5 Things The Rebound Taught You About Your Ex | Coach Court
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In this video, Coach Courtney Gatlin talks gives 5 Things The Rebound Taught You About Your Ex.
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I agree. When a person moves on quickly, we should never compete. Just accept the situation, heal and move on. Never be friends, go no contact, leave no cracks in your foundation! You Actually Now Have The Power!! It is imperative that you do the work to grow and heal. Monkey Branching and Rebounding is a distraction to cover up the real pain…#VeryUnhealthy
I agree well said
My Ex gave me Breadcrumbs and strung me along. Bouncing me back & fourth with the Rebound. I've never been so confused and hurt by the moves he made. Stay with the Rebound. Good Riddance. ✌️
Same here. Making serious plans together, dumped unceremoniously 2 days later, reconnected with me after NC and while on his post break up immediate rebound. I had no idea. Bumped into them holding hands while out on a walk. Playing the 2 of us. She can keep him. I can only wish her luck.
Couldn't agree more. And good luck to their rebound partner, they'll need it!"
It’s called triangulation…
It is a method used to regain control over a person, situation or to gain a particular outcome. A toxic manipulation tactic and technique
This breakup showed me that I'm a fearful avoidant and when she got into a rebound after I broke up with her, I flipped from avoiding to anxious and something clicked, so I'm on that path to heal my attachment. She's a preoccupied anxious. Great content. Thank you
Same for me but more of a dismissive. We do this as avoidants, once they're gone and we feel finally safe again then we start longing and missing them and wanting them back but if they're back and we didn't work on our attachment issues the same will happen again. Best of luck buddy.
How it’s going?
You are smart and a good coach and really on the real deal
Dignity is huge on the rebound. I'm 5 years hanging with emotional support and I git it. So I'm like looking real hard at the dynamics. Is this someone I want to be my significant😊
I was monkey branched and it's been 3 months already. It crushed me. He's reaching out but I decided to just move on and ignore him. I don't care if he's happy or not. Last time he told I just see the relationship with that new person but I don't have any idea how she's treating him. He's telling other people he's single behind her back. They are happy posting and tagging each other on Facebook. He's trying to get that forgiveness from me but I just read his messages and not answered his calls. I forgave myself for letting me go through a lot hoping I can fix him by staying by his side because he has a bad past. But I should not do that on the first place. I ended up being hurt. It's a lesson to learn for me. I was in a ldr. I was just hoping to find someone honest and trustworthy but I failed. Sometimes the pain still hits me. Everything is coming back but I know I'll get there. I know I will be healed completely. I'm trusting God about his plans for me🙏
How are you doing now?
Those that feel it know it, brings the mindfulness that if I want her to be in a safe place . I have to be her peaceful harbor . If I speak to her witht love and she rejects then I'm not making her feel safe or she is the out on us.
Great content as always. And thank you so much for addressing that SAs struggle with breakups as well. I'm going to book another session with you within the next week or so, man do I have an update for you.
Can’t wait to here it brother. Talk soon 🙏🏾
Love the “are you down for love” track
Thanks so much Coach!
Yeah that track is 🔥, thanks man
My man Court killin it 🤙
Appreciate that! 💪🏾
Outstanding.
Thank you
Before you waste your precious time watching videos on rebound relationships, make sure if you ex wasn't cheating on you already before he dumped you. It happened to me. he was dating someone else, got into a relationship with this new woman while still on a relationship with me. He only had the courage to dump me when I asked him if he wanted to be together at all. Two months into the relationship, they are living together and have made Wills in contemplation of marriage.
That’s called monkey branching
You're so right. That's the exact same moves my Ex did. Fell in love with her in a Month. I am in 6 Months of No Contact, and still can't believe it. But he is a Narcissist, so it's no surprise.
Awesome content 👏 ❤️🙏
Good to see you again Teresa!
@Coach Court Thinking about joining your subscription plan . I heard you have a Facebook group but I removed my Instagram n Facebook account. Can you give me insight about your personal coaching subscription?
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Here’s the website for it Teresa!
@@IamCoachCourt Thanks. ❤️ 🙏
Hey Coach Court, Tiago here from Auckland, New Zealand.
Thanks for our coach section a couple of weeks ago.
I'm moving on slowly and constantly. I'm still sorry for my two little girls, but I'll be the best father.
One day I will come back here and let you know that you made a big difference in my life, it's happening already.
Thanks mate.
Tiago! My friend! One day at a time, and keep focusing on those little ones.
How you doing 6 months on mate?
@remyd1984 Hey mate, I'm doing great. I got a new job and got prompted last week (It's been challenging, but keep moving). Today, I had a meltdown thinking about my 2 little girls (It's my ex week of looking after the kids). I received a call from the daycare saying my baby was sick, and my ex didn't answer the phone (I texted her saying that I left the job to go to pick them up, and I gave them a lot of hugs and kisses, I can't wait for my week that will start tomorrow) anyway... I don't give a **** for my ex anymore, and I do not talk or text unless necessary.
She isn't worth my time, energy, emotions, money, or anything. It took me a couple of months to understand why she wasn't happy (low quality and poor mentality). Unfortunately, I picked the wrong woman because I was lonely.
I was on date apps until last month, but I deleted it. Women nowadays have no idea what they want. I dated a few women, but at the same time, I don't want to waste my precious time and money with women, so I started to go out for dinner by myself and with my kids.
I'm not a religious guy, but I grew up in a religious family. But I returned to church to be involved in a community, particularly for my kids. I'm not saying only in church can you find support and a good community, but at least for me, it's helping. I go more for the message, and the way I see God is more like myself.
So suck up your problems, think and meditate about your mistakes and do not accept women back. Live your on life. It's terribly hard if you don't have support from others, cry, take long showers, go to the gym, swim or whatever you like, lift your head, and keep walking.
There is a song that a friend of mine told me when he was in the army. The translation would be like, "Do not stop if I stop, I think. If I think, I will cry."
So... keep moving, and learn how to look after yourself. You will be fine.
@@remyd1984 Hi mate, it's been 1,5 years, and after the matched with a girl that has a great relationship with her ex, I tried to do it with my ex, and it's working perfectly; I don't want to get back together, but I realized that it is the best options as we have 2 little girls 2 and 6 years old, I can see that they are happier after seen that we have a better relationship. By the way, the girl that I met didn't work out heh heh heh. I fell in love and put everything away again. I'm a bit anxious, so I'm putting too much pressure, and girls are more into the guys who don't care much. So, I need another lesson to be learned or... better to implement because I already knew it. Now I'm in no contact trying to make it work heheheheheh
My ex is still in the rebound it’s been 8 months , he went ghost and blocked me off of number , his girlfriend then tried to add my snap and proceed to post a video of her saying “now I see why he’s head over heals now” what does this mean me and him have kids and I haven’t done anything to make him feel some way or her I strictly get the kids and only text for the kids but I hardly do
Well. Quick analysis seems pretty insecure and immature
Not cool! Mind games at its finest!
Narcissist.
Your spot on mine went back to an x I was 6 years she was 7 years he had cheated on her is she a rebound
I've been with mine for forty years. Married him for 18 of those years. He left me for some friend and even quit his job. When does the hurt stop. The only man that I ever knew.
I’m so sorry Kim, that sounds really tough. 😞
I don't know if I'm the rebound because he came back to his x after dumping me. I don't know how long they've been together. After 6 months we are engaged then we broke up at 8 months because we argue non stop. I know he was already talking with someone else and yes he was. I pretend i didn't found out and asked him if he had someone new he said no and then blocked me. I moved on and then after 2 months he breadcrumbs me sent me a video how to fix relationship, i ignore him didn't reply. Then after a month again when he found out that my son got hospitalised he want to come back but never heard he was sorry and still deny it. So I'm done! He projected everything he did to me and blame me.
Wait back up my goodnass 😅😊tha bubble is us and the bubble bursts and y
What about if he leaves rebound after 2 months to say he wants to try again with me, but then 2 days later after saying this to me he doesn’t believe me about something and tries to get back with rebound? Rebound doesn’t take him back. He thinks I’m a liar - and also thinks he loved the rebound more than anyone else (we were together 8 years!). Any chance? He still says ‘never say never’ etc.
I think he’s genuinely confused
My Ex played that confusing mind game as well. I am in 5 Months of No Contact and still don't understand it. I don't know if he's still in the Rebound or not.
Does BPD mean bipolar disorder, or borderline personality disorder?
Borderline personality disorder
He got with her a week within our break up and married to her a month 1/2 later in 2020. (He was going to propose to me which I hadn’t known until later, but he give my ring to her) My family keeps telling me it won’t last, it’s fake but they are married, have a house together, and had a daughter. (Still together in 2023)
They are their strongest when they come together and bash me. Is something lacking within their relationship? I want to be certain they are in love and that he didn’t move on because she makes him look good in every aspect of what of wife may be.
I don’t think she is a rebound. I think she truly loves him and for him the same but I can absolutely tell he still loves and misses me because he shows it in small bursts (he told my mother that’s how he still felt) when he’s around me and she isn’t present (we have a child together) I hate it. Although I don’t know much about her, she seems like a decent woman but she doesn’t like me and I don’t do or say anything to her or her husband that will disrespect them as humans or their relationship. My mother simply said it was bc we had a baby together before they did, and I am still In the picture for our child and only for our child.
I can’t fathom even thinking that way about someone and I’ve never met anyone until now who thinks this way, I don’t care to, so it’s not a valid reason to me to dislike someone
I think rebounds don’t last a long time. This can’t be that.
Rebounds can absolutely last long-term. They will just usually turn toxic and very unhealthy after a certain point.
Boom
Sound like limerence! Which can last long but never lasts
Been broken up with my fiance for 3 months now, together for 3 yrs engaged for 1yr and half also gave her daughter a ring I made a commitment to both of them. Had a our basic relationship "arguements" nothing major besides that we were good had the same likes interests similar in many ways. Then one day to the next she changes a few wks go by then she decides to leave out of nowhere, 4 days after she leaves she is seen out with another guy having dinner and being very affectionate they been official for awhile now. This really mentally f****d me I'm lost confused wtf.
Dammn loongass intro lol
Idk why I laughed out loud at this 😂
😄😄 you were really feelin that track, great content! 👊🏾
@@daniel.g3109 thanks for calling me out 😅
Your too slow getting the info out. All over the place. Not very helpful
It’s a live session 🤦🏾♂️