatever that person had to say, as I did with many other types as well. That's it. It's for the betterment of my understanding of typology. Anything is useful. Even rants haha It's your channel. You do what you will with it. Peace ✌
Carnivore Diet - Really helped my ADHD/ASD/Anxiety. I got healthy eating only fatty red meat, salt, water and animal products. Victory will be yours. 🙂
I spent a year at a job with a boss just like that who used the eyes and ears of others to make his opinion about me. He did not take into account their obvious biases and motivations. I went back to my old employer and I was recently promoted… it’s not you, I promise.
What even is normal? From what I see, very few people are “normal”. So, why the heck do people try to continue to place people into a box that very few people would ever fit in it?!?! Corporate jobs are where this really comes out the most, and it’s ridiculous. You shouldn’t be having to deal with all that kind of stuff at work.
Thank you so much for this video, Im, as many others here, a INTJ woman with ADHD, which I think is its own issue. You have all these ambitions, plans and expectations. And because you are INTJ you SEE how its suppose to be. and your brain just CANT do these simple isntructions that you give it. Being an INTj with ADHD is just on another level of hating yourself, the way no other type ever could.
Nevermind, she is dyslexic; Ne people tend to be hyperlexic. Ni people instead usually have cognitive strengths in visual spatial skills and spatial memory.
Allow me elaborate ...I also don't care about typos in almistcall situations. I dint like to take the time to go back and if it's not too bad then I expect the reader to be cool with it. I have attempted to care but it isn't Worth it. But I am genuinely sorry every time but it's not worth fixing. I am a published poet, I frustratingly have always Had ti share my papers in class as examples of what a great paper is and in college my eng professor sent a paper I wrote to my mom's house across the country wothiut my knowledge to showcase why I should be an English major ...it's not fun it's cruel I have no desire to write outside of when I feel like it and my passion is physics. Which I actually did have to work hard ti do so well in. Wtf is tgat even?
I finally found a new job with the things I require to be happy and healthy without putting all my energy into surviving toxicity. The moment I accepted the position I felt the full impact from working with that company for 1 year and 3 months...This is the shortest I've EVER held a position. In regards to the ADHD, I think the worst of it is my inability to keep up with the dishes.
Unfortunately the story of the "amazing boss that promotes up and their replacement is absolute garbage" is too common of a scenario in the corporate world. I'm truly sorry that this amalgamation of events is happening to you. I may not know you personally, but no decent person should have to cram their diamond selves through a circle peg hole just to survive. I am glad, however, that you chose to come back to youtube. To be honest, I'm not sure why I am drawn to your channel, but the fact that I am won't change anytime soon. I know you were ranting, but I'd like to reassure you: your observed deficiencies aren't that. Everybody has extremely unique circumstances to fight on this planet for the lives we live in. Only you can live life with your specific conditions. Hopefully taking back this realm of youtube helps your mental health in some way. Sorry these worthless words are the most I can do. But in the meantime, let the emotions run through, we do unfortunately need them every now and then haha. Stay safe
Not a single word here is worthless. Thank you for taking the time to show your support. If anything, the unhappiness I've been feeling has fueled me to really do something with my channel and to reach for this being my job instead of the regular 9 to 5. Coming back has me feeling much better already.
Well, that is part of what I desire to achieve with my UA-cam channel. There is a lot that goes into it, but I'm trying to learn methods of how to make money from this. Great advice!
I’m glad I searched “INTJ adhd”. You are one of the only ones who has posted anything on this. I have both as well and female.
I feel like some INTJ traits read sort of interchangeably with ADHD. I have the type of ADHD called overfocus. It makes it so hard to move from one thing to the next and a flood of thoughts interrupting it all
Yes, some INTJ tendencies can mimic ADHD symptoms for sure. I (and perhaps you as well) am probably more of a space cadet than other INTJs without it. That INTJ and ADHD hyper focus though...1/2 superpower 1/2 the reason I struggle to keep up with the dishes.
Thanks for commenting! Let me know if there is something specific you'd like me to discuss about being an INTJ with ADHD.
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I’m sorry that people won’t take time to understand you for who you are. You’re enough and if other people don’t appreciate you, that’s on them! I enjoy youre videos! I’m an INFP but wanted to learn about INTJ females and honestly you’re an interesting person! You seem kind, honest and very intelligent! I’m happy you’re back and hope people in the future will give you the appreciation you deserve 💖
Thank you for the support and your kind words. My goal is to turn UA-cam into my job, trying out Pateron and really building a community. I'm glad that I seem to resonate so well with none INTJs. We have a lot to learn from each other.
Relate to this! --> "Perceiving a lot of attention as bad." I agree, I "don't want to be observed" especially on a personal level. I've realized that I often assume other people are highly critical of me, even if they are not, or don't care about me. People close to me have told me, "just stop caring what other people think." However, there's an important distinction here: I don't necessarily "personally care" what people think about me, but, I am still "perceiving that they are critical of me" and naturally this is unpleasant.
Agreed. My INFP friend used to tell me to stop caring what others think, and it was a struggle to get him to understand that I don't. As you know, it's frustrating or even upsetting when someone sees you in a way that you don't see yourself. Then we go into analyzing mode to find where the disconnect happened so it can be avoided or FIXED. We, INTJs, are fix it people. I can go into a deep dark hole picking things apart simply to learn from it and...even twist it into my favor depending on the situation. In regards to my personal life, it was really distressing to me as a child when adults were telling me who I was, but it sounded nothing like me.
Thanks for the comment!
Someone complimented me on losing weight today and my first thought was “why are they looking at me like that?” It’s so exhausting how much attention people pay to things like that
I am an INTJ female with adhd as well.
Your video has given me comfort and strength.
I am glad to know there are others who understand the struggles because no one around me does.
They just call me lazy and ungrateful.
Most of my friends have recently decided to start hating the things they used to love about me including my best friend of 13 years who has decided to ostracize me along with our college friends of 3 years.
And I'm also living with the same people who have been pretending like I don't exist for the past 5 months, all because they didn't like some jokes I made for which I even apologized.
I'm depressed and I can't get out of bed most days but no one gets it.
They think I'm making excuses and tell me to "just get up"
I can't express how much I hate every single bit of the workplace ethic that supports only E* types and level of effort it takes to keep functioning using logic to defend one's reputation and distance from others. Single thing that keeps me running is understanding that I want to make financial autonomy and dedicate rest of time to things I deem important: books, feeding birds, taking long walks or whatever untreated ADHD demon decides.
Thank you for making this video, your content has been a great source of inspiration. I hope that you can find power in being yourself fully, quitting your job some day and becoming a full-time manager of your own time. It's a question about the strategy and I heard that INTJs have some type of genius for it after all.
I'm INTJ and I suspect I have ADHD because I have almost all the symptoms of ADHD, but at times I suspect I don't, I get quite confused LoL
I'm really struggling with 'muting myself' most of my life. I'm trying to break free and show myself more. Thanks for your videoand showing that other INTJs have the same problems.
Oh, I believe this is a universal struggle. There are some who seem to just naturally fit into society, but I've always wondered how genuine that is. From what I've personally observed, those who care more about the opinions of others are merely better at sculpting themselves to situations. That's not a natural instinct to an INTJ and it really put me into a state of depression just simply trying. Lesson learned, however.
Break free and show what and how much of yourself as you want. I'm on the same journey, so who knows where we'll be by this time next year if we just keep going :)
I'm an Intj who has fetal alcohol effects and adhd. It's frustrating and sometimes i feel less than because i feel i should more efficient but sometimes I'm not.
Be kind to yourself. Sometimes we can't rely on others for that kindness, but as INTJ's, we can push through. I hope you're doing okay.
Hello!
INTJ male with ADHD. This is the only video I've seen of yours (at the time of writing this). I can immediately tell why people come to your videos. I felt seen right away. So much of this resonated with me.
I'm 41, I was diagnosed at 39. I don't like attention either. I just put my mask on and fly under the radar. When I do go above & beyond and get praised. I just brush it off and just say "sure", "No problem", "of course, it's my job.".
As people with adhd and past traumas. We have a people pleaser mentality. The INTJ part of us means we can usually find a way. It gives us that hit of dopamine to make someone else happy. When we fail, it hits harder. Especially when we don't get constructive feedback. The worst thing someone could do to us is not communicate at all.
We only try to survive, because it's all the energy we have left after helping others thrive.
On a side note. You mentioned the thing about shoes. I kind of hate saying it, because they sponser so many channels and podcasts. Vesi shoes are actually really good. I can even wear them without socks. Because fck socks and that stupid seam. They have a bit of stretch so no pinching. I ordered my normal size. They were a bit tight at first but now fit snug in a great way.
It's really important to know you aren't going crazy in this crazy world of ours. When I listen to you speak, I hear you ask questions that I ask myself. I identify with your struggle seeking the answers to similar issues I have. Even though we aren't interacting directly, I get more benefit watching you rant for a few minutes than I do from hours with my therapist.
Having said that, I just spent about 15 minutes thinking in my head about what to write next and playing out different scenario's of how a conversation would go if I could spend an hour talking with you. That's how rants get started I suppose lol. As an INTJ I find we are able to jump from tangent thought to tangent thought very easily. You start talking about A then B then C etc and end up on Q. I know I will get along with someone if they can follow along without getting lost or someone is just willing to get lost with me.
Thank you for taking the time to write something so heartfelt. Funnily enough, I was chatting with a friend about starting Patreon. I want to be able to have a real chat with all of you, so let me know if you have any ideas! I'm pretty disconnected from the internet lol
I'm an intj with adhd as well. Just wanted to say ❤️❤️❤️❤️ u.
Stay awesome 😎😎
Why I'm here watching your videos:
1) Being married to an INTJ female who had a very rough childhood where she was not much liked, I see the same spirit of resilience in you - that Ni-Te "Yes, I WAS right to believe in myself all along" that preserves your identity and lets you flourish in adulthood. And it was wonderful to see that in someone else to help understand my wife more. So I've seen a parallel struggle. (And I'm sorry your current boss is like that.)
2) IIRC from another video, we are in adjacent areas of public service; I give legal advice to a government office similar to yours. I like that connection. And now
3) I'm autistic and navigating all sorts of things that come with it. (I thought I was doing very well with that, but a breakdown last week means I'm getting off the mat right now, with a lot of possible life changes.)
So that's what I see in you.
Thank you. I'm honestly surprised by the support I see in this video, and that says a lot about where my head has been. Unfortunate, but I am feeling excited to connect with all of you. I think it's time I stop isolating myself when I used to long to not be isolated. A bit of a self fulfilling prophecy, I suppose.
Also, there was talk between me and a therapist about autism. I never explored beyond that.
What is your MBTI type. I’m a female INTP, whom wasn’t well liked, misunderstood and had a rough childhood
@@sylviaowega3839 I'm also an INTP.
@@restlessmosaic Also my husband is an INTJ. Lol
Love the amount of honesty & transparency in this.
Thank you. I'm glad you like the video.
@@nikiyikes5674 What your saying does make complete sense, I can relate to 90% of what your saying. It's a good video 👌🏻
Im an INTJ with ADHD and dyslexia aa well. I hear you ❤
If anything it just enhances the maybe not so great aspects of being an INTJ, doesn't it?
@@nikiyikes5674 I kinda wonder if we are not all ADHD.
7 years of successfully working for a company only to be given a bad review 2 weeks ago because new coworkers had no idea what was going on and instead of finding out or getting to know me, they decided to tell stories and blame me for a bunch of stuff. Now I have been told I have 90 days to basically become "nicer." I want to send this video to my boss🤦♀. INTJ, ADHD female with a degenerative physical condition. Tired of the nonsense. Thank you for sharing.
I had searched for adhd and intj in the search box to find this video as first, I couldn't believe some one would actually make a video that would be so accurate. I have a lot of trouble putting up with social standards. And like you I've only kept Instagram that I rarely go on. I had a similar problem at my workplace but people where so shit that I refused to put up with them and quit after few months. It's not easy when people keep making enemity with me for their jealousy, insecurity and selfish reasons.
I am also an INTJ and also have ADHD - but I get to work from home. I couldn't believe how amazing it was to get out of an office environment, thanks to covid. I Can't Believe It's Not Butter has a plant-based butter, which is pretty good. My boss is chill - she pretty much leaves me alone. Don't sell yourself short - INTJ ladies are the coolest.
I think I was just really happy and then it shattered around me. I'm bound by my circumstances, however, but I can at least make UA-cam videos.
I’m INFJ with ADHD and is also the rarest personality. I have all the same health issues. Yep we are different so people are unaccepting. I am SO TIRED of people! I have a wall that no one can get through and people can’t handle that. Well it’s there because of them…duh! I don’t give off a friendly open feeling to people so what I get in return of minding my own business is the worst of the worst side of people. They don’t listen or believe in me. They say the rudest things to my face and I’m never rude to them. I’m just minding my own business. Why can’t they just leave me alone! They don’t no me nor do I want them to.
I’ve had a rejected unloving childhood and therefore I don’t trust anyone. And well, no one has lead me to believe I should. I believe in myself and my abilities and whither they do or not I don’t care. People NEVER understand me and I do believe our personality type has a lot to do with it but come on people….I mean really, if u don’t get me them stay the hell away!
I’m sick of trying to convince people I’m right and that my opinion matters and that I matter. They will NEVER hear me! They will NEVER see ME! FINE, but I won’t EVER accept their conceded nasty rudeness! I’m done! I don’t ever let anyone get by with it anymore!
I’m not rude and nasty back only because I don’t want to stoop to their level but I do tell it how it is with stern conviction. I literally say it in away that makes them feel bad for their behavior toward me. ONLY Then will they leave me alone. They absolutely despise me for pointing out their stupidity and they literally hate me for it, well to bad u got what u deserve!
Never let people get by with rudeness n stupidity. They will learn they can’t mess with you. Keep being you! There is nothing wrong with us it’s more a thing people don’t understand us….. they NEVER will! They don’t no ANYTHING about us!
I just do my thing. I can care less what others think. Sorry I’m SUPER ANGRY and FED UP…..WITH PEOPLE! IM NOT HERE FOR THEM! I no I give off bad energy but that’s NO EXCUSE for peoples behavior towards me! NO EXCUSE!!!
I've come to realize that our faces and how we naturally move can seem odd or rude to others. It really does make for confusing reactions, especially if in a customer service type job. These days I revel in how I unnerve people by not becoming fired up or at times even giving a reaction. If someone comes looking for a fight and we don't give it, they tend to not know how to cope lol
Thank for your comment and the support. Try to be level headed if not to further enrage the people acting like they own the world.
I’m really glad your channel is doing so well! So proud of you, man. To answer your question at the end, I’ve been your friend for most of our lifetime. I gotta support any way I can. Plus it’s nice to hear your rants, I don’t hear from you much anymore personally.
Edit: not that you’re to blame for the lack of contact. I blame myself and losing track of life, moreso.
We'll be friends for life even if we one day stop talking completely. But I made you suffer by showing you what they've done to YuYu Haskusho on Netflix not too long ago. You're good :) You got that married life and kids (counting dog and cat). We're busy people!
@@nikiyikes5674 time
Be flying, man. 😂
I stumbled upon your channel while looking through some stuff on INTJ. This is your 2nd video I watched till the end this week. When I turned on your videos, all the words that you said somehow is a reflection of what I feel inside. Even if it's negativity, it sort of click with me.
I am somewhat just like in your position in my workplace presently. Having a boss that won't listen to my explanation and experiencing stress + anxiety after never-ending bad things happening all at the same time and that just triggers all the bad memories of people associating me being different as something weird and considering me as an outcast just because I operated on a different spectrum.
And I think that the idea of making a Patreon channel is a wonderful idea. I'm actually intrigued of seeing and talking to another INTJ, feels like listening to another me talking, and makes me wonder "do I really look like that when I'm angry?". That INTJ icy cold fire energy. No wonder people are afraid of me 🙃
And welcome back to UA-cam, Niki, I love the ending.
I actually debated posting this video while editing because I wasn't sure if I was too fired up, but like I said - I'm not muting myself anymore.
I do have a Pateron I briefly made. I think I currently have it at $3 monthly. I need to learn more about how they work, but I definitely would love to do some lives and hangout with everyone who's interested.
As an INTJ with ADHD, I am only 1 second into the video and my attention is already somewhere else
14:25 "...why do you turn my videos on and listen to me?"
Hello Niki, I've watched a couple of your vids and if I had to guess why I watch your channel, it is because it is 'relatable' and I get this sensation of 'YESSSSSSSSS, EXACTLY!' that I rarely experience with another person (which is partly why I love MBTI so much, the other part is as a tool). The place I worked before my most recent job I was told to smile more and stop wearing black by telling me 'Wear a different color'.
In my opinion, I think you're benevolent, fair and approachable. Don't worry too much about people that criticize and judge unfairly (especially if it's based-on gossip and a person declining LITERALLY the information from the subject(you) itself) because from my experience those are folks that cannot accept someone being different from them in a way that they don't like (which is a pretty complex thing, especially how you mentioned how their liking of you 'changes' when it is in their interest(and often the average interests are dysfunctional to their well-being) versus not lol)
I so feel your pain when it comes to work. In my experience over the years, very very few managers should be managers. Most of the management at my job are useless. I have learned to never bring up issues to them because they don't want to hear it. They just want their paycheck and don't want to actually earn it, that's the sad reality. It's frustrating when I try to give them a solution to a problem but they don't care. They also like to ignore me or treat me like I don't have a brain.
I believe most of us are in the same boat, but some externalize their unhappiness more than others. I used to be in management, and I dealt with a lot from higher ups. I see bad attitudes spread and ruin work environments all the time.
ENTJ managers can by great at marketing and business strategy, but sadly often are unable to hire the right assistants and fail to see leadership qualities in others
I think it's because he didn't hire me, personally. I don't think it's anything personal, we just don't fit together.
@@nikiyikes5674 Both INTJ and INTP women are extremely rare, and I suspect that it is for that reason that we are not good fits for many of our supervisor’s. I do like that as an INTP female, people often don’t know how to either react around me, and neither have any idea of how to use my skill set, let alone recognize any of my talents
@NikiYikes, I was going to strongly recommend you try an elimination diet then when I head the plant butter I guess you might be Vegetarian? Well if you can eat meat for a bit, then just eat meat and then see if your migraines go away. If they do, great and slowly add foods back in SLOWLY and see when your migraines return. I am also ADHD+INTJ (plus a little Dyslexic) probably and I don't think I've ever had a migraine, headaches on occasion.
I know what it’s like to have ADHD, as I also differed that as a kid but only I’m an INTP
My bestfriend is an INTP :D
This is sadly a very common trend. Many of the introverted NT women severely underestimate their intelligence
You said “I don’t know why people click or watch.” I’m sure I’m an outlier as I clicked by mistake, but then your style of communication was engaging and familiar.
I meant to look up INFJ & ADHD for a friend. I was listening for a little bit before realizing you said T not F. But by then I was drawn in.
I’m a 64 year old ENFP-T (former stand-up comic, now “surviving” in the corporate world). Also at 64 finally diagnosed ADHD so from that perspective I totally get that communication style- because it drives a lot of people crazy to deal with mine.
So sorry you have been going through all of this. I think not enough attention is given to how debilitating chronic migraines are, and I agree that it is impressive that you rise above that and many other challenges. I don’t know why people have to be so critical. I was drawn to your channel because I seem to have more than my fair share of INTJs that are close to me, and I am interested in why they gravitate to me and we get along so well when they don’t enjoy spending time with most people. Most INTJ related content here exaggerates certain characteristics to perpetuate stereotypes, for entertainment value I guess, but your videos are the best insights I have seen, and you express things very well. I appreciate learning more about INTJs also so I can be better equipped to provide for the needs of the INTJs I know. Each person is different, an individual, but there are still some common threads as a result of being an INTJ, and many INTJs seem to be misunderstood and have to deal with a lot of strife from people. You have helped me to understand better how to try and be supportive for INTJs.
Hi Nick! You must have a way with INTJs because I'm always delighted to see your comments. And THANK YOU! I grow irritated anytime people are placed into boxes as if we're all the same when we aren't. I'm actually quite "soft" and "emotional" compared to what INTJs are stated to be, and it drives me bonkers - honestly. I'm straight up like a 5 year old anytime I'm in the presence of candy. So what? Still an INTJ in the end.
Also, when someone asks me how to best be supportive I only ever ask for 2 things.
1) Act normal
And
2) Make me a cup of tea
@@nikiyikes5674 Got it. I’ll have a cup of English Breakfast tea ready.
❤U. My friend had Chronic Migrains. Found out he had a little hole in his heart that was letti g tiny air bubbles through his lungs. Got a "simple?" heart patch and never had a migrain again. I can imagine how many other promblems that hole caused and that the repairing fixed also. Please check this ASAP. 😘
Thank you for sharing. My doctors haven't noticed anything unusual (but ADHD is known to cause headaches among other things). I'll keep that in mind and will mention it during my next doctors appointment.
I'm an INTJ (some friends think I'm an INFJ in a near-permanent Ni-Ti Loop, which is possible, however I'm often typed as INTJ) 6w5 that struggles with this too. Especially after the collapse of my career following covid. I'm in the process of a diagnosis with ADHD. I have High-Functioning Autism too.
not me reaching for my diet pepsi right before you said whats in your cup😂
Hi, if you don’t mind me asking, what variant of ADHD do you have? I have ADHD-PI and I am having trouble figuring out if I’m an INFP or INTj, even after studying the functions. Do you also love reading like me but have trouble doing it?
Does PI stand for primarily inattentive? If so, i am INTP with same adhd . But i often wonder if i am actually an intj.
@@bbjudyfit Yes, "PI" does stand for "primarily inattentive."
Preach!!! I get exactly what you mean girl!
I wanna be diagnosed since I STRONGLY suspect I have ADHD too. I totally relate lol (intj, migraines, the fight to survive the day to day.) At some of my worst points a phrase I always found myself repeating in my head is "I tried SO hard." It physically hurt how much I tried to fulfill the basic quota of the day that came so easily to others. It's hard explaining why I'd get panic attacks at work (during lunch break lol) due to the constant overstimulation. Coworkers thought I was unfriendly cuz I'd just shut down (or the opposite, I was insanely friendly.) the mask was always on either extreme. Your new boss not bothering at all to know you goes against everything I've come to value. I love learning from informed authority, it's great! But an absentminded ego who doesn't give a crap enrages me more than average. I like your channel since I relate to the bizarre state of standing out when you're trying SO HARD to be NORMAL. I create art and unmask. Your UA-cam can provide that and it's refreshing. It makes sense in my brain. Your trains of thought are engaging and interesting. Female ADHD is so good at observing what others miss. Im on a job hunt now and I really hope your channel will flourish since it's a needed outlet for the injustice of having such a lame ass boss. This is also a rant, but I wanted to explain why I liked your content both by how I relate and by your honesty and humor. Anyone who told u you're stupid is straight up wrong, you're literally processing so much it would make yr average Joe's head overheat and roll right off lol!
I'm really hoping I can turn this channel into a full time job, and it's comments like yours that make me feel like It's within reach if I work hard enough.
This isn't advice because nothing is worse than advice you didn't ask for, but in regards to ADHD - A diagnosis would be needed for medication, but perhaps look into methods and tricks you can do now to help with focusing and organization. I don't know about you, but I am a natrually chaotic person, and it takes effort to stay on task and remember important things. Medication won't fix everything...unfortunately . I'm sure you already have things you do to help with those things, though.
Thank you for your support and good luck with the job search! They're agonizing.
@@nikiyikes5674 I'm sure you'll be able to turn this into a full-time job, you've already started and hopefully stubbornness will see you through to finishing it lol 😂 That's how some of my bigger projects have actually been finished since the pressure of an audience really unlocks something productive in me. Anyways, thanks for your ADHD advice! Makes me less anxious to get diagnosed and start doing something about it now. I'll add to that, I really hope you make videos about ADHD and practical advice! Not just feel good stuff, but the trial and error of routines and rituals that have or haven't worked.
@@emberflash1641 That's a great idea! I'm still learning myself, but it seems that seeing my struggles helps others more than portaying an image of having everything figured out.
Loved this video :)
I think you're pretty healthy intj
Nothing is wrong
I like to think that I've done a lot of inner work to become more well rounded as a person. Thank you for the kind words :)
SAME HERE! I get everything you are saying. I am a middle school teacher and have somehow become a public speaker. It is painful. I'm getting a computer science degree so I can work alone at home and not have to deal with this in my daily life.
I am an INTJ and have ADHD. It sucks because I would have graduated college by now probably.
INTP here. It is actually extremely difficult to either dislike, or like certain individuals unless I meet them in real life. Many people don’t show their real selves over the Internet.
Anyways … I can relate to what you’re saying, albeit I’m not an INTJ, because I have always been misunderstood. I have been frequently been accused of being rude, arrogant, and an odd ball. I also have ADHD, but hasn’t been diagnosed till I was already an adult, as so little was known back in the 1970’s and 80’s.
I have some opinons about Myer Briggs that may be surpising. You don't need to be INTJ to be like or very similar to an INTJ. ANY personailty type can be misunderstood, organized, chaotic, so forth. We're more complex than 4 letters. I plan on doing a video about this topic at some point :)
Us introverts in general just hate drawing attention to ourselves. Lol
I found ur video when I wanted to be alone (no damn customers), drinking pepsi max and trying to figure out if Im INTJ with adhd... Good start...
I'll do more videos talking about it. Thanks for stopping by.
As an Intj male with adhd too I really feel your struggles I realate with alot of what you mention It's a personal hell of its own sometimes but I've learned too accept I just am who I am. I subbed to Btw!
Am glad to have searched this, i feel in some ways very similar, i have Diagnosticed medical adhd and i take madication am not very hyperactive but sometimes i do and i have bad attention, but in other way my personality is Intj i dont know how precise is it would like to ask you how you organize yourself or if tou hace troubles, as an metafore having adhd is left you dont organize well and have troubles but intj is "right" because you want to organize yourself and have all "controlled" but that conflict is very desesperate for me sometimes k just cant organize my self but my inner me wants to abd is very stresrull, i dont want to be pretendous, i just saw or want to comment about something i find out in the video, i dont want rk be rude or say it is bad, it isnt but i think it cab cause limitations about thinking or thinking the others persinality se infp intj, estp, etc. I mean i think the reality is more complex and avoiding catogarizing people by their "myer briggs test" can lead you to think you cant change situations, thanks for the video its very recmfortable seeing am not the unique one.❤
Extraverted Sensation is the Inferior function of the INTJ, which commonly manifests as performance anxiety and fear of giving others a bad experience.
What's odd is that I don't have social anxiety. I genuinely care very little for how others percieve me in general. Yet, I HATE being the center of attention. Everytime I've had to go on stage to give speeches or perform, I just felt nothing but dread. Not fear of failure or being disliked. Just dread. I try to be better at handling the external world, but truthfully, it's a struggle. It's so loud.
Thank you for commenting.
Great coffee MUG! coffee is healthy & with adhd it'll make us drowzy. at least it does me :) but if i have not had plenty of water ... it'll alter my sense of reality. which is kinda fun !
I don't remember what I was drinking here, but I'm more of a tea person. Coffee 100% pushes me straight into drowsiness and nausea (but it could have been all the sugar I put in it which is a migraine trigger for me...)
Thanks for commenting!
Your awesome Niki, people on the other hand can be so weird lol
Well, I don't about that, but thank you. I shall accept the compliment :)
Also also, I have a second channel when I hit 3K subs, so we could also discuss some yt crap, if you want to.
Im sorry I just feel alone in this experience of yt x INT x female x ADHD x on the spectrum, and finding someone like you gave me so much hope
The comment sections sounds like an AA meeting. Hi My name is Z? and I'm an ADHD. Here is a take away not many people are aware of, the majority of people with true ADHD are also high IQ. That is how your work through your ADHD in many ways. Life lesson people who don't have ADHD can't know what it's like to have it, no matter how many ways you try to explain it. They can't experience it to understand it. Just like if you give someone your ADHD drugs they get high and bounce off the walls and we get calm and collective. Also people are intimidated by you try to work around that not with it it's an INTJ thing.
Funny that you mention the ADHD medication. It does make me calm and collected, and I always side-eye people when they mention the medicine making them hyper.
About you wondering why people watch your videos, here's my reason:
I subscribed to your channel last year, just because I wanted to have access to an INTJ's perspective on whatever that person had to say, as I did with many other types as well.
That's it. It's for the betterment of my understanding of typology. Anything is useful. Even rants haha
It's your channel. You do what you will with it. Peace ✌
Thanks for the support! You're still here, so my rants must be quite useful on your quest haha
Carnivore Diet - Really helped my ADHD/ASD/Anxiety.
I got healthy eating only fatty red meat, salt, water and animal products. Victory will be yours. 🙂
I spent a year at a job with a boss just like that who used the eyes and ears of others to make his opinion about me. He did not take into account their obvious biases and motivations. I went back to my old employer and I was recently promoted… it’s not you, I promise.
It's a shame when that happens.
danm i thought i was the only one, youtube really wanted to tell me im not special XD
I should make another video about this and explore it more.
What even is normal? From what I see, very few people are “normal”. So, why the heck do people try to continue to place people into a box that very few people would ever fit in it?!?!
Corporate jobs are where this really comes out the most, and it’s ridiculous. You shouldn’t be having to deal with all that kind of stuff at work.
Thank you so much for this video, Im, as many others here, a INTJ woman with ADHD, which I think is its own issue.
You have all these ambitions, plans and expectations. And because you are INTJ you SEE how its suppose to be. and your brain just CANT do these simple isntructions that you give it.
Being an INTj with ADHD is just on another level of hating yourself, the way no other type ever could.
Niki seems so Fi-Ne when she rants.
Nevermind, she is dyslexic; Ne people tend to be hyperlexic. Ni people instead usually have cognitive strengths in visual spatial skills and spatial memory.
Allow me elaborate ...I also don't care about typos in almistcall situations. I dint like to take the time to go back and if it's not too bad then I expect the reader to be cool with it. I have attempted to care but it isn't Worth it. But I am genuinely sorry every time but it's not worth fixing. I am a published poet, I frustratingly have always Had ti share my papers in class as examples of what a great paper is and in college my eng professor sent a paper I wrote to my mom's house across the country wothiut my knowledge to showcase why I should be an English major ...it's not fun it's cruel I have no desire to write outside of when I feel like it and my passion is physics. Which I actually did have to work hard ti do so well in. Wtf is tgat even?
Sounds tough.
I finally found a new job with the things I require to be happy and healthy without putting all my energy into surviving toxicity. The moment I accepted the position I felt the full impact from working with that company for 1 year and 3 months...This is the shortest I've EVER held a position.
In regards to the ADHD, I think the worst of it is my inability to keep up with the dishes.
Me too
In workplace.... you got people and rats (yes-man back lickers).
Unfortunately the story of the "amazing boss that promotes up and their replacement is absolute garbage" is too common of a scenario in the corporate world. I'm truly sorry that this amalgamation of events is happening to you. I may not know you personally, but no decent person should have to cram their diamond selves through a circle peg hole just to survive. I am glad, however, that you chose to come back to youtube. To be honest, I'm not sure why I am drawn to your channel, but the fact that I am won't change anytime soon. I know you were ranting, but I'd like to reassure you: your observed deficiencies aren't that. Everybody has extremely unique circumstances to fight on this planet for the lives we live in. Only you can live life with your specific conditions. Hopefully taking back this realm of youtube helps your mental health in some way. Sorry these worthless words are the most I can do. But in the meantime, let the emotions run through, we do unfortunately need them every now and then haha. Stay safe
Not a single word here is worthless. Thank you for taking the time to show your support. If anything, the unhappiness I've been feeling has fueled me to really do something with my channel and to reach for this being my job instead of the regular 9 to 5. Coming back has me feeling much better already.
Avoid pandering to normies. They'll only drag you down to their mediocrity. Better to be a total mess than a normie.
Figure out a way (any way) to become self employed. Working with people long term (as an INTJ) is too painful.
Well, that is part of what I desire to achieve with my UA-cam channel. There is a lot that goes into it, but I'm trying to learn methods of how to make money from this. Great advice!