Same. I recently figured out that I’m non-binary and I’ve started using they/them pronouns but occasionally I’ll misgender myself and think of myself using she/her pronouns since I’ve been reluctantly using these for years.
Oh thank god I started second guessing because I kept misgendering myself- but turns out it's just normal. I'm not non-binary but I'm trans and just wanted to know how to get someone to use my own pronouns. So yeah.
Yooo! Me too! I recently started using they/them and when I use he/him pronouns for myself, I would wonder internally if it meant I didnt really prefer they/them. Seeing this has made me feel even more confident about using they/them, thank you!
My brother has surprisingly been the most supportive but what if that person is your boss that isn't? Just came out at 30 now that it is safe in the workplace to not conform to a specific gender of birth.
I am Polish and sadly we do not have gender neutral pronouns in our language so I had to stick to the female ones which makes me uncomfortable. I came out only this month and people still struggling with misgendering me :(
I don't know much about the polish language and cultures but is there a possibility that you could still go by they/them and it would be like just using an English word to identify yourself? As said before I'm just asking as I don't know much about the polish language and cultures.
@@bunny-pb3vg People generally take offence to things that they themselves believe to be true. for example i am a straight white male, if someone called me a chick it would not actually bother me one little bit, so my point and my question to you is why on earth does it bug you? and more so why must i be forced to accept your reality (keeping in mind i have my own reality that i live in) maybe of everyone gave less of a fuck about stuff like this everyone would be better off I live my life the way I want, you live your life the way you want and we stop interfering in each others lives and stop trying to make the other do stuff outside of their respective beliefs the real problem here is the fact that you are wanting to force your reality onto me. remember we may have incompatible beliefs, nothing wrong with that, we just need to find that middle ground and as much as i "must" accept you doesn't that mean that you must accept me?
@@EugeneVerster To be honest I really don't understand what you are doing here. Like why would you watch a video about this subject if you don't see the point in it ? And also what you just did is quite disrespectful towards this person who never asked you to talk to them, and therefore didn't force their reality or whatever on you. I feel like it's rather the other way. You are being disrespectful and forcing your reality on others.
I came out to my parents a few weeks ago and they misgendered me and deadnamed me until I came downstairs and on the calendar I found my name and pronouns on a reminder
Can I ask a question? What's the point of trying to force your third person pronouns on someone? When you speak to them, you're gonna use second person "you" all the time anyway. You're NEVER gonna need she/he when you talk to them... So what's the point of the whole thing? I just don't understand. If they talk to someone else about you, it's their private conversation. Nothing to do with you. So why does it matter SO MUCH?
This came out (pun intended) at the perfect time bc I came out to my mom 2 days ago and she still uses she/her pronouns and is trying to use my preferred name more often but she still struggles
update: my parents are now using my pronouns (they/him) and when they use my deadname they correct themselves and I'm out to some extended family and everyone at my school :D
I always find it difficult to use them/they pronouns because we don't really have them in the Netherlands because we say the person's name instead of the pronouns for Enby so I only use they/them when speaking in English But I always try my best to use the right pronouns
Hoi! Ik ben ook een Nederlandse enby en ik gebruik die/diens/hen. Ik had toevallig een nonbinaire biologie docent die me dat leerde. Het is eerst heel vreemd en enorm wennen, maar nu voelt het heel normaal. Je gebruikt het op deze manier: Ken je Jacks? Die is non-binair en die speelt viool. Diens lievelingskleur is geel/hun lievelingskleur is geel. Ik vind hen een aardig persoon.
@@sage9653 dankjewel dat helpt heel erig daar had ik nog niet aan gedacht dat je die/diens/hen kan gebruiken dat is echt slim en dat kan je makkelijk toe passen
I’m so glad you popped up on my fyp! I’ve been struggling with my family not using my pronouns since I came out about 3 years ago. They won’t outright refuse to, but they go back and forth between saying they’re supportive and getting really angry when I admit that being misgendered all the time kind of hurts. Not ideal, but not the worst. I appreciate your advice 💜
i’m really glad to have found someone like you, you’re really informational, relatable, and inspiring. it feels good to have someone like me who knows my struggles giving advice.💖
i already got so used to "they", if my ADD ass can manage this then those people claiming it's "too complicated to even try" can too and i appreciate everyone trying their best to be respectful and loving! ;o; also omg i love mouse 🥺🥺💝💘❣💕🥺💙💜🥺💗💖💓🥺
I just recently came out as Nonbinary and my mom just said to me: "but you're still my daughter, right?" like gurl no that's the whole point of this. also like she refuses to call me Ash (my new name) and instead calls me my old nickname which makes me really uncumforatable so thats great.
I think a lot of parents (mine included) are just in flat out denial of their kid being nonbinary/lgbtq+. Like if their kid is trans or genderqueer they just see it as “a man pretending to be a woman” or “a woman wanting to look androgynous” or something like that, rather than seeing them for who they truly are. I think since they have barely to no education at all on the matter (especially since they were never taught to see this as “normal”) they can’t and don’t want to comprehend this change cause it’s not what they’re used to
when i correct my sister on my pronouns, she mocks me. when i tell my mom what you told us to tell them she did not care. they all claim not to be transphobic and yet they continue to do these things that so blatantly hurt me. please help? they care about me and it’s not like they don’t love me, i just don’t know how to stop this
I think the best thing is to just let people express themselves the way they want, with the language and words they want to use. The idea of conroling people's expression and speech should be appauling to everyone. There is no respect of people you controle and lf you cannot respect people how can you expect them to respect you? Besides, I've never had a person who advocates to force, pressure, demand or even hope for others to use your prefered pronouns have never used pronouns I ask them to use for me. It's just hypocracy. Those who live more traditionally are far more respectful.
@@dreadgunner would you like me to write a well-thought-out argument on why you’re wrong or are you commenting this simply to upset people, knowing full well that regardless of how they respond you will continue to maintain the same ideology?
@@catbatlps Respecting language and expression is a great thing. You can respond anyway you see fit. Would you rather I try and tell you that you shouldn't or cannot? It would be hypocritical of me to tell you you cannot say what you like, or for that mater, live life the way you want. Just like it would be hypocritical for you to use any other pronoun for me other than the one I ask you to. But I have come to realize advocates for preferred pronouns are less then consistent.
I wanna start using she/they and I feel like people have defaulted to just using the she/her pronouns when it come to people using more than one set of pronouns
I have a question. Ive been identifying as Genderfluid since December and my brother and sister know. However, neither of them have made an effort to use my preferred pronouns (they/them) how can I bring it up to them in way where it will cause the least amount of conflict or confusion?
I’m probably not the person to give advice because I haven’t even came out to anyone but a few close friends and my mom, but here’s some advice anyway. Bring it up to them politely. Say something like “Please try and remember to use the correct pronouns when referring to me. It makes me uncomfortable when you don’t” If they willfully disregard your wishes, I’m pretty sure the video talked more about what to do. Do your best to stay positive!
Are you really genderfluid or are you just comfortable in 2 different kinds of dress? I feel like the concept of gender fluidity is erasing androgynous fashion amd confusing young people. I used to crossdress as a.teen because I just never gave a shir about what other people think and I would have been very offended if people around me would be constantly telling me I wasn't Male just because I dressed fem
@@nullvoid8941 at first I thought it was just me enjoying dressing both ways but when I tried dressing more feminine, I felt a sense of comfort I didn't even know was missing until it was there. So I'm pretty confident that it's deeper than just enjoying both types of clothing and more to do with how I want to be perceived
I just love how positive your videos are! As members of the LGBTQ community and just a human in general it can be a struggle sometimes so it's awesome that I can come check out a video and feel better. Thank you ❤️
I really wish I could show these vids and your tiktoks to my parents so they can learn better (they're supportive and they're trying) and understand better but they don't like me getting advice from "internet sites"
what if my parents straight up tell me they won't use my preferred name or pronouns edit: I just got to the part where you talked about family members not using it.
I came out a few months ago. My mum says she is supportive. She then proceeded to say they/them pronouns don't sound natural and don't suit me. Ending with "But don't worry, i'll always support you because you will always be my Beautiful DAUGHTER". My dad doesn't really understand but he supports me anyway. I haven't told him i want to use they/them because im afraid he'll act like my mum. Neither of them know i want to change names or want to wear a binder. I was given a NB flag as a gift from a friend but have to hide it in fear of my mum even though she said she was supportive. They don't use the pronouns and name for my sister but those are for different reasons altogether. (My sister used to do this thing where she would 'come out' for like a week as some random new thing she learned about and then go back and pretend it never happened. She also never corrects people on pronouns so they think its another one of those. Help??
I recently came out to my grandparents(I live with them and they are my guardians) and my grandpa has been making jokes when I try and correct them on using my correct pronoun. Hopefully at some point he'll stop, but at least my grandma is doing a little better at correcting when I remind her.
@@adesso.laurenzo Thanks for the hug. He's an old english major and can't accept that they/them can be used as a singular in the same way that the singular "you" is used. Keeps claiming that language changes over hundreds of years and I can't expect him to change at his age. I just ordered some pronoun buttons, so I hope it can help be a visual aid for them. And my D&D group has been really supportive and have been using my preferred name and pronouns.
I’ve been a genderfluid lesbian for a little more than 6 months now, and it’s been quite a ride. I’ve just realized that i love they/them pronouns, and don’t necessarily fit into either binary (I went by she/they, but now that’s changed). I’m so glad that i found your channel, you make me feel safe and valid 💚💚
It's very frustrating to have to get my family use my name and pronouns I feel like they aren't trying hard enough . This was very helpful thank you so much .
I appreciate your comments and attitude. I am a relative of a transgender couple, whom I love, but, made a first time mistake on mispeaking her pronouns.
no way! I've been seeing your tiktoks on compilations for so long, I finally found your channel! I've been binging your videos all day and just noticed. I'm in middle school, and I just came out to my close family as enby! I'm super excited to come out at school now. Thank you so much for making such amazing and informational content! I sent my mom your channel just because you're so epic, and explain everything so well :)
Wow thank you so much you're so helpful and amazing! Sometimes my friends but mostly my family don't use correct pronouns for me and this has really helped me to understand what it's like to be them, to change the way they all talk about me. I'll correct them more probably too now, as well as saying thanks, I really appreciate it when they get it right :) Thank you Laurenzo 💗🏳🌈
So uh I wanna come out to my family but I don’t have a new name for myself. I have a whole hunk of ideas though! I want to decide on a name before I come out. Whenever I see one I like, I put it in the notes section on my phone. Creek, Zero, Sam, Alex, Owl, Fern, a r s o n, Jester, Drizzle, Storm, Rain, Grey, Olive, Artemis, Crow, Spyder, Awe, Pluto, Tuesday, Pyro, Bones, Jynx, Forte, Thistle, Cypher, Easton, Soul, Flicker, Tiki, Atlanta, Atlantic, Thunder, Sheik, Socks, Ten, Yin, River, Rush, Green, Lime, Tawny, Orange, and Ortuvious are what I have so far. What do you guys think sounds cool?
What I don’t like is when people say it’s “confusing” to say they/them pronouns. You’ve been using them your entire life, for hundreds of years they/them were words, and we’ve used them in sentences. 🥰Get your act together🥰
Ello i love your videos so much *im nonbinary and lesbian and i was having trouble with people using my prounouns and that the fact i have a girlfriend and this video helped alot! Which i loved* (but my friend and family still says she her even tho im they them) but anyway i really loved this video keep up the good work *and sadly my friend sad she wont use thye then prounouns u said i dont wanna be friends with her and she didnt understand so i talked to my other friends and there fine with using my prounouns so now i just mainly hangout with my gf and not around my ex friend*
Yeah the person who doesn't respect my pronouns is my mom, and it's so hard cause now she's trying to send me to therapy or otherwise i have to leave the house, and I'm trying to be with my online friends but it's just so fucking hard
Thanks for this Zo! I want to do better and learn how to do introductions. Can you make a short video on all the scenarios people would use ? I can’t find one on youtube? For Example: A heterosexual female might say “Hi my name is-- I go by She Her”. A person who is -- would say “Hi my name is- . I go by-- -.” I also wondered how gender based languages can handle this? Would it mean it change all the conjugations?
I kind of came out as non-binary but i'm comfortable with he/him pronouns.... i told my parents and my aunt(who is the one that mostly raised me and my brother since my parents were busy) it makes me feel bad that they keep calling me as a girl, and even some of my only friends... i remember there was a moment where one of my friends corrected ME because i use male pronouns and "corrected me" into saying it with female pronouns... i truly one have one true friend who is an online friend who really cares about me, and honestly it seems as if he is the only one that cares and respects my choice of pronouns...
Heey, i really love your videos!! thank you for making them, but i have a cuestion, what do you do or respond to someone that jokes around of being nonbinary?, i kinda want to come out... but im so scared of people jokes, every time i encourage myself to tell them i stop when i hear them joking like "did you just asume my gender" or "i identify as a unicorn", as soon i hear that kind of things i run to the closet as fast as i can... haha... (i'm so sorry if something is not clear, my english is very messy)
Me when my friends refer to me as a girl (she/her, mother ;u;, gurl, daughter etc) = "I AM NOT A GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Me when my friends say my dead name= "WHO'S (ded name)?! I DON'T KNOW ANYONE CALLED (ded name)!!" I'm too harsh o~o Save me :'D
Just in case if I ever interact with you what is your gender identity then(because you said you aren’t a girl) and what is your preferred name since I don’t want to disrespect you
I recently asked my mom to perticipate a pronouns experiment to use my they/them pronouns, I now know that it is a proccess and mom says she will try, but I don" know how I should polightly correct her or how to go about correcting or how many timesd before I come of as pushy. So, how do I respectful correct people about my pronouns after getting folks to use them?
How can I make my 3 year old brother to understand that I’m a boy? Should I wait till he’s older? He calls me by my correct name sometimes but I don’t think he understands, should I wait till he’s 4 or 5
I'm almost tempted to start going by specifically it/it's or saying I prefer it/it's pronouns because I go by he/they/it and yet people never call me by it/it's pronouns and when I tell my friends about it and they say that they can call me whatever I want to be called which somewhat frustrates me cause it sounds like they are saying that they will start calling me by it/it's if I ask even though I have said multiple times that my pronouns are he/they/it so they should already be calling me by it/it's in the first place
My name is Sierra and I was wondering if you guys have any suggestions for gender neutral names that are too different from my original name. I don’t want it to arouse too much suspicion. Considering my house is full of homophobic and trans phobic people.
My problem is that it’s been almost over a year since I came out and my parents haven’t used my new pronouns once. And I have corrected them multiple times
I came out as NB to my mom a few weeks ago, but after SO MUCH RESEARCH I realized that I’m gender-fluid (but I’m probably going to come out as a trans girl) how to I talk to my parents about that? Please help me
I’ve realized I am a demigirl pretty recently and I know I’m comfortable with she/her but I want to try they/them too right now I think I’m gonna ask my best friends I know they’ll use them since they’re both supportive and I might ask my parents but I’m scared even though they’re accepting of me and I know they would want to respect my pronouns but yet I’m still scared and don’t know a reason why? Is that weird
When they said "you do have the prettiest eyes" while looking at the camera in the beginning of the video 🥺😍😍 (I got a small crush, leave me alone lol)
I need help I want to come out to my parents as bisexual and gender confused but I’m 11 so I think they just won’t care or tell me stuff I don’t want to hear, but I also want to make it quick and easy because it’s not a big deal and I don’t want it to be brought up because it makes me really uncomfortable to talk about it... Help?
My friends are pretty good at getting it right except for two, one who is accepting and the other I'm still not sure. The other seems like he's just bothered by it and just went "oh." I'm afraid for my parents and family they won't be able to accept it or atleast not my immediate family(my mom and dad). My mother is a feminine person and wants to force that feminity onto me (i'm afab and I'm not out yet) and just saying that I was nonbinary, I wouldn't get a good reaction (I dislike feminine things on me despite her knowing this already). And especially with my dad who willlingly calls others f*gs and doesn't agree with lgbt. I'm only 14 and out to my friends (or majority) but I hate that I have to wait until I move out and I'm safe to come out to my family.
I identify as el presidente my pronouns which you will be required to use are; "His Excellency, President for Life, Field Marshal Al Hadji Doctor Eugene Verster Dada, VC, DSO, MC, CBE, Lord of All the Beasts of the Earth and Fishes of the Seas and Conqueror of the British Empire and ruler of all the earth"
@@repubblesmcglonky8990 i was not, had to google it, but yes my Penultimo we shall issue an official decree so that my subjects (the entire world) will be forced to use my pronouns
@@repubblesmcglonky8990 Tropico looks pretty cool, will check it out. and yes it was an Ide Amin reference, i am surprised you got that, well done for anyone who thinks pronouns are this new thing
My older brother was trans for 5 months and I look like I'm copying him bc I'm trans and everyone will think I'm doing it for attention so I'm nervous.
Bro im tryna be a good frien so I asked my friend "whats your name again?" AND THEY SAID THEIR ASSIGNED AT BIRTH NAME AND I- i just became kinda awkward like: "oh um, uh, nevermind." and I feel really bad about it, because im also trying to figure out a different name for myself but idk bc I was named after my great grandma, and even though I dont really like the name I still feel like I wanna horde it or something like that bc its not bad or anything but just :(
Pronouns are used when you're not in the room and you can't compel people to speak about you in a specific way when you're not around. Of course, you suggest living in an echo chamber where everybody gets their own gender pronouns. How about this, step into objective reality .
It’s so annoying that I am a boy with long hair I love my hair is always in a braid so yesterday me and my sister and we went inside of the store to get a cake for my grandmother and while we were at check out this guy was like come on ladies do I look like a A girl and plus this always happen at school do you like kindergarten are the boys would say that I’m a girl when the girls actually knew that was a boy and plus one of my crushes I like so I told this kid was a boy and he was like so does a girl dating a girl
One of the most annoying things I've learnt about using they them pronouns is that I misgender MYSELF
I came out a few months ago, and I misgendet myself a lot. I feel way better knowing that other people do that too!
Same. I recently figured out that I’m non-binary and I’ve started using they/them pronouns but occasionally I’ll misgender myself and think of myself using she/her pronouns since I’ve been reluctantly using these for years.
Oh thank god I started second guessing because I kept misgendering myself- but turns out it's just normal. I'm not non-binary but I'm trans and just wanted to know how to get someone to use my own pronouns. So yeah.
I often use he/him pronouns accidentally when referring to myself (my pronouns are she/her)
Yooo! Me too! I recently started using they/them and when I use he/him pronouns for myself, I would wonder internally if it meant I didnt really prefer they/them. Seeing this has made me feel even more confident about using they/them, thank you!
My brother has surprisingly been the most supportive but what if that person is your boss that isn't? Just came out at 30 now that it is safe in the workplace to not conform to a specific gender of birth.
I am Polish and sadly we do not have gender neutral pronouns in our language so I had to stick to the female ones which makes me uncomfortable. I came out only this month and people still struggling with misgendering me :(
I don't know much about the polish language and cultures but is there a possibility that you could still go by they/them and it would be like just using an English word to identify yourself? As said before I'm just asking as I don't know much about the polish language and cultures.
why is it even important?
@@EugeneVerster because it makes me feel like I am being perceived as a woman, when I am in fact a nonbinary person, it makes me feel dysphoric
@@bunny-pb3vg People generally take offence to things that they themselves believe to be true.
for example i am a straight white male, if someone called me a chick it would not actually bother me one little bit, so my point and my question to you is why on earth does it bug you? and more so why must i be forced to accept your reality (keeping in mind i have my own reality that i live in)
maybe of everyone gave less of a fuck about stuff like this everyone would be better off
I live my life the way I want, you live your life the way you want and we stop interfering in each others lives and stop trying to make the other do stuff outside of their respective beliefs
the real problem here is the fact that you are wanting to force your reality onto me.
remember we may have incompatible beliefs, nothing wrong with that, we just need to find that middle ground and as much as i "must" accept you doesn't that mean that you must accept me?
@@EugeneVerster To be honest I really don't understand what you are doing here. Like why would you watch a video about this subject if you don't see the point in it ? And also what you just did is quite disrespectful towards this person who never asked you to talk to them, and therefore didn't force their reality or whatever on you. I feel like it's rather the other way. You are being disrespectful and forcing your reality on others.
I came out to my parents a few weeks ago and they misgendered me and deadnamed me until I came downstairs and on the calendar I found my name and pronouns on a reminder
mouses fire green eyes💚😍!! correct with kindness, that’s a great way of thinking about it, i’ll definitely use that in the future🙌
Can I ask a question? What's the point of trying to force your third person pronouns on someone? When you speak to them, you're gonna use second person "you" all the time anyway. You're NEVER gonna need she/he when you talk to them...
So what's the point of the whole thing? I just don't understand. If they talk to someone else about you, it's their private conversation. Nothing to do with you. So why does it matter SO MUCH?
This came out (pun intended) at the perfect time bc I came out to my mom 2 days ago and she still uses she/her pronouns and is trying to use my preferred name more often but she still struggles
I’m curious how she is doing now?
update: my parents are now using my pronouns (they/him) and when they use my deadname they correct themselves and I'm out to some extended family and everyone at my school :D
@@charlieyouel7993 thats great to hear!
Whenever I correct her, she ignores me...
I always find it difficult to use them/they pronouns because we don't really have them in the Netherlands because we say the person's name instead of the pronouns for Enby so I only use they/them when speaking in English But I always try my best to use the right pronouns
Yes!
Hoi! Ik ben ook een Nederlandse enby en ik gebruik die/diens/hen. Ik had toevallig een nonbinaire biologie docent die me dat leerde. Het is eerst heel vreemd en enorm wennen, maar nu voelt het heel normaal. Je gebruikt het op deze manier:
Ken je Jacks? Die is non-binair en die speelt viool. Diens lievelingskleur is geel/hun lievelingskleur is geel. Ik vind hen een aardig persoon.
@@sage9653 dankjewel dat helpt heel erig daar had ik nog niet aan gedacht dat je die/diens/hen kan gebruiken dat is echt slim en dat kan je makkelijk toe passen
Martin Schetters graag gedaan, ik hoop dat het helpt!
Laurenzo: *starts talking*
Mouse: *meows* FOOD?!
Me: Awww mouse!!
I’m so glad you popped up on my fyp! I’ve been struggling with my family not using my pronouns since I came out about 3 years ago. They won’t outright refuse to, but they go back and forth between saying they’re supportive and getting really angry when I admit that being misgendered all the time kind of hurts. Not ideal, but not the worst. I appreciate your advice 💜
i’m really glad to have found someone like you, you’re really informational, relatable, and inspiring. it feels good to have someone like me who knows my struggles giving advice.💖
i already got so used to "they", if my ADD ass can manage this then those people claiming it's "too complicated to even try" can too
and i appreciate everyone trying their best to be respectful and loving! ;o;
also omg i love mouse 🥺🥺💝💘❣💕🥺💙💜🥺💗💖💓🥺
Yeah same (both with add and getting used to they then pronouns)
Mouse is so cute (petition for mouses own UA-cam channel?)
I’ll sign!
I just recently came out as Nonbinary and my mom just said to me: "but you're still my daughter, right?"
like gurl no that's the whole point of this.
also like she refuses to call me Ash (my new name) and instead calls me my old nickname which makes me really uncumforatable so thats great.
I think a lot of parents (mine included) are just in flat out denial of their kid being nonbinary/lgbtq+. Like if their kid is trans or genderqueer they just see it as “a man pretending to be a woman” or “a woman wanting to look androgynous” or something like that, rather than seeing them for who they truly are. I think since they have barely to no education at all on the matter (especially since they were never taught to see this as “normal”) they can’t and don’t want to comprehend this change cause it’s not what they’re used to
That’s a real parent
when i correct my sister on my pronouns, she mocks me. when i tell my mom what you told us to tell them she did not care. they all claim not to be transphobic and yet they continue to do these things that so blatantly hurt me. please help?
they care about me and it’s not like they don’t love me, i just don’t know how to stop this
adesso.laurenzo thank you very much :)
I think the best thing is to just let people express themselves the way they want, with the language and words they want to use. The idea of conroling people's expression and speech should be appauling to everyone. There is no respect of people you controle and lf you cannot respect people how can you expect them to respect you? Besides, I've never had a person who advocates to force, pressure, demand or even hope for others to use your prefered pronouns have never used pronouns I ask them to use for me. It's just hypocracy. Those who live more traditionally are far more respectful.
@@dreadgunner would you like me to write a well-thought-out argument on why you’re wrong or are you commenting this simply to upset people, knowing full well that regardless of how they respond you will continue to maintain the same ideology?
@@catbatlps Respecting language and expression is a great thing. You can respond anyway you see fit. Would you rather I try and tell you that you shouldn't or cannot? It would be hypocritical of me to tell you you cannot say what you like, or for that mater, live life the way you want. Just like it would be hypocritical for you to use any other pronoun for me other than the one I ask you to. But I have come to realize advocates for preferred pronouns are less then consistent.
@@dreadgunner WAIT I GENUINELY DONT KNOW WHICH SIDE YOURE ON ANYMORE IM
I wanna start using she/they and I feel like people have defaulted to just using the she/her pronouns when it come to people using more than one set of pronouns
I have a question. Ive been identifying as Genderfluid since December and my brother and sister know. However, neither of them have made an effort to use my preferred pronouns (they/them) how can I bring it up to them in way where it will cause the least amount of conflict or confusion?
I’m probably not the person to give advice because I haven’t even came out to anyone but a few close friends and my mom, but here’s some advice anyway.
Bring it up to them politely. Say something like “Please try and remember to use the correct pronouns when referring to me. It makes me uncomfortable when you don’t”
If they willfully disregard your wishes, I’m pretty sure the video talked more about what to do. Do your best to stay positive!
Are you really genderfluid or are you just comfortable in 2 different kinds of dress? I feel like the concept of gender fluidity is erasing androgynous fashion amd confusing young people.
I used to crossdress as a.teen because I just never gave a shir about what other people think and I would have been very offended if people around me would be constantly telling me I wasn't Male just because I dressed fem
@@nullvoid8941 at first I thought it was just me enjoying dressing both ways but when I tried dressing more feminine, I felt a sense of comfort I didn't even know was missing until it was there. So I'm pretty confident that it's deeper than just enjoying both types of clothing and more to do with how I want to be perceived
@@Xandergildheart hey whatever makes you happy it's a great thing to self examine
@Xavier Peña people used to misgender me and profusely Apologize and I would always just think it was Hilario
I just love how positive your videos are! As members of the LGBTQ community and just a human in general it can be a struggle sometimes so it's awesome that I can come check out a video and feel better. Thank you ❤️
I really wish I could show these vids and your tiktoks to my parents so they can learn better (they're supportive and they're trying) and understand better but they don't like me getting advice from "internet sites"
what if my parents straight up tell me they won't use my preferred name or pronouns
edit: I just got to the part where you talked about family members not using it.
This video is so helpful!
I came out a few months ago. My mum says she is supportive. She then proceeded to say they/them pronouns don't sound natural and don't suit me. Ending with "But don't worry, i'll always support you because you will always be my Beautiful DAUGHTER".
My dad doesn't really understand but he supports me anyway. I haven't told him i want to use they/them because im afraid he'll act like my mum.
Neither of them know i want to change names or want to wear a binder. I was given a NB flag as a gift from a friend but have to hide it in fear of my mum even though she said she was supportive.
They don't use the pronouns and name for my sister but those are for different reasons altogether. (My sister used to do this thing where she would 'come out' for like a week as some random new thing she learned about and then go back and pretend it never happened. She also never corrects people on pronouns so they think its another one of those.
Help??
Was the name Mouse supposed to be an oxymoron? Or are you just silly? 😜😂
Lmao I didn’t think of i that way 💀
I recently came out to my grandparents(I live with them and they are my guardians) and my grandpa has been making jokes when I try and correct them on using my correct pronoun. Hopefully at some point he'll stop, but at least my grandma is doing a little better at correcting when I remind her.
@@adesso.laurenzo Thanks for the hug. He's an old english major and can't accept that they/them can be used as a singular in the same way that the singular "you" is used. Keeps claiming that language changes over hundreds of years and I can't expect him to change at his age. I just ordered some pronoun buttons, so I hope it can help be a visual aid for them. And my D&D group has been really supportive and have been using my preferred name and pronouns.
I’ve been a genderfluid lesbian for a little more than 6 months now, and it’s been quite a ride. I’ve just realized that i love they/them pronouns, and don’t necessarily fit into either binary (I went by she/they, but now that’s changed). I’m so glad that i found your channel, you make me feel safe and valid 💚💚
i loved the positive reinforcement advice! patience is key!
It's very frustrating to have to get my family use my name and pronouns I feel like they aren't trying hard enough . This was very helpful thank you so much .
I appreciate your comments and attitude. I am a relative of a transgender couple, whom I love, but, made a first time mistake on mispeaking her pronouns.
I love this video, your videos are helping a lot 💜💜
no way! I've been seeing your tiktoks on compilations for so long, I finally found your channel! I've been binging your videos all day and just noticed. I'm in middle school, and I just came out to my close family as enby! I'm super excited to come out at school now. Thank you so much for making such amazing and informational content! I sent my mom your channel just because you're so epic, and explain everything so well :)
u speak italian??? that’s so cool!! my dad is from Sardinia and i speak some italian and i am going there this summer for a month i hope i learn more.
Wow thank you so much you're so helpful and amazing! Sometimes my friends but mostly my family don't use correct pronouns for me and this has really helped me to understand what it's like to be them, to change the way they all talk about me. I'll correct them more probably too now, as well as saying thanks, I really appreciate it when they get it right :) Thank you Laurenzo 💗🏳🌈
So uh I wanna come out to my family but I don’t have a new name for myself. I have a whole hunk of ideas though! I want to decide on a name before I come out. Whenever I see one I like, I put it in the notes section on my phone.
Creek, Zero, Sam, Alex, Owl, Fern, a r s o n, Jester, Drizzle, Storm, Rain, Grey, Olive, Artemis, Crow, Spyder, Awe, Pluto, Tuesday, Pyro, Bones, Jynx, Forte, Thistle, Cypher, Easton, Soul, Flicker, Tiki, Atlanta, Atlantic, Thunder, Sheik, Socks, Ten, Yin, River, Rush, Green, Lime, Tawny, Orange, and Ortuvious are what I have so far. What do you guys think sounds cool?
I luckily had a teacher (who was non-binary) tell the head teacher of my school to use my preferred pronouns! Till this day I thank them.
Yes, correct with kindness...
What if I correct nicely but my parent just ignores me and makes it seem like they don’t support even if they said they do
That’s my situation... they only called me they/them when I came out... and they directly said “No, we won’t call you Rat. You are Alina”
@@gayce6662awh im so sorry but rat is such a cute and good nb name-
@@gayce6662 I can’t decide whether I love the name rat or hate it 💀
What I don’t like is when people say it’s “confusing” to say they/them pronouns. You’ve been using them your entire life, for hundreds of years they/them were words, and we’ve used them in sentences. 🥰Get your act together🥰
All my friends use she/her with me except one person. He’s not a transphobe but I don’t think he uses anyone’s correct pronouns
Ello i love your videos so much *im nonbinary and lesbian and i was having trouble with people using my prounouns and that the fact i have a girlfriend and this video helped alot! Which i loved* (but my friend and family still says she her even tho im they them) but anyway i really loved this video keep up the good work *and sadly my friend sad she wont use thye then prounouns u said i dont wanna be friends with her and she didnt understand so i talked to my other friends and there fine with using my prounouns so now i just mainly hangout with my gf and not around my ex friend*
Fun fact: a non-binary person that likes girls is trixic!
Yeah the person who doesn't respect my pronouns is my mom, and it's so hard cause now she's trying to send me to therapy or otherwise i have to leave the house, and I'm trying to be with my online friends but it's just so fucking hard
Thanks for this Zo! I want to do better and learn how to do introductions. Can you make a short video on all the scenarios people would use ? I can’t find one on youtube? For Example: A heterosexual female might say “Hi my name is-- I go by She Her”. A person who is -- would say “Hi my name is- . I go by-- -.” I also wondered how gender based languages can handle this? Would it mean it change all the conjugations?
Wait what does heterosexuality have to do with a female who uses she/her pronouns introducing herself
I kind of came out as non-binary but i'm comfortable with he/him pronouns.... i told my parents and my aunt(who is the one that mostly raised me and my brother since my parents were busy) it makes me feel bad that they keep calling me as a girl, and even some of my only friends... i remember there was a moment where one of my friends corrected ME because i use male pronouns and "corrected me" into saying it with female pronouns... i truly one have one true friend who is an online friend who really cares about me, and honestly it seems as if he is the only one that cares and respects my choice of pronouns...
Heey, i really love your videos!! thank you for making them, but i have a cuestion, what do you do or respond to someone that jokes around of being nonbinary?, i kinda want to come out... but im so scared of people jokes, every time i encourage myself to tell them i stop when i hear them joking like "did you just asume my gender" or "i identify as a unicorn", as soon i hear that kind of things i run to the closet as fast as i can... haha...
(i'm so sorry if something is not clear, my english is very messy)
Thank you
Me when my friends refer to me as a girl (she/her, mother ;u;, gurl, daughter etc)
= "I AM NOT A GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me when my friends say my dead name=
"WHO'S (ded name)?! I DON'T KNOW ANYONE CALLED (ded name)!!"
I'm too harsh o~o Save me :'D
Just in case if I ever interact with you what is your gender identity then(because you said you aren’t a girl) and what is your preferred name since I don’t want to disrespect you
I prefer the they/them pronunciation. But I don't even remember using it myself. So I haven't told anyone.
I recently asked my mom to perticipate a pronouns experiment to use my they/them pronouns, I now know that it is a proccess and mom says she will try, but I don" know how I should polightly correct her or how to go about correcting or how many timesd before I come of as pushy.
So, how do I respectful correct people about my pronouns after getting folks to use them?
How can I make my 3 year old brother to understand that I’m a boy? Should I wait till he’s older? He calls me by my correct name sometimes but I don’t think he understands, should I wait till he’s 4 or 5
Kitty cat is so cute 🥺🥺
I'm almost tempted to start going by specifically it/it's or saying I prefer it/it's pronouns because I go by he/they/it and yet people never call me by it/it's pronouns and when I tell my friends about it and they say that they can call me whatever I want to be called which somewhat frustrates me cause it sounds like they are saying that they will start calling me by it/it's if I ask even though I have said multiple times that my pronouns are he/they/it so they should already be calling me by it/it's in the first place
Thank you this was a very inspiring video
My name is Sierra and I was wondering if you guys have any suggestions for gender neutral names that are too different from my original name. I don’t want it to arouse too much suspicion. Considering my house is full of homophobic and trans phobic people.
This is fantastic advice!
My problem is that it’s been almost over a year since I came out and my parents haven’t used my new pronouns once. And I have corrected them multiple times
I came out to my parents but they still won't use my preferred name or pronouns. How do you get them to use those?
I came out as NB to my mom a few weeks ago, but after SO MUCH RESEARCH I realized that I’m gender-fluid (but I’m probably going to come out as a trans girl) how to I talk to my parents about that? Please help me
Watching this 11 months and 29 days after this was recorded.
I’ve realized I am a demigirl pretty recently and I know I’m comfortable with she/her but I want to try they/them too right now I think I’m gonna ask my best friends I know they’ll use them since they’re both supportive and I might ask my parents but I’m scared even though they’re accepting of me and I know they would want to respect my pronouns but yet I’m still scared and don’t know a reason why? Is that weird
When they said "you do have the prettiest eyes" while looking at the camera in the beginning of the video 🥺😍😍
(I got a small crush, leave me alone lol)
I need help
I want to come out to my parents as bisexual and gender confused but I’m 11 so I think they just won’t care or tell me stuff I don’t want to hear, but I also want to make it quick and easy because it’s not a big deal and I don’t want it to be brought up because it makes me really uncomfortable to talk about it...
Help?
My friends are pretty good at getting it right except for two, one who is accepting and the other I'm still not sure. The other seems like he's just bothered by it and just went "oh."
I'm afraid for my parents and family they won't be able to accept it or atleast not my immediate family(my mom and dad). My mother is a feminine person and wants to force that feminity onto me (i'm afab and I'm not out yet) and just saying that I was nonbinary, I wouldn't get a good reaction (I dislike feminine things on me despite her knowing this already). And especially with my dad who willlingly calls others f*gs and doesn't agree with lgbt. I'm only 14 and out to my friends (or majority) but I hate that I have to wait until I move out and I'm safe to come out to my family.
Please someone help today! How do I tell my teachers that I go by a complete different name and pronouns? She to they, olivia to Pax.
I identify as el presidente
my pronouns which you will be required to use are;
"His Excellency, President for Life, Field Marshal Al Hadji Doctor Eugene Verster Dada, VC, DSO, MC, CBE, Lord of All the Beasts of the Earth and Fishes of the Seas and Conqueror of the British Empire and ruler of all the earth"
*As Penultimo (if you're a Tropico fan)* El Presidente, you can now issue a Decree forcing your subjects to refer to you by your actual Pronouns
@@repubblesmcglonky8990 i was not, had to google it, but yes my Penultimo we shall issue an official decree so that my subjects (the entire world) will be forced to use my pronouns
@@EugeneVerster lol, I'd really recommend Tropico 4, it's really fun :D don't bother with 5 or 6 though, they're not as good imho :)
@@EugeneVerster Was that an Idi Amin reference btw?
@@repubblesmcglonky8990 Tropico looks pretty cool, will check it out. and yes it was an Ide Amin reference, i am surprised you got that, well done
for anyone who thinks pronouns are this new thing
My older brother was trans for 5 months and I look like I'm copying him bc I'm trans and everyone will think I'm doing it for attention so I'm nervous.
Bro im tryna be a good frien so I asked my friend "whats your name again?" AND THEY SAID THEIR ASSIGNED AT BIRTH NAME AND I- i just became kinda awkward like: "oh um, uh, nevermind." and I feel really bad about it, because im also trying to figure out a different name for myself but idk bc I was named after my great grandma, and even though I dont really like the name I still feel like I wanna horde it or something like that bc its not bad or anything but just :(
I'm closeted and my transphobic mom came in while I was watching this. Best believe I turned it off ASAP
next video I would like: how to disown your "dad" for not using your pronouns and possibly being nb phobic
Wasn't it Dan Savage who said "the thing about pronouns is that they're almost always used when you're not in the room...."
I told my mom bout my pronouns and she told me that I’m a she you can’t be a they lol
Same.
All it takes is a little bit of research for parents to understand that you can use they/them pronouns singularly
And yet they never do and just keep misgendering us
Lol she’s right. Fucking grow up y’all, if you’re gay that’s it
@@ReverbCanvas you need to grow up if you feel the need to police peoples pronouns
I just ask my self WWMD - What Would Margaret Do?
Personally I use neopronouns so it’s even harder
I want people to use they/them pronouns for me but I’m too scared to come out
Pronouns are used when you're not in the room and you can't compel people to speak about you in a specific way when you're not around. Of course, you suggest living in an echo chamber where everybody gets their own gender pronouns. How about this, step into objective reality .
How to come out as Aro/ace
we filipinos dont have gender specific pronouns which is amazing
It’s so annoying that I am a boy with long hair I love my hair is always in a braid so yesterday me and my sister and we went inside of the store to get a cake for my grandmother and while we were at check out this guy was like come on ladies do I look like a A girl and plus this always happen at school do you like kindergarten are the boys would say that I’m a girl when the girls actually knew that was a boy and plus one of my crushes I like so I told this kid was a boy and he was like so does a girl dating a girl
Hi Laurenzo will u ever get a P.O. Box I wanna send u somthing
adesso.laurenzo I was just talking to u it’s duhitzissy
I wanna know Mouse's Pronouns :3
Lol. No.
Nobody cares, so don’t bother trying. Try being part of society.
They are part of society tho
You seem so young, and yet have a PhD. Can I ask how old you are, because i can't really tell by your face?
My parents won't use my pronouns not even my brother who is apart of the Lgbtq+
Good
I feel offended being pressured to use pronouns which are grammatically INCORRECT.
hot to get you to respect me.. stop talking