Living with a schizophrenic for 40 years

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  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +197

    "Reading all the encouraging comments to my love story with my late wife, Doris on The Royal Singapore and here on UA-cam that's coming in every day, brings lots of tears to my eyes. You are well loved Doris, and so am I, I guess. . Thanks guys, you are awesome!

    • @me-zaan2285
      @me-zaan2285 3 роки тому +7

      You are an AWESOME man Sir.My brother had schizophrenia for 20 years before dying aged 35 , his illness was and still is the toughest thing we had to deal with mental illness doesn't affect the sick only but their family mrmbers too nut LOVE has a huge role to ease the journey, so seeing how you stuck around Doris , is really something speacial.

    • @evaherreria8014
      @evaherreria8014 3 роки тому

      Strong heart very motivated. In every circumstances there always a way out,very true..no matter what just walk through it 😊😊👍

    • @pedtsukonin686
      @pedtsukonin686 3 роки тому +2

      you did a great job and your love to her was so big and immense that it touched us who heard your story. I've been in touch with a number of mental illnesses, depressives or obessives, these people are rather OK to handle, but schizophrenics and persecutory delusives are toughest to deal with, since there are occasions they simply lost their mind completely (living in delusions) and you can do nothing, that's really tough for the family and I wholeheartedly sympathize their plights. what I can do somehow is just to listen to those family members who want someone to talk with and blah everything out. That's basically what I could do for them.

    • @TofuTeo
      @TofuTeo 3 роки тому +2

      What an incredible husband you were to Doris! She was lucky to have you.

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +461

    “I am deeply grateful with the uplifting wonderful comments on our love story - Doris and myself that was produced by the GREAT production team of The Royal Singapore which has been uploaded on Facebook as well as on UA-cam. I am happy that our story is going viral- every day. Readers made the effort to write their heartfelt feelings. This is one way we can build a far better society. And I have achieved what I set out to do for 10 years - as a staunch mental health advocate - by changing perceptions where people fully understand the struggles caregivers and patients face when we take ‘the road less travelled.’ So that someday, some how, persons with mental illness can gain acceptance in society. Then we can become a truly inclusive society. Most certainly, I want to surround myself with people who can lift me higher. God bless all of you abundantly. You made the DIFFERENCE."'
    -Raymond Anthony Fernando -

    • @teambl4dez
      @teambl4dez 3 роки тому +8

      Stay strong!
      I have infinite respect towards you.

    • @sheilae.535
      @sheilae.535 3 роки тому +8

      Doris is lucky to have you as her husband. not all men can accept the extra baggage a woman has. my utmost admiration to your marriage!

    • @williamy2058
      @williamy2058 3 роки тому +1

      Fernando... thanks for the great sharing.
      I've forwarded this video to friends who are in similar predicament.

    • @ksliang6072
      @ksliang6072 3 роки тому +9

      Hope TRS can change the title of this video. Doris was a wife , sister and daughter, much more than an illness. Society needs to realise that people with psychiatric disorders are sufferers themselves and not the disease. The title should be "Living with a spouse who had schizophrenia." God bless Raymond for staying on the narrow road of LIFE. Matthew 7:13-14

    • @bluehaert
      @bluehaert 3 роки тому +2

      @@ksliang6072 Agreed. There is a media guide published by NCSS about it in March this year. Hope The Royal Singapore will refer to it.

  • @ellietv2958
    @ellietv2958 3 роки тому +152

    a lot of teenage or young couple always on tiktok saying they have couple goals. Guess what? This is the real couple goals!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @rebeccagerber6370
    @rebeccagerber6370 3 роки тому +80

    God bless this man. Doris couldn't have asked for a better husband. Much respect to you, sir.

  • @HbbH38
    @HbbH38 3 роки тому +187

    I would love to have the chance to shake this man's hand. Respect. 🙏

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +37

    20 years ago, I had a dream, and as difficult as it seemed at the time, I was hungry to fulfill that dream. Yes the key words in scaling greater heights is, Dream and Hungry. Don't allow obstacles or anyone to prevent you from being hungry to fulfill your dreams.

  • @earthcitizen4266
    @earthcitizen4266 3 роки тому +96

    Raymond, Doris left not because of schizo but pneumonia, you have succeeded. You left your job and take care of her and held her hand to walk the tough journey together. I am so touch. You are a good hearted man. Take good care, May God bless you in every way!

  • @yellowsaffron7668
    @yellowsaffron7668 3 роки тому +6

    Omg this braught me to tears. My son has Schizophrenia. And those around him love him. He is a wonderful man who takes his meds and embraces this horrible illness. Although he claims it's not to bad. When he is quiet I sit with him, and then bursts of my old son come out. He will never be the same again. We raised a soft beautiful cuddly little boy to manhood. Then this disease took his mind.

    • @PeterLeo-m6w
      @PeterLeo-m6w 3 місяці тому

      Yes, u can only love them till the day we all be renew n change in a moment, hope that day come soon, God bless ur family & may God restore all his lost years some day,❤❤

  • @sammikaur9702
    @sammikaur9702 3 роки тому +34

    people find excuses to walk out but you stayed...true gentleman

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +15

    Besides being a staunch advocate for the mentally ill and their caregivers, I have also become a kindness advocate. Such efforts require a great deal of hard work and discipline. Discipline of the mind is important for us to be pure in heart, to stay calm and not to harm anyone. Being disciplined means you stay obedient to God, be faithful to our spouse and give unconditional love to our children; and of course, to our parents who gave us life.
    Have a nice day, folks!
    Cheers,
    Raymond Anthony Fernando

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando Рік тому +4

    "One of the most important things caregivers of the mentally ill must remember at all times ,especially during loved ones' relapses is to ..Separate the illness from the person."
    -Raymond Anthony Fernando-

  • @krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893
    @krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893 3 роки тому +48

    You’re a strong man mr Raymond both mentally and physically going through to take care of your wife you sir are a great human being sir

  • @jinggwennlinn989
    @jinggwennlinn989 3 роки тому +45

    He's a gem.

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +5

    thank God within just 3 months there are more than 100,000 people on UA-cam alone who love my story and are supportive of my efforts to de-stigmatize mental illness

  • @yeanyt
    @yeanyt 3 роки тому +41

    Such a sweet story. True love exists

  • @user-kc8qp1kh1d
    @user-kc8qp1kh1d 3 роки тому +60

    Mr Fernando, Doris is fortunate to have you as her husband. You are her guardian angel. I really respect you for not abandoning her this 40 years.
    I totally understand the life that you have been through. My mother has schizophrenia since I was young. For 20 years she has been with us and when she passed on with another illness, our house suddenly becomes so lonely. I guessed because life suddenly becomes a lot easier for us and we feel a sudden emptiness in our heart. Doris knew that you suffered a lot for her and she loves you and wanted to give back your freedom and happiness that she thinks you deserve it. I wish you to have a blessful life always.

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +1

      Thanks for your kind words, my friend

    • @rainbow-qs8ie
      @rainbow-qs8ie 3 роки тому

      When a family member passed away, there's a sense of desolation at home. The heart is bereft of the family member's presence. As the adverse effects of the illness no longer exist, obviously the family condition becomes less turbulent.

  • @madanarathimadangopal5890
    @madanarathimadangopal5890 3 роки тому +6

    What a moving reminder on the power of true love through thin & thick times.

  • @tereneng9858
    @tereneng9858 3 роки тому +4

    Hi Raymond ! I have had the wonderful opportunity to meet you many donkey years ago when we gathered at SPH Centre to promote our books. At that time, you did mention your beloved wife Doris and had spoken of her condition. After watching your Love story on UA-cam, I am immensely touched by your devoted love to Doris, to love unconditionally and care for her since Day 1. Not many men can do what you had selflessly done. Please take good care of yourself and stay strong. You ARE Wonderful !

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +3

      thanks , Terrence, yes, I have spoken about her condition, openly, many times in her presence such as when I gave talks to a wide audience, on TV where she sometimes participated with me in the interview /s. and now after she passed on. We both had a purposes,- to free the mentally ill from their prisoners and to counter prejudice.

  • @brontel3004
    @brontel3004 3 роки тому +12

    Their unwavering love for one another is truly inspirational and profound.

  • @limgl.7526
    @limgl.7526 3 роки тому +7

    My brother in law is schizophrenic for more than 30years and i've realized that the really important thing of this kind of illness is you need to support him, love him, taking care of him because this illness is a lifetime. Right now he's not taking any medication since the last 10years i guess we used to manage him but sometimes there is a relapse but most of the time he is controllable but the auditory hallucination is always there. He always whisper and keep on noding like there is someone talking to him. God bless you sir for not abandoning your wife since her last breath. Your truely a guardian angel to her.

    • @rainbow-qs8ie
      @rainbow-qs8ie 3 роки тому

      Medication controls the adverse effects of the Illness.

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому

      Thanks & God Bless you

    • @rainbow-qs8ie
      @rainbow-qs8ie 3 роки тому

      @@raymondafernando Do u hv a dedicated website?

    • @PeterLeo-m6w
      @PeterLeo-m6w 3 місяці тому

      Its great u all understand n support ur bro in law, at least makes it a lite easier on ur sis, God bless u all!❤❤

  • @karendesouza8610
    @karendesouza8610 3 роки тому +8

    Dear Raymond, you have a heart like Jesus' ..... May God use your testimony to reach out to those who are going through similar situations and to save souls for the glory of His kingdom. Be blessed Raymond.

  • @azakisma.1.mo_ago
    @azakisma.1.mo_ago 3 роки тому +19

    Love anyone you want as hard as you want, because no matter how strong the love is, one day you will be separated.

  • @yokes1648
    @yokes1648 3 роки тому +10

    Oh! I remember this couple!!!! When I was hospitalised at IMH & going back for out-patient appointments, I’d see their photograph on posters as advocates for mental health & caregiver well-being. Glad to be able to hear from the man himself.

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +4

    20 years ago, I had a dream, and as difficult as it seemed at the time, I was hungry to fulfill that dream. Yes, the key words in scaling greater heights are, Dream and Hungry. Don't allow obstacles or anyone to prevent you from being hungry to fulfil your dreams.
    Toss aside naysayers, just be hungry and continue to dream.

  • @amandadsilva5325
    @amandadsilva5325 3 роки тому +4

    So heartwarming, hope all the angels are watching over you Mr Fernando.

  • @hummit
    @hummit 3 роки тому +2

    You have my respect Sir! Heartwarming story of enduring love despite trying circumstances. 👍

  • @miloo3969
    @miloo3969 3 роки тому +3

    You are a good man, Raymond. Doris was very blessed because of you. God
    Bless you.

  • @angelatee1601
    @angelatee1601 3 роки тому +2

    Hi Raymond, thank you for sharing your story which is so encouraging and definitely give hope to many people with mental illness as well as families struggling to cope with a family member having mental illness. I’m deeply touched by the love, strength and courage you and your wife had for each other to cope with the challenges life and the illness presented. Your unconditional love and care for her and full acceptance and understanding of her mental condition showed us that a person having mental illness needs as much love and acceptance like everyone to live well. Thank you so much! You are a great man!

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому

      Thank you so much Angela, God Bless you & your loved ones. My advocacy efforts continues as there are still a few people who discriminate and try to hit out at me.

  • @sophiaisabelle01
    @sophiaisabelle01 3 роки тому +10

    Must be difficult to internalize how easy it would be for the man to break things off with his wife due to her mental condition way before her passing. Instead the opposite occurred, and now he remains steadfast in his beliefs that you must stay firm at all costs, no matter how hard it could possibly be.

  • @infallibleblue
    @infallibleblue 3 роки тому +2

    Bless you and thank you for sharing so others can know they are not alone.

  • @lidyasesillia9457
    @lidyasesillia9457 3 роки тому +11

    He is such an incredible husband. ❤️

  • @mahindarkaur9268
    @mahindarkaur9268 3 роки тому +4

    such courage sacrifice n devotion you sir are an angel on earth Doris was lucky she got what every woman wants but may never get

  • @amya6781
    @amya6781 3 роки тому +2

    You are blessed with a good heart. Sharing your story is a blessing to others.

  • @sathyavani2296
    @sathyavani2296 3 роки тому +8

    This is what we mean by genuine love! Sir u have accepted her as a whole, for who she is. We are proud of you.

  • @lilychua7866
    @lilychua7866 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you for showing us what unconditional love is, Mr Fernando! May God Bless you always.

  • @JK-jm6kd
    @JK-jm6kd 3 роки тому +2

    Awwww what a beautiful couple Raymond's amazing with excellent understanding

  • @BlackPearl-xo2dk
    @BlackPearl-xo2dk 3 роки тому +2

    I literally cried. Long live your's love... 🙏🏾

  • @blackeywhiteyakilaforlife182
    @blackeywhiteyakilaforlife182 3 роки тому +2

    I wish I met him too! In my life time! It’s truly inspirational and he’s an amazing human being.

  • @adelinegoh9033
    @adelinegoh9033 Рік тому

    Mr Raymond , I salute u for being such a caring and loving husband .
    God will always Bless You

  • @nyaiphonnira1042
    @nyaiphonnira1042 3 роки тому +6

    I was the same like him. Until now 36 yrs with my husband. He has the same sickness. My children and my grandchildren use to him when he is switch off.

  • @ivyarul5012
    @ivyarul5012 3 роки тому +4

    Such a loving husband. Doris is watching over you from heaven.

  • @lorenakelly6233
    @lorenakelly6233 3 роки тому +1

    This is what a true love is !! Thank's for sharing your wonderful love story that I'm sure will inspires a lot of people.🥰

  • @unicorn8802
    @unicorn8802 3 роки тому +2

    Sending you love ❤️ thanks for this worderful life saving story. U help a lot of people

  • @ss.27
    @ss.27 3 роки тому +1

    Dedication,Love and Sincerity. They love each other so much. God bless.

  • @heathergalbraith7444
    @heathergalbraith7444 5 місяців тому +1

    Crying and send you much love from Canada. It's all anybody wants in this life is to be loved and never abandoned. You sir are the epitome of a great husband. God Bless you and God Bless Doris

  • @PeterLeo-m6w
    @PeterLeo-m6w 3 місяці тому +1

    U are an amazing soul Raymond, u be rewarded abundantly in eternity, God bless n thank U so so much for taking care of Doris, u r the best gift of God to her!❤❤

  • @n0ah49
    @n0ah49 3 роки тому +9

    Hi Raymond, i was going through my books the other day and came across your book and thought to myself -- how have you been? just grateful i found you here and knowing TRS covered your story and reaching out to thousands more! i must admit i teared watching this video. thank you for continuing your mission to help the community. Keep writing and keeping you in prayers!

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +1

      i am coping , Noah , Which book of mine, Noah?

    • @n0ah49
      @n0ah49 3 роки тому +1

      @@raymondafernando Loving a Schizophrenic. u stopped by our church @St iggy's and we were at the first morning mass.. so glad to know you continue to create awareness . Take care !

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому

      @@n0ah49 Thanks Sister

  • @aynkhamal5096
    @aynkhamal5096 3 роки тому +3

    Your late wife was really blessed to have such a great husband who had loved her despite her adversities.Bless you Mr.Fernando

    • @aynkhamal5096
      @aynkhamal5096 3 роки тому +2

      Not many partners are compassionate and willing to scarifice.I hve battled through an illness more than 3 decades that I decided to quit work.

  • @catalinaortega4573
    @catalinaortega4573 3 роки тому +2

    I bought your book way back when there is a closing sale of books at the corner of China Town ...I think that was 2013 or later....once in a while I read it....but when my daughter bought it it took me about 3 months before I read the whole book....so busy with my grandsons and grandaughter at Ang Mo Kio Heights😍😘🤩 very informative and very loving....true love do exist😍😘🤩❤❤❤❤❤💙💙💙💙💙💚💚💚💚💚

  • @sareevandanas7858
    @sareevandanas7858 3 роки тому +3

    Salute sir... As a person with depression and moods swings, finding a partner with a full of understanding is a Blessing. Your wife is so lucky to have you by her side. Mental health problems is not a joke.

  • @shellyh204
    @shellyh204 3 роки тому

    Raymond, you are one special man. I hope to one day find a husband like you. Once of the sweetest love stories I have ever heard. God Bless you Raymond and continue resting in peace Doris

  • @kunasundarisuppiah2123
    @kunasundarisuppiah2123 3 роки тому +4

    OMG Mr.Raymond when everyone in Singapore is racing for money & pleasure, am I alive seeing a just perfect human.Mr Raymond.you have been so dedicated in your duty of taking care of your wife for forty long years. Salute your patience & love. You are just...... Amazing sir. Respect you to the summit.

  • @59thanks61
    @59thanks61 3 роки тому +2

    What a beautiful Love story. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @joannecheong7833
    @joannecheong7833 3 роки тому +2

    I can understand that you love your wife very much. As you would stand by her through thick and thin. This story has told me that no matter of all kinds of sickness, the love will dissolve all stolidity with the power of true loving. I am sure she is still there by your side no matter the distance in between you and her.

  • @christ6957
    @christ6957 3 роки тому +8

    It takes extraordinary courage and strength to be the spouse of a mentally ill person

  • @blessingfidelis2237
    @blessingfidelis2237 3 місяці тому +1

    God will comfort and continue to make you happy

  • @Jeffrey.C
    @Jeffrey.C 3 роки тому +1

    Respect and touching.

  • @rosinakamis
    @rosinakamis 3 роки тому +34

    Wow! My husband said he was dumping me because of PTSD. Today, he is married to a healthy woman while I am suffering with a whole lot of medical complications. He truly is a loser. I never trusted a man again and settled for wiener dogs.

    • @graceshum1892
      @graceshum1892 3 роки тому +5

      Life after PTSD may not be easy. If you can find comfort and trust in dogs, it may be a beginning of healing. May you find peace and trust in your own time and your own ways.
      Prayers and blessings!

    • @sienna3830
      @sienna3830 3 роки тому

      Hang in there Rosina! Totally ageee wiener dogs are better then men 🙌🏽

    • @RonLarhz
      @RonLarhz 3 роки тому

      You are the loser. Nobody owe u anything,esp if he wasnt the cause of your ptsd. Some people can take the mental strain some cannot. He is free to choose how he live his life. Nobody in right mind wants to be in toxic relationships.
      i have cptsd/AD/dtd,pdd

  • @Johanna-qf1yx
    @Johanna-qf1yx 8 днів тому

    Amazing !!!

  • @kapridus1144
    @kapridus1144 3 роки тому +1

    You’re awesome, Raymond. Stay strong!

  • @preciousbell4573
    @preciousbell4573 3 роки тому +3

    What a beautiful mix marriage. God bless you.

  • @princesspikapika4219
    @princesspikapika4219 3 роки тому +3

    True love. Sending positive vibrations

  • @dan01
    @dan01 3 роки тому +1

    Very touching, thanks for sharing.

  • @narayani2357
    @narayani2357 3 роки тому +2

    People cheat on each other,evn whn there's no problem and here you are❤❤❤

  • @KRUKOLIBIDINOUS
    @KRUKOLIBIDINOUS 3 роки тому +1

    The title of this video is inappropriate because you're treating her less than a human. She is not 'a schizophrenic' she is a person with schizophrenia.

  • @leegacy3099
    @leegacy3099 3 роки тому +4

    It just took the first minute of the video for me to see what is the meaning of true love.

  • @karunakaranveeramuthu7081
    @karunakaranveeramuthu7081 3 роки тому +2

    A big salute to you sir long life god bless you and her

  • @christinegitsham5012
    @christinegitsham5012 3 роки тому +1

    God bless your heart Raymond.💐

  • @maryasther4310
    @maryasther4310 3 роки тому +1

    U are a great person..God will bless u always

  • @ashleyw7021
    @ashleyw7021 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing! You are so brave and strong

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +1

    No, I don’t have a website coz its expensive to maintain a website, and I am jobless. I try to sell my book, “Pursuing dreams, transforming lives” to earn some money for my needs. The book retails at $20.

  • @chongyoumoicarlot9692
    @chongyoumoicarlot9692 3 роки тому +3

    I salute you, sir! You are such a strong guy mentally and physically! You are the angel guardian of your wife, she couldn't be happier without you! God bless you

  • @sienna3830
    @sienna3830 3 роки тому +2

    He is such a pure soul! This is the real definition of marriage! Unconditional Love & loyalty … may God bless him abundantly ❤️

  • @ricbakar3890
    @ricbakar3890 3 роки тому +3

    Raymond...Sir, I absolutely salute you. Your patience and perseverance is astronomical. The more I listen to your video, I am inclined to believe your love for Doris knows no bound and its that very essence of life - LOVE that propels you to be an extraordinary human being. It would be remiss to not acknowledge Royal Singapore. Thank you for showing uplifting and motivational real life videos that we can embrace.

  • @79gpatricia
    @79gpatricia 3 роки тому +1

    You are a good husband. Beautiful story. Hope to meet you one day and say Hi.

  • @yamingxie3451
    @yamingxie3451 3 місяці тому +1

    A story of true love.

  • @nubianhairhealerbigmecca3168
    @nubianhairhealerbigmecca3168 3 роки тому +5

    Damn his spirit is amazing

  • @faizahshawn6086
    @faizahshawn6086 3 роки тому +6

    I has his story book

  • @rosyxue1785
    @rosyxue1785 3 роки тому +11

    His love is so steadfast that he will choose to be married to his wife all over again. Still, how many men can said that after married to his wife?

  • @zinahurst8500
    @zinahurst8500 3 роки тому +2

    Your an amazing man love unconditionally my dad had paranoid schizophrenia

  • @claudibiscotti4710
    @claudibiscotti4710 3 роки тому +1

    Beautiful love story from beginning, it does not end✨❤️ Good video, thanks for sharing.

  • @bobafett5757
    @bobafett5757 3 роки тому +3

    Very inspiring story and I would love to meet up with this man cos indeed am on same boat with him but my waves and currents more rougher.

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you

    • @samuelcarroll5463
      @samuelcarroll5463 3 роки тому +1

      Stay strong mate

    • @rainbow-qs8ie
      @rainbow-qs8ie 3 роки тому

      Medication is very important.

    • @bobafett5757
      @bobafett5757 3 роки тому +1

      @@rainbow-qs8ie .. Medication and patience equally important.

    • @rainbow-qs8ie
      @rainbow-qs8ie 3 роки тому

      @@bobafett5757 Medic 4 patient, Patience 4 carer. No medic, meaningless care. Like just waiting for a house on fire to burn out.

  • @caroconga
    @caroconga 3 роки тому +2

    You, Sir, are an extraordinary man. Your devotion and dedication are remarkable. Thank you for shining such a loving and compassionate light on the struggles caused by mental illnesses. Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman.

  • @peach7558
    @peach7558 3 роки тому +2

    If every men is like him there will be always happy family

  • @PENSKY04
    @PENSKY04 3 роки тому +3

    Schizophrenia.. my mom.. 😭😭😭

  • @nandinick365
    @nandinick365 3 роки тому +1

    Respect 🙏🏽

  • @paulinetan781
    @paulinetan781 3 роки тому +1

    Kudos and respect

  • @raymondafernando
    @raymondafernando 2 роки тому

    A Lighted Blessed Candle, A collective Prayer
    A get-well message specially dedicated to 3 WO Jeffrey Heng
    Dear Jeffrey Heng,
    You must have spent hours training for the Grand Parade
    Certainly, the Red Lions stand tall
    As many will attest, you guys are simply great!
    Despite the risks in parachuting from the sky
    The Red Lions and you, Jeffrey, adopt an attitude of - never-say-die
    As with every dedicated serviceman, you answered the nation’s call
    Your bravery is recognized - even with that accidental hard fall
    I may not know you, Jeffrey, but I feel for you and your family
    Like many Singaporeans, we all stand with you - in solidarity
    For you Jeffrey, a blessed candle now burns at my altar
    Trust me, the power of prayer is as solid as the Rock of Gibraltar
    For you, Jeffrey, I call on all citizens to embrace a collective prayer
    For you are one person who dares to dream, I do declare
    I have every confidence that the Good Lord will help you to recover
    And a faith helps, you will, on all accounts, discover
    Jeffrey, the doctors and nurses will put you on the road to recovery
    And when you’re back on your feet again, Jeffrey
    Hey! Wouldn’t that be just lovely!
    Rest well and keep your spirits high
    And before you know, you’ll be parachuting all over again
    From that beautiful blue sky
    With best wishes,
    Raymond Anthony Fernando
    (@) copyrightraymondFernando 9Aug2022

  • @meethamani2611
    @meethamani2611 3 роки тому +2

    Very moving.

    • @raymondafernando
      @raymondafernando 3 роки тому

      Sure, God bless you for your kind words.

    • @meethamani2611
      @meethamani2611 3 роки тому

      @@raymondafernando
      I couldn't fathom the enormity of the situation when a senior colleague shared his life's experience being married to person having this beautiful personality.. Even after many years it was a case of intrigue n my lack of empathy coz I didn't know or rather couldn't understand what he was expressing is real... Then there came a day wherein I had a encounter with a beautiful person having such thought behavior.. It propelled me to study deeply abt the subject thanks to a neighbour who was imparting training to pple becoming teachers for privileged children. I had shown interest to learn more of this subject.. She loaned books written n published many decades ago, Later conclusion I found to my surprise. Pple with this thoughts are highly intelligent, receptive. Intutive loving caring responsible. Surprise! They know themselves. Their behavior is right. It is pple like us who react stupidly which amplifies their thought process that they are different, they notice the look on th the so called normal pple. N they retreat into a shell. Hey all they need is a Hug, love, understanding, smile, But the ferals in human expect all human shld be a copy of themselves,
      U have had a beautiful person as ur partner. God Bless.
      I don't know why but pple are drawn towards me n I have not disappointed them. Many are beautiful, happy. After a long many years my colleague came to my place of work even with a face mask on I could recognize him.. Yeah is still married to the same person n their was happiness in his eyes... Not all relationship are daunting if u have a giving, caring n loving attitude. 🙏

  • @yordistube3715
    @yordistube3715 3 роки тому +1

    You truly inspired others. Big respect!! 🙏🏼
    Rest In Peace to your wife.🕯

  • @trcr5473
    @trcr5473 3 роки тому +1

    Oh my god I needed this so much, thank you. I am so lost and my brother is struggling

  • @qiteindashenggreatsage3621
    @qiteindashenggreatsage3621 3 роки тому +21

    Stays near my place. Quiet and nice guy

  • @alfiedj
    @alfiedj 3 роки тому +1

    4:11 Thank you for sharing. I wish you the best Sir. God Bless.

  • @russelltan5954
    @russelltan5954 3 роки тому +1

    True love

  • @godsamazinggrace5331
    @godsamazinggrace5331 3 роки тому +1

    When a man truly loves a woman!!!
    Thanks Raymond for sharing your pain, sufferings, challenges which I believed you have had tried to camouflage all along!
    So sorry for your loss
    Please take care
    God bless you

  • @whitedaisies9355
    @whitedaisies9355 3 роки тому +7

    beautiful.

  • @ruuoxi
    @ruuoxi 3 роки тому

    Mr. Fernando story remind me of this lyrics
    When I can't see right in your eyes
    When I'm surrounded in the craziness of time
    When your understanding is trying hard to stand still
    When I wear layers of my pride, you should
    Undress me, undress me
    Unlock this chain and set me free
    Remind me to be myself
    Undress me, undress me
    Unleash my heart and make me see
    When I become someone else
    Whenever I'm trapped in this tide
    When I forgotten that there is you and I
    When your persuasion is fighting in a blindfold
    When I wear my bad moods to my mouth, you should
    Undress me, undress me
    Unlock this chain and set me free
    Remind me to be myself, myself
    Undress me, undress me
    Unleash my heart and make me see
    When I become someone else
    Like a rose without its thorn
    Like a bird without a song
    Like the fire without the flame
    If there's a painless love, we wouldn't be the same
    ~Anggun/Undress Me~
    thank you for sharing your story

  • @wong6957
    @wong6957 3 роки тому +1

    Peoples can have a lots of love stories, but a life saving hand and God’s likes heart is not easy to find. God bless you sir 🙏

  • @bozyman26
    @bozyman26 Рік тому

    Raymond, you are really inspiring me, i have a similiar situation but more lighter cases. You are really give me motivation to keep going in future and a truly agree "love is powering everything!" Thank you Raymond & Doris, May God blessing you both!

  • @estarat
    @estarat 3 роки тому +1

    Amazing .