7 Urgent Questions About a Limerent Partner
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- I coach partners of people in limerence. My experience has been that they, more or less, have the same basic questions. Here they are...
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Hello!
My name is Fenna van den Berg, I am a certified coach and counselor. I have worked in the mental health field for over 25 years.
Having been through episodes of Limerence, I have "earned my stripes" to help others with their recovery. I understand the obsession and suffering of Limerence. My passion is being able to share with you, and all limerents, a guided-way forward on your journey of healing. We do this through discovering and practicing self-love and compassion. As someone who has suffered through limerence, I have developed effective coaching for people with limerence. My Coaching has helped countless have a more purposeful life, and I want to help you. We will work together, so that you may have a life more in line with your values and integrity.
Together, we are blossoming a community of friendly people with the same debilitating feelings and experiences of Limerence. Here, we share with, support, and nurture each other in giving love to ourselves, perhaps for the first time.
When you’re ready to end your pain and suffering from seeking the "Other," I’m here to guide you in recognizing your true lovable self, with compassionate teaching, counseling and also private coaching.
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Oh. My. God. I cried multiple times watching this. You addressed everything I went through 🙏🏼
I have been the" unsuspecting" L.O of a fellow co-worker who disclosed to me that he had been sexually wanting me for 35 years. During those times we were both involved with significant others for a long time. We all used to go to parties together and it never ever crossed my mind that he viewed me this way. When my long term relationship ended, he knew and came in "full force". He disclosure all of his sexual fantasies he had of me and wanted to know if I felt the same. I was so horrified very angry and traumatized by knowing he hid this and pretending to be a friend to me for so long. I felt so violated . I immediately went No contact and blocked his number. I grieved what I thought was a platonic, authentic friendship. That door is shut for good.. I do not wish this on anyone. I felt his "friendship "was a lie for 35 years ...
10:23 This was me. I was the spouse who should have set limits and I didn't. She left 5 or 6 times for months at a time. I have no idea where she went each time, before she vanished the last time. My wife abandoned her life here in Missouri, abandoned her children and grandchildren, abandoned most of her possessions and moved to LA to be with some guy.
My wife is a very good actress. She pretends to be someone that she is not. Sadly, she is a full on narcissist and now is caught in limerence.
I don't think that things are going to go well for her when the new guy discovers who she is.
@@followingfenna Currently, my house is like a tomb without my wife and I'm really struggling to just get through each day. I very much enjoy your videos. They've helped me quite a bit. Thank you for making them.
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Thank you, it is really tough on them, I have been om both sides. Unfortionately.
Hi Fenna,
If you’d be interested in doing a video on “when your LO dies,” I would appreciate that.
I felt like a puppet on a string when it came to LO, I had no free will anymore it was horrible, I completely lost my own personality.
Would you mind telling how long your limerence lasted and what helped you come out of it? TY!!!
I hope you've broke free and feeling better 🙏 ❤
Thank you Fenna.
You are SO welcome Dominic
The partner/ spouse of a person that goes limerant usually has an insecure attachment style. A confident person wouldn’t put up with this.
He did this to me friendzoned me and then said I was the love of his life and back again.
He did it with 2 women.
We have a young child and if we didn’t I would’ve blocked him on everything and never looked back.
I’ve gotten so used to be on my own emotionally. It’s been brutal.
I'm so sorry. Good luck to you!
Hi...would this be applicable to someone who is having an affair where the limerence is being reciprocated by the LO or only where the limerence is one sided?
3:30 How long does it last ? - If there is NOT a relationship being established between the limerent and the person he / she is infatuated with - the limerence can last for MANY years. It ends either when they do get into a relationship (the illusions do not survivie contact with reality and everyday life it seems, even IF they stay together, the kind of emotions will change) OR if one of the persons goes No Contact the limerence will ievitably end.
Especially if the more infatuated person decides and makes an effort to go no contact. If their LO cuts them off they can secretly obsess about being dumped and remain hooked fr years and years.
Even when you are dumped, its more likely the limerence will fade, since limerence needs hope and intermitted rewards. Cutting contact, no matter how, will force the brain to rewire and slowly deattach.
If is is a limerent affair where the limerence is being reciprocated how is your partner suffering? Can you explain?
The obstacle is off course their partner but if they divorce their partner and leave their child to be with the LO are they still suffering?
hi, limerent during 25 years, today yet, i will try to quit contact, before there wasn't contact, meaby my ex is limerent too ! I have to find solution to forget and looking for therapeute to heal, talk with friends and have fun to be release, thank U.
@@followingfenna it seems to be like a black novel ! a friend propose Tantra, to heal ?
Is someone once limerant prone to repetition?
Some yes, some not. Some of us experience more episodes throughout life .