We Were Headed For DIVORCE | We’ve Been Keeping A SECRET

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  • @smnlikdat
    @smnlikdat 4 роки тому +122

    If an old KY momma can give you a little advice. Let your marriage always be like a weeping willow tree, bend at the times that are necessary but never, never let them break you. God Bless

  • @mefford67
    @mefford67 4 роки тому +41

    *A couple that can persevere through the hard times and can keep smiling makes a marriage even stronger. Married for 32 years and I KNOW...* 😉

  • @jamesgabor4047
    @jamesgabor4047 5 років тому +145

    You guys probably don’t realize but your an inspiration to many of us , God bless you guys and good luck with your “expansion “ 🌹

  • @janpsillos5513
    @janpsillos5513 4 роки тому +56

    I wanted a third child and to be a stay at home mom, not in the cards. Became a single mom, raised two wonderful kids, work as a counselor help ing many of God' s children who are my family. That's a blessing God gave me.

  • @karenlemley8656
    @karenlemley8656 5 років тому +66

    God bless y'all in your marriage and your homestead! He will supply all your needs if you have faith.

  • @sandyquinn496
    @sandyquinn496 4 роки тому +26

    My husband and I have been married for 36 yrs. We have road that roller coaster of life. But we are still together.

  • @RootsandRefugeFarm
    @RootsandRefugeFarm 5 років тому +318

    I love yall so much.
    Yall are heifers for that teasing intro though. 😂
    But even still, I do love yall.

    • @barkhollerhomestead5987
      @barkhollerhomestead5987 5 років тому +9

      They scared me to death there for a second that's for sure lol

    • @lavendercrowl5695
      @lavendercrowl5695 5 років тому +2

      I was thinking the same thing Jess, thought they were going to say another Stiver was on the way! 😘

    • @laurasparkman2660
      @laurasparkman2660 5 років тому +2

      @@lavendercrowl5695 Me, too!

    • @SteppingBackInTimeKentucky
      @SteppingBackInTimeKentucky 5 років тому +7

      i remember that video all too well... it was mid winter when we got the chance to watch it. We were just getting by because it was cold, and being in the construction business, work either slows or comes to a creeping halt during that time of year. We found this video when we could only sit here and dream of spring... and better things. It soothed my soul and helped to keep that spark alive in our hearts to just keep pushing forward on so many dreams and goals of our own!!!

    • @allenfarm
      @allenfarm 5 років тому +13

      Today I am thankful for you, Jess, being a vessel for God to speak his promises.

  • @teresaruthjones1717
    @teresaruthjones1717 4 роки тому +2

    Beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing a part of your lives.

  • @MimsysGarden
    @MimsysGarden 5 років тому +71

    Been married 30yrs and sometimes we are totally NOT on the same page at all.
    But, there is an old saying that sums it up completely (for me)... “it ain’t worth havin’ , if it ain’t worth fightin’ for” ... love you guys!

    • @sandradelvecchio6894
      @sandradelvecchio6894 4 роки тому +1

      I’ve been married 34 years and I just said to my husband why is? What made us stay when we had bumps? Neither of us had any idea.

  • @breezybest6064
    @breezybest6064 5 років тому +58

    I'm so happy you're having more children! I have 8 children and we've been homeschooling for 27 years and it's been our greatest joy to have this wonderful big family! During this 2018-19 year we've been dealing with our 5th child (16 year-old daughter) who was suddenly diagnosed with ALL (childhood leukemia). The most horrible thing imaginable to happen to a child (and their loved ones), let me tell you. It's amazing what a family can get through when they settle down and make the conscious decision to lean on the Lord and work on/fight for their future. Love you guys and God bless you all!

    • @carmell51
      @carmell51 4 роки тому +5

      So true, God bless you and your family.

  • @rondakudrna2054
    @rondakudrna2054 4 роки тому +11

    I've always thought you guys are so adorable together. I pray you are doing well now.

  • @shelbymartin2598
    @shelbymartin2598 4 роки тому +1

    You all are such a blessing. Wish you the best. Enjoy your smiles and videos..God Bless!!! From Danville Va.

  • @jessicalane955
    @jessicalane955 4 роки тому +10

    I married my husband who had 3 children and I have one of my own. When he told me he was done I was devastated. I understand that struggle. I love watching you all.

  • @VLynnie
    @VLynnie 4 роки тому +1

    You are very sweet to share your story. I am praying for you and your family. I've been enjoying roots and refuge videos as well. I love Jessica's devotionals. Small world huh? Maybe that's why your channel showed up in my feed. I'm glad it did.

  • @CynBrown
    @CynBrown 5 років тому +26

    It is not ease that makes a marriage strong but the trials and struggles that strengthen you both. Best of luck to your future.

    • @kariannecrysler7437
      @kariannecrysler7437 5 років тому

      Beautifuly put. I like to think it isn't wether you fight or not, but do you communicate? My hubby & I would have ended by now if we didn't learn how to be honest and communicate.

    • @CynBrown
      @CynBrown 5 років тому +1

      @@kariannecrysler7437 Same and we are going on 22 years together

    • @kariannecrysler7437
      @kariannecrysler7437 5 років тому +2

      @@CynBrown congratulations on 22! Tug and I are 11 year's in. I know I will probably think about divorce at least once or twice more, but never changes the image of where I want us to be in our 80's..... Together however, wherever and as long as possible. Lol

  • @seedsandsanity5525
    @seedsandsanity5525 5 років тому +34

    Y’all don’t even know...this video just made me cry. I am so happy you two came through. We are presently where you were. You just became my Jess & Miah with this video.

    • @tammyhanson7843
      @tammyhanson7843 5 років тому +2

      Seeds And Sanity I’m sorry to hear you are struggling. I was with my ex for 30 years. He took me on vacation in 2009 and we arrived back home and he left the marriage, and left that very day, and taking our brand new 5th wheel trailer for him to live in. Hang in there, things could change like Jen and Zach. I would spend a lot of time in prayer if you pray. Good luck, I know how painful it is. How long have you been married? Children?🦋💜

  • @danafredrickson42
    @danafredrickson42 4 роки тому +2

    i am where you were....would appreciate prayers. you are good people❤️

  • @jadergator85
    @jadergator85 5 років тому +37

    Thank you for sharing your story. All of my last 34 yrs have been filled with trauma, anxiety and depression and it just keeps getting worse day by day literally. But hearing your story and everything you've been through and the obstacles you've overcome, have really given me hope that there will be better days eventually.

  • @idahohoosier8989
    @idahohoosier8989 4 роки тому +1

    So glad you made it! Peace and blessings

  • @Maranatha_Acres
    @Maranatha_Acres 4 роки тому +6

    You two are so real, such an inspiration; it’s lovely!

  • @theresacourter2936
    @theresacourter2936 5 років тому +1

    Happy for you both. God has a plan and in his time he will give you a gift.

  • @tammymckenna1899
    @tammymckenna1899 5 років тому +8

    Thank you for sharing and encouraging. Blessing to a beautiful family. Go Stive Tribe!!!

  • @MsLippy
    @MsLippy 5 років тому +2

    Transparency, Thank You For Being You, Being Honest, and Being Real. Blessings My Friends, and Blessings To A Beautiful New Chapter To Your Journey.

  • @northstarprepsteader
    @northstarprepsteader 5 років тому +54

    Zach, it's the grace of God that opened your heart to be open to life. Many blessings upon both of you! Thank you for sharing your hearts with us and you will continue to be in my prayers.

    • @lisalapoint7022
      @lisalapoint7022 5 років тому +1

      I second that! So glad you are open to life! You will be blessed beyond your imagining with this decision. God Bless you and love to you.

  • @YogiHollowFarm
    @YogiHollowFarm 4 роки тому +2

    Inspirational and we love you all

  • @barbarafox1395
    @barbarafox1395 5 років тому +78

    Yes marriage is hard.. way back when, our grandparents believed in if something is broken they fixed it, they didn't get rid of it..

    • @sharonabels2509
      @sharonabels2509 4 роки тому +4

      so true. Many people need to remember that a marriage is a family or team effort. Everyone has to work toward a common goal. I unfortunately divorced 20+ years ago, because he gave up & I went to AlaNon. To "let go & let God" take your strife off your shoulders, is the greatest feeling. My kids are 22 & 24, both the most precious part of my life. ((Hugs))

    • @kristinmedica7229
      @kristinmedica7229 4 роки тому +3

      @@sharonabels2509 hooey

    • @MrYouarethecancer
      @MrYouarethecancer 3 роки тому +1

      And they were all miserable.

  • @beepassionate
    @beepassionate 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you, beautiful souls. What a gift you have given so many and how brave of you to be honest. May the golden light of love increase in your lives. Blessings to you

  • @nieserz7
    @nieserz7 2 роки тому +3

    Whereas I'm not a parent, nor a religious person, I'm in love with your positivity! Your love feels infectious and full of joy❤️❤️

  • @thatwhimseyhomestead
    @thatwhimseyhomestead 4 роки тому +1

    You guys!!! I wish I could talk to you the way you were able to talk to Jess. That was a raw and beautiful video.

  • @AddieG0901
    @AddieG0901 5 років тому +12

    Oooohhhh my goodness I just squealed. Yay. I will be praying for God to bless you with little Stivers #3

  • @lilcowgirlsluvr
    @lilcowgirlsluvr 4 роки тому +1

    God brought yall together for a reason. Many blessings for you an your family.

  • @LegacyHomeandGarden
    @LegacyHomeandGarden 5 років тому +40

    This is exactly why I watch your channel and have said from the beginning. Ya'll are Fun and Honest; Sharing the good and the bad, the ups and the downs the successes and the failures. Everything happens for a reason. I am so very happy for you and your family!. Blessings to my friends!

  • @davidschonhardt4958
    @davidschonhardt4958 4 роки тому

    Wow, you folks are wonderful! Thank you for your inspiration and honesty. You may be hearing from us. May God bless and guide us.

  • @landofplentyfarmstead4813
    @landofplentyfarmstead4813 5 років тому +11

    Brother, before I even watch this, I'm gonna pray for you all. I've been hacking it out for 3 1/2 years in a trailer building my farm and house, IT'S BEEN HARD! It's made a Lotta stress for us but only by the power of God has kept us together. Really close to leaving a few times , it's too hard to go. We've been trying to get out of the rat race because it almost killed us once. We've sort of brought old into the new. But no more it's a new day yall. Love and respect.

  • @bethydurbin6796
    @bethydurbin6796 5 років тому +1

    Hugs...many almost moments quietly hid and then they pass. 41 yrs married and love each other more each day! Hugs

  • @wendyc.5769
    @wendyc.5769 5 років тому +15

    I’m so stinkin HAPPY for your family!!!! The Lord is good and His mercy endureth forever 😇

  • @mmmariam100
    @mmmariam100 5 років тому +1

    New subscriber from New Jersey from a single mom with my 2 daughters after struggling with my past relation I send blessings to you guys. God is good.

  • @wasblind4835
    @wasblind4835 5 років тому +5

    People walk away so easy now a days. It’s great to see a couple work on things. Cheers to you and many prayers for many more years together. May God bless you with another child and a wonderful future.

  • @mage8088
    @mage8088 4 роки тому +2

    What a beautiful video. Much love to your family!❤

  • @leighkershaw6197
    @leighkershaw6197 5 років тому +4

    Beautiful video and a beautiful story. Thank you for being so open and sharing. Bless you all

  • @neilmunro6683
    @neilmunro6683 5 років тому +1

    Real people, real life.. Thank you for being real.. I am glad all is in a better place..
    Kindness our way
    Neil { lochness Scottish Highlands }

  • @verreedoiron183
    @verreedoiron183 5 років тому +5

    I was sobbing like a baby. I am so happy for you guys. I have been following you from the beginning. I pray that the perfect property is presented to you so that you can continue to grow your homestead and family. Thank you for being you and real for all of us. God bless

  • @mayravelez517
    @mayravelez517 5 років тому +1

    Great News, God Bless!

  • @StringfieldRidgeFarm
    @StringfieldRidgeFarm 5 років тому +32

    I’m crying! I knew some of this because I have watched you from day one!
    Me and Lee went through a similar thing. For other reasons but almost divorced about 3 years ago and, a lot of prayer later, we are happier than ever!
    Thanks for sharing your beautiful story!

  • @NanaMom104A
    @NanaMom104A 5 років тому +1

    Congratulations!!!! this is great news, you two make beautiful babies! I cannot wait for it to be a reality.

  • @hernandezfamilyfarm
    @hernandezfamilyfarm 5 років тому +12

    I'm in tears... that was a ride you just took me through😭😂 and I'm blowing over some baby dust I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant with our 4th!!! ❤❤❤ sending you love and prayers!😘😍

  • @amierikke6225
    @amierikke6225 5 років тому +1

    You guys look so joyful. Praise God.

  • @lisahensley1452
    @lisahensley1452 5 років тому +10

    I totally understand your story. I am so happy you two are going to try for another baby! I was convinced to get my tubes tied years ago after having my three boys. I went through divorce and was a single mom for 16 years. I am currently in a long term relationship and would love to have a baby or 2 with him. But I can’t and now cannot afford to adopt or any other option. I am so very happy that you all did not give up on your relationship. Praying for you all to continue to have your wonderful relationship! We are looking for land ourselves and start a compound too. You all rock and absolutely love your video!

  • @bevtrue6937
    @bevtrue6937 4 роки тому +1

    Congratulations on getting happiness into your life, whether it works the way you want it to or not.

  • @stellalush4547
    @stellalush4547 4 роки тому +6

    Whenever l watch your vids, l always have a big smile on my face. Please stay together, you're both awesome.

  • @danalarson8669
    @danalarson8669 2 роки тому +1

    God Bless you and your family

  • @stacey68
    @stacey68 5 років тому +18

    You are a great inspiration! I love your infectious smiles, and the love you have for each other! your videos are awesome, ,I love watching you guys do things together as a team!! I'm excited for you guys on deciding to have another baby.. Babies are miracles in itself, creating life out of love is amazing!

  • @mindystiltner4483
    @mindystiltner4483 4 роки тому +1

    Love your smiles, and where God has brought you! You got this💕

  • @wendyweddell2782
    @wendyweddell2782 5 років тому +7

    Thank y'all so much for speaking directly to my heart. I was feeling about ready to completely give up

  • @kanganoroo3849
    @kanganoroo3849 5 років тому +1

    Congratulations on your bright future, continued love and the hope of an addition to your family.

  • @janinejohnson1898
    @janinejohnson1898 5 років тому +14

    Wow! What an awesome story. Thank you for sharing and for being authentic. The best is yet to come! ☮️♥️

  • @terpenetoby
    @terpenetoby 5 років тому +1

    Yes, the world could use more Stivers. Thanks for being you. Made me realize what I have.

  • @ruthbarrett8907
    @ruthbarrett8907 5 років тому +4

    Thanks for sharing your story! I cried through most of it. The best part is you giving praise to God for getting you back on track with your marriage, Homestead and family. May the Lord bless and keep you! ❤️

  • @janicejurgensen2122
    @janicejurgensen2122 4 роки тому +1

    I’m so happy for u both!!

  • @alysonmajtan3599
    @alysonmajtan3599 5 років тому +4

    Things come to us in the right moment. Thank you for being brave enough to share not just the happy moments but your struggles as well. Now you can move forward both on the same page. You have such a beautiful family! Tough times let us see what and who is really important to us. May God bless you with another beautiful healthy child! So excited to continue to follow your journey!

  • @212acres3
    @212acres3 4 роки тому +1

    Great testimony! Thanks for sharing! Y’all have a blessed week!!!

  • @maryjanew20
    @maryjanew20 5 років тому +10

    You’ve brought me to tears. God Bless you! I pray you won’t have to wait too long. 💕

  • @Crackedeggfarms
    @Crackedeggfarms 4 роки тому +1

    This is dope! Ups and downs are families and homesteading!!

  • @hbug13_62
    @hbug13_62 5 років тому +12

    I love how honest you two are. I know that others will watch this and be encouraged to know they aren't the only ones who struggle. I wrote a pretty personal comment a week or so ago about being set free from a destructive marriage and finding the right person. But both of us had the same baggage from our previous marriages. We had the same coping skill of withdrawing and getting really quiet. So when things weren't going well we would just give each other space and be really quiet. So then there would be nothing but space and silence. We had a really bad time last summer and for some reason when we worked that out things were sealed like they never had been and we haven't had anything major since.
    It's also encouraging to know I'm not the only one "failing" (or so it seemed) at homesteading. There have been a few bumps along the way and I've thought "maybe I'm not cut out for this." But it's so obvious this opportunity was a gift from God. He wouldn't give me a dream I'd had for forty years and then snatch it away. In Matthew 7 Jesus talks about what kind of Father we have. So with a little more perseverance and patience things smoothed out. Your story puts those faltering steps in perspective too. They really weren't huge disasters. I tend to be an Eeyore but I'm married to a Tigger so I guess we balance each other out.
    Anyway, you both are a blessing and example to a lot of people.

  • @OutdoorswithVance
    @OutdoorswithVance 4 роки тому +1

    yall look so happy together. I m glad it all worked out

  • @regenerated4life
    @regenerated4life 5 років тому +7

    It takes a vast amount of courage to publicly share your private life and I appreciate you both for doing so. It helped me to understand the pain that is sometimes visible in your eyes. That your desire is to smile and fight through it to a better tomorrow is an encouragement. My husband and I have been married for 22 years and we've been through some rough times, but we've come to a point where we having argued about everything and there isn't anything left but being happily stuck together. Yahweh bless you both!

  • @1870s
    @1870s 5 років тому

    Beautiful story! All the best as you grow your family ❤️

  • @annwithaplan9766
    @annwithaplan9766 5 років тому +5

    Aww, I'm sorry you went through that, but also glad that you made it through for the better! You didn't owe that to anyone, but such a nice thing to do for your viewers in telling of your struggles. This WILL have an impact on others for sure! Thank you for sharing that! Love you guys.

  • @staciyawn7344
    @staciyawn7344 5 років тому +1

    Congratulations!! Children are such a blessing and big familys bring so much more love!!

  • @jonabriggs8829
    @jonabriggs8829 4 роки тому +7

    This is the second time watching this Video, when I start to feeling down, I watch this Video and Jess's Devotional Video and it really help's me, ty so much

  • @staceyb947
    @staceyb947 5 років тому +1

    tears, goosebumps and PRAISE! wonderful truth and story and thank you for sharing.

  • @mneraasen224
    @mneraasen224 5 років тому +23

    You all had me crying 😭Wishing you all the best on this journey called life💗💗💗💗💗

  • @SuperPeacerose
    @SuperPeacerose 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for your story. I'm grateful for your honesty. I know God is in charge and that He has touched you. Thank you for your videos.

  • @Faithfulfields
    @Faithfulfields 5 років тому +4

    Very inspirational video Hope all goes well you guys inspire me everyday never lose those beautiful smiles

  • @havefaithfarms96
    @havefaithfarms96 5 років тому +1

    I just love watching you guys. I might not smile all day but i do thru your entire videos. Your family warms my heart.

  • @angieo.2389
    @angieo.2389 5 років тому +6

    Family is so important,blessing on you both as you grow your family.

  • @edeanmendonsa4311
    @edeanmendonsa4311 3 роки тому +1

    I absolutely enjoy watching you both and truly love your family! Praying for your dreams to come true! Edean

  • @suehinson1629
    @suehinson1629 5 років тому +3

    I got to share finally, this is my choice pick, for the best "feel good vlog" that I return to and have watched over and over. And to be honest, in 2020 I'll probably continue to return. It feels my heart every time. And I'm so thankful, that your path is heading in such a beautiful direction and I'm along for the ride! I love y'all, God bless.

  • @CCCreations48
    @CCCreations48 5 років тому +1

    thank you for your honesty ❤️

  • @abundantlyblessedhomestead9951
    @abundantlyblessedhomestead9951 5 років тому +4

    God changed your heart! That's what happened! Happened to me too! I was SO done having kids, until God allowed me to see into my husband's heart. I spent a few months in prayer and God changed my heart. I am his only wife for my life and if I can bless him with one more, that's what I'm called to do. Fast forward... we now have 5 kids and the Lord does provide

  • @indarafarms
    @indarafarms 5 років тому +1

    You guys are so refreshing and real, and your truth and having the courage to share it is beautiful. Thank you it definitely touched me today x

  • @tambradugger5270
    @tambradugger5270 4 роки тому +4

    Love y'all, you bring inspiration everyday. Knowing that we are not the only ones with problems really helps to know we are not alone thank u for everything y'all do ❤

  • @ranns160
    @ranns160 3 роки тому

    Thank y’all for being open. You help so many people with your sincerity. Yay for friends!!!

  • @jerseygalk1554
    @jerseygalk1554 5 років тому +4

    May your family and blessings continue to grow along with your wonderful smiles ♥️

  • @cherylcallahan5402
    @cherylcallahan5402 5 років тому +1

    TYVM 💕Stivers wonderful story of staying together brought tears of joy for your family.

  • @ketocarnivory4651
    @ketocarnivory4651 5 років тому +6

    Awwwww! I love y’all!! You brought me to tears! That’s something my husband and I have had to work through. He doesn’t want any more children. And I do. So, I can relate! So happy to hear your news of new beginnings! ❤️

  • @noniemarley7012
    @noniemarley7012 5 років тому +1

    God be with you both .

  • @vickibatstone9283
    @vickibatstone9283 5 років тому +8

    Congrats you two, it will be fun trying...Thank you so much for being so truthful about a bad time you all went through... just love you and your family...marriage is hard, but worth the work.. my husband and I have been married for 45 years...wishing the two of you strength and love...God is good

  • @honestmomvlog
    @honestmomvlog 4 роки тому +1

    Aw I teared up! How amazing

  • @kcmgfarm2389
    @kcmgfarm2389 5 років тому +4

    Jess's devotional videos are incredible, I agree. So happy to see the two of you come through to the other side of the hard ship. Blessings 🙏

  • @peggymoncrief386
    @peggymoncrief386 4 роки тому

    Love your site and your family! Good luck, may your deepest dreams come true!

  • @backusfarmstead4610
    @backusfarmstead4610 5 років тому +4

    This is an amazing video and it has helped me so much you have no idea! I’m sending this to my husband immediately. THANK YOU.

  • @Iamenough10
    @Iamenough10 4 роки тому +1

    You both give me hope❣ 💖

  • @healingbloomsfarm
    @healingbloomsfarm 4 роки тому +6

    You guys are a beautiful couple, positivity is contagious in EVERY aspect of life. It’s amazing, when God gives us the clarity we need it’s always at the least expected time. I’m very happy for the both of you. Marriage can be tough, emotional, miserable, beautiful & priceless. Thank-you for sharing your story, it makes me feel like I’m not alone in the struggles! ❤️

  • @ForgottenWayFarms
    @ForgottenWayFarms 5 років тому +2

    I love your family ❤️ being real is so refreshing.

  • @CourtLee333
    @CourtLee333 4 роки тому +3

    I seriously just LOVE y’all! I’m so glad I found this channel

  • @robertnicewander8897
    @robertnicewander8897 4 роки тому +1

    So happy for you! Your story is inspiring. An 80 year old in northern Illinois.

  • @judydrouhard2651
    @judydrouhard2651 5 років тому +9

    Know this may have been hard for you all to “tell all”. Just want you to know that we will be praying for you guys. Best of luck.
    Love watching you and your family.

  • @marianspickler7290
    @marianspickler7290 4 роки тому +1

    im new to your channel and i want to say God Bless you both for going forward,

  • @jeangraze8031
    @jeangraze8031 5 років тому +4

    This made me cry. I am so happy for you guys! I just want you all to be always happy! I watched that same video that Jess made too and you all inspire me so much.