What happens to lonely people under anesthesia?
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I'll share the impacts of loneliness on both mental and physical health, exploring the associated risks of heart disease, stroke, and dementia. As loneliness continues to be a pressing issue in today's society, understanding its far-reaching consequences becomes increasingly important.
Loneliness has been linked to various health issues, affecting not only emotional well-being but also increasing the risk of several chronic conditions. We'll discuss the connection between loneliness and the following health risks:
Heart disease
Stroke
Dementia
We will also examine the unique challenges loneliness poses for individuals undergoing anesthesia for surgery. In particular, we'll explore how worsened depression or anxiety can heighten the risks of postoperative pain and nausea.
💔 Heart Disease Risk and Loneliness
Research has indicated a strong association between loneliness and the development of heart disease. Lonely individuals may be more susceptible to inflammation and high blood pressure, both of which are risk factors for heart disease. Additionally, feelings of isolation can contribute to unhealthy lifestyle choices, such as poor diet and lack of exercise, further exacerbating the risk of heart problems.
🧠 Stroke Risk and Loneliness
Like heart disease, loneliness has been linked to an increased risk of stroke. The stress and inflammation associated with chronic loneliness can lead to vascular changes, which may contribute to the development of stroke. Furthermore, loneliness can result in poor health habits and increased stress levels, both of which can elevate stroke risk.
🔍 Dementia Risk and Loneliness
Loneliness has been identified as a potential risk factor for dementia. Social isolation and a lack of mental stimulation may accelerate cognitive decline, increasing the likelihood of developing dementia. Research suggests that maintaining strong social connections and staying mentally engaged can help protect against cognitive decline and dementia.
💉 The Implications of Loneliness for Anesthesia and Surgery
For individuals undergoing surgery, loneliness can pose unique challenges. Specifically, the worsening of pre-existing depression or anxiety due to loneliness can increase the risks associated with anesthesia and postoperative recovery. In this video, we'll discuss how these risks manifest themselves, including:
Increased postoperative pain: Heightened anxiety and depression can lower an individual's pain threshold, leading to more significant postoperative pain and a higher demand for pain medication.
Greater risk of postoperative nausea: Those with worsened depression or anxiety may be more susceptible to postoperative nausea and vomiting, a common side effect of anesthesia.
Prolonged recovery time: Mental health issues related to loneliness can interfere with the body's natural healing processes, potentially lengthening recovery time and increasing the risk of complications.
This live stream offers a comprehensive look at the far-reaching effects of loneliness on mental and physical health, emphasizing the importance of addressing this issue to ensure overall well-being. By understanding the risks associated with loneliness, including those related to anesthesia and surgery, we can take steps to alleviate its impact and promote a healthier, more connected society.
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Lonely does not always mean alone. Some people can be in a room full of people and still be lonely.
He addressed, I think 3 types of loneliness
@@DennisHaskens ...not really
Yeah I think it's more about being severely misunderstood and depressed.
Or conversely/on vice versa
Someone alone can be perfectly happy & not lonely...ehether in the short term (eg they could be meeting with a group of friends later that day...) or long-term (eg they prefer being alone/ prefer their own company or be natural introverts or "wallflowers"as opposed to the "life & soul", etc ..or in a relationship or constantly surrounded by friends thay may prefer to be alone as they naturally feel better/happier in solitude??? They naturally may LIKE being loners/alone and prefer their own company in general
It's parental/peer/social pressure/anxiety that makes them look or feel like they're"wrong" or "different" or ",need fixing" or should be happy when even though they ain't or vice-vrsa (ie like they're "freaks" or something or they're is something "seriously wrong with" or "weird" bout them etc
Which is in turn the possible cause of the anxiety, depression and nightmares and bsd dreams or bad trips, etc instead of the mere state of being alone or even lonely even though it ain't the root cause...its the pressure or feelings that they SHOULD be feeling the opposite way to what they actually do lol which is obv so wrong ofc and is in fact toxic people (eg parents or "friends",etc) who are the real inferior or "weird" ones as they may often bully pressure or gaslight etc but some may do it in a well meaning or "their hearts are in the right place" kinda way as opposed to maliciously or deliberately/heartlessly ory in a bad/ "nasty" way,et⅚c!!!!😍😒🤣🤣
Omg 40 mins of typing on the toilet lol
@Cobalt ikr the original quote is more of a "strawmanning" ie misquoting or misunderstanding (whether deliberate or not) and taking out of context (important yet frequently misused or misunderrated!! ie misunderstood AND underrated at some time)
It brings me back to a quote from Robin Williams (RIP) "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone."
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That's just splitting hairs..
It's not his quote. It's his line in a movie he played.
Doesn't take the impact away from the line, but Williams suffered from Lewy-body-dementia. The people in his life at the end don't deserve to be thought as people who made him feel alone. His illness was the cause of his harm not them.
Ugh this is so true 😞😞 I definitely feel this way at times. The person I love the most brings the worst out of me. I can't blame them because we equally should share that blame.
I agree and I always pictured that saying when Robin Williams said this quote and this is so true and this is correct
The issue : fewer and fewer people have anyone to pick them up and be with them after surgery. We need a solution for that
This is an underrated comment
Because of the issue you mention, I’m opting for NO sedation. This will also allow me to drive myself. What he says about how sedation and its effects on brain makes me even more determined to do it without going under. I had to ask the question my self to my doctor about the OPTION of NO sedation after researching the topic. I find it interesting that we don’t have it listed as an option from our doctors rather they just assume and assign sedation. This to me is part of poor practice on a doctors part when you have to do the research and ask them the question.
Its called.community ... but America destroy families and communities .... now no one talks to their neighbors... they leave the house at 18... no relations wth cousins and extended family
Yes, they asked if I had someone to drive my home. Yes. Then they asked if someone could stay overnight with me. No. They didn't offer a solutuon. I went home and looked after myself like always.
Thank you for this comment. In 1997 I stayed in hospital for a few days after a middle ear operation. I took a taxi to go home on my own. There wasn't even anybody to take my luggage via the stairs to the first floor!! While I wasn't allowed to move my head too much!! I was simply alone and had to care for myself. I think I asked a man passing by in the street if he was willing to take my luggage up to the first floor.
I'm lonely, I have anxiety, and depression. I had foot surgery in September in 2023. The doctor and other medical professionals told me I was talking about my cats. My 6, wonderful, precious and loving cats. They are what makes me get through my days.
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We have a fur family too, we feel blessed. 🐱 ❤
Mine are my nurses ❤
As an elderly senior, there is nothing worse than having people be condescending and not take you seriously.
My sister says "we have become invisible" and our voices are dismissed.
@@suegatti9376
It's absolutely Dispicable how the elderly are treated! The medical professionals as a whole has lost All respect, compassion, & heart for All patients, but especially the elderly.
My mum is 82 and still competent, mind absolutely fine!
Yet I've noticed health professionals, people when out ignore her and talk to me about her. I always point out that my mum is right here so please feel free to chat to her!.
I don't understand why people do this?
It's just the same when people are in wheelchairs!x
Yes. People choose expediency over personal connection when dealing with people over a certain age. There's also an assumption that people over 70 need help with everyday tasks that they are handling independently. The courtesy is appreciated, but I'm guessing it wouldn't be offered so automatically to a person, say of the age of 40, 50 or 60. Don't call me honey either.😊🙃😉
@@CherylBerryl Yes! Had to take DH to ER twice in a month. Things are changed. But weird.
Now, there’s more of what APPEARS as friendly concern, but, other things seem to be going on.
Years ago, there was brusk, efficient behavior, & often, patients & families were ignored, mixed with the knowledge that patients were their bread & butter; high stress, overworked staff.
But this time…
The discussion of “Advanced Directives” came up each visit.
“Do you want to be resuscitated if your heart stops?”
We said yes, unless conditions negated quality of life, etc. It seemed a very friendly/concerned, attentive discussion.
But what came next?…
Doc tried to ..actively.. dissuade either of us from wanting to be resuscitated, by saying things like, “only a very small % (7% ?) of those resuscitated have any quality of life after, they get broken bones, bruised hearts, etc; most folks don’t survive resuscitation”.😳
It seemed kinda like a covert suggestion that saying no to CPR, could be an “easy out” to let go of life…kinda like the more common big dose of morphine to quietly help a hospice patient die a bit easier & sooner instead of suffering (yes, that happens more than public knows).
THAT….seems to fly in the face of something like nearly 60 years of Red Cross selling industries & public on learning CPR.
Some businesses Mandated workers be qualified to do CPR on a coworker for up to 30 minutes, even while up a utility pole?!
Telling everyone it works great? 🤔…for about 60 years? …then now, suddenly it’s not worth trying?
Has the healthcare industry gone over to the dark side, trying to “lose elderly patients by attrition” (any easy way to allow them to die)?
Because, I don’t think they try to tell this to younger patients!?
My husband has dementia and had surgery for hydrocephalus, he's 84 years old. When he woke from surgery and came out of the ICU he ripped out his IV's and it took 8 people to get him back into his room. They were going to restrain him but a kind nurse remembered he likes Elvis and started to sing one of Elvis' songs and my husband settled down and started singing with her.
I have seen music calm my mother down when she was having an echocardiogram. She had tremendous anxiety, and I had a sudden thought to play her favorite songs on youtube. IMMEDIATELY, she calmed down and began to sing along. It is truly magical, what music can do for elderly patients!
Your husband woke up with akastisia
@@Lisa-xf5uf akathesia sucks so bad but it's caused by long term medication use. Mostly SSRI's and SNRI's and similar drugs. Sounds like this person is suffering from elderly stage dementia, which also is a very hard thing. 😕
I'm sorry I actually misread what you wrote. I'm not sure what that is. Is it related to hydrocephalus? The brain is such a complex thing.
So much respect for nurses! They save lives. God Bless and Love nurses. Fauci not so much!
"Are you lonely tonight" ??
It’s good to see someone with integrity and not all about the money
I worked in hospitals and it’s the most vulnerable place to be. The providers who show this level of bedside manner are saving so many lives. Thank you for talking about this difficult topic. ❤
A doctor made a video.and.he said.doctors hate being.called providers. He says it has to stop. His whole video was against the world providers for doctors.
Loneliness is an epidemic. And you don't have to be alone to be lonely. ❤
So true. Im sitting here alone im ok . At one point in my life i was married had 2 children and a job where 200 other people worked around me . I felt so alone i wanted to be gone from life. Im now alone with my self but im good or much better than back then. I know we all matter. Every thing happens for a reason. God works in mysterious ways. Much love to this man/angel and you all . Airhugs of positive loving energy To you all
Good thing it won't be much longer until Jesus arrives. The planet can't continue on in the direction we are going.
That's sad to be lonely and you're not alone.
But you do have to be stuck with only "medications" "therapies" "mental health" "the lord/savior/yahweh/allah", "inner beauty" or fat/ugly chicks "your own age".
:)
Just sayin.
Right
We need more doctors like you . Doctors need to be more empathetic and add compassion to their practice.
That's very kind if you, thank you!
So true, ignoring the mind tends to exacerbate problems, more drugs can make it worse.
I love him!
Have you seen MORE of these cases since Covid?
@@Bright.Vibezzz A good deal of us don’t use any drugs other than what is prescribed for us.
I hope every anesthesiologist is as kind understanding and good with their job like you are.
This profession doesn’t give contact; once.
They are not.
Exactly ❤
It’s impossible to know how surgeons, nurses and anesthesiologists behave once their patient is anesthetized.
My sister is a retired surgery nurse. She kept copious notes about every surgery, to make sure she protected herself in case of lawsuits or worse. That was because of the steady stream of mistakes that were made during the surgeries.
They all are not like this man. Think about it, they are people and we people are all different.
Why are there so few medical doctors like you. A great gift to healthcare.
Coming out of anesthesia, I remember a nurse asking me in a scolding tone, "You're not going to cry on me, are ya?" This was 50+plus years ago. As attributed to Maya Angelou , "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
It really is surprising in the care industry how many unpleasant people there are. I've been relatively lucky (well, there were some grumpy nurses when I broke my arm 10 years ago but it was stupidly late at night), but I've encountered people who are things like mental health nurses who really shouldn't be.
Absolutely. I've had some horrible doctors and nurses, and some wonderful ones.
There should really be personality tests to even be a health care worker.
@@NeglectedField I don't quite remember the context of the situation, but once when I was in the hospital, a nurse mocked my symptoms. Like I was pretending or something. As Ibaze wrote, I didn't remember exactly what she said, but I remembered how I felt.
@@kvassinc I guess culture plays a component (I don't know where you're from), though sometimes it's just luck of the draw.
@@NeglectedField In my opinion, medical care must be psychologically resistant to the fact that patients may die. Naturally, then there will be a larger percentage of people who do not feel empathy and are unpleasant.
I had an emergency surgery that involved an ambulance trip at 2 AM with my 4 year old and just me. I was sent home with a lacerated spleen on bedrest 3 days before, which works so well as a single parent, and I literally felt my guts open up at about 1:30 AM. Realized I couldn't walk, called 911, and tried to put on a brave face for my poor, scared little kiddo. "Some very nice people are going to give us a ride because mommy needs a check-up : )". Ambulance showed up, my 4 year old rode on a seat above my head in her pj's and her little stuffed monkey. I smiled, told her it was going to be ok, we were going on an adventure, and these are cool doctors with a cool truck. Of course they had to start an IV, hook me up to the monitors, blah blah. I was asked if there was anyone to call once I got to the hospital to take my kiddo. I just said "nope : )" through tears looking at my kid. We found someone after an hour, the surgeon was called in but promised to wait until someone got to the hospital to be with my kid. It took two hours, but someone showed up. Nurses and Anesthesia ran me through the halls. Apparently I coded as soon as I hit the hall. My kid didn't see it, but i was conscious before I went wheeled into surgery. I said "dude, i'm scared". I felt like such a bitch. They gave me an IV push of something in the hallway and said "It'll be ok". I asked what they gave me. The nurse said "We put the lime in the coconut". Then slowly the 6 people rolling me down the hall started singing "You put the lime in the coconut, mix it all up..." clearly this was not protocol, but I think if my last thought before anesthesia was me freaking out about my kid all alone it would have been really awful. I needed three blood transfusions and some kind of vacuum to suck up all the stuff that already bled out. If my heart rate was any higher I for sure would have kicked the bucket. I can't even track any of those people down to thank them. Some of those people went to medical school for 3-7 years to sing my dumbass "Coconut" to lower my blood pressure so I wouldn't die. So, just a general 'thank you' to everyone in this field of medicine. I was stressed, and anesthesia probably made it possible to save my life.
This is beautiful. As a single mom with a small autistic child, this is a massive fear. I’m so glad they were kind to you 🥹❤️🩹
Emily4gov. Who took care of your child while you were undergoing this procedure?
this reminds me of a scene in a show i cant remember, pretty sure it was a medical based show. one of the main characters dies, and they eventually begin to sing that song together to bond and cry over their loss. sometimes thats all u can do to get thru things. Put the lime in the coconut
Your story made me cry im glad your still here you are awesome. I hope you teach your daughter to put the lime in the coconut song . Happy mothers day. Sending you Airhugs of positive loving energy to you and yours and everybody else.bGOD BLESS YOU ALL
Best story EVER. ❤️
You call your patients the night before & your not their surgeon or primary care physician.... you're the anesthesiologist scheduled for their specific procedure.
I can't begin to explain how unusual, and impressive you are, as a human being & certainly as a part of the medical team caring for all the random patients you get sent your way. This level of care, in someone's well-being, is my hope for us all, to both be this compassionate with the people we deal with & receive it as well.
It’s not unusual for an anaesthetist to call their patients. They’re the person keeping you alive.
@@francinejones2524 Interesting, perhaps it's a difference between our healthcare systems...?... As a Canadian with almost a dozen surgeries over the past decades, the anesthesiologist has never spoken to me after our "pre-anesthesia appointment ( which can be with any of the anesthesiologists on staff, not necessarily the one at the surgery).
Me either, not once!!!! Ty for bringing this up!
😭 I cried, because doctors told me that I need to have a surgery in my spine and I don't want to. And I suffer depression and loneliness. I can walk but I had a compression and I'm afraid. Thank you for making this videos and show this. I learn a lot and you are so gentle and human
Have you tried a reputable chiropractor before you even consider surgery? A chiro that doesn't make you come back 30 times. One you can go 5 times, let it settle after treatment? I did and I'm glad.
@@johnkelly9451 I'm having physiotherapy sessions, and I'm better, but some therapists don't have the patience to treat someone more than a month, and this takes time. Actually, one told me that if I don't get the surgery, I'll end up in a wheelchair and I cried. I broke my spine in a gym, but I'm strong and sometimes Mother nature is wiser
God bless you 🙏 ❤️
I have an opposite story. My 86 yr old dad had a partial hip replacement. In the recovery room he was slow to wake up and his BP was lower than it should be. The recovery nurse came out to get my mom (married 63 yrs) to bring her back. Within seconds of her presence and holding his hand his BP came back to normal and woke up. It just proved the real love and connection I saw all my life.
I have seen this, too. (20 years as RN).
my elderly mom had surgery and wasn't coming back around after. her temperature was going up and she was semi-conscious. the surgeon was nowhere around, just a few nurses. we called up a surgeon we knew who came over and recognized something, and the solution was to hydrate her. then a few years later the same thing at a bigger hospital, she didn't know what year it was etc. i remembered the former thing, and saw what to me looked like dehydration in the elderly and suggested to one remarkable nurse they hydrate her. she talked to a doctor about it and came back and hydrated her and in a few hours she was fine. afterward a nurse or two implied they thought she was going to die. if she was alone i don't know if she'd be more lonely, but she'd be more dead!!
Beautiful! 🙌
This is simply beautiful & thanks for sharing! 🥰
The same with my husband who survived misdiagnosed pheochromocytoma for 14 years. Before surgery as soon as I would get there and touch him his BP would stabilize. ☺️
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This guy is a rare breed in the medical industry! Much respect
Rare, never had I have a doctor that would communicate with me anything besides the paperwork questions type of thing, I'm confident empathy and compassion is not a thing with alot of docs and surgeons, based off my experiences.
Amen
@@mlouhig1536 Some yes, but most care very much about THEIR patients.
And he's pretty - sorry for noticing😊
@Mlou Hig - Sorry to say, but I think what you said is probably true.
It is both rare and remarkable that you express such compassion and concern for the wellbeing of patients. We need more compassion in the medical field and in the world.
I love your caring spirit. Any person who has the pleasure of having you "Put them under " is truly blessed. You are one of a kind ❤️
If surgeons can't operate on depressed people they'll be totally out of business very shortly.
This is what I'm thinking. I doubt any surgeries were cancelled while patient was on the table about to receive anesthesia after finding out about depression.
Could you please explain further? What's the correlation?
I Agree.
90% of People are Depressed about something.
@@user-jb8ts6hk9w 😆🤣🤣🤣
@@supreme.justicethank you for your comment 🤔 I was thinking the same thing…
This Doctor is an empath. We need more of these around. 😊
@@lisaedwards6533Why would you say what the doctor is saying is false ? Are you a doctor? Are you an anesthesiologist?
I just wondered.
Thank you. 🎉
You dont have to be a doctor to have knowledge of anesthesia. All a person with common sense has to do is pick up a medical book and read. And narcissistic people love empaths because they can use their kindness for their own demonic pleasure.
@@lisaedwards6533 This is the most ridiculous troll on UA-cam. I wonder how scummy and pathetic the life is of a person who thinks this is fun.
Not many docs are like this
@@lisaedwards6533are YOU a doctor?
WHO ARE YOU?! Such kindness, caring and interest in your patients and talking about mindset, effects on the subconscious 😮 im so impressed, thank you for your work. We need more like you
This is difficult news. I’m 72. I retired and moved across the country 3 years ago. My wife of 46 years died the end of March this year of uterine cancer. I’m scheduled for cancer surgery, not radical surgery, but surgery. I had a radical prostatectomy for adenocarcinoma 22 years ago with recurrence 3 years ago followed by radiation treatments. So facing cancer is not new. What’s new is I am not really looking forward to the future as I was only weeks ago before my wife fell ill, before she had any diagnosis of life threatening illness. My plans and hobbies all seem rather unrewarding, even pointless now. Fortunately I have kids and grandkids to occupy my mind, but no confidante, no one to sit with me on the porch and reminisce with coffee in the morning or share the quiet times. Before I watched your kind message, I already feared that I might break down under anthesia and say something foolish. Now I suspect my weeknesses could be exposed in a very intimate way.
Don’t be such a weak kid. You have 72 years of accumulated experience and courage. You’ve lived everything life had to offer you.
Be a defiant old coot
I think it's okay to break down, even under the influence of gas and air. U are in a controlled environment, and the medical staff are probably used to it. Don't worry about it and just let it go...Hopefully all goes well for u. Life, I think is a gift, even after the loss of ur loved ones. Enjoy what is remaining of ur life😊
Hang in there. I'm glad you are getting medical help to takencare.of yourself.
Try reaching out to seniors groups in your area. There may be someone in just the same situation as you that you could your company as well!🤗
People are afraid they are going to say something inappropriate while under anesthesia. You will have a tube down your trachea, and totally asleep. I worked in Recovery room for many years no one ever said anything inappropriate, sometimes disoriented, but that was it. No worries!
This is the single most hopeful and real thing I've heard about depression in a long time. Life never feels "worth it" without having anything to look forward too. Much love to other sufferers, we're gonna be ok ❤
We are gonna be okay when the shotgun blast blows out our medulla oblongata
@@SB-mr2nk wow look at you promoting people to unalive, why would you even comment this shit
we are gonna be okay ❤
Live for yourself! Live to be healthy and care for yourself! Live for a pet!
@@SB-mr2nk I'll never condem someone for ending their life
I was a psychotherapist. When I was on call in ER, especially during Valentines, Thanksgiving and Christmas, was when I saw the higher number of patients with profound depression. I was inspired by the work of the nurses, most of them were so caring and compassionate towards my patients. But it was an ER doctor, with the awareness and compassion as big as yours, who inspired me to want to join the medical part of healthcare. Most doctors were dismissive of dual diagnosis patients, but he was one that would sing to a patient, praise them, hold a patient’s hand when they were scared, etc. He never rushed a patient and always treated them with respect. Now I’m finishing nursing school and I’m excited to be able to better support patients in both aspects.
Doctors like you are a blessing, thank you for advocating for your patients and taking the time to support them this way.
We need ppl like you to care for our loved ones. Thank you
Very smart and caring and it shows . intelligent young man.
You are also a blessing with your awareness and compassion. May you thrive in your career. I thank you greatly.
You are so right they are so rare! And good for you with your mental health background going into nursing you will be of such value. Hospitals are really scary places; patients feel really vulnerable and they often regress. We really need medical staff to understand their experience better.
What a wonderful comment!❤
This was fantastically thoughtful and caring. Thank you for being a force for positive change in our medical system.
I’ve always known just how important you are in the operating room, i just hope the rest of our anesthesiologists feel just the way you do. I will be real honest here, it’s a bit sad…after watching your channel I have great respect for you, you are truly someone who cares for us as a person…we are more to you then a big paycheck. I’ve had countless surgeries beginning at the age of 18. All the anesthesiologists I’ve had with the exception of a couple have always come into my room saying the same thing…they ask if i know what surgery I’m having, if I have any questions, they ask me if ive had any problems with anesthesia before…they say next i will see you in surgery, they will take good care of me. Your job is the most important job in that room! Thank you so much for you truly caring for each and every one of us!
When I was in nursing school (never graduated) I observed a minor procedure in an OR. I was right in there. The patient was a teen girl. As they rolled her around as they were doing their thing, her hospital gown kept falling down, exposing her breasts. No one seemed to care, and it seemed like they were not looking at her as a whole person, but the anesthesiologist kept pulling the gown up to cover her. I was very impressed by him treating her with dignity and not a piece of meat.
I can agree that’s impressive he cared enough to do that and admirable of him. I have wondered about and considered the fact that perhaps, to a certain degree, surgeons NEED to compartmentalize their work from the person they’re performing surgery on. I once went on a date with an ENT surgeon. Since I’d never dated a surgeon before or since, I took the opportunity to ask questions and try to understand that perspective… What it must feel like. I know I personally could never do it. Knowing a life is in my hands that way… the emotions and stress I would feel from that, I just never would be able to handle it. So I asked him what performing surgery was like… how he handled that. He told me it was a bit like going into trance but where he’s just laser-focused on the mechanics of what he’s doing. All other thought would leave his mind. He knew the body parts and the surgery he was performing… what he needed to do with the tools and the parts to properly perform the surgeries, and that was all he focused on in those moments. And it made sense actually. I’d imagine in the moments while surgery is being performed, it’s best for the surgeon’s mind to be strictly focused on the task at hand rather than overthinking too many other details.
As an RN who worked 30 years in the OR I can assure you no one thought of the patient as a piece of meat but it’s all hands on deck to get her induced and positioned correctly prior to the incision. We see so many naked bodies we don’t pay attention to nudity, it’s the norm, but you didn’t know that and personalized it. 🙂
@Jeez yes the staff are used to seeing naked bodies but the patient probably isn't used to people seeing their body.
As a patient I won't to know that if my gown falls open someone will immediately cover me up!!!
Yes, when I was 17 and had surgery my gown kept falling down and the nurses did nothing to help me, I couldn’t put it up myself. When this terrible nurse I had wheeled my bed to have my heart checked as I was tachycardic the dr there put up my gown and told her off about it. I am really greatful to that Dr.
I am now a Nurse myself but, there are truly disgusting drs and nurses out there.
My buddy shadowed at a morgue and his first day was pretty much everyone showing off how desensitized they were. They had him handle a young female car accident fatality and basically made fun of him for being uneasy. They didn't do anything weird or grope her but they made a bunch of jokes and it wasn't exactly dignified.
I worked with an anesthesiologist that if a patient would say something pre-anesthesia like, “I’m gonna die!” he would put the brakes on and counsel the patient and explain that he wasn’t going to put them under anesthesia with that fear and mindset. He took whatever time was needed and took that patient’s fears very seriously. He was one of our kindest guys and would never let a surgeon coerce him into proceeding with anesthesia when they would try to rush or demean him. He was unaffected and always did “the right thing” which wasn’t necessarily the popular thing with surgeons. I miss working with him. After watching your video I’m sure you two are birds of s feather! 💗🦅
I graduated from nursing in school in 1972 (dark ages) but I remember this being said, that you don't take a patient to surgery that expresses belief they will die.
I know what you mean. I had some serious health issues and had some of the best doctors in the country because I lived in a suburb of Chicago. I became aware during abdominal surgery. The surgeon noticed a slight tension of the abdominal muscles and notified the anesthesiologist. I know this because I heard him. I moved to a different state and had what I’m sure was a subpar anesthesiologist. You can tell because they know everything. I told him about the episode. His response was, ‘I’m sure I know what I’m doing’. Yeah, well so did the surgeon that was trained at Rush Presbyterian and the anesthesiologist who was taught at Loyola. So was my main doctor who was constantly conferencing with her Loyola specialists
❤ whoever the anesthesiologist is that you know, cared about people that much is a hero in my book! I am a retired nurse, and those kind of doctors are rare. Thank you for recognizing him.!!❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
Yes, I am a retired periop nurse. Worked all three areas. This is so true. People who are not ready, should not go to OR, unless its an emergency. I always appreciated anesthesia docs who realized that and stopped that surgery for that day.
What an amazing doctor! God bless his heart!❤❤
I saw you on Peter Santenello's channel. You have definitely found your calling and purpose in life. And you are truly making a positive difference in the lives of others. Thank you!
You are an awesome doctor, btw. Your degree of concern is way above and beyond what the norm is in the medical field today.
I love that you don’t shy away from calling the medical care system broken. We all already know it
That's an understatement for sure. I'm in the hospital as we speak. Not being treated well and that's a fact!
@@jackiemack8653 I hate to say it, but younger generations are alot of the fail - there's a lack of empathy & care in general & I don't see it getting better over time.
@@violetfem1808 because our generation has been preyed upon by the spoiled boomers. We can’t afford housing. Medical system is broken and can’t help us. Even trying to get educated put us in massive debt. Climate change is coming to wreck the planet and boomers just deny all of our suffering. You spoiled boomers just don’t understand because your generation didn’t get preyed upon like we did.
@@violetfem1808 The younger generations had to grow up in times we older people did not.
@@violetfem1808 Guess who raises the younge gens
I actually knew someone who went to your hospital and he said your staff was more supportive than his own family was. I wish there were more doctors who also cared to master their work and enjoy seeing a positive outcome of a healthy and safe surgery of a patient.
@The Wandering k excuse me being curious- what kind of infection was that? Could you explain?
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You are great. I love that you aren't afraid to inconvenience the system for the sake of the patient.
This is the first of your video’s that I have come across and, I must say, I do greatly appreciate your candor, honesty and, bringing attention to all of the issues you have, thus far, addressed here.
The “Broken healthcare system” is the highest priority, in my opinion. If we had a ‘well oiled’ system, it could defi
I felt make it more conducive to preventing loneliness in the FIRST place. Also, being alone and, feeling lonely are two completely different things.
I lost my mother near the beginning of Covid. She was in an Alzheimer’s facility and when they made the decision to stop allowing visitors, THAT is when my Mom passed. I believe she died of a broken heart due to not being able to receive the love, care and, attention from her family. What we do to our elderly is shameful.
I am becoming one of them. I would prefer to ‘go’ with dignity and, feeling as though I made a positive difference in this world than to placed somewhere feeling as though people are just waiting for me to pass.
My dad at 90 had a hip replacement. The recovery room came and got me to sit with him as his blood pressure went high. I held his hand and all his stats normalised. Love heals ❤️
When you’re lonely nobody comes to hold your hand
@@bradleyblauvelt1572LMAO, got em! Good one broski💀💔
@Nicholas TV thank you sir
Just wanted to let you know that harp music lowers blood pressure. Heart Hospital of New Mexico has a harpist that comes in when medication is not working good enough to get the BP down. Even the recorded music helps.
So correct. People when in a coma may hear us and realize family is in the room. We never know what they hear or in tehri mind see that is going on and we must be very careful what we say and how it is said. Or what we do during those times. Even what we do not do like 'not showing up because we think "they do not know" they can feel the person they know, if touched etc. You are so right.
Your compassion brings tears to my eyes. I worked in surgery and never experienced what you are describing. How fortunate your patients are to have you as their Anesthesiologist and advocate! 😊
Amen... We thank God for you and pray you'll remain safe and continue to advocate for your patients always... Blessings for you and your family... ❤
Aren't they, though? I never knew that an anesthesiologist could care so much about the healing of his patients!
What does ketamine do your mind?
Oh thats so sad!
What a caring soul!
I noticed you seem tired and you are kind enough to still depart this wisdom. You are so great for doing this and opening our minds for us. Having hip surgery so…have depression, angst, and loneliness also.
Wow! Thankyou! Born into medical family 73 years ago,
love your findings. Please keep it
up- part of the solution not the
problem.
What a humane, understanding doctor. Bless his heart.
I really wish the whole medical community was like this.
Gosh what a guy this Dr. is
@@mai-linhmainor5965 if only though I must say that my experience with doctors and nurses here in Switzerland has been excellent; they have all been kind and patient and ready to listen. Maybe I just got lucky.
@@joanmccarty6445 one of life's true angels. Thankfully the world is full of them.
The sick care industry in the US is horrific and cruel at best. #UniversalHealthcare #MedicareForAll
If more doctors were like you, we would be a much healthier country. Keep the uploads coming!
But then doctors don't make money from sick people. If everyone was healthy, they wouldn't have a job.
Saying lonliness and depression can be "medicated" is why the world is such a terrible place.
Trust me, there are many more like him, but the spotlights are reserved to politicians and Hollywood...
You mean more doctors who give identifying information about their patients making it easy to figure out who he's talking about???
I find this problematic.
doctors arent the problem. its the drug company cartels.
Thank you so much for your transparency in your deep level of compassion for the people that you put under I appreciate what you're telling everybody here it's extremely important information before going under and into the knife
You’re an exceptional Dr., Dr! First time here. Just subscribed. Have never had an anesthesiologist like you. What a blessing you are!
I’ve been a nurse for 50 years ! The information you are presenting is so important!!!
Hello, I’m recently had laparoscopic inguinal hernia surgery. The surgeon came in. Then, he said anesthesia would be in to see me. All I remember is the nurse asking me if I’d like something to relax me prior to the surgery. I said yes. She put it in my iv. Next thing, I was awakened and my surgery was complete. When I woke up, I was confused and thought the anesthesia folks were waking me up to take me to have the surgery. What happened? Was what the nurse who put the stuff to help me relax, the anesthesia? Did anesthesia occur while I was asleep? This is not a complaint. It felt like the best sleep I’ve ever had in my life. And not sure if it’s classified as being lonely, but I spend all of my time outside of work by myself. I was afraid of what I might say while under anesthesia. Can you give me some clarification? Thanks in advance.
I was nurse for mental handicaps and it is totally another things than the operation block.
I talk about actresses that turn me on when im under
I could tell from your eyes how much you felt for this poor lonely man whose hope had left him. You're a good guy. The medical field needs many more people like you.
@@bernhardschwarz6792Spot on
Sad to hear your hope has left you…
I have never known hope I don’t think!
But if this is what it is then Ivjustcthank God for all the good folk that is all around you helping you and sharing with you!
Wishes fulfilled 🙏🏼💃🕺💚💙💜❤️🧡😇🍀
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@HITZONE PRODUCTIONS OK will do
Please, he gets off on it! ⚔️🇺🇸
Dr. Kaveh, U r like an angel ! Ur so compassionate and absolutely lovable. Thanks for being such a good human and doctor !
You have a wonderful attitude and thoughtfulness about the issues connected with depression. THX.
Very good video. I am 24 and loneliness has affected my entire life. From my parents working too much, to moving in between schools and never making long term connections. Coping with drugs, foods, technology, only making it worse. We need each other more than we know.
Can relate boo
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Hi Michael, I’ll share something that someone said that helped me understand when I was younger: we are always alone, but we are never alone. Loneliness is torture, but aloneness is bliss. Loneliness goes away when you know yourself better, when you pause to enjoy your own company, to discover what makes you unique and happy, when you are gentle and loving to yourself, when you are ok with whatever feeling may come or go without drowning, when you cease to emotionally depend on others for your own wellbeing. A project, a hobby, a book, a pet, a walk in nature, anything that brings you closer to enjoying your own company will also help you connect with others. Remember we are all in this journey together, and you are never alone. Finally I’ll say this, aging can be hard, but time brings the relief of emotional maturity. Give yourself time ❤
Read the Bible and connect to the God of the Bible, and you will realize that you have never been alone.
@@earthacademy4549 the beautiful truthEarth Academy, thank you for spreading it! It all begins with feeling for our innerself, connected to the Great Life Force, the energy of inner bliss....just close your eyes and feel the vibration of life, quiet awareness and then look for connection with others who value their innerlife innerself, for these are the company worthy of you and will bring satisfaction, calm, and the vibration of loving gratitude
I’m glad that previously dismissed mental-emotional illnesses are finally being recognized on a large scale
The beauty of modern science. It just boils down to simple observation and reason. Previous psychologists were biased. But reason eventually won out
Is it that they dismissed them or that many of these illnesses hadn't been made up yet? Loneliness is not a mental illness. It isn't based on science but on public demand. Many years ago homosexuality was listed as a mental disease but that changed only after it became more socially acceptable. Strange how "science" can be changed by social unrest.
@@zzzcocopepe Psychologists are just secular priests that people go tell all their secrets to instead of a Catholic priest.
@@zzzcocopepe Previous psychologists were mostly psychiatrists, and they only know how to put drugs on top of your feelings.
Why didn’t I have successful knee surgery
I wish I had you during my past and upcoming surgery next week! keep up the care, dedication and compassion, you're doing an amazing job! people like you are rare let alone doctors! 🙏
Wow this video just popped up on my feed and I’m so happy it did! I love learning about the body and health, this was such an interesting piece of content. Look forward to engaging with more!
I was given "twilight" for a dental extraction. When I woke I was crying inconsolably as the assistants were trying to get me up and moving. I calmed down, but I did not stop crying for an hour afterwards. It was a very lonely time in my life and I had unprocessed trauma. It was amazing to me that this behavior was buried inside me.
Chiropractors also have elicited buried trauma. I am glad you listened to this discussion. I am a retired psychiatrist and few fellow physicians discussions with the patients. I wish you well.
@@barbarahouk1983 Woah really? Do you have a source I could read? I've been planning on seeing one to help with my chronic illness. I also have childhood ptsd (which is likely a cause of my illness), so this would be interesting to know more about.
Omg
I'm sorry this happened the way it did. It's good in a way that it did, but not necessarily the best way to find out! Our brain has a way of coping with emotional pain at the time that it waits until you are able to deal with it later.
I have auto immune disease that leaves me in constant pain and I've had countless surgeries. I've often times looked back, especially when talking about a specific time, and thought how did I do that? Not realizing how much pain I was in at the time.
It's amazing how our bodies work. I hope things are better and you continue well ❤
Sorry. Not to be rude but why is it that they give this "twilight" for a mere tooth extraction? It is almost unheard of in my country. I will have a difficult wisdom tooth removed next month (again) and they'll just give me some local anesthesia when you don't even feel when they drill into the jawbone to retrieve broken pieces of the roots or whatever needed.
I actually love being alone. UPDATE: Hear ye, hear ye! Don't be mean, you're right, I'm in denial. You meanies are also right that I would change my tune if I were truly lonely. No disrespect was intended for the truly lonely people of the world. I'm updating this because there have been so many comments - thank you - and the meanies are missing the post I make about how right they are, how I'm not worthy to call myself lonely if I choose to be alone, etc, etc... maybe I try to downplay how lonely I really am, and the mean comments are really unnecessary. Feel free to continue on........ 😌
My family worries about me but I never feel lonely. Having people constantly check on me or contact me is annoying lol
That's quite a different tune than what most people experience!
Being alone and loneliness are two entirely different things.
sometimes being a loner! is far better than putting up with people who have or can have, caustic personalities or who take jabs or who is so self centered they want to do everything their way or who is jealous of whatever you have that they want! Tired of it but it can be lonely but when I was working it never bothered me.
How blessed. Being secure and happy in your own skin without a need for others is a gift, for sure.
I prefer being alone too but I don’t mind someone checking up on me because I want someone to take care of my cats if I can’t because I’m dead or incapacitated.
What a GREAT CARING SWEET REAL DR or whatever his title is!!! That's the way it should be with REAL MEDICAL CARE❣️Thank YOU! Abundant Blessings💙
Thank you man!! You are awesome!! I've been going through allot. You made me smile. Stay strong. Gratitude from the island of Curacaçao. Focus. Balance. Good health. Keep up the good fight. Gratitude.
To all the lonely people...we aren't really alone...we connect with each other...in places like this....💛💛💛💛💛
Yes @stephaniehowell1109
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I love you thanks
Yeah right. You gonna come take care of me after surgery?
So kind.❤🎉
Really? We connect here? 🙄
As a registered nurse, I genuinely appreciate and applaud your message. We need so much more empathy and compassion in our healthcare system. Bless you and keep fighting the good fight!! ❤️
As a registered Jesus lover , you will not be lonely with Jesus in your heart
Thank you so much for being a nurse. Nurses have helped me greatly throughout my life and got me through some very tough times. You guys are the best!
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@@renalryan NO they are NOT the best you pos, who cares if nurses have "helped you" they did not do it for free, your health insurance PAID FOR THEM TOO HELP U... WAKE UP.
It is a great messga! I love this channel. RN here too. Thank you for your service :D
❤ Thank you so much for sharing this important information with us! You are so compassionate. God bless you!❤🙏
Super well spoken. Glad you heal the sick. Thanks!
So nice to see a health care worker that stops and asks questions and cares enough to put the patient first. Thank you!
Just before he put me out for my appendectomy, the anesthesiologist asked me "What's your favorite whiskey?"
Did you answer?
Bedside manner seems to be a word the new Drs. seem to not be familiar with. But occasionaly youll come across one that seems to care and that feels pretty good pretty rare
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He probably did when he woke up. Thats whats so cool about going under. Its a dream tben your fixed. Hopefully
I was on the operating table and scared stiff. The anesthesiologist reached over and held my hand. I relaxed immediately. A simple gesture like that was so appreciated
I started to cry and the nurses gently wiped my tears away. Their kindness melted my heart (and my fear). Back in the day, the old battle axes would have yelled at the patient.
Beautiful. Years ago I had a surgery and I had noone at all I was nervous the nurse turned some music on and held my hand and was talking to me next thing you know I wokeup and asked when was I going to have surgery they were like you already did lol.
Haha I was laughed at by a nurse for not being able to eat for over a week.
I remember my anesthesiologist coldly staring down at me like I was a lab rat.
Babe…..why scared stiff???
Thank you for being human. Your kindness is very evident in your presentation. I hope all of your patients realize how special you are
This man is incredible. Probably the most caring anesthesiologist I have ever heard speaking of his clients/ patients. Thank you for bringing me back towards trusting medical professionals.
I sense a genuine concern, care, or love if you will, for your patients.
This is a real-life story of "DO NO HARM." I really appreciate that there are anesthesiologists like you.
Your awesome! ❤
Yes. That's the compassion that medical care is supposed to have!
@@matthewnienkirchen8083absolutely, pre med at McGill in '69 the dorm was full of people talking about the money and fame.I said screw this and changed to a physics program. You can tell a doctor by when he started his internship.
I've lived alone for the majority of my life... I'm alone, but not lonely... many people don't know that being alone does not have to equal loneliness... I also know I could find a partner if I wished, I just choose not to...
Robert Kline md,@national pain counsel very good videos,lost his license and we're gonna change the rules,sorry forgot to say he's on UA-cam
Wow you’re an amazing health care worker thank you so much! Your professionalism, bed side manor and understanding towards this swept under the rug subject. God Bless you and yours ❤
Your good vibes are the greatest gift you are giving to your patients Doc. To have a healthcare provider who is compassionate, particularly when you're terrified, is a true blessing.
I guess I’m a bit lonely, feeling cut off, depressed. But I recently had surgery under anaesthesia, and I have to say, it was such a change to be surrounded by people who were focussed on my wellbeing, concerned about what I needed rather than on the work and caretaker tasks I’m expected to do for others, that ngl it was one of the best experiences I’ve had in a long time. I didn’t even mind the pain and the post-surgery dopiness and the medicated fog-it meant I got to focus on nothing but myself for a week. I was oddly happy…
That feeling of being cared for and not expected to do anything is great. I nearly fell asleep during a knee MRI. Another five minutes and I would have, I think. Had there been armrests on the chair at my recent root canal I might have gotten sleepy there too, but I had to keep my arms controlled on my own.
Yes, same here! I love going to the doctor when they're like this. SOMETIMES it's atrocious, but when its not, its heaven!
I understand exactly what you're saying. When I go to the salon or go to the doctor I feel cared about. I'm alone an awful lot. So when I'm in a social situation for health purposes or physical needs it actually makes me feel cared for and loved. That's a sign of just needing to be around people very badly. And to have your needs cared for and paid attention to.
I’m guessing your a parent that’s kid’s are grownup and maybe like mine. The only time they call or come to see you is when they need or want something from you. Hopefully they are not like mine and call you selfish if you just don’t have what they want.
I completely understand, but it also makes me sad that you had to have surgery to feel this happiness in your life.
I believe many people’s lives are the same.
You won my heart at "we are dealing with a broken health care system". It's true and they should realize that WE KNOW IT. I've heard a crazy amount of people say they put off going to the doctor or having a procedure because they don't trust doctors and hospitals any longer. So when we hear someone in the system own up to that truth, we are more prone to listen to him.
It’s reasons because of that that I have gone over three years with out having a check up with my PCP. I’ve been SA’d by doctors as a small child twice so its incredibly easy for me to avoid or put off going to even see a PCP check up yearly I’ve gone many years without seeing a doctor and now I have ring worm and I also developed apraxia of speech, I have mobility issues and I now need a full time caregiver to help me do things everything around the house simply because of this high mistrust and disdain for the health care system in this country.
Absolutely.
Alot of us in healthcare are planning on deleting ourselves when the time comes. I am not going through the system i have worked in for over a decade.
True! I do not trust doctors or hospitals any longer - especially when 4 different doctors give you a different explanation for the exact same incident. Which was finally shot down by the 5th doctor, the cardiologist. I could tell that he was exasperated beyond endurance.
Yep… I avoid at all costs…
Dr. Ken Berry and Dr. Chaffee are the real deal on you tube.
This was so enlightening! Good to remember if I, or anyone I know has surgery.
I appreciate your kindness, understanding and bedside manners.
You are amazing.🙏
I had a general anaesthetic in Australia about two years ago, and my final memory before I slipped in to sleep was of a nurse giving me a hug to let me know that everything would be alright. I woke up two hours later and everything went well, and I felt amazing. A good memory of surgery. Who would have thought it!
Nurses are a rare breed. Hopefully they aren't treated as poorly in AU as they are in the US. The abuse they take from doctors is atrocious. Nurses deserve higher pay than doctors. They do 100x more work and have to do it with a smile. I bet if they did they probably wouldn't be treated the way they are
When did you notice the large drawing on your forehead?
Years ago, after having several sinus infections, my primary doctor sent me to an ENT doctor for an evaluation, suspecting I had a deviated septum. Yes, it was confirmed. The doctor/surgeon began asking me questions of injuries suffered as an infant or young child, as the central part of my face (brows, nose, mouth, chin) didn’t line up. Perhaps I could contact my mother and ask if I’d fallen out of my crib, or down some stairs? Oh, no, I thought. He stumbled upon a long-buried, shameful secret that I hadn’t even shared with my husband. My mother would fly off the handle and randomly smack me around. My days were filled with terror, not knowing what would happen to trigger punishment from either parent. After college, I moved 2,000 miles away, with minimal contact. Now, it came rushing back…..
X-rays showed a long-ago facial skull fracture. He guided my fingers between my eyebrows, close to the inner side of my right orbital socket, along the right side of my nose and cheek, and down to the corner of my mouth. Yes, this also explained the minor ‘droop’ of my face, too. I believe he saw the terror and shame in my eyes, and said not to worry, I’d be breathing clearly in a matter of weeks. I was kept awake during surgery in order to keep my blood pressure up (I joke that my BP is ‘next to dead’), so I was aware of the majority of the ‘activity’, occasionally going in and out of a light sleep. The doctor and nurse were remarkably compassionate during and after the procedure. At one point, I was silently crying, with tears running down my face. The doctor told her that all signs indicated pain blockers and sedation were fine, and that this was an emotionally difficult procedure for me. She placed her hand gently on my shoulder, wiped my tears, and gently spoke reassuring words in my ear. The procedure lasted longer than I expected, and as the operating procedural notes were being finalized, I distinctly remember him telling her, “Remember - this was a routine septoplasty; not a rhinoplasty.” What just happened here?
I looked like I’d been in an car crash. I was bruised from my forehead to below my cheeks. A couple of days later, he removed and replaced my nasal packing and said all was healing as expected; see you in a couple of weeks. Two weeks later, all bandages and packing were removed and I got a good look at myself. Still lots of greenish-purple fading bruising. Then he told me what took place in surgery. As he suspected, I had bone fragments penetrating my nasal cavity from a tangential blow to my face across my right cheek. He removed all the bone fragments, then lifted my brow line and resculpted the bridge of my nose as it met my forehead in order to rebalance my face. He could see that I’d had broken teeth repaired in the past (I paid for this while I put myself through college), so all of his work was done to make me look natural and balanced. He’d done a rhinoplasty, a septoplasty, a mid-line lift, and reshaping/realignment of my bones; however, it was recorded as a rhinoplasty. I told him I was always ashamed of my appearance, that I’d been mocked and called ‘Crooked Face’ by classmates and my own sister, who told me no one would ever love me or want to take care of me. This kind, gentle, generous, old doctor leaned forward in his chair, took my hands in his, looked me in the eyes and told me that I was beautiful to begin with, and that God had given him the skills and opportunity to enhance and restore what should have been mine to begin with. He’d been helped by generous people early in his career, and never missed an opportunity to be able to help others. He knew my insurance would consider this ‘extra’ procedure as cosmetic, and deny it, so he made the decision, along with his nurse, to proceed. Now, since he had done this for me, it was my responsibility to pay it forward to help others. I’ve honored his wishes for the past 30 years. Thank you for reading my story of compassionate caregivers who truly do change people’s lives.
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I’m 72 and have had several major surgeries in recent years. Each time the anesthesiologist came in talked to me at length prior to the surgery while I was being prepped. I had to have my shoulder replaced twice with a nerve block each time. The guys that did the nerve block showed me exactly what they were doing and showed me the ultrasound screen and how they placed the block. Everyone on the team talked to me constantly until I went under. A nurse even held my hand as I went under. I am stating this because I suffer from loneliness, depression and anxiety. I am sure the way I was treated improved my condition while I was out. Going under was the most relaxing and interesting experience I can remember. I actually felt that this what dying must be like. I actually remembering hoping that I didn’t wake up. I feel you can die from loneliness and some people actually die on the table because of these underlying mental illness issues. Great video.
How true, you never get over loneliness.
It's not so much a mental health issue, as it is a symptom of how screwed up society as a whole has become. I was around the medical field my entire life, I lost almost all respect when they started getting rid of the good nurses, and doctors who refused to go along with their plandemic. We still have never held anyone accountable for that gross abuse contrived money grab by big pharma. The entire thing was a lie from the get go, and everyone just forgot about all those people they just killed and blamed on some mystery virus so they could cash in. People were dying in auto accidents and covidiots was blamed. I still can't believe all these pharmacy sorcerers are not in jail for using the general public like test subjects.
Thank you Sir.
My answers was, I am glad I am going under, I need a break.
Can totally relate, had my left shoulder replacement twice. I also, suffer from loneliness. Shoulder surgery is very difficult, I need right one done but I am so afraid
I'm old. Last few surgeries I had no family or friends in attendance. The nurses and techs were awesome. But I am a retired nurse and they would be!
I love that I stumbled across this video. Subscribed and looking forward to more!
Thank you!
Hello!!! Great insight to lonely people .. thank you!! Sus from Sue UK
It’s refreshing to see a physician who treats the WHOLE patient! Kudos
So well said. I’m a nurse with a chronic illness and I agree wholeheartedly. ♥️✨
Holistic is the future❣️🍀
I have severe depression. I had general anesthesia a couple years ago for an outpatient surgery and it spiraled me into a horrible depressive episode, which ended up turning into a pretty bad relapse and I ended up in residential treatment. I have been struggling with loneliness for most of my life. It doesn't matter whether or not I have friends or a support system. I feel like I'm isolated in this entire universe.
Sounds like that weird movie "anomalisa"
I deeply understand glad to hear that am not the only one that feels that way. Am not alone don't feel like am WERID if that makes since 😩
I'm sorry to hear that. I Love you and hope your doing well.
I never thought about it but after my breast augmentation I got extremely depressed and over stressesd and relapsed. BAD. about 3 months after.
You are not alone in feeling that way.
Your compassion and understanding sets you apart from most keep it up is beautiful and I am grateful for your existence 🙏🏾
Thank you for caring about the person’s emotions and well being in addition to the physical well being. Mindset is the most important thing.
My mom has dementia and is slowly getting worse. She lives a couple hours away and I’m moving in with her this month because I have been researching this stuff and I believe a BIG part of her dementia is coming from not socializing with anyone. She lives way out in the country and has outlived all her good friends. She’s almost 90 and was doing really well until she stopped going to church during the stupid pandemic.
She pretty much just sits at home in front of her tv, or reads.
If anyone has a relative who is in the beginning stages of dementia I highly recommend you go be with that person and get them involved in social activities. Once dementia gets its claws in, it progresses quickly.
We are going to have planned weekly Bible study, a church social group, a cooking class, and whatever else I can find to fill her time.
Hopefully that and a better diet will help her live to see her grandchildren have their own kids.
Don't forget and keto and fasting for brain fog.
That is really nice of you, good luck to you and your mom.
You are kind and loving daughter. ❤️ ❤❤❤
I lived with my grandmother for a year before she passed away from dementia and I noticed a substantial improvement once I moved in and she had someone to talk to everyday and get out and about with. Unfortunately, it didn’t stop the progression of the disease but it certainly slowed it. Good luck! Miss my granny
God bless you and her both. ❤
Since my dad passed away, my mom has quite a few procedures and she always wakes up crying saying she saw my dad. It's really sad to see. I wish there was more empathetic medical staff. You are awesome!
Jesus that's rough 😬
Are you sure she wasn't seeing your dad?
I hope she really was seeing him. Bless her heart. Xxx
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
My dad cried a lot for my mom, and we supported him by being present. It took some months to stop randomly crying.
Hope your mom is doing better now. Sending hugs to everyone. ❤
It can take years to grieve for some ... Specially if they dream of them. Turning those dreams into connection really helps and doing a prayer for them always
Doctor, you awareness and compassion is amazing. Keep spreading the positivity please.
Damn. Ok this pretty damn good to see. A doctor who gives a damn about his patients and who sees them as people and not just dollars is really an amazing thing to see. I hope that all the healthcare professionals take suit and become more like you in healthcare field. I really like you and I’m happy that you are working in this healthcare system. 😊
I'm glad to see such compassion from an anesthesiologist. Very refreshing and comforting to know such people are there when you have to go "under" not knowing when or if you'll even wake up.
I had 10 endoscopies, a sigmoidoscopy, and a colonoscopy last year. I was their "repeat patient". I had ample time to chat with the anesthesiologist, ask her when the medicine was pushed in, feel the wave overtake me... then out. One time, I counted to make and made it to sevennnnn and knew that "eight" would be next but couldn't even think it. The next time, I tried it in German; I didn't make it past eins, because I realized later that speaking a foreign non-native language uses a different part of your brain. Another time, I heard someone offer "cran-apple" juice when they were done, and that's what I wanted (but hasn't ever been offered), so I wrote it on my atm in ink in the bed and showed the nurses my "order" for when I woke up. They realized I was easy-going, and that made them pleasant.
This message coming from such a medical doctor is a great uplifting hope giving message. True if we were all more educated in regards to how the spirit, mind and body
Work together, we wouldn't have that many emergency situations physically or mentally to have to be going "under" for a treatment.
After having both knees replaced at 52 I realized how much life I had missed over 22 years of waiting for the VA to finally approve my surgery so I could walk. I never worked so hard as I did doing PT. The week after the PT was over (one year) I went out and bought a sheep farm and run it myself now! i love being back to real life! After a major injury in the Army I had wanted to die. And I was in pain for 22 years. Now I’m up, I recently added a hay farm, machine shop and a rabbitry! Next year we add bees! I am so grateful to my surgical team. I have a whole new life that I thought was gone forever. In our machine shop we are inventing and building robotics to help disabled and elderly people with severe limitations to continue running their farms after they are injured or disabled and we’re doing it at much lower cost than the major brands and the devices are custom built to the customer.
@@Theophilus Jedediah, 😭 this is probably the MOST AWESOME comment I’ve read in weeks if not months!!!! I’m sooooo happy for you!!!
It’s so adorable about your farm. I love that you’re enjoying life again, and wow, helping others to enjoy it again too!!!! 🙌🏻
May God bless you tremendously in this new journey!! 🙏🏻❤️
So glad for you, it's difficult to convey that loss to others In Life, all the while in pain. Besides surgery, I learned 'core' work so I could do isometrics every joint system eventually, stopped spams, increased blood flow hence healing, toned muscles, ligaments when I had difficulty in exercise, build strength. Your 'new' life sounds so joyful😊, glad you believed your life Should be different. I try to share what I learned so people know, everyone can do this. 🤝🐦
Oh bless your heart! That's the greatest news to know you recovered so well! A new man, and after waiting so long! Now farming, sheep and bees and helping others! I have auto immune disease and bad back that I can hardly walk to the other side of the house. While I grew up in the country farm and used to gardening, hiking and helping others, worked at nursing homes for years. Now there's days I do good to get out of bed. While years have passed, feeling my life has been taken away from the one I know. It's somewhat a bit easier saying this is me now! Easier to not think what I want to do. Not sure if you call that a good thing. Sanity sake it is. You're living one of my dreams of having a sheep farm! ❤ I'm so excited for you. Wishing you busy days ahead 🐑🌻🐝 Thank you for your service!
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🌹 What a beautiful comment.
And I hear you. While we can always keep hope alive, and keep trying, it’s good to just be content in the meantime too and accept what we cannot change.
Sometimes we just have to shrug our shoulders, say, “ C’est la vie,” and count the blessings we do have, as it can always be worse.
You are a beautiful soul, and I wish you peace and comfort. 🙏🏻🌹
What is your website? I also want help so I can have a farm, wood and metal shop.
7:04 ~ Thank you for actually stopping the surgery procedure to actually have humanity and empathy for your patient, and actually care about how worse things could get after the surgery if you didn't take the precious time to actually talk with him and address things before you all started cutting. Giving him that opportunity to get his mental and emotional levels and space back to a good place. I did not know that depression, anxiety and loneliness could have all those devastating effects, mixed with the drugs, after surgery! That brings so much more light to our health as individuals, and caring about our loved ones, that can not, can not, can not, be over looked! Thank you for spreading awareness and education, and thank you so much for your empathy and patience, and I hope everything works out well for you and yours. Thank you to your good fellow team members and fellow staff and thank you all so much for all the good work that you all do. God bless you all and thank you all so much. Be safe and good luck with everything. 🙏🏼🐾🍀🌻
I haven't seen this until now. This is a very powerful explanation and this is the reason why we need to pay more attention to those around us, especially the elderly.
My wife of 30 years died after 4 knee replacements on the same knee and 11 years of dealing with meat-factory surgeons who saw her as another payday and prescribed opioids like candy. I wish she had a caring doctor like you seem to be. I live with sadness over losing Carol every day.
So sorry for the loss of your wife.
I am so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you stranger ❤
Knee surgery should not cause death
I’m so sorry Steven. May God comfort you and bring you peace
I'm so sorry Steven!! I'm sad for Carol too. Praying for you right now, in Yeshua's name!!
I’ve had 49 surgeries since I was 18 (I’m now 51), due to an accident that left me paralyzed. I was hit by a drunk driver when I was 18. I appreciate all the anesthesiologists that I’ve had over the years. I’m glad this channel exists to inform people. Your mental status before surgery is so important. Not sure why this channel came up for me, but I think it’s such a valuable subject. Your mental health is not talked about enough by medical personnel prior to surgery, they are normally just talking about the physical. Thank you for educating people. Good luck to anyone about to have surgery and definitely make sure you are mentally prepared!
God bless you! You have been through more than anyone here!
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Wow, you. are a trooper. May God bless you and help you get the most out of life. Thanks for the advice also. You're a pro.
As someone fighting depression, I can say the biggest thing going through my mind when going under was "I hope I don't wake up." Many of us fighting depression are passively suicidal in that regard. When we are asked that question "do you have any thoughts of harming yourself or others." Our Answer is "No". What we want most is to go to sleep and not wake up again. You are absolutely right to delay anesthesia if you find the patient is depressed, getting some mental health intervention.
This was one of the most informative and caring piece of information I’ve heard in a long time. You are a gem Doctor. Thank you. ❤
Im way happier completely isolated with a dog and a cat. The more i interact with humans, the lonlier i feel. Good for you for having a great life 😊
I feel the same way ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I find that my animals are so much easier to live with than my humans 😊
Yep. Hearing you. I have tried so many different groups, but I am far happier, just being alone,,with my animals.
I agree. I was fired for not being myself after my sister died from ALS. My dogs and cat saved me.
I totally agree with you. I have friends/family and great neighbors. I socialize if I want- I just do not want to anymore. I really enjoy my life as it is. I need to a of folks around me all the time.
In utter amazement…on how you take into account the patient’s psychological needs into consideration! As a nurse of over 15 yrs I have yet to encounter/witness an anesthesiologist or surgeon rendering this level of holistic humane healthcare approach. May God protect you and place you in situations where you are most needed.
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AMEN 🙏 Well said!
I'm so very impressed with this wonderful young man😇... his level of compassion and empathy is amazing and off the charts !!!
The points he brings up are invalueable.
We're so busy rushing around. Just that moment we take can have an impact on someone in such a profound way. You can never know just what you meant to their day, that small gift of your time, which you don't give a thought to... may affect the world to someone else!
God bless this young man. He really should do a TED Talk !!!
I don't think people realize 🤔 the effects that he touched on... with regard to just the body with loneliness, let alone the effects anesthesia plays.
Silly me... and here I thought I was going to be entertained with the funny statements people say or do while under anesthesia...
Wow, what an insight into his world, and he's giving a wonderful gift 🤲 to us far more valuable than laughter & Yes, Sir... A Subscriber now, too!
@@c.a.5808 most definitely agree! 🙏🏼
🙏 Amen
You just became my new favourite doctor. Thank you so much for being a caring human being and individual. Loneliness is an epidemic.
What an amazing specialist you are. Rare. Thank you. Subbed ❤
I've always felt lonely and depressed through my entire life. I've been under anesthesia four times, and every time I wake up screaming and crying. I always thought that I was allergic somehow, but hearing this makes sense. To suffer from depression is not an easy thing to live with and it never goes away 😥 I wish there were more Healthcare professionals like you at that moment before a surgery.
When has a patient ever had a talk with their anesthesiologist before surgery?
@@judyseals1497I have....
@@motivate4change1aww.. that's so nice from you❤
@@judyseals1497I have. Every time.
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To all those that work in the medical field primarily to help people and not just for the money....THANK YOU. People can tell when a medical provider actually cares.
YES! Oh I'm so glad you said this. Say it often to them...they need it. I wish there were a way t o boost their mood in hospitals and clinics once we leave and take our gratitude with us.
I'm posting this idea on my Facebook page...We have to spread the thanks right?
@gkarenstratton That's a great idea! The people that were called to heal people need to know we appreciate them.
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Bless your beautiful heart and soul for caring about and considering others in the way you do ❤️thank you so much 🙏
I don’t believe I have ever felt lonely. I’ve always loved time to myself and have rarely had that opportunity to only care for myself instead of all those around me.
This is an eye and heart opening video about what happens under anesthesia. When I was 5 and having my tonsils out, at the hospital after my surgery I stood up in my bed and just hugged and loved on the doctor and nurse attending me afterwards. I would get really uninhibited I guess from the ether and just loved EVERYONE!! Later in my life, I became quite closed off from people. Many of us have an invisible energy shield we put up around us…you can check a persons openness or closedness by having them bend their arm at the elbow and hold palm up facing you and you just casually reach up with your palm and push their hand and see if they let you push a lot or stop your hand right away. Hugging isn’t always a given for people. I used to get really annoyed with my sister when she met her husband and in-laws. They were Polish and very huggy touchy feely and so we’d go to visit our mom and dad and when we were leaving, she went over to our parents and hugged them so I had to do it too, dragging my feet through it! I just hated it and I’m sure it stems from my mom never giving us any affection or telling us she loved us unless she was drunk and then she would kinda wrestle us to hug and kiss us and tickle us and I absolutely hated it. Later on I did manage to get the hugging and forgave mom for doing the best she knew how at the time. When I had my sons, I hugged and smooched on them both constantly so I didn’t instill any hangups in them about PDAs. My first husband was quite non demonstrative and hardly even held my hand when we went out anywhere. I think it went thru my mind that maybe he didn’t want people seeing him with me. He always had an old gf or his first ex-wife or someone waiting on the sidelines to mess around with. So, yes he was and is a cheater. I was wife #2 and there has since been a #3 and he’s no longer with her either. Now he’s a lonely old man and will continue to be, but it’s all been his own making. He has 3 incredible women who married and put up with him and he was always super critical and controlling. Once my heart healed I was incredibly thankful to be out of that marriage.
Sorry, I do sometimes get carried away on this stuff! Thanks for this video Doc! Happy to see this stuff cuz I know our minds greatly influence our health!
What a kind man you are. It’s nice to know there are still good people getting into the medical field.
I'm literally down the road from Harvard. This man is an angel that is NOT from Boston/Cambridge area. The natives here are assholes.
Where are you from? I know tons of good people in the medical field.
Bad experience?
@@nomastomas002 Not saying a bad experience but I did wake up with my butt sore...🤷
I know my last surgery to remove my port I'd had for over a year which bothered me daily because of where it was placed. I had just gone through a mastectomy and all the treatment along with that alone I've been lonely for year's to a point I didn't care but the anesthesiologist so nice asked me questions and also explained everything to me that was going to happen after we talked he said I'm changing the way I'm putting you under I'm not sure what he heard but he was very nice and came after my surgery said we had a hard time of getting you to come out of it. I've never had that happened to me and I've had several surgeries and been put under a bunch of times but never been told it was hard to get me to come out of it. I think it had everything to do with me nothing the Dr. did that day. I really had just quit caring. The thing is they never went and talked to my sister about ajar happened the nurse said it was just a mistake the Dr. made he was behind and just went on to his next surgery which I get but it bothered me. If they can tell all these things why don't they say something? My loneliness has only gotten worse I do want to get a therapy dog but I've to wait for me to make sure I can be well enough to be able to take çare of a dog meanwhile my depression and loneliness gets worse. What to do I guess would be my next question? Thank you for all you do I feel like you're a great Dr. and really care. Thank you so much!!!!!
@@Officialmryuck i hate when that happens