Why are ENFPs so wise? The INFJ Consciousness
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- I have found that ENFP personality types have a kind of INFJ consciousness and that this often makes the type act as if they had the wisdom and spiritual enlightenment INFJ personality types are often searching for. While the ENFP has an ENFP behaviour, their beliefs, when they are in a happy and healthy state, tend to appear as INFJ beliefs. Because of this, you could say INFJs act wise, but ENFPs are wise.
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People think Enfps are stupid because we honestly believe love is the answer.
love is the answer
facts
@@ErikThor Thank you, I don't think I've ever been so flattered to have been put into the category of "the wise". Although, no one is perfect. Wisdom is my aim.
Love is the answer
Uhm... I don't
Wisdom comes from pain and sorrow. I think ENFPs are the ones who go down that lane at least as often as the INFJs. That's why we feel a true connection.
YASSSS. I've been through so many friendships, that they threw me out, or left me, and it hurt me so much, so I want to be there for others, and I want them to know I'll never do that to them
so true
Yes. I intuitively knew this as a child. It's taken me my whole life to actually accept it and to be grateful to be who I am. I'm 58. I wouldn't trade any of my life. The emotional pain turned out to be my greatest asset as a human.
I need a friend like you. I am an ENFP when I drive the conversation all my friends look at me like I am crazy. Most of them doubt me because I come to conclusions to fast mostly correct without concrete facts. They think I talk out of my a$$. I once told my friend I don’t try to understand things I can’t understand. I wait for the understanding to come to me. She almost spit out her lunch.
That's what I love and admire about enfps. They are so wise and in tune with their own truth despite what others say. They dont try to force or even sell their beliefs to people they accept people for who they are even if they disagree with their actions or choices because they respect authenticity. They are independent thinkers and sincere in their opinions.
I also enjoy how you guys can express your beliefs or opinions in a light and easily digestable way. You guys have great pacing in conversations and interject enough good humor to not get the crowd too absorbed in heavy topics.
Fun Bun you are so fun. Bun.
Well, that's the way it is. I pretty much sponge up lots of information via reading, watching people etc, and then let my subconsious brain play around with all that info and come to its own conclusions. The trick is to stop every now and then and simply sit and listen to your brain doing its work. Can be quite funny, too. So many inappropriate jokes. :P
Yes yes yes ! I never said that outloud to anyone before, except my INFJ best friend with whom i feel most understood. As enfps I noticed that we don't necessarily write down or logically sort things out, I've been this way since childhood, I'll be walking around the streets alone indulging in my perception of aaaaalll the Chaos of infos and ideas, and then TADA : An illumination, most of them were (of courses) about social theories.
As I'm getting older, life becomes harder for us, since it's a senstinents and correct logic dominated word, but I never ever could have even consider not trusting my intuition, even if lately everyone around me seems to push me toward not to.
Keep investigating, day dreaming and being authentic you ENFPS.
With love and compassion.
I feel like we ENFP are childlike in our action, the way we are, but at the same time our mind is very wise, maybe thinking about complex concept of how the world works etc. At the surface we are free spirited childlike people, but we are very deep in thoughts and feeling, and have great understanding of the world. I love ENFP, I love me😂
Me too!!😂
@@mysterroniouscherry326 Me three!!!
Yes, yes...tell me how wise I am 😌😂🤣
Hahaha
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You're pretty wise dude
@@mooh2802 bUt LiKe HoW wIsE tHo
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Being an idealist ENFP in this harsh world can be challenging. Thanks for validating my experience Erik.
INFJ here, I have an ENFP partner (suprising much) and I can definitely confirm this. Sometimes I can honestly be so confused about his train of thought and even downplay his abilities to see underlying patterns, make links, basically understand what tf is going on.
BUT time after time my doubt proves to be a huge misconception and then just after I've put up my slighty patronizing super-simplified way of explaining sth he comes up with a deep analysis and intelligent observations about what's been happening and what should be done next.
I just feel like ENFPs have a lot hidden under a layer of goofyness and big dreams. Maybe for me (and other INFJs) understanding a concept comes quite quickly and we're quick to make them known, basically coming up with deep thoughts but still in a fairly superficial level (makes sense?). Whereas ENFPs can sometimes be the real masterminds in the long run, on the condition that they succeed in keeping it together through all of the messy / dreamy / spontanious times they need before showing off their true findings and rational thinking.
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Erik,
As an ENFP, I completely agree. I believe once we come into ourselves through some form of spiritual awakening, the manifestation takes place. Synchronicities begin to happen at a rapid rate, there is an acceleration in growth, the idea that nothing happens by coincidence. Keep it up!
Yes, sis...had to thumb this comment.
I didn’t know this was an enfp thing but that’s exactly what I’ve been noticing about myself, and I’m an enfp. It’s like we have a magic power! Lol
Yeah! I don’t know how to explain it but that happend to me summer 2018, and it’s like I’m a new person in a way
Yoooooou can literally see my progress in my videos and it all started in South America... it’s creepy
The oddity of this awakening experience though.. like a smack in the face
"Because of this, you could say INFJs act wise, but ENFPs are wise."
My ego just told me, we need a bigger house :D
x
Don’t agree at all, infjs are way more wise (in my experience and i have met quite a few) I know I am wise too it’s just that their mind is so active 24/7 its actually incredible how they come up with these ideas and thoughts (philosophical topics) and they also catch on things and understand really quickly. Even tho I agree ENFP’s are very wise, infjs are truly beyond this world
@@gustemikalauskaite7044 pretty sure you just described an ENFP😂 especially because extroverted intuition is constant expansion of ideas and thoughts into the world...infjs are truly wise, but I feel they are both very much the same when it comes to being wise. Same functions just reversed. Again an outwardly projection of themselves that an ENFP gives can be misleading when it comes to this topic but just sit with a few and let them know it’s okay...you’ll find the same old soul and wise expansive incredible thinking you’ll find in a infj
An infj is someone with a mask...
You can identify them by their eyes
Socially awkward
Manymore
Yup enfp are much wiser I am an infj I wish I was a bit fool to actually enjoy life on spontaneous , we are so wise that it’s actually unwise it’s a curse...
I have been on so many sites that tend to just reduce the EMFP to this cartoonish character with little inner depth, especially in comparision to the INTJ in a relationship. It always bothered me because I see these and I wonder "Then what the hell is with this rich, although somewhat chaotic, inner world that seems to guide me well, that looks around at the world and sees all these layers and possibilities that exist and want to experience each one."
I just wanted to say thank you for setting the record straight. It can be so disheartening when a stereotype becomes the standard in people's mind rather than who someone is as an individual and how the world relates to them as one. You managed to shine some light on the subject and brighten my day with your insights. I appreciate that, so thanks again.
Sign.
~An ENFP.
am i the only enfp who welcomes debates and constructive conflict? i've been typed as between an enfp and entp, but i think i'm totally enfp except for how i welcome constructive conflict. i would rather stand up for what i believe in and what is right than have everyone get along in vain just to ~keep the peace~.
Frankie Barber i’m the same as you are! i enjoy debates and constructive conflict, keeps my mind busy.
I'm the same way
also i don't ever hear of enfps as ones to keep the peace. theres a reason we are known as the Champion, advocate, or campaigner
Same, I love to play the devils advocate too
Yes I'm the same
It's so nice to hear people saying nice things about ENFPs. We get a lot of shit for our stereotypes. I have stumbled across a few INFJ channels and I now see that I use my shadow functions more than I ever thought because I have thought about the exact same concepts in exactly the same fashion as some INFJs. We definitely mirror each other.
I thought I was an INFJ matched up on a lot till I heard about ENFP I feel the same as you.
I'm an INFJ and my teen daughter is an ENFP. Its fun indeed.
Yes! We are on earth to be enjoyed!! ENFP here.
Awww!!! Trying to figure out how mine is since I am the ENFP, she definitely is an INTJ or ISTJ??
We can be tough to handle but we mean well. I'm an ENFP and my parents are not. I'm pretty certain my 4 year old niece is also an ENFP (her personality is an exact replica of me at her age). We are energetic, loud, and excited. Sometimes so excited and happy that we just can't contain it! we also tend to not always listen because curiosity can get the best of us. But with help we can learn how to control it so that we can still lead productive lives
as INTP I feel so opposite of the ENFP. They're so life loving, alive, experiencing things...and we're these robots that look at things logically, analyse and whatever...but it's so boring . I would love feel the experience they feel when they're 'loving life'. (as far as that side is real)
PowerRedBull your comment is very interesting to me, because I have a intp brother and he always tells me that I’m this weirdo funny type of person and that he finds me irritating, but sometimes he just comes up to me and tells me that what he loves about me is that I can make people smile and then he just stays in my room for one hour to show me memes and talks.
I’ve always find the mind of the intp very interesting, you guys are true badasses and very interesting smart people.
I don’t think you’re like a robot, intp’s have to have always a logical solution to the “problem” that is occurring and you see things as facts, rather than feel the things that happen to you, so I’d say when a emergency happens, you guys have always a chill mind and you guys are able to really help and take responsibility.
Also intp’s have always random facts about things which I personally find fun and interesting to hear.
Just a summary why I like INTP
I am an ENFP and what I believe you call "loving life" is true. I think it`s because we realized that as long as it is not very important to the future, we don`t stress things and try to make the most out of situations, I was depressed when I was younger and I got out of that by simply being hopeful that things won`t stay the same forever, things will change once I have some skills or independence.
in general, we *love* exploring ideas and it excites us quite a lot. that also might be the reason we seem happy all the time, but trust me, we are not always happy and we have our own problems and stress issues, we often overthink things and get too serious as well.
Without people like you, who feel so opposite of us, where would the balance be in the world? ENFPs need people around them to ground them. I'm thankful for you and other "grounded" personality types. :)
you are amazing too don't be sad
Maggi Slayton Need & want are not the same :) Can be a buzz kill at times but I am glad to have someone to catch me when my wings become tired
I'm am an infj and I recently found that my son is an enfp. He's my best friend, I'm so lucky! 🤗
You are very lucky, what a sweet post! My daughter's an intj 🙄😒
Enfp x
I'm an ENFP and my mum is an INFJ and I feel incredibly blessed to have grown up with that relationship :D
@@rae8345 Pensei que ENFPs e INTJs se davam bem também.
Você não gosta do fato de sua filha ser INTJ?
I love this description especially since I feel like it breaks stereotypes about ENFP being childish and not as wise as we really are
It's fascinating how insightful you are into the ENFP, all while not being one yourself. Great video. What gave you such insight into the ENFP?
maybe his GF is ENFP? not sure...
I believe she is. Kinda explains it though. Girl I'm seeing is a INFJ 😂 When it works it's magical lol. Definitely takes a lot of work and understanding though to begin with. Once your both on the same page thougggh it's absolutely dangerous ahahahaha
I'm guessing a lot of his friends are enfp because we get along with infj for some reason
Shane Mallinson very jealous lol
I am an ENFP 🙋🏼♀️ and I'm so glad I found his videos. He breaks it down like a champ.
Thanks so much Brittany!
You hit the nail on the head sir. As an ENFP, you're right in everything you said regarding our awareness of the only thing that is certain, is that nothing is for certain. Which is why we love simply experiencing this gift we have called life. Because we only get one as far (in theory). It's not that we all SHOULD be living ENFP personality types, but above all else what drives us is knowing every human can feel what we do. Because it's an incredible feeling to inspire others, even more so when you're not trying to. It's like he says. We don't need facts or data, it's just a feeling. We wish everyone could have it.
your great and i think that you love the ENFP in your life so much because you describe them very brailantly .. the best description to ENFP|ME ever , thank you
I am an INFJ and I love ENFP in my life dearly. I think it is common. You are seen and loved.
This guy is such an INFJ, haha, I love it. I as an ENFP have found absolute truth in Jesus though. ❤
Anna Smith oh anna, all that curiosity, searching for the truth, inner spiritual realisations, self love and appreciation of people and humanity and you arrived at jesus...........what the hell happened on your journey!??
@Lauren Perez-Engel Thankyou sister ☺
Carlo Noto love. Having sense of not knowing about going through different paths, looking for new outcomes, and making them happen. My father is a ENFP and he has given his life to Jesus. I ask him why seen I myself have my doubts. He told me because he listens. Straight to the point not like my dad. He said that when he was at his lowest doing wrong hurting others cause of his actions he didn’t look twice until he realized he was the one hurting himself and everyone around him. He looked back and wished he could change who he was and feels sorry for all his wrong. He didn’t know how to release everything he had stored in him so then he ask for a sign something he could feel and touch spiritually. For 10 years he waited for that sign never losing hope and only hope to see the outcome. Finally it hit him and he then search for meaning in Jesus’s word. He started going to church doing what he believe was right yet still obeying Jesus. He believed that he has to pay for his sins and turn them into something beautiful. The amount of people my dad has changed for the better and still sharing love for all. He believes that when you give you receive joy and happiness in return.
Praise Jesus, the Lord's love endures forever. God bless
Hiya Anna! From what I've read, Jesus was most likely an INFJ anyway, so maybe you're both onto something! 😁
WOW! You are SO correct about us needing to know others in order to know who we are! There was time that I was stuck at home most all of the time being a mother, going to school, and helping take care of my great grandmother and one day I realized I had no idea who I was anymore bc I hadn’t had friends in so long, I kept thinking “how am I supposed to know who I am if I don’t really know what others are like?”
Wow how did you grow ?
'When I was a child, I perceived the bizarre shapes of nature and inanimate objects not by observation, but by surrendering into their charm and their implicit language. Cracks and grass, oil stains floating on water, surfacing roots of trees, coloured veins in stone. I was enraptured by all of them.'
'Abandoning oneself to irrational, strange and complex forms of nature leads to a feeling of harmony between our hearts and the will that gave rise to such shapes. We make a simple yet fatal discovery: We realise the extent to which we ourselves are creators, our souls forever participating in the eternal creation of the world.'
'We always over-confine our personalities. Yet each of us consists of the whole world...'
Quotes from Hesse. Source: ua-cam.com/video/dxQErqMoDdg/v-deo.html 2:42 to 4:25
INFJ's are really rare now I see a real one. How can he explain me in such words and expressions in detail which I myself couldn't.
I've only just been getting into reading about MBTI.. but I laughed out loud when you said about the 'greater existential truth'. For the past couple of years I've noticed that certain people just 'know the thing' and I've had a secret joke to myself (which I've shared with only a few others) about 'THE PEOPLE WHO KNOW THE THING' and how none of us can say what the thing is without it losing some meaning, yet we can spot each other and are drawn to one another from miles away..
(I am an ENFP myself, and I have this sense that this so called 'secret' exists, and is both in and out there (in a sort of pan-psychic sense), that it can't translate into human language fully, but we can live it through our actions, on the way we impress ourselves upon our world, that we have to make peace with ourselves and our not knowing to live a good life and make positive change)
Me too...Prov. 25:2
It’s a shift in consciousness that’s been coming for a while empaths recognise this that’s why I’m curious the percentage of enfps that have the gift of being an empath
Bruh the worst is that I had to move away from my favorite city for work, I had friends there who knew the thing, we'll talk on the phone and whatnot but there's nobody around me right now who knows the thing and it's really bothering me that I can't share that understanding with people. I'll likely end up moving back up there very soon.
Yes...yes...so many people just don't seem like real humans to me!
well this explain why i thought i was infj for a minute.
Mom & best friend are ENFP, while I am an INFJ. This video makes so much sense to me!
Thank you for this encouraging video! As an ENFP, I wasn’t looking to be “gushed” over, but my intelligence and wisdom are so much of who I am. I’ve been dating more recently and coming across many new personality types. I don’t know enough about MBTI yet to type people, but I can see how some personalities immediately appreciate me while others (especially immature INTPs and INTJs, of the ones I have types for) condescend to me because I am bubbly and idealistic, and I take care of my physical appearance & like to look nice. But there is a lot beneath the surface, so I hope to find an individual like yourself, who gets & appreciates it!
I also enjoy your accent and how you say your name SO fast, it sounds like a one, single-syllable word! :)
I agree with another notion you had in a separate video, by the way, that you should speak about psychology, not just typology. I love psychology myself, and appreciate your insights.
Thank you for producing great content, Erik! Keep it up!
Yes we are WISE AF...
As an ENFP I agree to most parts, yes I do believe there is a bigger design to the degree I can confidently say I know there is something else, a secret and yes I have researched so much and experienced so much also. The whole 1 life thing, yes I do agree that yes we are not to waste life, life is special, I would rather watch a good documentary than watch a soap, if something does not give me extra knowledge I will not watch. I am creative by nature and find it easy to come up with pioneering ideas, I should follow up on all my ideas though, but back to the point, the one life thing I believe to be false, we have been here many times before learning each time. we are part of a bigger consciousness and I am in touch with my spirit guides. I act and decide true or false in a split second, some think its destructive but the way I see it is leaving it longer allows your EGO to jump in and question it, a split decision is required to be intuitive. If you have a thought make sure you act within 5 seconds is my motto before the chatter talks you out. Thank you for the wonderful video :-)
Thank you for sharing your genuinely inspired thoughts about us man :D
I'm an ENFP and I never thought that a good way to get to know myself was interacting with other people.. and thinking about it, that makes a lot of sense. I was torturing myself trying to understand who I am, getting upset because I didn't knew how
I know it's been a while since you posted this video, but thank you so much, you helped me a lot ♥️
Wow... This was so encouraging. I have always felt bad about needing other people to actualize myself and my thoughts. I would always think to myself "why cant you just sit and analyze your thoughts and create your own views and your own opinions from your own little head?! Why do you have to be presented with the thoughts and ideas of others to form opinions!?" So to see that you see that process and that you present it in a sense that portrayes it as a different but interesting and effective process is increadbly meaningful and encouraging! Personally I have begun to be VERY selective with those who I associate with because i am just so scared of others disturbing the peace and happiness I have found, so in effect i have become much more in contact with my introverted side. Its not the most natural or comfortable place for an ENFP (I'm %87 extroverted) to be but it is serving as a protection for now, and without the influence of others I am really discovering who I am, what I like, what I want for the first time in my life. But I do find myself really craving being able to bounce ideas and thoughts off of others and just simply observing and absorbing their thought processes and assimalating them into my own world view. But thats the good thing about being selective, at least when you do finally find someone you trust and are intrigued by they are worth it ☺ Thanks for sharing and for the time and effort you put into your videos it means a lot!
Sis, you sound like me, lol!!! Fellow ENFP!!! Greetings.
This has been my entire pandemic philosphy to a tee. I just graduated from undergrad this fall and have found it so refreshing to be able to have my obligations and time fully focused on myself and not the hot mess that is undergrad life. I was missing the conclusion at the end where you said, "the good thing about being selective...," however. I think that's the missing piece in how I want to approach new people with the knowledge of people and myself that I've garnered thus far. My mantra of there's always something to learn in every period of your life just hasn't been connecting with the lack of energy(sometimes disdain) I developed with people in general recently. Thank you for reminding me that my selectiveness is not exclusionary, but rather a constantly improving way to sift through the experiences/personalities that can help me grow the best!
This is why I think types like the INTJ really match the ENFP. The INTJ very much values independence and embracing the uniqueness of their own persona; they don't care what others think of them, because they view themselves from an internal perspective - the standards they hold themselves to come from the inside, not the outside. The INTJ can reinforce the ENFP's uniqueness and embrace it. This is why, I believe, these types are sometimes very highly moral people, because they are not influenced by the immoralities of the world. You talk about the INFJ, but I guess this type is very similar to the INTJ.
I agree with everything you said. As an ENFP everything you said is exactly how I've grown and developed and what I've come into.
My only differention which will be the words that will aggravate some people, and encourage others, is that. Love is the Truth. But it goes deeper then that. Jesus Christ is the Truth.
Now hear me out!
Hes the one who laid it all out. He made it clear as day, what every ENFP is trying to get to the bottom of, through experience, reflection, connecting all the dots, honing it all together into a full and deep seated practical wisdom. Everything that we could ever know and hope to obtain to know. Jesus Christ laid it all out. Clear as day. Clear as crystal actually. Everything a true ENFP wants to get to the bottom of, Jesus Christ taught it and made it all clear. Fully. 100%. Love is the Truth. Because Jesus Christ is the Truth. And down at their core. You cant separate the two.
So I am Christian. Not because of a religious fundamental dogma system I was raised to believe. But because my never ending exploration, search and discovery has lead me to believe that whatever the Truth is. He's the one who has it. Finding Him was like finding the Holy Grail of what I was searching for. So therefore He is the Truth.
And through that world view so many more dots start connecting and they keep connecting and keep connecting and it gets brighter and brighter, things become clearer and clearer and everything starts making more and more sense.
But, as an ENFP I am in no way promoting mainstream religion, fundamentalism or dogma. And as a Christian ENFP I obviously have a problem with these things being rampant in the church so much so that the church on many levels missed the purpose of what Jesus Christ represents and brought to the table entirely.
But never the less. This is my conclusion. And as others have said its all about love. But no one. NO ONE. Had it all figured out and brought it all together. Like Jesus Christ. So for that. I follow Him, and as an ENFP who never marches to the beat of anybodys drum, He is the ONLY person I am willing to follow.
What a beautiful positive and affirming look at ENFPs! Thank you!! What is your personality type? God bless you
As an ENFP, I want to thank you for making this video. I always love looking up info on my MBTI type but I feel like you did such an amazing job explaining how ENFPs minds work in relation to others. You hit the nail on the head and just gained a subscriber! Looking forward to exploring your other content!
I'm an INFJ & I always admired ENFPs lol They are soo wise & I luv the energy of them 💞 I'm totally agree with you. Thank you for the video 🎉🎉🎉🎈🎉🎉💫
I've watched many videos about enfps. But yours, I feel as if I've been lying down on a sofa and just received some counselling.
Enfps have a real hard time in this cruel world cus where we see light, everyone else sees darkness and we get laughed at at how loving we are. This made me go into my shell more and made me lean more on my introverted side which is not always a good thing for me as it makes me feel more depressed. But watching your video has really uplifted me and reminded me that I'm perfectly normal, it's the rest of the world that's not 💖💖💖 Thank you! 💖💖💖
Find balance and the proper amount of social/alone time and make sure you drink lots of water, explore/stay active, sleep enough, eat healthy, and find something that fulfills you. When I try to do this sort of thing, I feel so incredibly happy... like I’m glowing!! The basic things in life can’t be overlooked if you want to keep growing and find fulfillment.
As an ENFP, all you said really resonated with how I feel and it is refreshing to see an accurate picture of us
Dear Erik, thank you sooooooo much for your work! 😃 I'm a female ENFP and your videos have been such an inspiration during turbulent times. Every time I watch them I feel empowered to be my absolute best self! Be blessed in all that you do 💛🧡💚
Yessssss!!! ENFP here. I recently started a relationship with an INFJ male. Amazing guy, interesting as Hell🦄. While observing and analyzing his behavior over the last 1.5 months, many times I’ve commented to myself how strikingly similar we view things and come to the same conclusions. We’re so alike that it almost appears as though we share the same MBTI. You’re conclusion is bang on! Yes, we’re rich in intelligence and super fun to watch, too 💖🙃.
unyielding boredoom No, he’s nothing like you.
Hi my partner off 3months is an infj. Our x partners were both narcissist. So we are having such a good time. Theres trust and we are on the same page. It's so good to be with a human. Take care enfp
My best friend who I haven't seen in a while is a infj. And wow we are learning so much off each others experiences. There are so many narcissist and dark personalities in this world. But we keep it above water. Always look on the bright side off life. And guys if you meet a girl that is weirdly close too there mother run!
I (enfp) just met an infj and I adore talking with him.
How's that going? I (ENFP) just met an INJF and love chatting with her
Grew up not opening up much in my family..
So as an adult Im allowing myself the joy
of great laughter/accepting when tears begin to flow.
Its a new kind of freedom...thank you
Eric... C'ndy
No I know of some really intelligent ENFPs that have knowledge that will blow your mind and would love to sit down with them and discuss life the universe and everything with. I end up with INFP results on MBTI but I also share many ENFP qualities
Try Erik’s test it really helped me a lot. I thought I was INFP but to my surprise I’m enfp.
What helped is to understand that though I have an E I’m still very much an I.
@Dancestar1981 I know exactly why you got that result. It is because ENFPs and INFPs have the same cognitive functions. The difference is that the two types have a different order in which their cognitive function stack is ordered.
If you are confused by these maybe unfamiliar terms, I will explain: ENFPs' brains use Ne, Fi, Te, and Si as the way they make decisions, collect information, connect to people and the world, and reason logistics. You can look up these terms to understand the differences between ENFPs and INFPs.
I am ENFP female and falling hard for INFJ best friend. The connection we share is so strong I cant describe with words. I dont know If i should reveal my feelings to him or just stay as we are.
Yes!! This is true for me too! So what is your opinion on this, Eric???
What did you do?
Go for it, guys!! I heard INFJs are also supposedly 'rare', so it's better to remember that time keeps moving on and you probably won't find another like him again so give it your all :3
I have been married to a IS(T/F)J for 27 years. best combo! You need things that ISTJ have.... where as you can fall in love with many different types.
Wow! Your perceptions of us ENFPs is spot on. Thank you so much for making this video. I feel so appreciated and understood. 🤩
The first time I took Myers-Briggs I got INFJ, then more recently ENFP--which is making more sense and fitting better. Thank you for your insight!
Everything you said I have experienced at my new job at a university library. I loved our planning day where we build a timeline of projects to match the visions/goals of our workplace. I love talking to strong personalities and dissecting their reasoning for being who they are, and they way you described how this helps us figure our own lives out was so validating to hear. Thanks for the “wise” video!
Very true. ENFP here. I do have more wisdom, intuition, open mindedness and intelligence than most people and try to help others when I am aware of “things” that they aren’t. It’s not always productive though, as people often seem to need to experience life from where they are intellectually etc., and not from where I am.
I’m a cheerleader as well as a motivator. If I see a solution for someone struggling, I will point out the solution and then guide them past their limiting beliefs so they can implement the solution.
I’m also psychic and sometimes warn people of dangers when I feel them, but I always feel that they are skeptical and not listening. One ignored me and ended up in a hot hot mess that they’ve been trying to get out of for many years. So I know for myself, I am leery of sharing what I feel psychically or intuitively if I suspect the information will not change anything.
I have had communication with people who have died. I like to dissect those experiences to try and get an idea of what the afterlife is like. From my experiences I believe in the afterlife, we all end up in the same place. It’s one reason I strive to be good to people, and am troubled when that isn’t possible due to someone being evil or whatever. I also believe that once we cross over we can see everything going on here and know things we never knew before. We can still love and hate and enjoy the same (type of) relationships we enjoyed here. Lots of people have a fairytale image of the afterlife. While certainly some things are different, I believe much is a mirror image of this reality.
As I’ve gotten older it seems that my good karma has increased. Pondering 🤔 why, I realize that a lot of the people I have been good to are now in the afterlife and I suspect they are not only cheering me on, but making sure that things go well in my life. To be honest, my good karma has become so special and strong it makes me rather fearless in my pursuit of making more of my most passionate dreams come true, which I have been doing from an early age, now 61.
I also believe honesty and being a nice person increases one’s good karma. But it’s not possible all the time and that’s okay. But it should be one’s primary demeanor. Which for many, it isn’t. 😅
For other ENFPs who have an infinite number of passions, I found it best to judge the importance of all of them on a scale of 1 to 10.. or 1 to 100.. and pursue the one that is the highest scorer that’s possible to pursue.
I’ve been a true adventurer my entire life, and feel like I’ve already lived many lives in one. After living all over the US and losing interest in doing that, I moved overseas.
Enfp's are the ultimate self-aware contradiction and that's why i like being one. We can be the hero and the villain, Organized and a mess, loving or hating, excitable or brooding to the the point of writing their own "Space-Dye Vest" song. The leader and the promoter of other leaders due to their influence (or the ultimate wingman)
I've concluded that after 41 yrs of dealing with being an INFJ which 39 of those i had no idea of this!shout out to ya Man, now I've realized, us 4 NF types need to band together or otherwise risk yourself getting tossed out like garbage by a inhumane xSTx personality,B careful everybody, stay freaking AWESOME please ❤️
I have never felt more seen than I do right now. Thank you for this.
I LOVED this video! You literally were in my brain! It was like the recognition of some very deep motivations I have and I love how you always encourage us ENFP’s to embrace and run towards our strengths, thank you 🙏 and I’m so happy that you reached and surpassed 10,000 viewers! You deserve and need 10 million!!
YEP!
Well, I’m glad someone finally got us right!
ENFP It always seemed that I had a "wisdom" to my personality, others knew it whether to appreciate or made them uncomfortable. Age 52 I had an acute illness and came close to dying, after that I felt within myself that that "wisdom" quotient had gone 3 times the depth and that was just where I am now. Still is.
i think all the NF's have this in common with each other. and honestly i think all people have these attributes, but some people don't know better, or don't realize they have the freedom do be like this.
I’m an ENFP; my kids, and boyfriend are INTJ. ENFP are wise while INFJs “appear” wise. Love it. So true!!
Same. But we as enfps, draw our wisdom from our surroundings and life. Whereas, intjs think reading books will accomplish higher wisdom....... it doesn't 😂😂💖
I am an INFJ. My son and best friend are ENFP. I love them.
I have some hard times with my son. But most of our interactions are joyful. I think he is awesome . I love my best friend dearly . They are delightful and they get my INFJ jokes with extreme surprise and lol that I love.
And they make me laugh and think. I love their feelings and yearning to learn. I notice though that they get into rabbit holes of self pity and myrderdom more often. As they think that no one feels like them ever. And know one gets their feelings. I get their feeling. They can't imagine this. I think they are somehow right. Because they have very deep introverted feelings amongst the people I read.
I am grateful for you & your efforts in the video. You are so smart.
I just had to add/ask: Have any other ENFPs here read the book 'Siddhartha' by Herman Hesse? Seems very relevant and its probably my favourite book
Emily no but you’ve got me hooked! What’s it about?? X
@@evatoland1540 it's about a man's journey seeking wisdom, authenticity, truth. He tries many different paths and follows different teachings in his search for enlightenment and gains profound insights from each, but he knows there's always something more, so he keeps journeying. It's a short, easy but beautiful read and I can't recommend it enough!
Great book. Read it last year. First you try to see the world beyond the world and get no where(young peoples’ painful idealism). Then you fall into the world completely and forget there’s anything else(middle age’s jadedness and resignation). Lastly you just see the world truly and accept it(old, matures’ wisdom and solace).
Erik, I am an ENFP and what you says about the abstract path .....makes me almost cry
Being an ENFP, I agree with much of what you are saying, but I do believe while there is a level of ideals that we naturally understand, but we do build upon those things with the understanding we gain through life. We do think best when we are experiencing new things.
My teachers believed that I’m stupid 😂 but you really said the topic that we are not sure which makes us free in thoughts, feelings and acts. However people live in their walls that are totally shadows of what they deem
To be honest, this is the most wonderful, scarily-accurate video I've ever seen. Out of all, you explain this personality type the best! ✨👀
Yup, everyday! Love for people is yet another thing ENFPs feed off. Staying in love is a must for an ENFPs happiness
We are so perfect aren't we
Agreed, love my ENFP.
Erik, thanks so much for expressing your deep understanding of ENFPs! This is so encouraging and also helps me to know why I am so delighted by the presence and communication with INFJs!
I'm glad this resonated with you, keep taking risks and being awesome, and keep gaining wisdom that way. :)
ENFP here, thanks for this description. It is accurate.x.
I have just found out I'm a Enfps. I have just come out off a 7 year relationship with a narcissistic partner and mother. I'm so glad I am Enfps. Its got me through that narc family, and out the other side. I'm feeling good and strong with a lawyer I'll get my beautiful boy
Thank you darling for this. From an ENFP and new sub
I have a few friends who are ENFP. Thank you for helping ME understand THEM
Erik, you did a wonderful job describing the enfp. We are global thinkers who process patterns of information and behavior quickly. We are curious, empathetic, patient, and believe that we are all connected on some level. When you put all of these together, it creates a type of social and emotional wisdom. Too often the SJ’s have mistaken our fun loving, enjoy life side as a lack of maturity or intellect rather than seeing it as the confidence to be who we truly are without pretense or guardedness. Nice job!
I'm an enfp/infj ambivert empath. Outside I am more enfp and more infj at home where I can pay more attention to my own thoughts and feelings. I spent the entire lockdown in infj mode - unbalancing.. Being these two types at the same time, or alternately, is all about seeking a dynamtc balance. Being an empath is about maintaining firm boundaries.
Great assessment, learning about our INFJ shadow functions is very useful and adds context and much more richness to our ENFP type. Resonate with this video, thank you for helping dispel some of the unhelpful stereotypes of our personality type.
Omg! I am awesome! 😎 And every word is about me. Great insight. Thanks Erik! I am also an empath but it is another story I think. 🙂
Sounds like an interesting story! maybe make a video about it? send me an e-mail if you need help getting started!
Hi Eric! My email address is blondoner@icloud.com
You’re so accurate with the ENFP descriptions! You know us well 🥳
Love being an ENFP! Thank you for highlighting our strengths😊. I think it’s easy for the world to misunderstand us sometimes due to our talents and intensity…
Jäklar va du lyckades med att få in ett antal fullträffar kring hur jag känner och tänker. Big ups, Erik
Good one from an ENFP
Hi Erik, I initially thought I was an ENFJ, but was now moving more towards ENFP. Now that I've seen this, I'm almost sure. Also, I live in a (modern, Western) Zen Buddhist monastery and understand better why I feel so at home here, but also what to do to keep it interesting and fulfilling. Thank you so much for this!
It's an easy type to confuse because ENFPs are more practical planners and ENFJs more goal-humanitarians. ENFPs like to plan and make lists but often change things up.
Yes spot on with the spirituality I don’t know the answer but I do feel a sense of the way I must live my life
Really like your style and the way you presented the ENFP to the world bravo and you nailed me to a T
I feel this is so accurate, sometimes I feel I know things not everyone know, and when I talk to someone about them they ask where I know all of this from, and I honestly don't know, I just know those things but I don't know where I have learnt them, and for me it was so weird until now, well now I know it's not just me and I'm grateful that out there are more people thinking like me
Absolutely same.
The truth is that I analyse and research everything just to understand if it is ok to invite my introverted friend to drink something, but I do never think before doing something really essential
THERE IS A DESTINY- WE ALL ARE HERE FOR A REASON HAVE ALWAYS HAD THIS BELIEF. when i started studying islam everything started to make sense. not studying it becuz of hijab n how media shows was wrong. after studying islam there are these connections i feel very deeply about everything.
I wonder when is it that destiny meets fate. Some people never truly live to know. My guess is it’s most of the world living through their own fears, pettiness, and emotional restrictiveness, blockages. And do they hide behind the veil of conventions, lies, and play on the “safe side” that really is _rather_ unsafe. But they continue on the path of small-mindedness, selfishness, and shortsightedness all the while pretending to be ‘nice’ human beings.
As an enfp I really say that I have this maturity that we all will die and I want to live every moment, explore life, move out try new things, don't miss out life because of this maturity
Hey Erik, OMG!!! I agree with this assessment. I LOVE wisdom!!! and wise people, old soul here😍 We are Discoverers.. You have a God-given gift.
Thank you so very much. It disturbed be when I saw the sites misunderstandings we ENFJ. I am
often sought out for advice, solace, etc and many years ago I recall having been called ethereal, probably right on. Not today. I know exactly who I am. Thanks to great dreams, a Jungian therapist, and just the right amount of trouble. Thank you Erik for the kind words and your keen skills in recognizing the truth in them. Blessings on you and your journey!
omg you're so good at explaining this! its really helpful to get this outside perspective =)
And we never give up 😘
ENFP here, I never make the claim to be "wise" but am always in pursuit to perfect the ability within me to self examine all scraps of information and cross examine things to death, If something can resist my relentless attempts to topple it over (be them ideas or "facts") then perhaps I either have not the information needed to discredit something or it is rendered as a "Potential truth" Vary few things ever get cleared to "absolute truth" In my mind, way too many variables. What I am trying to say here is the wise man or woman never seeks recognition but instead guides others to more thoughtful experiences that enrich and bring more purpose to an already amazing life. Love to you and love to the world!
Holy damn dude, this is my first video I've seen of yours and it describes so much of what I experience as an ENFP, I'm so impressed with the caliber of info you have on this personality type, when it isn't even your own. How do you know all of this?!? 😅
Also, I don't know the short stereotype of the I?SP that you described as the "whip", do you elaborate on that in any of your content? Cheers!
You’ve reignited my spark once again Erik with your insight and wisdom. All the recent research I’ve done on cognitive functions left me somewhat flustered, but the way you explained the INFJ piece of us (older) ENFPs, brought it together!! My Aha moment on the ENFP spirituality question has been given. Thanks so very much Erik!!!!!!
Things you explained relates to my past experience so much
This is one of the most realistic way of describing us Enfp's, or at least me.
I'm finally feeling like I relate
I can't stop myself from saying this, I don't know you, but I feel that you are a fountain of kindness ! Thank you for being so, it is pretty satisfying to watch you talking.
an ENFP,