THIS is why your exes REBOUND relationship will blow up | Coach Court
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In this video, I'm talking about why your exes rebound relationship will blow up. I'll be sharing with you my coaching tips on how to prevent your rebound relationship from blowing up and why it's usually so harmful.
If you're wondering why your exes rebound relationship usually ends up being so bad, then this is the video for you! I'll be sharing with you my tips on how to prevent your rebound relationship from blowing up and why it's usually so harmful. Not only will you learn about rebound relationships, but you'll also get some tips on how to handle them if they do happen. So be sure to watch this video to learn everything you need to know about rebound relationships!
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Great information, insight and knowledge Coach; continue to let GOD lead you in this work you are helping people with.
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If you are monkey branching, you didn't really love that other person. WHen you really love someone, you can't just switch over and love someone else. It takes years to get over someone you deeply love
For men it does, not so much for women.
it usually takes me a few months to get over someone and I got over my baby daddy but once I saw him and his rebound it actually hurt
@@arianadebarros3652 hurts deeply
@@IamCoachCourt Sad to hear. My girl wanted to marry and have kids supposedly, but a month after our breakup she was already in another relationship. I really hope it fails but I feel like it won't.
@@antoniosciara7322 send her off with good energy so you get that good energy in return
“You can’t be present in your current relationship if you’re building a connection elsewhere”. It’s such a selfish and cruel thing to do to someone.
I used to monkey branch as a coping mechanism as a TEENAGER. They all cheated on me or blew up in some way. I learned as a teenager not to do this, but seeing grown men and women doing this is shocking that they’re so far behind in their healing journey it’s sad.
The rebound cheated on you?
@@SoloOcean you lose 'em how you get 'em
It will rarely work believe it
It will end bad,the grass ain't greener on the other side never
Monkey branching is the worst!! Lowest of the low!! If you live someone, be truthful. It's gonna hurt but you won't feel guilty about the breakup.
Deal with your emotions and heal properly before it deals with you.
U Speak big facts .. because it dealt with me & my intuition knew better but I didn’t listen …
Have to listen to the intuition
Nice. I like it. Sort of like Mike Tyson, "Be humble or life will humble you."
So true ! U end up hurting other people and children of ur own and if that other person has children !
My ex never ended any relationship before he either started seeing someone new or at least started talking to someone else . We where together for 12 yrs . Have a 10 yr. old together and he walked out and with in less the a month started dating a woman with a 8 yr. old child . He is an alcoholic and never had time for our child's . He was never a dad to her because his alcoholism took up all his time. Yet, now he has time for not only another relationship but a another child that's not his . He walked out and away from our lives and all his responsibilities and moved in with his mother who's doing everything for him and putting up with his alcoholism. Covering for him while my daughter visits him and even on his visits does not spend any time with our daughter other than to eat dinner and then he's out and my mother-in-law's garage hiding talking on the phone getting drunk.
My ex of three years monkey branched and I found out about her less than a month after the break up because he published a love song about her. I thought it was about me and I was completely devastated when I found out it was about another woman. All of the lies and the real reasons for leaving. I hope he’s happy with his club hopping groupie girlfriend, because he threw away a woman.
They always realize but are often too stubborn to admit it
1 in the CHAT!!! This is exactly my ex who is the mother of our child. She left me in May this year to be with someone else that she knows. All I've been doing has been focusing on my growth and taking care of our son. There's a part of me that knows she'll be back and if she doesn't then I'll have to deal with it and continue moving on forward
Same man, my baby mumma pregnant 15 weeks she monkey branched to her ex from 2 years ago so its a familiar person that will take advantage of her till she realises and they argue in future then it will end lol.
This man is Saving my life.
Broken is an understatement.
I know I shouldn't care but knowing the man I'm ex left me for has a high percentage of fall out feels good.
She left me piecing my life together
While she's monkey branched without a care in the world.
I'm in the same situation right now just after a week of break up he posted that he's in a new relationship. 2 yrs of LDR and we're engaged but had issues a month ago didn't realise he was seeking comfort with another woman
Same just happened to me. But she was lying that the breakup was for other reasons and she still loved me. Found out by 5 minutes on social media that she was seeing another guy the whole time. Im actually happy to find out the truth. She is exposed as an awful gal with no integrity. I dont want that in my life!
I hear you man. I will say, what you see as her "not caring" is actually her distracting herself from a hurricane of emotions. Those emotions don't just go away, they fester, and resurface with a vengeance. I recently just went through a breakup of sorts with a woman who I thought was going to be my life partner. We were off and on, trying to figure out how to move forward. She monkey-branched to someone else within a month and is apparently “falling for him hard.” I was devastated, but after looking through resources, reading, and reflecting, I came to a realization: Do you have any idea how emotionally taxing it is to be with someone who can not be alone? Someone who will not take responsibility for their own emotional needs? They will constantly place all of their emotional needs on you, and when you can not fulfill them, you will be the one they blame and they will seek fulfillment elsewhere, immersing themselves in this repeated cycle, convinced that “this next one” is “the one.” I still love my ex, even with verbal abuse and toxicity, but it made me realize that I have had the same unhealthy attachment, looking to her to fulfill my needs. I need to learn to fulfill these myself to that I don’t demand something so unrealistic of my partner. I will heal, but she will continue to look for something that does not exist and will one day be forced to settle out of the fear of being alone. Love is more than a feeling; it is a collection of acts that all stem from the intention to support the other person’s growth while remaining committed to each other through an extremely messy process. If they are not willing to engage in that process on their own, they will not with you, and you will have sacrificed a beautiful relationship with someone else for a volatile and toxic pursuit of an inconsistent and unsustainable feeling. Food for thought.
Here is the thing dude and this is coming from a person going thru it also. Your growth comes thru your painful moments. There is zero growth from not taking space between relationships I can 100% guarantee you that. This is of course if you do the internal work while split apart. It does feel like they have all the glory but I assure you thats not the case. Its cotton candy my dude and pure fluff. also not to shoot them bail but they are also on theyre own journey I have been a rebound and also rebounder and I only know not to do it based off experience. Let that sink in "only off experience"
15-years; we have a child too. She started talking to a dude she met over the summer. I'm literally destroyed right now and so broken; however, she seems light as a feather and completely unbothered and "deeply in love" with this guy she just met months ago. The pain has been real and difficult; been very hard to move on.
Wow imagine what my X is trying to create in her rebound after being with me for 24 years 🙄
Got damn 24 years ? Yeah she can’t get over that attachment with you that easy she definitely has dude as a rebound 😂
Great video. My spouse started to date right after the separation. I love her so much and its hurt so much. It's hard letting go like that but seeing these types of videos does help. Because what we had was real. 8 years married. Time and patience
From someone who works with behaviour....you're amazing. Thank you.
I really appreciate that, thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you! Confirmed my thoughts 💯🙏🏽
Great video 👍🏻
I was used as a rebound. She got pregnant and tried to use the pregnancy to get back with her ex. She dumped me, denied knowing me or having a sexual relationship with me.
Thank you for your insight! 🙏🏻
You’re welcome!
Immoral. Finally. A coach says it!! Im subscribing
So spot on, down to the clothes being bought for her
I’m having a child with somebody that I’m pretty sure we were both each other’s rebounds. Broke up with him shortly after I found out I was pregnant because I told him from the start I don’t wanna be with someone who drinks and he continue drinking. He’s been involved through text messages throughout the pregnancy but has not made it to any doctor appointment for the baby. When we first met I didn’t even know that he was Married but separated. Here we are eight months later and he still not divorced her or filed for a divorce.
I was married for 12 years. We have two kids We been apart for 1year and seven month my ex got married last year met the lady. Just after we broke up. My ex doesn’t even care about the kids. One thing I have done is I stay away from
Him and do me. Not ready yet to be with anyone at the moment focus on my kids
My ex monkey branched on me. He is a deeply flawed induvidual, with a lot of unhealed trauma, and once again he moved on without dealing with his emotions and trauma. It makes me sad to see him destroy his life and his future like this. She is not the right one for him, and he knows that, but I think she gives him the 20% i couldn't. It's not going to work, I know his mind and there's no way he can live with someone like her and be happy long term. Not that she is a bad person, I don't really know her so I can't tell you if she is or not, but from the little I do know I am confident they are not right for each other at all and this will at some point be an extremely ugly breakup when they finally figure that out.
Update...Did it last??
They sure do kid themselves. Thank you.
Good insight, but I don't know how terrible women feel about dragging some guy into a new relationship before she has had time to heal. I know the covert narcissist doesn't.
Love you man 💚
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I went through a 9 mo. Relationship and he dropped me for another woman and was seeing her while we were dating.
My prayer is for her happiness 😊
1! My ex told me he does everything for his rebound that he wanted to do for me 😂
Wow.
Don't u feel jealous? Bcz u can't get wht u wished from him?
@@mayy5160 Hell no I’m not jealous 😂 look at me! I’m a beauty and I have men falling at my feet who can do way more for me than my ex 💕💕
@@krissiskloset1177 :') im wiating for my turn to get my happiness.
@@mayy5160 I promise you will get there
Thanks coach!
You got it bro! 💪🏾
Thank you for this video.
I had a question about monkey branching and emotions.
Everything you said in this video, happened to me. At the end, he mb to his current rb within a week. He said they ended up leaning on eachother bc they both were going thur breakups. She was already whispering in his ear a month before the breakup.
How does one end up having a emotional connection w/someone else, when they said they bearly have any emotions to give to their current relationship and then after the break up, aren't they a hot mess bc they are avoiding their emotions?
Btw, I do not want him back. And he told me a month into his rb, he regrets the bu, still loved me, etc. The told the rb, she begged him to stay (his words not mine) and they still together after 7mo. They crazy? Delusional?
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Spot on - happened to me!
I dated this girl for 9 years and she broke up with me. She started dating this guy 2 days after we broke up. Dude the opposite of me he smokes drinks Couple weeks ago she came to my apartment telling me that she pregnant with her rebound. And she told me her relationship is toxic but that's not my problem anymore lol kick rocks baby girl
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I love your videos
Thank you for watching Sky 💜
@@IamCoachCourt of course 🙏
This is my wife lol she back with her ex of 20 years off and on and I feel stupid but this video makes me feel better and I must find a way to heal
Dont worry she wont last with her ex she keeps being on and off with for reasons and they will never work. Just sucks she used you and married you then went back to the abusive ex relationship
What about the rebound person? How do we deal with being manipulated? Being a bandaid?? It’s so painful to realize it was a lie. It’s fake Everything that happens between us is used to understand and work out their past!!
SPOT ON. I TOLD her u cant give a 3month stranger the status of a 4 year . She said i can associate mys3lf withnwho ever i want. I know she mad3 a choice that will hurt her. Great channel
i think i was the rebound for a year. my ex talked about her ex a lot n compared us. I asked many times if she was over her ex and she said yes and would get mad i asked. All a sudden i was dumped, after being with me a year and wasn’t happy because i kept calling out red flags. She even played victim and disrespected me on social media. All i did was love her and gave my all. i was devastated. it’s been 11 months NC. I believe they monkey branched at the end when they left as well. I didn’t deserve being hurt like that or lied to
Coach, is there a good sign with rebound often showing on social media? Sure it can mean many things.
Spot on everything I try to do with her we were together she's doing with this new man even going to church.
Great advice Coach!
But what if he cheated on me with his rebound? And the rebound was his friend.
Then he monkey branched
With a Man for 7 yrs. have 1 kid & a step kid together. We broke up but before he left home , he already started seeing someone 2 wks later. Its been 7 months now . He still tells my Mom he Loves me , shes still married to her husband, (been married/together 17 yrs) . Mind You shes 37, hes 30. Their so “happily” in love. We still “deal” with eachother if You know what I mean. On top of that, he found someone who does the same things as me, even when it comes to the career. & I be trying to let her know, but she believes everything he says like a dud. Whats this mean? Will it last?
LMAO I saw the rebound wearing the sweater he lent me
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Lol
Great point leave 80 for 20 percent
We were together for 3:years rebound less than a month she came back to me for a month but I didn't do the work to become better man. Now she's bk with rebound guy. Is this still considered a rebound. Thanks
My ex girlfriend cheated on me and they were sleeping together before we broke up and she got three kids from different baby daddy
I agree with everything you say however I'm beginning to wonder if I was the monkey branch because she never really talked about her past relationship and I have no clue how long she was out of it before she went with me and shame on me for not asking ..she's already on to the next monkey Branch anyway. yet I have taken 6 months to work on healing myself and staying away from any other relationships and yet I still have a ways to go. I feel whoever monkey branches to the other person is just using them, and thats a form of emotional abuse to the unsuspecting other person who doesn't know about his or her past
I broke up with my ex 7/30/21 he met someone online 7/31 lol been with her for a month he contacts me asking me out on a dinner date. Long story short she found out he called me I never went out with him I told them good luck cuz he’s a loser not interested, well fast forward 2/24/2022 i bumped into him at a store and he told me he’s been thinking about me and how he messed up and how he still loves me and he checks my socials and also pass by my house . Well he is engaged to that lady lol I told him he needs help lol I said congrats and left lol he is settling with someone he isn’t into just because he is so codependent and doesn’t want to be alone,
I’m so glad I left him, he was draining my energy when I was with him. Lol
I broke it off (said "lets take a pause since work is soo busy") because I noticed the energy shifts and also because he wouldnt commit because of long distance (not knowing i was relocating to the same city after a few weeks) and then he starts seeing someone new almost immediately, I moved into the same city, he agreed to meet with me (as a favor, someone else was with us), and then when i unfollowed him he messaged me immediately about me unfollowing him indicating hurt and then ignored when I responded I cant be friends with someone I had a past with and that he's clearly seeing someone new and never communicated with me. He still follows me and watches my stories and even posts stories with songs trying to indicate that i still miss him, etc. I literally have no idea what to think
1!!! ALL THE WAY
I was recently used (intentionally/unintentionally) used as a rebound
I was going in to it legit.
After 3 weeks of (artificial) bliss, 2½ weeks of being put on hold and then 5 days of repair, she suddenly decided to flip the script out of nowhere and get angry / cold with no resolution or any idea what happened to end up getting yeeted.
I went back through everything, still no idea what actually happened for her to kick me, but after found out that she wasnt over her ex and got abused
Trust me. You *do not* want to be in this situation.
That would be great
Omg!! Sounds like my ex husband. He want to move on and hold on too me.
i love when you said monkey branching is immoral...true! my ex monkey branched and made sure he had my replacement...does monkey branching work out since they already know them? thanks for your wonderful vids
Thanks for watching them Janelle!
Right.. My ex monkeybranched and fell in love within a month of knowing her. So weird to me.
Is it still considered a "rebound relationship" if he went back to his ex? He went back within a few weeks of us breaking up. He tried to get back with me a few weeks ago and I said NO.
Exactly the same for me, I think she went back to her ex a few days after her breakup and kept telling me I was the love of her life... Do you have any updates for the last 3 months? Hope everything is going fine for you 🙏
@@sylvainhorn7087 a rebound is a rebound. Doesn’t matter what the connection is. The rebound will eventually feel it and the comparisons.
What if it seems like he’s happy and calm with her?…☹️🥺 he said we weren’t good for each other so he wanted to move on. Contacted me and asked me how I am tho… also, he’s definitely seen many people so he didn’t take the next best option.
Would if they fell out of love, didn’t communicate or work on the relationship then weeks later jump into a new relationship? It seems it might have been the reason why they lost feelings. When we were in a long term relationship he then with this new person is engaged after a year
My ex put me through this tbh. He monkey-branched to a colleague at his workplace, but I found out from him shortly after the breakup that he'd been wanting out of our relationship for 4 months! And he was too chicken to tell me and go for a clean break :( It was only once he had established that the colleague was interested in him that he called it off with me... He didn't even have the courage to do it in person either, he just called me one day and told me we were done. 5 1/2 years down the drain just like that... I hope like hell the monkey-branch has better boundaries than I did, because god help her if not.
My ex of 14 years cheated on me and left me for a known meth head. Who now has her on that poison from what I hear. She's never reached out. Been 2 years.
Most definitely my ex took her to the same places and did the same things yes I was watching. Lol
My husband left me 5 weeks ago after 25 years of marriage, he is renting a house 1 hour away from me, with 1 year lease. He said that he has not loved me for 10 years. 2 weeks ago my husband told me that he is already dating someone, and that he is never coming back. Would this be a rebound relationship?
Technically yes, but if he’s been checked it for awhile, that Relationship ending may not increase your chances of reconciliation.
Hey coach, my ex dumped me in June and only told me in September that she had been feeling unfulfilled. I'd been in no contact since early July when she reached out about a tv show. She said She wanted to thank me for making her think about things when I called her out on her behaviour back in July. She said she wanted to experience pain through sex wtf! She told me back in July she went on a date 2 weeks after breaking up. I'm totally confused by All this as we had a good relationship with no fighting, toxicity or anything like that. I believe she's been seeing someone for 2 months now. She recently flirted with me and told me how vulnerable, confused and that she feels in limbo. I guess my question is that is it possible for a person who has been treated well to completely detach and move on or seemingly move on in a matter of weeks
I’m in the same boat. Once they drop you immediately for another guy, you should never take them back. They showed their true colors and instantly discarded you when they lined up a new guy. Never take them back if they do try. Tell them you’re happy with the way things are and you’re seeing new people. Tell her you want to leave the past in the past. She’s not worth your time and effort because she will either go back to the rebound or find someone else. Forget her and go find other women.
She didn’t detach in two weeks: that’s the secret.
She was already emotionally attached to someone else before any of that happened.
@true_plays_games She went out and rode the carousel 🎠 I ignored every red flag early on and I see that now. I feel sorry for her 2 kids. She jumps from one relationship to the next, a great example to be setting for her 2 young children right? Anyway, I was well on my way to finding myself again and met a wonderful Brazilian lady 10 years younger than me and much hotter than my ex who has let herself go. I've been asking high quality questions and exploring both our pasts together and finding about about traumas etc. Every relationship has to been seen as an opportunity for growth
*She cheated and got in a rebound with the guy she cheated on me with . A month later she's dating another guy*
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@@IamCoachCourt it's all good tho .. it's all HAPPENED within a span of a month and a half
So my situation is that i was with my partner for 15 and a half years. We broke up a little less than 2 months ago. I fell into depression etc that led to the break. I started to work on myself. New job, therapy etc. The realtionship was rocky but good. She jumped into a relationship with this new guy after around 4 weeks. They are in LDR for now. Its a long term friends and they know each other well enough. I dont know who the guy is yet as she wont divulge. She was thinking of giving me another go before this new thing but then this new thing happened and boom. Shes very happy. She says he isnt her usual type but i know little about him and she wants to commit to their relationship. Im trying to get her back and my family. But i think i have to give up. She really wants friendship and knows i cant but she does have feelings for me i believe unless im dilided.
Bro fukin leave
Being friends after the brake up is not good because you’ll keep having this cycle of wanting them
@@taylor1959 after almost 8months im on the path to giving up and met someone else. My ex is happy in her relationship even though they have only met once. Turned out to be her online best friend of 10yrs who had always wanted her. Wish them all the best as i try and forge a new life for myself.
Coach I have 1 question and i wish to become a patron member at its highest level but i wish to make sure you and I are a good fit.. in no way is my statements a reflection on ur skill set knowledge or education and experience.... sincerely.... QUESTION : my ex jumped into a rebound less than 30 days after she left her and i have not had 1 single cross word to one another matter of fact she has told me a hundred times since she left that she loves n misses me then 2 months ago i placed her on a no contact status this after i had made all the mistakes from pleading talking trying everything kind and passionate and compassionate and even helped her with money and phone car and even fed her and that rebound and her mom and friends bc they have nothing and no food and were hungry then i just suddenly stopped contacting and talking... she has reached me and i have not ignored her i am kind civil and nice but i have not told her i love her miss her need her and i hate it but i love her so im allowing her to experience not having me and my love until she crashes AND SHE ENDED UP PREGNANT BY THIS LOSER REBOUND.... NOW WHAT COACH
Hope you started watching the actions and not the words she sayin
My ex reached out after 8 months but he is in a second rebound relationship. He is lying that they are just friends with this girl. Now he stopped talking to me in 2 days. I hope you can help me. 😢 He is my first boyfriend, together for 4 years. As I was his first too
He will get his krama majority
... my ex came back to cuddle, we did hook up previously bro she kept breaking NC.. after i stated my purpose.. finally revealed she has a bf.. like why did u come over 2 days ago? I would've left it go but she revealed that because i noticed before she left some dude was blowing up her phone on facetime w/ a name that low key reminded me of a co worker she mentioned a year ago from amazon.. hmmm... Shit hurt bro
What about when a D.a gets into a rebound? Will they do them the same way they did me? Pushing them away ect?
The most likely will
Yes they will. They don’t see the problem because they are using the rebound as a distraction. Maybe one day they will stop and ask “why can’t I get close with someone?” Or, “why do all of my relationships keep failing?”
That’s when change can happen, not because we tell them what’s wrong with them.
Does anybody know the stats on 2 people rebounding together? Both with insecurities.
My boyfriend had a 4 yrs relationship and after he brokeup with her...he started a relationship with me..i think now um a rebound one..what can i do for this..cz he hv no feelings for me and he saying that he wanna break this relationship..what can I do
Rebounds rarely last 😕
I can't help but to think that he actually found someone better(monkey branched) ... He says she listens to him... I wasn't good at that.. It was always MY problems first... And they have soooo much more in common.... I basically didn't have anything in common with him. We just liked each other as people, but didn't do much together but talk and go for walks.. And he said I wasn't the person he thought I was... But he could never find the right time or reason to break my heart... So he led me on for 1 year 2 times.. (a break up once a year during our 2.5 years)
Who defines “better”? More compatible maybe, but better is suggestive.
@@IamCoachCourt still waiting for it to blow up 😅
Feel you on this. Mine dumped me after 15yrs. Said she healed after a month and got into a relationship with her best online friend of 10yrs. Theyve never met. They planning meet ups but its thousands of miles away. 2 kids in the middle. He helps her with all the emotions she been going through. Been together almost 3 months now. Dont see it failing as she has stated she has zero feelings etc left for me.
@@sneakygrim483 yea they have been together 3 months now... haven't heard anything from friends about it going sideways yet :/
@@TheKisshu1997 they are still going strong at this point but ive got a new gf whos very compatable with me. Havent seen or spoken to the ex but here its a crazy whirlwind romance lol wish em all the best. Im happy if i end up single or continuing with my new gf.
My wife is with someone 3 months after dumping me. They are still with them is this still a rebound??
2 I refused to date a man because I didn't want him involved in my hot mess
I was married 35 yrs he ran into ex gf from high school that broke his heart he told me she looked "rough" the next tjong i see is he dating her and miloved her into the house but now 3 yrs later he just gave her ring and rheir engaged. She was in a 3 ye relationship with her giy of 3 yrs but my ex really liked her 40 yrs ago so he makibg it work i cant underdsyand jow u see someone everyday for 35 yrs then stopped all communication. We hav3 3 kids and 2 gramd kids and he hardly nvr talks to them. He sent them text about engagement. Shes been married 3 times idk what to do. Its so real now and list him forever
What if he got with someone new within a few days of breaking up with me, I didn't hear a word for a whole month and I was doing no contact, then after a month he messages me and wants to meet for a catch up and tells me he wants to be friends but he is still with her? Surely that isn't fair on her?! And I have never had an ex who wants to remain friends when the relationship has ended.
Don't ever take the option never be friends with your ex.
Move on he got together with someone else ok no problem just move on there should be no contact zero nada.
No meeting
No friends
No holiday wishes
No happy birthday
To you this person is dead.
Just like I did to me my ex is dead
Hey coach, could use your insight. My ex and I broke up back in March, she called me and told me she was going to block me and not to contact her again. Back in June I got a message from her, no words just a simple period.
I waited a little time before I responded. I asked her what was on her mind, she responded with this was unfair to me because she didn’t know, she was going back to no contact but was no longer going to block me. I never responded, several days later she sent me another message asking if I hate her?
I know she is seeing somebody else, so I’ve been very cold towards her. But over the last two months our messages were getting a bit longer, a little more emotional. Whenever I talk about anything other than pleasantries she usually shut down. Any advice?
I should have known better than to fall in love and marry someone who has been married 5 times. I'm her 6th.
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I left the 28 year relationship 14 months ago and I’m healing..he was on Tinder and multiples before I left and then publicly “exclusive” 6 months later with a woman who was engaged and has an 8 year old child with that guy but was married to someone else when she got pregnant .. she showed up at our divorce hearing jumping in his arms saying yayyy 😂 THEN she moved in with him before the divorce was final. Definitely a solid foundation!! 😂
Woooow. 😂
Ohhh AND she was at the hearing a week and a half ago with him & his Mother for the extension on my protection from abuse order .. the judge reiterated that he did in fact find him guilty of abuse. It’s like being in the twilight zone and I’m observing from the outside. 😆🤡
What if the person who is in the rebound started dating someone who she already knew? Like a really close college friend. My gf broke up with me suddenly and started dating her long time college friend. We’ve been together for 7 years!!!
It's still a rebound. Scroll up and sew the coach answered similar questions about dampers who get w someone they already knew. Best wishes to you
I'm glad you said that. I been trying to figure that out. Thank you. It's not love. It's lust.
I think so too! I think it’s lust. My ex is 26, and her guy best friend is 25. I myself am 29. It’s been a little over two months now so let’s see how this goes
@@gilberthernandez1291 try 7 months together with possible rebound now and still going strong. Theyve only met once 😂 cost her 3k to fly and see him.
I was with my ex for 6 months until she decided to end it. I still had her on social media and every now and then, she would send me a message just to say hi or she would react to one of my posts. Found out that after a month that we seperated, she started seeing some other guy, a coworker of hers. They even got matching tattoos and moved in together already. But the weird thing is that she still has all our pictures up on her social media. Do you think this is a rebound??
Don't fixate on it. None of us can tell you what it means because we aren't her so trying to figure this out without her is fixation. You can ask her why she keeps the pictures if you want to know or you can just move on.
You need to take control of yourself and forget her so you can move on and be someone else's prize.
Move on
@@mendoblendo321 When I wrote this, I was in a bad place, now a couple of months later, I can honestly say that yes, I am moving on and in a much better place than I was.
@@kronos0007 I can totally relate my man. Girls have been so manipulative. So many find stimulation through manipulation
Mental illness jezebel spirit pray for her soul ….. Christ can heal a broken heart
If they leave the rebound and come back to you, do they need time to heal before you should start dating them? I don't want to be the rebound of the rebound!
fuck them, let them burn, just what they did to you!
No because they were rebounding another person because of you but they have you now so it's all good. If you need any help just reach out to me I am a relationship coach guru
@@adynathaly3145 you are a horrible guru. Let that child go. They aren’t mature enough to deal with the problems in a relationship.
My fiancé broke up with me a month ago because she said that I wasn’t emotionally there for her enough (which is true I was dealing with some internal stuff) I did beg and plead until I found out there was another guy that she left for that she works with. We were together for 5 years engaged for 2 and we have a 1 year old. She’s doing stuff for him that I asked of her and she said it’s because he’s gentle and all of the things she asked of me. And she has already let him meet our son and he’s spending the night with her and stuff and when I ask her how she is she always says she’s good… what’s your take?
Forget about her make her regret she ever left you
Wow...she sounds awful! You have a one year-old and she latched onto some other dude. Sorry man...that sucks! She's not worth your time any more. Find one better than her and move on.
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Same situation basically with me. Was with a woman was internally battling my own shit so I want emotionally available for her as she wanted me to be. Find out she was sending x rated photos to other men, videos of us being intimate to other men for money. I went through her phone and found out she’s been talking to one her exes and yes he got more money than me and is low key famous. Whom can give her exactly what she wants. So she’s head over hills for him. She left me for him we were engaged to
We were together for 2 years.If there was monkey branching with an 'Ex', with emotional cheating, will this rebound last? (if it is considered a rebound). Please help with my question :(
90 percent of the time it doesn’t
@@IamCoachCourt so even tho its his 'ex' he went back to, because he didnt have time to heal from me, it wont work?
Neither this or that will work. They don’t like to be vulnerable so they use this coping mechanism of a phantom ex as a wall between them and the person they are with. I’ve been in the same boat. They will probably be the same with them,you’ll be the phantom ex. Just try to heal yourself and make yourself a be a securely attached person so you can attract the same. Leave these half assed people alone
This person made you the rebound. They were still in love with the ex …
@@PERSNICKETYREBELSHANGO well he was planning a future with me until the going got a bit tough.. he jumps ship with every difficult situation including her before. He was with 6 people between her and I! ;).. then me for 2 yrs! The others only wks or months.
My ex wife off 15 years new a man from work that she got with after 2 months and after my daughter met him 3 time now they are going on a 7 days holiday
I got monkey branched 🤣🤣
My husband left me after 24 years for another women but calls 4 are more times a dad I know he still in love ne me but still says with her why what did she do so good I did so wrong to walk out on your family
Don’t make it about you, it’s about him
My ex and I dated 4 years and I wanted to get married he said no broke up with me then got married a year later to someone else
That’s harsh but if he was your person he would have married you. Gods done you a favour and one day you’ll look back. I know it’s painful I’m currently going through being left for another woman and the pain has made me suicidal at times but I truly believe that what is meant for me will be for me
My ex Rebounded in only 3 days. I’m 55 , she is 53. I think most of the coaches are wrong. They have been together 3 months and she is moving to his ranch hundreds of miles from where we live. So why isn’t it not working? She is an anxious attachment and I’ve learned through a few people that he’s a true Narcissist. But it’s working and now I have no hope. I got into therapy right when this happened because it hurts so badly. She is posting pictures saying it’s the love of her life and she’s happier than she has ever been. So it’s working and she not coming back
I hate to be the bearer of some obvious bad news, but it's very clear that she had been cheating with him LONG before u2 formally split. Consider yourself lucky to get rid of her....now she is his problem and 100s of miles away. You can do TONS better than trying to rekindle a relationship with an obvious cheater.
Give it time. The truth will reveal itself.
@@terrancejones7502 well I have been. I don’t wish anything bad on her at all. I love her still. Been 10 months now and she married h already. So that chapter of my life is over and ya it hurts badly
100% right. My ex admitted this.
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I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and he left me for her or he just jumped into a relationship after breaking up with me lol and now they saying they love each other and they are soulmates she said she made it official in October it’s only been 3 months and they acting like that he broke up with me in august or July
Sheesh
@@IamCoachCourt yeah I’m just laughing how they thinking this when they only been together for 3 months it’s the honeymoon stage his true colors will come out I hope they don’t last they posted anf making it seem they happy and in love he texted me wanting sex I turned him down hand now he wants nothing to do with me it’s just really funny to me I wonder how long it will last
How long for men heal from long relationships
Monkey branching in Italian is "chiodo schiaccia chiodo"
Is that for real? Lol
Amen!
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What if both persons are rebound of eachother
He moved on within a week of our breakup, he had only known her for like 1.5 months. His new girlfriend is the COMPLETE opposite of me. She’s skinny, blonde, blue eyed, doesn’t care about her appearance. I am Latina, curvy, dark hair and eyes. I love to take care of myself, look good=feel good. Funny thing is that he used to judge her for having a kid, said he wasn’t sure about having kids and now he’s on full stepdad mode. There was no cheating or abuse in our relationship, it was honestly good but we did start to pull apart for the last 6 months. He said we had no things in common and he’s over the moon that she’s into cars. They have been together for a month now and they seem happy. I think this is a rebound, but they just seem so happy. What is your take?
Sounds like a text book rebound.
Yep. It’s a textbook Rebound and they are in the honeymoon phase
He’ll find his mistakes never have a curvy Latina and throw her to the side you’ll regret it
For some reason you're intentionally ignoring the truth when you say there was no cheating. The simply timing of everything you laid out screams otherwise...it was likely going on the last 6 months when things cooled. You're probably just too close to be able to objectively recognize the truth. He was cheating for quite awhile and moving in her direction for at least 6 months based on your description. Considering yourself lucky getting out of it...no one should be with a cheater.
@@purgetime3674 *CRINGE*
Amazing video coach, my relationship ended after 3.5 years and one month later I found out that my ex gf was already dating someone from her work...
Even if they already knew each other us that considered a rebound?
If they hasn’t healed, it’s a rebound
It's more likely that she had been banging him while u2 were together. Your formal break up just let her go public with it. Your best off counting your lucky stars that you're no longer with that cheater. You deserve and will do better. Ditch her for good...she's been f'ing for a long time...GUARANTEED
Hi, any updates?
It blew up already after a couple of weeks, one day after me watching a marathon of those rebound videos lol and he's asking me for help with his FA attachment style wth like r u fr
Edit: Even though we haven't been in a "real relationship", he went to therapy thanks to me...🤯
They don't feel bad!! They selfish only care about themselves
I been in a relationship wit this girl for 3 years just spent my birthday 🎂 wit her September 16th took her to the Mary J Bridge concert the 17th even had another night the 18th 2022 we had a amazing time sexually and actually having fun two weeks later we was still in a relationship but I found out she was with another guy an I caught her so I left but now she says she's wit this other dude in a rebound relationship a couple days later she still texting an calling me what should I do its funny I don't even know how to feel I gave her some the most special moments of her life really took care of her
If you give this girl the most special moments and she has someone else SIMPLE.
Take your attention away from her move on delete block and move on she has no respect for you
Do avoidants miss their ex if they were the one that broke it off?
From experience, yes, but not enough to reconcile sometimes. Depending on how avoidant they are.
@@IamCoachCourt sigh...9 yrs gone down the tube. Thanks for your response.
@@icjoi247 That 2 sentence reply made you certain there’s no hope?
@@jameskemp2166 no hope...no contact for 4 months...no attempt to reconnect
@@icjoi247 Average time is 3-6 months and for Avoidants it’s longer
My ex of four years left me for a friend of hers she knew from years ago ,she was cruel and cold when I confronted her about it , it hurt me more for my children but I did realize that I really let myself go and didn't love myself at all . I've started to make small changes to better my self image and self love. One so I can be at peace with myself but two so she can realize what a goddam good looking and good man I am , because someone times they don't leave you for something better , not even something more delicious 💪
Tell me about it mine left for a 28yr old no job fat guy who lives with his parents on other side of the world. Its going well for em though. I still check in on these time to time. Guess part of me still has hope. What family is about.
@@sneakygrim483 Don't beat yourself up fam it'll be ok you worry about building up your life king 👑 everything else will fall in place