This Keeps 99% Of People SINGLE! - Fix This To Find LOVE... | Jay Shetty & Lewis Howes
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I agree when is said that"you'll find it when you least expect it", because what this means is you will find when you're not attached in finding it. This applies to anything you want. Send the intention, and let it go. That's how you find whatever you want.
Yeah..the real meaning is not to be obsessed with finding the thing.
Exactly 💯
Thats so hard to do lol. I hate when people tell me that because then 3 years later its like "hey ive been doing my own thing... checking in... no... still no one?". feels like such a cop out and its so hard to believe when you let something go for awhile and then like peek in the box to look and... nothing lol. Its so horribly frustrating. No one has yet to explain how to rebound from the "you let go for a year and believed and look around a year later and realize your still alone lol. I'd like a "oh hey it hasn't shown up yet and you did everything and felt good and believed but its not here and now your upset , rebound class". I need that class wherever it is lol
Yea and when u think u found her she is not the one or not interested in you that way. Atleast for me it's been that way. And the process just goes on and on till your old and u die . Well sometimes u just to accept the fact that there is no one for you. Or settle for someone less than u had expected u had in your mind.
But the thing is - it can only happen and work of you possess the skills to live it. You might stumble into the "perfect partner", but what's the use of it of you don't have the knowledge, the skills and the experience to lead a stable, sustainable relationship amidst the storms of life? That requires work, so just waiting without preparation is not very wise in my eyes. It's like assuming you'll suddenly speak a foreign language once you happen to be in the respective country.
@3:53 from the Vedas, 4 stages of love:
a) preparing for love
b) practicing for love
c) protecting love
d) perfecting love
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“Everything you want from someone else give it to yourself first”
And that hits me to the core❤️❤️❤️
"every time you ask do they want me? will they take care of me? ask yourself , how can I better take care of myself" "every time you want something from someone, give it to yourself first" these are deep! I am so glad I watched this one interview. I love Jay, he keeps it real, with no hoopla! Thank you guys.
Am a victim of this and am now 55 years waiting that love will find me when least expected. Thanks for educating us. At.55, I will look for love and I believe I will find
I think it is like looking for a job you really want to get. You have to prepare yourself.
You want to impress and be ready, competent, efficient and sustain it
Go for it
As long as you see yourself A VICTIM you WILL be.
Yes you will at the right time . I am 56 and would like to find my forever love . I am divorced after 30 years married . I have hope that the right person will come even if I am 56.
There was an amazing moment around 15 mins into this video when Jay complimented Lewis about creating a safe space. Lewis’s non-verbal response was profound as if Jay just confirmed success in an area he was working on. Watching that made my heart smile and made my day! LOVE LOVE LOVE❤❤❤
Jay is the best at that
@@lewishowes both of you, its a tango!
Finding love is not like finding keys or phones. Love is not an object. People find love whether they expect it or not. So there is no lies or misconceptions about human emotions and behaviors. There are just different ways. Each follow what work for them. You can not standardize how human being feel, act, behave or think.
I don’t want to just get married I want to stay married ☺️☺️. Love is an action not just a feeling
This man Jay Shetty got wisdom for days. We need more young people watching this as our culture shifts.I love what Jay said about loving yourself. It is ok to question yourself but you should never tell yourself you aren’t lovable because it is very self destructive. I completely love this approach
I take the saying “you’ll find it when you least expect it” to mean that if you have intention in your life, have truly worked on yourself and have a sense of detachment you understand your value and worth that if it comes along then that’s great but if it doesn’t I’m happy too! Most people who find great love are emotionally intelligent who have put effort into understanding themselves first.
Careers & people you love , you find when not looking as in a quest. But make a life you love, then be observant to the signs around you. 👁️ Coincidences are Not Just Coincidences…
It takes effort to make yourself lovable and to feel you're worthy of love. If you have to go out looking for love then you come from a place of neediness. My wife of 26 years showed up on my doorstep, only effort was to open the door. Did a ton of work on myself beforehand, though
did you guys mutually end things in the past to reunite ?
When they said you find love when you least expect it they meant don’t be pushy and desperate in finding love with someone because it’s a turn off to look desperate, needy and insecure about yourself! 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🌷
When I found the love of my life, I knew it as soon as I saw her.
I asked the universe for the love of my life, I've never been as popular with women as I was then, new women came into my life almost weekly, I didn't look at them as sexual beings, I didn't sleep with them I only became their friend. I knew in my heart that I was expecting to meet the love of my life, with a little patience she eventually came to my house, literally. My friend was visiting me and he asked me if his friend could come to visit,,, of course I said, shortly after she came but she had her friend with her, this friend of hers is my wife for nearly twenty years now, we have two beautiful children who are our pride and joy. So yes it is possible to attract love and happiness, it is possible to know when you have found the one and it can happen when you least expect it 😁
I love how my faves support one another when one of them has a new book out.
And I get to watch like 5 interviews about the same thing but with very different meetings of beautiful perspectives/experiences. 🥰
:) let me know what you think of this one
I have been listening to both of you for over 4 years and between many many gem interviews I found this one to be the most influential, teaching one. Show your lives so transparent and live and lead by examples. I'll be listening to it again because so many small detailed hidden gems are in this conversation what I probably have not caught for the first time. teared up around min 56 final question when Jay said our purpose and showing up for others are not measured by trophies but how deeply you helped others to love themselves. This is huge!!! I personally received it and have experienced once and that time I didn't know what my true joy was really originated from, that after decades first time I loved me, because He let me. I thought I was happy loving him but was the other way around. Great reminder. Thank you
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
WE need to LOVE OURSELVES to have authentic love. When we learn to respect, forgive and understand ourselves, we can truly extend that to others. Our connections become greater, our intentions grow stronger. Each day, work on loving your being, nurturing yourself, and love will come more evident. Not easier, just naturally. For those of us in recovery, or anyone who has lost someone, because we didn't love ourselves...PLEASE START the PRACTISE of LOVING YOURSELF.
Being in a state of love is effortless. You don’t need effort to attract what you are, love.
I've just came from watchng videos of Rhonda Byrne and I watched your talk with her. And the best things happen effortlesly. However, everyone is different and as you know we all experience life based on our beliefs.
so beautiful to see two men openly sharing & loving
I absolutely love this interview and both of you. I listen to you guys multiple times a week, have saved some very powerful podcasts to rewatch/listen to. I was not in the best place a year ago. I was stressed and depressed and tbh, lost. I was unhappy. So I discovered mel robbins first and continued to find amazing ppl like yourselves to help grow and dig deep into myself. It’s a journey but I feel stronger and more content with myself as a person. I am still in search of my ‘purpose’ but I know I want to help others (and I do!!) but in other ways too..thank you both for what you do. I rarely watch tv now…it’s all audio books and podcasts and that’s my direction.
Your last sentence is 100% me!
The episodes with conversations between Lewis and Jay are the ones I enjoy most! Maybe because they r not afraid to share personal things about their lives and their chemistry is just beyond anything else I ‘ ever seen between two speakers
I love these videos. Especially when men are guests. My father died of alcoholism and did not set a good example. I’m so happy to see that there are men in the world that are devoted to being a better version everyday. 🙏🏻 💕
Thanks for being here!
Listing activities to do together actually allows you to get to centre dates around activities you're comfortable with so you'll get to know whether someone is patient, understanding or even generous. Because these are characters that can't be actualized unless in person. Engaging in activities you enjoy doing together is an important test to determine how someone behaves in the real world.
I SOOOO enjoy seeing Lewis light up while talking with Jay. Clearly he is so energised by these types of conversations. I'm forever gratefull to witness and learn from your videos Lewis. Thank you, thank you, thank you
I’ve always believed that love is not a feeling, love is an action.
You find love. You build love. You show love. Happiness, peace, relaxation - they are all biproducts of practicing love.
I've always had this hidden belief this person had some unresolved anger towards themselves and I was caught in the middle of this and now I can understand the words used to hurt my worth but I also became vulnerable in the mis of thinking I had found happiness with this past person Now I am more aligned with the continuation of doing the inside healing job especially in the area of forgiving myself and forgiving others I love deep topics like the one on this channel this guides us all on the wonderful process of GROWTH ♥
I've lost lots of things I gave up looking for after running out of places to look - and then found them months later after I'd forgotten about them.
I hated when people told me that “you find it when you least expect it”! Thanks for backing me up Jay!!😅
6:24 & 7:17 - this topic - is one of the most impactful truths one can learn and one of the greatest causes of human suffering! It's extremely common for people to respond with judgement & criticism toward others, causing them pain as well as damaging the relationship (if one exists). If only they were able to identify and accept their own mistakes, failures, and weaknesses, judgement & criticism would be replaced with compassion & forgiveness.
Thanks for being here!
This is a fascinating conversation & one of my favorites & I'm so amazed by how Jay had articulated his great wisdom considering he's still very young. I can't wait to listen to him when he's in his 50s and in his 80s. He must have gathered more & deeper wisdom by then when he's much older. But at this point, Jay is perfect just the way he is and he deserves a beautiful wife...like Mrs. Shetty ❤✌🙏
Thank you so much for watching!
OMG Jay SHETTY and Lewis HOWES at the same Time 🎉❤🎉😮! Sometimes life is a blessing.
Thanks for the Charing ❤
You put into light some good points!!
Part of what he says at the beginning is to say “I am enough” isn’t true. I agree. Lazy people think they are enough. Fine to accept and love yourself, but you must keep evolving and striving.
so good to hear Jay with Lewis again ... tnx school of greatness ..one love !
You are welcome
I 💯 find things ALL THE TIME when I stop searching desperately for it. This is why I side-eye some of his advice. You rush into far too many things when you are accepting of anything even close to it. Patience is key. 🤷♀️ ⌚
“We often get crusted by others people flaws bc we haven’t looked at our own”
Great question Lewis on asking Shetty about shame. I love Shetty's showing and sharing his vulnerability in the area of shame and the effects that come from our past actions this topic on shame during his teen is relatable for many of us thank you 🙏🏽
I love this. Just a conversation between 2 intellectuals sharing with the world how to better themselves while being open and honest with each other
To find love you must first learn to love and that will never happen with hate in the heart
In marriage it’s important to understand each other and cooperate to increase love.
Love comes in so many forms as big as we can imagine, at some point I understood that some of us might not meet their half during this life time. Just because the society stresses the subject it doesn't make it dogma. The way we love is complex as our innerself gets complicated. I donn't think you can tech anyone how to love ecause you are not them, it is very individual and one should discover it on its own.
I have a thought regarding learning to love. I’ve always heard that once a child is borne, mothers love them instantly.. it disintegrated happen like that with me and my son. I can honestly say it took me 3months to fall in love with my baby boy. I cared for him, shared what’s best for him but love did come the first time I saw him apart from being grateful that I don’t have to be pregnant anymore and the baby is out 😝
It's nice to see the first interview with Jay, which is a newer one I hadn't seen before
I had to stop watching your videos some time ago as there's we're far too many disturbances with ads.
But I'd been watching a few videos from Jay's podcast, then this video popped up.
I was hesitant to watch it, initially, but thankfully it seems you have cut down your ads with this video 🙏🏽
It’s wonderful hearing your visitor, as he is open and honest, great lessons for many.
This is making so much sense to me! Thanks for being the teachers you are! You have the answers deep within, Jay. Great questions for a man to wonder about, Lewis. Your maturity is beyond most others.
You're welcome,thank you for watching🧡
I start my day by listening to you guys in the morning… especially if I wake feeling moody 😅 and when I want to shut off my negative brain or need a positive vibe.
Thank you! 🧡
Life is school of love!
I love it! So true
It’s so wonderful to see this topic being brought to the forefront ❤❤❤
So many golden nuggets. I have to listen to it over and over again
When i lived in NY infelt anxious for the 1st 6 months then realized the world around me was going so fast and i was at a different frequency.
Howe’s U Doin’ thank you for teaching me and us as a whole, so many amazing tricks, and tips and methods.
Nothing is lost...it's misplaced, waiting to be found....
I listen to Jay every day on meditation Calm app
Starting at 32.00. Thank you! Why go after same interests more than same values? I've been wondering this!
J'ai toujours du bon temps à vous écouter toi et Jay!
Appreciate you! 🙏
This is BRILLANT insight. Make sense why the the tug and war I experience with my ex. Initially when we started out she showed signs of patience and compassion then as we further our involvement with one another she and I began to demonstrate we had so much inner work to do and when the hurtful words she used towards explains she was not truly loving herself as she describe to me bc when someone truly truly love themselves they will show deep compassion for the other so as she was demoralizing my self-worth it make sense she had work to do of cause this doesn't diminish the fact I also had work to do as well so thank you Lewis for having such an incredible extraordinary human love this thank you to Shetty for the magnificent tools and insight you share with the WORLD love the 4 stages on love I send happiness and hope for all watching this amazing interview I am a student of life learning about myself and others I will add as I continue the relationship I had I was doing some work and got distracted and began to go back to old patterns and so I will say not only the ex but I am added into that category of people who can further develop the skills to do better in the area of self love to then attract love
Single because
1) trust issues
2) seeking for perfection
3) unpridicted standards
4) find it risky
5) habit of living alone or indulge in your own world
6) fearful when hear decite, breakup etc.
7) negative thoughts
8) A limited or oneway mindset
9) Aimbitious
10) in your comfort zone
11) Introvert
12) false idea of love
13) betrayal
14) living in a orthodox society
I agree! Understand all of you love you understand that dark side the flaws all of it and processing it all and getting it then we can have that compassion for ourselves and for the other person wow Shetty's insight is commendable I love this I will continue to listen and resume to practice the area of LOVE!
Brian, your explanations are spot on and your delivery is absolutely brilliant. I feel reassured and entertained all at the same time. THANK YOU!!!!!!!😊😊
It was my first time watching your podcast and I loved it!! I have a one year old so I learned so much from you guys ❤
Appreciate you and your support🧡
This is confirming that figuring me out first because it's not fair to the guy if I get in a relationship now..because I want to be better so I'm not causing pain...guy comes. Well I want us both to actively go to therapy. I'm also giving myself to any guys. Because I don't want to create a soul tie with him if we're not married
One if the very best I have heard. I am sharing with all the people I know that want GREAT relationships and willing to put the effort into it. Thank you for this podcast.
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Self acceptance and love is the very first stage.
Thank you, Mr. Jay! Your words are very motivating. I love your channel.
hey, 16-year-old here learning from you guys how to work towards making healthy relationships! thank you so much for having this as some information and exposure! really really helpful for someone who hasn't had the best romantic relationship role models.
You two have the best conversations! I watch you guys like a Netflix series 😂
And this is how come I take the time away for myself to bring me back to me..
There are big traumas and embarrassments like shouting at your mom because she brings out the worst in you
Lewis & Jay the two of you are like two peas in a pod..LOve it Grazie
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
I have a very difficult time with placing responsibility for another person's feelings on anyone but that person. Yes, we should treat everyone with Loving Kindness, but we shouldn't "dim down" because someone else can't handle our light. I could contort myself in a million different ways in an effort to control another person's comfort level, and they still may never feel comfortable enough with themselves to feel comfortable with me. I guess what I'm trying to say is that nobody can "make" anyone feel anything. Believe me, I've tried.
Thank you both Jay and Lewis for sharing such valuable and educational information!
Means a lot!!! Glad this was helpful for you🧡
This is amazing. CONSTANT growth is working on yourself everyday. Love this
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Sooo True .. Romantic Comedies, Literally Ruins Humans.
Love you guys thank you so much, you are helping me in so many ways 🙏🙏🙏
To my point, love is divinely orchestrated I believe and all you have to do is open up to receive it and your energy will draw someone in. I'm not mad at you for saying what you believe, I feel you are consumed by ego and controlling a situation and I don't believe it works like that. Personally, I am repulsed by men who come on, I find it aggressive. It is NOT a lie that love finds you without chasing it.
The stress part literally had my jaw dropping
Absolutely golden information ❤
Thank you so much 🧡
I think the thing keeps people single is “where to find love” 😕
For example if you try to find from Tinder etc.,those guys looking for sex.If you are searching from gym etc.,same thing guys trying to pick best booty.
Its very hard to find someone you can get along with nowadays.Honestly I dont know where ?
Straight up FACTS at 1:10:12 about how people have been conditioned to view success vs failure.😅
I would love to see a discussion contrasting Jay's recommendation of needing to sleep with your partner as being the glue to a solid relationship to Dr. Matthew Walker's recommendation to get a "sleep divorce" (i.e. sleeping separately) to stay happy and healthy ever after. He (Walker) was recently on Tim Ferris suggesting this as it was found to result in better rest.
So true! It's not only the efforts in finding but keeping it too requires efforts intention action etc...
Great content ! Inspiring ! Thank you 💫💫💫
44:46 4th agreement of love. Expect people to change. Evolve
first few minutes in and totally agree 100% re: effort, thank you Lewis and Jay for speaking the truth always! love and appreciate you guys!!
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Thank you gentelmen...u guys r my heros...so appreciate u guys...do u guys have a single friend that needs someone
Wow - Jay's 4 agreements are so wise!!
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REQUEST - Sir could you please guide Your last life lessons on relationship in this Valantine's day. - From India 🙏🏾
I love that you both play pickleball! Pickleball helped me heal from my past 💗
Thank you for your simplicity
1:00- rubbish. I’ve found a lot of things randomly.
I love jay’s philosophy!
Love his hairdo too on this podcast 😊👍
Thank you so much for watching!
Find love. Whay a joke. Love is a verb: you BUILD love❤
Thank you So beautifully delivered incredible tools to navigate thru this tricky terrain much appreciated fresh out of my own "unconcious journey". thank you again & again
lol im only 28 mins in !
You're very welcome!
I FOUND LOVE WHEN I WASN'T EXPECTING IT. AND I DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED. I WANT TO STAY MARRIED ❤❤
This was beautiful! Thank you❤
Thank you for this amazing and so real and authentic energy and conversation! keep up!
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Thank you so much for this amazing conversation ❤
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JAY / LEWIS - I have a very important question.
Oh yes... things we both, my ex and I should have followed! We drifted apart as my Ex said to me sometimes; I do what I want...
This Phrase came out after about 5 or 6 years of our marriage a few times, as i saw some things were done his way without my conscent, and asked why he did not discuss with me ! Is this a usual thing some men do? I was not able to give my opinion, or discuss on what i saw and heard.
Jay... Appreciate your advice.
We are now divorced, however i don't want this kind of thing to happen again in my life when I'm in a relationship, and get married again!!
Thank you so much in advance 🙏
This is an amazing interview! So many jams and deep truths.
Thank you!
Always I love Lewis content❤️