Stop obsessing over marriage
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- This is your sign to stop obsessing over and idolizing the idea of marriage! I'm answering a question today related to marriage being an idol and I share how marriage was an idol in my life and how I dealt with it!
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I'm not a Christian nor religious but it's just the strangest thing. I feel like God is speaking through you to me. I can just feel it in my heart that I was supposed to receive this video, because I've wanted marriage my entire life, but have lost myself in the process of dating and seeing guys, and I just feel exhausted. I grew up in Sweden where we're not very religious but I feel so deeply that I need to surrender to self-love and abstinence. Thank you for your message
Super exciting that you can sense the Father pursing you! Praying that you may continue to allow God to reveal himself to you more and more.
Knowing God is about intimacy and relationship with Him, not necessarily just being religious.
Glad that Sarah’s video found you🙏🏽♥️
Wow what a wonderful message!! May the Holy Spirit keep wooing your heart!
Im Christian in Russia, im single because marriage is a sin, online d4t!ng is a sin, and im 15.
2 years later…this video is blessing me. I’m so tired of desiring. Exhausted is definitely the word.
I'm probably the only guy that watches your channel but this is a really helpful video for me! Thanks for putting all of the work into such a well made video!
Me too! We can learn so much!
There are probably a few more guys watching but not commenting ! 😆
Aw thank you so much! That means a lot and I always pray whoever is supposed to find these videos will so praise the lord 🥰🙏
^^ Super helpful!
@@NowSoar 👋
M also a guy, and i loved to watch videos on this channel, latest one of coffee machine was great. 👍
Love y'all from india 🇮🇳
Praise jesus 🙏
The exact video I needed today. I've been feeling a lot anxiety about this recently. I'm a singly guy who is tired of being single.
Thank you so much for this! I have been guilty of this, especially as I'm 32 with no romantic prospects. Seeing pretty much everyone else around me find themselves in relationships and marriage can send me on a downward spiral of ovethinking and comparison. I try to figure out the formula that everyone else used to be successful and compare to what I could be doing wrong and why it hasn't happened for me yet. I've exhausted my headspace doing this and it only makes me feel worse. I think for me, my obsession stems from fear rather than idolization. Worries of getting old, etc. In any case, I need to stay hopeful and reminded of the fact that God indeed does want the best for me, even if it's taking longer to receive my desires. Thank you so much for this encouraging video 💕
Hi Emily thanks so much for your message, forsure so many people feel this false pressure from the world to be married or reach certain milestones by a specific age and it can really get to us :/ thankfully God’s plans and timing are above the false expectations we receive from society ☺️💕 I’m happy you enjoyed this video bless you!
Hey Emily! I completely resonate with everything you have said. I will be 31 in June and have truly struggled with the same thing, trying to figure out why I have to wait while everyone (especially people from church in their early/mid 20's) is getting married. It has been HARD, to say the least, but I am often reminded that God is sooo good, he directs our path and delights in the details of our lives. It isn't easy but this video was super helpful because it's such a reminder to just continue to be in fellowship with God and lay it all at his feet. We got this!!
@@DebFap Check your natal chart. You will need your date and time of birth. Look at the 7th house (of love and relationships). Look for the planet Saturn (That's where Satan got his name from) but I digress, look at where he is sitting. If he is sitting in the 7th house you will most likely be married from 30-35+. The benefit of this is that the relationships last much longer because you would have been 'tested' throughout your 20's. People with this placement can marry younger but they will be to men that 'test' your spirit like the devil and it will most likely divorce by 30 anyway. This is why studies show that women who get married from 30 are least likely to be divorced than women who marry under the age of 25 and are many times back on the market again by 30. This isnt a coincidence. It's also what some Indians use to plan and look at marriage. The truth is, not everyone is going to get married and no one is going to help. You must help yourself sometimes by knowing 'thy self'. Its good to have wider knowledge into human kind and history as these texts were studied long before religion was. The problem with religion is that it can be too restricted and judgemental. Often making people feel inadequate for things they have no control over and for simply being human. Theres no reason to feel soo low about this. Its terrible
This comment has helped me. Many thanks.
@@AmberDennis001 Exactly! And she wasn't no virgin. I bet you she jumped from one relationship to another!
I pray God blesses me with someone good. As I'm writing this I hear my dad threatening to punch my mom. I've lived my whole life seeing my parents like this. It's hard sometimes. I love my parents though and I pray for them
I am praying for you! And I’m praying for your parents, too.
@@user-st4mj4to3h thank you. May God repay you tremendously in heaven and on earth 💛
This hits home because I just turned 38 and am not married or have children. I feel like I'm losing hope and feel like I'm going to be alone forever. Meanwhile, it feels like everyone younger than me is married and everyone who is in a Godly marriage is always younger.
Awww hugs
you are the bridegrooms wife in the marriage, the Lord is the bridegroom and the lover of you lol, i desire that this blesses you
@@valerieshinia8526 Thank you so much! A hug always helps!
@@1milebehind Thank you so much! It does! I need to remember this!
@@blueeyedgirl9637 life is funny me I am asingle mom of a 8year old and at times I wish I could give her to afamily who would give her abetter life.
Thank you for this. I am so deep in idolization that I didn't even realise it until I saw this video. Thank you so much for your obedience to God, you have really helped me through this journey of singleness (I started watching your channel last year). May God continue to use you, bless you and protect you.
Thanks so much for sharing I’m so happy this spoke to you and thank you for your support it means so much! 😍💕🙏
Thank you so much for talking through this subject! I will be turning 60 this year and I believe God told me in 2015 that I will be married again someday. I sometimes get lonely since being widowed 18 years ago. It does take quite a discipline to tear down any Idol stronghold of a coming mate! It is a process of resisting that spirit of loneliness when the enemy wants to remind us that we are getting older & it has been a long time. Giving it all back to God is the only way.
Thank you, Connie, for sharing with us!! Sarah and I will be praying and believing you will be married again!! We praise Jesus for what He is doing and will continue to do!! God bless you!! ✝️🤗
Emphasis on “ felt”. Just remember your feelings are not scripture. Move forward serving the Lord . May the Lord bless you .
I just turned fifty and no longer desire a husband. I missed out on the good parts. Let someone else play nurse to that "sweet widower"--AKA doddering, senile octogenarian--I'm supposed to find irresistible. These geriatric "prizes" just feel entitled to a nurse with a purse on the way to the hearse after their wives die. Who needs these geezers? No love lost on either side. It irritates me how church folk depict this scenario as a beautiful romance and "God's best FOR YOU." Not for themselves, but a loser like me who should shed tears of joy and pretend to fall madly in love with some shriveled mummy who is not just loathsome to behold but purely utilitarian in his desires.
The best FOR ME--according to those who've enjoyed many years together with children--is a few rotting scraps left over by some other woman. Not a consolation prize. A booby prize. No thanks.
Men didn't want me when I was young. The guys in youth groups and Bible college completely ignored me. I cried myself to sleep constantly and almost developed an eating disorder. I prayed and waited. Till I decided Who cares? It's already too late. My best years are behind me and so are theirs.
Let them change their own diapers now. Or find some other nurse with a purse on their way to the hearse.
My issue is I’ve been praying for twelve years for a spouse. I’ve never been in a serious relationship in my life. I’ve kept myself for my husband. I’m not dating but rather waiting on God’s perfect match but I really want a spouse. Maybe it’s idolatry or maybe it’s the deep desire that Abraham had for a son. I know it won’t complete me but it’s something I deeply want and In the past 12 years I have been everywhere spiritually and emotionally. I’ve been so spiritually content and healthy I forgot my desire, I’ve been so depressed all I could think about was how forgotten by God I felt. Ive been in places of apathy where I didn’t even want it even though subconsciously I’m sure I still did and still no spouse. Sometimes testimonies like this are encouraging but sometimes they incite frustration because I’m like dang they learned the lesson and got the blessing so fast but somehow I’m still here. In any case! I genuinely appreciate your channel it has been helping me all
Day since I found it
Likewise.
I have done like you and yet I watch that all marriages I see are being accomplished in people who didn’t keep to God’s laws. I am so happy that many people turn around and come to God and they find partners…but for the Son who didn’t leave the house, go wild, and come home….why does it seem so difficult for us? Sometimes we need to purify our motives. I know God wants me to not see following God as an exchange. To not think of doing what’s right as a payment for things. I do what’s right because it’s right and good regardless of what happens. We’re probably both really well studied and understanding of marriage. But we need to release an “ideal marriage” as some sort of reward. Our current reward is knowing God is happy with us, knowing when we do get married, we have the character and practice, we have realistic thoughts about it, and we will be wholly blessable by God in our union. God be with you as you continue. Keep filled up and living your own life.
Marriage is not proof that God loves you or finds you worthy. His Son's death on the cross is. He already loves you and can use you just the way you are.
Have you considered dating? That’s how you would find the man God has for you. Make yourself present to men. That’s my opinion
Thank you for this video. Everything you just said Im going through right now. Don't obsess over marriage. Its one thing to have the desire for it but we have to be totally satisfied with Christ and Christ alone, then he will give us the desires of our heart. Trust in Gods timing for everything.
Sarah, God has really blessed you with the ability to communicate so clearly. Your videos are short and to the point; yet they’re incredibly powerful and even when you have a tangent, it’s needed and fits so well to your message. I am sure you would have to edit here and there but your completed message always impresses me and I always take something away that helps me with my walk with God. Thank you for your hard work and I thank God for blessing you with this gift that is definitely helping to build up His church!
Thank you so much Nadine that means a lot I feel really encouraged 🥰💕 so happy you’re enjoying the videos and that God can speak to you through them 🙏 bless you
Thank you ❤❤
Just went through a major heartbreak. We were dating for 2.5 years.. And I did idolize the relationship. So I need to grow closer to God and heal from this pain and put all my faith and trust in Him for my desire to get married one day. 🙏🏻
When I saw this I knew I needed to listen. I think I am under too much pressure especially because I am at an age where everyone around me feels I should be married and it really got into me. This has been such an eye opener. Thank you so much Sarah. Much love from Kenya. God bless
Hi Judy I’m so happy this message spoke to you! So true there’s a lot of false pressure we receive from the world but God’s timing is the only thing that matters 🥰 bless you!
It's not their life
The problem I have with churches idolizing marriage is. If a person try’s their best not too be single they’ll be left feeling like they not good enough for that good thing that’s promoted a lot in family discussions
Wow I actually relate so much with your story I was also not one who aspired to marriage for the same reasons until I started obsessing over what seemed like a revelation of my spouse and unfortunately it was someone I know and the face was revealed so I did spiral down that road of obsessing over it. I almost skipped this video but I’m glad I watched it because it will help in my current situation it’s also been 3 months now so it’s time to let go and trust God😊
all i have to say is ;i agree ,thank you for this. i’m working on this!ive idolized men and marriage my whole life.
Thank you I needed this... I know I am only 24 but I know one day I would love to be married. I am trying to find a balance of wanting a spouse, but trusting in the Lord.
I’m 24 too and I know the feeling. It’s definitely not easy these days, but God wants us first. I think of it like our Father wants our undivided attention before He gives us away to someone. I don’t know if you’re single, but when you’re single you have time to spend with God. Obviously make time for Him when you get married, but when you’re married you have other responsibilities so it does cut back on your availability. Let’s believe and wait in faith while focusing on our Father!
@@taygray6424 I understand you completely. Ever since I became single since the breakup it's been hard because I realize now how I gave all my attention to that relationship and it pulled me away from God. Now taking a step back and I do my best to come closer to God, talking to Him, being thankful for the small things in life, and even meeting people who are closer to him than I am.
I feel called out with this video hahaha. Alright alright. I’ll stop. ❤️
LOL that’s so funny 😂💕🙏
Thank you for this video Sarah, something I needed to hear. An old friend contacted me a few days ago and told me that she was getting married after having dated for 5 months and immediately my heart was ecstatic for her, but at the same time I felt some pain, “why couldn’t that be me?”. I jokingly said that God will need to send my future husband to my front door and he must tell me that he’s the one 😂😂. Joking aside, I delved into why I felt that way and I recall wanting to get married since my early 20’s and it never happened. Many times over and over again I would commit it to the Lord and then ‘take’ it back into my own hands and like you say, obsess about it. I laid it at the Lords feet about 6 months ago, or so I thought, until the conversation with my friend. And I just realized after watching your video that I haven’t let it completely go and left it at His feet. Very interesting that you said that the obsession, whatever it is, is showing a lack of faith/trust in the Lord…never heard it like that before-WOW. My life’s verse since age 14 has been Jeremiah 29:11, and I was gently reminded tonight by your video that the Lord is the One who I need to focus on continuously and if it be His will, He will bring my spouse to me.
God bless you for your obedience🙏🏻
PS: the courses that you spoke about, where would I find that please?
Hi thanks so much for sharing! 💕 I’m sure a lot of people can relate to your situation especially with surrendering it and picking it back up again! I’m happy that this video could speak to you praise the Lord 🥰 and yes in regards to the program the link is in the description but I’ll put it here as well if you have any questions you can send me an email: sarah@nowbloom.life and here is the site to enrol!
www.nowbloomacademy.com
@Kierstin Schwarz thank you. May God keep you close as you seek His will and heart for your life. God bless you. Jeremiah 33:3
I can totally relate to your story my dear. Exact same thing happened to me few days ago but Sarah is right. We need to learn to surrender and let go everything in His hands. I know is very difficult when years keep passing by. I will remember you in my prayers too, sister, as I know how painful it is.
@@SicilianCuisine thank you, I truly appreciate it. God bless you
Yes, you have highlighted the Trust factor in all of this. I think I get so nervous surrendering it. I always put it down and then pick it up back off of Gods Alter… 🤦🏽♀️ before he’s even started working on it. I have been single for 15 years. I never lived with a man before. I know a lot of women who have live in boyfriend. But I just have to trust that God has a better option for me.
A problem I see that’s not discussed is how do we feel the love of God? If it’s really true that his love is greater, why am I on my knees begging him to remove my desire for marriage and trying to feel his presence?!?!? I feel nothing while reading scripture, nor during worship. I just want him to talk to me and I only get radio silence. 😡😡😡😡 it doesn’t help that all these churches make long standing ovations anytime someone gets engaged, marries, or has another kid. Where’s the ovation for the people honoring God in singleness for decades?? All these people say singleness is just as good as marriage (or better) but they sure don’t believe it. All these churches, offer marriage counseling groups, marriage fellowship nights, free childcare, but when you ask about singles group they’re like “huh? Nah we don’t need that”.
Thank you so much! I kept seeing a video of yours and finally going to watch it. I think God wanted me to watch this. I realized I was idolizing marriage too much and am idolizing dating/relationships. I hope that I can meet my future husband soon to become friends with him and go on dates and enjoy that journey. However, I need to put God first, get a job, serve more, learn more about my Catholic faith and prepare to be a wife for I am lacking. Trying to level up on cooking lol Going to the Sacrament of Reconciliation soon to confess my sins. Praying for all the singles out there it's a hard cross to carry, for myself included 🙏❤💕
Wow, the transition of your desires or acknowledgement of marriage is similar to me. He is definitely teaching me to lean into His comfort and affirmation more and more and it's helping all my relationships.
It's like I'm loving people from a place of overflow rather than need.
Dedicating my mind, desires and hopes to the One who already made us complete in Chirst!
That bit on surrendering to the process and the preparation really resonates! Thanks for that major take away!
God bless you for this ma’am… I needed to hear this🥹❤️
Yes, I put my marriage on the altar. I put it in Your hands Lord.
I watched this twice, just what i needed..we shouldnt obssesed with anything,its almost like new age teachings than..trust the lord and wait for best,btw you look like young Demi Moore,love ur channel
I’m so happy God showed me your channel. I needed this video. It feels hard to let go, but I am very tired of trying to control something that’s out of my control
Thank you. Be a loyal helper.
Thank you :)
This sounds exactly like me. 100%. It’s crazy!!! 😳. He’s working on me - I feel it!
It’s hard. I was in preparation stage last year.. felt like I heard God say I was going to meet my husband soon, month or so later, met a great guy I fell in love with. I then started messing everything up because I started messing with someone else as if I needed validation or something. Since that fell apart and I prayed for God to fix it. Nothing happened but I now feel like I don’t marriage anymore. My heart just breaks now and I know I desire to have a marriage that honors God
Thanks for sharing!! God is not done with you, He is just preparing you for your Godly-husband! Keep the faith, Jesus is always for you and with you! From Adam
@@NowBloom this is wonderful confirmation! Thank you so much for this!
I am very grateful seeing this video. 🙏
Amazing so happy to hear that 💕🙏
The Lord definitely put you in my path 🤍
You have no idea how much I need this. Thank you. 💙
Thank you so much for this! 🙏🏽 I’ve been stuck in this mindset that I’ll forever be bound to this obsession and that I’ll never be able to lay it on the altar… and that bc of that I will forever remain single. This video is giving me new perspective and hope that I too can overcome this idol!
This video was like a conviction to me, because I've probably been putting pressure on my bf because I've been obsessed with getting married. I keep thinking I'm trusting, but then try to take control and you can't do both. Thanks for your message.
I am convinced that I was led to this channel. This is exactly what I needed to hear in this season.
Thank you Sarah.
I'm glad that I'm not the only one😭♥️
I always enjoy your videos and I can relate to this topic. Gods really helped to lay it back down. I also encourage anyone that if you pick it back up and it becomes and idol lay it down as many times as needed. Gods with us all ladies!
Thank you so much! Yes so true that’s really good advice we can always lay it back down 🙏💕
Thank you so much for this video. I just decided to stop overthinking about my marriage and then I saw your video. I will surrender it all to Jesus and at the right time, I know He will make it possible.
Thank you I am ready to let it go and NOT obsess over it cutting down on socials and more of my purpose work and Gods word
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am so encouraged and ready to walk through this season of being single, knowing that I will be better prepared for who God has planned for me. Really grateful to have stumbled upon your channel!!! Love from Toronto ❤️
Very much needed this, thank you Sarah
Thanks so much for this video I too was obsessing and didn't realize it it's crazy when God gives you a word or insight about a matter and like a child waiting we get excited! But truth is it does hurt mentally and can push us away from God due to doubt etc when we do not see the promise occurring on our lives it's very easy to fall on this I felt like you maybe a husband will hinder my relationship with God I got nervous and scared asked God to take my desire away bc truth is I don't want my relationship with God to suffer I was willing to let that go it's like it's marriage or you God and I choose God I even Asked God to marry me and be my husband 😂😂😂 cause whew
Thank you for asking God that whoever hears this message may God speak to them through it.
This video really touched my heart and the message of God was delivered.
Thank you for letting yourself be used by God.
Thank you, Sarah. I found this to be really meaningful advice by way of testimony. This goes so much more of a long way than merely preaching or teaching. To teach by example. Was truly edified by what you shared. God bless you. Victor.
Thank you so much Victor 🙏 that means a lot 😊
Dear sister, thank you so much for this very helpful and encouraging video! X
Sarah!! As always, this is SO good. God should always remain #1 in all seasons and stages of our live. And to develop that strength of acknowledgment in our singleness is a help for the future. Thank you for this message and wisdom. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much Diana! Always appreciate your support! 😍💕🙏
So helpful! Praise be to God for this wisdom.
Great video! This was such an important reminder during any season ❤️
I absolutely love your videos, speaks to me on so many levels in my present journey as a single Christian woman . Keep going , God bless you
Amen to all of this!!!!!!
This video is precious! Thank you for posting it! 💕
Im a muslim, loved everything that you said tysm! ❤
Woow. Thank you so much. I am muslim and I actually do what you say. We have a lot of verses about surrender in our Holy Quran book.
Thanks again ❤
I am almost over 40 yo and single...not easy for me not to be focus marriage ! 😔
Hugs
This video is such a blessing. It's a word that I've needed❤️
That’s awesome thank you for sharing 🥰💕🙏
Exactly what I needed to hear not for a spouse but for my future and for my finances. Thanks
this video was so awesome! thanks. I was wondering if you could do a video on deliverance and your thoughts about it?
Thanks so much! Yes that’s a great topic that’s actually been on my heart lately I would love to talk about it 🥰
Amen ❤️🩸✝️
I didn't know I needed this. Thank you. Bless!!❤❤🤚🤚
Amazing praise the lord 🥰🥰
I am so glad that i found your channel. Exactly what i need now. Love your contents. Keep it up and God bless✨
I appreciate this video. I’ve been struggling with this. I know I’ve pressure my bf. We’ve been together for way to long - I think and still not married. I’ve been trying to give it to God but I’ve been struggling with leaving it all to Him. I’m 35 and all I keep thinking is what I’m suppose to be doing. I’ve been working on my relationship with God and focusing on God and myself. It’s been a struggle.
Amen, this video is a timely blessing ❤️
Thank you so much I’m happy you enjoyed it 🥰💕
I feel like I am a lot like you in how I think!
Weird my season of loneliness is during this past fall and winter and I’m under this impression that things will turn around in spring/summer.
God spoke to me through this video! Praise Him!! God is Good and Holy!
I love it hereeee ❤️.
You're filled with so much wisdom.
This came right on time. Thank you Lord Jesus.
I really need this! Im at my mid 30’s and cant help to feel the pressure sometimes. But Im so glad I across to ur vlogs 😊 Ive been watching almost all of ur vlogs and its very helpful for me esp with my walk with God and in times of waiting 💙 May God continue to use to bless more people 🙏🏻
Same Mary, Im 32 next year and its hard but God will come through for us 🙏🏽❤️💡
@@nicolacooke7681 Amen! Lets claim that
I truly belive I have surrendered (but maybe I'm kidding myself idk lol) but I can admit I am struggling with reverting to the default setting I ran on for so long of never wanting to be married due to never having marriage as part of my reality growing up. But now that God has healed me from that and exposed my true desire of wanting marriage at the age of 25 but only really deciding I do want it, at the age of 32 instead of constantly wavering. I'm struggling with maintaining a balance of not idolizing marriage; checking my motives; too much excitement and just giving up. It's a really hard balancing act.
Thank you for this, Sarah! Thank you for sharing your story. Really helped me realise and word my current feelings. 🥰
This is a great video and so so timely. Thank you.
Thank you so much! 🙏
I needed this one. Thank you!
You have such an amazing way of speaking and communicating exactly what I need to hear. I’m so happy I found your page! Thank god!!
Thank you so much...just watch about half and I can related but mostly I don't feel so weird and alone with my emotions, so thank you for sharing sister x
Thank you for making these video's! I have only recently started watching your content, but feel like God is using a lot of it to give me confirmations and revelations. We really do have a wonderful and loving Father that knows what is best for us and we can trust His timing without obsessing over all kinds of things ourselves. :)
Thank you and God bless you.
I see Jesus in you!
This is such a great video with sound advice and encouragement. Thank you for recommending Wife Academy. I’ve heard of it and plan to look into it!
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. It was something I needed to hear as well as being a confirmation to things I have felt in my spirit.
It’s ok honey, you’re getting better!! Just joking!! Love you so much!! ✝️💜🤗
Hehe thanks 💕
This was so helpful, Thankyou!
Thank you for this, God bless you. ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks. This is important
Thank you for this video Sarah ♥️😍😭😭really spoke to me deeply..love you sis
Aw thank you! Love you 🥰💕🙏
@@NowBloom 💞💞💞
I asked the Lord what do I need to do? He said "how would you prepare if you knew you were going to be a wife?" I immediately knew what to do!
Thank you Sarah. Have a great week 🤗
Thank you for watching and for your encouragement Jenny! 🥰💕🙏
@@NowBloom You're welcome 🙂
Thankyou Sarah! This has helped so much! God is really working through you. May he bless you.❤️
Needed this right now💖
This really helped me thankyou ❤️
This is exactly what i needed to hear
Thank you so much for this!
I really needed to hear this. Thank you 🖤
Always delivering a great message Sarah!
Thank you so much ☺️ 💕
Thank you Sarah
So blessed thank you!
I love the GODLY wisdom Sarah I'm so happy that you're living for GOD be blessed!!!🕊🤍💜🌸
Great content!
Thank you so much! This was really helpful .... your videos are always an inspiration to me. God bless 🙌🏻😊✨
Thank you so much I’m so happy you enjoyed it! 🥰🙏💕
thanks, this blessed me
Thank you so much for this video ,