What I learned From 2 Years of Marriage (Nikkah) - 2024 Muslim Marriage Advice

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  • @mohammedkhattab6003
    @mohammedkhattab6003 5 місяців тому +1628

    As a Palestinian, our culture makes marriage very difficult. Back in Ramadan, I proposed to a good woman, we both liked each other, families got along and everything. Then a month later her father called everything off because he wanted to have a wedding with music and I wasn't going to do that. He ruined everything because he wanted a haram wedding. Hes a good guy, but he allowed his desires to ruin what could have been a good marriage. Two months later and I just think as to why my culture is like this? Just baffles me tbh, but Allah is the best of planners!

    • @abdullaal-obaidi833
      @abdullaal-obaidi833 5 місяців тому +93

      I heard drums in celebratory type events like Eid and weddings you can use, so maybe u could’ve proposed drums only and Allah swt knows best

    • @mohammedkhattab6003
      @mohammedkhattab6003 5 місяців тому +184

      @abdullaal-obaidi833 I believe you're talking about the duff. The duff can be used for celebrating events such as weddings and eid, but only by women. I did extensive research into this alternative and others, because I wanted to make it work, but her father wasn't interested in giving any of this a chance. He said, "I am not going to waiver on this." And said it wasn't going to work out. I didn't even really care about my feelings tbh, I just didn't want her to feel saddened or even worse for her father to accept someone else who isn't practicing as best they could be. A father should have his daughter's best interest in mind when selecting a potential for her, but some father's will reject men who check the necessary boxes islamically speaking, for cultural reasons, which is honestly such a shame.

    • @IBRAHIMDeenUP
      @IBRAHIMDeenUP 5 місяців тому +179

      You don’t want a father in law like that anyway. Next he is telling you to take out a line of credit and a mortgage to support his daughter. Allah is protecting you from a future of cultural Islam ahki

    • @keepsmiling198
      @keepsmiling198 5 місяців тому +44

      A father’s opinion is important but: is he the one marrying you in the end or his daughter? There has to be a balance. Is it even a valid reason to reject you because of this? Is it in accordance with the teachings of Islam? Maybe talk to a sheikh about this if you haven’t already. May Allah make it easy for you 🤲🏼

    • @aodeh2648
      @aodeh2648 5 місяців тому +25

      are you a westoid palestinian? would the marriage have protected you from greater sins? Had you married into the family could you have made a positive net difference to them? Some things to consider.

  • @idantedit6230
    @idantedit6230 4 місяці тому +324

    Since 2020, i prayed to Allah for this girl to be my wife. The moment i saw her, my heart was taken. I kept praying as my love kept growing, and my soul kept following her whenever i saw her in university. Last year, i had a dream of seeing her, and in that dream, i heard, " she will be your wife." I made istkhara, and i kept having dreams and started seeing my family are supportive of marrying this girl. Alhamdulilah, now we are married and happy than ever. When i think about it, i feel like it was like a movie or something❤.

    • @Youtube_user_nhvrxdhn
      @Youtube_user_nhvrxdhn 3 місяці тому +23

      Alhumdulillah! What a beautiful lovestory. May Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) bless your marriage.

    • @some1947
      @some1947 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@UA-cam_user_nhvrxdhn Aameen

    • @BlueCodesDev
      @BlueCodesDev 2 місяці тому +5

      Dude u'r blessed

    • @imalex6268
      @imalex6268 2 місяці тому +7

      actually a movie man, Congrats brother

    • @casojidesigns327
      @casojidesigns327 2 місяці тому +4

      You are ONE Lucky guy and your wife Tripple lucky!!!

  • @ayesha3303
    @ayesha3303 4 місяці тому +127

    I met my husband in muzz late last year after a long time I searching. I spoke to Allah ta'ala that i would rather die single than marry someone who is detrimental to my Deen (i am a revert so Islam is very important to me). I met my husband a few months later and we got married February this year at 4 months of knowing each other alhamdulillah.

  • @HanaHana-ft9li
    @HanaHana-ft9li 4 місяці тому +125

    I’m 33 got married 10 years ago and my oldest is 9. Everyone around me told me I was too young to get married even tho am a female and time for a female is super important. Alhamdulilah million times I met my husband through a mutual from from uni I didn’t really think it would be anything but within a month my husband asked me to marry him and move in with him the same month. I was super shocked. He’s just a year older than me and everyone around me my mom and my sisters and brothers all said it was crazy but I trusted him so much. Alhamdulilah he never disappointed me. 10 years later with 4 children we are still so close Alhamdulilah. Helps me around the house and with the kids never allows me to wash his clothes or iron them. I’m only responsible for the kids and their needs never asks me to cook for him or likes to argues. Alhamdulilah. May Allah bless very Muslim with a good spouse who helps them in this difficult journey called life. It breaks my heart to see so many unmarried Muslims whom families make everything hard for them. Family shouldn’t support shaytan against their own kids. Make marriage easy please.

    • @Zaineb.D
      @Zaineb.D 4 місяці тому +7

      Mashaالله sis. Any advices to have a successful marriage like yours? May Allah bless you and your family ❤

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 4 місяці тому +7

      @@HanaHana-ft9li Allahumma Baarik.
      May Allah give barakah in your marriage sister.
      Do pray for me to find a very righteous man who is good for my Deen, Dunya and Akhirah.
      May Allah give me a good, righteous, caring, loving husband as well who helps me with everything and support me. May Allah heal my heart and fill it with Noor and may Allah bless me with a very soft man who speaks good words to me and fears breaking my heart. Aameen

    • @HanaHana-ft9li
      @HanaHana-ft9li 4 місяці тому +4

      @@kehfilwara1692 with all my heart Amin. May Allah give you a righteous Muslim husband who will never let you down. Please educate yourself about deen and always remember shaytan is real. He’s out there destroying values and families. Even when you meet the right person he will throw doubts in you don’t listen to him. May Allah protect you and grant you your wishes.

    • @HanaHana-ft9li
      @HanaHana-ft9li 4 місяці тому

      @@kehfilwara1692 also don’t trust online personalities who talk about how a Muslim man should be etc etc. Walahi they know nothing about Islam. Ppl like Mahdi who promotes multiple marriages and how men should be tough Auzubillah. Ppl like that if they see my husband they would think he’s weak but he’s far from it. A true Muslim man never raised his voice on his wife someone who’s under his protection. He won’t hurt her. Our prophet never cursed any of his wives nither did he ever hit a woman. He was soft spoken. They narrate once Aisha (radiyallahu anha) became jealous of one of his other wives and threw a plate full of food which was sent by said wife. The prophet smiled and said your mother is jealous. He didn’t call her names or even criticise her. Whenever they wash clothes he was the one who hangs up them. When Aisha was asked what the prophet used to do at home she said ( he was always in service if his family) internet Muslims make fun of a man who helps in the house. This is what Muslims ended up to be in these days and age. May Allah protect you from the evil of internet and increase your knowledge in Islam.

    • @comedyalbums7202
      @comedyalbums7202 3 місяці тому +1

      But sister if all work is done by ur husband then who will take care of him,,,,, u love ur children but what about the man who is sacrificing a lot just to make u happy,,,,, if u don't do any work iam not getting this point 😅​@@HanaHana-ft9li

  • @anaspradhan6924
    @anaspradhan6924 5 місяців тому +451

    I'm also 23, but unmarried. Didn't know you are married. May Allah bless your marriage and life, for what you are doing for the deen.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +78

      Ameen ya rabb may Allah bless and elevate you my brother

    • @kamranemin5356
      @kamranemin5356 5 місяців тому +11

      May Allah grant you a righteous spouse

    • @kamranemin5356
      @kamranemin5356 5 місяців тому +4

      Soon

    • @euphoria6681
      @euphoria6681 5 місяців тому +1

      Bro your name is Pradhan , are you a revert muslim ?

    • @jjffjdjdjfjdjdjdjdj
      @jjffjdjdjfjdjdjdjdj 4 місяці тому

      ​@@euphoria6681his first name in his username is anas

  • @RealCoachMustafa
    @RealCoachMustafa 5 місяців тому +420

    I agree with you that Allah delays your marriage for a reason. I wanted to get married when I was 20, but Allah delayed my marriage until I was 32. Looking back, I wasn't ready. I wasn't responsible enough yet.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +52

      Allahuakbar, may Allah bless your marriage my brother

    • @Blaze0071
      @Blaze0071 4 місяці тому +5

      Allahu Akbar. That patience was a means a reward for you brother. insha'Allah I can have such patience too

    • @sonumohammed9610
      @sonumohammed9610 4 місяці тому +7

      Allahu Akbar.
      Yes we humans are dumb to be honest. And we just want everything so fast. But Allah knows the perfect timing.

    • @shabzxd
      @shabzxd 4 місяці тому +3

      Man im 16 and thought i was ready before i watchee this video man i was wrong

    • @roy-kn7pi
      @roy-kn7pi 4 місяці тому

      I'm 26 I really want to get married but I think i'm still not ready, do you have any advice brother for me to speed up the process like where should I start?

  • @dearkorina3157
    @dearkorina3157 4 місяці тому +395

    Alhamdulillah I just got married 3 weeks ago. It did just happen out of no where. One day I had never seen this man in my life and the next I saw him and my stomach dropped to the floor. I was in love with him from the very first second I saw him and when I heard his voice it was like the song of my heart. It was the most beautiful sound I ever heard. subhanAllah ❤
    I want to add that I made du'a for years and years. Even before I was Muslim I prayed and prayed and prayed for the most perfect relationship of my life. I am 33 which some may think is late in life to get married but Allah knows best.

    • @greenbananas12378
      @greenbananas12378 4 місяці тому +1

      How did you reach out to

    • @jupiterian5831
      @jupiterian5831 4 місяці тому +26

      Machallah! As a hopeless romantic you’re story made me tear up. May Allah swt bless you and your marriage❤

    • @cinnamon88
      @cinnamon88 4 місяці тому

      Pls when did you start praying? You said “years and years” when did it all start

    • @zadalaiba516
      @zadalaiba516 4 місяці тому +5

      May Allah bless your marriage. Allahumma aamiinn. Thank you for sharing ❤

    • @sshaikh8104
      @sshaikh8104 4 місяці тому +1

      I am at the same place you were once pray for me

  • @AbouFitness
    @AbouFitness 5 місяців тому +411

    Mashallah Brother. I'm getting married next month. I am 20 years old, make dua for me for a successful marriage.

    • @golemaster11
      @golemaster11 5 місяців тому +20

      May Allah bless your marriage.

    • @Akisoezz
      @Akisoezz 4 місяці тому +13

      May Allah make ur life successful and better after getting married

    • @AbouFitness
      @AbouFitness 4 місяці тому +3

      @@AkisoezzAmeen. jazakallah

    • @purvez
      @purvez 4 місяці тому +2

      Ameen

    • @AbdulRahman-zl3ec
      @AbdulRahman-zl3ec 4 місяці тому +1

      Ameen

  • @millyapopo4457
    @millyapopo4457 3 місяці тому +111

    Am a widow and so lonely. My late hubby was a Muslim he had converted me I have three adult children.praying that Allah gives me an understanding and loving man. Allah grant me peace. Love from kenya

    • @Fia316
      @Fia316 3 місяці тому +4

      May allah give u all the happiness you want and a righteous spouse

    • @Gul_youtube
      @Gul_youtube 3 місяці тому +2

      I recommend Sunnah Match platform to find a husband in a halal way, sister.

    • @Reda-l8l
      @Reda-l8l 2 місяці тому

      Amin

    • @comedyalbums7202
      @comedyalbums7202 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Fia316 is marriage is so temporary according to islam iam telling a she is a widow and her late husband loved her and she even want to get remarried i see many reasons why marriage is a fake love contract

    • @blackbeautifulandsmart2849
      @blackbeautifulandsmart2849 Годину тому

      Allahumma ameen.🤲

  • @hafsa2am
    @hafsa2am 4 місяці тому +156

    I’m 31 and really unwell and I don't actually believe that anyone could handle a spouses illnesses. Please make duaa that Allaah graces you with someone to aid you both in the dunya and thereafter. ☀️

    • @kehfilwara1692
      @kehfilwara1692 4 місяці тому +19

      May Allah bless us with a spouse who can be our best friend and aid us both in the dunya and the Akhirah.
      Sister! Don’t worry, Allah is ever Kind to His Servants, He( Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) will surely bless you with the best spouse who would treat you with love, kindness and wouldn’t mind your illness.

    • @اشتاق_للماضي_الجميل
      @اشتاق_للماضي_الجميل 4 місяці тому

      May Allah Aza wajal cure your illnesses ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

    • @sarahe.h.1010
      @sarahe.h.1010 4 місяці тому +5

      Never give up. Allah knows. Keep making dua ❤

    • @nanochan1168
      @nanochan1168 4 місяці тому +12

      I have seen people married with sever disabilities, I won't sugar coated and say it is easy. I myself have chronic illness but remember sister we don't need society to find us the best options we only need one person to see that being with us is worth the effort and Allah is The all mighty nothing is impossible to him he will bring you the right person. May you find each other and fill each day with joy and happiness 😊

    • @mohamoudmohamoud9040
      @mohamoudmohamoud9040 4 місяці тому +4

      It depends on your mindset, not anything else. Sister, just you have to aim high. Inshalah, I wish the best for you.

  • @kareemali2688
    @kareemali2688 5 місяців тому +130

    I'm nearly 26 and still on the journey. May Allah provide me what is best for the best in me. And to all my brothers and sisters pertaining to what is good for our soul and iman.

  • @watchbavaria
    @watchbavaria 5 місяців тому +124

    Preach brother, I was "ready" when I was 19 but I couldn't have been more wrong lol I eventually got married at the age of 24 (im 28 soon) and I 100% marriage just happened. One day I was single working at home living with my family then my potential contacted me and one thing led to another and well we got married al-hamdulilah.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +20

      Alhumdulallah my brother, may Allah bless you in your marriage💪🏽

    • @Roselover567
      @Roselover567 Місяць тому

      How did you meet?

  • @LivinwithPat
    @LivinwithPat 5 місяців тому +136

    i turn 21 next month. gonna be 5 years revert ahumdillah ut moving from big city to small town for uni is unique. esp with the fitnah. may Allah swt make it ez for all of us Muslims ameen

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +4

      Ameen and Mabrook my brother, may Allah bless you 💪🏽❤️

    • @S9.S4
      @S9.S4 4 місяці тому

      Masha'Allah.. you're blessed my brother with guidance. happy for you bro

  • @us3r1100
    @us3r1100 5 місяців тому +225

    make dua I get married soon pls😭may Allah bless us with pious spouses Ameen

  • @YEAGERlST
    @YEAGERlST 5 місяців тому +170

    If you read this;
    Say "SubhanAllah" 33x
    Say "Alhamdulillah" 33x
    Say "Allahu akbar" 34x
    May Allah reward you.

    • @Humpbackrue
      @Humpbackrue 5 місяців тому +2

      سبحان الله وبحمده
      سبحان الله العظيم

    • @blank8168
      @blank8168 5 місяців тому +5

      What you've mentioned is (albeit in reverse order) the tasbeeh of Sayyida Fatima Zahra (Peace by upon her), the daughter of the Holy Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him).
      The correct order is as follows:
      34 x اللهُ أَکْبَر / Allahu Akbar
      33x ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰه / Alḥamdu lillah
      33x سُبْحَانَ ٱللَّٰه / SubḥanAllah

    • @Nextlifeisbetter
      @Nextlifeisbetter 2 місяці тому

      Jazakallah khair

  • @jennamuller5977
    @jennamuller5977 4 місяці тому +119

    We did our Nikkah in Ramadan this year, unfortunately he gave me the first Talaaq a week ago, I just don’t think he was ready for the lifelong commitment, please make dua’a for Allah to make this easy for me in my Iddah period inshallah. Because it has been extremely hard. 💔

    • @hibbah3210
      @hibbah3210 4 місяці тому +10

      InShaAllah sister may Allah make it easy for u, and give u the best of the bestest from His bounty. Please pray/make dua and have patience

    • @sokkaslostboomerangg2593
      @sokkaslostboomerangg2593 4 місяці тому +4

      Allah will give you ease, he is hearing and he is with you, im so sorry, it may take time, but Allah is with you and he hears your cries. May Allah make it easy for you

    • @jennamuller5977
      @jennamuller5977 4 місяці тому

      @AlyssaZennorAmeen 🙌🏼

    • @jennamuller5977
      @jennamuller5977 4 місяці тому

      ⁠@@hibbah3210Ameen thumma Ameen 🤲🏼

    • @jennamuller5977
      @jennamuller5977 4 місяці тому

      @@sokkaslostboomerangg2593Ameen 🤲🏼

  • @nassrnassr4215
    @nassrnassr4215 5 місяців тому +139

    Alhamdulilallah I’m 20 and got married within the last month. It’s pressure but also very good feeling alhamdulilallah but I trust Allah 100% to guide me. Jazakallah brother for your advice and may Allah elevate u to the highest levels of jannah ameen.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +22

      Wa iyaakum! Allahuma Ameen ya rabb. May Allah bless you in your marriage and grant you and your family the highest levels of jannah

    • @ateeqahmed7945
      @ateeqahmed7945 5 місяців тому

      Allahummabarik akhi, may I know where you are from?

    • @nassrnassr4215
      @nassrnassr4215 5 місяців тому

      @@ateeqahmed7945 I’m from Sudan ahk. But I live and was born in the UK

    • @mr.knockknock3705
      @mr.knockknock3705 5 місяців тому

      Allahuma baarik, I wish I was married that age. 36 now Khayr in shaa Allah

    • @Ahmed-jv7oc
      @Ahmed-jv7oc 5 місяців тому +2

      Im 20 too brother, feel lost in life. How did you get married at such a young age?

  • @khodorhachem2002
    @khodorhachem2002 3 місяці тому +9

    Alsalam w alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
    Allahumma Barik, may Allah swt increase the Barakah and love in your marriage.
    Iam 22 and unmarried. Alhamdulillah, i follow the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet saw, but trying to get married seems impossible, i really want to get married for the sake of Allah. Please, keep me in your duas!
    ربنا هب لنا من ازواجنا و ذرياتنا قرة أعين و إجعلنا للمتقين إماما

  • @rayblitz1713
    @rayblitz1713 5 місяців тому +92

    I just turned 19 with a solid amount of money saved up. My father is making it a bit of a hassle cuz he doesn't wanna get me married here in australia. May allah bless me with a good wife 😢🤲

    • @hariswillsharegood
      @hariswillsharegood 5 місяців тому +1

      inshallah

    • @Noodles-bn9ug
      @Noodles-bn9ug 4 місяці тому +16

      If your a man that's your life, I am sick of these parents doing zlum to the kids it's not their life I have a daughter and I well never force her to marry someone she don't like that's haram. Alot of parents use the authority that Allah gave them to abuse the kids this is zlum not just.

    • @Livinginthepresentmoment07
      @Livinginthepresentmoment07 4 місяці тому +3

      He is right, womens past matter, Becareful!

    • @mahmedakan
      @mahmedakan 4 місяці тому +10

      @@Noodles-bn9ug Out of thousands of languages the brother or sister decided to speak facts. Allahummabarik.

    • @mick_jjp3456
      @mick_jjp3456 4 місяці тому

      Ameen

  • @ashfaquei.k.426
    @ashfaquei.k.426 4 місяці тому +29

    Ya Muqallib al-quloob thabbit qalbi 'ala deenik
    يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ
    “O Controller of hearts, make my heart firm in Your religion.”

    • @Omer_578
      @Omer_578 4 місяці тому +1

      "O Turner of hearts"* جزاك الله خير

  • @JohnTronto
    @JohnTronto 5 місяців тому +48

    Cats stole the show mashallah 😊 To all brothers & sisters who havent get married yet may Allah bless you all with the best, righteous, beautiful, compatible spouses with whom you gain Allah blessings in this world & after.

  • @ninjaz31
    @ninjaz31 5 місяців тому +42

    You mention about styles of communication and different people having different ways of communicating. I feel like a video explaining different types and how to best to communicate to different types would be useful

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +13

      Great suggestion inn shaa Allah!

  • @thomasbuxton2648
    @thomasbuxton2648 5 місяців тому +52

    If you’re able to get married young, it’s such a blessing, especially as a man.
    I’m guessing you’re not 100% established, so a lady wanting to marry you means she actually desires you for you.
    At 31, I feel I’ve passed the point where a lady would want me for me. At this age marriage is about how many boxes you tick: finance, stability etc like I’m a product being picked off a shelf.
    May Allah bless your marriage habibi

    • @thelemurofmadagascar9183
      @thelemurofmadagascar9183 5 місяців тому +29

      Brother, don't feel so pessimistic about yourself. 31 is still pretty young for a man, and age generally matters less to women. If anything, a lot of women prefer older mature men.
      As for your money, please don't feel objectified just because a woman might like your money. As long as it's not the only reason she's marrying you, there's nothing wrong with it. It's no different than a man wanting his wife to be beautiful. As long as it's not the main purpose of the marriage, it's a perfectly okay thing to value.

    • @marytheraspberry3145
      @marytheraspberry3145 5 місяців тому +16

      I'm sure there are women your same age looking for a pious husband. I don't believe it's possible for all of them to only want you for your money.

    • @thomasbuxton2648
      @thomasbuxton2648 5 місяців тому

      @@marytheraspberry3145they probably are but I’ve been rejected by every one of them.
      The money thing is just an extra thing playing on my mind, but it doesn’t really matter when I get rejected from the outset anyway.
      I have never been good enough to even be considered for marriage. I am screened out from the very beginning.
      Also piety doesn’t matter to most women (and men, I’m not hating them for it) if you’re not attractive to them in the first place.
      As a 5’2 balding man, it’s not a surprise I’m not even somewhat attractive to them. So me being a pious practising man (not that I claim to be, but Alhamdulillah I do the basics and more) makes no difference

    • @hijabbathehutt
      @hijabbathehutt 5 місяців тому +8

      As a sister, I just want to say there are amazing Muslim women out there in their 30s (life happens differently for everyone) who are looking for good Muslim man. No checkbox to tick specifically other than truly their character and commitment to their deen and dunya (regards to family, relations, responsibilities …). May Allah make it easy for you.

    • @TheCastedone
      @TheCastedone 4 місяці тому +2

      You are stating facts bro. It's not the same as being married young. In the 30s women are looking for more stability and that is ok. Accept women for who they are. Enforce boundaries and grow to love each other. Women in their late 20s early 30s are simply ready to settle down and have children.

  • @eddymiles7229
    @eddymiles7229 2 місяці тому +3

    May ALLAH bless us with right spouses.. Amen

  • @Nassim-deen
    @Nassim-deen 5 місяців тому +10

    I’m also 23 and not married, ya Allah grant us pious spouses and make us good enough to deserve them

  • @PatrickMoon994
    @PatrickMoon994 5 місяців тому +80

    One more important thing.
    Be the best friend of your spouse. Share everything with them. I really mean everything.
    If there one person in the world that you can share everything with , it is your spouse.

    • @petal21
      @petal21 5 місяців тому +4

      unless it's a toxic one. 😢

    • @swavyhighlights2770
      @swavyhighlights2770 5 місяців тому +5

      Don’t do that

    • @andalusianstockmarket6284
      @andalusianstockmarket6284 4 місяці тому +7

      Bad idea never show.your weakness as a man , tgat puts your partner off. And if youre a women dont tell your husband the deviancies of your thoughts cause that will make him hate you to the core.

    • @ggthewhale
      @ggthewhale 4 місяці тому +4

      Do NOT do this lol

    • @OsirisMawn
      @OsirisMawn 4 місяці тому

      ​@@andalusianstockmarket6284exactly. This op here romanticising marriage. Or it's a woman probably.

  • @LeonEdwards-ij5pm
    @LeonEdwards-ij5pm 5 місяців тому +27

    Nice tips brother, beneficial for non-muslims viewers as well.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +4

      Thank you! I’m glad you liked it💪🏽

  • @thomasbuxton2648
    @thomasbuxton2648 5 місяців тому +27

    It’s difficult being 31 years old and rejected at every opportunity whilst I’ve stayed away from haram whilst my friends who had girlfriends and enjoyed romance in their younger years easily got married, some without putting hardly any effort in.

    • @umarhabib4197
      @umarhabib4197 5 місяців тому +37

      Don’t worry. Every sacrifice counts. It’s all for Allah. The reward is EXTREMELY IMMENSE in Jannah. It’s all worth it

    • @behappy9472
      @behappy9472 4 місяці тому +16

      Its a test for you, because Allah s.w.a likes you. So dont fail the test and alway say alhamdulillah for everything

    • @piousslave
      @piousslave 4 місяці тому +12

      "Only those who endure patiently will be given their reward without limit.”

    • @Hellfire_is_real
      @Hellfire_is_real 4 місяці тому +4

      Do a lot of istighfar with niya that Allah forgives your sins.
      Don't forget your athkar , and your daily obligatory acts. Don't eat Haram or earn Haram money.
      Make Dua and don't be impatient with Allah by asking why yr dua hasn't been answered.
      Do ruqya if u think that u may be afflicted with Ayn .
      You're being tested. Allah knows best about everything. If He decrees that you get married later in the future, there's Hikma for the timing. Seek aid from Allah. Allah is aware of everything. Just be patient and keep making Dua.

    • @AnassMountasser
      @AnassMountasser 4 місяці тому

      Im gonna give you the honest truth: Women are easily icked out by men based on how they act socially. Your freinds had experience with women, and have learned how to seduce and make them interested, so of course its easier for them to get potential spouses to like them. You however never did haram, but that means you don't know how to act romantically with women, and thus can easily give them the ick. It is sad because the burden of good romantic social skills is on the man, as he has to lead, but feel free to ask me any questions as I got the real answers instead of these other empty answers.

  • @ranahuwaidi3715
    @ranahuwaidi3715 5 місяців тому +78

    Keep me in your duas! I’m 24 and unmarried and inshallah want to get married!

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +16

      May Allah grant you a pious spouse and children, Ameen!

    • @ranahuwaidi3715
      @ranahuwaidi3715 5 місяців тому +4

      @@ramialkhaleel ameeeen ya rab!

    • @neginehsanjawid5063
      @neginehsanjawid5063 5 місяців тому +3

      Bruh I’m 27😅

    • @roy-kn7pi
      @roy-kn7pi 4 місяці тому

      I'm 26 chill

    • @maryyam702
      @maryyam702 4 місяці тому +1

      Pray for me too i want to get married im 20 🥺

  • @dalhaanu
    @dalhaanu 5 місяців тому +15

    This video really helped! Jazak Allah khayr May Allah Bless your marriage

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +3

      Jak! Ameen ya rabb and you and yours!

  • @shahedismail5833
    @shahedismail5833 4 місяці тому +3

    May Allah grant us all pious partners who will uphold the views of Islam and fulfil all the duties a marriage brings in.

  • @Salma_xx
    @Salma_xx 4 місяці тому +12

    My family is trying for my marriage for almost 5 years now. But it's too difficult for me due to sihr and other stuffs. 2 family rejected me bc i am too practicing (blew my mind as i think i am not). One said, i can be on my own, to continue my parda, he won't oppose. But won't help either. These are just few examples.
    Anyone reading this, i request you to genuinely make dua for this Muslim sister of yours.

    • @Elizabeth-jk4yj
      @Elizabeth-jk4yj 4 місяці тому

      Why do u wanna get married?

    • @jimslim-c4u
      @jimslim-c4u 4 місяці тому

      Do you ever think maybe your the problem?

    • @Nimdutsu
      @Nimdutsu 3 місяці тому

      Mam I’m looking for a woman like you but I am 21 years old
      Can I know more about you?

    • @jimslim-c4u
      @jimslim-c4u 3 місяці тому

      The family's rejected you because they think your insane. It's you. Not them.

  • @fahimachoudhury6978
    @fahimachoudhury6978 2 місяці тому +1

    This made me emotional, it’s nice to hear these topics addressed and also speak about women respectfully. May Allah Azzawajjal bless and protect your marriage Ameen!

  • @theexplorer8395
    @theexplorer8395 Місяць тому +1

    Great advice, absolutely loved it. JazakAllah brother ❤

  • @AMbsjsbsjsblabsn
    @AMbsjsbsjsblabsn 5 місяців тому +20

    May Allah SWT grant us all good and righteous spouses, Ameen.

  • @jinxtationtv6909
    @jinxtationtv6909 4 місяці тому +7

    I’m 20, may Allah reward us with the best spouses at the best of times ameen

  • @Anasd33n
    @Anasd33n 5 місяців тому +16

    Watching your pod with brother Omar inshallah right after I’ll watch this, very excited to see what you have to say inshallah I can get married soon may allah grant us all the best of spouses

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +6

      May Allah bless you with a spouse and children who will be the coolness of your eyes and make you all leaders for the righteous

  • @kehfilwara1692
    @kehfilwara1692 4 місяці тому +13

    May Allah bless me with a spouse who has deen and good akhlaaq. May Allah bless me with righteous spouse and righteous family. May I have peaceful and loving marriage with my spouse. May my future spouse respects me a lot and may I respect him a lot as well. May we both become each other’s best friend. May my husband makes our relationship no.1 priority in his life just as i make it mine. May I be married to a soft man who gives me reassurance and emotional safety. May a gentle and loving man be written in my Naseeb. May Allah beautify my akhlaaq more and more and grant me a high valued man who has a pure tongue and pure heart. May Allah bless me with a man who has fear of Allah the most.

    • @ubzy11
      @ubzy11 4 місяці тому +2

      Aameen

  • @FacelessRay
    @FacelessRay 15 днів тому +2

    I am getting married next monday please make dua for us❤

    • @jzmill
      @jzmill 9 днів тому +1

      how did it go

    • @FacelessRay
      @FacelessRay 9 днів тому

      @jzmill it went perfect thx for asking

  • @JOYRIDEUS
    @JOYRIDEUS 5 місяців тому +149

    For any man in marriage just remember this thing. A woman don't hit or raise their voices at men they respect. And a woman can't love you if she doesn't respect you first. Be careful be wise and practice the Sunnah in your behavior and composure.

    • @lnoorplaylist
      @lnoorplaylist 5 місяців тому +17

      And vice versa

    • @MH-bf4uu
      @MH-bf4uu 5 місяців тому +9

      raising voices is normal during an argument

    • @moralisoppression2837
      @moralisoppression2837 5 місяців тому

      True, should divorce if she raise her voice.

    • @lightbeings6243
      @lightbeings6243 5 місяців тому +45

      ​@@moralisoppression2837
      Well then marry a robot.Humans argue and voice gets raised at times when humans get emotional.This rule also applies to both genders.

    • @moralisoppression2837
      @moralisoppression2837 5 місяців тому

      @@lightbeings6243 right so both need to have patience, wife also need to have patience when she got beat up. Its happen when human get emotional.

  • @akiera1511
    @akiera1511 4 місяці тому +4

    I 18 and i reverted almost a year ago to Islam, this is genuinely such a helpful and calming video to watch.
    I've been overthinking and scared that i will not find someone who's pure, I have not had anything with a woman and so I would expect my spouse to be pure too.
    I'm praying that Allah blesses me with someone who is beautiful, kind and caring and that we'll share our souls together not just with anyone. Especially with the hookup culture these days I sometimes worry too much but I am putting my trust in Allah that he'll provide.
    But other than that i am working on myself to become better too by hitting the gym and doing side hustles to provide the best for my woman in the future too.
    May Allah bless you brother and may we enter Jannah through the mercy of Allah 🙌

    • @lunarsoles
      @lunarsoles 3 місяці тому +1

      Brother goated Allah humma barik 🔥

    • @sarahelsa8124
      @sarahelsa8124 2 місяці тому +1

      Brother you’re 18, relax.

  • @zeinababdullah5270
    @zeinababdullah5270 5 місяців тому +8

    May Allah bless your marriage Ameen

  • @nouruldinabdeldayem5633
    @nouruldinabdeldayem5633 2 місяці тому +2

    جزاكم الله خيراً ♥️

  • @swampfox3536
    @swampfox3536 5 місяців тому +12

    In Bangladesh, culture aside, people actually prioritize wealth first and then good character. I wanted to get married at 21 (now 26) but since her mother had suffered a lot because of her husband could not provide for them; therefore, she was looking for a person for her daughter who would have generous amount of wealth (from his dad's side) to at least secure a good position and not place her daughter's life in jeopardy. I understand that (money is actually essential in life, without it, you actually feel miserable.) but at that time, it made me feel confused about life (was it my fault that my father did not have wealth left for me? If I have to build my wealth, it will certainly take time "finishing bachelor's and then job or business, etc."). But, Allah is the greatest of planners, and hope is all I have right now. In the end, even if I don't get the ending I am looking for, I wish my younger brothers and sisters, May Allah find you a loving spouse early in life!
    and as for you Rami, you are an excellent person for the youth right now. I wish you all the best for your family. May Allah keep your family happy and flourishing!

  • @alexandermilleriii499
    @alexandermilleriii499 5 місяців тому +4

    I came back home really sad today because I'm still single but this gave me hope and taught me a lot. Thank you.

  • @lunabrights4073
    @lunabrights4073 5 місяців тому +5

    I’m trying to marry a person I rlly like and they’re so right for me but the families are making it hard 😭 esp my side. Please make dua for us inshallah

  • @JOYRIDEUS
    @JOYRIDEUS 5 місяців тому +18

    Let your wife speak but don't let her interrupt you its not going to get better wAllahu alim

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +11

      Yes, these communicative boundaries have to be worked out!

  • @OmarElghamry1
    @OmarElghamry1 5 місяців тому +5

    Heard advice from an old sheikh: "Find a woman whose beauty you accept, then look at her religion. If you decline, let it be based on the religion to avoid harming her feelings."

  • @Desertrose1911
    @Desertrose1911 5 місяців тому +6

    This video felt like receiving guidance from an elder brother! ☺

  • @sonny7159
    @sonny7159 5 місяців тому +5

    I don't like videos too often. I liked this one. Sound, simple advice anyone can use. In shaa' Allah ta'ala.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +1

      May Allah bless you my brother 💪🏽

  • @Maymaybell247
    @Maymaybell247 4 місяці тому +5

    Honestly, this was amazing and so unbiased. Thank you for thinking of the sisters and speaking about us like people. You are so mature for your age. Keep it up. Keeping you and your wife in my dua!

    • @marsha75
      @marsha75 4 місяці тому

      how old is he

  • @nullunullu7990
    @nullunullu7990 5 місяців тому +4

    May Allah make it easier to all of us 🤲🤲 Ameen

  • @blackbeautifulandsmart2849
    @blackbeautifulandsmart2849 Годину тому

    Assalaamualaikum Great advice . Allahumma bark.

  • @Mustafa_the_momin
    @Mustafa_the_momin 5 місяців тому +10

    MashaAllah great video...! May Allah bless you and strengthen your bond with your spouse and provide immense happiness through it.
    I am 18 and I feel lucky to have a brother like you who gives such quality advice and knowledge.

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +3

      Ameen ya rabb and you as well. May Allah elevate you in this life and the next!

  • @lieutenant8968
    @lieutenant8968 5 місяців тому +9

    probably wont get married for a while but im hoping i remember this when i do!

  • @themuslimseeker_
    @themuslimseeker_ 4 місяці тому +4

    Tabaraka Allah, Wallahi im happy seeing young man married

  • @ZenAli-z4y
    @ZenAli-z4y 4 місяці тому +2

    May Allah grant us all righteous spouses.

  • @Nookriy
    @Nookriy 5 місяців тому +7

    Asalmualykum akhi, jazakallhu khayran for the helpful video. You gave very good advice; people shouldn't worry about getting married too much, Allah is the best of planners and He will give you a spouse when you are ready. If a Muslim dies before marriage and enters Paradise, khalas, you've got a harem! One improvement that could help your videos, insyhAllah, is to provide the references to Quran and Sunnah. Barakallhu feek!

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +4

      Walakumasalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa iyaakum. Jak inn shaa Allah I will in the future!

  • @SadiaKhan-g5z
    @SadiaKhan-g5z 3 місяці тому +1

    This is such beautiful advice from you mashallah and may allah reward you and your efforts and protect you from evil eyes 😊

  • @mimmss6556
    @mimmss6556 5 місяців тому +8

    Jazakallahu khairan for this

  • @4924na
    @4924na 5 місяців тому +15

    I got married last year at the age of 25. Me being pakistani and my husband syrian we had alot of differences but alhamdulilah a year on, im so happy even through the challanges we faced. May allah continue to bless my marriage ❤❤

  • @Theshire.05
    @Theshire.05 5 місяців тому +2

    Whoever is out there looking like myself, may Allah swt make it easy for us. Please remember one another iA

  • @raiyaanshaikh0114
    @raiyaanshaikh0114 4 місяці тому +2

    May Allah Bless you and your marriage, Aameen! Jazakallahu Khairan for this excellent video!

  • @ayanalhassan
    @ayanalhassan 2 місяці тому +1

    Great advise video, keep up the good work brother. Jazakallah khairan.

  • @privthings
    @privthings 4 місяці тому +3

    thanks for the advice akhi, lovely meow meow in the back!!!

  • @strix3827
    @strix3827 5 місяців тому +4

    May Allah bless your marriage 🤍

  • @akifkhan2932
    @akifkhan2932 4 місяці тому +2

    Im 27 just graduated from law school. Even when we are successful in obtaining education getting married isn’t any easier. It takes a lot of work to find a person with the right mindset and all the other traits necessary.

  • @MoreHumane
    @MoreHumane 5 місяців тому +8

    33 and unmarried. Islamic value common ground is impossible to establish in the west. May Allah please help us all

    • @Csquared14
      @Csquared14 5 місяців тому +2

      Have you stayed a virgin that whole time brother? If so how do you deal with it

    • @Hejskndnfjsksjjs
      @Hejskndnfjsksjjs 4 місяці тому +6

      ⁠@@Csquared14if he has or hasnt, that’s none of your business. Don’t talk about sins. You deal with it by doing what Allah has told you to do. Don’t watch porn, lower your gaze, don’t mindlessly scroll and look at women. Pray pray pray pray and pray. Physical touch isn’t all there is to life.

    • @aishahs2032
      @aishahs2032 4 місяці тому

      May Allah swt make it easier for you . May Allah swt send your perfect match to you soon.

    • @AM-bm9rs
      @AM-bm9rs 4 місяці тому +1

      @@Hejskndnfjsksjjs if only it was that easy

    • @Zhenitadlny
      @Zhenitadlny 2 місяці тому

      May Allah grant you a good wife and family

  • @arba9145
    @arba9145 26 днів тому

    These are things I've already known, but the first time someone has covered it - thank you

  • @AndrewMichaelsReacts
    @AndrewMichaelsReacts 9 днів тому +1

    As a revert it is the most challenging. More so as a male revert, this is because we have to approach the father. I have no Muslim family to introduce them to, I just have my deen and that is it. I have me and my relationship with the Almighty. Any advice for male reverts?

  • @IbnMazroofTech
    @IbnMazroofTech 4 місяці тому +2

    absolutely great man!
    have a blessed journey for you and your spouse/spouses !

  • @lamialam574
    @lamialam574 4 місяці тому +1

    Why is this on my feed ?
    My standards do not need to go any higher
    Mashallah your such a model to follow, may allah ease and enlighten your path

  • @naw6936
    @naw6936 4 місяці тому +1

    Mashallah tabarakallah. Thank you so much for making this video brother. It has been incredibly insightful. May Allah swt reward you and bless you and your wife a peaceful and longlasting marriage inshallah.

  • @Knowledge021
    @Knowledge021 22 дні тому

    Hello brother I have just subscribed you seem like a very genuine person. May Allah grant you and your family all your wishes!

  • @00remash91
    @00remash91 4 місяці тому

    Mashallah so useful may Allah help us live peace in marriage life

  • @zyadb_
    @zyadb_ 4 місяці тому +3

    6k is a fortune in my country 😢😢. I'm a student in Morocco working hard to get some money to start looking for a wife. But it's really tough with social media standards.
    اللهم أرزقنا الزوجة الصالحة

  • @hiba.soomro
    @hiba.soomro 2 місяці тому +1

    The best advice I ever came across

  • @Viralshow567
    @Viralshow567 4 місяці тому +1

    SubhanAllah amazing advice brother. May ALLAH make us Righteous and grant us Righteous wives. Ameen

  • @Conako
    @Conako 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you for sharing these genuine advices. May Allah reward you highly.

  • @samiraaden5853
    @samiraaden5853 Місяць тому

    He’s coming to my parent to ask my hand in marriage in 2 weeks please keep us in ur duas I can’t wait for this inshallah

  • @danaeskandarani4251
    @danaeskandarani4251 5 місяців тому +2

    AllahumaBarik! May Allah (SWT) put Barakah in your marriage!

  • @islamgouasmia5762
    @islamgouasmia5762 5 місяців тому +8

    Give us some tips on what type of question to ask in the engagement period.

    • @fiomelandri7015
      @fiomelandri7015 4 місяці тому

      4 type person that u can married, it's based from hadist prophets
      1. Righteousness (shalih/shalihah)/understanding of deen/islam
      2. Wealthy
      3. Beauty
      4. Noble/descendant/ in arabic its called nasab. Example : Prince/princess/son of sultan/president/celebrity.
      Prophet said choose number 1 u will be lucky.
      Lucky what? Luck in this worldly land here after, u and ur partner going together, company,remind, walking to path of allah.
      And when u look at it number 2-4 only worldly life meaning its temporary its didnt permanent. Example: beauty can faded with aging, wealthy can bankrupt anytime,noble line only afew percent in this word who have that status and if u marry a noble partner then u be ready from normal life to noble life like ethic etc.
      Ask what important in married along the deen.
      Example question for him/her.
      what u do when weekend? See the answer, if he/she answers like go to bar,casino etc. well then u know in the future if u married with someone like this. If ur partner answer im came lecturer in masjid/ read book at home/read some islamic book. Then u know what the characteristics.
      How often ur shalat(pray)? He/she said 3/4 times a day, ask him/her would u mind if i advice/remind/invite u to the straight path?
      Ask the mahr (dowry), see what her want.
      Mahr its not burden the huband but at the same time not humiliate the wife ti be lowly.
      Ask what happen if thereis argument/clash each other how to solve it? Look what Alquran and hadist said
      There is no such thing called love in marriage,love only in marvel/Hollywood/disney
      love given by allah to the husband and wife if they walking to path of allah, seeing jannah together etc.

  • @hamzatmaryamopeyemi4494
    @hamzatmaryamopeyemi4494 Місяць тому

    Allahumo barik, your video is quite insightful

  • @malikibnisa8060
    @malikibnisa8060 5 місяців тому +3

    Bro wAllahi you give the best advice!. May Allah continue to bless all your endeavors. اللهم آمين

    • @ramialkhaleel
      @ramialkhaleel  5 місяців тому +4

      Allahuma Ameen and you as well. All good is from Allah❤️💪🏽

  • @clearpath8794
    @clearpath8794 5 місяців тому +1

    Mashallah great wisdom from a relatively newly married man, may Allah SWT bless you and your wife!!

  • @Rooh00100
    @Rooh00100 4 місяці тому +3

    Do not make your spouse your own enemy, life is hard enough already - Rami Alkhaleel

  • @deniz57
    @deniz57 3 місяці тому

    masallah you are very wise and knowledged even though you are young brother, may Allah s.w.t. reward you

  • @danialecon3386
    @danialecon3386 5 місяців тому +7

    Jizakallah kair brother Rami for the marriage advise i needed this may Allah bless you. Please keep it going

  • @AuthenticQuranAndSunnah
    @AuthenticQuranAndSunnah 4 місяці тому

    The kind of friend you need.

  • @jubei3219
    @jubei3219 5 місяців тому +1

    Also understand people change and make mistakes any marriage that has lasted has had issues. If your goal is to raise a good family and please Allah don’t give up be patient

  • @HerArtnThoughts
    @HerArtnThoughts 3 місяці тому

    6:26 I can confirm that thats definitely the case. Got married at 20, 12 years since and in shaa Allah many years more.
    Great advices there.

  • @olegnurmagomedov750
    @olegnurmagomedov750 4 місяці тому +1

    Boys have married at age 13 and lived an amazing marriage life. Don't think you are too young for marriage.

  • @zadalaiba516
    @zadalaiba516 4 місяці тому

    At first, I could not put my eyes away from your cat. Especially the hanging tail.
    This marriage advice is one of the best and comprehensive advice yet short. Looking forward for your content. May Allah bless your marriage. Jazaakumullah khayr wa baarakallahu fiikum

  • @khaledbouzit2682
    @khaledbouzit2682 4 місяці тому

    MashaAllah, may Allah bless you. Maybe the first video I watch from your UA-cam and I'm definitely not deceived. JazakAllah khairan brother ❤!

  • @profa1084
    @profa1084 5 місяців тому +1

    Short clip, but veryyy good! This clip should Watch every youth no matter What age. Bc its he sad no that much words but these words are very good together. MasAllah

  • @dimashflesh82
    @dimashflesh82 4 місяці тому +3

    Allahumma barik

  • @HazifSajAliAkbar
    @HazifSajAliAkbar 23 дні тому

    WA'alaykumuSalaam wa Rahmathullah, good. Im not saying a fake BaarakAllah feek. But your video has good points in it. Shukran bro,

  • @lejamesbron5880
    @lejamesbron5880 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm 28 and unmarried and honestly, the financial burden of doing it all from the groom is what had me jaded for awhile.

  • @Sumaia915
    @Sumaia915 5 місяців тому +6

    I am a little too old not be married and my family isn’t social and we live in place where it’s hard to meet potential partners.. i don’t know if I will get married at all .. pray for me

    • @Berke-Khan
      @Berke-Khan 4 місяці тому +1

      ur female friends, they have their Mahrams circle.
      or join Quran circles, even online...

  • @JhinDev
    @JhinDev Місяць тому +1

    I think there is a reason why some marriages are delayed man. Im not married but I usually never cared if a women wore hijab or was totally opposed to the idea of niqab, I found it scary. Now, I find niqabis to be the most appealing to me. Something about their devotion and elegancy is just different. I dont know what happened, it came within a day my entire world view shifted. I became more religious and follow more Quran and Sunnah. I am not perfect, I am embarassed and just recently started to self study arabic again so I can read the Quran. Allah has also sheltered me from major sins regarding women, I dont have a bad past. What I am trying to say: If I bit the bullet and just married someone in my early 20s (I am currently 27), what type of woman would the person back then have chosen? I think Allah definitely has protected me. Unfortunately, I am all out of ideas how to even find practicing sisters who ideally wear hijab or niqab, speak english or german or are willing to marry someone who would try to learn other languages. In my parents culture, its not too common as they mostly just cover using a lose cloth. There arent many communities I could go to either and I shifted to Dubai recently which makes it harder as I can only speak german and english fluently (and bit of urdu). So the pool is already small. I always have the feeling sisters who are pretty and are religious are always taken quite quickly by others before anyone could even have the chance. May Allah provide for all of us.