15 Signs of a Low Value Man
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- 15 Signs of a Low Value Man
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In this Alux.com video we will be answering the following questions:
What is a low value man?
How to tell someone is low value?
What are the signs a man is low value?
What are the signs the man you’re dating is low value?
What is a low value man vs a high value man?
00:00 - Intro
01:02 - Bottom 25% of earners
02:51 - Unhealthy and weak
05:03 - Abusive and controlling
06:23 - Not a father to his children
08:10 - Low IQ, EQ and No Personality
09:21 - Lazy, Unmotivated and a burden to others
10:20 - Unlucky and can’t catch a break
11:21 - Envious and dishonest
12:21 - Always surrounded by other low value men
13:48 - He never invests in himself
15:35 - Stuck in the same place he started
16:41 - Blaming others & Beyond Entitled
17:44 - Chooses to escape reality
18:43 - Angry at the world
19:46 - He is not a masculine man
20:43 - Question
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This was so uncomfortable to watch. I was and still is. I decided at my late 20's I did not want to be a loser anymore! I went back to school and with severe ADHD the odds were stacked against me. I didn't care. I got A's and Bs 😀. I still was a loser but wanted to finish a degree. I took shitty jobs and got abused at work. I read self help books that were critical and took the shame in pride. By my 30s I finally got a degree and then got an average wage. I moved out and then worked 50 to 70 hours a week for a few years. Now in my 40's I make 90K. I am about to get a home but still I had a late start. I wish I was raised better but at least I got out
I'm glad you chose discipline instead of living with regret the rest of your life! Search for Jocko Willink, Pat McNamara, David Goggins, Aaron Clarey and J. Waller all on youtube. Have a wonderful day.
You and me both. ADHD ruined my life until I was 27 and a light bulb went off.
That’s literally my life 😂
That's awesome that you took responsibilty for you life and not blame society. I wish you well.
Severe adhd are amongst the highest achievers in the world....ditto.
Just a reminder: living with your parents is not a universally “low value” quality. Some cultures, specifically those which retirement investments and retirement homes are not commonplace, living with your parents show responsibilty. It’s a mark that you don’t just leave the people who took care of you when they are old and incapable of taking care of themselves.
That’s a good point! Not everyone is American lmao. And the trend of parents gleefully kicking out their kids the moment they turn 18 is weird. You should have kids to love them and give them a good life, not just because you wanted a cute baby for one year. Your child is your child for LIFE not just 18 years.
Right
Agreed 👍
There's a difference between living with your parents and your parents living with you.
Speaking from a Latin culture perspective. Men living with their parents after a certain age is always a red flag 🚩
A couple more signs of low value men:
1. Constantly judging other people.
2. Being offended by everything.
I grew up with a father who did a lot of these two things, and unfortunately some of it rubbed off on me, and I've had to work to eliminate these behaviors.
Congratulations for doing better now!
I am glad you realized that it was up to you to improve. You took ownership and I respect that.
Good stuff. A similar story for me too. Add to the list "constant complaining". I grew up with extremely negative and toxic influences around me so it's been an effort to make sure I don't follow in those footsteps. Because sometimes I would find myself acting like that, but thankfully managed to recognize it in myself and not like it enough to want to change. 👍
Seems the exact description of my brother :O
I would add laughing at others, irrespective of who they are, behind their back, just to please whom one is talking to or the flying monkeys around oneself.
“You’ve known them for years but they haven’t done shit.” - that hit so hard 😅
Low value man destroys instead of creating. He either destroys his own chances or literally destroys someone else's property or chances of success.
What if you were once a very high value man but got so much jealousy and violence directed at you that you got PTSD, even others destroyed property just because they couldnt be as cool, and the people are close by, giving the silent treatment to keep what little power they have
@@drkingslend You remove yourself from them. being high value means you always strive to take your destiny into your own hands and never ever let anyone have a say in the direction your life takes.
seem to be a lot more women doing that in the world right now.
@@mansanoire9989 Precisely!!
A young man without a girlfriend is dangerous to society.
00:00 - Intro
01:02 - Bottom 25% of earners
02:51 - Unhealthy and weak
05:03 - Abusive and controlling
06:23 - Not a father to his children
08:10 - Low IQ, EQ and No Personality
09:21 - Lazy, Unmotivated and a burden to others
10:20 - Unlucky and can’t catch a break
11:21 - Envious and dishonest
12:21 - Always surrounded by other low value men
13:48 - He never invests in himself
15:35 - Stuck in the same place he started
16:41 - Blaming others & Beyond Entitled
17:44 - Chooses to escape reality
18:43 - Angry at the world
19:46 - He is not a masculine man
20:43 - Question
Your work here is appreciated and commendable sir
💐
Funny to me how a lot of these traits apply to high profile "high value" men. Trump ticks a lot of these boxes, for instance.
@@epbrown01 i think you are confusing wealth with value..... Being wealthy does not equal being high value
@@thesocialintrovertchronicles Hence the quotes.
It doesn't matter what you do fellas. As long as you are striving to be better, and do better, you're a high value man. Don't judge your worth by money.
Don’t judge worth by money, but don’t use it as an excuse to be broke.
@@AK-jy3pe Amen king aka Huey 🙏🏾😊
Don't use that as an excuse to be mediocre
money does not determine a person's worth,,,,,,,,,,,,, his actions Do
"Emulate the effort, not the result." Great line. It says quite a lot in very few words.
You missed this one, and it is vitally important. He is not a man of his word. If you say you'll do something, do it. Don't take on a task you can't handle, so don't say you'll do it, even though you won't, only to disappoint.
I love this!! If you don't honor your word, your word means nothing..
AGREE keep your word, otherwise actions speak louder than words n your words have zero value,,,,,,,,,,,,,, xo
I've sent this video to female patients with Abusive, Narcissistic Low Value partners. This video is beyond amazing. Thank you!
Do you're a therapist and your actually sending this garbage from unqualified sources to your patients ?
@@bertbox69 equating narcissist with abuser tells me this person should not be treating people, period lol
To all the brothers taking time to watch and apply this...I'm proud of you fellas
Let's get it!
This video exposes the dusties of our community. They have a lot to learn from this video
@@lmusima3275 exactly
@@lmusima3275 exactly
lol
Amen! 😊
Some of these traits can creep into your life without you immediately noticing. Even a man who is valuable could find that little habits and indulgences start adding up. At least, they can for me. This video is totally valuable as a wake up call, but it also has value as a threat identifier for those who want to stay valuable.
A man with multiple kids with different women is also low value, even if he does look after them.
Thats an alpha men,,
These are what I call “dusty men”
@A Great Man Named Lieu fine that's a sigma men, since we are so very attractive , posses better leadership ability than alpha. Most women want to have sex with us due to our unexplained sigma personality therefore Women should be aware that its there responsibility to to taking care of the child since they just want us to have sex with them.
@@lmusima3275 who made those dusty men? Who enabled them?
@@lmusima3275 😹😹😹ROTFL!!!
It all starts from FOCUS and DISCIPLINE !!!
Yes, Definitely true
@Kevin Crowe. Regarding depression, a friend got out of a huge depressive slump by writing down a list of five things he was going to do the next day. Relatively simple things: bring the garbage cans out early for pick up, shave first thing in the morning, etc. Over time the five things became more sophisticated. He kept the daily lists to show that he had made progress. It worked.
This is great advice, and works wonders! I think I've 10x my productivity when I started doing this. I used to have a board filled with lofty goals, nothing ever got done. But once I started setting very small, sometimes seemingly absurd goals such as read for 5 mins each morning, I really started seeing progress. I think my brain gets fueled by seeing small successes, and just wants to get more of that. Then the successes accumulate!
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie changed my life. It really helped me socially and professionally, and see the value, not matter how small, in every person that I meet.
Mine too, 32 years ago. One of the greatest book of all time.
@@randomhouse_11 Hi, Random. It's been about that long for me, as well. It'll be worth another read, although the principles are straightforward and easy to live by.
@@mrkinla Agreed.
Thank you. ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-)
wow thanks, it was just 93% off in kindle edition I bought it for 0,33$!
“Even your pull out game is weak” the creators behind ALUX are legend!!
Do you pull out or pull off?
Signs of a low value man (my list):
1. They can’t handle adversity (most of the time).
2. They lack discipline.
3. They usually act in panic, stress, fear and bug out.
4. They say negative things about people.
5. They have poor work ethic.
6. They dwell on the past
7. They’re people pleasers.
8. They lack purpose in life.
9. They don’t take care of themselves. physically and mentally
10. They don’t think for themselves hence have herd mentality.
11. They make bad choices and don’t learn from them.
11. They want to do as little as possible
12. They’re argumentative and rude
13. They lack morality and are antisocial
14. They venerate people with high status but they degrade people of lower status
15. They are dishonest and lie a lot.
Most of these use to apply to me however I’ve developed myself personally as I grew older. I still struggle with 9,6,5 and 3 sometimes, but I’m getting better.
@@ng9047 I completely agree with your harsh remarks. But not to blame, media has not helped recent generations. There's a new "men can be weak and emotional too" mentality.
I understand this was meant to promote emotional intelligence for men which was a taboo for years but a part of society took it the wrong way. Thus allowing and normalizing men to have a "victim" mentality.
Which is never good, whether it's unfair for men or not, you guys are the strong/brave polarity of humanity, the world would collapse if all men lost their manliness.
Great list sir. I can honestly say I've only been accused of trait number 6. And that accusation hasn't just come from other people. It's a self-realization I've come to as I acknowledge that I beat myself up so much over past mistakes.
Regardless of the fact that I may have people compliment me over being the opposite of many of the other deficiencies you enumerated. I can only do so much if I can't get out of my own way due to number 6.
Thanks for reminding me of where I need to have my focus. Hope you find all the answers to questions you seek and all the success from your valiant efforts.
@@strikeback1080 same, number 6 is probably my biggest weakness, I tend to dwell on my wrongdoings and other negative events in the past which makes me feel anger and resentment towards myself to the point of self harm and suicidal thoughts. I treat myself very harshly at times.
My work ethic has also been influenced by this unfortunately, which I defo need to work on.
I had issues with the other traits but now that’s all in the past.
you struggle with 4 and 15 too
Oh so I'm low value man cause I have bad OCD and anxiety? I guess its my fault I was born with a brain predisposed to anxiety.
I was married to one of these creatures. He just about drained my finances and destroyed my life. Very great video!
6M. Watching this is one of the most difficult things I've ever done, even after being the one to try and confide in my family that to be successful, one must start with an honest appraisal of their life and the direction it's headed. Thank you Alux!
Yes.....but is their really enough room for everyone to be "that successful"
Imagine deleting all the jobs that pay under 35$ an hour right now.......what would our society look like?
Ladies, This applies to us too. Let’s all make changes for a better life! Today is a new day to start a new life!
Yup that's true
Mhm!
I love how she's brutally honest about everything ✨🌸
Of course you do....your a female, bashing men is fun to you
Why, Thank you for being descriptive on video. It shocked me, and made me realize that I for once, take it as a low value all this time. Sure it feels ashamed, but at the same time I feel motivated. Surely thank you.
🍀
I would clarify that you shouldn't engage in self-improvement for results, to get women, or impress people. People don't care. You're unlikely to improve so much that you stand out, probably just become normal. I made a big push to change at 27, got a master's degree, excelled in my career, got in the best shape of my life, saved and invested my money, learned an incredible amount by reading and studying. I'm better for it and I feel like I can live with myself now knowing I'm not a complete waste of space. But did it make my life easy, do I have women lining up to date me, does anyone really care or notice that much? No. It can't be about that. I know I'm in a better place today and I don't have regrets. I know I didn't waste my time. And I'm in a position for life to keep getting better. That's all it is. Not super exciting, but so much better than the alternative.
“You're not going to master the rest of your life in one day. Just relax. Master the day. Then just keep doing that every day. ”
This is a best channel on youtube when it comes to self development my old self are easily controlled by emotion , control freak , fixed mindset and even blaming other after experiencing some life lesson , reading a dozen of self improvement books and watch self development channel like Alux i realized that i was wrong and tried to fix myself and learn how to be more open minded and growth like proper adult
6M! This is painful to watch but has allowed me to recognise some of my present flaws and given me a platform to start improving! Thank you!
Watching this video was like looking in a mirror. I’m 47 never been married or had children. I’m stuck in a low-paying job, can’t afford to rent a place so I live in my vehicle. I’m morbidly obese, no friends at all. I have my dog, however. I’ve tried for several years to get a different, better paying job but to no avail. Also in terrible debt with student loans, credit cards, etc. I have severe depression and anxiety for which I take six different medications. While I don’t blame others for my problems, I do blame myself and low intelligence for most things gone awry. I do feel like I’m angry in general most of the time, mostly at myself. I have zero motivation now after countless failures and severe depression. I don’t ever really see myself digging out of this one. I only dig myself deeper. Not sure if anyone else is in this type of situation.
Be cool dude, it's mostly Title IV and then Affermative Action being inacted five years later. Title IV should have been amended to reflect this, but no. Then because of the supply of workers diluting the labor market, wages came down. Unemployment hit 9.6, stayed high till mid 90's. So don't blame yourself. It isn't you. I went through these hard impossible times also. Luck only did I get past it. But then Entitlement got me. I now have a "why even try" thought pattern. Especially with that VAWA bs hanging over our heads. I've learned those laws, they are unconstitutional, but in place. This chick who says these things is clueless, but she gets to live in the fairyland given to her.
Hey this probably sounds really cliche but ur doing amazing in life! U have a job and everything u need don’t let comparison kill the happiness you should feel for ur ‘small’ blessings 💕 god will help u realize that too
Do you know Jesus Christ? Ask Him to help you. He will. ❤
Bro you are not low value you just need a leg up.
Stay strong Kevin 👍👍 you're doing a great job with the dog......keep going
The other day I met a man who said, "A marriage is about love not about what you're being picky about." Then I answered, "Sorry but I can love a man so much but if he's lazy and never takes responsibility for his life, then how can I continue to love hime??" He calls it being picky and I call it having standards.
You're right. Stick to your standards if your lover isn't improving his life for the better.
Sounds like the guy is a manipulative narcissists. Get out.
I think men are tired of women quitting on them.
if money is that important to you, its clear you love money more than men. saying you have standards is just downplaying your true nature in this regard.
You need to find someone else. Marriage is work, and he'll won't be able to handle it.
"Even your pull-out game is weak" 😂
THAT was ..... Oooooo-WEEEEEEE! DAMN! #savage 😲
😂🤣😂🤣
Until a year ago, I was in a relationship with a girl who was satisfied with being a career barista and she had zero ambition. The way she lived her life leaked into my mind and I started to become that too. We broke up and it did hurt, but I'm now a thriving single man, making more money than I've ever made before, and I'm actually typing this comment while waiting for my chemistry class in college to start. I'm well into pursuing an engineering degree and HOPEFULLY well on my way to becoming this "high value man" everyone speaks of! My ultimate goal it to build a kingdom for my future wife and kids, and be the best father and husband I can be. It is a very challenging road, but it is worth it! God bless you all!
Do tech sales. That’s a path to quick wealth. I make 6 figures. I wish I knew that before I went to grad school.
Dahm I should have meet you ten years ago! You go!!! That's great :)
Good for you to notice that your relationship was holding you back.
If the person your with doesn’t enrich your life, they aren’t the right person.
@@InHomeOutDoors Thanks 😊
@@leahsundvall5894 exactly
You can never become something you hate!! That's gold!
"Low value men won't download the alux app and sign in for $99 a year" lol what a strategy!
Shame sales.
Guess I am "low value" then.
Right??? That was clever!!!
I sure won't lol
Yes marketting strategy . I love this .
Hey Alux, I don’t think it was very kind of you to use jobs such as plumbers, waste manager, etc as a comparison to low value men. Every job has its solidification in the world and without workers in each field then we wouldn’t be able to have those jobs done 👍🏼
Nobody said that, what did you listen to my friend 😂
Hurt
They said plumbers are high value. Watch again.
@@smillailyas3974Couldn't agree more.
My value isn't decided by me. Society chose it for me.
From the day I started school, to now, I was either bullied or ignored. I've tried to reach out to people, but they're too busy with their own lives to care or have time for me. It is it any wonder I have no motivation and choose to escape reality when reality treats me like garbage?
There is one person who u have influence over and can have your full attention. That's YOU 👈. Society is not complete without you, use your piece and make it count. If no one celebrates you, it's called a mirror, raise yourself a glass and say cheers 🥂. The universe will definitely recognize your positive energy and gravitate towards you.
I was bullied too from an early age, first and second grade/prep school. I always tried to get attention and received it but I was trying too hard and it was a waste of time. I wanted everyone to like me and was deeply affected by being mistreated and others knew this so I received what I received. As a child I struggled with normal anxiety and maybe a touch of ADHD symptoms. I didn't have a long lasting friends until high school and college. I only have had one best friend that I talk to several times a week, including today but I haven't seen him in several years due to distance. I never tried to escape reality though. I stay disciplined in my work and my hobbies and take fitness seriously. Now there's still bad vibes that come your way though even your hobbies and social environments at any age. Many test or try to treat me like garbage...especially in recent years with basketball and peers from the game that I play and coach. There's not One Life-Long friend I'd ever gain from the sport. I do coach basketball and I'm coaching at the prep school I attended in elementary school (3rd year) and we won the district championship this past season in March.
I have probably had my best confidence moments in life though in my higher paying jobs I have had since earning my college degree at age 23 (Operations manager retail stores and later in 2015 --> in supply chain management)..First I was a store manager at Abercrombie and Fitch for 4 years and did some city recruiting as well as being involved in all store operations. From 2005-2012. I really had left my mark as a high value personality with good social skill and I always treated everyone with respect and simply just cared. I was a master of praise and encouragement and was well liked...I'm an emotional person and its a characteristic that could be good and bad.... I never try to hurt people but and always treat people the way I want to be treated. Others can take me down though as they know certain things will affect me..some many think I'm weak. With this I know I'm not weak but others will think this once they get to know you and your personality. Fast forward to now I'm a licensed behavior consultant in my local area..I served the local schools families and communities. Not sure that this comment will help you but I can relate to how you are feeling so I'm posting this here. If you want to chat with someone who's experienced/still sometimes experiencing this life nonsense You can find me on IG @f23_jimmy
Blame...
This video reduces a complex issue to a winners-losers dichotomy. "Man up" and those kind of things. That's toxic. I was bullied in school too and that left a mark on me, I've struggled all my life to value myself and it is something that requires constant effort and a lot of wisdom but it is possible. If you value yourself by the perception of others you'll end crazy (you, me and anyone). The video is right about the need of effort and a plan to get out of vicious circles, but it expresses that in a bad way. Any man can be a winner one day and get fired the next day, and biceversa. Or have a marvelous girlfriend and be dumped for no good reason. Everyone goes through bad times in their lives, but we can focus in the things that are under our control and start from there.
LMAO Alux woke up and chose violence today 😂
I love how aggressive this video is. There’s no other way to put things than saying the truth, and I support it.
SO CLEAR AND CONCISE NO WAY TO B CONFUSED
Indeed, it feels right!
The old adage, the truth hurts, and the truth will set you free, apply here.
The video was hilarious, “Low value men don’t have time to watch Alux because they are too busy doing nothing !”, “Even your pull out game is weak !”🫠
@@tshaolin971 agree 😂😂
If women aren’t interested, they’re not all wrong, you are. 6M
I have seen you in the comments many times before and I very much doubt that you are a low value man.
Like all the videos in this series, there were many points that applies to all humans, & I’m inspired to bring those changes into my life as a woman too
"Stuck in the same place he started" is fascinating. I was born in the hospital 65 1/2 years ago and went to a basement apartment on Jeanne Mance St here in Montreal with my mom and pop. My mom's family definitely considered by dad to be low value. I lived in many places in Canada, the US, and the UK since then. Still, I always wanted to come back home to Montreal, which is a great city to live in. Now I am in the penthouse on the 5th floor, but not that far from where I started. I always want to get better. Great video!
This lady is brutally honest today. Most low value men will not like this. 😂
Those who have never taken a single step towards personal improvements wouldn't watch a video like this one and if they did, it would set them right over the edge. The guys who do watch this want to improve.
Incels, Narcississtic males
"Even your pull out game is WEAK" 🤣🤣🤣
I'll admit. This burns.. my family is low value and im trying my best not to end up like them..
Finally have my own house but i constantly feel like a failure. Its bad when you're considerably stronger than the average joe but you still feel like a weak child.
I try to build others up because i know no one wants to be low value. Ive help my gf through her toxic mother and shes on her way to be healthier.
My family knew nothing about eatinf healthier and i ended up becoming fat at 260 pounds when I graduated high school. 180 now with loose skin that reminds me of my old body. I can't help but hating my family for fucking me over.
6M
Same. Me and my sisters work hard to move away from being dysfunctional. The adults then didn't do much leading or teaching... we had to figure it all out. But now I teach my kids how to eat and how to live best I can. You are strong for sure...keep doing what you do!. if you have a plan and goals you are not a failure. My mother is toxic even to this day and painfully we had to cut her off... and stop talking to her. It was that bad. And it's ok to let family go if they are toxic and unwilling to change.
Yeah.. it p*sses me off when I feel like I've learned something too late in life because I grew up wtih two narcissistic parents. The best strategy is to keep learning about yourself and forgive others in your family who do not know any other way to live life, because it frees you. Resentment can be heavy on you.
Even the strong know they are weak. That's why he trains to defend those weaknesses.
2 houses here, one rents & pays everything. Had a thriving growing business. Had
Your post reminds me of my parents and my relatives.
How I’ve managed to achieve any level of success is a miracle. I should probably write a book about it.
Can relate to this. Having a disability has meant life has been more difficult but I have achieved some things. Been married, now widowed. Have had paid employment but several years since I had any. Even voluntary work is limited thanks to Covid. At least I have a place I own and the means to get by. Must have known something when I used Christmas gift cards to get shirts.
Best of lucks to you, and hope your situation improves. But think about it this way: most people work so that they can pay for their homes and car, and have not the luxury of not working. You on the other hand have financial freedom in the sense that you don't have to work to keep a roof over your head. That's one step ahead of many of us. Once you figure out how to take care of your other needs. You'll be in a good place 👍
What you are describing is called narcissism. It is a trait of both low value men and low value women. Learn to recognize a narcissist before it is too late. Don't try to suggest anything to them, they will reject you and hurt you in the process.
This person equates wealth with high value. A lot of narcissists are wealthy, but that doesn’t mean they are high value. J. Lo and Jada Pinkett Smith are both narcissists, but I don’t see nobody calling them low value.
@@daydream2609 They Should because they are!!
Man, this video spoke LOUD volumes to me. It hurts my pride to say this, but I’m glad this video was published! Most of the things mentioned I did NOT take to the extremes mentioned, but came pretty darn close! Thankfully I was on the verge of a change BEFORE this video came out. Fellas, as a man, I implore you, pay attention to this, THIS IS SERIOUS!!!!
We are ALL accountable and responsible for what happens to us in this world. As the late Jim Rohn put it; “it’s the highest form of human maturity”.
Props! I totally agree!
This seems like stuff that can be worked on by all means, thanks for your brutal honesty and mature delivery. I plan on returning to this video just to remind myself what I can work on.
When you're not high value, but points made remind you of things you've done, that invested more in who you became: Military/Deployment, business building, classes at the Jr. College/Studies etc.
It just sucks when you started the journey late and you've still got a ways to go.
Shout out to Alux for holding EVERYONE accountable, so that we ALL can be better and win!
Nobody gets a free pass
@Greg Louis Domingo Same
I was looking for this comment 😅😅😅😅!!! EXACTLY, everyone needs some help or another!!!
6M
I already started renting rooms in my house to increase my income, and I now wake up at 4am to go to the gym before work. I also read one book per week (via audible) relating either to real estate investing which I have developed a passion for, or to developing productive habits and a success mindset.
I am 42 years old, overweight, and I have worked at the same dead end job since I was 19. I am extremely angry with myself for waiting this long to start moving forward in life, but I try to channel that anger as motivation instead of beating myself up over lost time.
There's a Nigerian proverb that says "whenever you wake up is your morning." which means everyone's 'morning' doesn't have to be the same. Even if you wake up by 4pm,that's still your 'morning'.
In short, you do not need to beat yourself up. Be glad you've realized what you want & go for it. Cheers.
24 years old, mechatronics major, graduating December 16 of this year in applied science. I bust my tail to get here. I worked the skin off some of my hand . I knew I had to apply pressure so hard cause I didn’t think anyone seen me🤷🏾♂️
♫ "When you complain and - criticize
I feel I'm nothing - in your eyes
It makes me feel just like - giving up
Because my best just ain't - good enough.."
(Words never more truly spoken. Thank you, Eric Burden).
Certain aspects of me, as mentioned in this video, are low value. I need to start working out, stop choosing to escape reality and be more motivated. It's easy to fall into the laziness trap; one lousy set of circumstances can really take it out of you. The challenge for me is to fight (and work) harder for what I want. Videos like this, that serve to remind me of where to improve, certainly help.
Proud of your decision to change, let’s hope this spreads we women need them. Congratulations on making the step
Admitting it alone shows how valuable you are. Nothing better than a human willing to grow and improve
Very good of you
Bravo! 👏👏👏
Chad Energy right here!!👍
6M - in late 2018 and all of 2019 I committed to making changes. I lost weight, quit my dead end job, read many books and watched Alux videos along with many other high value video content. Unfortunately, I lost my way when Covid and all the politics around it dominated and picked up some of the traits in this video that I thought I left behind. it's time to get back on track.
Ya bro.. u can do it... Start again
Steve, you can do it again. I'm cheering you. 👏🏽
You have moved 1 step forward by accepting your mistakes. Good Job.
Just keep pushing man. Your desire to improve says more about you than you know.
Me too, I really need to straighten myself out. Got involved with a low value woman and it went down hill from there. Don't know what came over me, she was ultra low value.
Thank you for touching on this matter. The eloquent roast kept me entertained😭😂😭. I was waiting to hear the mention of those who complain about high-earning women on podcasts.
This video speaks to me directly with its mocking tone and unmitigated bad news. I've been a Low Value Man ever since getting Myalgic Encephalomyeliitis back in '07. Still live with parents even though I'm pushing 40, no job or friends. And no future. I take more I give, I'm an emotional burden. Maybe I can find a way out of this mess someday.
Baby thats a TOTALLY different situation & circumstance!! Good Lord, feeling guilty about something you have absolutely no control over will only serve to make you feel depressed, bc there's literally nothing you can do about that condition. Focus on the things that you CAN do, honey. You are NOT a low value man!!
Please don't think that way, your situation is not the situation of "low value people", you actually have valid reasons for living with your parents & no job honey. Don't get down about your situation, make a plan to change it. Maybe something like small goals, like, just try every day to do one small thing that will better your life? I don't have all the answers for you love, but you sound intelligent & I believe in you & I believe you can eventually better your situation!
Do yourself a favor and stay away from these kinds of videos. I avoid them like the plague and I don’t understand why this one came up. I’m a woman. These people thrive off of hurting others and call it facts for the sake of views. They train you to be a ass kisser to be liked. I don’t give a damned who doesn’t like me. The truest statement ever is: What other people think of you is none of their business.
@@daydream2609 the truth is the beginning of power and if you can not accept and or process it then you will have no power and will become a slave to someone who can.
There's nothing about it mocking you....it's all in your head. They put these out here to help you and everyone else. You can harness the best of you and improve every day. As long as your better than yesterday by a little bit then that's all that matters. Create value in whichever way you can....even the smallest stuff can mean the world to someone. There's no shame living with parents man....help em out by washing the dishes, laundry, trips to get groceries. Volunteer time to teach or learn a skill that matches your physical ability. You don't have to be a billionaire to be valuable and loved, you just need purpose man. Create positive emotional resonance in others...become valuable and the cycle will become fulfilling.
You got this man, you can do whatever you set you mind to.
Brutally honest! I like it! More people need to understand this
I am loving how the men are openly being honest in the comments & owning up to where they are & are committed to their overall growth💙💙💙 proud of y’all!!
Agree 100%. But there are still some comments what to justify what Alux touched nerve on.
This video is a perfect checklist for my progress
She nailed those guys... I was like those... Change was painful, I'm happy and glad that I've taken control of my life to become even better. Discipline is key to success.
Interesting/Valuable video, I don't consider myself a LVM. Not even an Average man, [IMO] I'm "In Process." Because I'm In the process of becoming a High Value Man! With that being said, I still reflect some of the points mentioned in this video. So a 6M challenge is in Order, there's Always room for Improvement, Preciate It ALUX!💯🔥💪🏾😏🤷🏾♂️
I would say another big one is not having ambition for themselves. Can't tell you how many people will say things like "wow I will never do anything as cool/awesome as that person."
You've already set yourself up for failure by just having that mindset alone.
Absolutely! Brilliant comment!
Loved the content in this series.. been doing this for the past 3 months, due to some hitting reality incidents.. but seeing everything articulated in a video ♥️♥️♥️
♥️6M♥️
"even your pull out game is weak!" - had me cracking up!🤣🤣🤣
I have been a low value man. I don't mind sharing some of the blame with my parents for the early years of non-development (because I now realize that children need to be provided for), but they are gone now and it's all up to me to turn it around.
This channel seems like a pretty good influence for those of us trying to pull ourselves together.
Some people have no parents. Be thankful .
@@jayray6765 oh it definitely could have been so much worse
@@jayray6765 Jesus Christ, I’m fed up of people like you always saying oh it could have been worse everytime someone talks about pain and issues in their life.
Just because people have it worse doesn’t mean his pain is not valid due to his parents in his early life. Yes, some people never had no parents to begin with but it doesn’t mean his pain is not valid about his parents.
Other people having it worse has nothing to do with what he said about his pain/struggles. There will always be people who have it worse doesn’t mean he also hasn’t gone through pain with his own Parents.
People really need to stop saying this it’s not compassionate and it’s not supportive.
@@dailystriver2727 “Never having no parents” is a double negative.
The mind set!
As a teacher, mentoring young men, and of adults at university, I'm going to start using this video and my own TV show episodes that harshly point these thigs out. Several of my mentees, over 21 have children out of wedlock despite my years of counsel to not have children until after 30/getting a degree. I was writing about my family and why I haven't gone down the negative road some of them have and honestly why I've cut off so many of them---it's because they are Low Value and mired in it, their pain, anger, envy, etc.. I'm grateful that my mother and father pushed themselves and therefore the needle enough for me to look at my parent's strengths and weaknesses and focus of development of the strengths of my own and avoidance of their weaknesses. I told them before they died that their lives and deaths were both Mentorship and Anti-Mentorship---what not to become.
People model after what they see, not what was or is said.
Best of luck to you! 🤞🏾
Disgusting, low earning man can be as just of much importance as high earning man.
It is literally nonsense to describe people as low-value, we all have value.
Also, masculinity is not always a good thing.
Jesus fucking christ. how can people so selfabsorbed about their own successes.
Some people just lack some capacities do to more complicated stuff, they still can contribute to society.
I am really shocked by how there is looked down on people in this video. It is disgusting.
That's great so glad you chose to take responsibility for your life. Anyone can have a piece of the pie. Have a wonderful day.
We need more men in this world like you. God speed 🙏
You're a valuable member of society; I respect what you've done, and continue to do!
This was very valuable.
Specially the Bonus, "Assume complete ownership of your reality"
[6M] Add what I call _microsocialism_ to the list of findings that suggest a low value. People with that characteristic do not have clear boundaries that separate themselves from others. They will borrow money not realistically expecting to repay it when their buddies have it, and they will irreversibly lend or otherwise share it when their buddies are out of cash. Other boundary violations exist too, but the money one is easiest to observe.
I had a friend but he was all talk. He was always complaining, cursing, asking for money. 😩 I tried to help him but he was draining. Fast forward 4 years later today he’s still in the same spot. I wish him the best but I had to wash my hands.
6M
I will spend the 6 months in another country.
Thank you so much for this video, it’s so real and no bullshit. Really made me realize how much of a looser I still am. I mean I knew before too, but watching this makes me uncomfortable. I need to watch it again a few times.
I’m 5-7 out of the 15 and I have the complete ovnership mindset. I guess I’m low value/avarage man then, but I’ve been on self improvement for a few years. I’m 23 now. You wouldn’t believe the degree of looser I was before. I mean okay, most of the good values I had before but had lost on the way, some I never lost. Idk. What’s important is now and the future.
6M
I have hit rock bottom and hurt a lot of people who just wanted to help. I’m going to raise my value and show them my appreciation. In one way or other.
6M. Currently sitting at the gym watching this right now. Haven’t watched an Alux video in a minute. It’s good to be back.
This video perfectly captures the current state of America culturally.
Motivation, Accountability, Discipline.
Be a MAD-Man.
Anyone can better themselves with the three things above over a long enough period of time.
Not all American men dude ….. avoid talking in absolutes
Yes, we have no values, our culture is whatever a majority of celebrities say, no manners, no discipline, low enrollment in college and military. If China beats us in best economy, place to live, or takes over Taiwan. We have no one but to blame our selves. Our narcissism will be our grave
@@marcusbrown188
Speak for yourself dude
The black and white men I work with have values, teach their children , we all work extremely hard and we push the culture(s) forward
Maybe it’s just the Americans you know
@@cphillps1749 Dirty sidewalks, neglected infrastructure. I'm not accusing you of anything but is this what you teach to your kids?
@@marcusbrown188 it’s not like that everywhere in America.
I believe a high value man is a good teacher. A good teacher has the empathy to make even a nobody feel like a somebody.
I agree. I'm low value, but I've had pleasant conversations with people who have a lot of money. Most of the rich people I've talked to seem to be content with their lives and have no desire to humiliate others for their lack of money. However, some of the rudest people I've met are people who are either struggling to get money or conceited people who are middle-class and think they are rich because they spend money on expensive stuff.
this is so completely dead on, its quite amusing. i know a couple guys with most of these qualities - great to see these summed up so succinctly. its quite a thing to grow up and realize that so many guys (many of whom, your peers) do in fact find a way to put the absolute bare minimum effort into life. we all have the same amount of time given to us daily, yet some manage to do effectively nothing with it. i'd like to think this video could motivate each of them, but i'm pretty sure we all know that sadly this is not the case. great video
This is the fourth video I watch from this channel. It's savage with its advice lol I love it
I love that there is wholesome advice at the end of the video to help men who want to be high value. Timely advice for us all, not just men
Great video ! 6m had the 1st sign but about to become Licensed Massage Therapist from security supervisor. I lie the comment of people taking the video as precautionary and/or seeing what you can improve been a subscriber since the Industry Wednesday videos . Love the content!
So much passion! So much emphasis! I suspect the narrator has "experienced" a low value male or two :). Great video! Thank you.
YOU ARE SPEAKING TRUTH IN THIS VIDEO !
"....even your pull-out game is weak..." Alux! 😂
Facts and nothing less. Thank you alux. I always learn something new every Sunday. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
6M Amazing value Alux, thank you so much, I have already started to implement some of the things you talk about on this video but I would definitely try out the rest . I’m really determined to make a lot of changes this year. I have waited for too long and now is the time no more putting it off.
Very well done as usual! Reminds me of Nietzsche's "last man". Envy, resentment, and dragging down. Weakness.
I struggle with: 1, 2, 5, 11, 15
And in the past I have struggled with three to four other categories.
I don't categorically fit in each that I listed but I have enough similarities that I added them.
It's funny because in High School I developed this underlying feeling that I did not have much to offer my friends and that I lacked any redeeming qualities. After college, when I was virtually friendless, I realized I was correct. I also realized being correct has absolutely no social value unless being correct benefits those within proximity.
Thank you for this advice. Some words are harsh as I relate yet it's good to know what I should work on
A message Detroit needs to listen to
This is the best bonus I've ever seen.
I appreciate videos like this to keep me in check, I used to be extremely toxic (I have CPTSD) and I’ve taken steps to become a healthier and better person. I’m thankful a lot of low value traits I had are gone 🙌🏽🙌🏽 also, I appreciate all the positive feedback ❤ people can change if they practice accountability and self improvement!!
Shabbat Shalom Asé. Evergreenb1ase.
This comment is on every video
@@jus2jase really? Then it is a low value comment👎🏽
@@jus2jase I was thinking the same thing. It felt like deja vu and I was wondering if it was just a feeling or if someone else had noticed it.
Your good attitude is high value! Good start to being high value.
Thanks alux,in psychology, there's what we call self serving bias, that is blaming everyone else and other external factors for your problems.
6M! Need to start working on myself. Thanks for this eye-opener!
awesome video. I will start my journey to average value man.
"LOW VALUE MEN ENDED UP WITH THIS VIDEO BECAUSE SOMEONE SENT IT TO THEM AS A WAKEUP CALL" 😆😆😆 very true 👍
😂😂😂 good one
This video may go viral this way!
That would require for them to have a friend... I don't have one. Found this myself
“It doesn’t matter if you in the top percent of earners if you are shady and you can’t go in to the light. Going to jail or not being able to take pride in your work, disqualifies you on the game of life” 👏🏻♥️
Word!
Agreeing 💯 with all points
Plenty of high earning low value fellas
Thank you for this. I broke up with a girl after a year and nine months. I always took care of her as if I had deal with dad if I did not. When I broke up with her I was not angry nor did I make any kind of scene. I carried all her stuff to her truck. As I carried a generator that belonged to her she told she had given it to me, but did not tell me. She told she appreciated everything I did for her and decided to give it to me.
The notion of keeping the generator was rather freaky to me because it is not a cheap peice of equipment. Even as I write this I feel bad to keep it, but I understand why she gave it to me and I should appreciate her thoughfulness.
Before I broke up with her I did a mental cost/benefit assesment of our relationship. I took the Meyers Briggs personality test, I would ask her if I was any kind of bad to her, if I ever spewed any anger towards her, and I would periodically ask her if her dad would approve of the way I treat her. She would always say she felt safe with me and that her dad would approve of the way I treat her.
The reason I checked myself with the personality test, and all the other things I did to check myself was because I did not want to mistreat her and if I was not being good I have to change the way I interact with her for benefit. I wanted to always be good to her as if I had to deal with her dad looking at me holding a "side by side" in his hands. Her dad is deceased, but she told me that I am very much like her dad and that we would have gotten along very well.
Even though we got along well, did much stuff together, and had many things in common the relationship was really serving really serving me. I will say that she is a very good woman and any man ought to be proud to have her, but the relationship was not serving me as well as it could have. We had a good run, but I thought it better to end it.
By the way, the Meyers Briggs test says I am an ISTJ. The personality type is very protective often getting in jobs as military and law enforcement; I am a Veteran and I do work in law enforcement. Finally, I viewed this video because I wanted to check myself again. It's just what I do as I strive to be good to people especially a love interest.
YES you recommended David Goggins!! Guys if you haven't read it, please do. It is the realest, hard hitting, empowering book I ever picked up. I could. not. put. it. down. You'll feel like you can climb a mountain after.
Excellent hard hitting but truthful video you can never fix something until you own it thanks
I knew of a guy who lived with his parents well into his thirties, but he was working full time, saving up thousands to buy his house. He eventually bought his house and moved there. At least he wasn’t relying on his parents financially and live a life of laziness. Unfortunately many of these low value men are filling up spaces on dating apps
I think he is just being practical to the fullest. He is just utilizing what is the fastest way to accumulate his desired house. Salute to him☝💯
Living with your parents is fine lots of people do it
She’s talking bout lazy ppl not certain circumstances
@@omotayosatuyi252 Yes, I personally feel it can be if you're still being productive and if you make good housemates with your parents, but there is definitely a stigma about it in the Western world.
Most millionaires never cared about anything , have it that be luck , connections , lucrative investments to begin with , friends , enemies , status etc.They just tried to receive entertainment from a ton of things that could give earn them money and pick their favourite one.See , money is just an empty shell if for what they're given to you isn't an escape from the severe boredom adulthood has and honestly it's a lot more than you think it is.
I know I'm in the bottom earners, ladies ask me all the time how much I collect in food stamps. My salary ranges between $80k-$90k a year plus side hustles. My house is paid off and can easily retire in my 50's with what I've saved.
Going from the pressure cooker (high intensity job) to doing nothing (Retirement) is the express lane to an early grave. Conversely, working yourself too hard is also an early grave. A buddy of mine went from the pressure cooker overnight to a free and easy retirement in Florida. No debts, no worries. He lasted six years. (Of course, the pack a day habit and the single malt Scotch didn't help things any).