As a Palestinian, our culture makes marriage very difficult. Back in Ramadan, I proposed to a good woman, we both liked each other, families got along and everything. Then a month later her father called everything off because he wanted to have a wedding with music and I wasn't going to do that. He ruined everything because he wanted a haram wedding. Hes a good guy, but he allowed his desires to ruin what could have been a good marriage. Two months later and I just think as to why my culture is like this? Just baffles me tbh, but Allah is the best of planners!
@abdullaal-obaidi833 I believe you're talking about the duff. The duff can be used for celebrating events such as weddings and eid, but only by women. I did extensive research into this alternative and others, because I wanted to make it work, but her father wasn't interested in giving any of this a chance. He said, "I am not going to waiver on this." And said it wasn't going to work out. I didn't even really care about my feelings tbh, I just didn't want her to feel saddened or even worse for her father to accept someone else who isn't practicing as best they could be. A father should have his daughter's best interest in mind when selecting a potential for her, but some father's will reject men who check the necessary boxes islamically speaking, for cultural reasons, which is honestly such a shame.
You don’t want a father in law like that anyway. Next he is telling you to take out a line of credit and a mortgage to support his daughter. Allah is protecting you from a future of cultural Islam ahki
A father’s opinion is important but: is he the one marrying you in the end or his daughter? There has to be a balance. Is it even a valid reason to reject you because of this? Is it in accordance with the teachings of Islam? Maybe talk to a sheikh about this if you haven’t already. May Allah make it easy for you 🤲🏼
are you a westoid palestinian? would the marriage have protected you from greater sins? Had you married into the family could you have made a positive net difference to them? Some things to consider.
Since 2020, i prayed to Allah for this girl to be my wife. The moment i saw her, my heart was taken. I kept praying as my love kept growing, and my soul kept following her whenever i saw her in university. Last year, i had a dream of seeing her, and in that dream, i heard, " she will be your wife." I made istkhara, and i kept having dreams and started seeing my family are supportive of marrying this girl. Alhamdulilah, now we are married and happy than ever. When i think about it, i feel like it was like a movie or something❤.
I met my husband in muzz late last year after a long time I searching. I spoke to Allah ta'ala that i would rather die single than marry someone who is detrimental to my Deen (i am a revert so Islam is very important to me). I met my husband a few months later and we got married February this year at 4 months of knowing each other alhamdulillah.
I agree with you that Allah delays your marriage for a reason. I wanted to get married when I was 20, but Allah delayed my marriage until I was 32. Looking back, I wasn't ready. I wasn't responsible enough yet.
I'm 26 I really want to get married but I think i'm still not ready, do you have any advice brother for me to speed up the process like where should I start?
Alhamdulillah I just got married 3 weeks ago. It did just happen out of no where. One day I had never seen this man in my life and the next I saw him and my stomach dropped to the floor. I was in love with him from the very first second I saw him and when I heard his voice it was like the song of my heart. It was the most beautiful sound I ever heard. subhanAllah ❤ I want to add that I made du'a for years and years. Even before I was Muslim I prayed and prayed and prayed for the most perfect relationship of my life. I am 33 which some may think is late in life to get married but Allah knows best.
Am a widow and so lonely. My late hubby was a Muslim he had converted me I have three adult children.praying that Allah gives me an understanding and loving man. Allah grant me peace. Love from kenya
@@Fia316 is marriage is so temporary according to islam iam telling a she is a widow and her late husband loved her and she even want to get remarried i see many reasons why marriage is a fake love contract
I’m 31 and really unwell and I don't actually believe that anyone could handle a spouses illnesses. Please make duaa that Allaah graces you with someone to aid you both in the dunya and thereafter. ☀️
May Allah bless us with a spouse who can be our best friend and aid us both in the dunya and the Akhirah. Sister! Don’t worry, Allah is ever Kind to His Servants, He( Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) will surely bless you with the best spouse who would treat you with love, kindness and wouldn’t mind your illness.
I have seen people married with sever disabilities, I won't sugar coated and say it is easy. I myself have chronic illness but remember sister we don't need society to find us the best options we only need one person to see that being with us is worth the effort and Allah is The all mighty nothing is impossible to him he will bring you the right person. May you find each other and fill each day with joy and happiness 😊
Preach brother, I was "ready" when I was 19 but I couldn't have been more wrong lol I eventually got married at the age of 24 (im 28 soon) and I 100% marriage just happened. One day I was single working at home living with my family then my potential contacted me and one thing led to another and well we got married al-hamdulilah.
I'm nearly 26 and still on the journey. May Allah provide me what is best for the best in me. And to all my brothers and sisters pertaining to what is good for our soul and iman.
i turn 21 next month. gonna be 5 years revert ahumdillah ut moving from big city to small town for uni is unique. esp with the fitnah. may Allah swt make it ez for all of us Muslims ameen
Alhamdulilallah I’m 20 and got married within the last month. It’s pressure but also very good feeling alhamdulilallah but I trust Allah 100% to guide me. Jazakallah brother for your advice and may Allah elevate u to the highest levels of jannah ameen.
What you've mentioned is (albeit in reverse order) the tasbeeh of Sayyida Fatima Zahra (Peace by upon her), the daughter of the Holy Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him). The correct order is as follows: 34 x اللهُ أَکْبَر / Allahu Akbar 33x ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰه / Alḥamdu lillah 33x سُبْحَانَ ٱللَّٰه / SubḥanAllah
We did our Nikkah in Ramadan this year, unfortunately he gave me the first Talaaq a week ago, I just don’t think he was ready for the lifelong commitment, please make dua’a for Allah to make this easy for me in my Iddah period inshallah. Because it has been extremely hard. 💔
Allah will give you ease, he is hearing and he is with you, im so sorry, it may take time, but Allah is with you and he hears your cries. May Allah make it easy for you
Alsalam w alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh Allahumma Barik, may Allah swt increase the Barakah and love in your marriage. Iam 22 and unmarried. Alhamdulillah, i follow the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet saw, but trying to get married seems impossible, i really want to get married for the sake of Allah. Please, keep me in your duas! ربنا هب لنا من ازواجنا و ذرياتنا قرة أعين و إجعلنا للمتقين إماما
Ya Muqallib al-quloob thabbit qalbi 'ala deenik يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ “O Controller of hearts, make my heart firm in Your religion.”
You mention about styles of communication and different people having different ways of communicating. I feel like a video explaining different types and how to best to communicate to different types would be useful
Watching your pod with brother Omar inshallah right after I’ll watch this, very excited to see what you have to say inshallah I can get married soon may allah grant us all the best of spouses
Cats stole the show mashallah 😊 To all brothers & sisters who havent get married yet may Allah bless you all with the best, righteous, beautiful, compatible spouses with whom you gain Allah blessings in this world & after.
I just turned 19 with a solid amount of money saved up. My father is making it a bit of a hassle cuz he doesn't wanna get me married here in australia. May allah bless me with a good wife 😢🤲
If your a man that's your life, I am sick of these parents doing zlum to the kids it's not their life I have a daughter and I well never force her to marry someone she don't like that's haram. Alot of parents use the authority that Allah gave them to abuse the kids this is zlum not just.
This made me emotional, it’s nice to hear these topics addressed and also speak about women respectfully. May Allah Azzawajjal bless and protect your marriage Ameen!
If you’re able to get married young, it’s such a blessing, especially as a man. I’m guessing you’re not 100% established, so a lady wanting to marry you means she actually desires you for you. At 31, I feel I’ve passed the point where a lady would want me for me. At this age marriage is about how many boxes you tick: finance, stability etc like I’m a product being picked off a shelf. May Allah bless your marriage habibi
Brother, don't feel so pessimistic about yourself. 31 is still pretty young for a man, and age generally matters less to women. If anything, a lot of women prefer older mature men. As for your money, please don't feel objectified just because a woman might like your money. As long as it's not the only reason she's marrying you, there's nothing wrong with it. It's no different than a man wanting his wife to be beautiful. As long as it's not the main purpose of the marriage, it's a perfectly okay thing to value.
@@marytheraspberry3145they probably are but I’ve been rejected by every one of them. The money thing is just an extra thing playing on my mind, but it doesn’t really matter when I get rejected from the outset anyway. I have never been good enough to even be considered for marriage. I am screened out from the very beginning. Also piety doesn’t matter to most women (and men, I’m not hating them for it) if you’re not attractive to them in the first place. As a 5’2 balding man, it’s not a surprise I’m not even somewhat attractive to them. So me being a pious practising man (not that I claim to be, but Alhamdulillah I do the basics and more) makes no difference
As a sister, I just want to say there are amazing Muslim women out there in their 30s (life happens differently for everyone) who are looking for good Muslim man. No checkbox to tick specifically other than truly their character and commitment to their deen and dunya (regards to family, relations, responsibilities …). May Allah make it easy for you.
You are stating facts bro. It's not the same as being married young. In the 30s women are looking for more stability and that is ok. Accept women for who they are. Enforce boundaries and grow to love each other. Women in their late 20s early 30s are simply ready to settle down and have children.
My family is trying for my marriage for almost 5 years now. But it's too difficult for me due to sihr and other stuffs. 2 family rejected me bc i am too practicing (blew my mind as i think i am not). One said, i can be on my own, to continue my parda, he won't oppose. But won't help either. These are just few examples. Anyone reading this, i request you to genuinely make dua for this Muslim sister of yours.
It’s difficult being 31 years old and rejected at every opportunity whilst I’ve stayed away from haram whilst my friends who had girlfriends and enjoyed romance in their younger years easily got married, some without putting hardly any effort in.
Do a lot of istighfar with niya that Allah forgives your sins. Don't forget your athkar , and your daily obligatory acts. Don't eat Haram or earn Haram money. Make Dua and don't be impatient with Allah by asking why yr dua hasn't been answered. Do ruqya if u think that u may be afflicted with Ayn . You're being tested. Allah knows best about everything. If He decrees that you get married later in the future, there's Hikma for the timing. Seek aid from Allah. Allah is aware of everything. Just be patient and keep making Dua.
Im gonna give you the honest truth: Women are easily icked out by men based on how they act socially. Your freinds had experience with women, and have learned how to seduce and make them interested, so of course its easier for them to get potential spouses to like them. You however never did haram, but that means you don't know how to act romantically with women, and thus can easily give them the ick. It is sad because the burden of good romantic social skills is on the man, as he has to lead, but feel free to ask me any questions as I got the real answers instead of these other empty answers.
MashaAllah great video...! May Allah bless you and strengthen your bond with your spouse and provide immense happiness through it. I am 18 and I feel lucky to have a brother like you who gives such quality advice and knowledge.
One more important thing. Be the best friend of your spouse. Share everything with them. I really mean everything. If there one person in the world that you can share everything with , it is your spouse.
Bad idea never show.your weakness as a man , tgat puts your partner off. And if youre a women dont tell your husband the deviancies of your thoughts cause that will make him hate you to the core.
Honestly, this was amazing and so unbiased. Thank you for thinking of the sisters and speaking about us like people. You are so mature for your age. Keep it up. Keeping you and your wife in my dua!
I 18 and i reverted almost a year ago to Islam, this is genuinely such a helpful and calming video to watch. I've been overthinking and scared that i will not find someone who's pure, I have not had anything with a woman and so I would expect my spouse to be pure too. I'm praying that Allah blesses me with someone who is beautiful, kind and caring and that we'll share our souls together not just with anyone. Especially with the hookup culture these days I sometimes worry too much but I am putting my trust in Allah that he'll provide. But other than that i am working on myself to become better too by hitting the gym and doing side hustles to provide the best for my woman in the future too. May Allah bless you brother and may we enter Jannah through the mercy of Allah 🙌
Asalmualykum akhi, jazakallhu khayran for the helpful video. You gave very good advice; people shouldn't worry about getting married too much, Allah is the best of planners and He will give you a spouse when you are ready. If a Muslim dies before marriage and enters Paradise, khalas, you've got a harem! One improvement that could help your videos, insyhAllah, is to provide the references to Quran and Sunnah. Barakallhu feek!
Amazing video allahumabarik! Very detailed and well sequenced. May Allah bless you, your spouse and your family, increase you in provision and protect you from evil eye ya Akhi!❤ I am a professional video editor who mainly focuses on the Islamic niche and the topic of marriage was in my mind for a while to create a video about and subhanallah, I found this video and there are lots of advice and clarification of certain stereotypes that are present in our society whether western or eastern that I think you answered. So, may I have the permission to remake this video for Dawah purposes on my channel? Nonetheless, absolutely refreshing video! As someone who is still not married and from the youth, it was helpful. May Allah bless you!
In Bangladesh, culture aside, people actually prioritize wealth first and then good character. I wanted to get married at 21 (now 26) but since her mother had suffered a lot because of her husband could not provide for them; therefore, she was looking for a person for her daughter who would have generous amount of wealth (from his dad's side) to at least secure a good position and not place her daughter's life in jeopardy. I understand that (money is actually essential in life, without it, you actually feel miserable.) but at that time, it made me feel confused about life (was it my fault that my father did not have wealth left for me? If I have to build my wealth, it will certainly take time "finishing bachelor's and then job or business, etc."). But, Allah is the greatest of planners, and hope is all I have right now. In the end, even if I don't get the ending I am looking for, I wish my younger brothers and sisters, May Allah find you a loving spouse early in life! and as for you Rami, you are an excellent person for the youth right now. I wish you all the best for your family. May Allah keep your family happy and flourishing!
Mashallah tabarakallah. Thank you so much for making this video brother. It has been incredibly insightful. May Allah swt reward you and bless you and your wife a peaceful and longlasting marriage inshallah.
For any man in marriage just remember this thing. A woman don't hit or raise their voices at men they respect. And a woman can't love you if she doesn't respect you first. Be careful be wise and practice the Sunnah in your behavior and composure.
@@moralisoppression2837 Well then marry a robot.Humans argue and voice gets raised at times when humans get emotional.This rule also applies to both genders.
May Allah bless me with a spouse who has deen and good akhlaaq. May Allah bless me with righteous spouse and righteous family. May I have peaceful and loving marriage with my spouse. May my future spouse respects me a lot and may I respect him a lot as well. May we both become each other’s best friend. May my husband makes our relationship no.1 priority in his life just as i make it mine. May I be married to a soft man who gives me reassurance and emotional safety. May a gentle and loving man be written in my Naseeb. May Allah beautify my akhlaaq more and more and grant me a high valued man who has a pure tongue and pure heart. May Allah bless me with a man who has fear of Allah the most.
Heard advice from an old sheikh: "Find a woman whose beauty you accept, then look at her religion. If you decline, let it be based on the religion to avoid harming her feelings."
Im 27 just graduated from law school. Even when we are successful in obtaining education getting married isn’t any easier. It takes a lot of work to find a person with the right mindset and all the other traits necessary.
3:10 as a cat lover, I was just thinking to myself "I don't care about your talk, I just love this cat in the back" and then you said " ignore this guy" 😂
I got married last year at the age of 25. Me being pakistani and my husband syrian we had alot of differences but alhamdulilah a year on, im so happy even through the challanges we faced. May allah continue to bless my marriage ❤❤
I’m trying to marry a person I rlly like and they’re so right for me but the families are making it hard 😭 esp my side. Please make dua for us inshallah
At first, I could not put my eyes away from your cat. Especially the hanging tail. This marriage advice is one of the best and comprehensive advice yet short. Looking forward for your content. May Allah bless your marriage. Jazaakumullah khayr wa baarakallahu fiikum
Short clip, but veryyy good! This clip should Watch every youth no matter What age. Bc its he sad no that much words but these words are very good together. MasAllah
Also understand people change and make mistakes any marriage that has lasted has had issues. If your goal is to raise a good family and please Allah don’t give up be patient
4 type person that u can married, it's based from hadist prophets 1. Righteousness (shalih/shalihah)/understanding of deen/islam 2. Wealthy 3. Beauty 4. Noble/descendant/ in arabic its called nasab. Example : Prince/princess/son of sultan/president/celebrity. Prophet said choose number 1 u will be lucky. Lucky what? Luck in this worldly land here after, u and ur partner going together, company,remind, walking to path of allah. And when u look at it number 2-4 only worldly life meaning its temporary its didnt permanent. Example: beauty can faded with aging, wealthy can bankrupt anytime,noble line only afew percent in this word who have that status and if u marry a noble partner then u be ready from normal life to noble life like ethic etc. Ask what important in married along the deen. Example question for him/her. what u do when weekend? See the answer, if he/she answers like go to bar,casino etc. well then u know in the future if u married with someone like this. If ur partner answer im came lecturer in masjid/ read book at home/read some islamic book. Then u know what the characteristics. How often ur shalat(pray)? He/she said 3/4 times a day, ask him/her would u mind if i advice/remind/invite u to the straight path? Ask the mahr (dowry), see what her want. Mahr its not burden the huband but at the same time not humiliate the wife ti be lowly. Ask what happen if thereis argument/clash each other how to solve it? Look what Alquran and hadist said There is no such thing called love in marriage,love only in marvel/Hollywood/disney love given by allah to the husband and wife if they walking to path of allah, seeing jannah together etc.
@@Csquared14if he has or hasnt, that’s none of your business. Don’t talk about sins. You deal with it by doing what Allah has told you to do. Don’t watch porn, lower your gaze, don’t mindlessly scroll and look at women. Pray pray pray pray and pray. Physical touch isn’t all there is to life.
I am a little too old not be married and my family isn’t social and we live in place where it’s hard to meet potential partners.. i don’t know if I will get married at all .. pray for me
As a revert it is the most challenging. More so as a male revert, this is because we have to approach the father. I have no Muslim family to introduce them to, I just have my deen and that is it. I have me and my relationship with the Almighty. Any advice for male reverts?
As a Palestinian, our culture makes marriage very difficult. Back in Ramadan, I proposed to a good woman, we both liked each other, families got along and everything. Then a month later her father called everything off because he wanted to have a wedding with music and I wasn't going to do that. He ruined everything because he wanted a haram wedding. Hes a good guy, but he allowed his desires to ruin what could have been a good marriage. Two months later and I just think as to why my culture is like this? Just baffles me tbh, but Allah is the best of planners!
I heard drums in celebratory type events like Eid and weddings you can use, so maybe u could’ve proposed drums only and Allah swt knows best
@abdullaal-obaidi833 I believe you're talking about the duff. The duff can be used for celebrating events such as weddings and eid, but only by women. I did extensive research into this alternative and others, because I wanted to make it work, but her father wasn't interested in giving any of this a chance. He said, "I am not going to waiver on this." And said it wasn't going to work out. I didn't even really care about my feelings tbh, I just didn't want her to feel saddened or even worse for her father to accept someone else who isn't practicing as best they could be. A father should have his daughter's best interest in mind when selecting a potential for her, but some father's will reject men who check the necessary boxes islamically speaking, for cultural reasons, which is honestly such a shame.
You don’t want a father in law like that anyway. Next he is telling you to take out a line of credit and a mortgage to support his daughter. Allah is protecting you from a future of cultural Islam ahki
A father’s opinion is important but: is he the one marrying you in the end or his daughter? There has to be a balance. Is it even a valid reason to reject you because of this? Is it in accordance with the teachings of Islam? Maybe talk to a sheikh about this if you haven’t already. May Allah make it easy for you 🤲🏼
are you a westoid palestinian? would the marriage have protected you from greater sins? Had you married into the family could you have made a positive net difference to them? Some things to consider.
Since 2020, i prayed to Allah for this girl to be my wife. The moment i saw her, my heart was taken. I kept praying as my love kept growing, and my soul kept following her whenever i saw her in university. Last year, i had a dream of seeing her, and in that dream, i heard, " she will be your wife." I made istkhara, and i kept having dreams and started seeing my family are supportive of marrying this girl. Alhamdulilah, now we are married and happy than ever. When i think about it, i feel like it was like a movie or something❤.
Alhumdulillah! What a beautiful lovestory. May Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) bless your marriage.
@@UA-cam_user_nhvrxdhn Aameen
Dude u'r blessed
actually a movie man, Congrats brother
You are ONE Lucky guy and your wife Tripple lucky!!!
I met my husband in muzz late last year after a long time I searching. I spoke to Allah ta'ala that i would rather die single than marry someone who is detrimental to my Deen (i am a revert so Islam is very important to me). I met my husband a few months later and we got married February this year at 4 months of knowing each other alhamdulillah.
Thank Allah sister so happy for you may Allah bless you and your husband and guide all of us to the straight path💗💗💗
Allahumma ameen🤲
Allahumma ameen.
I'm also 23, but unmarried. Didn't know you are married. May Allah bless your marriage and life, for what you are doing for the deen.
Ameen ya rabb may Allah bless and elevate you my brother
May Allah grant you a righteous spouse
Soon
Bro your name is Pradhan , are you a revert muslim ?
@@euphoria6681his first name in his username is anas
I agree with you that Allah delays your marriage for a reason. I wanted to get married when I was 20, but Allah delayed my marriage until I was 32. Looking back, I wasn't ready. I wasn't responsible enough yet.
Allahuakbar, may Allah bless your marriage my brother
Allahu Akbar. That patience was a means a reward for you brother. insha'Allah I can have such patience too
Allahu Akbar.
Yes we humans are dumb to be honest. And we just want everything so fast. But Allah knows the perfect timing.
Man im 16 and thought i was ready before i watchee this video man i was wrong
I'm 26 I really want to get married but I think i'm still not ready, do you have any advice brother for me to speed up the process like where should I start?
Mashallah Brother. I'm getting married next month. I am 20 years old, make dua for me for a successful marriage.
May Allah bless your marriage.
May Allah make ur life successful and better after getting married
@@AkisoezzAmeen. jazakallah
Ameen
Ameen
Alhamdulillah I just got married 3 weeks ago. It did just happen out of no where. One day I had never seen this man in my life and the next I saw him and my stomach dropped to the floor. I was in love with him from the very first second I saw him and when I heard his voice it was like the song of my heart. It was the most beautiful sound I ever heard. subhanAllah ❤
I want to add that I made du'a for years and years. Even before I was Muslim I prayed and prayed and prayed for the most perfect relationship of my life. I am 33 which some may think is late in life to get married but Allah knows best.
How did you reach out to
Machallah! As a hopeless romantic you’re story made me tear up. May Allah swt bless you and your marriage❤
Pls when did you start praying? You said “years and years” when did it all start
May Allah bless your marriage. Allahumma aamiinn. Thank you for sharing ❤
I am at the same place you were once pray for me
Am a widow and so lonely. My late hubby was a Muslim he had converted me I have three adult children.praying that Allah gives me an understanding and loving man. Allah grant me peace. Love from kenya
May allah give u all the happiness you want and a righteous spouse
I recommend Sunnah Match platform to find a husband in a halal way, sister.
Amin
@@Fia316 is marriage is so temporary according to islam iam telling a she is a widow and her late husband loved her and she even want to get remarried i see many reasons why marriage is a fake love contract
Allahumma ameen.🤲
I’m 31 and really unwell and I don't actually believe that anyone could handle a spouses illnesses. Please make duaa that Allaah graces you with someone to aid you both in the dunya and thereafter. ☀️
May Allah bless us with a spouse who can be our best friend and aid us both in the dunya and the Akhirah.
Sister! Don’t worry, Allah is ever Kind to His Servants, He( Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) will surely bless you with the best spouse who would treat you with love, kindness and wouldn’t mind your illness.
May Allah Aza wajal cure your illnesses ❤️🩹❤️🩹
Never give up. Allah knows. Keep making dua ❤
I have seen people married with sever disabilities, I won't sugar coated and say it is easy. I myself have chronic illness but remember sister we don't need society to find us the best options we only need one person to see that being with us is worth the effort and Allah is The all mighty nothing is impossible to him he will bring you the right person. May you find each other and fill each day with joy and happiness 😊
It depends on your mindset, not anything else. Sister, just you have to aim high. Inshalah, I wish the best for you.
Preach brother, I was "ready" when I was 19 but I couldn't have been more wrong lol I eventually got married at the age of 24 (im 28 soon) and I 100% marriage just happened. One day I was single working at home living with my family then my potential contacted me and one thing led to another and well we got married al-hamdulilah.
Alhumdulallah my brother, may Allah bless you in your marriage💪🏽
How did you meet?
I'm nearly 26 and still on the journey. May Allah provide me what is best for the best in me. And to all my brothers and sisters pertaining to what is good for our soul and iman.
Allahuma Ameen ya rabb
i turn 21 next month. gonna be 5 years revert ahumdillah ut moving from big city to small town for uni is unique. esp with the fitnah. may Allah swt make it ez for all of us Muslims ameen
Ameen and Mabrook my brother, may Allah bless you 💪🏽❤️
Masha'Allah.. you're blessed my brother with guidance. happy for you bro
Alhamdulilallah I’m 20 and got married within the last month. It’s pressure but also very good feeling alhamdulilallah but I trust Allah 100% to guide me. Jazakallah brother for your advice and may Allah elevate u to the highest levels of jannah ameen.
Wa iyaakum! Allahuma Ameen ya rabb. May Allah bless you in your marriage and grant you and your family the highest levels of jannah
Allahummabarik akhi, may I know where you are from?
@@ateeqahmed7945 I’m from Sudan ahk. But I live and was born in the UK
Allahuma baarik, I wish I was married that age. 36 now Khayr in shaa Allah
Im 20 too brother, feel lost in life. How did you get married at such a young age?
If you read this;
Say "SubhanAllah" 33x
Say "Alhamdulillah" 33x
Say "Allahu akbar" 34x
May Allah reward you.
سبحان الله وبحمده
سبحان الله العظيم
What you've mentioned is (albeit in reverse order) the tasbeeh of Sayyida Fatima Zahra (Peace by upon her), the daughter of the Holy Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him).
The correct order is as follows:
34 x اللهُ أَکْبَر / Allahu Akbar
33x ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰه / Alḥamdu lillah
33x سُبْحَانَ ٱللَّٰه / SubḥanAllah
Jazakallah khair
We did our Nikkah in Ramadan this year, unfortunately he gave me the first Talaaq a week ago, I just don’t think he was ready for the lifelong commitment, please make dua’a for Allah to make this easy for me in my Iddah period inshallah. Because it has been extremely hard. 💔
InShaAllah sister may Allah make it easy for u, and give u the best of the bestest from His bounty. Please pray/make dua and have patience
Allah will give you ease, he is hearing and he is with you, im so sorry, it may take time, but Allah is with you and he hears your cries. May Allah make it easy for you
@AlyssaZennorAmeen 🙌🏼
@@hibbah3210Ameen thumma Ameen 🤲🏼
@@sokkaslostboomerangg2593Ameen 🤲🏼
make dua I get married soon pls😭may Allah bless us with pious spouses Ameen
Allahuma Ameen!
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Alsalam w alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Allahumma Barik, may Allah swt increase the Barakah and love in your marriage.
Iam 22 and unmarried. Alhamdulillah, i follow the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet saw, but trying to get married seems impossible, i really want to get married for the sake of Allah. Please, keep me in your duas!
ربنا هب لنا من ازواجنا و ذرياتنا قرة أعين و إجعلنا للمتقين إماما
Ya Muqallib al-quloob thabbit qalbi 'ala deenik
يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ
“O Controller of hearts, make my heart firm in Your religion.”
"O Turner of hearts"* جزاك الله خير
You mention about styles of communication and different people having different ways of communicating. I feel like a video explaining different types and how to best to communicate to different types would be useful
Great suggestion inn shaa Allah!
Keep me in your duas! I’m 24 and unmarried and inshallah want to get married!
May Allah grant you a pious spouse and children, Ameen!
@@ramialkhaleel ameeeen ya rab!
Bruh I’m 27😅
I'm 26 chill
Pray for me too i want to get married im 20 🥺
This video really helped! Jazak Allah khayr May Allah Bless your marriage
Jak! Ameen ya rabb and you and yours!
Watching your pod with brother Omar inshallah right after I’ll watch this, very excited to see what you have to say inshallah I can get married soon may allah grant us all the best of spouses
May Allah bless you with a spouse and children who will be the coolness of your eyes and make you all leaders for the righteous
Cats stole the show mashallah 😊 To all brothers & sisters who havent get married yet may Allah bless you all with the best, righteous, beautiful, compatible spouses with whom you gain Allah blessings in this world & after.
Allahuma Ameen!
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I just turned 19 with a solid amount of money saved up. My father is making it a bit of a hassle cuz he doesn't wanna get me married here in australia. May allah bless me with a good wife 😢🤲
inshallah
If your a man that's your life, I am sick of these parents doing zlum to the kids it's not their life I have a daughter and I well never force her to marry someone she don't like that's haram. Alot of parents use the authority that Allah gave them to abuse the kids this is zlum not just.
He is right, womens past matter, Becareful!
@@Noodles-bn9ug Out of thousands of languages the brother or sister decided to speak facts. Allahummabarik.
Ameen
This made me emotional, it’s nice to hear these topics addressed and also speak about women respectfully. May Allah Azzawajjal bless and protect your marriage Ameen!
Nice tips brother, beneficial for non-muslims viewers as well.
Thank you! I’m glad you liked it💪🏽
If you’re able to get married young, it’s such a blessing, especially as a man.
I’m guessing you’re not 100% established, so a lady wanting to marry you means she actually desires you for you.
At 31, I feel I’ve passed the point where a lady would want me for me. At this age marriage is about how many boxes you tick: finance, stability etc like I’m a product being picked off a shelf.
May Allah bless your marriage habibi
Brother, don't feel so pessimistic about yourself. 31 is still pretty young for a man, and age generally matters less to women. If anything, a lot of women prefer older mature men.
As for your money, please don't feel objectified just because a woman might like your money. As long as it's not the only reason she's marrying you, there's nothing wrong with it. It's no different than a man wanting his wife to be beautiful. As long as it's not the main purpose of the marriage, it's a perfectly okay thing to value.
I'm sure there are women your same age looking for a pious husband. I don't believe it's possible for all of them to only want you for your money.
@@marytheraspberry3145they probably are but I’ve been rejected by every one of them.
The money thing is just an extra thing playing on my mind, but it doesn’t really matter when I get rejected from the outset anyway.
I have never been good enough to even be considered for marriage. I am screened out from the very beginning.
Also piety doesn’t matter to most women (and men, I’m not hating them for it) if you’re not attractive to them in the first place.
As a 5’2 balding man, it’s not a surprise I’m not even somewhat attractive to them. So me being a pious practising man (not that I claim to be, but Alhamdulillah I do the basics and more) makes no difference
As a sister, I just want to say there are amazing Muslim women out there in their 30s (life happens differently for everyone) who are looking for good Muslim man. No checkbox to tick specifically other than truly their character and commitment to their deen and dunya (regards to family, relations, responsibilities …). May Allah make it easy for you.
You are stating facts bro. It's not the same as being married young. In the 30s women are looking for more stability and that is ok. Accept women for who they are. Enforce boundaries and grow to love each other. Women in their late 20s early 30s are simply ready to settle down and have children.
جزاكم الله خيراً ♥️
May Allah bless your marriage Ameen
Ameen ya rabb and you as well
Great advice, absolutely loved it. JazakAllah brother ❤
My family is trying for my marriage for almost 5 years now. But it's too difficult for me due to sihr and other stuffs. 2 family rejected me bc i am too practicing (blew my mind as i think i am not). One said, i can be on my own, to continue my parda, he won't oppose. But won't help either. These are just few examples.
Anyone reading this, i request you to genuinely make dua for this Muslim sister of yours.
Why do u wanna get married?
Do you ever think maybe your the problem?
Mam I’m looking for a woman like you but I am 21 years old
Can I know more about you?
The family's rejected you because they think your insane. It's you. Not them.
It’s difficult being 31 years old and rejected at every opportunity whilst I’ve stayed away from haram whilst my friends who had girlfriends and enjoyed romance in their younger years easily got married, some without putting hardly any effort in.
Don’t worry. Every sacrifice counts. It’s all for Allah. The reward is EXTREMELY IMMENSE in Jannah. It’s all worth it
Its a test for you, because Allah s.w.a likes you. So dont fail the test and alway say alhamdulillah for everything
"Only those who endure patiently will be given their reward without limit.”
Do a lot of istighfar with niya that Allah forgives your sins.
Don't forget your athkar , and your daily obligatory acts. Don't eat Haram or earn Haram money.
Make Dua and don't be impatient with Allah by asking why yr dua hasn't been answered.
Do ruqya if u think that u may be afflicted with Ayn .
You're being tested. Allah knows best about everything. If He decrees that you get married later in the future, there's Hikma for the timing. Seek aid from Allah. Allah is aware of everything. Just be patient and keep making Dua.
Im gonna give you the honest truth: Women are easily icked out by men based on how they act socially. Your freinds had experience with women, and have learned how to seduce and make them interested, so of course its easier for them to get potential spouses to like them. You however never did haram, but that means you don't know how to act romantically with women, and thus can easily give them the ick. It is sad because the burden of good romantic social skills is on the man, as he has to lead, but feel free to ask me any questions as I got the real answers instead of these other empty answers.
MashaAllah great video...! May Allah bless you and strengthen your bond with your spouse and provide immense happiness through it.
I am 18 and I feel lucky to have a brother like you who gives such quality advice and knowledge.
Ameen ya rabb and you as well. May Allah elevate you in this life and the next!
One more important thing.
Be the best friend of your spouse. Share everything with them. I really mean everything.
If there one person in the world that you can share everything with , it is your spouse.
unless it's a toxic one. 😢
Don’t do that
Bad idea never show.your weakness as a man , tgat puts your partner off. And if youre a women dont tell your husband the deviancies of your thoughts cause that will make him hate you to the core.
Do NOT do this lol
@@andalusianstockmarket6284exactly. This op here romanticising marriage. Or it's a woman probably.
I’m 20, may Allah reward us with the best spouses at the best of times ameen
I don't like videos too often. I liked this one. Sound, simple advice anyone can use. In shaa' Allah ta'ala.
May Allah bless you my brother 💪🏽
Honestly, this was amazing and so unbiased. Thank you for thinking of the sisters and speaking about us like people. You are so mature for your age. Keep it up. Keeping you and your wife in my dua!
how old is he
I came back home really sad today because I'm still single but this gave me hope and taught me a lot. Thank you.
I’m also 23 and not married, ya Allah grant us pious spouses and make us good enough to deserve them
Tabaraka Allah, Wallahi im happy seeing young man married
I 18 and i reverted almost a year ago to Islam, this is genuinely such a helpful and calming video to watch.
I've been overthinking and scared that i will not find someone who's pure, I have not had anything with a woman and so I would expect my spouse to be pure too.
I'm praying that Allah blesses me with someone who is beautiful, kind and caring and that we'll share our souls together not just with anyone. Especially with the hookup culture these days I sometimes worry too much but I am putting my trust in Allah that he'll provide.
But other than that i am working on myself to become better too by hitting the gym and doing side hustles to provide the best for my woman in the future too.
May Allah bless you brother and may we enter Jannah through the mercy of Allah 🙌
Brother goated Allah humma barik 🔥
Brother you’re 18, relax.
May Allah SWT grant us all good and righteous spouses, Ameen.
Allahuma Ameen!
Amiin
May Allah grant us all pious partners who will uphold the views of Islam and fulfil all the duties a marriage brings in.
Jazakallahu khairan for this
May Allah Bless you and your marriage, Aameen! Jazakallahu Khairan for this excellent video!
Asalmualykum akhi, jazakallhu khayran for the helpful video. You gave very good advice; people shouldn't worry about getting married too much, Allah is the best of planners and He will give you a spouse when you are ready. If a Muslim dies before marriage and enters Paradise, khalas, you've got a harem! One improvement that could help your videos, insyhAllah, is to provide the references to Quran and Sunnah. Barakallhu feek!
Walakumasalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa iyaakum. Jak inn shaa Allah I will in the future!
probably wont get married for a while but im hoping i remember this when i do!
Amazing video allahumabarik! Very detailed and well sequenced. May Allah bless you, your spouse and your family, increase you in provision and protect you from evil eye ya Akhi!❤
I am a professional video editor who mainly focuses on the Islamic niche and the topic of marriage was in my mind for a while to create a video about and subhanallah, I found this video and there are lots of advice and clarification of certain stereotypes that are present in our society whether western or eastern that I think you answered. So, may I have the permission to remake this video for Dawah purposes on my channel?
Nonetheless, absolutely refreshing video! As someone who is still not married and from the youth, it was helpful. May Allah bless you!
6:26 I can confirm that thats definitely the case. Got married at 20, 12 years since and in shaa Allah many years more.
Great advices there.
In Bangladesh, culture aside, people actually prioritize wealth first and then good character. I wanted to get married at 21 (now 26) but since her mother had suffered a lot because of her husband could not provide for them; therefore, she was looking for a person for her daughter who would have generous amount of wealth (from his dad's side) to at least secure a good position and not place her daughter's life in jeopardy. I understand that (money is actually essential in life, without it, you actually feel miserable.) but at that time, it made me feel confused about life (was it my fault that my father did not have wealth left for me? If I have to build my wealth, it will certainly take time "finishing bachelor's and then job or business, etc."). But, Allah is the greatest of planners, and hope is all I have right now. In the end, even if I don't get the ending I am looking for, I wish my younger brothers and sisters, May Allah find you a loving spouse early in life!
and as for you Rami, you are an excellent person for the youth right now. I wish you all the best for your family. May Allah keep your family happy and flourishing!
Assalaamualaikum Great advice . Allahumma bark.
Mashallah tabarakallah. Thank you so much for making this video brother. It has been incredibly insightful. May Allah swt reward you and bless you and your wife a peaceful and longlasting marriage inshallah.
Great advise video, keep up the good work brother. Jazakallah khairan.
absolutely great man!
have a blessed journey for you and your spouse/spouses !
This is such beautiful advice from you mashallah and may allah reward you and your efforts and protect you from evil eyes 😊
May ALLAH bless us with right spouses.. Amen
For any man in marriage just remember this thing. A woman don't hit or raise their voices at men they respect. And a woman can't love you if she doesn't respect you first. Be careful be wise and practice the Sunnah in your behavior and composure.
And vice versa
raising voices is normal during an argument
True, should divorce if she raise her voice.
@@moralisoppression2837
Well then marry a robot.Humans argue and voice gets raised at times when humans get emotional.This rule also applies to both genders.
@@lightbeings6243 right so both need to have patience, wife also need to have patience when she got beat up. Its happen when human get emotional.
Hello brother I have just subscribed you seem like a very genuine person. May Allah grant you and your family all your wishes!
These are things I've already known, but the first time someone has covered it - thank you
Allahumo barik, your video is quite insightful
May Allah bless me with a spouse who has deen and good akhlaaq. May Allah bless me with righteous spouse and righteous family. May I have peaceful and loving marriage with my spouse. May my future spouse respects me a lot and may I respect him a lot as well. May we both become each other’s best friend. May my husband makes our relationship no.1 priority in his life just as i make it mine. May I be married to a soft man who gives me reassurance and emotional safety. May a gentle and loving man be written in my Naseeb. May Allah beautify my akhlaaq more and more and grant me a high valued man who has a pure tongue and pure heart. May Allah bless me with a man who has fear of Allah the most.
Aameen
This video felt like receiving guidance from an elder brother! ☺
May Allah bless you sister
thanks for the advice akhi, lovely meow meow in the back!!!
Why is this on my feed ?
My standards do not need to go any higher
Mashallah your such a model to follow, may allah ease and enlighten your path
Heard advice from an old sheikh: "Find a woman whose beauty you accept, then look at her religion. If you decline, let it be based on the religion to avoid harming her feelings."
SubhanAllah amazing advice brother. May ALLAH make us Righteous and grant us Righteous wives. Ameen
Im 27 just graduated from law school. Even when we are successful in obtaining education getting married isn’t any easier. It takes a lot of work to find a person with the right mindset and all the other traits necessary.
Bro wAllahi you give the best advice!. May Allah continue to bless all your endeavors. اللهم آمين
Allahuma Ameen and you as well. All good is from Allah❤️💪🏽
Thank you for sharing these genuine advices. May Allah reward you highly.
May Allah make it easier to all of us 🤲🤲 Ameen
Mashallah great wisdom from a relatively newly married man, may Allah SWT bless you and your wife!!
3:10 as a cat lover, I was just thinking to myself "I don't care about your talk, I just love this cat in the back" and then you said " ignore this guy" 😂
Lol my eyes went straight towards the cat as well and even noticed the tail of the cat above before the black & white one jumped 😆
AllahumaBarik! May Allah (SWT) put Barakah in your marriage!
The best advice I ever came across
MashaAllah, may Allah bless you. Maybe the first video I watch from your UA-cam and I'm definitely not deceived. JazakAllah khairan brother ❤!
I got married last year at the age of 25. Me being pakistani and my husband syrian we had alot of differences but alhamdulilah a year on, im so happy even through the challanges we faced. May allah continue to bless my marriage ❤❤
Allahuma Ameen!
May Allah grant us all righteous spouses.
Allahumma barik
Whoever is out there looking like myself, may Allah swt make it easy for us. Please remember one another iA
May Allah bless your marriage 🤍
WA'alaykumuSalaam wa Rahmathullah, good. Im not saying a fake BaarakAllah feek. But your video has good points in it. Shukran bro,
masallah you are very wise and knowledged even though you are young brother, may Allah s.w.t. reward you
I’m trying to marry a person I rlly like and they’re so right for me but the families are making it hard 😭 esp my side. Please make dua for us inshallah
Let your wife speak but don't let her interrupt you its not going to get better wAllahu alim
Yes, these communicative boundaries have to be worked out!
Mashallah so useful may Allah help us live peace in marriage life
At first, I could not put my eyes away from your cat. Especially the hanging tail.
This marriage advice is one of the best and comprehensive advice yet short. Looking forward for your content. May Allah bless your marriage. Jazaakumullah khayr wa baarakallahu fiikum
I needed to see this, thank you
Jizakallah kair brother Rami for the marriage advise i needed this may Allah bless you. Please keep it going
Short clip, but veryyy good! This clip should Watch every youth no matter What age. Bc its he sad no that much words but these words are very good together. MasAllah
Also understand people change and make mistakes any marriage that has lasted has had issues. If your goal is to raise a good family and please Allah don’t give up be patient
He’s coming to my parent to ask my hand in marriage in 2 weeks please keep us in ur duas I can’t wait for this inshallah
thank you Rami ♥
Give us some tips on what type of question to ask in the engagement period.
4 type person that u can married, it's based from hadist prophets
1. Righteousness (shalih/shalihah)/understanding of deen/islam
2. Wealthy
3. Beauty
4. Noble/descendant/ in arabic its called nasab. Example : Prince/princess/son of sultan/president/celebrity.
Prophet said choose number 1 u will be lucky.
Lucky what? Luck in this worldly land here after, u and ur partner going together, company,remind, walking to path of allah.
And when u look at it number 2-4 only worldly life meaning its temporary its didnt permanent. Example: beauty can faded with aging, wealthy can bankrupt anytime,noble line only afew percent in this word who have that status and if u marry a noble partner then u be ready from normal life to noble life like ethic etc.
Ask what important in married along the deen.
Example question for him/her.
what u do when weekend? See the answer, if he/she answers like go to bar,casino etc. well then u know in the future if u married with someone like this. If ur partner answer im came lecturer in masjid/ read book at home/read some islamic book. Then u know what the characteristics.
How often ur shalat(pray)? He/she said 3/4 times a day, ask him/her would u mind if i advice/remind/invite u to the straight path?
Ask the mahr (dowry), see what her want.
Mahr its not burden the huband but at the same time not humiliate the wife ti be lowly.
Ask what happen if thereis argument/clash each other how to solve it? Look what Alquran and hadist said
There is no such thing called love in marriage,love only in marvel/Hollywood/disney
love given by allah to the husband and wife if they walking to path of allah, seeing jannah together etc.
Such great advice
33 and unmarried. Islamic value common ground is impossible to establish in the west. May Allah please help us all
Have you stayed a virgin that whole time brother? If so how do you deal with it
@@Csquared14if he has or hasnt, that’s none of your business. Don’t talk about sins. You deal with it by doing what Allah has told you to do. Don’t watch porn, lower your gaze, don’t mindlessly scroll and look at women. Pray pray pray pray and pray. Physical touch isn’t all there is to life.
May Allah swt make it easier for you . May Allah swt send your perfect match to you soon.
@@Hejskndnfjsksjjs if only it was that easy
May Allah grant you a good wife and family
Wa'AlaykumAssalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
This was solid
JazakAllahu Khairan .. 20:46 02/07 tue !
I am a little too old not be married and my family isn’t social and we live in place where it’s hard to meet potential partners.. i don’t know if I will get married at all .. pray for me
ur female friends, they have their Mahrams circle.
or join Quran circles, even online...
As a revert it is the most challenging. More so as a male revert, this is because we have to approach the father. I have no Muslim family to introduce them to, I just have my deen and that is it. I have me and my relationship with the Almighty. Any advice for male reverts?