This is probably the most controversial video we’ve made to date. Everything in this video is statistically true, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Facts over feelings! “Signs of a high value woman” video coming tomorrow!
1. Inflated sense if value 2. They play games 3. Insults and shame others 4. Loud and inarticulate 5. Children from past relationships 6. Unhealthy weight 7. Trashy 8. Unresolved trauma of the past 9. Controlling,jealous and unable to show trust 10. Good time, not a long time 11. High body count 12. Emotionally manipulative 13. Cares more about impressing other women 14. Doesn't have a plan for her life 15. They need to be right all the time
They don't add peace to your life, as they're always in a state of asking. And they'd rather trade sex for a good or service but, still lay claim they're aren't a whore.
Children from past relationships? Is that right? When the divorce rate is higher than 50% you expect those men and women who split and have kids together-NEVER even try to be happy?ridiculous sexist statement
I was raised by a single mother I love her brutally. She taught me that real strong women will do anything has to keep me fed and housed. I met my wife when her daughter was 2 years old abandoned by her former baby daddy. Gaby my wife was struggling as a single mother took me in after being forced out of the military. I poured my soul into that child I gave her all my attention. Caroline is now 8 years old happy and healthy. MY first child with Gaby is a boy now 4 his name is Mikael. My point is a single mother can be an extremely high value woman. Sometimes a child forces you to become a better person.
Yes exactly! This video is just continuing to feed the narrative that single mothers aren't of value and worth dating, which I find so ignorant and superficial. I don't appreciate that. Look how many single mothers raised such successful men and women. And there are still plenty of happily married couples out there that had children from previous relationships, and manage to make things work because it's not just about the children they come in with, it's the woman herself who brings them a happy life. That mention this video made about single mothers was just SO ignorant.
8- damage from childhood abuse and trauma and 9- jealousy, insecurity and trust issues applied to me in my early years. My poor husband was commited and dedicated to tough it out. We've been married for 34 years now. For years I didn't know what he seen in me but grateful he saw something. I put in the work to improve myself and heal my past traumas. We became a power couple, successful at working together in our business ventures. Making the changes for self improvement is worth it. Don't dwell on feeling low value because some points hit home. Focus on what you have to do to change and be who you are meant to be. Become high value and you will attact a high value partner.
My husband and I are celebrating our 4th anniversary in a week. I’m 33, he’s 39. We bought a home on 6 acres to turn into a simple homestead a year before we were married. I was a personal chef before we had our daughter and he owned a landscaping company. Now we’re close to qualifying for state grants as an official farm and buying the 5 acres next door. We’re seeing the profit, all the fruit trees, a pasture, several gardens, we have bunnies, turkeys, chickens, and Mangalitsa pigs, plus an extraordinary toddler lol although realized I need to pursue my own goals too and had to dedicate that time. It made my husband even more proud. We’re bigger and better together. He told me during a toast he had a dream and I made it real and vast. Your comment made me feel like I’m on a good path. 34 years of marriage is an accomplishment I hope I have one day ❤️ my past trauma doesn’t define me.
@@Chefgrlangel that is a beautiful dream you two created together! Imagine what you two will accomplish in 30 more years. Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience.
My husband and I came up together. We both had different but equally iffy childhoods. One or two of these traits won’t ruin your life if you’re committed to doing better. Dumb mistakes in your 20’s can be negated. Even if you’re a single mom, if you’re a really nice person and your kid is on their way to that most normal people will forgive. If you’re a joy to be around people will be around you period.
That's nice you tell yourself that to make yourself feel better but no, it is mostly women who have that problem a man can admit he is wrong as hard as it may be were a woman in most cases would not. From what I've seen all my life it is mostly women causing that problem. Men might hesitate but that's usually about it. It seems kind of odd that you bring up "man or woman"? The video, "15 Signs of a Low Value Men", did not even cover this. The that men did before GPS in cars the hole not asking for directions thing. Younger men as much as theirs is GPS in the cars now or on your phone basically, we learned for the most part what not to do lol. Women are feminist and so their shit does not end, which is not the same thing! Unless you are in a really toxic work environment men do not usually do that shit for the most part as it is women who are shouting their point of view like crazy, as if it was going to help to be unfair to each other. The hole not stopping to ask for directions is more shame then anything else. When women do what they do it is usually because they want to be in control of shit, which goes off the deep end.
I'mma introduce me, Project Pat, I keep it real I'mma introduce you, you's a sucka faking deals If you gonna let these freaky h**s run yo life I don't understand how you turn a freak into a wife
As a woman who grew up in an abusive home, I took great lengths to make myself a better person. I judge a person's value on how kind and loving they are. Not them having name brands or their connections. Or if my friends are unhealthy, I gently motivate them. I think compassion, honesty, trust are better values then anything this video has to showcase.
Why don’t you agree with it? It’s the world who decide what someone’s value is, not the person themselves. Low to 0 body count, dressing very modest outside (showing no boobs, ass and being the opposite at home dressing like a slut or a stripper at home to her husband makes the woman very high value to men. And also kind and not arguing over everything are also what makes a high value woman. Oh and if she’s a single mum that drops the value of that woman. The video gave those points above so as a man I agree.
This video addresses narcissists, not you. Not all narcissists are from abusive homes; many come from overly permissive ones. Growth and healing has to begin from a desire to change. This video is a good wakeup call to a sick society. Women have enormous power to do good. The choice is that or the opposite.
I am 66yo. I have only realized, in the last 15 or so years, I am a low value woman. At least now I know why no one ever wanted to marry me. I try very hard to give myself the best life I-can but things are clear now. Unfortunately, if I had heard this back in my 20s, I wouldn’t have been able to recognize myself. I can only take heart that a couple of these bad traits, I did not do.
Really who cares what this video says? No one is "low value" in the eyes of God. What some short sighted people here on earth think about us is really irrelavent. You were created in the loving image of God. That is what matters.
You're not low value this trash ass video is low value and killing brain cells by the second. It's a video to pump up toxic men's ego and low self esteem which they can't do themselves. You better love yourself and be kind to yourself 💋
The person on the video said that it's not No Value as a human being, because as the comment above says you have Value in God's economy. However, these traits listed on this video are about character and desirability as a spouse. The bible does teaches us God's standards and how we are to live. If we follow His commands it stands to reason that we will be people of good character. The bible describes a virtuous woman in psalm 31. I have to say that I meet very few of these virtues, but I am working on it. I was like you and I had many of the negative traits on this video, but God and his mercy brought a wonderful husband into my life, and I am trying to be the virtuous woman that the Lord commands me to be. Living the life of purity is hard, but its a lot harder to live the manic undisciplined angry life that I used to live.
@Jade Demby I don't think you quite understand what @shirley Stann is saying. This video is 100% correct. Sadly, too many women wake up one day and realize exactly what this video is saying too late.
the base assumption here is that “high value women” are more agreeable. I agree with some of the things in this video.. others really rub be wrong with. the presentation and tone .. there I go being disagreeable!
If some school has 20 children and the few teachers disagreeing to their students' occasional errors inspite of being a minority is important. . Agreeability is not a marker.
@A Great Man Named Lieu Wrong. The value of a PERSON is 100% dependent on the value they have for themselves! Life doesn’t happen TO us, it happens THRU us! When u love and value yourself, your external world will reflect that. Nobody can define value for another person unless they themselves accept that definition. Now, your definition may apply to goods and services, but not human beings. Stop this perpetuating this silly agenda.
Delusional hypocrite statement. If you go 100% with your words, you wouldn't have a problem to get a guy with all this 15 points. After all, who can define his value, right!?
In a morally bankrupt toxic society, I'll pass on their judgments with a grain of salt. I'm at the age where society doesn't define my value. I do. I got married thinking I would be loved and honored,instead I got the crap beat out of me. I took my son and left and focused on his education and well-being. I couldn't care less what society thinks of me. It's the value I have for myself that would not allow me to stay in that situation. The sad part is I stayed long enough to get choked unconscious and my tooth chipped worried about what society would think of me. Smh, if you know what's best for you, you'd take a long hard look at the society judging you, lol at the audacity, and go about living your best life. Trying to live up to society's expectations is the quickest way to the nut house and an early grave. Love yourself enough to define yourself. Society will continue to do what a society does either build you up or tear you down. At the end of the day, all that really matters is how you feel about yourself. So love yourself, even when/if society tells you you're unlovable as the truth of the matter is simple yet sad: societies tend to be made of sinners eager to cast the first stone...aka hypocrites. The same people talking down on you for the decisions you make are the same people who called me stupid for staying as long as I did. Hypocrites. Love yourself enough to love you unconditionally.
I can't believe you don't have more likes on this comment. I agree with everything you said. I was also a single mother. If a mother thinks that the child would be better off without the toxic father in their lives. We leave for the childs sake. We should not be judged for that. We should not be called low value. I only watched this video out of curiosity. No one should judge anyone if they haven't walked in their shoes. 👍for the best comment on this feed.
I’m a single mother and my husband used to beat the shyt out of me and my kids. I don’t regret my decision to leave. I have rebuilt my life from scratch, it is something to behold. Society be damned
I'm happy you and your children are out of an abusive relationship! 😃 I don't think the Alux video is saying to STAY in an ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP or MARRIAGE just to say that you're married. You did the right thing; it was a healthy move. I'm happy for you and your children I'm glad you're safe! 😃😃👏🏽👏🏽
@Jermaine Anthony it’s called offering a different perspective. In reality single motherhood is lumped up into one boat. In reality no one asks why they simply assume and their is no distinction. Has nothing to do with sensitivity. Society is going to do what it does best, judge and assume.
I am glad you posted this. I can see how far I have come from my bad choices. I was raised by a mother who raised me in an abusive and toxic environment, and her message was always "find a good man to take care of you." That's a lousy message since she couldn't find one for herself. I found myself in the same abusive, toxic relationships until reality slapped me in the face, and I had to ask myself, how did I get here? I went into therapy and got my answers and decided I did not want to be a failure my entire life. I am working on my MBA and also working with a publishing company for my creative side. I have been working on myself, healing myself, and staying away from things that don't serve me. I may have missed the high-value boat for men, but at least I have increased my value for myself. I went from hating myself to learning to love myself. I am better now than ever and I am better for it. I appreciate seeing where I went wrong, and I don't mind being the cautionary tale if it will help a young woman to avoid those pitfalls. If you can work on yourself first before you get involved with someone else, it will help. Life is hard and even harder when you make stupid choices. Take it from me.
Girl same. I had a deeply abusive, toxic, narcissistic mother who had no shortage of sex partners and baby daddies but never had a boyfriend. My mother is masculine to her bone and will die alone.
I give you slot of credit for being honest with yourself. On the same level, don't be so hard on yourself. You've been through a lot. Are these high value men running to your side.
I was told that I am low valued woman because I was a stay home mother who supported my husband’s business . I was told by my nephew that I am not independent because I rely on my husband financially. He likes women who are out there doing what they want wth confidence and being successful with their careers . I had no one to take care of my children while I worked . My mother is mentally sick and my mother in law was working . Daycare was expensive. At least I am a helpful person who cares about people . Nothing can beat that !
A person of high value wouldn't mock someone else's way of living. People have different stories in a book. Women like you have contributed to making a world a better for always being there for the kids. I was raised by a stay at home mom. Without her I wouldn't be where I am today, strong and independent well disciplined and mannered as discussed in this video. So keep up the good work!
Great video…makes me appreciate my wife more. She has very respectful relationship with her father, brother and other male relatives. She is funny and doesn’t make fuss about superficial things while being a great investor of money. She accepts her mistakes very easily and appreciates others innocently. She does not play games rather enjoys every moment like a child. Wow…I got the jackpot . Thanks Alux !
Or you a one amazing man remember you attracted her the type of women you get or the fact you bring out a lady's good side is a reflection of you most women can be that type of person when a man is treating them with respect
Interesting as the men I’ve dated dislike the fact that my dad has been in my life and he still his. We have an excellent relationship. However they’ve hated this .
@@Igetit1980 something is wrong here. Either you are dating guys with disrespectful intentions towards you and don't want a dad to protect you from them, OR your dad is running them off , OR you have a daddy's little girl relationship with him and no date finds that attractive. It's hard to be the man in a 3 way relationship that includes a father sitting on a pedestal.
Society judges individuals harshly while blindly indulging in morally reprehensible behavior when they think they can get away it. Also sounds like disabled women would be judged as “lesser” by society’s standards by appearances alone, and that’s terrible. There are people out there who think if you’re disabled or mentally/physically ill, you’re not “high value” or worthy of living an abundant life; those people will get their comeuppance someday. “High value” to me is someone who is a genuinely good person; someone who does the right thing more often than not whether or not it ‘looks’ that way to other people. Gap
High value is a general interpretation and not being HV does mean you don’t have worth. Society is too worried about being the best when everyone can’t be the best.
I can agree with what you said. But if someone (especially a man) openly admitted to being interested in dating or marrying someone who was mentally disabled, that man would be labeled a predator for taking advantage of such a woman. A woman would be looked at as if she were stupid because such a man provides little benefit to her (not as harsh but still can be painful).
Life has ups and downs. “How things look” to “society”, has little value to me. It’s such a shallow way to generalize how all or most people are or think. America has been dumbed down, systematically, and this is part of why. Self-actualized people, who may have some issues they’re working on, or through, are usually people who, even though aware of generalized, societal prejudices, would not focus or give much weight, to the most superficial view of people and situations. Each individual has their own way of judging or criticizing another. It can vary greatly, with creative thinkers, When people are able to think independently, without strong influence, they are able to see and feel the truth of a person’s heart and soul. Even though there is no specific mention of a person who is disabled, is low value, it’s definitely insinuated, as is, a widower, divorced, any single woman with children. Are you kidding? Was the “mistake” leaving an abusive relationship, or does it even matter what? Does it matter that they’re a great mom or, how many hurdles and challenges this person may have successfully navigated? From this article, it seems a popularity contest is most important, and we should all focus on the lowest common denominator. Maybe evolving from this, is a viable option. Whatchootink?
I wish I had saw this video when I was 16. I wish I had people who would advice me on what needed to be done before I had embark on this journey they called life. Thank you. After my divorce to my divorce I’ve I met 10 years ago, my life have got 100 percent better. She still sleeping around from house to house. And I am about to open my first business in the trucking industry. Guys, take note. Especially you young guys out there reading this comment. Don’t throw away your dreams for a woman who don’t care to loose you. Don’t chase no one, cause you do; you will find that you spent 10 years without accomplishing anything. That’s what had happened to me 😭 but thanks to god I made it out.
Glad you made it out of there safe, & are getting back on track to working on making yourself more valuable & resourceful! Stay focused, & keep grinding!💥
I know lots of women who exhibit several of these traits. Wives of friends and friend of my wife. I'm so glad she is not like them. She is strong and will put me in my place, but can also recognize when I have made a valid point in disagreements. When my first wife left me, we met a few weeks later. She stood by me when a lesser woman would have tapped out and went looking for another man. My guess is she saw my true value even before I did and continues to encourage me to improve myself and keep evolving - not change me, but helps and encourages me to obtain my goals and ambitions and become a better version of myself. My firsr
As a woman I approve this message. Men need to know the difference of a good woman and a toxic one. They tend to be very attractive and appealing at first but stay strong and wise gentlemen. Thank you Alux!
Great video… I am a single mom, my youngest son is 18, heading out on his own and I will be now in a new chapter in my life and I can attest to everything said in this video. Being a single mom was a huge challenge. Don’t do it if at all possible! ❤️👍🏻
@@christopherfritz3840 you’re gonna be old too someday. With your personality it’s not likely you’ll have a loyal partner by your side either, so choose to be kinder to older men cause they are already established and experienced in life. Not to be mocked.
I appreciate videos like this to keep me in check, I used to be extremely toxic (I have CPTSD) and I’ve taken steps to become a healthier and better person. I’m thankful a lot of low value traits I had are gone 🙌🏽🙌🏽 also, I appreciate all the positive feedback ❤️ people can change if they practice accountability and self improvement!!
Almost all are the same for all people... The #1 "green flag" for any person is, btw, what they call 'the growth mindset'. These people will only get better, stronger, smarter, healthier, etc.
As a man, besides how a woman dresses and presents herself, how she speaks, her attitude, is of utmost importance. The only thing you are entitled to is respect, when meeting someone new. Keep it classy, and keep an open mind. The mind is like a book. It works best when it is open.
Be fake and accept all your political positions, all opinions, perversions and giggle at unfunny jokes, right? I have a Manspeak To Plain English dictionary
As an only child, I get so tired of some people thinking we are all “spoiled.” I knew kids in school with siblings that had much more than I had and were very spoiled in personality. They drove the banging cars and had it all. I was taught to share and be kind from jump street so not all only children have a complex. Just wanted to say that 🙂 But thanks for the video; do one on guys if you haven’t done it already 😬
I was an only child and was definitely not spoiled. I grew up in competitive poverty. No car, no home phone, no central heating in a tiny rabbit hutch of a house and no yearly holidays.
i’m an only child raised by a single mother. she tried to spoil her guilt away. i was spoiled by her and my grandmother. thankfully i always had pride and as soon as i could work i provided for myself because i don’t want to ask anyone for anything, or be told no when i finally do. i’m very giving but very selfish of certain things. we aren’t all the same. high value hubby appreciates it all❤
Thank you for releasing this video. Everyone will have their own take of this list, but I will admit there are at least 3 things mentioned that I should work on. Admittedly I have been hesitant on dating because of the lack of trust I have in society has been dwindling, so I’ve been more focused on myself lately and I should start to see how I can at least make some contribution to help society. Can’t say it will fix a lot of problems, but at least I’ll learn to take the initiative and help any way possible. If it means to work on a few things on this video, so be it.
By the way, these points are so true for low value men as well 😱..... I've met some guys be it in acquaintances or interested parties, and they really ticked atleast 80% of these qualities.
Yeah just wrote a similar comment. It is about one's qualities regardless of gender. Helpful for consideration for relationships... and introspection for self improvement.
My grandmother, my great aunts, and others in their generation were some of the happiest women I've ever known. They had none of the traits in this video. Few of them were with "top 10%" earners. All of them married very young & kept their vows. All of them took great pride and joy in their children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. All of them were part of a team and worked hard as they learned to when they were kids. All of them were universally loved in the family. Why? They looked out for every one of us. Should we measure success by money alone or might legacy count for more? These women weren't just high value, they were amazing human beings and I'm grateful for and salute them.
This 2022. The women today aren't the women of generations past. Today's women think nothing of sleeping around. They don't value men. Every one of them is a ward of the state. They can always run to the authorities or family court and sic them on you at any time whenever their feelings are hurt. A man can lose at minimum half of his assets if things go wrong. I have no doubt the women of the past would act the same way as women do today if they were put in our world.
They were raised in a different culture. Women didn't have the protection of marriage by 18 in the 60's, 70's, 80's. Virgins we're virgins, because there was no sex before marriage.
Thank you for this video. I was smitten with a lady I met and, sadly, she fit pretty much all of these boxes. Six kids from six different dads, calling herself a Queen, inflated ego, rude to my family, daddy issues, a body count of literally hundreds, very manipulative, no life plan and always right (even when she wasn't). I tried to overlook this stuff and find a way to make things work because I truly did care for her but her constant over-inflated ego and manipulation made me just stop calling and walk away. I was tired of the games she played and the fact that I am sure she was seeing someone else at the end. I feel she is still out there sleeping her way around and manipulating her way to the top and I am left with a broken heart as part of me still sees the image I wanted for us moving forward. If I have any advice for guys out there it would be to just not get involved to start and leave them in their trash world to do their deeds. You will never be the priority as the one she loves the most is the one she sees in the mirror every day.
When I was single yrs ago I met a guy who wanted to date me! After he told me how many children he had I quickly dismissed him! He had great connection, but I refused to be in his company for any kind of romance! I also hate to be around men who can't hold an intelligent conversation or someone who lies! Health is wealth! Healthy eating is cheaper than doctor bills & medication!! GAP!!!
But nothing beats a big ol' greasy burger, or a bucket of fried chicken, or a pizza slice that drips. Except for maybe a bag of salty potato chips, chili cheese fries.....as the saying goes, the only thing better than a really good hot....is TWO really good hotdogs!!
I know a Doctor who is now divorced and a single Mom. Her ex husband, the father of her children has a PhD and a respected position in his work field. He simply put himself before his own kids and that led to her being a single Mom. So Alux; according to your opinion now she is " low value" I admire and respect this single Mom for taking on the responsibility of her childrens well being every day on her own now. I do not believe "her value" has diminished at all, if anything it went up for her taking on the responsibility by herself. She has a career too, yet she still wakes up every morning and is there for her children. First time I strongly 👎 Alux on one of their opinions.
“Children from past relationships or marriages” depends, is the partner missing due to going MIA or KIA in the line of action? (Cops, firefighters, soldiers, hell even those to catch some obscure disease or randomly get run over and die count) for that isn’t a misapprehension in so far as being forcefully parted from a compatible partner. Now if running through relationships with deadbeats unwilling or incapable of bearing responsibility for their kids that’s a definite misapprehension on the woman’s side. GAP
still a lower value women, for the simple reason having kids makes the price you have to pay to have her 3 to 5x higher in all matters in life, time investment, money investment, housing and utility costs, difficulty level of every day life etc. cant just run off camping on your days off, now you have to drag 2 and 3 kids with you, turning what would have been a cheap overnight run the 2 of you can privately enjoy in to a major chore requiring far more supplies, far more planning, no such thing as just up and going... someone will have school homework or something, or need babysitters, more expense, not worth it.... i simply do not want to live that way. i am not going to be a walking wallet to some other guys family regardless of reason, if i am going to be stuck living like that, with those kinds of bills, it will be for my own kids, not someone elses.
Personally I wouldn’t be able to accept any children brought by my partner. That was one of the most important criterium when I was choosing who I want to be with.
This was the comment I was looking for. Imagine, if you will, a woman and man being married with children and one morning on his way to work the husband is killed by a drunk driver. Then, diluted "members" of society have the audacity to call the woman low value because she is now, technically, a single mother?
I love living like a monk, surrounded by my books and my electronics. I don't have to bow or scrape to anybody, or have some woman dictating to me how to live my life. You can keep your relationships!
Gap - The thing I love about Alux is that all of your videos are thought-provoking, but the ones I get the most out of are the ones that instinctually anger me. It's been great to have that metric to know what I need to work on to better myself to get where I want to be. Thank you!
Kudos to you for that self awareness. I completely agree. Instead of getting mad, I look at where something might apply and I get to work to improve myself.
This video is necessary. This needs to be brought up more often and people have to understand no one has inherently more value than everyone else, including women. Alux does what others don't GAP
I see what you’re saying, and it’s only fair in todays society. However, I always worry for my grand girls as crime rises in our neighborhood, and people prey on the weak….women and children. In a perfect world, women would not only have high traits, but also have the equal strength and means to physically protect themselves. God forbid if we have to go off grid and start hunting for food again. Men are just built different. Although there are those rare women who have the strength of an ox and would survive just fine, but most would die. I wonder how this message would apply then?
I have been with my husband for over thirty years. It does take two to have a relationship; compromise, respect, and fairness are important. My husband and I have had great times and some really tough times. Knowing how to argue is paramount. We used to have some doozies, but now we don't argue much. The one thing I do disagree with is calling people low value, whether they are male or female. I do see some young folks today dealing with mental illness, for all different reasons. We need to make it more affordable and easier for someone to get help. As well as not just drugging them. I also believe that societies are cyclical and people will need each other more in the future. Compromise and working together will rule the day. Just like our grandparents and great grandparents had to do. Love your channel and thank you for sharing your knowledge!
It might seem harsh to label people described in this video as low value especially when the personality traits listed are stemming from mental issues but, Alux seems to trend on categorizing people and habits into groups that either add or do not add value to your life. I believe they are continuing that trend in this video.
@@carterafflick And they're doing the right thing. Call a spade a spade, do not virtue signal. This world has gone to shit exactly because of virtue signaling philosophy that mollycoddles people into mental disorders. If that woman was shamed against going into low value behavior when she was a young girl, she wouldn't have had these mental disorders now and would not be a low value woman by now.
If you have ever done any team activity or sport or game, then you will find some players add more to the team than others. Some are egotistical, so even when they have high skill, they tend to break the whole team. Some don't bother to put in the work. One of the worst people you can have on your team is someone halfhearted, who often says, "eh, I reached out my hand, but didn't bother to move for that volleyball." It would actually be easier to work with someone physically disabled where you know when you have to step in and cover their disability, than work someone with an attitude like that where you constantly have to wonder if you need to step in and bowl over them because they won't bother. And there is the person who enjoys the sport, but never practices, so they always remain at beginner level. So here's the reality, some people are more valuable to your team. And when you are choosing a team with only you and 1 other person on it, it matters even more. In order to steward your own life well, you have to chose carefully, and that means you do need to look at the choices, mindsets, and lifestyle of a prospect and give it a valuation. You wouldn't board a jet that was making clunky noises and smoking from an engine. - But that's judging! Don't board a marriage with a smoking, resource burning, wreck that doesn't fly straight, and has signs of self-destructing. And judging isn't always negative. Instead of pretending everyone is the same, you should rightly judge and approve of someone making good choices.
🙏❤ Having grown up in very similar circumstances , I can totally relate to Johnny. When I had my children and having had such horrible role models for parents, I felt completely inept when it came to raising my own children. So, I came to the conclusion that I would literally do the exact opposite of what my parents had done and believe it or not, it worked out beautifully! I also, lived vicariously through them, giving them the childhood I wished I could have experienced. They had birthday parties every year and wonderful Christmases. When money was tight, I put things on lay away starting in July so, they would have a wonderful Christmas without disappointments. I did my best to make them feel special and more than anything, wanted and loved . They turned out to be amazing caring, loving, compassionate adults, who I am extremely proud of! -Hester Mongomery
This list really hit hard. After a few long very good relationships with good women, I quite recently came out of a months long dating with a woman that scores 90% of the points named in this video. It was not obvious at first, cause her bad sides came one after another. She was also very manipulative and yeah... all other things in this video. So spot on. No fun.
This was brutally honest and truthful. I made the mistake of thinking a woman with these traits would change but it only got worst. For any man out there dating a woman with these traits, run away as fast as you can, there is nothing to achieve but maximum misery, great video.
Wow guess I'm gonna have to stay alone as i have two kids n my baby father passed away 😒n yeah y'all are right no man wants another man's kid or kids to be responsible for but single moms we are not totally lost cuz we can work n raise our kids n just wait until we can get a man who understands.💪💯❤️self love is the best love.
The video is pretty general. You sound like a fine young lady. You are being responsible. Dating takes a backseat to your children, you aren't out flashing your wares in da club. You will organically meet a man in your daily life through work or a friend. You will take your time to get to know this man. You will set and abide by your boundaries. You will do your best to ensure that you have made the right choice before jumping into the flames. There are men out there that would love a family. Maybe they have a medical condition that prevents them from having children. There are many reasons. You will be presented with the right man at the right time. Provided that you meet his standards too. Children aren't a deal breaker. It's the immature manipulative women that can't close the deal. Best of luck to you.
In general, this is how most men feel. That being said, a good portion of men would consider dating and even marrying a woman with children. They just need to have wifeable qualities and allow enough space in their lives for a man to feel relevant, loved and respected.
This is a good video. My husband and I got married before we had our 2 kids. He passed away 3 years ago. I am not rich but he has left us comfortable and he’s still taking good financial care of us thank God.
Alux should tell us how to become high value men and high value women in their next videos. Plenty of low value people out there but who knows if we’re high or low value and it’s difficult for many to know how to improve. They should really focus it as a tutorial of sorts to help everyone figure out how to level up their lives
Your a complete fool of you think women can teach you how to be a man. Go to channels like Freshandfit and you’ll learn a lot from them. Women don’t understand your masculine problems they live different existences.
Oh my god the "Cares More About Impressing Other Women" part really struck. It's why I am giving up on relationships (unless I find someone outside of that influence). I had a layoff in my last relationship with some money issues and STILL managed to provide date nights, a few great vacations, some new clothes for her here and there. And she STILL thinks I did nothing for her (obviously projection). She would get in such bad moods and be mean to me after watching reality TV or scrolling social media about all these "perfect" guys just showering average women with luxury. I am glad that relationship is over.
Hey brother,, lessons learned and we move forward with those who we value for their good qualities. I meet women on IG and we meet and chat not about their beauty. About who they are and their career in the 1st 3 days, If I get i'm not working ?? Big Red flags! I move on without them.
Yep....I can relate......bending over backwards for my wife, and she still thinks I've done nothing for her. She eventually divorced me, but I don't believe she's happy. She never determined what she wants from life......and doesn't know who she is. She's both lost and angry.....and I'm the butt of it :(
@@jscanl Some women, never learn and bounce from boyfriend or husband to husband. Your the wiser man! Peace of mind, I think counts with whoever you date or marry.
Almost every woman does this. Men aren't really important as they think they are in this case. No woman get dressed in hopes of capturing a man's attention, it's for us . Kinda like a confidence boost
If you're triggered by this video, instead of getting pissed off, reflect as to why? Stop acting like a "victim" of your life and do something about it! Fix it! Most of the elements in this video are repairable. For number 5, reflect at least on what lead to your previous relationship break down and work to avoid those same pitfalls. Understand that many men don't want the "baggage" of someone else's kids, and that's ok! That doesn't make them bad people, it only enhances the prospects that will embrace you and your past... You can make damn sure that's the only box on this list you check, and ensure you don't carry with it a sense of entitlement.
@@MoneySoul that's not what the video said, now is it 🙄 They clearly called out "exes" from previous marriages or relationships out of wedlock. Grow up. Your histrionic argument is the equivalent of someone telling you that if you don't use an umbrella in the rain, you'll likely get wet to which you respond "ummm I got wet in hurricane Katrina, an umbrella can't fix that!"
The truth in this video is so on point. I have met 5 of these kinds of women and I am thankful I walked way because I just couldn't find a good reason to stay.
Great stuff in this video! If only some of us knew at the beginning what makes a high-value woman and what makes a low-value woman that will be amazing! We all don't know much about life at the beginning, life does not come with the same blueprint or instructions from parents, school, or the environment we grew up in. As we are living, practicing, and learning through time, we then figured it out in some better ways than others. I believed that we can not change the past but we can create and build a better future no matter where we are in life we can still create a better life if we can imagine it and believe it. Sometimes we guide our sons and daughters through our experience and wisdom, but they still have not taken it in. They rather go through life lessons and learn for themselves in pain and pleasure. People praise this famous quote, " Don't ever let anyone change you. Be yourself!" The question is, Well, how is it working for you??? If you don't learn and you don't change, your life will not change.
Love this video! I’m tired of people making bad decisions and then blaming everyone else for why their life sucks. Hopefully people will view this video as constructive criticism and use it to better themselves.
some points were good, but not all. I do not take this video as constructive criticism, its all black and white with no grey. I myself if looking for a partner, would not judge them if they had a past and past trauma, almost everyone i met has a story, it depends on who you are today as a human. Also, judging people for not having plans with their lives and not being successful is absolutely horrid. People get success at different stages in their lives and some come up with their passion late in life. Its called LIFE, we evolve, change, mend and move forward. Targetting manifesting without having full knowledge what coaches bring to the table is also horrid. As i said, there are some points to take in, but the video isnt without major FLAWS.
Its a load of crap and its dangerous. There are so many people who go through difficult times and this video doesnt take all the diff things into account. This video in the wrong hands could hurt someone thats suicidal and left a dv relationship etc. You people are crazy to state this is constructive
Amazing to hear this clip, I was in the early stages of seeing a younger 30-year-old woman a few months ago and a major red flag for me was her bashing her 2 prior exes at our 1st get-together. Not one to judge but I kinda wanted to run. So I decided to put it aside, and guess what? She did again on the 2nd date. This applies to both men and women, don’t bash your exes, ever. Just use the line “ things didn’t work out “. Keep it classy people 👍
No 5, I don’t how to put it. Not all women become single mothers out of choice. Abusive and toxic relationships, deaths, cheating, abandonment etc are also the reasons. Agreed you did mention that “it is how society views it”. But the title of this video is “signs of low value women” not “ Category of women men might not prefer to date or marry “. Had the latter been the title, yes you are 100% correct. Infact someone in the comments rightfully pointed that it’s much easier to plan a camp out on a whim with a single woman rather than a single mom. All his points are true. Didn’t Alux in previous video mention that to succeed in life we have leave toxic relationships. By putting single mothers on same level with caluculative, manipulative, gas lighting women, you have put victims on same level with their abusers. You are not some random Tik Toker or some reality tv star who assume that all single mothers are drunk women who got pregnant without even knowing whom they slept with. Being a popular channel with millions of followers, you should put a little more thought into what category you are putting what kind of women. You seriously can’t put cheating, manipulating, fake, Hippocratic, gold digging women in the same basket as widows, women who have been cheated or abandoned, women who got out of decades of abusive relationships in the same basket. As previously said, single mothers may be a category of women not preferred ( most women have the common sense to know it), but not all of them are low value women
Irony how single moms made on the list of Low-value women with her "Bad decision" But, if the same woman decides for ABORTION to rectify her "Bad decision"...Look how fast society will label her as a murderer. (It's always her fault) She didn't make a bad decision. Her only mistake was she trusted a man enough.. Alux mentioned the child as a legacy of a man which he wants to create of his own but forgot that the same man ran away from his so-called " legacy" but these low-value single moms didn't.
Women right now are damned if we do, and damned if we don’t at the same time! I have NEVER seen a “low value man” list in my life that called out men who abandon their responsibility as a father! NEVER! Women who sacrifice their lives to OWN UP to their responsibility are ostracized and ridiculed for doing so and it’s insane. If the same woman has an abortion, she gets even more hatred! How about women stop having sex with men altogether and see if this narrative changes.
@@John_Q A non-hormonal IUD prevents pregnancy by preventing a fertilized egg (a baby) from attaching to the uterus. This is no different than an early stage abortion. Try again.
Alux and me both actually on the same page- when metioned kim and amber as examples of women, who doesn't have grace and substance and of low value in its entirety, no matter how rich you are. I'll quote something from gossip girl : Anyone can earn the money but only few earns class.
Is this kim kardashian? I don't think she's a low value woman. But she's not in the high class as well. She's just in the middle I guess. Just like other rich celebrities..
Great video, and the controversy is necessary. I find this a helpful measure to see if a woman is ready to date yet or if she still has work to do. I certainly see some of these traits in myself at any given point in my life. But instead of getting mad about it, I can do something about it. Thanks, Alux!
You nailed it. It's amazing how many women (and men!) don't know this. We all need to work on ourselves. That's what separates the extraordinary from the ordinary.
As a man I appreciate that. No woman is perfect, but one who wants to be a better woman and not have a delusional ego of a princess entitled to only 6ft tall millionaires and to treat other men like dirt is the biggest problem a lot of men. A lack of respect (-eg. hooked on her phone on a date and chatting with her friends when I am trying to have a conversation) are the two most frustrating experiences us men have today. Don't do those two and I am good to do
There’s nothing wrong with being childless and not wanting someone with a child. Single dads are just as undesirable as single moms because what you know right away is that a low quality, high drama woman already takes half of his monthly pay and calls all the shots in his life, and will in yours, too, if you share a life with him. I’m divorced and married a fellow divorcée, and my parenting relationship with my ex is cordial and functional while his ex is a complete piece of trash who constantly turns our life upside down. Stuck with it forever.
@@Queen-of-Swords Lol, is that what you’re wishing on me in spite of all your other would be feminist comments? What I already know about for sure is her abusive behavior that she’s shown toward her kids, and her harassment toward me and mine.
The Kevin Samuel effect!!!! Give this man his flowers. He did not create the term but he was the only one who wasn't afraid to take the heat for speaking about it.
@@imsk6729 please. he was a low value man himself and he never gave any constructive criticism. all he did was bullying, shaming and insulting. Making fun of women's looks and calling good looking women average at best, how did that help any improvement? women who have done their personal development work, have a stable income, he will tell them none of that matters, they should just be grateful for whatever man comes their way. And you being unable to make the difference between this articulate and helpful content to Kevin Samuel's substance free and trashy content, it shows how low value you are. There are videos on low value men, Kevin Samuels ticks all the points, they only forgot to mention that low value men die in the hands of a hooker to match his image entirely.
Don't forget, some women, like myself, are alone with children because our spouse died. I was treated like I had some baby daddy out there and I was just another "single mom". Since single motherhood started around the time of the sexual revolution and higher divorce rates, a woman alone with kids is no longer thought of as a "widow " but just a single mom instead.
Don’t put yourself in the same category…. God has the right person who knows…. And there Are programs set up for people in different categories to socialize with people of the same flock. No ONE WAY of thought or strategy is correct for all!
Well the issue of children really got a rise didnt it? I was a widowed. not divorced, single mother of an 8 yr old daughter. I was a 33 yr old PhD clinical psychologist and professor. I went back a year after my husband's death to my home city to see if I wanted to move back there. My parents took care of my daughter while I looked at properties and explored job options. I met a recently divorced man of 37. I was attractive but it was my education , intelligence, love of reading, fondness for sailing that attracted him most...I had just sold my boat. He had a bachelors degree in psychology so we talked our experiences working in animal experimentation labs. We talked books we BOTH were avid readers. We talking sailing, he was really interestedwhen he heard that, not many women sail...of course he liked my looks, but it was these things that really mattered to him. He knew I was a serious substantial person. I was not looking for a husband and I definitely did not want any more children.I had a profession and could earn enough to support my daughter and I forever. He REALLY liked all that about me. I certainly brought alot to the table. So did HE. He had been wealthy, but no longer was. I simply did not care. He was working and doing fine but had had to go bankrupt when he lost all his many businesses in an economic downturn. Absolutely not his fault. He was a smart, hardworking, very intelligent man in all the ways I liked. He had his concerns which he did not express yet about my daughter, so did I. She came home once I settled in as summer was ending. They had to adjust to each other. They did fine. He had been dating three other women when we met...he told them very quickly he had met someone. One day I was visiting his apt his exwife who had left him with the parting shot , " I married you for your potential" called. She left him because he lost his money and status. I stepped out the front door to give him privacy. Their divorce was final the day we met. She expressed concerns that perhaps she had made a wrong decision leaving him...she was dating someone else when she left him. He told her over the phone sorry I have met someone else and came looking for me. I was sitting on the staircase outside his apartment. Sitting there I suspected that was the reason for her call. I didnt feel jealous or worried or paniced. I was surprised how calm I was.I didnt feel overconfident, I jusr felt concerned but serene...if he was committed he felt committed. If not, well he was not. This was a thing I had zero control over... HIS feelings. He had told me he loved me and I had told the same a month before tis call happened. He asked me to come in and told me what he said and what she said. I was glad but didnt act emotional...I had felt confident and hopeful but the reassurance was nice. I knew we had some things to work out about my child. And work them out we did over the next year. He turned out to be a wonderful stepfather. He took her places, encouraged her in her dreams to fly. He gave her all sorts of special experiences flying that I couldnt. She already yearned to be a pilot before her father died. And a professional military pilot she became, thanks to her wonderful stepfather. Yet she never warmed to him emotionally, which was and is sad. She seemed to feel that if she allowed herslf to love him would mean she didnt love her dead father....such a shame. He and I celebrated 41 years together a few months ago. I am SUCH a lucky woman ...we have had incredible lives together. All our plans and dreams came true because WE made them happen. I just felt it immediately when I met him THIS was a man of substance, of quality...I knew I was the same as a woman, but I DIDNT know how joyous and filled with love our relationship would be.
I think widows are a special case. I think more than half of the perceived low value comes from the perception of single mothers being poor planner and talking bad decisions, much more than the monetary value of raising a child. That if the cause of death was really an accident and not like he was involved with crime or drugs. Also widows usually inherit the whole family property, so have enough resources so a new man doesn’t have to worry on spending resources on other man’s kids.
It would be all the same. Inflated self worth. Thinking being rich is all you need to bring to the table. Emotionally manipulative. I think all of this can be applied to low value men.
Actually alux first did a video on “what women want in a man” 2 years ago and there were men in the comments asking alux to do a version of what men want from women. It’s a never ending carousel ride of the genders.
This video describes 90% of the women in the American dating pool A woman once asked me where are all the good men? When I told her with all the good women she got angry The truth hurts
I feel strongly about all of these. However. I don't know what it feels like to be sick. My main concern is if a woman is lying to me to get out of a situation because she is sick. OR getting a headache/migraine/tired when a real convo needs to take place. Trauma may never end but if you're not willing to work on it and your okay with that, there could be complications.
I'm glad you made this, and I'm glad this conversation is going mainstream finally. There are too many women who think they're perfect because they're women. Ironic that women don't see how they're becoming chauvinistic themselves.
@🍓 Strawberry Lady Average woman marries over 30, which is essentially the same thing. So that balances out. And if sperm quality deterioration is occuring, that sounds like a testosterone issue. Which many women seem to be happy about because of irrational fear of masculinity. So what is the nature of the complaint? Isn't pudgy, weak willed men something that modern women want?
So you basically took every major talking point from Kevin Samuels and The Crimson Cure, as well as many others in the manosphere, and particularly the black manosphere, and compiled it into a single video. Congrats.
What this list tells me is that I've been realistic about myself and the goals I have are good, as well as my decision not to date right now while I work on myself. My value matters, and because I know that, I will actually attract someone of equal or better value.
In that case we’ve all been low value at some point because we’ve all done these things at some point in our lives. No one can tell anyone what their value is. And you have to realize the reality that people can grow and evolve.💯
Whoa! I so needed to hear this ! What an elegant way to put these hard truth in perspective. Thank you for saving me from drowning in my own entitled drama 🎭. And a ton of foreseeable trouble I’d get myself into if not correctly adjusting my poor behavior. My parents definitely spoiled me and allowed unacceptable behaviors.
Wow Alux went full Mask off with this video... No punches held, Much respect. S/O to the women and individuals that are willing to listen and implement these changes.
This video is a misogynistic pile of rubbish that makes you internalise male hatred of women. Talking about people's "value" as if they were used cars. FML
GAP!!! I am ready to have a debate on why this not controversial at all! This is fact...pure, unadulterated truth of modern society. Great job Alux. Needed this. I was unfit most of 2020 and 21. 22 is my year of great health. I am constantly working on maintaining a fit body, healing trauma, building self awareness and trying to build trust with people!
Triggering definitely describes this. Lol For the most part, I agree with this and I'm happy to say that I have evolved from having most of the traits described in this video. I love my family but we had some pretty toxic ways. Thankfully, most of my siblings and I have seen how deadly our learned behavior is and have taken steps to change.
This is probably the most controversial video we’ve made to date. Everything in this video is statistically true, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Facts over feelings!
“Signs of a high value woman” video coming tomorrow!
Please do the reverse of this... for high value women and same for men
Thanks.... love from Ghana 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭😍
The kids call it “hate facts.”
Looks is a depreciating asset like a mobile NFL QB or an European luxury car..
@@philipabbey4623 They have already done one for each.
1. Inflated sense if value
2. They play games
3. Insults and shame others
4. Loud and inarticulate
5. Children from past relationships
6. Unhealthy weight
7. Trashy
8. Unresolved trauma of the past
9. Controlling,jealous and unable to show trust
10. Good time, not a long time
11. High body count
12. Emotionally manipulative
13. Cares more about impressing other women
14. Doesn't have a plan for her life
15. They need to be right all the time
They don't add peace to your life, as they're always in a state of asking. And they'd rather trade sex for a good or service but, still lay claim they're aren't a whore.
Thanks for non of them is in me! 😘
"13. Cares more about impressing other women "
THIS THE ONE
16. She's a Democrat
Children from past relationships?
Is that right?
When the divorce rate is higher than 50% you expect those men and women who split and have kids together-NEVER even try to be happy?ridiculous sexist statement
I was raised by a single mother I love her brutally.
She taught me that real strong women will do anything has to keep me fed and housed.
I met my wife when her daughter was 2 years old abandoned by her former baby daddy.
Gaby my wife was struggling as a single mother took me in after being forced out of the military.
I poured my soul into that child I gave her all my attention.
Caroline is now 8 years old happy and healthy.
MY first child with Gaby is a boy now 4 his name is Mikael.
My point is a single mother can be an extremely high value woman.
Sometimes a child forces you to become a better person.
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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 thank you Sir. Some of us become high value women from the kids and failed marriages
Yes exactly! This video is just continuing to feed the narrative that single mothers aren't of value and worth dating, which I find so ignorant and superficial. I don't appreciate that. Look how many single mothers raised such successful men and women. And there are still plenty of happily married couples out there that had children from previous relationships, and manage to make things work because it's not just about the children they come in with, it's the woman herself who brings them a happy life. That mention this video made about single mothers was just SO ignorant.
It’s the overpopulation shaming the left uses. Children are blessings and when you become a parent that’s when life starts and has significance.
@@sparkles999rose2 a new life def starts at parenthood.
8- damage from childhood abuse and trauma and 9- jealousy, insecurity and trust issues applied to me in my early years. My poor husband was commited and dedicated to tough it out. We've been married for 34 years now. For years I didn't know what he seen in me but grateful he saw something. I put in the work to improve myself and heal my past traumas. We became a power couple, successful at working together in our business ventures.
Making the changes for self improvement is worth it. Don't dwell on feeling low value because some points hit home. Focus on what you have to do to change and be who you are meant to be. Become high value and you will attact a high value partner.
Thank you for this caring statement, as the saying goes'Till you've walked in my shoes.'
Wonderful comment this is Reality 2 people dedicated to each other and their relationship. Thank you for sharing ❤️
My husband and I are celebrating our 4th anniversary in a week. I’m 33, he’s 39. We bought a home on 6 acres to turn into a simple homestead a year before we were married. I was a personal chef before we had our daughter and he owned a landscaping company.
Now we’re close to qualifying for state grants as an official farm and buying the 5 acres next door. We’re seeing the profit, all the fruit trees, a pasture, several gardens, we have bunnies, turkeys, chickens, and Mangalitsa pigs, plus an extraordinary toddler lol although realized I need to pursue my own goals too and had to dedicate that time. It made my husband even more proud.
We’re bigger and better together. He told me during a toast he had a dream and I made it real and vast. Your comment made me feel like I’m on a good path. 34 years of marriage is an accomplishment I hope I have one day ❤️ my past trauma doesn’t define me.
@@Chefgrlangel that is a beautiful dream you two created together! Imagine what you two will accomplish in 30 more years. Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience.
My husband and I came up together. We both had different but equally iffy childhoods. One or two of these traits won’t ruin your life if you’re committed to doing better. Dumb mistakes in your 20’s can be negated. Even if you’re a single mom, if you’re a really nice person and your kid is on their way to that most normal people will forgive. If you’re a joy to be around people will be around you period.
Being able to admit you're wrong and being able to genuinely apologise is a big one man or woman.
That's nice you tell yourself that to make yourself feel better but no, it is mostly women who have that problem a man can admit he is wrong as hard as it may be were a woman in most cases would not. From what I've seen all my life it is mostly women causing that problem. Men might hesitate but that's usually about it. It seems kind of odd that you bring up "man or woman"? The video, "15 Signs of a Low Value Men", did not even cover this. The that men did before GPS in cars the hole not asking for directions thing. Younger men as much as theirs is GPS in the cars now or on your phone basically, we learned for the most part what not to do lol. Women are feminist and so their shit does not end, which is not the same thing! Unless you are in a really toxic work environment men do not usually do that shit for the most part as it is women who are shouting their point of view like crazy, as if it was going to help to be unfair to each other. The hole not stopping to ask for directions is more shame then anything else. When women do what they do it is usually because they want to be in control of shit, which goes off the deep end.
Yep! Yep!
That is a massive turn-on for me, knowing when you are wrong and apologising honestly for it. A lot of women just lack accountability for anything.
Don't save her..... She don't wanna be saved
Never thought that this would be a comment under an alux video😂😂😂so simple but yet so true you my friend are a poet
They hate when I sing this around em.
I'mma introduce me, Project Pat, I keep it real
I'mma introduce you, you's a sucka faking deals
If you gonna let these freaky h**s run yo life
I don't understand how you turn a freak into a wife
Oh man who let the 36 fans through the door 😂
But certain men are always trying to save a ..well you know the rest
As a woman who grew up in an abusive home, I took great lengths to make myself a better person. I judge a person's value on how kind and loving they are. Not them having name brands or their connections. Or if my friends are unhealthy, I gently motivate them. I think compassion, honesty, trust are better values then anything this video has to showcase.
Why don’t you agree with it?
It’s the world who decide what someone’s value is, not the person themselves.
Low to 0 body count, dressing very modest outside (showing no boobs, ass and being the opposite at home dressing like a slut or a stripper at home to her husband makes the woman very high value to men.
And also kind and not arguing over everything are also what makes a high value woman. Oh and if she’s a single mum that drops the value of that woman.
The video gave those points above so as a man I agree.
A very eloquent way of saying this is a low value video/message
I just love it🖐️🗽💋
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Appreciate your comment!
This video addresses narcissists, not you. Not all narcissists are from abusive homes; many come from overly permissive ones.
Growth and healing has to begin from a desire to change. This video is a good wakeup call to a sick society. Women have enormous power to do good. The choice is that or the opposite.
If she has children, pay attention to how she treats them. You will be treated the same way once you are past the infatuation phase.
If she has children don't give her your attention, there I fixed it for you.
@@PatriarchalCompass city boy🤝🏼🗣️
@@jankhank3894 does that mean that when you live outside of a city you don't have the choice ...... ?
@@vinced5741 🛑
@@PatriarchalCompass I spot a ⛳️
I am 66yo. I have only realized, in the last 15 or so years, I am a low value woman. At least now I know why no one ever wanted to marry me. I try very hard to give myself the best life I-can but things are clear now. Unfortunately, if I had heard this back in my 20s, I wouldn’t have been able to recognize myself. I can only take heart that a couple of these bad traits, I did not do.
Really who cares what this video says? No one is "low value" in the eyes of God. What some short sighted people here on earth think about us is really irrelavent. You were created in the loving image of God. That is what matters.
@Jade Demby tru
You're not low value this trash ass video is low value and killing brain cells by the second. It's a video to pump up toxic men's ego and low self esteem which they can't do themselves. You better love yourself and be kind to yourself 💋
The person on the video said that it's not No Value as a human being, because as the comment above says you have Value in God's economy. However, these traits listed on this video are about character and desirability as a spouse. The bible does teaches us God's standards and how we are to live. If we follow His commands it stands to reason that we will be people of good character. The bible describes a virtuous woman in psalm 31. I have to say that I meet very few of these virtues, but I am working on it. I was like you and I had many of the negative traits on this video, but God and his mercy brought a wonderful husband into my life, and I am trying to be the virtuous woman that the Lord commands me to be. Living the life of purity is hard, but its a lot harder to live the manic undisciplined angry life that I used to live.
@Jade Demby I don't think you quite understand what @shirley Stann is saying. This video is 100% correct. Sadly, too many women wake up one day and realize exactly what this video is saying too late.
"High confidence when not met with real value is unagreeable." Very right.
the base assumption here is that “high value women” are more agreeable. I agree with some of the things in this video.. others really rub be wrong with. the presentation and tone .. there I go being disagreeable!
@@saltybird8 What are things you disagree with?
Alot of high value women aren't agreeable.
No idea.
There's a lot of things happening around a person.
They could be hoodwinked. They might have been exploited and let down.
If some school has 20 children and the few teachers disagreeing to their students' occasional errors inspite of being a minority is important. .
Agreeability is not a marker.
Main characteristic of a low- value man or woman: letting other people determine your value.
Facts 🎯💯
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People that say this kind of stuff are the epitome of what this video is about but they're so deluded to see it 😅
@A Great Man Named Lieu Wrong. The value of a PERSON is 100% dependent on the value they have for themselves! Life doesn’t happen TO us, it happens THRU us! When u love and value yourself, your external world will reflect that. Nobody can define value for another person unless they themselves accept that definition. Now, your definition may apply to goods and services, but not human beings. Stop this perpetuating this silly agenda.
Delusional hypocrite statement. If you go 100% with your words, you wouldn't have a problem to get a guy with all this 15 points. After all, who can define his value, right!?
In a morally bankrupt toxic society, I'll pass on their judgments with a grain of salt. I'm at the age where society doesn't define my value. I do. I got married thinking I would be loved and honored,instead I got the crap beat out of me. I took my son and left and focused on his education and well-being. I couldn't care less what society thinks of me. It's the value I have for myself that would not allow me to stay in that situation. The sad part is I stayed long enough to get choked unconscious and my tooth chipped worried about what society would think of me. Smh, if you know what's best for you, you'd take a long hard look at the society judging you, lol at the audacity, and go about living your best life. Trying to live up to society's expectations is the quickest way to the nut house and an early grave. Love yourself enough to define yourself. Society will continue to do what a society does either build you up or tear you down. At the end of the day, all that really matters is how you feel about yourself. So love yourself, even when/if society tells you you're unlovable as the truth of the matter is simple yet sad: societies tend to be made of sinners eager to cast the first stone...aka hypocrites. The same people talking down on you for the decisions you make are the same people who called me stupid for staying as long as I did. Hypocrites. Love yourself enough to love you unconditionally.
I can't believe you don't have more likes on this comment. I agree with everything you said. I was also a single mother. If a mother thinks that the child would be better off without the toxic father in their lives. We leave for the childs sake. We should not be judged for that. We should not be called low value. I only watched this video out of curiosity. No one should judge anyone if they haven't walked in their shoes. 👍for the best comment on this feed.
I love you
This vid is so toxic
I feel like a man made it and got a woman to do the voice over.
Strong woman.
I agree. One of my first thoughts. Sounds like a badly hurt guy. Sadly
The way of thinking in this video makes my skin crawl.
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I’m a single mother and my husband used to beat the shyt out of me and my kids. I don’t regret my decision to leave. I have rebuilt my life from scratch, it is something to behold. Society be damned
I'm happy you and your children are out of an abusive relationship! 😃
I don't think the Alux video is saying to STAY in an ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP or MARRIAGE just to say that you're married. You did the right thing; it was a healthy move. I'm happy for you and your children I'm glad you're safe! 😃😃👏🏽👏🏽
@Jermaine Anthony they tend to do that when confronted with truth.
@Jermaine Anthony it’s called offering a different perspective. In reality single motherhood is lumped up into one boat. In reality no one asks why they simply assume and their is no distinction. Has nothing to do with sensitivity. Society is going to do what it does best, judge and assume.
@@Mark-rm2fp further solidifying my point. The truth? What truth prey tell?
God bless you.
A troublesome woman can ruin your life. Take this advice to heart. I can't wait to see the list on low value men
I am glad you posted this. I can see how far I have come from my bad choices. I was raised by a mother who raised me in an abusive and toxic environment, and her message was always "find a good man to take care of you." That's a lousy message since she couldn't find one for herself. I found myself in the same abusive, toxic relationships until reality slapped me in the face, and I had to ask myself, how did I get here? I went into therapy and got my answers and decided I did not want to be a failure my entire life. I am working on my MBA and also working with a publishing company for my creative side. I have been working on myself, healing myself, and staying away from things that don't serve me. I may have missed the high-value boat for men, but at least I have increased my value for myself. I went from hating myself to learning to love myself. I am better now than ever and I am better for it. I appreciate seeing where I went wrong, and I don't mind being the cautionary tale if it will help a young woman to avoid those pitfalls. If you can work on yourself first before you get involved with someone else, it will help. Life is hard and even harder when you make stupid choices. Take it from me.
Proud of you sis! Thanks for sharing your story with us!
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Girl same. I had a deeply abusive, toxic, narcissistic mother who had no shortage of sex partners and baby daddies but never had a boyfriend. My mother is masculine to her bone and will die alone.
that's brave, Bee!
I give you slot of credit for being honest with yourself. On the same level, don't be so hard on yourself. You've been through a lot. Are these high value men running to your side.
I will add one on - Judging others, operating from comparison and envy instead of compassion and kindness.
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@A Great Man Named Lieu ...and dusties operate from a point of hyper emotionality.
I was told that I am low valued woman because I was a stay home mother who supported my husband’s business . I was told by my nephew that I am not independent because I rely on my husband financially. He likes women who are out there doing what they want wth confidence and being successful with their careers . I had no one to take care of my children while I worked . My mother is mentally sick and my mother in law was working . Daycare was expensive. At least I am a helpful person who cares about people . Nothing can beat that !
A person of high value wouldn't mock someone else's way of living. People have different stories in a book. Women like you have contributed to making a world a better for always being there for the kids. I was raised by a stay at home mom. Without her I wouldn't be where I am today, strong and independent well disciplined and mannered as discussed in this video. So keep up the good work!
@@delilahgambano8812 You are amazing!
YOU...are a REAL woman!!!
@@mrblue21974 Thank you
@@delilahgambano8812 Thank you for your kind words .
Great video…makes me appreciate my wife more. She has very respectful relationship with her father, brother and other male relatives. She is funny and doesn’t make fuss about superficial things while being a great investor of money. She accepts her mistakes very easily and appreciates others innocently.
She does not play games rather enjoys every moment like a child.
Wow…I got the jackpot .
Thanks Alux !
Or you a one amazing man remember you attracted her the type of women you get or the fact you bring out a lady's good side is a reflection of you most women can be that type of person when a man is treating them with respect
@@bunnyboo6295 Thanks 🙏 I am just trying to be grateful to have a great person as life partner
Wow, you found a diamond in a world of rocky women.
Interesting as the men I’ve dated dislike the fact that my dad has been in my life and he still his. We have an excellent relationship. However they’ve hated this .
@@Igetit1980 something is wrong here. Either you are dating guys with disrespectful intentions towards you and don't want a dad to protect you from them, OR your dad is running them off , OR you have a daddy's little girl relationship with him and no date finds that attractive. It's hard to be the man in a 3 way relationship that includes a father sitting on a pedestal.
Society judges individuals harshly while blindly indulging in morally reprehensible behavior when they think they can get away it. Also sounds like disabled women would be judged as “lesser” by society’s standards by appearances alone, and that’s terrible. There are people out there who think if you’re disabled or mentally/physically ill, you’re not “high value” or worthy of living an abundant life; those people will get their comeuppance someday.
“High value” to me is someone who is a genuinely good person; someone who does the right thing more often than not whether or not it ‘looks’ that way to other people. Gap
Thank you for your kind well balanced thoughts, the not-so-perfect like me will be grateful.
The video does not insult nor insinuate that the mentally ill or physically ill are low value.
High value is a general interpretation and not being HV does mean you don’t have worth. Society is too worried about being the best when everyone can’t be the best.
I can agree with what you said. But if someone (especially a man) openly admitted to being interested in dating or marrying someone who was mentally disabled, that man would be labeled a predator for taking advantage of such a woman. A woman would be looked at as if she were stupid because such a man provides little benefit to her (not as harsh but still can be painful).
Life has ups and downs. “How things look” to “society”, has little value to me. It’s such a shallow way to generalize how all or most people are or think. America has been dumbed down, systematically, and this is part of why. Self-actualized people, who may have some issues they’re working on, or through, are usually people who, even though aware of generalized, societal prejudices, would not focus or give much weight, to the most superficial view of people and situations. Each individual has their own way of judging or criticizing another. It can vary greatly, with creative thinkers, When people are able to think independently, without strong influence, they are able to see and feel the truth of a person’s heart and soul.
Even though there is no specific mention of a person who is disabled, is low value, it’s definitely insinuated, as is, a widower, divorced, any single woman with children. Are you kidding? Was the “mistake” leaving an abusive relationship, or does it even matter what? Does it matter that they’re a great mom or, how many hurdles and challenges this person may have successfully navigated?
From this article, it seems a popularity contest is most important, and we should all focus on the lowest common denominator.
Maybe evolving from this, is a viable option.
Whatchootink?
I wish I had saw this video when I was 16. I wish I had people who would advice me on what needed to be done before I had embark on this journey they called life. Thank you. After my divorce to my divorce I’ve I met 10 years ago, my life have got 100 percent better. She still sleeping around from house to house. And I am about to open my first business in the trucking industry. Guys, take note. Especially you young guys out there reading this comment. Don’t throw away your dreams for a woman who don’t care to loose you. Don’t chase no one, cause you do; you will find that you spent 10 years without accomplishing anything. That’s what had happened to me 😭 but thanks to god I made it out.
I didn't find out about the red pill till I was in my 30s. Till this day, I still sometime simp. That's when I hit myself in the head.
Glad you made it out of there safe, & are getting back on track to working on making yourself more valuable & resourceful! Stay focused, & keep grinding!💥
Thanks for the advice :) glad you got away from your old self
The greatest showman is a great movie to help people who are struggling…it’s inspiring for sure
Yall probably heard about it but was so deep in love that you didn't care
I know lots of women who exhibit several of these traits. Wives of friends and friend of my wife.
I'm so glad she is not like them. She is strong and will put me in my place, but can also recognize when I have made a valid point in disagreements.
When my first wife left me, we met a few weeks later. She stood by me when a lesser woman would have tapped out and went looking for another man. My guess is she saw my true value even before I did and continues to encourage me to improve myself and keep evolving - not change me, but helps and encourages me to obtain my goals and ambitions and become a better version of myself.
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11:45- No matter where you are in life you can create a better life if you imagine it
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Yes and if you put in the work to raise your value. Good things will come.
Primacy-of-consciousness b.s.
As a woman I approve this message. Men need to know the difference of a good woman and a toxic one. They tend to be very attractive and appealing at first but stay strong and wise gentlemen. Thank you Alux!
You are a true Sigma female 🛐
@@selkkino874 A true Chadorothy
Bless you heart.
Great video… I am a single mom, my youngest son is 18, heading out on his own and I will be now in a new chapter in my life and I can attest to everything said in this video. Being a single mom was a huge challenge. Don’t do it if at all possible! ❤️👍🏻
Ditto. Being a single parent was my excuse for years to keep the serious guys away.
May much success be upon you
@@athomewithvicky You mean you've lassoed a Beta 'Blue Pill'. Probably twenty years older.. 😏
You need to be protected at all costs ⚔️
@@christopherfritz3840 you’re gonna be old too someday. With your personality it’s not likely you’ll have a loyal partner by your side either, so choose to be kinder to older men cause they are already established and experienced in life. Not to be mocked.
Thanks!
I appreciate videos like this to keep me in check, I used to be extremely toxic (I have CPTSD) and I’ve taken steps to become a healthier and better person. I’m thankful a lot of low value traits I had are gone 🙌🏽🙌🏽 also, I appreciate all the positive feedback ❤️ people can change if they practice accountability and self improvement!!
awesome
When women say they have disorders, whether in the past or present, i begin to wonder in what few ways they know they are thoroughly sanitized.
Keep the track so good
what is CPTSD
“Women want a cash register….men want sex…” That’s it.
So happy you guys made this. Do signs of a low value man as well.
I think they already did like two videos
They did...they title it 'signs of an inferior man'
Almost all are the same for all people...
The #1 "green flag" for any person is, btw, what they call 'the growth mindset'. These people will only get better, stronger, smarter, healthier, etc.
They’ve posted it
As a man, besides how a woman dresses and presents herself, how she speaks, her attitude, is of utmost importance. The only thing you are entitled to is respect, when meeting someone new. Keep it classy, and keep an open mind. The mind is like a book. It works best when it is open.
Be fake and accept all your political positions, all opinions, perversions and giggle at unfunny jokes, right? I have a Manspeak To Plain English dictionary
@@magnificent6668 Your ignorance is duly noted. Carry on.
@@magnificent6668 Wow! You just described how I have to deal with my toxic feminist wife! But, I'll bet you think only men can be toxic, right?
I attended a friend’s wedding, and the priest said “instead of searching for the perfect partner, you must strive to be the perfect partner.”
Sounds familiar 🤔
In the best possible way. 🙌
As long as guys are waking up and getting the message we are happy. Thanks for spreading it
Don’t hate I fucks with Alux
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As an only child, I get so tired of some people thinking we are all “spoiled.” I knew kids in school with siblings that had much more than I had and were very spoiled in personality. They drove the banging cars and had it all. I was taught to share and be kind from jump street so not all only children have a complex. Just wanted to say that 🙂 But thanks for the video; do one on guys if you haven’t done it already 😬
They would surely do if Johnny Depp pays them for that too.
I was an only child and was definitely not spoiled. I grew up in competitive poverty. No car, no home phone, no central heating in a tiny rabbit hutch of a house and no yearly holidays.
paper thin 🤣😅😂😂😂😂
i’m an only child raised by a single mother. she tried to spoil her guilt away. i was spoiled by her and my grandmother. thankfully i always had pride and as soon as i could work i provided for myself because i don’t want to ask anyone for anything, or be told no when i finally do. i’m very giving but very selfish of certain things. we aren’t all the same. high value hubby appreciates it all❤
Same here. Spoiled in what in EXTRA expectations because your the only child.
Wow, so many influencers have these traits😂
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Thank you for releasing this video. Everyone will have their own take of this list, but I will admit there are at least 3 things mentioned that I should work on. Admittedly I have been hesitant on dating because of the lack of trust I have in society has been dwindling, so I’ve been more focused on myself lately and I should start to see how I can at least make some contribution to help society. Can’t say it will fix a lot of problems, but at least I’ll learn to take the initiative and help any way possible. If it means to work on a few things on this video, so be it.
That is how I look at it too. Try to take an honest stock of what makes you undesireable to the opposite sex is the way through.
GAP As a woman, I appreciate your brutal honesty and am looking forward to your next video.
By the way, these points are so true for low value men as well 😱..... I've met some guys be it in acquaintances or interested parties, and they really ticked atleast 80% of these qualities.
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Yeah just wrote a similar comment. It is about one's qualities regardless of gender. Helpful for consideration for relationships... and introspection for self improvement.
Yes, so true👍👌
A woman always gotta include men. The video is about low value women 🙄
There’s always at least one with “but men” syndrome
My grandmother, my great aunts, and others in their generation were some of the happiest women I've ever known. They had none of the traits in this video. Few of them were with "top 10%" earners. All of them married very young & kept their vows. All of them took great pride and joy in their children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. All of them were part of a team and worked hard as they learned to when they were kids. All of them were universally loved in the family. Why? They looked out for every one of us. Should we measure success by money alone or might legacy count for more? These women weren't just high value, they were amazing human beings and I'm grateful for and salute them.
This 2022. The women today aren't the women of generations past. Today's women think nothing of sleeping around. They don't value men. Every one of them is a ward of the state. They can always run to the authorities or family court and sic them on you at any time whenever their feelings are hurt. A man can lose at minimum half of his assets if things go wrong. I have no doubt the women of the past would act the same way as women do today if they were put in our world.
"All of them were universally loved in the family" - oh the beauty of this!
They were raised in a different culture. Women didn't have the protection of marriage by 18 in the 60's, 70's, 80's. Virgins we're virgins, because there was no sex before marriage.
Then go marry those women
@@nontobekoncube8450 A hit dog will holler.
Thank you for this video. I was smitten with a lady I met and, sadly, she fit pretty much all of these boxes. Six kids from six different dads, calling herself a Queen, inflated ego, rude to my family, daddy issues, a body count of literally hundreds, very manipulative, no life plan and always right (even when she wasn't). I tried to overlook this stuff and find a way to make things work because I truly did care for her but her constant over-inflated ego and manipulation made me just stop calling and walk away. I was tired of the games she played and the fact that I am sure she was seeing someone else at the end. I feel she is still out there sleeping her way around and manipulating her way to the top and I am left with a broken heart as part of me still sees the image I wanted for us moving forward. If I have any advice for guys out there it would be to just not get involved to start and leave them in their trash world to do their deeds. You will never be the priority as the one she loves the most is the one she sees in the mirror every day.
Really good comments. One more thing to add, much of her "high body count" consisted of low value men, aka 'bad' boys that are very f'd up guys; very.
Sorry pal...you're a Simp.
When I was single yrs ago I met a guy who wanted to date me! After he told me how many children he had I quickly dismissed him! He had great connection, but I refused to be in his company for any kind of romance! I also hate to be around men who can't hold an intelligent conversation or someone who lies! Health is wealth! Healthy eating is cheaper than doctor bills & medication!! GAP!!!
But nothing beats a big ol' greasy burger, or a bucket of fried chicken, or a pizza slice that drips. Except for maybe a bag of salty potato chips, chili cheese fries.....as the saying goes, the only thing better than a really good hot....is TWO really good hotdogs!!
I know a Doctor who is now divorced and a single Mom.
Her ex husband, the father of her children has a PhD and a respected position in his work field.
He simply put himself before his own kids and that led to her being a single Mom.
So Alux; according to your opinion now she is
" low value"
I admire and respect this single Mom for taking on the responsibility of her childrens well being every day on her own now.
I do not believe "her value" has diminished at all, if anything it went up for her taking on the responsibility by herself. She has a career too, yet she still wakes up every morning and is there for her children.
First time I strongly 👎 Alux on one of their opinions.
So, take one example and assume that invalidates the general rule. A low value woman.
i think Alux meant children out of wedlock more than children of divorced parents.
Knights smell like perspirration and wear khaki
“Children from past relationships or marriages” depends, is the partner missing due to going MIA or KIA in the line of action? (Cops, firefighters, soldiers, hell even those to catch some obscure disease or randomly get run over and die count) for that isn’t a misapprehension in so far as being forcefully parted from a compatible partner.
Now if running through relationships with deadbeats unwilling or incapable of bearing responsibility for their kids that’s a definite misapprehension on the woman’s side.
GAP
still a lower value women, for the simple reason having kids makes the price you have to pay to have her 3 to 5x higher in all matters in life, time investment, money investment, housing and utility costs, difficulty level of every day life etc. cant just run off camping on your days off, now you have to drag 2 and 3 kids with you, turning what would have been a cheap overnight run the 2 of you can privately enjoy in to a major chore requiring far more supplies, far more planning, no such thing as just up and going... someone will have school homework or something, or need babysitters, more expense, not worth it.... i simply do not want to live that way. i am not going to be a walking wallet to some other guys family regardless of reason, if i am going to be stuck living like that, with those kinds of bills, it will be for my own kids, not someone elses.
@@tremjar1305 actually kids come with money so you’d probably be better off with them
@@sparkles999rose2 pause. When do kids come with money? Kids come with debt and obligation
Personally I wouldn’t be able to accept any children brought by my partner. That was one of the most important criterium when I was choosing who I want to be with.
This was the comment I was looking for. Imagine, if you will, a woman and man being married with children and one morning on his way to work the husband is killed by a drunk driver. Then, diluted "members" of society have the audacity to call the woman low value because she is now, technically, a single mother?
I love living like a monk, surrounded by my books and my electronics. I don't have to bow or scrape to anybody, or have some woman dictating to me how to live my life. You can keep your relationships!
You are not alone brother. Most men dont have girlsfriends and a very high percentage have never had a girlfriend. Sign of the times.
Gap - The thing I love about Alux is that all of your videos are thought-provoking, but the ones I get the most out of are the ones that instinctually anger me. It's been great to have that metric to know what I need to work on to better myself to get where I want to be. Thank you!
Kudos to you for that self awareness. I completely agree. Instead of getting mad, I look at where something might apply and I get to work to improve myself.
...and that's how you grow, kudos to you!
@@DestinationDionna Ditto.
This video is necessary. This needs to be brought up more often and people have to understand no one has inherently more value than everyone else, including women. Alux does what others don't
GAP
Not really, there are hundreds of other videos with the exact same content. It gets a bit repetitive.
I see what you’re saying, and it’s only fair in todays society. However, I always worry for my grand girls as crime rises in our neighborhood, and people prey on the weak….women and children. In a perfect world, women would not only have high traits, but also have the equal strength and means to physically protect themselves. God forbid if we have to go off grid and start hunting for food again. Men are just built different. Although there are those rare women who have the strength of an ox and would survive just fine, but most would die. I wonder how this message would apply then?
@@BlueleafDanny Probably the value of men would go up. In polite society a single woman needs less protection.
I have been with my husband for over thirty years. It does take two to have a relationship; compromise, respect, and fairness are important. My husband and I have had great times and some really tough times. Knowing how to argue is paramount. We used to have some doozies, but now we don't argue much. The one thing I do disagree with is calling people low value, whether they are male or female. I do see some young folks today dealing with mental illness, for all different reasons. We need to make it more affordable and easier for someone to get help. As well as not just drugging them. I also believe that societies are cyclical and people will need each other more in the future. Compromise and working together will rule the day. Just like our grandparents and great grandparents had to do. Love your channel and thank you for sharing your knowledge!
No. These Jezebels need to be called low value.
#Melanie Marr great statement but I think you're missing a little bit the point here.
It might seem harsh to label people described in this video as low value especially when the personality traits listed are stemming from mental issues but, Alux seems to trend on categorizing people and habits into groups that either add or do not add value to your life. I believe they are continuing that trend in this video.
@@carterafflick And they're doing the right thing. Call a spade a spade, do not virtue signal. This world has gone to shit exactly because of virtue signaling philosophy that mollycoddles people into mental disorders. If that woman was shamed against going into low value behavior when she was a young girl, she wouldn't have had these mental disorders now and would not be a low value woman by now.
If you have ever done any team activity or sport or game, then you will find some players add more to the team than others. Some are egotistical, so even when they have high skill, they tend to break the whole team. Some don't bother to put in the work. One of the worst people you can have on your team is someone halfhearted, who often says, "eh, I reached out my hand, but didn't bother to move for that volleyball."
It would actually be easier to work with someone physically disabled where you know when you have to step in and cover their disability, than work someone with an attitude like that where you constantly have to wonder if you need to step in and bowl over them because they won't bother.
And there is the person who enjoys the sport, but never practices, so they always remain at beginner level.
So here's the reality, some people are more valuable to your team. And when you are choosing a team with only you and 1 other person on it, it matters even more. In order to steward your own life well, you have to chose carefully, and that means you do need to look at the choices, mindsets, and lifestyle of a prospect and give it a valuation.
You wouldn't board a jet that was making clunky noises and smoking from an engine. - But that's judging!
Don't board a marriage with a smoking, resource burning, wreck that doesn't fly straight, and has signs of self-destructing.
And judging isn't always negative. Instead of pretending everyone is the same, you should rightly judge and approve of someone making good choices.
🙏❤ Having grown up in very similar circumstances , I can totally relate to Johnny. When I had my children and having had such horrible role models for parents, I felt completely inept when it came to raising my own children. So, I came to the conclusion that I would literally do the exact opposite of what my parents had done and believe it or not, it worked out beautifully! I also, lived vicariously through them, giving them the childhood I wished I could have experienced. They had birthday parties every year and wonderful Christmases. When money was tight, I put things on lay away starting in July so, they would have a wonderful Christmas without disappointments. I did my best to make them feel special and more than anything, wanted and loved . They turned out to be amazing caring, loving, compassionate adults, who I am extremely proud of! -Hester Mongomery
Tough list, but the truth is always golden.
It was a very tough list indeed lol
Yes it’s tough but the good news is that you can improve !
This list really hit hard. After a few long very good relationships with good women, I quite recently came out of a months long dating with a woman that scores 90% of the points named in this video. It was not obvious at first, cause her bad sides came one after another. She was also very manipulative and yeah... all other things in this video. So spot on. No fun.
If the truth hurts than it means one should pay closer attention! I am a woman and appreciate the brutal honesty in this video.
good cuz most dont
its hurts but its true first recognize sick for help and gradually practise change its nevee too late
This was brutally honest and truthful. I made the mistake of thinking a woman with these traits would change but it only got worst.
For any man out there dating a woman with these traits, run away as fast as you can, there is nothing to achieve but maximum misery, great video.
Me too
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I am a high value woman but I find dating exhausting and do not regularly partake in it.
take an airbed on a date then, every 25 minutes have a 20 minutes power nap
Wow guess I'm gonna have to stay alone as i have two kids n my baby father passed away 😒n yeah y'all are right no man wants another man's kid or kids to be responsible for but single moms we are not totally lost cuz we can work n raise our kids n just wait until we can get a man who understands.💪💯❤️self love is the best love.
You rock!there is happiness for EVERYONE.
@@nicolealfonso4389 thanks hon😊❤️
The video is pretty general. You sound like a fine young lady. You are being responsible. Dating takes a backseat to your children, you aren't out flashing your wares in da club. You will organically meet a man in your daily life through work or a friend. You will take your time to get to know this man. You will set and abide by your boundaries. You will do your best to ensure that you have made the right choice before jumping into the flames. There are men out there that would love a family. Maybe they have a medical condition that prevents them from having children. There are many reasons. You will be presented with the right man at the right time. Provided that you meet his standards too. Children aren't a deal breaker. It's the immature manipulative women that can't close the deal. Best of luck to you.
@@perry74mac thanks for your kind and understanding words ....you are a true gentleman.
In general, this is how most men feel. That being said, a good portion of men would consider dating and even marrying a woman with children. They just need to have wifeable qualities and allow enough space in their lives for a man to feel relevant, loved and respected.
This is a good video. My husband and I got married before we had our 2 kids. He passed away 3 years ago. I am not rich but he has left us comfortable and he’s still taking good financial care of us thank God.
Alux should tell us how to become high value men and high value women in their next videos. Plenty of low value people out there but who knows if we’re high or low value and it’s difficult for many to know how to improve. They should really focus it as a tutorial of sorts to help everyone figure out how to level up their lives
Your a complete fool of you think women can teach you how to be a man. Go to channels like Freshandfit and you’ll learn a lot from them. Women don’t understand your masculine problems they live different existences.
Exactly. We keep focusing on toxicity
Dont be fat and make money and gain status. Done
They've done Those videos
Oh my god the "Cares More About Impressing Other Women" part really struck. It's why I am giving up on relationships (unless I find someone outside of that influence). I had a layoff in my last relationship with some money issues and STILL managed to provide date nights, a few great vacations, some new clothes for her here and there. And she STILL thinks I did nothing for her (obviously projection). She would get in such bad moods and be mean to me after watching reality TV or scrolling social media about all these "perfect" guys just showering average women with luxury. I am glad that relationship is over.
Hey brother,, lessons learned and we move forward with those who we value for their good qualities. I meet women on IG and we meet and chat not about their beauty. About who they are and their career in the 1st 3 days, If I get i'm not working ?? Big Red flags! I move on without them.
Yep....I can relate......bending over backwards for my wife, and she still thinks I've done nothing for her. She eventually divorced me, but I don't believe she's happy. She never determined what she wants from life......and doesn't know who she is. She's both lost and angry.....and I'm the butt of it :(
@@jscanl Some women, never learn and bounce from boyfriend or husband to husband. Your the wiser man! Peace of mind, I think counts with whoever you date or marry.
Rejection is protection
Almost every woman does this. Men aren't really important as they think they are in this case. No woman get dressed in hopes of capturing a man's attention, it's for us . Kinda like a confidence boost
If you're triggered by this video, instead of getting pissed off, reflect as to why? Stop acting like a "victim" of your life and do something about it! Fix it! Most of the elements in this video are repairable. For number 5, reflect at least on what lead to your previous relationship break down and work to avoid those same pitfalls. Understand that many men don't want the "baggage" of someone else's kids, and that's ok! That doesn't make them bad people, it only enhances the prospects that will embrace you and your past... You can make damn sure that's the only box on this list you check, and ensure you don't carry with it a sense of entitlement.
@@MoneySoul that's not what the video said, now is it 🙄 They clearly called out "exes" from previous marriages or relationships out of wedlock. Grow up.
Your histrionic argument is the equivalent of someone telling you that if you don't use an umbrella in the rain, you'll likely get wet to which you respond "ummm I got wet in hurricane Katrina, an umbrella can't fix that!"
The truth in this video is so on point. I have met 5 of these kinds of women and I am thankful I walked way because I just couldn't find a good reason to stay.
Great stuff in this video! If only some of us knew at the beginning what makes a high-value woman and what makes a low-value woman that will be amazing! We all don't know much about life at the beginning, life does not come with the same blueprint or instructions from parents, school, or the environment we grew up in. As we are living, practicing, and learning through time, we then figured it out in some better ways than others. I believed that we can not change the past but we can create and build a better future no matter where we are in life we can still create a better life if we can imagine it and believe it. Sometimes we guide our sons and daughters through our experience and wisdom, but they still have not taken it in. They rather go through life lessons and learn for themselves in pain and pleasure. People praise this famous quote, " Don't ever let anyone change you. Be yourself!" The question is, Well, how is it working for you??? If you don't learn and you don't change, your life will not change.
Kevin Samuel’s legacy lives on.
@@MoneySoul Better to die alone and miserable than to die with someone who makes you miserable.
@ MoneySoul You made my day! 🤣🤣🤣
Alux came through with the luxury red pill. Bravo 🙏🏽
Love the fact you tell it like it is , very rare these days , am fortunate to have found this channel 🎉
Love this video! I’m tired of people making bad decisions and then blaming everyone else for why their life sucks. Hopefully people will view this video as constructive criticism and use it to better themselves.
HAHA I actually wrote a book about women making bad choices and some of the feedback has been harsh!, lol Oh well
Western society is low value, they make profits on suffering of others and then blame them for it. Congratulations for being ignorant!
some points were good, but not all. I do not take this video as constructive criticism, its all black and white with no grey. I myself if looking for a partner, would not judge them if they had a past and past trauma, almost everyone i met has a story, it depends on who you are today as a human. Also, judging people for not having plans with their lives and not being successful is absolutely horrid. People get success at different stages in their lives and some come up with their passion late in life. Its called LIFE, we evolve, change, mend and move forward. Targetting manifesting without having full knowledge what coaches bring to the table is also horrid. As i said, there are some points to take in, but the video isnt without major FLAWS.
YES!!!
Its a load of crap and its dangerous. There are so many people who go through difficult times and this video doesnt take all the diff things into account. This video in the wrong hands could hurt someone thats suicidal and left a dv relationship etc. You people are crazy to state this is constructive
Wow! Alux has officially joined the Manosphere with this one 😆
Alux/Manosphere!
A great combo!
Kevin Samuels said the same thing for years.
RIP Kevin Samuels
Amazing to hear this clip, I was in the early stages of seeing a younger 30-year-old woman a few months ago and a major red flag for me was her bashing her 2 prior exes at our 1st get-together. Not one to judge but I kinda wanted to run. So I decided to put it aside, and guess what? She did again on the 2nd date. This applies to both men and women, don’t bash your exes, ever. Just use the line “ things didn’t work out “. Keep it classy people 👍
It would be nice if everyone had parents who taught their daughters how to have high value.
No 5, I don’t how to put it. Not all women become single mothers out of choice. Abusive and toxic relationships, deaths, cheating, abandonment etc are also the reasons. Agreed you did mention that “it is how society views it”. But the title of this video is “signs of low value women” not “ Category of women men might not prefer to date or marry “. Had the latter been the title, yes you are 100% correct. Infact someone in the comments rightfully pointed that it’s much easier to plan a camp out on a whim with a single woman rather than a single mom. All his points are true.
Didn’t Alux in previous video mention that to succeed in life we have leave toxic relationships. By putting single mothers on same level with caluculative, manipulative, gas lighting women, you have put victims on same level with their abusers. You are not some random Tik Toker or some reality tv star who assume that all single mothers are drunk women who got pregnant without even knowing whom they slept with. Being a popular channel with millions of followers, you should put a little more thought into what category you are putting what kind of women.
You seriously can’t put cheating, manipulating, fake, Hippocratic, gold digging women in the same basket as widows, women who have been cheated or abandoned, women who got out of decades of abusive relationships in the same basket. As previously said, single mothers may be a category of women not preferred ( most women have the common sense to know it), but not all of them are low value women
Well said!
Too much faith bestowed on ALUX. The narrator might be a low value woman:))
Irony how single moms made on the list of Low-value women with her "Bad decision"
But, if the same woman decides for ABORTION to rectify her "Bad decision"...Look how fast society will label her as a murderer. (It's always her fault)
She didn't make a bad decision. Her only mistake was she trusted a man enough..
Alux mentioned the child as a legacy of a man which he wants to create of his own but forgot that the same man ran away from his so-called " legacy" but these low-value single moms didn't.
So you think murdering the innocent will redeem a woman of a “bad decision”?
Women right now are damned if we do, and damned if we don’t at the same time! I have NEVER seen a “low value man” list in my life that called out men who abandon their responsibility as a father! NEVER! Women who sacrifice their lives to OWN UP to their responsibility are ostracized and ridiculed for doing so and it’s insane. If the same woman has an abortion, she gets even more hatred! How about women stop having sex with men altogether and see if this narrative changes.
If the man didn’t rape her, then it was her choice to let him inside of her. Take some accountability.
They can get an IUD, which is 99.9% effective. Murder/abortion isn't a right.
@@John_Q A non-hormonal IUD prevents pregnancy by preventing a fertilized egg (a baby) from attaching to the uterus. This is no different than an early stage abortion. Try again.
Rest in power, Kevin Samuels.
Dust ball
Rest in power
Gone too soon
@@shkrsimpson44 He’s dust now oops
@@1974dodgecharger Died the same way he told women will karma got him 😂😂
It's good to see that Alux understands, I will forever watch the content.
Alux and me both actually on the same page- when metioned kim and amber as examples of women, who doesn't have grace and substance and of low value in its entirety, no matter how rich you are. I'll quote something from gossip girl :
Anyone can earn the money but only few earns class.
Is this kim kardashian? I don't think she's a low value woman. But she's not in the high class as well. She's just in the middle I guess. Just like other rich celebrities..
@@obsessed2754 Yup, she's like FAST FASHION. But, it doesn't surprise us- Kim is new money.
Great video, and the controversy is necessary. I find this a helpful measure to see if a woman is ready to date yet or if she still has work to do. I certainly see some of these traits in myself at any given point in my life. But instead of getting mad about it, I can do something about it.
Thanks, Alux!
I agree!
You nailed it. It's amazing how many women (and men!) don't know this. We all need to work on ourselves. That's what separates the extraordinary from the ordinary.
As a man I appreciate that. No woman is perfect, but one who wants to be a better woman and not have a delusional ego of a princess entitled to only 6ft tall millionaires and to treat other men like dirt is the biggest problem a lot of men. A lack of respect (-eg. hooked on her phone on a date and chatting with her friends when I am trying to have a conversation) are the two most frustrating experiences us men have today. Don't do those two and I am good to do
Whoa is this real?? Alux went red pill?? I’m here for it!!👏🏾
Alux hit a lot of different problems we see today..all in one video.
Fantastic episode.
It's a VERY real issue, especially now a days, so Alux will address it.
Full on bro 😎
RIP Kevin Samuels
I love how this woman just tells it how it is but when you think she’s about to cross the line she doesn’t! Love this video.
There’s nothing wrong with being childless and not wanting someone with a child. Single dads are just as undesirable as single moms because what you know right away is that a low quality, high drama woman already takes half of his monthly pay and calls all the shots in his life, and will in yours, too, if you share a life with him. I’m divorced and married a fellow divorcée, and my parenting relationship with my ex is cordial and functional while his ex is a complete piece of trash who constantly turns our life upside down. Stuck with it forever.
Just divorce
Bingo
Not only that, if he has multiple baby mommas u know he has no self discipline and behaves like an animal.
Hahaha I wait for 5, 8, 10 years down the line when you realise your "divorceé" is an abusive POS. Almost guaranteed.
@@Queen-of-Swords Lol, is that what you’re wishing on me in spite of all your other would be feminist comments?
What I already know about for sure is her abusive behavior that she’s shown toward her kids, and her harassment toward me and mine.
The Kevin Samuel effect!!!! Give this man his flowers. He did not create the term but he was the only one who wasn't afraid to take the heat for speaking about it.
Facts... nothing but love for Kevin...
@@imsk6729 please. he was a low value man himself and he never gave any constructive criticism. all he did was bullying, shaming and insulting. Making fun of women's looks and calling good looking women average at best, how did that help any improvement?
women who have done their personal development work, have a stable income, he will tell them none of that matters, they should just be grateful for whatever man comes their way.
And you being unable to make the difference between this articulate and helpful content to Kevin Samuel's substance free and trashy content, it shows how low value you are.
There are videos on low value men, Kevin Samuels ticks all the points, they only forgot to mention that low value men die in the hands of a hooker to match his image entirely.
Don't forget, some women, like myself, are alone with children because our spouse died. I was treated like I had some baby daddy out there and I was just another "single mom". Since single motherhood started around the time of the sexual revolution and higher divorce rates, a woman alone with kids is no longer thought of as a "widow " but just a single mom instead.
Then just show the death certificate of your husband that should resolve any issues
@@enhancedutility266 km not gonna show the death certificate to every single person I come across. Don't be stupid.
@@christinaFaith84 just a suggestion
Don’t put yourself in the same category…. God has the right person who knows…. And there Are programs set up for people in different categories to socialize with people of the same flock. No ONE WAY of thought or strategy is correct for all!
Call yourself a widow not a single mom
Unable to show trust? It took me 65 years to quit being a sucker. I must be low value and proud of it.
Well the issue of children really got a rise didnt it?
I was a widowed. not divorced, single mother of an 8 yr old daughter. I was a 33 yr old PhD clinical psychologist and professor. I went back a year after my husband's death to my home city to see if I wanted to move back there. My parents took care of my daughter while I looked at properties and explored job options.
I met a recently divorced man of 37. I was attractive but it was my education , intelligence, love of reading, fondness for sailing that attracted him most...I had just sold my boat. He had a bachelors degree in psychology so we talked our experiences working in animal experimentation labs. We talked books we BOTH were avid readers. We talking sailing, he was really interestedwhen he heard that, not many women sail...of course he liked my looks, but it was these things that really mattered to him. He knew I was a serious substantial person. I was not looking for a husband and I definitely did not want any more children.I had a profession and could earn enough to support my daughter and I forever. He REALLY liked all that about me. I certainly brought alot to the table. So did HE.
He had been wealthy, but no longer was. I simply did not care. He was working and doing fine but had had to go bankrupt when he lost all his many businesses in an economic downturn. Absolutely not his fault. He was a smart, hardworking, very intelligent man in all the ways I liked. He had his concerns which he did not express yet about my daughter, so did I. She came home once I settled in as summer was ending.
They had to adjust to each other. They did fine. He had been dating three other women when we met...he told them very quickly he had met someone. One day I was visiting his apt his exwife who had left him with the parting shot , " I married you for your potential" called. She left him because he lost his money and status. I stepped out the front door to give him privacy. Their divorce was final the day we met. She expressed concerns that perhaps she had made a wrong decision leaving him...she was dating someone else when she left him. He told her over the phone sorry I have met someone else and came looking for me. I was sitting on the staircase outside his apartment. Sitting there I suspected that was the reason for her call. I didnt feel jealous or worried or paniced. I was surprised how calm I was.I didnt feel overconfident, I jusr felt concerned but serene...if he was committed he felt committed. If not, well he was not. This was a thing I had zero control over... HIS feelings.
He had told me he loved me and I had told the same a month before tis call happened. He asked me to come in and told me what he said and what she said. I was glad but didnt act emotional...I had felt confident and hopeful but the reassurance was nice. I knew we had some things to work out about my child. And work them out we did over the next year.
He turned out to be a wonderful stepfather. He took her places, encouraged her in her dreams to fly. He gave her all sorts of special experiences flying that I couldnt. She already yearned to be a pilot before her father died. And a professional military pilot she became, thanks to her wonderful stepfather. Yet she never warmed to him emotionally, which was and is sad. She seemed to feel that if she allowed herslf to love him would mean she didnt love her dead father....such a shame.
He and I celebrated 41 years together a few months ago. I am SUCH a lucky woman ...we have had incredible lives together. All our plans and dreams came true because WE made them happen. I just felt it immediately when I met him THIS was a man of substance, of quality...I knew I was the same as a woman, but I DIDNT know how joyous and filled with love our relationship would be.
So glad for you ❤
Congratulations on 41 years together 🙏 May God bless you with many more 💕
I think widows are a special case. I think more than half of the perceived low value comes from the perception of single mothers being poor planner and talking bad decisions, much more than the monetary value of raising a child. That if the cause of death was really an accident and not like he was involved with crime or drugs. Also widows usually inherit the whole family property, so have enough resources so a new man doesn’t have to worry on spending resources on other man’s kids.
@@amyproudfoot6611 Thank you he was my treasure.
@@joyceecyoj. Thanks I was very blessed and wish this for everyone...
GAP
Low Value Women: Furiously waiting for the mens version of this video!!
Lol
Which is sad because men know exactly what a low value man is. There is no shortage of that content on the internet.
😂
It would be all the same. Inflated self worth. Thinking being rich is all you need to bring to the table. Emotionally manipulative. I think all of this can be applied to low value men.
Actually alux first did a video on “what women want in a man” 2 years ago and there were men in the comments asking alux to do a version of what men want from women. It’s a never ending carousel ride of the genders.
This video describes 90% of the women in the American dating pool
A woman once asked me where are all the good men? When I told her with all the good women she got angry
The truth hurts
This is the best comment
🤣🤣
Well said
Amber Heard and Johnny Depp are a good example of how a good person gets a low value woman.
I feel strongly about all of these. However. I don't know what it feels like to be sick. My main concern is if a woman is lying to me to get out of a situation because she is sick. OR getting a headache/migraine/tired when a real convo needs to take place.
Trauma may never end but if you're not willing to work on it and your okay with that, there could be complications.
I'm glad you made this, and I'm glad this conversation is going mainstream finally. There are too many women who think they're perfect because they're women. Ironic that women don't see how they're becoming chauvinistic themselves.
They made one for men too :) Howdya do?
Exactly 💯 Our platforms are starting to get through
@@lvega5606 yeah just what they said in their comment is a trait of low value men mentioned in the other video.
@@Brothapocalypse looking forward to see your comment on the other side when they discuss low value men.
@🍓 Strawberry Lady Average woman marries over 30, which is essentially the same thing. So that balances out. And if sperm quality deterioration is occuring, that sounds like a testosterone issue. Which many women seem to be happy about because of irrational fear of masculinity. So what is the nature of the complaint? Isn't pudgy, weak willed men something that modern women want?
Alux giving out nothing but facts; as always. I can’t stop smiling at the fact that they actually posted this. Great video as always.
Please provide the fact of one of the statements made.
I'm done at #1...started off with a banger! This video enlightened me greatly. Thank you for the truth. New Sub
So you basically took every major talking point from Kevin Samuels and The Crimson Cure, as well as many others in the manosphere, and particularly the black manosphere, and compiled it into a single video. Congrats.
Exactly what she did.
Great video, this is the kind of content we need, controversial but with value
What this list tells me is that I've been realistic about myself and the goals I have are good, as well as my decision not to date right now while I work on myself. My value matters, and because I know that, I will actually attract someone of equal or better value.
The same applies for the low value men! I recognized the same character traits in some men I dated.
True, and a high value man will take the medicine, go to the gym, and seek therapy...or at least get a hobby that serves as an outlet.
Alux on Red pill mode. Thank you for the valuable content.
In that case we’ve all been low value at some point because we’ve all done these things at some point in our lives. No one can tell anyone what their value is. And you have to realize the reality that people can grow and evolve.💯
@Chan no it’s reality. you’re as low value as it gets.
Speak for yourself. I guess you are still low value. Once low value , always low value. You can't undo your body count
Hit dogs holler. 🤣🤣🤣
@@LembeckIsStaying lol and you’re loud af
@@LembeckIsStaying I bet you are a low value incel who just chose to watch this video to hate on women lol
Like Marilyn Monroe said ,"We all lose it in the end." Even high value falls
Whoa! I so needed to hear this ! What an elegant way to put these hard truth in perspective. Thank you for saving me from drowning in my own entitled drama 🎭. And a ton of foreseeable trouble I’d get myself into if not correctly adjusting my poor behavior. My parents definitely spoiled me and allowed unacceptable behaviors.
Wow Alux went full Mask off with this video... No punches held, Much respect. S/O to the women and individuals that are willing to listen and implement these changes.
Wow.. watching this video just makes me realize I’ve been a low value woman all my life.. and I’m 36🥺
❤ which means you've got plenty of time to change your ways
Same me too.. and now I’m 38 😅…I don’t take care my body , always eat my feelings,. Jealousy, insecure..have trust issues,
This video is a misogynistic pile of rubbish that makes you internalise male hatred of women. Talking about people's "value" as if they were used cars. FML
@@Queen-of-Swords everyone has value. I think they clarified that. It's more about low morals and selfish behavior.
@@LyraChannel8 You’re self aware which means you’re ahead of the curve honey ❤
Can’t believe Alux did this 😂! Y’all have fired shots.
Facts! 💯 Every woman needs to take advice from these videos 👏👏
And every man better pay attention.
The Kevin Samuels Effect. Rest in Power bro
GAP!!!
I am ready to have a debate on why this not controversial at all! This is fact...pure, unadulterated truth of modern society. Great job Alux. Needed this. I was unfit most of 2020 and 21. 22 is my year of great health. I am constantly working on maintaining a fit body, healing trauma, building self awareness and trying to build trust with people!
As they say..."Go For It!"
what does GAp stands for exactly? have been seeing this a lot lately. :)
@@sunny666k even I don't know 😕but I wrote as it was the notion to alux that I was there until the end of vedio!
You should be looking for these signs,or not!
@@Jennifer-nz2ss should be...these are all spot on and true!
Triggering definitely describes this. Lol For the most part, I agree with this and I'm happy to say that I have evolved from having most of the traits described in this video. I love my family but we had some pretty toxic ways. Thankfully, most of my siblings and I have seen how deadly our learned behavior is and have taken steps to change.
Just reading this comment shows that you indeed have quite a few low value traits mentioned in this video lol
Every point on this list is 1000% correct. Bloody marvelous.