8 Things Men Do When They’re Playing with A Woman’s Heart
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My brother told me once “A lot of guys just want a girlfriend so they have someone to sleep with or serve them, they’re not seeking true love.”
men are incapable of romantic love, its just their biology
If you get to 50, that's ALL men!! No, they're still looking for true love, but by then everyone realizes there's nobody out there. Whatever you do, try really really hard to keep the keeper you find in your 20s or 30s.
Your brother is right. Wish I had your brother earlier in life.
Very true 😔
So don't sleep with them, don't serve them so you can filter out those losers
I got in touch with my bfs ex via Facebook. She is lovely and didn’t abandon their children like he stated. Abusive narcissist and liar. Dumped him! And now great friends with the ex wife! 😂
BOOM,awesome!! 😂
It's tiring, frustrating and wasting....when we pick the wrong person.
Indeed!
18 years in one so far…😣
And then do it again. And again.
@@Whoamidontknow17707 ugh...I'm in 22 years...😞
Done it all my life so I’ve gave up
Yes, I've been there, been played..then I walk away from that player 😂
Actually another red flag is when he over tips and is extremely nice to servers, cashiers, people you have just met, when you introduce your friends. But when he's with you he's disrespectful and rude. It's all about the surface with some of these guys.
Red Flags: unmatching behaviors, no availability, eye rolling 😂, no respect, lot of compliments, trying to distance you from friend's and family, starts to put you down by eroding your self esteem, blaming you for all the problems, not nice to the waitress.
Or flirting with the waitress😂
It's a red flags!
1. If your boyfriend is liking inappropriate pictures on social media e.g girls in bikinis
2. Has a wandering eye
3. In contact with his ex-girlfriend
4. Not posting you on social media if he's active on it.
So true!
You bet and on his one if three phones and more
All the above your spot on !!!
Funny but for me these are not really. I have some male contacts in my phone and doesn't mean anything 🤷🏾♀️
#1 and #2 are how a lot of men act and then are trying to normalize it SMFH. Then get mad at us for having decency and self respect and don't play that shit. I know men who are husbands to my friends and they get mad that my friends get mad about it. Men have the fuckin NERVE
All of them are spot on but the red flag that I got to see in all the wrong guys was the last one: hitting on you while he's in a relationship with another woman.
You just described every man I’ve ever dated, I’m getting really good at getting rid of them quickly now…
🙌🙏💚💚💚
me too ;)
Same, girl. Im starting to wonder if they are ALL like this?! 🤔😔
I must learn this 😆😂😂😂💖
Totally me too I didn't see anyone true
“Is that a new wrinkle….” Lmfao!! If any dude said that to me, I’d smack him upside his damn head!
Lol
I prayed for this one.
I was careful.
I did exactly what I thought I needed to do.
And this man still fooled me.
I give up. He was truly one who earned his way in...got me to drop my walls....then he decided I wasn't valuable.
How do you ever trust again after that?smh.
Do lots of research on narcissism. It's important. Good UA-cam instructors are The Little Shaman, Dr. Ramani, Lisa Romano, Sam Vaknin. A real narcissist's goal is to ensnare you with lovebombing...get you to commit...you'll be used as an energy supply and for services...All the while you're nothing to the narcissist but a commodity. They will cheat on you, gaslight you and ultimately they want to disable or destroy you emotionally so you can't get away. Never try to understand or have closure-- it's impossible because they are ABSOLUTELY incapable of loving... Or honesty. It's all a wicked game to them and they believe you deserve the bad treatment because you're stupid.
I feel ya . These are Oscar winning manipulators. Had it .
So true
Girl, i feel ya so hard core. 💔
Oh geez…😢
Or another veeery BIG red flag is when during an argument or a fight he says disrespectful, very mean things to you, he offends you, he uses agressive words to you like "fuck off", "shut up", "you are fucking crazy" or he calls you "stupid" basicaly he puts the blame on you in a fight and reacts in very agressive way, full of contempt... :/
all of the above. my abusive husband did not show this in the beginning, but drove like a lunatic cutting off other people, tailgating, f you finger, cursing and
yelling at other drivers, speeding outrageously and dangerously. excellent hockey player, but attacked the players on the other team with the blades of his skates, slammed them into the rink walls, punched and kicked. no one stopped him because he was the best hockey player on either team. justice..when he applied for the NHL, again a fantastic player but once he started that nasty stuff he was rejected from applying again. i said to him on a first date that i
found the violence he was showing nasty. a woman sitting nearby said not to worry, that is how hockey is played. i was 18 years old and used to abuse
from my mother all my life. it felt itself in my gut but i ignored all of it and made excuses for his behavior. it got steadily worse and more dangerous. our
2 boys suffered but he was able to manipulate them or intimidate them and despite all my hard work to teach the opposite, they remained true to him
after the divorce. the woman i am now has learned the hard way who i am and what is intolerable from anyone. there was no one in my time with this
wisdom and knowledge to help people avoid the misery abusers cause to all they meet. bullies are cowards. please women and men do not give second chances, this is interpreted as acceptance and will only get worse possibly ending in your death. there is so much more to my story. what i spoke of was just the beginning of a nightmare named domestic violence. all too common in all cultures, religions, age groups and same sex also. pay attention..no more
excuses and trust that a person will change. run and do not look back or take them back. take care and use your instinct also to guide you. much love..
I’m tired of meeting wrong man.. I think I’m done
Another red flag, all his ex's were crazy or nasty/appreciative of him and his "niceness".
I think that's a bit harsh . Some men drive woman crazy. Not always the woman's fault if you ask me .
My best advice: Do his/her actions match their words? It‘s no use if he tells you that he respects you, but he‘s the one who makes the final decisions.
My "best" example was this guy who, after casually meeting at a festival, seemed quite nice, so I tried to talk to him and he only tried to kiss me. I suggested we should maybe get to know each other first, and he went: "Oh, don't worry, I'm not only trying to get you into my bed, I just like you as a person." And I: "How could you like me as a person, if you don't even know me?" He: "Then, who are you?" I: "You think I can tell you that in just one sentence?" He: "Yes." That was pretty much the end of it.
But first how could you find this guy quite nice? Seems to me you were equally shallow..
@@andersnielsen6044 Of course, he didn't try to kiss me right away. There was obviously some small-talk before that. When I said I tried to talk to him, I meant getting into a more "getting to know each other" type of conversation.
Predatory men. There's lots of them.
Number eight is my exact situation now… I should’ve known better and I waited and was only friends with him until after he got out of that relationship - but now that I look back that was a huge red flag and I see it in his behavior today which has included lies and betrayal and yet I’m two years in and love him immensely. Take my advice ladies do not give him a chance if he’s flirting with you while he’s in a relationship, even if you’re waiting till after he’s out to except his advances
Get out now if he does not respect you …your life depends on it. Little by little you can lose your energy and if you prolong the inevitable it will be to your detriment.
This dude's name ain't Brian is it
I had something similar happen to me, I waited till after he and his gf broke up but the funny thing is he just couldn’t stand being single and hooked up with the first girl that showed him any attention and she was not me 😂. I was sad about it at first but then he started flirting with me again soon after getting with that girl and saw this vid and read your comment and well, now I feel better. I was told I dodged a bullet but I didn’t really believe it till now.
There was always someone else behind the scenes. Too much competition from other women. Then as you get older, they wonder why you are not in a relationship or married. The last and RECENT was "We're both not young. I am going to wait and see what my doctor says about this thing growing on my.........." In 6 weeks he was engaged to a woman that was 17 years younger. I am now 71. and he, too. I'M in great health except emotionally. It's been a long stupid life! (he was a three timer) That was a first!
Hiirt, if every man was as funny, kind and respectful as you, we women would be so much happier!! Thank you for your RESPECT for women! In this increasingly dangerous world, where more and more men think it's ok to hurt women, you are a refreshing breath of fresh air. ❤🙏🙏🌸
Thank you for mentioning the eyerolling, I was wondering why he does that sometimes in normal conversation. He was so disrepectful.
Realisticly this works with men who you are NOT in love with but unfortunately not with men you are in love with bcos emotions can prevent you from seeing the red flags or you make excuses 4 their behaviour we are only human and sometimes we do fall for the wrong guys but this is helpful in spotting the wrong ones b4 you get too emotionally involved.
Was that way to my ex fiance,he had me fooled, and I as stupid as I was,ignored all the red flags,for example him cheating on his first wife,and then dating women,getting them pregnant,and then leaving them. For some reason I finally had enough after he broke my nose. He was a cheating abusive piece of shit
I love that you go straight waterboarding before lie detector test 😂
Love it.. “I’m not here to discuss global warning” lmao
Your so right on! I wished I came a cross this video years back. I learned the hard way after dating 3 types of men you described. I am grateful for the lessons as it has helped me filter out a few before meeting the man I’m with today. He’s the total opposite of the type of men you described and from my experience. We complement each other in a positive and healthy way at all levels. The connection is mature and we have so much respect for each other. We value the strength of the connection more than anything.
I have never found a man who has been interested in any subject but themselves or knowing me in order to predate me; never global warming 😃
"We value the strength of the connection" - I like that!
I have seen this all. Now I am the eye roller.
Flirting with other women and pulling me down about appearances without actually dating me ... there is a new a word for this type?
@Shubha No new words necessary...put him in the Fuckboy category & in your rearview mirror while you keep it moving on down the road towards the high quality men who better deserve & are much more appreciative of being in your life, Sis. ☮️♥️😃
Narcissist
Often Narcs test the waters early on to see if you have boundaries or not. If you tolerate this poor behaviour it signals them youbwill stick around for the narcisstic ride where they fluff you up, promise the world, then abuse you emotionally and devalue you, and you keep clinging waiting for those promises to happen, and then poof he's moved on to his new gf. IF during this early phase you don't tolerate his crappy treatment, he will move on because you aren't such a great target as a sucker anymore.
@@joywebster2678 Well put Joy ❤
My ex used to bad talk my family and friends so I would eventually stop hanging out with them. Never happened.
Very precious! Thank you.
I appreciate the work you are doing.
Your videos are so helpful! And I love your sense of humour!
Brian I love your videos! It'll be great if you have a Spotify podcast playlist of all these sessions so I can loop them haha
This is Gold! I've had this exact experience as described. Wow so on point....wish I had this video a few years back. Thank you!
Thank you so much... As well as giving great advice
(And I do need it) you're videos always make me smile 🙃 🤗
This is exactly what I wanted to know , Thank you Brian ! 🌸
I totally WISH we could all know and call people's ex partners! Of course, in dating or with personal romantic relationships, we often wouldn't get a totally honest answer from them, and it surely wouldn't be unbiased.
Excellent information! All very clear and obvious when you say it!
Yeah! How he treats other people.
I didn’t see that on him for long. Now I realized….. thanks for this!
great reminders and info.
You are Amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. You are making the world a better place
Thank you for your direct & important videos 👍🏻
I was left after a 20 year marriage. He was kind, helpful, loving, accepting. But he did not talk to me about what troubled him. He would come to a conclusion and it could not be discussed or reconsidered. Then at a crucial moment as we neared a goal we had worked on for some time, he announced that he was not continuing and he essentially abandoned me, leaving me to deal with everything. I am still finding the pieces to rebuild my life.
I'm sorry that happened to you.
I’m sorry
I think we married the same man. Boo.
I’m so sorry that happened to you but i have to ask if he actually really didn’t feel like he could talk to you? I went through this myself but I was the one that didn’t communicate and the reason was because of the reaction/response I would get when I did. So I stopped…
Thank you for the comments. Helpful.
Always love your content! Thank you.
Thank you for tips number 5, 7 & 8 :)
I always have better insight after hear you speak. I thank you for your words. I have been following you for a while. Truly appreciate your insight!!!! 💯💯💯
Thank you Brain 🙏🏻it means a lot.
Spot on Brian!👏💯✅, Thank you Brian,🙏
Yes it did. I was just looking for a friend to ski with and he did hit on me while he was still living with his girlfriend. She ended up asking him to move out. I was being groomed as the new supply but I know now that my being suspicious was founded.
Brian, when human deçency becomes the accepted norm, you will no longer have to remind us of the manipulators out there lurking amongst us. I look forward to the day when women esp. feel safe, and the partner's intentions will be transparent.
Don't hold your breath.
On point! Thank you ☺️
I find that, as a man, I saw some of these red flags in my ex. But, I'm no knight in shining armor myself. I have issues too
Great content Brian 👍👍
yes, you give power and insight. It's nice to hear a man saying these things about men. Women can't explain men as well as men can explain men. Thank you.
Great Video! My current bf does none of these! All Green Flags for him!!!! ✅✅✅✅
You, sir, crack me up! Thanks for the laugh AND the information.
Good information! 🙌🏻
Great advice!!
thank you ❤
I LOVE how you look the same on every video, it's absolutely genius! 💜
My ex husband used to "pretend" to be disinterested in be right before we were supposed to be intimate. He kept playing it off as just being silly or a joke. But why would a person who loves you ever "pretend" to not love you?
Good question!!! A sociopath, perhaps?
@@JinxD247 honestly a year ago I would have said absolutely not, but given his behavior during most of the divorce process, I think anything goes. He's got at least a weird but minor mix personality disorders. There's a couple of elements of sociopathy, a couple of elements of covert narcissism, and a couple of elements of dissociative identity disorder. But he had me fooled for over a decade because none of those things were obvious red flags to anyone.
@@sailorsallyrockinrarity2130 yeah sometimes it takes a while to see it
Impotence
You are awesome! You absolutely inspire and empower me! 👍🏽😍
you're absolutely true.. Yup.. I met these sort of man.. Thanks for clear ideas about a real man...
Hi thank you fir the info.
Bonjour Geert! J'adore que tu parles Français durant la video. Salutations de Montréal 🇨🇦
Any advice to give senior women who are terrified of any more physical relationships with similar age men.............interested however in being in a relationship ...............but then the men think those women are too old.....wrinkled........and dry. ALL your videos are great regardless!!
@truecynic1270 Here’s my advice to a “senior” from this 60-year old: Date a man exclusively for two months, this only when he agrees to being exclusive and/or asked you. OKAY . . . if he wants to have sex before those two months (or more) have passed, (he wants “spark” and “chemistry”) know he’s only trying to prove to himself, that he can still get an erection,
at YOUR expense. He’ll have sex with you, most likely, and then have some
weird avoidant issue. I just met one like this. I told him “no sexual engagement until I relate to your heart, mind, and life vision. He really does just want sex, even though he agreed to wait. Either he has a memory with selective recall or he’s got early dementia, if this is conveniently forgotten as he tries to push the sex thing. I LOVE sex. BUT I won’t have sex with a man that hasn’t proven himself. Perhaps
it’s best to remain autonomous.
Oh wait there’s more: Older men need pills folks. Woody pills. Fact BUT the older men I have dated want me to get to know their dicks as soon as possible. I will
not be used to stroke their egos, no pun intended.
@@KatWoodland Thank you for such a sensible reply. You've made excellent points. I should just be very grateful, then, for having a platonic relationship with my exceptionally loyal dog. He brings me great joy and his presence is very calming. I guess when I posted I must've been having some 'in the past' thoughts. I'm back to reality now and your reply has certainly helped me solidify my current status!!!
men who call women close to their ages "too old dry and wrinkled" need to have a mirror held up to their fucking faces. It goves the same narcissistic bullshit vibes as fat men who call chubby women "fat and too fat for them". I swear to God I can't STAND men with no self awareness
Thank you 😊
Empowering insights 👌🏻 excellent 🙏🏻💝TYVM 🖖🏻
❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much
Thank u Brain ,that is my situation too bad for me after 8yrs 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you 🙌🙏💚💚💚
He described my ex perfectly I'm convinced he knows him.
You are the best!💯🙏💯🙏🙏🙏💯
Usefulness
Are you sure we can't waterboard them???
I'm glad to know that my current guy doesn't portray any of these. Seems like I finally found a good one. ☺️
How's it going so far? He's still treating you well?
@@irinaivanovic9792 yes he does and I am glad to have found him 😊
Can you please talk how to see the red flags with meeting guys online?
Genius!
I need more videos of this caption.. i always try to catch guys who are good looking but get hot & cold. They ask for a date spontaniously and than canceled them or they ignore my answer
❤️thank you
PERFECT💯%👍🏼
Entertainment luckily now, but reminds me of a certain ex and how silly I was for being blind haha
Very good french btw 😁😁😁
Very true, Brian 🎉They guy was so into me, but as soon as after he complained about his water pipes broke and no electricity for Christmas and New Year’s, I have invited him to my brother’s and he changed 180 degrees 😂
I had a guy do this to me. “There’s just a je ne sais quoi about you” yeah I guess I don’t know either. Lol! 😂
🤣
😂😂😂😂
I’m kinda not sure anymore dating😔
I’m an AP attachment style, which makes it even more daunting.
Spend time healing
Hi Brain! Nice video.. Regards
LOLOL, WATER BOARDING😂😂😂
We had a lot of time before things heated up and fizzled out. There was something heavy in the background...
Lol, thanks 😊 ☺️
Bravo !👏👏👏👏💯👏👏👏💯
I role? Can anybody explain please? Does it mean that he likes to talk about him without real listening to you? Does it mean that it is all about him?
Eye rolling
@@marketapaulikova8476 🤦♀...Ďakujem☺
Sounds like my ex a lot! 😅 And only a little bit like my current one 😅
May i call you "sensei"? 😸🙏
Ugh so true . I was dating a psychopath. He seemed amazing 🤩
🟩 2 of my ex were like that. 1 wouldn't change, the other laughed at his sis when she was soaked on the log flume, and he blamed other people.
OMG whr was thsi video 9 years ago.
Once a guy wanted to teach ,that I have to know many languages telling me the famous voulez vous couchee avec mois? and I replied: non, je ne veut pas coushee avec tois...
My ex boyfriend tried to impress others. He treated me badly.
Shit. Everything is on point. Except he'd say "where's your confidence gone" after having triangulation & me finding shit out yet giving Benefit of the doubt. Too many time.
@Rach Grigg Awww snap
I think I was involved with that exact same dude...or just one similar. Not too much of a stretch to believe...guys like them are 10¢/dozen. They ain't shit 💯
Question: how to attract a man who is clearly attractive and wanted by other women? He's an awesome guy, hardworking and independent in every single way. How to make him see that i'm different? How do i stand out?
Don't hurt him...don't be like those other gals who will and don't recognize what they have done.Also a good man will stay celibate until the right one comes into his life.Dogs are dogs...boys are boys...men are men.🙏
Just do you! Focus on you and what brings you joy and fulfillment in your life. Quality men don’t want needy, clingy partners. They want someone who is solid in themself first and foremost. Do the best you can to just keep bettering yourself (dealing with triggers,trauma, etc in a healthy way). Also learning healthy, open, respectful communication with a man is huge. The woman who is lost in her feminine and most self-aware will always have the most options when it comes to high value men.
Just be yourself gal
maybe ask yourself why you want his attention..? is it because he is clearly attracted to other women?
@@davidthomspson9771 a good man will stay celibate? People can be good and enjoy sexuality. What are you on about
Tak aj dopadnú
A všetko sa im vráti niekde inde
Aj oni pocítia aké to je
Karma je zdrarma
To že nám niekto zlomil srdce nás neoprávňuje aby sme my robili to isté iným
Potom nech je radšej sám kým to prebolí
Brian, your “F❤ck Him” book absolutely changed the way I approach dating. Thank you!