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All of what you said, especially in the first 5 minutes, hit the nail on the head. I've started to intentionally prepare myself for courtship and marriage for almost a year. I'm seeing a psychologist to deal with my poor attachment to my mother, I've improved my financial management, learning vegan cooking, developing my business, working on my health and self-care. I've also started reading books, understanding my role as a wife, etc. It's quite an exciting journey and I've definitely scared that I'm not even ready although I want a relationship. This video was really helpful and affirming. Thanks for this. I think I'll contact you for coaching at the end of the year. I'm also treating myself to a stylist at the end of the year 🤗
One thing I've learned is that celibacy doesn't automatically increase your intimacy with God. Your relationship with God requires intentions and commitment. You need to take the time to talk to God.
WHO ALL AGREES WITH ME..........STEPHAN , I WOULD MUCH RATHER LISTEN TO YOU THEN KEVIN SAMEULS, THE ANOINTING GOD PLACED ON YOUR LIFE DRAWS US TOO YOU.... NOT AWAY FROM YOU.....I LOOK FORWARD TO LISTENING TO YOU.....
I agree.Kevin Samuels is steering men in the wrong direction. Stephan gives advice from a biblical standards which ensure if we women and men follow will be of true high value.
No he's not hateful. Kevin keeps it real. Most women just dont want to hear the truth when they call into speak with him. Most women get silence when Kevin ask for their dress size and most are out of order when they explain their situation to him.
at 67 i did not think there was anyone out there for me. So I prayed for weeks. I was on an online dating app...looking at pictures. I kept going back to a pic of a man who's eyes just caught my attention. He did not look like a man I would normally be attracted to, but I couldn't get past those eyes., so I said "hello". That was 2 years ago and I continued to pray and waited for the next steps. He just followed along with what God told me to look for. Have never been happier!
Galatians 6:9 - "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." This hit my spirit as I was reading through a lot of comments. All is well folks.
I'm tired of taking the pen from God's hand and making the same mistakes. Sooooo I'll wait. I'm tired 😫...I'm getting older...about to be 37. I want to be married and have a family. God knows my desires, but I won't settle that's not in God's will. This waiting season...whew...Lord help me on this journey!!!!
Don't rush into getting married and wanting a family if God didn't give you e right man. Trust what I tell you because I been through it several times.
Girl, I'm In the same boat as you. I'll be 38 this year, still unwed and no kids. I have the desire but with each year it gets harder and I lose more hope. 😔
I love how you explain things. I can tell that you are called for your role. I pray that God continues to keep you, help you, protect you, and provide for you in Jesus name. Amen
I was out one day and a voice told me to go straight home, but of course I didn't. I got involved in an accident that caused my car to be written off, thankfully I wasn't seriously hurt. So God definitely speaks and next time I will not ignore it..
Yes patience is the key! I’ve gotten closed off from being let down so much Ive became celibate. I know that’s “ GOD” answering my prayers but it really give me anxiety sometimes not knowing what’s next. But FAITH is at play so I have no choice …. Thank u🙏🏾
@@MsBritanie73 ur absolutely right! I pray all the time and I pray for God to remove things that no longer serve me and I had a guy who I was dating and one day I just came to the realization I no longer wanted to give my body to him anymore. Something just came over me and I just abruptly ended things. I knew that wasn’t who god had for me I felt it so I did what was best for me ! ….
In the beginning I was hiding in God because the hurt was so great. Now as my healing is taking effect, I'm learning more to have God walk with me, while still being still to listen to his direction.
Sometimes I wish my future husband is watching and listening to what you saying, Your words are truly everything that both male and female need in their lives, they words of truth and words that leads us to the right path... O Lord can My husband be listening to this right now🙏😱
You better speak on "your not healing affecting your children." We dont realize the brokenness we pass to our children; the feelings of not deserving love; insecurities; and modeled poor relationships. I strongly believe thats the issue with black women not trust other black women; watching momma and auntie's relationships. I know pain/loss was an issue in how I treated my son. I was so scared he would leave or hurt me that I kept him at arm's length. I vowed to heal my abandonment issues, so I could love him effectively. One really has to take into account how they're hurts spill over into other relationships.
Waiting on GOD is definitely always best! I agree that you must prepare while you wait, which is what I’m doing. I definitely want to make sure that I’m completely ready before I enter into another relationship.
18 years no relationship. Never married never lived with anyone. I've taken all this time to work on myself - dealing with issues that impede my ability to trust I'm worthy of a relationship with a man that fits me. Im so tired of waiting....
Remember God's timing is the best so don’t give up yet! I pray you’re able to keep moving in faith 🙏❤️ and that you can receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you!
Continue listening to good counsel and do the work. I also listen to Janice Hylton. Great breakdown Stephen pray about direction. What next Lord so important.
This is all great advice Stephan. What's frustrating is when you are fully prepared (healed, ready to be vulnerable, ready to provide for the needs and desires of you future spouse, ready to be submissive, ready to take on the appropriate role in the marriage etc) and GOD still doesn't connect you to the man that He has for you. I am ready to walk away from GOD. This ridiculously long and unnecessary continued wait is painful. Thank you Stephan. 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤
I sooo feel you Lisa. I am a saved 62 year old sista who is in your same boat, just saying! We are just lamenting about the timing. I thank Jesus, who is the head of my life, but......😫😫😫😫😫! Been waiting too long 😫😫😫😫😫🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️! He knows what we need when we need it!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you Stephan. I'm really trying to hold on especially since GOD has been revealing things to me about this man since 2009. I wasn't even saved until 2010 but God did bless me with a lot of things along the way. I cannot fulfill my purpose without being married and a lot of people are going to miss their blessing if GOD doesn't help me.
I really wanted to be married and a mother since I was a little girl.. I prayed and trusted God my whole life and guess what.. still single and childless at 43 so I took matters into my own hands and adopted.. gave up on the man and I’m living my best life with my son
But did you put yourself in settings that would allow for a good man to cross your path? This is not a criticism, its an honest question as im involving myself more in church...trying to do something. But deep down i fear i wont find and husband. Ive considered adopting in my forties too if i dont have a biological child. I think you did good.
After being single for many years, at the age of 43, I also chose to adopt. Seven years on I feel so blessed and fulfilled in role as a mother. I'm still single but I'm open to God's blessings and waiting on God for that person who is meant for me.
Stephan I just fell in love with you! I'm so glad I've found your channel. As a Christian woman, I really appreciate your incorporating God's word in your work. Thank you. ❤
I feel led to say the fact that you have an ear to hear proves you are an Amazing woman! If you're not already in a relationship I know God has a man of great Valor just like you in need of your help. Love you sis!
Excellent video. Agree, waiting on God can get hard but I have come to realize that my lack of patience was my own desire to control every event and detail that happens. I have found that the best thing to do when waiting on God is to surrender it all to Him. Now, my faith lies in knowing that He will do what He promised, and God is able to do all things. Yes, agree I am no longer in the process of waiting. I am becoming my best version, healing, and preparing to receive my blessing in God's divine time, not my own time. I no longer try to rush life and events. I can just relax with the peace and understanding that whatever God has for me will certainly come in due season. My faith can move a mountain now and the process of waiting has certainly developed a better, closer relationship with God and that is certainly worth the wait ! Thank you for the video. Appreciate great content. Blessings, abundance and light always.
I like to watch the entire video before I comment but I can’t stand it anymore. I’m not even half way through and I can’t believe my ears. I think this video was made just for me ! Unbelievable!!! Thank you Stephan
Build a strong friendship with a man of interest first and foremost. You must see if his loyalty is correct and real in that regard otherwise he won't make much of a boyfriend and definitely won't be your husband king 🤴
Yeah .I did all that and saw all the red flags but still went on to have a relationship with him when he asked?Like ladies what the hell are we smoking.
Omg I just got check by God through this video!! I needed to hear this & watch it!! I was feeling so frustrated this morning & just tired of “waiting” but God has confirmed even more that He’s preparing me to receive my blessings!! I trust you God & I ask you for direction & to show me what I need to do to receive this wonderful blessing. I thank you for your love & patience with me. Thank you for loving your princess so much. Thank you Stephen for this video… you are truly using your platform for good & to help others!! Thank you! 😍🙏🏾
Facts. Waiting on God we can never go wrong. When I pray constantly before God to send me my husband I know he will come through for me. Am also helping him to send me my boaz with my description of him. He says asked and it shall be given. Seek and ye shall find. Knock and the door will be open so his words am depending on
If you ever have moments of doubt or unbelief (I guess everyone does in some way) that you are not doing what The Lord wants you to, doubt those doubts brother. Thank you so much man! The Lord has used you to help me heal from heartbreak and to step out and walk much more boldly! God bless you man! You rock!
It's frustrating when your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling😫😫😫! Some of us don't want to be like Apostle Paul. His lifestyle is not for everyone but for some it is. Just waiting on Jesus and believing on His timing!
Oh my gosh, this is alll so true. Hiding 🙈 while saying or expecting Him to provide the one He has for us. It's easy to use this when we have our guard up. Preparing ourselves is key! I feel God has been saying "Woman, what are you doing??? Go get ready!!!" He won't present our partner to us until we are ready. And if He does and we aren't ready, we will miss His blessing and His gift being given to us. PREPARATION IS KEY. ❤️❤️❤️
I've been praying so long to TMH God to send someone who speaks about him like I do. Just to hear you speak of God with such love and respect has answered my prayers. God is truly so good! 💙 #GRATEFUL #THANKFUL #BLESSED #HUMBLED
Thanks for this video, this message speaks volumes. Hard to be open when you're still hurt. I heard some important takeaways...writing a list to identify the place of hurt is a key factor to healing. In all my years of attending church no one ever said to identify the hurt. Just oh you gotta forgive. How do you forgive when the hurt and pain is so intangible, that at times it's not even explanable. I tried once to share in church but the condemnation that followed made me never to speak of if again. Sometimes its so vivid like it happened yesterday and other times its so distant that it can't be even put into words. Hardest thing is when its someone you trusted. And now your just suppose to forgive...hos is healing from throat level of pain, even possible. Knowing better and being better are two different things. Sometimes it's easier to not think or feel at all, that numbness rests in my Spirit instead of trust.
Both ! I’m waiting on God to put me in the right place at the time in order to welcome and receive love; and I’m currently hiding from all the Mr. Wrongs that surround me.
Stephan, this was amazing, amazing amazing, amazing and I pray that many women and men are listening and they will get it, because I know, I got it. Blessings my brother!
I had a man that I loved so dearly and I did everything in my power to put a smile on his face and lighten his burdens as much I could. He disappointed me so much and so many times that I couldn't take it anymore so I walked away. And I read " finding love after a heart break " it made me look into my whole relationships including the one I walked away from and made realize that I contributed to my failed relationships and I found myself...I am single and at peace finally and God is working on my heart and my life and I have never felt this whole and at peace in my entire life but my spirit tells me I am being refined for the same man I left and I am baffled. I don't know what to do and I am trying to understand why because I have met some wonderful people and I go out on dates now but I never feel that connection i had with him. Help...
Hello Stephan ! Don t know if you really read your comments or let someone read and respond for you. I just want to thank you for the such excellent and acurate content you deliver us everyday❤️🙏👌 I haven t been in a relationship for 6 years now and very glad i wasen t. Because i had to learn to be a high value women and heal certain things in my heart, so i could offer a man what i want to receive back in loving relationship. I m waiting for the best i can have and not settle for less. No intamacy for me if i can t have a connection with a man. Just by listening to your expert advice, NO NEED for help elsewhere ( without this, i would not know all i know now) . Thanks so much for sharing this content for us to learn, so greatful !😌❤️🙏🤗😌
I'm OPEN to what GOD has for me & I'm 100% WILLING to embrace MY GODLY PARTNER, COMMUNICATE & CUT OUT whatever ISN'T HEALTHY FOR OUR PURPOSE & RELATIONSHIP.
This is for me. I keep praying to God to help me with my attitude and to help me such that I can see and appreciate people for what and who they are such that I don't cling onto my fantasies of them instead of them. Oh help me dear Lord!!
Thank you Stephan 😘 I’ve been patient and waiting for three plus years now and I’m Happy and don’t mind waiting on God to help me through this process. It’s clear that my process failed me 🤷🏾♀️ so God is needed for me to get the right man and it’s time for my husband to show up 😜🤞🏽🙏🏾💪🏾🙌🏾💯
Really girl 3yrs smhhhhh i understand why you don't mind waiting. Thats not even a time compared to people waiting 10yrs plus. If you get there and i hope you don't wait won't be a word you even want to hear or use.
It's tough! While u are in the waiting room...... (& not hiding). You get to see some people ...getting married. Buying a house. Finding the job of their dreams. .....& u are waiting & waiting. It gets exhausting & frustrating. What I do know is that ... It gets easier to discard people that are just wasting ur time. & u get better at healing in areas and craziness that you wouldn't see if you'd be in the wrong relation! Sigh....
God is so lasering in on me through you, this message, and the man He has in my life right now, Stephan! Finally feel this may be the one but omgosh I’m beginning to feel the Lord is turning me inside out on things He wants to deal with and heal…all coming to surface from getting to know this amazing man. One thing I know for sure is I’m not going to allow Satan to cause me to run and hide from this one, Stephan. I’m so thankful for you. I’ve been under your teaching over a year now and the Lord has used you so greatly with me. Between you and Joyce Meyer’s book “Do It Afraid” I honestly do not believe I would be able to step into life with this current relationship. Bless you!!!
Walking and Talking with God, having a grateful heart and mindset prepares You for God's greatness. God will reveal and prepare you, but it does require work on our parts as well. Eph3:20 God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think. Thanks Stephan for your consistent Inspiration!😊💖💯💃
Yes, definitely agree with all that was shared especially about cleansing your heart. A lot of times we don’t sit with our emotions to explore what or who is triggering those feelings. We quickly dismiss them and carry on only for them to impact us later on down the road. So the goal is to sit with our emotions not to wallow in our feelings, but to acknowledge what’s taking place internally. This is part of the healing process! Great job Stephan!
For those who want to learn how to hear God, please know that you must know His word to know His voice. He will never tell you anything that is contrary to His word, but if you don't know His word, how would you know what is contrary or God's overall character. Learn His word, not just a few scriptures here and there (especially scriptures taken out of context). Because God really does guide you if you include Him.
Sooo wise, thank you for this video.. waiting is preparing ourselves for the next step. And prayers are sooo important, God protected me for some very tough situations in past. I wanted so hard that things worked with my ex husband, that when all was over, it was a blessing in disguise. I saw all the truth, thanks God always 🙏🏻💯
Absolutely love this video 🙂🙏. It is so true not to ‘box God in’ and limit yourself because God KNOWS better than we do who the right one is, the one that speaks to our heart in a way that you’ll be glad that you chose God’s best rather than what you thought best. Often qualify takes time but it will be absolutely worth it. Settling will not.
You say "be open to all possibilities" and one of the specific things you mentioned is a person with kids. Why is it so wrong that I, a woman w/o kids, desires a man with the same? Why is there such a push for those of us without kids to consider someone with kids? I want the experience of starting a family with my husband, not add to his already existing one. If he has kids, and depending on how many he has, it's not a new experience for him, even if it's with me. I feel like I'm settling or having to compromise for the sake of "having a man."
Ps. The man I’m praying for and the man I’m in love with is more like 5’2”. He said 5’5” but I don’t think so 😂 none the less I love him just as he is. No more no less 🥰
The longer you refuse to stand prepared for your very own desires, the longer you will stand alone. "To thine own self, be true". Y'all know this quote quite well 😉. I must take Stephan's advice as well and make myself more visible to the Godly man of my desire. I'm 47, so I don't have a ridiculous amount of time to be unprepared for the one thing I want the most...unconditional love and marriage 👌🤵👰💍. Miracles and Blessings to everybody...keep hope alive 👌😁
Absolutely! I've been waiting for two years. Of course, with a few mistakes on the way... Lots of struggle and suffering. But thing is, since the first day I finally broke up my last relationship, I felt ready for the next and ultimate one. Truth is God has transformed me since then in a way I simply couldn't question the "delay". Now I feel more prepared, but I can't say I'm ready, cause I know I'm still healing and growing in faith and love for Him, my most beloved. It is good to remember that, especially when it hurts. God is perfect! ❤
God is the only one that will give us the right person and it's worth the wait. It's better than going out getting the wrong person to be in our lives. God doesn't want us to put ourselves out there because it's going to put a problem for us and women always run into the wrong types of men(I don't call all men, men), keep it with God.
AMEN! Finally! Stephan, you’re so spot on, on so many levels! I have had many challenging relationships in my life, and been to 3 different therapists in the past 10 years. I have held into my past childhood traumas for too long and I’m ready to make the changes necessary to find the man God wants me to be with. I’ve been reading books, watching videos, sponging up info/things I can work on while I’m waiting. I first saw you on Lewis Howes channel. Mind Blown! The amazing questions he was asking & the answers you provided….I have gone back 2 times already to take notes. Your analogies & how you put things, SO relatable! So many lightbulb moments. With that said, thank you 🙏. You’re gifted, blessed. Thank you for sharing your blessings. Today I express gratitude, for you have given me hope. Stay blessed ♥️♥️♥️ Angela from Seattle
@Stephan, thank you for allowing the Spirit of God to speak through you, you are a blessing to me and many others who are preparing to receive. May you never lack, and may our Good Father continue to increase and enlarge your territories.
Waiting on God is not always easy, but it's worthy it... I have waited and seriously waited, and began preparing and now am prepared to receive.... in Jesus Holy Name.. 💜
Lord I'm already 33.. I made lot of mistakes and have many heartbreaks.. and now I can say I already ready for relationship.. I don't feel that I still want one anymore . I am happy now on my aloneness and peace of mind..
It’s funny, I watched this video about waiting no so much about relationships but about other breakthroughs. I’ve definitely had the whole “it is what it is mindset” and have subconsciously cancelled out the opportunity to find true love and a solid commitment after many disappointments in myself and others in different relationship dynamics. Many of the people around me are quick to say “I don’t want a relationship” but their actions always says otherwise. I’m not in denial about wanting a connection but I’m not settling for less nor will I sabotage what is meant for me just because they don’t have a specific preference I have which probably wouldn’t be a deal breaker. ❤️
100% spot on. Ever since I heard "voice"(?) "whisper" I now realize and accepted EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. I my prayers I ask questions and ask GOD to let me know what I need to do. I've gotten answers. I will attest that YOU ARE NOT GONNA "LIKE" SOME OF THOSE ANSWERS!!!!!! GOD NEVER LIES! HE'S TRUTH!!!! HE keeps saying: PATIENCE. I know I need to work on this, as I was not blessed with patience, even with myself!!!! I'll ALWAYS keep ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE for all the blessings I already have. " Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren't grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more?". ----Roy T. Bennett. 'Nuff said......
Stephan I have listened to lots of relationship advice but I feel Yahweh speaking to me every time I listen to you. I’ve even released my toxic ex from my spirit. That was a major breakthrough. Being able to hear his voice and not cringe is a big deal. #healing
So beautiful! It’s so wonderful for a woman to submit to a real leader , not a dictator! That’s not the same! A leader is taking responsibility and take care of his wife and she can flourish in this frame . And their base is always love! I pray every women may experience this and reach such a relationship 🙏🏻Amen
Thank you. I don't know how I found your videos. But I know I need them to help my healing process. My heart desires to remarry. But I need to prepare, heal and need to continue my intimacy with God. I was disobedience when he said to me "you keep disobeying me your heart will always be broken " thank you for this.
God please guide me and give me directions. You have authority and sovereignty over me. I surrender before you and lay out all of me in front of you, my sin, my heart and my desire. Teach me O Lord. 🙏
Good advice Mr.. Stephan, and it's so important to heal and Thank You I'm a believer in God , and his word says ask for wisdom, understanding and knowledge I'm believing for My Boaz
I go to these videos looking for what im lacking, so i can only guess that the man that Goes has for me with his will isnt ready. Thats gotta be it. No im not arrogant, I did a deep dive in healing & focusing on my connection with God & am following the things mentioned. I get some great advice in these, but even more reassurance. 💛
Super hard for me to be waiting but this year I am going to make the effort to walk with God and trusting him. God put marriage in my heart for a reason.
The Steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord and He is delighted in his way. I'm grateful that you are allowing God to use you in His Perfect Divine Way According to His Perfect Divine Timing for the Destiny of All of Our Lives. Peace, Love and Many Blessings to All in the Miraculous and On Time Name of Jesus. Always Love Rev. Almeta Bowman 😘❤🙏🏿
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All of what you said, especially in the first 5 minutes, hit the nail on the head. I've started to intentionally prepare myself for courtship and marriage for almost a year. I'm seeing a psychologist to deal with my poor attachment to my mother, I've improved my financial management, learning vegan cooking, developing my business, working on my health and self-care. I've also started reading books, understanding my role as a wife, etc. It's quite an exciting journey and I've definitely scared that I'm not even ready although I want a relationship. This video was really helpful and affirming. Thanks for this. I think I'll contact you for coaching at the end of the year. I'm also treating myself to a stylist at the end of the year 🤗
I'll get your book too! Thanks for the great content.
@@niki-mars955 They truly are mixed with amazing Lady. I highly recommend you do! No doupt they will resonate with you abundantly!
I Love this book, amongst all the others by Stephan. I encourage every one to invest in a copy.
@@niki-mars955 is it going out
One thing I've learned is that celibacy doesn't automatically increase your intimacy with God. Your relationship with God requires intentions and commitment. You need to take the time to talk to God.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Agree
Such an insightful statement! Thank you for sharing!
@Lesego
Thank you for assuming that I don't spend time with God. Appreciate it.
Amen
“If you are WAITING on God, you should CONSULT with God.” Thanks Stephan🙏❤️
Waiting on God is not easy but worth it💃💯❤️
🙏 absolutely!
Amen but so worth it
Not at all but...
You get a sense of peace when you let go and allow The Lord to take leadership in your life. Great message Stephan 🙌🏾
❤ 🙂 Thank you very much!
Healing is so important after a breakup or divorce 💪🏽
Amen
"I just want you all to heal." Amen.✨
Thank you, healing is definitely key!
WHO ALL AGREES WITH ME..........STEPHAN , I WOULD MUCH RATHER LISTEN TO YOU THEN KEVIN SAMEULS, THE ANOINTING GOD PLACED ON YOUR LIFE DRAWS US TOO YOU.... NOT AWAY FROM YOU.....I LOOK FORWARD TO LISTENING TO YOU.....
❤ 🙂 Thank you, I appreciate that!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks STEPH THANK YOU AND WE APPRECIATE YOU.....
I agree.Kevin Samuels is steering men in the wrong direction. Stephan gives advice from a biblical standards which ensure if we women and men follow will be of true high value.
@@Meepsavage exactly that dude is hateful and tryna teach women that they not worthy of certain men, like those men are so much better....
No he's not hateful. Kevin keeps it real. Most women just dont want to hear the truth when they call into speak with him. Most women get silence when Kevin ask for their dress size and most are out of order when they explain their situation to him.
at 67 i did not think there was anyone out there for me. So I prayed for weeks. I was on an online dating app...looking at pictures. I kept going back to a pic of a man who's eyes just caught my attention. He did not look like a man I would normally be attracted to, but I couldn't get past those eyes., so I said "hello". That was 2 years ago and I continued to pray and waited for the next steps. He just followed along with what God told me to look for. Have never been happier!
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Galatians 6:9 - "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not."
This hit my spirit as I was reading through a lot of comments. All is well folks.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that ❤
I'm tired of taking the pen from God's hand and making the same mistakes. Sooooo I'll wait. I'm tired 😫...I'm getting older...about to be 37. I want to be married and have a family. God knows my desires, but I won't settle that's not in God's will. This waiting season...whew...Lord help me on this journey!!!!
Waiting on God isn't easy but it's worth it and I pray you to be able to move in faith till you receive the one God has for you 🙏
Don't rush into getting married and wanting a family if God didn't give you e right man. Trust what I tell you because I been through it several times.
Girl, I'm In the same boat as you. I'll be 38 this year, still unwed and no kids. I have the desire but with each year it gets harder and I lose more hope. 😔
@@deidrejones6397 I'm 47 so my level of concern is much higher than yours 🤭
Same here
I love how you explain things. I can tell that you are called for your role. I pray that God continues to keep you, help you, protect you, and provide for you in Jesus name. Amen
Thank you very much 🙏
I was out one day and a voice told me to go straight home, but of course I didn't. I got involved in an accident that caused my car to be written off, thankfully I wasn't seriously hurt. So God definitely speaks and next time I will not ignore it..
Girl same thing happened to me. I should have listened.
It is always important to listen to your intuition thank you for sharing!
@@audreyderrick4972llllllllllllllllllllllllllllll
"are you waiting or are you hiding?" Why you gotta call me out like that 😆😭😂
🙂 ❤
Saaaame
I immediately felt attacked. 🤭😩🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣🤯
True😂
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Yes patience is the key! I’ve gotten closed off from being let down so much Ive became celibate. I know that’s “ GOD” answering my prayers but it really give me anxiety sometimes not knowing what’s next. But FAITH is at play so I have no choice …. Thank u🙏🏾
My pleasure ❤
Nearly 4 years. Our bodies and minds can't be given any longer to those who don't DESERVE it.
@@MsBritanie73 ur absolutely right! I pray all the time and I pray for God to remove things that no longer serve me and I had a guy who I was dating and one day I just came to the realization I no longer wanted to give my body to him anymore. Something just came over me and I just abruptly ended things. I knew that wasn’t who god had for me I felt it so I did what was best for me ! ….
In the beginning I was hiding in God because the hurt was so great. Now as my healing is taking effect, I'm learning more to have God walk with me, while still being still to listen to his direction.
Thank you for sharing I appreciate that!
I feel the same way.. 😇
" Pray for direction, not the blessing." Profound....
Absolutely!
Man, love this dude!! Real goat!! Stephan you’re such a role model and mentor for so many of us who didn’t got this from our dads!!!!
Glad I could help!
If you eat the food before it's properly prepared you might poison yourself...that statement stuck with me❤❤❤
I do feel that Stephan is such a gift from God to all of us! 🤗
Deep respect for his words of wisdom! 💖
4) Praying and talking to God for clear direction.
Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing!
I haven't had a prayer that haven't been answer! Because i kept praying!!! It does work!!!🙏
Waiting on God is not always easy but IT'S WORTH IT 👌👌👌❤
💯 Yes!
Sometimes I wish my future husband is watching and listening to what you saying, Your words are truly everything that both male and female need in their lives, they words of truth and words that leads us to the right path... O Lord can My husband be listening to this right now🙏😱
Yes
You better speak on "your not healing affecting your children." We dont realize the brokenness we pass to our children; the feelings of not deserving love; insecurities; and modeled poor relationships. I strongly believe thats the issue with black women not trust other black women; watching momma and auntie's relationships. I know pain/loss was an issue in how I treated my son. I was so scared he would leave or hurt me that I kept him at arm's length. I vowed to heal my abandonment issues, so I could love him effectively. One really has to take into account how they're hurts spill over into other relationships.
Healing is definitely key and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Oh my goodness, it really does affect your children
You always make me feel like there is hope
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Waiting on GOD is definitely always best! I agree that you must prepare while you wait, which is what I’m doing. I definitely want to make sure that I’m completely ready before I enter into another relationship.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
18 years no relationship. Never married never lived with anyone. I've taken all this time to work on myself - dealing with issues that impede my ability to trust I'm worthy of a relationship with a man that fits me. Im so tired of waiting....
That's my experience as well, Britanie! 😏
Remember God's timing is the best so don’t give up yet! I pray you’re able to keep moving in faith 🙏❤️ and that you can receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you!
Welcome to my nightmare. Tired of being tired
Continue listening to good counsel and do the work. I also listen to Janice Hylton.
Great breakdown Stephen pray about direction. What next Lord so important.
What are you doing while you wait? Are you actively waiting or passively waiting?
Lean not unto your own understanding but unto the Lord's
Absolutely!
This is all great advice Stephan. What's frustrating is when you are fully prepared (healed, ready to be vulnerable, ready to provide for the needs and desires of you future spouse, ready to be submissive, ready to take on the appropriate role in the marriage etc) and GOD still doesn't connect you to the man that He has for you. I am ready to walk away from GOD. This ridiculously long and unnecessary continued wait is painful. Thank you Stephan. 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤
God's timing is the best, kindly don’t give up! I pray you’re able to keep moving in faith 🙏❤️
I sooo feel you Lisa. I am a saved 62 year old sista who is in your same boat, just saying! We are just lamenting about the timing. I thank Jesus, who is the head of my life, but......😫😫😫😫😫! Been waiting too long 😫😫😫😫😫🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️! He knows what we need when we need it!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you Stephan. I'm really trying to hold on especially since GOD has been revealing things to me about this man since 2009. I wasn't even saved until 2010 but God did bless me with a lot of things along the way. I cannot fulfill my purpose without being married and a lot of people are going to miss their blessing if GOD doesn't help me.
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Haha at this rate the guy has made for me is in heaven😂
I really wanted to be married and a mother since I was a little girl.. I prayed and trusted God my whole life and guess what.. still single and childless at 43 so I took matters into my own hands and adopted.. gave up on the man and I’m living my best life with my son
But did you put yourself in settings that would allow for a good man to cross your path? This is not a criticism, its an honest question as im involving myself more in church...trying to do something. But deep down i fear i wont find and husband. Ive considered adopting in my forties too if i dont have a biological child. I think you did good.
After being single for many years, at the age of 43, I also chose to adopt. Seven years on I feel so blessed and fulfilled in role as a mother. I'm still single but I'm open to God's blessings and waiting on God for that person who is meant for me.
Stephan I just fell in love with you! I'm so glad I've found your channel. As a Christian woman, I really appreciate your incorporating God's word in your work. Thank you. ❤
I feel led to say the fact that you have an ear to hear proves you are an Amazing woman! If you're not already in a relationship I know God has a man of great Valor just like you in need of your help. Love you sis!
Excellent video. Agree, waiting on God can get hard but I have come to realize that my lack of patience was my own desire to control every event and detail that happens. I have found that the best thing to do when waiting on God is to surrender it all to Him. Now, my faith lies in knowing that He will do what He promised, and God is able to do all things. Yes, agree I am no longer in the process of waiting. I am becoming my best version, healing, and preparing to receive my blessing in God's divine time, not my own time. I no longer try to rush life and events. I can just relax with the peace and understanding that whatever God has for me will certainly come in due season. My faith can move a mountain now and the process of waiting has certainly developed a better, closer relationship with God and that is certainly worth the wait ! Thank you for the video. Appreciate great content. Blessings, abundance and light always.
I like to watch the entire video before I comment but I can’t stand it anymore. I’m not even half way through and I can’t believe my ears. I think this video was made just for me ! Unbelievable!!! Thank you Stephan
My pleasure ❤
Have faith... trust God's timing 😊🤭
💯 Yes!
Build a strong friendship with a man of interest first and foremost. You must see if his loyalty is correct and real in that regard otherwise he won't make much of a boyfriend and definitely won't be your husband king 🤴
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Yeah .I did all that and saw all the red flags but still went on to have a relationship with him when he asked?Like ladies what the hell are we smoking.
It's easy said and done When you don't wanna be alone and for someone to love and desiring a husband and a long-term relationship.
It definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
You're truly right about that.❤️
We always get the best, when we wait on GOD.🙏
Thank you Stephan. I’m doing the work on healing from a painful divorce. You’re guidance and information is extremely helpful. God bless you 🙏🏾
Omg I just got check by God through this video!! I needed to hear this & watch it!! I was feeling so frustrated this morning & just tired of “waiting” but God has confirmed even more that He’s preparing me to receive my blessings!! I trust you God & I ask you for direction & to show me what I need to do to receive this wonderful blessing. I thank you for your love & patience with me. Thank you for loving your princess so much. Thank you Stephen for this video… you are truly using your platform for good & to help others!! Thank you! 😍🙏🏾
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Facts. Waiting on God we can never go wrong. When I pray constantly before God to send me my husband I know he will come through for me. Am also helping him to send me my boaz with my description of him. He says asked and it shall be given. Seek and ye shall find. Knock and the door will be open so his words am depending on
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Hi love, have you met your mate?
I am not hiding, but I make conscious choices.
I don't think I will meet the man of my life in a nightclub ...
Thank you...
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If you ever have moments of doubt or unbelief (I guess everyone does in some way) that you are not doing what The Lord wants you to, doubt those doubts brother. Thank you so much man! The Lord has used you to help me heal from heartbreak and to step out and walk much more boldly! God bless you man! You rock!
It's frustrating when your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling😫😫😫! Some of us don't want to be like Apostle Paul. His lifestyle is not for everyone but for some it is. Just waiting on Jesus and believing on His timing!
Oh my gosh, this is alll so true. Hiding 🙈 while saying or expecting Him to provide the one He has for us. It's easy to use this when we have our guard up. Preparing ourselves is key! I feel God has been saying "Woman, what are you doing??? Go get ready!!!" He won't present our partner to us until we are ready. And if He does and we aren't ready, we will miss His blessing and His gift being given to us. PREPARATION IS KEY. ❤️❤️❤️
I've been praying so long to TMH God to send someone who speaks about him like I do. Just to hear you speak of God with such love and respect has answered my prayers. God is truly so good! 💙
#GRATEFUL #THANKFUL #BLESSED #HUMBLED
Amen Stephan, I agree with you! I want a Godly relationship I need to keep trusting and waiting on the LORD
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Thanks for this video, this message speaks volumes. Hard to be open when you're still hurt. I heard some important takeaways...writing a list to identify the place of hurt is a key factor to healing. In all my years of attending church no one ever said to identify the hurt. Just oh you gotta forgive. How do you forgive when the hurt and pain is so intangible, that at times it's not even explanable. I tried once to share in church but the condemnation that followed made me never to speak of if again. Sometimes its so vivid like it happened yesterday and other times its so distant that it can't be even put into words. Hardest thing is when its someone you trusted. And now your just suppose to forgive...hos is healing from throat level of pain, even possible. Knowing better and being better are two different things. Sometimes it's easier to not think or feel at all, that numbness rests in my Spirit instead of trust.
Both ! I’m waiting on God to put me in the right place at the time in order to welcome and receive love; and I’m currently hiding from all the Mr. Wrongs that surround me.
Yes, God is a matchmaker.and whatever the lord does will be permanent.
Preach , preacher you better say so. Hallelujah hallelujah. OMG God is so awesome !!
❤ 🙂 thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
You have to be patient I have been waiting 4 plus years now 🤷🏾♀️
You got this ❤ I pray you're able to keep moving in faith 🙏
Stephan, this was amazing, amazing amazing, amazing and I pray that many women and men are listening and they will get it, because I know, I got it.
Blessings my brother!
I need to communicate better with persons because sometimes my moody dedicate my mouth.
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best!
I had a man that I loved so dearly and I did everything in my power to put a smile on his face and lighten his burdens as much I could. He disappointed me so much and so many times that I couldn't take it anymore so I walked away. And I read " finding love after a heart break " it made me look into my whole relationships including the one I walked away from and made realize that I contributed to my failed relationships and I found myself...I am single and at peace finally and God is working on my heart and my life and I have never felt this whole and at peace in my entire life but my spirit tells me I am being refined for the same man I left and I am baffled. I don't know what to do and I am trying to understand why because I have met some wonderful people and I go out on dates now but I never feel that connection i had with him. Help...
Hello Stephan ! Don t know if you really read your comments or let someone read and respond for you. I just want to thank you for the such excellent and acurate content you deliver us everyday❤️🙏👌 I haven t been in a relationship for 6 years now and very glad i wasen t. Because i had to learn to be a high value women and heal certain things in my heart, so i could offer a man what i want to receive back in loving relationship. I m waiting for the best i can have and not settle for less. No intamacy for me if i can t have a connection with a man. Just by listening to your expert advice, NO NEED for help elsewhere ( without this, i would not know all i know now) . Thanks so much for sharing this content for us to learn, so greatful !😌❤️🙏🤗😌
I'm OPEN to what GOD has for me &
I'm 100% WILLING to embrace MY GODLY PARTNER, COMMUNICATE &
CUT OUT whatever ISN'T HEALTHY FOR OUR PURPOSE & RELATIONSHIP.
This is for me.
I keep praying to God to help me with my attitude and to help me such that I can see and appreciate people for what and who they are such that I don't cling onto my fantasies of them instead of them.
Oh help me dear Lord!!
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Thank you Stephan 😘 I’ve been patient and waiting for three plus years now and I’m Happy and don’t mind waiting on God to help me through this process. It’s clear that my process failed me 🤷🏾♀️ so God is needed for me to get the right man and it’s time for my husband to show up 😜🤞🏽🙏🏾💪🏾🙌🏾💯
Thank you or sharing, I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🙏🏾❤️💯
Really girl 3yrs smhhhhh i understand why you don't mind waiting. Thats not even a time compared to people waiting 10yrs plus. If you get there and i hope you don't wait won't be a word you even want to hear or use.
Thank you so much for these videos, just been binge-watching them the whole day today. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for just caring!
Be grateful for the little things So God will Bless you with Much Greater things 🙏
You're absolutely right!
It's tough! While u are in the waiting room...... (& not hiding). You get to see some people ...getting married. Buying a house. Finding the job of their dreams. .....& u are waiting & waiting. It gets exhausting & frustrating.
What I do know is that ... It gets easier to discard people that are just wasting ur time. & u get better at healing in areas and craziness that you wouldn't see if you'd be in the wrong relation! Sigh....
Wow! You are so on point I’m letting YAH prepare me for my future soulmate he has for me this was so on point and I felt it thank you🙏❤️
My pleasure ❤
I love how genuine you are Mr. Stephan. You are a great mentor/coach. Your content is very informative and helpful.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
God is so lasering in on me through you, this message, and the man He has in my life right now, Stephan! Finally feel this may be the one but omgosh I’m beginning to feel the Lord is turning me inside out on things He wants to deal with and heal…all coming to surface from getting to know this amazing man. One thing I know for sure is I’m not going to allow Satan to cause me to run and hide from this one, Stephan. I’m so thankful for you. I’ve been under your teaching over a year now and the Lord has used you so greatly with me. Between you and Joyce Meyer’s book “Do It Afraid” I honestly do not believe I would be able to step into life with this current relationship. Bless you!!!
I forgive myself, yes Lord I pray !! 🎚📡🌎🌅👣🙏🛍👑
I really enjoy all of your videos, but this one is so good. Seeking God is always a great way to go. Stop, seek, ask and listen.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Walking and Talking with God, having a grateful heart and mindset prepares You for God's greatness. God will reveal and prepare you, but it does require work on our parts as well. Eph3:20 God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think. Thanks Stephan for your consistent Inspiration!😊💖💯💃
My pleasure ❤
Yes, definitely agree with all that was shared especially about cleansing your heart. A lot of times we don’t sit with our emotions to explore what or who is triggering those feelings. We quickly dismiss them and carry on only for them to impact us later on down the road. So the goal is to sit with our emotions not to wallow in our feelings, but to acknowledge what’s taking place internally. This is part of the healing process! Great job Stephan!
2) Preparing...very true. Decided recently to not hide.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
For those who want to learn how to hear God, please know that you must know His word to know His voice. He will never tell you anything that is contrary to His word, but if you don't know His word, how would you know what is contrary or God's overall character. Learn His word, not just a few scriptures here and there (especially scriptures taken out of context). Because God really does guide you if you include Him.
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Please make the video on hearing God clearly. Thank u Stephan 4 your guidance.
Sooo wise, thank you for this video.. waiting is preparing ourselves for the next step. And prayers are sooo important, God protected me for some very tough situations in past. I wanted so hard that things worked with my ex husband, that when all was over, it was a blessing in disguise. I saw all the truth, thanks God always 🙏🏻💯
Thank you for sharing sometimes a breakup is a blessing in disguise!
Absolutely love this video 🙂🙏. It is so true not to ‘box God in’ and limit yourself because God KNOWS better than we do who the right one is, the one that speaks to our heart in a way that you’ll be glad that you chose God’s best rather than what you thought best. Often qualify takes time but it will be absolutely worth it. Settling will not.
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Jeremiah 29:11 for I know the plans I have for you plans to prosper you and not to harm you to give you hope and a future
You say "be open to all possibilities" and one of the specific things you mentioned is a person with kids. Why is it so wrong that I, a woman w/o kids, desires a man with the same? Why is there such a push for those of us without kids to consider someone with kids? I want the experience of starting a family with my husband, not add to his already existing one. If he has kids, and depending on how many he has, it's not a new experience for him, even if it's with me. I feel like I'm settling or having to compromise for the sake of "having a man."
I have none and opened myself to a man with kids, was even buying them things and spending time with them as if they were my own and still got hurt.
Ps. The man I’m praying for and the man I’m in love with is more like 5’2”. He said 5’5” but I don’t think so 😂 none the less I love him just as he is. No more no less 🥰
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The longer you refuse to stand prepared for your very own desires, the longer you will stand alone. "To thine own self, be true". Y'all know this quote quite well 😉. I must take Stephan's advice as well and make myself more visible to the Godly man of my desire. I'm 47, so I don't have a ridiculous amount of time to be unprepared for the one thing I want the most...unconditional love and marriage 👌🤵👰💍. Miracles and Blessings to everybody...keep hope alive 👌😁
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All 7 points can stand alone on their own merits or be used together but for me it has to be No 4 🙌🏽
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Absolutely! I've been waiting for two years. Of course, with a few mistakes on the way... Lots of struggle and suffering. But thing is, since the first day I finally broke up my last relationship, I felt ready for the next and ultimate one. Truth is God has transformed me since then in a way I simply couldn't question the "delay". Now I feel more prepared, but I can't say I'm ready, cause I know I'm still healing and growing in faith and love for Him, my most beloved. It is good to remember that, especially when it hurts. God is perfect! ❤
God is the only one that will give us the right person and it's worth the wait. It's better than going out getting the wrong person to be in our lives. God doesn't want us to put ourselves out there because it's going to put a problem for us and women always run into the wrong types of men(I don't call all men, men), keep it with God.
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Have faith and trust God's timing🙏
AMEN! Finally! Stephan, you’re so spot on, on so many levels! I have had many challenging relationships in my life, and been to 3 different therapists in the past 10 years. I have held into my past childhood traumas for too long and I’m ready to make the changes necessary to find the man God wants me to be with. I’ve been reading books, watching videos, sponging up info/things I can work on while I’m waiting. I first saw you on Lewis Howes channel. Mind Blown! The amazing questions he was asking & the answers you provided….I have gone back 2 times already to take notes. Your analogies & how you put things, SO relatable! So many lightbulb moments. With that said, thank you 🙏. You’re gifted, blessed. Thank you for sharing your blessings. Today I express gratitude, for you have given me hope. Stay blessed ♥️♥️♥️ Angela from Seattle
@Stephan, thank you for allowing the Spirit of God to speak through you, you are a blessing to me and many others who are preparing to receive. May you never lack, and may our Good Father continue to increase and enlarge your territories.
Waiting on God is not always easy, but it's worthy it...
I have waited and seriously waited, and began preparing and now am prepared to receive.... in Jesus Holy Name.. 💜
This came at the right time and I will admit I haven’t prepared just hiding behind God.
That’s the word: Character! It forms living through different life experiences
Lord I'm already 33.. I made lot of mistakes and have many heartbreaks.. and now I can say I already ready for relationship.. I don't feel that I still want one anymore . I am happy now on my aloneness and peace of mind..
That's true, I'm hiding to the people because of my health problem. But now even if I have a health problem I will choose to shine to everyone 💖
It’s funny, I watched this video about waiting no so much about relationships but about other breakthroughs. I’ve definitely had the whole “it is what it is mindset” and have subconsciously cancelled out the opportunity to find true love and a solid commitment after many disappointments in myself and others in different relationship dynamics. Many of the people around me are quick to say “I don’t want a relationship” but their actions always says otherwise. I’m not in denial about wanting a connection but I’m not settling for less nor will I sabotage what is meant for me just because they don’t have a specific preference I have which probably wouldn’t be a deal breaker. ❤️
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100% spot on. Ever since I heard "voice"(?) "whisper" I now realize and accepted EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. I my prayers I ask questions and ask GOD to let me know what I need to do. I've gotten answers. I will attest that YOU ARE NOT GONNA "LIKE" SOME OF THOSE ANSWERS!!!!!! GOD NEVER LIES! HE'S TRUTH!!!! HE keeps saying: PATIENCE. I know I need to work on this, as I was not blessed with patience, even with myself!!!! I'll ALWAYS keep ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE for all the blessings I already have. " Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren't grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more?". ----Roy T. Bennett. 'Nuff said......
This is so true; I can't think about no one else who can give you these inspiring words but God! They are so timely.
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Stephan I have listened to lots of relationship advice but I feel Yahweh speaking to me every time I listen to you. I’ve even released my toxic ex from my spirit. That was a major breakthrough. Being able to hear his voice and not cringe is a big deal. #healing
So beautiful! It’s so wonderful for a woman to submit to a real leader , not a dictator! That’s not the same! A leader is taking responsibility and take care of his wife and she can flourish in this frame . And their base is always love! I pray every women may experience this and reach such a relationship 🙏🏻Amen
Thank you. I don't know how I found your videos. But I know I need them to help my healing process. My heart desires to remarry. But I need to prepare, heal and need to continue my intimacy with God. I was disobedience when he said to me "you keep disobeying me your heart will always be broken " thank you for this.
God please guide me and give me directions. You have authority and sovereignty over me. I surrender before you and lay out all of me in front of you, my sin, my heart and my desire. Teach me O Lord. 🙏
Good advice Mr.. Stephan, and it's so important to heal and Thank You I'm a believer in God , and his word says ask for wisdom, understanding and knowledge I'm believing for My Boaz
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I go to these videos looking for what im lacking, so i can only guess that the man that Goes has for me with his will isnt ready. Thats gotta be it. No im not arrogant, I did a deep dive in healing & focusing on my connection with God & am following the things mentioned. I get some great advice in these, but even more reassurance. 💛
Super hard for me to be waiting but this year I am going to make the effort to walk with God and trusting him. God put marriage in my heart for a reason.
The Steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord and He is delighted in his way. I'm grateful that you are allowing God to use you in His Perfect Divine Way According to His Perfect Divine Timing for the Destiny of All of Our Lives. Peace, Love and Many Blessings to All in the Miraculous and On Time Name of Jesus.
Always Love
Rev. Almeta Bowman
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