Depression is my normal way of living. Happiness is purely accidental. I don't expect anyone to understand me, but I don't expect someone to judge me either.
Being diagnosed with Dysthymia, one of the things I find myself struggling with that wasn't mentioned here is feeling like you're not sick enough. Almost feeling like you're a poser asking for help while other people are depressed to the point of being bed bound. Unless that's just me idk. With multiple conditions I don't know what is coming from what.
Same I don't know why but I'm considered so smart put together and someone another would want to be like I feel like I'm falling apart at the seams with stress and a weird kind of boredom I feel fake
I would just get off the treadmill. Maybe if I had to run to save my kid or something, but was on fire, then I'd really have to keep going and fight through the pain.
Me too. I had a summers that would get better but I never got to happy life. It over 4 times worse now. It's hard for me to fall asleep and stay asleep than wake up late too
Always show respect! BUT ALWAYS! Call someone out for bad behaviour... the people who understand and change bad behaviour are the people worth your time. Took me long time to realise that letting people treat me like shit was destroying me! Please show yourself respect and don't put up with people like that! It takes practice, but the more you do it, the easier and gets.... learning self defence can be a great confidence builder as well as improving your health!
Its incredibly hurtful and frustrating when it took you YEARS to finally reach out for help only to be told that you "function way too good to be depressed" "Oh you manage to wake up and go to work? lol you aint depressed at all, go home"
happens to me all the time. Time just flies by and the days melt together. I’ll be on my phone one second, check the time and like 4 hours have gone by. It’s annoying tbh
5 hours Try months. I've been on youtube since the quarantine. Nothing is worth doing anymore. I wake up just to watch other people achieve things I can never hope to even do.
High Functioning Depression is a major problem today, my friend had a problem with it. He lost interest in everything, but with the help of psychotherapists and family support he managed to recover. Excellent video!
Recover? Since when is this type of depression ever cured? There is no cure for depression, any type, really. We can maybe keep it from getting so bad that it threatens life, so the victim survives, but that's only until the next time. Those who suffer, I believe, are born that way; it's in their DNA, their genetic make up. So it's a way of life if they and others can keep life going.
I have struggled with not wanting to leave the house... I have to make myself do everything. It's such an effort. I just started to take some medicine, so hopefully I will be able to start enjoying life again.
I hardly leave my house and I just lost my mom on 1-23- 2019 so now I just want to sleep eating is even a struggle because now im making food just for me and not my mom
I also can’t leave my house. Every night, I would plan to go to work the following day or to the mall but come the next day, I’d find my self wanting to stay home again. But the whole day I would think of the benefits of going out. Am I crazy? 😔
@@lurchusa1299 I agree with your reality but I haven't always been my own best friend more like a bully. I do think we can be kinder to ourselves. I love me do you love you? 😉 Take care out there, you are special ♡
Had it since I was 21 .. 46 now and it’s so tiring, on ongoing battle which i won’t let beat me, I have felt suicidal many times but what would that gain???... I’m scared of dying and living, I’m stuck in between and worry constantly and am lonely in a crowd of friends, it’s horrible.
I’m the same, also 46 and so tired of everything, but nobody would know, they think I always look happy but deep inside I’m suicidal. I never knew what my problem was as I have always felt like this since I was a child but I went to therapy and I got diagnosed. I don’t think this will ever go away, 😓...
That's great your at a point you can get up and go. but I completely know the feeling of not even having the energy to listen to a ubtube video. thats me and that's sad but true
Starts at 5:15 General sense of sadness Inability to experience joy Loss of interest in things you loved Diminished energy Self criticism/perfectionism Irritability Employing use of coping mechanisms Self doubt You’re welcome, HF’er👍🏻 Jk. That’s not funny 🤦🏼♀️
it is very hard to explain to anyone how I feel and felt for years. lack of motivation the in-ablily to do the thing i want or have to do. it is like im able talk myself out of doing anything, without words or reason.
You have just found some words, seek some professional help...you will find more words to help you and perhaps a language to better describe and communicate. If that is what you truly want. Therapy has helped me tremendously, I have gone off and on from the age of 17 and now I am almost 45. It may take years or it may take a few weeks to notice a difference. However, someone in your life wants better for you and so should you. Best to you, cheers.
Hallo guys. If you need a friend or someone to talk to, I'm here! If you don't want any advice from me or you don't want me to talk, that's fine. I would be more than happy to listen. I want to help 💖
I remember watching videos about depression a few years back and reading comments of people saying "I feel like this every single day and I feel so empty." I thought "Whoa, how is that possible? I wonder what that feels like because I'm only like this a couple times a week." Fast forward to present time and now I'm like "Oh..."
Patricia Alvarez. Funny how you said that about feeling numb but i feel like that so many times to point i literally don't feel anything, don't care about anything and I know I should feel something but there's nothing just void inside. People ask how I feel or why I am not talking, I have to lie lol don't think people really can understand if i tell them
So many of us have ALLOWED society/life to depress us. We need to learn to take back control of our lives. Keep your life simple and keep away from drama and negative people who drain your energy.
I know EXACTLY what to do in order to make me more productive and successful. I'm just more easily tired and exhausted just doing basic chores. I just can't seem to finish things I used to really excel at, like organizing my home office space. I'm my own worst enemy some days, even though everyone thinks I'm the strongest most calming, self aware person they've known.
I hope people can begin to understand that it’s very possible to wear a mask and put on a fake show of happiness while depressed. Also great video. A lot of things described are exactly what I’ve gone through in the past and received help for.
How refreshing to see someone with deep knowledge about a topic. You clearly are not reading from cards or autocue, yet you are not making those common errors of getting stuck for words or saying something slightly silly. Your knowledge allows you to deliver your topic interestingly and with charisma. Thank you for this important video.
Omg! I have High Functioning Depression! I knew something is weird and not normal. I can relate to literally everything of this disorder. I’m gonna go back to my therapist. Thank you so much for making this video!
I've been depressed and anxious for about 20 years now. It's way better now then in the beginning. What has changed things is building compassion and understanding for myself and the human condition. Seeing other people are suffering too. Surround yourself with kind and compassionate people but most importantly learn to be kind to yourself. Get to know your strengths and weakness. It makes me so sad that we are going through this but together we can change our minds and hearts, little by little. Day by day, congratulate yourself for everything! No matter how small, you think it is! I love you all and wish you all the best!
raised by a parent with severe depression makes/ made it difficult to know what's real/ normal and what wasn't. The first step is when you're at the door of knowing you have depression. That's the key to start getting help/ getting better/ healing. It takes vigilance and self awareness not just to recognize the signs and symptoms, but to try and change them. (Getting help, etc) Little by little. It feels like a constant battle and when your "default" is depression, it feels like you're being pulled back down into the muck, but the little things/ habits can add up and have some positive effects.
Excellent content. I do feel less lonely now, as an ex-addict i´ve learnt how to cope and hide my chronic depression under the mask of a busy, healthy and successful life. But rarely a day goes by that i don´t feel deeply fed up with being alive. Thanks for your efforts.
The thing I have found annoying is knowing that we need help as human beings but I didn’t want to go get the help because I knew better than to fall into those symptoms. I’m slowly starting to learn how to express myself once again and I’m looking forward for what is next in life. My ego was not happy to admit I needed help and I was not coping correctly. I hope who ever else looks at this video finds this helpful. I know it’s not easy to get medical help but there is always a way. Remember your life is valuable! You can get help.
Thank you for this page. My family and friends don't believe me, when I tell them that I deal with Depression. I'm trying to start a business, and the stress can leads to depression. Everyday is a Blessing. And, don't give up on your Dreams and Goals.Have Faith in yourself, and Love yourself.
What a quite interesting video I've found! People with High Functioning Depression often feel a sense of malaise or subtle sadness that doesn’t seem to have an origin, but they can work with a therapist and get help managing this legitimate mental health issue, though in nowadays going to a therapist means to be criticized by the rest of the people. Thanks for sharing this with us! I'll be looking forward to watch your next videos.
I can live a fairly normal life but it's exhausting. I don't have the energy or emotional capacity to do anything more than the bare minimum of a normal life. My apartment is a mess and I have no energy to do anything about it. I feel like it's a physical manifestation of me internally and it's a giant weight on me.
I felt so depressed during when I was around 13-28, and I always tried to say I was depressed but was just told depressed people can't get out of bed. I wish I knew this existed sooner.
There's a lot from the PTSD camp in here too. Video games was always a heavy distraction for me. Losing interest is a constant fight. But I've been taking stock of my good stuff for a while now.
3:50 She *perfectly* nailed the comments that make so many feel ashamed getting help. I've heard all of these at one time or another and it makes you want to hide yourself from the world and deny that anything is wrong.
I suffer depression, anxiety and panic attacks. Been in mental hospitals, on meds that don’t work!!!! I don’t want to leave my house, or get out of bed. Always put things off because I don’t want to deal with them. Tired all the time, yet can’t sleep. I was hospitalized a month ago but still haven’t been able to help myself. Don’t know where to go from here. 😭😭
I used to have anxiety and panic attacks... always an overwhelming feeling of dying. It was so bad at times, I would physically tense up and have trouble breathing. I would have to pull over thinking it may cause me to pass out. I was on xanex for a while, but it didnt help much. The thing that helped the most was when I had an epiphany and realized I would rather be dead then deal with the severe anxiety. When I got to the point of genuinely not caring if I died, that is when my anxiety went away. I truly submitted to the theory that I was no longer going to worry about what I cannot control, and that whatever happens happens for a reason good or bad and I will deal with it as it comes. The relief and relaxation that came with that was life changing.
I went to my doctor to talk about the possibility of having depression because I have a lot, if not all, of these symptoms. She basically told me she didn't believe I was depressed, but she did send me to a psychiatrist to figure it out
Also remember this... Those of us with this and Bi Polar have to overcome much more on a daily basis then people without this. This makes us Strong.. Not weak.
I've had chronic illness for 5 years and I am starting to experience this (I used to have major depressive disorder but with meds and therapy I was able to limit it a lot and not have severe episodes.) I think not being able to participate in society and dealing with limitation and pain has finally given me a bleaker outlook. You may think this is a natural reaction to basically being shut out of life, but humans are very adaptable, and I can be fine- not joyful, but fine. It's really surprising when I come out of it and my mind isn't consumed with my failings and the bleakness of my life. I just think about other things, and I'm ok. The saddest thing is when my depression makes me believe I am unable to participate in creative endeavors, that I'm too old, and have no sticking power, and it's a waste of time.
@@abrahamdoucette are you kidding me.. Mental health is a serious thing is millions,and millions of people that struggle with depression, anxiety, every single day. Not to mention thoughts of suicide and people acting on those thoughts and following through which is extremely sad. .. so yes there are other things going on in the world but I don't know what brought you to this video but obviously you watched it so for you to say that I think is really ignorant..
This sounds just like me. I can remember the last time i felt truly happy and i was only 9 years old. After that, I've been struggling ever since. I was happy for a time back when i was engaged years ago. But after that crumbled...well, its gotten worse. Im 23 now. So happiness has been elusive for a long time for me 😞
allyssa nehls ...in an effort to be supportive, uplifting, yet not write a long winded and/or trite response..... Keep on, keeping on! I am 44 and have experienced similar feelings since I was 10-12, I believe I get you on some level. Best to you, cheers...!
Hallo guys. If you need a friend or someone to talk to, I'm here! If you don't want any advice from me or you don't want me to talk, that's fine. I would be more than happy to listen. I want to help 💖
This is exactly how I feel since the sudden and unexpected death of my beloved brother four months ago. I'm worried because I don't know when normal grief turns into depression.
in times when the whole world is tumbling down on you remember its ok not to be ok. you just have to let it out. It doesn't mean you are weak. Always remember that there is HOPE. Keep your faith alive! Life is full of challenges its very important to remain strong! I chose to be strong for my children
Thank you for this video. You've made me finally realize and accept I have dysthymia. Everything you said was on point and all the symptom you mentioned is what I go through. Thank you so much! I'm seeking help now.
This video was very nice to see. I have been monitoring the symptoms and my everyday life for a long time. Doing research... This video confirms to me that I might have a deeper problem than I anticipated. Thank you for all this information. This was very helpful. Have a good day to everyone that happens to read this. You matter!!!!!
Mental illness sucks! Many people in my mother’s family suffer from mental illnesses: schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, anxiety/depression, alcoholism, the list goes on and on. It’s important to not get stuck in your own head and reach out to people because life is WAYYY to short to be miserable and alone. People can change the channel and be optimistic about their reality and their future!!!!
4 months in lockdown alone, leaving once every 2 weeks for shopping. No friends or anything nearby to pull me out of the house for a walk, everything seems like an insanely big effort. I honestly think this is the worst thing to stop me from having routine to distract me from my issues.
Sacreligious Sausage You don't need to wait for friends to take that walk. I don't have a lot of friends locally anymore, and was having those feelings of endless days with no structure. I started taking a nightly walk, and it is unbelievable how that can bring you back to life. Make it a brisk walk, also. Get the blood pumping. So many benefits, from motivation to mental health and physical health. It starts the positive ball rolling. Give it a try, and good luck.
A very common comment I have heard from therapist is that they are surprised at my ability to keep a job. Working in health care, my job is the one thing always keeping me going. My clients are my reason for maintaining functionality, for getting out of bed, even on the hard days. And for them, I am thankful.
Depressed or not, gotta keep chugging up that mountain called life... It'll be all worth it when I turn 65 and keep working so I don't end up homeless. At least until the dementia hits.
My Brother-In-Law suffered heart attack due to high depression i was just rewinding my memory watching this video about high depression, this high depression is a serious mental illness which need to be addressed seriously and should be taken care with extra cautious, anyways thanks for sharing this useful video!!!
@@skepticalsteve5206 I'm suffering depression myself and have been having arrhythmia.. I'm sorry for your suffering. I'm sure it will get better! How your depression then was linked to heart attack ?
You can also have anxiety with depression. Anxiety causes heart palpitations and a racing heart. So i can see how it can cause a heart attack maybe. I have Dysthymia and generalized anxiety. But i also feel like i have agoraphobia?... fear of leaving your house. 3 weeks at a time.
A video about a very difficult topic. You have a great way of communicating these things with an ease & flow to listen and understand. Very natural. Thank you, you did very good!
When it is too painful to acknowledge the pain. When you force your feelings into a box you don't open. Carefully avoiding all the triggers that bring the flood of memories. PTSD.
I have a son with autism and I'm glad that we "seem" to be getting more info out there to the public about ASD. I try to help others through videos on my channel in learning more about ASD and their parents. I'm the president of the Autism Society of Florida and we're working hard to have the voices of people with autism guide us as we determine where our efforts needs to be. Thank you for this piece.
I'm currently going through this as well as other issues. I often feel like I'm about to cry on the inside, but it is only natural and so easy to pretend that I'm happy.
Hearing someone you love and trust and might just be your only friend say “ I think you like being like this”. I smile all the time .... because I have to.😞 I just cry in reverse.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's important to be mindful of our signs and signals that we're not well. Some call it stoicism, others mindfulness, and others yet just consider it as a part of life. For me however, I love to focus on the positive side. I love positive psychology because it leads keeps us on the road to recovery and instills hope. I hope to see more positive psychology in the future
... It's great to learn this. I've had dysthymia for just over 50 years. I had a great therapist for 30 years, but he suddenly died. I'll survive, though. Some of us that have it.. have no real alternative but to ignore; and some of us focus on our long-term family goals.
Everyone thinks I’m super bubbly and always sunshine and rainbows, so when I don’t smile for even a split second or if I’m concentrating even if I’m not talking to anyone they ask if I’m alright.
I was diagnosed with type 2 Bipolar disorder 9 years ago. So many of these traits are "me". I am partially functional. I hid it for no less than 10 years. My "manic" phase is other people's normal. My normal is sad, low energy, isolation. I have a hard time with "happy". Thankfully my extreme highs and lows show up less thanks to medication and counseling.
To anybody here who is struggling with depression, try this; help somebody else - even people who don't necessarily deserve it. In my experience, I feel much better afterwards, and then, if I go into another dip, I do it all over again.
It would be a perfect dream for people suffering from trauma and depression, if they have a family member, friend or work colleague that took the time to sit down with a person suffering from depression or trauma and just have a listening ear. Without any judgements and giving this person suffering from mental illness a lot of tender, loving, care. This would be a hugh help in healing someone with depression and trauma. After all, our spirits were created out of perfect love and with perfect love there is no such thing as any type of judgement only acceptance, understanding and a lot of love and care
It's important to mention there are plenty of body and brain dysfunctions too that can cause chronic low energy and because they don't show up on typical blood tests or overt symptoms they can go for years undiagnosed and untreated. Like a gradually fading thyroid gland, for instance. Some Primary care physicians aren't great at catching those until the patient demands to be tested. And if you've gone years that way, you likely can't muster the energy to demand anything.
it's dangerous because it builds up, i had this undiagnosed for about 4 years and when i wound up in the hospital everyone was surprised because there didn't seem to be anything at all going wrong in my life, knowing that and feeling guilty about the irrationality of it did not help one bit
Journaling out what's going through my head and practicing being creative help show me that I can make new things and understand where I'm at and what I'm missing (like a hug or a good cup or hot chocolate)
For anyone feeling down. Make sure you get up early so yes unfortunately you will be tired. I quickly wash with warm water wash my mouth out. I’m awake. It caffeine out.. just so that to start don’t put any pressure on yourself. Cut anyone out your life who want a to talk about your past mistakes. There no friends. Keep focus keep calm. If your causing hassle for someone. That’s guilt if your not. Think strong stay strong..
I really love this video because I know I have depression and take medication for it but I never knew this term which describes me really well. I couldn’t figure out why I can’t get it together and now at least I understand.
When this general sense of sadness extends over a certain period of time, it becomes normal, and expected. You might even become numb to it, don't cry anymore because of it, and even be "happy" withing this framework, which is what is happening to me right now, I think.
Telling people how lost and forgotten you feel tends to drive them away. I learned to keep these thoughts to myself.
Depression is my normal way of living. Happiness is purely accidental. I don't expect anyone to understand me, but I don't expect someone to judge me either.
Being diagnosed with Dysthymia, one of the things I find myself struggling with that wasn't mentioned here is feeling like you're not sick enough. Almost feeling like you're a poser asking for help while other people are depressed to the point of being bed bound.
Unless that's just me idk. With multiple conditions I don't know what is coming from what.
Everyone thinks I have my stuff together not realizing I'm falling apart...
Same I don't know why but I'm considered so smart put together and someone another would want to be like I feel like I'm falling apart at the seams with stress and a weird kind of boredom I feel fake
Same
Sonja Teal dude me too.
@@lay-iu2jn a weird kind of boredom . . . That line hit me . . . It's a heavy sickish empty feeling isn't it . . .
Where's the "love" button?
It feels like you're on fire and running on a treadmill. You have to keep going, even though you're in pain.
is it bad that that sounds like fun?
I would just get off the treadmill. Maybe if I had to run to save my kid or something, but was on fire, then I'd really have to keep going and fight through the pain.
And you never seem to get anywhere
Perfect analogy!
Exactly
one of the most painful things is when people ask you why you're upset and you cant even begin to know yourself
Holding your breath all day, to come home at night to gasp for air while crying
Struggling with one's self (some fatigue) - 6:12
Irritability (easily annoyed) - 6:59
Coping (maladaptive coping tool) - 7:32
Self-doubt (loosely self-aware) - 8:31
Unable to relax - 9:04
What if your depression didn't "start"?
By that, I mean, what if you cannot remember feeling any other way than sad?
That is generally me. Had depression for as long as I can remember.
Me too. I had a summers that would get better but I never got to happy life. It over 4 times worse now. It's hard for me to fall asleep and stay asleep than wake up late too
wow... yes that is something Ive always thought about.
Depression and anxiety can affect your memory as well.
It may be that you can remember, but it's just easier not to.
When the time is right.
Depression can hit anyone. Be nice, even if they're not nice to you
Fuhrer Oi I am nice to every one ^~^
I try to be but when ppl push and push you have to let it out
Thats a one way road to depression. If someone hurts you, if you dont fight back you'll just get depressed.
Always show respect! BUT ALWAYS! Call someone out for bad behaviour... the people who understand and change bad behaviour are the people worth your time. Took me long time to realise that letting people treat me like shit was destroying me! Please show yourself respect and don't put up with people like that! It takes practice, but the more you do it, the easier and gets.... learning self defence can be a great confidence builder as well as improving your health!
At any age! But with me, all my life. I learned to put on the "facade" at a very young age.
Its incredibly hurtful and frustrating when it took you YEARS to finally reach out for help only to be told that you "function way too good to be depressed"
"Oh you manage to wake up and go to work? lol you aint depressed at all, go home"
psychotherapist told me the same thing when I came to get help. She diagonsed me with neurosis and prescribed me some useless meds. Cool.
“losing yourself in hours of television”
*me sat here staring at the screen caught red handed binging for over 5 hours”
happens to me all the time. Time just flies by and the days melt together. I’ll be on my phone one second, check the time and like 4 hours have gone by. It’s annoying tbh
This is too relatable
I can totally relate to this.
5 hours
Try months. I've been on youtube since the quarantine.
Nothing is worth doing anymore. I wake up just to watch other people achieve things I can never hope to even do.
5 hours is rookie numbers. Try 16 hrs everyday, 5 days a week for years. Tv, social media, and video games is how i consume my day.
High Functioning Depression is a major problem today, my friend had a problem with it. He lost interest in everything, but with the help of psychotherapists and family support he managed to recover. Excellent video!
Recover? Since when is this type of depression ever cured? There is no cure for depression, any type, really. We can maybe keep it from getting so bad that it threatens life, so the victim survives, but that's only until the next time. Those who suffer, I believe, are born that way; it's in their DNA, their genetic make up. So it's a way of life if they and others can keep life going.
@Virginia Moss, you said exactly what I was thinking! Recover?? How?!
He clearly had situational depression then. People with clinical depression never recover.
Me *thinks I have a lot of these symptoms*
Also me: But do you really? What if you’re reading your emotions wrong?
This
Thank you for this
Anxiety
Omg so true
I'm in treatment, and i still have this, you're not reading your emotions wrong
I have struggled with not wanting to leave the house... I have to make myself do everything. It's such an effort. I just started to take some medicine, so hopefully I will be able to start enjoying life again.
I hardly leave my house and I just lost my mom on 1-23- 2019 so now I just want to sleep eating is even a struggle because now im making food just for me and not my mom
I also can’t leave my house. Every night, I would plan to go to work the following day or to the mall but come the next day, I’d find my self wanting to stay home again. But the whole day I would think of the benefits of going out. Am I crazy? 😔
@@robyxander9760
Nope. Your body wants to stay home.
So just relax and enjoy it.
Phoenix but how can I enjoy if I keep on skipping work and not having salary? :(
foxiefair123 How are you feeling now? Are you feeling better?
Whoever is reading this, know you aren’t alone. Don’t stop keep getting up, don’t stop trying.
💗
I have all the symptoms in the u k when l am in s africa i feel happy some times its normal to be depressed
Thank you, sending you a blessings shower!!🌿🌺♥
♥♥♥
Thanks
@@lurchusa1299 I agree with your reality but I haven't always been my own best friend more like a bully. I do think we can be kinder to ourselves. I love me do you love you? 😉 Take care out there, you are special ♡
Had it since I was 21 .. 46 now and it’s so tiring, on ongoing battle which i won’t let beat me, I have felt suicidal many times but what would that gain???... I’m scared of dying and living, I’m stuck in between and worry constantly and am lonely in a crowd of friends, it’s horrible.
Never heard this worded any better
Damn, this hit the nail on the head for me
Sounds all too familiar, personally speaking
I’m the same, also 46 and so tired of everything, but nobody would know, they think I always look happy but deep inside I’m suicidal. I never knew what my problem was as I have always felt like this since I was a child but I went to therapy and I got diagnosed. I don’t think this will ever go away, 😓...
William Khoury me too
Respect her matching the energy levels of the potential viewers. Really appreciated. Very empathetic vibes. Thank you for this video
Too depressed to pay attention to the video. Gonna go workout and prepare for work and act like everything is fine
AMEN!
That's great your at a point you can get up and go. but I completely know the feeling of not even having the energy to listen to a ubtube video. thats me and that's sad but true
Starts at 5:15
General sense of sadness
Inability to experience joy
Loss of interest in things you loved
Diminished energy
Self criticism/perfectionism
Irritability
Employing use of coping mechanisms
Self doubt
You’re welcome, HF’er👍🏻
Jk. That’s not funny 🤦🏼♀️
Thank you. I was looking for this. lol
Thank god
Wait you mean that's not how you are supposed to feel? Oh man
I laughed 😊
Thanksss friend
Hello random person who's watching this video. You are not alone
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Love you too.
I am in. I feel life is useless.
burgerpatty: that brought tears to my eyes. Thank you 🙏
Hi, glad I am not!!!
it is very hard to explain to anyone how I feel and felt for years. lack of motivation the in-ablily to do the thing i want or have to do. it is like im able talk myself out of doing anything, without words or reason.
Yes!!!!! Exactly.
You have just found some words, seek some professional help...you will find more words to help you and perhaps a language to better describe and communicate. If that is what you truly want. Therapy has helped me tremendously, I have gone off and on from the age of 17 and now I am almost 45. It may take years or it may take a few weeks to notice a difference. However, someone in your life wants better for you and so should you. Best to you, cheers.
Hallo guys. If you need a friend or someone to talk to, I'm here! If you don't want any advice from me or you don't want me to talk, that's fine. I would be more than happy to listen. I want to help 💖
I remember watching videos about depression a few years back and reading comments of people saying "I feel like this every single day and I feel so empty." I thought "Whoa, how is that possible? I wonder what that feels like because I'm only like this a couple times a week." Fast forward to present time and now I'm like "Oh..."
Lethargy, a sense of just being "frozen".
LM Djnchen I agree
Perfect description of what I'm going thru. Something I will be telling the doctor tomorrow, Thanks.
Emotional numbness?
Wanting to hit the pause button...
Patricia Alvarez. Funny how you said that about feeling numb but i feel like that so many times to point i literally don't feel anything, don't care about anything and I know I should feel something but there's nothing just void inside. People ask how I feel or why I am not talking, I have to lie lol don't think people really can understand if i tell them
Nice to hear someone like yourself describe this illness with compassion in your voice, thank you.
So many of us have ALLOWED society/life to depress us. We need to learn to take back control of our lives. Keep your life simple and keep away from drama and negative people who drain your energy.
I have felt empty for so long that i can barely remember how it feels to be happy. I function, I exist, but not much more.
I know EXACTLY what to do in order to make me more productive and successful. I'm just more easily tired and exhausted just doing basic chores. I just can't seem to finish things I used to really excel at, like organizing my home office space. I'm my own worst enemy some days, even though everyone thinks I'm the strongest most calming, self aware person they've known.
I hope people can begin to understand that it’s very possible to wear a mask and put on a fake show of happiness while depressed. Also great video. A lot of things described are exactly what I’ve gone through in the past and received help for.
How refreshing to see someone with deep knowledge about a topic. You clearly are not reading from cards or autocue, yet you are not making those common errors of getting stuck for words or saying something slightly silly. Your knowledge allows you to deliver your topic interestingly and with charisma. Thank you for this important video.
Omg! I have High Functioning Depression! I knew something is weird and not normal. I can relate to literally everything of this disorder. I’m gonna go back to my therapist. Thank you so much for making this video!
I've been depressed and anxious for about 20 years now. It's way better now then in the beginning. What has changed things is building compassion and understanding for myself and the human condition. Seeing other people are suffering too. Surround yourself with kind and compassionate people but most importantly learn to be kind to yourself. Get to know your strengths and weakness. It makes me so sad that we are going through this but together we can change our minds and hearts, little by little. Day by day, congratulate yourself for everything! No matter how small, you think it is! I love you all and wish you all the best!
Mark Hoppus of Blink-182 couldn't have said it any better in Adam's Song "I can't wait till I get home, so I can pass time in my room alone"
Boxcar racer also a great song called "letters to god"
"Don't let the existential dread set in. Don't Let It Set In."
"all the world is a stage" some are better actors than others
raised by a parent with severe depression makes/ made it difficult to know what's real/ normal and what wasn't.
The first step is when you're at the door of knowing you have depression. That's the key to start getting help/ getting better/ healing.
It takes vigilance and self awareness not just to recognize the signs and symptoms, but to try and change them. (Getting help, etc) Little by little.
It feels like a constant battle and when your "default" is depression, it feels like you're being pulled back down into the muck, but the little things/ habits can add up and have some positive effects.
Excellent content. I do feel less lonely now, as an ex-addict i´ve learnt how to cope and hide my chronic depression under the mask of a busy, healthy and successful life.
But rarely a day goes by that i don´t feel deeply fed up with being alive.
Thanks for your efforts.
Depression is anger without enthusiasm- not my quote though I wish it were. Profoundly insightful and wonderfully presented. Bravo Doc!
The thing I have found annoying is knowing that we need help as human beings but I didn’t want to go get the help because I knew better than to fall into those symptoms. I’m slowly starting to learn how to express myself once again and I’m looking forward for what is next in life. My ego was not happy to admit I needed help and I was not coping correctly. I hope who ever else looks at this video finds this helpful. I know it’s not easy to get medical help but there is always a way. Remember your life is valuable! You can get help.
I believe I am experiencing this. Its difficult just to... Be? Existing feels like a chore.
Thank you for this page. My family and friends don't believe me, when I tell them that I deal with Depression. I'm trying to start a business, and the stress can leads to depression. Everyday is a Blessing. And, don't give up on your Dreams and Goals.Have Faith in yourself, and Love yourself.
What a quite interesting video I've found! People with High Functioning Depression often feel a sense of malaise or subtle sadness that doesn’t seem to have an origin, but they can work with a therapist and get help managing this legitimate mental health issue, though in nowadays going to a therapist means to be criticized by the rest of the people. Thanks for sharing this with us! I'll be looking forward to watch your next videos.
I can live a fairly normal life but it's exhausting. I don't have the energy or emotional capacity to do anything more than the bare minimum of a normal life. My apartment is a mess and I have no energy to do anything about it. I feel like it's a physical manifestation of me internally and it's a giant weight on me.
We all have mental health, it’s on a sliding scale and something we should all learn how to take care of it. Thank you for sharing this xx
I felt so depressed during when I was around 13-28, and I always tried to say I was depressed but was just told depressed people can't get out of bed. I wish I knew this existed sooner.
There's a lot from the PTSD camp in here too. Video games was always a heavy distraction for me. Losing interest is a constant fight. But I've been taking stock of my good stuff for a while now.
3:50 She *perfectly* nailed the comments that make so many feel ashamed getting help. I've heard all of these at one time or another and it makes you want to hide yourself from the world and deny that anything is wrong.
Listening to her I somehow felt understood - it is a quite a rare feeling
I've never met a single human being who doesn't have "something" wrong with them.
nobody's perfect
@@abrahamdoucette Jessica Alba is perfect. #HonestBrands #300mil
john galt dough _capitalism is good! physically. But we’re talking mentally
People will mental disorders have children who obtain mental disorders. It’s a never ending cycle I guess
Get lost!
I suffer depression, anxiety and panic attacks. Been in mental hospitals, on meds that don’t work!!!! I don’t want to leave my house, or get out of bed. Always put things off because I don’t want to deal with them. Tired all the time, yet can’t sleep. I was hospitalized a month ago but still haven’t been able to help myself. Don’t know where to go from here. 😭😭
Check out some 'Alan Watts', he has so many talks of interesting stuff that help one understand things. You might like it.
I tried the whim hoff method and it helped me a lot . Look for things that make you happy that you can make money at .
Try magnesium supplement. One of important minerals
I used to have anxiety and panic attacks... always an overwhelming feeling of dying. It was so bad at times, I would physically tense up and have trouble breathing. I would have to pull over thinking it may cause me to pass out. I was on xanex for a while, but it didnt help much. The thing that helped the most was when I had an epiphany and realized I would rather be dead then deal with the severe anxiety. When I got to the point of genuinely not caring if I died, that is when my anxiety went away. I truly submitted to the theory that I was no longer going to worry about what I cannot control, and that whatever happens happens for a reason good or bad and I will deal with it as it comes. The relief and relaxation that came with that was life changing.
Breathing techniques called pranayam relaxes the brain. You can google or try slow deep breathe 30 sec inhale & exhale for 15mins or so..
I went to my doctor to talk about the possibility of having depression because I have a lot, if not all, of these symptoms. She basically told me she didn't believe I was depressed, but she did send me to a psychiatrist to figure it out
Never ignore the clear signs that something is not good, good point girl!
Also remember this... Those of us with this and Bi Polar have to overcome much more on a daily basis then people without this. This makes us Strong.. Not weak.
I've had chronic illness for 5 years and I am starting to experience this (I used to have major depressive disorder but with meds and therapy I was able to limit it a lot and not have severe episodes.) I think not being able to participate in society and dealing with limitation and pain has finally given me a bleaker outlook. You may think this is a natural reaction to basically being shut out of life, but humans are very adaptable, and I can be fine- not joyful, but fine. It's really surprising when I come out of it and my mind isn't consumed with my failings and the bleakness of my life. I just think about other things, and I'm ok. The saddest thing is when my depression makes me believe I am unable to participate in creative endeavors, that I'm too old, and have no sticking power, and it's a waste of time.
High Functioning Depression can be and should be treated seriously, it could be a big problem, thank you for the informative video darling.
we have bigger problems to deal with at the moment
like animals being endangered and the corona virus
@@abrahamdoucette are you kidding me.. Mental health is a serious thing is millions,and millions of people that struggle with depression, anxiety, every single day. Not to mention thoughts of suicide and people acting on those thoughts and following through which is extremely sad.
.. so yes there are other things going on in the world but I don't know what brought you to this video but obviously you watched it so for you to say that I think is really ignorant..
This sounds just like me. I can remember the last time i felt truly happy and i was only 9 years old. After that, I've been struggling ever since. I was happy for a time back when i was engaged years ago. But after that crumbled...well, its gotten worse. Im 23 now. So happiness has been elusive for a long time for me 😞
allyssa nehls ...in an effort to be supportive, uplifting, yet not write a long winded and/or trite response..... Keep on, keeping on! I am 44 and have experienced similar feelings since I was 10-12, I believe I get you on some level. Best to you, cheers...!
Hallo guys. If you need a friend or someone to talk to, I'm here! If you don't want any advice from me or you don't want me to talk, that's fine. I would be more than happy to listen. I want to help 💖
Zilla Zalo great comment
I came across this vid randomly. I've never considered what I'm dealing with to be a "thing" but now you're describing me.
I listen music it helps me to overcome depression
Same. Certain music.
This is exactly how I feel since the sudden and unexpected death of my beloved brother four months ago. I'm worried because I don't know when normal grief turns into depression.
in times when the whole world is tumbling down on you remember its ok not to be ok. you just have to let it out. It doesn't mean you are weak. Always remember that there is HOPE. Keep your faith alive! Life is full of challenges its very important to remain strong! I chose to be strong for my children
Considering how the world is I would be not be surprised if most people are just hanging on to any hope at all.
Thank you for this video. You've made me finally realize and accept I have dysthymia. Everything you said was on point and all the symptom you mentioned is what I go through. Thank you so much! I'm seeking help now.
This video was very nice to see. I have been monitoring the symptoms and my everyday life for a long time. Doing research... This video confirms to me that I might have a deeper problem than I anticipated.
Thank you for all this information. This was very helpful. Have a good day to everyone that happens to read this. You matter!!!!!
The actual signs start at 5:10 - everything before it was setup/context.
Mental illness sucks! Many people in my mother’s family suffer from mental illnesses: schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, anxiety/depression, alcoholism, the list goes on and on. It’s important to not get stuck in your own head and reach out to people because life is WAYYY to short to be miserable and alone. People can change the channel and be optimistic about their reality and their future!!!!
Coronavirus has made this condition so much more interesting.
4 months in lockdown alone, leaving once every 2 weeks for shopping. No friends or anything nearby to pull me out of the house for a walk, everything seems like an insanely big effort. I honestly think this is the worst thing to stop me from having routine to distract me from my issues.
Sacreligious Sausage it’s been 6 months now and I feel the exact same way and it feels so awful, it’s a living hell
Sacreligious Sausage You don't need to wait for friends to take that walk. I don't have a lot of friends locally anymore, and was having those feelings of endless days with no structure. I started taking a nightly walk, and it is unbelievable how that can bring you back to life. Make it a brisk walk, also. Get the blood pumping. So many benefits, from motivation to mental health and physical health. It starts the positive ball rolling. Give it a try, and good luck.
A very common comment I have heard from therapist is that they are surprised at my ability to keep a job. Working in health care, my job is the one thing always keeping me going. My clients are my reason for maintaining functionality, for getting out of bed, even on the hard days. And for them, I am thankful.
Depressed or not, gotta keep chugging up that mountain called life... It'll be all worth it when I turn 65 and keep working so I don't end up homeless. At least until the dementia hits.
This was such a fluid, well-paced presentation.
My Brother-In-Law suffered heart attack due to high depression i was just rewinding my memory watching this video about high depression, this high depression is a serious mental illness which need to be addressed seriously and should be taken care with extra cautious, anyways thanks for sharing this useful video!!!
How was his heart attack linked to his depression? I ask because i had a heart attack at the age of 29 while dealing with depression
@@skepticalsteve5206 I'm suffering depression myself and have been having arrhythmia.. I'm sorry for your suffering. I'm sure it will get better! How your depression then was linked to heart attack ?
You can also have anxiety with depression. Anxiety causes heart palpitations and a racing heart. So i can see how it can cause a heart attack maybe. I have Dysthymia and generalized anxiety. But i also feel like i have agoraphobia?... fear of leaving your house. 3 weeks at a time.
@@neliaaguiar1814 how you deal with that? i did not go out for 10 days.becouse people are scaring me
She’s such a good speaker
Well spoken on a topic that is so important and, all too often, overlooked... very informative and great video!
A video about a very difficult topic. You have a great way of communicating these things with an ease & flow to listen and understand. Very natural. Thank you, you did very good!
When it is too painful to acknowledge the pain.
When you force your feelings into a box you don't open.
Carefully avoiding all the triggers that bring the flood of memories.
PTSD.
I have a son with autism and I'm glad that we "seem" to be getting more info out there to the public about ASD. I try to help others through videos on my channel in learning more about ASD and their parents. I'm the president of the Autism Society of Florida and we're working hard to have the voices of people with autism guide us as we determine where our efforts needs to be. Thank you for this piece.
I'm currently going through this as well as other issues. I often feel like I'm about to cry on the inside, but it is only natural and so easy to pretend that I'm happy.
Hearing someone you love and trust and might just be your only friend say “ I think you like being like this”. I smile all the time .... because I have to.😞 I just cry in reverse.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's important to be mindful of our signs and signals that we're not well. Some call it stoicism, others mindfulness, and others yet just consider it as a part of life. For me however, I love to focus on the positive side. I love positive psychology because it leads keeps us on the road to recovery and instills hope. I hope to see more positive psychology in the future
... It's great to learn this. I've had dysthymia for just over 50 years. I had a great therapist for 30 years, but he suddenly died. I'll survive, though. Some of us that have it.. have no real alternative but to ignore; and some of us focus on our long-term family goals.
Everyone thinks I’m super bubbly and always sunshine and rainbows, so when I don’t smile for even a split second or if I’m concentrating even if I’m not talking to anyone they ask if I’m alright.
Wholly cow, EVERY SINGLE ONE of those symptoms, thank you for helping me decode myself!!! 💜
So well spoken and well communicated! Excellent work!
I was diagnosed with type 2 Bipolar disorder 9 years ago. So many of these traits are "me". I am partially functional. I hid it for no less than 10 years. My "manic" phase is other people's normal. My normal is sad, low energy, isolation. I have a hard time with "happy". Thankfully my extreme highs and lows show up less thanks to medication and counseling.
To anybody here who is struggling with depression, try this; help somebody else - even people who don't necessarily deserve it. In my experience, I feel much better afterwards, and then, if I go into another dip, I do it all over again.
Sometimes the best way to solve your own problems is to help someone else - Uncle Iroh
It would be a perfect dream for people suffering from trauma and depression, if they have a family member, friend or work colleague that took the time to sit down with a person suffering from depression or trauma and just have a listening ear. Without any judgements and giving this person suffering from mental illness a lot of tender, loving, care. This would be a hugh help in healing someone with depression and trauma. After all, our spirits were created out of perfect love and with perfect love there is no such thing as any type of judgement only acceptance, understanding and a lot of love and care
It's important to mention there are plenty of body and brain dysfunctions too that can cause chronic low energy and because they don't show up on typical blood tests or overt symptoms they can go for years undiagnosed and untreated. Like a gradually fading thyroid gland, for instance. Some Primary care physicians aren't great at catching those until the patient demands to be tested. And if you've gone years that way, you likely can't muster the energy to demand anything.
it's dangerous because it builds up, i had this undiagnosed for about 4 years and when i wound up in the hospital everyone was surprised because there didn't seem to be anything at all going wrong in my life, knowing that and feeling guilty about the irrationality of it did not help one bit
All of these things apply to me. I especially can never relax. I'm always inside my head thinking about something negative.
Add high functioning anxiety to the mix and you have like most professionals
Journaling out what's going through my head and practicing being creative help show me that I can make new things and understand where I'm at and what I'm missing (like a hug or a good cup or hot chocolate)
Do you go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning? You might have a case of high functioning depression.
I almost started crying watching this. I experience all those symtomes and do all those things. Now I finally have something to call it
Refusing to let go of relationships or a past life that
is gone or beyond recovering. Coping with Aging.
I work in mental health, but I'm very protective of my struggles with depression and anxiety.
Same 😕
Great explanations! Very clear. Thank you for this video!
I've never met this woman in my life, and yet she seems to know so much about me...
For anyone feeling down. Make sure you get up early so yes unfortunately you will be tired. I quickly wash with warm water wash my mouth out. I’m awake. It caffeine out.. just so that to start don’t put any pressure on yourself. Cut anyone out your life who want a to talk about your past mistakes. There no friends. Keep focus keep calm. If your causing hassle for someone. That’s guilt if your not. Think strong stay strong..
i didn't know it was that different from normal depression, thanks for the video!
This needs to get out more. I'm glad this was put in my recommended.
I really love this video because I know I have depression and take medication for it but I never knew this term which describes me really well. I couldn’t figure out why I can’t get it together and now at least I understand.
When this general sense of sadness extends over a certain period of time, it becomes normal, and expected.
You might even become numb to it, don't cry anymore because of it, and even be "happy" withing this framework, which is what is happening to me right now, I think.