Jordan Peterson - 12 Rules for Life in 20 Minutes
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- Опубліковано 4 сер 2018
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With regards to rule 12...
There were times in my life I survived by taking my day 10 minutes at a time.
By that, I mean that's how close I was to suicide. I postponed it 10 minutes at a time, until the day was done, & I went to bed. That's how I got through the worst day's in my life...
...10 minutes at a time.
Clearly, it works. I'm still here.
I share this hoping it help's someone who is going through their own Dark Night of the Soul. You CAN make it through the Bad day's 10 minutes at a time.
s mc - great advice.
Thanks
you are bold
God bless brother. Keep fighting 🙏
That sounds like that could've been full-blown PTSD (being that close to suicide). There isn't enough information to really say for certain.
...or I suppose it might be how individuals with BPD feel at times, as well, although it's been my experience that people with BPD are mostly seeking attention for their suffering and never intend to kill themselves.
2:06 Rule 1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back
2:13 Rule 2. Treat yourself like you're someone [you're] responsible for helping
2:25 Rule 3. Make friends with those people who want the best for you
3:26 Rule 4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday and not to who someone else is today
4:01 Rule 5. Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
4:42 Rule 6. Put your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
5:13 Rule 7. Do what is meaningful and not what is expedient
5:28 Rule 8. Tell the truth or at least don't lie.
6:29 Rule 9. Assume that the person you're listening to knows something you don't.
8:19 Rule 10. Be precise in your speech.
11:32 Rule 11. Don't bother children when they're *skateboarding*
18:53 Rule 12. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
Thank you!
Thank you
Thank you,!
@FREE SPEECH I’ll need my glasses to answer you proper 🙂🙃
Great, thank you!
This is the most polite and caring comment section I have ever seen. There’s hope in this world after all.
FOR JP its always and not just polite smart. Amen
@@bobmag5058 Amen!
Always was
@@bobmag5058 That cryptic sentence is incoherent. Edit it and fix it!
@@catlady8324 You don't understand "polite smart"? 😂
You don't get what you don't aim at.
You might get what you do aim at and your aim might get better as you aim.
This is truly gold.
Timestamp?
""You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" - Wayne Gretzki " - Michael Scott
Too bad thats not a Jordan Peterson original.
Indeed.
yes it is!
This man saved my life and pulled me out of my deep crippling depression. I don't know how you do it Mr. Peterson but I could never thank you enough for guiding me onto the right path. My life has gone uphill drastically and I suffer from crippling social anxiety and a decade of heavy addiction. Much love and positivity to everyone.
⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘I'm celebrating your life today. 🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂
@@palois2022 thank you so much!
@Danny Kravs how are you doing today?
@@Mrs.C-6721 day by day. Step by step. It'll get better. It's a struggle. But I'll get through it! I continue to watch Dr. Peterson and take notes throughout his lectures. Slowly getting back into society and going back to school myself to pursue helping others!
@@Mrs.C-6721 thank you so much for asking. You have no idea how much someone simply needs to be asked that sometimes! I hope you are well. All the best.
The people I thought wanted the best for me actually wanted me to be the best for them
Contact me on Fb man Tony Coyne. I've been taught the same thing and experienced it. Good luck.
Lisa Yes, this is so true for me as well. What's so difficult on the family side is the guilt that is misplaced upon me. Now, I am ignored, shunned if you will for standing for myself. They don't have MY best interests in mind. Then there is friends... Now, acquaintances. Last but, not least, clients in the work field. You give them everything and in the end, they shit all over you and treat you like you are their worst enemy due to one hiccup or mis-communication. I weep for humanity.
Well said.
Peter Nguyen I disagree with all your claims, besides Bezo's. I don't know if he stated that or not but, I have read he is an asshole to work with personally.
Amen Lisa. It's usually the ones who love you most. Hard to get that negativity out of your life. It doesn't mean you have to get rid of those people, only the negativity.
"bind your ambition with humility" WOOW
his insights are deep and powerful.
Rule #1 - Stand up straight with your shoulders back
Rule #2 - Treat yourself like you’re someone responsible for helping
Rule #3 - Make friends with those who want the best for you
Rule #4 - Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who others are today
Rule #5 - Don’t let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
Rule #6 - Put your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
Rule #7 - Do what is meaningful and not what is expedient
Rule #8 - Tell the truth, or at least don’t lie
Rule #9 - Assume that the person you’re listening to knows something you don’t
Rule #10 - Be precise in your speech
Rule #11 - Don’t bother children while they’re skateboarding
Rule #12 - Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
at least i can say that i always follow rule 12 when i see a cat on the streets :)
@Duribethin true hahaha
#1 Faulty, Julian, back straight but let arms and shoulders position themself naturally.
Julian Colon
Rule 13 - have arbitrary rules like rule 11 and 12 and 14
Rule 14 - wear yellow socks every Tuesday
Clean your room and be the top lobster
One of, if not, the best speakers I have ever heard in my life. I'm proud to be a countryman to this great man.
Man of honor! 🇨🇦
He’s the greatest of all time. #1 genius, only guy smarter than me.
Canadians no doubt have many superstars!
I love how he never says "um" when lecturing. Man knows what he is talking about.
Yes! Great observation, part of his ‘speak precisely’ I would guess.
Instead of saying um he just speaks slow with lots of spaces.
just remember Jordan Peterson believes in you, even if no one else does, including yourself.
I received this book as a Christmas present. I'm getting through it slowly when time allows. It's not light reading, but already I see alignment with aspects of my life and my personal philosophies. Nothing special but supportive. Read it!
I think Jordan Peterson is the type of person that our current world needed in order to transform itself into a better world.
I believe that one day, our world will be a happier place for every single one of us, even if that is after hundreds of years. The world where everyone strives to do good for the world, where everyone helps each other out, and where everyone is motivated to pursue their true passion.
He always emphasizes how the upbringing of our children is extremely important, to the level where if done incorrectly, could be a disaster. And look at how many people watch him talk and agree. MILLIONS of people are watching these videos and those people and their children will grow up to become adults that now have the potential to make this world a happier place for all of us. Also their children, and their children, AND their children.
Peterson or maybe even all of us who are watching his videos now might not even see that happy world. But I'm certain that the people living in the future will look back to this time in history and remember and maybe even celebrate this guy and our adjacent generations, when everyone in the world became connected through the internet and realized that there are actually a lot of people who want to and will make the world a better, happier place.
Thank you for making a difference.
Read the book, even picked up some the rule and philosophy in my 60 years, JP articulates them in a way that make me confident that I'm not losing my mind in a rapidly changing world.
meski you have a traitor flag on you profil pic. You know the guys who killed millions in war to keep slaves. You must have been hacked!
Looking at your picture I'm pretty certain you pick what you want to hear from Jordan instead of listening to all he has to say.
@Berkutschi but he does talk about compassion and putting the best out in the world and treating people right, thats doesn't exactely go along with slavery. I don't understand whats fascinating to ppl about the confederate states or why anyone would try to defend that - nobody says they were all bad ppl, it was the system it was inferior and now it's over. And I know a little about victors writing history, being german and all.. but honestly feel free to share any info about the American civil war and things that were positive in the confederate states, cause I'm not an expert and maybe there were more dimensions to it than I realize
@Carl Jung im guessing a confederate flag
I had read the book, some parts of it are good but alot of parts are kinda hard for me because i dont know religious references.
Thank you. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺😀
1. Standup straight with your shoulders back
2. Treat yourself like you're someone responsible for helping
3. Make friends with those people who want the best for you
4. Compare yourself with who you were yesterday and no who someone is today
5. Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislikes them
6. Put your house in perfect before you criticize the world
7. Do what is meaningful and not what is expedient
8. Tell the truth or at least don't lie
9. Assume the person that you're listening to knows something you don't
10. Be precise in your speech
11. Don't bother your children when they're skateboarding
12. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
Thank me with your comments.
10 commandments anyone?
Thanks man.
thank you!
I'd rather pet a dog, but I agree with the rest😉
13: Get hooked on benzos while talking shit about other people
The world needs more people like this guy.
I’m a single mom raise a boy and I listen to Jordan Peterson one for my self but also for my son. His dad his hardly in the picture. He’s 5 now but when he’s about 13 or 14 or plan to have him read this book or listen on auditable and have him write me a short summary and what he took out of each chapter (ruler)
Jordan Peterson is a father for those that don’t have one.
Good for you, Ma'am. You've been severely blessed!
For many older folks, so very much damage has been done . . .
I have so much respect for this man.
Peterson for president ! Dont care what country Ill move there!
he's got too lofty views to be a success. There would be chaos.
Canada has a Prime Minister, not a President
Iraq? Or maybe parts of Syria?
@@Kriegtime101 Syria was an okay place not very long ago. It still is okay in the area's that Assad still controls. Heck, the oldest Christian communities on Earth are in Syria and they've never been persecuted by Assad. The areas in Syria that are f*cked, are the places where crazy people tried taking over Syria. Those crazies were funded by "Western" powers and our allies. Syria didn't have a civil war so much as it had an invasion of well equipped, radical shitheads.
@@Kriegtime101 Iraq had also been a pretty successful nation before. Strict, but nothing too crazy. It's not like Iraq had gulags or like Saddam was wiping out millions of people. Now that Iraq is war torn, it's a mess. Now if you could rewind the clock and swipe out Saddam for Jordan Peterson, that probably would be a nice place to live. They have a vast wealth in oil and Peterson isn't likely to push crazy Islamic laws or anything.
Attended this and was inspired.
Not one political comment and that's why people should attend or listen to lectures and not just targeted stuff.
Am listening and speechless ....thank you Sir from my heart
All society needs is to ensure the future generations manage to put these words into practice with 100% accuracy.
SAW THE PROFESSOR IN PERTH, HE,S HELPED ME START CARRYING AS MUCH AS I CAN,MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY,YOUR IN MY PRAYERS.THANKS FOR GIVING A DAMN!!!
Australia also needs you. First world countries need you to save them from insanity. Your sane wisdom is what the new breeds need to keep the sanity alive.
I like how wise words comment came off as friendly and thoughtful, and then fattroy comes flying in with obvious hate and anger in his heart. Pretty clear who is on the right track here.
@faultroy ...say hi to your mother for me...
@@merlin4realyou
Wish I learned all these disciplines 50 years ago. You young folks would be wise to heed his advice. v/r Colleen
I think everyone is blown away by this guy because someone is finally just saying the information instead having to pay or go to pay at a seminar
Trouble is , we tend not to value anything , unless we've paid good money for it . The more we pay for something , the more precious and important it becomes to us . The opposite is more likely to be true . Certainly when it comes to things and stuff , I try to remember that anything I've paid money for , has no real value . Paying to hear JP excepted !
@@markstone8984 I don't know which "we" you are talking about.
@@markstone8984 in this case, many of us have "paid" a lot to get where we are and JP is helping many get back in the black on life accounts instead of being in the 'red'. that's time, effort, heartache and sometimes monies invested for a negative ROI in the past.
I love what Jordan Peterson has to say. Wish I had learned these things when I was much younger. Wonder if they are still applicable to me as a 56-year-old factory worker That hates his job.
So I'm a 37 year old first Nations Canadian I have nothing but respect for JP I have been lost since I lost my Mom 2015 I have been on SA every since but before that I worked carpentry pipe fitting plumbing film school OFA level 3 & JP I don't know how to get ahold of you but you helped me find my motivation after losing my inspiration my late mother who raised me and my three brother all by her self
Bless your heart... keep on Red road brother
Hey, sorry about the loss of your mother, even though you are still grieving her loss, you will inevitably get to a place forgiveness and then of being grateful.
You have to forgive your mother and the circumstance of her demise, whichever the case may been in order to get tonthe clear. I not know a lot about anything but the constant observation of the way life works is change, and for the rest of us humans is to learn how to cope, accept and run with it. And oh boy, will you ever be tried!
Once you have accepted and consciously decided to run with what has been given to you, you will find gratefulness, in having had the opportunity to have and exceptional human being beside you gor the better part of your entire life. To put this is perspective, most people do not have a what you had growing up, when you realise this, the question for you then will be, how do I give back for that which was given to you and in satisfying that an answer you will find peace. Good luck my brother.
I'm proud of you.
JBP is very difficult to get into contact with. Messages to Jordan are obviously managed and filtered, but a few months ago Jordan was saying his dad is the one who goes through those emails. So here is the link to contact Jordan Peterson - go ahead and send your message to him directly: jordanbpeterson.com/contact/
Whether you get a response or not, know that someone within JBP's close circle will read your message and there's a good chance Peterson will as well.
Carry on
I learned a lot from this entire speech; but the topic starting at 10:35 regarding “You’re not living up to your potential” really struck a chord with me..
I was mainly brought up in the foster care system and unfortunately, never found a family who cared more about me than one of the “benefits” they received as a result of me living with them. I can only imagine that must’ve been the reason (or part of the reason anyway) why no one cared enough about whether I was living up to my potential or not. I can only assume that was why I regrettably didn’t value my commanders opinion, as a 17 year old in AIT, when he said those very words to me. At the time I couldn’t get past the judgment to appreciate the compliment.
Thank you for uploading this! It gave me a few things to think about.
ILive2Rescue 75
Don’t worry I grew up with family and feel the same way. Listen to Brian Tracey very motivating
ILive2Rescue=Tracy: So far, you can write beautifully, you appreciate others, and you're doing something really worthwhile with your life. Your potential is clearly high. Keep on aiming to live up to it. : )
THANKS DAD
It's "papi" for you.
Finally thanks to daddy, I mean doctor Peterson I am a real live man now!
Dude
@@Kriegtime101 Lmao you need help
@@grelm1322 dude... there is nothing wrong with needing a daddy... or clonazepam...
It's very difficult to find people who want the best out of you, usually friends don't fall in this category
Then you have the wrong people around you. They exist...do you want to know how to find out? Tell them you did something good. And see how they respond. Do they say "that's great news!" or do they tell you "that won't work, why didn't do you do it like this? why didn't you do it like that?" That's the test to see if someone is toxic or really your friend. Sucks if you do it to a parent or a loved one and get the second response.. but.. that's how it is.
This is so true its sad
@ yes but that does not mean it wont be hard to find people like that
No real friends can be challenging cause they tell you if they think ur doing something wrong and let u decide if u agree or dissagree with them and talk it out that's a good friend like family best friends can be great and annoying in the same day -- not think so??
Gotta go to lodge for that!
Dr Jordan Peterson plants the seeds in people’s life’s that can help you grow personally and professionally. Dave PhD
In some other talks Dr Peterson gives it is a bit harder (for me anyway) since it is a bit too high level for me to understand. This video is an excellent street-level explanation of the book. Bravo!
Edward Elliott
I totally agree with you! I’ve searched for a video by Peterson that my teenagers could appreciate (13, 15, and 17) and most videos are too complex for them to understand and to hold their attention. This video is succinct and presents the information in a way that my kids can appreciate.
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tmcleanfulo
Make one of your major goals [EVERY DAY] to learn and make yourself less ignorant and be pleased by that when you go to sleep at night.Sleeping on a positive attitude is extremely healthy to mind and body. Determined to make more progress tomorrow so you improve yourself so you are able to help others.
We can not help others if we first can't take care of ourselves.
Has very little to do with money but you must care for yourself to be able to help others.
His rules were to vague, but the beauty behind them is you could interpret them through your own state of being 😮 and thanks Rick!!
Wonderful speech! I find Dr Jordan Peterson to be a concentrated of knowledge in his field, intelligence, wisdom, pragmatism and clarity. A real pleasure to listen to!
He’s 21st century Jung. A legend.
Dear Doctor, one would think, in the study of Carl Jung, we would think, you'd stay away from Pharmaceutical products.
You talk about the shadow, you must face it. Sometimes the hardest advice to follow is your very own.
I hope you choose to face it and never go back, because when you walk out of this, you are going to be one of the greatest minds that ever existed, up there with Jung and Aristotle.
May you be blessed, and rise to the next level of enlightenment, so close.
Namaste.
Your teaching changed my life, my charkra is looking up to yours.
We need this in today's day and age.
To me, he shines light on what's right ....We are actually going to see him next week ...I can hardly wait
This man is an absolute gem in a worl that has very few
reading his book, it's amazing.
Thank you JP for this work. Your attention and clarity is appreciated and acknowledged 🤗
He's coming to my city, on a day I have off too, but at $500 a ticket I'm happy for youtube
Chelsea Johnson. I’m with you!!
@@dorkwell Why not?
How much is it to see a hopeless local psychologist??? Good value compared to what some quacks charge?!
Wow Chelsea! Maybe you could have gone to see pretty much any other human being who isn’t ripping off impressionable young libertarians and manipulating their weak minds. You will never get your 500 dollars back. I’m sure peterson will use it to get more slaves to dump on his chest.
Woah $500 although I can afford I'd feel cheated because clearly he is only wanting big bucks and disregarding his fans whom cannot afford. There should be prices starting at $50... for $500 I'd expect a meet and greet and VIP Seats... as when I pay close to that for tickets I get what I pay for Wow sorry to alienate your fans whom cant afford says a lot about him at the core...
We are all entitled to want money but spread the prices..
Well it was about time to clean my room
Thank you!
“Life is an adventure” -Jordan Peterson. I love that aphorism!
Great words have spoken Jordan Peterson. It was motivation and meaningful video for me. I better use this rules and procrastinate my schedule plan for my studies. Thanks a lot.
Strength comes from within. Semper Fi.
the more i listen to his lectures the more i d,like to listen
Thank you cameraman
Very smooth
I appreciate all you do. Thank you so very much. ✨💙✨
Really thought provoking and very informative and realistically helpful and are great meaningful tips for life
First clean up your room,
then face your evil and doom.
Get over your rights,
speak truth without fright,
and always your fallibility assume.
👏
Did you compose that? It might seem simplistic, but it's a good summary of what I've been hearing Dr. Peterson say in the videos I've watched. I know he's more than videos and sound bites.
I don't know why you haven't gotten more responses. I like what you've shared. Thank you!
@@cedricgist7614 haha, I totally forgot about this. Yeah, I went through a limerick phase at the same time
I came across Dr. Peterson and wrote a few. They’re probably not very good but I’ll drop them in.
A wise psychology professor in Toronto
often warns about a certain archipelago.
People should listen
especially when they're missin'
the hell to which their utopian theories go.
Western Civilization is critical
it claims the importance of the individual.
Defend it with pride,
right is on your side.
Remember: identity politics is pitiful.
Wonderful. I have been doing all of his 12 except for #5. Can't control what your children do, sometimes. He is such a great man. I believe there are good, strong, decent men in the world. Jordan Peterson is proof. He is just one of a handful of good men.
Be mindful that children WILL do things that may make you dislike them. They will still do things whether you LET them or not. There is an important difference between looking the other way and making certain that the rules are clearly communicated and enforced.
Something I learned in an education course I took in college was this. When rules are broken, the punishment should be "appropriately severe" and it works best if the punishment is administered every time the rule is broken. Rewards for following the rules work best when they are given only occasionally. This fosters the idea of doing the right thing for the sake of doing the right thing. Life rarely rewards us every time we do right.
@@snutrekker That is what I just said. I taught, loved, sacrificed for my children. They have chosen to do more than a few things I didn't like. It was the actions I didn't like. I still love my children
Thank you,Sir!
True and helpful
Watch this every morning, while you are getting ready for the day!
also due to peterson i ve realized i can love myself and my life and this is not a trivial thing
Oh God, it just reminded me why I gave up skateboarding, and it was my father trying always putting his hand in front of me to reduce my speed, it always made me fall actually. Yeah this guy hits to the core
Check this out: ua-cam.com/video/ISQcCvOIxHk/v-deo.html
I wanted a skateboard when I was 13/14 when the craze frist hit the uk in '78.
My Mum said no you might break your arm.
My Dad said yes, if you break your arm, so what.
Just bought the book - looking forwards to reading this.
Wow! I am positively amazed that extremely large majority of listeners of this video found these rules smart and useful! There's hope for the humanity after all!
Jordan reminds us that basking in happiness might not be the best purpose of life. Engaging in intelligent adventure and romance may be better. ❤
I agree with all he said in this video.
Many, many years ago Wayne Dyer saved my life and sanity. I pray and believe Jordan Peterson is saving lives and sanity today. I read a remark that I know is true: Comes the hour, comes the man.
Despite JP haven't come to Brazil yet, I bought 12 Rules. It is one of the most important books I have read. I am always seeing Portuguese versions in the bookstores here.
Excellent lecture
Oh look, a serious man. Haven't seen one of those in a while.
Thank you...great rules...great speach
Well said
I like this man a lot
Love that. Adventure is more important than happiness.
That's a good way of putting it.
Because... adventures don't make a person happy? If that is the case, I am not sure what your (and Jordan's) definition of happiness is. No one here defines it as laziness, leisure or the comfort of not taking risks. Not even the lack of pain that inevitably comes with pursuing one's dreams. Jordan makes this strange statement often. Perhaps you can let me know where he explains this well.
It's the process of adventuring that should be prioritized over the process of obtaining happiness. Happiness for how long? Under what circumstances are you willing to be content with your happiness? Why shouldn't truth (the most solid and unbreakable of things) be a basis for all of your happiness if it's not already?
Jordan is just saying that happiness lies on a spectrum of behavior (perhaps it's lack of happiness on one extreme and maximum happiness on another) and that both extremes have cons, so it's best to take the middle route of being both happy and unhappy. From my experience, prolonged periods of happiness become extremely boring. Happiness seems to me to be an Orderly Form that has roots in predictability. Too much predictability and groupthink/harmony (aka happiness on a larger scale) will accentuate the weaknesses in the group and invite Chaos. The predictability also becomes boring b/c it's not a healthy state. You can think of it as Stressed vs Unstressed. Not enough stress in your life and there would be no call to action for anything. Too much, and you will decay away from the overwhelming load of the stress.
@YuhakushoWeebtard ,
1. Inviting Chaos is something those of us who value happiness strategically avoid. An "orderly form that has roots in predictability" is called monotony, not happiness.
2. Happiness is not pursued by sitting on a beach for 80 years and wanting to off yourself out of sheer boredom, despite what you seem to regard happiness as.
3. Happiness happens in adventure. You don't choose the latter in absence of a real potential for the former. No one slays the dragon to marry a princess he knows will only make him miserable. We usually go on adventures whose goal is a happy one, and hopefully with some happy times along the way. We Eastern Europeans, with the aid of the West, fought to have the Berlin Wall come down so that we could experience the joy of seeing loved ones reunite.
A person finds happiness in meaningful relationships. This is why we take the risk of falling in love. But we tend to engage in the type relationships that we hope will produce more happiness and less prolonged misery. Without happiness, relationships are worthless.
Peterson, though he is an evolutionary psychologist, doesn't put much stock the one of the most important forces that has driven mankind throughout history: the pursuit of at least the hope of happiness. Who the hell wants to live in a world with the sole purpose of "reducing chaos"? NO! We clean our room so that the girl next door won't get turned off by our chaos.
The religious allergic reaction to "happiness as an intentional pursuit" is as illogical as it is tiresome. Adherence to a dated book which tells you to burn prostitutes, stone apostates, and remain in a miserable relationship for life must first devalue the importance of happiness if it is to survive, I guess.
Yes. The hero slays the dragon b/c it is for the purpose of attempting to achieve a higher ideal which will result in unending happiness when achieved. When I was describing happiness as a form, I was trying to rearticulate and reframe it in a new way for me to understand, so sorry for the confusion. One could still say that happiness does not last forever and that happiness produces boredom assuming all that you have around you makes you feel happy. If everything around you is charged with positive emotion, everything is predictable. Happiness -> Predictability. I don't know if you've read it (assuming you haven't), but his first book Maps of Meaning talks about how Order and Chaos regulate our emotions. I've read it and this is a summary of the regulation:
Order (Reinforced behaviors are unchallenged) -> Emotional Stability (Schemas are true) -> Positive emotion
Chaos (Reinforced behaviors are challenged) -> Emotional Unstability (Schemas have to change) -> Negative emotion
That's a concatenation of the process he describes, but he goes on to describe further how the outside world plays more of a role and how predictability and unpredictability are a result of the above process. It's a genuinely good book. I'd recommend it if you have 2 weeks worth of spare time to spend reading it.
It's obvious no one usually wants to purposefully invite Chaos. People's intentions when they tell white lies are good and in hopes of long-term peace and happiness (essentially warding off Chaos), but the reality is that it is a short-term solution. Obviously people who want to be happy try to do things in pursuit of that goal, but that isn't always how things turn out. I am also not sure that we can be happy our whole lives, so I'm just putting that out there.
Peterson has the rare talent to speak a lot of words, make you believe he's made some really insightful points, without saying anything of real importance or relevance.
Says the person with a mind unwilling to seek to understand and learn and grow.
Yes!!! Rule 5 a big practice of mine
I love JP
Amen. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
The man is brilliant!
He has the most soothing voice
Love this guy.
0:12 Numbers are more real than anything else. That's why I'm a math teacher.
Number 4 is a good one.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who others are today!
Think many people would be a lot happier if they lived that x.
In one of the interviews he mentioned how much energy does it take to give a speech in from of the audience. Completely understand.
12 Rues (with notes):
1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back
2. Treat yourself like you’re someone responsible for helping (not be nice to yourself)
3. Make friends / Associate with those who want the best for you - they get to demand the best from you
4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday and not someone else today (use self as target for improvement and comparison)
5. Don’t let your children do anything that makes you dislike them (if you dislike them other people will). Don’t let them act in a way that makes other children or adults dislike them. Help your child learn how to behave so that the social world welcomes them at every level.
6. Put your house in order before you criticise the world. (Not: take action only if you have act together). Bind your ambition with humility and work on what’s right in front of you that you will suffer for if you get wrong before you engage in the large scale transformation of other people
7. Do what is meaningful and not what is expedient (convenient and practical but immoral and improper) - core ethos of 12 rules
8. Tell the truth or at least don’t lie. Lying corrupts (your own perceptions / judgment) the instinctual mechanisms that manifest themselves as meaning and then you can’t rely on (yourself) those mechanisms, then you have nothing to rely on.
9. Assume that the person listening to you knows something that you don’t. Mark of respect for the other person, but more so a mark of recognition of your own unbearable ignorance. If you believe that things could still be put right around you in your own personal life, as well as the effect that you have on other people, then what you don’t yet know is more important than what you do know. You should be paying attention to find out what you don’t know at every possible moment
10. Be precise in your speech. Psychology of perception: you don’t get what you don’t aim at. You might get what you aim at (your aim might get better as you aim). Specify the nature of the being that you want to bring into being to radically increase chances. Confront the field of potential: choices determine which elements of potential concretise themselves. A lot of potential that you’re not fully realising = transgression against the good
11. Don’t bother children when they’re “skateboarding.” Courage and encouragement. Don’t interfere with the child’s willingness to voluntarily expose themselves to the necessary risks of doing inadvisably dangerous things that they need to expose themselves to in order to develop the competence that allows them to thrive in a world that cannot be sheltered from. To interfere is not love or empathy but cowardice (and parental selfishness to just worry less) and much more deeply damaging to children.
- Do not do anything for anyone they can do for themselves. Form of theft: it steals their success which is rightfully theirs.
- The world is touched with betrayal and malevolence. There is something in you that is capable of taking that full-on and transcending it. As difficult as things are, you’re up to the challenges. There is no security in the final analysis of life. You can only create or rely on so much safety. Encouragement is a much better medication than sheltering. Life essentially is not a place to attain or even aim at happiness (despite gratefully receiving some), but rather something like adventure.
12. “Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.” Fragility or facing a terrible tragedy: what to do when you don’t know what to do. Narrow your timefame because sometimes the right way to look at the world is across years, months or weeks, or for crises days/hours/minutes. Concentrate on as well as you can with what’s right in front of you for the longest unit of time you can concentrate.
So powerful that there is a book in the Bible titled “ Numbers.”
I do not understand how people can hit "dislike" in this kind of videos
Really? It is probably because they know he is a lying drug addict.
@@boffeycn So you´ve seen the guy doing drugs?
Anyone with teenagers and older children can testify that it's almost impossible to stop them from doing things you don't like. They go out of their way to do such things!
As a parent, get your children ready to flee the nest is always a good aim.
Not if the motivation is because you don't want the responsibility.
@@talastra The motivation is to give responsibility.
I had to block some dude that was calling him an actor and a fake, controlled opposition was his words . I felt sad for him
Rule no.1 stand up straight with your shoulders back
2. Treat yourself like someone who is responsible for helping (isn’t the same as be nice to yourself ,its not like that)
3. Make friends with the people who want the best for you ( means that they get to demand the best from you)
4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday and not to who someone else is today .
5. Dont let your children do things that makes you dislike them. (If you dislike them, then other people will).
6. Put your house in perfect order before your criticize the world’s order.
7. Do what is meaningful and not what is expedient
8. Tell the truth or at least dont lie ( the fundamental lesson if you lie you corrupt your own perception and if you corrupt your own perception then you cant rely on yourself and if you cant rely on yourself then good luck to you because what are going to rely on in the absence of your own judgement.
9. Assume that the person you are listening to knows something you dont.
10. Be precise in your speach. (You dont get what you dont aim at).
11. Dont bother children when you’re skate-bording. (If you do something for someone and it facilitates their movement forward then they moved forward because You helped them).
12. Pet a cat when you encounter one in the street. (Its a discussion of what you do when you dont know what to do). The necissity of narrowing your time frame ,sometimes the right way to look at the world is across years and sometimes its across months and when things are more out of control perhaps its across days,hours and even minutes. And during thoes minutes then you concentrate on doing as well as you can with whats right infron of you. The longest unit of time that you can tolerate conceptualize it. You also take the time to appreciate everything you can that manifests itself that allows itself to be appreciated. And so thats the metaphore of cat I suppose.
And thats the twelve rules and I’ll return to rule one which is :stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Thank you 💛🌟
9:53 concretize. Nice word.
I aked my father about getting through life and how to best do that. His answer was simple and expedient. "Just be fair, honest and reasonable son, that'll do it."
I have tried to live by that simple codex. He was right. He also taught me to expect that from others. If they didn't live up to it, I was to forget them.
He was right there too....
Great guy! Very inspirational!
Loved it.
To think that the book he wrote on this has been pulled from nz bookshops since the christchurch event..wtf?
Hi w924 . I'm in NZ . I didnt know that . Do you know the reason why that happened ? Surely not PC gone mad once again .
i have 35 , but i want to be like this man when i get older. I'll start by making my bed :D.
is it so hard there in us to clean your room?
@@golkeeper8517 Sorry , i'm not the kind of person that deflect his responsibilities to others , either with political correctness or through the government .
2:40 Just like the increasing need of physical exercise. As we have developed machines to do most of our manual work, we now strive for taking extra time to workout.
Inspirational
Listening to this on LSD has permanently cured my depression for about a year and a half now lol
Nothing is permanent
So happy for you!
Figures can lie and liars can figure
your amazing often you leave me speechless you got IT
It can sound absurd. But when I started to aim higher all kinds of success began to show. It seemed almost magically. I new I had the ability & potential to do better in my life but I had never needed it. I realized when I aimed higher that I always had needed these 'successes' all along. This being or trying to be the best version of oneself. I think we need to do this not only for ourselves but for the world around us. Making life better by aiming higher and becoming the best version of ourselves. All this makes our surroundings follow and can make our world a better place.