Losing a parent | Lessons from Grief and Loss | Losing a Father
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- Losing a parent can be one of the most difficult things you experience. I hope these lessons help you if you're experiencing loss or make your relationship with your parent deeper if they're still around.
Lessons:
- Learn your parent's story. Find out about their life before you and see them as a person thats gone through their own trials and tribulations.
300 Questions to ask your parents before its too late: www.amazon.com/dp/0882909789/...
The book of me: www.amazon.com/dp/1441322310/...
- Create memories with your parent and take pictures and videos of those memories
- Rituals can help
Try InTune - you can create your own ritual and pick the music that reminds you of your loved one: / tryintune
www.goodtherapy.org/blog/crea...
- You can still have a relationship with your parent even after they've passed away
- There's a before & after with loss. Life looks different afterwards and it takes time to accept that and find a new rhythm to your life.
- We need to discuss death and the process of dying more often. It's better to discuss these things before a crisis moment.
- Get support. Experiencing loss is one of the best times to seek out help from a therapist. (www.betterhelp.com & www.psychologytoday.com/us/th...)
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Is there another video that you would find helpful?
My dad died 14 hours ago. I have a phobia of moths, and other big flying insects. My dad really loved insects. So i decided to think it is my dad watching me when there is a moth or a wasp around me. This video really helped me thanks.
keep doing videos you are doing great job
I lost my father a few days ago. His loss has made me realize how important he was in my life. His loss has created a hole in my life. I wish he was still here. I miss hearing his voice and seeing his face.
My 25 year old son just lost his dad last Thursday or Friday and this is very helpful. I wish I could take the heartache away for him but this is sound wisdom from someone who knows what this tremendous loss feels like.
I lost my dad a year and half ago to drug overdose it was the hardest thing i ever had to go thru in my life time helps but the Pain will never go away, hope you can find some comfort and peace trust me it will get better
Oh my god I’m looking at when your comment was posted we lost our dad around the same time
May God comfort you
I lost my dad about four months ago from covid
I didn’t realize how much my Dad accomplished in his life coming from very little. He was a lot better man than I will ever be.
🙏
Same, i just lost my dad and feel the same
I feel the same way about my dad
This is something i also feel. I feel like my dad was stronger than I could ever be. The impotent thing is, we're all different. I find strength in my own ways.
yes.
I lost my mother when I was 17, i am 25 years old now and still miss her so much, I need her because I'm growing up and I have no guidance, and haven't for awhile. I still have dreams about her all the time and when I wake up Its like a slap of reality. Very crazy how life is. My condolences to everyone who has lost a parent. I know your pain!
I’m so sorry about your mom. I’m glad that she still comes to you in your dreams, I believe that is one of the ways that our loved ones continue to communicate with us.
I sometimes pray to see my dad in my dreams when i miss him and when i havent seen him in a while in my dreams, and guess what, i do!
cherish those dreams, my dad recently passed away and I yearn to dream him...losing a parent is one of the hardest challenges we will face and simply does not compare to other life's disappointments we will face. Even as an adult, the inner child in me is not ready to be minus one...its almost as though having my parents alive was what gave me courage to face the world and now that my father is physically gone, the world is a scarier place without him..😓
I just buried my mom today
@@rotimihart4132 So very sorry for your loss, she will be with you & watching you always
I lost my dad early this morning. Just nice to hear other people going through the same. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever been through.
im sorry! i recently lost my aunt (a week ago) too.. and i miss her. Feel free to share any feelings you have and hope you are surrounded by loved ones and support!
Just lost my dad yesterday, I’ve cried at least once every hour for the past 24 hours it is so hard.
@@raulmartinez7017 I wish you strenght
I just lost my dad yesterday. I regret not doing and saying so much more. I know he’s watching over me and will be proud. I’ll try my best to do everything in his honor
Im 22 y/o and It’s very hard coping and getting use to not hearing his voice or seeing him all the time around the house. I hurt and feel sick to my stomach all the time.
I lost my Pops almost a month ago. My life and outlook have changed immensely. He was sick but we thought he'd get better. He died an hour after I left the hospital to go home and come back to see him. I regret ever leaving his side. He was my biggest fan and confidant. I miss his phone calls.
Soo sorry for your loss. Thats exactly what happened to me and my family. My dad was in hospital, doing what we thought was 'OK' but in a bad state. We left the hospital to come back the following day, only for me to receive a call 6 hours later to say that he crossed over. This regret will haunt me. Blessings to you bro
Likewise buddy. I wish the same thing but we have to know that our dads are in a great place and watching over us. They willl always love us and be our guardian
I’m sorry you had to go through this. I have similar regrets with my mum. She was always sick and I feel like I never was there enough for her. Till she got diagnosed with cancer it tore my world apart id be seeing her almost everyday but I couldn’t stay the nights with her because I was grieving so much already knowing I was going to lose her. I froze and would always go back home and cry myself to sleep.
I regret going away for two nights in new yrs but she let me go and said she will be here when I’m back. I got home Jan 3. On Jan 4 we had our last conversation and cry and she asked me for pancakes the next day. I brought them and by that time it was too late she was on her way out.
On Jan 5 she passed 😭😭😭😭😭
@@fastfoxxx88 Thank you for sharing. I am also sorry for your loss. I could only imagine how difficult it was for you losing your mum. I was in Japan when I got the news of my father's grave condition. After a long flight with a day layover, I went from the airport, straight to the hospital. My sister and I spent a good two hours talking and interacting with him. He died on the evening of my arrival. It's been 4 months since he passed and I'm still enduring the grieving process. I feel your loss and pain. Do stay encouraged.
@@arrynbeacon8077 I hear you friend. Someone told me that sometimes when
our loved ones are ready to go, they rather us not be around. They'll see us first, as to say good bye, then cross over when we're gone.
I lost my father around 3 weeks ago. I’m shattered. There’s so much emptiness and brokenness around me. I wish parents would never leave. There’s a hole in my heart. People who have both their parents alive and healthy don’t realise how lucky they are until they lose one of them. I love him
So sorry for your loss, I lost my mom when I was a child and my dad has cancer now and we do not know when the Lord will take him. I know that losing a son is not the same as losing a father, but please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
I lost my dad yesterday to cancer. I can’t stop crying, it’s the biggest tragedy of my life. I now see how we could have had a better relationship. To everyone else who’s going through the same - I feel you ❤
I just lost my father last night. Though I was primarily raised by my mother after their divorce, he was a really great man. And now I have to go on without him in my world. He, too, passed from cancer. I have a lot of great memories with him that are close to my heart. I know he is not suffering anymore. I've only just begun the process of dealing with this 💔
I never knew I could cry that much. The morning special moments of conversation. I really miss him.
How are you doing now, a year later? I am so sorry and I'm praying for you. I'm about to lose my mom. I am grieving already.
I buried my father three days ago. Now, I am in his house living alone in a silent house.
I lost my father yesterday the pain is unbearable
i lost my father five days ago, im in absolute disbelief and never expected this to happen, im only 20 and so hes not going to be here to see me grow into a woman and it hurts . i just cant believe it and this is the worst thing ever . i feel like im waiting for this to be a joke and for him to answer the phone .
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Same here I lost my Father 1 week ago I know how you feel
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this is exactly how i felt when i lost my dad a year ago when i was 16 n i thought he would one day walk into the door n tell us he was fakin it for like 9 months or so, i know u cant move on. u just learn to live with it and move forward but i dont want to move forward without him, maybe im scared idfk
also im sorry for ur loss
My Mother died 27 years ago, and my Father died 21 years ago. What I can say to all of those who have suffered a recent loss of a parent is this: You will get your life back together again. I am not saying that you will get over it, because I honestly don't believe that we ever fully recover from losing those that we love......but, at some point you will start smiling again and your life will regain some of its normality. My prayers to all of you who are going through this right now.
Don't know if I'll ever become normal again. Life is too fast now and there is little time we get to heal.. How old are you
2 weeks in, its killing me. Miss him so much
I lost my dad just under two weeks ago and it hurts a ton. The realization that I'm never going to hug him again, hear his voice or laugh at another one of his silly jokes is a difficult pill to swallow. Luckily I do have a strong support system and videos like these where I can share my grief with people going through a similar situation helps a lot. Thank you so much.
I know that losing a son is not the same as losing a father, but please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
I just lost my dad, my heart is broken he couldn't see me graduating or even go to my marriage, I was a part of his life for just 18 years and I remember all his lessons all the fight he did, I miss him so much...
More strength to you ..This too shall pass.. I lost my dad as well due to covid this may ..I know the pain you are going through ..
It shocked me how little interest and care people have when it happens especially so called friends and associates.It makes you realise how much you can rely on yourself and how much others will need you when it happens to them.
I also couldn’t believe it, luckily I am a strong individual. My mother’s death showed me true colors of many people.
I lost both parents by 24. I’m now 45. Found a card from my Mom this morning and cried like a baby. I would give anything to hug her again. Miss her so much. She was 52.
I lost my father just last week. Made me realise how much i needed him in my life and how much he meant to the whole family. I miss him alot and would do anything to have a little more time with him.
I just lost my father yesterday - he had a horrific accident at work. I had to make the hardest decision of my life by ending his life support. His brain was never going to recuperate. My father has never been around in my life and that made it harder. He has had a hard life. I don't believe that my Dad can hear me when I talk to him, but I do believe in a second life and I will see him again.
I think having this experience is going to make me stronger. If you can get through this....you can get through anything. Continue living your life and know it's okay to be happy.
I just lost my dad a month ago, and it is absolutely crushing, how bad I miss him. I feel guilty for every minute I could have spent with him but didn't, even though I did spend a lot of time with him. All the times I could have just drove to his house and sat and talked with him but did some meaningless activity instead. What a waste of precious time. I think about it all the time...Especially EVERY time I go to visit his place of rest at the cemetery..... We take so much for granted in life..... My Father was a Combat Veteran and a Retired Fire Fighter. He was an AMAZING Man, A FANTASTIC Father, and an UNBELIEVABLE Grandpa to my son. The hole he leaves is infinite. It can never be filled. I will miss him until the day I die.
If you are reading this and either of your parents are still around... Please do not take a single day, hour, minute for granted. Tomorrow is guaranteed to NOBODY.
I lost my father 5 weeks ago. I miss him so badly and I miss hearing his voice from phone calls. I'm constantly living in mental pain and I'm trying to get through. The grief I'm feeling is too much and there are times that I don't feel like living anymore.
I’m so sorry about your Dad. My son is going through this right now with it being a week ago. He is 25 and is feeling so sad. He woke up yesterday thinking he had to hurry up and charge his phone so he could call his dad, and then he remembered. I hope you’re doing better as I’m very sorry.
How are you now?
Lost my dad to a misdiagnosed. Almost 10 years ago. And now i just lost my mom yesterday to covid. Both where young. The shit hurts. To feel like both my parents was taken from. Thats why am here trying to find some hope.
I just lost my dad on the 29th of april... I was supposed to be off from work that day but a job popped up, I left that morning for work and got a call that my dad had passed away. He was diabetic and his blood sugar was too low causing him to go into shock, he already had heart issues in the past but the shock caused a heart attack and thats how he passed. I just wish i never left for work that morning so i couldve checked up on him and possibly save him from the low blood sugar. By the time i got home he was already gone. I never even got to say goodbye to him. Its destroying me from the inside that i couldnt save him that day. My dad grew up in poverty and immigrated during the vietnamese war. He didnt have luxury or an easy going life. I recently started my own company so ive been making some decent money. I wanted to buy him gifts and go on vacation with him, give him a better life you know. I was hoping he wouldve lived for another year or 2 but it ended so abrupty. However i promised to him inside my head (somehow i know he can hear me) that everything i do in this life, all my accomplishments up to this point and onwards ill do in his name. Ill let him live through my eyes. Ill experience the things that he wasnt able to experience or have. Thats how i chose to cope with his loss. I can't relate losing both parents it must be horrible for you but you have to stay strong for them and keep going even if your soul is hurting. Im just a random person on the internet but know that my thoughts go out to you and everyone else who has/is going through this. Stay strong!!! Much love.
You' ll b fine! Stay strong and have faith in yourself.
I’m very sorry for your loss. I lost my father 6 years ago and I lost my mom to cancer in August 2021. Every time I try to cope with the fact I’ll never see her again, I break down…. I struggle everyday with just trying to continue life without her.
@@kaykaypee1924 I lost my mom on the last day of November 2021 and buried here today
My father died when i was only 3 years, now my mother died and i am 35 , she was the only one with me.
I didn’t even see her for last 2 years. I couldn’t go during the rituals as well. My mom and me very unlucky.
I have no reason to be alive without her.
Lost my father this last months--- I'm 35 and my dad was healthy, happy, hearty, and loved life & dropped dead of a heart attack at 69, leaving my mom on her own after 45 years of marriage, and not getting to see his 3 new grandkids grow up who made him so happy. So far, by 2 minutes, this video has just made me sad. What if it's too late to go and do these things with your parent because you lost them? It feels like I'm being coached how to prepare for my mom's death, and how to be make that hurt less than this did or something. I don't know, I'll keep listening---- I can't believe I've gone to UA-cam help videos for help. After a couple of weeks, people think you are ok because you smile, laugh, and tell an occasional joke.... I wish ppl would genuinely ask how you are coping with loss and listen. I still cry at night when I see pictures of my father and his grand kids, or him & my mom, or with my brother and I. It just really sucks...... I know you are all grieving too, unless you are like the guy from FIght Club who hangs around grieving people to feel less numb. Bless you all and I hope your pain fades in time. Sorry for all of your losses.
My wife thinks I'm the emotional rock of the marriage, and has sadly provided little comfort during this tragic event. I love her, but she's lacking in that emotional department and it's too heavy for her and she doesn't know what to do or say.... if she lost her dad I'd support her with every ounce of my being. She hasn't the slighest clue how many tears I continue to shed; my dad was a great guy..... he had every reason to live, and loved life. He was cheated, and so were we.
I am sorry for your loss.
I feel the exact same bro ...God be with you your loved ones 🙏🏽
@@tyronepeters2446 Thanks Tyrone -- did you lose a family member recently?
@@jmilber my father 4months ago , strongest and greatest dad I could ever ask for , my gran 5 months ago...feel like this pain is never going to leave me...I just want to be with my Dad 🙏🏽 God give me strength
I understand how you feel. I also lost my father unexpectedly and suddenly. He was active and living a healthy lifestyle recently. He died of heart attack Jan 2021. Everything went so fast. It broke our hearts. My mom is always crying. We always cry. We are still in disbelief until now. I cry watching his videos and pictures. These past few weeks feels like a bad dream that I wanna wake up from. It hurts so much.
Lost my father to septic shock on 26/4. Initially was numb and couldn't feel anything, but now his absence hurts so much. His mere presence in the house gave me so much strength and made me feel secure. Now it feels like a secure shield has been lifted off me. I'm just living for my mom now, otherwise I don't have any purpose left now. Nothing in the world can be compared with this loss, the grief is just too much.
Lost my dad, the greatest man I have ever known, two days ago. Sending prayers to everyone in the comments
I’m sorry. I lost my dad 3 weeks ago. The loss for our family is unbearable. I will pray for you. I’m not sure how things go on with this gaping hole in our family. ❤
I lost my dad last February 09. He was a covid patient and chose to be free from medication . He wanted to go home...but found his original home above...I love you papa Claro
My father passed away from Covid-19 second wave too and when we went to the hospital he told me "let's go home i'm okay" even though his oxygen levels were dropping and i told him 🙏 we have come to the hospital to get well soon n better so please let's go home after you get well and better 🙏 and he listened to me and we took him inside the hosptial after he had a drink of water and after 6 n half days inside the ICU ventilator and in the hospital he passed away, the doctors tried to save him with all the medications and treatment not successful but gave me a last chance to see him inside the ICU by making me wear a PPE, i miss my father so much and love my father too ♥. May ur father's, my father's and all the other people's loved ones souls who have passed away may Rest In Eternal Peace 🙏💐🕯
@@monibstar Same here my friend. My father got infected. I had to watch him tough it out for 5 days. Until he gave in and decided to go to the hospital. He just shook my hand and said Ill be back later, im going to get checked and out, keep sleeping. I remember I even told him not to go, told him I haven’t heard you cough you are getting better. But it wasn’t, he couldn’t cough because his lungs were far gone. His oxygen level was at 20, i think they ventilated someone at 80. He was on it for 23 days, with a dialysis machine working his kidneys as well. Im sorry for your loss my friend, im just 23 years old. I lost my father, and he never saw me start my career, never saw me get married to a good girl. It’s tough, but we push forward, always. God bless and stay strong.
@@HectorHernandez-tc3qi im so sorry for ur loss too bro 😢 loosing a father is terrible, the feeling of emptiness is just always there 😢.. Ur father is tough too 👍 and omG the doctors told my father needed dialyais too and they did dialysis for 4 days and the 4th time was his last time... Fathers are awesome they risk their health to save ours 🙏 a salute to our fathers ❤ and yes it would have been sweet if ur father could have seen u start a career and get married 🙏 in my case well im 34 and my father got to see me work in an office but my marriage thing we were still searching for a nice girl 🙏 Now i know its easy to say but difficult to do cuz we will always miss and remember our fathers.. We will have to do good in our work and get married and do all those things to make our late fathers proud and happy wherever they are ... But still i know we wont feel like doing anything.. Cuz its been 1 month and i just find my self staring out the window imagining hologram of my father in the walkway and the garden.. 😢💐🕯 but still pray our fathers souls are in a nice and good place, in the land of the God's.. 🙏
I loss my father due to COVID on 29 Apr.
@@danielohannon2038 sorry for your loss bro 😢 i know its tough but try to stay strong.. 🙏 may ur fathers soul rest in peace in God's place too 💐 🕯
this is amazing. I lost my father a month ago and we just had his service yesterday. I talk to him everyday and it really does help
I am sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss, i lost my mother 2 months ago
@@minakshidw I am sorry for your loss.
what was the most helpful thing that helped you make the loss sting a little less?
I lost my father to covid last week, disbelief I'm in is unreal, it's like a bad dream that won't end, emotional pain is very hard, the only time all this pain stops and I feel relieved is when I'm standing over his grave praying for him in the after life and talking to him, the second I walk out of the grave yard everything hits me again like a ton of bricks, R.I.P to all your loved ones that see this, just know they are in a better place now and are at the most peace they will ever be in. Thank God or who ever it is you believe in for everything and just know your not alone, every single human on earth has lost a loved on its the cycle of life, learn to accept it and I believe you will break free from ur sadness and move forward and be a better version of your self, just like that loved one wants you to be.
This is absolutely crazy. I hope you are doing a bit better. 😔🙏
My mother recently passed away from cancer, she had fought against it since 2012, my mom was an amazing woman, full of life, humble, loving, compassionate, a giver and a fighter, she was the light in my life and for my son and for all of us, I realized how even more amazing she was when so many people started calling, some I didn't know, the feelings come and go like waves, I feel lost without my mom, I'm 37 and she was just 60, I miss her and I love her so much, I realize how much of an impact she made to us all and to me, her absence, I'm taking it day by day though trying to see the good and value what I have in my life, I know she would be telling me to value what I still have, I miss her dearly
I lost my father a week ago. He was a wonderful man, my best friend, mentor and life-role model. It has been a life changing season, an immense before and after, as you so eloquently unpacked. At the same time, I feel life after death is real in the here and now - those of us that loved him entirely, we are the life after death, we will continue both his memory and our connection with him , until it is our time. I love you dad.
Nice words mate
My Dad always said of his friends who have passed, “he’s resting now” with his calm low voice. He past away in his sleep this morning. Rest in peace Dad. I will miss you and I will see you in heaven.
I’ve lost my mother today at 4am I’m very grateful that she was 23 years there for me. I do cry and yes it hurts my soul to not be able to hold her again until the day I die also. But knowing that this day will come and I’m able to live a full filled one in honour to her. I consider myself very happy to be able to know my parents and still have my father to lean on. To everyone do not guiltrip yourself over the death because you don’t have the choice to choose the outcome of life itself. You wouldn’t want someone to curse you and tell you that you did wrong. Why would you do it on yourself? Don’t give power to something mean and awful, that won’t be what they wished for you to do. We all decease one day until then we should cherish all the good memories and make good memories of your own to honour the wish of you loved ones. God bless you and your family stay strong and faithful to your beliefs. No matter what Religion or believe you have. God is the greatest above all.
Dear daddy
I can’t believe you’ve been gone for 7 years since you’re gone. I never asked for you to be gone. I remember when me and my siblings were little kids. When you were in the hospital for a while then transferred to a nursing home. We were always wanting you to come home That we were gonna throw you a special welcome home party. Never knew it would be years. I never want to lose you😔💔 I never knew that at that time would be the last time I ever see you!! February 8, 2014 was the saddest day of my life💔. I was demanding for you to come home and I want my dad back as a preteen and I want to family to be back again. I miss you so much! I wish you would see me. You didn’t get to even see me graduate class of 2020. Don’t worry I hope you’re watching from above. You didn’t even get to see me go off to college. We all miss you. Will been losing all the male figures in our lives. Like I have a brother I think he needs a male figure in his life and to bad that you’re not here💔. Every Father’s Day really hurts. It’s not the same without you. I tried to act like that it’s a regular day. But one time on Father’s Day of 2018, i wanted to break down crying but we were out and busy all day that day So I pretty much cried when I got home. U wanna know why? Because people are posting pictures of their dads on social media. And I honestly never post you because usually I barely like to share that you died and that you’re not here with me any more even though I told some people that I’ve lost my dad years ago it’s not something that I talk about much because you know. It hurts talking about it because I miss you so much. I hope I get to see you again in heaven! As of now as a black child being raised in a single parent household. I have suffered from depression and anxiety and tried to commit suicide the past year☹️. Because of so much other stuff happening. I really never thought that i would lose you at 11 years old. I miss you so much I just miss you. I wish I can just have you with me in person and watch me grow up. I love you so much dad❤️
Loosing my dad was the worst moment of my life! Yet the saddest💔💔
Oh god... I am so sorry for your loss! I somehow know this feeling... I wish you all the best! 💪🏻⚡🌈🔥🌟✨
@@Deathbringer99699 thank you😔😔💔❤️❤️❤️
I lost my father to covid January 2022 I'm 31 and devastated the pain is unexplainable, but I believe everything happens for a reason. If not for Jesus I don't know how I would cope, May God bless and confort you, don't forget that he loves you very much!
@@kxmail7122 sorry for you 👐🏼🥺god bless ur in my prayers
I just lost my grandpa, who was my father because he raised me, a couple weeks ago. It’s a pain I’ve never felt before. Earth shattering. I’m sending my love out to anyone else who is grieving. I wouldn’t wish this feeling on anyone. But I know it will be okay, and that he’s with me now and everyday & that he’s with Jesus, but it’s still hard you know? Love y’all❤️
I lost my father on May 4th. I have been lost since then. I miss him so much. He was my pillar of strength and my foundation. I pray his soul finds peace, happiness and fulfillment. He's always in my heart and mind 💓
I lost my mom a little over 4 and a half months ago. I can’t even explain how great of a parent she was. We made lots of memories and had lots of traditions we made together for each year. I’m 15 and starting High School soon. I’m scared to say the least. I always thought she would be alive throughout my high school and college years but life had other plans. She will always have a special place in my heart. I’ll never forget her.
Lost my dad 4 days ago. I'm devastated.
Be strong 😞
I lost my mum to stage 3 lung cancer in January this yr. Right now I can’t sleep because it’s Mother’s Day tomorrow and it’s a painful milestone. I received my biggest injury of my life and need an operation and I’d do anything to hear her voice to soothe me now.
My life hasn’t been the same since. My perspective is different I feel like I can’t shake the melancholy since she passed. The moments up to her death were the hardest I ever experienced - I stayed by her side and the moment I closed my eyes she passed in hospital. I felt like I was in a horrible movie.
Her life wasn’t easy with me she raised me on her own. A true Wonder Woman. 40 yrs she had arthritis that crippled her and took away so many of the things we take for granted. Seeing her disability as a child I was used to missing out on a lot but I only ever started to appreciate how amazing she was to raise me with a sickness on her own that she never complained and always had amazing strength to carry on even though I could see in her eyes she was suffering.
Even on her death bed she found it hard to ask for help! She never wanted pity!
I hope I build to the same level of courage and strength she had. I miss her so much.
Much love to you all going through the same thing. X
I am 16 years old. I lost my father to suicide last night. This is the worst pain I ever felt, he was my everything. We never argued and I never told him I hated him, we were the perfect father and son. Our relationship was perfect. I am gonna miss the funny faces and texts he'd send me while I was bored out of my mind at school. I am gonna miss him so much.
experienced the same
But why did he committed suside
I loss my father a year ago but, until now, i cry every time i see his picture... It gives me so much pain every day
I lost my dad a month ago he was 58 so young he was really healthy he always was happy with us he motivated me to go to driving school he wasn't scared to die he was strong a warrior his voice taught me to be strong
I lost my dad 18 months ago. I am his only child. He guided me so much and I miss him more than any words can convey. I cry a lot. When people aren’t around. I cry in the car. In the shower. It helps for a while. I’m really lost in this world right now. The person who’s always ever loved me has gone.
You never realize what you have until it's gone my dad died in my arms feb 13 life will never be the same I didn't realize how many people were going through the same thing I am right now
do yu have any tips for those who have parents, how to avoide regret later
I never knew my biological father and i lost my grandpa a few months ago. He was the answer to the "why don't look for your biological father?", he was my hero, my coach, my friend with the right words and a loving man with me for all my childhood. I can't feel more honour for ever meeted him and loving him every day that i saw him. I miss you Jorge
Cant live without my mom
My father is currently in the hospital with heart failure. I dont know what to feel losing you so young. As of now the doctors say we dont have much time with him. I feel immense guilt in the time we had with him we took for granted. Youve been through so much and came from so little all at the same time. Im proud of you dad. You always pushed us to do better and showed us that we didnt need to look to a life of bad things to be happy. Im not sure what to feel other than the sadness thats constantly overcoming me. You wont be here to see me accomplish all the great things in life that you pushed us so hard to become. I keep thinking back to how things were not too long ago, I cant stop thinking of what I should have done differently and how things would be when you have passed on. How you would want things to be. Everyday hurts knowing that I wont be able to hug you, share memories, or laugh at another one of your silly jokes and stories. You will be leaving a lot behind at such a young age. You were many things in life, my father and role-model is one for sure. You mean so much to a lot of people. I love you more than you can ever imagine and it hurts knowing I never showed that as much as I should. The pain I feel coming home knowing you wont be here, wishing things would just go back to how they were. What I shouldve done different.
The pain won’t go away and I’ll have to learn to accept that or die trying.
my prayers go out to you!
Sorry to hear for everyone s loss.
Today is the first anniversary of my dad, s passing, one full year passed in a daze, we still feel dad is around us all the time. We visit his grave once a week, say our prayer, sit with him and talk about our daily routine..
Just miss him so much xxxx
Lost my dad today, I'm not doing well, his spirit n strength wil lie with me till I rest with him ♥️
Thank you for this video. I recently lost my father a few weeks ago, im young and it was his death that made me realize how much of a brat and a child i am. He died in my arms. I felt so helpless, he had some seizure or stroke im not sure, but i was on my ipad and if only i turned to look at him a few seconds earlier maybe my dad would be here. Medics came as soon he was pronounced dead, they did cpr for an hour but it was his time to go. He suffered for so long in his life i never had to chance to repay him yet for his love and care. I dont believe in spiritual or religious things, i wish i had that faith and hope but truly in my heart i dont which is why his death is so hard on me. I cant turn back time and i cant tell my father im sorry, only in my head.
I just lost my mom coming up on one month this Wednesday. She gave her all to all of her children. All I could think one night in a moment of grief was that before this sadness and anger were only that and so miniscule, this is something else.
I lost my dad 9 years ago cause of cancer and it has been a long process for me to even just accept it. I was in denial for a very long time, for a few years felt like it wasn't real, like he was coming back. I was by his side when it happened and I can still hear his final breath. I only have 1 video of him which helps me remember his voice but I wish we had more memories together. Still wonder how my life would have been if he was still around and his absence hurts a lot when I'm going through a difficult time or on major life events.
I rarely share my pain and this video, the comment section has helped me somehow so thank you.
I'm 19 and I lost my mom 2 weeks ago. During the time that I distracted myself from her death, I felt less pain but extremely guilty. And recalling her alleviated my guilt but was really painful. I'm in such a dilemma where there is no appropriate way to go in.
Your mom wouldn’t want you to beat yourself up about a situation that was so difficult and painful with you dealing with it in whatever way you had to. Just don’t be hard on yourself because you’re mom knows you loved her.
@@lisaeischens2352 Thx for ur kind reply. Frankly speaking, I feel much better than 3 months ago. Time heals.
@Reci 123 exactly man my mum died yesterday and I don't want to believe this is true it's just so painful.
Thank you for this presentation, Mr. Rivadeneyra. It's absolutely insightful and beautiful. I also lost my father to cancer. He passed on August 31st of 2020. I was the one who closed his eyes and I am grateful that I had that opportunity.
I lost my dad 2 days ago and although he was sick for a long time it still is hard to process. I fought my entire life to have a relationship with him and I’m grateful the last year of his life I got to see him more and talk then ever before.
I lost my dad yesterday. This has created a huge void in my life. He was my best friend. I miss him so much. This, along with the loss of my mom 10 years ago, are/ were the two hardest things I’ve ever gone through. This is a great video that has helped me understand some things I’ve never considered.
Yes, my dad was my best friend as well. My dad and I would have the best laughs 😂😂😂😂 it’s a year and a half. Just remember, there is nothing wrong with therapy and crying it out.
My dad has cancer and we’ve been told he has months left. I’m struggling so bad rn because I’m only 17 and he won’t make it to my senior year. I needed this so much thank you
How is he now
@@daughteroftheking7617 sadly on June 10th he passed away
@@gabby04gaston condolences I lost my dad to cancer as well 5 years ago, I just had a crying anger fit last night. It will come in waves. But God bless you and may you lean on God now more than ever !❤️
My father passed away today. I feel so lost without him.
Sorry to hear. I’m here if you need to talk :(
I just lost my dad yesterday. I'm heart broken. Wish I could have said more and done more for him.
I love talking about my dad with people who knew him ”He would have liked that… he would have thought… as my father used to say…”. It makes it feel like he is still with us.
I cant believe am writing this. I lost my dad today, I walking through walls, God help. He was my protector, my provider, my friend. I am beyond heartbroken
How are you doing now
Extremely helpful. My daughter lost her father from cancer 2 years ago, she was 10 yrs old. This video really gave me great information of things i could do to help her. Thank you.
I'm sorry for you and your daughters loss. I'm so glad you found things that could help her deal with the loss! Very welcome!
I lost my father exactly a month ago to lung cancer... I regret a lot of things that I didn't do when I visited him a month before his passing. I wasn't close to my father, and I didn't realize how much I love him and how much he meant to me until now when he's no longer with us.
Thank you Andrew for your advices 🙏🙏🙏
You can't blame yourself - people do that alot I've noticed. The outcome is the same. I blamed myself so much of the time but then I realized my father is an adult who made some bad choices in his adult life. That's not my fault and I hope you know that too.
@@heatherramsey9190 i lost my father yesterday. I was not close to him because of his anger issues but his death has torn me into pieces. Now i regret every single second when i couldnt hold him and tell him how much i love him. He taught me everything to fight, to laugh, to walk. If i knew that his death will hurt me that much, i would never leave his hand forever. I love you my daddy May Allah bless you highest rank in heaven.
My dad was diagnosed of lung cancer too 2 days ago, and he suddenly doesn't have high spirit to facing life even he looks healthy before the diagnosed.
I am so scared right now, i know he is already in old age but i think i'm not mentally prepared to lose him just like that.
I want him keep living at least 10years more :'(
On April 12, 2021, I lost my mother aka my best friend aka my biggest cheerleader. My mother and I did everything together.
I didn’t grieve right after due to funeral arrangements. Finally, I’m grieving. I miss my mother so much. She was the sweetest person with a sweet voice.
Thank you so much for sharing. I lost my dad today. We live in two different states and I never felt I missed him. Now I miss him.
Losing my dad 1 year ago made me realize just how short life really is.
It is not always that easy to heal from a loss, thank you for sharing! Keep on creating content man, well done!
My Mom and I spent a lot of time together and talked about most everything, but I wish we had talked more about how she felt about the losses in her life. I think this would have helped me since her passing. I talk to her all the time. She has made her presence known in the form of a mourning dove.
I just lost my father and I cant come above that sadness . He has been a great loving support for me
Sorry for the loss of your precious dad
lost my dad back in March, yea you never realize how tough it is when you lose a parent
I lost my dad September 3rd. My brother woke up and found him dead. We often fought, but we usually showed love in giving things to each other. He was very playful and a very good man. I can’t believe he’s gone and I miss him so deeply. I wish it was a dream. I will forever miss him and I hope I see him again.
My mother died in my arms 3 days ago and my heart feels very sad 😭 I crave my mother's presence to a huge extent😔She was a huge part of my life for many years. I miss her a lot. I feel a wave of loss and grief. I want to call out to her, hear her voice, share something with her and I can’t. She is gone. All I am left is with a very empty, heavy, sad heart😞😩😭
This was very helpful for me. I lost both of my parents recently it’s been the hardest 4 months I’ve ever had to incounter
I am sorry for your loss.
I’m glad I found this video. I lost my mum to cancer a few weeks ago. I’m learning to adjust to her absence and cry at times
I lost mine to cancer in November 2021 and cry at times too it’s hard for me
I lost my father 2 months ago. I am 31 years old. Life is so hard without him. He wasn't happy in his last days. I tried everything for him but he left me alone in this world. I am so lucky that I spent most of my life with him. I have his lots of memories.
So sorry. It is hard, I know. I am also early in this grieving process. I have lost people before, but this is the hardest. He was close w my young son, so I feel the loss for him too.... Glad u had a lot of time w him. Hang in there.
I lost my dad 10 days ågo and im 11 yers
@@Sullivancohen things happen in life mate just don’t beat yourself up about things. No matter what happens I’m sure your dad knew the love you had a for him
i lost my father to a heart attack today. i'm 16. he was 59. he was my best friend, the one who listened, who always supported me in every aspect. i've been battling depression for four years now and without him i wouldn't be here anymore. i just feel so lost and angry and also very very empty, like someone ripped a part of my heart out. he wasn't just my father, he was also my best friend. to realize he won't ever teach me how to drive or how to make the perfect stake or literally anything - it shatters me.
I lost my mother 2 months ago... I miss her so much. My life is not the same. I cry every night.
I’m sorry that you lost your mama it’s very painful and I understand you. I lost my mum to cancer in January this yr. I keep reliving the moments it’s definitely hard. Much love.
@@fastfoxxx88 thank you for ur support
I lost my dad 14 hours ago early this morning and I’m feeling lost. He has been there for me, we’ve been through hardship together and I’m just starting to be someone in life. I was in pain cause he couldn’t eat the fruit of his labour
I’m so devastated now
may your father rest in peace; i lost my dad two days ago. stay strong; and i hope youre doing well!
Lost my dad in May I miss him so much he was my best friend was always there for me now I feel lost
Great vid. I recently lost my dad with no warning. I’m young and so was he. It’s so so hard but I have finally realized how much life has changed.
I lost my Dad a week ago and I can’t stop crying- it’s been so hard 😢
I miss my dad..I want him back... sometimes I think if I scream loud enough he'll turn around and come back to me...💔 I lost him this Monday..
You are fantastic, Andrew!! You bring so much value educating people in such difficult times we all are loving though. Thank you for your noble work❤️
I lost my father❤ a few days ago,he went out and never came back and than he was found dead,probably a heart attack.He'd just turned 78.I can't stop crying ever since.Please say a prayer for his soul,his name is Marko.He was a very justice loving and warm man.Thank you all and God bless you!🙏
I lost my father when I was 5 unexpectedly. I am 32 now and still miss him every day. I miss him in the big moments, in the mundane moments when I sit alone. I just wish I had another day with him, another moment, anything.
I’ve just been thinking how lost I’d be without them and came across this. These comments are heart shattering. Idk what id without them. But everybody else, I’m proud of you and stay strong! It’s what they’d want.
I lost my dad just over 3 weeks ago. I’m really struggling it’s so up and down but when I am ok I feel so so guilty that I am feeling okay. I’m lost and when it hits me that I’m really never seeing him again, I crumble I feel like someone is stabbing my heart and I can’t breath. Thank you for this video looking for anything that can help me through this. I was so so close to my dad and I just miss him unbelievable amounts
may your dad rest in peace; i lost my dad two day ago
I lost my mother's mother when I was 24 and in 2021 we lost dad.
I miss both of them very much.
I talk to nan a lot especially visiting her ashes.
Dad wanted his ashes to go into the lake but I've asked mum if she would instead consider in the garden when we had his ceremony so I can go visit him.
I also learned about my dad's depth of talent just before he got really sick in the end. It made it good and worse at the same time . I've been finding the things he taught me harder at the moment to continue with, which is music, as I'm constantly reminded of both his gifts and his good mate who was my music teacher. They were great mates. And it's hard with nan, dad and my music teacher gone, as music is a real passion for me. But it has lately become a misery and don't enjoy it. Hopefully that will change. Thanks for this great video because I've seen what things I do actually do and maybe things I could be doing. This month of April will be one year dad has been gone. Cheers and Thankyou
Thank you so much for this , I lost my mother three years ago. We were extremely close and I am an only child , she was my life. Dad got cancer and died very quickly last year and it through me into shock because he took care of himself and was always really healthy. You touched on so many things , some of which I already figured out and all of it true. I did the trips , dinners , movies that you spoke of with mother but I want to tell people that on the trips you must take photos , they become a godsend later for you. My mother was psychic and has communicated to me as she promised in ways that go far beyond a butterfly. Thanks for the great video.
It has been less than a year since I lost my dad. I feel like I did some pre-grieving because I knew what was going to happen. I've been through hell but I feel like I'm coming out the other side. To anyone going through the same thing, it is possible to move forward. That doesn't mean forgetting the person.
I lost my dad 2 days ago. I don't know how to deal with the loss because I didn't even get a chance to see or hug him for one last time at the clinic... That’s quite painful for someone like him, who was such a good person.
Miss you so much papá. Estarás en mis pensamientos y corazón por siempre.
This video was very encourging to me. I just lost my Father last week. and most people wouldn't understand unless it has happened to them. I appreciated this video. Dad, I will never forget you!!
I lost my dad today and its making me realize what I missed with him
I go outside and cry every Christmas away from my family
I lost my father died today from a car accident but he helped a lot of people he gave one lung because one had an infection ,eyes,kidneys,liver,skin tissue and one more thing I forget what it’s called I pray every night for God to take very good care of him in heaven everybody know God loves you he raised you and looked after you my dad always said “You never know when it’s someone’s time too go so always spend the time you have with them”my mom and dad have shared parenting so I was with my mom when the accident happened so I only got to see him in the hospital so like my dad said you never know when it’s someone’s time to go so spend the most time you have with them
When my father passed away, I discovered the book of proverbs. It helped me understand why my father was the way he was. And why he held himself to a certain standard. Both have changed my life. It's a difficult challenge to go on after the only person who has known you and you known since the day you were created leaves this world. However, they never do leave you. They truly do live within us. Things they taught us. Things they would do. Things they would say. Thoughts they thought and Shared. That stays within us. And we pass those on to the next generation. I love you pops!
Beautiful video Andrew. Losing a loved one is definitely something I know I have fear and resistance around. Which only makes energy more stuck. Grief is something I've been trying to delve into a bit more deeply lately. Not just around losing people but more generally - when our hopes and expectations don't match up with reality and what unfolds.
thank you for this.. lost my pops last year. stay strong to anyone who is going through this.. i love you all..
my parents are still alive and healthy but I kept waking up at nights in a cold sweat and tears with the shear idea of losing any of em. some of this showed me to take the conscious effort to be w both of em more often then ever right now
I lost my father almost a month ago, he fought brain tumor for two years. He undergone 3 surgeries and chemo/radio therapy, it seemed to be ok even if the doctor told him the tumor was back, he brought us to dinner and the day after his body fell into pieces.... he wasnt strong enough to walk by its own,but he didnt want any help, in 2 days that "thing" ate everything he wasnt able to speak clearly,get up, go to the bathroom or even stay awake, he was delirious and feverish most of the time ( one time he asked me for a spoon, he said " give me a spoon" then he asked me if the water was boiling and asked ne again for a tomato,asked me if the sauce was ready and to let him taste it if i did it right... i gave him a spoon with a bit of water and he said it tasted really good, god i wanted to cry so much). I found his diary he wrote several times some dates, christmas, his wedding anniversary,my birthday,my mom's birthday, new year, and the day they should have gone to Vietnam. He wrote those dates several times each time his hands werent able to write clearly,he wrote a letter to all of us telling me to be strong as i truly even if i think im not,to get rid of my fears because incan achieve everything i want he also wrote grocercy list for 24 and 25 december(we're italians) and new year. When he needed something he called only me, one day he asked me to help him close the purple shutters and turn of the lights because he wanted to go home. I knew what he wanted to say.. he sometimes asked me to help him get up because he wanted to go for a walk or a jog and go have breakfast togheter. For 4 days i didnt ate nor slept and he started to get worse, brain fever partial blindness, unable to speak, respiratory difficulties he didnt ate anymore and drinking water was painful he obly spoke to yell at those who tried scold me for something... "leave him alone for christ sake, he does everything he can" he said.
In his last days he usually looked towards me and my girlfriend and i just nod because we understood each other without the need of words, but it's hard to stay faithful to the promise i made that to be strong, to carry on. Each time when i work out i spaz for a moment look at a corner or my back too seek for eye contact, a gesture or something but he is not there and i tend to forget it, this morning i looked for him at home just to realize he isnt there, days ago i was hanging out and out of nowhere i got my phone and called him but before pressing "call" i realized he couldnt pick up the call.... he was my role model, my anchor and now im drifting
Thank you Andrew for your help. I'm sorry for your loss. I am in grief therapy because I lost my parents 5 months apart a little over a year ago. I was extremely close like parents and friends and my husband and I spent a lot of fun times with them. I've been blessed with my husband who is truly my soulmate. Also, I have a very compassionate therapist who is helping me through this very painful time. I pray everyone here who lost a loved one is able in time to find peace with their sorrow. God bless you all. 🙏🌟
Great content man! I’ve wanted to talk about this forever! I’m sorry for the loss of your father man...it’ll be ten years for me next year since my moms has been gone...the grief comes in much smaller waves rather than the tsunami sized ones immediately after and that first year so I know the telltale signs...but it’s something that crosses my mind every day lending credence to your mention of before and after marking...we definitely need to talk about death more and be more transparent so people can really process their grief in a healthy manner...thank you for the video man...