It brings me back to a quote from Robin Williams (RIP) "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone."
It's not his quote. It's his line in a movie he played. Doesn't take the impact away from the line, but Williams suffered from Lewy-body-dementia. The people in his life at the end don't deserve to be thought as people who made him feel alone. His illness was the cause of his harm not them.
Ugh this is so true 😞😞 I definitely feel this way at times. The person I love the most brings the worst out of me. I can't blame them because we equally should share that blame.
Or conversely/on vice versa Someone alone can be perfectly happy & not lonely...ehether in the short term (eg they could be meeting with a group of friends later that day...) or long-term (eg they prefer being alone/ prefer their own company or be natural introverts or "wallflowers"as opposed to the "life & soul", etc ..or in a relationship or constantly surrounded by friends thay may prefer to be alone as they naturally feel better/happier in solitude??? They naturally may LIKE being loners/alone and prefer their own company in general It's parental/peer/social pressure/anxiety that makes them look or feel like they're"wrong" or "different" or ",need fixing" or should be happy when even though they ain't or vice-vrsa (ie like they're "freaks" or something or they're is something "seriously wrong with" or "weird" bout them etc Which is in turn the possible cause of the anxiety, depression and nightmares and bsd dreams or bad trips, etc instead of the mere state of being alone or even lonely even though it ain't the root cause...its the pressure or feelings that they SHOULD be feeling the opposite way to what they actually do lol which is obv so wrong ofc and is in fact toxic people (eg parents or "friends",etc) who are the real inferior or "weird" ones as they may often bully pressure or gaslight etc but some may do it in a well meaning or "their hearts are in the right place" kinda way as opposed to maliciously or deliberately/heartlessly ory in a bad/ "nasty" way,et⅚c!!!!😍😒🤣🤣 Omg 40 mins of typing on the toilet lol
@Cobalt ikr the original quote is more of a "strawmanning" ie misquoting or misunderstanding (whether deliberate or not) and taking out of context (important yet frequently misused or misunderrated!! ie misunderstood AND underrated at some time)
@@suegatti9376 It's absolutely Dispicable how the elderly are treated! The medical professionals as a whole has lost All respect, compassion, & heart for All patients, but especially the elderly.
My mum is 82 and still competent, mind absolutely fine! Yet I've noticed health professionals, people when out ignore her and talk to me about her. I always point out that my mum is right here so please feel free to chat to her!. I don't understand why people do this? It's just the same when people are in wheelchairs!x
Yes. People choose expediency over personal connection when dealing with people over a certain age. There's also an assumption that people over 70 need help with everyday tasks that they are handling independently. The courtesy is appreciated, but I'm guessing it wouldn't be offered so automatically to a person, say of the age of 40, 50 or 60. Don't call me honey either.😊🙃😉
@@CherylBerryl Yes! Had to take DH to ER twice in a month. Things are changed. But weird. Now, there’s more of what APPEARS as friendly concern, but, other things seem to be going on. Years ago, there was brusk, efficient behavior, & often, patients & families were ignored, mixed with the knowledge that patients were their bread & butter; high stress, overworked staff. But this time… The discussion of “Advanced Directives” came up each visit. “Do you want to be resuscitated if your heart stops?” We said yes, unless conditions negated quality of life, etc. It seemed a very friendly/concerned, attentive discussion. But what came next?… Doc tried to ..actively.. dissuade either of us from wanting to be resuscitated, by saying things like, “only a very small % (7% ?) of those resuscitated have any quality of life after, they get broken bones, bruised hearts, etc; most folks don’t survive resuscitation”.😳 It seemed kinda like a covert suggestion that saying no to CPR, could be an “easy out” to let go of life…kinda like the more common big dose of morphine to quietly help a hospice patient die a bit easier & sooner instead of suffering (yes, that happens more than public knows). THAT….seems to fly in the face of something like nearly 60 years of Red Cross selling industries & public on learning CPR. Some businesses Mandated workers be qualified to do CPR on a coworker for up to 30 minutes, even while up a utility pole?! Telling everyone it works great? 🤔…for about 60 years? …then now, suddenly it’s not worth trying? Has the healthcare industry gone over to the dark side, trying to “lose elderly patients by attrition” (any easy way to allow them to die)? Because, I don’t think they try to tell this to younger patients!?
My husband has dementia and had surgery for hydrocephalus, he's 84 years old. When he woke from surgery and came out of the ICU he ripped out his IV's and it took 8 people to get him back into his room. They were going to restrain him but a kind nurse remembered he likes Elvis and started to sing one of Elvis' songs and my husband settled down and started singing with her.
I have seen music calm my mother down when she was having an echocardiogram. She had tremendous anxiety, and I had a sudden thought to play her favorite songs on youtube. IMMEDIATELY, she calmed down and began to sing along. It is truly magical, what music can do for elderly patients!
@@Lisa-xf5uf akathesia sucks so bad but it's caused by long term medication use. Mostly SSRI's and SNRI's and similar drugs. Sounds like this person is suffering from elderly stage dementia, which also is a very hard thing. 😕 I'm sorry I actually misread what you wrote. I'm not sure what that is. Is it related to hydrocephalus? The brain is such a complex thing.
Coming out of anesthesia, I remember a nurse asking me in a scolding tone, "You're not going to cry on me, are ya?" This was 50+plus years ago. As attributed to Maya Angelou , "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
It really is surprising in the care industry how many unpleasant people there are. I've been relatively lucky (well, there were some grumpy nurses when I broke my arm 10 years ago but it was stupidly late at night), but I've encountered people who are things like mental health nurses who really shouldn't be.
Absolutely. I've had some horrible doctors and nurses, and some wonderful ones. There should really be personality tests to even be a health care worker.
@@NeglectedField I don't quite remember the context of the situation, but once when I was in the hospital, a nurse mocked my symptoms. Like I was pretending or something. As Ibaze wrote, I didn't remember exactly what she said, but I remembered how I felt.
@@NeglectedField In my opinion, medical care must be psychologically resistant to the fact that patients may die. Naturally, then there will be a larger percentage of people who do not feel empathy and are unpleasant.
Its called.community ... but America destroy families and communities .... now no one talks to their neighbors... they leave the house at 18... no relations wth cousins and extended family
Yes, they asked if I had someone to drive my home. Yes. Then they asked if someone could stay overnight with me. No. They didn't offer a solutuon. I went home and looked after myself like always.
Thank you for this comment. In 1997 I stayed in hospital for a few days after a middle ear operation. I took a taxi to go home on my own. There wasn't even anybody to take my luggage via the stairs to the first floor!! While I wasn't allowed to move my head too much!! I was simply alone and had to care for myself. I think I asked a man passing by in the street if he was willing to take my luggage up to the first floor.
Everyone has to WORK 12 HRS A DAY !! smaller families nowadays...No time to go to a hospital. Youl get the time when they die, Bereavement. !! Thats America now.
So true. Im sitting here alone im ok . At one point in my life i was married had 2 children and a job where 200 other people worked around me . I felt so alone i wanted to be gone from life. Im now alone with my self but im good or much better than back then. I know we all matter. Every thing happens for a reason. God works in mysterious ways. Much love to this man/angel and you all . Airhugs of positive loving energy To you all
But you do have to be stuck with only "medications" "therapies" "mental health" "the lord/savior/yahweh/allah", "inner beauty" or fat/ugly chicks "your own age". :) Just sayin.
I'm lonely, I have anxiety, and depression. I had foot surgery in September in 2023. The doctor and other medical professionals told me I was talking about my cats. My 6, wonderful, precious and loving cats. They are what makes me get through my days.
My animals are it for me as well. With my children, they are my life! But children go on to have their own lives w/less and less time for you. I’m in the hospital eight days now and I can’t wait to get out this afternoon to go home and cuddle my dog. While I’ve been gone I’ve been FaceTime in her every day because she has a significant depressive reaction when I am not there. She was a severe rescue case and I need her as much as she needs me! 😀#WhoRescuedWho
As someone fighting depression, I can say the biggest thing going through my mind when going under was "I hope I don't wake up." Many of us fighting depression are passively suicidal in that regard. When we are asked that question "do you have any thoughts of harming yourself or others." Our Answer is "No". What we want most is to go to sleep and not wake up again. You are absolutely right to delay anesthesia if you find the patient is depressed, getting some mental health intervention.
I think that it's not that you want to die. It's that you don't want to live THIS life. So we have to do what we can in our lives to change what we can, even if it's a small thing! ❤️🩹
I stopped answering this question, as the 1st thing they do is want me to commit myself. After the last time I was committed, my wife told me she would leave me IF I committed myself again.
This is always my feeling...that if they put me under anesthesia....I WON'T WANT TO WAKE UP ! I have fibromyalgia & chronic pain. All my friends (at my age) are dead. The worst part of every day is waking up. I'm not depressed, but lonely for my old life. This life now is so opposite of the Real me, or who I used to be.. and had fun. God I miss fun. I have weather sensitivity, so going for a walk, or being in Nature, well...not possible. Thankfully I find help on the internet. But I MISS BEING ME 💯💔
I had an emergency surgery that involved an ambulance trip at 2 AM with my 4 year old and just me. I was sent home with a lacerated spleen on bedrest 3 days before, which works so well as a single parent, and I literally felt my guts open up at about 1:30 AM. Realized I couldn't walk, called 911, and tried to put on a brave face for my poor, scared little kiddo. "Some very nice people are going to give us a ride because mommy needs a check-up : )". Ambulance showed up, my 4 year old rode on a seat above my head in her pj's and her little stuffed monkey. I smiled, told her it was going to be ok, we were going on an adventure, and these are cool doctors with a cool truck. Of course they had to start an IV, hook me up to the monitors, blah blah. I was asked if there was anyone to call once I got to the hospital to take my kiddo. I just said "nope : )" through tears looking at my kid. We found someone after an hour, the surgeon was called in but promised to wait until someone got to the hospital to be with my kid. It took two hours, but someone showed up. Nurses and Anesthesia ran me through the halls. Apparently I coded as soon as I hit the hall. My kid didn't see it, but i was conscious before I went wheeled into surgery. I said "dude, i'm scared". I felt like such a bitch. They gave me an IV push of something in the hallway and said "It'll be ok". I asked what they gave me. The nurse said "We put the lime in the coconut". Then slowly the 6 people rolling me down the hall started singing "You put the lime in the coconut, mix it all up..." clearly this was not protocol, but I think if my last thought before anesthesia was me freaking out about my kid all alone it would have been really awful. I needed three blood transfusions and some kind of vacuum to suck up all the stuff that already bled out. If my heart rate was any higher I for sure would have kicked the bucket. I can't even track any of those people down to thank them. Some of those people went to medical school for 3-7 years to sing my dumbass "Coconut" to lower my blood pressure so I wouldn't die. So, just a general 'thank you' to everyone in this field of medicine. I was stressed, and anesthesia probably made it possible to save my life.
this reminds me of a scene in a show i cant remember, pretty sure it was a medical based show. one of the main characters dies, and they eventually begin to sing that song together to bond and cry over their loss. sometimes thats all u can do to get thru things. Put the lime in the coconut
Your story made me cry im glad your still here you are awesome. I hope you teach your daughter to put the lime in the coconut song . Happy mothers day. Sending you Airhugs of positive loving energy to you and yours and everybody else.bGOD BLESS YOU ALL
Rare, never had I have a doctor that would communicate with me anything besides the paperwork questions type of thing, I'm confident empathy and compassion is not a thing with alot of docs and surgeons, based off my experiences.
You dont have to be a doctor to have knowledge of anesthesia. All a person with common sense has to do is pick up a medical book and read. And narcissistic people love empaths because they can use their kindness for their own demonic pleasure.
I worked in hospitals and it’s the most vulnerable place to be. The providers who show this level of bedside manner are saving so many lives. Thank you for talking about this difficult topic. ❤
A doctor made a video.and.he said.doctors hate being.called providers. He says it has to stop. His whole video was against the world providers for doctors.
I have an opposite story. My 86 yr old dad had a partial hip replacement. In the recovery room he was slow to wake up and his BP was lower than it should be. The recovery nurse came out to get my mom (married 63 yrs) to bring her back. Within seconds of her presence and holding his hand his BP came back to normal and woke up. It just proved the real love and connection I saw all my life.
my elderly mom had surgery and wasn't coming back around after. her temperature was going up and she was semi-conscious. the surgeon was nowhere around, just a few nurses. we called up a surgeon we knew who came over and recognized something, and the solution was to hydrate her. then a few years later the same thing at a bigger hospital, she didn't know what year it was etc. i remembered the former thing, and saw what to me looked like dehydration in the elderly and suggested to one remarkable nurse they hydrate her. she talked to a doctor about it and came back and hydrated her and in a few hours she was fine. afterward a nurse or two implied they thought she was going to die. if she was alone i don't know if she'd be more lonely, but she'd be more dead!!
The same with my husband who survived misdiagnosed pheochromocytoma for 14 years. Before surgery as soon as I would get there and touch him his BP would stabilize. ☺️ ♥️✝️♥️
@@mai-linhmainor5965 if only though I must say that my experience with doctors and nurses here in Switzerland has been excellent; they have all been kind and patient and ready to listen. Maybe I just got lucky.
I was a psychotherapist. When I was on call in ER, especially during Valentines, Thanksgiving and Christmas, was when I saw the higher number of patients with profound depression. I was inspired by the work of the nurses, most of them were so caring and compassionate towards my patients. But it was an ER doctor, with the awareness and compassion as big as yours, who inspired me to want to join the medical part of healthcare. Most doctors were dismissive of dual diagnosis patients, but he was one that would sing to a patient, praise them, hold a patient’s hand when they were scared, etc. He never rushed a patient and always treated them with respect. Now I’m finishing nursing school and I’m excited to be able to better support patients in both aspects. Doctors like you are a blessing, thank you for advocating for your patients and taking the time to support them this way.
You are so right they are so rare! And good for you with your mental health background going into nursing you will be of such value. Hospitals are really scary places; patients feel really vulnerable and they often regress. We really need medical staff to understand their experience better.
WHO ARE YOU?! Such kindness, caring and interest in your patients and talking about mindset, effects on the subconscious 😮 im so impressed, thank you for your work. We need more like you
This is the single most hopeful and real thing I've heard about depression in a long time. Life never feels "worth it" without having anything to look forward too. Much love to other sufferers, we're gonna be ok ❤
When I was in nursing school (never graduated) I observed a minor procedure in an OR. I was right in there. The patient was a teen girl. As they rolled her around as they were doing their thing, her hospital gown kept falling down, exposing her breasts. No one seemed to care, and it seemed like they were not looking at her as a whole person, but the anesthesiologist kept pulling the gown up to cover her. I was very impressed by him treating her with dignity and not a piece of meat.
I can agree that’s impressive he cared enough to do that and admirable of him. I have wondered about and considered the fact that perhaps, to a certain degree, surgeons NEED to compartmentalize their work from the person they’re performing surgery on. I once went on a date with an ENT surgeon. Since I’d never dated a surgeon before or since, I took the opportunity to ask questions and try to understand that perspective… What it must feel like. I know I personally could never do it. Knowing a life is in my hands that way… the emotions and stress I would feel from that, I just never would be able to handle it. So I asked him what performing surgery was like… how he handled that. He told me it was a bit like going into trance but where he’s just laser-focused on the mechanics of what he’s doing. All other thought would leave his mind. He knew the body parts and the surgery he was performing… what he needed to do with the tools and the parts to properly perform the surgeries, and that was all he focused on in those moments. And it made sense actually. I’d imagine in the moments while surgery is being performed, it’s best for the surgeon’s mind to be strictly focused on the task at hand rather than overthinking too many other details.
As an RN who worked 30 years in the OR I can assure you no one thought of the patient as a piece of meat but it’s all hands on deck to get her induced and positioned correctly prior to the incision. We see so many naked bodies we don’t pay attention to nudity, it’s the norm, but you didn’t know that and personalized it. 🙂
@Jeez yes the staff are used to seeing naked bodies but the patient probably isn't used to people seeing their body. As a patient I won't to know that if my gown falls open someone will immediately cover me up!!!
Yes, when I was 17 and had surgery my gown kept falling down and the nurses did nothing to help me, I couldn’t put it up myself. When this terrible nurse I had wheeled my bed to have my heart checked as I was tachycardic the dr there put up my gown and told her off about it. I am really greatful to that Dr. I am now a Nurse myself but, there are truly disgusting drs and nurses out there.
My buddy shadowed at a morgue and his first day was pretty much everyone showing off how desensitized they were. They had him handle a young female car accident fatality and basically made fun of him for being uneasy. They didn't do anything weird or grope her but they made a bunch of jokes and it wasn't exactly dignified.
It’s impossible to know how surgeons, nurses and anesthesiologists behave once their patient is anesthetized. My sister is a retired surgery nurse. She kept copious notes about every surgery, to make sure she protected herself in case of lawsuits or worse. That was because of the steady stream of mistakes that were made during the surgeries.
It is both rare and remarkable that you express such compassion and concern for the wellbeing of patients. We need more compassion in the medical field and in the world.
Hello, I’m recently had laparoscopic inguinal hernia surgery. The surgeon came in. Then, he said anesthesia would be in to see me. All I remember is the nurse asking me if I’d like something to relax me prior to the surgery. I said yes. She put it in my iv. Next thing, I was awakened and my surgery was complete. When I woke up, I was confused and thought the anesthesia folks were waking me up to take me to have the surgery. What happened? Was what the nurse who put the stuff to help me relax, the anesthesia? Did anesthesia occur while I was asleep? This is not a complaint. It felt like the best sleep I’ve ever had in my life. And not sure if it’s classified as being lonely, but I spend all of my time outside of work by myself. I was afraid of what I might say while under anesthesia. Can you give me some clarification? Thanks in advance.
I actually knew someone who went to your hospital and he said your staff was more supportive than his own family was. I wish there were more doctors who also cared to master their work and enjoy seeing a positive outcome of a healthy and safe surgery of a patient.
Your compassion brings tears to my eyes. I worked in surgery and never experienced what you are describing. How fortunate your patients are to have you as their Anesthesiologist and advocate! 😊
Man, I wish that other anesthesiologists, physicians in general, and others in the position to make a d8fference were as plugged in to their patients as you. You are a rare health-care professional. As a retired surgical nurse, I have seen the apathy many, many times.
I could tell from your eyes how much you felt for this poor lonely man whose hope had left him. You're a good guy. The medical field needs many more people like you.
Sad to hear your hope has left you… I have never known hope I don’t think! But if this is what it is then Ivjustcthank God for all the good folk that is all around you helping you and sharing with you! Wishes fulfilled 🙏🏼💃🕺💚💙💜❤️🧡😇🍀
Very good video. I am 24 and loneliness has affected my entire life. From my parents working too much, to moving in between schools and never making long term connections. Coping with drugs, foods, technology, only making it worse. We need each other more than we know.
Hi Michael, I’ll share something that someone said that helped me understand when I was younger: we are always alone, but we are never alone. Loneliness is torture, but aloneness is bliss. Loneliness goes away when you know yourself better, when you pause to enjoy your own company, to discover what makes you unique and happy, when you are gentle and loving to yourself, when you are ok with whatever feeling may come or go without drowning, when you cease to emotionally depend on others for your own wellbeing. A project, a hobby, a book, a pet, a walk in nature, anything that brings you closer to enjoying your own company will also help you connect with others. Remember we are all in this journey together, and you are never alone. Finally I’ll say this, aging can be hard, but time brings the relief of emotional maturity. Give yourself time ❤
@@earthacademy4549 the beautiful truthEarth Academy, thank you for spreading it! It all begins with feeling for our innerself, connected to the Great Life Force, the energy of inner bliss....just close your eyes and feel the vibration of life, quiet awareness and then look for connection with others who value their innerlife innerself, for these are the company worthy of you and will bring satisfaction, calm, and the vibration of loving gratitude
I worked with an anesthesiologist that if a patient would say something pre-anesthesia like, “I’m gonna die!” he would put the brakes on and counsel the patient and explain that he wasn’t going to put them under anesthesia with that fear and mindset. He took whatever time was needed and took that patient’s fears very seriously. He was one of our kindest guys and would never let a surgeon coerce him into proceeding with anesthesia when they would try to rush or demean him. He was unaffected and always did “the right thing” which wasn’t necessarily the popular thing with surgeons. I miss working with him. After watching your video I’m sure you two are birds of s feather! 💗🦅
I graduated from nursing in school in 1972 (dark ages) but I remember this being said, that you don't take a patient to surgery that expresses belief they will die.
I know what you mean. I had some serious health issues and had some of the best doctors in the country because I lived in a suburb of Chicago. I became aware during abdominal surgery. The surgeon noticed a slight tension of the abdominal muscles and notified the anesthesiologist. I know this because I heard him. I moved to a different state and had what I’m sure was a subpar anesthesiologist. You can tell because they know everything. I told him about the episode. His response was, ‘I’m sure I know what I’m doing’. Yeah, well so did the surgeon that was trained at Rush Presbyterian and the anesthesiologist who was taught at Loyola. So was my main doctor who was constantly conferencing with her Loyola specialists
❤ whoever the anesthesiologist is that you know, cared about people that much is a hero in my book! I am a retired nurse, and those kind of doctors are rare. Thank you for recognizing him.!!❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
Yes, I am a retired periop nurse. Worked all three areas. This is so true. People who are not ready, should not go to OR, unless its an emergency. I always appreciated anesthesia docs who realized that and stopped that surgery for that day.
You mean more doctors who give identifying information about their patients making it easy to figure out who he's talking about??? I find this problematic.
This is what I'm thinking. I doubt any surgeries were cancelled while patient was on the table about to receive anesthesia after finding out about depression.
My dad at 90 had a hip replacement. The recovery room came and got me to sit with him as his blood pressure went high. I held his hand and all his stats normalised. Love heals ❤️
Just wanted to let you know that harp music lowers blood pressure. Heart Hospital of New Mexico has a harpist that comes in when medication is not working good enough to get the BP down. Even the recorded music helps.
So correct. People when in a coma may hear us and realize family is in the room. We never know what they hear or in tehri mind see that is going on and we must be very careful what we say and how it is said. Or what we do during those times. Even what we do not do like 'not showing up because we think "they do not know" they can feel the person they know, if touched etc. You are so right.
I’ve always known just how important you are in the operating room, i just hope the rest of our anesthesiologists feel just the way you do. I will be real honest here, it’s a bit sad…after watching your channel I have great respect for you, you are truly someone who cares for us as a person…we are more to you then a big paycheck. I’ve had countless surgeries beginning at the age of 18. All the anesthesiologists I’ve had with the exception of a couple have always come into my room saying the same thing…they ask if i know what surgery I’m having, if I have any questions, they ask me if ive had any problems with anesthesia before…they say next i will see you in surgery, they will take good care of me. Your job is the most important job in that room! Thank you so much for you truly caring for each and every one of us!
I was given "twilight" for a dental extraction. When I woke I was crying inconsolably as the assistants were trying to get me up and moving. I calmed down, but I did not stop crying for an hour afterwards. It was a very lonely time in my life and I had unprocessed trauma. It was amazing to me that this behavior was buried inside me.
Chiropractors also have elicited buried trauma. I am glad you listened to this discussion. I am a retired psychiatrist and few fellow physicians discussions with the patients. I wish you well.
@@barbarahouk1983 Woah really? Do you have a source I could read? I've been planning on seeing one to help with my chronic illness. I also have childhood ptsd (which is likely a cause of my illness), so this would be interesting to know more about.
I'm sorry this happened the way it did. It's good in a way that it did, but not necessarily the best way to find out! Our brain has a way of coping with emotional pain at the time that it waits until you are able to deal with it later. I have auto immune disease that leaves me in constant pain and I've had countless surgeries. I've often times looked back, especially when talking about a specific time, and thought how did I do that? Not realizing how much pain I was in at the time. It's amazing how our bodies work. I hope things are better and you continue well ❤
Sorry. Not to be rude but why is it that they give this "twilight" for a mere tooth extraction? It is almost unheard of in my country. I will have a difficult wisdom tooth removed next month (again) and they'll just give me some local anesthesia when you don't even feel when they drill into the jawbone to retrieve broken pieces of the roots or whatever needed.
@@jackiemack8653 I hate to say it, but younger generations are alot of the fail - there's a lack of empathy & care in general & I don't see it getting better over time.
@@violetfem1808 because our generation has been preyed upon by the spoiled boomers. We can’t afford housing. Medical system is broken and can’t help us. Even trying to get educated put us in massive debt. Climate change is coming to wreck the planet and boomers just deny all of our suffering. You spoiled boomers just don’t understand because your generation didn’t get preyed upon like we did.
Is it that they dismissed them or that many of these illnesses hadn't been made up yet? Loneliness is not a mental illness. It isn't based on science but on public demand. Many years ago homosexuality was listed as a mental disease but that changed only after it became more socially acceptable. Strange how "science" can be changed by social unrest.
I was on the operating table and scared stiff. The anesthesiologist reached over and held my hand. I relaxed immediately. A simple gesture like that was so appreciated
I started to cry and the nurses gently wiped my tears away. Their kindness melted my heart (and my fear). Back in the day, the old battle axes would have yelled at the patient.
Beautiful. Years ago I had a surgery and I had noone at all I was nervous the nurse turned some music on and held my hand and was talking to me next thing you know I wokeup and asked when was I going to have surgery they were like you already did lol.
This man is incredible. Probably the most caring anesthesiologist I have ever heard speaking of his clients/ patients. Thank you for bringing me back towards trusting medical professionals. I sense a genuine concern, care, or love if you will, for your patients.
@@matthewnienkirchen8083absolutely, pre med at McGill in '69 the dorm was full of people talking about the money and fame.I said screw this and changed to a physics program. You can tell a doctor by when he started his internship.
I've lived alone for the majority of my life... I'm alone, but not lonely... many people don't know that being alone does not have to equal loneliness... I also know I could find a partner if I wished, I just choose not to...
I'm in tears right now because i'm so touched by you described your patient and your description of his experience, as well as you kind and caring spirit. I've found that caring, compassionate people are very rare these days, and have personally experienced many cold, unsympathetic, insensitive caregivers in my lifetime. I'm an african-american, elderly, low income, female, so I definitely don't expect quality, unbiased healthcare, but just a little kindness and caring, would definitely go a long way in helping me be more willing to get the necessary health check-ups that I need. You seem like such a caring, kind, person. I wish that I could find a doctor like you. God bless you.
Bedside manner seems to be a word the new Drs. seem to not be familiar with. But occasionaly youll come across one that seems to care and that feels pretty good pretty rare
After having both knees replaced at 52 I realized how much life I had missed over 22 years of waiting for the VA to finally approve my surgery so I could walk. I never worked so hard as I did doing PT. The week after the PT was over (one year) I went out and bought a sheep farm and run it myself now! i love being back to real life! After a major injury in the Army I had wanted to die. And I was in pain for 22 years. Now I’m up, I recently added a hay farm, machine shop and a rabbitry! Next year we add bees! I am so grateful to my surgical team. I have a whole new life that I thought was gone forever. In our machine shop we are inventing and building robotics to help disabled and elderly people with severe limitations to continue running their farms after they are injured or disabled and we’re doing it at much lower cost than the major brands and the devices are custom built to the customer.
@@Theophilus Jedediah, 😭 this is probably the MOST AWESOME comment I’ve read in weeks if not months!!!! I’m sooooo happy for you!!! It’s so adorable about your farm. I love that you’re enjoying life again, and wow, helping others to enjoy it again too!!!! 🙌🏻 May God bless you tremendously in this new journey!! 🙏🏻❤️
So glad for you, it's difficult to convey that loss to others In Life, all the while in pain. Besides surgery, I learned 'core' work so I could do isometrics every joint system eventually, stopped spams, increased blood flow hence healing, toned muscles, ligaments when I had difficulty in exercise, build strength. Your 'new' life sounds so joyful😊, glad you believed your life Should be different. I try to share what I learned so people know, everyone can do this. 🤝🐦
Oh bless your heart! That's the greatest news to know you recovered so well! A new man, and after waiting so long! Now farming, sheep and bees and helping others! I have auto immune disease and bad back that I can hardly walk to the other side of the house. While I grew up in the country farm and used to gardening, hiking and helping others, worked at nursing homes for years. Now there's days I do good to get out of bed. While years have passed, feeling my life has been taken away from the one I know. It's somewhat a bit easier saying this is me now! Easier to not think what I want to do. Not sure if you call that a good thing. Sanity sake it is. You're living one of my dreams of having a sheep farm! ❤ I'm so excited for you. Wishing you busy days ahead 🐑🌻🐝 Thank you for your service!
@@arosefortes6507 🌹 What a beautiful comment. And I hear you. While we can always keep hope alive, and keep trying, it’s good to just be content in the meantime too and accept what we cannot change. Sometimes we just have to shrug our shoulders, say, “ C’est la vie,” and count the blessings we do have, as it can always be worse. You are a beautiful soul, and I wish you peace and comfort. 🙏🏻🌹
What a great message from a Doctor who seems to truly care about his patients as well as other people. If you’ve never experienced the complete soul crushing void of loneliness, it’s a horrible thing. A smile, a kind word, a minute of your time is priceless and can make a huge difference in someone’s life.
I know my last surgery to remove my port I'd had for over a year which bothered me daily because of where it was placed. I had just gone through a mastectomy and all the treatment along with that alone I've been lonely for year's to a point I didn't care but the anesthesiologist so nice asked me questions and also explained everything to me that was going to happen after we talked he said I'm changing the way I'm putting you under I'm not sure what he heard but he was very nice and came after my surgery said we had a hard time of getting you to come out of it. I've never had that happened to me and I've had several surgeries and been put under a bunch of times but never been told it was hard to get me to come out of it. I think it had everything to do with me nothing the Dr. did that day. I really had just quit caring. The thing is they never went and talked to my sister about ajar happened the nurse said it was just a mistake the Dr. made he was behind and just went on to his next surgery which I get but it bothered me. If they can tell all these things why don't they say something? My loneliness has only gotten worse I do want to get a therapy dog but I've to wait for me to make sure I can be well enough to be able to take çare of a dog meanwhile my depression and loneliness gets worse. What to do I guess would be my next question? Thank you for all you do I feel like you're a great Dr. and really care. Thank you so much!!!!!
I actually love being alone. UPDATE: Hear ye, hear ye! Don't be mean, you're right, I'm in denial. You meanies are also right that I would change my tune if I were truly lonely. No disrespect was intended for the truly lonely people of the world. I'm updating this because there have been so many comments - thank you - and the meanies are missing the post I make about how right they are, how I'm not worthy to call myself lonely if I choose to be alone, etc, etc... maybe I try to downplay how lonely I really am, and the mean comments are really unnecessary. Feel free to continue on........ 😌 My family worries about me but I never feel lonely. Having people constantly check on me or contact me is annoying lol
sometimes being a loner! is far better than putting up with people who have or can have, caustic personalities or who take jabs or who is so self centered they want to do everything their way or who is jealous of whatever you have that they want! Tired of it but it can be lonely but when I was working it never bothered me.
I prefer being alone too but I don’t mind someone checking up on me because I want someone to take care of my cats if I can’t because I’m dead or incapacitated.
My mom has dementia and is slowly getting worse. She lives a couple hours away and I’m moving in with her this month because I have been researching this stuff and I believe a BIG part of her dementia is coming from not socializing with anyone. She lives way out in the country and has outlived all her good friends. She’s almost 90 and was doing really well until she stopped going to church during the stupid pandemic. She pretty much just sits at home in front of her tv, or reads. If anyone has a relative who is in the beginning stages of dementia I highly recommend you go be with that person and get them involved in social activities. Once dementia gets its claws in, it progresses quickly. We are going to have planned weekly Bible study, a church social group, a cooking class, and whatever else I can find to fill her time. Hopefully that and a better diet will help her live to see her grandchildren have their own kids.
I lived with my grandmother for a year before she passed away from dementia and I noticed a substantial improvement once I moved in and she had someone to talk to everyday and get out and about with. Unfortunately, it didn’t stop the progression of the disease but it certainly slowed it. Good luck! Miss my granny
You won my heart at "we are dealing with a broken health care system". It's true and they should realize that WE KNOW IT. I've heard a crazy amount of people say they put off going to the doctor or having a procedure because they don't trust doctors and hospitals any longer. So when we hear someone in the system own up to that truth, we are more prone to listen to him.
It’s reasons because of that that I have gone over three years with out having a check up with my PCP. I’ve been SA’d by doctors as a small child twice so its incredibly easy for me to avoid or put off going to even see a PCP check up yearly I’ve gone many years without seeing a doctor and now I have ring worm and I also developed apraxia of speech, I have mobility issues and I now need a full time caregiver to help me do things everything around the house simply because of this high mistrust and disdain for the health care system in this country.
True! I do not trust doctors or hospitals any longer - especially when 4 different doctors give you a different explanation for the exact same incident. Which was finally shot down by the 5th doctor, the cardiologist. I could tell that he was exasperated beyond endurance.
I’ve had 49 surgeries since I was 18 (I’m now 51), due to an accident that left me paralyzed. I was hit by a drunk driver when I was 18. I appreciate all the anesthesiologists that I’ve had over the years. I’m glad this channel exists to inform people. Your mental status before surgery is so important. Not sure why this channel came up for me, but I think it’s such a valuable subject. Your mental health is not talked about enough by medical personnel prior to surgery, they are normally just talking about the physical. Thank you for educating people. Good luck to anyone about to have surgery and definitely make sure you are mentally prepared!
As a PACU nurse, thank you so much for being so attentive and proactive like this. We need more Dr's like you...heck more heathcare providers in general like you. ( I hope I am a positive change for others too.)
As a registered nurse, I genuinely appreciate and applaud your message. We need so much more empathy and compassion in our healthcare system. Bless you and keep fighting the good fight!! ❤️
@@renalryan NO they are NOT the best you pos, who cares if nurses have "helped you" they did not do it for free, your health insurance PAID FOR THEM TOO HELP U... WAKE UP.
Since my dad passed away, my mom has quite a few procedures and she always wakes up crying saying she saw my dad. It's really sad to see. I wish there was more empathetic medical staff. You are awesome!
I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad cried a lot for my mom, and we supported him by being present. It took some months to stop randomly crying. Hope your mom is doing better now. Sending hugs to everyone. ❤
It can take years to grieve for some ... Specially if they dream of them. Turning those dreams into connection really helps and doing a prayer for them always
I had a general anaesthetic in Australia about two years ago, and my final memory before I slipped in to sleep was of a nurse giving me a hug to let me know that everything would be alright. I woke up two hours later and everything went well, and I felt amazing. A good memory of surgery. Who would have thought it!
Nurses are a rare breed. Hopefully they aren't treated as poorly in AU as they are in the US. The abuse they take from doctors is atrocious. Nurses deserve higher pay than doctors. They do 100x more work and have to do it with a smile. I bet if they did they probably wouldn't be treated the way they are
Years ago, after having several sinus infections, my primary doctor sent me to an ENT doctor for an evaluation, suspecting I had a deviated septum. Yes, it was confirmed. The doctor/surgeon began asking me questions of injuries suffered as an infant or young child, as the central part of my face (brows, nose, mouth, chin) didn’t line up. Perhaps I could contact my mother and ask if I’d fallen out of my crib, or down some stairs? Oh, no, I thought. He stumbled upon a long-buried, shameful secret that I hadn’t even shared with my husband. My mother would fly off the handle and randomly smack me around. My days were filled with terror, not knowing what would happen to trigger punishment from either parent. After college, I moved 2,000 miles away, with minimal contact. Now, it came rushing back….. X-rays showed a long-ago facial skull fracture. He guided my fingers between my eyebrows, close to the inner side of my right orbital socket, along the right side of my nose and cheek, and down to the corner of my mouth. Yes, this also explained the minor ‘droop’ of my face, too. I believe he saw the terror and shame in my eyes, and said not to worry, I’d be breathing clearly in a matter of weeks. I was kept awake during surgery in order to keep my blood pressure up (I joke that my BP is ‘next to dead’), so I was aware of the majority of the ‘activity’, occasionally going in and out of a light sleep. The doctor and nurse were remarkably compassionate during and after the procedure. At one point, I was silently crying, with tears running down my face. The doctor told her that all signs indicated pain blockers and sedation were fine, and that this was an emotionally difficult procedure for me. She placed her hand gently on my shoulder, wiped my tears, and gently spoke reassuring words in my ear. The procedure lasted longer than I expected, and as the operating procedural notes were being finalized, I distinctly remember him telling her, “Remember - this was a routine septoplasty; not a rhinoplasty.” What just happened here? I looked like I’d been in an car crash. I was bruised from my forehead to below my cheeks. A couple of days later, he removed and replaced my nasal packing and said all was healing as expected; see you in a couple of weeks. Two weeks later, all bandages and packing were removed and I got a good look at myself. Still lots of greenish-purple fading bruising. Then he told me what took place in surgery. As he suspected, I had bone fragments penetrating my nasal cavity from a tangential blow to my face across my right cheek. He removed all the bone fragments, then lifted my brow line and resculpted the bridge of my nose as it met my forehead in order to rebalance my face. He could see that I’d had broken teeth repaired in the past (I paid for this while I put myself through college), so all of his work was done to make me look natural and balanced. He’d done a rhinoplasty, a septoplasty, a mid-line lift, and reshaping/realignment of my bones; however, it was recorded as a rhinoplasty. I told him I was always ashamed of my appearance, that I’d been mocked and called ‘Crooked Face’ by classmates and my own sister, who told me no one would ever love me or want to take care of me. This kind, gentle, generous, old doctor leaned forward in his chair, took my hands in his, looked me in the eyes and told me that I was beautiful to begin with, and that God had given him the skills and opportunity to enhance and restore what should have been mine to begin with. He’d been helped by generous people early in his career, and never missed an opportunity to be able to help others. He knew my insurance would consider this ‘extra’ procedure as cosmetic, and deny it, so he made the decision, along with his nurse, to proceed. Now, since he had done this for me, it was my responsibility to pay it forward to help others. I’ve honored his wishes for the past 30 years. Thank you for reading my story of compassionate caregivers who truly do change people’s lives.
What a stunning video! Thank you so much for your work! I just went under anesthesia officially for the first time, and I had the best experience. Before I went under, I cracked jokes and had everyone laughing (including the anesthesiologist). When I woke up, I had no pain, and it was one of the best experiences of my life! The anesthesiologist even came by to say, "Your joy was infectious!" That being said, I have suffered from loneliness, being the only person in my family living in the US with no family, partner, children, relatives, or siblings. This loneliness has caused me to struggle with depression. However, since my diagnosis, I’ve reached out to friends and started affirming, "I am loved, I am loving," which has helped me manifest a reality where friends reach out to me. The computer age makes this a lonely world because it reduces the need for physical connection. Since we are made in 3D physical form, not having that connection can create feelings of loneliness. Thank you so much for being so sensitive and compassionate. I am deeply moved by your work!
In utter amazement…on how you take into account the patient’s psychological needs into consideration! As a nurse of over 15 yrs I have yet to encounter/witness an anesthesiologist or surgeon rendering this level of holistic humane healthcare approach. May God protect you and place you in situations where you are most needed. ❣️✨LOVE THE VIBES…SUBSCRIBED ❣️✨
AMEN 🙏 Well said! I'm so very impressed with this wonderful young man😇... his level of compassion and empathy is amazing and off the charts !!! The points he brings up are invalueable. We're so busy rushing around. Just that moment we take can have an impact on someone in such a profound way. You can never know just what you meant to their day, that small gift of your time, which you don't give a thought to... may affect the world to someone else! God bless this young man. He really should do a TED Talk !!! I don't think people realize 🤔 the effects that he touched on... with regard to just the body with loneliness, let alone the effects anesthesia plays. Silly me... and here I thought I was going to be entertained with the funny statements people say or do while under anesthesia... Wow, what an insight into his world, and he's giving a wonderful gift 🤲 to us far more valuable than laughter & Yes, Sir... A Subscriber now, too!
I had 2 surgeries during the pandemic and my sense of loneliness was so deep that it definitely affected both my going under and my waking up. I still have nightmares about those painful days…25 days in hospital feeling desperately sad and isolated. I was ridiculously weepy and my recovery was much slower than it should’ve been. Thank you, Doctor for talking about this important mental health issue.❤❤
I can't imagine what that was like. I know this sounds awful but I'm glad my mother wasn't around to see the covid shutdown in our state. She died January 2019, unexpectedly. I went to a New Year's Eve celebration to ring in 2020 - to be honest I just wanted to see Usher, but it was a tradeoff. A few of my friends had been sick, one we had to constantly check on, but we had no idea what was coming. I wasn't a news junky yet. A week later I felt horrible but I'm one of those people that gets sicker from a cold, so I just pushed through. I noticed that all the cold medicine was sold out in all the little stores around the French Quarter. Usually it sits there and gathers dust because they overpriced everything. That was odd. Then I tried to get some meds in a Walmart delivery. Also mostly sold out. And then I noticed I had trouble walking up my stairs. But I was having to do one step, one step, pause, one step. Collapsing in my bed having trouble breathing. I had a cpap machine that I'd never used and my sister had left some inhalers with steroids when she visited after our mom died. Something told me to use those 2 things. I think I accidentally did some things that made me get better. I already took supplements because I'd quit smoking a few years before and was trying to heal my lungs.
I am so sorry to hear this. It is shameful how public health chose to focus on only a single determinant of health (covid!) and ignore all others. People never should have been isolated. It was a respiratory virus that no one was ever going to control. Man needs to stop thinking he is God. Sending you love.
I guess I’m a bit lonely, feeling cut off, depressed. But I recently had surgery under anaesthesia, and I have to say, it was such a change to be surrounded by people who were focussed on my wellbeing, concerned about what I needed rather than on the work and caretaker tasks I’m expected to do for others, that ngl it was one of the best experiences I’ve had in a long time. I didn’t even mind the pain and the post-surgery dopiness and the medicated fog-it meant I got to focus on nothing but myself for a week. I was oddly happy…
That feeling of being cared for and not expected to do anything is great. I nearly fell asleep during a knee MRI. Another five minutes and I would have, I think. Had there been armrests on the chair at my recent root canal I might have gotten sleepy there too, but I had to keep my arms controlled on my own.
I understand exactly what you're saying. When I go to the salon or go to the doctor I feel cared about. I'm alone an awful lot. So when I'm in a social situation for health purposes or physical needs it actually makes me feel cared for and loved. That's a sign of just needing to be around people very badly. And to have your needs cared for and paid attention to.
I’m guessing your a parent that’s kid’s are grownup and maybe like mine. The only time they call or come to see you is when they need or want something from you. Hopefully they are not like mine and call you selfish if you just don’t have what they want.
I completely understand, but it also makes me sad that you had to have surgery to feel this happiness in your life. I believe many people’s lives are the same.
You call your patients the night before & your not their surgeon or primary care physician.... you're the anesthesiologist scheduled for their specific procedure. I can't begin to explain how unusual, and impressive you are, as a human being & certainly as a part of the medical team caring for all the random patients you get sent your way. This level of care, in someone's well-being, is my hope for us all, to both be this compassionate with the people we deal with & receive it as well.
@@francinejones2524 Interesting, perhaps it's a difference between our healthcare systems...?... As a Canadian with almost a dozen surgeries over the past decades, the anesthesiologist has never spoken to me after our "pre-anesthesia appointment ( which can be with any of the anesthesiologists on staff, not necessarily the one at the surgery).
I’m 72 and have had several major surgeries in recent years. Each time the anesthesiologist came in talked to me at length prior to the surgery while I was being prepped. I had to have my shoulder replaced twice with a nerve block each time. The guys that did the nerve block showed me exactly what they were doing and showed me the ultrasound screen and how they placed the block. Everyone on the team talked to me constantly until I went under. A nurse even held my hand as I went under. I am stating this because I suffer from loneliness, depression and anxiety. I am sure the way I was treated improved my condition while I was out. Going under was the most relaxing and interesting experience I can remember. I actually felt that this what dying must be like. I actually remembering hoping that I didn’t wake up. I feel you can die from loneliness and some people actually die on the table because of these underlying mental illness issues. Great video.
It's not so much a mental health issue, as it is a symptom of how screwed up society as a whole has become. I was around the medical field my entire life, I lost almost all respect when they started getting rid of the good nurses, and doctors who refused to go along with their plandemic. We still have never held anyone accountable for that gross abuse contrived money grab by big pharma. The entire thing was a lie from the get go, and everyone just forgot about all those people they just killed and blamed on some mystery virus so they could cash in. People were dying in auto accidents and covidiots was blamed. I still can't believe all these pharmacy sorcerers are not in jail for using the general public like test subjects.
Can totally relate, had my left shoulder replacement twice. I also, suffer from loneliness. Shoulder surgery is very difficult, I need right one done but I am so afraid
As a general surgeon, this was very eye-opening to me. I never thought about the soft, touch eye contact, but I’ll certainly utilize it in the future. Thank you very much.
Dearest surgeon. I wish my surgeons had the compassion, and willingness to dig into new research as you! God bless you as you bless those you care for!
Everything this doc is saying makes sense. I'm not a healthcare practitioner, but if I see someone who looks lonely, I'll talk to them, or at least say hello and a smile if I am busy. Could be a neighbor in my little apartment "community" could be someone in the city like at the park. Often. they appear as "society's outcasts" like The Doors sang about in "Strange". I'm a physically fit, currently out of work layed off 60 year old, never married no kids and still going through a breakup with a girlfriend of 4 years that caused me to question a lot of things, and work on myself. She's gone "no contact" or a clean break, and doesn't even live in this city anymore, and all I want is contact (with her) and her to let me make amends, and maybe even transition to friendship. My therapist says I'm suffering from isolation. But being around a bunch of other people isn't going to help not being close to HER. And no one is gonna be HER. I do have some friends to ride road and mtn bikes with. I used to ride solo a lot - which a lot of us riders do - but it's harder to do that now. Back on point - if something happened to me now and I needed surgery or emergency surgery, I'm sure I'd have a very bad reaction to anesthesia - probably more powerful form of "morning panic" if anyone knows what I'm talking about - anxiety mixed with claustrophobia, can't get enough light into the space and have to get out. It really sucks.
I totally agree with you. I have friends/family and great neighbors. I socialize if I want- I just do not want to anymore. I really enjoy my life as it is. I need to a of folks around me all the time.
To all those that work in the medical field primarily to help people and not just for the money....THANK YOU. People can tell when a medical provider actually cares.
YES! Oh I'm so glad you said this. Say it often to them...they need it. I wish there were a way t o boost their mood in hospitals and clinics once we leave and take our gratitude with us. I'm posting this idea on my Facebook page...We have to spread the thanks right?
I'm glad to see such compassion from an anesthesiologist. Very refreshing and comforting to know such people are there when you have to go "under" not knowing when or if you'll even wake up.
I had 10 endoscopies, a sigmoidoscopy, and a colonoscopy last year. I was their "repeat patient". I had ample time to chat with the anesthesiologist, ask her when the medicine was pushed in, feel the wave overtake me... then out. One time, I counted to make and made it to sevennnnn and knew that "eight" would be next but couldn't even think it. The next time, I tried it in German; I didn't make it past eins, because I realized later that speaking a foreign non-native language uses a different part of your brain. Another time, I heard someone offer "cran-apple" juice when they were done, and that's what I wanted (but hasn't ever been offered), so I wrote it on my atm in ink in the bed and showed the nurses my "order" for when I woke up. They realized I was easy-going, and that made them pleasant.
This message coming from such a medical doctor is a great uplifting hope giving message. True if we were all more educated in regards to how the spirit, mind and body
Wow you’re an amazing health care worker thank you so much! Your professionalism, bed side manor and understanding towards this swept under the rug subject. God Bless you and yours ❤
I have severe depression. I had general anesthesia a couple years ago for an outpatient surgery and it spiraled me into a horrible depressive episode, which ended up turning into a pretty bad relapse and I ended up in residential treatment. I have been struggling with loneliness for most of my life. It doesn't matter whether or not I have friends or a support system. I feel like I'm isolated in this entire universe.
To someone like me who is scared of anesthesia, to have someone like you in charge makes me feel so much safer. The time i was under anethesia i was so so scared having an anxiety attack and all, until the anesthesiologist came in and i told him "if im in pain, will you help me?" And he was so kind! He showed me all the machines and said how he would use them to know what i was feeling and said i was going to be ok. I said "will you take care of me?" And he said "yes ill make sure you are ok". The relief i felt was such that i only remember saying thank you and then i was asleep with anesthesia. To this day i think he made a huge huge difference and will always thank him. So people like you, are real angels to people like me. Just knowing that you care is just priceless. ❤
I woke up on the operating table during one surgery and I remember seeing my doctor's face masks and the cap on his head. there was loud music playing and everybody was talking and joking and I was moaning because I hurt. The next thing I heard was Dr Fisher saying to the anesthesiologist hey put her back under. and I don't remember if it was the next day or or later in my room I could hear the nurses telling me come on now you've got to wake up come on now and they were kind of shaking me and trying to wake me and my family came in and they were trying to talk me into waking up. Apparently when you don't wake up you probably won't wake up & that's what they were worried about. I didn't want to wake up I can remember saying uh-uh With me trying to go back to sleep
Wow had no idea that depression/loneliness can have dire consequences when under anesthesia as well. As a NP...I sometimes find myself spending more than my alloted time speaking to patients who are lonely and they are so appreciative of this (though i sometimes gets me a little behind) :/ but when that pt give a heartfelt ty for listening it's worth it. I also refer/encourage them to join support groups via our SW or other pt advocate groups. Yes, loneliness can have an unpleasant impact on patients' health. God bless everyone who stop to really listen and say hi❤
You are one of a dying breed in medicine, Doctor. Caring, thoughtful with a kind bedside manner. As an elderly previous patient, let me thank you for being the person you are it means more than you will ever really know to your patients. Please, don't ever change. The medical world needs you in it desperately. ❤
I love how compassionate you are towards the whole patient, not just the task you have in front of you. That's not as common an attitude as it should be.
This. Absolutely this. I ended up seeing two different doctors about the same issue, due to needing urgent care on a weekend when our family doctor wasn't working. First doctor, without knowing more of my background than what I had told him of my health concerns over the last few years, and the symptoms I was currently experiencing, told me he thought my issue is more than likely psychosomatic, followed quickly by "doesn't mean you're crazy." explained a few things to me and put me on a low dose antidepressant. Had a follow up with our family doctor a few days later, knows a little more of my history, obviously, and I talked to him about what the first doctor said and recommended. "Oh no, I don't think it's 'psychosomatic' at all, you have cyclical nausea and vomiting." and left it at that. More recently I ran into that first Dr again, for another urgent care situation (appendicitis this time) and well, I'm currently considering switching our family Dr, if he'll have us lol.
I would love to hear you talk about something that’s been bothering me a while now because I NEVER hear any medical professionals talk about it. So my sister went in for a surgery for a leg injury (general anesthesia) and when she awoke she said she could feel something was “wrong” up to a few weeks afterward her brain seemed to be not working properly and she felt “weird” (her words). Next she started having actual hallucinations and signs of psychosis. Her doctor said it’s rare, but anesthesia can cause/trigger psychosis and even schizophrenia. We were shocked! She was so mentally unwell at that point she didn’t even realize how sick she really was and spent years in and out of mental hospitals until they found the correct dose for her now considered “schizophrenia” (even tho she was normal before surgery). How does this happen, although rare, I think we should understand this better and make patients aware that this can and does happen. My sis will have to be treated for schizophrenia the rest of her life, all because she went in for knee surgery?? I mean… 🤯 that’s terrifying. I’ve yet to hear a professional like yourself break down the logistics of how (or why) this happens . I’m not confident you will either, but I just had to at least ask.
She most likely already had schizophrenia and chances are symptoms would've onset at some point, surgery or not. The meds just sped it along. Most people don't know they're schizophrenic until their 20s when something call a schizophrenic break occurs and all the symptoms come flooding in.
@@robbobthecorncobjriii8195 Ummm no she absolutely did NOT lol not even close. She was totally lucid and normal and functioning and showed absolutely zero signs of any paranoia or delusions. Did you not read my comment? Even her doctor said anesthesia can on rare occasions trigger schizophrenia. It was absolutely due to the anesthesia that much is confirmed.
@@whitneyangelie3682 did you read my comment??? Or do any research on your own? It is VERY COMMON for people who have it to not show symptoms until some sort of traumatic event. Don't get upset with me because you can't understand basic stuff about how the disorder works. My ex of 3 years had it so I think I know, at least a little bit, what I'm talking about
@@robbobthecorncobjriii8195 Your ex had it so you must be an expert 😂 ok dude. I’m telling you what her doctors have said and knowing the circumstances surrounding everything and I think I’ll take their word over your own, thanx.
Thank you so much for making this video. I cried, and I learned a lot. I'm now going to look for more videos like this, first on your channel. It's incredibly sad how many voices in our society can be so cold, callous, and uncaring - I often hear politicians, news media types, sometimes even healthcare professionals ruthlessly propagate a demand for stoicism, or even to pretend like this problem does not exist. thank you for treating this issue with dignity.
Just acknowledging the person is so good. I worked in a nursing home 30 years ago, and people are lonely and scared. They are dismissed so much. So just speaking to them can make all the difference. Thank you Dr. Kaveh.
Visit we were there to listen. My sister and I even got asked if we want to get married he was looking for a wife as his died.🙂 I am now 72. I don't mind being by myself. At this time anyway.🙂 My. Kids and Grands keep me from getting lonely. I am lucky .
When we had to put my mother in the care home. My two sisters and I made sure that at least one or other went to spend time with her everyday. Our dad had passed away a few months before. She was suffering from dementia from strokes. And physically declining. So many others did not have visitors very often 😥. We ended up adopting a few of them !!👍🙂 If they needed help with anything
My wife of 30 years died after 4 knee replacements on the same knee and 11 years of dealing with meat-factory surgeons who saw her as another payday and prescribed opioids like candy. I wish she had a caring doctor like you seem to be. I live with sadness over losing Carol every day.
I woke up 3 times during a knee replacement even though I told the anesthesiologist I required more meds than most. I was in incredible pain in the recovery room - thank God for caring nurses!!!
You are a rare gem. I’ve worked with physicians for lots of years. I’m in my 70s now and you are the first physician who I’ve heard speak about a patients emotional health. You take a genuine interest in your patients. Wow. Just wow. God bless you.
I'm an RN and I have definitely seen this while recovering patients in PACU. I especially remember a woman who woke up crying because her son had recently been killed in a car accident. It was very very sad and I could tell the anesthesia compounded her feelings.
At 15 I went under to have my wisdom teeth removed..when I was coming to..I heard crying ? then I realized it was a woman behind the curtain sharing the room who was also waking from surgery.
Losing a loved one, especially your child, must be an unbearable pain. I lost my sister in 2019 due to a heart attack. We had no idea she was having heart issues. As their caretaker, I do my best to cheer them up and remember fun times we had and will have in the future. I haven’t fully grieved due to being a pillar for them. We have good days and bad days. Thank you for sharing this insight as to what you’re witnessing. There’s been many studies that social media users are more depressed and obsessed with their social media “likes”. It’s truly sad due to the fact that exaggeration/bloviation run rampant on all of those platforms. It’s not authentic. People are not having genuine conversations or contact with others which explains the loneliness.
@@AimeeAimee444 - Thanks for sharing about that. I'm so sorry you lost your sister. Unfortunately, I know what that's like. Well, when it comes to heart health, it's good for women, especially those who aren't in the medical field, to read about women's heart health. I bought a book that came out around 2015 called 'Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum's Heart Book: Every Woman's Guide to a Hearth Healthy Life.' It had some good insights. In general, I really agree about what you said about social media. It also increases suicides among young people. I saw a video from morning tv (Good Morning America? or The Today Show?). The guest was the actress Jennifer Garner, & there were 2 hostesses {Hoda Kotb (spelling?) & I think Susannah Guthrie}. Anyways, the hostesses said something like this to Ms. Garner: We heard that you don't let your teens go on social media & we're wondering how you manage that. Ms. Garner's answer was simple: She tells her kids that when they can show her science-based evidence that says it's healthy for kids or teens to be on social media, if that evidence is as good or as compelling as the evidence that says it's *not* healthy for them, then she'll let them go on social media.
@@AJ-yw7hf Thank you for your kind words about my sister. I miss her everyday. 💔 She was only 52 and in good health as far as we could see. Yes, women do have different symptoms than men when it comes to heart issues and especially for a heart attack. Social media turned me off immediately! I suddenly felt as if I was in high school and everyone was regressing back to that dynamic. To me, it’s all a fantasy world. People start exaggerating or their life is luxurious. Thank you again for chatting with me. It’s nice to meet new people who are authentic such as yourself! 🙌🏼🤍😊
@@AJ-yw7hf Oh wow, I didn't know that about Jennifer Garner--smart Mom! I'm going to pass that on to my son and his wife. They have three in elementary (one going into middle school this fall) and they're struggling due to her ex allowing the kids to go on the Internet when he has them. I'll try to find video of that to e-mail to them--maybe it will help them take heart that even famous people agree with them! Thanks again!
Wow... If every doctor cared the way you care, so many more people would pay attention to their health. You seem to be a very kind, and exceptionally understanding person.
From someone who is very isolated I am so grateful for wonderful beautiful souls like you. You are the hope and the solution for all that is wrong with this world!
I spent a month in a coma on propofol and fentanyl. I woke up believing I had been in a war. By the end I was comfortable until I woke up to reality. Before another surgery the surgeon noticed I had tears streaming down. I told him I had already spent 2 months in another hospital. They asked and said a prayer for me. It meant so much to me.
I've recovered except for some digestive issues and pain. I'm still adjusting to life without pain meds, but I'm not even 40 yet. They were making me feel ok with doing nothing. Thanks for the kind words. I wish you the best also! Edit: I forgot to mention that I noticed Jungian and Marcus Aurelius aspects in this doctor's words. I may be wrong, but they hit home regardless.
@@ellanola6284 thank you. I've been trying different things because I'm also borderline diabetic. My Dr told me that after a couple months I should start feeling better from getting off opioids.
For me personally as a 30 year old, I spent my entire 20s going through extremely prolonged "Emotional Burnout", having to be a caretaker for someone with Alzheimer / Dementia, and another with Suicidal tendencies / Bipolar / BPD in the same home. I've had to face stressors that most 20 year olds never have to think about. This Burnout caused lasting withdrawal and numbness / desensitization. I've stop texting friends or using social media for years now, lost interest in most things, and have been in a low energy state due to the prolonged stress. Depression and Burnout are similar, but Burnout is both physical / physiological and emotional / mental, depression is more emotional / mental. Since the stressor is people and my environment, I'm prone to isolating as a coping strategy, often by staying up late and removing the stressor - aka people. Actually I feel much less lonely being isolated, than around miserable people or those who don't understand me.
Very few people can fully identify with all you’ve been through in your short life (yeah, I know it feels longer). Please know that these things don’t always last forever, they just feel now like they do. You have our thoughts and prayers going forward and know that you have put yourself in our hearts.
i'm in my 20s, i turn 28 this year. i have my own medical conditions that seem to be getting worse but before this new diagnosis i would help my mom with taking care of my grandmother who has no movement of her body and dementia, which was a lot of heavy lifting and very long hours, plus my dad is getting older - he's in his 70s - and i help care for him too. i have no friends and the people that are around me are very miserable and make me feel like i'm alone anyways so i love being up late on my own, i love being a night owl and i hate to sleep because being up late at night is when i feel the best. i can relate to you and i hope you hang in there.
As a former healthcare worker, we could always tell who would heal well and who would not, based on their mental status. It was amazing and this helps explain what happened.
That’s really cool info! I wish i could read a huge gathering of the awareness your above mentioned career has created a sideline expert of human behavior. I find it fascinating your stories as well as an important tool we need to incorporate into the foundations by great works of generations, stressing the importance of psychology ., and somehow being implementing at the grade school level, leveraging terrible parenting and patterning, through awareness to the child in such states. My Random 2 pennies, thrown into the wishing well
I have a huge amount of respect for what you do. Here I am working the last 35+ years in long-term healthcare and I did not know this. This needs to be taught to everyone and anyone who has the responsibility of caring for others.
I've always felt lonely and depressed through my entire life. I've been under anesthesia four times, and every time I wake up screaming and crying. I always thought that I was allergic somehow, but hearing this makes sense. To suffer from depression is not an easy thing to live with and it never goes away 😥 I wish there were more Healthcare professionals like you at that moment before a surgery.
This is probably the most depressing video I've ever seen, and hits way too close to home. I'm 50, but have been dealing with illnesses for ten years, and had a problem with my family not believing me. I'm so incredibly lonely. I know that I have several procedures and surgeries coming up, and tbh, the overall isolation and lonliness that I feel in my life feels crushing.
I’m so sorry you are suffering, know you are absolutely not alone in the pain you feel. It is completely understood and deeply validated by this one person at least. I’m a few years younger than you but going through hell. I wish somehow we could all get together and support each other, lol. Sending you warmest, kindest thoughts and prayers.
I am facing a fourth surgery for the same inguinal hernia (right groin between your thigh and abdomen. When the pain came back I went back to be told it was all in my head. For 8 months I could not walk because of the pain. He finally did surgery again and of course the hernia was back. It came back again. He forgot to look for the femoral one. Got a different surgeon hoping for a different outcome. Nope. This time I have a “flu” in that part of my abdomen exactly where he did the surgery. My life has become so small since I can’t walk again. Neither of them could admit the possibility I was correct. I’ve suffered. They made money.
Camille, it appears making money is the objective. I am so sorry for what you are going through and I pray you will soon find the right doctor and get proper care,
I'm know you don't know me but if you reach out to people they will reach back. Don't be lonely. There are lots of us out here alone but friends can be found anywhere. Please take care of yourself!! ❤
Doc, you’re a great guy, thanks for this. I’ve had knee surgery, a shoulder repair, and a total knee replacement in the last several years. My ortho knows me so well that he gives a nod to the anesthesiologist and I swear they take me out as soon as my surgeon comes in and asks if I’m ready. They don’t even bother to ask me to count down or anything - he knows I’m nervous as hell and just puts me out fast, which I ALWAYS appreciate.
Talk to someone in the produce section at the grocery store about the quality or ripeness of a product. It will take time but it's worth it. I did it a few times and it doesn't matter if they answer. It gets in your subconscious and then eventually you will have the courage to say something once in awhile. You'll feel 🆓 🆒 🆗⁉️ You will find a way to meet a person that you have similar interests with. ✌️💪
It brings me back to a quote from Robin Williams (RIP) "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone."
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That's just splitting hairs..
It's not his quote. It's his line in a movie he played.
Doesn't take the impact away from the line, but Williams suffered from Lewy-body-dementia. The people in his life at the end don't deserve to be thought as people who made him feel alone. His illness was the cause of his harm not them.
Ugh this is so true 😞😞 I definitely feel this way at times. The person I love the most brings the worst out of me. I can't blame them because we equally should share that blame.
I agree and I always pictured that saying when Robin Williams said this quote and this is so true and this is correct
Lonely does not always mean alone. Some people can be in a room full of people and still be lonely.
He addressed, I think 3 types of loneliness
@@DennisHaskens ...not really
Yeah I think it's more about being severely misunderstood and depressed.
Or conversely/on vice versa
Someone alone can be perfectly happy & not lonely...ehether in the short term (eg they could be meeting with a group of friends later that day...) or long-term (eg they prefer being alone/ prefer their own company or be natural introverts or "wallflowers"as opposed to the "life & soul", etc ..or in a relationship or constantly surrounded by friends thay may prefer to be alone as they naturally feel better/happier in solitude??? They naturally may LIKE being loners/alone and prefer their own company in general
It's parental/peer/social pressure/anxiety that makes them look or feel like they're"wrong" or "different" or ",need fixing" or should be happy when even though they ain't or vice-vrsa (ie like they're "freaks" or something or they're is something "seriously wrong with" or "weird" bout them etc
Which is in turn the possible cause of the anxiety, depression and nightmares and bsd dreams or bad trips, etc instead of the mere state of being alone or even lonely even though it ain't the root cause...its the pressure or feelings that they SHOULD be feeling the opposite way to what they actually do lol which is obv so wrong ofc and is in fact toxic people (eg parents or "friends",etc) who are the real inferior or "weird" ones as they may often bully pressure or gaslight etc but some may do it in a well meaning or "their hearts are in the right place" kinda way as opposed to maliciously or deliberately/heartlessly ory in a bad/ "nasty" way,et⅚c!!!!😍😒🤣🤣
Omg 40 mins of typing on the toilet lol
@Cobalt ikr the original quote is more of a "strawmanning" ie misquoting or misunderstanding (whether deliberate or not) and taking out of context (important yet frequently misused or misunderrated!! ie misunderstood AND underrated at some time)
As an elderly senior, there is nothing worse than having people be condescending and not take you seriously.
My sister says "we have become invisible" and our voices are dismissed.
@@suegatti9376
It's absolutely Dispicable how the elderly are treated! The medical professionals as a whole has lost All respect, compassion, & heart for All patients, but especially the elderly.
My mum is 82 and still competent, mind absolutely fine!
Yet I've noticed health professionals, people when out ignore her and talk to me about her. I always point out that my mum is right here so please feel free to chat to her!.
I don't understand why people do this?
It's just the same when people are in wheelchairs!x
Yes. People choose expediency over personal connection when dealing with people over a certain age. There's also an assumption that people over 70 need help with everyday tasks that they are handling independently. The courtesy is appreciated, but I'm guessing it wouldn't be offered so automatically to a person, say of the age of 40, 50 or 60. Don't call me honey either.😊🙃😉
@@CherylBerryl Yes! Had to take DH to ER twice in a month. Things are changed. But weird.
Now, there’s more of what APPEARS as friendly concern, but, other things seem to be going on.
Years ago, there was brusk, efficient behavior, & often, patients & families were ignored, mixed with the knowledge that patients were their bread & butter; high stress, overworked staff.
But this time…
The discussion of “Advanced Directives” came up each visit.
“Do you want to be resuscitated if your heart stops?”
We said yes, unless conditions negated quality of life, etc. It seemed a very friendly/concerned, attentive discussion.
But what came next?…
Doc tried to ..actively.. dissuade either of us from wanting to be resuscitated, by saying things like, “only a very small % (7% ?) of those resuscitated have any quality of life after, they get broken bones, bruised hearts, etc; most folks don’t survive resuscitation”.😳
It seemed kinda like a covert suggestion that saying no to CPR, could be an “easy out” to let go of life…kinda like the more common big dose of morphine to quietly help a hospice patient die a bit easier & sooner instead of suffering (yes, that happens more than public knows).
THAT….seems to fly in the face of something like nearly 60 years of Red Cross selling industries & public on learning CPR.
Some businesses Mandated workers be qualified to do CPR on a coworker for up to 30 minutes, even while up a utility pole?!
Telling everyone it works great? 🤔…for about 60 years? …then now, suddenly it’s not worth trying?
Has the healthcare industry gone over to the dark side, trying to “lose elderly patients by attrition” (any easy way to allow them to die)?
Because, I don’t think they try to tell this to younger patients!?
It’s good to see someone with integrity and not all about the money
He does take donations, and I bet he gets a few!
Exactly.
Go to a public hospital. They never make you feel like that. It's the private ones I can't trust.
My husband has dementia and had surgery for hydrocephalus, he's 84 years old. When he woke from surgery and came out of the ICU he ripped out his IV's and it took 8 people to get him back into his room. They were going to restrain him but a kind nurse remembered he likes Elvis and started to sing one of Elvis' songs and my husband settled down and started singing with her.
I have seen music calm my mother down when she was having an echocardiogram. She had tremendous anxiety, and I had a sudden thought to play her favorite songs on youtube. IMMEDIATELY, she calmed down and began to sing along. It is truly magical, what music can do for elderly patients!
Your husband woke up with akastisia
@@Lisa-xf5uf akathesia sucks so bad but it's caused by long term medication use. Mostly SSRI's and SNRI's and similar drugs. Sounds like this person is suffering from elderly stage dementia, which also is a very hard thing. 😕
I'm sorry I actually misread what you wrote. I'm not sure what that is. Is it related to hydrocephalus? The brain is such a complex thing.
So much respect for nurses! They save lives. God Bless and Love nurses. Fauci not so much!
"Are you lonely tonight" ??
We need more doctors like you . Doctors need to be more empathetic and add compassion to their practice.
That's very kind if you, thank you!
So true, ignoring the mind tends to exacerbate problems, more drugs can make it worse.
I love him!
Have you seen MORE of these cases since Covid?
@@Bright.Vibezzz A good deal of us don’t use any drugs other than what is prescribed for us.
Coming out of anesthesia, I remember a nurse asking me in a scolding tone, "You're not going to cry on me, are ya?" This was 50+plus years ago. As attributed to Maya Angelou , "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
It really is surprising in the care industry how many unpleasant people there are. I've been relatively lucky (well, there were some grumpy nurses when I broke my arm 10 years ago but it was stupidly late at night), but I've encountered people who are things like mental health nurses who really shouldn't be.
Absolutely. I've had some horrible doctors and nurses, and some wonderful ones.
There should really be personality tests to even be a health care worker.
@@NeglectedField I don't quite remember the context of the situation, but once when I was in the hospital, a nurse mocked my symptoms. Like I was pretending or something. As Ibaze wrote, I didn't remember exactly what she said, but I remembered how I felt.
@@kvassinc I guess culture plays a component (I don't know where you're from), though sometimes it's just luck of the draw.
@@NeglectedField In my opinion, medical care must be psychologically resistant to the fact that patients may die. Naturally, then there will be a larger percentage of people who do not feel empathy and are unpleasant.
Why are there so few medical doctors like you. A great gift to healthcare.
The issue : fewer and fewer people have anyone to pick them up and be with them after surgery. We need a solution for that
This is an underrated comment
Its called.community ... but America destroy families and communities .... now no one talks to their neighbors... they leave the house at 18... no relations wth cousins and extended family
Yes, they asked if I had someone to drive my home. Yes. Then they asked if someone could stay overnight with me. No. They didn't offer a solutuon. I went home and looked after myself like always.
Thank you for this comment. In 1997 I stayed in hospital for a few days after a middle ear operation. I took a taxi to go home on my own. There wasn't even anybody to take my luggage via the stairs to the first floor!! While I wasn't allowed to move my head too much!! I was simply alone and had to care for myself. I think I asked a man passing by in the street if he was willing to take my luggage up to the first floor.
Everyone has to WORK 12 HRS A DAY !! smaller families nowadays...No time to go to a hospital. Youl get the time when they die,
Bereavement. !! Thats America now.
Loneliness is an epidemic. And you don't have to be alone to be lonely. ❤
So true. Im sitting here alone im ok . At one point in my life i was married had 2 children and a job where 200 other people worked around me . I felt so alone i wanted to be gone from life. Im now alone with my self but im good or much better than back then. I know we all matter. Every thing happens for a reason. God works in mysterious ways. Much love to this man/angel and you all . Airhugs of positive loving energy To you all
Good thing it won't be much longer until Jesus arrives. The planet can't continue on in the direction we are going.
That's sad to be lonely and you're not alone.
But you do have to be stuck with only "medications" "therapies" "mental health" "the lord/savior/yahweh/allah", "inner beauty" or fat/ugly chicks "your own age".
:)
Just sayin.
Right
I'm lonely, I have anxiety, and depression. I had foot surgery in September in 2023. The doctor and other medical professionals told me I was talking about my cats. My 6, wonderful, precious and loving cats. They are what makes me get through my days.
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We have a fur family too, we feel blessed. 🐱 ❤
Mine are my nurses ❤
My animals are it for me as well. With my children, they are my life! But children go on to have their own lives w/less and less time for you. I’m in the hospital eight days now and I can’t wait to get out this afternoon to go home and cuddle my dog. While I’ve been gone I’ve been FaceTime in her every day because she has a significant depressive reaction when I am not there. She was a severe rescue case and I need her as much as she needs me! 😀#WhoRescuedWho
Leave Care legacy in your Will for your cats
As someone fighting depression, I can say the biggest thing going through my mind when going under was "I hope I don't wake up." Many of us fighting depression are passively suicidal in that regard. When we are asked that question "do you have any thoughts of harming yourself or others." Our Answer is "No". What we want most is to go to sleep and not wake up again. You are absolutely right to delay anesthesia if you find the patient is depressed, getting some mental health intervention.
I think that it's not that you want to die. It's that you don't want to live THIS life. So we have to do what we can in our lives to change what we can, even if it's a small thing! ❤️🩹
I stopped answering this question, as the 1st thing they do is want me to commit myself. After the last time I was committed, my wife told me she would leave me IF I committed myself again.
This is always my feeling...that if they put me under anesthesia....I WON'T WANT TO WAKE UP ! I have fibromyalgia & chronic pain. All my friends (at my age) are dead. The worst part of every day is waking up. I'm not depressed, but lonely for my old life. This life now is so opposite of the Real me, or who I used to be.. and had fun. God I miss fun. I have weather sensitivity, so going for a walk, or being in Nature, well...not possible. Thankfully I find help on the internet. But I MISS BEING ME 💯💔
Unbelievably saddened by hiw much I can relate to this 😢😢🙏🏾🙏🏾🖤🖤Prayers for us ❤
God has a plan for you. He created you for a reason and you have a purpose; even if it's not yet clear what it is.
I had an emergency surgery that involved an ambulance trip at 2 AM with my 4 year old and just me. I was sent home with a lacerated spleen on bedrest 3 days before, which works so well as a single parent, and I literally felt my guts open up at about 1:30 AM. Realized I couldn't walk, called 911, and tried to put on a brave face for my poor, scared little kiddo. "Some very nice people are going to give us a ride because mommy needs a check-up : )". Ambulance showed up, my 4 year old rode on a seat above my head in her pj's and her little stuffed monkey. I smiled, told her it was going to be ok, we were going on an adventure, and these are cool doctors with a cool truck. Of course they had to start an IV, hook me up to the monitors, blah blah. I was asked if there was anyone to call once I got to the hospital to take my kiddo. I just said "nope : )" through tears looking at my kid. We found someone after an hour, the surgeon was called in but promised to wait until someone got to the hospital to be with my kid. It took two hours, but someone showed up. Nurses and Anesthesia ran me through the halls. Apparently I coded as soon as I hit the hall. My kid didn't see it, but i was conscious before I went wheeled into surgery. I said "dude, i'm scared". I felt like such a bitch. They gave me an IV push of something in the hallway and said "It'll be ok". I asked what they gave me. The nurse said "We put the lime in the coconut". Then slowly the 6 people rolling me down the hall started singing "You put the lime in the coconut, mix it all up..." clearly this was not protocol, but I think if my last thought before anesthesia was me freaking out about my kid all alone it would have been really awful. I needed three blood transfusions and some kind of vacuum to suck up all the stuff that already bled out. If my heart rate was any higher I for sure would have kicked the bucket. I can't even track any of those people down to thank them. Some of those people went to medical school for 3-7 years to sing my dumbass "Coconut" to lower my blood pressure so I wouldn't die. So, just a general 'thank you' to everyone in this field of medicine. I was stressed, and anesthesia probably made it possible to save my life.
This is beautiful. As a single mom with a small autistic child, this is a massive fear. I’m so glad they were kind to you 🥹❤️🩹
Emily4gov. Who took care of your child while you were undergoing this procedure?
this reminds me of a scene in a show i cant remember, pretty sure it was a medical based show. one of the main characters dies, and they eventually begin to sing that song together to bond and cry over their loss. sometimes thats all u can do to get thru things. Put the lime in the coconut
Your story made me cry im glad your still here you are awesome. I hope you teach your daughter to put the lime in the coconut song . Happy mothers day. Sending you Airhugs of positive loving energy to you and yours and everybody else.bGOD BLESS YOU ALL
Best story EVER. ❤️
This guy is a rare breed in the medical industry! Much respect
Rare, never had I have a doctor that would communicate with me anything besides the paperwork questions type of thing, I'm confident empathy and compassion is not a thing with alot of docs and surgeons, based off my experiences.
Amen
@mlouhig1536 Some yes, but most care very much about THEIR patients.
And he's pretty - sorry for noticing😊
@Mlou Hig - Sorry to say, but I think what you said is probably true.
This Doctor is an empath. We need more of these around. 😊
@@lisaedwards6533Why would you say what the doctor is saying is false ? Are you a doctor? Are you an anesthesiologist?
I just wondered.
Thank you. 🎉
You dont have to be a doctor to have knowledge of anesthesia. All a person with common sense has to do is pick up a medical book and read. And narcissistic people love empaths because they can use their kindness for their own demonic pleasure.
@@lisaedwards6533 This is the most ridiculous troll on UA-cam. I wonder how scummy and pathetic the life is of a person who thinks this is fun.
Not many docs are like this
@@lisaedwards6533are YOU a doctor?
I worked in hospitals and it’s the most vulnerable place to be. The providers who show this level of bedside manner are saving so many lives. Thank you for talking about this difficult topic. ❤
A doctor made a video.and.he said.doctors hate being.called providers. He says it has to stop. His whole video was against the world providers for doctors.
I have an opposite story. My 86 yr old dad had a partial hip replacement. In the recovery room he was slow to wake up and his BP was lower than it should be. The recovery nurse came out to get my mom (married 63 yrs) to bring her back. Within seconds of her presence and holding his hand his BP came back to normal and woke up. It just proved the real love and connection I saw all my life.
I have seen this, too. (20 years as RN).
my elderly mom had surgery and wasn't coming back around after. her temperature was going up and she was semi-conscious. the surgeon was nowhere around, just a few nurses. we called up a surgeon we knew who came over and recognized something, and the solution was to hydrate her. then a few years later the same thing at a bigger hospital, she didn't know what year it was etc. i remembered the former thing, and saw what to me looked like dehydration in the elderly and suggested to one remarkable nurse they hydrate her. she talked to a doctor about it and came back and hydrated her and in a few hours she was fine. afterward a nurse or two implied they thought she was going to die. if she was alone i don't know if she'd be more lonely, but she'd be more dead!!
Beautiful! 🙌
This is simply beautiful & thanks for sharing! 🥰
The same with my husband who survived misdiagnosed pheochromocytoma for 14 years. Before surgery as soon as I would get there and touch him his BP would stabilize. ☺️
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What a humane, understanding doctor. Bless his heart.
I really wish the whole medical community was like this.
Gosh what a guy this Dr. is
@@mai-linhmainor5965 if only though I must say that my experience with doctors and nurses here in Switzerland has been excellent; they have all been kind and patient and ready to listen. Maybe I just got lucky.
@@joanmccarty6445 one of life's true angels. Thankfully the world is full of them.
The sick care industry in the US is horrific and cruel at best. #UniversalHealthcare #MedicareForAll
I was a psychotherapist. When I was on call in ER, especially during Valentines, Thanksgiving and Christmas, was when I saw the higher number of patients with profound depression. I was inspired by the work of the nurses, most of them were so caring and compassionate towards my patients. But it was an ER doctor, with the awareness and compassion as big as yours, who inspired me to want to join the medical part of healthcare. Most doctors were dismissive of dual diagnosis patients, but he was one that would sing to a patient, praise them, hold a patient’s hand when they were scared, etc. He never rushed a patient and always treated them with respect. Now I’m finishing nursing school and I’m excited to be able to better support patients in both aspects.
Doctors like you are a blessing, thank you for advocating for your patients and taking the time to support them this way.
We need ppl like you to care for our loved ones. Thank you
Very smart and caring and it shows . intelligent young man.
You are also a blessing with your awareness and compassion. May you thrive in your career. I thank you greatly.
You are so right they are so rare! And good for you with your mental health background going into nursing you will be of such value. Hospitals are really scary places; patients feel really vulnerable and they often regress. We really need medical staff to understand their experience better.
What a wonderful comment!❤
WHO ARE YOU?! Such kindness, caring and interest in your patients and talking about mindset, effects on the subconscious 😮 im so impressed, thank you for your work. We need more like you
This is the single most hopeful and real thing I've heard about depression in a long time. Life never feels "worth it" without having anything to look forward too. Much love to other sufferers, we're gonna be ok ❤
We are gonna be okay when the shotgun blast blows out our medulla oblongata
@@SB-mr2nk wow look at you promoting people to unalive, why would you even comment this shit
we are gonna be okay ❤
Live for yourself! Live to be healthy and care for yourself! Live for a pet!
@@SB-mr2nk I'll never condem someone for ending their life
When I was in nursing school (never graduated) I observed a minor procedure in an OR. I was right in there. The patient was a teen girl. As they rolled her around as they were doing their thing, her hospital gown kept falling down, exposing her breasts. No one seemed to care, and it seemed like they were not looking at her as a whole person, but the anesthesiologist kept pulling the gown up to cover her. I was very impressed by him treating her with dignity and not a piece of meat.
I can agree that’s impressive he cared enough to do that and admirable of him. I have wondered about and considered the fact that perhaps, to a certain degree, surgeons NEED to compartmentalize their work from the person they’re performing surgery on. I once went on a date with an ENT surgeon. Since I’d never dated a surgeon before or since, I took the opportunity to ask questions and try to understand that perspective… What it must feel like. I know I personally could never do it. Knowing a life is in my hands that way… the emotions and stress I would feel from that, I just never would be able to handle it. So I asked him what performing surgery was like… how he handled that. He told me it was a bit like going into trance but where he’s just laser-focused on the mechanics of what he’s doing. All other thought would leave his mind. He knew the body parts and the surgery he was performing… what he needed to do with the tools and the parts to properly perform the surgeries, and that was all he focused on in those moments. And it made sense actually. I’d imagine in the moments while surgery is being performed, it’s best for the surgeon’s mind to be strictly focused on the task at hand rather than overthinking too many other details.
As an RN who worked 30 years in the OR I can assure you no one thought of the patient as a piece of meat but it’s all hands on deck to get her induced and positioned correctly prior to the incision. We see so many naked bodies we don’t pay attention to nudity, it’s the norm, but you didn’t know that and personalized it. 🙂
@Jeez yes the staff are used to seeing naked bodies but the patient probably isn't used to people seeing their body.
As a patient I won't to know that if my gown falls open someone will immediately cover me up!!!
Yes, when I was 17 and had surgery my gown kept falling down and the nurses did nothing to help me, I couldn’t put it up myself. When this terrible nurse I had wheeled my bed to have my heart checked as I was tachycardic the dr there put up my gown and told her off about it. I am really greatful to that Dr.
I am now a Nurse myself but, there are truly disgusting drs and nurses out there.
My buddy shadowed at a morgue and his first day was pretty much everyone showing off how desensitized they were. They had him handle a young female car accident fatality and basically made fun of him for being uneasy. They didn't do anything weird or grope her but they made a bunch of jokes and it wasn't exactly dignified.
I hope every anesthesiologist is as kind understanding and good with their job like you are.
This profession doesn’t give contact; once.
They are not.
Exactly ❤
It’s impossible to know how surgeons, nurses and anesthesiologists behave once their patient is anesthetized.
My sister is a retired surgery nurse. She kept copious notes about every surgery, to make sure she protected herself in case of lawsuits or worse. That was because of the steady stream of mistakes that were made during the surgeries.
They all are not like this man. Think about it, they are people and we people are all different.
It is both rare and remarkable that you express such compassion and concern for the wellbeing of patients. We need more compassion in the medical field and in the world.
I’ve been a nurse for 50 years ! The information you are presenting is so important!!!
Hello, I’m recently had laparoscopic inguinal hernia surgery. The surgeon came in. Then, he said anesthesia would be in to see me. All I remember is the nurse asking me if I’d like something to relax me prior to the surgery. I said yes. She put it in my iv. Next thing, I was awakened and my surgery was complete. When I woke up, I was confused and thought the anesthesia folks were waking me up to take me to have the surgery. What happened? Was what the nurse who put the stuff to help me relax, the anesthesia? Did anesthesia occur while I was asleep? This is not a complaint. It felt like the best sleep I’ve ever had in my life. And not sure if it’s classified as being lonely, but I spend all of my time outside of work by myself. I was afraid of what I might say while under anesthesia. Can you give me some clarification? Thanks in advance.
I was nurse for mental handicaps and it is totally another things than the operation block.
I talk about actresses that turn me on when im under
I actually knew someone who went to your hospital and he said your staff was more supportive than his own family was. I wish there were more doctors who also cared to master their work and enjoy seeing a positive outcome of a healthy and safe surgery of a patient.
@The Wandering k excuse me being curious- what kind of infection was that? Could you explain?
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Your compassion brings tears to my eyes. I worked in surgery and never experienced what you are describing. How fortunate your patients are to have you as their Anesthesiologist and advocate! 😊
Amen... We thank God for you and pray you'll remain safe and continue to advocate for your patients always... Blessings for you and your family... ❤
Aren't they, though? I never knew that an anesthesiologist could care so much about the healing of his patients!
What does ketamine do your mind?
Oh thats so sad!
What a caring soul!
Man, I wish that other anesthesiologists, physicians in general, and others in the position to make a d8fference were as plugged in to their patients as you. You are a rare health-care professional. As a retired surgical nurse, I have seen the apathy many, many times.
I could tell from your eyes how much you felt for this poor lonely man whose hope had left him. You're a good guy. The medical field needs many more people like you.
@@bernhardschwarz6792Spot on
Sad to hear your hope has left you…
I have never known hope I don’t think!
But if this is what it is then Ivjustcthank God for all the good folk that is all around you helping you and sharing with you!
Wishes fulfilled 🙏🏼💃🕺💚💙💜❤️🧡😇🍀
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@HITZONE PRODUCTIONS OK will do
Please, he gets off on it! ⚔️🇺🇸
Very good video. I am 24 and loneliness has affected my entire life. From my parents working too much, to moving in between schools and never making long term connections. Coping with drugs, foods, technology, only making it worse. We need each other more than we know.
Can relate boo
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Hi Michael, I’ll share something that someone said that helped me understand when I was younger: we are always alone, but we are never alone. Loneliness is torture, but aloneness is bliss. Loneliness goes away when you know yourself better, when you pause to enjoy your own company, to discover what makes you unique and happy, when you are gentle and loving to yourself, when you are ok with whatever feeling may come or go without drowning, when you cease to emotionally depend on others for your own wellbeing. A project, a hobby, a book, a pet, a walk in nature, anything that brings you closer to enjoying your own company will also help you connect with others. Remember we are all in this journey together, and you are never alone. Finally I’ll say this, aging can be hard, but time brings the relief of emotional maturity. Give yourself time ❤
Read the Bible and connect to the God of the Bible, and you will realize that you have never been alone.
@@earthacademy4549 the beautiful truthEarth Academy, thank you for spreading it! It all begins with feeling for our innerself, connected to the Great Life Force, the energy of inner bliss....just close your eyes and feel the vibration of life, quiet awareness and then look for connection with others who value their innerlife innerself, for these are the company worthy of you and will bring satisfaction, calm, and the vibration of loving gratitude
I worked with an anesthesiologist that if a patient would say something pre-anesthesia like, “I’m gonna die!” he would put the brakes on and counsel the patient and explain that he wasn’t going to put them under anesthesia with that fear and mindset. He took whatever time was needed and took that patient’s fears very seriously. He was one of our kindest guys and would never let a surgeon coerce him into proceeding with anesthesia when they would try to rush or demean him. He was unaffected and always did “the right thing” which wasn’t necessarily the popular thing with surgeons. I miss working with him. After watching your video I’m sure you two are birds of s feather! 💗🦅
I graduated from nursing in school in 1972 (dark ages) but I remember this being said, that you don't take a patient to surgery that expresses belief they will die.
I know what you mean. I had some serious health issues and had some of the best doctors in the country because I lived in a suburb of Chicago. I became aware during abdominal surgery. The surgeon noticed a slight tension of the abdominal muscles and notified the anesthesiologist. I know this because I heard him. I moved to a different state and had what I’m sure was a subpar anesthesiologist. You can tell because they know everything. I told him about the episode. His response was, ‘I’m sure I know what I’m doing’. Yeah, well so did the surgeon that was trained at Rush Presbyterian and the anesthesiologist who was taught at Loyola. So was my main doctor who was constantly conferencing with her Loyola specialists
❤ whoever the anesthesiologist is that you know, cared about people that much is a hero in my book! I am a retired nurse, and those kind of doctors are rare. Thank you for recognizing him.!!❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊
Yes, I am a retired periop nurse. Worked all three areas. This is so true. People who are not ready, should not go to OR, unless its an emergency. I always appreciated anesthesia docs who realized that and stopped that surgery for that day.
What an amazing doctor! God bless his heart!❤❤
Wow, I am not used to anesthesiologists with so much interest in the psychological side of the patient. Bravo!
If more doctors were like you, we would be a much healthier country. Keep the uploads coming!
But then doctors don't make money from sick people. If everyone was healthy, they wouldn't have a job.
Saying lonliness and depression can be "medicated" is why the world is such a terrible place.
Trust me, there are many more like him, but the spotlights are reserved to politicians and Hollywood...
You mean more doctors who give identifying information about their patients making it easy to figure out who he's talking about???
I find this problematic.
doctors arent the problem. its the drug company cartels.
If surgeons can't operate on depressed people they'll be totally out of business very shortly.
This is what I'm thinking. I doubt any surgeries were cancelled while patient was on the table about to receive anesthesia after finding out about depression.
Could you please explain further? What's the correlation?
I Agree.
90% of People are Depressed about something.
@@DancingCurls-z5s 😆🤣🤣🤣
@@supreme.justicethank you for your comment 🤔 I was thinking the same thing…
My dad at 90 had a hip replacement. The recovery room came and got me to sit with him as his blood pressure went high. I held his hand and all his stats normalised. Love heals ❤️
When you’re lonely nobody comes to hold your hand
@@bradleyblauvelt1572LMAO, got em! Good one broski💀💔
@Nicholas TV thank you sir
Just wanted to let you know that harp music lowers blood pressure. Heart Hospital of New Mexico has a harpist that comes in when medication is not working good enough to get the BP down. Even the recorded music helps.
So correct. People when in a coma may hear us and realize family is in the room. We never know what they hear or in tehri mind see that is going on and we must be very careful what we say and how it is said. Or what we do during those times. Even what we do not do like 'not showing up because we think "they do not know" they can feel the person they know, if touched etc. You are so right.
I’ve always known just how important you are in the operating room, i just hope the rest of our anesthesiologists feel just the way you do. I will be real honest here, it’s a bit sad…after watching your channel I have great respect for you, you are truly someone who cares for us as a person…we are more to you then a big paycheck. I’ve had countless surgeries beginning at the age of 18. All the anesthesiologists I’ve had with the exception of a couple have always come into my room saying the same thing…they ask if i know what surgery I’m having, if I have any questions, they ask me if ive had any problems with anesthesia before…they say next i will see you in surgery, they will take good care of me. Your job is the most important job in that room! Thank you so much for you truly caring for each and every one of us!
I was given "twilight" for a dental extraction. When I woke I was crying inconsolably as the assistants were trying to get me up and moving. I calmed down, but I did not stop crying for an hour afterwards. It was a very lonely time in my life and I had unprocessed trauma. It was amazing to me that this behavior was buried inside me.
Chiropractors also have elicited buried trauma. I am glad you listened to this discussion. I am a retired psychiatrist and few fellow physicians discussions with the patients. I wish you well.
@@barbarahouk1983 Woah really? Do you have a source I could read? I've been planning on seeing one to help with my chronic illness. I also have childhood ptsd (which is likely a cause of my illness), so this would be interesting to know more about.
Omg
I'm sorry this happened the way it did. It's good in a way that it did, but not necessarily the best way to find out! Our brain has a way of coping with emotional pain at the time that it waits until you are able to deal with it later.
I have auto immune disease that leaves me in constant pain and I've had countless surgeries. I've often times looked back, especially when talking about a specific time, and thought how did I do that? Not realizing how much pain I was in at the time.
It's amazing how our bodies work. I hope things are better and you continue well ❤
Sorry. Not to be rude but why is it that they give this "twilight" for a mere tooth extraction? It is almost unheard of in my country. I will have a difficult wisdom tooth removed next month (again) and they'll just give me some local anesthesia when you don't even feel when they drill into the jawbone to retrieve broken pieces of the roots or whatever needed.
I love that you don’t shy away from calling the medical care system broken. We all already know it
That's an understatement for sure. I'm in the hospital as we speak. Not being treated well and that's a fact!
@@jackiemack8653 I hate to say it, but younger generations are alot of the fail - there's a lack of empathy & care in general & I don't see it getting better over time.
@@violetfem1808 because our generation has been preyed upon by the spoiled boomers. We can’t afford housing. Medical system is broken and can’t help us. Even trying to get educated put us in massive debt. Climate change is coming to wreck the planet and boomers just deny all of our suffering. You spoiled boomers just don’t understand because your generation didn’t get preyed upon like we did.
@@violetfem1808 The younger generations had to grow up in times we older people did not.
@@donbusu Younger gens have been systematically en doc +rnated in schooI since the 80's
I’m glad that previously dismissed mental-emotional illnesses are finally being recognized on a large scale
The beauty of modern science. It just boils down to simple observation and reason. Previous psychologists were biased. But reason eventually won out
Is it that they dismissed them or that many of these illnesses hadn't been made up yet? Loneliness is not a mental illness. It isn't based on science but on public demand. Many years ago homosexuality was listed as a mental disease but that changed only after it became more socially acceptable. Strange how "science" can be changed by social unrest.
@@zzzcocopepe Psychologists are just secular priests that people go tell all their secrets to instead of a Catholic priest.
@@zzzcocopepe Previous psychologists were mostly psychiatrists, and they only know how to put drugs on top of your feelings.
Why didn’t I have successful knee surgery
I'm 36, lonely, with depression and multiple sclerosis.
I'm grateful for my 3 cats otherwise I would ended myself few years ago.
Keep on keeping on 👍.
Yes, I agree, my cats are little, precious LIFE SAVERS! I’m rarely lonely with them in my life, and they make me laugh 🐈☺️🐈⬛ every single day!!
I was on the operating table and scared stiff. The anesthesiologist reached over and held my hand. I relaxed immediately. A simple gesture like that was so appreciated
I started to cry and the nurses gently wiped my tears away. Their kindness melted my heart (and my fear). Back in the day, the old battle axes would have yelled at the patient.
Beautiful. Years ago I had a surgery and I had noone at all I was nervous the nurse turned some music on and held my hand and was talking to me next thing you know I wokeup and asked when was I going to have surgery they were like you already did lol.
Haha I was laughed at by a nurse for not being able to eat for over a week.
I remember my anesthesiologist coldly staring down at me like I was a lab rat.
Babe…..why scared stiff???
This man is incredible. Probably the most caring anesthesiologist I have ever heard speaking of his clients/ patients. Thank you for bringing me back towards trusting medical professionals.
I sense a genuine concern, care, or love if you will, for your patients.
This is a real-life story of "DO NO HARM." I really appreciate that there are anesthesiologists like you.
Your awesome! ❤
Yes. That's the compassion that medical care is supposed to have!
@@matthewnienkirchen8083absolutely, pre med at McGill in '69 the dorm was full of people talking about the money and fame.I said screw this and changed to a physics program. You can tell a doctor by when he started his internship.
I've lived alone for the majority of my life... I'm alone, but not lonely... many people don't know that being alone does not have to equal loneliness... I also know I could find a partner if I wished, I just choose not to...
Robert Kline md,@national pain counsel very good videos,lost his license and we're gonna change the rules,sorry forgot to say he's on UA-cam
I'm in tears right now because i'm so touched by you described your patient and your description of his experience, as well as you kind and caring spirit. I've found that caring, compassionate people are very rare these days, and have personally experienced many cold, unsympathetic, insensitive caregivers in my lifetime. I'm an african-american, elderly, low income, female, so I definitely don't expect quality, unbiased healthcare, but just a little kindness and caring, would definitely go a long way in helping me be more willing to get the necessary health check-ups that I need. You seem like such a caring, kind, person. I wish that I could find a doctor like you. God bless you.
So nice to see a health care worker that stops and asks questions and cares enough to put the patient first. Thank you!
Just before he put me out for my appendectomy, the anesthesiologist asked me "What's your favorite whiskey?"
Did you answer?
Bedside manner seems to be a word the new Drs. seem to not be familiar with. But occasionaly youll come across one that seems to care and that feels pretty good pretty rare
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He probably did when he woke up. Thats whats so cool about going under. Its a dream tben your fixed. Hopefully
It’s refreshing to see a physician who treats the WHOLE patient! Kudos
So well said. I’m a nurse with a chronic illness and I agree wholeheartedly. ♥️✨
Holistic is the future❣️🍀
After having both knees replaced at 52 I realized how much life I had missed over 22 years of waiting for the VA to finally approve my surgery so I could walk. I never worked so hard as I did doing PT. The week after the PT was over (one year) I went out and bought a sheep farm and run it myself now! i love being back to real life! After a major injury in the Army I had wanted to die. And I was in pain for 22 years. Now I’m up, I recently added a hay farm, machine shop and a rabbitry! Next year we add bees! I am so grateful to my surgical team. I have a whole new life that I thought was gone forever. In our machine shop we are inventing and building robotics to help disabled and elderly people with severe limitations to continue running their farms after they are injured or disabled and we’re doing it at much lower cost than the major brands and the devices are custom built to the customer.
@@Theophilus Jedediah, 😭 this is probably the MOST AWESOME comment I’ve read in weeks if not months!!!! I’m sooooo happy for you!!!
It’s so adorable about your farm. I love that you’re enjoying life again, and wow, helping others to enjoy it again too!!!! 🙌🏻
May God bless you tremendously in this new journey!! 🙏🏻❤️
So glad for you, it's difficult to convey that loss to others In Life, all the while in pain. Besides surgery, I learned 'core' work so I could do isometrics every joint system eventually, stopped spams, increased blood flow hence healing, toned muscles, ligaments when I had difficulty in exercise, build strength. Your 'new' life sounds so joyful😊, glad you believed your life Should be different. I try to share what I learned so people know, everyone can do this. 🤝🐦
Oh bless your heart! That's the greatest news to know you recovered so well! A new man, and after waiting so long! Now farming, sheep and bees and helping others! I have auto immune disease and bad back that I can hardly walk to the other side of the house. While I grew up in the country farm and used to gardening, hiking and helping others, worked at nursing homes for years. Now there's days I do good to get out of bed. While years have passed, feeling my life has been taken away from the one I know. It's somewhat a bit easier saying this is me now! Easier to not think what I want to do. Not sure if you call that a good thing. Sanity sake it is. You're living one of my dreams of having a sheep farm! ❤ I'm so excited for you. Wishing you busy days ahead 🐑🌻🐝 Thank you for your service!
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🌹 What a beautiful comment.
And I hear you. While we can always keep hope alive, and keep trying, it’s good to just be content in the meantime too and accept what we cannot change.
Sometimes we just have to shrug our shoulders, say, “ C’est la vie,” and count the blessings we do have, as it can always be worse.
You are a beautiful soul, and I wish you peace and comfort. 🙏🏻🌹
What is your website? I also want help so I can have a farm, wood and metal shop.
What a great message from a Doctor who seems to truly care about his patients as well as other people. If you’ve never experienced the complete soul crushing void of loneliness, it’s a horrible thing. A smile, a kind word, a minute of your time is priceless and can make a huge difference in someone’s life.
What a kind man you are. It’s nice to know there are still good people getting into the medical field.
I'm literally down the road from Harvard. This man is an angel that is NOT from Boston/Cambridge area. The natives here are assholes.
Where are you from? I know tons of good people in the medical field.
Bad experience?
@@nomastomas002 Not saying a bad experience but I did wake up with my butt sore...🤷
I know my last surgery to remove my port I'd had for over a year which bothered me daily because of where it was placed. I had just gone through a mastectomy and all the treatment along with that alone I've been lonely for year's to a point I didn't care but the anesthesiologist so nice asked me questions and also explained everything to me that was going to happen after we talked he said I'm changing the way I'm putting you under I'm not sure what he heard but he was very nice and came after my surgery said we had a hard time of getting you to come out of it. I've never had that happened to me and I've had several surgeries and been put under a bunch of times but never been told it was hard to get me to come out of it. I think it had everything to do with me nothing the Dr. did that day. I really had just quit caring. The thing is they never went and talked to my sister about ajar happened the nurse said it was just a mistake the Dr. made he was behind and just went on to his next surgery which I get but it bothered me. If they can tell all these things why don't they say something? My loneliness has only gotten worse I do want to get a therapy dog but I've to wait for me to make sure I can be well enough to be able to take çare of a dog meanwhile my depression and loneliness gets worse. What to do I guess would be my next question? Thank you for all you do I feel like you're a great Dr. and really care. Thank you so much!!!!!
@@Officialmryuck i hate when that happens
I actually love being alone. UPDATE: Hear ye, hear ye! Don't be mean, you're right, I'm in denial. You meanies are also right that I would change my tune if I were truly lonely. No disrespect was intended for the truly lonely people of the world. I'm updating this because there have been so many comments - thank you - and the meanies are missing the post I make about how right they are, how I'm not worthy to call myself lonely if I choose to be alone, etc, etc... maybe I try to downplay how lonely I really am, and the mean comments are really unnecessary. Feel free to continue on........ 😌
My family worries about me but I never feel lonely. Having people constantly check on me or contact me is annoying lol
That's quite a different tune than what most people experience!
Being alone and loneliness are two entirely different things.
sometimes being a loner! is far better than putting up with people who have or can have, caustic personalities or who take jabs or who is so self centered they want to do everything their way or who is jealous of whatever you have that they want! Tired of it but it can be lonely but when I was working it never bothered me.
How blessed. Being secure and happy in your own skin without a need for others is a gift, for sure.
I prefer being alone too but I don’t mind someone checking up on me because I want someone to take care of my cats if I can’t because I’m dead or incapacitated.
My mom has dementia and is slowly getting worse. She lives a couple hours away and I’m moving in with her this month because I have been researching this stuff and I believe a BIG part of her dementia is coming from not socializing with anyone. She lives way out in the country and has outlived all her good friends. She’s almost 90 and was doing really well until she stopped going to church during the stupid pandemic.
She pretty much just sits at home in front of her tv, or reads.
If anyone has a relative who is in the beginning stages of dementia I highly recommend you go be with that person and get them involved in social activities. Once dementia gets its claws in, it progresses quickly.
We are going to have planned weekly Bible study, a church social group, a cooking class, and whatever else I can find to fill her time.
Hopefully that and a better diet will help her live to see her grandchildren have their own kids.
Don't forget and keto and fasting for brain fog.
That is really nice of you, good luck to you and your mom.
You are kind and loving daughter. ❤️ ❤❤❤
I lived with my grandmother for a year before she passed away from dementia and I noticed a substantial improvement once I moved in and she had someone to talk to everyday and get out and about with. Unfortunately, it didn’t stop the progression of the disease but it certainly slowed it. Good luck! Miss my granny
God bless you and her both. ❤
What a privilege to hear you speak in such a caring and knowledgeable way. Thank you, Cathy
You won my heart at "we are dealing with a broken health care system". It's true and they should realize that WE KNOW IT. I've heard a crazy amount of people say they put off going to the doctor or having a procedure because they don't trust doctors and hospitals any longer. So when we hear someone in the system own up to that truth, we are more prone to listen to him.
It’s reasons because of that that I have gone over three years with out having a check up with my PCP. I’ve been SA’d by doctors as a small child twice so its incredibly easy for me to avoid or put off going to even see a PCP check up yearly I’ve gone many years without seeing a doctor and now I have ring worm and I also developed apraxia of speech, I have mobility issues and I now need a full time caregiver to help me do things everything around the house simply because of this high mistrust and disdain for the health care system in this country.
Absolutely.
Alot of us in healthcare are planning on deleting ourselves when the time comes. I am not going through the system i have worked in for over a decade.
True! I do not trust doctors or hospitals any longer - especially when 4 different doctors give you a different explanation for the exact same incident. Which was finally shot down by the 5th doctor, the cardiologist. I could tell that he was exasperated beyond endurance.
Yep… I avoid at all costs…
Dr. Ken Berry and Dr. Chaffee are the real deal on you tube.
I’ve had 49 surgeries since I was 18 (I’m now 51), due to an accident that left me paralyzed. I was hit by a drunk driver when I was 18. I appreciate all the anesthesiologists that I’ve had over the years. I’m glad this channel exists to inform people. Your mental status before surgery is so important. Not sure why this channel came up for me, but I think it’s such a valuable subject. Your mental health is not talked about enough by medical personnel prior to surgery, they are normally just talking about the physical. Thank you for educating people. Good luck to anyone about to have surgery and definitely make sure you are mentally prepared!
God bless you! You have been through more than anyone here!
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Wow, you. are a trooper. May God bless you and help you get the most out of life. Thanks for the advice also. You're a pro.
What an empathetic, emphatic and informed healthcare practitioner. We need more like you out there in the system.
I had an amazing (technically speaking) surgeon but the bedside manner of American Pyscho!!! Thank god for the team everyone else was amazing
@@queueudwhy would you assume ?? So mean
Totally agree. I love this guys auro and gentle domena ❤
@@queueud yeah no i don't think that's how that works, nice try though pal.
@@queueud if you go to the doctors expecting your life to be 100% saved you'd have to be super ignorant tbh
As a PACU nurse, thank you so much for being so attentive and proactive like this. We need more Dr's like you...heck more heathcare providers in general like you. ( I hope I am a positive change for others too.)
As a registered nurse, I genuinely appreciate and applaud your message. We need so much more empathy and compassion in our healthcare system. Bless you and keep fighting the good fight!! ❤️
As a registered Jesus lover , you will not be lonely with Jesus in your heart
Thank you so much for being a nurse. Nurses have helped me greatly throughout my life and got me through some very tough times. You guys are the best!
Thereuputic touch
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@@renalryan NO they are NOT the best you pos, who cares if nurses have "helped you" they did not do it for free, your health insurance PAID FOR THEM TOO HELP U... WAKE UP.
It is a great messga! I love this channel. RN here too. Thank you for your service :D
Since my dad passed away, my mom has quite a few procedures and she always wakes up crying saying she saw my dad. It's really sad to see. I wish there was more empathetic medical staff. You are awesome!
Jesus that's rough 😬
Are you sure she wasn't seeing your dad?
I hope she really was seeing him. Bless her heart. Xxx
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
My dad cried a lot for my mom, and we supported him by being present. It took some months to stop randomly crying.
Hope your mom is doing better now. Sending hugs to everyone. ❤
It can take years to grieve for some ... Specially if they dream of them. Turning those dreams into connection really helps and doing a prayer for them always
I had a general anaesthetic in Australia about two years ago, and my final memory before I slipped in to sleep was of a nurse giving me a hug to let me know that everything would be alright. I woke up two hours later and everything went well, and I felt amazing. A good memory of surgery. Who would have thought it!
Nurses are a rare breed. Hopefully they aren't treated as poorly in AU as they are in the US. The abuse they take from doctors is atrocious. Nurses deserve higher pay than doctors. They do 100x more work and have to do it with a smile. I bet if they did they probably wouldn't be treated the way they are
When did you notice the large drawing on your forehead?
Years ago, after having several sinus infections, my primary doctor sent me to an ENT doctor for an evaluation, suspecting I had a deviated septum. Yes, it was confirmed. The doctor/surgeon began asking me questions of injuries suffered as an infant or young child, as the central part of my face (brows, nose, mouth, chin) didn’t line up. Perhaps I could contact my mother and ask if I’d fallen out of my crib, or down some stairs? Oh, no, I thought. He stumbled upon a long-buried, shameful secret that I hadn’t even shared with my husband. My mother would fly off the handle and randomly smack me around. My days were filled with terror, not knowing what would happen to trigger punishment from either parent. After college, I moved 2,000 miles away, with minimal contact. Now, it came rushing back…..
X-rays showed a long-ago facial skull fracture. He guided my fingers between my eyebrows, close to the inner side of my right orbital socket, along the right side of my nose and cheek, and down to the corner of my mouth. Yes, this also explained the minor ‘droop’ of my face, too. I believe he saw the terror and shame in my eyes, and said not to worry, I’d be breathing clearly in a matter of weeks. I was kept awake during surgery in order to keep my blood pressure up (I joke that my BP is ‘next to dead’), so I was aware of the majority of the ‘activity’, occasionally going in and out of a light sleep. The doctor and nurse were remarkably compassionate during and after the procedure. At one point, I was silently crying, with tears running down my face. The doctor told her that all signs indicated pain blockers and sedation were fine, and that this was an emotionally difficult procedure for me. She placed her hand gently on my shoulder, wiped my tears, and gently spoke reassuring words in my ear. The procedure lasted longer than I expected, and as the operating procedural notes were being finalized, I distinctly remember him telling her, “Remember - this was a routine septoplasty; not a rhinoplasty.” What just happened here?
I looked like I’d been in an car crash. I was bruised from my forehead to below my cheeks. A couple of days later, he removed and replaced my nasal packing and said all was healing as expected; see you in a couple of weeks. Two weeks later, all bandages and packing were removed and I got a good look at myself. Still lots of greenish-purple fading bruising. Then he told me what took place in surgery. As he suspected, I had bone fragments penetrating my nasal cavity from a tangential blow to my face across my right cheek. He removed all the bone fragments, then lifted my brow line and resculpted the bridge of my nose as it met my forehead in order to rebalance my face. He could see that I’d had broken teeth repaired in the past (I paid for this while I put myself through college), so all of his work was done to make me look natural and balanced. He’d done a rhinoplasty, a septoplasty, a mid-line lift, and reshaping/realignment of my bones; however, it was recorded as a rhinoplasty. I told him I was always ashamed of my appearance, that I’d been mocked and called ‘Crooked Face’ by classmates and my own sister, who told me no one would ever love me or want to take care of me. This kind, gentle, generous, old doctor leaned forward in his chair, took my hands in his, looked me in the eyes and told me that I was beautiful to begin with, and that God had given him the skills and opportunity to enhance and restore what should have been mine to begin with. He’d been helped by generous people early in his career, and never missed an opportunity to be able to help others. He knew my insurance would consider this ‘extra’ procedure as cosmetic, and deny it, so he made the decision, along with his nurse, to proceed. Now, since he had done this for me, it was my responsibility to pay it forward to help others. I’ve honored his wishes for the past 30 years. Thank you for reading my story of compassionate caregivers who truly do change people’s lives.
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What a stunning video! Thank you so much for your work! I just went under anesthesia officially for the first time, and I had the best experience. Before I went under, I cracked jokes and had everyone laughing (including the anesthesiologist). When I woke up, I had no pain, and it was one of the best experiences of my life! The anesthesiologist even came by to say, "Your joy was infectious!"
That being said, I have suffered from loneliness, being the only person in my family living in the US with no family, partner, children, relatives, or siblings. This loneliness has caused me to struggle with depression. However, since my diagnosis, I’ve reached out to friends and started affirming, "I am loved, I am loving," which has helped me manifest a reality where friends reach out to me.
The computer age makes this a lonely world because it reduces the need for physical connection. Since we are made in 3D physical form, not having that connection can create feelings of loneliness. Thank you so much for being so sensitive and compassionate. I am deeply moved by your work!
In utter amazement…on how you take into account the patient’s psychological needs into consideration! As a nurse of over 15 yrs I have yet to encounter/witness an anesthesiologist or surgeon rendering this level of holistic humane healthcare approach. May God protect you and place you in situations where you are most needed.
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AMEN 🙏 Well said!
I'm so very impressed with this wonderful young man😇... his level of compassion and empathy is amazing and off the charts !!!
The points he brings up are invalueable.
We're so busy rushing around. Just that moment we take can have an impact on someone in such a profound way. You can never know just what you meant to their day, that small gift of your time, which you don't give a thought to... may affect the world to someone else!
God bless this young man. He really should do a TED Talk !!!
I don't think people realize 🤔 the effects that he touched on... with regard to just the body with loneliness, let alone the effects anesthesia plays.
Silly me... and here I thought I was going to be entertained with the funny statements people say or do while under anesthesia...
Wow, what an insight into his world, and he's giving a wonderful gift 🤲 to us far more valuable than laughter & Yes, Sir... A Subscriber now, too!
@@c.a.5808 most definitely agree! 🙏🏼
🙏 Amen
I had 2 surgeries during the pandemic and my sense of loneliness was so deep that it definitely affected both my going under and my waking up. I still have nightmares about those painful days…25 days in hospital feeling desperately sad and isolated. I was ridiculously weepy and my recovery was much slower than it should’ve been. Thank you, Doctor for talking about this important mental health issue.❤❤
I can't imagine what that was like. I know this sounds awful but I'm glad my mother wasn't around to see the covid shutdown in our state. She died January 2019, unexpectedly. I went to a New Year's Eve celebration to ring in 2020 - to be honest I just wanted to see Usher, but it was a tradeoff. A few of my friends had been sick, one we had to constantly check on, but we had no idea what was coming. I wasn't a news junky yet. A week later I felt horrible but I'm one of those people that gets sicker from a cold, so I just pushed through. I noticed that all the cold medicine was sold out in all the little stores around the French Quarter. Usually it sits there and gathers dust because they overpriced everything. That was odd. Then I tried to get some meds in a Walmart delivery. Also mostly sold out. And then I noticed I had trouble walking up my stairs. But I was having to do one step, one step, pause, one step. Collapsing in my bed having trouble breathing. I had a cpap machine that I'd never used and my sister had left some inhalers with steroids when she visited after our mom died. Something told me to use those 2 things. I think I accidentally did some things that made me get better. I already took supplements because I'd quit smoking a few years before and was trying to heal my lungs.
I hope that you've fully recovered and feeling less sad and isolated. Huge hugs from Australia xx
I hope you are doing better ❤ 🤗😘🙏
I am so sorry to hear this. It is shameful how public health chose to focus on only a single determinant of health (covid!) and ignore all others. People never should have been isolated. It was a respiratory virus that no one was ever going to control. Man needs to stop thinking he is God. Sending you love.
the punishment was worse than covid
I guess I’m a bit lonely, feeling cut off, depressed. But I recently had surgery under anaesthesia, and I have to say, it was such a change to be surrounded by people who were focussed on my wellbeing, concerned about what I needed rather than on the work and caretaker tasks I’m expected to do for others, that ngl it was one of the best experiences I’ve had in a long time. I didn’t even mind the pain and the post-surgery dopiness and the medicated fog-it meant I got to focus on nothing but myself for a week. I was oddly happy…
That feeling of being cared for and not expected to do anything is great. I nearly fell asleep during a knee MRI. Another five minutes and I would have, I think. Had there been armrests on the chair at my recent root canal I might have gotten sleepy there too, but I had to keep my arms controlled on my own.
Yes, same here! I love going to the doctor when they're like this. SOMETIMES it's atrocious, but when its not, its heaven!
I understand exactly what you're saying. When I go to the salon or go to the doctor I feel cared about. I'm alone an awful lot. So when I'm in a social situation for health purposes or physical needs it actually makes me feel cared for and loved. That's a sign of just needing to be around people very badly. And to have your needs cared for and paid attention to.
I’m guessing your a parent that’s kid’s are grownup and maybe like mine. The only time they call or come to see you is when they need or want something from you. Hopefully they are not like mine and call you selfish if you just don’t have what they want.
I completely understand, but it also makes me sad that you had to have surgery to feel this happiness in your life.
I believe many people’s lives are the same.
Wow! Thankyou! Born into medical family 73 years ago,
love your findings. Please keep it
up- part of the solution not the
problem.
You call your patients the night before & your not their surgeon or primary care physician.... you're the anesthesiologist scheduled for their specific procedure.
I can't begin to explain how unusual, and impressive you are, as a human being & certainly as a part of the medical team caring for all the random patients you get sent your way. This level of care, in someone's well-being, is my hope for us all, to both be this compassionate with the people we deal with & receive it as well.
It’s not unusual for an anaesthetist to call their patients. They’re the person keeping you alive.
@@francinejones2524 Interesting, perhaps it's a difference between our healthcare systems...?... As a Canadian with almost a dozen surgeries over the past decades, the anesthesiologist has never spoken to me after our "pre-anesthesia appointment ( which can be with any of the anesthesiologists on staff, not necessarily the one at the surgery).
Me either, not once!!!! Ty for bringing this up!
@@francinejones2524 It is in fact unusual
I’m 72 and have had several major surgeries in recent years. Each time the anesthesiologist came in talked to me at length prior to the surgery while I was being prepped. I had to have my shoulder replaced twice with a nerve block each time. The guys that did the nerve block showed me exactly what they were doing and showed me the ultrasound screen and how they placed the block. Everyone on the team talked to me constantly until I went under. A nurse even held my hand as I went under. I am stating this because I suffer from loneliness, depression and anxiety. I am sure the way I was treated improved my condition while I was out. Going under was the most relaxing and interesting experience I can remember. I actually felt that this what dying must be like. I actually remembering hoping that I didn’t wake up. I feel you can die from loneliness and some people actually die on the table because of these underlying mental illness issues. Great video.
How true, you never get over loneliness.
It's not so much a mental health issue, as it is a symptom of how screwed up society as a whole has become. I was around the medical field my entire life, I lost almost all respect when they started getting rid of the good nurses, and doctors who refused to go along with their plandemic. We still have never held anyone accountable for that gross abuse contrived money grab by big pharma. The entire thing was a lie from the get go, and everyone just forgot about all those people they just killed and blamed on some mystery virus so they could cash in. People were dying in auto accidents and covidiots was blamed. I still can't believe all these pharmacy sorcerers are not in jail for using the general public like test subjects.
Thank you Sir.
My answers was, I am glad I am going under, I need a break.
Can totally relate, had my left shoulder replacement twice. I also, suffer from loneliness. Shoulder surgery is very difficult, I need right one done but I am so afraid
I'm old. Last few surgeries I had no family or friends in attendance. The nurses and techs were awesome. But I am a retired nurse and they would be!
As a general surgeon, this was very eye-opening to me. I never thought about the soft, touch eye contact, but I’ll certainly utilize it in the future. Thank you very much.
Dearest surgeon. I wish my surgeons had the compassion, and willingness to dig into new research as you! God bless you as you bless those you care for!
Changing the world and the healthcare system one surgeon at a time! How heart warming to read your comment. All the best for you and your patients! ❤
It's compassion. Everyone needs it. ❤
What kind of surgeon are you?
Everything this doc is saying makes sense. I'm not a healthcare practitioner, but if I see someone who looks lonely, I'll talk to them, or at least say hello and a smile if I am busy. Could be a neighbor in my little apartment "community" could be someone in the city like at the park. Often. they appear as "society's outcasts" like The Doors sang about in "Strange".
I'm a physically fit, currently out of work layed off 60 year old, never married no kids and still going through a breakup with a girlfriend of 4 years that caused me to question a lot of things, and work on myself. She's gone "no contact" or a clean break, and doesn't even live in this city anymore, and all I want is contact (with her) and her to let me make amends, and maybe even transition to friendship. My therapist says I'm suffering from isolation. But being around a bunch of other people isn't going to help not being close to HER. And no one is gonna be HER. I do have some friends to ride road and mtn bikes with. I used to ride solo a lot - which a lot of us riders do - but it's harder to do that now.
Back on point - if something happened to me now and I needed surgery or emergency surgery, I'm sure I'd have a very bad reaction to anesthesia - probably more powerful form of "morning panic" if anyone knows what I'm talking about - anxiety mixed with claustrophobia, can't get enough light into the space and have to get out. It really sucks.
Im way happier completely isolated with a dog and a cat. The more i interact with humans, the lonlier i feel. Good for you for having a great life 😊
I feel the same way ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I find that my animals are so much easier to live with than my humans 😊
Yep. Hearing you. I have tried so many different groups, but I am far happier, just being alone,,with my animals.
I agree. I was fired for not being myself after my sister died from ALS. My dogs and cat saved me.
I totally agree with you. I have friends/family and great neighbors. I socialize if I want- I just do not want to anymore. I really enjoy my life as it is. I need to a of folks around me all the time.
To all those that work in the medical field primarily to help people and not just for the money....THANK YOU. People can tell when a medical provider actually cares.
YES! Oh I'm so glad you said this. Say it often to them...they need it. I wish there were a way t o boost their mood in hospitals and clinics once we leave and take our gratitude with us.
I'm posting this idea on my Facebook page...We have to spread the thanks right?
@gkarenstratton That's a great idea! The people that were called to heal people need to know we appreciate them.
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I'm glad to see such compassion from an anesthesiologist. Very refreshing and comforting to know such people are there when you have to go "under" not knowing when or if you'll even wake up.
I had 10 endoscopies, a sigmoidoscopy, and a colonoscopy last year. I was their "repeat patient". I had ample time to chat with the anesthesiologist, ask her when the medicine was pushed in, feel the wave overtake me... then out. One time, I counted to make and made it to sevennnnn and knew that "eight" would be next but couldn't even think it. The next time, I tried it in German; I didn't make it past eins, because I realized later that speaking a foreign non-native language uses a different part of your brain. Another time, I heard someone offer "cran-apple" juice when they were done, and that's what I wanted (but hasn't ever been offered), so I wrote it on my atm in ink in the bed and showed the nurses my "order" for when I woke up. They realized I was easy-going, and that made them pleasant.
This message coming from such a medical doctor is a great uplifting hope giving message. True if we were all more educated in regards to how the spirit, mind and body
Work together, we wouldn't have that many emergency situations physically or mentally to have to be going "under" for a treatment.
Wow you’re an amazing health care worker thank you so much! Your professionalism, bed side manor and understanding towards this swept under the rug subject. God Bless you and yours ❤
I have severe depression. I had general anesthesia a couple years ago for an outpatient surgery and it spiraled me into a horrible depressive episode, which ended up turning into a pretty bad relapse and I ended up in residential treatment. I have been struggling with loneliness for most of my life. It doesn't matter whether or not I have friends or a support system. I feel like I'm isolated in this entire universe.
Sounds like that weird movie "anomalisa"
I deeply understand glad to hear that am not the only one that feels that way. Am not alone don't feel like am WERID if that makes since 😩
I'm sorry to hear that. I Love you and hope your doing well.
I never thought about it but after my breast augmentation I got extremely depressed and over stressesd and relapsed. BAD. about 3 months after.
You are not alone in feeling that way.
To someone like me who is scared of anesthesia, to have someone like you in charge makes me feel so much safer. The time i was under anethesia i was so so scared having an anxiety attack and all, until the anesthesiologist came in and i told him "if im in pain, will you help me?" And he was so kind! He showed me all the machines and said how he would use them to know what i was feeling and said i was going to be ok. I said "will you take care of me?" And he said "yes ill make sure you are ok". The relief i felt was such that i only remember saying thank you and then i was asleep with anesthesia. To this day i think he made a huge huge difference and will always thank him. So people like you, are real angels to people like me. Just knowing that you care is just priceless. ❤
CAT….WTF??? Scared of aenesthesia???? DON’ T HAVE ANY!!!
@@drjojo5551 well how can she have surgery then?!? Duh!
I woke up on the operating table during one surgery and I remember seeing my doctor's face masks and the cap on his head. there was loud music playing and everybody was talking and joking and I was moaning because I hurt. The next thing I heard was Dr Fisher saying to the anesthesiologist hey put her back under. and I don't remember if it was the next day or or later in my room I could hear the nurses telling me come on now you've got to wake up come on now and they were kind of shaking me and trying to wake me and my family came in and they were trying to talk me into waking up. Apparently when you don't wake up you probably won't wake up & that's what they were worried about.
I didn't want to wake up I can remember saying uh-uh
With me trying to go back to sleep
Wow had no idea that depression/loneliness can have dire consequences when under anesthesia as well. As a NP...I sometimes find myself spending more than my alloted time speaking to patients who are lonely and they are so appreciative of this (though i sometimes gets me a little behind) :/ but when that pt give a heartfelt ty for listening it's worth it. I also refer/encourage them to join support groups via our SW or other pt advocate groups. Yes, loneliness can have an unpleasant impact on patients' health. God bless everyone who stop to really listen and say hi❤
You are one of a dying breed in medicine, Doctor. Caring, thoughtful with a kind bedside manner. As an elderly previous patient, let me thank you for being the person you are it means more than you will ever really know to your patients. Please, don't ever change. The medical world needs you in it desperately. ❤
So so grateful ❤❤❤
For sure
I love how compassionate you are towards the whole patient, not just the task you have in front of you. That's not as common an attitude as it should be.
This. Absolutely this. I ended up seeing two different doctors about the same issue, due to needing urgent care on a weekend when our family doctor wasn't working. First doctor, without knowing more of my background than what I had told him of my health concerns over the last few years, and the symptoms I was currently experiencing, told me he thought my issue is more than likely psychosomatic, followed quickly by "doesn't mean you're crazy." explained a few things to me and put me on a low dose antidepressant. Had a follow up with our family doctor a few days later, knows a little more of my history, obviously, and I talked to him about what the first doctor said and recommended. "Oh no, I don't think it's 'psychosomatic' at all, you have cyclical nausea and vomiting." and left it at that. More recently I ran into that first Dr again, for another urgent care situation (appendicitis this time) and well, I'm currently considering switching our family Dr, if he'll have us lol.
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Well said 👏
I would love to hear you talk about something that’s been bothering me a while now because I NEVER hear any medical professionals talk about it. So my sister went in for a surgery for a leg injury (general anesthesia) and when she awoke she said she could feel something was “wrong” up to a few weeks afterward her brain seemed to be not working properly and she felt “weird” (her words). Next she started having actual hallucinations and signs of psychosis. Her doctor said it’s rare, but anesthesia can cause/trigger psychosis and even schizophrenia. We were shocked! She was so mentally unwell at that point she didn’t even realize how sick she really was and spent years in and out of mental hospitals until they found the correct dose for her now considered “schizophrenia” (even tho she was normal before surgery). How does this happen, although rare, I think we should understand this better and make patients aware that this can and does happen. My sis will have to be treated for schizophrenia the rest of her life, all because she went in for knee surgery?? I mean… 🤯 that’s terrifying. I’ve yet to hear a professional like yourself break down the logistics of how (or why) this happens .
I’m not confident you will either, but I just had to at least ask.
She most likely already had schizophrenia and chances are symptoms would've onset at some point, surgery or not. The meds just sped it along. Most people don't know they're schizophrenic until their 20s when something call a schizophrenic break occurs and all the symptoms come flooding in.
@@robbobthecorncobjriii8195 Ummm no she absolutely did NOT lol not even close. She was totally lucid and normal and functioning and showed absolutely zero signs of any paranoia or delusions. Did you not read my comment? Even her doctor said anesthesia can on rare occasions trigger schizophrenia. It was absolutely due to the anesthesia that much is confirmed.
I have not felt the same AND have double vision since my surgery 2 yr ago
@@whitneyangelie3682 did you read my comment??? Or do any research on your own? It is VERY COMMON for people who have it to not show symptoms until some sort of traumatic event. Don't get upset with me because you can't understand basic stuff about how the disorder works. My ex of 3 years had it so I think I know, at least a little bit, what I'm talking about
@@robbobthecorncobjriii8195 Your ex had it so you must be an expert 😂 ok dude. I’m telling you what her doctors have said and knowing the circumstances surrounding everything and I think I’ll take their word over your own, thanx.
Thank you so much for making this video. I cried, and I learned a lot. I'm now going to look for more videos like this, first on your channel. It's incredibly sad how many voices in our society can be so cold, callous, and uncaring - I often hear politicians, news media types, sometimes even healthcare professionals ruthlessly propagate a demand for stoicism, or even to pretend like this problem does not exist. thank you for treating this issue with dignity.
Just acknowledging the person is so good. I worked in a nursing home 30 years ago, and people are lonely and scared. They are dismissed so much. So just speaking to them can make all the difference. Thank you Dr. Kaveh.
He said it won’t really change anything !
Declining also.
Visit we were there to listen. My sister and I even got asked if we want to get married he was looking for a wife as his died.🙂 I am now 72. I don't mind being by myself. At this time anyway.🙂 My. Kids and Grands keep me from getting lonely. I am lucky .
Or just to talk and
When we had to put my mother in the care home. My two sisters and I made sure that at least one or other went to spend time with her everyday. Our dad had passed away a few months before. She was suffering from dementia from strokes. And physically declining. So many others did not have visitors very often 😥. We ended up adopting a few of them !!👍🙂 If they needed help with anything
My wife of 30 years died after 4 knee replacements on the same knee and 11 years of dealing with meat-factory surgeons who saw her as another payday and prescribed opioids like candy. I wish she had a caring doctor like you seem to be. I live with sadness over losing Carol every day.
So sorry for the loss of your wife.
I am so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you stranger ❤
Knee surgery should not cause death
I’m so sorry Steven. May God comfort you and bring you peace
I'm so sorry Steven!! I'm sad for Carol too. Praying for you right now, in Yeshua's name!!
To all the lonely people...we aren't really alone...we connect with each other...in places like this....💛💛💛💛💛
Yes @stephaniehowell1109
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I love you thanks
Yeah right. You gonna come take care of me after surgery?
So kind.❤🎉
Really? We connect here? 🙄
I woke up 3 times during a knee replacement even though I told the anesthesiologist I required more meds than most. I was in incredible pain in the recovery room - thank God for caring nurses!!!
You are a rare gem. I’ve worked with physicians for lots of years. I’m in my 70s now and you are the first physician who I’ve heard speak about a patients emotional health. You take a genuine interest in your patients. Wow. Just wow. God bless you.
I'm an RN and I have definitely seen this while recovering patients in PACU. I especially remember a woman who woke up crying because her son had recently been killed in a car accident. It was very very sad and I could tell the anesthesia compounded her feelings.
At 15 I went under to have my wisdom teeth removed..when I was coming to..I heard crying ? then I realized it was a woman behind the curtain sharing the room who was also waking from surgery.
Losing a loved one, especially your child, must be an unbearable pain.
I lost my sister in 2019 due to a heart attack. We had no idea she was having heart issues.
As their caretaker, I do my best to cheer them up and remember fun times we had and will have in the future.
I haven’t fully grieved due to being a pillar for them. We have good days and bad days.
Thank you for sharing this insight as to what you’re witnessing.
There’s been many studies that social media users are more depressed and obsessed with their social media “likes”.
It’s truly sad due to the fact that exaggeration/bloviation run rampant on all of those platforms. It’s not authentic.
People are not having genuine conversations or contact with others which explains the loneliness.
@@AimeeAimee444 - Thanks for sharing about that. I'm so sorry you lost your sister. Unfortunately, I know what that's like. Well, when it comes to heart health, it's good for women, especially those who aren't in the medical field, to read about women's heart health. I bought a book that came out around 2015 called 'Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum's Heart Book: Every Woman's Guide to a Hearth Healthy Life.' It had some good insights.
In general, I really agree about what you said about social media. It also increases suicides among young people. I saw a video from morning tv (Good Morning America? or The Today Show?). The guest was the actress Jennifer Garner, & there were 2 hostesses {Hoda Kotb (spelling?) & I think Susannah Guthrie}. Anyways, the hostesses said something like this to Ms. Garner: We heard that you don't let your teens go on social media & we're wondering how you manage that. Ms. Garner's answer was simple: She tells her kids that when they can show her science-based evidence that says it's healthy for kids or teens to be on social media, if that evidence is as good or as compelling as the evidence that says it's *not* healthy for them, then she'll let them go on social media.
@@AJ-yw7hf Thank you for your kind words about my sister. I miss her everyday. 💔
She was only 52 and in good health as far as we could see.
Yes, women do have different symptoms than men when it comes to heart issues and especially for a heart attack.
Social media turned me off immediately! I suddenly felt as if I was in high school and everyone was regressing back to that dynamic.
To me, it’s all a fantasy world. People start exaggerating or their life is luxurious.
Thank you again for chatting with me. It’s nice to meet new people who are authentic such as yourself!
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@@AJ-yw7hf Oh wow, I didn't know that about Jennifer Garner--smart Mom! I'm going to pass that on to my son and his wife. They have three in elementary (one going into middle school this fall) and they're struggling due to her ex allowing the kids to go on the Internet when he has them. I'll try to find video of that to e-mail to them--maybe it will help them take heart that even famous people agree with them! Thanks again!
Wow... If every doctor cared the way you care, so many more people would pay attention to their health. You seem to be a very kind, and exceptionally understanding person.
From someone who is very isolated I am so grateful for wonderful beautiful souls like you. You are the hope and the solution for all that is wrong with this world!
I spent a month in a coma on propofol and fentanyl. I woke up believing I had been in a war. By the end I was comfortable until I woke up to reality.
Before another surgery the surgeon noticed I had tears streaming down. I told him I had already spent 2 months in another hospital. They asked and said a prayer for me. It meant so much to me.
i hope your surgeries went well and that you’re doing well today
I've recovered except for some digestive issues and pain. I'm still adjusting to life without pain meds, but I'm not even 40 yet. They were making me feel ok with doing nothing.
Thanks for the kind words. I wish you the best also!
Edit: I forgot to mention that I noticed Jungian and Marcus Aurelius aspects in this doctor's words. I may be wrong, but they hit home regardless.
@@ellanola6284 thank you. I've been trying different things because I'm also borderline diabetic. My Dr told me that after a couple months I should start feeling better from getting off opioids.
Sending you lots of love and positive vibes. I hope you're doing better. ❤
@@John-oo9buwow, that's a long time on strong pain meds like that. Can you tell me what is helping with that? Wishing you many blessings!
For me personally as a 30 year old, I spent my entire 20s going through extremely prolonged "Emotional Burnout", having to be a caretaker for someone with Alzheimer / Dementia, and another with Suicidal tendencies / Bipolar / BPD in the same home. I've had to face stressors that most 20 year olds never have to think about. This Burnout caused lasting withdrawal and numbness / desensitization. I've stop texting friends or using social media for years now, lost interest in most things, and have been in a low energy state due to the prolonged stress. Depression and Burnout are similar, but Burnout is both physical / physiological and emotional / mental, depression is more emotional / mental. Since the stressor is people and my environment, I'm prone to isolating as a coping strategy, often by staying up late and removing the stressor - aka people. Actually I feel much less lonely being isolated, than around miserable people or those who don't understand me.
This hit me hard. My son is 18 and just stepped up to be my full time caregiver. I have early onset Lewy body dementia.
Very few people can fully identify with all you’ve been through in your short life (yeah, I know it feels longer). Please know that these things don’t always last forever, they just feel now like they do. You have our thoughts and prayers going forward and know that you have put yourself in our hearts.
My heart goes out to you as a fellow carer❤
i'm in my 20s, i turn 28 this year. i have my own medical conditions that seem to be getting worse but before this new diagnosis i would help my mom with taking care of my grandmother who has no movement of her body and dementia, which was a lot of heavy lifting and very long hours, plus my dad is getting older - he's in his 70s - and i help care for him too. i have no friends and the people that are around me are very miserable and make me feel like i'm alone anyways so i love being up late on my own, i love being a night owl and i hate to sleep because being up late at night is when i feel the best. i can relate to you and i hope you hang in there.
You sacrificed a lot for the people you care about ): I hope you’re able to prioritize yourself more often these days, and what you enjoy
As a former healthcare worker, we could always tell who would heal well and who would not, based on their mental status. It was amazing and this helps explain what happened.
Assuming you know their medical history first, right?
@@hakz795 I would hope 😩
That’s really cool info! I wish i could read a huge gathering of the awareness your above mentioned career has created a sideline expert of human behavior. I find it fascinating your stories as well as an important tool we need to incorporate into the foundations by great works of generations, stressing the importance of psychology ., and somehow being implementing at the grade school level, leveraging terrible parenting and patterning, through awareness to the child in such states. My Random 2 pennies, thrown into the wishing well
@HAKZ It's always helpful to know the patient's history.
@@boko775
My question was rhetorical. Knowing the patient's medical history is not just helpful. It's mandatory
I have a huge amount of respect for what you do. Here I am working the last 35+ years in long-term healthcare and I did not know this. This needs to be taught to everyone and anyone who has the responsibility of caring for others.
I've always felt lonely and depressed through my entire life. I've been under anesthesia four times, and every time I wake up screaming and crying. I always thought that I was allergic somehow, but hearing this makes sense. To suffer from depression is not an easy thing to live with and it never goes away 😥 I wish there were more Healthcare professionals like you at that moment before a surgery.
When has a patient ever had a talk with their anesthesiologist before surgery?
@@judyseals1497I have....
@@motivate4change1aww.. that's so nice from you❤
@@judyseals1497I have. Every time.
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This is probably the most depressing video I've ever seen, and hits way too close to home. I'm 50, but have been dealing with illnesses for ten years, and had a problem with my family not believing me. I'm so incredibly lonely. I know that I have several procedures and surgeries coming up, and tbh, the overall isolation and lonliness that I feel in my life feels crushing.
I’m so sorry you are suffering, know you are absolutely not alone in the pain you feel. It is completely understood and deeply validated by this one person at least. I’m a few years younger than you but going through hell. I wish somehow we could all get together and support each other, lol. Sending you warmest, kindest thoughts and prayers.
I am facing a fourth surgery for the same inguinal hernia (right groin between your thigh and abdomen. When the pain came back I went back to be told it was all in my head. For 8 months I could not walk because of the pain. He finally did surgery again and of course the hernia was back. It came back again. He forgot to look for the femoral one. Got a different surgeon hoping for a different outcome. Nope. This time I have a “flu” in that part of my abdomen exactly where he did the surgery. My life has become so small since I can’t walk again. Neither of them could admit the possibility I was correct. I’ve suffered. They made money.
Camille, it appears making money is the objective. I am so sorry for what you are going through and I pray you will soon find the right doctor and get proper care,
I'm know you don't know me but if you reach out to people they will reach back. Don't be lonely. There are lots of us out here alone but friends can be found anywhere. Please take care of yourself!! ❤
Sending you a big timeless hug and some loving. ❤
I'm often lonely and I must admit to enjoying the socialization and attention from the nurses! Really lifted my spirits and helped my healing
Doc, you’re a great guy, thanks for this. I’ve had knee surgery, a shoulder repair, and a total knee replacement in the last several years. My ortho knows me so well that he gives a nod to the anesthesiologist and I swear they take me out as soon as my surgeon comes in and asks if I’m ready. They don’t even bother to ask me to count down or anything - he knows I’m nervous as hell and just puts me out fast, which I ALWAYS appreciate.
Your compassion as an allopathic doctor is boundless, needed, and much appreciated. Thank you soooo much. We need more of this.
I've been lonely for years… It's interesting to hear someone talk about it in clinical terms…
Me too, Im gay didnt realize what was going on with med until i was 25. At 68 I dread getting older
@@mikemiller659praying God surprise you with more joy then you can think of in your later years. 🙏🏾🤍
Doc truly cares about his patients- need more angels like him.
This was an eye opener. Definitely have the lonliness factor going on even with others around!😢
God bless Jill and all the others
here who are lonely, scared, sad ❤🙏🏻
Loneliness is hard to overcome
Yes, it is. I wish that I knew a magic formula. ❤❤❤💯
Talk to someone in the produce section at the grocery store about the quality or ripeness of a product. It will take time but it's worth it. I did it a few times and it doesn't matter if they answer. It gets in your subconscious and then eventually you will have the courage to say something once in awhile. You'll feel 🆓 🆒 🆗⁉️ You will find a way to meet a person that you have similar interests with. ✌️💪
@@abusednomoresilence Jesus Christ
@@TeiniMg4iR213FsHS I agree. He is the only reason I have not given up.
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