The red pillers love a good trauma bond! They love an unhealthy dynamic, because they LOVE control and manipulation. Its what makes them feel better about their failings and inadequacies.
You're not me and my wife have been together for almost 10years. these red pillers are almost just as bad as these man hating feminist most of their advice is horrible
While I wouldn't go about things the way Donovan does I think people are soft and make a big deal out of the phrase "train your wife". Most western women have bad habits for a relationship and those habits need to be "trained" out of them. Also A&P and Destiny's audience is just filled with a bunch of 80%ers that promote complacency and mediocrity.
Indeed. And with a story that sounds entirely made up. I mean... This dude is a liar. That's been established. And that story is whack. So he's very willingly humiliating himself with a story he's at least made additions to for dramatic effect... For what. To be an infamous asshole online?
A grown ass man acting this insecure and controlling to prove how "alpha" he is, only to prove how toxic this behavior is in a relationship. Also, the term "well trained" is wild bruh.
Her having a baby at 13 isn’t a red flag on her, it’s a red dot on that man’s house! Red pill is really big on blaming extremely young girls for being abused and it’s gross.
Thank you. Chilldren can not consent to sex. 2nd, there's no way a judge or jury would side with a 13 yr old on this matter. 3rd, I'm sorry, but what grown man gets with someone who's barely legal? 19 and 31 🤢
The Red Pill indeed it is a cringe group with absurd ideas. But I never met someone that had a kid that young that was not a complete mess, because well structured families don't have that problem. Is not only her, but the family values and behaviors in which she grew up are dysfunctional. Yeah, a red flag it is. It would be the same as asking a girl to ignore that a man went to jail. He could be a fantastic person, but the probability that is something seriously wrong is there
@@cristianproust I’m sure she was from a messed up family, IDGAF. It’s still not a red flag on her. This man at 31 dating a 19 year old and talking about red flags is the red flag.
…. The fact that he admits to being 31.. and STRESSING over a 19 year old, needs to be a wake up call for A LOT of red pill men who follow people like him😬
Police are trained, soldiers are trained, nurses are trained, doctors are trained, electricians are trained, plumbers are trained before they earn the Qualification to have the Title/Role of their profession. Being a husband is a title/role, being a wife is a Title/Role. There are responsibilities required and expected from being a wife and being a husband. There is nothing wrong with training your wife just as there is nothing wrong with training your husband if it's consensual to learn the things their wife or husband likes and DO them to make their spouse HAPPY. Couples should do things to make their significant other Content in the relationship.
@@KNEWERAADVERTISING the fact is that when these red pillers say to train your wife they don't mean teach each other how to be better lovers and life partners, they mean make her submit to you like a legal slave.
@@mollygriffin5474 Yes big red flag women are the ones who benefit from relationships and they manipulate men into thinking that the men are the ones who benefit when it’s the opposite
imagine going from finding zero red flags with a drugged out homemade tattooed 19 year old that was hooking up with older men and getting pregnant at 13 to finding red flags if your girlfriend accidently faces towards a man that is on the other side of a glass door in a restaurant. i mean...
“Ladies, don’t pretend you’ve never texted an ex in the bathroom.” I’ve never once felt the need to sneak off and text someone who will most likely bring my anxiety up into a panic attack.
Man... lotta these relationships out here lookin like neighboring countries with only a vague peace treaty and trade agreement stopping all out war between them.
Made me kinda sad when she diverted her eyes from that man when leaving the restaurant. Reminds me of a bad relationship I was in and he was so ridiculously jealous that I started to silently panic every time a man would start talking to me. That’s no life. So glad that’s over.
@@ellecrescent9834nah that should be the point. what they are doing is fake while what you went through actually happened. Respect yourself and your situation enough to not project your trauma on a video that the are faking to make money off of UA-cam. Their making a mockery of the trauma some women have gone through and then classifying this behavior as alpha to make a few bucks. Its sad
@@ellecrescent9834 your the one spilling your person trauma stories on the internet and equating it to an obviously fake video, seems like your the weird one.
yeah men are at fault here for not letting women using them like a toilet paper ... ever thought that if women weren't having the same properties as a toxic waste on a dude's life these 'life coaches' wouldn't exist? To me both are scum but blaming only the man when the whole thing is a REACTION to the current dating market is just wrong.
i watch videos in the manosphere. pretty heavily and do not know who this dude is and the videos look like some lost footage from a horror movie. it’s a bit creepy tbh
@@frikabg Well if you believe men are the leaders of relationships, you should have no problem accepting the majority of the fault that leadership comes with. You can't be the quarterback and then blame everyone else for the L
@@sirisaacmormont5445 considering how the modern world works and how the laws operate it is impossible for men to be leaders... so unless you are willing to take a couple of hundred steps back and actually let men LEAD 'cough' which is what got us here in this day and age with all the technologies etc which you observer around you 'cough' i suggest you look for someone else to blame for all the fuck ups you see around you. We can't be 'equals' while you let men somehow 'lead' just so you can turn around and blame men for 'failing' while 'leading'. This might be a little bit hard for you to grasp but hey that is a YOU problem... not a ME problem. I live in reality not in 'la-la' land where you shout 'you go girl' while blaming men for your own low IQ problems :D
@@frikabg You sound like a person that has never had a meaningful relationship with a woman in your life. The women/fiancé now I deal with, I don't have to ask to lead. That's what's good from day 1. Women follow competent men. You either have "it" or you have to develop "it" and it doesn't sound like you're interested in either.
I had a partner like this, always in my phone and tracking my moves. I finally realized his insecurity had no end when I learned not to speak or look at men. One day he accused me of making a noise when we passed a group of men... I didn't make a noise but he started an argument over this imaginary noise. We weren't together much longer.
My mom and I had to flee from her boyfriend a few years back.. He was cheating but was accusing of her of cheating with random ass people or at random times.. Man that stuff is such a red flag.
I was a insecure shit BF in my 20’s and here’s what I learned, if someone wants to cheat on you, they are going to cheat on you. Telling her she can’t go to certain places or she can’t have certain friends only will make it more likely for her to cheat on you or dump your ass. All you’re doing is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy by doing with these guys are doing.
@@supoa9489 *Yep.* If you're older and have been married for years with kids, couple's counseling might be worth it, but if you're a 20 something and have barely been together a year, you should just go. Save yourself the time.
@saehisaya Incorrect it isn't contradictory. and also we can't lie here, If a woman likes you, then being possessive/controlling can be seen as a positive thing. But if a guy a woman doesn't really like that much is telling her she can't go to the club then its seen as "toxic" because you're making it harder for her to monkey branch to a better guy. When a woman is really in love she will give up for the party life for a "controlling" or "possessive" guy. Why do you think women stay in these "toxic" relationships with these "controlling" and "possessive" guys for so long? It's not because the guy is manipulating them into liking it. It's because they themselves want to be "possessed" by high value men. It's in their nature.
…. I stopped the video numerous of times to take a deep breath and catch myself. This is outrageously cringey on another level that I didn’t think was possible. My man needs therapy
@@robertnoble7554 Either is bad, and you're supposed to be RP aware to become privy to the situation. If you don't do your work before getting with a chick leading to you being controlled, ain't my fault. You're not supposed to control your wife, and your wife is not to control you.
I dated a guy like him. When we first met he was great. When he moved in with me he changed in to this Donovan character. Guys like him exist. I tried to reassure him I was not like his ex girlfriend, but nothing changed. He was very controlling and violent. When he shipped out. I packed all is stuff and mailed it to his parents and moved. Told my friends not to give him my new location.
Glad you got out of that alive. I dated a guy similar when I was 18... he became abusive after 6 months of being amazing, completely flipped the switch when he figured out I was inlove with him. He completely ruined me emotionally and mentally, I lost my faith in God for 13 years of my life and only 5 years ago I came back to my faith again... I'm 33 now . Til this day he still tries to get to me and he's blocked from everything it's like living in constant fear but I finally moved on from it all.
I had a man I loved so much for one year he was amazing eventually he lost his job I said fine I'll work don't worry he started abusing me verbally then physically I stayed for three years had a child with him finally he almost killed me I had enough I sent him to jail he only got 4 months but he seemed good he got off Dr*gs he got a job a place I thought well we can co parent he didn't like that but he once again played like he was good he had my son for a weekend I was dating someone he decided not to change my son's diaper the whole weekend because I didn't text him while being on a date my son is now 8 he hasn't seen his father since his diaper rash was so bad I had to take him to the hospital I told his father you will not have him alone ever again until he is an adult his father disappeared
All those red flags, cheating, and he still took her back.. This isn't about women at all. It's about his own insecurities. Dude invested his time and emotions in something he knew was bad, but somehow still blames the teenager he was dating as a grown man.
He's talking about trusting a woman but he was trusting a DRUG ADDICT. Wild. It's like saying all men will kill you because Dahmer exists. All women will cheat because I trusted a a drug addict 8 times.
@@Wuqz Yup, thats what I'm saying. Most drug addicts should not be trusted, not because they're bad people but because they're hooked on a substance that changes their personality and pushes them to put drugs above other people.
Thisssss lol when I was 17 my 31 year old boyfriend at the time complained about me going to school like dude, I have to go to school or I won't graduate 😒 and when I acted crazy he would complain about me to anyone who would listen just get a more mature woman 😮💨
The fact that there are actually people who legitimately want the sort of relationship with a woman this guy claims to have with his woman makes me despair that I'm of the same species.
The shame part is absolute virtue signaling clown shit. You are not him and don’t have to make the same decisions. All men shouldn’t be looked down on because of him. You promoting that shit is fucking ridiculous and part of the problem.
Just FYI, I've heard and seen the EXACT SAME story, word for word, the same girl, same age, same baby daddy in prison, same birthday tattoo etc. in EVERY manosphere forums, threads, channels, etc. Maybe based on a true story that happened to someone once, but tons of guys in the redpill community have picked up the tale and re-using it.
19 year olds should be with people their own age, its healthier. All my happy friends in long term relationships are with people around their age. The ones with older men act like abuse victims lmao
That guy is the male equivalent of the 40 year old woman saying all men are trash when she hand picked every trash man...and these guys want to say women never take accountability? Dude, you need a therapist.
I was actually feeling sorry for the girl. 13 year old having a baby?? It's most likely she was forced on especially if the man was a convict. But this guy has no sympathy at all. Anyway, I don't believe he is telling the full story or the full truth
@@wagamama8 Wait, he claims the man was let off easier because the girl (at 12) stated she seduced him. She seduced the step dad? I gotta go with Preach, unless she had a bunch of evidence, videos showing it was all on her…..most juries are throwing the book at step dad/moms bf.
This guy's behavior is that of the bully in school or the kid that was bullied then turned into a bully after getting a little power and finding someone more insecure than they are.
Agreed upon boundaries isn’t abuse lol. She can easily leave at any time. He’s not physically abusing her or holding her hostage. Not saying I agree with boundaries but obviously he does
@@YungPhilosopher the bottom line is she cant do better. Shes a middle aged overweight single mom with pink hair. This goober is likely the best deal shes ever gonna get, and same for him too. Personally I want a girl I can be proud of to call her mine and not have to police her behavior, but then I can stand being alone until i find someone decent.
@@ethosterros9430you have to police your woman’s behavior to some degree nothing wrong with that. Saying if you do X then the relationship is over isn’t abuse and it’s not wrong. She can leave if she wants. Nothing immoral or wrong about that
It used to be part of the old school dating advice that used to be on youtube in 2010. It may seem evil if you think of it that way but I'm sure you've spent time walking with a group or a person before and then you all stop and you ask yourselves "where the fuck are we going?" and then you guys say "I don't know I was following you". Walking in front a lot of times defaults you as the designated "leader" or maybe planner for that specific instance when people aren't paying close attention or playing power games. Most people don't want to lead.
You don't have to be in front to direct direction. You can be at the side and change direction, your friend will follow. You can be behind and say," this way". They will follow. Subconsciously the 'in front' thing works most of the time. But playing the training mentality and paying attention to so many social cues and directing them is exhausting ( they work I won't lie) But you canJust be a solid and reliable dude and these things will fall into place
This is abusive and the fact he’s so open about it is crazy. I would never tell my husband he can’t go to a concert or out with friends period. And if he ever did that to me, I’m done. Do not control your partner.
According to guys like him, your husband could go out cause somehow 'remind her she's replaceable but also men don't cheat during guys night out'. Dudes cringey quack.
Apparently there’s nothing more “alpha male” than acting on insecurities and trying to make your partner conform to them instead of working on bettering yourself and stabilizing your relationship
@@mikemontgomery2654 this isn’t just the first time I’ve seen this, I’ve seen dozens of self-proclaimed “alpha males” who pull similar, if not the exact same, stunts like this guy. Preaching that women need to be fully submissive and subservient to their man, that men should be allowed to have harems of women because they’re “alpha” and “high value” There’s a reason why this is becoming a running gag and stereotype for “alpha/beta” males, it’s because the lot of them are advocating dumb stuff like this and are serious about it
My pops taught me in a lot of situations the man walks behind everyone because you can’t keep an eye on everyone from the front. Then i seen how wolves travel and the pack leader is far enough behind he can see everyone and respond in case of emergency. These guys do so much posturing it’s ridiculous But like preach said in situations where you are unsure you lead.
no one owns wisdom, Even a fool can be right. so id watch him on what is a red flag in my male friends... difference is a tell them the truth about themselves. lol
LMFAO!!!! you need another man's life, to help you "feel better" about how horrible your life is??? how about just go outside and stop being a virgin, loner, sitting on the computer all day, trying to "feel better" about your life from OTHER people's life Like him or not, YOU are talking about him. Apple n Peach are talking about him. And he has a women, while Peach is married to a clinically obese whale, Aba is single and complains about other men MOST of his days making videos, and you are doing the same. i mean....hey, hater will hate. Its just hilarious watching it happen from some who wants to "feel better" about how much you life sucks. ROFL. you cant make this stuff up.
This is exactly what it is. I was in a relationship just like this. He definitely got his degree from the University of Kevin Samuels. I would push back, and he would psychologically punish me. Nevous system was alllllll fucked up. Never again. Never. Again.
I agree! The worst part of the story is that he lets a 19 year old derail his life so terribly at 31. What does that say about his character at 31. The man had nothing going for him in his 30s. He is weird and lame. No one should be taking any advice from him. Not a soul.
No. There is no singular "worst part" of this story, the whole thing is cringe and bad and you know what? If its true, if that relationship was real, he'd go back to her tomorrow... hell, that might be the woman he's with now. Why? The dude has zero self esteem and zero self awareness.
My best friend was "trained" by her ex POS. He acted just like this. Literally looked like acting irl. It's weird af to witness. It took her finding female clothes that weren't hers to leave, not the beatings, emotional abuse, or mental control
Beatings and emotional abuse are presented as punishment or discipline. Or spun as though it's because they feel such passion for their partner that they lose control when they feel betrayed. The victim is made to feel like they're responsible for any given incident of violence by stepping out of line. Cheating is just a violation of the terms of the relationship. You can't play that off as "I did that to punish you" if the victim had to figure it out on their own. And the whole obsessively passionate person who can't control their temper narrative falls apart when they direct that passion at someone else. That's why it'll snap a victim out of it better than beatings will. Cheating breaks the bubble abusers keep their victims in.
@@42billybobwoman need to be obedient to the man. He is giving lots of resources so he needs to make sure you’re body count is down because he has to cheat for his biology
Same thing happened with my mom.....he is in jail for beating her (because of us not her calling the cops and him being a felon already) but she is still talking to him and says "we need to find it in our heart to forgive because everyone makes mistakes"...... like he hasn't beat her for over 3 years....
@wherethedarkfindslight4481 it's terrible to be so close to a person and not being able to snap them out of it. I was the last of her friends and family who still allowed her to bring her ex with her to chill (because she wasn't aloud to leave the house otherwise). I did that to keep her close so she had somewhere to go when she realized his "love and passion" was literally abuse. She didn't even realize until months after she left him, how many times she was graped by him. Since it was her partner, she didn't think it counted as grape 😞
It's also hella cringy to put the words 'train' and 'partner' in the same sentence. My brother in Christ, if you feel you gotta train anyone get a dog, adult humans ain't for training and controlling, you form a bond, respect and support eachother through the hardships of life. Otherwise stay single and free.
@Louis Kingsta certain people do actually need it but why would you go for someone who needs training? Go for people who actually know how to be decent
"It was all your decisions" THANK YOU!! I find it ironic that men like him are constantly speaking about the bad decisions of women and that women need to be held accountable for their bad decisions, yet, when it comes to their own bad dating decisions they are the victim and it was all the woman's fault not the decisions of the man to be with the woman. The hypocrisy is undeniable. "At 31..." LOL
I never even caught that but you're right. The whole idea of "the wall" don't get mad when you're partying your youth away and the music stops and no one wants you anymore. It's a consequence of your actions. But then these dudes blame women for their problems. The fact of it is a lot of these red pill guys have something they don't like about themselves (too emotional, never take responsibility, etc) and pin it on women to feel better about themselves. Just how feminists take the worst of their behavior and pin it on men.
The reason why he “behaves” in the manner demonstrated in the beginning of the video is due to his trust issues. In his “it gets worse stories”, he demonstrates attempts to trust someone, for it to only end in some form of betrayal (ie cheating or lying) and then people like you tell him to hold himself accountable instead of the party that wronged him. Your undermining his struggle to find a partner and misguide him into becoming a paranoid control freak. Your comment lacks compassion. You fail to see things from his point of view and claim his victimhood is ironic. Instead of focusing entirely on the man, you should acknowledge that woman innately have the ability to make decisions regardless of morality. If his ex decided to do something contrary to his expectation, he shouldn’t be held accountable for someone else’s decisions. Also it’s naturally for him to feel disappointed. So in the most vague sense of the term victim, he felt victimized by someone who deceived him each time he tried to form a honest connection. Now how do you suggest he stops being a victim…. Making better dating decisions?… (Regardless of his decisions, his partner can do whatever he or she decides independently, otherwise he’ll start micromanaging.) Speaking of micromanaging, his behavior in the skits at the beginning weren’t necessarily abusive. Well he acts like the insecure control freak. He’s being dismissive to her in order to minimize chance of feeling like a victim to HER DECISION to either be honest or lie. I personally believe he’s mistaken for trying to micromanage while being dismissive of her, but clearly it’s a DEFENSE MECHANISM to his TRUST ISSUES. And his way of MAKING BETTER DATING DECISIONS so he’s no longer a victim with feelings.
This man can blame that girl though. She abused him, clearly. He was being dumb and blind all along that story, just as women can be dumb to stay with an abusive man : but the woman is never blamed for it.
Here is the thing with Donovan, F&F, and Rollo: they were all the geeky kids in high school that never got any attention from women. They never really grew out of it and have held onto their "Revenge of the Nerds" fantasies the whole time.
He wants to make it seem like he was even more of beta then his audience is/was but since had his Red Pill "glow up" and you can learn from his mistakes to be the big Alpha like him. What people see (outside of red pill) is a man hurt till his mid 30's and since has been projecting his insecurities in current relationships.
This reminds me of how my dad treated/treats my mom, she can’t look in any direction without my dad accusing her of looking at someone, life full of trauma and emotional abuse. She can’t even enjoy being around her own family much less my dads family and can barely go to church in peace without my dad breathing down her neck
Homie was definitely the kid in the back of a class who drew disturbing manga and didn't make eye contact with anyone. He bought himself a smart phone, downloaded an app for children and said, "it's my time to shine"
Imagine not being able to process emotions and moving on with your life to THIS extent. That's a mental disorder. Getting cheated on doesnt feel great, sure. But using it as an excuse to exert THIS level of control over someone out of fear that you'll "feel bad" again is pathetic.
@@vanderumd11 I mean, the other partner always has the option to say "no" though. Then we end up in situations where ppl are out here killing their spouse for wanting to leave an abusive relationship.
@@YThates very rare circumstance. The VAST majority of situations where one personally says no end in violence. If you look at the data females are more likely currently to abuse their significant other. Each adult has the ability to choose what type of relationship they want... She chose one where she isn't responsible for ANY of the finances. She has said that she enjoys that dynamic so it's none of our business. This is a 50year old adult people are trying to decide what is good for her lol many people would rather she go out and work hard for someone else's company ... Just so she can claim "independence" lol
@Louis Kingsta yes, some women choose to go out and work to pay their bills. Others find men who can and are willing to support their lifestyles in exchange for relationship duties. They always have the option to leave and go pay for their own lives.
He was more cucked than cheated on. It seems like he knew he was sharing the rocket pocket with her ex every time she left him. She probably called him up to tell him where she was and everything.
@Sonder J then we can finally call him Beta for running away from a blue haired "liberal" as people decribe Destiny. Destiny is the red pill gurus kryptonite And I dont even follow Destiny like that
LMAO his reaction over a 19yo gf!! 😂 I wasn’t even that dramatic when I found out my ex husband and father of my child was cheating after 10 years of marriage
No fr😭😭.. anyone who thinks that story is cap, has not come across a woman who has experienced a man like him😂.. they be emotional as hell💀.. even if he is lying, that’s someone’s real experience 🤣
Taking relationship advice from a redpill guru is like taking financial advice from the homeless. They might be giving some hard hitting truths in their words, but most of them absolutely do NOT practice what they preach. Most of them are not as "Alpha" as they claim. Most dudes who are actually successful with women, do not make redpill content. People who are actually happy with their lives don't need to shackle a woman down to a slave in order to keep her around. These men just don't want to admit they're not desirable enough.
I always thought that his gf/wife was into it and guy here had a brilliant idea to make a UA-cam channel on it, thinking this was how every girl should be. Sarcasm on the "brilliant idea" part
@@pantsenfuego9986 Your parents, or anyone in your life that is in a stable relationship. Don't have one? Get a life first, then once you're happy with your own life. Only then look for a companion.
@@RandomPerson-tz7wk What?? Donovan Sharp has a stable relationship tho...... He has been with her for years now. They even work together... But let me guess, that doesnt count in your opinion, uh? Or do you only pick and choose based on how you FEEL about the person?? ROFL "only then look for a companion" sorry bud, the question wasnt about WHEN to look for someone. Clearly you cant read correctly or something. The guy asked "Who to take dating advice from" And you replied with "be happy with yourself, THEN go look for someone" *lmfao! You are single.... please stop trying to tell OTHER PEOPLE how or what to do in life to get to a place where YOU are not at yourself.*
Sigma males who dont give a shit how they are percieved. Do their thing with humility. Have partners they can trust and not weird group mentality views. Like all this or all this is like this. You work on yourself mentally physically and spiritually to be the best version of yourself. And tackle your dreams. May it be a very lucrative career that gets you alot of money, or a less paying job that makes you happy everyday. Because the real high value a Sigma brings is he is true to himself. He needs no artificial objects or clout to be at the top. You take all you can from.a Sigma you still got the "top g". Because beneeth all that is still a great golden person. You take any of this Alpha males. Take their stuff and money. What do you got? Insecure mfers who get women through money and once thats gone result to manipulation and snake behavior to acumilate more money by draging others down. Needing to say "they are the king" but arent more then a peasant with a crown. While the Sigma is the King who never has to say anything,, or cover himself in gold. People know he is.
What sign? What abuse? Pls elaborate. Cuz I didn't see it. Sure, the guy is kind of a dork but he has his own rules. The woman can take it or leave it. I dont understand where the abuse is. A man can't have rules in his own house?
@@absolute757 Was the concert at his house? Also retarted rules don't count, it just makes a man look very insecure. But you are right, this is not really abuse, just narcissictic brainwashing lol
@@absolute757 Pretty sure, not having a choice is abusive. Can't even decide what you want to eat yourself. And the double standard. Oh I must train her to not look at or talk to other male. But it's perfectly okay for me to (poorly) flirt with the host or look at other women. If your idea of a relationship is close to a jailer and prisoner or slave and master. Everyone else that sane and normal would think you're abusive.
Believe it or not, there are some women who are ok with this type of relationship. And they choose to stay no matter what other people say. The same goes for some guys who are controlled by their woman.
The whole point that Aba and Preach are trying to show us in all of their videos is to be our own person. To have that discipline to analyze and differentiate the plethora of ideas that we consume on a daily basis. Consume and apply the ideas that makes sense or is in line of your morals. Ideas that you think are gonna help you live life a bit more positively and happily. Regardless of what movement or agenda you're consuming content from. The moment you associate yourself with a group, you might have put yourself in a situation where you have to defend an idea that doesn't really ring true to you just to keep you associated with that group. There are three types of people. People who doesn't consume fish because there are bones in it. People who consumes fish with the bones and endure the pain. And people who consumes the fish meat and throws the bones.
I feel more sorry for the (probably imaginary)19 yr old who got taken advantage of at _12_ . And had to go through the whole pregnancy and become a mom at just 13. They should make a movie about it.
I have never sat down and watched any of these videos of these men telling us how we should be treating women and thought to myself: “that’s a person who’s completely secure in themselves and aren’t desperately searching for some sort of social validation from other men.”
Police are trained, soldiers are trained, nurses are trained, doctors are trained, electricians are trained, plumbers are trained before they earn the Qualification to have the Title/Role of their profession. Being a husband is a title/role, being a wife is a Title/Role. There are responsibilities required and expected from being a wife and being a husband. There is nothing wrong with training your wife just as there is nothing wrong with training your husband if it's consensual to learn the things their wife or husband likes and DO them to make their spouse HAPPY. Couples should do things to make their significant other Content in the relationship.
31, dating a 19 year old drug addict with some sad past, borrowing money, hits bottom & still goes back -- and THAT's his takeaway? There was a whole mess of other ways to remedy that experience going forward.
I used to be in a relationship where the man acted like this. It started out almost unnoticeable but looking back i should have seen the red flags. I barely escaped. This is abuse. Toxic af. If a man acts like this, RUN. Please.
As a woman, when I bring my phone to the bathroom it is to watch tiktok. 😅 This controlling behavior is beyond ridiculous. If someone wants to cheat, they'll cheat. They also have their phone with them at work you know.
This is so unsettling. This is what I used to be "trained" to be like in an abusive relationship where I was scared to cross his ever-limitlessly increasing "boundary" expectations, out of fear of punishment. I actually stopped breathing watching this, as it took me back. Thanks for reminding me how insane this is from the outside. Inside it feels impossible in a terrifying manner in which you can never keep your eye steady on the moving goal post. So you just become terrified of other men even acknowledging your existence, even if your man isn't around. Cuz you're so well "trained" that you feel guilty in a deep "fight or flight" way. In case this amount of control sounds appealing to anyone..it turned me into a nervous wreck that was not only afraid of other men, but afraid of existing wrong and then existing at all, because my mere existence felt wrong.
I was in a relationship like that for 4 months but when I realized this is really who he is, I left and never looked back. I, however, had the advantage of knowing this kind of personality pattern doesn't get fixed overnight, it takes YEARS of therapy. Minimum. I wasn't going to sacrifice my peace and health I just went to go find someone not so batshit bonkers. I also had the advantage of having been treated respectfully before. I'd been treated with kindness and value before. So he was trying to break me down but my brain said "ok I might be flawed but I'm not thiiis terrible as he's making me out to be". Problem is, some women have not grown up with anyone valuing or respecting them. And they don't know about personality disorders and think their love will change him. So, I was advantaged because I knew better. But you don't know what you don't know
Dude is wild. If a dude comes to me with a story like that, red flags 🚩 I’d run! The fact that he thinks every woman is gonna act like his ex is a sign that he needs to stay single until he can get out of his past. He reeks insecure. 🤢
Husband: "What's she doing on her phone? Probably texting her ex!" Wife: *pooping while pricing chicken coops and Googling 'how to start homesteading' on a budget*
This would never happen, but Redpillers should get their money together and make a DreamWorks-like movie called "How to Train Your Woman" where they put stuff like this in the movie. It would be the top comedy that year, but they would be completely serious with its messaging.
Police are trained, soldiers are trained, nurses are trained, doctors are trained, electricians are trained, plumbers are trained before they earn the Qualification to have the Title/Role of their profession. Being a husband is a title/role, being a wife is a Title/Role. There are responsibilities required and expected from being a wife and being a husband. There is nothing wrong with training your wife just as there is nothing wrong with training your husband if it's consensual to learn the things their wife or husband likes and DO them to make their spouse HAPPY. Couples should do things to make their significant other Content in the relationship.
To be fair, Aba and Preach only ever critique the worst, most cringey parts of the red pill space. There are plenty of sane content creators in that space that think this crap is goofy.
@Jessie Training and Abuse are 2 completely different things. Misinterpreting 1 for the other is also a problem that should be addressed. I never said abuse, I said training.
"it was all your decisions", as a grown adult at 31, it's worse 'cause he's older than that and still thinks it's the girls fault he put himself through that, damn.
If someone told me I couldn’t go to concerts or something as simple as bring my phone in the bathroom to listen to music is psychotic. Like I’ve never even thought of cheating on my boyfriend, but the fact that he’s so preoccupied of getting cheated on let me know how insecure he is.
Yk women naturally cheat when they see a taller man, with more money clout etc right? Even if ur guy didn’t hold u from doing those things if ur around men that far exceed his status looks money clout etc you’d cheat in a heartbeat and that’s ok we trust women to be women
Its amazing how he uses this situation as the reason why he speaks so passionately about controlling women and is so crafty at denying any accountability for his own decisions in a relationship with a 19 year old girl....... homegirl had you down bad- quiting your job, cant eat, cant sleep, meanwhile she getting bailed out to go ride the next dude. There has to be another word for this.
I dont agree with the dude, but all the people who say that this is abuse dont even know what abuse is. If someone is like that, just leave the person - women or men. Stop victimize women all the time.
@@nr1NPC I don't think it's that easy to leave when your entire existence is dependent on that person. If this is real(I hope not) where is she gonna go after leaving him, doesn't have a job, hell she can't even order her own food. When you are conditioned to live like this for years, she probably doesn't even realise this is a problem, so yeah it is abuse.
@@ShimaTheCatto If your entire existence is dependent on another person, its on you! You should question your life choices at that point lol And she can always live on welfare until she gets her own job etc.
This lady could date an actually good guy but settles for an ogre, for shrek without the good character, this dude so insecure I could look at him funny and send him to lifelong therapy
Yes a jury may believe that. I know a woman who was assaulted, got pregnant, and filed a report immediately with police saying she was assaulted and they told her they weren’t going to open a case because it’s he say she say. She was 16 and he had kids her age. She said she is a minor and the police said it doesn’t matter bc they wouldn’t consider statutory because it’s typical to be active at that age. She had proof bc she was pregnant. The whole time they were tryna get him on drug charges. Welcome to america where running Coke will get you life in prison but SA won’t. 🤦🏽♀️ she has an amazing son who is an amazing man and amazing father. Retired vet. 🇺🇸
If her son is that old then your not considering time difference. It still won't get them hard time but they almost always get convicted if it's a minor unless it's glaringly obvious the girl is pulling a Amber heard. Back then, hell fucking yes it was beyond horrible. Progress has been done tho.
As a woman I can confirm that I take my phone in the bathroom, but all I do is watch Aba & Preach until my legs are numb.
Or reading a good news paper🤷🏾♀️
Same😅
Pack ya bags it's over
Sounds like dime store romance novel story line.
😂😂😭 Gotchu wobbling when you stand up and walk away 💀
Dude was 31 and got his heart broken by a 19 year old. I couldn’t imagine someone ever looking this terrible
You should have a problem with the fact that a 31 year old was dating a 19 year old, not that he looks pathetic or got played…
And now he gets triggered by bringing a phone into the bathroom 😅
He must have been terribly lonely.
@@GothVibeWars what's the issue? Young women love older men and vice versa
@@GothVibeWars That's a non issue
I didn't think another man could reach Skippy levels of cringe, but here we are.
Yooooo I was thinking the same thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Here we are indeed 🤦
I knew the cringe levels were familiar!!!
Yap
We need to merge the cringe and have Skippy take this guy's world famous master class and try it out in the wild.
Love is not controlling, or manipulation.
It's about communication, respect, and patience.
Thank you healthy person..
For a min I thought I was crazy thinking this lol.
The red pillers love a good trauma bond! They love an unhealthy dynamic, because they LOVE control and manipulation. Its what makes them feel better about their failings and inadequacies.
You're not me and my wife have been together for almost 10years.
these red pillers are almost just as bad as these man hating feminist most of their advice is horrible
@@alastor718 praise the lord, each is there own. I should say; this is what I feel would be a no for me in a relationship...
Yeah that's exacly what i want them to believe
Having your partner living in fear isn't manly, it's cowardly.
Exactly 💯
Yep. It's like to them the girl ain't good till she's traumatized.
And disgusting
Seriously, look how terrified she looked while he was ordering at the restaurant
While I wouldn't go about things the way Donovan does I think people are soft and make a big deal out of the phrase "train your wife". Most western women have bad habits for a relationship and those habits need to be "trained" out of them. Also A&P and Destiny's audience is just filled with a bunch of 80%ers that promote complacency and mediocrity.
Prime example why I do not take 90% of these “red pill dating gurus” seriously because they be speaking fluent CAPanese 🧢
Facts, they sell a dream and don’t actually live it, they just trying to get paid off men who don’t know how to talk to women
Is Donovan woman alright in her head ?
Doesn't mean everything they say is wrong, they just come up with the worst solutions for the (PROBLEMS) not enough self reflection mixed with wisdom
They be speaking trauma
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It’s weird that he wants her to act like a kidnap victim. She literally has all the classic signs of domestic abuse
Yeah, that's borderline abusive behavior
It brings in the money from dumbass that believe this shit and follow him
@@wolfhawk1999 BORDERLINE? That's like saying syrup is borderline sweet.
@@wolfhawk1999 it’s abuse. Emotional or physical, abuse is abuse. Just cause we didn’t see him punch her doesn’t mean it’s not abuse.
It’s not domestic abuse if she is voluntarily doing it. Let’s stop making women the victim every time, they are both weirdos in my opinion
I was in a physically abusive relationship for years. That's how it looked on the outside. I was "respectful".
He probably only smacked u in the bedroom
I actually respect the vulnerability, brave of him to humiliate himself unprovoked
Indeed. And with a story that sounds entirely made up. I mean... This dude is a liar. That's been established. And that story is whack. So he's very willingly humiliating himself with a story he's at least made additions to for dramatic effect... For what. To be an infamous asshole online?
🤣
This should be the title of the video 😂
🤣😂🤣😂😂😂
I don't know. At this point I think it is a kink.
A grown ass man acting this insecure and controlling to prove how "alpha" he is, only to prove how toxic this behavior is in a relationship. Also, the term "well trained" is wild bruh.
He needs a dog, not a woman. I'd like to know who follows this crap?
There are sadly dudes out there who will take his advice…and they will be single forever because of it
@@PepeToTheMooon it’s crazy that some men are desperate enough for help that they’ll let this guy lead them. He’s ridiculous
@@taylormade9748 yep all of his advice is comical
The funniest thing is he blocks all criticism on his videos
Big man is how old and he acted like a boy fresh out of highschool? He reeks of loser for getting into that situation at 31...
He's a black red-pilled Skippy with better physicality
@@mattcaston9546 better by a very small margin. His voice is almost more annoying too lmao
Could tell he’s a loser from his picture from when he got arrested
Yep these type of guys are weird as fuck
I thought I was a loser at 35, but this fucker has me beat by light years holy shit.
Her having a baby at 13 isn’t a red flag on her, it’s a red dot on that man’s house! Red pill is really big on blaming extremely young girls for being abused and it’s gross.
Thank you. Chilldren can not consent to sex. 2nd, there's no way a judge or jury would side with a 13 yr old on this matter. 3rd, I'm sorry, but what grown man gets with someone who's barely legal? 19 and 31 🤢
I wonder how old was that man who impregnated her.....
@@thebeamli *wouldn't?
The Red Pill indeed it is a cringe group with absurd ideas. But I never met someone that had a kid that young that was not a complete mess,
because well structured families don't have that problem.
Is not only her, but the family values and behaviors in which she grew up are dysfunctional. Yeah, a red flag it is. It would be the same as asking a girl to ignore that a man went to jail.
He could be a fantastic person, but the probability that is something seriously wrong is there
@@cristianproust I’m sure she was from a messed up family, IDGAF. It’s still not a red flag on her. This man at 31 dating a 19 year old and talking about red flags is the red flag.
…. The fact that he admits to being 31.. and STRESSING over a 19 year old, needs to be a wake up call for A LOT of red pill men who follow people like him😬
This is a seeekness
I don't get what's the big deal if she's legal
@@BuffKangaroo1 ooh yikes, maybe don't say that bro
@@BuffKangaroo1 legality ≠ morality.
I don’t think most red pill men are following him. I haven’t even heard of this guy until Aba and Preach started putting him on blast.
Good lord I couldn't imagine that level of insecurity. If I gotta monitor anyone's phone usage 24/7 then I'd rather die alone.
Same here. I'm old hat, though.
It would be exhausting, you would never have any peace, who wants to be a full time jailor?
So you dont lock your door every Day?
@@alejandrodelgado5829 it's quick and non time consuming to lock your door. To cyber stalk someone is constant work and a waste of time.
@@raydromeda3777 no if you have a app.
The fact that he’s telling the story to make the female look bad is absolutely hilarious to me.
The story wasn't to make her look back, it was to make him look bad and sell how he grew from it so he can sell it to his audience.
You don't have to tell stories to guys to make females look bad, y'all general behavior is enough of a display to us.
Police are trained, soldiers are trained, nurses are trained, doctors are trained, electricians are trained, plumbers are trained before they earn the Qualification to have the Title/Role of their profession. Being a husband is a title/role, being a wife is a Title/Role. There are responsibilities required and expected from being a wife and being a husband. There is nothing wrong with training your wife just as there is nothing wrong with training your husband if it's consensual to learn the things their wife or husband likes and DO them to make their spouse HAPPY. Couples should do things to make their significant other Content in the relationship.
@@KNEWERAADVERTISING the fact is that when these red pillers say to train your wife they don't mean teach each other how to be better lovers and life partners, they mean make her submit to you like a legal slave.
@@Y0utubeIsFuckingHomo I agree.
31 chasing a 19 yr old this hard is wild. And the audacity to make a platform to how to be a dominant man 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@mr.sweatshirts6004 Hey hey he's a alpha lol😂😂😂
If you can't trust your woman to be on her phone in another room, you don't belong in a relationship. 😂
No man belongs in a relationship then because all girls have secrets on their phone
Women are the ones who want the relationship though not men
@@TheShowOff2I 🚩🚩🚩🚩
@@mollygriffin5474
Yes big red flag
women are the ones who benefit from relationships and they manipulate men into thinking that the men are the ones who benefit when it’s the opposite
@@TheShowOff2I if it were only women, then why do men make these videos for relationships😂
This man, at 31, got his heart SHATTERED by a 19 year old and hasn’t recovered yet. 😂😂😂😂
🤣💀🤣 @ recovered yet
lmaoo😂😂 “heart SHATTERED” lmaoo😂😂
😂😂😂
19 year old heroic addict single mother
@@run3ycb0w when he said, “and it gets worse”, he was not bullshitting
imagine going from finding zero red flags with a drugged out homemade tattooed 19 year old that was hooking up with older men and getting pregnant at 13
to
finding red flags if your girlfriend accidently faces towards a man that is on the other side of a glass door in a restaurant.
i mean...
Are you talikg about his wife or girlfriend or whatever she is. Damn, that is wild shit right there. And he thinks he is above other men.
I was waiting for this comment. Lol
He got from one extreme to the next... makes sense... This guy needs some serious therapy.
It is hard to imagine when we are literally looking right at it through this clown. Lol
Well, you see how it happened...
“Ladies, don’t pretend you’ve never texted an ex in the bathroom.” I’ve never once felt the need to sneak off and text someone who will most likely bring my anxiety up into a panic attack.
Hum..u are a cheater
@@Mariefrancegrsce
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Man... lotta these relationships out here lookin like neighboring countries with only a vague peace treaty and trade agreement stopping all out war between them.
I swear to God this shit is tense for no good reason
Most relationships would break down if they didn’t spend 40+ hours a week away from eachother.
@@ducksquidbat8315 which explains why divorce rates went through the roof with Covid induced lockdowns and curfews.
😂
Perfect comparison! 😂
Made me kinda sad when she diverted her eyes from that man when leaving the restaurant. Reminds me of a bad relationship I was in and he was so ridiculously jealous that I started to silently panic every time a man would start talking to me. That’s no life. So glad that’s over.
It’s all acting. She runs the relationship lol.
@@eznosnopes5276 really not the point my man
@@ellecrescent9834nah that should be the point. what they are doing is fake while what you went through actually happened. Respect yourself and your situation enough to not project your trauma on a video that the are faking to make money off of UA-cam. Their making a mockery of the trauma some women have gone through and then classifying this behavior as alpha to make a few bucks. Its sad
@@itsyaaveragegirl hey average girl, why don’t you mind your own business. I’ll comment whatever I want 😂 fucking weirdo
@@ellecrescent9834 your the one spilling your person trauma stories on the internet and equating it to an obviously fake video, seems like your the weird one.
It hurts the heart to see so many men of influence take unsuspecting young men down a road of insecurity and failed relationships.
yeah men are at fault here for not letting women using them like a toilet paper ... ever thought that if women weren't having the same properties as a toxic waste on a dude's life these 'life coaches' wouldn't exist? To me both are scum but blaming only the man when the whole thing is a REACTION to the current dating market is just wrong.
i watch videos in the manosphere. pretty heavily and do not know who this dude is and the videos look like some lost footage from a horror movie. it’s a bit creepy tbh
@@frikabg Well if you believe men are the leaders of relationships, you should have no problem accepting the majority of the fault that leadership comes with. You can't be the quarterback and then blame everyone else for the L
@@sirisaacmormont5445 considering how the modern world works and how the laws operate it is impossible for men to be leaders... so unless you are willing to take a couple of hundred steps back and actually let men LEAD 'cough' which is what got us here in this day and age with all the technologies etc which you observer around you 'cough' i suggest you look for someone else to blame for all the fuck ups you see around you. We can't be 'equals' while you let men somehow 'lead' just so you can turn around and blame men for 'failing' while 'leading'. This might be a little bit hard for you to grasp but hey that is a YOU problem... not a ME problem. I live in reality not in 'la-la' land where you shout 'you go girl' while blaming men for your own low IQ problems :D
@@frikabg You sound like a person that has never had a meaningful relationship with a woman in your life. The women/fiancé now I deal with, I don't have to ask to lead. That's what's good from day 1. Women follow competent men. You either have "it" or you have to develop "it" and it doesn't sound like you're interested in either.
I had a partner like this, always in my phone and tracking my moves. I finally realized his insecurity had no end when I learned not to speak or look at men. One day he accused me of making a noise when we passed a group of men... I didn't make a noise but he started an argument over this imaginary noise. We weren't together much longer.
My mom and I had to flee from her boyfriend a few years back.. He was cheating but was accusing of her of cheating with random ass people or at random times.. Man that stuff is such a red flag.
Glad you got out from the relationship before it got worse
Lies. You a thot who mad you could not able to cheat on your man
I was a insecure shit BF in my 20’s and here’s what I learned, if someone wants to cheat on you, they are going to cheat on you. Telling her she can’t go to certain places or she can’t have certain friends only will make it more likely for her to cheat on you or dump your ass. All you’re doing is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy by doing with these guys are doing.
True.
That's where you messed up, your not meant to stop her. If you have boundaries and then break them then end the relationship
@@supoa9489 *Yep.*
If you're older and have been married for years with kids, couple's counseling might be worth it, but if you're a 20 something and have barely been together a year, you should just go.
Save yourself the time.
Incorrect. RP doesn't teach men to control women. They are teaching men not to commit to women that go to bars and clubs to begin with.
@saehisaya Incorrect it isn't contradictory. and also we can't lie here, If a woman likes you, then being possessive/controlling can be seen as a positive thing. But if a guy a woman doesn't really like that much is telling her she can't go to the club then its seen as "toxic" because you're making it harder for her to monkey branch to a better guy.
When a woman is really in love she will give up for the party life for a "controlling" or "possessive" guy. Why do you think women stay in these "toxic" relationships with these "controlling" and "possessive" guys for so long? It's not because the guy is manipulating them into liking it. It's because they themselves want to be "possessed" by high value men. It's in their nature.
…. I stopped the video numerous of times to take a deep breath and catch myself. This is outrageously cringey on another level that I didn’t think was possible. My man needs therapy
Dude is disturbingly cringey.
I’m about to have to call off work and recover from seeing this
This was funny and wild
5 day old comment on a vid that’s not even an hour old. This man has mastered the paths
He's aware of female nature...
He sounds like the bad guy in one of those old Maury episodes where the guy control every aspect of the woman's life. Lmao
Women trains their husband and you don't seem to care.
Only to find out that it was all an act and then even Maury himself was lying to you.
D West bout to pop out and take them to the morgue 😂😂😂
@@robertnoble7554 Either is bad, and you're supposed to be RP aware to become privy to the situation. If you don't do your work before getting with a chick leading to you being controlled, ain't my fault. You're not supposed to control your wife, and your wife is not to control you.
@@ItsJustZayne lol obvs.
This is abuse plain & simple. She is essentially acting exactly like a Hostage.
tf nigga u know that u cant just throw out words like that???
I dated a guy like him. When we first met he was great. When he moved in with me he changed in to this Donovan character. Guys like him exist. I tried to reassure him I was not like his ex girlfriend, but nothing changed. He was very controlling and violent. When he shipped out. I packed all is stuff and mailed it to his parents and moved. Told my friends not to give him my new location.
Glad you got out of that alive. I dated a guy similar when I was 18... he became abusive after 6 months of being amazing, completely flipped the switch when he figured out I was inlove with him. He completely ruined me emotionally and mentally, I lost my faith in God for 13 years of my life and only 5 years ago I came back to my faith again... I'm 33 now . Til this day he still tries to get to me and he's blocked from everything it's like living in constant fear but I finally moved on from it all.
I had a man I loved so much for one year he was amazing eventually he lost his job I said fine I'll work don't worry he started abusing me verbally then physically I stayed for three years had a child with him finally he almost killed me I had enough I sent him to jail he only got 4 months but he seemed good he got off Dr*gs he got a job a place I thought well we can co parent he didn't like that but he once again played like he was good he had my son for a weekend I was dating someone he decided not to change my son's diaper the whole weekend because I didn't text him while being on a date my son is now 8 he hasn't seen his father since his diaper rash was so bad I had to take him to the hospital I told his father you will not have him alone ever again until he is an adult his father disappeared
I found you
@@Musterdseed87755 The faith in god thing being lost was a good thing...the rest, not so much
Good for you ma'am.
All those red flags, cheating, and he still took her back.. This isn't about women at all. It's about his own insecurities. Dude invested his time and emotions in something he knew was bad, but somehow still blames the teenager he was dating as a grown man.
Don’t forget about wasting others money too 😬
He's talking about trusting a woman but he was trusting a DRUG ADDICT. Wild. It's like saying all men will kill you because Dahmer exists. All women will cheat because I trusted a a drug addict 8 times.
@@Wuqz Yup, thats what I'm saying. Most drug addicts should not be trusted, not because they're bad people but because they're hooked on a substance that changes their personality and pushes them to put drugs above other people.
He was lying. No way you don't recognize someone shooting dope. They have to have it.
Thisssss lol when I was 17 my 31 year old boyfriend at the time complained about me going to school like dude, I have to go to school or I won't graduate 😒 and when I acted crazy he would complain about me to anyone who would listen just get a more mature woman 😮💨
The fact that there are actually people who legitimately want the sort of relationship with a woman this guy claims to have with his woman makes me despair that I'm of the same species.
This shit looks like she's being held hostage by isis.
You'll be okay, lol
You wouldn't understand because you're a feminine male that needs to do "50/50". Which is a scam btw.
Eh you just call em a stupid goober and a disgusting disgrace to your kind.
The shame part is absolute virtue signaling clown shit. You are not him and don’t have to make the same decisions. All men shouldn’t be looked down on because of him. You promoting that shit is fucking ridiculous and part of the problem.
Just FYI, I've heard and seen the EXACT SAME story, word for word, the same girl, same age, same baby daddy in prison, same birthday tattoo etc. in EVERY manosphere forums, threads, channels, etc.
Maybe based on a true story that happened to someone once, but tons of guys in the redpill community have picked up the tale and re-using it.
Do they not realize that it's embarrassing ..?
I can’t imagine being in my 30s and thinking I can have anything serious with a 19yr old. 😂
19 y/o crack head at that
You can but it’s extremely rare and even then you want to redirect her to a young serious guy like her
19 year olds should be with people their own age, its healthier. All my happy friends in long term relationships are with people around their age. The ones with older men act like abuse victims lmao
Yeah... Hell, I'm 23 and most 19 yr olds? Hell no. Even if they are in my age group, most of them are... Idk. I wouldn't fit with 90% of them.
it's more about 19 vs the gap. My parents met my mom was 25 he was 36 so it's also 11 years, but ig that's more acceptable
bro's listing red flags of a 19 year old when him dating her at 31 is the biggest red flag of all.
Facts
He is a walking Red flag!!
😂😂😂
Faaact! Him being 31 having to live w her drug addict friends 🚩
That guy is the male equivalent of the 40 year old woman saying all men are trash when she hand picked every trash man...and these guys want to say women never take accountability? Dude, you need a therapist.
He’s UPN version of Andrew Tate
@@cargopilotguy305 Damn!
W comment. Distinguished individual. 🔥🚬🗿
true
He's mad at her for having a child at 13....but he was 31 dating a 19 year old...make it makes sense.
it rubs me wrong that a 31 year old going this hard over a 19 year old.
I was actually feeling sorry for the girl. 13 year old having a baby?? It's most likely she was forced on especially if the man was a convict. But this guy has no sympathy at all. Anyway, I don't believe he is telling the full story or the full truth
Screams simp behavior 😅😅
Also - the baby daddy was her step father/ mom's boyfriend but he conveniently left that out
@wagamama8 ofcourse he did. He probably thought the man did nothing wrong and that she came on to him at 12.🙄
@@wagamama8 Wait, he claims the man was let off easier because the girl (at 12) stated she seduced him. She seduced the step dad? I gotta go with Preach, unless she had a bunch of evidence, videos showing it was all on her…..most juries are throwing the book at step dad/moms bf.
This guy's behavior is that of the bully in school or the kid that was bullied then turned into a bully after getting a little power and finding someone more insecure than they are.
Basically. One relationship that he simped out in and now all women are the same. She was a 19 year old drug addict!!!
I was bullied and luckily i did not turn out like this.
You nailed it.
That is the perfect description.
This is an abusive relationship. Textbook. These guys telling other guys how to be “alpha” are always the most insecure/abusive/petty
No it's a beta relationship. She doing what he wants cuz shes a single mom with no prospects. He with her cuz no sane woman gets wet for such a goober
Theyre the most abusive forsure
Agreed upon boundaries isn’t abuse lol. She can easily leave at any time. He’s not physically abusing her or holding her hostage. Not saying I agree with boundaries but obviously he does
@@YungPhilosopher the bottom line is she cant do better. Shes a middle aged overweight single mom with pink hair. This goober is likely the best deal shes ever gonna get, and same for him too.
Personally I want a girl I can be proud of to call her mine and not have to police her behavior, but then I can stand being alone until i find someone decent.
@@ethosterros9430you have to police your woman’s behavior to some degree nothing wrong with that. Saying if you do X then the relationship is over isn’t abuse and it’s not wrong. She can leave if she wants. Nothing immoral or wrong about that
Batman himself couldn't get this info outta me .... That backstory was crazy... He was 31!!! ......What?!!!
For Gotham
What’s fucked up to me is that the “don’t let them walk in front of you” is the exact thing I was taught when training my dogs when I first got them.
😮
Tupac voice wonder why they call you b***h
It used to be part of the old school dating advice that used to be on youtube in 2010. It may seem evil if you think of it that way but I'm sure you've spent time walking with a group or a person before and then you all stop and you ask yourselves "where the fuck are we going?" and then you guys say "I don't know I was following you". Walking in front a lot of times defaults you as the designated "leader" or maybe planner for that specific instance when people aren't paying close attention or playing power games. Most people don't want to lead.
You don't have to be in front to direct direction. You can be at the side and change direction, your friend will follow. You can be behind and say," this way". They will follow.
Subconsciously the 'in front' thing works most of the time.
But playing the training mentality and paying attention to so many social cues and directing them is exhausting ( they work I won't lie)
But you canJust be a solid and reliable dude and these things will fall into place
@Bob ""😮""
This is abusive and the fact he’s so open about it is crazy. I would never tell my husband he can’t go to a concert or out with friends period. And if he ever did that to me, I’m done. Do not control your partner.
It's wild . But it was funny lol
he's just selling bs to his dumb audience.. this is what all these guys do..
According to guys like him, your husband could go out cause somehow 'remind her she's replaceable but also men don't cheat during guys night out'. Dudes cringey quack.
How is this controlling? He’s kinda cringe and this it’s all done for camera. His woman is enabling because she can leave whenever she wants.
I was going to comment this is abusive. I really thought this was satire. Who would put up with this?
Apparently there’s nothing more “alpha male” than acting on insecurities and trying to make your partner conform to them instead of working on bettering yourself and stabilizing your relationship
It’s all compensation man. I’m not gay! You’re gay! That kinda deal
This is really it.
So, just because one grifter does this, that’s just the general perception of what an alpha male is?
@@mikemontgomery2654stereotyping. guessing you’re new to it huh
@@mikemontgomery2654 this isn’t just the first time I’ve seen this, I’ve seen dozens of self-proclaimed “alpha males” who pull similar, if not the exact same, stunts like this guy. Preaching that women need to be fully submissive and subservient to their man, that men should be allowed to have harems of women because they’re “alpha” and “high value”
There’s a reason why this is becoming a running gag and stereotype for “alpha/beta” males, it’s because the lot of them are advocating dumb stuff like this and are serious about it
My pops taught me in a lot of situations the man walks behind everyone because you can’t keep an eye on everyone from the front. Then i seen how wolves travel and the pack leader is far enough behind he can see everyone and respond in case of emergency. These guys do so much posturing it’s ridiculous
But like preach said in situations where you are unsure you lead.
If ya'll following this dude's advice prepare to spend the rest of your life familiarizing yourself with your hands
PALM-ela will get a great workout.
All those fools who follow these scammers redpill gurus advice are going to end up alone
@@PepeToTheMooon 😄😄😄
This guy is a degenerate, but the unfortunate thing is advice tends to sound like his or the complete opposite.
😂😂
I'm heartbroken for anybody that follows this man and listens to him seriously
Is it not a joke?
@@HarryPierpoint nope, from what I've seen this is all real by this dude and I don't understand how anyone follows him
@@HarryPierpoint nope Donovan is serious.
no one owns wisdom, Even a fool can be right. so id watch him on what is a red flag in my male friends... difference is a tell them the truth about themselves. lol
@@azuleslight good point lmao. His channel is a Hallmark on how not to act
I'm glad people like Donovan Sharpe exist because he makes me feel so much better about my life. Protect this man at all cost!🤣
Damn son, that's grimey lmaooo
You actually got in the first half
LMFAO!!!! you need another man's life, to help you "feel better" about how horrible your life is???
how about just go outside and stop being a virgin, loner, sitting on the computer all day, trying to "feel better" about your life from OTHER people's life
Like him or not, YOU are talking about him. Apple n Peach are talking about him. And he has a women, while Peach is married to a clinically obese whale, Aba is single and complains about other men MOST of his days making videos, and you are doing the same.
i mean....hey, hater will hate. Its just hilarious watching it happen from some who wants to "feel better" about how much you life sucks. ROFL.
you cant make this stuff up.
Same lol I feel f*cking healthy mentally compared to some of these ppl
He's a post-PUA pick up artist 🤡
And yet, he doesn't follow his own rules by not dating single post-wall moms
Dude, just stop
I think they call this a narcissistic personality disorder in a relationship 😂
This is exactly what it is. I was in a relationship just like this. He definitely got his degree from the University of Kevin Samuels. I would push back, and he would psychologically punish me. Nevous system was alllllll fucked up. Never again. Never. Again.
I agree! The worst part of the story is that he lets a 19 year old derail his life so terribly at 31. What does that say about his character at 31. The man had nothing going for him in his 30s. He is weird and lame. No one should be taking any advice from him. Not a soul.
No.
There is no singular "worst part" of this story, the whole thing is cringe and bad and you know what? If its true, if that relationship was real, he'd go back to her tomorrow... hell, that might be the woman he's with now. Why? The dude has zero self esteem and zero self awareness.
Exactly! 💯
@@undergrounddojokeyboardcag701 the worst part is that he has an audience
10 to 1 he is the SAME pos that did her at 12.
He took all these L 's. Because she Is 19
My best friend was "trained" by her ex POS. He acted just like this. Literally looked like acting irl. It's weird af to witness. It took her finding female clothes that weren't hers to leave, not the beatings, emotional abuse, or mental control
Beatings and emotional abuse are presented as punishment or discipline. Or spun as though it's because they feel such passion for their partner that they lose control when they feel betrayed. The victim is made to feel like they're responsible for any given incident of violence by stepping out of line.
Cheating is just a violation of the terms of the relationship. You can't play that off as "I did that to punish you" if the victim had to figure it out on their own. And the whole obsessively passionate person who can't control their temper narrative falls apart when they direct that passion at someone else. That's why it'll snap a victim out of it better than beatings will. Cheating breaks the bubble abusers keep their victims in.
@@42billybobwoman need to be obedient to the man. He is giving lots of resources so he needs to make sure you’re body count is down because he has to cheat for his biology
Same thing happened with my mom.....he is in jail for beating her (because of us not her calling the cops and him being a felon already) but she is still talking to him and says "we need to find it in our heart to forgive because everyone makes mistakes"...... like he hasn't beat her for over 3 years....
@42billybob damn, that puts a lot of sense in a nonsense situation.
@wherethedarkfindslight4481 it's terrible to be so close to a person and not being able to snap them out of it. I was the last of her friends and family who still allowed her to bring her ex with her to chill (because she wasn't aloud to leave the house otherwise). I did that to keep her close so she had somewhere to go when she realized his "love and passion" was literally abuse. She didn't even realize until months after she left him, how many times she was graped by him. Since it was her partner, she didn't think it counted as grape 😞
Poor girl. Lost her childhood and battling addiction. I hope she find her path and cut these bad influences from her life
Lol...the story is a lie
he told the story in a way to paint her in a bad light but every sane person with empathy sees her a victim
Sounds like she's the bad influence. They goofy tho
Ill know im a good parent when i can show this to my daughter and she goes "eugh-"
If you feel you gotta control your partner in such a manner, it's possible you're too unstable to hold a relationship with someone that is stable.
It's also hella cringy to put the words 'train' and 'partner' in the same sentence.
My brother in Christ, if you feel you gotta train anyone get a dog, adult humans ain't for training and controlling, you form a bond, respect and support eachother through the hardships of life. Otherwise stay single and free.
You should look for someone who doesn't need training, training someone to be a suitable partner is a huge red flag
@Louis Kingsta certain people do actually need it but why would you go for someone who needs training? Go for people who actually know how to be decent
"It was all your decisions" THANK YOU!! I find it ironic that men like him are constantly speaking about the bad decisions of women and that women need to be held accountable for their bad decisions, yet, when it comes to their own bad dating decisions they are the victim and it was all the woman's fault not the decisions of the man to be with the woman. The hypocrisy is undeniable. "At 31..." LOL
I never even caught that but you're right. The whole idea of "the wall" don't get mad when you're partying your youth away and the music stops and no one wants you anymore. It's a consequence of your actions. But then these dudes blame women for their problems.
The fact of it is a lot of these red pill guys have something they don't like about themselves (too emotional, never take responsibility, etc) and pin it on women to feel better about themselves. Just how feminists take the worst of their behavior and pin it on men.
The reason why he “behaves” in the manner demonstrated in the beginning of the video is due to his trust issues. In his “it gets worse stories”, he demonstrates attempts to trust someone, for it to only end in some form of betrayal (ie cheating or lying) and then people like you tell him to hold himself accountable instead of the party that wronged him. Your undermining his struggle to find a partner and misguide him into becoming a paranoid control freak.
Your comment lacks compassion. You fail to see things from his point of view and claim his victimhood is ironic. Instead of focusing entirely on the man, you should acknowledge that woman innately have the ability to make decisions regardless of morality. If his ex decided to do something contrary to his expectation, he shouldn’t be held accountable for someone else’s decisions. Also it’s naturally for him to feel disappointed. So in the most vague sense of the term victim, he felt victimized by someone who deceived him each time he tried to form a honest connection.
Now how do you suggest he stops being a victim…. Making better dating decisions?…
(Regardless of his decisions, his partner can do whatever he or she decides independently, otherwise he’ll start micromanaging.)
Speaking of micromanaging, his behavior in the skits at the beginning weren’t necessarily abusive. Well he acts like the insecure control freak. He’s being dismissive to her in order to minimize chance of feeling like a victim to HER DECISION to either be honest or lie. I personally believe he’s mistaken for trying to micromanage while being dismissive of her, but clearly it’s a DEFENSE MECHANISM to his TRUST ISSUES. And his way of MAKING BETTER DATING DECISIONS so he’s no longer a victim with feelings.
@@TheDestineyAngel Impressive mental gymnastics there.
This man can blame that girl though. She abused him, clearly. He was being dumb and blind all along that story, just as women can be dumb to stay with an abusive man : but the woman is never blamed for it.
@@aleckmenard5304 At 31??? By a 19 year old??
Here is the thing with Donovan, F&F, and Rollo: they were all the geeky kids in high school that never got any attention from women. They never really grew out of it and have held onto their "Revenge of the Nerds" fantasies the whole time.
but people need to stop using them as an example of all of the redpill dudes.
Living in revenge world...😆
@@Galphor then stop propping them up. I mean red pillers are retarded by nature but yall share the king retards content all the time
EXACTLY
@@Galphor They do not need to be examples of "all redpill dudes" to be pointed out as bad examples to follow and nothing but frauds and grifters.
This could be a training video to spot an abusive relationship in public
That was a perfect exemple of a toxic relationship . If you can't trust your partner , have a talk with her or leave her.
The lack of self-awareness to realize that his story makes him seem weak and insecure at 31 is baffling
He is a old dork.
He's in his late forties he's definitely not 31
Astonishing
@@ragejinraver he was 31 in the story he told, according to him.
He wants to make it seem like he was even more of beta then his audience is/was but since had his Red Pill "glow up" and you can learn from his mistakes to be the big Alpha like him. What people see (outside of red pill) is a man hurt till his mid 30's and since has been projecting his insecurities in current relationships.
This reminds me of how my dad treated/treats my mom, she can’t look in any direction without my dad accusing her of looking at someone, life full of trauma and emotional abuse. She can’t even enjoy being around her own family much less my dads family and can barely go to church in peace without my dad breathing down her neck
Wow, I feel so sorry for her AND your father.
He clearly has some personal trauma that he hasn't dealt with, and takes it out on her.
My dad was like that and then my dad told me to get married and I said " Hell no" ( I live in a country where arrange marriage is a big deal)
It speaks to a great deal of insecurity.
I was like that too with my SO… your father needs help asap, controlling isn’t loving.
He’s probably cheating on ur mother, sorry to break it to you
How are you 31 and blaming a child for your mistakes.
Donovan is the type of brother projecting all this nonsense but love’s getting pegged in the bedroom
Aye i peeped that too 😂
Yooooo I was waiting for someone to say it😭😭😭
Literally begs for it, lol
yeah not an image I wanted
True,,, showing off his wife titties
The fact that the 19 year old bought him at 31 a cupcake is hilarious to me 🤣🤣
hey the little 31 year old needs to celebrate his birthday!
That dude is socially r/tard/d, he did at 31 everything a 17 yo would have been doing.
He used to be out of shape, cake probably was well appreciated then
Reverse EDP
EDP moment
Homie was definitely the kid in the back of a class who drew disturbing manga and didn't make eye contact with anyone. He bought himself a smart phone, downloaded an app for children and said, "it's my time to shine"
i dont know what this means
Screaming 😭
@@Numb_ 😩😩😩😭😭😭😭😭😭😭just whyyyy🤣🤣🤣🤣
App for children? What?
@@Numb_ It means OP of this thread probably was the kid in the back of his class that drew manga.
I feel for his family and friends who bailed him out over 19 yr old WAP. A 31 year old man who can't attract or keep a woman his own age? Baby man.
The stories he tells have to be true, because I refuse to believe someone would purposely make themselves look that bad w/lies
The real lies are the one this man has been telling himself
I don't know how he told that story and didn't pause to reflect for even a second.
It was just talking with no emotion, basically bragging
Imagine not being able to process emotions and moving on with your life to THIS extent.
That's a mental disorder.
Getting cheated on doesnt feel great, sure.
But using it as an excuse to exert THIS level of control over someone out of fear that you'll "feel bad" again is pathetic.
It absolutely works.
@@vanderumd11 I mean, the other partner always has the option to say "no" though. Then we end up in situations where ppl are out here killing their spouse for wanting to leave an abusive relationship.
@@YThates very rare circumstance. The VAST majority of situations where one personally says no end in violence. If you look at the data females are more likely currently to abuse their significant other. Each adult has the ability to choose what type of relationship they want... She chose one where she isn't responsible for ANY of the finances. She has said that she enjoys that dynamic so it's none of our business. This is a 50year old adult people are trying to decide what is good for her lol many people would rather she go out and work hard for someone else's company ... Just so she can claim "independence" lol
@Louis Kingsta yes, some women choose to go out and work to pay their bills. Others find men who can and are willing to support their lifestyles in exchange for relationship duties. They always have the option to leave and go pay for their own lives.
He was more cucked than cheated on. It seems like he knew he was sharing the rocket pocket with her ex every time she left him. She probably called him up to tell him where she was and everything.
It's hilarious how Edwin ("Donovan") is pretending that he's not the bitch in this relationship.
I've read that his girl is actually the one who scripts all this stuff.
He’s the bitch in every relationship in his life
Probably gets pegged.
His Real Name Is Edwin? 🤔🤨
@@jasonfromguitarcenter Edwin Hopkins, yes.
The fact that this dude can make Pearl and MTR look reasonable and rational is insane.
Looking forward to Destiny debating Donovan. Should be fun.
Destiny finna wipe the floor with Donny.
@Sonder J then we can finally call him Beta for running away from a blue haired "liberal" as people decribe Destiny.
Destiny is the red pill gurus kryptonite
And I dont even follow Destiny like that
😂gd ol donny might not show up
Edwin ("Donovan") won't debate anyone after debating Kevin Ray Wilder.
Donovan is all bark and no bite just like Fresh and Fraud
LMAO his reaction over a 19yo gf!! 😂 I wasn’t even that dramatic when I found out my ex husband and father of my child was cheating after 10 years of marriage
No fr😭😭.. anyone who thinks that story is cap, has not come across a woman who has experienced a man like him😂.. they be emotional as hell💀.. even if he is lying, that’s someone’s real experience 🤣
@@wewereonlyseven9325 Facts!!
Taking relationship advice from a redpill guru is like taking financial advice from the homeless. They might be giving some hard hitting truths in their words, but most of them absolutely do NOT practice what they preach. Most of them are not as "Alpha" as they claim. Most dudes who are actually successful with women, do not make redpill content. People who are actually happy with their lives don't need to shackle a woman down to a slave in order to keep her around. These men just don't want to admit they're not desirable enough.
I always thought that his gf/wife was into it and guy here had a brilliant idea to make a UA-cam channel on it, thinking this was how every girl should be. Sarcasm on the "brilliant idea" part
Who to take dating advice from? Don’t say women.
@@pantsenfuego9986
Your parents, or anyone in your life that is in a stable relationship. Don't have one? Get a life first, then once you're happy with your own life. Only then look for a companion.
@@RandomPerson-tz7wk What??
Donovan Sharp has a stable relationship tho...... He has been with her for years now. They even work together... But let me guess, that doesnt count in your opinion, uh?
Or do you only pick and choose based on how you FEEL about the person?? ROFL
"only then look for a companion"
sorry bud, the question wasnt about WHEN to look for someone. Clearly you cant read correctly or something. The guy asked "Who to take dating advice from"
And you replied with "be happy with yourself, THEN go look for someone"
*lmfao! You are single.... please stop trying to tell OTHER PEOPLE how or what to do in life to get to a place where YOU are not at yourself.*
Sigma males who dont give a shit how they are percieved. Do their thing with humility.
Have partners they can trust and not weird group mentality views. Like all this or all this is like this.
You work on yourself mentally physically and spiritually to be the best version of yourself. And tackle your dreams.
May it be a very lucrative career that gets you alot of money, or a less paying job that makes you happy everyday.
Because the real high value a Sigma brings is he is true to himself. He needs no artificial objects or clout to be at the top.
You take all you can from.a Sigma you still got the "top g". Because beneeth all that is still a great golden person.
You take any of this Alpha males. Take their stuff and money. What do you got? Insecure mfers who get women through money and once thats gone result to manipulation and snake behavior to acumilate more money by draging others down. Needing to say "they are the king" but arent more then a peasant with a crown.
While the Sigma is the King who never has to say anything,, or cover himself in gold. People know he is.
Treating ur wife like ur daughter is the best advice u will ever receive
Only thing missing from the redpill guys relationship is showing him beating her physically, but all the other signs of abuse are showing.
What sign? What abuse? Pls elaborate. Cuz I didn't see it. Sure, the guy is kind of a dork but he has his own rules. The woman can take it or leave it. I dont understand where the abuse is. A man can't have rules in his own house?
@@absolute757 Was the concert at his house? Also retarted rules don't count, it just makes a man look very insecure. But you are right, this is not really abuse, just narcissictic brainwashing lol
Abuse lol yea ok. Its called setting boundaries. Only simp men would disagree
@@absolute757
Pretty sure, not having a choice is abusive. Can't even decide what you want to eat yourself.
And the double standard. Oh I must train her to not look at or talk to other male. But it's perfectly okay for me to (poorly) flirt with the host or look at other women.
If your idea of a relationship is close to a jailer and prisoner or slave and master. Everyone else that sane and normal would think you're abusive.
Believe it or not, there are some women who are ok with this type of relationship. And they choose to stay no matter what other people say. The same goes for some guys who are controlled by their woman.
The whole point that Aba and Preach are trying to show us in all of their videos is to be our own person. To have that discipline to analyze and differentiate the plethora of ideas that we consume on a daily basis. Consume and apply the ideas that makes sense or is in line of your morals. Ideas that you think are gonna help you live life a bit more positively and happily. Regardless of what movement or agenda you're consuming content from. The moment you associate yourself with a group, you might have put yourself in a situation where you have to defend an idea that doesn't really ring true to you just to keep you associated with that group.
There are three types of people. People who doesn't consume fish because there are bones in it. People who consumes fish with the bones and endure the pain. And people who consumes the fish meat and throws the bones.
100%
What are u trying to sound like? A lecturer? A playwright? 🤣
Aba and Preach are blue pill men. By going against the red pill they are hurting men
@@whynot1548found the blind follower😂
@Why Not
Prob trying to sound like himself 🤷♀️
This guy is easily the CRINGIEST RP “dating coach” i’ve EVER seen. And theres some cringy ones out there
Cringy Role Play dating coach
@@alexzanderroberts995 LOL nah that was funny 🙌🏽. RP = Role play 😂
Glad I'm not the only one who read RP as roleplay! 😂
This isn’t a serious video. It’s gotta be a parody or gross exaggeration for UA-cam clicks.
Exactly. I saw Medieval nerd who has no experience with women, imitating.
Red flag #1 31 year old male dating a 19 year old girl.
Exactly 💯
I feel more sorry for the (probably imaginary)19 yr old who got taken advantage of at _12_ . And had to go through the whole pregnancy and become a mom at just 13. They should make a movie about it.
Right ✅ living in a crack house with this fool 😒 😂 rougher life than he had for sure
What I wanna know is wtf is he doing trying to run around with a 19 year old at 31? That alone is sus af
Weird
@@Sidewinder77370 No it's not. Women around his age, at that time, are just undesirable. Just how it is.
@@Sidewinder77370 just curious, would it be suss af if he was 19 and she was 31?
I have never sat down and watched any of these videos of these men telling us how we should be treating women and thought to myself: “that’s a person who’s completely secure in themselves and aren’t desperately searching for some sort of social validation from other men.”
I dated someone like that YEARS ago and everything he did matches.. All it did was give me trauma. This is terrifying.
I feel your pain. I feel physically sick just watching that so I could not imagine being in a relationship with a man like that. Glad you are free. 🙏
Girl I know! This video made me want to throw up cuz it reminded me a bit of my ex
Police are trained, soldiers are trained, nurses are trained, doctors are trained, electricians are trained, plumbers are trained before they earn the Qualification to have the Title/Role of their profession. Being a husband is a title/role, being a wife is a Title/Role. There are responsibilities required and expected from being a wife and being a husband. There is nothing wrong with training your wife just as there is nothing wrong with training your husband if it's consensual to learn the things their wife or husband likes and DO them to make their spouse HAPPY. Couples should do things to make their significant other Content in the relationship.
I'm so sorry to hear that.
Ok succubus . Go and cry somewhere else
Omg as a server in the south I see this all the time and I look at the female like “blink if you’re not okay”
😂😂😂
31, dating a 19 year old drug addict with some sad past, borrowing money, hits bottom & still goes back -- and THAT's his takeaway? There was a whole mess of other ways to remedy that experience going forward.
I used to be in a relationship where the man acted like this. It started out almost unnoticeable but looking back i should have seen the red flags. I barely escaped. This is abuse. Toxic af. If a man acts like this, RUN. Please.
Stop labeling everything “abuse” she’s clearly consenting to it …. You’re ruining the word.
@@tonytonychopper5177 🤮
As a woman, when I bring my phone to the bathroom it is to watch tiktok. 😅 This controlling behavior is beyond ridiculous. If someone wants to cheat, they'll cheat. They also have their phone with them at work you know.
Chicks shit too, am I right?
I play music😂
Exactly I am bored watching stuff while I go just like him 🙄🙄🙄🙄
This is abuse, not a marriage.
This is so unsettling. This is what I used to be "trained" to be like in an abusive relationship where I was scared to cross his ever-limitlessly increasing "boundary" expectations, out of fear of punishment. I actually stopped breathing watching this, as it took me back. Thanks for reminding me how insane this is from the outside. Inside it feels impossible in a terrifying manner in which you can never keep your eye steady on the moving goal post. So you just become terrified of other men even acknowledging your existence, even if your man isn't around. Cuz you're so well "trained" that you feel guilty in a deep "fight or flight" way. In case this amount of control sounds appealing to anyone..it turned me into a nervous wreck that was not only afraid of other men, but afraid of existing wrong and then existing at all, because my mere existence felt wrong.
Tldr: treadmill effect of control = nervous wreck woman who can't relax around you, or potentially ever
Same. I got PTSD from looking at her face and remembering everything. Got tired of getting my ass beat. Hope someone beats this guy's ass tbh.
@@veronikavanquish Seriously?!? Like can’t even be funny yet? Really? You that bad?
it's not wild that men like this exist
it's wild that women exist that are willing to put up with that shit
Foreal cuz I could never 😂😂😂😂
When you're neglected and/or abused as a kid there's no limit to what you're willing to put up with
I was in a relationship like that for 4 months but when I realized this is really who he is, I left and never looked back. I, however, had the advantage of knowing this kind of personality pattern doesn't get fixed overnight, it takes YEARS of therapy. Minimum. I wasn't going to sacrifice my peace and health I just went to go find someone not so batshit bonkers. I also had the advantage of having been treated respectfully before. I'd been treated with kindness and value before. So he was trying to break me down but my brain said "ok I might be flawed but I'm not thiiis terrible as he's making me out to be".
Problem is, some women have not grown up with anyone valuing or respecting them. And they don't know about personality disorders and think their love will change him. So, I was advantaged because I knew better. But you don't know what you don't know
@@LipSyncLover yeah... there is no fixing a piece of shit.
@@MostWantedWannaBE exactly
I love you Guys for this....
Literally took the words out of my mouth....
You guys have a platform, thanks for exposing these clowns.
Dude is wild. If a dude comes to me with a story like that, red flags 🚩 I’d run! The fact that he thinks every woman is gonna act like his ex is a sign that he needs to stay single until he can get out of his past. He reeks insecure. 🤢
Husband: "What's she doing on her phone? Probably texting her ex!"
Wife: *pooping while pricing chicken coops and Googling 'how to start homesteading' on a budget*
*TM MFKN I*
This would never happen, but Redpillers should get their money together and make a DreamWorks-like movie called "How to Train Your Woman" where they put stuff like this in the movie. It would be the top comedy that year, but they would be completely serious with its messaging.
Tickets are probably going to be $1000 each
Police are trained, soldiers are trained, nurses are trained, doctors are trained, electricians are trained, plumbers are trained before they earn the Qualification to have the Title/Role of their profession. Being a husband is a title/role, being a wife is a Title/Role. There are responsibilities required and expected from being a wife and being a husband. There is nothing wrong with training your wife just as there is nothing wrong with training your husband if it's consensual to learn the things their wife or husband likes and DO them to make their spouse HAPPY. Couples should do things to make their significant other Content in the relationship.
To be fair, Aba and Preach only ever critique the worst, most cringey parts of the red pill space. There are plenty of sane content creators in that space that think this crap is goofy.
@Ty Thank you!!!! finally an Objective analyst
@Jessie Training and Abuse are 2 completely different things. Misinterpreting 1 for the other is also a problem that should be addressed. I never said abuse, I said training.
I have a feeling this man is going to provide endless amounts of content for your channel.
"it was all your decisions", as a grown adult at 31, it's worse 'cause he's older than that and still thinks it's the girls fault he put himself through that, damn.
If someone told me I couldn’t go to concerts or something as simple as bring my phone in the bathroom to listen to music is psychotic. Like I’ve never even thought of cheating on my boyfriend, but the fact that he’s so preoccupied of getting cheated on let me know how insecure he is.
Prolly cuz you for the streets. Enjoy your dog
Yk women naturally cheat when they see a taller man, with more money clout etc right? Even if ur guy didn’t hold u from doing those things if ur around men that far exceed his status looks money clout etc you’d cheat in a heartbeat and that’s ok we trust women to be women
Or he’s a cheater himself…
@@darthbrooks4933 You beating ya meat to Brazzers and screaming you a real man over the internet. You a sad sad pathetic ass nigga.
@@jennyoyster5054 It's not uncommon for cheaters to project their behavior onto others.
I would love to see Donovan and Fresh go head-to-head on a full on storytelling Cap-Off. I wonder who'd win? 🤔
They'd probably end the show ass to mouth with how rock hard they got each other with their fairy tales. 🧚♂️
@@minuit6305 the fact your brain even conjured that is very telling
That would actually be fire lol
😂😂 Donovan is a big Simp for real to a 19 at the time lol
Donovan met an entire basketball team and they were like “you’ve been smashing all our girls too? Come to our party and join the team!”
Its amazing how he uses this situation as the reason why he speaks so passionately about controlling women and is so crafty at denying any accountability for his own decisions in a relationship with a 19 year old girl....... homegirl had you down bad- quiting your job, cant eat, cant sleep, meanwhile she getting bailed out to go ride the next dude. There has to be another word for this.
I dont agree with the dude, but all the people who say that this is abuse dont even know what abuse is. If someone is like that, just leave the person - women or men.
Stop victimize women all the time.
@@nr1NPC I don't think it's that easy to leave when your entire existence is dependent on that person. If this is real(I hope not) where is she gonna go after leaving him, doesn't have a job, hell she can't even order her own food. When you are conditioned to live like this for years, she probably doesn't even realise this is a problem, so yeah it is abuse.
@@ShimaTheCatto If your entire existence is dependent on another person, its on you!
You should question your life choices at that point lol
And she can always live on welfare until she gets her own job etc.
The Only One Getting Controlled Is Him When She Pegs His Dumbass 🤣
This lady could date an actually good guy but settles for an ogre, for shrek without the good character, this dude so insecure I could look at him funny and send him to lifelong therapy
Yes a jury may believe that. I know a woman who was assaulted, got pregnant, and filed a report immediately with police saying she was assaulted and they told her they weren’t going to open a case because it’s he say she say. She was 16 and he had kids her age. She said she is a minor and the police said it doesn’t matter bc they wouldn’t consider statutory because it’s typical to be active at that age. She had proof bc she was pregnant. The whole time they were tryna get him on drug charges. Welcome to america where running Coke will get you life in prison but SA won’t. 🤦🏽♀️ she has an amazing son who is an amazing man and amazing father. Retired vet. 🇺🇸
The police aren't there to protect us, the supreme court said so, the only job cops have is to bring money in for the state.
If her son is that old then your not considering time difference.
It still won't get them hard time but they almost always get convicted if it's a minor unless it's glaringly obvious the girl is pulling a Amber heard.
Back then, hell fucking yes it was beyond horrible.
Progress has been done tho.
Oh also, your story about your is about the cops.
Cops and jury are two completely different animals as well.
Well drugs will get you clipped in some countries and in most your doing football numbers behind them. It's not really an American thing.
Abba and Preach, your balance (and hilarity) are really needed in these times.
Stay Shining.
The red pill might as well embrace their villain arc at this point.
Red pill has always been on it's villain arc. RP is the king dressed in all black that not surprisingly turns out to be the mastermind in the end.
@@phantomzxro1 at it's core though. There's some good to it. There's just a mire of leeches and shady merchants occupying the order.
@@ScumDogMF oy veyyyyyyyyy
@@phantomzxro1 "mastermind" is a strong word for ANYBODY involved in the redpill cul--er....community.
@@Tay.Stizzy 🤣
"Have fun, or be with me"
Dope, peace out.