Addressing everything: Trauma, Mental Health, Relationship

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  • @ssm98.ssm98
    @ssm98.ssm98 2 роки тому +74

    Thank you for sharing your story haftey! Stay strong…the first step is to admit to yourself that something is not adding up with yourself and then working on it! We are still young and it’s a process to learn to love yourself. It’s very sad bc of seedy but everything happens for a reason! Love u both! Stay strong 🤍

  • @nazliewilliams3174
    @nazliewilliams3174 2 роки тому +129

    Magdelin my dear, there is one simple explanation for what you and me and everyone else is going through "spiritual warfare ", I was recently in a similar situation to you a couple days ago, and had to stand face to face with my own very big, life changing reality check. It's not a happy place to be in, and in that moment of realization it hurts like hell, but knowing that you have a problem that needs fixing, is far better than not being aware at all. I could write a book lol, but the best piece of advice I can give you and anyone else for any issues in life is "search for GOD"!!!!!! He is not a popular topic, but let me tell you, he's the only reason I've made it this far. I go to therapy everyday at anytime, wherever I am, free of charge caz God is my personal Therapist, prayers work!!! It's really the only thing that has gotten me this far. A lot of people have these misconceptions about prayer, but it is literally just talking to God, it could be out loud or in your mind, it could be with your eyes closed or open, ask for him to help you and I can promise you, he will. God loves you my dear you are his chosen daughter, and I love you too, I'm praying for you and everyone experiencing spiritual warfare 🙏❤ Happy Birthday btw!
    Jeremiah 29:12-13 "Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will look for Me and find Me, when you look for Me with all your heart."

    • @Ro_baee
      @Ro_baee 2 роки тому +4

      Well said. Amen 🙏🏾

    • @habeshawavez4852
      @habeshawavez4852 2 роки тому +7

      I agree. It was the realization of my trauma that brought me to know the healing capacity of God.

    • @yoditsimon270
      @yoditsimon270 2 роки тому

      Yessss, very true may God bless you!! ❤️❤️

    • @Tmaria-wn3hc
      @Tmaria-wn3hc 2 роки тому +1

      i am going through it right now thank you for this.May God bless you

    • @rosiehailu2221
      @rosiehailu2221 2 роки тому +4

      Same I was in spiritual warefare. I’m still not perfect and I’m working through what God‘s plan is for me but I can definitely say when I began to seek God and come back to my roots everything became more clear and I became more at peace with myself in the world around me. I hope anyone who’s reading this nose that there’s hope and also to seek your creator for God pray to him and he will listen. 🙏🏽💛

  • @meriamm.432
    @meriamm.432 2 роки тому +66

    I am 38 years old and I am just working on myself and my mental health. Coming from an Eritrean family myself, where the culture is suck it up and don't talk about it, listening to you I can relate so much. I am going through self awareness right now. I am impressed how you are realizing all this and taking action at 24. Good job!! You can do this!! Your future is bright! You should also volunteer to help others - you have a gift for this.

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому +12

      Thank you so much for your kind words! It truly warms my heart if I can help someone else in the process and I will continue to help others in any way I can. Much love to you haftey and I wish you healing, inner peace and happiness!!

    • @waterfull2907
      @waterfull2907 2 роки тому

      Eritrean family don't exist.
      What are you taking about 🙄

    • @meriamm.432
      @meriamm.432 2 роки тому

      @@magdelinembaye5282 Thank you so much!!! Keep us updated. Blessings🙏

    • @daniabraha9190
      @daniabraha9190 2 роки тому

      You need Recpect Eritreawyan cultutre

    • @deldiyshow-464
      @deldiyshow-464 11 місяців тому

      Mental health among Eri & Eth culture isn't being delt well.

  • @kerenm88
    @kerenm88 2 роки тому +9

    Coming from someone who is dealing the same things. I connected everything that came out your mouth. You are an angel. I had just started taking care of myself, going to therapy and seeking for help from a professional because I can’t go on with myself the way it is now. Our soul matters! It is an everyday struggle, some days are easier but most of the days it’s fighting for yourself to get up, to eat, to drink or even taking a shower to make yourself good.
    It is very difficult to share a very fragile and personal part of you’re soul! You took it to a whole another level! You are amazing. The way you expressed yourself and your feelings, what you are going through without saving from us I Salute YOU! I Love You. You made me feel normal for going the same thing as you described it. The sleeping part, I call my thoughts a black hole that I’m going into. Bubbles sound much more friendly. I will change the name thanks to you. Also the fear part- “come at me!” I’m taking it as well.
    You deserve all the Best , may god keep you save and sound. I wish for us all to find inner peace. To be our own best friends, to fulfill ourselves and become the best version we know we can be. What you did here is Saving souls. In Hebrew it says : הצלת נפש אחת, הצלת עולם ומלואו. = You saved one soul, it is as if you saved a whole world.

    • @kerenm88
      @kerenm88 2 роки тому +1

      One last thing It is a Time for Us to be selfish with ourselves so we can be better for ourselves on the long run and honestly so we can Exist.
      Also a phrase I learned is:
      The Best gift you can give your Family & Friends is- a healthy You.
      Much love from Israel, Ethiopian jew

    • @rafikilove5797
      @rafikilove5797 2 роки тому +2

      Hey am crying reading your comment 😭❤️ am so happy I get to see this today my life has been in a hole a bubble living in my thoughts not knowing what to do several panics anxiety depression and still trying to act like everything is okay to everybody trying to act like I don’t care but my heart is in pain am just in the dark afraid to say to anybody and thinking it will change someday and am turning 23 this year and I see it getting worse am trying so hard to get out of this hole sooo hard I want to live to live in the moment enjoy every little moment in life get through this anh and the fear the fear lord😭I feel like my life 90% of my failures I Is caused by fear fear of seeing people fear of getting judged fear of not fitting in but I pray someday our strories will be different with a perfect end and I pray we get our strong then we could imagine.Thank you for sharing your story you don’t know how much I need to get that out of my chest thank you sooo much I have never talked to anyone about it am so grateful for you and Magdalin for speaking out and knowing am alone in this and giving me hope to get up and finding myself in this world❤️

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому +1

      I couldn't have said it better! You are amazing and I'm proud of you. I know we will get through this and become better versions of ourselves! Wish you nothing but the best beautiful

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому +1

      @@rafikilove5797 Oh my love! It will get better I promise. Feelings come and go, they are not there to stay so I promise you it will get better. You got this, I believe in you. Try to talk to someone you trust. I know it's a really hard thing to do but it's a part of your healing. We need to step into the uncomfortable to grow. All of the things you wish for will become true but unfortunately they don't come easy. We need to work for them. Fear will get you nowhere and I know you already know that but this is a reminder: When we are old we will not look back and think about what others thought of us. We will look back and care about how we choose to live our lives. Thats why it's not worth letting fear control our lives. Life is beautiful and you deserve to feel every bit of it, and you will. Make yourself proud by taking steps to heal yourself because you deserve it!! And also recognise the steps you've already taken. The fact that you are aware and have admitted to yourself what you need to work on is a HUGE step and don't let that slide. You are on the right track. I know it's tough right now but you will get through it! Remember everyones journey don't look the same and I can only give you the advice based on my own knowledge but if you need someone to talk to message me on ig dm (@magdelinembaye) Your are young, you are smart, you are loved and remember not to be too hard on yourself

    • @selamt3336
      @selamt3336 2 роки тому

      @@rafikilove5797 you're not alone we're all going through it, but most of the time we think that we're the only ones facing all the ups and downs in life. We got this💪🏽

  • @stayathomedev3839
    @stayathomedev3839 2 роки тому +13

    Self awareness does that, sometimes it is the first time you're coming to terms with who you are. When you realise how many things are not okay it can suddenly be overwhelming and scary but if you keep at it you build the tools that will fix you. You've got this!

  • @shire4life
    @shire4life 2 роки тому +6

    I don’t know how but this video popped up when I open YT. This video was everything I needed she was very articulate and I felt she was speaking for me. This uplifted me @3 Am in the morning. This video should be shared and posted in every major Habesha platforms and it will help so many people. Thank you for sharing this. I’m 100% sure you will get peace of mind and prosper in Life.

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much🙏🏾 I’m glad it uplifted you, wishing you all the best 🫶🏾

  • @Surviver-e2o
    @Surviver-e2o 2 роки тому +45

    First and foremost I just want tell you how strong you are. What a courage! I am so sorry that you passed through the hardest times. I am So proud of Eza Gualey! Haftey! 🫂! You are not alone. I am a 38 years old mama here. I have pass through a lot! losing my parents at young age not even allowed to cry, growing up with relatives, got bullied, not allowed to see my dad’s family, molestation, attempted rape, fail arranged marriage, not to know what to do and expect during period( Manustration) thinking that I was the ugliest which was the opposite, not knowing what my future and got lost in life. When I was 16 I had this fear of not knowing what I am going to do and I felt disconnected. This is like some where 22 years ago when people doesn’t have any idea about mental health, depression. Imagine in Eritrea that time girl it just doubled my sorrow and every night I used to cry and literally said “ God if you are there do something and I will believe in you” and one day I got the Bible in the house and read it and I felt like some body is really watched me. Even though I raised up as orthodox and all my aunties they were all in witch crafts and our house was in constant attack spiritually and I started to question about things and God reviled Him self through people and I became a devoted follower this prince of peace called Jesus Christ. For me to believe in Him gave me hope and inner peace. I knew who I was and how I matter. Now as a 38 years old having my own life and family and everlasting peace. We all need a mechanism to coup with what ever we are facing for me my Jesus took all the burden that I had and traded them with brand new me. I forgive all that caused me every harm. This were the verses that helped me in life: "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." - John 16:33.
    Give it a try

  • @createdbycee491
    @createdbycee491 2 роки тому +6

    Speak your truth, girl! let me tell you, you already won 🥇 I can relate so much!! The sayings “love yourself first” “the grass ain’t greener on the other side” “you become what you take in” all of these sayings didn’t really hit before my awakening. Awareness is the ultimate key. I believe 100% that the mind needs to be trained because it can be your best friend or your enemy - depends on how you feed it.
    One of the biggest things for me was that I gave in to all these expectations of me from other people. Specially in the habesha community, everyone has to say something about your life but yourself - I needed to unlearn to meet all those expectations be compassionate with myself and search within to find the answers to all the questions to who I am and who I want to be, finally I feel like I can breathe again 🙏🏽
    I try to talk about this as much as I can because it is so important to spread awareness and I love that you shared your truth with us ✨🙏🏽 you deserve everything good in this world and it is already waiting for you 👑 love and light to you, haftena❤️

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому

      Ugh please louder for the people in the back!! “You mind can be your enemy or your best friend - depends on how you feed it” I literally have this written down in my notes because it’s so LOUD 😍 I agree with everything you’ve said and I’m happy for you and also thank you!!!❤️

    • @createdbycee491
      @createdbycee491 2 роки тому

      @@magdelinembaye5282 right!!! Isn't it crazy how powerful our mind really is?! We are literally capable of working wonders if we put our minds to it, yet we look at our life like it's happening to us and we can't do nothing about it.. I mean like what?!

  • @habeshaqueen4002
    @habeshaqueen4002 2 роки тому +4

    Tack för att du delar med dig madde och Gud vilken stark kvinna du är💪🗣💯. Du är förebild för oss som har också svårt att uppna upp oss och berättar vad man verkligen känner/upplever🙏🙏🙏

  • @krispyykremee9594
    @krispyykremee9594 2 роки тому +13

    I'm so happy you've decided to go on this journey. I've also been struggling with my mental health too these past few years due to childhood trauma that I hadn't dealt with and its been so so difficult but we will get there, god willing. Sending you love and positivity x

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому +4

      We will indeed get there!! It’s a process and we need to make sure to learn and grow from this pain. We are on the road to set ourselves free so if this is what we need to go through to get there - so be it!! We got this ❤️

  • @shamimmoxamed4099
    @shamimmoxamed4099 2 роки тому +10

    This video is so authentic and vulnerable. I’m a fellow Taurus and I react like this to everything. It’s literally like living in a delusional world that you forget that you’re allowed to heal and feel. I also think it’s the typical black woman functional depression! We’re just thought to keep it moving and not to sit down and think about it properly and feel.
    Proud of you sis 💕

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому

      I totally agree with you. You live your life with the "Keep it moving" mentally rather than acknowledging your feelings. I'm still working on allowing myself to feel because honestly I've never realized just how important it actually is!! And happy late birthday to you

  • @frejaelliott4355
    @frejaelliott4355 2 роки тому +3

    Aldrig relaterat och uppskattat en youtubevideo såhär mycket förut. ❤️

  • @Beshashem
    @Beshashem 2 роки тому +7

    Thanks for sharing! I’m a big avoider! Most of my extended family died when I was young. Grandparents died when I was young so I never had those connections and my dad wasn’t really in my life so those are very important relationships that I missed out on and it affects you. Many of my closest friends died when I was a teen too. The most important people to me are gone and many people can or can’t relate to that. And when you never deal with the loss the burden only gets heavier and you’ll be forced to deal with it at some point and won’t be able to avoid it anymore. Life is just one long lesson and being an avoider is a act of self harm in all honesty which I learned the hard way. Wishing you well.

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you for sharing your story as well! I'm sorry for your losses and everything you've had to go through. You really just go around circles being an avoider and it becomes heavier each time just like you said. Let's work on being less avoidant and acknowledge our feelings. Wish you all the best beautiful

    • @Beshashem
      @Beshashem 2 роки тому

      @@magdelinembaye5282 thank you 🌷

  • @Ro_baee
    @Ro_baee 2 роки тому +6

    So proud of you ❤️. I went through something similar to this about five years ago and God has been my support system and thank you for being so vulnerable and letting us in your life. I’m sure this will help a lot of girls!!

  • @ea4b
    @ea4b 2 роки тому +1

    I’m so happy for you haftey. I’m just starting to really embark on my healing journey at 34. You are loved. You are worthy. You have purpose. God loves you. You will get to the other side and your testimony will give hope to many.

    • @ea4b
      @ea4b 2 роки тому

      Your wisdom & strength is beyond inspiring. 🙏🏾 God has a plan for your life. Have you ever tried listening to worship music?

  • @TheFhdude
    @TheFhdude 2 роки тому +6

    As a father myself, I just want to cry hearing all this. I feel so sorry that you had to go through all that.

    • @younglion7425
      @younglion7425 2 роки тому

      What everyone suffer in life we need patient 💯

  • @melodiez6392
    @melodiez6392 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this. I've been going through the exact same thing lately and was asking myself what's wrong with me. I kept saying to myself that I should be thankful for what I have and not feel the way I feel right now. It got to a point that I thought something was not right with me. So thank you! Watching this video and reading all those comments made me realize that I'm not alone.
    One thing I learned from this situation is that we will come out even stronger than ever, so thank you again for being so open and showing the imperfections as well.

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому

      Thank you!! I’m so glad you found some type of comfort here on this video and the comment section❤️ everyone is truly amazing and so are you!! We will indeed come out stronger💕

  • @Seffseffi
    @Seffseffi 2 роки тому +20

    I’m so proud of you for making this video!!!! Honestly u don’t know how many women you’re saving by expressing yourself.

  • @ZeeKansiime
    @ZeeKansiime 2 роки тому +8

    I'm so proud of you.. Wishing you all the best on your healing journey 💚

  • @jcicrafters5724
    @jcicrafters5724 2 роки тому +59

    Hey Magdelin, I'm so sorry this happened to you, I'm so so sorry. I know how you feel. I grew up with a similar story to yours, i am Ethiopian as well. I relate to you. I really want to tell you what helped me. Please hear me out, i found Jesus. All the dark thoughts, all the darkness, it's not you, it's the enemy, the devil, who wants to destroy us. As soon as I took Jesus seriously, prayed, read the Bible, ALL the darkness, all the demonic thoughts, all the feeling of living without purpose, of being empty, of evil, they ALL LEFT. He saved me. And please just reach out to God, just talk to Him, I'm telling you, He saves. He can take all the darkness away. Just like He does for me. True joy is real, true happiness ONLY comes from knowing God. Jesus takes the emptyness, all the darkness away. I love you Magdelin, but Jesus loves you so much more than I do, more than anyone ever could. The devil is trying his best to distract you with lies from realising how much God loves you, He gave His Son Jesus so that you could talk and have fellowship with Him. Oh how much God loves you!!! Please talk to Jesus, He's the only One who can make you truly happy, no one but Him. Here's some videos that help me: music groups like upperroom, United Pursuit, teachings by Dan Mohler and Kenneth Hagin on youtube. and here's a link to a song I love also: ua-cam.com/video/_XjS2UUvMzA/v-deo.html
    This video describes everything you're going through, please watch ❤️ ua-cam.com/video/UB2bHMYo2Gc/v-deo.html
    I wish you all the best ❤️

    • @bsrattewelde4153
      @bsrattewelde4153 2 роки тому +6

      Yes girl, the only solution is Jesus. Seek out to God and you will find everlasting peace joy and freedom. Amen!

    • @seviannas6440
      @seviannas6440 2 роки тому +2

      That is true sis. I was in the same situation as Magdelin but Jesus set me free. And he set me free forever. God is a God from forgiveniss, so don’t think that God couldn’t forgive you! He loves you so much because we are all His childeren. Come to him and he will renew you.
      John 14:6 Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life.No one comes to the Father except through me.🤍

    • @ftl6230
      @ftl6230 2 роки тому

      I'm Sorry, it may seem a bit rude but from my Experience, be careful from such religious invitations because there are very exploitative religious groups where they target venerable people and complicates their life( both socially and mentally).
      So, joining such groups my backfire the problem than solving it, specially in the long run.
      I'm talking about the pentecostal and I'm talking from first hand experience(nothing to do with hate or religious affiliation).

    • @saronfekadu2896
      @saronfekadu2896 2 роки тому +1

      @@ftl6230 I totally understand you and I agree to what you are saying. But my beliefs are not religious and I’m not mentioning all these from a religious perspective. I’m Protestant and I have my own personal relationship to God, so I’m just mentioning it from my own experience that I have witnessed

  • @Milka8885
    @Milka8885 2 роки тому +6

    This is so beautiful but also so hard to do! 👏🏽👏🏽 You are everything and I hope you find yourself ❤️ More therapy to the people 👏🏽

  • @samsimon8109
    @samsimon8109 2 роки тому +2

    I understand u becouse of I am one of them sinne 12 years old I am now almost 40. But I am conquer my emotion and negative thinking about my self.Magdelena u have to conquer ur emotion if r you willing to hearing me I am ur brother keep on ur mind.Bless uuuu We Stand With u Really u warrior But don't confuse by ur tricky mind Becouse mind sometimes Lai To u to Do unacceptabel doing.

  • @biniamtesfazghi8181
    @biniamtesfazghi8181 2 роки тому +1

    Very exciting lesson to listen. Thanks for sharing your experience which I found very educational for each and every of us who watched the video ❤️

  • @havantemesghen2324
    @havantemesghen2324 2 роки тому +4

    This was wonderful to listen to. It allowed me to be introspective as well. Thank you for your transparency. Wishing you blissful healing and peace!

  • @hannae339
    @hannae339 2 роки тому +1

    I agree what you said on letting go in a relashionship to work on yourself first and take care of your basic emotional needs first. That takes major kahoots and was so profound. Many of us dont realise things about ourselves until you hear these confessions, we put crazy walls up in all our relashionships not deeply questioning the core reason. It most often leads to family related trauma, loss or dynamics being the stem issue. The earlier we recognise the better, because it takes time.

  • @tanyaslifeandstyle816
    @tanyaslifeandstyle816 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you for sharing your testimony with us your strength is radiating from you and you are helping so many with your honesty you are helping so many sending Prayers and Love your way on your journey through this thing called life we are with you Sis keep Shining Queen 🙏🏾💪🏾❤

  • @vitaethio6428
    @vitaethio6428 2 роки тому +2

    ‘I eventually stopped having them because I don’t fear them anymore’
    Yes I have experienced it.

  • @gualeritrea
    @gualeritrea 2 роки тому +1

    Så modigt och starkt av dig. Kämpa vidare, ajoki❤️

  • @saritmeshesha592
    @saritmeshesha592 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾 Wishing you the best in your healing journey 🤍

  • @RikodiusRex
    @RikodiusRex Рік тому

    I hope you're well. I saw your video and the going out of your way to not put yourself in a situation that makes you emotionally vulnerable really hit home. You inspired me to contact a therapist because of your video. Not everyone that has trauma deals with it in a weak way some of us become ice queens who can feel nothing or will allow themselves to feel nothing.

  • @arsemabes
    @arsemabes 2 роки тому +1

    It takes a lot to come here and be open as you are especially being Habesha. Your story definitely helps others like myself who are facing the same things- thank you for being brave.

  • @iloveme6228
    @iloveme6228 2 роки тому +1

    You are so courageous! Good on you for opening up, I been denying my traumas for very long time, I didn’t want to accept it. But I realised I finally had to address it because it just wasn’t going to go by itself. Now I talk about it with people and I tell you it really helps though I too have a long way too go. I want to heal from all my traumas and see who I could actually be because A because with all that traumas you just always in a defence mechanism mode and can’t be present with what is happening around me

  • @IntrovertAngeG22
    @IntrovertAngeG22 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I really enjoyed watching the video and definitely agree with the points you brought out. Putting your mental health first above everything else is not selfish. I think doing so shows that you’re trying to work on getting better so that things don’t affect you as much as they did before. This time you have more control over the situation and the outcome.

  • @MeriB8
    @MeriB8 2 роки тому +2

    thanks for sharing your experience .am in the middle of self-awareness and working on my-self right new.

  • @purpleeyessmith4151
    @purpleeyessmith4151 Рік тому

    You'll be fine Magdelin! Life is a process! Do the work, take your time and your true followers will always be there for you♥

  • @Charlotte-qr7qd
    @Charlotte-qr7qd 2 роки тому +2

    so proud of you love, thankyou so much for sharing this

  • @MissMaryMak
    @MissMaryMak 2 роки тому +2

    Wishing you all the best in this new phase of your life Magdelin, thank you for your honesty. I pray more healing and blossoming for you. Happy birthday too! 💕

  • @feven22
    @feven22 2 роки тому +3

    Sending you love beautiful! We all go through difficult time but keep working on it

  • @ANa-qt7tt
    @ANa-qt7tt 2 роки тому +2

    i'm so so proud of u , thank you for sharing! ur so so amazing , i could never imagine doing a video like this.

  • @_milluu
    @_milluu 2 роки тому

    First of all thanks for opening up and shared us your feelings and your biggest steps in life . I just want you to know that you just saved someone's life by making this video. Thank you so much

  • @Maryann.ww917
    @Maryann.ww917 2 роки тому +2

    sending so much love, thank you for your vulnerability ❤️

  • @tootevin8316
    @tootevin8316 2 роки тому +1

    what an amazing present to you!..."just know that you are not the voice of the mind you are the one who hears it"

  • @oromtitiwbo5078
    @oromtitiwbo5078 2 роки тому +1

    Magdelin thank you for sharing. I was missing your videos and thinking about you so I looked for your videos. I am in tears watching this video because I relate so much and I feeling very similiar lately. I had life long anxiety but about 3-4 years ago I started having intense panic attacks. so much my chest would hurt for days from how hard my heart was beating. I started having panic attacks in my sleep too. I also never told my friends or family how I felt. I never talked about my feelings. the few friends I did have laughed at me when I said I needed a friend to go to the hospital with me. they dropped me like I was nothing and stopped talking to me.
    I never thought I could get out of this darkness until I went back home to Ethiopia. I feel like Allah (God) saved my life and gave me another chance at life. I feel like I was lost and stumbling around in the dark and when I cried for help God finally shined a light for me so I could see clearly myself and reality. I can see where my pain comes from now. I am now trying to teach myself how to tell others how I feel and be vulnerable. even the smallest things like "today I feel sick", which I would never do before. I would keep everything to myself. my pain, hardships, fears, loneliness, emotions etc. I am so scared to let anyone close to me, to know me or feel vulnerable. I also ignore my own pain and emotions and keep going going each day. I realized this was my source of anxiety. I was also living by surviving and not really living. I am trying to learn how to change and the first step is acknowledging what is wrong.
    You are so brave for sharing with us and know that you are not alone. other women are experiencing similiar situation and God is with us on the journey to healing. I am so proud how much I have grown in the past years I am learning about myself and growing each day. I look forward to the future. may God be with you on your healing journey🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️

  • @FloridaTesfay
    @FloridaTesfay 2 роки тому

    Thank you for showing us your vulnerability, I know its hard but you did it!! I could relate to some of the things you said, I hope you find peace and happiness 🙏

  • @miriamfernandezarana557
    @miriamfernandezarana557 2 роки тому +2

    Loved it so much ,so pure and true and talking about so many things we are scared to. talk about, of those kind of "topics" we would always run away from! You are a great inspiration and deserve the best for yourself, mental health is REALLY important ! sending so much love sis!!

  • @dianayohannes3201
    @dianayohannes3201 2 роки тому +4

    So proud of you meli, thank you for sharing it wiz us

  • @Theerealzainab
    @Theerealzainab 2 роки тому +4

    Sending in so much love &Prayers my love ❤

  • @dorachen65
    @dorachen65 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so so much for making this video. I have also had a similar type of relationship with one of my family members, and I really needed to hear this. I rarely talk about this, but hearing you speak about what you went through, giiiiirl. I can relate and will definitely try to work on it, thanks

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому

      Thank you, it makes me so happy to hear! You got this, I believe in you 💪🏾💕

  • @imortele
    @imortele 2 роки тому +1

    watching and listening to you is like seeing my self in the mirror

  • @Arucarmel
    @Arucarmel 2 роки тому +1

    wish you all the best in your healing process ,please remember that you are loved never be hard on yourself as mental health is work in progress ,gratitude, rest ,working out and resting is been helping me a lot lately . you are not alone we are here for you love . proud of you haftey .

  • @vitaethio6428
    @vitaethio6428 2 роки тому +2

    I have experienced it and was really difficult. Be strong 🤗
    I don’t know where you live but it’s good to check your vitamin D level and act.

  • @mayamohamed2937
    @mayamohamed2937 2 роки тому +9

    Stay strong hafteyy it's good to let out ur emotions we love youuu ❤

  • @Tiff588
    @Tiff588 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for opening up to us. Wishing you all the best. 🤎🤍

  • @Tigraynamedia
    @Tigraynamedia 2 роки тому +1

    I am a Chrstian who believe that I am free of all this and even teach others to stop worrying. I never thought deeply about emotional breakdown and depression. All this has changed last year when I have been traumatized by the disturbing war that is going on between Ethiopia and Tigray. One day I watched very disturbing video that show Ethiopian Soldiers killing people then I heard some of my family has died. Next think I know was something inside me gets broken couldn’t talk with people even heat to see the light and just sat down in my dark room all day. I am still struggling with depression. Back to my point I have learned a lot from your experience. You are so strong to share your experience.I am sorry about your loss but I believe that God is your loving father. Put your trust in him. I am more depending on him day by day He is helping me. And finally you are not the worst person I’ve n this earth. You are so beautiful creation of the Lord.

    • @honeybee23
      @honeybee23 2 роки тому +1

      Sorry for your loss🙏

    • @sababelay9868
      @sababelay9868 2 роки тому +1

      I am sorry for your loss

    • @oromtitiwbo5078
      @oromtitiwbo5078 2 роки тому

      I am sorry God is with innocent people of Tigray and Oromia who life is taken by injustice and war😭🙏🏽 I keep praying for our people to have peace and freedom

  • @jennyhagman4068
    @jennyhagman4068 2 роки тому +1

    Tack för du delar med dig. Jag är också på samma resa.. Skönt veta man inte är ensam ❤️💪🏼

    • @magdelinembaye5282
      @magdelinembaye5282  2 роки тому

      Glad att denna video var en påminnelse om att du aldrig är ensam fina

  • @ruthhaile7030
    @ruthhaile7030 2 роки тому +2

    Sis you are not alone. Keep going fight that battle.

  • @sirdexterz
    @sirdexterz 2 роки тому

    Thanks for sharing.
    Wish you all the best.

  • @mahletkeleme1372
    @mahletkeleme1372 2 роки тому

    This made me cry because of I lost both my parents when I was teenager and I understand you so much. I went to Addis when I was 23 and come back with something else. I have worked with my sorrow with people who really known my family. You are soooo breve and you will be ok. Much love and respect to you❤️

  • @TheFrehiwet
    @TheFrehiwet 2 роки тому +1

    I don’t know how to thank you sis for sharing going through this mental trauma , I feel you because that is part of my story too , it’s hard to handle it if you don’t deal with it and trying to find a solution , you are very courageous woman for sharing this and keep going and again thank you for sharing with us .

  • @abrahamzare5390
    @abrahamzare5390 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us Haftey mearey. Very brave. I send you a lot of LOVE AND LIGHT Big hugs ❤❤❤

  • @naomiabebe1327
    @naomiabebe1327 2 роки тому +2

    Sending hugs and love your way. ❤️

  • @selamkibrom7272
    @selamkibrom7272 2 роки тому +1

    U really motivated me to be strong
    And this is exactly where I am going right now, U are really smart!

  • @rakiHT
    @rakiHT 2 роки тому

    Proud of you Magdeline for becoming vulnerable. Your vulnerability will help others.
    God bless you

  • @sababelay9868
    @sababelay9868 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing this video. This is a good start that you open up. Love your self, listen to your self and be honest with your self. Remember it is ok to have a bad day . It is natural to lose someone. It is natural to break up with someone. It is human nature to feel insecure. In the worst scenario someone can hit Rock bottom .
    One thing I will tell you for sure is , there is a way to deal with all the things if you
    first recognize what problem you have and accept them and deal with them.
    I can see from your video that you are recognized the traumas ,you accepting the situation and you are start to deal with them. You started the healing process by opening up. Good job. Keep working on your self , love and respect your self. It is very important that you exist. I am admiring you for your courage za gualey. 💜

  • @LionWheelsndDeals
    @LionWheelsndDeals 2 роки тому

    I really feel you, you made a very difficult decision. It sounds crazy to leave someone that loves us so much but we can’t lie to ourselves if you feel off it’s off, Maybe by being out of it you’ll figure out things about yourself and more, I hope you guys will get back together later after you process things about yourself. Courage to you and him 💪🏾 . Every decision you take for yourself it’s the best decision !

  • @abi-j2h6v
    @abi-j2h6v 2 роки тому +10

    Jesus Loves You Magdelin I am praying for you

  • @nattynhatty8163
    @nattynhatty8163 2 роки тому +1

    Love overcomes fears !
    Live in a moment, let the past go ,and the future will work itself out the way it was written to be ! Stay strong konjo !

  • @Gofarbaby
    @Gofarbaby 2 роки тому +2

    You are so God damn BRAVE! I see you, I feel you and I love you ::

  • @nunayabiznizz
    @nunayabiznizz 2 роки тому

    Så starkt av dig att dela! Behövs verkligen. Något som ekade genom mitt huvud under videon var ”Jesus” och jag blev chockad att se hur många i kommentarsfältet som verkar ha fått samma uppenbarelse. Tro oss när vi säger att han är din befriare, eftersom Jesus är sanningen själv, och sanningen ska göra dig fri (det är ett löfte).
    Jesus älskar dig och vill ha en relation med dig.

  • @biruktekluto3966
    @biruktekluto3966 2 роки тому +5

    Emerson says:
    “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

    • @tananwagare7313
      @tananwagare7313 2 роки тому

      The purpose of life is far greater than that. It is far greater than family,careers even your dream and ambitions . If you want to know why you were place in this place you must begin with Gods . Everything and all start with him. We were created by him for his purpose only. And all mental heath caused by evils sprits

  • @gabrieltukku6812
    @gabrieltukku6812 2 роки тому +2

    Are you ok. Me and my wife are your followers we are waiting for your next video hope you doing well haftey. We really enjoy cant wait to see you again.

  • @kidaneassefa6089
    @kidaneassefa6089 2 роки тому

    Good for you
    You realized that you have a problem and welling to work on it
    I am very proud of you

  • @carolinegai9404
    @carolinegai9404 2 роки тому +1

    We love you and always here for you girl ❤️❤️❤️

  • @ellahellberg9863
    @ellahellberg9863 2 роки тому +2

    So much love to you Magdelin ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sinnitgirmay1544
    @sinnitgirmay1544 2 роки тому +2

    Hey! Girl 👧 Am so proud of you but is not easy hurting the right person I do feel bad for you guys💕

  • @mariannavenera1508
    @mariannavenera1508 2 роки тому

    You videos always make a lot of views and you don’t even post a lot ! You gotta start posting more frequently, love your vids

  • @harotasrat9706
    @harotasrat9706 2 роки тому +1

    sending you lots and lots of love

  • @diosa_kulola
    @diosa_kulola 2 роки тому +3

    I have arrived ❤️❤️❤️I love you

  • @jolandagazzotti6902
    @jolandagazzotti6902 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this!

  • @meleseberehannu2861
    @meleseberehannu2861 2 роки тому

    You are in good step in healing your bad experience in the past because you start to speak it out. Writing is good therapy as well. In addition engage your self in full time work. If you keep doing a video about mental issues. Just from your experience out source it as a knowledge for the public and feel you are helping people and create a happiness by that. When you said I took a shower now and you feel you are going to take another one after a video. I felt this situation at one time in my life . This feeling entirely related with something happened on you but you never justified by the time and keep it on your mind all time. If the people around you know that and you feel guilt by that and still surrounded by those people they make you mind imprison and unhappy. Just move away from such environment if those people your family member tell them show this video and create empathy on them to understand you. If you are not achieving anything and you feel bad by that understand yourself you are unique for this universe and what you have experience different from others so do not compare yourself to someone else. Start achieving small thing and set a milestone and create happiness little by little and build on it. You are so great you share your feeling. But there are many people can not get a courage to speak out in public. So in your case this is the first achievement and you need to be happy by that. God bless you

  • @beki__
    @beki__ 2 роки тому +2

    Ma fav miss u so Mach wellcome ❤🇪🇷

  • @johndean235
    @johndean235 2 роки тому +1

    Fair play girl, I proud of you
    Go get ‘em!

  • @lulu-1111
    @lulu-1111 2 роки тому +1

    💯🧡 inspired ✨️ stay strong madin

  • @selamey8346
    @selamey8346 2 роки тому

    You are so beautiful and gang so don’t worry about your past you get this GBU 🙏🥰

  • @daylynnboyd5830
    @daylynnboyd5830 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this video. We are not all in the same boat. We are in the same storm. Some have yachts, some have canoes, and some are drowning. -Adapted from a quote by Damian Barr.
    Very raw, vulnerable, and beautiful message shared with all who choose to view it. Inspires me to open up, two things hit close to home.. Never feeling I truly loved my last love.. I can be very emotionally detached.. I also would break up with him during arguments, he has been very understanding, we have a healthier relationship now (I broke up with him, I needed some distance so my bad choices were not affecting him as much). It’s been a few days for me that I chose to be real with myself. And two, I am also a people pleaser 😓😪. Here’s to being hopeful 🥂 🙂

  • @ot7bangtan751
    @ot7bangtan751 2 роки тому

    So proud of you haftey ..growing up in habesha family we tend to put everything under the rug and go along and pretend like everything is fine ..

    • @aziebngse8197
      @aziebngse8197 2 роки тому +1

      sorry zom dekey !am a mom we just group up with a controlling culture make us this way ,We love ❤ you all

    • @ot7bangtan751
      @ot7bangtan751 2 роки тому

      @@aziebngse8197 i absolutely get it nothing in this world is perfect and as you said we are naturally from a controlling culture you guys didn't mean to make us feel any less loved infact ya'll did everything to give us what you didn't have growing up we don't blame you ( parents) at all infact we're so proud 😭...this all is a process that we all need to work on and get healed as a whole community...also we love and appreciate you mom and all the habesha parents grinding out there for their children ❤❤❤ nifetwekumin nekbirekumin ina mama

  • @feruzmichaelsamsom7629
    @feruzmichaelsamsom7629 2 роки тому +1

    Så stolt över dig stay strong🤍.

  • @ftl6230
    @ftl6230 2 роки тому +3

    "My biggest fear is being older and regretting". damn true 👍 This is my biggest fear too.
    my biggest advice to you is " leasten to yourself" because it's the only one who is going to ask when you get older.
    Plus, Try to apply the advice you get from your psychiatrists, effectively and Build more connections with your family members.

  • @anbesainfocenter8139
    @anbesainfocenter8139 2 роки тому +2

    Be strong ❤️

  • @bettyberaki9937
    @bettyberaki9937 2 роки тому

    Be strong love we love u 💕💕💕

  • @KayKayIsCrazy49
    @KayKayIsCrazy49 2 роки тому +1

    wow, i am so proud of you.

  • @danielteklehaymanot7053
    @danielteklehaymanot7053 2 роки тому +1

    I just want to say thank you .

  • @tataselam678
    @tataselam678 2 роки тому

    Ayzog i am proud off you God be with you if your dad familly or any familly go see them and spend more time with the familly and toke about him its hard its work for my friend and me

  • @samjuthasadanandarajan2606
    @samjuthasadanandarajan2606 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much !❤️

  • @younglion7425
    @younglion7425 2 роки тому

    Dont worry about future
    You will be worries and depressed
    Whatever happened to you is already meant to happen 💯💯

  • @camillabecerra6529
    @camillabecerra6529 2 роки тому +1

    Love you!!! ❤️

  • @selam2364
    @selam2364 2 роки тому +18

    My biggest advise for you haftey is bulid your relationship with God. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28‭-‬30. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
    Philippians 4:6

    • @mylifemyjourney1
      @mylifemyjourney1 2 роки тому +1

      Amen, exactly. Many of us Eritrean young people are so distance from God and that's why we feel empty inside. We find healing, courage, faith, hope and love only through His word, prayers & worship. Plus social media plays a big factor into mental health, that's why a lot of influencer are stepping away.

  • @ruthmaekele8702
    @ruthmaekele8702 2 роки тому +5

    Hey love I hope you are doing well now. Life never been perfect and it will never be. And you are great now it’s a perfect time to release that’s you are not okay. But let me tell you the biggest solution as your sister… JESUS is the only way to give you the peace, peace comes from inside to out not from outside to inside. We all are the temple of GOD so bless his temple. Yourself is closer to GOD then to you. Think enterally not temporary okay and believe me you will be more than great. It’s a sign to follow JESUS. I love youuuuu and stay blessed.

  • @HunsTheExplorer
    @HunsTheExplorer 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing this. ❤️❤️

  • @sellshabba
    @sellshabba 2 роки тому +2

    Sending love 💕