Strictly Soulmates - Muslim (9th February 2012)
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- Looking for love is tough at the best of times and it can be even harder when your pool of potential partners is small. Welcome to the world of being young, single and religious. This is looking for love as it's rarely been seen on TV before - with religion in play there are a whole new set of rules and it can be seriously tough to find 'the one'. Strictly Soulmates takes a fun, entertaining and emotional look at the real life trials and tribulations of a group of singletons trying to find their perfect match from four different religions: Evangelical Christian, Hindu, Muslim and Jewish.
If you're young, single and Muslim, you're not actually allowed to date, so finding a partner involves lots of help from mum, dad, auntie and uncle too. We take an engaging look at the highs and lows of three Muslim singletons, who have never even had a relationship before, as they begin their journey's to find 'the one'. As one of our singletons says 'it's a bit like blind date, but your mum is Cilla Black'.
23-year-old Zubair has just graduated from Manchester University. He's planning to move to Pakistan later in the year, but first he wants to find a British Muslim wife to take with him. It doesn't help that he's never even sat down to talk to a girl on his own before, and on top of that he's worried his strict Muslim beard could put some girls off. He's not expecting Angelina Jolie, but will Zubair find himself a wife before he steps on the plane?
Naila has just turned 22. As the eldest daughter of the family she is now expected to have an arranged marriage, so her mum is on the hunt. But arranged or not she wants to find the man of her dreams, and preferably one with a beard. After months of searching Nila's mum arranges a formal meeting with a potential husband. But what happens when you reject the boy and his family when you've only met them once, and how do you know what you're looking for in your man when you've never even been out with a boy before.
Tabassum - or Dimpy for short - is a 32-year-old who has never had a boyfriend. It's not that she is short of suitors - Dimpy's already turned down 60 potential husbands who haven't measured up to her very long list of priorities in a man. If they're not Muslim, middle class, Pakistani and a doctor, they're not worth considering. Luckily for Dimpy, her cousin and aunt are on hand to deliver a few home truths, but can she take this advice on board and finally find a man?
"You try, and God rewards the effort". well said, Zubair.
This tall, slim guy w the AMAZING beard is awesome. He's handsome, he's chaste, he worships, he's educated.... I don't understand why he feels like he'd have such a challenge finding a woman to marry. He's a catch. Had to log in to say that.
He's funny, too
sexydds2010 Yup. Rameez is also cute :)
I think in this programme its just about him wanting to go to Pakistan and approaching girls from others parts of the world who don't have the same dream.
Kam Wri Totes agree! He's seems very sweet and funny. Great marriage material!
Kam Wri He appears to be a great guy, but it probably is because he is awkward around girls and there are girls who aren't charmed with shyness.
If he wants to marry a Pakistani woman and he wants to live in Pakistan, why not find a wife in Pakistan? Why is he looking in the UK?
***** I think the point was that if he wants to live there anyway what's the point of looking here and then potentially up-rooting the other person to go back over there that considers themselves British.
Aisha Rahaan I see. I was just thinking that his chances of finding a woman who meets all of his criteria (Pakistani women, practicing muslim, willing to live in Pakistan) would be easier in Pakistan itself, but I see there is more to the issue than I realize. thx.
+Aisha Rahaan Compared to Bangladesh, India and Pakistan. One question keeps me wondering, why the Muslims in UK are mostly very religious? When I visit Bangladesh, I barely see any Hijabis around, yeah I do have 2-3 hijabi friends but most of the women population from 18-26 yr olds are like very stylish, fashionable, acting and career oriented but obviously follow cultural roots and religious faith both sides regardless.
true
Sarah Norment he wanted to marry a muslim girl not a pakestani girl and could be for him a pakestani muslim girl a bonus for him I don't know but he didn't say a pakestani girl.
Secondly he started in UK as he will leave here for a while and mostly when he is ready to back to Pakistan he need his mrs to support it and this could take longer from expect and could never happen for reason or another.
I will tell you another reason why he start in UK because if a british muslim accept to live in Pakistan this mean she is already sacrefice for her husband but some of the muslims in pakistan men and women they will say yes I would back to leave in Pakistan but after they come to live in UK 95% of them refuse to back and break there promise and over 70% of the women only because they are coming to leave in UK. For that he started his search in UK.
Look to him what you see?! Are you seeing a stupid word on his fronthad. Because I see smart man knows what he is doing. Lived enough in both of uk and Pakistan to discover the positives and negatives to have a sister from UK or Pakistan and logically he did the right thing by starting from UK.
open your mouth only if you're going to speak something that sounds more beautiful than silence.
Ameen.
Interesting, but not representative of islamic marriages as a whole, more of asian culture
f Are you Muslim?
f bruh it’s always the arabs and Pakistan who represent the whole Muslim community in the uk🤣
It is not Asian culture but Pakistanis
@@jessmindarus7816 Pakistanis are Asian.
I agree
A lot of people are mistaking arranged marriages with forced marriages.
Arranged marriage=both Islamic and cultural, where the parents or carer arrange their child's marriage and the child has input and the right to refuse.
Forced marriages= Haram/forbidden but sadly its part of some peoples culture and its where the children have no choice in who they marry
I see arranged marriage exactly like online dating, except instead you have middle aged women setting you up instead of a website.
bengalifob2 which website is it !
There is no different in the Muslim community. It is dangerous. Why would you want a covenant which is marriage to be arranged. This is opposing on your will. Parents especially. Its disrespectful.
how is it Mohammed had a forced marriage with Aisha when she was 9.
What is the difference between arranged marriage and online dating where the internet site is the arangement source. Same thing!
I'd marry him in a heartbeat. It's not about looks, he is so sweet and so filled with humor and personality Ma sha Allah
Yes
I'm an American but I love watching British shows!! Especially like these shows! Thanks for uploading!!
honestly i have never seen such a humble guy ever as zubair. He is the ideal for many girls. i honestly dont see anythng negative in him he sooo humble omg. Nowadays guys have dubbelmorals and want the perfect girl with perfect look while they themselve look bad, while this guy never spoke ill about any girl he saw intead he thought there was something wrong with him:O like noooo ur perfect!!!!!! if i was in UK at that time idont care i would do anything to marry him
Hes adorable i like him too but im already married lool i wish him all the best hes adorable 😄
He seems nice enough on camera, but then when he met that girl in the library, he talked down to her. I get that he was making jokes to break the tension, but he came off as a bit snobby.
areebah ehan the girl Zubair met looked a good match, even the girl was very calm humble and polite. I hope Zubair is Happy and settled now.
This is what you expect from career women! no matter how good the guy is just does not click ??
The solution unfortunately is in pakistan / middle east etc!
Syed Hussain Shut up you sexist. U like to chain women to your kitchen and make sure they have no education or career
I feel for Zubair so much, this whole process seems to be on his shoulders whereas all the others have family and friends and matchmakers. And Nayla seems incredibly intelligent, I hope she finds what she is looking for. I was so impressed by Dimpy's growth throughout the episode.
Zubair is adorable! I don't understand why why he was having so much trouble finding a wife. He seems like an amazing catch. His nervousness when he gets a one on one meeting is too cute.
you sound like a very sad person. He seemed like a perfectly good and sincere person. i sense a bit of jealousy in you perhaps?
British Youth
Because he was fake Angelica Pickles. And not in a nervous way either but in hiding something kind of way. And no it's not the beard you could tell he was not being truthful. Like why did that girl's dad have to ask him about his parents, he didn't even mention which part of lahore they are from that just screamed Red Flag.
Anyways finding a partner in pakistan probably worked out for him seeing as he'd lived there also.
ckzckw fake hhhhhhhhhhhhh. I can understand that you never met a real muslims the real muslim they don't talk about love and sex and they don't hang out with girls so when they site with a Lady to see if they much 99% of them they will act/react/look just like Zubier so basically you don't know what you are talking about it.
Angelica Pickles j
Zubair seems like such a nice guy, theres nothing wrong with being a strict muslim. Theres so few strict muslims nowadays it mint seem strange. My father is a strict muslim and his one of the most chilled people I know. Being a muslim does not make you any less funnier or less of a character. The beard does not stop you living a happy normal life. I wish people could see beyond appearances. I think zubair is a good muslim and seems like a good man too.
He has a youtube channel :) its under "TheBigZbear" and unfortunately for him, he underwent a divorce.
+Anne Marie If that's your real name then I congratulate your father for you having it. That's showing an open mindedness.
Anne ❤❤❤❤❤
Anybody think they should have introduced Naila & Zubair? I think they might have been cute together.
Eti yessss
Eti
that's exactly what I thought
I thought that 2
I don't think Naila would have been willing to move to Pakistan with him.
@@Kyra_of_Kerkyra Oh shut it Rada. Thank goodness nobody made you the leader of everyone's life or choice.
If I were a muslim man, I'd totally marry Naila. She's so cute and down to earth!
And I think Dimpy is a really good person at heart, but perhaps easily influenced by media and stuff, which means it's really good that she has her religion to ground her. :)
Oh how sweet!
I’m a good friend of Nai’la’s and she is happily married a few years now Alhamdulilah
@@LOL10060 Clean your mind or I'm telling your mother
What's the purpose of this show if they didn't introduce Nila and Zubair??? Lol
I'm trying to figure out is purpose
Is she Pakistani, tho?
@@bluephoenix9160 yes!!
Blue Phoenix ya I know!!
Exactly, they should have introduced them but they might wanted it to be more authentic as it was.
i found it sweet how nervous the guy was when he met that girl and her father.
Why don't they go to Pakistan?
I wish they all would get married with the right people :)
God bless them
Fun Fact: The Prophets wife was his boss. She was captivated by his honest and pure nature and she ended up proposing. She was the most successful merchant.
@mihir kumar u r ignorant
He was talking about khadija the prophets first wife who was much older than him.
And as for aisha she was a very mature and smart 9 girl who took a role as a teacher for Muslim women and men after learning so much over the years from the prophet.
U r so stupid why can't u use ur brain?
If he was the pedophile u think he is he would have married countless little girls when he was young
And not stay with just one older woman until she died and then married when he is already more than 50 years old man .
He married each one for a reason that is far from the dirty thoughts ur dirty brain only thinks of .
Go educate urself so that u don't sound like a stupid ignorant.
Have a nice day :)
@mihir kumar another ignorant person who doesn't understand the seerah
PRECISELY!. FUN FACT INDEED!. WHAT A MAN!. EVEN SO, WHAT A WOMAN!. HE'S SO LUCKY!. AND SO IS SHE!.
@mihir kumar You can't compare 1400 years go to now. People died much earlier back then so they got married earlier if they could. Now people live over 100 years. Plus childbirth was much harder because of lack of medicine and technology and many children died so they started having kids earlier too.
@mihir kumar You are ignorant and childish. People as young as 9 get their period now (basically puberty) but back then, 9 was like teenager and what middle age is now (30 -40) was likely elderly (60-70) back then. The prophet (pbuh) mainly married 'elderly' widows (30 -40) year olds and married only one 'young woman' (at the time) who was 9.
I am watching this in 2019 and I am so curious about what hsppened meanwhile. I hope they've all found the people they were looking for and they're all happy and live the tranquil life everyone desires
Three brown people do not represent all Muslims. We come in all colours... Not just brown. And we all have different ways of undergoing this process
Thank you!!
The show never claims that they represent all Muslims.
Exaaactly!
It’s the same old story tho! Always Asians too!
EXACTLYYYYY
Dimpy has found her match and is married to a doctor like she always wanted! (yes, I stalked her facebook XD)
bengalifob2 Yeah doctor but he looks like a 45 year old uncle jee loooool.
What's her name on fb?
I wanna see too
dimpy malik zulfiqar
Ya, but congrats to her for compromising and realising she wasn't going to find everything. So what if he looks 15 years older, maybe he's a great guy and they make each other happy, isha'Allah!
Yayy mashaallah
"He's attractive in terms of his education!!"
LMGDFAO! HAhAHhahaaaa lol X'D
I personally think, Zubair is very attractive. He is amazingly funny, he seems sweet, & what a smile!!as for his plans to return to Pakistan, if I could offer some advice-I will be going to Pakistan in June 2015. As an American Non-Muslim ( I plan on converting on our wedding day when I go there, as I want him to be there when it happens:). If someone told me, two years ago I would be marrying a Muslim & journeying to Pakistan, I never would have believed it. Yet, one never knows what the future holds. To the man who has been waiting for 8 years, do not give up, follow your heart. To all the men on this video, self confidence goes very far. You guys are a good catch. Dimpy- you are fantastic! Do not settle- as you know you will regret it. Naila- ( I apologize if I spelled this wrong) you are beautiful & sweet & you all have plently to offer. I wish you all the best of luck
Yes, Zubair was a really nice guy. So much for female intuition!! Also, don't delay conversion, Stacey!
What do you mean???? You go there and marry Zubair from the docu?? seriously?? He allready knows that??
loool stacey i think u don't know that zubair got married later and is now DIVORCED.
So you like Zubayer not me 😜
stacey van adder
well stacey if you want we can have contact this is my facebook (jamal rzk rezko) I am a muslim guy and you well be welcome
Zubair is so lovely! It makes me feel badly that these dynamic, educated people struggle to find someone. Muslim or otherwise, it's so hard out there.
Blame the Media, they think that all Muslims are hardliner saudi wahabis or they are ugly doctors that not even the fattest girl will touch with a 10ft pole outside the hospital.
@@harrisn3693 All the people here are Muslims looking for Muslims I doubt the media has made their opinion on themselves and their own community.
Nimh
But what is more sad is finding a person and it doesn't work out
@@matesoul970 thats what people who cant get married say to hide their inability to attract anyone in the first place. cope harder
I dont really know why those recording this Documentary didnt connect Naila and Zubair like they are the perfect match ....
I don't see her leaving everything she knows to go settle in Pakistan.
and be fruity !? BE FRUITY ?! xD that was epic hhahaaaiii xD LMAO
😂😂😂😂
i swear fruity means gay
@@Natalie-mq2kz yea 😂😂
آلجۅد made me lol
Probably meant fruitful. lol
Words Can KILL - Guys please do not leave personal comments about other peoples' physical appearance!
Just seen the program and the comments left below. Guys! If you have nothing good or positive to say, the best thing is not to say anything, and certainly not anything about people's physical appearance etc.... Personally, I think all the individuals in the program (including Dimpy) have their strengths and weaknesses.... just like the rest of us.
Abu Qasim well said
the dude with the beard is actually quite handsome and dignified looking
You're right he is, he's also very charming and funny
Ya mA he seemed like a great guy, kind, optimistic, quite handsome, and funny. May Allah help him in all his struggles, and everyone else's too.
lol....I can't appreciate people because of what they want in life?
Shirin Ajay when the nice guys never get the right fiances/gf/wives.
He is handsome, and has a lovely personality
you all are being too harsh on dimpy. Obviously she is not the ideal from of first glance beauty, but the more you get to know her and see her confidence the more attractive she looks. for crying out loud, she is not hideous, just more average. She is independent, takes care of herself, and is into fashion. Yes her requirements are a bit much, but shouldn't she have self worth. She's even admitted that her problems were about her emotional issues and is ready to compromise.
alright dimpy, dont take it to heart love.
Is this Dimpy????
dimpy is pretty however... she wants to marry and become a full-time housewife but cannot load a dishwasher
@@hdnttl8679 she probably washes dishes by hand like a normal person who is not lazy
@@zainabzolita8436
No, normally when one moans about loading the dishwasher, they IMPLODE when it's time wash them by hand.
not all muslims get arranged marriages so I'm glad they showed this here
DMomsFan1
Arranged marriage=both Islamic and cultural, where the parents or carer arrange their child's marriage and the child has input and the right to refuse.
Forced marriages= Haram/forbidden but sadly its part of some peoples culture and its where the children have no choice in who they marry
ShrinkingViolla Yeah, your parents are usually the ones who know you better than anyone else so it makes sense that they help you to find "candidates" for marriage.
StrongWOLF Exactly, your parents act like matchmakers. What i find annoying is when people use arranged marriage and forced marriage interchangeably when they are actually completely different.
ShrinkingViolla You are right!
i love how asians when speaking to an uncle or auntie adopt their freshy accent even though they themselves have been born here lol
Relax your mind and love will come. Love is a strong energy that is attracted by a calm and happy mind
This was pretty cool. I knew it wouldn't work out for Zubair, that kind of relocation is a dealbreaker.
Not necessarily... I had that sort of relocation criteria at the top of my list too. In the end I fell for the love of my life. I found my soulmate and it fell to the bottom of my list. All in Allah's time, when my husband is financially ready... Inshaallah we can relocate. It is still my biggest of dreams. However, it seems to have drifted into a nearly impossible achievement.
Loved the self esteem of these two Sisters, so different from what I see amongst non-religious friends. Love the idea of parents being the first hurdle in meeting the right person, this seems just what every caring parent should be doing in terms of protecting their child from marrying the wrong person. I honestly wish I had asked my parents what they really thought of the man I married. Dimpy made me cry, I also miss my late father every day, and what makes me saddest of all is that having seen me marry the wrong man, and leave an unhappy marriage, he isn’t here to see me happy at last.
I pray you and your father are reunited in heaven one day, so you can share your happiness with him
what religion are you jane?
I'm sorry to say this but Dimpy cannot afford to be so picky. If she wants that perfect guy, then she needs to work on herself too. She should exercise and lose weight. Guys aren't incredibly picky, but they at least want a woman who is slim and toned, and anyone can achieve that if they work for it. She needs to accept that she needs to make some changes to herself instead of finding faults in every man.
***** cryingggg lmaooo
Lol, i was calling her fat throught the whole video astagfullah
Right she is fat
Every man like something different! Some men like heavy set women, I have seen plenty of men dating/ marrying average looking and/ or heavy set woman. Beauty/ a connection is in the eyes of the beholder!!! Because someone is slim and strim with good genes does not mean you can have a break threw with finding the right one!!! Everything in life is KARMA!!!
@@vikigonza816 she is very fat and self obsessed and in state of self denial. Actually she is very stubborn, adamant and difficult person.
Wow....she's not so hot herself and turned down 60 men, because they are not doctors? So she wants another doctor not a husband or love. Good luck!
Marriages is all about love. Nothing else is really a matters. If you are not in love, you don't need to get married. Especially for someone who is already so dependent and don't need anyone to take care them right?.... Love is love.
OMG, and she doesn't even know how to do dishes? or operate the dishwasher machine?.....
But .... the brother do look like John Abraham.
Asiane Yang All she has going for her is that she's a doctor. Her attitude sucks.. Her physique >> meatloaf.. Her personality eeehhh... Her expectations are unrealistic.She'll be OLD and BULKY and probably end up settling for an old Inman..loll
Nat E haha I thought that too but didnt wsnt to say it..she sure is annoying acting lik a little princess. Smh
MyLadyMo
Asiane Yang I was thinking the same thing, spoilt snobby woman seemed to think she was better than everyone else. "Oh he's only got a Bachelors"... That path is a very lonely one in the long run.
Asiane Yang Marriage is about commitment. There are lots of times when there isn't a lot of romance or love happening -- but what there should be, in order to weather those times, is a commitment.
I wonder if Zubair found his girl. He seems so funny and nice. A lot of those women were way too serious for him.
Wow, you can really sense the brothers passion and enthusiasm when he is packing to go to Pakistan to fulfill his dream. That is something beautiful, you can really feel that it's a calling for him, a vocation. Amazing
Well he did go and now is a mixed martial arts promoter lol
@@billcaan4192 is he?!? In Pakistan?
@@billcaan4192 All the time I was thinking that his face looks familiar to me then after reading your comment I remembered watching him in a vice documentary.
“He’s educated” ... Dimpy: “No he’s only got a Bachelors” ... LOOOOOOL ... Well at least she has finally found herself a Doctor husband so congratulations to her.
dimpy's brother is so handsome :)
Jus google John Abraham's duplicate it shows him with John Abraham in snap
ranieyfierce yet she’s hideous
sooo gorgeous
and a jerk
Dimpy's brother is also a A-hole.
Dimpy's brother is kinda good looking...and Dimpy oh my! she needs to grow up and stop hiding behind excuses that she has come up with. Dimpy seems too guarded behind her goofy personality and is too conscious of her looks to approach this matter maturely
ya u might be right
***** ya you could be right too but not all men are drawn to looks...but to me personally dimpy's behavior looked self defeating
+Audrey Adams ...well said Audrey Adams...! Dimpy is good at picking out flaws in her soon to be BAE, whom ever it will turn out to be! But with her very childish like personality....this is going to be one very long and tiresome task. (I watched this last year and wonder if shes been married off yet?)
+Audrey Adams She's not attractive in the slightest. And this superiority complex of her being a doctor is what's wrong with the Pakistani community. I'd get it if she was attractive, wait...not even then...
+ali khan why do I get the feeling that dimpy is still
not married?.
Zubair, you are such a nice guy! I wish you all the best!
stupid bitch
is he married
Rada S. Stupid racist cow
I do hope that Zubair was able to find a partner in life. He struck me as a person with a joyful, loving heart; I found his determination to contribute to the betterment of his community quite admirable.
There is nothing wrong with staying single. Not everyone is meant to be married.
Not in the Muslim community lol. Getting married completes half of a Muslim's deen (religion).
It´s actually a sunna, but it is better then commiting zina (wich is unlawful sex, girlfriend or boyfriend(for girls) is haram)
Nyasia, you're right but it's not a must to get married.
+Motivathletic I know.
you are right but you must get married
If I was not already married to a wonderful Muslim man I would marry that man with the beard
38:14
Wow that Mom is great. She got a really good point across and you could tell by her tone that she was careful not to hurt feelings. I think this girl is having a hard time finding a husband because she had a love with her dad that was very strong and no one else is measuring up.
Mom was making a good point with pretty much saying "You should let yourself free from those expectations. Find someone like him, but it's not him and you need to remember that." I really admire and respect that mom.
Edit: Ok it was aunt, not mom. But either way, my point stands lol
This was published in year 2012 and now we’ve got a month left until 2020. I hope that these 3 amazing people are happy and have already found a suitable partner!
My good friend Fathel who is Muslim from Iraq has been looking for a wife for the entire 4 years I've known him...I pray soon it will happen for Fathel
InshaAllah
This episode was quite interesting. Seven years have come and gone from the time the episode first aired, I'd love to see an update.
I am very happy to hear sister Naila mother's saying about her daughter that she knows her personality and she knows who can be the right person for her. I like that............
The conversation between mother and daughter was very cute: "It's up to you but you will be mad at me if I set you up with a cash & till guy."
I think Zubair should link up with Naila they seem as if they would make a lovely couple
Naila would never ever want to live her life in a 3rd world country like pakistan lol
Who knows maybe if she had the right husband she wouldn't mind
loooollllllll i dare you to go and live in pakistan for 6 months....no person in uk in their sane mind would ever want to go live in a 3rd world country like pakistan...doesn't matter even if he's the most perfect husband in the world
Oh I know I wouldn't want to ... but Im just saying ... Someone might. lol
Stasha R. even if they do they would soon divorce him and come back to the west...
Naila is so beautifull and humble while Dimpy is just like any other girl nowadays regardless of religion,materialistic and expects too much from men.
"princess if you're watching this I'm a little annoyed with how long you've been hiding but we'll talk about that later" lol
I love Naila and her mum! They are both just too sweet!
my father passed away 2 months ago... this really made me cry i miss him alot...
2019...just appear in homepage, and I'm still single in my 42 as a muslim women 😑😑
My auntie was 46 and she got married 2 years ago and she is really happy that she waited until she met her Mr right. Sometimes it just doesn't happen as fast as we want it to, so In Sha Allah make Dua and have hope xxx
im muslim 37 male single happy and trying to understand why ? 😄
*It was difficult for me too, after many of my proposals failed and after registering to many Islamic sites and many were scam. All over sudden a man related to my mom remembered me when I went for a visit to their home and he's the one who proposed me to my husband. I got married at 2015 in my early thirties please pray for me to have children and I pray to all of you to get your halal soul mates soon without difficulties!*
Run Rach subhanallah
@@artisthusnatalal3099 Ameen
Zubair is a really sweet and pious man mashallah! I hope he finds a wife soon!
13:32 '..and be fruity‘
Ahahah someone was def taking the piss 😂😂
The fact that neils mom is taking notes while on the phone with the guy😂
what's 'traditional' muslim? since when has it been classified as modern and traditional?
There are a lot of Muslims that do not follow Quran or sunnah, such as women who don't wear hijab, men who claim they are gay, those who engage in premarital sex, etc. I think that's what some consider to be modern.
Ahuh like most muslimah wearing hijab wearing thick make up thats modern muslim with a tight clothings.. difference with not wearing hijab is that they are more open minded and definitely not a hypocrite! stop making it sound as if not wearing hijab is sooooo bad, there are a lot of things to top that and it doesnt make any muslim women who not wearing it less of a muslim! DUHHHH Nyasia
Zane Wilson
Zane your so right. Alot of girls nowadays who wear hijab wear tons of make-up, tight clothes(tight tops with pants/tight dresses), don't cover properly and judge others. For girls who don't wear hijab but wear long tops, nice dresses, have nice style, dress with elegance, don't judge others it's better to have a clear conscious and strong faith in Allah(swt) and not seeking attention from others.
So Dimply doesn't want to go to the marriage events because they'll be desperate people? ... but isn't she desperate for marriage? for like 10 years i swear so basically she's more desperate than them. the IRONY.
Ye I mean she’s not a good catch tbh lol so she needs to lower the standards
Zubair is awesome... So funny and happy :D
and u r stupid
Why does Dimpy speak in a posh accent with her brothers and with her Mum, in a broad bud-bud-ding-ding accent!!??
She likes drama
Dimpy seems so full of herself, if you want a perfect man ( which there aren’t ) except in our minds , then she needs to be perfect too , which again is not possible. At least you have to be likable which Dimpy certainly is not with her snobby attitude, judgement , holier than thou attitude. She first needs to make herself suitable, which means losing the weight and her holier than thou attitude.
That's very normal and we all do it, usually out of respect for the person we are talking to its called linguistic mirroring and happens very naturally for some
Bud bud ding ding - classic!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Really dont understand why Zubair has such a hard time finding someone. He is so cute!
Gitze Because Zubair is very religious and strict about whom to marry
Because he is asking whoever he meets to leave there families to live with him in Pakistan. Th girl he spoke with was not fond of the long distance from her family
Loving this! They are all so sweet and so lucky to have such great families and spirits. Best of luck to you all.
Alright guys, being a Psych major makes me no expert and I may end up having my own struggles in finding a partner. I see that this video is 2 years old, but still these are thoughts I had about 2 of these folks.
1. Br. Zubair's case is probably the easier one to understand/resolve. It isn't that he hasn't found success, and in the video at the end, you can see a sister he liked was interested in him too. His problem/concern is one of a major life decision change. He is planning to move permanently to Pakistan which is a huge decision. Firstly, he doesn't know what's waiting for him there and whether he will want to come back to UK. It's cool to have this desire for a 'roots' experience, but when you really get there, you may end up feeling totally different. You think everyone there speaks Urdu, the streets are going to be clean and you will have the secure, convenient life of UK there, when in fact only the Urdu part maybe true and you are running yourself into a totally different culture (even if you have a Pak background). The suggestion is to make one life change at a time and not 2 major changes. He should go to Pakistan first, see how he likes it there and take it from there. Secondly, his chances of finding a UK practicing Muslim girl who would be willing to relocate to Pakistan are very slim. It doesn't seem like he sees that that's close to a real impossibility. Unless there is another woman who has the exact same, proactive interest as his and wants to relocate just like him, he is not going to find someone. People want to come from Pak to UK, not really the other way. Or maybe he needs to find an immigrant Pakistani who wants to go back to Pakistan after having been in the UK for a while or go to a Pakistan and find a girl there. He needs to chill and take one thing at a time.
2. Sister Dimpy - The idea of settling for something lesser than she wants or making compromises doesn't seem to be the real problem in her case. That is just a cover up for something deeper - that the sister identifies with her dad's desire for her instead of finding her own identity. It's cool to be a doctor and to make a lot of money, but emotional independence is a more valued possession for individual happiness. When you know your dad is the one who will never hurt you, and then if he suddenly left you, one way to protect him in your mind is to identify with his desires for you. Not marrying a doctor is not a compromise for Dimpy perse since she isn't really making her own choice to begin with, but that would be like failing her father. It would be in many ways the same as stabbing him behind his back when she should be the one saving him. However, if she could explore this with someone, she can attain more clarity on how to process these thoughts and feelings. She needs to think about whether she can really be happy by choosing her partner through the lens of her father. She needs to ask herself a heavier question, as to whether it was right for her dad to ask something of her when she should be the one deciding her choice of partner. And the toughest part of this exploration is resolving the conflicting feelings of a dad who would shower his love on her on one hand and on the other hand, would tell her what to do with her marriage, when in fact ideally he should have asked her what she wanted for herself. (And if you drag it one step back, she can forgive her dad for being so since he possibly inherited his 'I tell you what to do' attitude from his parents maybe). This internal conflict is sensitive and can evoke tears, feelings of loneliness, hurt, and panic, but it looks like that's the route to go. If she does end up finding her doctor male, she would still be living vicariously through her dad and it will not result in much of a happy marriage. Even if the task is heavy, to find your own identity despite the hate or love that your parents gave you is the only way to enjoyment in relationships. Identifying with a parent's desires for oneself is generally more prevalent in Desi cultures and I know it since I see it all the time. For Dimpy, it is one step more challenging since her identification with her father's desires for her serves an important purpose of protecting his love for her and it will take certain steps to challenge that without abandoning her own mind.
Marriage problems amongst Muslims in the West are a reality. These 2 cases above are those that have nothing to do with 'availability' or lack of compatible mates, but other issues that need to be resolved differently.
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Uh no, Rameez at 5:14 is wrong. The Quran mentions NOTHING of segregating the sexes.
Ali Siddiqui Closed room!
Yes, being in closed room is forbidden!
No the only rule is it cant be just one guy and just one girl in some private place. And if they are in a mixed setting both genders must follow the rules of modesty. Thats all.
the guy is cool but just dropping everything and moving is too much for many.... :[
If he plans to live in Pakistan, then he should be looking for a girl who was brought up in Pakistan and is known to Pakistan's culture; it would be harder for a UK girl to adjust in that environment.
@@fiwhjijwoj5782 hahaha, no, they enjoy enslavement, so ripping a woman from the Uk and bring her to Pakistan to breed with, just like a cattle, that is what they love the most. Inshallah!
@@Kyra_of_Kerkyra Who's 'they'? Anyway, forced marriage is haraam. If she wants to marry and move, it's her choice. He may stay single forever, or find a wife who wants to live in a muslim majority country. We don't know
ok, as an American woman, that brother thinks leaving his crap around is giving her practice? ?? Really for what being a servant. I am glad that my husband doesn't think like that! I enjoy taking care if him but he doesn't expect me to jump and do his bidding. I understand that things are different in other cultures but who boy, that would drive me crazy!
'It's practice...' my response: how about you practice putting your s#!t in the dishwasher, dude! 😂
He actually shouldn’t be doing that , Islamically , the men actually have to take care of the women because they are obligated to do so , the women dosen’t Islamically have to do anything for the man but most do just to be kind.
Exactly. The prophet Muhammad (saw) cleaned the house, did his own laundry, ironed his own clothes etc yet arab/asian culture makes it out like women have to cook and clean well at all times. When I raise my kids Alllaaa yalll will be cleaning. No gender duties in the home. Everyone gotta clean and do their part
@@sameera6255 ironed his clothes........?
@@maryamkidwai2543 ...thats what i said
“If you fell off the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, then maybe this isn’t the right brother to contact” 😂😂😂
She’s really funny ❤️
Why didn't they set up Zubair and Naila?
I know right!
Akiya James I'm asking myself the same question.. She is looking for a humorous person?! Hhmm I think I know one. lol
Akiya James Lool this is something I was thinking about 😂
Akiya James Are you Muslim?!
Akiya James
that's exactly what I thought
MasyaAllah, Zubair is so charming in many ways; Naila is simply gorgeous inside and out; and Dimpy is such a successful and confident Muslimah! Respect all of them, really. Hoping for the best for all my Muslim brothers and sisters everywhere, In shaa Allah.
There should be a Strictly Soulmate episode on Sikh from New Delhi, India living in the UK...that would be so exciting to watch!
Nobody is interested in SIKHS trust me.... nobody of Indian subcontinent is interested in Sikhs
As a Muslim, (and I must mention that I’m not a practising Muslim, I see myself as a spiritual person), I’m saddened, and in fact surprised
to see what an archaic way is followed by our young Muslims to find a partner. And to think that they have been born and grown up in western
countries, with their liberal culture and thinking. I don’t for a moment suggest that promiscuity is the answer, but surely, that a 30-odd year old man doesn’t know how to conduct himself in female company.... good heavens! Which world are we living in?
Muslims are the most backward people in the world today, and this is one manifestation of it. We have to abandon these archaic ways and
adopt a way of life that’s more in keeping with modern times. This is the only way we can return to our glorious past.
Dave 1977 it’s ignorant people like you who are responsible for giving Islam a bad name. You belong to the dark ages so just go back to wherever you came from.
Astaghfirullah
@@mohammedkhan6039
If you followed islam you wouldn't have said that.. don't even call yourself a non-practising muslim and lie to yourself you are a non-muslim like the one's you chossed to follow instead of our guide
This was so interesting good luck to all of them hope they find their future spouse they are all lovely. It can totally understand it's hard finding the right person who matter what religion or race you are but the key is to be patient
In Islam, you don't NEED to get married, you are encouraged to
People confuse culture with religion. That's why people think Honor Killings and arrange marriages part of islam.
Dimpy's brother is so cute mashallah!
My advice for my sisters and brothers who are single is pray to Allah and keep steady fast and be patien and no that God has a plan keep making duas because Allah is the most gracious in the most merciful
I can't believe Dimpy is a doctor and didn't know how to operate a dishwasher.
If I lived in America or the UK and some guy I just meet asked me to move to Pakistan with him and leave my friends and family... I would laugh in his face.
I left all that you said friends and family for a Finland man :)
Diana Erika Reyes
Finland is not Pakistan ... you get the idea?
Mike Wang thank you! I did not even comment back to her because it was so fucking stupid how she could compare Finland to Pakistan..
Diana Erika Reyes LMAOOO!!! Diana google some images of pakistan.....then tell me if you would like to stay there rest of ur life loool
Diana Erika Reyes
Hmm, strange you left everything for a "finland" man, and you cannot even write the term right, which is i left everything for a FINNISH man. Funny you have lived here for so long and not know that, when almost everyone here speaks english.. And comparing Finland to Pakistan.. just.. wow..
Dimpy is beautiful but she thinks she's all that and look down on people coz she's a doc and that's where the problem is
Looking down on ppl makes a person ugly.
She is ugly
Agree. I wonder if she was raised with string attitudes about class and status?
Her problem is too much drama!
I"d go out with that girl she was talking to a t 24:00 in a heartbeat.
Zubair looks like sasha in the dictator.
subhana ALLAH every one is looking for superficial things. what happened to knowledge of the deen and Quran, the sunnah
brother with the beard. I wish you the best. Remember our prophet did say to give glad tidings to the strangers. I just wish I had your kind of beard.
+Hakim Razernite He has his own UA-cam channel. He's divorced now.
Nyasia Kamara what's the UA-cam channel please?
+MiaMiah THEBIGZBEAR
thanks :)
Dimpy said she already turn down 60 men before. My bad ass brain thinks the other way rounds.
lol yea me too
Dimpy..no way, I would demand a recount if they tell me she is the last woman on earth.
This was amazing, love these cultural shows.
2019 - i am writing my comment here in year 2019. But the problem 2012 and 2019 its still same and sadly in 2019 the marriage itself generally in Muslim ummah is more hard.
The reason is basically both Muslim men and women have become into perfect match and not realizing their is nothing perfect in match. You have to sacrifice and give up something from your whims and thoughts and desires to get a good person in life. Its obvious but sadly very few people today in Muslim ummah are aware of it. Just don't be hardcore strict in whatever you want and In sha Allah, you'll get a spouse easily. But like we seen in this video if people have become hardcore, strict in their approach the chance is they won't get a match easily.
For example in this video two of women had the opportunity to communicate in different level with 60 and 20 people respectively but being too stucked in what they think the person should be, they didn't get a spouse. and Allah knows the best.
But i hope and pray that since its old video from 2012 so till now all of them had been married and Allah would have granted them righteous children as well. If not, we still pray for them and Muslim ummah that may Allah grant them good righteous spouse, ameen.
Naila is as cute as a button mA! And I met someone whose brother ended up marrying her after seeing her on this show!
Really, ı was wondering whether she found someone, so how long has she been married for? And do they have any kids?
I amm soo happy for her :DD is she happy ?
Naila is super beautiful & extremely humble. I wish her all the best... Beard guy should look for his wife in Pakistan. Why relocate someone......
'Men and women aren't even supposed to be in the same room." WHERE in the Quran does it say that?!!? Please quote.
It's a hadith
@@kingkad5648 The hadith doesn't say that. It says they shouldn't be ALONE in a room together.
How does anyone male or female get to their 20s without knowing how to operate a dishwasher when they grow up in a place like the UK...
I don't understand. Why is it soo hard to marry nowadays .
Destiny Gun Reviews I don’t know I’ve got family members right now non are not married and they are like in 25 to 27 28 why is it so hard I just don’t know
Many are choosy!
People / family can be too picky on the person. A lot of Muslims want their kids to marry someone from the same country and not mind someone outside that even if they are Muslim. Some ethnicities want someone from the same tribe or sect as them which narrows the list.
Update on Dimpy: She's now happily married, still practising medicine, lost the weight and has beautiful baby Mashallah. May Allah keep her happy
2012- women do not find beards attractive. 2024 -- every guy has a beard.
The teacher is so funny, basically "happy wife, happy life"
I'm an engaged Muslim woman and that sums it up exactly
And any men who do not follow that rule are not following what true Islam is all about
He is hilarious and would make a good husband his the whole package
I really feel sad for what people go through to find the right person specially women. I just hope y'all find that person you belong to. I'm sure they're all worthed. May Allah make it easy for y'all and me. Inshallah.
Why I am looking this 8 year's old documentary :-D
I like how Naila, was so concerned with fitting in with the family and not just the guy. I'm a Christian and I see a lot of benefit in how these traditional Muslims look for a spouse. I hope they all find who they are looking for.
Damn she's blaming her dad for her own hangups. My dad joked to me when I was a child to go to law school or doctor and marry and then divorce and take their money. He was just kidding though. He is really progressive for where we live. I met a homeless man and we fell in love and my father really liked him but I never thought once to please my parents and I am religious but I need to be with someone that is my soulmate whether or not my parents approve. My husband was a great amazing man, I would never choose someone that is percieved successful to outside world. My opinion is if you're happy, positive and content, that's the most successful you can be.
By the looks of it, her dad obviously wasn't kidding and probably had that backwards mentality of finding a doctor. He probably doesn't even care in his grave now about her finding a doctor as he's with Allah now but we don't look at it in that sense and feel like it's the right thing to do to fulfil their wishes after their gone and can break you apart so ı understand where she is coming from but yer she should just get married to someone she's happy with but the pain of letting go of her dads wish is the obstacle. From reading others comments, she did get married