5 Things NOT To Say To Someone With an Eating Disorder

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  • @SuccessWheels
    @SuccessWheels 4 роки тому +1691

    Some imperfect NOTES
    1. TALKING ABOUT YOUR BODY
    - people with an eating disorder are extra sensitive
    - don't compare them with yourself
    - they'll consider it as criticism
    2. FORCE- FEEDING
    - their minds are controlled by their eating disorders
    - they have lost sense of proper serving of food
    - so force-feeding will them more cautious and fearful about the meal
    3. I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH
    - saying that triggers those people
    - it seems like you're trivialising what they're going through
    4. YOUR DIET
    - don't share your diet as it will make those people compare to you
    - they might feel more guilty about eating
    5. YOU DON'T LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE AN EATING DISORDER
    - EATING disorders are incidious, they're not obvious until it's too late
    - this makes recovery even harder for them
    - they might look normal but are fragile inside
    My passion is to share summaries like Started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries ✌️
    Hope you all are healthy in this wired time of the world 🤞

    • @lucianamayasari3370
      @lucianamayasari3370 4 роки тому +5

      Thanks for point it out

    • @bluediamond4895
      @bluediamond4895 4 роки тому +10

      Success Wheels the main thing is not to talk about the person’s weight; that’s a no no. I almost starved myself because of that.

    • @suck.my_t1t
      @suck.my_t1t 4 роки тому +3

      I think this is like a brilliant idea to do now not being mean but if like someone is dear and they wanna listen to UA-cam this'll be very easy for them
      Not mean*

    • @pringlesinacan3571
      @pringlesinacan3571 4 роки тому

      thank you

    • @youalwaysyounever
      @youalwaysyounever 4 роки тому +1

      @MillerTime 86 pretty much everything else 🙃

  • @saragalizia114
    @saragalizia114 4 роки тому +1290

    The voice sounds so kind it's heartwarming

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +113

      thank you for the feedback

    • @dariancomsa7204
      @dariancomsa7204 4 роки тому +70

      @@Psych2go your voice it's so relaxing i'd make a bed out of it and sleep in it all day

    • @dariancomsa7204
      @dariancomsa7204 4 роки тому +13

      @@MedusaThrived , my sister wants to be one too! She is on 11th grade and thinks seriously about doing a psychology university.

    • @Leotastick
      @Leotastick 4 роки тому +7

      Now i want virtual hugs :'l

    • @saragalizia114
      @saragalizia114 4 роки тому +6

      @@Leotastick here's one 🤗

  • @bubblebuttz3218
    @bubblebuttz3218 4 роки тому +691

    I actually have an eating disorder, and I fully agree, when ppl say or do these it’s so annoying and even insulting

    • @IronBlaze77
      @IronBlaze77 4 роки тому +19

      Lovingly Great It’s great to see I’m not alone. It just sucks when I tell people I just don’t really like food and someone points out my body weight.

    • @wannabewoozi6652
      @wannabewoozi6652 4 роки тому +10

      yeah.. the worst is when people say I don’t look like I have a disorder. I have atypical anorexia, and its literal hell, but no one takes it seriously because of my weight.

    • @alidaboettcher7376
      @alidaboettcher7376 4 роки тому +2

      All of the best. I walked with a good friend through bulimia. It is no joke.

    • @bluediamond4895
      @bluediamond4895 4 роки тому +2

      Lovingly Great people can be so ignorant

    • @aydeepeperoni6018
      @aydeepeperoni6018 4 роки тому +3

      I used to have it two years ago and almost got stuck into a mental hospital lol that's the only reason why I started eating again. Out of fear, not realization and self love or any of that. I hate everyone.. I'm never going to ask help from anyone ever again

  • @calumbrooknicolson
    @calumbrooknicolson 4 роки тому +1686

    Here's an idea: Things to NOT say or do when someone is angry.

    • @star-boltlover9609
      @star-boltlover9609 4 роки тому +138

      One of the reasons is having telling an angry person to calm down. You say that, that is a death wish 😨😨😨

    • @calumbrooknicolson
      @calumbrooknicolson 4 роки тому +46

      @Bisexual Dolphin I thought the video would be a good idea, because angry people get treated strictly.

    • @5gonza541
      @5gonza541 4 роки тому +46

      Or even better: Things not to say to someone who you think is angry
      1. Relax
      When I’m feeling pretty normal and someone tells me this thinking i’m stressed or angry I do get angry and stressed to my bones

    • @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools
      @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools 4 роки тому +20

      Number one, leave them alone until they calm down. Don't try to calm them down, don't try holding them down, because if you do that, it's just gonna make them angrier...
      (From a person who almost always angry and frustrated, thats me. Some of my old idiot classmates where did these and I just wanted to kill them to when they did that)

    • @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools
      @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools 4 роки тому +6

      @@star-boltlover9609 Yes, and i'm capable of killing..

  • @honeyrose1384
    @honeyrose1384 4 роки тому +511

    I litterally cried while watching this. I cant tell you how many times people have told me "just eat it's not hard." People have gotten mad at me. And I HATE when people talk about the keto diet or detox blah blah blah. So triggering for me because I do compare myself. I even get mad when other people lose weight even if they are overweight and it's good that they are. I get mad because they are and I'm not. Sorry for the rant but this video hit very close to home for me. Btw only you understand what you go through nobody else. Everyones experiences are different. Spot on with the top 5!

    • @BabyLionYibo
      @BabyLionYibo 4 роки тому +18

      HoneyRose I'm currently in recovery from anorexia and I completely agree with everything you just said >.< this video was really relatable too. I hate it especially when they say "just eat" but it's so much more difficult than that. It also feels like everyone around me is on a diet and it triggers me so much when they talk about calories and all that when im trying so hard to stop counting every single calorie that goes into my body :(

    • @honeyrose1384
      @honeyrose1384 4 роки тому +8

      @@BabyLionYibo I'm happy that you are in recovery. I wish nothing more than for us to just sit down and eat a proper portion be full and be done with it. I also am in recovery seeing a therapist for bulimia. I pray that you will get over this! We can overcome but it's a tough mountain that's been going on for years. You can and will break the cycle!

    • @memethornislowkeysad8987
      @memethornislowkeysad8987 4 роки тому +1

      Yesss!! My mom always talks about “the keto diet” and she has all these things laying around for it, and since I’m currently battling ARFID (hard to explain, almost like picky eating to the extreme) I’m just like “how do you eat these things without throwing up?” And she says she just eats them because it’s not that hard to eat so this hit home really dang hard.. Also just know that whatever you’re battling, you’re doing great 🤗💞

    • @honeyrose1384
      @honeyrose1384 4 роки тому +1

      @@memethornislowkeysad8987 thanks! We can all overcome this battle just like the video says it takes approximately 2 years on average for recovery some maybe more everyone is different ❤ you got this. Btw if I hear one more person talk about the keto diet 😑😑😑😂

    • @user-f91731
      @user-f91731 4 роки тому +3

      Don’t feel sorry for ranting. It’s better to let those feelings out than keep them inside.

  • @Awsomemobs2000Theminecraftdude
    @Awsomemobs2000Theminecraftdude 4 роки тому +414

    Its scary how our mind can twist things so much that it even affects our needed intake of nutrients.

    • @frankscraprobot5209
      @frankscraprobot5209 4 роки тому +15

      Yeah the mind is really powerfull, sometimes to powerfull.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +24

      Yeah, the mind is a powerful thing. Do you know anyone who may be suffering from this?

    • @Awsomemobs2000Theminecraftdude
      @Awsomemobs2000Theminecraftdude 4 роки тому +8

      @@Psych2go I don't believe so. Which is a good thing, not only because it's a terrible thing to have, but because most of the people I know have enough mental illnesses/Physical Illnesses weighing them down: They really don't need another one.

    • @kjade5657
      @kjade5657 4 роки тому +1

      Yeah, currently food is seen as a coping mechanism on some days for me and only as a form of energy so I can run it off on other days and I can’t shake this feeling

    • @GamerCastella
      @GamerCastella 2 роки тому

      yes so true and sadly right now I am struggling with it ;-;

  • @nobodyelse2938
    @nobodyelse2938 4 роки тому +564

    I have a family member with an eating disorder so this is helpful.

  • @DiaMonD_KUROI
    @DiaMonD_KUROI 4 роки тому +387

    I hage binge eating problems, and my moms is just like "well stop eating" you don't say sis

    • @kaitlyncollison6908
      @kaitlyncollison6908 4 роки тому +7

      Temmie la Yandere【KUROI】 i feel ya.

    • @biancalazzaroni6290
      @biancalazzaroni6290 4 роки тому +13

      Once I was talking to my sister and I said that I eat a lot to make her understand what BED. I was saying that I had a problem stopping and she said ‘that’s not a problem that’s because you really like food’. And I knew then and there that I would never ever speak to my problems to just anyone. I don’t really hold it against her because she was young (15) and I don’t think she even fully understand what I was trying to say. But yeah I don’t really talk about my problems to my family 😐 I gave up on that because I know my family members and even if I try to explain it to them it’s just not gonna work. But if you think you can ‘work’ on it with your mum, course you know maybe your mum just doesn’t know or it’s not fully knowledge on the subject. So maybe you can try to send her articles or videos that explain it well and then she will understand and support you more.

    • @DiaMonD_KUROI
      @DiaMonD_KUROI 4 роки тому +12

      @@biancalazzaroni6290 really, people understand anorexia, but most of them think BED is just not wanting to stop...

    • @Leotastick
      @Leotastick 4 роки тому +4

      I use to have a disorder where i ate ALOT to cover the pain but i grew older and it got worse to the point where the only thing now to distract me from the pain is feeling pain from ur stomach asking to eat but u urself cant.....

    • @acisx8657
      @acisx8657 4 роки тому +5

      My mom says that all the time. It really hurts me. I always try to tell her that it doesn't work like that, but she never listens. It took her an entire year and a half to even convince her that I had eating problems and that was only after I started purging. Still, she didn't get me help, so I had to seek it out myself. I went to my aunt and I think that made my mom feel jealous enough to try to help. It's been almost a year since I started binging/purging and almost three years since it all started. I just don't know how to stop it.

  • @guppy9161
    @guppy9161 4 роки тому +228

    Thanks, my friend has anorexia.
    Edit: she’s recovered really well and is a lot better now :)

  • @nabiflyyy
    @nabiflyyy 3 роки тому +57

    My mom said “there’s so much more out there to worry about” and that just made me feel like my feelings aren’t even valid. She doesn’t know I’m struggling but it still hurts

    • @elliem7912
      @elliem7912 3 роки тому +3

      I'm sorry :((
      Your feelings are valid, and they shoud not be compared to what someone else is going through.
      I once heard someone say "telling someone not to be sad because there are other who have it worse is like telling someone not to be happy because there are other that have it better."

    • @lilturtle2932
      @lilturtle2932 2 роки тому +1

      Hey I know this response is late but I just wanted to say that you’re feeling are valid and that you deserve the world. I hope you are doing better and I’m here if you would like to talk about anything. I love you and wish you the best

    • @nabiflyyy
      @nabiflyyy 2 роки тому

      @@lilturtle2932 thank you! I’m doing a lot better now! Reading your message made me smile :)

    • @lilturtle2932
      @lilturtle2932 2 роки тому

      @@nabiflyyy So happy to hear you are doing better and I’m glad that my message made you smile! I’m proud of you and love you

  • @xahne
    @xahne 4 роки тому +661

    "Ive seen you eat. You dont have it. Stop acting."
    "You always make a big deal out of nothing."
    "Its just food. Just eat. Jeez."
    "You may be skinny but you dont have an eating disorder."
    "So and so ACTUALLY struggles."
    "Why are you destroying yourself? Dont you care about me?!"
    "I wont eat unless you do."
    Stop it. Think about your words.

    • @meep9231
      @meep9231 3 роки тому +46

      “Do you want to die?! Is that it?”

    • @oifelixcomeherebro1689
      @oifelixcomeherebro1689 3 роки тому +63

      "You're ruining Christmas for everyone!"
      "You're so ungrateful!"
      "You have such a perfect life, why are you still acting like this?"
      - my mom 30 minutes ago

    • @QueenForever-be2xf
      @QueenForever-be2xf 3 роки тому +12

      My friend said that last one :3

    • @lilrandall3731
      @lilrandall3731 3 роки тому +12

      SO many people say this kind of stuff to me, I'm sick of it. I wish they could actually understand. =(

    • @MuhammadAbbas-yq5jm
      @MuhammadAbbas-yq5jm 3 роки тому +19

      "Why aren't you eating?!" Then they hand me a full plate for the third time.
      "I bought you cake because Ik you love it"
      "Ik you secretly eat in the middle of the night"
      When I go with a friend to buy new jeans: my friend "tf that's a big size"
      People also think that if they don't feed me I'll dislike them and I'll get angry
      "You need to lose some weight"

  • @sarahp.5503
    @sarahp.5503 4 роки тому +206

    1. Talking about your body
    2. force them to eat more
    3. saying that you know what they're going through, when you really don't
    4. Talking about your diet
    5. Telling them they don't look like they have an ED

    • @bluediamond4895
      @bluediamond4895 4 роки тому +1

      Sarah P. I’m glad I saw this video. So I’ll know what to do.

  • @TheRealGuywithoutaMustache
    @TheRealGuywithoutaMustache 4 роки тому +95

    Thanks for speaking about this sensitive topic, a lot of us know people that hopefully we can help with this information.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +4

      Thank you for sharing! What have you learned after watching this video? And how do you plan to help those who are suffering from this? :)

    • @tsukarikaoru
      @tsukarikaoru 4 роки тому +3

      You are EVERYWHERE. But yes, I agree.

    • @karai5082
      @karai5082 3 роки тому +2

      Yes, i agree as well, but HOW ARE YOU LITERALLY EVERYWHERE

  • @rianotfound2423
    @rianotfound2423 4 роки тому +178

    I sent this to my friends now they understand about my disorder

    • @aestheticlia757
      @aestheticlia757 4 роки тому +16

      I’m glad you’re open about it!

    • @aestheticlia757
      @aestheticlia757 4 роки тому +9

      Just saying not everyone is open about it

    • @rianotfound2423
      @rianotfound2423 4 роки тому +6

      @@aestheticlia757 yeah I'm surprised I'm being open i really never had the courage to but I'm happy plus it makes it worse when your 13

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +15

      We're happy to hear that the video helped you :)

    • @rianotfound2423
      @rianotfound2423 4 роки тому +3

      @@Psych2go thank you 💕

  • @behind-blue-eyes3248
    @behind-blue-eyes3248 4 роки тому +50

    My little sister have an eating disorder. It is so hard to watch and feel helpless.
    Thank you for this video! You guys are amazing.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +7

      I hope this video will give you a better understanding!

    • @behind-blue-eyes3248
      @behind-blue-eyes3248 4 роки тому +2

      @@Psych2go Thank you ❤

    • @rowangoodmann3069
      @rowangoodmann3069 4 роки тому +3

      I wish the best for u and your sister 💜💜💜

  • @uncledonel1742
    @uncledonel1742 4 роки тому +243

    #6: "It's piece of cake"

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +37

      And what was the reply? LOL

    • @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools
      @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools 4 роки тому +10

      I want that cake. Can I have that cake? Now I want cake even MORE!!

    • @emmaindisguise5231
      @emmaindisguise5231 4 роки тому +2

      Uncle Donel omg yes

    • @liam6772
      @liam6772 4 роки тому +2

      Oh god now. Just replace that with a burrito and now I have the worst memory

    • @amarahslittlelife
      @amarahslittlelife 4 роки тому

      @@liam6772 it's chicken nuggets for me 😅

  • @Hikaritoge
    @Hikaritoge 4 роки тому +285

    No one:
    Absolutely no one:
    My friends: *Say literally everything listed in video*

    • @sceptre80
      @sceptre80 4 роки тому +8

      I don't think they're your friends. I hope you're okay.

    • @Hikaritoge
      @Hikaritoge 4 роки тому +6

      @@sceptre80 Thank you for your support

    • @Astharia
      @Astharia 4 роки тому +11

      Sometimes people get desperate when they see someone deteriorate in front of them and don't know how to help.

    • @AlterRektMLG
      @AlterRektMLG 4 роки тому +5

      @@sceptre80 Or it might be that they just don't how to help.

    • @sceptre80
      @sceptre80 4 роки тому

      @@AlterRektMLG why would a friend say that you don't look like you have something that you're plagued with?

  • @existingthing2270
    @existingthing2270 4 роки тому +40

    “Lol just eat!”
    “Lol just stop eating when you’re full”
    “Lol just don’t throw up”
    Wow look I’m cured why didn’t I think of that

  • @minayalamova8826
    @minayalamova8826 4 роки тому +87

    Just in time! I found out a friend of mine has an ed and this is going to come in handy

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +4

      glad to know we can help!

    • @rowangoodmann3069
      @rowangoodmann3069 4 роки тому

      How's it going? If don't mind me asking

    • @thesecretwriter741
      @thesecretwriter741 2 роки тому +1

      Same for me, may friend told me iwen if we are not so close but im happy she told me, and naw i hawe ben gogeling facts abut eating disorders

  • @mistygaming6036
    @mistygaming6036 4 роки тому +33

    I have anorexia and this video helped my family understand some of the things they have been doing are only worsening it..
    Thank you for making the video

  • @nothumanalien7984
    @nothumanalien7984 4 роки тому +54

    I have an alter that has anorexia and my friends said she is too skinny to have it and it doesn't make sense because I (Katie) don't have it. I didn't know it happened until I saw it writen done in the shared diary.

    • @thevoidismyhome7242
      @thevoidismyhome7242 4 роки тому +11

      Wow. I didn't know that alters in DID and other such mental disorders can actually have other mental disorders too.

    • @Grey_Ape
      @Grey_Ape 4 роки тому +4

      My alter has a chronic nut scratching disorder, ill wake up sometimes and my sack is raw and covered in blood.

    • @princemochi2018
      @princemochi2018 4 роки тому +6

      @@Grey_Ape
      Are you joking? I can't tell. If you're not I hope you recover from the wound (?)

  • @XXIris-Marie2004
    @XXIris-Marie2004 4 роки тому +10

    Currently recovering from an ED... I've been exercising regularly and my relationship with food is starting to become much healthier... Feeling better than ever both physically and mentally, and I want others who have suffered from an ED to know that there is hope and recovery is possible... Much love to everyone reading this and stay strong, lovelies 🙃💕

    • @orphan_account
      @orphan_account 2 роки тому +1

      CONGRATS IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU
      I’m recovering too
      It’s really hard.

  • @BrainsApplied
    @BrainsApplied 4 роки тому +35

    In my experience it's the best to not bring it up in the first place. :)

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому

      Exactly!

    • @nastiavolynska
      @nastiavolynska 3 роки тому +4

      ...unless the person themselves wants to talk about it :-)

  • @hippsthehippo9804
    @hippsthehippo9804 4 роки тому +128

    Eating cake infront of you is probably something not to do

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +23

      of course not

    • @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools
      @KiraTheFoolOfTheFools 4 роки тому +1

      @@Psych2go then I go to my room and eat it there. And I hope you will get better. I don't know what does it feel like, but it doesn't mean I can't wish you the best...
      If I made you angry or frustrated or upset, I'M SORRY!!
      ....i didn't mean to....
      ;-;

    • @bluediamond4895
      @bluediamond4895 4 роки тому +5

      I usually don’t eat in front of people who are not eating.

    • @zaraic5601
      @zaraic5601 4 роки тому +10

      Actually I think eating cake in front of someone with anorexia would be a good thing... As long as you aren't using negatives like "it's a treat/naughty/I'm being so bad/I need to diet".
      Then it shows that actually, cake can be a good thing

    • @bluediamond4895
      @bluediamond4895 4 роки тому

      Kíra Tóth you’re a kind person

  • @dinenduath4782
    @dinenduath4782 3 роки тому +10

    I still can't forget when I was laughed at for binging on all I had in my room, because "that's not a binge, that's just a meal".
    I had hurt my mouth on my entire daily allowance, of which was still rather low at the time, despite recovering.
    Guess who ended up with a strong urge to exercise like crazy.
    Pretty much fully recovered now, so no worries. Got the needed support
    Edit: rephrasing

  • @Mari_PL
    @Mari_PL 4 роки тому +29

    Can you please make a video on dating? For example: “10 Things you should/shouldn’t say or do on a date” or something like that. 🙏🏽

  • @StarryCat08
    @StarryCat08 4 роки тому +6

    thank you so much for making this! i have struggled with eating disorders for a long time, (i’m in recovery) and sometimes people do not understand how to help in the best way possible. even though i gave everyone around me an info sheet from my clinic on how to help, i feel like a video is able to help as well since everyone learns differently. i will definitely be showing some people this video to help them help me in the best way possible! and thank you for using a gentle voice when narrating this video, it helps set the tone too. once again, thank you so much for this video!

  • @emm8657
    @emm8657 4 роки тому +2

    I have anorexia and I hate being portrayed as weak or broken. I’m not weak. The amount of work it takes to live with this is extreme. We aren’t pathetic or pitiable.

  • @shutyourstace3753
    @shutyourstace3753 4 роки тому +5

    This makes me think of Eugenia Cooney. My heart goes out to her along with all those suffering from an ED.

  • @angrycactus158
    @angrycactus158 4 роки тому +16

    ...... I just purged the salad I ate for lunch...... I needed this video.

    • @gabirose298
      @gabirose298 4 роки тому +6

      I purged for three years and I have acid burns in my esophagus and also is in my stomach because of the damage I caused myself it’s not worth it

    • @fairyjuggalo8368
      @fairyjuggalo8368 4 роки тому +4

      I understand you wanna vent but... I think this can be very triggering and toxic. Try saying something like "i struggle with this stuff".

    • @blueturtle3623
      @blueturtle3623 4 роки тому

      @X Gacha Did...you watch the video? thats not helpful

    • @haylee219
      @haylee219 4 роки тому +3

      try to break the purging habit. I purged for a while but my body realized that throwing up was really hurting me so I become immune to throwing up (I no longer had a gag reflex) and I panicked. how could I get rid of the food in my stomach was my thought. I decided to relax and just let my body digest and do the work on its own. really, everybody has the power within them to defeat any illness or disorder. never question your worth because your mind can play tricks on you. if you look in the mirror and don't like what you see, do you know why that is? because you are so used to looking at yourself in the mirror , you're brain doesn't see your features as special anymore.you are just used to yourself! but your features are special, they are!! everything about you is beautiful and everyone can see that. your own mind is your biggest enemy, but you just have to believe in yourself as the amazing person you are. it's alright. you can vent here or cry because there will be people like me that appreciate your courage of coming out and telling people your story. if someone says your comment is triggering, that makes no sense. clicking on this video could be triggering because it talks about an eating disorder. your comment is appriciated, and you are as well. you've got this, and you'll be alright. I've seen it happen in others, and it can happen for you too 💕💕💕💕

    • @haylee219
      @haylee219 4 роки тому +4

      @@fairyjuggalo8368 listen. clicking on this video means you should be ready to hear stories about eating disorders because this is a video about eating disorders, okay? people need to vent okay they need to get things out please don't bring someone down like this again even if you didn't mean to you did. if this is triggering for you why click on a video about eating disorders????

  • @treblemaker21
    @treblemaker21 2 роки тому +1

    I always struggled with abnormal eating. Binges, secretive eating purging after a bad binge. I've seen therapists who said I don't have a problem but I think about food (what I can eat, what I can't eat, how to bend the rules) all the time. Just yesterday, I got on a waiting list for an IOP for eating disorders.
    My family wants to help but have no clue how to help. Growing up, my mom tried everything and it only resulted in deepening my secretive binges and overwhelming guilt. Food was really restricted. My aunts love food and took the opposite approach to help me. I was always stuck in between.
    Now I'm 14 weeks pregnant and only wanting to eat either by myself or with my husband. I am struggling to find a way to tell my family that I am seeking treatment and setting boundaries regarding food and comments. I'm honestly thinking about showing them this video.
    It is encouraging to know that my experiences aren't in a vacuum. Reading the comments encouraged me to share as well.

  • @Swifly_Norman
    @Swifly_Norman 10 місяців тому +1

    Thanks, my friend is mostly recovered from disordered eating but still has a tricky relationship with food. I don’t want to retrigger her to go back but if that does happen, I’ll support her as much as I can all over again

  • @didi7074
    @didi7074 4 роки тому +10

    I started eating a lot of junk food to feel less lonely because of bully and a toxic family. It's been 2/3 years like this

    • @jaxelton4500
      @jaxelton4500 4 роки тому +3

      Didi Stay strong 🖤

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +2

      I think a lot of people can probably relate to this. Does anyone want to leave a comment?

    • @didi7074
      @didi7074 4 роки тому

      @@jaxelton4500 Thank you ❤ It's hard, I'm trying to not gain or loss too much weight, just keeping my """normal"" weight...

    • @jaxelton4500
      @jaxelton4500 4 роки тому +1

      Didi I understand that, but please remember that weight is not the only part to health :) I also feel overeating disorders are often overlooked

    • @didi7074
      @didi7074 4 роки тому

      @@jaxelton4500 I know...I might get diabetes and other problems because I'm eating too much sugar and unhealthy food...

  • @jacklonghearse9821
    @jacklonghearse9821 4 роки тому +7

    *"WOW! You finally look lovable. Keep doing what you're doing!"*

  • @caseykeener3525
    @caseykeener3525 4 роки тому +15

    "We just treated your suicidal thoughts. You're doing this for attention."
    "I thought you were on a DIET" (this was said when I reached for a cookie--the only thing I ate that day).

    • @Bleakkit
      @Bleakkit 2 роки тому +2

      its been a year hope you get better

    • @caseykeener3525
      @caseykeener3525 2 роки тому +3

      @@Bleakkit thank you! I completely forgot about this comment. I'm still dealing with some intrusive thoughts about my weight gain, but life couldn't be better right now. I'm getting married soon and I love my job. :)

    • @Bleakkit
      @Bleakkit 2 роки тому +2

      @@caseykeener3525 oh i didn't think that you will reply btw no problem,im glad to hear that i wish u the best take care of yourself☺️☺️

  • @mikab.4838
    @mikab.4838 4 роки тому +23

    I'm just going to say thank you to the person that animated this video, and thank you Psych2go for making these videos and for sharing information like this to us 💖💖

  • @naomibeltranpardo8162
    @naomibeltranpardo8162 4 роки тому +3

    I've actually recovered from bullimia not so long ago and this video is pretty accurate. I've experienced many of the things on the list and I still get a little bit hurt when I remember them.
    One that comes to my mind is when I told my close friend about what I was going through. I was trying to explain how awful and useless I felt when not having control of my actions at all and how much I hated myself because I kept doing it.
    She answered "Yeah I get it", smiling.
    I immediatly told her that she couldn't get it because she didn't suffer from an eating disorder or a mental illnness.
    She said "Nonono I mean I get the not-having-control thing"
    And I told her "You shouldn't tell me you get it just as you wouldn't say the same to an alcoholic who is talking about not being able to stop"

  • @hippsthehippo9804
    @hippsthehippo9804 4 роки тому +20

    I Use to have a disorder im still recovering from binge eating

  • @mitchdavis6442
    @mitchdavis6442 4 роки тому +10

    Hey Psych2go, I love your videos and helping others so I have 1 request for a video. The video could be a general, how to help a friend who's sad - but I have a more particular problem. A certain friend can go through very sad times every now and then, and when I try to help, I feel like I'm getting no result. All I can do is listen and hope that deep down it's doing something.
    I suppose I'd just like a video on how to be more supportive or a better "therapist" for your friends lol.
    Keep up the awesome work! Your videos give incredible insights and are great for learning! :)

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +1

      Thank you! It's great that you sympathize with your friend, but we understand it can be difficult. Helping them seek professional or online professional help may be the best. As untrained professionals, sometimes, we run the risk of making things worse. But it's good that you are there for her when your friend needs you. Maybe check out this video? ua-cam.com/video/p2gK9w0Zf0Y/v-deo.html

    • @Awsomemobs2000Theminecraftdude
      @Awsomemobs2000Theminecraftdude 4 роки тому +1

      Hmm, its difficult to say. Listening to their problems, being the person that they can vent onto, thats sometimes the best you can do. However, you could help them out in general, like helping them with chores, helping them make meals, etc. It makes for less stress on their part. Whether or not you see a difference being made, you might be one of their few lights in the darkness.

  • @Dinostar4
    @Dinostar4 4 роки тому +22

    I either eat too much or too little •-•

    • @Dinostar4
      @Dinostar4 3 роки тому

      @Clarissa I'm currently considering whether or not to eat breakfast :l. How are you?

    • @Dinostar4
      @Dinostar4 3 роки тому +1

      @Clarissa Well I had this one friend who knew, but he would force me to eat under threat of telling others about my issues.

    • @Dinostar4
      @Dinostar4 3 роки тому

      @Clarissa Thank you so much! 😊

    • @hahahahahihihihih2485
      @hahahahahihihihih2485 3 роки тому

      I always binge eating but when I'm on my diet I am very strict about it so I'm confuse too lmao

  • @angelicoords
    @angelicoords 4 роки тому +12

    This is such a coincidence, my little sister just said something really bad to me that triggered my eating disorder

  • @urlocalloser439
    @urlocalloser439 4 роки тому +3

    “Your just self diagnosing”
    “You don’t actually have a eating disorder”
    I absolutely hate when people say that to me

  • @fuzzyqt5756
    @fuzzyqt5756 4 роки тому +1

    This really hit home for me. I struggle with this every single day of my life, and that is hard enough. I cannot emphasise enough that relatives, family members, siblings, and friends and family need to try to understand that they cannot try and FIX the problem, but rather SUPPORT them and understand. It's already hard enough, i just wish people understood, and didn't think that an eating disorder can be resolved with a click of some fingers.

  • @memethornislowkeysad8987
    @memethornislowkeysad8987 4 роки тому +2

    I recently discovered I had a pretty bad combination of pica and ARFID, and I totally relate. I’ve been told I’m “too fat” to have any sort of disorder and even when my friends try to understand, it isn’t as simple as just “oh, well eat other things” so I really appreciate this 🤗

  • @n.o1767
    @n.o1767 4 роки тому +16

    Could you please do a video about autism? I would really love to know more about it!
    Ps: great video! ♥️

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +8

      Yes of course, let me let the team know

    • @M3lodyka
      @M3lodyka 4 роки тому

      This! I suspect I may be in the spectrum but I have no idea how to get "tested" for that. 🤔

  • @hannahriggs1043
    @hannahriggs1043 4 роки тому +3

    I actually really needed to see this video. Thank you❤

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому +1

      you are very welcome

  • @teresa3833
    @teresa3833 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for making this video. My girlfriend has an eating disorder and it's hard on both of us, but especially her. I've been looking at countless videos to find how to talk to her about it and guide her to recovery. I really needed this.

  • @m.i.r2560
    @m.i.r2560 4 роки тому +1

    I wish the best for all of u. U guys are really strong bcuz of what you've been through up to this day and u still stand strong and try to fight it. I hope you guys will get better.

  • @suganakanishi7746
    @suganakanishi7746 4 роки тому +31

    The world is sad... I have Ed bc of the unhelpful people in my life...

    • @ram-2065
      @ram-2065 4 роки тому +1

      Suga’s Art
      Me too

    • @twojjamatka3330
      @twojjamatka3330 4 роки тому +1

      how can it be their fault?

    • @ram-2065
      @ram-2065 4 роки тому +3

      twojja matka
      *The toxic people in my life-*
      “You don’t matter”
      “Just stop being sad”
      “Your just doing this for attention”
      “It’s just a phase you’ll be better tomorrow”
      *Also toxic people-*
      “How is it our fault?”

    • @suganakanishi7746
      @suganakanishi7746 4 роки тому +3

      twojja matka yes! You’re right! I don’t mean to blame them but you know how the things you shouldn’t do to someone with Ed. They do that... but I didn’t mean to make it their fault... it’s really mine for not talking to someone before it was too late

    • @linden5235
      @linden5235 4 роки тому

      @@twojjamatka3330 eating disorders are often pushed onto people, even if they don't know they're doing it

  • @ahableppers
    @ahableppers 4 роки тому +15

    Last year, my freshman year of highschool, I sort of starved my self- I thought It'd make me thinner, but It didnt work, so Ive done the same thing through half of my Sophmore year. Im worried for myself and I think I may have made my stomach shrink or something- because now I cant eat very much without feeling full.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому

      Do you have someone to talk to about it?

    • @ahableppers
      @ahableppers 4 роки тому

      @@Psych2go Ive got my parents, and they noticed it but I dont think they think of it the same way I do. It might just be nothing

    • @user-f91731
      @user-f91731 4 роки тому +1

      I used to skip meals (mostly lunch and breakfast) everyday during my freshman year. I thought it was a faster way to lose weight but now, like you said. I can’t eat a full plate without feeling full

  • @orphan_account
    @orphan_account 2 роки тому +1

    “I won’t eat unless you do.”
    Someone said this to me. I’m recovering but I still experience disordered behaviors. It makes me feel guilty and bad about myself on the days I cannot eat.

  • @jomercado319
    @jomercado319 4 роки тому +2

    Sooo, now I know where my disorder came from. It started as a quick restricting diet with eating two meals a day. My fam found out and forced me to eat more. It made me more paranoid and cautious of gaining weight, and thats where it started the cycle of force feeding and atypical anorexia.

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 4 роки тому +19

    In general, if you don't have something positive to say, let it be all together.
    Because you won't accomplish anything or succeed in getting your point across.

  • @mariammakharadze8322
    @mariammakharadze8322 4 роки тому +3

    Love the way you said ,,us" and ,,we"❤️

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  4 роки тому

      because we are in this together

    • @mariammakharadze8322
      @mariammakharadze8322 4 роки тому

      @@Psych2goI really appreciate what you do❣️ thank you!❤️

  • @nerdonduty4985
    @nerdonduty4985 3 роки тому

    I was so fed up that throwing up didn't get me slim after binge eating attacks, I just kept having the attacks and throwing up even more often.
    I punish myself with eating tons of food I don't even like and then get guilty over it and every thing goes out again. The bad thing is also relax and celebrate this way.
    Media is showing us so much bs.
    Thanks for this vid.

  • @cassplaysminecraft1737
    @cassplaysminecraft1737 4 роки тому +2

    My friend never went to get help, she refused. So my friends and I took matters into our own hands. She had anorexia, so each day she wouldn’t eat so we would all bring the few foods she actually liked (her parents packed her lunch for school) so each day she slowly had to take more bites for us to give her the think she would willingly eat. After a few months she was eating an average lunch eat day.

  • @winddark8496
    @winddark8496 4 роки тому +9

    Don't say "oh, they're just not eating because they think it's cute."
    Please don't say that, it's not okay. That makes it seem like it's just a phase.

  • @Bleach-sh3ud
    @Bleach-sh3ud 4 роки тому +31

    My best friend has an ed:,(

  • @chippie6775
    @chippie6775 4 роки тому +2

    I suffer with an eating disorder, I gotta tell it isn't easy. I can relate to all of these. Mostly people judge my body or talk about it, I'm not THAT bad on it but my mom is always telling everyone who asks about my body that I just dont want to eat and it's making me guilty

  • @toa_dly7346
    @toa_dly7346 4 роки тому

    I'm suffering from an eating disorder, although I'm not sure which one. But, my mom has been helping me get better, and she doesn't force feed me. I'm glad that I'm recovering

  • @peytonbirch7452
    @peytonbirch7452 4 роки тому +8

    Also "You've put on weight, I'm so proud of you!"

    • @jules6735
      @jules6735 3 роки тому +1

      A DOCTOR that my parents got for me when I had anorexia said something similar to that...yes a DOCTOR (I hadn’t really gained weight, the scale was off b/c I had dressed differently my last weigh in)
      When I started doing blind weights my dietician just said “I think you’ll be happy”

  • @jaxelton4500
    @jaxelton4500 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you 🖤

  • @ToyCircle
    @ToyCircle 4 роки тому

    This channel has a power. That power being making videos that are oddly specific to the problems I've been facing irl. First it was the one about knowing if you have depression or if you're just sad, then it was the one about moving on from a toxic friend and now this.

  • @yasmink5500
    @yasmink5500 4 роки тому +1

    I've had an eating disorder for 4 years now. I nearly died from it but now in recovery. Everyday is a struggle and sometimes in recovery you feel like a failure or when you relapse. I can definitely relate to all of the things mentioned in this video! Mainly said or done by family

  • @NewNew-xf2pm
    @NewNew-xf2pm 3 роки тому +3

    This really helps. My gf has an eating disorder and I’ve found myself saying these things and doing these things. Is so hard not to sometimes as is just normal conversation. Is a constant battle with trying to be sensitive, wanting to make sure she eats the amount her body needs, trying to reduce the amount she purges (she sometimes asks me to not let her go to the toilet) and constantly trying to not trigger her ( which even with all the research I’ve done I still find myself doing). If anyone has any advice on what to say when she opens up to me and when she tells me not to let her purge would be greatly appreciated.

  • @lindahansen9413
    @lindahansen9413 4 роки тому +6

    I would like to here more about each one of the eatingdissorder that you named in the start of the video

  • @andy25046
    @andy25046 3 роки тому

    Thanks, I am struggling with anorexia nervosa, sometimes i think that I am faking everything, but this videos conforts me

  • @nebulinee
    @nebulinee 3 роки тому

    My friend texted me around 5:30 AM this morning telling me she had been at a hospital for a week and that she had been diagnosed with an eating disorder. This video really helped and I’ll try to do my best to be here for her while she goes through this. I don’t understand it very much but I’ll do my best to let her know I’m here for her. Thank you ❤️

  • @duchi882
    @duchi882 4 роки тому +21

    "Get your Protein!"

  • @bananabro1010
    @bananabro1010 4 роки тому +4

    I used to have an eating disorder but I wasn't in too deep with it so my friends and family were able to stop me before it was too late

  • @giovannitolenaars5692
    @giovannitolenaars5692 4 роки тому +1

    I have a eating disorder, I'm consious about it. I've struggle alot with skin conditions like acne and eczema in the past(it's starts to come back) when I do grocerie shopping I don't know what to buy, because I don't know how it is going to affect my body. I think "it" begins with a fearfull mind. Learn how your body behaves with certaint food and try different things, and don't let someone tell you otherwise. Every human is different....

  • @Tejano._.
    @Tejano._. 4 роки тому

    I had an eating disorder when I was 15 years old. It was a terrible time in my life, difficult for my family, and for me ,now my friend is suffering from it.

  • @Mei-dz4pk
    @Mei-dz4pk 4 роки тому +6

    #6 : “Just eat it’s not that hard”

  • @oliviaflorence9074
    @oliviaflorence9074 4 роки тому

    I have both anorexia and bulimia. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard all theses things! This video actually made me feel a lot better and less alone because my parents are less than helpful and have mentally abused me for so long that I’ve been numb for so long but this video makes every goal in my life seem more reachable! Thank you so much psych2go team! Keep up the videos about eating disorders because we’d love to be heard more in the world!

  • @alegria1813
    @alegria1813 4 роки тому

    WHY IS YOUR TIMING ALWAYS PERFECT I don't have an eating disorder but I was thinking about changing my eating habits in an unhealthy way

  • @arizuniga8388
    @arizuniga8388 4 роки тому +30

    5 Things not to say or do when someone has an eating disorder:
    Invite them to an eating contest

    • @ductapeplanet
      @ductapeplanet 4 роки тому +1

      Zelda Fan what about overeating?

  • @ouiouimonami9217
    @ouiouimonami9217 4 роки тому +3

    So I have binge eating disorder and a told my Friend and she told me to “just go on a diet” but I told her that it’s harder that that. I wanna lose weight too and she told me “just exercise” and I felt really bad about myself because she wouldn’t know how it feel to have this. Like I go on a diet then something happened and I start eat and then I feel bad so I eat again then I am at square one again. But I am trying to be healthier because I still have a lot of life to live and I know if I don’t stop I will cut it short.

  • @darkserenity19
    @darkserenity19 4 роки тому

    Yeah, I totally agree. It hurts as hell. And number five is definitely the worst.. Sending a warm hug to everyone's struggling ❤️

  • @vrzaida8326
    @vrzaida8326 4 роки тому

    I have an eating disorder and every of 5 things are people at school telling me 😓 Im sad every time when someone mention it, but this video really helped me and Im gonna share it to classmates🙂 Thank you

  • @bubblebuttz3218
    @bubblebuttz3218 4 роки тому +4

    pressed like b4 I watched ’till the end lol

  • @fatum8573
    @fatum8573 4 роки тому +3

    I’ll tell you that it is incredibly convenient, the cost of food is minimal.
    I say being a man with anarexia ^_^

  • @martylovesu
    @martylovesu 3 роки тому

    My best friend has recovered from an eating disorder but is still struggling with body image, so thank you, i hope i can help her :)

  • @aam3361
    @aam3361 4 роки тому +1

    I have a binge eating disorder and I often hide food so I can stay in control during binges and my mum never listens and puts things back, and makes fun of me for not having “control over myself”, even when I explain how it’s out of my hands in moments like that, and it’s that shame, and lack of understanding which makes things so much worse. So much love to everyone xx

  • @elissadeannashorts
    @elissadeannashorts 4 роки тому +1

    I have been battling anorexia sense I graduated high school about 5 years ago. My parents when I first started having problems and they noticed started making jokes about it and poking fun at people with it which would sham me and make me cover things up better. After moving out I did not have there eyes on me to watch and judge so I only are when I could not stand the hunger anymore. After being forced to live with them I am under the same environment and the same unhealthy food.

  • @kiwibanana7590
    @kiwibanana7590 4 роки тому

    OMG GUYS PERFECT TIMING.
    I was starting to fear my girlfriend could be beggining an eating disorder. She's been talking about how fat she is when in fact she looks pretty normal. I've been trying my best to help her, and I don't know how much it's working because since we're in quarentine we can't see each other, so this video along with other videos you've made was pretty helpful.

  • @leviismyoppa967
    @leviismyoppa967 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks for understanding. It's been so hard.

  • @moonie_moonl9386
    @moonie_moonl9386 4 роки тому +1

    I don’t talk a lot about my eating disorder I struggle with bulimia nervosa and PICA I told a “friend” that I had a eating disorder and she straight up laughed at my face and said I didn’t because I wasn’t thin enough this really broke me even more words like these hurt also the stereotype that most people think that someone that deals with a eating disorder are extremely thin

  • @LapissHamster
    @LapissHamster 4 роки тому +1

    thank you... this helped me feel like my problem is actually valid... i felt selfish as my brother said something that my mind probably successfully twisted... people can have good intentions but be extremely uneducated and... it hurts... i've tried to explain it to him without making him too worried but all he says it "not everyone thinks like this... what do we even do if we cant say this and that... just do it! your willpower cant be that weak" and as much as that hurts me deeply, i just think his life is too perfect (he admits to being fortunate and happy). i think its more of a thing you have to be there for but if they still refuse to stop even after you tell them how it effects you, then maybe you should distance from them (quarantine) for your own good... so i agree, they are kind of toxic for you... it can be hard to distance from friends and what makes it even harder sometimes is the fact that you feel like you don't have enough and when you finally get some, you want to give them your all but... the human mind is complex and not everyone gets you and there's nothing you can do about it and i haven't been able to make such a brave decision so LOOK WHO'S TALKING but :) maybe its better off you guys take a break... it may be crucial for your recovery.

  • @DiaMonD_KUROI
    @DiaMonD_KUROI 4 роки тому +2

    Hey I just wanted to say to the 36% of the poll that you're great, I love you and it'll get better

  • @teyzieng2212
    @teyzieng2212 4 роки тому

    this video calms me down. i just had bulimia and BED about 10 minutes ago. i have stress eating and would keep going on even when i’m full, so i eat based on my emotions. in my head, i thought, ‘just eat, whatever you want, bulimia solves everything’. after i finished binging a whole bunch of sweets and cream cakes, i tried to self-vomit. this time wasn’t easy as the previous vomittings. my food wouldn’t come out. i tried harder and tears went out unintentionally. it was so painful. when i eat, i felt like i wasn’t myself. anorexia has kept me blinded, fooling me it’s the key for me to eat anything i wanted without getting fat. and when i reached out for help from it, nothing worked and i ended up crying, seeing myself as a monster. i’m already stressed abt a few problems and before binging i weighed myself and i gained a few pounds, which stressed me more. and so, guess i turned myself into self-destructive mode. anyways, i stopped forcing myself to vomit, wiped my tears and now trying to commit to myself, never rely on bulimia anymore. actually i have reminded myself this a few days ago. it’s like a toxic ex. you try to cut things off but when you feel lonely or miss them, you come back to the ex and ruin yourself. everything takes time. i am trying to recover from this disorder. i’ve had anorexia for a year and a half now. this is no longer serving me and i soon realize how bad eating disorders have done to me. still in progress

  • @geonanave6546
    @geonanave6546 4 роки тому

    I have a eating Disorder ever sence a I was a baby and I want to think you for helping people with eating disorders out because people really don't know what we are going through

  • @mw5311
    @mw5311 2 роки тому +2

    I'm a man who had a successful career at Apple and Pixar. I was hospitalized at 43 with anorexia. I am 59 now. After 15 years of recovery under my belt I'm back in the struggle. Get help when you are young and never ignore your past and the treatment you've received along your journey

  • @lana-villan
    @lana-villan 2 роки тому +1

    thank you so much, my friend just told me she has an ed, and i really want to be there for her.

  • @runax.
    @runax. 4 роки тому

    Exactly this.
    I’m suffering from this myself, and it’s hell, recovery might look easy but the tears, the self hate that comes with it the constant loathing that is what puts us back. If you know someone who’s going through this please look after them

  • @user-ts7fg5rp7x
    @user-ts7fg5rp7x Рік тому

    For me the most triggering thing is when people told me “you need to eat/just eat” it doesn’t help at all and just makes me feel more pressured and have more anxiety about eating, which led me to just completely ignore food

  • @BreathingAir_Help
    @BreathingAir_Help Місяць тому

    The outro meant a lot,it made me cry I felt this sense it comfort I haven’t felt in a while

  • @northpegasus169
    @northpegasus169 4 роки тому

    I haven't been professionally been diagnosed but sometimes my mind doesn't process the fact that I have to eat and have gone days without even considering eating. Most of these things my friends have said to me I just try and them positive even if they're not intended to be 😊

  • @p1xeldream
    @p1xeldream 4 роки тому

    i'm glad you included binge eating, most people don't know it's a thing :( i've struggled with binge eating for years but this year i have started my journey of recovery 💘✨

  • @Olivia-tl1le
    @Olivia-tl1le 2 роки тому +1

    ive never spoken to anyone about my ed but the thought of hearing these makes me not ever want to

    • @Bleakkit
      @Bleakkit 2 роки тому +1

      a therapist would be great i think i hope you heal💕

  • @garbledgarbage8302
    @garbledgarbage8302 2 роки тому +2

    I’m watching this because I have a friend who has an eating disorder, and I want to educate myself so I don’t trigger them. If you personally have an ED, could you please share your advice and share some words with me so that I can support my friend the best I can? Thank you! 😁😁