I feel like a lot of people that want to go to prestigious colleges and work for prestigious colleges are mainly for the most part doing it for the validation. I feel like I definitely fell into this trap and yeah it can definitely be hard to get out of.
it’s very easy to fall into the “trap” like you said of “what does everyone else want me to do” or “what is the ‘right’ thing for me to do”, especially since basically the only way to get into an elite college is by doing all the “right” things in school and overachieving. even tho it’s hard to break out of i do think it is possible as long as we baby step our way out of it lol. anyway thanks for the interesting comment and watching bro, and i hope u have a wonderful day :)
fear of not finding something better or thinking that "this is the best i'll get" is something that i really relate to in life and with relationships. it's hard to let go of toxic people because we often feel that it's better to be in that situation than be alone. thank you for sharing your advice
This and the college grad slander video has really made me realize that it wasn't just me going through the rat race of the job search right after leaving school. I was only employed part time after graduating in 2021 and just started a new full time job 2 days ago as I write this. That's brought on some new worries, but like you said, I can't let those things eat me up. Thank you for these videos
aye thank you so much for the support and kind words my man, it really means a lot. just gonna keep doing me and we'll see what happens :) big appreciate you watching bro, and have a fantastic day :)
this is very nice and intimate. The college experience for me was rough af. I now work as an accountant in the Bay Area (well not really but in Livermore Ca) and I hate it lol. I've been working everyday after work and on my days off, to become a full time Musician because at one point in my life the fear of going all in on my dreams to become a professional composer has held me back but now it's an obstacle that I've been able to overcome and watching this video was really a nice little validation piece for me. honestly bro you earned a sub from me, I'll be watching your uploads lmao!
Thank you for sharing, intro. Fear for me has been dictating my life. I started a blog almost a year ago and I was afraid that my writing wouldn't be good enough. Im afraid that my friends don't want me around sometimes. Im afraid my career choice won't make me money. Someone once said if you're afraid of something, do it scared. Stay true to yourself and who you are. I found that in my personal life that's been opening the most doors and bringing the best people. Stay true to your movement too, intro.
aye thank you for sharing your story man. self-doubt is a real killer but that quote to “do it scared” is dope. what helps me too is knowing that there’s no regret when you do something you’re afraid of, and in fact it boosts your confidence to know you fought your fears head on. glad to hear you’re listening to your movement too bro and doing your blog and pursuing your career path despite the fear, that’s how we’re gonna change the world. thanks for the well wishes dude, hope u have a introspective day :)))
i needed this. this is my senior year of stuy and i feel like i wasted the last four years of my life coasting and not taking the rigorous courses that all my friends took, and that left me not knowing anything about what i'm doing or gonna do in the future, just following the path my parents laid out for me. your videos are real and give me comfort that i can land on my feet when i take a leap of faith into the unknown. thanks.
This is something that I've just started to fully incorporate into my life - after 31 years. Relationships, choices and situations all depend on your relation to fear. The more you fear being afraid - the more detached from your true wants you'll be.
Maybe I don't understand my own motivations, but it feels like I want to master things for the sake of pushing myself. I don't want to be mediocre at anything, going to good college and trying to get the best grades I can is part of that quest and brings me closer to a complete understanding of my field of study. It feels like anything easy isn't worth doing.
I went through something similar when applying for college. Had I let my fear of letting people (who I didn’t know) down by revoking my acceptance to a college and going to a CC, I would have missed the great opportunity I have now. I went through a time where when most students had their colleges smoothed out, I jumped between two schools and eventually landed in a CC that connects to a main university. I had to pay a cancellation fee, but I’m so happy I took the step of faith to change my mind.
yo staph I just finished my weekly crying session dont make me start anotha one haha ok but fr impeccable timing lol I've been actually down these past few days specifically because of this. I feel like I've operated out of fear in every aspect of my life. I feel like a coward who lets fear (specifically of disappointment and not being liked) lead my life and it has gotten exhausting. I’ve normalised it too much, I’ve forgotten how life is without it. It was just yesterday over coffee w’ a friend when we talked about it and I decided to break out of this. it'll probs take me some time to do so but this vid was such a boost to the momentum :D I remember you said we are your therapists in a vid/vid description but it feels like you are mine rn lol thanks for the video, as always I feel like a kid excited for his/her fave tv show to start after the commercials whenever you upload something new hahaha just wanna add that you saying “life is actually pretty good” surprised me-I remember watching your old vids and you’ve come a long way. hope u mean it when u said that and not just saying it for us. if u do, then I’m really happy and proud of your self development :) have a good day!
aye im proud of your for committing to fighting fear!! it’s definitely not something that you can just wake up and day and conquer, but just recognizing it and resolving to work on it i think is the huge first step. i don’t think being controlled by fear makes you a coward at all - just means you’re human, and trying to understand your path in life. in the last 2 years my whole life was basically dominated by fear, but i think the only way for me out of there was the be patient with myself and just let myself grow as a human at my own pace. i wish you well on your journey too and i know you’ll do great things on it :) aye i mega appreciate the kind words you have about my videos andddd i think i am at a point in my life where i genuinely believe life is good and we as humans will all be fine. of course, life has its ups and downs so i know maybe i won’t have a perfectly 100% sunshine and rainbows optimistic view on life every second of every day, but i do believe life is on the whole a huge net positive. anywho i hope you are doing well and your journey as a human is pleasant as can be currently, don’t forget to take a rest if you need it :) thank u for watching and i hope u have a restful sunday~
I know this video is old but I really want to say I think it’s changed my life. I’m a senior in college rn and I first watched it a month or so ago, I’ve come back to it a few times and now again am watching it a week before I graduate. I’m so anxious about the future (unemployed art student moving back to my small home town for the summer) but I’m also a little excited. Thank you for reassuring me that college isn’t the only time I’ll ever be happy. And that it’s okay to hope for good things and trust that I’ll get myself there 🫶
This channel is a gold mine. I've been her since your Casually Explained inspired video and that was right before Covid hit. I am going to be rewatching everything. Thank you for the advice and I hope for your sucess.
Nice video! I think this is what I needed to hear as a college student who dictates some big decisions out of fear. I'm gonna try to be just a little braver this year :~:
This is such a great advice, something I’ve been trying to implement for years. I can deeply resonate with what you’re saying about doing things out of fear that I won’t find anything better and maybe this is the maximum I can get (in terms of school and job applications as well as in friendships and romantic relationships). Sending you all the love and support to overcome this!
appreciate the kind words!! sending that positive energy right back at ya, we got this :) thanks 4 watchin and hope u have an awesome rest of your night
This is really good advice. I’ve always wanted to make games it’s the whole reason I majored in computer science and I struggled graduating. Last week I kept applying for software engineering because I was afraid of not getting a job after the summer and it just kinda hit me that this really isn’t what I wanted. So now im not trying to rush into anything or in a field i don’t care about.
aye fosho man im glad to hear that. i feel like sometimes the pressure to rush into doing something is worse than just not doing that thing (if that makes any sense). glad you’re doing what works for you c:
Thanks for this, living in fear has been one of my greatest struggles, but I recently decided to overcome these fears for my own benefit. While it has been a struggle and I have been worrying about the future especially since I'm about to go into my senior year of college. Despite this I try to keep up with the thought that while I may worry, I can't predict what will happen so I might as well make the most of what will happen and focus on living in the present. If anything, what you said is just more motivation for myself to keep going and enjoy what I have so thank you
Every second is pure gold and so much depth in the words. I was searching for answers about these things the fear and stuff was overthinking about this. And I really got my answers thank u
coming back to this a year later having only just found the channel and holy shit this hits sooo hard... i know i've been in these cycles of fear before but having become somehow better, it feels so empowering to hear so much of this. "you don't have to be afraid that your life is going to be good or if you don't have to be afraid to believe that your life is going to be good because it will be good." like omg im fangirling as completely unscripted as this video was it fully feels like poetry. the way you illustrate ideas & prescriptions in relation to each other idk it's so affecting anyway doesn't matter live without fear
aye appreciate the kind words dude! hindsight is 20/20, but sometimes you gotta go thru the gutter to come out the other end with wisdom, so i wouldn't say i "regret" my college experience lol. thanks for always commenting yo, hope u have an awesome day :)
👀 aye thank you bro, more on the way hopefully. feeling pretty creative with the shorter format so we’ll see how it goes. big appreciate that u enjoy them, and i hope u have a beautiful sunday :)
aye bro that’s huge, congrats!!!! high school is a crazy time as im sure you already know lol but also a time of huge personal growth so im excited for you :) thank you for watching dude and good luck in high school, and i hope u have a nice sunday :)
Can you look into fear straight into the eye although? Can you stare into your fears your wildest imaginations create and say I'LL TAKE YOU ON...? I idealize this mentality...
introvertedmadness: There's good things out there in life if you're brave enough to let go of the bad things in life, and not cling to them out of fear that you'll regret it once you get out into the world. Ok, I guess it is time to drop out of CS.
I feel like a lot of people that want to go to prestigious colleges and work for prestigious colleges are mainly for the most part doing it for the validation. I feel like I definitely fell into this trap and yeah it can definitely be hard to get out of.
it’s very easy to fall into the “trap” like you said of “what does everyone else want me to do” or “what is the ‘right’ thing for me to do”, especially since basically the only way to get into an elite college is by doing all the “right” things in school and overachieving. even tho it’s hard to break out of i do think it is possible as long as we baby step our way out of it lol. anyway thanks for the interesting comment and watching bro, and i hope u have a wonderful day :)
It’s taken me 20 years of life to learn but the feeling of fear is ALWAYS worse than what you’re afraid of. Thanks for this video!
fear of not finding something better or thinking that "this is the best i'll get" is something that i really relate to in life and with relationships. it's hard to let go of toxic people because we often feel that it's better to be in that situation than be alone. thank you for sharing your advice
This and the college grad slander video has really made me realize that it wasn't just me going through the rat race of the job search right after leaving school.
I was only employed part time after graduating in 2021 and just started a new full time job 2 days ago as I write this. That's brought on some new worries, but like you said, I can't let those things eat me up.
Thank you for these videos
how's life goin now?
Bro I just came across your video of roasting Stanford and I can see you are going to do great on UA-cam, keep the good work.
aye thank you so much for the support and kind words my man, it really means a lot. just gonna keep doing me and we'll see what happens :) big appreciate you watching bro, and have a fantastic day :)
@@introvertedmadness it's great you Are telling the people what people are not told
this is very nice and intimate. The college experience for me was rough af. I now work as an accountant in the Bay Area (well not really but in Livermore Ca) and I hate it lol.
I've been working everyday after work and on my days off, to become a full time Musician because at one point in my life the fear of going all in on my dreams to become a professional composer has held me back but now it's an obstacle that I've been able to overcome and watching this video was really a nice little validation piece for me.
honestly bro you earned a sub from me, I'll be watching your uploads lmao!
Thank you for sharing, intro.
Fear for me has been dictating my life. I started a blog almost a year ago and I was afraid that my writing wouldn't be good enough. Im afraid that my friends don't want me around sometimes. Im afraid my career choice won't make me money. Someone once said if you're afraid of something, do it scared.
Stay true to yourself and who you are. I found that in my personal life that's been opening the most doors and bringing the best people. Stay true to your movement too, intro.
aye thank you for sharing your story man. self-doubt is a real killer but that quote to “do it scared” is dope. what helps me too is knowing that there’s no regret when you do something you’re afraid of, and in fact it boosts your confidence to know you fought your fears head on. glad to hear you’re listening to your movement too bro and doing your blog and pursuing your career path despite the fear, that’s how we’re gonna change the world. thanks for the well wishes dude, hope u have a introspective day :)))
i needed this. this is my senior year of stuy and i feel like i wasted the last four years of my life coasting and not taking the rigorous courses that all my friends took, and that left me not knowing anything about what i'm doing or gonna do in the future, just following the path my parents laid out for me. your videos are real and give me comfort that i can land on my feet when i take a leap of faith into the unknown. thanks.
This is something that I've just started to fully incorporate into my life - after 31 years. Relationships, choices and situations all depend on your relation to fear. The more you fear being afraid - the more detached from your true wants you'll be.
THANK YOU FOR THIS. I literally don't even go to Stanford or have even applied for college but some things you said I applied to my life
Maybe I don't understand my own motivations, but it feels like I want to master things for the sake of pushing myself. I don't want to be mediocre at anything, going to good college and trying to get the best grades I can is part of that quest and brings me closer to a complete understanding of my field of study. It feels like anything easy isn't worth doing.
I went through something similar when applying for college. Had I let my fear of letting people (who I didn’t know) down by revoking my acceptance to a college and going to a CC, I would have missed the great opportunity I have now. I went through a time where when most students had their colleges smoothed out, I jumped between two schools and eventually landed in a CC that connects to a main university. I had to pay a cancellation fee, but I’m so happy I took the step of faith to change my mind.
yo staph I just finished my weekly crying session dont make me start anotha one haha ok but fr impeccable timing lol I've been actually down these past few days specifically because of this. I feel like I've operated out of fear in every aspect of my life. I feel like a coward who lets fear (specifically of disappointment and not being liked) lead my life and it has gotten exhausting. I’ve normalised it too much, I’ve forgotten how life is without it. It was just yesterday over coffee w’ a friend when we talked about it and I decided to break out of this. it'll probs take me some time to do so but this vid was such a boost to the momentum :D
I remember you said we are your therapists in a vid/vid description but it feels like you are mine rn lol thanks for the video, as always I feel like a kid excited for his/her fave tv show to start after the commercials whenever you upload something new hahaha
just wanna add that you saying “life is actually pretty good” surprised me-I remember watching your old vids and you’ve come a long way. hope u mean it when u said that and not just saying it for us. if u do, then I’m really happy and proud of your self development :)
have a good day!
aye im proud of your for committing to fighting fear!! it’s definitely not something that you can just wake up and day and conquer, but just recognizing it and resolving to work on it i think is the huge first step. i don’t think being controlled by fear makes you a coward at all - just means you’re human, and trying to understand your path in life. in the last 2 years my whole life was basically dominated by fear, but i think the only way for me out of there was the be patient with myself and just let myself grow as a human at my own pace. i wish you well on your journey too and i know you’ll do great things on it :)
aye i mega appreciate the kind words you have about my videos andddd i think i am at a point in my life where i genuinely believe life is good and we as humans will all be fine. of course, life has its ups and downs so i know maybe i won’t have a perfectly 100% sunshine and rainbows optimistic view on life every second of every day, but i do believe life is on the whole a huge net positive. anywho i hope you are doing well and your journey as a human is pleasant as can be currently, don’t forget to take a rest if you need it :) thank u for watching and i hope u have a restful sunday~
I know this video is old but I really want to say I think it’s changed my life. I’m a senior in college rn and I first watched it a month or so ago, I’ve come back to it a few times and now again am watching it a week before I graduate. I’m so anxious about the future (unemployed art student moving back to my small home town for the summer) but I’m also a little excited. Thank you for reassuring me that college isn’t the only time I’ll ever be happy. And that it’s okay to hope for good things and trust that I’ll get myself there 🫶
This guy is seriously my favorite ever. I love it
This channel is a gold mine. I've been her since your Casually Explained inspired video and that was right before Covid hit. I am going to be rewatching everything. Thank you for the advice and I hope for your sucess.
Nice video! I think this is what I needed to hear as a college student who dictates some big decisions out of fear. I'm gonna try to be just a little braver this year :~:
aye im really glad to hear that!!! you got this, just one step/day at a time :) im rooting for you!!!!
This is such a great advice, something I’ve been trying to implement for years. I can deeply resonate with what you’re saying about doing things out of fear that I won’t find anything better and maybe this is the maximum I can get (in terms of school and job applications as well as in friendships and romantic relationships).
Sending you all the love and support to overcome this!
appreciate the kind words!! sending that positive energy right back at ya, we got this :) thanks 4 watchin and hope u have an awesome rest of your night
This is really good advice. I’ve always wanted to make games it’s the whole reason I majored in computer science and I struggled graduating. Last week I kept applying for software engineering because I was afraid of not getting a job after the summer and it just kinda hit me that this really isn’t what I wanted. So now im not trying to rush into anything or in a field i don’t care about.
aye fosho man im glad to hear that. i feel like sometimes the pressure to rush into doing something is worse than just not doing that thing (if that makes any sense). glad you’re doing what works for you c:
Thanks for this, living in fear has been one of my greatest struggles, but I recently decided to overcome these fears for my own benefit. While it has been a struggle and I have been worrying about the future especially since I'm about to go into my senior year of college. Despite this I try to keep up with the thought that while I may worry, I can't predict what will happen so I might as well make the most of what will happen and focus on living in the present. If anything, what you said is just more motivation for myself to keep going and enjoy what I have so thank you
Every second is pure gold and so much depth in the words. I was searching for answers about these things the fear and stuff was overthinking about this. And I really got my answers thank u
coming back to this a year later having only just found the channel and holy shit this hits sooo hard... i know i've been in these cycles of fear before but having become somehow better, it feels so empowering to hear so much of this.
"you don't have to be afraid that your life is going to be good or if you don't have to be afraid to believe that your life is going to be good because it will be good." like omg im fangirling
as completely unscripted as this video was it fully feels like poetry. the way you illustrate ideas & prescriptions in relation to each other idk it's so affecting
anyway doesn't matter live without fear
Wow this answered my exact feelings.
Just this weird uneasiness now answered and I feel inspired and relieved :)
This video was exactly what I needed. About to enter college, I'm terrified but I'll try my best!
great insightful content as usual! As they say, hindsight is 20/20
aye appreciate the kind words dude! hindsight is 20/20, but sometimes you gotta go thru the gutter to come out the other end with wisdom, so i wouldn't say i "regret" my college experience lol. thanks for always commenting yo, hope u have an awesome day :)
I love these 7 minute videos, please make more!
👀 aye thank you bro, more on the way hopefully. feeling pretty creative with the shorter format so we’ll see how it goes. big appreciate that u enjoy them, and i hope u have a beautiful sunday :)
Bro, I respect you so mucy. Keep up the awesome quality content. Helped me here
This helped me a lot and was everything I needed to hear. Thanks
Again, totally relatable. Subscribed!
thanx for the great advice king
Good mindset. Reminds me of reality transurfing
Peace Be Unto You and May The Odds Be Ever In Your Favour 🤍.
Love your channel bro
ayyy thank you so much my man! the support keeps me going lol, appreciate you watching & have an awesome day :)
love frank in the background
i graduated today to im in 9th grade now aka high school fresh men😁😁
aye bro that’s huge, congrats!!!! high school is a crazy time as im sure you already know lol but also a time of huge personal growth so im excited for you :) thank you for watching dude and good luck in high school, and i hope u have a nice sunday :)
@@introvertedmadness thank you!!!
Thank you. this was very sweet.
Can you look into fear straight into the eye although?
Can you stare into your fears your wildest imaginations create and say I'LL TAKE YOU ON...?
I idealize this mentality...
Great advice
Bro Facts!
Thank you 🙏
upload game strong :)
gotta stay consistent 😤 big appreciate u for always watching / commenting & i hope u have a spectacular sunday :)
This is very hindsight. If your startup became the next Google, then you wouldn't be on here talking this way.
Oh but he would
I'm graduating tommorow :p
I thought you didn’t like Stanford?
heh i mean i am still a #certified stanford hater, i just got some stuff to say to my past self too lol. thank u for watching and have a sweet day :)
@@introvertedmadness 😂😂😂
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introvertedmadness: There's good things out there in life if you're brave enough to let go of the bad things in life, and not cling to them out of fear that you'll regret it once you get out into the world.
Ok, I guess it is time to drop out of CS.